Speaker 1: What's up.
Speaker 2: It's lip service. I'm angela ye, and it's time for
Speaker 2: our part too. Now. Last week Chris giku Perry was
Speaker 2: on the show. He's a relationship poach, relationship expert, and
Speaker 2: we had a lot of questions for him, and he
Speaker 2: had questions for us too, But it was all women.
Speaker 3: It was me, it was Gigi, it was Laura Morra
Speaker 3: and Stephanie Santiago. Well, this week we have.
Speaker 2: All men answering those very same questions. I want to
Speaker 2: see how different we all are. Okay, so we have
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Speaker 2: All right, So here is part two of our interview
Speaker 2: with Chris Perry.
Speaker 4: Different.
Speaker 3: Do you believe in astrology?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 5: What's your sign?
Speaker 4: I'm a Leo Leo.
Speaker 3: I like Leo's I don't know.
Speaker 5: I do know much about that.
Speaker 3: I don't have the only sign.
Speaker 2: I really don't like women as scorpios but so what
Speaker 2: do you think about that? Because I don't think I've
Speaker 2: ever heard you speak on that. But do you think
Speaker 2: there's some truth to astrology and like this sign compatible
Speaker 2: with this moon rising and all that stuff?
Speaker 4: I do to an extent because I do feel like
Speaker 4: I have LEO qualities, but I don't really get into
Speaker 4: that too much.
Speaker 2: Okay, Now, I was just wondering because people always talk
Speaker 2: about signs and this person and yeah, so.
Speaker 4: No, like if I see a sign that's like not
Speaker 4: compatible with my son, I'm not talking to her.
Speaker 3: No, you would not do that.
Speaker 4: Oh that's crazy to me. I feel like you connect
Speaker 4: with who you connect with.
Speaker 3: Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 4: Same you know you're gonna learn all those things through prayer.
Speaker 4: I'm very close to God, so I feel like, you know,
Speaker 4: when you get that close connection and you pray, you're
Speaker 4: gonna get the answers that you need.
Speaker 2: Listen, I know you have a lung job, but I
Speaker 2: want to ask you a couple more quick questions.
Speaker 3: Let's get it all right.
Speaker 2: Do you think you need to tell your partner everything?
Speaker 2: Because people always say in a relationship there's no secrets,
Speaker 2: But is there ever a time when you're like, you
Speaker 2: know what it might be better if I don't even
Speaker 2: mention this.
Speaker 3: I'll bring it up.
Speaker 4: Now we're saying like small things.
Speaker 2: I mean like, for instance, let's just say like I
Speaker 2: eat you in the fridge last night to say this, right,
Speaker 2: what happens, Let's just say what happened before you Let's
Speaker 2: just say you, guys, maybe you don't want to disclose
Speaker 2: certain things from your past and you're not ready to
Speaker 2: do that. Do you think that's important to be able
Speaker 2: to share you know certain things from your past or
Speaker 2: can you still thrive without giving all of that information?
Speaker 4: Anything that start will come to the light. So anything
Speaker 4: in your past is gonna come, and you want to
Speaker 4: make sure your partner's prepare for that, especially if you
Speaker 4: can spotlight. You want to make sure your partner knows
Speaker 4: everything about you before somebody else says it and then
Speaker 4: you look crazy. I think it's communication is important and
Speaker 4: somebody knowing every aspect of you. And that's why I'm
Speaker 4: referring back to what you said about or what you
Speaker 4: talked about about jumping into relationship quick, make sure you
Speaker 4: know everything of everything. You want to know everything about
Speaker 4: your partner before you jump into that that marriage. How
Speaker 4: do you act when you're mad? What type of person
Speaker 4: are you?
Speaker 6: Not?
Speaker 4: The only people I feel like shouldn't know all of
Speaker 4: this stuff. And I think that where people make mistakes
Speaker 4: is when they tell their mom or their dad because
Speaker 4: your you forgive your partner, but your mom and your
Speaker 4: dad might not your friends and your friends too.
Speaker 2: But what if, like you had some wild days and
Speaker 2: those away behind you. Because I do feel like sometimes
Speaker 2: people don't want to know those things.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's what I was going to say. I don't agree.
Speaker 5: I don't think you should say everything. Just pick the
Speaker 5: things that are important. You know, sometimes things into you know.
Speaker 7: I was about some things that happened in my past
Speaker 7: with the previous previous relationship.
Speaker 3: He hung it over y'all know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 3: He hung it over my head for years.
Speaker 4: Clearly he was No, he should have never did that.
Speaker 4: It's not him that he should have never did that. No,
Speaker 4: but no, lie, now you're never going to be able
Speaker 4: to communicate everything with him because you're going to be
Speaker 4: scared that he's going to.
Speaker 3: Well, I have a story. I made that relationship. I May.
Speaker 5: I met this guy and we were having a great time.
Speaker 5: We were perfect, We loved each other like the minute
Speaker 5: we saw each other, and then we start to talking
Speaker 5: about things we weren't supposed to be talking about.
Speaker 3: And you want to know what happened.
Speaker 5: We were up arguing till seven am. And this is
Speaker 5: like a really great person and we were up arguing,
Speaker 5: having a whole like lecture debate. It was insane seven
Speaker 5: in the morning when we started about nine pm till
Speaker 5: seven am.
Speaker 3: So it was perfect until it wasn't. I'm just saying
Speaker 3: all of us.
Speaker 4: In the chicken going around the house fight.
Speaker 3: Over shared.
Speaker 5: We started talking about our past. What we did was
Speaker 5: we went we went.
Speaker 3: Named or name, and then you try to wine up
Speaker 3: each other.
Speaker 5: He got he got a couple, He got a couple.
Speaker 5: You know, he got sensitive about a name on a
Speaker 5: throughout there. He got sensitive about it. And it's like,
Speaker 5: after the whole thing, after the whole thing, I know
Speaker 5: we would have never had that argument. I just avoided
Speaker 5: that whole time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, certain things I do feel like guys in particular
Speaker 2: don't want to know.
Speaker 3: Certain things have been Remember.
Speaker 2: This guy, I know, I he started dating one of
Speaker 2: my friends and he knew a couple of things about
Speaker 2: her and he knew she did it like a big celebrity,
Speaker 2: and he told me specifically, please don't tell her.
Speaker 3: I know that because he didn't even want her to
Speaker 3: know that he.
Speaker 4: Was dating you.
Speaker 2: No, it wasn't out in the public like that. It
Speaker 2: was you know, she wasn't famous, so it wasn't like
Speaker 2: the general public would know. But he, you know, he
Speaker 2: knew because he was one of my friends, and so
Speaker 2: it was something that was discussed.
Speaker 3: But he was like, I don't even.
Speaker 2: Want Like he did not want to know nothing that
Speaker 2: happened before him and they ended up getting married and
Speaker 2: everything his own.
Speaker 4: But I think, honest, you don't want to get yourself
Speaker 4: caught up. Some people don't react like that. Some people
Speaker 4: find things out and then they completely I don't trust.
Speaker 3: You, nobody I want.
Speaker 5: That's why you want to communicate everything that's beautiful. G
Speaker 5: I just feel like I don't know what I guess
Speaker 5: the right man for me is going to have.
