1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:01,960 Speaker 1: Buckle up, hold on tight, we got it for you. 2 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:05,280 Speaker 1: Here it is. It is the Strawberry letter, subject, I 3 00:00:05,320 --> 00:00:09,880 Speaker 1: don't do black or broke, Dear Stephen Shirley. I have 4 00:00:09,960 --> 00:00:14,120 Speaker 1: a loving heart and always try to help others. That 5 00:00:14,280 --> 00:00:17,400 Speaker 1: being said, the other day, I was in the discount 6 00:00:17,480 --> 00:00:21,000 Speaker 1: store buying toiletries to make packets for the homeless. I 7 00:00:21,120 --> 00:00:23,800 Speaker 1: keep at least five packets in my car at all times, 8 00:00:23,960 --> 00:00:25,799 Speaker 1: and I give them out when I see the need. 9 00:00:26,400 --> 00:00:28,440 Speaker 1: So I was in the checkout line and there was 10 00:00:28,480 --> 00:00:31,040 Speaker 1: a couple in front of me. I overheard the lady 11 00:00:31,080 --> 00:00:33,879 Speaker 1: asked the clerk how much was tax on a seven 12 00:00:34,320 --> 00:00:38,640 Speaker 1: shirt seven dollars and nine cent shirt. The cashier told 13 00:00:38,680 --> 00:00:42,440 Speaker 1: her sixty nine cents. Both the man and woman started 14 00:00:42,479 --> 00:00:45,800 Speaker 1: looking everywhere for the change. I eased over to the 15 00:00:45,840 --> 00:00:49,080 Speaker 1: man and I tried to slip two dollars in his hand. 16 00:00:49,479 --> 00:00:53,680 Speaker 1: Sounds like a good gesture, right, Well, No, I couldn't 17 00:00:53,720 --> 00:00:56,760 Speaker 1: believe the sugar honey iced tea that happened next. The 18 00:00:56,840 --> 00:00:59,400 Speaker 1: half of that was with his The half of that 19 00:00:59,480 --> 00:01:02,200 Speaker 1: was with this man loudly accused me of pushing up 20 00:01:02,200 --> 00:01:04,480 Speaker 1: on her. Man. I told her that I was just 21 00:01:04,520 --> 00:01:07,160 Speaker 1: trying to help them out. She told me she didn't 22 00:01:07,240 --> 00:01:10,840 Speaker 1: care and that she didn't appreciate me in her man's face. 23 00:01:11,280 --> 00:01:13,720 Speaker 1: I apologized and told her that I should have given 24 00:01:13,760 --> 00:01:16,120 Speaker 1: it to her, but the man was closest to me. 25 00:01:16,640 --> 00:01:19,319 Speaker 1: The man was thanking me and apologizing, which made her 26 00:01:19,360 --> 00:01:23,360 Speaker 1: go off even more. She was so upset that she 27 00:01:23,520 --> 00:01:27,560 Speaker 1: left without buying the shirt, but kept my two dollars. Well, 28 00:01:27,600 --> 00:01:30,520 Speaker 1: I was so mad. I yelled, look, you call a 29 00:01:30,640 --> 00:01:34,839 Speaker 1: green eating insecure EBT card carry and heff a, I'm 30 00:01:34,920 --> 00:01:37,800 Speaker 1: married to a white man. I don't do black or broke. 31 00:01:38,120 --> 00:01:42,759 Speaker 1: I don't want your broke, but man, like I said, 32 00:01:43,000 --> 00:01:45,360 Speaker 1: that's what the letter said. Like I said, I have 33 00:01:45,440 --> 00:01:49,560 Speaker 1: a loving, caring heart, and I love black people. I 34 00:01:49,600 --> 00:01:52,320 Speaker 1: truly hate people with this kind of mentality. What's wrong 35 00:01:52,360 --> 00:01:55,200 Speaker 1: with our people? I know I could have handled this differently. 