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Speaker 1: My girlfriend's going on a six week backpacking trip.

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Speaker 2: With her ex.

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Speaker 3: That feels like a little bit too close for comforting.

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Speaker 2: Six six six weeks back with a weekend isn't even

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Speaker 2: like on the table.

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Speaker 3: I mean they're really close. They're like friends. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 3: like best friends.

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Speaker 2: Like same tent, kind of close for warm.

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Speaker 1: My girlfriend and I dated for half of twenty twenty two,

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Speaker 1: then broke up after about a year and a half apart.

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Speaker 1: We got back together last winter, and I've been together

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Speaker 1: again for about three months. During that year we were apart,

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Speaker 1: she had a relationship with a coworker who she was

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Speaker 1: also living with. She called it a situationship. By the way,

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Speaker 1: this comes from error prop on the arsash Okay storytime Bredditt.

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Speaker 1: So also during that year, they backpacked several hundred miles

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Speaker 1: of the PCT together, which which my friend.

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Speaker 3: Just did several hundred miles. That's intense. You did a

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Speaker 3: little like backpackag Yeah, I did the Colorado Trail, yes,

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Speaker 3: four fifty to fifty miles. Yeah, I said little, but that's.

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Speaker 2: A massive A little bit. I got much closer with

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Speaker 2: the verson I went with.

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Speaker 4: I'm sure my boy logan.

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Speaker 5: Oh, logan, yes, yeah, I remember crossing the country with

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Speaker 5: my boy Rax and.

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Speaker 2: You get close, you got you know, there's a lot

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Speaker 2: of time to kill.

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Speaker 1: They both moved to separate cities last fall after the hike,

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Speaker 1: but decided to remain friends and made plans to return

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Speaker 1: to hike another several hundred miles of the PCT this

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Speaker 1: upcoming summer. My girlfriend and I started talking again last fall,

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Speaker 1: about one month after they parted ways. While we were talking,

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Speaker 1: she invited me to join them over the summer, and

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Speaker 1: I planned to join for part of it about four weeks.

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Speaker 1: She never mentioned that they had any romantic relationship while

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Speaker 1: telling me about our time living with him plus his family,

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Speaker 1: or her time backpacking with him. I thought they were

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Speaker 1: just friends.

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Speaker 3: Yikes, yikes, it's such a red flash. So who's the

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Speaker 3: rebound in this situation? Yeah, it's kind of a double rebound.

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Speaker 2: Double rebound.

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Speaker 5: Well, technically they are friends, but she just forgot the

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Speaker 5: like first half of it.

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Speaker 2: They're just really friend any type of situationship means like

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Speaker 2: it's more about the stuff than it is about like

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Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying. It means you're not committed

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Speaker 2: to like the person, you're committed to their body a

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Speaker 2: six week long hike what did You Do personality.

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Speaker 1: Pretty soon after officially getting back together a few months ago,

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Speaker 1: we were discussing boundaries and I told her explicitly that

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Speaker 1: I expected her to tell me if she had any

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Speaker 1: romantic history with any friends who are currently still in

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Speaker 1: her life, especially if me and her were going to

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Speaker 1: spend time with said person. She acknowledged how I felt,

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Speaker 1: and I appreciated it, but didn't mention anything about them.

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Speaker 5: Wait, so it's just her and the ex.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he's going to join.

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Speaker 3: But so he's like, hey, before we go on this trip, like,

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Speaker 3: you're gonna tell me if you've been roman any of

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Speaker 3: your friends. And she's like, I'm so glad you let

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Speaker 3: that boundary be known to me. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: A month later, we were discussing how the summer hiking

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Speaker 1: trip would go with the three of us. They would

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Speaker 1: be hiking without me for the first couple a few

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Speaker 1: weeks or tent nice and cozy. We were discussing the

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Speaker 1: tent situation.

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Speaker 2: You could sleep outside op yah, and she.

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Speaker 1: Mentioned wanting to sleep in a separate tenth in him

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Speaker 1: two of them. I was confused and asked why since

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Speaker 1: it made sense for them to share a tent, splitting

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Speaker 1: the weight of a two person tent, and then me

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Speaker 1: and her could have and then me and her could

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Speaker 1: have our own tent. When I joined them.

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Speaker 2: You're driving her into the arms of another lover.

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Speaker 1: He's like, why do you want your your own tent?

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Speaker 1: Just share? Yeah, just share a sleeping bag.

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Speaker 2: The clothes, actually, why wear any She seemed kind.

