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Speaker 1: for his new family. Did they have like treats and

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Speaker 2: I'm fifteen mil living with my mom since she and

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Speaker 2: my dad have divorced. My dad just got married to

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Speaker 2: a woman with two sons thirteen and eight years old.

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Speaker 2: They all moved into her house. By the way, this

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Speaker 1: I'm su a read it.

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Speaker 2: Where I'm currently living with my mom isn't great, especially

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Speaker 2: compared to where my dad lives now. Even the schools

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Speaker 2: it's a huge difference.

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Speaker 1: What does that even mean? I think that's like a

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Speaker 1: different I'm gonna look it up. There's like a different

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Speaker 1: school system. Yeah, I think it might be T twenty

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Speaker 2: Is the alphabet involved, because what is a vedroom the

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Speaker 2: scenario or tea?

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Speaker 1: They just it's just you have to say tea twenty times.

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Speaker 1: Oh top twenty universe, Okay, T twenty schools. Oh T

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Speaker 1: twenty schools generally refers to the top twenty universities in

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Speaker 1: the United States. So they're saying that the schools that

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Speaker 1: they could be going to usually send a lot of

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Speaker 1: students to those top twenty. Well, I see, I see,

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Speaker 1: I see.

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Speaker 2: So this school so the school he's that, he won't

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Speaker 2: get that many opportunities.

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Speaker 1: Right, it's like not as prestigious as like it's like

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Speaker 2: That's how you are that kid that got a five

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Speaker 2: point zero one with Yell Scholarship hometown No.

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Speaker 1: Five.

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Speaker 2: Fun fact, Alexander County is the most has the most

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Speaker 2: racist high school in North Carolina.

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Speaker 1: Just found that out the other day.

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Speaker 2: I was like, Wow, that's as why I didn't go there,

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Speaker 2: but that that would have been.

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Speaker 1: My school I went to. Oh thank god I didn't

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Speaker 1: go there. Yeah, I know, I know.

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Speaker 2: John said, be the change you want to be and

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Speaker 2: I'm like, right, yeah, right, but anyways, oh, that kid

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Speaker 2: made it out and he was he was Asian though,

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Speaker 2: I'm just gonna say. His mom worked at Oriental Cafe.

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Speaker 2: She had a restaurant called Oriental Cafe and my uncle.

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Speaker 2: She knew that the racists would eat there, I guess,

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Speaker 2: so that's why she named it that. And every time

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Speaker 2: I went. One time in third grade, I went there

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Speaker 2: and I had a seat. Okay, editor, add this to

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Speaker 2: the end. Okay, story time, I have an okay, story time.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna tell you later. Okay, all right, at that

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Speaker 2: part at the end, I got a c in third

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Speaker 2: grade and I went there and Helen was like, oh.

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Speaker 1: No, why are you so sad? And I was like,

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Speaker 2: Well that's why I got a seat. And then my

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Speaker 2: mom told her that, and she's like, oh, you see

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Speaker 1: He's studying really hard, and he had like five books

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Speaker 1: he had educational assistance. No, they were also studying their material.

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Speaker 2: I talked to my mom about it, and she thought

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Speaker 1: So I brought up the idea my dad. He told me.

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Speaker 2: He needed to think about it and he would get

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Speaker 2: that their house only has three bedrooms, theirs and one

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Speaker 1: Feels wrong. Yeah, yeah, you know, just seem to live

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Speaker 2: He also mentioned my stepbrothers and I haven't spent much

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Speaker 2: thinks I should get to know my stepbrothers better. For

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Speaker 1: I have a This guy is just like, I don't

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Speaker 2: I didn't agree with his answer, though, I told him

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Speaker 2: I'd be totally fine sharing a room with my thirteen

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Speaker 1: Issues when we flung out.

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Speaker 2: I also pointed out saying no to this opportunity, but

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Speaker 2: seriously affect my college plans, given that the school in

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Speaker 2: so it will not impact a lot of family dynamics.

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Speaker 2: I'm very obedient and I'll do all the chores they

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Speaker 2: so I reached out to my grandparents and uncles talk

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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole? Wow?

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Speaker 2: You just got other people to call you out too,

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Speaker 2: That's why you're mad.

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Speaker 1: I don't how can you get called out by your siblings,

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Speaker 2: I went to a school that was forty five minutes

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Speaker 2: And I feel like this kid and I are the

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Speaker 1: It didn't feel like it's coming from any place other

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Speaker 1: like the new wife is like, well, I thought you

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Speaker 3: Literally to better their school opportunities. So reasonable, it is reasonable,

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Speaker 1: But we got an update. And the most last thing,

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Speaker 2: Well, I guess any chance of me studying near my

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Speaker 1: Oh. I really like this because it shows that, like,

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Speaker 1: Because now he's taking this out on you unfairly because

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Speaker 1: thinking about any time like you've been told on Riley, like,

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Speaker 1: oh god, the same feeling you're like, I can't believe

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Speaker 2: I told him it's okay for him to choose his

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Speaker 1: Whoa, wow, Okay, no contact. So this should be the

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Speaker 2: I logged in Instagram, which I don't use to block him,

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Speaker 2: and I saw a picture of him in an amusement

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Speaker 2: park with my step brothers. He had written me and

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Speaker 2: my boys. He didn't even invite me to go with them.

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Speaker 2: I have no idea when that was. He truly excluded

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Speaker 1: How old is op in this story? Fifteen? Wow? So

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Speaker 1: this isn't the right thing to do. But I think

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Speaker 1: if I was fifteen, I'd probably never talk to my

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Speaker 1: would destroy me. You've already made your choice. Oh no,

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Speaker 1: Pops has got to make this right real big.

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Speaker 2: I got more furious and sent him a message telling

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Speaker 2: him to enjoy having two sons now instead of just one,

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Speaker 1: He is he is a child, he's your child. He's fifteen,

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Speaker 1: and yes, what is wrong with this guy?

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Speaker 2: He sent several messages saying he wants to talk to me.

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Speaker 2: I was really naive to this whole situation. He placed

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Speaker 1: How does that make literally any sense? Why? Well, just

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Speaker 2: It's kind of in a way. It could be manipulating.

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Speaker 1: But it's not like manipulate him to give me money

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Speaker 1: Didn't do whatever I wanted. Nah, that's kind of too

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so where's that at. I think they're gonna get

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Speaker 2: For three weeks now, both were swearing on my dad

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Speaker 2: I think that she just didn't want yelling, and that

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Speaker 2: It was as if my stepbrother's difficulty sharing a room

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Speaker 2: This showed me that he had preference, fell silent for

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Speaker 2: He again said, I need to understand that circumstances change

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Speaker 2: I don't know where this will lead, but I appreciate

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Speaker 2: he got net it. I think the dad understands that

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Speaker 1: He's listening to the kid now, Yeah, it's gonna fix it. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Of course, I don't like being grounded and don't agree totally.

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Speaker 2: She has her points, and I want to point out

437
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Speaker 2: that you can watch any freaking Okay Storytime story on

438
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Speaker 2: your favorite podcast platform search up Okay Storytime on Apple, iHeartRadio, Spotify,

439
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Speaker 2: wherever you listen to your podcasts, and you can be

440
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Speaker 2: your point personal. We can listen to like all those

441
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Speaker 2: episodes yep, and on this little episode story we got

442
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Speaker 2: a little left. How do you like where things are?

443
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Speaker 1: I mean, I think you really crushed it with the

444
00:18:56,200 --> 00:18:59,400
Speaker 1: he realized in that moment. Towards the end of that conversation,

445
00:18:59,480 --> 00:19:01,679
Speaker 1: He's like, Okay, I really did mess up, and now

446
00:19:01,680 --> 00:19:04,280
Speaker 1: I'm going to immediately take steps to fix it. Yeah,

447
00:19:04,600 --> 00:19:07,639
Speaker 1: which is good, Just dude, to make sure, I'm astounded

448
00:19:07,680 --> 00:19:09,600
Speaker 1: that they didn't didn't do it match on to that.

449
00:19:09,840 --> 00:19:12,040
Speaker 1: I thought as soon as that came to light, it

450
00:19:12,040 --> 00:19:14,320
Speaker 1: would have been a full one eighty. And now Mom

451
00:19:14,400 --> 00:19:18,080
Speaker 1: and op are like, yeah, that was super messed up.

452
00:19:18,119 --> 00:19:21,840
Speaker 1: You could have done any other caption besides that one,

453
00:19:22,160 --> 00:19:23,640
Speaker 1: and it would have been fun. You could have been

454
00:19:23,640 --> 00:19:28,200
Speaker 1: like fun trip to the amusement park, these goobers, yeah boom.

455
00:19:28,240 --> 00:19:32,280
Speaker 1: Anything other than me and my boys with one of

456
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Speaker 1: your children missing, one of your other boys, of your

457
00:19:35,520 --> 00:19:37,720
Speaker 1: other boys is not there, it'd be different. I vo

458
00:19:37,840 --> 00:19:40,800
Speaker 1: people as a girl. But yeah, dude, And that maybe

459
00:19:40,840 --> 00:19:43,080
Speaker 1: could have genuinely been a case of him being like,

460
00:19:43,200 --> 00:19:46,680
Speaker 1: oh oh, I didn't consider that my teenage son might

461
00:19:46,840 --> 00:19:50,719
Speaker 1: consider this as like a direct shot at him. Yeah,

462
00:19:50,760 --> 00:19:53,320
Speaker 1: and that could have genuinely been the case, because you

463
00:19:53,359 --> 00:19:57,520
Speaker 1: know whatever, But I think again, yeah, ugh, this is

464
00:19:57,560 --> 00:19:59,120
Speaker 1: the right man. What can I say?

465
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Speaker 2: I read read its story for a living. I consume

466
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Speaker 2: and analyze Reddit stories, consume the will of the people

467
00:20:05,320 --> 00:20:09,159
Speaker 2: I do bro, and two I realized whenever people talk

468
00:20:09,240 --> 00:20:10,960
Speaker 2: or runt, they're only going to talk about the bad

469
00:20:11,000 --> 00:20:14,080
Speaker 2: features of other people treating them badly, not anything good.

470
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Speaker 1: That is true. We get a lot of stories where

471
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Speaker 1: people they're like, write something out and then they're update

472
00:20:18,320 --> 00:20:22,000
Speaker 1: will be like, guys, relax, stop telling me I'm dating

473
00:20:22,080 --> 00:20:25,480
Speaker 1: like the spawn of Satan. Yeah, he's not that bad.

474
00:20:25,600 --> 00:20:28,080
Speaker 1: He's not that bad. It's just this one thing, right,

475
00:20:28,480 --> 00:20:30,440
Speaker 1: one thing. I'm still sad.

476
00:20:30,240 --> 00:20:32,480
Speaker 2: About the situation with my dad, but I see that

477
00:20:32,520 --> 00:20:34,840
Speaker 2: part of the conversation was positive. He tells me to

478
00:20:34,880 --> 00:20:37,040
Speaker 2: forget about every over the weekend thing and that I

479
00:20:37,040 --> 00:20:39,320
Speaker 2: could go whenever I want. He's been sending me messages,

480
00:20:39,440 --> 00:20:42,320
Speaker 2: even my thirteen year old step brother messaged me inviting

481
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Speaker 2: me over, so I can see that he's making an effort.

482
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Speaker 2: But I don't want to go over this week. That's

483
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Speaker 2: why I said, I'm in a bit of a dilemma.

484
00:20:48,920 --> 00:20:51,080
Speaker 2: At the same time, I don't feel comfortable going to

485
00:20:51,119 --> 00:20:53,720
Speaker 2: his house, but I've seen an effort from him in

486
00:20:53,760 --> 00:20:56,280
Speaker 2: the past few days after the conversation, and if I

487
00:20:56,320 --> 00:20:59,200
Speaker 2: don't go, I'll never build a relationship and feel more

488
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Speaker 2: at ease.