36 00:01:55,240 --> 00:02:00,360 Speaker 1: How should I have responded? Well, well, if you're and 37 00:02:00,440 --> 00:02:03,000 Speaker 1: I can't wait to hear yours, thank you, Steve. Well, 38 00:02:04,640 --> 00:02:07,000 Speaker 1: it just doesn't sound like you love black people. To me, 39 00:02:07,040 --> 00:02:09,040 Speaker 1: it doesn't sound like that at all. Sounds like you 40 00:02:09,080 --> 00:02:12,520 Speaker 1: hate them. And I definitely question the part about you 41 00:02:12,520 --> 00:02:15,400 Speaker 1: know all this love you have in your heart, especially 42 00:02:15,440 --> 00:02:19,160 Speaker 1: for these people you called cold green, eating insecure ebt 43 00:02:19,360 --> 00:02:23,560 Speaker 1: car carrying what you called her that. I think you 44 00:02:23,600 --> 00:02:27,400 Speaker 1: were wrong. I mean, I just don't think you slip 45 00:02:27,480 --> 00:02:30,720 Speaker 1: another woman's man money. It's just not a good look. 46 00:02:30,880 --> 00:02:35,200 Speaker 1: Good intentions or not. Uh, it just wasn't a good look. 47 00:02:35,320 --> 00:02:37,760 Speaker 1: Any other woman would have been upset with you too, 48 00:02:37,840 --> 00:02:42,120 Speaker 1: because when she looks over and sees you slipping some 49 00:02:42,160 --> 00:02:44,160 Speaker 1: money in her hand, what is she supposed to think? 50 00:02:44,760 --> 00:02:47,160 Speaker 1: Like what she thought? You're pushing up on her man? 51 00:02:47,720 --> 00:02:49,919 Speaker 1: And you know you threw it out there like that 52 00:02:50,000 --> 00:02:54,560 Speaker 1: because you're married to a white man. I mean, you 53 00:02:54,680 --> 00:02:57,440 Speaker 1: just won't convince me that that you like black people 54 00:02:57,480 --> 00:03:00,280 Speaker 1: with this attitude. I mean, how should you have fond? 55 00:03:00,320 --> 00:03:02,720 Speaker 1: Did you ask? If you really wanted to help, you 56 00:03:02,760 --> 00:03:05,280 Speaker 1: could have offered to give the two of them the 57 00:03:05,320 --> 00:03:08,280 Speaker 1: two dollars. I've seen that happen many times in the 58 00:03:08,320 --> 00:03:11,680 Speaker 1: grocery store. If people come up short, the person behind 59 00:03:11,760 --> 00:03:13,760 Speaker 1: them might say, Oh, don't worry about it, I got it, 60 00:03:13,880 --> 00:03:16,160 Speaker 1: or I'll pay for it. Or you could have simply 61 00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:18,320 Speaker 1: given it to the cashier. You could have said you 62 00:03:18,360 --> 00:03:19,960 Speaker 1: were gonna give it to her, or given it to 63 00:03:20,000 --> 00:03:22,760 Speaker 1: her discreetly. I just don't think you would have reacted. 64 00:03:23,320 --> 00:03:25,639 Speaker 1: I think you would have reacted the same way if 65 00:03:25,680 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 1: someone tried to do that to you. And you're a 66 00:03:27,600 --> 00:03:32,760 Speaker 1: white man that you so proudly speak up, Steve, there's 67 00:03:32,800 --> 00:03:36,720 Speaker 1: my answer. Well pretty good, surely. Oh here's the deal. 68 00:03:37,000 --> 00:03:42,360 Speaker 1: This is lettuce, kind of crazy a little bit. She 69 00:03:42,440 --> 00:03:44,920 Speaker 1: opens a letter by saying, I have a loving heart 70 00:03:45,960 --> 00:03:48,480 Speaker 1: and always try to help people. Didn't she start telling 71 00:03:48,520 --> 00:03:51,560 Speaker 1: you what type of loving heart she has, and she 72 00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:55,960 Speaker 1: has a loving heart for the homeless. Keep five packets 73 00:03:56,000 --> 00:04:00,040 Speaker 1: in a car just in case somebody. So she in 74 00:04:00,120 --> 00:04:03,920 Speaker 1: the checkout line. Now, this is her loving heart, her 75 00:04:03,960 --> 00:04:07,560 Speaker 1: loving hearts for homeless people, and should keep five packs 76 00:04:08,120 --> 00:04:11,360 Speaker 1: She in the checkout line, lady behind a shirt. They 77 00:04:11,400 --> 00:04:15,080 Speaker 1: asked how much is taxes? They don't have the money. 