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Speaker 1: Of on the idea of them sharing, but didn't tell

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Speaker 1: me why. In retrospect, it seemed like she likely she

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Speaker 1: likely she herself wasn't comfortable with the idea of sharing

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Speaker 1: a tent with a former partner without telling me their history.

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Speaker 2: It seems like that's the opportunity to be like, No,

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Speaker 2: the reason I want to share this tent is because

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Speaker 2: of x y Z.

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Speaker 3: Like she's already had the opportunity when he made his boundaries,

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Speaker 3: and now she's like and now, I imagine like fels she

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Speaker 3: feels like the secret has kept and she'll to look

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Speaker 3: back in his eyes. Now she must keep the secrets.

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Speaker 1: She recently they told me about their history, and I

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Speaker 1: am very hurt. Of course, everyone has a right to

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Speaker 1: their own past, and I don't want or need to

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Speaker 1: know every detail of every guy she's ever been with.

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Speaker 1: But I feel very betrayed that she would hide her

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Speaker 1: history with someone that she was going to spend so

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Speaker 1: much alone time with and invited me to spend time

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Speaker 1: with them without telling me. To me, it feels very

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Speaker 1: relevant to know this information when it comes to former

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Speaker 1: partners who are currently in both of our lives in

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Speaker 1: a big way, spending one und percent of every day

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Speaker 1: together for six.

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Speaker 3: Weeks, It's just so ridiculousiculous it gets worse.

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Speaker 1: I directly told her I felt this way, but she

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Speaker 1: ignored me and omitted the information. I'm really hurt by

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Speaker 1: what is happening and feel like it would be hard

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Speaker 1: to trust her moving forward. From her perspective, I can

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Speaker 1: understand that she was afraid I would break up with

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Speaker 1: her after hearing this. She wouldn't want to tell me,

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Speaker 1: But I don't know why she would be worried about that.

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Speaker 1: I don't think there's anything wrong with being friends with

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Speaker 1: your exes. She is good friends with another AX of hers.

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Speaker 1: She would put him at one or two in terms

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Speaker 1: of closest friends told me, and I'm totally fine with it.

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Speaker 2: One or two has got a history, she collects a history.

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Speaker 3: At this point, you're in like a poly relationship.

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Speaker 6: You know, well maybe maybe well you could be you

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Speaker 6: be friends with axes though right Sam.

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Speaker 2: You could be friends with excees, but not one or two?

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Speaker 2: Well right now, it depends on how long ago and how.

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Speaker 1: Often how the relationship You're spending six weeks with them.

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Speaker 1: I'm unsure about how to think about our future and

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Speaker 1: would love to hear some outside.

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Speaker 2: Opinions and there is an update. What do you think

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Speaker 2: my instincts are?

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Speaker 1: What are your instants?

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Speaker 2: Why do the sixth week hike?

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Speaker 3: Because they're one and two.

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Speaker 2: He's like a one or two on her closest friend.

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Speaker 5: He's trying to get back up to one.

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Speaker 1: Who else?

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Speaker 2: So she's gonna do it with exactly that person is

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Speaker 2: gonna I don't know. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I will say it is weird, but it is really

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Speaker 1: hard to find people to go with you on long

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Speaker 1: hiking trip backpacking trips. That is true, and they've already

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Speaker 1: gone on one before.

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Speaker 3: Okay, question for you. Maybe maybe maybe she is one

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Speaker 3: of those people that can like like put the line

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Speaker 3: in the sand and say, hey, like that relationship is

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Speaker 3: the past. Now they're just friends.

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Speaker 7: But I doubt that that guy who's going on that

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Speaker 7: like multi week trip before the boyfriend comes in is

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Speaker 7: thinking the same.

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Speaker 8: Well.

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Speaker 1: I think the issue is not necessarily that she's going

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Speaker 1: on the strip with her ex. It's that she lied

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Speaker 1: about it, and there is something.

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Speaker 2: That is the biggest thing. Be She didn't lie about

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Speaker 2: the other axes.

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Speaker 3: No, And I think, why is she lying about.

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Speaker 1: It that way?

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Speaker 3: Right?

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Speaker 1: Why are you always lie?

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Speaker 3: Why are you always living?

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Speaker 5: If she does make that boundary after six weeks, yeah,

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Speaker 5: to deteriorate, it's gonna be tough for every day.

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Speaker 3: Are you gonna be the friend when you come back?

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Speaker 6: No?

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know there's no service.

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Speaker 2: There's so much service on that train that needs to

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Speaker 2: be filled. On a hike, yeah, and you better believe

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Speaker 2: something's going to come up conversation. Yeah, I'm so happy

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Speaker 2: in my relationship. Nothing else.