489
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Speaker 1: Hopefully, opspuddies, because that's the end of a story. Oh

490
00:21:03,280 --> 00:21:07,160
Speaker 1: p literally say exactly that. Send that in a message

491
00:21:07,160 --> 00:21:09,240
Speaker 1: to your debt, say hey, I'm just not ready to

492
00:21:09,280 --> 00:21:11,840
Speaker 1: come over this week. I really like that. You're clearly

493
00:21:11,880 --> 00:21:15,320
Speaker 1: making an effort. Please keep doing so, and like, let's

494
00:21:15,359 --> 00:21:18,439
Speaker 1: try next week. You know it's not wrong for you

495
00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:21,600
Speaker 1: to not be ready. Yeah. Yeah, And that's the end

496
00:21:21,640 --> 00:21:23,879
Speaker 1: of that story. But guys, we got another one coming up.

497
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Speaker 1: What are your thoughts? How do you feel has your

498
00:21:26,240 --> 00:21:28,240
Speaker 1: parent left to you for a new family? Let us

499
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Speaker 1: know when to come, let us know there's at least

500
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Speaker 1: so there's gotta be.

501
00:21:32,760 --> 00:21:35,800
Speaker 2: Some Batistically, there is one of you that did get

502
00:21:35,880 --> 00:21:36,800
Speaker 2: left for a new family.

503
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Speaker 1: Sorry, but statistically there is one of you. My friend

504
00:21:40,480 --> 00:21:43,920
Speaker 1: is treating me badly and I don't know why because

505
00:21:43,960 --> 00:21:46,960
Speaker 1: you're the bed oh am I the a hole for

506
00:21:47,040 --> 00:21:49,560
Speaker 1: not paying my friend back after he paid for our drinks.

507
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Speaker 1: I've been through a rough patch, which I posted about before,

508
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Speaker 1: so I won't rehash that. I don't have many true

509
00:21:54,760 --> 00:21:57,960
Speaker 1: friends and fewer that weren't actively avoiding me, And one

510
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Speaker 1: is my friend Hank Mail thirty nine. By the way,

511
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Speaker 1: this country user isn't she unusual and if you want

512
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Speaker 1: to submit your own stories, go to the our slash

513
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Speaker 1: Okay storytime subburd it. So my birthday just passed over

514
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Speaker 1: spring break. I don't make enough money for parties or drinks,

515
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Speaker 1: so I invited five friends over to my one bedroom

516
00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:16,639
Speaker 1: apartment for a small gathering in our group chat. I

517
00:22:16,680 --> 00:22:19,639
Speaker 1: got pushedback because they wanted to go out. I said, well,

518
00:22:19,720 --> 00:22:21,800
Speaker 1: I can't afford to go out, but I can open

519
00:22:21,880 --> 00:22:25,080
Speaker 1: some wine and then all. But my friend Clara pushed

520
00:22:25,080 --> 00:22:27,480
Speaker 1: again for going out. Hank said he would pay for me.

521
00:22:27,920 --> 00:22:30,480
Speaker 1: I agreed and put on my nicest clothes and we

522
00:22:30,560 --> 00:22:33,040
Speaker 1: went for drinks. When the bill came, I looked for Hank,

523
00:22:33,200 --> 00:22:38,000
Speaker 1: but he had laughed, Hank, Oh, no, are we doing here, Hank.

524
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Speaker 1: I kind of panicked but didn't say anything, but Clara said,

525
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Speaker 1: I thought Hank was going to pay for you. Then

526
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Speaker 1: when no one said anything, she offered to pay for

527
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Speaker 1: some of it, and my other three friends pitched in

528
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Speaker 1: a few dollars, but I was still about ten dollars short,

529
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Speaker 1: so I just pulled from my gas money for the

530
00:22:52,240 --> 00:22:54,320
Speaker 1: month to not ask anyone for help. It was so

531
00:22:54,400 --> 00:22:56,840
Speaker 1: embarrassing to fumble around like that. I usually go by

532
00:22:56,880 --> 00:22:58,920
Speaker 1: the mantra that if you can't afford to go out, don't.

533
00:22:59,240 --> 00:23:01,879
Speaker 1: I felt stupid for breaking my own rule. I texted

534
00:23:01,920 --> 00:23:05,320
Speaker 1: Hank later, admittedly tipsy, and ask why he had left

535
00:23:05,359 --> 00:23:07,639
Speaker 1: me with the bill. He didn't respond, it's gonna be

536
00:23:07,680 --> 00:23:09,359
Speaker 1: like I was just kidding. I told you I was

537
00:23:09,400 --> 00:23:11,360
Speaker 1: gonna cover the I told you I was gonna pay

538
00:23:11,359 --> 00:23:12,280
Speaker 1: for your drinks. I was just joking.

539
00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:16,199
Speaker 2: Or I pay for the drinks, I get water, I

540
00:23:16,240 --> 00:23:17,520
Speaker 2: get a little tall glass.

541
00:23:17,800 --> 00:23:20,280
Speaker 1: Wait, I'm confused, Like I'm confused.

542
00:23:19,920 --> 00:23:21,600
Speaker 2: To pay for the drinks and I get the bone.

543
00:23:21,680 --> 00:23:23,680
Speaker 2: Yet I thinks had something for op for a while.

544
00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:26,520
Speaker 1: Is that wait? Wait? Did you is that the wait?

545
00:23:26,640 --> 00:23:31,000
Speaker 1: What a glass of water is a euphemism for banging? Yeah?

546
00:23:31,320 --> 00:23:34,480
Speaker 1: What stepping up tall glass of water? I know I've

547
00:23:34,520 --> 00:23:36,560
Speaker 1: heard that, but I just heard that about like someone

548
00:23:36,600 --> 00:23:40,400
Speaker 1: who looks good a tall drink of waldo. Yeah, this

549
00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:42,439
Speaker 1: is news to me. I'm gonna have to do research

550
00:23:42,480 --> 00:23:44,880
Speaker 1: on this. I can't. There's no one who can get

551
00:23:44,880 --> 00:23:47,760
Speaker 1: their hooks in my brain. You just do this, dude,

552
00:23:47,800 --> 00:23:53,119
Speaker 1: so more than you can bro I swear on that thing. No, No,

553
00:23:53,200 --> 00:23:55,720
Speaker 1: I lost the story. I just know if I'm gonna

554
00:23:55,720 --> 00:23:58,479
Speaker 1: have to look that up. Look, it's a colloquial thing.

555
00:23:58,520 --> 00:24:01,800
Speaker 1: That's what's just what they say in North Carolina, North Kagilaggi. Okay.

556
00:24:02,040 --> 00:24:04,520
Speaker 1: I then went to our group chat and thanked everyone

557
00:24:04,520 --> 00:24:06,280
Speaker 1: for coming out and that it meant a lot. But

558
00:24:06,359 --> 00:24:09,320
Speaker 1: another friend said it was fun except when op ruined

559
00:24:09,359 --> 00:24:13,480
Speaker 1: it by crying. Hank texted a laughing emoji saying he agreed,

560
00:24:13,560 --> 00:24:15,440
Speaker 1: but that's my thing now.

561
00:24:15,680 --> 00:24:19,119
Speaker 2: Crying out in public, that's so reassuring and comforting.

562
00:24:19,480 --> 00:24:23,320
Speaker 1: Thanks, who are you? Who are these friends? Yeah? You

563
00:24:23,359 --> 00:24:26,520
Speaker 1: should be able to cry in front of your friends. Right, Well,

564
00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:28,320
Speaker 1: let's see, let's se what have it? I did cry

565
00:24:28,320 --> 00:24:31,280
Speaker 1: at one point. I'd gotten choked up, thanking everyone for

566
00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:35,040
Speaker 1: celebrating with me as I felt low recently and explained

567
00:24:35,080 --> 00:24:37,000
Speaker 1: some of what I wrote in my last post, which

568
00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:39,679
Speaker 1: we don't know about, and how I essentially felt like

569
00:24:39,760 --> 00:24:40,720
Speaker 1: no one cared about me.

570
00:24:41,000 --> 00:24:43,879
Speaker 2: Oh so she cried because she was expressing gratitude for

571
00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:44,600
Speaker 2: the friends she has.

572
00:24:44,800 --> 00:24:47,200
Speaker 1: She literally cried because she was like, I just let

573
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Speaker 1: thank you guys for being here. I really appreciate you

574
00:24:50,200 --> 00:24:52,879
Speaker 1: guys being in my life, and now I like it

575
00:24:52,960 --> 00:24:57,640
Speaker 1: was fun until OPI cried like a big baby. Honestly, yeah,

576
00:24:57,680 --> 00:24:58,400
Speaker 1: that checks out.

577
00:24:59,040 --> 00:25:02,679
Speaker 2: Ugh, I want anybody telling me how much they appreciate me.

578
00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:07,600
Speaker 1: Slame. Oh yeah, yeah, Riley needs hate. Don't love Riley?

579
00:25:07,760 --> 00:25:11,080
Speaker 1: Hate him? Call me you know, bad name. Don't tell

580
00:25:11,080 --> 00:25:14,560
Speaker 1: me how much you like me? Call him stinky ooh's

581
00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:17,240
Speaker 1: and then smack him on the knee. Felt the call

582
00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:20,600
Speaker 1: out a nie slapper, knee slapper. That was a weird man.

583
00:25:20,800 --> 00:25:23,040
Speaker 1: Having this gathering was a happy thing I can hold

584
00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:25,760
Speaker 1: on to and remind myself I do have people who care.

585
00:25:26,040 --> 00:25:27,679
Speaker 1: I then had gone to the bathroom to fix my

586
00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:30,520
Speaker 1: makeup and was all smiles after that. After my friend's

587
00:25:30,520 --> 00:25:34,119
Speaker 1: comment in our group chat, I apologized for ruining things,

588
00:25:34,280 --> 00:25:36,640
Speaker 1: as I thought it was all good and hadn't realized

589
00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:38,840
Speaker 1: I brought the room down. I thankfully got a gift

590
00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:41,280
Speaker 1: card from my aunt and had a free birthday drink

591
00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:44,000
Speaker 1: at our favorite bar restaurant, not the place we were

592
00:25:44,000 --> 00:25:46,480
Speaker 1: in before. So I went to listen to the live

593
00:25:46,560 --> 00:25:49,280
Speaker 1: band that would be coming out and spotted Hank. I

594
00:25:49,359 --> 00:25:51,920
Speaker 1: waved at him and he invited me to sit with him,

595
00:25:52,040 --> 00:25:54,200
Speaker 1: and I did so. Wait, that's a weird move. When

596
00:25:54,240 --> 00:25:56,159
Speaker 1: you dodged paying for someone's drinks and then you're like,

597
00:25:56,200 --> 00:25:58,400
Speaker 1: come sit next to me, might get more drinks out

598
00:25:58,400 --> 00:26:01,000
Speaker 1: of it. How is this some misunderstanding? Though, No, Hank,

599
00:26:01,240 --> 00:26:03,800
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna let you trick me too. Stop it, Hank,

600
00:26:04,080 --> 00:26:06,560
Speaker 1: I'm upside. I'm all turned around. We listened to the

601
00:26:06,560 --> 00:26:08,720
Speaker 1: band the whole night and stayed a bit to finish

602
00:26:08,800 --> 00:26:10,960
Speaker 1: our last drinks. He said he was surprised to see

603
00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:13,480
Speaker 1: me out, and I said something along the lines of, well,

604
00:26:13,520 --> 00:26:15,840
Speaker 1: I wanted to do something to lift my spirits as

605
00:26:15,840 --> 00:26:19,080
Speaker 1: my ideation was high lately. I mentioned that I was

606
00:26:19,119 --> 00:26:22,280
Speaker 1: diagnosed with major depression and I have anxiety, so if anything,

607
00:26:22,359 --> 00:26:24,840
Speaker 1: I cared too much, and he rolled his eyes and

608
00:26:24,880 --> 00:26:27,159
Speaker 1: put his hands up in a mock surrender and changed

609
00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:30,000
Speaker 1: the subject. The bartender, who knows both of us, checked

610
00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:32,240
Speaker 1: in with us to ask if we would have another round,

611
00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:34,560
Speaker 1: and Hank said he would. I asked what my tab

612
00:26:34,720 --> 00:26:37,080
Speaker 1: was to check and make sure I wasn't overspending past

613
00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:40,560
Speaker 1: my gift cards amount, and Hank got mad. He loudly

614
00:26:40,640 --> 00:26:45,000
Speaker 1: said Jesus cross and said he gets it already, and

615
00:26:45,040 --> 00:26:46,840
Speaker 1: if I want to be an a hole about it, fine,

616
00:26:47,040 --> 00:26:49,639
Speaker 1: he threw his card towards the bartender to pay for

617
00:26:49,720 --> 00:26:52,960
Speaker 1: both of us. I apologized and said that's not why

618
00:26:52,960 --> 00:26:54,960
Speaker 1: I was asking, but he just told me to shut

619
00:26:55,040 --> 00:26:57,400
Speaker 1: up about it and he was done. I felt so embarrassed.