78 00:04:15,160 --> 00:04:18,120 Speaker 1: So you see some people in need and you try 79 00:04:18,160 --> 00:04:23,000 Speaker 1: to help. You slip the guy two dollars. She see 80 00:04:23,040 --> 00:04:25,799 Speaker 1: it and go off. Now you were wrong for sliding 81 00:04:25,839 --> 00:04:32,080 Speaker 1: this man the money. You know that, Okay, But and 82 00:04:32,200 --> 00:04:35,120 Speaker 1: you think it was a good gesture. I understand technically 83 00:04:35,160 --> 00:04:38,360 Speaker 1: what you're doing is right. How you went about it 84 00:04:38,560 --> 00:04:44,200 Speaker 1: was wrong, Okay. Well, you couldn't believe the sugar honey 85 00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:47,800 Speaker 1: iced t to have next. Now, I was reading this 86 00:04:47,960 --> 00:04:51,719 Speaker 1: letter and I was thinking, when the subject says I 87 00:04:51,800 --> 00:04:54,520 Speaker 1: don't do black or broke, I thought you were white. 88 00:04:55,920 --> 00:05:00,560 Speaker 1: But I was wrong. Sugar honey, iced tea is a 89 00:05:00,600 --> 00:05:05,880 Speaker 1: black statement. The health funk that was with the man, 90 00:05:06,760 --> 00:05:10,880 Speaker 1: that's another black statement. So now I know you black. 91 00:05:11,680 --> 00:05:15,760 Speaker 1: Accuse me of pushing up on her man. I told 92 00:05:15,800 --> 00:05:19,200 Speaker 1: her you just trying to help him out. She said 93 00:05:19,279 --> 00:05:21,600 Speaker 1: she don't care and she didn't appreciate you in your 94 00:05:21,600 --> 00:05:25,480 Speaker 1: man's face, her man's face. I apologize and told her, 95 00:05:25,600 --> 00:05:29,520 Speaker 1: now you so far, you're doing the right thing. You apologize. 96 00:05:29,560 --> 00:05:32,039 Speaker 1: I can understand you're calling her health. I got that 97 00:05:33,720 --> 00:05:36,360 Speaker 1: you apologize to and you told her you probably should 98 00:05:36,360 --> 00:05:38,960 Speaker 1: have given it to her. But the man was closest 99 00:05:38,960 --> 00:05:42,440 Speaker 1: to you. And then the man he thinks, thinking sorry 100 00:05:42,440 --> 00:05:44,599 Speaker 1: about this, and the side is going out, which made 101 00:05:44,640 --> 00:05:48,560 Speaker 1: him moment. Now without buying the shirt, she kept your 102 00:05:48,600 --> 00:05:57,920 Speaker 1: two dollars. Now here comes the loving heart. Look you 103 00:05:58,080 --> 00:06:03,080 Speaker 1: call it green eating insecure e B T card can 104 00:06:03,279 --> 00:06:08,559 Speaker 1: helper m HM. Now let me ask you something, because 105 00:06:08,600 --> 00:06:14,359 Speaker 1: now I know you black. What made you assume that 106 00:06:14,520 --> 00:06:20,160 Speaker 1: she loved? Call it greens and what made you assume 107 00:06:21,760 --> 00:06:25,640 Speaker 1: she was has an e b T card. You just 108 00:06:25,720 --> 00:06:33,240 Speaker 1: assume that with your loving heart. Then you said, I'm 109 00:06:33,279 --> 00:06:36,040 Speaker 1: married to a white man and I don't do black 110 00:06:36,240 --> 00:06:40,119 Speaker 1: or broke. Like I said, I have a loving heart 111 00:06:40,200 --> 00:06:44,880 Speaker 1: and I