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Speaker 3: You go on a six week camping trip with an

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Speaker 3: X if you're happy in your relationship.

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Speaker 2: Maybe, but from the get go, yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the thing. I think she wasn't honest, so

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Speaker 1: I don't trust her. Update two days later, Oh, I

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Speaker 1: talked to her last night about the situation. She was

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Speaker 1: very apologetic, and admitted she made a huge mistake and

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Speaker 1: betrayed my trust, vowing to never do that again. She

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Speaker 1: said the reason she eventually told me was because she

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Speaker 1: couldn't hold the guilt in anymore from not telling. Interestingly,

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Speaker 1: when I used the word liede, she argued with it

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Speaker 1: at first, claiming she didn't lie, but then quickly changed

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Speaker 1: her with him. She said it was because she knew

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Speaker 1: I was going to get mad.

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Speaker 3: But that's just me. Did that just means you don't

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Speaker 3: have the courage to say the truth. Yeah, you can't hate.

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Speaker 3: I hate say that's like I didn't want to make

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Speaker 3: sure that's a Disney Channel plot.

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Speaker 2: I thought you were like I didn't want to tell

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Speaker 2: you that I killed your family because I didn't want

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Speaker 1: I knew you always gonna She pointed out something that

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Speaker 1: she felt confused about whether I wanted to know about

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Speaker 1: their history or not. Liar, don't play oh way. I

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Speaker 1: wasn't sure if you wanted to know.

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Speaker 3: Also, Bell Conkling says, I went on a trip with

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Speaker 3: an ex and now we're married, so.

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Speaker 1: That does not help her case because earlier, in the

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Speaker 1: same conversation that I told her I wanted to know

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Speaker 1: which of her friends were exes months ago. I also

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Speaker 1: cut her off when we were talking about our year

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Speaker 1: I didn't need to know that. I regret how I

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Speaker 1: that topic. I should have let her finish her sentence.

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Speaker 3: At least I feel like in that scenario, you say, oh,

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Speaker 3: I had some situationships, not like I had a.

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Speaker 8: Lots to at least six weeks, and it probably made

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Speaker 8: her feel that I was overly sensitive about her past.

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Speaker 1: She said, because of this, she thought I didn't want

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Speaker 1: to know about the hiking friend from last year. To me,

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Speaker 1: it just feels like there's no inconsistency not wanting to

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Speaker 1: hear your partner say I slept with a lot of

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Speaker 1: hear them say I slept with the guy who I'm

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Speaker 1: friends with and we're about to hike with for four weeks.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, those are different things. It's like you don't need

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Speaker 3: to give all the gory details.

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Speaker 1: Of like, hey, just one of those relationships.

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Speaker 3: Because like all the other situationships don't have any effect

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Speaker 3: on the current relationship, but this one does because you're

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Speaker 3: bringing him in to the mix of relationships and friendships

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Speaker 3: that you have around your partner.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Also, if she actually thought I didn't want to know

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Speaker 1: their history, why did she feel so guilty not telling me?

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Speaker 3: Everyone knows they have acid.

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Speaker 3: Oh agenda, So the boyfriend is the temporary guy.

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Speaker 2: Wait no, wait wait wait wait wait wait Guys like

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Speaker 3: I thought she was telling him the current boyfriend is.

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Speaker 2: No, this is the this is the he's trying to

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Speaker 2: This dude, this dude needs to grow up yeah and

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Speaker 2: say no, I'm not coming. Yeah, Like he needs to

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Speaker 3: Yeah. I feel like she's completely just using him as

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Speaker 1: Yeah. She told him that she was upset that he

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Speaker 2: Come on, it's hard for people to do that.

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Speaker 1: That is something that is hard. She agreed with him

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Speaker 2: I am a trail of life.

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Speaker 2: This is a challenger.

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Speaker 1: The situation was finally made clear from reading their mess

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Speaker 1: She wanted to keep this guy in her life, even

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Speaker 1: though he wasn't over her. He confessed all this to

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Speaker 1: use my name my friend.

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Speaker 2: Oh that was great delivery.

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Speaker 1: Oh this is before they were officially dating again, a

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Speaker 1: bill ouch. This was another lie bi omission, this time

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Speaker 1: true snaps, especially about such an important topic so early

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Speaker 1: on in the relationship. To those who gave insightful, nuanced advice,

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Speaker 1: and know how to handle these topics better and future relationships.