620
00:26:57,440 --> 00:26:59,720
Speaker 1: People were looking at us, and I tried not to cry,

621
00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:02,120
Speaker 1: and Hank looked at me again. He said, oh, you're

622
00:27:02,119 --> 00:27:04,639
Speaker 1: gonna cry now and threw up his hands, telling me

623
00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:06,600
Speaker 1: I always do this, and he knows I do it

624
00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:08,600
Speaker 1: for attention and to freaking get over it.

625
00:27:08,680 --> 00:27:12,919
Speaker 2: Oh wow, Oh that's not a friend.

626
00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:16,120
Speaker 1: And this is when like the bartender calls the bouncer

627
00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:19,400
Speaker 1: over and is like, get this belligerent a hole out

628
00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:23,119
Speaker 1: of the establishment. Yeah, it seems.

629
00:27:23,359 --> 00:27:26,120
Speaker 2: I think Hanks things a little bit differently than that,

630
00:27:26,520 --> 00:27:30,480
Speaker 2: oh boy, or like that that attitude where just get

631
00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:32,679
Speaker 2: over it, get a job, get more money.

632
00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:35,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, just kind of yeah dah, why don't.

633
00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:38,280
Speaker 2: You just do that thing instead of complaining that you

634
00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:38,960
Speaker 2: have no money?

635
00:27:39,000 --> 00:27:41,000
Speaker 1: And then she's like talking about like her mental health,

636
00:27:41,040 --> 00:27:43,560
Speaker 1: and he just goes, hey, you got me, all right,

637
00:27:43,680 --> 00:27:46,639
Speaker 1: let's talk about anything else. It's like, dude, come on

638
00:27:46,960 --> 00:27:49,600
Speaker 1: as a sore spot for me, and you don't have

639
00:27:49,640 --> 00:27:53,200
Speaker 1: friends to understand your sore spots. They really are friends. Yeah,

640
00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:56,480
Speaker 1: this guy sounds like he never graduated high school. I

641
00:27:56,560 --> 00:27:59,520
Speaker 1: started to cry and said I'm sorry, and some guy

642
00:27:59,600 --> 00:28:01,879
Speaker 1: told Ham to pull it back and leave me alone.

643
00:28:02,160 --> 00:28:04,959
Speaker 1: Hank cussed him out through ten bucks at me, muttering

644
00:28:05,119 --> 00:28:09,400
Speaker 1: he wished I would harm myself and left without his card. Yeah,

645
00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:11,920
Speaker 1: that's not your friend. Throw this guy into the sea

646
00:28:12,160 --> 00:28:15,080
Speaker 1: where the sea monsters can nibble on him. Why are

647
00:28:15,080 --> 00:28:19,080
Speaker 1: we doing Yeah, yeah, that's like a what the heck go?

648
00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:22,119
Speaker 1: It's a throwing hands type of comment. I'm not gonna

649
00:28:22,119 --> 00:28:26,439
Speaker 1: lie off yourself, that's what That's what he said. He

650
00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:29,880
Speaker 1: basically said, go off yourself, dude. That's like a that's

651
00:28:29,920 --> 00:28:34,159
Speaker 1: a fight instigating type of moment. What is wrong with

652
00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:37,960
Speaker 1: this guy? All over? Like nothing over drinks he said

653
00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:39,640
Speaker 1: he would pay for and then bailed on.

654
00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:42,120
Speaker 2: He just doesn't want to accept how big this is

655
00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:44,280
Speaker 2: frope and just making a big deal.

656
00:28:44,480 --> 00:28:46,120
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, and that's I think we've we haven't even

657
00:28:46,160 --> 00:28:48,840
Speaker 1: touched on that that if this this person's financially insecure,

658
00:28:48,920 --> 00:28:50,440
Speaker 1: They're like, I don't want to go out. I don't

659
00:28:50,440 --> 00:28:52,080
Speaker 1: have the money to spend, and then all our friends

660
00:28:52,080 --> 00:28:54,000
Speaker 1: are like come on, come out, come out, come out.

661
00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:57,160
Speaker 1: It's like, yeah, we're not on the same boat right now, guys,

662
00:28:57,200 --> 00:29:00,120
Speaker 1: this is crazy that this guy is pulling this. The

663
00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:03,080
Speaker 1: bartender had already returned his card with the customer receipt

664
00:29:03,080 --> 00:29:05,000
Speaker 1: and placed it in front of us. People at the

665
00:29:05,000 --> 00:29:07,280
Speaker 1: bar and the staff were kind to me, and I

666
00:29:07,360 --> 00:29:09,960
Speaker 1: stayed to calm down. The bartender brought me my other

667
00:29:10,040 --> 00:29:12,080
Speaker 1: drink and said my drinks were on the house and

668
00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:15,120
Speaker 1: my previous drinks were on Hank. Since she took his card,

669
00:29:15,360 --> 00:29:18,520
Speaker 1: meaning he was covering it, an older gentleman made conversation

670
00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:21,240
Speaker 1: and eventually asked what that was all about. I explained

671
00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:24,200
Speaker 1: about my birthday dinner. He frowned and said women couldn't

672
00:29:24,240 --> 00:29:26,840
Speaker 1: expect men to pay anymore, and that it was selfish

673
00:29:26,920 --> 00:29:29,200
Speaker 1: of me to expect it, as it was his choice.

674
00:29:29,280 --> 00:29:33,360
Speaker 1: What are you talking? Well? How are you just lovely? Oh?

675
00:29:33,840 --> 00:29:37,280
Speaker 1: That's lovely conversation? And this one is just a okay,

676
00:29:37,400 --> 00:29:40,360
Speaker 1: grandpa type moment. This is a stranger. Don't waste any

677
00:29:40,400 --> 00:29:43,760
Speaker 1: emotional energy on this guy. I later texted in the

678
00:29:43,760 --> 00:29:46,200
Speaker 1: group chat to Hank that he left his card and

679
00:29:46,240 --> 00:29:48,880
Speaker 1: the bartender has it, and I hope he went home safely.

680
00:29:49,240 --> 00:29:52,400
Speaker 1: I made no mention of the argument, but he texted back, Okay,

681
00:29:52,520 --> 00:29:55,120
Speaker 1: you want to bring everyone else into it. Fine. Is

682
00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:58,800
Speaker 1: this guy just like super drunk right now? Probably? Probably.

683
00:29:59,280 --> 00:30:01,280
Speaker 1: I think he likes and he wants to get drunk

684
00:30:01,360 --> 00:30:05,160
Speaker 1: so he could talk to her. That's my underlying that is,

685
00:30:05,280 --> 00:30:09,080
Speaker 1: actually he's got playground. This is playground crush behavior. This

686
00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:13,760
Speaker 1: is like the pulling on the pigtails. Yeah, well I

687
00:30:13,760 --> 00:30:16,600
Speaker 1: don't know about that. It's a little bit more aggravated.

688
00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:19,680
Speaker 1: Mean well yeah, because he's thirty nine and he's not

689
00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:22,520
Speaker 1: an innocent child. But it's like it's the same technique

690
00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:25,040
Speaker 1: of like, I have a crush on I don't want

691
00:30:25,040 --> 00:30:25,480
Speaker 1: to bother that.

692
00:30:25,720 --> 00:30:27,920
Speaker 2: I just think he was upset. I think he was

693
00:30:28,000 --> 00:30:31,080
Speaker 2: upset because he wanted OPI just relax, have some drinks,

694
00:30:31,160 --> 00:30:34,680
Speaker 2: jill out. Oh like that you meant and she won't

695
00:30:34,680 --> 00:30:37,080
Speaker 2: do it, And he's like, oh you you always ruined it.

696
00:30:37,280 --> 00:30:40,360
Speaker 1: Oh see you put that. Now. I've got the idea

697
00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:43,320
Speaker 1: that it's he's got a crush. He's got a crush

698
00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:45,680
Speaker 1: on Op. He doesn't know how to express it propably.

699
00:30:45,880 --> 00:30:50,520
Speaker 1: Probably so he said to everyone that I bullied him

700
00:30:50,560 --> 00:30:54,600
Speaker 1: into paying and it's now my shtick to use in public,

701
00:30:54,680 --> 00:30:56,720
Speaker 1: and if you don't, she'll cry and get the bar

702
00:30:56,840 --> 00:30:59,160
Speaker 1: thinking you're an ale because I'm selfish and need to

703
00:30:59,160 --> 00:31:01,160
Speaker 1: be a spoiled pretty says, even if it's not my

704
00:31:01,200 --> 00:31:03,520
Speaker 1: birthday anymore. Oh boy, can we get Hank out of

705
00:31:03,560 --> 00:31:07,320
Speaker 1: the group? Please? Can we expedite that? Goodness? Gracious? Sorry? Op,

706
00:31:07,520 --> 00:31:09,719
Speaker 1: this is tough. This is tough. Yeah, this is terrible.

707
00:31:10,040 --> 00:31:12,720
Speaker 1: A few of the group started berating me and telling

708
00:31:12,760 --> 00:31:15,120
Speaker 1: me to get over ten dollars and that Hank let

709
00:31:15,120 --> 00:31:17,320
Speaker 1: it slide the first couple of times. I tried to

710
00:31:17,320 --> 00:31:20,280
Speaker 1: guilt trip him, but that this was now out of hand. Ope,

711
00:31:20,280 --> 00:31:22,960
Speaker 1: he get new friends. They're out there. When Hank said

712
00:31:23,000 --> 00:31:25,920
Speaker 1: he paid for everything, they said I owed him, and

713
00:31:25,960 --> 00:31:29,200
Speaker 1: Hank put a Vemo request screenshot in and texted, I

714
00:31:29,200 --> 00:31:31,360
Speaker 1: mean I wouldn't hold my breath, but I will make

715
00:31:31,400 --> 00:31:34,120
Speaker 1: it easy. Are we all still remembering that this guy

716
00:31:34,600 --> 00:31:37,360
Speaker 1: didn't pay for Ope's drinks the first time when he

717
00:31:37,400 --> 00:31:40,920
Speaker 1: said he would. Yeah, and this is all happening because Op,

718
00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:44,160
Speaker 1: he was asking for to know, based on her gift

719
00:31:44,160 --> 00:31:46,080
Speaker 1: card balance, if she could pay for the drinks on

720
00:31:46,120 --> 00:31:49,160
Speaker 1: her tab at this other place, and then Hank took

721
00:31:49,160 --> 00:31:52,360
Speaker 1: it upon himself to take that personally and paid for

722
00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:54,920
Speaker 1: her drinks on his own accord again and is now

723
00:31:54,960 --> 00:31:57,440
Speaker 1: sending a VEMO request this guy. They built this guy

724
00:31:57,520 --> 00:32:00,000
Speaker 1: in a stupid lab. But this was two instances.

