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Speaker 2: Lola is on the phone today for a first day
Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by Dante. So we're
Speaker 2: going to see if we can get him on the
Speaker 2: phone in just a few minutes, ask him why he's
Speaker 2: ghosting her, and maybe get her another date if she
Speaker 2: still wants one. But first, Lola, how long has it
Speaker 2: been since your date with Dante?
Speaker 3: It was like week and a half, almost two weeks ago.
Speaker 3: We met at this at this bar close to where
Speaker 3: I work. It was happy hour.
Speaker 2: Have you tried to get a hold of him in
Speaker 2: that time or have you texted him since your date?
Speaker 3: Yes, I've texted him a couple of times and literally
Speaker 3: no response. Like the first time he was like, Hey,
Speaker 3: I'm busy and i'll hit you up in a little bit.
Speaker 4: Then never heard anything.
Speaker 3: I waited, you know, a couple of days, and then
Speaker 3: I tried again and nothing. And then I tried once
Speaker 3: more last night and still nothing.
Speaker 4: And that's why I called you off.
Speaker 5: What is it about him that makes you want to
Speaker 5: talk to him so bad? Because don't you just kind
Speaker 5: of want to be like we'll scare you then, Bro.
Speaker 3: I don't like that's part of it now. But it's
Speaker 3: like I'm I've been ghosted before. I've ghosted before, like
Speaker 3: I've just never I've always known why, like you.
Speaker 4: Know what I mean, like where you can look back
Speaker 4: and you're like, oh, it was probably this or it
Speaker 4: was probably that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like this night, everything seemed to go so well.
Speaker 3: I think that's part of it, is just like what
Speaker 3: did I do?
Speaker 4: Like is it me?
Speaker 3: Is it him? I don't know if he's married, you know,
Speaker 3: It's like I don't know what. I don't know what
Speaker 3: the deal is. I just kind of it'd be nice
Speaker 3: to talk to him again or see him again. But
Speaker 3: more than anything, I just kind of want to know,
Speaker 3: like what's up, like why, because everything was so nice
Speaker 3: that night.
Speaker 2: Was that anything you can think of that could have
Speaker 2: been an awkward moment or anything like that.
Speaker 3: No, Like we were we were at this bar, and
Speaker 3: like I've seen him before and always through my interests,
Speaker 3: but I never approached or anything like that. And then
Speaker 3: I was there for happy I with a couple of
Speaker 3: friends after work, and he came over and started talking
Speaker 3: to us, and then my other friends kind of like
Speaker 3: walked away, and it was just the two of us,
Speaker 3: and it's this cool place. They have like board games
Speaker 3: and plants and it's just a like chill vibe, you know.
Speaker 3: And so we played a couple of board games, played
Speaker 3: played battleship. I haven't done that in like forever. It
Speaker 3: was it was really cool, and I was trying to
Speaker 3: like just trying to see where he was, and he
Speaker 3: like started he found my battleship and kept, you know, hitting, hitting,
Speaker 3: and I was like, so are you hitting on me?
Speaker 6: And like.
Speaker 3: That like broke the tension and we both started laughing.
Speaker 3: And then that's when like we just started like really
Speaker 3: talking and we were doing that question game, you know
Speaker 3: that starts with like, oh, who's your favorite band?
Speaker 4: Then things get you know a little a little more intense.
Speaker 3: It's like, uh, you ever run from the cops like
Speaker 3: in college or whatever?
Speaker 4: Do you ever catch your parents? Did your parents ever
Speaker 4: catch you? That kind of stuff.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: The weirdest one was body.
Speaker 7: Count, who asked that question.
Speaker 3: He asked He asked on the first date, like not
Speaker 3: even a date, really, like we're just.
Speaker 2: Chilling, right, and I guess that is a weird question
Speaker 2: to ask on the first date. How many people you've
Speaker 2: been with or whatever. But I could see it in
Speaker 2: that moment, being like, you're playing a fun game, so
Speaker 2: you don't I wouldn't even think about it. Then I
Speaker 2: would say, I'm like, oh, probably like a crunchy question
Speaker 2: to ask her.
Speaker 7: Okay, so then how did how did you react to that?
Speaker 4: Well? I turned it back on him. I was like, well,
Speaker 4: what's yours?
Speaker 3: And so then he answered, and I was like, okay,
Speaker 3: what is this more than mine? And so I said it.
Speaker 3: I gave my honest body count, and.
Speaker 4: It didn't seem like it was a big deal.