love black people. Oh so the black people 112 00:06:44,920 --> 00:06:48,679 Speaker 1: that you love you assume have call it green eating 113 00:06:48,720 --> 00:06:53,640 Speaker 1: tendencies and they carry EBT cars. Now you love black people, 114 00:06:53,720 --> 00:06:59,279 Speaker 1: but not enough to marry one. See, And that's what 115 00:06:59,600 --> 00:07:02,400 Speaker 1: And I'm telling you what you said. It ain't nothing 116 00:07:02,440 --> 00:07:05,320 Speaker 1: wrong with Mary who you want to but you can't 117 00:07:05,440 --> 00:07:09,440 Speaker 1: tell me I don't do black, I'm married to a 118 00:07:09,480 --> 00:07:16,440 Speaker 1: white man. I don't do broke. That's reverse racism and 119 00:07:16,520 --> 00:07:20,880 Speaker 1: you just used it. And it's people like you while 120 00:07:20,880 --> 00:07:24,680 Speaker 1: we're in the shape wind today. It's really simple. This 121 00:07:24,720 --> 00:07:28,640 Speaker 1: woman says she has loving heart. She helps the homeless. 122 00:07:28,680 --> 00:07:30,679 Speaker 1: She met a couple in the store buying a shirt. 123 00:07:30,720 --> 00:07:33,000 Speaker 1: They didn't have enough money. She slipped two dollars in 124 00:07:33,080 --> 00:07:35,840 Speaker 1: the man's hand. The woman went off cause you're won't 125 00:07:35,880 --> 00:07:38,240 Speaker 1: be giving my man and get out his face. You 126 00:07:38,320 --> 00:07:42,160 Speaker 1: apologize you're doing all right. Uh. Then you told her 127 00:07:42,160 --> 00:07:45,720 Speaker 1: you should have given it to her, And then you said, 128 00:07:45,840 --> 00:07:49,080 Speaker 1: I love black people. She kept two dollars and walked 129 00:07:49,080 --> 00:07:51,720 Speaker 1: out the store. This is where your love for black 130 00:07:51,760 --> 00:07:56,320 Speaker 1: people turned. She walked out the door. You mad, so mad? 131 00:07:56,480 --> 00:08:02,840 Speaker 1: You told her you college, green eating, insecure e b 132 00:08:03,200 --> 00:08:08,480 Speaker 1: T card carrying helper. I'm married to a white man. 133 00:08:09,040 --> 00:08:12,600 Speaker 1: I don't do black or broke. I don't want your 134 00:08:12,720 --> 00:08:17,600 Speaker 1: broke ass man. Now, you just handed the man two dollars. 135 00:08:18,400 --> 00:08:21,640 Speaker 1: Then you tell a lady, I don't want your broke 136 00:08:21,720 --> 00:08:26,080 Speaker 1: ass man. You can't kind of give them. Yeah, you're 137 00:08:26,080 --> 00:08:29,640 Speaker 1: a funny giver and you're married to a white man. 138 00:08:29,800 --> 00:08:36,120 Speaker 1: You don't do black or broke. Wow M, that's an 139 00:08:36,120 --> 00:08:39,200 Speaker 1: interesting statement. I really don't have nothing for you, lady, 140 00:08:39,240 --> 00:08:43,000 Speaker 1: except to just go. You love black people, but not 141 00:08:43,280 --> 00:08:47,240 Speaker 1: enough to marry one. So your blood for black people 142 00:08:47,360 --> 00:08:51,480 Speaker 1: is limited because it's been prejudiced by your thoughts that 143 00:08:51,520 --> 00:08:55,880 Speaker 1: black people are insecure. Call it green eaton and EBT 144 00:08:56,600 --> 00:09:00,640 Speaker 1: carried card carrying people. Now you can say like I said, 145 00:09:00,800 --> 00:09:03,440 Speaker 1: I have a loving heart and I love black people. 