725
00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:03,720
Speaker 2: There's probably been another instances where she's asking about money,

726
00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:07,000
Speaker 2: asking about how much something costs. Money, just keeps always

727
00:32:07,040 --> 00:32:09,880
Speaker 2: bringing up in smaller ways. But then these last few

728
00:32:09,920 --> 00:32:11,960
Speaker 2: times kind of built up more and Hank's.

729
00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:13,720
Speaker 1: Like, I'm just over it. Okay, I can't be doing

730
00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:16,160
Speaker 1: this anymore. So this was like with the fuse, like

731
00:32:16,280 --> 00:32:18,200
Speaker 1: ran out and now this is the explosion.

732
00:32:18,680 --> 00:32:21,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, the other time she was just checking for herself,

733
00:32:21,160 --> 00:32:23,600
Speaker 2: how much is this? I'm good, I won't eat, I

734
00:32:23,680 --> 00:32:26,680
Speaker 2: won't drink you because op sounds like someone who wouldn't

735
00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:26,920
Speaker 2: do that.

736
00:32:27,000 --> 00:32:29,360
Speaker 1: It sounds like she's someone who's like always aware and

737
00:32:29,400 --> 00:32:30,880
Speaker 1: if she doesn't have that money, she doesn't want to

738
00:32:30,920 --> 00:32:33,200
Speaker 1: go out. So I know, I'm just so cy.

739
00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:37,560
Speaker 2: What I'm saying is he she's always checking herself how

740
00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:38,160
Speaker 2: much is this?

741
00:32:38,240 --> 00:32:40,040
Speaker 1: Can I pay for it? Nope, I'm good, I won't eat.

742
00:32:40,120 --> 00:32:43,200
Speaker 1: How much? Just dreaming that is like and.

743
00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:45,880
Speaker 2: Then and then He's like, you're always saying something about it,

744
00:32:46,120 --> 00:32:47,600
Speaker 2: or friend would always come up be like, no, I'll

745
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:50,200
Speaker 2: get this for you, and she's like, oh okay.

746
00:32:50,560 --> 00:32:54,640
Speaker 1: Just stop being broke. So John here og host. We're

747
00:32:54,640 --> 00:32:56,360
Speaker 1: gonna get back to these stories. But a quick three

748
00:32:56,360 --> 00:32:59,760
Speaker 1: minute break from house from our sponsors. I explained that

749
00:32:59,840 --> 00:33:03,880
Speaker 1: I can't pay him back until payday and explained about

750
00:33:03,920 --> 00:33:06,800
Speaker 1: the gift card, and then the texts came rapid fire,

751
00:33:07,040 --> 00:33:10,320
Speaker 1: BS I call BS, blah blah blah. I muted the

752
00:33:10,360 --> 00:33:13,680
Speaker 1: notifications and spent time with my dog watching TV. Now

753
00:33:13,760 --> 00:33:16,720
Speaker 1: I'm getting iced out for my friends except for Clara.

754
00:33:16,760 --> 00:33:19,760
Speaker 1: Save Clara, Clara is your friend. Two of them have

755
00:33:19,840 --> 00:33:23,280
Speaker 1: spouses at my job, and they are avoiding me at work.

756
00:33:23,600 --> 00:33:26,240
Speaker 1: I feel like I should just apologize and VENMO the

757
00:33:26,240 --> 00:33:29,200
Speaker 1: money after I got paid. I don't have many friends

758
00:33:29,200 --> 00:33:32,040
Speaker 1: and being alone is really getting to me. I know

759
00:33:32,200 --> 00:33:34,480
Speaker 1: I've been hard to be around lately because I'm not

760
00:33:34,600 --> 00:33:37,120
Speaker 1: my normal chip her self, So I know not a

761
00:33:37,120 --> 00:33:38,920
Speaker 1: lot of people will want to put up with me.

762
00:33:39,280 --> 00:33:43,640
Speaker 1: Am I the a hole? Oh ma man, no ah man.

763
00:33:44,200 --> 00:33:47,360
Speaker 1: You going through a tough time does not give your

764
00:33:47,400 --> 00:33:51,680
Speaker 1: friends free pass to just completely am on you. Yeah,

765
00:33:51,840 --> 00:33:55,480
Speaker 1: like just to crade you like this is wild. You

766
00:33:55,720 --> 00:33:59,760
Speaker 1: cried tears of happiness that they were there for your

767
00:33:59,760 --> 00:34:02,880
Speaker 1: birth they and then they mocked you about it. That's

768
00:34:03,120 --> 00:34:06,040
Speaker 1: actually one of the most insane things I've ever read,

769
00:34:06,240 --> 00:34:09,040
Speaker 1: and that should be an immediate you know what, You're

770
00:34:09,080 --> 00:34:11,920
Speaker 1: better off without these people being your friends. Clara is

771
00:34:11,960 --> 00:34:15,200
Speaker 1: your friend. Yeah, the only person in this story I've

772
00:34:15,360 --> 00:34:17,880
Speaker 1: read as your friend is Clara. I agree this.

773
00:34:18,760 --> 00:34:21,040
Speaker 2: I hope you can like go out and do other

774
00:34:21,120 --> 00:34:25,160
Speaker 2: things rather than having to interact with these people. Seems

775
00:34:25,160 --> 00:34:28,480
Speaker 2: you're stuck because money's tight and you can't like travel

776
00:34:28,520 --> 00:34:30,120
Speaker 2: a lot of places, or you might be in a

777
00:34:30,120 --> 00:34:33,080
Speaker 2: small area. I don't know, there are more people out there.

778
00:34:33,520 --> 00:34:36,080
Speaker 2: It's tricky to figure out. But you're smart, you can

779
00:34:36,120 --> 00:34:36,400
Speaker 2: do that.

780
00:34:36,800 --> 00:34:39,120
Speaker 1: I always will suggest the same thing, And it's pickleball,

781
00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:46,120
Speaker 1: casual pickleball playing and players. What about the best rock climbing, Well,

782
00:34:46,200 --> 00:34:49,000
Speaker 1: it's it's it's also a great community, but it's like

783
00:34:49,040 --> 00:34:52,040
Speaker 1: the entry level is a little higher because it's expensive,

784
00:34:52,320 --> 00:34:58,359
Speaker 1: I would say, and she's maybe financially insecure. For guys, basketball, basketball, Yeah,

785
00:34:58,680 --> 00:35:01,920
Speaker 1: any sports. Sports are a great way to meet new people,

786
00:35:02,400 --> 00:35:03,240
Speaker 1: make new friends.

787
00:35:03,320 --> 00:35:06,560
Speaker 2: Sometimes churches, that's a good place if you're comfortable doing that.

788
00:35:06,640 --> 00:35:11,960
Speaker 1: Drum circles. Drum circles like literally anything. Yeah, bird watching, yeah,

789
00:35:12,160 --> 00:35:15,759
Speaker 1: wild watching. Find uh, find the theater theaters huge, find

790
00:35:15,760 --> 00:35:18,760
Speaker 1: of uh. You know. I don't usually hype up Facebook,

791
00:35:18,800 --> 00:35:20,560
Speaker 1: but they do have like a lot of like community

792
00:35:20,560 --> 00:35:23,600
Speaker 1: pages and stuff for certain like in your area. If

793
00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:24,960
Speaker 1: you want to find a group of people who want

794
00:35:24,960 --> 00:35:26,399
Speaker 1: to do something you want to do, you can find

795
00:35:26,440 --> 00:35:29,480
Speaker 1: it probably on Facebook. Yeah, yeah, you got it. You

796
00:35:29,560 --> 00:35:32,560
Speaker 1: have to be a slightly more extroverted. That stuff. That

797
00:35:32,680 --> 00:35:34,960
Speaker 1: is stuff for people I don't even know. Yeah, it

798
00:35:35,239 --> 00:35:37,760
Speaker 1: is true if you're an introvert. I'm just so confused

799
00:35:37,760 --> 00:35:40,879
Speaker 1: by how Op's ended up here because they don't sound yeah,

800
00:35:41,160 --> 00:35:43,160
Speaker 1: like anything except like they've been going through a hard

801
00:35:43,160 --> 00:35:45,120
Speaker 1: time emotionally, and it's like all of their friends are

802
00:35:45,160 --> 00:35:46,799
Speaker 1: just like dehumanizing them for it.

803
00:35:46,840 --> 00:35:49,960
Speaker 3: Well crazy, You can never know, never true. We don't know,

804
00:35:50,120 --> 00:35:52,120
Speaker 3: We don't know how far the rabbit ole goes.

805
00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:55,840
Speaker 1: Okay. Edit I apologized to the group and muted the

806
00:35:55,920 --> 00:35:58,919
Speaker 1: group chat. Easter was awful as my family didn't want

807
00:35:58,960 --> 00:36:01,200
Speaker 1: me there and I was in to a friends. But

808
00:36:01,320 --> 00:36:04,600
Speaker 1: now that friend won't speak to me. I wasn't outright uninvited,

809
00:36:04,640 --> 00:36:06,960
Speaker 1: but she did privately message me saying it might be

810
00:36:06,960 --> 00:36:09,759
Speaker 1: best if I reconsider coming as I bring down a

811
00:36:09,880 --> 00:36:15,800
Speaker 1: room wherever I go. New friends? Yeah yeah, new friend? Yep,

812
00:36:16,160 --> 00:36:17,279
Speaker 1: that wasn't Clara, was it?

813
00:36:17,520 --> 00:36:17,719
Speaker 3: Oh?

814
00:36:17,760 --> 00:36:20,239
Speaker 1: Please tell me that wasn't Clara? Was it? I don't

815
00:36:20,239 --> 00:36:22,800
Speaker 1: think so, there wasn't a name. So today was the

816
00:36:22,880 --> 00:36:25,799
Speaker 1: last straw. We as a friend group were supposed to

817
00:36:25,800 --> 00:36:28,120
Speaker 1: have brunch, so I went, but it was awkward and

818
00:36:28,160 --> 00:36:30,080
Speaker 1: no one really spoke to me, so I left early.

819
00:36:30,200 --> 00:36:32,920
Speaker 1: I got paid today and I'm considering just ven mowing

820
00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:35,400
Speaker 1: Hank and hoping they won't ice me out anymore. Do

821
00:36:35,600 --> 00:36:38,080
Speaker 1: not send that man any of your money, please, and

822
00:36:38,120 --> 00:36:38,840
Speaker 1: there's an update.

823
00:36:38,960 --> 00:36:42,719
Speaker 2: Oh boy, oh boy, it was me. I'd probably bemo

824
00:36:42,880 --> 00:36:45,120
Speaker 2: and audios. I've done that before.

825
00:36:45,400 --> 00:36:47,799
Speaker 1: You would then mow that guy after he said that

826
00:36:47,840 --> 00:36:50,640
Speaker 1: to you, or like he said that to Angie.

827
00:36:50,640 --> 00:36:53,759
Speaker 2: So he doesn't have anything over me. Yeah, doesn't have

828
00:36:53,760 --> 00:36:56,160
Speaker 2: anything of her Angie. Yeah, so we can't keep bringing

829
00:36:56,239 --> 00:36:59,919
Speaker 2: it up. Yeah cool, that's fair. If that's his only

830
00:37:00,239 --> 00:37:03,239
Speaker 2: pillared us to build his house on, or his only

831
00:37:03,520 --> 00:37:05,960
Speaker 2: you know, stick I don't know. If that's the only

832
00:37:06,000 --> 00:37:07,840
Speaker 2: thing you can lean on, and I take that away,

833
00:37:07,920 --> 00:37:09,359
Speaker 2: then he has no argument.