Speaker 4: A experience and was fighting in the crib.
Speaker 5: That's really growing a good thing, so fucked up a
Speaker 5: good thing because.
Speaker 3: Some people can't get out their head.
Speaker 2: You got to know like who you could tell stuff to, Okay,
Speaker 2: And the last thing I want to ask is sometimes
Speaker 2: men feel like if they're not financially in a place
Speaker 2: where they want to be, they just shouldn't even bother dating.
Speaker 3: What do you think about that? Right if?
Speaker 2: Right now, like he's down and he's saying shit went left,
Speaker 2: he's living with his mom, he doesn't have a job
Speaker 2: right now, financially not secure, he can't even afford to
Speaker 2: take you like certain places. What do you think about
Speaker 2: men who feel like, right now, I'm not in a
Speaker 2: space where I can even ask this woman on a
Speaker 2: date because I just ain't got it like that.
Speaker 4: Well, he just communicated with you how he his situation,
Speaker 4: in his position, So you got to respect that he's
Speaker 4: not ready to date. He can't give you what you need.
Speaker 4: You know that now you have to, as a woman,
Speaker 4: have to decide I can't get what I need from you.
Speaker 4: You just told me that I have to go this
Speaker 4: way now. But the thing is women see that and
Speaker 4: they just want to They want to try to break
Speaker 4: that barrier and try to help that man. People. Women
Speaker 4: often want to help men get out of their situation.
Speaker 3: I have to agree.
Speaker 5: When a guy tells me he's not financially ready to date,
Speaker 5: I'm like, thank you for letting me know.
Speaker 3: I appreciate it.
Speaker 2: Right, thanks honesty by I got to ar until seven
Speaker 2: am about shit.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 4: But if he's communicating with you where he's at in
Speaker 4: his life and that he's not ready for a relationship,
Speaker 4: you gotta respect that. And especially a man that's not
Speaker 4: financially stable, it's very hard for him to give you
Speaker 4: what he wants, what you want, because he's not in
Speaker 4: the position to even give himself what he wants.
Speaker 2: Do you think that men should not date until they're
Speaker 2: financially stable because men sometimes think that, Like if a
Speaker 2: guy was like, Yo, I want to ask this girl out,
Speaker 2: but you know, I don't really.
Speaker 4: I mean, if you're sixteen, that's different. But if you're
Speaker 4: I think it's very important to be financially stable before
Speaker 4: you before you jump into a relationship. I think so too,
Speaker 4: because you're never going to be truly satisfied and give
Speaker 4: a woman what she needs until you're able to follow
Speaker 4: those three things that I always talk about, which is protect,
Speaker 4: to provide, and lead as a man. That's important and
Speaker 4: we got to hold ourselves accountable for those three things.
Speaker 4: And I think financially, as I talk about in all
Speaker 4: of my videos, that's very important. You know what I mean,
Speaker 4: you can't.
Speaker 5: I don't understand how a person could be horny when
Speaker 5: they're broke.
Speaker 3: It just doesn't mean regardless outside jerking off.
Speaker 5: Okay, when I'm fucked up, hobo sexual.
Speaker 3: Hobox, you're gonna dig you down.
Speaker 5: For a good morning going. I don't got no money.
Speaker 4: Have you ever been with a man it was a
Speaker 4: relationship going on.
Speaker 5: I got my bank account is looking nice.
Speaker 4: Have you ever been with a man and he lost
Speaker 4: his job or something? And then you just see the
Speaker 4: transition he stops doing the things that he was doing.
Speaker 2: I was, and I always So it's so funny because
Speaker 2: I had this conversation yesterday about you know, people will
Speaker 2: say that like, oh, women are materialistic, they only want
Speaker 2: a man, But I feel like it's more that when
Speaker 2: a man is down, he doesn't feel good about himself, right,
Speaker 2: And so I remember one time I was dating a
Speaker 2: guy he lost his job, and it was super early
Speaker 2: on in the relationship.
Speaker 3: His whole attitude change.
Speaker 2: He was not a nice person after that, like he
Speaker 2: was so unhappy with himself, saying he was just really
Speaker 2: negative and pessimistic. And it was too early on for
Speaker 2: me to be right or die. And I know the
Speaker 2: same exact thing.
Speaker 5: I was with a guy who lost his job and
Speaker 5: he started acting just like that, really pessimistic, really mean.
Speaker 5: Even it was like he was like fust you know.
Speaker 5: So I tried to want to be like I didn't
Speaker 5: want to leave him because he lost his job. You
Speaker 5: didn't want to leave him, right, like right right? It
Speaker 5: was an early stay.
Speaker 3: It was early.
Speaker 2: But if I was with you and we've been together
Speaker 2: and then unfortunate happened and I got to like, step up,
Speaker 2: I'm good, Like.
Speaker 5: I didn't want to leave him because he lost his job,
Speaker 5: but he became really a person.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And that's what I think.
Speaker 2: It is the more of the dynamic of how a
Speaker 2: man feels about himself. And that's for women too, Like
Speaker 2: we don't feel good when we'm saying yeah, like when.
Speaker 5: I got when I don't want when I'm eating McDonald's
Speaker 5: and I'm calling as to let me some money, I'm
Speaker 5: not feeling like I want him get fucked. I don't
Speaker 5: want to have suck, I don't want to date. I
Speaker 5: don't want to talk to any of these men. I
Speaker 5: want to get my life together, Like no, no, no, no,
Speaker 5: I don't understand. So I just like if a man
Speaker 5: tells me. If a man tells me, listen, I'm not
Speaker 5: my money's on right right now. But stuff, I'm gonna
Speaker 5: come after you when I when it is, I respect that,
Speaker 5: like thanks, it's a compliment you see you later appreciated
Speaker 5: because don't bring problems to me. I already have enough problems.
Speaker 7: I don't.
Speaker 5: I don't have to sign for everybody's problems, right, And.
Speaker 4: We're in a new era where women are entrepreneurs and
Speaker 4: women are making things happen, and men have to adapt
Speaker 4: to that. If some women aren't ready to be in
Speaker 4: a relationship until they are financially where they want to be,
Speaker 4: until they have their goals, so maybe some women are like,
Speaker 4: I want to stay single till I'm happy where I
Speaker 4: am and I'm open for a relationship and I don't
Speaker 4: want to deal with no man that's not going to
Speaker 4: respect that or help me grow or be a better person.
Speaker 4: It's just it's it's a balance, and it's really just
Speaker 4: like it's a daily balance because you're going to go
Speaker 4: through struggles every day. Relationships are super hard, and anybody
Speaker 4: that makes you think that it's a smooth ride doesn't
Speaker 4: understand what it needs to be a question reship.
Speaker 5: One last question, right, So what if as a woman
Speaker 5: I tend to make men feel intimidated? And you probably
Speaker 5: go through this and all of us like, have you
Speaker 5: ever felt like a guy dated too and he gets
Speaker 5: to know you and he realizes your lifestyle or realizes
Speaker 5: your situation, how you move or whatever, and then he
Speaker 5: gets intimidated.
Speaker 3: I've had that, heaven.