146 00:09:03,800 --> 00:09:08,000 Speaker 1: I truly hate people with this kind of mentality. What's 147 00:09:08,000 --> 00:09:10,960 Speaker 1: wrong with our people? Well, the same thing that's wrong 148 00:09:11,040 --> 00:09:14,800 Speaker 1: with you, because you one of us see you black, 149 00:09:15,720 --> 00:09:18,960 Speaker 1: but you hate people with that mentality, you know, the 150 00:09:19,040 --> 00:09:22,640 Speaker 1: mentality we hate. We hate people who don't love us 151 00:09:22,760 --> 00:09:26,640 Speaker 1: enough to want to be with us. We have people 152 00:09:26,679 --> 00:09:29,839 Speaker 1: in our race like you who look down on others 153 00:09:29,880 --> 00:09:33,120 Speaker 1: because they don't fell on some hard times. So now 154 00:09:33,160 --> 00:09:36,599 Speaker 1: since you think they call it greendy need b T 155 00:09:36,840 --> 00:09:39,400 Speaker 1: care and card people, you don't even want to marry 156 00:09:39,440 --> 00:09:42,600 Speaker 1: one of them. So now, congratulations, you have a white man. 157 00:09:42,679 --> 00:09:46,520 Speaker 1: Ain't nothing wrong with that, do you, sister? But don't 158 00:09:46,600 --> 00:09:52,560 Speaker 1: tell or huh, you don't do black or broke? M you? What? 159 00:09:52,559 --> 00:09:56,920 Speaker 1: What do you mean? You don't do black? That be like? 160 00:09:57,520 --> 00:10:00,400 Speaker 1: For example, let me give you this example, lady. Let's 161 00:10:00,400 --> 00:10:03,400 Speaker 1: say I helped the homeless and I got my little 162 00:10:03,440 --> 00:10:07,040 Speaker 1: fire bags in the car like you. But I'm driving 163 00:10:07,040 --> 00:10:11,320 Speaker 1: along and I see some homeless people. But I decided 164 00:10:11,360 --> 00:10:15,600 Speaker 1: that I don't do white m So now I don't 165 00:10:15,600 --> 00:10:19,920 Speaker 1: help the white people out skipt their homeless. These bags 166 00:10:20,000 --> 00:10:23,400 Speaker 1: is just for black people. See that's what you're saying. 167 00:10:25,200 --> 00:10:31,680 Speaker 1: I don't do black or broke like those two go together? Right. Well, 168 00:10:31,800 --> 00:10:34,559 Speaker 1: I want to say something to you. All of us 169 00:10:34,600 --> 00:10:38,679 Speaker 1: on this show happened to be black. Ain't now one 170 00:10:38,720 --> 00:10:46,480 Speaker 1: of us broke not now one of them. But she 171 00:10:46,600 --> 00:10:54,920 Speaker 1: don't do it because we're black. Lady, you're sad. You're 172 00:10:55,000 --> 00:10:59,920 Speaker 1: sad the way you help man. Yeah, but you're not 173 00:11:00,000 --> 00:11:05,040 Speaker 1: going to change because you have this. You have a 174 00:11:05,080 --> 00:11:09,600 Speaker 1: self hatred about yourself that's carried over into the rest 175 00:11:09,640 --> 00:11:12,280 Speaker 1: of the black people. So that's why you figure if 176 00:11:12,280 --> 00:11:14,360 Speaker 1: you go get a white man, that'll fix it for you. 177 00:11:14,360 --> 00:11:16,600 Speaker 1: You steal the black lady in your stuff, and she's 178 00:11:16,679 --> 00:11:22,000 Speaker 1: better than Yeah. White people carry EBT cards too, and 179 00:11:22,040 --> 00:11:30,719 Speaker 1: they could be insecure. They like Coller Greens. Yeah, you 180 00:11:30,880 --> 00:11:38,960 Speaker 1: races on so many levels. I'm talking about John this kind. 181 00:11:40,880 --> 00:11:50,720 Speaker 1: It's like my grandmother says, you think white ice cold. Huh, Yeah, 182 00:11:50,800 --> 00:11:57,679 Speaker 1: you're right. It's just it's sad when people are that way. Man. Yeah, 183 00:11:57,760 --> 00:12:01,240 Speaker 1: it is. And she thinks it's okay. She sees nothing 184 00:12:01,240 --> 00:12:04,320 Speaker 1: wrong with it. Surely I thought it was okay, good 185 00:12:04,440 --> 00:12:08,160 Speaker 1: enough to write a letter like we would agree with her. 186 00:12:08,320 --> 00:12:10,800 Speaker 1: I hate people like that. How should I have handled it? 187 00:12:11,840 --> 00:12:15,760 Speaker 1: You're handled wrong? First of all, Yeah, you're handled it wrong. 