834
00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:13,359
Speaker 1: I guess, So I guess it's doing the disrespect math

835
00:37:13,400 --> 00:37:16,160
Speaker 1: in my head. I guess it's more disrespectful to give

836
00:37:16,200 --> 00:37:17,920
Speaker 1: him back the money and then be like, this is

837
00:37:17,960 --> 00:37:20,879
Speaker 1: the last time you'll ever hear from me. But then

838
00:37:21,160 --> 00:37:23,680
Speaker 1: you could become the bad guy again because it's oh ope,

839
00:37:23,680 --> 00:37:26,800
Speaker 1: he's breaking up the whole friend group over ten bucks again.

840
00:37:27,200 --> 00:37:30,400
Speaker 1: It's like, I feel like just ghosting all these people

841
00:37:30,480 --> 00:37:33,160
Speaker 1: who are based on what I'm reading, treating you like

842
00:37:33,440 --> 00:37:37,320
Speaker 1: dirt is your best move. Don't make you friends except Clara.

843
00:37:37,400 --> 00:37:40,600
Speaker 1: Keep Clara update. I have five friends on in our

844
00:37:40,640 --> 00:37:44,240
Speaker 1: thirties and forties. A quick recap Clara, Bella, Hank, James,

845
00:37:44,480 --> 00:37:47,120
Speaker 1: and Frett. I had a disagreement with Hank, which I

846
00:37:47,160 --> 00:37:50,360
Speaker 1: outlined in my previous post, but I can't blame everything

847
00:37:50,360 --> 00:37:53,719
Speaker 1: on it. I've been suffering from major depression and anxiety,

848
00:37:53,760 --> 00:37:56,160
Speaker 1: so I am not my usual chipper self. That is

849
00:37:56,280 --> 00:37:59,800
Speaker 1: not your fault. I am usually the dependable friend everyone

850
00:37:59,800 --> 00:38:02,920
Speaker 1: can rely on, but lately I've just not had the

851
00:38:03,040 --> 00:38:06,360
Speaker 1: energy or bandwidth. I'm estranged from family, so I spend

852
00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:08,520
Speaker 1: most of my free time with my friends. I love

853
00:38:08,600 --> 00:38:11,359
Speaker 1: my friends, and they all have such wonderful things they

854
00:38:11,360 --> 00:38:14,720
Speaker 1: bring to our group that makes it feel whole and fun. Lately,

855
00:38:14,760 --> 00:38:17,280
Speaker 1: though they've expressed displeasure with me as I've been quieter

856
00:38:17,560 --> 00:38:20,880
Speaker 1: and prone to tears. I admit I'm tired and emotional lately.

857
00:38:21,200 --> 00:38:24,160
Speaker 1: I've lost a great job, my family, and more, all

858
00:38:24,200 --> 00:38:26,799
Speaker 1: in a few months. When mentioning my troubles, Clara and

859
00:38:26,840 --> 00:38:29,319
Speaker 1: Bella usually would listen more than the others, and when

860
00:38:29,360 --> 00:38:32,400
Speaker 1: I mentioned that I'm spending Easter alone, Bella had invited

861
00:38:32,400 --> 00:38:35,080
Speaker 1: me to hers after having to fall out with Hank. However,

862
00:38:35,160 --> 00:38:38,200
Speaker 1: Bella texted me that night and suggested I reconsider coming

863
00:38:38,200 --> 00:38:40,799
Speaker 1: to Easter as our other friends would be dropping in

864
00:38:40,880 --> 00:38:44,040
Speaker 1: and she didn't want drama. I asked if I create drama,

865
00:38:44,080 --> 00:38:46,239
Speaker 1: and she said that I never apologize to Hank and

866
00:38:46,280 --> 00:38:49,320
Speaker 1: that I quote bring down any room I come into.

867
00:38:49,440 --> 00:38:51,759
Speaker 1: I didn't cry right then, but I wanted to. It

868
00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:55,920
Speaker 1: just hurt crazy twists that now Opee is the reliable,

869
00:38:55,960 --> 00:38:58,839
Speaker 1: dependable friend in the group and they treat her like this.

870
00:38:59,400 --> 00:39:02,640
Speaker 2: If you don't bring value, it's a transactional relationship.

871
00:39:02,800 --> 00:39:04,440
Speaker 1: It's not unconditional. It's conditional.

872
00:39:04,680 --> 00:39:06,960
Speaker 2: You have to be this type of person and Chip yourself.

873
00:39:07,000 --> 00:39:08,720
Speaker 2: And if you're not and you're going through a hard time,

874
00:39:09,040 --> 00:39:10,439
Speaker 2: this is not the vibe you want to be around.

875
00:39:10,480 --> 00:39:12,120
Speaker 1: Yeah. If you stop providing for the group, if you

876
00:39:12,120 --> 00:39:14,800
Speaker 1: stop being dependable for the group, we're just like, where's

877
00:39:14,840 --> 00:39:16,600
Speaker 1: the old U? We want to old you back? This

878
00:39:16,680 --> 00:39:19,880
Speaker 1: new you sucks. Yeah, that's what it seems like. Ugh.

879
00:39:22,000 --> 00:39:25,080
Speaker 1: I ended up spending Easter alone. I didn't want to

880
00:39:25,160 --> 00:39:28,600
Speaker 1: ruin the holiday for anyone, so sad we need some

881
00:39:28,680 --> 00:39:30,960
Speaker 1: talk there, bop. But when I reached out in the

882
00:39:31,000 --> 00:39:33,680
Speaker 1: group chat and said happy Easter, no one replied, but

883
00:39:33,719 --> 00:39:37,640
Speaker 1: they shared photos of the celebration at Bella's. Then this morning,

884
00:39:37,680 --> 00:39:40,920
Speaker 1: at a pre planned brunch, I arrived. I wore makeup,

885
00:39:41,000 --> 00:39:43,320
Speaker 1: did my hair, and put on my best smile. I

886
00:39:43,360 --> 00:39:45,799
Speaker 1: didn't want to bring down any room, so I was

887
00:39:45,840 --> 00:39:48,000
Speaker 1: determined to prove I could be my old Chip herself.

888
00:39:48,080 --> 00:39:50,759
Speaker 1: But when I arrived, it was awkward. I had made

889
00:39:50,840 --> 00:39:53,719
Speaker 1: baskets for everyone and handed them out and they all

890
00:39:53,800 --> 00:39:56,719
Speaker 1: fumbled thank you, but I could tell they didn't want

891
00:39:56,760 --> 00:39:59,360
Speaker 1: me there. I stayed only long enough to finish the

892
00:39:59,400 --> 00:40:01,719
Speaker 1: mo mosta I ordered and made an excuse that I

893
00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:04,960
Speaker 1: had work and had to prepare, which was a half truth.

894
00:40:05,239 --> 00:40:07,280
Speaker 1: But I had plenty of time to spare and prepare.

895
00:40:07,480 --> 00:40:09,439
Speaker 1: Clara was the only one who stood up to hug

896
00:40:09,480 --> 00:40:14,799
Speaker 1: me and say goodbye. Your friend slid Clara. She was

897
00:40:14,880 --> 00:40:17,640
Speaker 1: also the only one who opened her basket and thanked

898
00:40:17,640 --> 00:40:19,600
Speaker 1: me for the items. I think she was trying to

899
00:40:19,640 --> 00:40:22,960
Speaker 1: balance the energy. Yeah, it's like you've got one flashlight

900
00:40:23,000 --> 00:40:25,040
Speaker 1: and then a black hole on the other side of

901
00:40:25,040 --> 00:40:28,360
Speaker 1: that seesaw Like the rest. They didn't even open their gifts.

902
00:40:29,200 --> 00:40:32,160
Speaker 1: Made each one of them handmade Eastern baskets, and he

903
00:40:32,239 --> 00:40:35,160
Speaker 1: didn't open them or say thank you. Oh he got

904
00:40:35,160 --> 00:40:38,080
Speaker 1: to catch a hit. I don't think they want you here. Sad.

905
00:40:38,200 --> 00:40:41,160
Speaker 1: This is really sad. Take Clara and start your a

906
00:40:41,239 --> 00:40:44,560
Speaker 1: new group, an even better group than the best. Jobe.

907
00:40:44,920 --> 00:40:47,960
Speaker 1: There we go. Oh man, I got to my car

908
00:40:48,280 --> 00:40:50,520
Speaker 1: and I realized I left my wallet, so I ran

909
00:40:50,600 --> 00:40:53,680
Speaker 1: back inside. Now the whole table's energy was great. They

910
00:40:53,680 --> 00:40:56,520
Speaker 1: were laughing and talking and all the awkwardness was gone.

911
00:40:56,880 --> 00:40:59,560
Speaker 1: I didn't even say anything as I approached, but Hank

912
00:40:59,600 --> 00:41:03,520
Speaker 1: and James, we're midway saying something about God. Am I

913
00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:06,319
Speaker 1: glad she left early? I thought we would have to

914
00:41:06,360 --> 00:41:09,279
Speaker 1: deal with her all morning and I just reached and

915
00:41:09,320 --> 00:41:14,480
Speaker 1: grabbed my wallet and left. Oh man, this just keeps

916
00:41:14,719 --> 00:41:17,400
Speaker 1: It's gotta get better at some point, right, it just

917
00:41:17,480 --> 00:41:19,480
Speaker 1: keeps getting worse. You know what, It's not gonna get

918
00:41:19,480 --> 00:41:24,120
Speaker 1: any better until you leave this group. Yeah, honestly, man,

919
00:41:24,719 --> 00:41:27,799
Speaker 1: I'm sitting outside my job in my car, trying not

920
00:41:27,920 --> 00:41:30,759
Speaker 1: to cry. I have tried so many things to try

921
00:41:30,800 --> 00:41:32,759
Speaker 1: and make my friendships work, but it feels like I

922
00:41:32,840 --> 00:41:37,240
Speaker 1: fail at every turn. They are the failures. Yeah, they failed,

923
00:41:37,480 --> 00:41:40,480
Speaker 1: except Clara. I know I am not my usual self,

924
00:41:40,640 --> 00:41:43,000
Speaker 1: but I still want to celebrate and spend time with them.

925
00:41:43,200 --> 00:41:45,120
Speaker 1: I miss how things used to be. I am just

926
00:41:45,160 --> 00:41:47,359
Speaker 1: at a loss as to what I should do now.

927
00:41:47,600 --> 00:41:49,040
Speaker 1: And there is another update.

928
00:41:49,239 --> 00:41:53,560
Speaker 2: Oh boy, dude, I think right now we already know

929
00:41:54,120 --> 00:41:56,120
Speaker 2: how it is. I understand that you're in a tough

930
00:41:56,160 --> 00:41:57,560
Speaker 2: position where you don't have a lot of people in

931
00:41:57,560 --> 00:42:00,520
Speaker 2: your life, and it's it gives me the interesting question,

932
00:42:01,080 --> 00:42:03,640
Speaker 2: you have horrible people in your life or no people

933
00:42:03,640 --> 00:42:07,240
Speaker 2: in your life?

934
00:42:04,640 --> 00:42:10,680
Speaker 1: Says I take no people, but not permanently. No one

935
00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:13,200
Speaker 1: can have no people in their life forever. But like

936
00:42:14,840 --> 00:42:19,200
Speaker 1: these people are your enemy, they treat you like you

937
00:42:19,280 --> 00:42:24,520
Speaker 1: are their enemy, except Clara, Except Clara. This is pretty wild.

938
00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:30,000
Speaker 1: We have another update though, boy Update two. I'm being

939
00:42:30,040 --> 00:42:31,920
Speaker 1: called a bigot because I don't want to date my

940
00:42:32,040 --> 00:42:34,280
Speaker 1: former friend. Am I the a hole? Is it? Hank?

941
00:42:34,600 --> 00:42:38,120
Speaker 1: Is it? Hank? I bet you ten bucks? You know

942
00:42:38,280 --> 00:42:41,080
Speaker 1: the group that? Yeah, Hank, I bet you ten bucks.

943
00:42:42,360 --> 00:42:45,520
Speaker 1: So I posted a lot about my struggles and my

944
00:42:45,560 --> 00:42:47,880
Speaker 1: old friend group. I can't even begin to think to

945
00:42:47,960 --> 00:42:50,560
Speaker 1: retype all of that, so it's all in my past post.

