WEBVTT - Joy in the Little Things with Stassi Schroeder Clark

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<v Speaker 1>Wind down with Janet Kramer and I'm heart radio podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Guys, tell us I like it when Kramer comes in fresh.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, she tried to break up with me again.

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<v Speaker 2>Amy, Oh, may because she thinks you're healed. Well. It

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<v Speaker 2>was actually a really beautiful moment. So it was this

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<v Speaker 2>is I'm like, this is what happened? Okay, I set

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<v Speaker 2>the scene, so I was also I was twenty minutes

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<v Speaker 2>late because my so I don't have full time help.

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<v Speaker 2>I have a sitter that comes two to three times

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<v Speaker 2>a week for five six hours, and the sitter was

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<v Speaker 2>running late, and so I texted Amy saying, Hey, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to be twenty minutes late. But it was one

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<v Speaker 2>of those where I was driving there, going I really

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<v Speaker 2>don't have anything. But sometimes those are the best sessions

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<v Speaker 2>because then something comes up. Right in two weeks prior,

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<v Speaker 2>I was I don't even know if I should share

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<v Speaker 2>this story and not share the story. Oh, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 2>go for it, okay TV So every time, but Kat

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<v Speaker 2>was witnessed to my breakdown. I feel like I have

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<v Speaker 2>a few times every few months. But so two weeks prior,

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<v Speaker 2>because I've been going every other week to therapy, so

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<v Speaker 2>twice a month obviously duah. And so.

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<v Speaker 1>The last time, I was like, I'm depressed, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I mean, Like, I'm just like so.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like I think I might be like, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>actually depressed. So she even read me like the check lesson.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, no, no, no, so you know, and

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, okay, well I guess I'm you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not clinically depressed. I was like, I just I

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<v Speaker 2>don't feel happy, Like I don't know, I just am

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<v Speaker 2>like I feel like I should. I feel like I

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<v Speaker 2>should be happy right now, Like what's wrong with me?

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<v Speaker 2>Like do I is my supplements off? Or do I

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<v Speaker 2>need more testosterone in my injections? I'm like, it's like

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<v Speaker 2>something feels off. And so we made like this collage

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<v Speaker 2>and that helped a little bit, which I've never clauged before.

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<v Speaker 1>I be gus, I've done that before. I love it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I've never done it. I've always seen people do it, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>but never done it. And it was it was nice.

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<v Speaker 1>I liked it. I enjoyed it. It was nice, it

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<v Speaker 1>was lovely, it was lovely through it in my trash

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<v Speaker 1>like you know, I wasn't a moment.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm sorry. I didn't even know, it was like because

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<v Speaker 3>it was a bad moment, I thought it was just

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<v Speaker 3>like that was lovely.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, I was sitting in my car, like

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not going to hang this up, you know what

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I'm not a college like a single house.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, where do I put my Where do I

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<v Speaker 2>put this big child's high school like poster? You know

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<v Speaker 2>you wear Cramer and where in your closet that, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't reminded of it? You know what I'm going

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<v Speaker 2>to I'm gonna get a clause. I'm gonna put it right.

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<v Speaker 2>And maybe I'm actually making right now. So I'm personally

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<v Speaker 2>offend to continue. I'm making a vision board collage. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not doing an imposter board this time anyways. So,

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<v Speaker 2>but what the problem was is I was feeling a

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<v Speaker 2>little slumpy, and you know, I kind of go up

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<v Speaker 2>and down in like my career slumps and like what

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<v Speaker 2>am I doing? What is what is the purpose I'm

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<v Speaker 2>even serving? And you know, so I go into like

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<v Speaker 2>my career, I'm not living my dream. We had a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of noise in the back of our house, so

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<v Speaker 2>I just my house is like my sanctuary. I wanted

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<v Speaker 2>to be nice and quiet and peaceful, and there was

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<v Speaker 2>a ton of noise, a ton of dust, and they

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<v Speaker 2>were knocking down all these trees and it was just

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<v Speaker 2>loud for two weeks and I kept telling Alan, I

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<v Speaker 2>was like.

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<v Speaker 1>I need to I just I need to get away.

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<v Speaker 2>And I had kind of been mentioning this four day

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<v Speaker 2>break because like, Mike has the bigs for Labor Day,

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<v Speaker 2>let's go somewhere, you know, maybe we can go to California.

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<v Speaker 2>And this was like months ago, and so he and

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<v Speaker 2>then so then the two weeks before, I was like, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>let's go to or a month before, I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>let's go to the lake. I just need to be

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<v Speaker 2>around water because whenever I'm starting to feel a little off,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like I need my center place. I need to

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<v Speaker 2>go to water. So we like going to tims Ford.

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<v Speaker 2>So he's like, leave it with me. So I'm like, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I'll leave it with them. But then, you know, two

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<v Speaker 2>weeks before, a week before, I'm like, hey, things are

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<v Speaker 2>kind of like running out out here at Tim's Ford,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, and he's like, leave it with me. So

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<v Speaker 2>come Friday of Labor Day, you know, at this point,

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<v Speaker 2>I had therapy on a Thursday, and then that Friday,

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<v Speaker 2>and you know, she was just like she's like, she's like,

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<v Speaker 2>I have you hung out with your friends? I'm like no,

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<v Speaker 2>She's like, what about Cat and Kristen. I'm like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>I only I see them and then they leave. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>it's like we don't have time to like hang out

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<v Speaker 2>in chat and catch up. I'm like, are you gre

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<v Speaker 2>and I got canceled that week. It was just like

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<v Speaker 2>all and like one week, I was like, I'm missing

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<v Speaker 2>the fun. Like Alan and I are both so busy

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<v Speaker 2>that we're not even like being able to connect by

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<v Speaker 2>the end of the night. We're both tired and you know.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's why I really wanted some time just us

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<v Speaker 2>together without the bigs. And obviously we have Roman, but like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, he's easy. So when Friday rolled around, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>all right, you know, where are we going? Because he

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<v Speaker 2>said leave it with you. He was just like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I'm sorry, I've just been really busy, and

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<v Speaker 2>I just like I went in the other room and

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<v Speaker 2>I was like I just started to cry because I'm

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<v Speaker 2>like I just I felt for the first time, like

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<v Speaker 2>a claustrophobic feeling in my own house and I hadn't

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<v Speaker 2>traveled since the honeymoon, which is like I have never

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<v Speaker 2>not traveled, like you know, I've usually traveled by that point,

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<v Speaker 2>and so I don't even know. This is such a

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<v Speaker 2>long story, but you know, I come out and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I'm just really disappointed, and I said to

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<v Speaker 2>leave it with you, and you know, it was something

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<v Speaker 2>I really wanted to do, which is why I mentioned it,

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<v Speaker 2>and I would have planned it, but now it's too late,

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<v Speaker 2>and and I was like, I just need to go

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<v Speaker 2>for a walk. I just need a minute to myself.