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Speaker 1: The one person who suggested that I asked to read

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Speaker 1: their texts, I can't thank you enough for helping me

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Speaker 1: dodge this bullet and that oh there is a little

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Speaker 3: I mean, I think like this is just too many

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Speaker 3: red flags in a row.

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Speaker 2: It's so cut and dry.

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Speaker 3: It's like you got to exit that relationship.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, leave it now, have some self respect.

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Speaker 1: To gosh.

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Speaker 3: No.

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Speaker 1: One seven Lots of seven says, how did she react

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Speaker 1: She went on the PCT you did the right thing, man.

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Speaker 1: She was never going to tell you the full truth

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Speaker 1: and figuring it all out was all the proof you

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Speaker 2: This and stuff.

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Speaker 1: She also lamented how we were perfect on paper because

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Speaker 1: for a valid type's day. You didn't know what to

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Speaker 1: me for a valid The other guy. It's us on

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Speaker 1: the in the background. The other guy he is there,

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Speaker 1: but I can paint him out, no huge emotional display

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Speaker 1: because she probably predicted this was going to happen. Ever

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Speaker 1: where she could feel comfortable stuff.

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Speaker 2: Guess lees.

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Speaker 1: Based on how swiftly I ended things between us last time.

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Speaker 1: I just don't care anymore and want this person out

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Speaker 1: that is the end of this tale.

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Speaker 5: Out of this relationship, Like why does she want it

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Speaker 5: so bad.

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Speaker 3: So she can have someone to go on the PCT with?

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Speaker 2: Literally the other guy?

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Speaker 7: Is it?

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Speaker 5: But the other guy would?

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Speaker 3: She wants to want?

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Speaker 1: You need a backup?

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Speaker 3: Everyone always knows exactly you an emotional backup where media

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Speaker 3: okay is She's for the trails.

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Speaker 2: He's for to try.

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Speaker 3: He's for the trails, not just for the streets.

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Speaker 6: Woo.

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Speaker 3: And I think that's where that episode ends.

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Speaker 1: It is but if you love us, make sure.

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Speaker 2: To subscribe We love you and.

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Speaker 3: Riley. Can you assign that one to Nina? Mm hmm

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Speaker 3: thanks baby cakes?

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Speaker 2: All right, let's way my buy.

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Speaker 4: I think.

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Speaker 1: I can stay for us like a right? I have

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Speaker 1: forty minutes?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, pretty story.

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Speaker 5: By Sam.

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Speaker 2: Don't mean to go there.

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Speaker 5: It's not similar there.

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Speaker 1: You're you're too close to me? Done done that?

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Speaker 3: Know me?

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Speaker 1: Sam?

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Speaker 9: Could you take the Boxer the Infinity b are you

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Speaker 9: on notion. Uh wait, don't Riley, I want to hear it.

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Speaker 1: Oh, Josephine Madola Berquez, thank you for the twenty seven

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Speaker 1: second she wants to get in deed. Sophia Colonne says,

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Speaker 1: some people need attention. Mom called me. My mom has

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Speaker 1: called me twice. No, it's fine. My niece's eye drops,

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Speaker 1: my lips should happened, grabbed my chapstick in my room?

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Speaker 2: I mean, Rick, how old are Anthony and Riley? Wouldn't

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Speaker 2: you like to know enough?

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Speaker 9: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Old enough?

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Speaker 4: Am I?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 4: I could be.

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Speaker 1: He's older than us and younger than Sam.

450
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Speaker 2: Oh I won't.

451
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Speaker 1: This is not my story to tell.

452
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Speaker 2: When a mommy and a daddy. Oh yeah, I was.

453
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Speaker 1: Okay, I'm glad you saw that. Saw I caught.

454
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Speaker 2: I caught that, and I caught you catching that.

455
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Speaker 1: And I appreciate that because if no one had seen that,

456
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Speaker 1: I would have been said.

457
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Speaker 2: It's one of those things. Yeah, it was, tree falls

458
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Speaker 2: in the voice. Does it really? If you have no

459
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Speaker 2: idea what yet? So if you're caught chapstick, it was impressive.

460
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Speaker 2: I saw it, noticed TLDR.

461
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Speaker 1: Thanks, all right, let's get into this next story.

462
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Speaker 2: This is an episode from Deep Within the Archives.

463
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Speaker 4: Time for okop relash.

464
00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:37,040
Speaker 3: I refuse to give my sister any of my six

465
00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:38,920
Speaker 3: million dollars inheritance.

466
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Speaker 4: And here's why, man, you better have the best dang

467
00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:44,920
Speaker 4: reason ever in a history of planet Earth.

468
00:23:45,040 --> 00:23:46,600
Speaker 2: The reason is it's my money.