946
00:42:50,640 --> 00:42:53,360
Speaker 1: But long story short, Hank was in this group. I

947
00:42:53,360 --> 00:42:56,400
Speaker 1: sends a text in the group chat quote, hey, so

948
00:42:56,480 --> 00:42:59,120
Speaker 1: I understand from what's been said and done that I'm

949
00:42:59,160 --> 00:43:01,560
Speaker 1: not adding an any joy to this group. It's very

950
00:43:01,560 --> 00:43:04,560
Speaker 1: clear I am making things uncomfortable and awkward for everyone.

951
00:43:04,840 --> 00:43:07,239
Speaker 1: I apologize for any harm I have caused since my

952
00:43:07,360 --> 00:43:10,200
Speaker 1: accident and will not be attending any more group events.

953
00:43:10,360 --> 00:43:12,880
Speaker 1: I will also leave this chat. I really wish you

954
00:43:12,920 --> 00:43:16,520
Speaker 1: all well and cherish the time we shared. Op I

955
00:43:16,600 --> 00:43:19,160
Speaker 1: left the group chat immediately, but got calls and texts

956
00:43:19,160 --> 00:43:21,759
Speaker 1: from all of them asking why, oh, then know why?

957
00:43:21,760 --> 00:43:23,919
Speaker 1: They're just trying to save face though. Yeah, that broke

958
00:43:23,960 --> 00:43:27,320
Speaker 1: my brain for a second. How do you not know? Why? Clara?

959
00:43:28,280 --> 00:43:28,440
Speaker 3: Why?

960
00:43:29,080 --> 00:43:33,000
Speaker 1: Clara said she understood nice and wanted to stay in touch,

961
00:43:33,040 --> 00:43:35,760
Speaker 1: and that she too was thinking of leaving the group overall,

962
00:43:36,120 --> 00:43:43,000
Speaker 1: whoa interesting new group? Unlock You and Clara tag team forever.

963
00:43:43,480 --> 00:43:46,760
Speaker 1: James and everyone else was hitting up my notifications like crazy.

964
00:43:46,960 --> 00:43:50,719
Speaker 1: I took a nap and Hank showed up at my house. Oh,

965
00:43:50,840 --> 00:43:53,560
Speaker 1: with a gift basket? Was it the easter bat? Oh?

966
00:43:53,560 --> 00:43:55,600
Speaker 1: He should return it if he didn't thank you for

967
00:43:55,640 --> 00:43:58,680
Speaker 1: it or he made you want a new one. He

968
00:43:58,680 --> 00:44:01,280
Speaker 1: said he was sorry if he hurt me and said

969
00:44:01,360 --> 00:44:05,879
Speaker 1: he was mean because of a crush he had on me. Dude,

970
00:44:05,920 --> 00:44:10,680
Speaker 1: give me my flowers. I need my flowers right freaking now.

971
00:44:10,880 --> 00:44:16,880
Speaker 1: Flowers flowers all around, make a bunch of cherry blossoms

972
00:44:16,920 --> 00:44:17,399
Speaker 1: fall down.

973
00:44:18,680 --> 00:44:20,839
Speaker 3: I called it from a mill out that was three

974
00:44:20,920 --> 00:44:23,040
Speaker 3: updates a year old. Yeah, you're just like dude. This

975
00:44:23,120 --> 00:44:29,680
Speaker 3: guy's annoyed his crush doesn't like him. I called it perfect.

976
00:44:29,880 --> 00:44:31,680
Speaker 1: Aang, dude, give it there.

977
00:44:32,080 --> 00:44:34,840
Speaker 2: It was honestly a little bit of a long shot,

978
00:44:35,120 --> 00:44:36,200
Speaker 2: but we nailed it.

979
00:44:36,200 --> 00:44:39,160
Speaker 1: It's a long shot. He got there. Oh my god, Wow,

980
00:44:39,520 --> 00:44:42,759
Speaker 1: I was so confused. You like me? So you made

981
00:44:42,840 --> 00:44:47,239
Speaker 1: me hate myself for literally days, right, Like, what are

982
00:44:47,280 --> 00:44:51,520
Speaker 1: we talking about? What he's in preschool? He's preschool crush

983
00:44:52,040 --> 00:44:56,399
Speaker 1: ayanking on the ponytails. I said, I can't talk, and

984
00:44:56,719 --> 00:44:59,720
Speaker 1: to not just show up at my house unannounced. Please.

985
00:45:00,160 --> 00:45:01,920
Speaker 1: He asked me to come back to the group because

986
00:45:01,960 --> 00:45:05,000
Speaker 1: I'm the quote part of the group. Yeah, because all

987
00:45:05,040 --> 00:45:07,839
Speaker 1: of you are heartless. What are we talking about?

988
00:45:08,000 --> 00:45:10,839
Speaker 2: You had a crush on someone. You want to say, Hey,

989
00:45:10,880 --> 00:45:13,160
Speaker 2: I'm so glad you left. You brought the room down.

990
00:45:13,400 --> 00:45:16,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's crazy. And if your friend did say that, like, hey,

991
00:45:16,480 --> 00:45:21,239
Speaker 1: man brought up Yeah exactly, Like why, well, being a gentleman, well,

992
00:45:21,280 --> 00:45:25,120
Speaker 1: standing up for women, stand up guys, is not a woman? Guy?

993
00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:29,920
Speaker 1: Stand up for your friends, stand up for your friends.

994
00:45:30,160 --> 00:45:33,359
Speaker 1: Oh so, hey, it's sam og host. We're gonn get

995
00:45:33,400 --> 00:45:35,759
Speaker 1: back to these delectable stories. But here's three minutes of

996
00:45:35,800 --> 00:45:38,239
Speaker 1: ads from our sponsors to help support the show. He

997
00:45:38,320 --> 00:45:40,920
Speaker 1: told me I'm the heart of the group, and I

998
00:45:40,960 --> 00:45:43,239
Speaker 1: think my face betrayed me because I gave him the

999
00:45:43,320 --> 00:45:47,160
Speaker 1: bombastic side eye. At how cheesy that was? I said,

1000
00:45:47,160 --> 00:45:49,719
Speaker 1: I was tired and needed to sleep and close the door.

1001
00:45:50,160 --> 00:45:52,839
Speaker 1: Now I'm getting messages about events like are you still

1002
00:45:52,840 --> 00:45:55,359
Speaker 1: bringing me a cake to this? Or are you still

1003
00:45:55,360 --> 00:45:58,360
Speaker 1: gonna be my ride to that? I just feel used

1004
00:45:58,719 --> 00:46:01,960
Speaker 1: and alone. I thought maybe cutting away from them would

1005
00:46:02,000 --> 00:46:04,080
Speaker 1: help me feel better, but it just makes me feel worse.

1006
00:46:04,280 --> 00:46:06,480
Speaker 1: I feel like I let down my friends because, as

1007
00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:08,759
Speaker 1: one of them put it, I'm just tossing away the

1008
00:46:08,760 --> 00:46:11,480
Speaker 1: only people who give a crap about me. I don't know,

1009
00:46:11,560 --> 00:46:13,880
Speaker 1: it doesn't sound like that's what's happening at all. No,

1010
00:46:14,200 --> 00:46:16,960
Speaker 1: it sounds like you were the glue holding everyone together,

1011
00:46:17,080 --> 00:46:19,319
Speaker 1: and without you, they just realize, oh my god, we

1012
00:46:19,400 --> 00:46:22,240
Speaker 1: all kind of suck. We were just making fun.

1013
00:46:22,080 --> 00:46:23,920
Speaker 2: Of We have to we have to guilt trip her

1014
00:46:24,200 --> 00:46:26,120
Speaker 2: in order for her to get back. This isn't what

1015
00:46:26,160 --> 00:46:28,480
Speaker 2: friends do. No, dude, this is weird.

1016
00:46:28,719 --> 00:46:32,000
Speaker 1: This is an like they're trying. No one's apologizing. No,

1017
00:46:32,120 --> 00:46:35,799
Speaker 1: it's a transactional friendship. Yeah, I feel like I let

1018
00:46:35,840 --> 00:46:37,520
Speaker 1: down my friends, which is not true. They let you

1019
00:46:37,560 --> 00:46:39,920
Speaker 1: down because one of them said, I'm tossing away the

1020
00:46:39,960 --> 00:46:41,799
Speaker 1: only people who give a crap about me with them,

1021
00:46:41,840 --> 00:46:43,840
Speaker 1: which they don't. They just give a crap about the

1022
00:46:43,840 --> 00:46:47,400
Speaker 1: things you do for them, I'm making fun of you. Keikes,

1023
00:46:47,480 --> 00:46:49,880
Speaker 1: this is your lowest too. It's like you were clearly

1024
00:46:49,880 --> 00:46:52,680
Speaker 1: in some kind of accident, some event happened that deeply

1025
00:46:52,680 --> 00:46:53,279
Speaker 1: impacted you.

1026
00:46:53,440 --> 00:46:56,120
Speaker 2: From this statement, we can tell they're not doing well

1027
00:46:56,120 --> 00:46:59,560
Speaker 2: because one they cannot self reflect in two what's easier

1028
00:46:59,600 --> 00:47:02,720
Speaker 2: instead of owning up like you want to be friends,

1029
00:47:02,960 --> 00:47:04,759
Speaker 2: they're blaming you and they' putting blame on you.

1030
00:47:05,040 --> 00:47:07,000
Speaker 1: So you could tell that these people are messed up

1031
00:47:07,000 --> 00:47:10,879
Speaker 1: from the get go. Yeah, quite literally, despicable behavior out

1032
00:47:10,880 --> 00:47:15,360
Speaker 1: of this friend group, except for Clara, Dude, Clara, Clara

1033
00:47:15,640 --> 00:47:19,160
Speaker 1: the real one. Love her music what it is? Clara?

1034
00:47:19,360 --> 00:47:25,680
Speaker 1: Ah No, I love Clara? Oh man, okay I can.

1035
00:47:27,000 --> 00:47:28,759
Speaker 2: I'm gonna listen to so on quietly in my ears

1036
00:47:28,760 --> 00:47:29,800
Speaker 2: so we don't get copyrighted.

1037
00:47:30,120 --> 00:47:33,359
Speaker 1: Listen to your brain. So from there, here is what

1038
00:47:33,400 --> 00:47:36,960
Speaker 1: has happened recently. Since then, I started making some supplemental

1039
00:47:36,960 --> 00:47:40,359
Speaker 1: income on writing recipes for a local organization that sells

1040
00:47:40,400 --> 00:47:43,919
Speaker 1: different cookbooks. Oh nice, a freelance cookbook writer.

1041
00:47:44,160 --> 00:47:47,480
Speaker 2: Dude, learn learn to do that postal social media and

1042
00:47:47,520 --> 00:47:49,359
Speaker 2: then make your own cookbook and send it and sell.

1043
00:47:49,600 --> 00:47:52,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, start making your own cookbooks it's something I can

1044
00:47:52,120 --> 00:47:54,279
Speaker 1: do in my free time, and I enjoy it. It's

1045
00:47:54,280 --> 00:47:56,239
Speaker 1: a lot to catch up on. Sorry, but here's what

1046
00:47:56,360 --> 00:47:59,280
Speaker 1: happened yesterday. I was sitting at a local bar. Fairly,

1047
00:47:59,440 --> 00:48:01,560
Speaker 1: I have to that. It's a known place I frequent,

1048
00:48:01,600 --> 00:48:04,000
Speaker 1: but I was working on recipes for a new cookbook.