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<v Speaker 2>Was it a double at that point? Because I think

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<v Speaker 2>something we share is wanting to control a little bit

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<v Speaker 2>too and like just not we are very used to

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<v Speaker 2>doing things ourselves and more than capable. So is it

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<v Speaker 2>a double like disappointment and well like I to get

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<v Speaker 2>pick it up? Yeah, Like I really wanted to go,

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<v Speaker 2>and I would have easily bookedshared. You know, it would

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<v Speaker 2>have been done and we would have been leaving at

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<v Speaker 2>you know, Friday at five o'clock down to the you know,

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<v Speaker 2>or four o'clock to go check in, you know, and

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<v Speaker 2>I know he's busy, but I would have had no problem.

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<v Speaker 2>You didn't have to say leave it with me. I

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<v Speaker 2>would have loved to have actually checked in a couple

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<v Speaker 2>of times, and I was still leaving it with you,

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<v Speaker 2>and then I left it with you and you just

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<v Speaker 2>left it. Yeah, yeah, and so you know, but I

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<v Speaker 2>also it was a good moment for me because normally

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<v Speaker 2>in the past I would have just like been really snippy,

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<v Speaker 2>let it ruin the whole weekend in past relationships, and

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<v Speaker 2>but I just I went out to the living room.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, I need to tell you that this

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<v Speaker 2>really hurt my feelings and I feel let down. And

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<v Speaker 2>I've told you what I needed and left it with you,

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<v Speaker 2>and so I went for a walk aside, I need

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<v Speaker 2>a walk, and bless him, he like comes meets me

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<v Speaker 2>on the walk and he essentially laid out three plans

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<v Speaker 2>like okay, because in the middle of a talk, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>like we could have gone to Nantucket or Cape cod

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<v Speaker 2>like somewhere just like fun, and like, you know, like

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<v Speaker 2>I just needed to get away, you know, I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>feel like coming.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't see it coming anyway, just somewhere fun, like

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<v Speaker 1>we can just take Roman and go.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what I mean, like just fun, good for you.

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<v Speaker 2>And so, like you know, when I said Nantucket. I

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<v Speaker 2>could just see him be like, I think we all

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<v Speaker 2>need but.

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<v Speaker 1>I've never been.

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<v Speaker 3>I want to go back.

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<v Speaker 1>I actually want to Tucket.

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<v Speaker 4>Let's go.

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<v Speaker 2>So you know, the guy doesn't even doesn't even live

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<v Speaker 2>in the United States until like last year.

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<v Speaker 3>Where is that.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think he knows at But yeah, so I'm

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<v Speaker 2>like saying all this, and again I wasn't like I

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<v Speaker 2>was not being mean or whatever. I just was like

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<v Speaker 2>expressed because I was like, what I don't want is

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<v Speaker 2>to hold onto this and men us have like a

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<v Speaker 2>fight over the weekend or something. So I just say,

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<v Speaker 2>I go for a walk, and then he meets me

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<v Speaker 2>on the walk and he's like, okay. He's like, we

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<v Speaker 2>can leave at this flight. We can go to Miami

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<v Speaker 2>West Palm or whatever, and we can leave it, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>six in the morning. And mind you, this is like

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<v Speaker 2>seven o'clock now on a Friday. We can leave Saturday

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<v Speaker 2>at six in the morning. And then he's like, but

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<v Speaker 2>because the flights are all gone hashtag Nan Dugget and

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<v Speaker 2>he's like, or we could fly up to kate Cod

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<v Speaker 2>and then take a boat over it an entire like

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<v Speaker 2>he had it all planned out, and I was like

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<v Speaker 2>I love you for even looking at these options. Having

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<v Speaker 2>said that, it is now seven o'clock on a Friday,

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<v Speaker 2>I now feel anxious to just pick up and at

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<v Speaker 2>this point go to Nantucket or like, yeah, buddy, well

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<v Speaker 2>we had four. And that's the thing too. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>love being home when I'm not with the kiddos like

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<v Speaker 2>that long. So usually when it's more than three days,

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<v Speaker 2>that's when I'm like, hey, let's go somewhere because I

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<v Speaker 2>just I don't I don't like to not have them

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<v Speaker 2>in the house.

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<v Speaker 1>That long without like being here. So that was like

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<v Speaker 1>another reason.

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<v Speaker 2>But still we had you know, I was like, even

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<v Speaker 2>so like that last minute packing things, I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to rush this either. I'm like, I was like, babe,

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<v Speaker 2>I think what I just really need is like I

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<v Speaker 2>just want to have fun. What I want is to

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<v Speaker 2>be able for us to just go have it, eat

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<v Speaker 2>something different for dinner. I mean, we have we have

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<v Speaker 2>the same thing every night, watch the same thing. It's

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<v Speaker 2>it's so rinse and repeat that. I was like, I

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<v Speaker 2>just got to get out of the house and we

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<v Speaker 2>just have to mix it up a little bit. I

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<v Speaker 2>just need to have like a little bit of fun

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<v Speaker 2>and you know, He's like, well, okay, maybe we can

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<v Speaker 2>just do a stay case somewhere and I'm like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>if it's if it's for one night, then let's just

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<v Speaker 2>grab a sitter and let's, you know, see if someone's

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<v Speaker 2>available for one night. So we found a sitter, we

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<v Speaker 2>went to The Four Seasons and it was I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>that's all I needed was just to get out of

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<v Speaker 2>the house for like a hot minute date my husband

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<v Speaker 2>and just like have fun and eat different food. And

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<v Speaker 2>it was like the most amazing point. I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>why I started this conversation.

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<v Speaker 5>Fired from you tried you almost got fired again from

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<v Speaker 5>oh yeah, yeah yeah therapy. Yeah, so you know, no,

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<v Speaker 5>there was something else, guys, this is it definitely started

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<v Speaker 5>with starting.