Speaker 5: Well, and maybe I'm dating.
Speaker 4: Too a lot.
Speaker 7: I've definitely been around someone who didn't realize the level
Speaker 7: of comfortability that I had in life at the time,
Speaker 7: and once they did, they were just like, oh okay.
Speaker 6: I feel like.
Speaker 7: They felt like they couldn't they weren't where I was at,
Speaker 7: and they felt like you got more than I was.
Speaker 5: Actually dating a guy a couple of years ago really
Speaker 5: liked and I never talk about this guy, but I
Speaker 5: really liked him. I respect him as a man and
Speaker 5: as a friend. But he then told me straight to
Speaker 5: my face, like I can't afford the way you live.
Speaker 5: I can't afford your lifestyle, Like you drive a band,
Speaker 5: you live in the house by yourself, and you are
Speaker 5: always shopping and you're always doing this. I can't afford you.
Speaker 5: Like I want to be around that's not what I'm
Speaker 5: doing exactly. Like even that the way you travel, I
Speaker 5: don't know.
Speaker 3: I never had a guy tell me that straight to
Speaker 3: my face. And I feel like I'm really good at
Speaker 3: not making you feel like me too.
Speaker 5: I feel the same way like I'm not trying to
Speaker 5: make I never felt like I.
Speaker 3: Because I get I feel like me, I get a lot.
Speaker 4: He couldn't afford to pay for those things, Is that
Speaker 4: what he was saying.
Speaker 5: He said he couldn't afford anything that I do, like
Speaker 5: the way the way that I dress, the way the
Speaker 5: car that I have, the way that I'm living, I
Speaker 5: can't afford you, like, Okay, so this is this is
Speaker 5: what happened with us. We he and I. We were
Speaker 5: getting along. We were seeing each other like literally every day.
Speaker 5: The way the situation was up. I'm not going to
Speaker 5: say too much about it, but the way the situation
Speaker 5: was set up, we were seeing each other a lot,
Speaker 5: you know what I mean. And suddenly, you know, the
Speaker 5: like we started to stop seeing each like out of nowhere,
Speaker 5: And I was really confused about it. And I'm not
Speaker 5: the type of person who holds in my feelings, you know,
Speaker 5: And when I'm comfortable with somebody I can't stop talking
Speaker 5: to them, like I have a extended vernacular, you know,
Speaker 5: with them. And it's like, so I I hit him
Speaker 5: up and I let him know, like what's going on,
Speaker 5: like because we're not going to do this, like I
Speaker 5: want to be clear what's going on right now? And
Speaker 5: he was like, come over, let's talk about it. And
Speaker 5: he told me straight to my face that night, like
Speaker 5: like I love you stuff, but I can't. I can't
Speaker 5: afford you to edit. It makes me nervous every time. Okay,
Speaker 5: so this is what triggered it. I got to get
Speaker 5: from somebody else. He and I were, you know, we
Speaker 5: were seeing each other, but we weren't in locked in
Speaker 5: in a serious relationship. And I actually called him with
Speaker 5: another woman once or twice exactly what I'm talking about me.
Speaker 5: So he and we whatever, we had a night together,
Speaker 5: and like I said, he and I used to talk
Speaker 5: a lot, but we used to have these long conversations.
Speaker 5: So I went upstairs and we had the conversation and
Speaker 5: he just told me straight up like I can't afford you.
Speaker 5: I can't afford to against you gifts like that, like
Speaker 5: you're I feel like being with you, I'll never make
Speaker 5: you happy, it'll never be enough.
Speaker 1: And he bought me.
Speaker 5: And he brought me like stupid gifts for like my
Speaker 5: birthday and for Christmas and you like little stupid gifts
Speaker 5: for Valentine's Day and those and all those days.
Speaker 3: But I liked them.
Speaker 5: I was very grateful, Yeah, Like they were thoughtful gifts
Speaker 5: and nice flowers, and I was really grateful for them.
Speaker 3: But he saw the competition.
Speaker 5: Yeah, and he always before I got with him, he
Speaker 5: used to see my ex. He used to see me
Speaker 5: and my ex together, like actually get to see it,
Speaker 5: like a lot of people never even got to see it,
Speaker 5: and he actually was able to see us together. So
Speaker 5: even that was intimidating for him from the beginning. Right
Speaker 5: like when I met him, he was like, oh, he
Speaker 5: was like.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've seen.
Speaker 5: I've seen you had the Mayback and the Bentley and
Speaker 5: your driveway. So you know, he knew what I was
Speaker 5: dealing with before him, and what I was dealing with
Speaker 5: before him was like sending me gifts and shit.
Speaker 3: Right, his confidence was in the toilet.
Speaker 5: Yeah, like he saw he saw one of my gifts.
Speaker 5: It was like a fifteen thousand dollars gift.
Speaker 3: I've admit him and I didn't think anything of it.
Speaker 3: I opened it in his house.
Speaker 5: I opened it in his in his garage, like in
Speaker 5: his house. I got the mail in front of him
Speaker 5: and I was like, oh, let's see what it is.
Speaker 5: And it was like a purse and no, lie, he
Speaker 5: got weird after that.
Speaker 4: Competing with your partner, I think a lot of people,
Speaker 4: especially men, from the beginning, if that's a big red flag.
Speaker 5: One time he came into my house and said, Stephanie,
Speaker 5: you're a big dog, but I'm a big dog too.
Speaker 3: Okay, that would have ended it. Right after that. I
Speaker 3: couldn't believe it. I couldn't. I couldn't believe.
Speaker 7: It's funny to me because I remember when all of
Speaker 7: these things happened.
Speaker 5: I never talked about this that Turnobody says that to me,
Speaker 5: Like you're a big dog, but I'm a big dog.
Speaker 3: In your corny. Yeah.
Speaker 4: I think it's like him being secure with himself. Whether secure.
Speaker 7: He was very intimidated by everything that she had.
Speaker 5: Going on and I had nothing going on.
Speaker 3: Men like men like competition to a certain point.
Speaker 4: I think I have a like.
Speaker 3: But look at what he was used to.
Speaker 5: I know he was, and he was.
Speaker 4: It was a lot of men when successful woman wanted
Speaker 4: to control.
Speaker 2: Can you judge a person by who they dated before you?
Speaker 2: Because sometimes we look at like who that I did.
Speaker 4: It, and like, oh no, I'm waite, No because people change, right, No,
Speaker 4: I dated some.
Speaker 3: What about great people who they cheated with?
Speaker 4: Like terrible relationships and she still gave me a chance.
Speaker 4: I think people change, and I also think people change
Speaker 4: in a relationship. That's why I say you should always
Speaker 4: revisit your relationship every year because people change and people
Speaker 4: grow or they don't grow with you. So who are
Speaker 4: we not? Who are you now? And where are we now?
Speaker 4: In this relationship?
Speaker 5: Checking our minds?