469
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Speaker 4: What else are you gonna do?

470
00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:52,720
Speaker 3: Get away from my gold? I'm a freaking dragon, and

471
00:23:52,840 --> 00:23:54,000
Speaker 3: I'm gonna sit on my horse.

472
00:23:54,080 --> 00:23:56,520
Speaker 4: I'm screwede you making do count in my coins.

473
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Speaker 3: If I don't have all my six million, how am

474
00:23:59,040 --> 00:24:01,920
Speaker 3: I gonna dive from a diving board into its I

475
00:24:02,280 --> 00:24:05,520
Speaker 3: female twenty four, have four siblings, Max male thirty one,

476
00:24:05,720 --> 00:24:10,280
Speaker 3: Lisa female twenty, Chris male twenty, Emily female eighteen. Emily

477
00:24:10,440 --> 00:24:13,480
Speaker 3: is disabled, and because of that, my parents dedicated themselves

478
00:24:13,680 --> 00:24:16,000
Speaker 3: one hundred percent to her, leaving the rest of us

479
00:24:16,080 --> 00:24:18,879
Speaker 3: defend for ourselves. When Max left for college, I became

480
00:24:18,960 --> 00:24:22,240
Speaker 3: the main caregiver for my siblings. In all household chores

481
00:24:22,359 --> 00:24:24,480
Speaker 3: were my responsibility. I want to make it clear that

482
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Speaker 3: Emily's disability does not stop her from functioning like any

483
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Speaker 3: other person, and she doesn't require any assistance or supervision

484
00:24:31,720 --> 00:24:33,760
Speaker 3: or twenty four to seven care. I love to actually

485
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Speaker 3: know what the discaplise I was just about to ask,

486
00:24:35,520 --> 00:24:39,600
Speaker 3: I wonder what it is ADHD. However, my parents have

487
00:24:39,680 --> 00:24:42,320
Speaker 3: always spoiled or rotten, and she is very rude, mean

488
00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:45,240
Speaker 3: and entitled. My parents raised her with a mentality that

489
00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:48,119
Speaker 3: her disability means she's allowed to do whatever and everyone

490
00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:50,560
Speaker 3: needs to bend backwards for her, which is probably not

491
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Speaker 3: a great parenting style. My grandparents passed away three years

492
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Speaker 3: ago and I inherited everything approximately six million dollars.

493
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Speaker 4: Wow, golly a lot.

494
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Speaker 6: That's just imagine you just got every billion dollars. I mean,

495
00:25:06,880 --> 00:25:09,639
Speaker 6: when everything is six million, you know everything could be

496
00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:10,600
Speaker 6: two paper clips.

497
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Speaker 3: They were very well off.

498
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Speaker 6: I know.

499
00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:15,320
Speaker 3: The reasons I received all of it are because of

500
00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:19,040
Speaker 3: the following one. When my parents were sick, Max contacted

501
00:25:19,080 --> 00:25:22,200
Speaker 3: them after almost ten years of silence because he wanted

502
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Speaker 3: to know how much he will receive.

503
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Speaker 4: Nice how se a plus move, bro.

504
00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:30,800
Speaker 3: Two they were very aware of how my mom treated

505
00:25:30,840 --> 00:25:33,840
Speaker 3: me and my siblings and she was disowned. Three they

506
00:25:33,880 --> 00:25:36,600
Speaker 3: are very religious, and Lisa came out as by at

507
00:25:36,680 --> 00:25:39,879
Speaker 3: fourteen and Chris came out as gay at seventeen.

508
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Speaker 6: So they're not the Basically, the grandparents are homophobic and

509
00:25:43,200 --> 00:25:45,800
Speaker 6: not giving the right Wow, Okay.

510
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Speaker 3: I went to North Carolina with my parents after I

511
00:25:48,160 --> 00:25:50,560
Speaker 3: moved for college, and when Lisa and Chris started college,

512
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Speaker 3: I offered to cover all of their living such educational

513
00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:56,320
Speaker 3: expenses as long as they do well in school. Okay,

514
00:25:56,760 --> 00:25:59,680
Speaker 3: they gladly accept it. Okay, nice, that is good.

515
00:26:00,280 --> 00:26:00,920
Speaker 4: That's a good start.

516
00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:03,879
Speaker 3: I also helped my bff Lola start her own business.

517
00:26:04,200 --> 00:26:04,840
Speaker 3: That's kind of nice.

518
00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:07,280
Speaker 4: I mean, that's didn't need to do that. That's cool move.