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<v Speaker 2>With that, well you were depressed, trust that's right, So

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<v Speaker 2>that's what So yeah, last mane lots of girls. So

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<v Speaker 2>but to come having said all that, this is like

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<v Speaker 2>a major squirrel moment. But it was I needed to

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<v Speaker 2>have more fun and I'm curious, I'm going to throw

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<v Speaker 2>it back to you and them and go back to

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<v Speaker 2>the amy conversation. But is and once I had it,

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<v Speaker 2>it was great. It was the best, and it's was

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<v Speaker 2>we had so much fun. I had, you know, lots

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<v Speaker 2>of nature, but in this season in my life, I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, that's just what I needed to just spice

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<v Speaker 2>things up. Is there something that you girls are needing

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<v Speaker 2>in the season from your partner or is it great?

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<v Speaker 2>Is it like do you need to do you need

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<v Speaker 2>some solo time? Do you need like I know for

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<v Speaker 2>when I was, you know, telling you Cat, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>I need girl time. I want to hang out with

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<v Speaker 2>my girls. Like Queendom is like, you know, so far

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<v Speaker 2>everyone's doing their own thing. It's like it's we miss

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<v Speaker 2>I missed that piece. But I feel like I was

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<v Speaker 2>able to have a great moment with Alan to just

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<v Speaker 2>like shake up the monotony. Which it's not bad to

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<v Speaker 2>have that like routine, but I just needed a little

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<v Speaker 2>bit of a shakeup.

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<v Speaker 3>We just did it.

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<v Speaker 2>We went to Denver last weekend. Our anniversary was last

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<v Speaker 2>week so happy anniversary. Thanks nine years in the music industry.

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<v Speaker 2>Feels like dog Gears, we really have nailed it. But

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<v Speaker 2>I said, I think I just need like a day

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<v Speaker 2>with you. So we just honestly I want I had

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<v Speaker 2>bad naked all day. And I know when you say

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<v Speaker 2>you have you need your days. You need a naked day.

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<v Speaker 2>I just needed naked. Whatever day it was naked Friday,

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<v Speaker 2>we just I you know, like we got there. It's

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<v Speaker 2>like sometimes we'll get to a city and it's like

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<v Speaker 2>do you want to go get a coffee or do

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<v Speaker 2>you want to go do walk around? I said, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want a retail store. I just want rest. So

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<v Speaker 2>we watched The Perfect Couple, So good, so good, and

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<v Speaker 2>we ordered room service and we did get dressed later

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<v Speaker 2>and like we went down and had like just really

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<v Speaker 2>us kind of dinner, like we're leisurely, like have a

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<v Speaker 2>couple of bites, have a drink, have a couple of bites,

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<v Speaker 2>have a glass of wine. People, And it was wonderful.

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<v Speaker 2>And I just felt like we had been there for

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<v Speaker 2>four days and we were there just for one day.

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<v Speaker 2>But I needed like connection. And even the minute we

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<v Speaker 2>got back home, I felt it like it's just being

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<v Speaker 2>pulled in a million different directions, like we farerapist Anna,

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<v Speaker 2>our couple service told us at one point we have

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<v Speaker 2>always done really well. When she calls it the piano room.

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<v Speaker 2>The night that we met, and it's when the world,

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<v Speaker 2>when the world starts to come into our world, is

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<v Speaker 2>when it just gets scattered in heart. I think that's

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<v Speaker 2>for anybody. So it's like sometimes we just need to

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<v Speaker 2>go and date. Yeah, even the kid obligation at home

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<v Speaker 2>is beautiful. Yeah, I'm not a girlfriend in that setting,

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<v Speaker 2>and I like to be a girlfriend.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, well all know I'm a little bit different. But

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<v Speaker 5>I mean for me, like my alone time comes first.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean in the sense that's what I'm missing when

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<v Speaker 5>we're every which way, but also that has not been

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<v Speaker 5>as much lately as I need actual family time. So

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<v Speaker 5>we are constantly I'm with one kid, he's with another kid,

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<v Speaker 5>and another kid is somewhere else. For me, the way

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<v Speaker 5>we connect, or at least I connect best is when

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<v Speaker 5>we are all together as a family, traveling or just

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<v Speaker 5>sitting down for dinner, which is a luxury these days

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<v Speaker 5>because I don't I can't remember the last time we

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<v Speaker 5>just all sat down for dinner unfortunately. So that's kind

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<v Speaker 5>of what I'm missing in this kind of because we're

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<v Speaker 5>just every which way.

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<v Speaker 3>But I also just love that love being in that

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<v Speaker 3>so but I do it.

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<v Speaker 5>Is it's so quick and I'm already I'm definitely feeling

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<v Speaker 5>that right now, so I'd say that, but I'm also

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<v Speaker 5>definitely missing like the friend part of it. Also, it

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<v Speaker 5>just feels so you look at the calendar and it

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<v Speaker 5>just feels so impossible, you know, when you get past

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<v Speaker 5>all your obligations, and I mean we're doing a decent

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<v Speaker 5>job of it in the last you know, a couple

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<v Speaker 5>of weeks, I guess, but at least trying.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, I think sometimes it is the impromptu is better. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>like the invite out for like Saturday. I'm like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>this is what I'm talking about because you can make sense.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like looking at the calendar feels overwhelming or well,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's.

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<v Speaker 5>That was kind of a thing where, you know, we

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<v Speaker 5>had missed Pam's birthday along you know, like what last month,

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<v Speaker 5>I think it was or two months in August. She

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<v Speaker 5>actually canceled it, right, but like in a sense we

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<v Speaker 5>still kind of Yeah, she had canceled it.

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<v Speaker 3>She'd been traveling.

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<v Speaker 5>Everyone's crazy, right, and so I had kind of reached

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<v Speaker 5>out and it was like, you know, I would still

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<v Speaker 5>love to do something, but it's just so hard to

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<v Speaker 5>find a date. And so Nick is actually out of

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<v Speaker 5>town this weekend, and so it just kind of and

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<v Speaker 5>so I was like, you know what, I'm just going

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<v Speaker 5>to say, We're going Saturday, whoever can go, and then

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<v Speaker 5>we're just gonna have to start doing this and do

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<v Speaker 5>it more often and whoever can go great. Otherwise the

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<v Speaker 5>texts become okay, no dates worked, and then nothing ever happens.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and so I think that's.

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<v Speaker 5>Kind of like the new way to kind of do

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<v Speaker 5>it in a sense, if we're ever going to make

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<v Speaker 5>it anything work, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, and to like, you know piece. The other part

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<v Speaker 2>of the beginning section is once you fill that cup

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<v Speaker 2>up that is so dry, you know, you start to

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<v Speaker 2>feel a little bit better. Like for me, like once

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<v Speaker 2>we got back from just that one day, or we

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<v Speaker 2>went hiking somewhere different than just walking around the neighborhood,

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<v Speaker 2>it was just like I just felt lighter, I felt

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<v Speaker 2>you know, hot, like just I felt good. And so

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<v Speaker 2>when I was going to therapy, I you know, she's like,

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<v Speaker 2>all right, catch me up, and I'm like, I really

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<v Speaker 2>don't have anything.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, yeah, I was feeling a little low.