1049
00:48:04,120 --> 00:48:06,319
Speaker 1: The staff there know me as I live close and

1050
00:48:06,360 --> 00:48:08,239
Speaker 1: I can walk to them. They also heard some of

1051
00:48:08,280 --> 00:48:10,360
Speaker 1: what happened with my friend group, as I've told the

1052
00:48:10,400 --> 00:48:12,680
Speaker 1: bartender who asked me why she hadn't seen me with

1053
00:48:12,760 --> 00:48:15,360
Speaker 1: my friends anymore. When I mentioned writing about it on Reddit,

1054
00:48:15,480 --> 00:48:17,799
Speaker 1: she once sat with me while it was slow and

1055
00:48:17,880 --> 00:48:19,840
Speaker 1: read some of it on her phone. Dude, this is

1056
00:48:19,840 --> 00:48:23,040
Speaker 1: a good bartender connection. That's a great that's a great

1057
00:48:23,040 --> 00:48:27,279
Speaker 1: bartender connector right there, dude. Anyway, Hank arrived with some

1058
00:48:27,400 --> 00:48:29,879
Speaker 1: of his friends. He announced the staff that he got

1059
00:48:29,880 --> 00:48:33,719
Speaker 1: a promotion was celebrating. Woo, shut up, Hank. He got

1060
00:48:33,719 --> 00:48:35,719
Speaker 1: some congrats from the folks there, and I kept my

1061
00:48:35,760 --> 00:48:38,280
Speaker 1: eyes on my notebook, but I could see him moving

1062
00:48:38,400 --> 00:48:41,319
Speaker 1: towards me. He gave me a really happy hello, and

1063
00:48:41,360 --> 00:48:44,200
Speaker 1: I mustered a smile and said hi, but went back

1064
00:48:44,239 --> 00:48:46,239
Speaker 1: to my recipe. He said he was thinking of me,

1065
00:48:46,520 --> 00:48:49,480
Speaker 1: wanted to know how I'm doing. I said I was fine,

1066
00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:53,200
Speaker 1: just busy, and he asked with what I'm a moron?

1067
00:48:53,360 --> 00:48:55,520
Speaker 1: But I mentioned the recipe book I helped write. That's

1068
00:48:55,560 --> 00:48:56,120
Speaker 1: already out.

1069
00:48:56,239 --> 00:48:58,640
Speaker 2: Talk too much. You like to share too much information.

1070
00:48:59,000 --> 00:49:01,160
Speaker 2: You should just it's one of your skills that you have.

1071
00:49:01,680 --> 00:49:05,040
Speaker 2: Stone wall this, man, I know someone that does this.

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Speaker 1: What stone wall no, or like, we'll just talk to

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00:49:08,200 --> 00:49:10,400
Speaker 1: people who clearly want nothing to do with or have

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00:49:10,520 --> 00:49:11,480
Speaker 1: treated them wrongly.

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Speaker 2: I have a friend that got treated really bad and

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00:49:15,080 --> 00:49:16,920
Speaker 2: recently they talk to that person.

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00:49:17,280 --> 00:49:18,919
Speaker 1: I think it was their rect I know what friend

1078
00:49:18,920 --> 00:49:20,799
Speaker 1: you're talking about. Did just talk to their acts.

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00:49:20,800 --> 00:49:22,239
Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm like, dude, you can you know you

1080
00:49:22,280 --> 00:49:23,960
Speaker 2: can like hit the block button right, you don't have

1081
00:49:24,040 --> 00:49:26,200
Speaker 2: to talk to them anymore. Even if they contact you, you

1082
00:49:26,200 --> 00:49:26,840
Speaker 2: don't have to do that.

1083
00:49:27,239 --> 00:49:30,600
Speaker 1: Or you can explicitly tell them go away, leave me alone.

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00:49:30,960 --> 00:49:33,239
Speaker 1: I literally don't think about you like this. You can

1085
00:49:33,320 --> 00:49:36,480
Speaker 1: you can do that here right single that one sentence,

1086
00:49:36,760 --> 00:49:38,800
Speaker 1: I know you want to be nice. Never call you

1087
00:49:38,840 --> 00:49:40,799
Speaker 1: again after that sentence, I know you want to be nice.

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00:49:41,080 --> 00:49:43,800
Speaker 2: Just hey, I don't want to be contacted but also

1089
00:49:43,880 --> 00:49:46,200
Speaker 2: this part is you like to share things with people,

1090
00:49:46,400 --> 00:49:48,840
Speaker 2: and you're just trying to make conversation even though it's awkward.

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00:49:49,120 --> 00:49:51,040
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I'm sure I'd be looking at him like

1092
00:49:51,080 --> 00:49:52,920
Speaker 1: his head was on fire. I'm like, are you really

1093
00:49:53,000 --> 00:49:55,480
Speaker 1: talking to me right now? You're just talking to me

1094
00:49:55,600 --> 00:50:01,160
Speaker 1: like like everything's normal. Okay, so so op. He mentions

1095
00:50:01,200 --> 00:50:03,640
Speaker 1: the cookbook. He asked where he could get it, and

1096
00:50:03,680 --> 00:50:06,359
Speaker 1: I mentioned it can be found on Amazon, as it

1097
00:50:06,560 --> 00:50:09,000
Speaker 1: was the most popular site. He looked it up. He

1098
00:50:09,040 --> 00:50:11,160
Speaker 1: said he was getting the Kindle version and showed me

1099
00:50:11,200 --> 00:50:13,919
Speaker 1: he purchased it. Thanks, buddy. That's the most useless version too,

1100
00:50:14,000 --> 00:50:16,680
Speaker 1: where you're gonna read the recipes on the Kindle while

1101
00:50:16,719 --> 00:50:19,720
Speaker 1: you're cooking. You crazy. It's just like an empty purchase

1102
00:50:19,719 --> 00:50:22,319
Speaker 1: as well. Wait, don't say that what. Some of our

1103
00:50:22,360 --> 00:50:25,319
Speaker 1: people love the Kindle, No, no, I'm the Kindle is good.

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00:50:25,480 --> 00:50:27,400
Speaker 1: Some of them use recipes on the can for a

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00:50:27,440 --> 00:50:30,600
Speaker 1: cookbook for cooking. Yeah, I feel like it'd be so messy,

1106
00:50:30,640 --> 00:50:32,560
Speaker 1: you get the get the Kindle all messy. It's like

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00:50:32,600 --> 00:50:35,319
Speaker 1: a book, but it's it's like a book, dude, It's

1108
00:50:35,360 --> 00:50:37,360
Speaker 1: like a one page book. I know, but it's like

1109
00:50:37,360 --> 00:50:39,319
Speaker 1: you gotta like swipe it. You're gonna get all your

1110
00:50:39,480 --> 00:50:41,880
Speaker 1: food hands all over the It's like cooking with your phone.

1111
00:50:42,040 --> 00:50:45,600
Speaker 1: I just net, well, literally the same thing. Oh dude,

1112
00:50:45,600 --> 00:50:48,200
Speaker 1: you just opened my mind to a whole new universe.

1113
00:50:48,760 --> 00:50:50,800
Speaker 1: WHOA you always cook with a cook book or you

1114
00:50:50,840 --> 00:50:54,400
Speaker 1: cook with your phone? Oh god, yeah, oh god. I

1115
00:50:54,440 --> 00:50:57,560
Speaker 1: gotta sit in a cave and reflect from the plug

1116
00:50:57,600 --> 00:50:59,120
Speaker 1: for an app. That would be amazing for this, but

1117
00:50:59,280 --> 00:51:01,600
Speaker 1: we're not sponsored, or I can't say that. I can't

1118
00:51:01,640 --> 00:51:04,319
Speaker 1: do it. But it's really far out. I can't say it.

1119
00:51:04,360 --> 00:51:06,040
Speaker 1: I'm gonna shut up. Sorry, editor to take out the

1120
00:51:06,040 --> 00:51:10,279
Speaker 1: app part. Okay. I thanked him and said I hoped

1121
00:51:10,320 --> 00:51:13,759
Speaker 1: he would enjoy it and continued working. He took the

1122
00:51:13,840 --> 00:51:16,360
Speaker 1: hint and went with his friends, and for a while

1123
00:51:16,400 --> 00:51:18,560
Speaker 1: I was left to my work and thoughts. I was

1124
00:51:18,560 --> 00:51:21,040
Speaker 1: happy to have the piece, as I have been working

1125
00:51:21,040 --> 00:51:23,120
Speaker 1: on being alone and being okay with it, and I've

1126
00:51:23,120 --> 00:51:26,040
Speaker 1: found some solace and being alone in crowded spaces. I

1127
00:51:26,080 --> 00:51:28,600
Speaker 1: also like that. I think it's cool. I enjoy the

1128
00:51:28,680 --> 00:51:31,680
Speaker 1: sounds of life and don't mind being on my own sometimes.

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00:51:32,000 --> 00:51:34,440
Speaker 1: When he returned, he was laughing and had the e

1130
00:51:34,600 --> 00:51:38,280
Speaker 1: book kindle version of the book and ordered me another drink,

1131
00:51:38,440 --> 00:51:40,640
Speaker 1: stating I know I have to buy you a drink

1132
00:51:40,719 --> 00:51:42,680
Speaker 1: for you to want to talk to me, and just

1133
00:51:42,800 --> 00:51:45,920
Speaker 1: laughed I would again, not even looking at him. He

1134
00:51:45,960 --> 00:51:49,440
Speaker 1: want sort to get might pushing so we can talk

1135
00:51:49,480 --> 00:51:53,000
Speaker 1: to her. I'm not even speaking to this guy. He's insane.

1136
00:51:53,400 --> 00:51:56,759
Speaker 1: I said he didn't have to, and I could buy

1137
00:51:56,800 --> 00:51:59,680
Speaker 1: my own drinks. He kept poking at it, insisting he

1138
00:52:00,080 --> 00:52:02,600
Speaker 1: am I drink, and then said all right, all right,

1139
00:52:02,640 --> 00:52:05,080
Speaker 1: I'll buy you too, and asked the bartender to put

1140
00:52:05,120 --> 00:52:07,920
Speaker 1: my first drink on his tab. I was just exhausted

1141
00:52:07,920 --> 00:52:10,160
Speaker 1: at this point and thanked him. He showed me his

1142
00:52:10,200 --> 00:52:12,360
Speaker 1: phone with the book pulled up and went on in

1143
00:52:12,520 --> 00:52:16,279
Speaker 1: at least five minute critique of the book. This is

1144
00:52:16,440 --> 00:52:18,959
Speaker 1: just pathetic that this is a forty year old man

1145
00:52:19,120 --> 00:52:21,480
Speaker 1: and he doesn't know how to handle his crush on

1146
00:52:21,560 --> 00:52:24,600
Speaker 1: op no other than being an actual ten year old

1147
00:52:24,600 --> 00:52:28,440
Speaker 1: boy about it. Yeah, that's insane to me, Like this

1148
00:52:28,560 --> 00:52:31,360
Speaker 1: is weird. I know he hasn't committed a crime, but

1149
00:52:31,400 --> 00:52:34,879
Speaker 1: I feel like they'll lock this guy up if you're

1150
00:52:35,080 --> 00:52:37,960
Speaker 1: forty and you crush on people like a ten year

1151
00:52:37,960 --> 00:52:42,600
Speaker 1: old jail that's a strong stance. But I'm deeply upset

1152
00:52:42,640 --> 00:52:46,000
Speaker 1: by this man. Okay, I have a whole I'm gonna

1153
00:52:46,000 --> 00:52:48,600
Speaker 1: find a list of people that fit within that category

1154
00:52:48,680 --> 00:52:49,719
Speaker 1: and that we're gonna throw it in a jail, and

1155
00:52:49,719 --> 00:52:51,839
Speaker 1: you're gonna feel really bad about yourself. We would just

1156
00:52:51,880 --> 00:52:54,160
Speaker 1: can we only their name if they're named Hank and

1157
00:52:54,160 --> 00:52:56,399
Speaker 1: they're in this story. Henk's probably not his real name.