Speaker 3: We like, you know, kept hanging out, kept drinking. He
Speaker 3: even you know, he was like, hey, should we go
Speaker 3: somewhere else? I was like, I was like, I've got to,
Speaker 3: you know, it's got to work tomorrow. And I didn't
Speaker 3: want to leave, but like I didn't want to. It
Speaker 3: was just such a good night. I didn't want anything
Speaker 3: more to like ruin that. So like we said our goodbyes.
Speaker 3: We exchanged numbers and you know that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well we'll try to figure it out for you.
Speaker 2: We'll play a song, come back and then call him
Speaker 2: and see the answers and if you'll tell us why
Speaker 2: he's ghosting you, and then maybe you can get you
Speaker 2: another date if you still want one.
Speaker 4: Okay, absolutely, thank you guys, All right, place.
Speaker 2: I'm come back get you first DA follow.
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Speaker 2: Just joining us for today's first Date follow up. Lola
Speaker 2: is on the phone, and Lola is getting ghosted by
Speaker 2: a dude named Dante, and she has no idea why.
Speaker 2: Maybe it's because she sunk his battleship. Not sure, but
Speaker 2: we'll find out laterally before we give him a call
Speaker 2: to see why he's ghosting you, Lolo, why don't you
Speaker 2: kind of recap your day for everybody?
Speaker 3: We met a happy hour after work, hung out, play
Speaker 3: played board games, battleship, had great conversations, played questions.
Speaker 4: Game, drank a little, say good night.
Speaker 3: You know. Everything seemed cool, and then he's literally ghosted me.
Speaker 2: Are you ready to call him and ask him?
Speaker 4: I think so?
Speaker 2: All right, here we go. Hello, all right, I speak
Speaker 2: to Dante. Please.
Speaker 6: Yeah, this is Dante.
Speaker 2: Dante, what's up? Man? How are you? My name is
Speaker 2: Jewbell and I host a radio show. It's called The
Speaker 2: Jewbil Show.
Speaker 7: Hi, Dante, the show's here too. I'm Nina, Hi, and
Speaker 7: I'm Victoria.
Speaker 6: Oh so this is a bunch of people.
Speaker 2: Yes, it is Dante.
Speaker 6: I'm doing I'm doing pretty swell. But uh, why are
Speaker 6: you calling me?
Speaker 2: We're calling you because we do a segment on a show.
Speaker 2: I don't know if you've heard it before, but it's
Speaker 2: called the First Day follow Up. It's where if you
Speaker 2: go out on a date with somebody and then you
Speaker 2: end up ghosting them, that person can have us call
Speaker 2: you and ask why you've been ghosting them. So we
Speaker 2: got an email about you from somebody named Lola.
Speaker 6: Well, I really want to talk about that one.
Speaker 7: Really, can you why? I mean, she said it was
Speaker 7: a good time.
Speaker 8: I mean I had a general good time. Things were,
Speaker 8: things were pretty good. But I could tell that she
Speaker 8: really wasn't. She wasn't really like truthful to me.
Speaker 2: What does that mean?
Speaker 8: Well, what it means is when you ask someone a
Speaker 8: direct question, they just kind of like you could tell,
Speaker 8: they don't want to answer it, and then when they
Speaker 8: finally do answer it, they don't tell you the truth.
Speaker 7: Okay, so backup, Yeah, what happened?
Speaker 6: So it's just my intuition.
Speaker 2: Okay, explain the situation. You're talking about what we're.
Speaker 8: Playing game, We're having a generally good date playing games, and.
Speaker 6: We're asking questions about each other.
Speaker 8: And I just didn't feel like the as I was getting,
Speaker 8: we're really.
Speaker 6: What it was.
Speaker 8: So you know how it is, once you finally kind
Speaker 8: of determine you don't want to really be there anymore,
Speaker 8: you just kind of go with it and things things
Speaker 8: stay on a good note.
Speaker 6: But then once you're done, you're just done.
Speaker 7: Kind of.
Speaker 5: I just feel like there's some mixed messaging with the
Speaker 5: exchanges of numbers and stuff.
Speaker 6: Yeah, well, let's put it this way.
Speaker 8: I was just asking, and I started asking questions, and
Speaker 8: I wanted to know some things because it gives me
Speaker 8: a good gauge on kind of person I want to
Speaker 8: be with.
Speaker 6: And I asked how many people she was before?
Speaker 7: Does that question usually go over well for you?
Speaker 8: I mean, you can find pretty quickly whether or not
Speaker 8: you want to continue something. Because I have my own
Speaker 8: threshold for me, if I find that a girl has
Speaker 8: more than me, then I don't necessarily want to be
Speaker 8: with that girl.