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<v Speaker 2>But I just had to change my scenery up a minute,

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<v Speaker 2>because that's helpful for me, Like I always have to

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<v Speaker 2>have something that's what's next, what's coming, and then you know,

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<v Speaker 2>a little change of scenery and you know, at the

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<v Speaker 2>very end, she goes she's like, I don't want you

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<v Speaker 2>to read too much into this or get upset. And

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh my god, you're breaking up with me.

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<v Speaker 2>She's like no, she's but she said, you're not in

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<v Speaker 2>crisis mode anymore. She's like, so, I don't want you

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<v Speaker 2>to feel like you have to come every other week.

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<v Speaker 2>She's like, you, you're at a place now where you

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<v Speaker 2>are at the top of the whatever it's called, where

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<v Speaker 2>you have the self recognization and the healing and the growth.

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<v Speaker 2>She's like you, She's like, you can space your visits

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<v Speaker 2>out more. She's like, you can come again as much

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<v Speaker 2>as you want. She's like, I'll be working for the

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<v Speaker 2>next twenty years.

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<v Speaker 1>So she's like you.

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<v Speaker 2>But she's like, if you just want to come once

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<v Speaker 2>a month or every month or every other month, She's like,

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<v Speaker 2>I want you to make that decision. She's like, because

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<v Speaker 2>she's like, you don't have to come every other week anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, but also, I was like, that's I.

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<v Speaker 2>Know that good time.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Okay, it's good news.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like you have to Yeah. Yeah, So it

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<v Speaker 1>was kind of felt nice.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's also just like wonderful to just be wonderful

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<v Speaker 2>for a minute. Yeah, and just know that Okay, things

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<v Speaker 2>come in, but what are where's what's the toolbox of

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<v Speaker 2>things that I can bring in to go?

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<v Speaker 1>All right?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm feeling a little like like when I'm not working

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<v Speaker 2>or I feel sad or something. I for me, it's nature.

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<v Speaker 2>I got to be outside and I need to go

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<v Speaker 2>out and have some fun.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, and I even said it to you last week.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, you have do you want to go

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<v Speaker 2>walk in like a park? Yeah, real park, not a

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<v Speaker 2>neighborhood because I park today. We're going to walk in

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<v Speaker 2>a neighborhood. But I just A'm like I'm missing like

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<v Speaker 2>the fall does this to me too. I think it's

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<v Speaker 2>the Midwest fall piece of me where You're like it's

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<v Speaker 2>crispy and the air gets cooler and it just feels cozy,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm like, I really just want to hear birds

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<v Speaker 2>and maybe like see a deer, but you just seein

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<v Speaker 2>my own air for a second, and not be in

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<v Speaker 2>a neighborhood. I get tired of the beautiful but nature.

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<v Speaker 2>Were you going to say something okay in the park

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<v Speaker 2>the you know, speaking of not being able to have

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<v Speaker 2>it all, you actually can't well. According to Canyon, we've

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<v Speaker 2>got Stacey Schroeder Clark coming on. She is from vander

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<v Speaker 2>Pump Rules, and she is a two times New York

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<v Speaker 2>Times bestselling author, and she's got a new book out

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<v Speaker 2>called You Can't Have It All The basic bitch guy

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<v Speaker 2>to taking the pressure off.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's get her on. How are you good?

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<v Speaker 3>How are you good?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Jana, This is Kristen. That's Catherine.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi.

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<v Speaker 6>Hey, thank you guys for having me.

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<v Speaker 2>No, thank you so much for coming on. We're really

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<v Speaker 2>excited to talk to you about all the things I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like. That's just like, is that like the word

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<v Speaker 2>of twenty twenty four? All the things I know?

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<v Speaker 6>Because you know what it perfectly encapsulated.

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<v Speaker 4>It can encapsulates like a certain like what you mean,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, it's like hard. It's like you know, when

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<v Speaker 4>say it's giving something and people are like, can we

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<v Speaker 4>stop saying it's giving?

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<v Speaker 2>Or like or the I always say, you know what

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<v Speaker 2>I mean. It's it's really you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 2>And in all these things I say you know what

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<v Speaker 2>I mean all the time, but I'm like, you know

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<v Speaker 2>what I mean?

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<v Speaker 5>Right, Like you need someone to clarify that they understand

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<v Speaker 5>what you're saying, right, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Exactly, And you guys, there's none of us are dealing

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<v Speaker 2>with just one topic at a time right now. That's

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<v Speaker 2>our world and that's actually all the things, and it's

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<v Speaker 2>giving us overwhelmed life very much. So Okay. The book

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<v Speaker 2>that you have is called you Can't Have It All.

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<v Speaker 2>It's released September tenth. What was the main goal for

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<v Speaker 2>you in writing this book? Like, what did you want

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<v Speaker 2>people to know from this book?

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<v Speaker 4>Honestly, for I started selfishly writing this for myself after

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<v Speaker 4>I had my two kids. I was just like, well, actually,

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<v Speaker 4>after my first kid, to be honest, I realized, oh

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<v Speaker 4>my god, this whole thing that women are constantly asked about,

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<v Speaker 4>like can you have it all? My whole life, I

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<v Speaker 4>thought I was going to be this woman that's like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>you can have it all, you can do all the things.

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<v Speaker 4>And then my kids just like made me realize, oh

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<v Speaker 4>my gosh, I don't think I want to. I think, like,

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<v Speaker 4>why are we striving to be the best and want

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<v Speaker 4>more in every single category all the time. It's exhausting

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<v Speaker 4>and it's not the way that I want to live.

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<v Speaker 4>And I started writing about it, and the more, like friends,

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<v Speaker 4>I talk to or like, you know, other moms that

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<v Speaker 4>are you know that like I go on play dates with,

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<v Speaker 4>or just like random people that I spoke to they

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<v Speaker 4>were like I feel the same way. I feel the

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<v Speaker 4>same way, and it just felt like something that people

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<v Speaker 4>were talking about. So then I just wanted to get

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<v Speaker 4>it out there.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, that makes total sense. I guess my question

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<v Speaker 2>to that is what would you want right now that

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<v Speaker 2>you that you don't have? So you know, you've you've

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<v Speaker 2>got the book, you've got a successful career, you've got

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<v Speaker 2>beautiful you know, beautiful family. So what is it that

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<v Speaker 2>you want that you that you feel like you can't

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<v Speaker 2>have in this moment.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't feel like I'm wanting for anything right now,

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<v Speaker 4>maybe some rest, a nap.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm wanting to just like sit a little.