Speaker 8: Is that I'm the opposite, like I track men who
Speaker 8: are very wealthy, like I track men with money, and
Speaker 8: I'm intimidated sometimes by that not so much and meaning
Speaker 8: because I'm not where I for myself want to be
Speaker 8: at financially, Like it's a journey and I'm getting in
Speaker 8: and I'm you know, but sometimes I get intimidated because
Speaker 8: I feel like I don't ever want a man to
Speaker 8: feel like he can control me because of what he has,
Speaker 8: or he can control what I do, what I say,
Speaker 8: where you know, all these type of things and then
Speaker 8: I feel like men with money get pussy. So if
Speaker 8: he has me and he don't have like that level
Speaker 8: of you know, I'm not at his level financially, he'll
Speaker 8: take he'll take advantage of that.
Speaker 4: Real good man gonna take care of you can get
Speaker 4: you there with him.
Speaker 5: Exerien And that's what I'm I feel like the richer
Speaker 5: the better for me. Like I don't mind it, but
Speaker 5: I was dating listen, I want to be down to
Speaker 5: really rich because like I was with somebody who is
Speaker 5: a millionaire for a long time, on and off whatever,
Speaker 5: and he always had a nice house, and because it
Speaker 5: kind of made a sickness in me to want a
Speaker 5: nice house to be bat on him. Oh you got
Speaker 5: the man back. I got the same. I got to
Speaker 5: a s class to you know. So I found myself
Speaker 5: in like three financial holes trying to compete with a millionaire.
Speaker 5: So I find I'm more comfortable dating somebody rich who's
Speaker 5: richer than me. It makes me feel good to know
Speaker 5: that somebody got more money than me that's around me.
Speaker 4: That makes me feel good. Him financial crisis there for
Speaker 4: you exactly, whether he's giving you money, whether you want that,
Speaker 4: and a man because you don't want to be scrambling
Speaker 4: around and worried all the time because you're taking care
Speaker 4: of your.
Speaker 3: My dance.
Speaker 5: But it's another thing. That's another thing about me that's
Speaker 5: intimidating for men, because I can't get I'm not impressed
Speaker 5: with anything anymore. You can't take me anywhere that I'm like,
Speaker 5: oh this is nice. Everything is just regular to me
Speaker 5: because I already been in this life.
Speaker 4: But that's not what it's about anymore.
Speaker 5: Right, That's what I'm saying. Guys, I feel like, what's
Speaker 5: the big deal?
Speaker 4: Tell me three things that you want from a man
Speaker 4: that makes.
Speaker 5: You happy, things that I want from That's a good
Speaker 5: question for a woman, right, Three things that.
Speaker 4: I want you to tell me Three things that make
Speaker 4: up you happy and a man does for you. And
Speaker 4: aside from.
Speaker 5: Eree things that I want from a man, I'm the
Speaker 5: only the only No. Forget money, we're not going to
Speaker 5: we're not talking about money. The only things I require
Speaker 5: from a man. And this is probably I should probably
Speaker 5: raise my standards a little bit. It's like a six pack,
Speaker 5: you know, a good diet, but no, but basically I'm
Speaker 5: talking about let's not talk physical important, No no, no, no, no.
Speaker 4: Physical is important, but I want to know what you want.
Speaker 4: What can a man do for you that makes you happy?
Speaker 4: Aside for money, and aside from physical.
Speaker 5: All I need. I like a lot of attention. I
Speaker 5: like for my man to pay attention to me. And
Speaker 5: you know, I like to have a lot of communication.
Speaker 5: I like to talk a lot.
Speaker 3: That's all attention. Yeah, that's attention.
Speaker 5: That's what I'm saying. That's one thing.
Speaker 3: The other two the other two.
Speaker 5: I wish I could find a man with no kids.
Speaker 5: That would be, like we're talking about, like a fantasy, right,
Speaker 5: like a dream man, just anything. I would accept that
Speaker 5: man is out there. Which one the one that right now?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 3: No kids? That can pay you plenty of attention and
Speaker 3: what else?
Speaker 5: And I don't know. I don't want much. I just
Speaker 5: need you to to text me and maybe we can
Speaker 5: go on to dinner.
Speaker 1: You know. I want to have sex.
Speaker 5: I want to have a lot of sex. You know
Speaker 5: what I mean. I want to I want to.
Speaker 3: Fuck all the time.
Speaker 7: Okay, all the time, communicate communicating, Yes, don't.
Speaker 5: Get a six yeah that's a bonus honorable mention, a
Speaker 5: six pacts. So I want to talk a lot, talk
Speaker 5: a lot, a lot.
Speaker 3: I want to have a lot of stuf communicating.
Speaker 5: I want a lot of that moves the other one.
Speaker 2: No kids, no kids, well, welcome back, Stephan, And a
Speaker 2: whole lot.
Speaker 4: Of thank you, thank you for sharing that with me.
Speaker 4: I appreciate it. I know, like that was an honest
Speaker 4: spot question.
Speaker 5: Did I answer good? I don't think I answered that was.
Speaker 2: What you want and for all of us. The three
Speaker 2: things I would say. I want to get sense of
Speaker 2: humor because I like to laugh. I want somebody who's
Speaker 2: really ambitious because I am, and I'm always working in
Speaker 2: trying to figure out things to do. I need, Yeah,
Speaker 2: you need somebody who's moving, yeah, to mess me in
Speaker 2: that area. And I just want somebody that chease people well,
Speaker 2: like a good person, a great human being.
Speaker 7: I feel like I need to be friends with my partner. Yeah,
Speaker 7: for sure, we need to be friends. And honestly, honesty
Speaker 7: is huge, that's like number one, okay, And communication is
Speaker 7: like a given.
Speaker 3: But like I need a lot of sex too.
Speaker 5: Right, It's really important for a man for me to
Speaker 5: be a marrying man. Like you don't have to tell
Speaker 5: me you're gonna marry me today or tomorrow, but you
Speaker 5: have to tell me in the beginning of our relationship,
Speaker 5: that you want to get married.
Speaker 3: Before we get out of here. What's your three things?
Speaker 4: What I look for a woman? Yeah, I like a
Speaker 4: woman who's supportive, communication, that knows how to communicate, and
Speaker 4: that is somebody I could trust. I think trust is
Speaker 4: a huge thing. Trust communication is somebody that's that just
Speaker 4: love it like a nurturing woman, you know what I mean?
Speaker 4: And going back to our question, our talk about a
Speaker 4: man is going to lift you up and bring you
Speaker 4: with him, And I feel like that's why that's just
Speaker 4: nature from man is not where she needs to be.
Speaker 4: A real man that's in a good position is not
Speaker 4: going to try to compete with you. He's not going
Speaker 4: to try to knock you down for not being where
Speaker 4: he is. It's going to help lift you up to
Speaker 4: where he is. You know, people in position like my Airbnb.
Speaker 4: I get Airbnb. Guess what I want to make sure
Speaker 4: a break. I want to I want to make sure
Speaker 4: that we you have your I want you to have
Speaker 4: your own stuff. I don't I don't want you to
Speaker 4: feel like you have to depend on me, but I
Speaker 4: want you to know if you need to depend on
Speaker 4: me here that.
Speaker 5: You can absolutely And I think that's important. But I
Speaker 5: feel like if a man sees me doing good and
Speaker 5: he feels like I'm winning, you know, like whatever, I'm
Speaker 5: sports betting and I'm getting money and he feels like
Speaker 5: I'm really winning, I feel like he should be inspired
Speaker 5: if anything is that's what I'm really.