Speaker 5: Why I don't even know that it's about the number Dante,
Speaker 5: I just think the question is a little bit presemptuous.
Speaker 7: I don't know if that's your business right away.
Speaker 8: Everyone has their own prior when they date. I just
Speaker 8: find that to be one of mine. And when and
Speaker 8: when she answered, I could tell she didn't want to
Speaker 8: give me an answer. So then once I actually got
Speaker 8: her to answer it, I think she just set a
Speaker 8: number below mine and it was very clear that she
Speaker 8: wasn't really telling the truth.
Speaker 2: Okay, so you just think she was lying about it?
Speaker 8: Yeah, And I have a standard for dating that I
Speaker 8: that I that I want. One of them is don't
Speaker 8: be too obvious with your life, and the other is
Speaker 8: don't flee with more men than me.
Speaker 2: What about you and the more like women you sleep with,
Speaker 2: you get degraded.
Speaker 6: I don't think it's the it's equated to the same thing.
Speaker 7: I did not have enough coffee for this.
Speaker 4: First of all, Dante, I did not lie to you.
Speaker 3: Your question was out a pocket, and I didn't want
Speaker 3: to answer because everything was going so well, and I
Speaker 3: didn't want to.
Speaker 4: Go this direction because I worried about this.
Speaker 2: Exactly, Dante. That's Lola. She's been on the list.
Speaker 6: Yeah, of course, of course, I've got a talk to too.
Speaker 8: Now that's okay, and you finally stop calling me.
Speaker 3: Yeah, the good news is you won't ever have to
Speaker 3: talk to me again. What I did with my body
Speaker 3: before I met you is none of your business, literally none.
Speaker 8: It is, though I think it is everyone's business when
Speaker 8: someone's trying to start a relationship with somebody in general,
Speaker 8: just when they're dating, when they're trying to start something,
Speaker 8: they want to know the history of the person.
Speaker 6: History of people matter dictats the fact that I'm.
Speaker 3: A grown woman who's literally and I'll tell everybody I
Speaker 3: don't care the fact that I'm a grown woman who's
Speaker 3: literally slept with five men in my life.
Speaker 7: That is too much.
Speaker 8: Five That probably means ten, if not more, because women
Speaker 8: just cut that those numbers and half because they know
Speaker 8: they don't want it heard by everybody just.
Speaker 7: Makes up his own rules. Was going to date Dante.
Speaker 5: He's a show with a diary explaining everything that's happened
Speaker 5: in their lives prior of saying hi, nice to meet you.
Speaker 3: Sorry.
Speaker 6: If only if it was like said, it'd be so
Speaker 6: much easier day.
Speaker 7: I'm sure, I'm sure you believe that. I'm sure you do.
Speaker 3: This is like two different dudes the guy I met
Speaker 3: that night, and this this guy, because I wouldn't I
Speaker 3: wouldn't have wasted my time on this guy.
Speaker 6: Because I already made my mind up against you.
Speaker 3: All right, Well, well I hope that all those women
Speaker 3: that were part of your number. That's the part that
Speaker 3: turps me out is like, you go ahead, you slept
Speaker 3: with twice and more than twice as many people as
Speaker 3: I had. If your number is even correct, If you've
Speaker 3: got this formula, then that means that you probably use
Speaker 3: it too.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 5: I mean, if we're talking about dude math, don't they
Speaker 5: cut it in half and like divided by it or
Speaker 5: something like that. So if you said fifteen, really we're
Speaker 5: talking about like what forty five exactly?
Speaker 8: Actually whatever the dude says, it's usually half of that
Speaker 8: because half of them are virgins, they never get sex.
Speaker 8: It's so much harder for guys to actually get it,
Speaker 8: so they're trying to portray macho more so, this.
Speaker 7: Is interesting, very interesting guy, very interesting.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I know. Yeah, that's why I've already slept with
Speaker 6: twenty women.
Speaker 7: Wow, this is a pride. And then we divide that vibe.
Speaker 2: No, I don't know, Dante, would you like to go
Speaker 2: on another day with Lola will pay for it?
Speaker 6: No, I don't think I do.
Speaker 7: Cool.
Speaker 4: Yeah, not only do I not want to go on
Speaker 4: another day.
Speaker 3: I'm going to vend my youth for the drink you
Speaker 3: bought me and I don't ever want to do again.
Speaker 6: Oh great, I get a refunded nice.
Speaker 7: I wouldn't even bother though, Keep your money, girl.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I'm just sorry.
Speaker 6: I think I think we're getting well.
Speaker 7: This battleship just got some Oh.
Speaker 6: Yeah you s what whoa
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