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<v Speaker 4>I think. You know, I'm often asked and I bet

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<v Speaker 4>you're probably often asked this as well as like so

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<v Speaker 4>what more are you working on?

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<v Speaker 6>What's next? Like?

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<v Speaker 1>What are you?

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<v Speaker 6>What are you?

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<v Speaker 2>Like?

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<v Speaker 6>What's the next thing? And why isn't what I'm doing

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<v Speaker 6>right now? Just like enough? There's always just this feeling

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<v Speaker 6>of like we should be onto the next and doing more,

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<v Speaker 6>and like I'm over that.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, I guess what I'm trying to get to is

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<v Speaker 2>I'm almost like, because we've had this conversation so much,

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<v Speaker 2>I just had it in therapy too, where I'm like

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes when I say I love being content, but then

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<v Speaker 2>that's also content, it's a negative and a positive thing

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<v Speaker 2>for me. Right, So I'm like, I feel positive being content,

0:20:58.520 --> 0:21:01.280
<v Speaker 2>I feel negative being content just depends on which mood

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<v Speaker 2>I'm at. Right, So when you say, like, Okay, you

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<v Speaker 2>can't have it all, but really like right now you

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<v Speaker 2>have it all and it's great and you're happy with

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<v Speaker 2>where you're at, but.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't have it all.

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<v Speaker 4>Like I you know, I could be a better wife,

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<v Speaker 4>I could be a better friend.

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<v Speaker 6>I could respond to.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, my family's texts more. I could you know,

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<v Speaker 4>socialize more, but I don't, Like there are areas of

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<v Speaker 4>my life that are that are that are lacking a

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<v Speaker 4>little bit because I'm it's on other things.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, Like, you can't be perfect in every single aspect

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<v Speaker 5>of your life.

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<v Speaker 2>You can't fill all the cups of everything of being

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<v Speaker 2>like in this season, okay, I'm like you said, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not the greatest friend or whatever, like where I got

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<v Speaker 2>to return this So it's like the cups aren't always full.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, absolutely, I just don't see. I don't I've never

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<v Speaker 5>thought that that's possible. I mean, that sounds terrible, and

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<v Speaker 5>I think that that is and has a negative I'm

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<v Speaker 5>glad y'all talk about it, because I don't feel like

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<v Speaker 5>I've ever had that conversation with anyone and would admit that.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't think that I could be perfect at everything

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<v Speaker 5>or great at everything.

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<v Speaker 2>I just said the other day that I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>I'm doing eighty percent of my life seventy percent. Well, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just not nailing it right. But also I'm too

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<v Speaker 2>tired to like go all in in any other areas

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<v Speaker 2>right now.

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<v Speaker 5>But I think that's kind of your point, ye, like

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<v Speaker 5>why do we have to be why do we have

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<v Speaker 5>to be great at every single thing?

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<v Speaker 4>You know?

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<v Speaker 3>Like that's that's just not reality. I don't think.

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<v Speaker 6>I think it's just the book. Really. I hope that

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<v Speaker 6>people read it and feel like.

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<v Speaker 4>Ugh, I think that too. I feel that too. I

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<v Speaker 4>get mom guilt about that too.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh my gosh.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, social media makes me feel insecure or like I

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<v Speaker 4>should be doing this a B or C. And I

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<v Speaker 4>hope that when people read it, they give themselves grace

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<v Speaker 4>and kind of just feel like, yeah, you know, like.

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<v Speaker 3>G it, I'd love that attitude.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm not really out where I am at in my life,

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<v Speaker 5>so it took me a while to get there, but

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<v Speaker 5>I'm about there.

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<v Speaker 2>So let me ask you this, did this start of

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<v Speaker 2>this like pressure off movement for you? Did it start

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<v Speaker 2>with the release from vander Pump or did it like

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<v Speaker 2>when did the shift start for you?

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<v Speaker 4>I think, you know, twenty twenty, also with COVID two,

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<v Speaker 4>and then also just like having kids, it's like everything

0:23:19.000 --> 0:23:22.440
<v Speaker 4>happened at once, and you know, during COVID, we were

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<v Speaker 4>just like stuck at home, and I had tied so

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<v Speaker 4>much of my like self worth in how much I

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<v Speaker 4>was working and accomplishing.

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<v Speaker 6>You know, I grew it.

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<v Speaker 4>Was like that growing up. Like however, you know, the

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<v Speaker 4>more I did in school, the better I felt about myself.

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<v Speaker 4>And then during COVID, I had to I wasn't allowed

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<v Speaker 4>to do a lot of things. We none of us were,

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<v Speaker 4>and so I had to find the joy in the

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<v Speaker 4>little things in life. And that's also helped me realize

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<v Speaker 4>that like oh, like striving for more and constantly wanting

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<v Speaker 4>more and thinking about what more I can do isn't

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<v Speaker 4>the way I like want to live all the time, Like.

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<v Speaker 6>I want to find the joy in the little things.

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<v Speaker 2>Where is that for you in life? Is it with

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<v Speaker 2>your kids? Is it with your family? Is it within working?

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<v Speaker 2>Like what is the where does the most of the

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<v Speaker 2>joy for you come from?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh? No? When I say like little things like obviously

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<v Speaker 4>my family is like my children and my husband one

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<v Speaker 4>hundred percent, But like it can be something so insignificant

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<v Speaker 4>as like having an iced macha just like that tastes

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<v Speaker 4>really good at three pm and just being like it's

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<v Speaker 4>really relaxing right now and I'm like really enjoying this

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<v Speaker 4>and I'm being present.

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<v Speaker 6>And it's just like life's good.

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<v Speaker 4>It's like, oh a show came on that I don't

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<v Speaker 4>have to wait another week for it. It came all

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<v Speaker 4>out at the same time, Like I get to.

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<v Speaker 6>Binge it over the next three days. Like what a

0:24:49.000 --> 0:24:52.760
<v Speaker 6>glorious life is that? Like it's really just like specific

0:24:52.840 --> 0:24:53.800
<v Speaker 6>little things.

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<v Speaker 2>Like being on this podcast right now. To in your book,

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<v Speaker 2>what was the hardest chapter for you to write that

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<v Speaker 2>were you struggle in the not having it all area?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, the hardest chapter to write was the chapter about

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<v Speaker 4>mental health because I was. It's something I really haven't

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<v Speaker 4>discussed fully, like at length, and it's dark and I

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<v Speaker 4>felt really vulnerable, and.