Speaker 2: Everybody gotta bring something to the table, everybody, and that's
Speaker 2: what it is, right, that's how you have.
Speaker 5: Actually like a man should be inspired by his by
Speaker 5: his girl, like really making big moves and looking like
Speaker 5: she's big you know.
Speaker 3: Dog dog. I'm a big dog. I'm a big dog too. Chris,
Speaker 3: before you get out of here, where can people find you?
Speaker 3: And what is it?
Speaker 4: You know?
Speaker 3: Because I know we just brought you on here and
Speaker 3: got free therapy. Yeah, so now we got pay the
Speaker 3: bills come yeah, so where can we find you? Where
Speaker 3: can find you? CHRISTYQ Perry.
Speaker 4: You can find me at Chris Q Perry on Instagram.
Speaker 4: I would just say follow me on Instagram Christy Q Perry,
Speaker 4: and you'll find all my stuff through my link tree. Okay,
Speaker 4: but I appreciate you having me and I appreciate talking
Speaker 4: with with all you ladies and you guys giving me
Speaker 4: the opportunity to learn a little bit about you. Guys.
Speaker 3: You have a headache now, no, appreciate your advice.
Speaker 5: Maye y'all be a little more patient. And whatever I'm
Speaker 5: doing that I'm not doing what I'm doing.
Speaker 4: No, it's it's truly, it's truly a blessing because I
Speaker 4: feel like out of this conversation, somebody's gonna listen and
Speaker 4: it might help somebody.
Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely so, because we all got issues and we
Speaker 2: always go there. And like Chris said, even he's not perfect,
Speaker 2: we may look at him as a relationship coach. He
Speaker 2: goes on social media, he talks about things and his
Speaker 2: own experiences.
Speaker 3: But we're you know, nobody's perfect. We're all a work
Speaker 3: in progress.
Speaker 4: I want young men to know that it's okay. It's
Speaker 4: it's okay to mess up. It's okay to make mistakes.
Speaker 4: I made a lot of them, and you can come
Speaker 4: back from that. It's all about what you want in
Speaker 4: your relationship with God. I want to put that out
Speaker 4: there God.
Speaker 3: First, Wony do it?
Speaker 5: Amen?
Speaker 3: All right? Well, thank you, Christy, you Perry. Let's serve it.
Speaker 3: Thank you all right.
Speaker 2: So, first question I have for you guys, if you
Speaker 2: are not financially stable or financially in the place where
Speaker 2: you want to be. Some people feel like I shouldn't
Speaker 2: date right I should just stay home, my my business
Speaker 2: until I get to the place where I want to be,
Speaker 2: where I can do financially things for women. Take her out,
Speaker 2: take it her expensive restaurants, buy her things, or do
Speaker 2: you feel like? Look, if I like you, I like you.
Speaker 2: I can be honest about my situation. Let's start with you.
Speaker 3: I'm easie. What do you think?
Speaker 9: I think it depends on the chick, but I like
Speaker 9: growing with the girl. If I'm broke, like, I think
Speaker 9: it's cool. Like if I'm broke, you should be able
Speaker 9: to be confident enough to tell her like, yeah, I
Speaker 9: don't got it.
Speaker 4: Right now, We're gonna have some fun.
Speaker 9: But maybe if this is not where you want to be,
Speaker 9: you can go get the guys that got the money.
Speaker 9: But right now I don't got it. We can still
Speaker 9: have one, but it's not gonna be that.
Speaker 3: Have you ever done that?
Speaker 6: Got plenty of time?
Speaker 3: What do you think, big Mac?
Speaker 1: I think that you got to be in a You
Speaker 1: should try to be on the same level as the
Speaker 1: people you go.
Speaker 6: You know what I mean.
Speaker 10: It's like basketball JV. Don't go play with the varsity,
Speaker 10: you know what I mean, Like the freshman ain't playing
Speaker 10: with it. And I say that only because if you
Speaker 10: start going after these women that are on a different level, they're.
Speaker 1: Gonna want things that you can't do, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying.
Speaker 10: And they say that women need the lower they stand
Speaker 10: this man, sometimes we got lower our standards too, you
Speaker 10: know what I mean.
Speaker 1: There's some broke women out there. They got some good vagina,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean.
Speaker 10: You know there's some very good broke pussy out there
Speaker 10: that you can definitely get and it's just as good
Speaker 10: as the expensive pussy.
Speaker 2: Have you ever had a woman take care of you,
Speaker 2: like pay for your dates? Have Like if you tell
Speaker 2: a woman it means you said you've done that before.
Speaker 2: I ain't got it like that. Has she been like
Speaker 2: I got you, don't worry about it.
Speaker 6: I did it older.
Speaker 9: Woman one time, and she would before we go out
Speaker 9: and date, she would give me the credit card of
Speaker 9: then even like yo, listen when we were paying, don't
Speaker 9: do that, don't do that. I would rather be us
Speaker 9: have that moment and in privacy than me. Looked like
Speaker 9: the COO, don't got it when the when the guy
Speaker 9: comes to get the bill and she gives it, and.
Speaker 3: I'm saying that, like you feel weird that she would tell.
Speaker 9: You that, or I mean I knew what my my
Speaker 9: my financial situation was. I wasn't ashamed of it.
Speaker 6: You got it and I know you got it.
Speaker 1: Yes, when she gave you the money, did she says, Sonny, And.
Speaker 3: Did you know you have to do some things?
Speaker 9: I definitely did some things change we dated, Okay, what's
Speaker 9: go one off?
Speaker 1: But escort sounds kind of fine.
Speaker 6: She was trick? Was the trick.
Speaker 3: Didn't answer the question that asked call you over.
Speaker 10: We were dating because technically you had the first uber
Speaker 10: meets the part she would call you you come over,
Speaker 10: she gives me money, you delive the meats.
Speaker 3: Did you ever pay or did she always know?
Speaker 9: I mean I paid sometimes when when it was within
Speaker 9: my means. You know, when we went to Big Steakhouse?
Speaker 9: Did you have to pay or did you volunteer?
Speaker 6: I made I mean, I'm a man. At the end
Speaker 6: of the day.
Speaker 9: I didn't like her paying, but when I had, I
Speaker 9: made sure.
Speaker 2: All my days would be apple because yeah, did she
Speaker 2: ever throw it back in your face?
Speaker 3: Like you know, she didn't.
Speaker 6: Other things that paid for it, and I took those
Speaker 6: right back.
Speaker 1: Hold water, wasn't that old?
Speaker 3: All right? All right? What about you? Do you think
Speaker 3: you can date?
Speaker 2: Because I had a guy tell me, Look, the reason
Speaker 2: I didn't ask you out, you know, at first, was
Speaker 2: because financially I was strapped and I didn't feel comfortable.
Speaker 11: Yeah, I mean, I mean, he can attest to it,
Speaker 11: but I'm come on, because I mean I told the story.