188 00:12:16,120 --> 00:12:18,400 Speaker 1: Shouldn't have told us you don't do black people because 189 00:12:19,080 --> 00:12:22,600 Speaker 1: I do? And she tried to sugarcoat it by saying 190 00:12:22,640 --> 00:12:26,600 Speaker 1: she helps the homeless. Right, but I do black people 191 00:12:26,800 --> 00:12:31,320 Speaker 1: all day long, all day and white people to do 192 00:12:31,360 --> 00:12:38,800 Speaker 1: white people to thank you very much. Yes, I don't 193 00:12:38,840 --> 00:12:44,200 Speaker 1: mind doing white people. Think it was waiting and I wait, 194 00:12:46,640 --> 00:12:48,960 Speaker 1: some of your best friends of white some of my 195 00:12:49,080 --> 00:12:52,640 Speaker 1: best friends. And let me tell you, I take this 196 00:12:52,800 --> 00:12:56,920 Speaker 1: black money I get and I hang out with white. 197 00:12:59,200 --> 00:13:01,560 Speaker 1: But she's trying to make it like the lady. Something's 198 00:13:01,559 --> 00:13:04,280 Speaker 1: wrong with the other lady for going in. You're slipping 199 00:13:04,320 --> 00:13:09,040 Speaker 1: her man some money and went up. I'm sorry, walk 200 00:13:09,120 --> 00:13:12,400 Speaker 1: away from it. Right. It's not a good look. You're 201 00:13:12,440 --> 00:13:15,760 Speaker 1: a strange woman slipping her man some money. Anybody would 202 00:13:15,760 --> 00:13:18,120 Speaker 1: have reacted, any woman would have reacted like that. One 203 00:13:18,200 --> 00:13:20,240 Speaker 1: to be the reason she don't do black or broke 204 00:13:20,240 --> 00:13:25,320 Speaker 1: because she may used to be black and broke. She 205 00:13:25,520 --> 00:13:27,719 Speaker 1: thinks she's better now that she has a white man, 206 00:13:28,520 --> 00:13:35,400 Speaker 1: and that's a reflection. Yeah, yeah, that sounds like, hey, y'all, 207 00:13:35,440 --> 00:13:39,840 Speaker 1: I know my um, I know, I know my casino. 208 00:13:39,960 --> 00:13:43,720 Speaker 1: Now y'all, I'm just telling you, really, what do you 209 00:13:43,760 --> 00:13:45,839 Speaker 1: what do you mean? From when you were doing the prank, 210 00:13:46,800 --> 00:13:50,440 Speaker 1: I was gonna being to Shelly, don't help you. What 211 00:13:50,520 --> 00:13:54,280 Speaker 1: I'm telling y'all gonna be in this segway ain't good. 212 00:13:54,360 --> 00:13:59,200 Speaker 1: Let him go ahead. Remember, I'm telling y'all, I'm gonna 213 00:13:59,240 --> 00:14:05,360 Speaker 1: be wa way back when about thirty forty five minutes 214 00:14:05,360 --> 00:14:08,200 Speaker 1: ago you've been meeting for talking about that when on 215 00:14:08,240 --> 00:14:11,599 Speaker 1: the Strawberry Ladder, Well, I thought we would do with it, 216 00:14:11,920 --> 00:14:24,800 Speaker 1: So I like, okay, I wall really alright. Listen, guys, 217 00:14:24,880 --> 00:14:27,640 Speaker 1: we gotta get out of here. You can email us 218 00:14:27,760 --> 00:14:34,400 Speaker 1: or Instagram. That's your thoughts what I had on when 219 00:14:34,440 --> 00:14:37,320 Speaker 1: I tell you that on Today's Strawberry Letter. At Steve 220 00:14:37,320 --> 00:14:41,120 Speaker 1: Harvey FM. You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show