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<v Speaker 6>That is just that was tough.

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<v Speaker 4>It's even hard to like talk about it in a

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<v Speaker 4>podcast or like talking about it with people. I think

0:25:44.119 --> 0:25:47.200
<v Speaker 4>it was It's like, Okay, wrote it down, it's on paper,

0:25:47.280 --> 0:25:50.600
<v Speaker 4>It's out there, like people can read it and hopefully

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<v Speaker 4>feel less.

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<v Speaker 6>Alone or connect with it. And I'm like I buried

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<v Speaker 6>it or like I've put it to bed, you know

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<v Speaker 6>what I mean.

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<v Speaker 2>Was it from a specific incident, like from being it

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<v Speaker 2>was it on the show or like social media? Was

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<v Speaker 2>that where the feeling of the darkness came from? Was

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<v Speaker 2>it connected to that?

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<v Speaker 4>No, it's heavy, It didn't come from the show. It's

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<v Speaker 4>just something you know, I've struggled with certain parts of

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<v Speaker 4>you know, my mental health since I was eighteen years old,

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<v Speaker 4>and you know, there was a long period of time

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<v Speaker 4>that I engaged in self harm and that something that

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<v Speaker 4>I wrote about finally at length.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's what that is.

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<v Speaker 4>That was difficult.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean to be able to write that, I

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<v Speaker 2>mean there was I can kind of relate in a

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<v Speaker 2>small way. When I wrote my book. It was when

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<v Speaker 2>I had to do the audio recording of things was

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<v Speaker 2>it was really hard to write in the book something

0:26:51.640 --> 0:26:53.720
<v Speaker 2>things that I've never shared with anyone, but then to

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<v Speaker 2>have to say it. I mean, it took me like

0:26:56.400 --> 0:26:59.040
<v Speaker 2>a few times to be like, I don't actually even

0:26:59.080 --> 0:27:01.159
<v Speaker 2>want to read this part. Can someone else read it?

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<v Speaker 2>Because it's it's hard to go back there, especially when

0:27:04.920 --> 0:27:06.600
<v Speaker 2>you're you know, you're you're at where you're at right now,

0:27:06.640 --> 0:27:11.520
<v Speaker 2>and it's those memories are are tough to to go

0:27:11.680 --> 0:27:12.000
<v Speaker 2>back to.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, that's so funny that you say that because recording

0:27:14.880 --> 0:27:18.200
<v Speaker 4>the audiobook, Because when I recorded this one, I had

0:27:18.240 --> 0:27:22.679
<v Speaker 4>to force myself to just have zero emotion, Like I

0:27:22.720 --> 0:27:25.920
<v Speaker 4>had to make an active choice to be like stoic,

0:27:26.240 --> 0:27:27.680
<v Speaker 4>I need to just get through.

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<v Speaker 6>This and just read it. That's it.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not going to try and feel it. I just

0:27:32.400 --> 0:27:34.680
<v Speaker 4>want to get it out there. It's just something that's

0:27:34.720 --> 0:27:36.320
<v Speaker 4>just really hard to talk about.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's very brave of you to do that, Thank you,

0:27:40.920 --> 0:27:43.960
<v Speaker 2>And it's also really needed. And I know that that's

0:27:43.960 --> 0:27:47.120
<v Speaker 2>probably really hard. But like I think that this perception

0:27:47.200 --> 0:27:49.320
<v Speaker 2>that comes with Instagram, like you're saying like we're taking

0:27:49.320 --> 0:27:50.879
<v Speaker 2>the pressure off, is because when we can get a

0:27:50.920 --> 0:27:53.800
<v Speaker 2>little vulnerable and realize, like people as stunning as you,

0:27:53.880 --> 0:27:58.040
<v Speaker 2>as talented as you, with like family, can experience something

0:27:58.119 --> 0:28:01.119
<v Speaker 2>like that. Like that's the bravery we really need, especially

0:28:01.200 --> 0:28:05.639
<v Speaker 2>in a book that is about like just actually enjoying

0:28:05.640 --> 0:28:08.400
<v Speaker 2>your life for five seconds instead of us like consistently

0:28:08.920 --> 0:28:11.639
<v Speaker 2>chasing after something. Well, you know what I think is

0:28:12.080 --> 0:28:14.879
<v Speaker 2>an interesting piece too, just like from hearing you know

0:28:15.040 --> 0:28:17.199
<v Speaker 2>you share that and then you talking about it is

0:28:19.200 --> 0:28:21.359
<v Speaker 2>the things that I have a hard time talking about.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm now questioning why what is it?

0:28:23.760 --> 0:28:25.000
<v Speaker 1>Is it shame? Is it like?

0:28:25.240 --> 0:28:28.800
<v Speaker 2>And what what peace? Do I struggle with sharing? And

0:28:28.840 --> 0:28:30.520
<v Speaker 2>like cause it's like I don't talk a lot about

0:28:30.520 --> 0:28:33.560
<v Speaker 2>my domestic abuse background, like you know with my abauty

0:28:33.600 --> 0:28:35.200
<v Speaker 2>it's and I'm like, is it shame?

0:28:35.280 --> 0:28:35.760
<v Speaker 1>Is it fear?

0:28:35.840 --> 0:28:38.080
<v Speaker 2>Is? And like and I'm like literally thinking here, I'm like,

0:28:38.160 --> 0:28:40.720
<v Speaker 2>why why do I struggle? Like every time in an

0:28:40.760 --> 0:28:42.800
<v Speaker 2>interview I start that's the one that like I have

0:28:42.840 --> 0:28:44.960
<v Speaker 2>a hard time talking about, or I'll start crying or

0:28:44.960 --> 0:28:47.920
<v Speaker 2>I'm like what what piece is that in that? And

0:28:47.960 --> 0:28:49.840
<v Speaker 2>I'm like and I don't I don't even know which

0:28:49.840 --> 0:28:51.480
<v Speaker 2>one it is? Is it shame? Is it fear? Is

0:28:51.520 --> 0:28:54.600
<v Speaker 2>it sadness? Is it broke? I'm like, I don't it's

0:28:54.640 --> 0:28:57.640
<v Speaker 2>it's I don't know. It's an interesting thing to to open.

0:28:57.440 --> 0:28:58.240
<v Speaker 5>Up all of it.

0:28:58.240 --> 0:28:59.000
<v Speaker 6>It's all of it.