519
00:26:07,480 --> 00:26:09,359
Speaker 3: I haven't spoken to my parents in six years. I

520
00:26:09,480 --> 00:26:13,000
Speaker 3: haven't blocked them, they just never called or texted. This year,

521
00:26:13,080 --> 00:26:15,639
Speaker 3: Emily started college and she burned out all of her

522
00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:18,399
Speaker 3: college fund in less than four months because she's a

523
00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:23,359
Speaker 3: spoiled brat and bags are more important than rent. But

524
00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:29,359
Speaker 3: the louis though, the louis. My disability is not being poor. Oh,

525
00:26:29,960 --> 00:26:33,080
Speaker 3: I don't know how to conserve my cash. In addition,

526
00:26:33,280 --> 00:26:36,320
Speaker 3: she's doing horrible in school because she isn't even attending

527
00:26:36,359 --> 00:26:39,520
Speaker 3: her classes and she will most likely be expelled or

528
00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:40,120
Speaker 3: held back.

529
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Speaker 4: Oh dang.

530
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Speaker 3: My mom called me two weeks ago, not to ask,

531
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Speaker 3: but demand that I do the same for her as

532
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Speaker 3: I do for Lisa and Chris. I said no, because

533
00:26:48,680 --> 00:26:50,920
Speaker 3: growing up, I was literally a slave for her and

534
00:26:51,000 --> 00:26:53,640
Speaker 3: my parents. I'm helping Lisa and Chris because the only

535
00:26:53,760 --> 00:26:56,480
Speaker 3: ones that treated me as family. I ended up calling

536
00:26:56,680 --> 00:26:59,560
Speaker 3: by telling her that for eighteen years, Emily was their

537
00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:02,520
Speaker 3: only So now they have no right to demand anything

538
00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:06,800
Speaker 3: from the kids that they practically abandoned. Dang, Now I'm

539
00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:11,639
Speaker 3: getting from everyone except li Syncres because I'm causing unnecessary drama.

540
00:27:11,800 --> 00:27:14,520
Speaker 3: I'm causing a rift between Emily and her siblings. Emily

541
00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:16,680
Speaker 3: will be the only one without a degree. It's not

542
00:27:16,840 --> 00:27:19,399
Speaker 3: really my money, and my grandparents would want me to

543
00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:21,359
Speaker 3: help her, then why didn't they leave anything to her?

544
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Speaker 2: Fis?

545
00:27:22,600 --> 00:27:24,120
Speaker 3: But I mean, I don't know if I can really

546
00:27:24,320 --> 00:27:28,040
Speaker 3: justify the grandmas and grandparents because they're kind of homophobic.

547
00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:31,119
Speaker 3: That's true, so you know, family is family, and I

548
00:27:31,160 --> 00:27:33,560
Speaker 3: should help my little sister. It's not her fault that

549
00:27:33,640 --> 00:27:35,760
Speaker 3: my parents were bad parents to me, true, but she

550
00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:38,680
Speaker 3: doesn't do anything to change her behavior. She's disabled, and

551
00:27:38,800 --> 00:27:41,600
Speaker 3: it's not okay to discriminate. I feel like I'm doing

552
00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:43,960
Speaker 3: the right thing, but everyone is telling me I'm not

553
00:27:44,440 --> 00:27:47,720
Speaker 3: so am I the a hole. There is a little

554
00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:51,560
Speaker 3: update giving some clarification, but quick input what do you think?

555
00:27:51,640 --> 00:27:54,359
Speaker 3: And also all of you and also anyone listening and

556
00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:56,320
Speaker 3: also anyone watching, what do you think? What would you

557
00:27:56,320 --> 00:27:58,160
Speaker 3: do in this situation if you got six million dollars

558
00:27:58,200 --> 00:27:59,800
Speaker 3: and it was only to you, would you just run

559
00:28:00,040 --> 00:28:01,639
Speaker 3: to an island? Would help her family? What would you do?

560
00:28:01,880 --> 00:28:02,080
Speaker 2: Yeah?

561
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Speaker 6: I think Opie is pretty much that that not the

562
00:28:06,080 --> 00:28:08,960
Speaker 6: a hole and and is seems to be the angel again.

563
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Speaker 4: Would love to know what the disability was and also,

564
00:28:15,040 --> 00:28:16,040
Speaker 4: uh was it?

565
00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:16,959
Speaker 1: Uh?

566
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Speaker 6: Lisa and Chris those were the two people that were

567
00:28:21,600 --> 00:28:24,879
Speaker 6: not straight that didn't receive so.