Speaker 11: I'm saying I've told stories before. But I'm like a
Speaker 11: romantic kind of person. So if I'm dating a woman,
Speaker 11: I like to I'm over you to the spot, I'm
Speaker 11: over you back home. So I like to do those
Speaker 11: kind of things. So if I'm broke, I'm not going out.
Speaker 2: But if it's out of state too, like you got
Speaker 2: to pay you And when you call the uber, is
Speaker 2: it a black car?
Speaker 6: Is it a regularly? I'm not going it's.
Speaker 12: A shared ride, regular SUV.
Speaker 1: That's it.
Speaker 10: I'm not suv, know, like you know what I mean,
Speaker 10: Like nothing suburb larry on first, then we could drop you.
Speaker 6: Regular regular All right?
Speaker 3: Well, okay, so everybody here thinks that.
Speaker 2: So you're saying you got to have a little bit
Speaker 2: of money before you feel like yes, before I go.
Speaker 3: Now, big Mac, I'm not sure.
Speaker 10: I feel like women are going to miss out on
Speaker 10: their blessings because they you know what I mean, They're
Speaker 10: gonna go for the money. Or somebody who's on the
Speaker 10: same level as them said, you could dumb it down
Speaker 10: a little bit. You know, there's some broke men out
Speaker 10: there that could take care. But what I'm saying on
Speaker 10: the other side of it, for men, stop shooting so high.
Speaker 10: You may not play on VARs city level.
Speaker 6: You may be.
Speaker 9: I disagree with that one because homegirl was she was
Speaker 9: making a lot more money than me.
Speaker 6: You got she was way out of my league.
Speaker 1: I did, way out of my life.
Speaker 3: You feel like she was out of league.
Speaker 6: Don't trust me what I tell you.
Speaker 1: I was like this, this is a dream come to
Speaker 1: every once in a while.
Speaker 10: Yeah, you could throw hell Mary and you know you're
Speaker 10: gonna catch your past or two.
Speaker 3: I called him somebody. What ended up happening, yem easy, I.
Speaker 1: Was too young and died. Shut up.
Speaker 9: My radio career was at his blossoming point, and she said,
Speaker 9: I don't want you out here cheating on me, so
Speaker 9: go out there.
Speaker 10: She found smiles at Bingo before Hey, I got that too.
Speaker 9: It was an amicable split because I was on my
Speaker 9: journey of radio started.
Speaker 2: Do you feel like you owe her still, like you
Speaker 2: want to do something nice for it, just to pay
Speaker 2: her back for all those meals.
Speaker 3: I wasn't a charity podcast. I was younger.
Speaker 12: Just get us some hard candy to put it in
Speaker 12: a person dream, get a picture of her. Frederick Douglass Free.
Speaker 3: Kind of feels like a split decision here.
Speaker 2: You know, Mac is on the fence says nas, yeah, no,
Speaker 2: don't do it, and means he saying yes, be an escort.
Speaker 1: Listen, you never know until you try.
Speaker 6: Try to shoot your shot. Phil.
Speaker 2: Now, the next question is about do you need to
Speaker 2: disclose things from your past?
Speaker 3: Big Mac is already smiling. I don't know why, you know.
Speaker 3: Country Wayne was up here.
Speaker 2: His new special is out on Netflix, but he was
Speaker 2: saying that he doesn't care about a woman's past, right
Speaker 2: because you know, clearly he has ten kids and so
Speaker 2: you can't judge a person by what they've done before you.
Speaker 2: He doesn't even want to know, or it doesn't really
Speaker 2: matter to him. But sometimes people feel like they have
Speaker 2: questions when you first started dating somebody, they're like, so,
Speaker 2: let's discuss your past. Does it matter to you, guys,
Speaker 2: big Max and you're smiling so hard?
Speaker 1: Go ahead, brother, go ahead, talk about your past.
Speaker 6: For me, it doesn't it doesn't matter.
Speaker 11: I don't want to know about what you have going on,
Speaker 11: just because I'm like Sherlock Holmes, like I'm gonna go
Speaker 11: investigate and that's gonna fuck me up.
Speaker 6: So I don't want to know about what and that
Speaker 6: might hurt me.
Speaker 1: So I rather not know.
Speaker 3: So you're gonna investigate anyway?
Speaker 1: No, I'm saying an.
Speaker 11: If you tell me something, I'm gonna go out there
Speaker 11: and investigate even further. So i'd rather just you saved
Speaker 11: me the headache, So just don't even bring it up
Speaker 11: to me.
Speaker 6: I don't want to know about.
Speaker 2: It, Okay, But what if you're gonna find out though,
Speaker 2: wouldn't you rather the person tell you?
Speaker 11: We can have that conversation. I'm cool with that. I'm
Speaker 11: cool if I find out. I'm cool with having that comment.
Speaker 3: But you don't want to know unless you find out already.
Speaker 6: I don't want to know. I want to be ignorant.
Speaker 6: Ignorant is bliss. I want to be ignorant. Don't tell
Speaker 6: me about it.
Speaker 9: No, no, no, no, no, not this industry.
Speaker 4: We go to parties, we go to defense all the time.
Speaker 9: I better not be walking into a spot where three
Speaker 9: these niggas can come up to me like, yo, son,
Speaker 9: you know your girl was nah.
Speaker 6: But that's your problem. You did in the industry with me.
Speaker 1: Hey, listen, I've dated girls in the industry. Out of
Speaker 1: the industry.
Speaker 6: I don't give a he was a fucking plumber.
Speaker 3: Yeah things.
Speaker 6: No, you're not gonna make me feel crazy out here
Speaker 6: in the streets. No, I need to know. I'm not
Speaker 6: doing it to make me feel crazy just because you
Speaker 6: had a past.
Speaker 3: But is it gonna matter to you if she tells you.
Speaker 9: It doesn't matter? But it gives me, It empowers me,
Speaker 9: and now I know. So now I'm not blindly walking
Speaker 9: into a situation where it's like, damn, all.
Speaker 6: Your niggas hit all right?
Speaker 2: What if she's like, you know, in my past, these
Speaker 2: guys ran a train on me.
Speaker 1: Wow, wow wow.
Speaker 3: But that was a.
Speaker 2: Long time ago, and I went through some issues and
Speaker 2: you know where I was going through a phase.
Speaker 3: Would that matter you laughing?
Speaker 1: Because this one is touching one.
Speaker 10: This happened to you, So okay, the train wasn't ran
Speaker 10: on me.
Speaker 1: I was involved, But here's.
Speaker 3: The thing first or last, But.
Speaker 10: First, the reason I was trying not to speak on
Speaker 10: this one was because I've been on both sides of
Speaker 10: it where I thought, in one situation, I'm telling you
Speaker 10: everything and it's gonna be great. But I told everything
Speaker 10: where there's some people involved that are around to this day,
Speaker 10: so that every time they were around them, first thing
Speaker 10: they think it is, this is what happened with my
Speaker 10: man and all of them.
Speaker 1: So it was every single time they were around it
Speaker 1: was a problem.
Speaker 10: So then I was like, all right, now, I'm only
Speaker 10: going to disclose things when it needs to be disclosed.
Speaker 10: But then when it needed to be disclosed, sometimes the
Speaker 10: train stories and the group orgy things come up and
Speaker 10: it's like yeah, and it's like, oh, you were involved.