0:28:59.320 --> 0:29:01.400
<v Speaker 4>And then there's also just like it's the feeling of

0:29:01.440 --> 0:29:06.160
<v Speaker 4>like being like humiliated, like ugh, it's all of it.

0:29:06.600 --> 0:29:08.520
<v Speaker 2>Well, And I do think as you get older and

0:29:08.560 --> 0:29:11.479
<v Speaker 2>you heal and you identify things, you start to build

0:29:11.600 --> 0:29:14.800
<v Speaker 2>a more of a protection around them for yourself, so

0:29:14.960 --> 0:29:17.760
<v Speaker 2>like you don't want to be hurting yourself all over

0:29:17.800 --> 0:29:20.920
<v Speaker 2>again by going back into it. I think part of

0:29:20.960 --> 0:29:23.880
<v Speaker 2>it is a beautiful protection that we create for ourselves.

0:29:23.880 --> 0:29:26.720
<v Speaker 2>Like you know, I mean it's been twenty years since

0:29:27.120 --> 0:29:28.840
<v Speaker 2>I was with my abuser, and it's like but it's

0:29:28.840 --> 0:29:31.120
<v Speaker 2>almost like a sadness for the little girl, That's what

0:29:31.120 --> 0:29:31.720
<v Speaker 2>I'm saying, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, that's so interesting.

0:29:35.480 --> 0:29:37.760
<v Speaker 2>I think it's just beautiful. Though. I'm really proud of you.

0:29:37.960 --> 0:29:39.480
<v Speaker 2>I just want to say it one more time.

0:29:39.600 --> 0:29:41.400
<v Speaker 6>Thank you. Sorry to bring down y'all's vibe.

0:29:41.480 --> 0:29:45.200
<v Speaker 2>It's never no no, this is our vibe the real time.

0:29:46.160 --> 0:29:47.240
<v Speaker 3>This is the real talk.

0:29:48.320 --> 0:29:48.640
<v Speaker 6>Yeah.

0:29:48.920 --> 0:29:52.840
<v Speaker 2>Do you wonder so you're going back into reality world? Right?

0:29:53.040 --> 0:29:54.840
<v Speaker 2>Is that true? We're allowed to know that.

0:29:54.880 --> 0:29:59.360
<v Speaker 4>Correct, Yes, I can't way details, but yeah.

0:29:58.760 --> 0:30:00.000
<v Speaker 2>Okay, well we also like detail.

0:30:00.280 --> 0:30:02.320
<v Speaker 1>I really want you personally, I know.

0:30:02.280 --> 0:30:04.600
<v Speaker 2>I heard a rumor that you maybe you've said it,

0:30:04.600 --> 0:30:06.520
<v Speaker 2>I don't know, but I read it or heard it

0:30:07.240 --> 0:30:09.880
<v Speaker 2>that you turned down The Valley and I personally love

0:30:09.920 --> 0:30:11.520
<v Speaker 2>The Valley. That was like the one show that I

0:30:11.520 --> 0:30:14.000
<v Speaker 2>actually really got into. And then I started to go, Okay,

0:30:14.000 --> 0:30:16.120
<v Speaker 2>who said this? Who said what? And I'm trying to

0:30:16.160 --> 0:30:17.720
<v Speaker 2>now peace now I want to go back to watch

0:30:17.760 --> 0:30:21.440
<v Speaker 2>the other shows. But I really did enjoy that. And

0:30:21.440 --> 0:30:25.040
<v Speaker 2>then you know, I also, you know, heard other things

0:30:25.040 --> 0:30:28.000
<v Speaker 2>and like, are okay, are you close with you know, Jackson,

0:30:28.000 --> 0:30:30.000
<v Speaker 2>Brittany because they're all out there. So but then I

0:30:30.040 --> 0:30:32.520
<v Speaker 2>like feel bad asking those questions because I'm like, I

0:30:32.560 --> 0:30:35.400
<v Speaker 2>also hate it when people dive into my personal life.

0:30:35.520 --> 0:30:37.160
<v Speaker 3>So so you're gonna look at me and ask me.

0:30:37.280 --> 0:30:42.680
<v Speaker 2>I don't know the answers, but I'm like, where do

0:30:42.760 --> 0:30:45.120
<v Speaker 2>you stand with like your certain castmates.

0:30:45.560 --> 0:30:48.760
<v Speaker 6>No, I don't really talk to the two.

0:30:50.040 --> 0:30:53.400
<v Speaker 4>I have some you know, some friends who you know,

0:30:53.840 --> 0:30:56.240
<v Speaker 4>we're still on Van or Pump Rules and stuff like that,

0:30:56.280 --> 0:30:59.800
<v Speaker 4>but you know, the Valley wasn't for me. I like

0:31:00.120 --> 0:31:03.040
<v Speaker 4>knew it in my soul that it wasn't going to

0:31:03.120 --> 0:31:03.520
<v Speaker 4>be for me.

0:31:04.240 --> 0:31:06.160
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, well hey, we got to listen to that.

0:31:06.440 --> 0:31:08.960
<v Speaker 2>So is this an instant yes, when you got brought

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<v Speaker 2>this opportunity? Did this feel more comfortable? Was this like

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<v Speaker 2>a I can do this.

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<v Speaker 4>I wasn't bad the opportunity. I created the opportunity.

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<v Speaker 3>So it feels that's good for you.

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<v Speaker 2>We love we love that move.

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<v Speaker 3>Create it for yourself, that's right, paid by you.

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely, that's also how you guard yourself. Well yeah yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and make it what you needed to make it to

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<v Speaker 2>preserve your joy and all those things you worked so

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<v Speaker 2>hard to have.

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<v Speaker 3>I love it. Okay, So what's okay? So this is next?

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<v Speaker 5>We've got the reality show is next, and everyone asks

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<v Speaker 5>what's next? Right, so I know that we hate that question.

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<v Speaker 2>By the book that's next. Bye the book, Bye.

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<v Speaker 3>The book, which is out now right?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, So what is your favorite chapter that you wrote

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<v Speaker 2>in the book.

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<v Speaker 4>I would say the girl Failure chapter because I feel

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<v Speaker 4>like failure is such a scary thing for all of us,

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<v Speaker 4>and it sucks when it happens to us.

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<v Speaker 6>But failure is like really.

