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Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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Speaker 1: Today's tip is to introduce a request slowly to increase

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Speaker 1: your likelihood of getting to yes. When the immediate answer

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Speaker 1: to your request would be no. Slow things down so

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Speaker 1: the other person can't get used to the idea. Then

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Speaker 1: when the time is right, you might get the answer

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Speaker 1: you're looking for. Anyone who has been on the receiving

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Speaker 1: end of a big fundraising request knows that you are

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Speaker 1: not going to get asked by email directly for a

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Speaker 1: big amount. Instead, there is an email about setting up

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Speaker 1: a phone call. The phone call is about inviting you

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Speaker 1: to an event the organization is hosting. There, you'll get

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Speaker 1: to meet a few people who might follow up for

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Speaker 1: lunch later, and well, you see where this is going.

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Speaker 1: By slowing down the process, the fundraiser is increasing the

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Speaker 1: chances that you will see how wonderful the organization is

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Speaker 1: you will want to support it. You are working to yes.

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Speaker 1: What works for fundraising often works in the rest of

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Speaker 1: life too. Let's picture a couple where one party wants

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Speaker 1: a dog and the other does not. Simply asking is

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Speaker 1: going to result in a no, but slow acclamation could

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Speaker 1: be a different matter. Perhaps Party A suggests taking the

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Speaker 1: neighbor's dog for a walk on some sunny afternoon. Then

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Speaker 1: when that goes reasonably, party A suggests dog sitting for

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Speaker 1: the weekend while the neighbor is out of town. Then

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Speaker 1: a second time a few months later. Somehow you've become

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Speaker 1: the sorts of people who frequently have a dog in

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Speaker 1: the house. Then once that's all happened, party A might

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Speaker 1: ask party B to simply think about it for a

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Speaker 1: week before giving an answer. Now, these baby steps might

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Speaker 1: still not work, but the slow groundwork has increased the chances.

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Speaker 1: The same approach might work with let's say remote work.

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Speaker 1: Perhaps your workplace has brought everyone back to the office

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Speaker 1: full time, but you'd like to return to remote work.

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Speaker 1: Instead of asking for that flat out and getting a

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Speaker 1: knee jerk no from your boss or HR, you might

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Speaker 1: lay the groundwork, talk about how productive you were during

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Speaker 1: the pandemic and show documentation of that at your review.

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Speaker 1: Then you asked to work from home on a day

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Speaker 1: when you are expecting an appliance delivery. On that day,

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Speaker 1: you accomplish a lot of high profile work. Maybe a

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Speaker 1: week later you bring up working remotely one day a

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Speaker 1: week for a two month trial period. Your boss doesn't

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Speaker 1: have to answer for forever. Right now, she is just

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Speaker 1: agreeing to a conversation in two months about it. When

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Speaker 1: no disaster and sue, you can ask for more in

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Speaker 1: two months. Slowly you make your way to yes. Now.

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Speaker 1: It is true that with some requests you may not

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Speaker 1: be able to accrue lots of little yesses before you

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Speaker 1: ask the big question, But even then it can be

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Speaker 1: wise to delay the response to your request. For instance,

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Speaker 1: maybe you want to share an out of the box

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Speaker 1: idea with your boss. Instead of bringing it up and

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Speaker 1: getting a no right away, ask if you can just

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Speaker 1: share an idea with the promise that she will think

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Speaker 1: about it for a few days. Who is going to

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Speaker 1: say no to a request just to listen? After you

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Speaker 1: set up the meeting for five days from now, then

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Speaker 1: you share your idea. After a few days, what initially

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Speaker 1: seemed crazy might start to sound intriguing. So when you

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Speaker 1: have a proposal a request that you think someone's knee

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Speaker 1: jerk response would be to decline, try slowing down the process.

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Speaker 1: You can gradually build support and momentum. What would have

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Speaker 1: been a no may turn in time. Two. Yes. In

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Speaker 1: the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening and here's

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Speaker 1: to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd

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