Speaker 1: With this, and I'm like, I was kind of involved,
Speaker 1: but not involved. I was dragged.
Speaker 4: First.
Speaker 1: I needed a ride home in one situation, so you
Speaker 1: know what I.
Speaker 3: Need to know how needing a ride home translates.
Speaker 10: I touched a ride because so they were supposed to
Speaker 10: take me home. So the girl was like, yo, the
Speaker 10: first they'll take you home right after we do this,
Speaker 10: and I'm like, I don't really want to do this.
Speaker 10: I want to go home, but that was my ride,
Speaker 10: so you know what I mean, Like I had to
Speaker 10: how was I gonna get home? I wasn't gonna walk taxi?
Speaker 3: Yeah, there's no.
Speaker 1: At this time that was that wasn't around a long
Speaker 1: time ago. Friends were actually friends. And then you had
Speaker 1: chipping for gas.
Speaker 3: So you had to do something to get a ride home.
Speaker 1: I didn't chipping gas, chipped in ass, so.
Speaker 3: Your no, So they made you have sex to get
Speaker 3: a right.
Speaker 1: They didn't make me. That sounds worse than being an
Speaker 1: a screat like you was just they didn't make me
Speaker 1: do it. But at the same time, like.
Speaker 9: Link twice, if you're in health, if you need help,
Speaker 9: how was.
Speaker 1: That going to get home? Like I finished, So I'm not.
Speaker 2: Gonna feel weird about that. I'm sorry this happened to you.
Speaker 10: No, because because it was met him and her right,
Speaker 10: and then we switched posicians, and then he went and
Speaker 10: played Mario Kart and then I finished, and then I
Speaker 10: played Mario Kart when he finished, so I got to
Speaker 10: play Mario Kart and I got home.
Speaker 1: So it's more wins than losses on my side.
Speaker 2: Okay, but I can't even imagine the scenario in my head. Okay,
Speaker 2: I'm learning a lot about Big Maggie.
Speaker 10: Yes, but the good thing about there was two other
Speaker 10: situations and the third one was like an orgy. But
Speaker 10: that orgy is why I went to college because shit
Speaker 10: started getting weird and I was like, this is too
Speaker 10: much for me.
Speaker 1: I'm going to college.
Speaker 10: I got to school, and I left for college and
Speaker 10: I haven't been back since.
Speaker 1: So it's a positive story.
Speaker 6: College.
Speaker 3: You would have never went to college.
Speaker 1: I told them that all the time, Thank you. If
Speaker 1: this orgy didn't happen.
Speaker 3: I would never have my education ever.
Speaker 1: Been who I am today and I never would have
Speaker 1: left in amen.
Speaker 3: Or have you ever been in an orgy?
Speaker 12: No?
Speaker 6: I have not.
Speaker 11: That's that's something that's orgies are.
Speaker 1: It's weird when it's your friends. Like if you're going
Speaker 1: to do it.
Speaker 11: Do with people you're not close, that's wy I want
Speaker 11: to go to a sex party in New York.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's COVID now and it's a little even happened.
Speaker 3: I've never had one, so I don't know.
Speaker 2: But like and then when there's what if like a guy,
Speaker 2: because orgies are guys and girls. So is it weird
Speaker 2: to like see your like you said, it's your friend.
Speaker 10: That's when it got weird because I'm like, these are
Speaker 10: people that I played football with and I'm watching him.
Speaker 1: Yes, it's a little awkward. So I was like, I
Speaker 1: gotta go and applied for colleges that night.
Speaker 2: I don't want to see these people because with your friends,
Speaker 2: how do you talk to them later?
Speaker 3: Like is it just regular? You just act like it
Speaker 3: never happened.
Speaker 10: Next time I talked to him, I said, hey, you guys,
Speaker 10: so I got into college and I leave next week,
Speaker 10: so thank you.
Speaker 1: And then I left college.
Speaker 3: I can't do this and I gotta do this small
Speaker 3: town that's a valeri or been a one?
Speaker 1: Yeah, did you finish the job?
Speaker 6: I pleaded the fifth of this point.
Speaker 1: Because my mom does it? Know?
Speaker 2: How do you guys make sure that, like when you're
Speaker 2: in an orgy, you know, and there's guys there too,
Speaker 2: that you don't accidentally because what if it's dark and
Speaker 2: you're like person, you.
Speaker 1: Know what I mean a good thing about me.
Speaker 10: I'm the size of an eclipse, so you can't really accident.
Speaker 6: Show does it happen that way?
Speaker 1: The light got dark over here? Max must be walking
Speaker 1: this way.
Speaker 6: They show the other way.
Speaker 1: Here everybody is coordinated.
Speaker 3: It's because I thought it was an orgy. Is everybody
Speaker 3: participates everyone?
Speaker 6: That sounds more like a gang bang.
Speaker 1: No, that's not an orgy.
Speaker 10: There was five in mind, okay, and so I think
Speaker 10: the orgy is more than more than three.
Speaker 6: That's what I think.
Speaker 3: Definition.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like when when I go on x videos dot
Speaker 1: Com and you search a few people. I searched reverse
Speaker 1: gang bang, okay, which is all women and one guy.
Speaker 3: Okay, so a guy got gang banged.
Speaker 6: Yeah, so but you.
Speaker 1: Gotta put reverse, don't put gang bang because.
Speaker 6: We all do the.
Speaker 3: Girl, all right?
Speaker 2: And last question for you guys, is it a red
Speaker 2: flag if you don't post your significant other on social
Speaker 2: media or if they don't post to you. According to
Speaker 2: Chris g Q Perry, this is a red flag. I
Speaker 2: want to see what you guys think about that, So
Speaker 2: let's start with you, all right.
Speaker 8: Uh.
Speaker 1: For me, I.
Speaker 11: Don't believe in posting significant others only because at least
Speaker 11: the that I curated for myself that I want to
Speaker 11: live it doesn't involve like other people seeing who I'm with.
Speaker 11: I'm fine with just living outside of that.
Speaker 3: Feels like.
Speaker 9: I agree with you, but you yourself.
Speaker 6: He wasn't sure.
Speaker 9: The way I'm living in the life you sound like
Speaker 9: those guys, man, I'm just living.
Speaker 11: I've never I've never posted. I don't post my family,
Speaker 11: I don't post anybody unless Okay, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: Curious, So you've never done that.
Speaker 6: I've never posted a significant.
Speaker 3: Okay, what so just because you don't want people in
Speaker 3: your business or.
Speaker 6: That exactly that.
Speaker 11: But when I was in college, my my college girl
Speaker 11: that I was dating one of them, uh, actually ended
Speaker 11: a relationship because I wouldn't want to.
Speaker 6: I didn't want to post her.
Speaker 3: Wow.
Speaker 11: So that that was interesting what she I mean, we're
Speaker 11: young and she was like, so, like, you're not gonna
Speaker 11: post me?
Speaker 6: Like, what are you talking to other women?
Speaker 11: I'm like, no, I just I feel like the life
Speaker 11: that I want to live, I don't want to post.
Speaker 6: I don't want other people to see who I'm dating.