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<v Speaker 4>The main place where there's an opportunity to be either

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<v Speaker 4>who you want to be or be something different, do

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<v Speaker 4>something different. Because when you're just like you know, on

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<v Speaker 4>top of the world, you don't think to change anything

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<v Speaker 4>because you don't want to rock the boat, so you

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<v Speaker 4>kind of just stay where you're at. But when you

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<v Speaker 4>feel like you're at a moment of failure or rock bottom,

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<v Speaker 4>like that's when magic happens. So like, I think that's

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<v Speaker 4>my favorite chapter.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, no, I mean I one thousand percent agree with

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<v Speaker 2>with that piece. Like my biggest, most favorite lessons were

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<v Speaker 2>when I was the most broken and at rock bottom.

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<v Speaker 2>The rebuilding that's when you grow, and that's when you

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<v Speaker 2>that's the planting of the new seed is what my

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<v Speaker 2>therapists always you know, talked about. So I love that piece.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, well now I'm going to read the book. Sorry,

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<v Speaker 2>MoMA three. As you know, it's it's hard balancing it

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<v Speaker 2>all because I.

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<v Speaker 1>Can't have it all, so I can't I can't I

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<v Speaker 1>can't do.

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<v Speaker 3>It all, so we can't read the book.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yes, yes, So I mean last question, like, as

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<v Speaker 2>you know, as you're juggling things, what is it kind

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<v Speaker 2>of your tip for the moms that are also juggling

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<v Speaker 2>all the pieces too.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh you know, I think that you don't have to

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<v Speaker 4>be doing it at one hundred percent, you know what

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<v Speaker 4>I mean. It's okay if you like, give your kid

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<v Speaker 4>a cake pop for breakfast, It's okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Those love cake pops around here. The birthday cake pops

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<v Speaker 2>at Starbucks are our jam. So if you've ever tried

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<v Speaker 2>to make them, don't try now through that Starbucks drive through.

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<v Speaker 1>Awesome.

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<v Speaker 2>I love it all right, Well everyone, you can't have

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<v Speaker 2>it all the basic bitch guye to taking the pressure

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<v Speaker 2>off as available now.

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<v Speaker 6>Thank you guys so much.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank thank you so much for coming on.

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<v Speaker 6>Y'all have a good day, all right.

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<v Speaker 2>I totally knew what you were saying about the what's next?

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like it is always the question. She did

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<v Speaker 2>like start it being like.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, well, then I wanted to be like, what's next,

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<v Speaker 5>and I was like, well, crap, or I can't ask

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<v Speaker 5>that question. I was trying to see what else she

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<v Speaker 5>had on the horizon. But I get it, Like, for instance,

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<v Speaker 5>it's a very good example. Like when I went out

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<v Speaker 5>on my own to start working with you, everyone would

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<v Speaker 5>ask me, where are you going to get new clients?

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<v Speaker 3>Are you going to do this? What's next? Where are

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<v Speaker 3>you going to do?

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<v Speaker 5>And I finally I was like, no, I'm great, I'm happy,

0:34:20.120 --> 0:34:22.319
<v Speaker 5>I'm glad, I'm happy with what I'm doing. It's just

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<v Speaker 5>a natural question. Again, I asked her the same question

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<v Speaker 5>after talking about it. Everyone wants to know what you're

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<v Speaker 5>doing next, and so I understand where she's coming from

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<v Speaker 5>where it's like, can't I just be doing what I'm

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<v Speaker 5>doing and not have to have something next and have

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<v Speaker 5>to have something more?

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<v Speaker 2>I wonder how many brides here on their wedding day?

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<v Speaker 2>So when are you guys gonna start having kids? Not

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<v Speaker 2>hearing me from the question exception, but you know, like

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<v Speaker 2>it's it's that chest engage, engage, when's the wedding, you're married,

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<v Speaker 2>when's the baby?

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<v Speaker 5>It's kind of just society though I don't think it's

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<v Speaker 5>anyone's intention.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think that's also probably why that anxiety fills

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<v Speaker 2>in the people that feel like they always have to

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<v Speaker 2>have something. I always have to feel I have to

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<v Speaker 2>have something. Yeah, you totally, So it's like.

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<v Speaker 5>A well, I think that's why this title can be

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<v Speaker 5>a little triggering for some people, because a lot of

0:35:07.760 --> 0:35:10.880
<v Speaker 5>people really love the you can do it all, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>And so I can see where that's a little difficult

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<v Speaker 5>for what she's saying, because working moms don't want to

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<v Speaker 5>be told they can't have it all. But I don't

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<v Speaker 5>think that that's necessarily what she's saying.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think, And yeah, it's tough. It's a tricky

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<v Speaker 2>one because it's like, I definitely agree with what she's saying,

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<v Speaker 2>and at the same time, I'm like, you can have

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<v Speaker 2>it all, but it's you're not percentagely equaling it out.

0:35:32.360 --> 0:35:34.799
<v Speaker 2>It's basically what she's saying. So it's exactly then, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>the title just makes it a little hard.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, in my opinion, it's kind of like, wait, wait, wait,

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<v Speaker 5>you're telling me I can't work and have kids, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>but that's not I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Think yeah exactly, I'm going to read yeah, Yeah, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to let you know, I think yeah, because I

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<v Speaker 2>definitely think it's one of those things where you know,

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<v Speaker 2>when I when I look at it, it honestly depends on

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<v Speaker 2>what mood I'm in, right, because sometimes I'm like, I

0:35:57.200 --> 0:36:01.239
<v Speaker 2>can't have it all. I can't I because today's you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I've got a I had so many things happening and

0:36:06.080 --> 0:36:09.000
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, I can't physically fit in everything I need

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<v Speaker 2>to do today. Nope, So I can't have it all today.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah tomorrow, I'm going to feel like I can have

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<v Speaker 2>it all today. Like I just I have like that

0:36:16.440 --> 0:36:20.239
<v Speaker 2>positive and negative feeling for it when it comes to

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<v Speaker 2>having it and not having it, and then feel that

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<v Speaker 2>way with a fresh ships right now, Like I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>people are like I want to go, Like I have

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<v Speaker 2>a sweet girlfriend that wrote to me was like I

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<v Speaker 2>would love to go get lunch, and I'm like.

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<v Speaker 1>October, like I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>I would too, like honestly twenty twenty five, Like I

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<v Speaker 2>just am like I don't even and it's hard that

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<v Speaker 2>I'm but it's a weird. I also, I'm just prioritizing

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<v Speaker 2>having a minute. I don't like rush, I don't.

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<v Speaker 5>Like to stack, and that's where we can't be one

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<v Speaker 5>hundred percent in every aspect.

0:36:47.880 --> 0:36:50.520
<v Speaker 2>That's where I can't have it all. Yeah, exactly to

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<v Speaker 2>her point, So everyone go grab her book. It's available now.

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<v Speaker 2>You can't have it all