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Speaker 1: Ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the Fred Show. Hey, Jonah,

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Speaker 1: good morning, welcome to the program. How are you.

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Speaker 2: I'm good, I'm good. Yeah, how are you?

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Speaker 1: I'm doing all right, but trying to help you out

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Speaker 1: here though it's waiting on the phone. So what's going

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Speaker 1: on with this woman? Page? Like, I need to know

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Speaker 1: how you met, about any dates you've been on, and

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Speaker 1: then where things are now, and then how we can help.

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Speaker 3: Obviously we met on the apps. You know most people,

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Speaker 3: I guess meeting that way. But you know, we had

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Speaker 3: a great first date. We went out after talking on

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Speaker 3: the after a little while, went out and and you know,

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Speaker 3: we went back to my place and I had an

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Speaker 3: even better time. Let's just put it that way, you know, Okay,

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Speaker 3: you know not you know she's uh, and.

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Speaker 2: Then she just straight ghosted me afterwards.

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Speaker 3: Like and what I don't understand is like, you know,

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Speaker 3: we had a good time, we had a great time.

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Speaker 3: If she was to go back to my place and

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Speaker 3: hook up, you know why the ghosting?

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Speaker 2: You know why she goes to me now I'd like

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Speaker 2: to see her again.

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Speaker 1: I would say. Most of the time, I've been doing

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Speaker 1: this for a long We've all been doing these calls

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Speaker 1: for a long time, So, I mean I would normally

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Speaker 1: say when someone on a first date wants to go

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Speaker 1: home with you that that's a good thing. So everything

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Speaker 1: was good until that point, I guess. But now you're

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Speaker 1: not able to get a hold of this woman. You've

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Speaker 1: called her, you've texted her, you've tried, and she's not

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Speaker 1: responding to you at.

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Speaker 3: All, not at all, like straight ghosted, which you know,

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Speaker 3: it's not like anything bad happened. We had a good time,

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Speaker 3: you know, we had fun. Yeah, nothing weird, nothing, you know.

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Speaker 2: It was just I don't know, I don't get it.

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Speaker 1: All right. Well, look, Jonah, we'll be the judge of

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Speaker 1: that in just a second. Okay, we're gonna find out

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Speaker 1: what's going on. We're gonna call Page, see if we

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Speaker 1: can get her on the phone, ask some questions. You'll

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Speaker 1: be on the phone at the same time. Hey, Jonah, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: all right, let's call it Page. You guys met on

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Speaker 1: one of the dating apps. You went on a date.

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Speaker 1: You felt like it was a successful date, so much

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Speaker 1: so she wound up going back to your place after

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Speaker 1: the dinner and the drinks or whatever you guys did.

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Speaker 1: But you have not heard from this woman since then,

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Speaker 1: and it's bugging you because obviously you liked whatever happened

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Speaker 1: and liked her and wanted to see her again, and

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Speaker 1: now you can't. You can't find her.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely.

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Speaker 4: Have you guys can help me track her down?

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Speaker 2: That'd be great.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna find out right now. Good luck.

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Speaker 2: Man. Hello?

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Speaker 1: Hi is his page?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I hate page. Good morning. My name is Fred. I'm

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Speaker 1: calling from the Fred Show, the morning radio show, and

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Speaker 1: I have to tell you that we are on the

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Speaker 1: radio right now, and I would need your permission to

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Speaker 1: continue with the calls and cool if we chat for

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Speaker 1: just a second. Uh Okay, I know, I know it's

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Speaker 1: kind of strange and I'm sorry to sort of barge

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Speaker 1: in on your life like this, but you're welcome to

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Speaker 1: hang up at any time. We're calling on behalf of

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Speaker 1: a guy who reached out to us for help. His

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Speaker 1: name is Jonah. Do you remember going on a day

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Speaker 1: with Jonah? Yes? I do, all right. Well, Well, he

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Speaker 1: described to us what he thought was a really good date.

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Speaker 1: He liked you a lot. He did say that you

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Speaker 1: guys wandered back at his place. He didn't get into

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Speaker 1: detail about that, but he says he hasn't heard from

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Speaker 1: you since then, So what's going on?

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Speaker 2: Why?

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Speaker 1: Why are you ghosting? Jonah?

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Speaker 6: It looks like, oh my god, this is so embarrassing.

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Speaker 1: Okay, yes we went on a date.

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Speaker 6: But god, I mean I wouldn't normally kiss and tell

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Speaker 6: like this is mortifying. But it's kind of like why.

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Speaker 1: I guess it's a safe place. This is a safe

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Speaker 1: place page and he asked us to do this, so

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Speaker 1: you're welcome to say whatever you want. Okay.

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Speaker 6: So after we hooked up, Jonah was so rude, Like

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Speaker 6: the second we finished, he was up and collecting my

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Speaker 6: things so that I could get dressed, and he was like,

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Speaker 6: what's your address? I'll call you an uber?

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Speaker 1: Oh what a was it? Fred? Stop it right now.

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Speaker 1: I'm not It takes me a few minutes to get

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Speaker 1: everything together. Just come on. So okay, so you guys,

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Speaker 1: you hook up, you had a good time. Everything is

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Speaker 1: fine up until this moment. And as soon as it's over,

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Speaker 1: he's like, oh, there's your bra okay, and then you know,

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Speaker 1: Sam's on his way in the Honda Civic license plate

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Speaker 1: one two three four. He'll be downstairs. Yeah no, he well,

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Speaker 1: he went for the Uber Comfort. What a guy? Right, extra,

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Speaker 1: So it kind of went like that you're saying.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, it's just like it made it feel so cheap,

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Speaker 5: It was like a flip switch, you know what I mean,

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Speaker 5: Like like I got the hint and I laughed, but

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Speaker 1: Like, well, there's Jonah by the way.