Speaker 3: Did she post to you? Did you have a problem
Speaker 3: with that?
Speaker 6: Yes, I don't want you to post me or me.
Speaker 3: Wow.
Speaker 11: And it's not because I'm seeing other women. It's just
Speaker 11: like a trusting but she should be.
Speaker 2: Able to post you we can see if you don't
Speaker 2: want to post her, but if you tell me, I
Speaker 2: can't post you on my page.
Speaker 6: I mean, it's just balan.
Speaker 2: Boundaries of posting me. It does sound red flagish. What
Speaker 2: do you think I'm easy?
Speaker 9: I think it needs to be a period, Like there
Speaker 9: needs to be like a grace period, Like if we're
Speaker 9: dating for three months, don't expect me to post you
Speaker 9: right away. I'm willing to post you once we get serious.
Speaker 9: Like I'm married my wife, I can post her, but dating, Like.
Speaker 3: How long did it take till you posted her before
Speaker 3: you got.
Speaker 6: Three four months?
Speaker 3: Okay?
Speaker 9: Because it was like I wanted to make sure she's
Speaker 9: here for the long home because at the time I
Speaker 9: was dating a whole bunch of chicks and I don't
Speaker 9: have to you know, and have comments.
Speaker 3: And was it a big deal when you finally did it?
Speaker 9: Like to her, Yes, when I did it, I mean
Speaker 9: I made sure it was special for her. It was
Speaker 9: kind of like the moment it was like you, yeah,
Speaker 9: so I used.
Speaker 10: To I used to post, and then as my life
Speaker 10: started to curating the way it's set up, you know
Speaker 10: what I mean?
Speaker 6: I think.
Speaker 10: No, it was really after when I got on radio
Speaker 10: and then wild'n out, like the people that started following
Speaker 10: I don't know these people anymore, and they started getting weird.
Speaker 10: I would post my brother or like and stuff like that,
Speaker 10: and then they would reach out to him or follow him,
Speaker 10: or when I used to post, they would reach out
Speaker 10: to my ex and ask them questions about me, and I'm.
Speaker 1: Like, this is starting getting weird.
Speaker 10: So I'm like, I don't now it's getting to I
Speaker 10: don't know these people, so I'm trying to I need
Speaker 10: to keep that separate because you get people like him
Speaker 10: where they do research and they can find you know,
Speaker 10: he said he would find There's other people that are
Speaker 10: We're way more advanced and finding out that stuff, and
Speaker 10: they have intentions that I.
Speaker 1: Don't know about.
Speaker 10: So it's like, I'd rather keep that away from like
Speaker 10: my personal life, because what I don't want to do
Speaker 10: is have to pull up somewhere because some crazy person
Speaker 10: pulled up somewhere because they figured out where my girl
Speaker 10: or my mom is or whatever, and they see that
Speaker 10: they post where I'm at, and then they pull up
Speaker 10: and you're.
Speaker 2: Saying, it's not a red flag, you're just doing I
Speaker 2: don't think it's.
Speaker 1: A red flag. Depending on somewhat like he said, the
Speaker 1: life I live.
Speaker 10: If you work at at shop, right, or you know
Speaker 10: what I mean, Public's or something, and you just a
Speaker 10: bad boy, then.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 10: No, no, no, the reason no, the reason I say
Speaker 10: like a bad person because the bad person is standing
Speaker 10: right there in front of everybody.
Speaker 1: No, but you can't hide from that person. You're surprised.
Speaker 1: But also I.
Speaker 10: Saw a post recently that kind of I love. If
Speaker 10: you go on my Instagram, all I do is post jokes.
Speaker 10: It's nothing but funny stuff, jokes and all that shit.
Speaker 10: Who I'm with is not a joke.
Speaker 2: But what if you were dating a woman who's a comedian, right,
Speaker 2: and then maybe you guys end up doing some sketches together.
Speaker 1: That's what I mean. So if they're already in the
Speaker 1: life and we're both in the same type.
Speaker 10: Of life, then you know, okay that because I'm sure
Speaker 10: that person has their own craziness or whatever, so we
Speaker 10: can't hide that.
Speaker 1: But if it's.
Speaker 10: Somebody who if like like if my girl works at
Speaker 10: the bank or something like that, and she's not the
Speaker 10: type of person who likes the attention and stuff, I'm
Speaker 10: not gonna do something that could.
Speaker 2: Possible she has an online store, and she's like, why
Speaker 2: don't post my store?
Speaker 1: My wife?
Speaker 4: Yeah, she does that, she makes little things.
Speaker 1: I gotta get you a copy.
Speaker 9: Okay, But she all the time, she's like, make sure
Speaker 9: you you reshare myself, Like my crowd is not your crowd.
Speaker 1: Like that's it. Like I could support you all I want,
Speaker 1: but these.
Speaker 9: Rap nigs don't give a about you.
Speaker 1: You don mean that you want to support.
Speaker 10: But at the same time, how many times have y'all
Speaker 10: seen somebody post to add something, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Because that's not like you said, that's not the crowd.
Speaker 2: You could also be creative and how you post it
Speaker 2: too to make people be you know, you could do
Speaker 2: little fun things to make me.
Speaker 9: Feel bad, okay, and me he's gonna have a post.
Speaker 3: Clever, you know what I mean? All right?
Speaker 2: Well, I mean for me personally, and you know you've
Speaker 2: heard me talk about this, but like I really do
Speaker 2: try to make sure because people be coming at me.
Speaker 2: I don't want them to come at like my man
Speaker 2: or anything like that.
Speaker 3: My fan.
Speaker 2: I've had people post like my parents' address on social media,
Speaker 2: and I've had stalker situations. I've had to get the
Speaker 2: police involved. You know, I've had people show up, I've
Speaker 2: had all kinds of things happen. So it did make
Speaker 2: me a little bit more cautious. Even when I go places,
Speaker 2: I don't post until after I'm gone.
Speaker 1: You know, you're very secretive. I don't know what your
Speaker 1: personal like, but.
Speaker 10: I believe that's how you shouldn't even know if your
Speaker 10: last name, it might just it might.
Speaker 6: Be Lawrence, the first name Lawrence.
Speaker 2: I just don't post things. But in real life you'll
Speaker 2: see me out and that's not a problem. Like if
Speaker 2: you see me, you run into me. I don't hide things.
Speaker 2: I just don't post it because I've had so many issues.
Speaker 10: When I was an intern for you, people like we'll go,
Speaker 10: oh you work, but yeah, they was like, I don't know,
Speaker 10: I've never seen no idea.
Speaker 6: I don't know if you like men women, dogs can't
Speaker 6: no idea.
Speaker 3: My man, she like lot.
Speaker 6: You'll never know.
Speaker 9: Who who know?
Speaker 2: Well, listen, I appreciate you all for coming up here
Speaker 2: and just giving the male side of things, and we'll
Speaker 2: do this again sides.
Speaker 10: Yo, all right, you know, yes, you know I'm talking.
Speaker 4: About your.
Speaker 3: We're gonna get out of here. I has to make
Speaker 3: sure he's healthy. Taste himself.
Speaker 6: Man, clean yourself. Man, hey, you know it's