568
00:28:25,560 --> 00:28:28,159
Speaker 3: Max Max is the one that uh called it was

569
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Speaker 3: like how much money I get? And it was to

570
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:34,480
Speaker 3: sound Lisa and Chris were the like like bisexual and guy.

571
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Speaker 6: Right, So yeah, yeah, I'm almost a little bit like,

572
00:28:39,440 --> 00:28:41,320
Speaker 6: I'll just say this one thing before moving on, Like

573
00:28:41,760 --> 00:28:43,560
Speaker 6: you just you got six million.

574
00:28:43,320 --> 00:28:45,880
Speaker 4: And you only paid for school. I'm like, I know,

575
00:28:47,200 --> 00:28:50,440
Speaker 4: maybe a little more. Maybe I don't, I don't know.

576
00:28:50,560 --> 00:28:53,080
Speaker 3: I would know. I would like split a little bit more, a.

577
00:28:53,120 --> 00:28:53,840
Speaker 2: Little bit more.

578
00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:56,480
Speaker 4: Maybe, I mean, maybe that's to come. That's what I'm thinking.

579
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Speaker 3: Maybe she just wants to be a constant benefactor in

580
00:28:58,680 --> 00:29:01,360
Speaker 3: their life. For like, yeah, I don't know. Yeah, but

581
00:29:01,440 --> 00:29:03,240
Speaker 3: that's what I'm thinking of right now. Okay, So for

582
00:29:03,320 --> 00:29:05,120
Speaker 3: the Q and A, which is actually kind of interesting,

583
00:29:05,240 --> 00:29:08,080
Speaker 3: we get some updates. Right What disability does she have?

584
00:29:08,600 --> 00:29:11,040
Speaker 3: OPI doesn't know. My parents never told me, and when

585
00:29:11,040 --> 00:29:13,480
Speaker 3: anyone asked, they would get very defensive. So, like, is

586
00:29:13,520 --> 00:29:16,400
Speaker 3: it what is the disability if it doesn't require like,

587
00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:19,840
Speaker 3: I feel like it's good for family to know. Is

588
00:29:19,880 --> 00:29:21,560
Speaker 3: it a physical disability that you can see?

589
00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:26,280
Speaker 6: I totally, I totally understand, not like wanting to explain

590
00:29:26,320 --> 00:29:28,600
Speaker 6: yourself to everyone, But I don't know.

591
00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:29,760
Speaker 4: I'm curious why.

592
00:29:30,720 --> 00:29:32,720
Speaker 3: I don't know. Okay, So I guess OPI doesn't know

593
00:29:32,720 --> 00:29:34,520
Speaker 3: at all about the disability. I just want to know

594
00:29:34,560 --> 00:29:37,800
Speaker 3: what it does. Does it do anything interesting? Can Emily

595
00:29:37,920 --> 00:29:42,000
Speaker 3: get government assistance? No, because she doesn't have any documentation

596
00:29:42,120 --> 00:29:44,640
Speaker 3: that a test she is disabled. My parents were fighting

597
00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:47,760
Speaker 3: with doctors because they all refuse to sign any document

598
00:29:47,840 --> 00:29:51,000
Speaker 3: that said she had disabled. Okay, it sounds like Emily

599
00:29:51,080 --> 00:29:53,760
Speaker 3: eight disabled. How much is Emily actually spending?

600
00:29:53,960 --> 00:29:54,160
Speaker 4: Well?

601
00:29:54,640 --> 00:29:57,440
Speaker 3: She renewed her closet, purchased a very expensive car, and

602
00:29:57,560 --> 00:30:00,680
Speaker 3: partied until she dropped. For reference, my parents have high

603
00:30:00,680 --> 00:30:04,400
Speaker 3: paying jobs and Emily's college fund was five hundred and

604
00:30:04,600 --> 00:30:08,480
Speaker 3: eighty seven thousand dollars and she booted that in four months.

605
00:30:08,840 --> 00:30:14,360
Speaker 2: Yeah what, Yeah, it's crazy. Oh my wow? Did me

606
00:30:14,480 --> 00:30:16,240
Speaker 2: and my siblings have a college fund?

607
00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:16,880
Speaker 8: No?