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Speaker 4: Uh, because because we were getting there. I like my bed. Look,

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Speaker 4: I like my bed to myself, and I was tired

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Speaker 4: and that makes me a.

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Speaker 5: Tool, no, but like why did you invite me over

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Speaker 5: if there was like a time limit on the evening?

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Speaker 2: Like it was just rude.

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Speaker 3: Look, we were having a good time. I mean, we

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Speaker 3: were vibing. Obviously we connected, you know. I mean you

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Speaker 3: know where I was tired. I just wanted to go

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Speaker 1: There's a difference between who might of talk, but there's

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Speaker 1: a difference between like wanting to sleep, you know, or

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Speaker 1: having an early morning or whatever. I mean, you gotta

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Speaker 1: be you gotta be a little more casual about it.

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Speaker 1: Like you can't I mean okay, but I mean you

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Speaker 1: can get like something, are you still going and like

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Speaker 1: you know, the heart's still pumping and it's like uber

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Speaker 4: I'm a single guy. I'm used to sleeping by myself.

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Speaker 2: I used to have some space, and I.

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Speaker 3: Mean, I'll be honest, I was just like I was

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Speaker 4: It was a struggle just to call that uber.

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Speaker 7: But I think for your uber, okay, you need to

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Speaker 7: tell you that beforehand, though, Like if you're if you

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Speaker 7: like I I feel like that's okay if you want that,

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Speaker 7: but you definitely need to make the other person aware

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Speaker 7: of that prior to the you know, I don't.

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Speaker 4: Know, I looked I wanted you to come over. I

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Speaker 3: If I told you I was tired, you might have

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Speaker 5: Like I'm just saying right, you acted like it was

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Speaker 4: It was really crappy. Like I thought I was being

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Speaker 4: doing like the right thing, you know.

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Speaker 1: I mean it's like I'm like minutes like like slow play, you.

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Speaker 4: Call your own no. But I didn't say, like, okay,

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Speaker 4: why don't you call your own uber?

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Speaker 2: No, I was. I thought it was. It was like

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Speaker 1: I got you. Look, I get it.

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Speaker 4: The clothes were everywhere. I got straightened them up, I gathered. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: I mean I got them all together for her. You know,

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Speaker 4: I was decyed to be.

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Speaker 2: I was trying to be a nice and accommodate.

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Speaker 1: Ic so as supposed to be. Like two seconds after

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Speaker 1: it's over, hey call your own uber. You just went

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Speaker 1: ahead and did it for I'll be honest, that is

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Speaker 1: casting over right there. That I mean something about raising

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Speaker 4: Okay you put it that way. Yeah, But I felt

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Speaker 4: like I was doing the right thing at a time. People,

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Speaker 4: I was super tired too.

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Speaker 2: I was exhausted, you know.

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Speaker 1: I mean I will say that. You can say that

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Speaker 1: be like, hey, look I'm really tired. I gotta go

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Speaker 1: I mean, people can take a hint. But like I again,

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Speaker 1: we just did this very personal thing. I wouldn't necessarily

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Speaker 1: you want some water, Like I don't know, I'm just saying, like, well,

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Speaker 1: what would you prefer? You don't want me to offer

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Speaker 1: you hydration to kick me out at all. But I'm not.

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Speaker 1: I'm not kicking anybody out. I'm just saying, like, there's

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Speaker 1: a way to do this where I mean, sure, maybe,

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Speaker 1: but you can't honestly tell me that every time you've

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Speaker 1: to stay the night. I mean, I don't think this

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Speaker 1: think this is a signature male move only. I've definitely

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Speaker 1: oh doing the yawning thing. Oh man, oh I'm so tired,

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Speaker 1: and it's like, okay, I wasn't invited to stay, so

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Speaker 1: I'm not going to stay. That happens on the other.

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Speaker 7: End too, of course it does, but I still think

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Speaker 7: it's rude from both parties.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's true.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: It was like if you had just said all of that,

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Speaker 5: I would have understood. But it was so like the

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Speaker 5: second it was over, I was like, okay, bye, see

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Speaker 1: Everybody knows you three to five minutes. It's definitely it does.

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Speaker 1: I can see why it felt very transactional. I can

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Speaker 1: look I understand, and Paige, I totally get it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I didn't intend it to come across that way.

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Speaker 3: Like I said, I thought I was doing it right,

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Speaker 3: saying my gathering up your clothes for you.

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Speaker 2: I thought it was you know, I mean.

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Speaker 3: I was, I was not in my in the right mindset.

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Speaker 3: But I will say I had a great time. I

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Speaker 3: thought you did too. And uh, you know, if you maybe,

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Speaker 3: if if you'd wanted to go out with me again,

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Speaker 3: I would love to.

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Speaker 2: I mean, that was okay, that was awesome.

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Speaker 1: So Page, Look, he I don't know if he really

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Speaker 1: is getting it, but he is. Let's say that he's

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Speaker 1: accepted that what he did was rude. You obviously liked

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Speaker 1: him up until that point. If he promises you to

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Speaker 1: be a little more respectful moving forward, Uh, and you know,

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Speaker 1: maybe wait a little while before he calls the uber.

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Speaker 1: Would you consider going out with him again?

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Speaker 6: Absolutely not, because I have self respect and I'm not

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Speaker 6: putting myself in that situation again.

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Speaker 1: I get it. It's something to think about something. Something

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm just gonna noodle this one for a

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Speaker 1: while and you know maybe Okay, Look, it's not gonna

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Speaker 1: work out. Jonah she's not interested.

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Speaker 2: Paige.

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Speaker 1: Uh, thank you for your time. Good luck to you

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Speaker 1: and Jonah as well.

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Speaker 2: Okay, thanks for triumph