1158
00:52:58,040 --> 00:53:01,399
Speaker 1: Just send this one guy away from me. Don't want

1159
00:53:01,440 --> 00:53:05,680
Speaker 1: them near me. Okay, So here comes Hank's critique. My

1160
00:53:05,800 --> 00:53:08,920
Speaker 1: cover art was boring. I didn't make the cover. Two

1161
00:53:09,000 --> 00:53:11,399
Speaker 1: of the recipes are bland and not interesting at all.

1162
00:53:11,600 --> 00:53:13,919
Speaker 1: The images looked too commercial and no one would buy

1163
00:53:13,960 --> 00:53:16,960
Speaker 1: a commercial looking book. And why are there vegan recipes

1164
00:53:16,960 --> 00:53:20,120
Speaker 1: in it? That's lame and divisive, And that would be

1165
00:53:20,120 --> 00:53:22,480
Speaker 1: because one of the other writers is vegan and we

1166
00:53:22,520 --> 00:53:25,080
Speaker 1: found it to be inclusive to add a couple of

1167
00:53:25,160 --> 00:53:28,640
Speaker 1: vegan recipes in for the price. It's not actually engaging enough,

1168
00:53:28,680 --> 00:53:30,800
Speaker 1: and it's not like you're Pauladine or something.

1169
00:53:31,120 --> 00:53:35,000
Speaker 2: Okay, real quick, this is my PSA to literally everyone.

1170
00:53:35,280 --> 00:53:37,800
Speaker 2: At a point, you're gonna be confrontated.

1171
00:53:37,920 --> 00:53:42,800
Speaker 1: No, you're gonna make conversation with someone that's a fool, fool.

1172
00:53:42,200 --> 00:53:45,719
Speaker 2: A fool, a literal fool, plumb fool. And there's one

1173
00:53:45,719 --> 00:53:47,960
Speaker 2: thing you cannot do with the fool, and that's called reason.

1174
00:53:48,160 --> 00:53:50,200
Speaker 2: You can never reason with a fool. In this scenario,

1175
00:53:50,760 --> 00:53:52,759
Speaker 2: this is a fool you cannot reason with. So do

1176
00:53:52,840 --> 00:53:54,560
Speaker 2: not give them your time or attention.

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00:53:55,000 --> 00:53:58,120
Speaker 1: Put the wall up, actually put up? Do they if

1178
00:53:58,120 --> 00:54:00,759
Speaker 1: they have some kind of divider, you go three D

1179
00:54:01,400 --> 00:54:08,320
Speaker 1: thick up. Yes, it's importable. Anthony wal oh Man, oh

1180
00:54:08,360 --> 00:54:11,279
Speaker 1: Man oh Man. I managed to stay calm for most

1181
00:54:11,320 --> 00:54:13,560
Speaker 1: of it, but it was the tail end when he

1182
00:54:13,640 --> 00:54:16,279
Speaker 1: laughed at some joke He said at my expense that

1183
00:54:16,360 --> 00:54:19,080
Speaker 1: I genuinely don't remember, and then said, how about I

1184
00:54:19,120 --> 00:54:20,840
Speaker 1: take you on a date and I can give you

1185
00:54:20,880 --> 00:54:24,319
Speaker 1: some pointers. You know I'm a good cook. I said, thanks,

1186
00:54:24,440 --> 00:54:26,640
Speaker 1: but I hadn't the time between my jobs and this

1187
00:54:26,719 --> 00:54:29,719
Speaker 1: new gig as a writer. He kept saying come on,

1188
00:54:30,320 --> 00:54:33,120
Speaker 1: and chuckling and nudging his elbow into my arm, but

1189
00:54:33,200 --> 00:54:36,520
Speaker 1: his laugh kept sounding more odd. I just looked at

1190
00:54:36,640 --> 00:54:39,840
Speaker 1: him and said, you told everyone I ruined everything. I

1191
00:54:39,840 --> 00:54:43,080
Speaker 1: wouldn't want to ruin your time. Fire. He rolled his

1192
00:54:43,160 --> 00:54:46,000
Speaker 1: eyes and said that was forever ago, in the fact

1193
00:54:46,040 --> 00:54:48,439
Speaker 1: that I hadn't gotten over it was crazy to him.

1194
00:54:48,680 --> 00:54:50,800
Speaker 1: I didn't say much else to him other than repeating

1195
00:54:50,880 --> 00:54:53,839
Speaker 1: variations of insults he said about me and how he

1196
00:54:53,920 --> 00:54:57,040
Speaker 1: clearly would want better than me. It was petty, I know,

1197
00:54:57,280 --> 00:55:01,640
Speaker 1: but I kept it going. It wasn't petty enough for me. Ope, honestly,

1198
00:55:01,760 --> 00:55:05,040
Speaker 1: you're thinking, and our friend does this too. Our friend

1199
00:55:05,080 --> 00:55:08,319
Speaker 1: goes I was mean. Meanwhile, they just like had a

1200
00:55:08,360 --> 00:55:12,239
Speaker 1: polite conversation with someone that's not being mean. Yeah, this

1201
00:55:12,280 --> 00:55:15,200
Speaker 1: is a guy who deserves to get a little venom

1202
00:55:15,280 --> 00:55:18,759
Speaker 1: spit at him because he said some horrific stuff to

1203
00:55:18,840 --> 00:55:21,000
Speaker 1: you and about you behind your back.

1204
00:55:21,160 --> 00:55:24,160
Speaker 2: Please stop giving them your time. Just keep working on

1205
00:55:24,200 --> 00:55:25,160
Speaker 2: your recipes.

1206
00:55:25,400 --> 00:55:27,640
Speaker 1: He said. Great when he said I could take you

1207
00:55:27,680 --> 00:55:30,120
Speaker 1: on a date, I wanted, more than anything into my

1208
00:55:30,200 --> 00:55:32,960
Speaker 1: life for you to say you're the last person on

1209
00:55:33,080 --> 00:55:36,319
Speaker 1: earth I would go on a date with. Yeah, never

1210
00:55:36,480 --> 00:55:39,640
Speaker 1: ask me that again. Literally facts and by the way,

1211
00:55:39,680 --> 00:55:44,120
Speaker 1: it always keeps going. On Spotify, iHeartRadio and whatever podcast

1212
00:55:44,200 --> 00:55:47,640
Speaker 1: apps you use to listen to podcasts, you can listen

1213
00:55:47,640 --> 00:55:51,200
Speaker 1: to every episode we've basically ever made in our entire lives.

1214
00:55:51,480 --> 00:55:53,759
Speaker 1: Just search the name of our show, Okay, story time,

1215
00:55:54,160 --> 00:55:58,160
Speaker 1: and then listen to him on repeat boom all day

1216
00:55:58,200 --> 00:56:01,200
Speaker 1: every day. We've got some some story left here. I

1217
00:56:01,239 --> 00:56:02,760
Speaker 1: don't know if we have any closing thoughts.

1218
00:56:03,719 --> 00:56:05,799
Speaker 2: Called it I get rid of them. I called it

1219
00:56:05,880 --> 00:56:08,279
Speaker 2: my new friends. Seems like you've got something going. Keep

1220
00:56:08,280 --> 00:56:10,200
Speaker 2: it up, Keep it up, literally, keep it up. I

1221
00:56:10,239 --> 00:56:11,240
Speaker 2: love this exactly.

1222
00:56:11,440 --> 00:56:15,200
Speaker 1: I love when people explore new things and it's getting somewhere.

1223
00:56:15,480 --> 00:56:19,600
Speaker 1: Just keep it up. You're a cookbook recipe maker, now, yeah, dude,

1224
00:56:19,640 --> 00:56:23,960
Speaker 1: just keep it up exactly. Hank got so angry at

1225
00:56:24,000 --> 00:56:26,880
Speaker 1: me and said to stop mocking him. This is the

1226
00:56:26,960 --> 00:56:29,719
Speaker 1: same guy who told her to self delete herself. By

1227
00:56:29,800 --> 00:56:31,960
Speaker 1: the way, the very same guy who told her to

1228
00:56:32,000 --> 00:56:35,440
Speaker 1: do that. I said, I wasn't that these are actually things.

1229
00:56:35,520 --> 00:56:39,640
Speaker 1: He said were his observations of me. So hy be

1230
00:56:39,840 --> 00:56:43,399
Speaker 1: with someone like that? And he agreed, but said, well

1231
00:56:43,480 --> 00:56:46,000
Speaker 1: then maybe be grateful. I think you're cute, and I

1232
00:56:46,080 --> 00:56:49,279
Speaker 1: thanked him but was sarcastic. He then said, you're being

1233
00:56:49,320 --> 00:56:53,000
Speaker 1: too sensitive. Grow up, and I just replied, I know,

1234
00:56:53,360 --> 00:56:55,680
Speaker 1: I am sensitive. Why would you want to date someone

1235
00:56:55,760 --> 00:56:59,120
Speaker 1: like that? I'm sorry, thanks for the drinks, and walked away.

1236
00:56:59,320 --> 00:57:02,080
Speaker 1: I'm getting tech once again from the group, and many

1237
00:57:02,160 --> 00:57:04,719
Speaker 1: of them are saying I broke his heart and I'm

1238
00:57:04,719 --> 00:57:07,919
Speaker 1: a bigot because he's autistic, and I clearly look down

1239
00:57:07,960 --> 00:57:12,360
Speaker 1: on him. That never where did that come from. I

1240
00:57:12,800 --> 00:57:15,640
Speaker 1: clearly we have not a lot of information about this

1241
00:57:15,680 --> 00:57:20,000
Speaker 1: guy's autism diagnosis. But I would bet every dollar to

1242
00:57:20,040 --> 00:57:23,280
Speaker 1: my name he's self diagnosed from a TikTok video. I

1243
00:57:23,840 --> 00:57:26,440
Speaker 1: That's what I would bet. I would bet he did that,

1244
00:57:26,520 --> 00:57:31,320
Speaker 1: because this guy does not sound like that at all.

1245
00:57:31,800 --> 00:57:33,400
Speaker 1: It sounds like he's like, oh, I can use this

1246
00:57:33,440 --> 00:57:35,840
Speaker 1: as an excuse to just be rude and mean to people. Yeah,

1247
00:57:35,840 --> 00:57:38,080
Speaker 1: I'll do that. I hate people who do that. This

1248
00:57:38,240 --> 00:57:40,440
Speaker 1: was news to me, so I want to reply and

1249
00:57:40,480 --> 00:57:42,960
Speaker 1: defend myself. But even still, am I the a hole

1250
00:57:43,040 --> 00:57:46,440
Speaker 1: for being petty and mocking Hank? Nope? No, you know,

1251
00:57:46,600 --> 00:57:48,440
Speaker 1: mog Hank. You just told him no, I don't want

1252
00:57:48,480 --> 00:57:49,680
Speaker 1: to go on a day with you. And you didn't

1253
00:57:49,680 --> 00:57:51,160
Speaker 1: even tell him no. You were just like, I'm just

1254
00:57:51,160 --> 00:57:54,240
Speaker 1: so busy with my jobs. Like no, you weren't even

1255
00:57:54,240 --> 00:57:57,040
Speaker 1: mean enough, and you repeated what he said to you

1256
00:57:57,160 --> 00:57:59,760
Speaker 1: and about you. So you're good. You're good. OBI don't

1257
00:57:59,800 --> 00:58:02,000
Speaker 1: don't don't give this any more of your time. You

1258
00:58:02,040 --> 00:58:04,920
Speaker 1: can't reason with the full Guys, we're gonna reason with

1259
00:58:04,920 --> 00:58:06,320
Speaker 1: the fact that we have to go right now.

1260
00:58:06,800 --> 00:58:10,200
Speaker 2: Don't worry. We have more episodes coming. Literally we're recording

1261
00:58:10,200 --> 00:58:13,200
Speaker 2: them right now, so don't you worry. And if you

1262
00:58:13,240 --> 00:58:14,880
Speaker 2: love us, make sure to subscribe.

1263
00:58:15,000 --> 00:58:17,520
Speaker 1: We love you and see you tomorrow.