608
00:30:17,680 --> 00:30:20,520
Speaker 3: FYI writing these, I'm starting to question if my sister's

609
00:30:20,520 --> 00:30:22,800
Speaker 3: actually disabled or if it was just what my parents

610
00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:25,720
Speaker 3: wanted to believe. My family thinks she was disabled because

611
00:30:25,720 --> 00:30:27,520
Speaker 3: she did not learn how to walk until she was five,

612
00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:30,440
Speaker 3: and she didn't talk until she was seven. And then

613
00:30:31,320 --> 00:30:34,200
Speaker 3: this is the juiciest update of all. Oh there's a

614
00:30:34,320 --> 00:30:37,280
Speaker 3: juicy update. Okay, okay, my mom called a few minutes

615
00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:40,479
Speaker 3: ago to tell me Emily is pregnant, so I need

616
00:30:40,600 --> 00:30:41,040
Speaker 3: to help her.

617
00:30:41,320 --> 00:30:43,080
Speaker 4: Oh my god, Oh my god.

618
00:30:44,360 --> 00:30:47,720
Speaker 3: I blocked them all. It's a fake pregnancy lmao.

619
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Speaker 4: Oh oh wow coercion.

620
00:30:52,760 --> 00:30:56,480
Speaker 3: I'm so confused because it's started like the family has

621
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Speaker 3: a family just been lying about Emily's disability, and it's like.

622
00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:04,400
Speaker 6: Why unless they're like, I mean, look, we have people

623
00:31:04,520 --> 00:31:06,760
Speaker 6: on all the time that are like crazy and do

624
00:31:06,920 --> 00:31:08,240
Speaker 6: things for unexplicable reasons.

625
00:31:08,280 --> 00:31:10,680
Speaker 3: But still none of the doctors wanted to say that

626
00:31:10,760 --> 00:31:11,719
Speaker 3: she had a disability.

627
00:31:12,200 --> 00:31:13,040
Speaker 4: That's crazy to me.

628
00:31:13,200 --> 00:31:16,600
Speaker 3: That's weird. That's weird. We'll break this down a little

629
00:31:16,600 --> 00:31:19,000
Speaker 3: bit more, but please let me know what you think.

630
00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:24,000
Speaker 3: Do you think that Opie's sister Emily actually has a disability?

631
00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:27,280
Speaker 3: Do you think OPI has to give Emily any money?

632
00:31:27,520 --> 00:31:30,360
Speaker 3: Please let us know in the comments below. John, who's

633
00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:32,840
Speaker 3: the a hole? Who are the angels? What do you think?

634
00:31:32,960 --> 00:31:33,440
Speaker 3: What would you do?

635
00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:37,280
Speaker 6: Op pretty much the angel seems seems like, seems like

636
00:31:37,360 --> 00:31:40,640
Speaker 6: Opie's kind of kind of given back where it should be.

637
00:31:41,480 --> 00:31:45,520
Speaker 6: Grandparents a holes because like cutting out the family family

638
00:31:45,600 --> 00:31:47,160
Speaker 6: because of homophobia and like other.

639
00:31:47,080 --> 00:31:50,240
Speaker 4: Things like I ain't rocking with that. The parents a

640
00:31:50,440 --> 00:31:54,120
Speaker 4: holes for sure, for not like I totally.

641
00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:56,240
Speaker 6: Get like you kind of have to if you do

642
00:31:56,440 --> 00:31:59,320
Speaker 6: have a truly disabled family member, you do have to

643
00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:03,360
Speaker 6: spend probably more time and attention there. But also, you know,

644
00:32:04,000 --> 00:32:06,680
Speaker 6: any parent that loves all their children is gonna give

645
00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:10,240
Speaker 6: some sort of you know, love and attention elsewhere.

646
00:32:10,240 --> 00:32:11,239
Speaker 4: And it doesn't seem like they did.

647
00:32:11,760 --> 00:32:16,400
Speaker 6: And then yeah, at the risk of being crowned the

648
00:32:16,520 --> 00:32:20,280
Speaker 6: rage and ablest if doctors are refusing to say.

649
00:32:20,160 --> 00:32:23,640
Speaker 3: That you're disabled, I don't know, I really don't know

650
00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:25,840
Speaker 3: where that leaves you. I feel like you might not

651
00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:29,720
Speaker 3: be disabled. Who are we to say? The real test

652
00:32:30,040 --> 00:32:33,360
Speaker 3: is what that comment say? Yes, so please put in

653
00:32:33,440 --> 00:32:36,360
Speaker 3: the comment story one and excited to read through it?

654
00:32:36,520 --> 00:32:39,600
Speaker 4: Absolutely, and I'm excited to read through another story for you.

655
00:32:39,800 --> 00:32:40,480
Speaker 3: Okay, let's do it.

656
00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:42,680
Speaker 4: We have another inheritance story, but this one evolves a

657
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Speaker 4: Nigerian Prince sam Oh.

658
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Speaker 3: Yeah,