WEBVTT - Episode 421: Coach My Life Part 2 (Feat. Chris GQ Perry) 0:00:01.840 --> 0:00:02.240 What's up. 0:00:02.240 --> 0:00:04.640 It's lip service. I'm angela ye, and it's time for 0:00:04.680 --> 0:00:07.640 our part too. Now. Last week Chris giku Perry was 0:00:07.680 --> 0:00:11.000 on the show. He's a relationship poach, relationship expert, and 0:00:11.200 --> 0:00:12.840 we had a lot of questions for him, and he 0:00:12.920 --> 0:00:15.120 had questions for us too, But it was all women. 0:00:15.200 --> 0:00:18.280 It was me, it was Gigi, it was Laura Morra 0:00:18.960 --> 0:00:22.040 and Stephanie Santiago. Well, this week we have. 0:00:22.280 --> 0:00:25.000 All men answering those very same questions. I want to 0:00:25.000 --> 0:00:27.360 see how different we all are. Okay, so we have 0:00:27.440 --> 0:00:31.520 easy here yo yo, all right, we have Radio Big 0:00:31.560 --> 0:00:35.920 Mac and we have part you may have heard mentioned 0:00:35.920 --> 0:00:38.559 before in lip Service in case you missed it, got 0:00:38.560 --> 0:00:45.240 the Dirty Street Confessions episode. All right, make sure you're healthy, Yes, 0:00:45.440 --> 0:00:52.040 taste yourself, no commercial, make sure you're healthy. And I 0:00:52.080 --> 0:00:58.640 know Radio Big Mac tastes like cake, very special cake. 0:00:59.200 --> 0:01:03.840 All right, So here is part two of our interview 0:01:03.880 --> 0:01:04.840 with Chris Perry. 0:01:04.840 --> 0:01:05.160 Different. 0:01:05.240 --> 0:01:07.000 Do you believe in astrology? 0:01:07.520 --> 0:01:07.720 Yeah? 0:01:07.760 --> 0:01:08.440 What's your sign? 0:01:08.640 --> 0:01:10.080 I'm a Leo Leo. 0:01:10.640 --> 0:01:12.600 I like Leo's I don't know. 0:01:12.680 --> 0:01:13.640 I do know much about that. 0:01:13.720 --> 0:01:14.760 I don't have the only sign. 0:01:14.800 --> 0:01:18.039 I really don't like women as scorpios but so what 0:01:18.080 --> 0:01:20.399 do you think about that? Because I don't think I've 0:01:20.400 --> 0:01:21.920 ever heard you speak on that. But do you think 0:01:21.959 --> 0:01:25.759 there's some truth to astrology and like this sign compatible 0:01:25.800 --> 0:01:27.520 with this moon rising and all that stuff? 0:01:27.720 --> 0:01:29.640 I do to an extent because I do feel like 0:01:29.640 --> 0:01:34.039 I have LEO qualities, but I don't really get into 0:01:34.040 --> 0:01:34.600 that too much. 0:01:34.760 --> 0:01:39.040 Okay, Now, I was just wondering because people always talk 0:01:39.080 --> 0:01:45.279 about signs and this person and yeah, so. 0:01:45.520 --> 0:01:47.160 No, like if I see a sign that's like not 0:01:47.160 --> 0:01:49.080 compatible with my son, I'm not talking to her. 0:01:49.120 --> 0:01:50.320 No, you would not do that. 0:01:50.080 --> 0:01:52.720 Oh that's crazy to me. I feel like you connect 0:01:52.720 --> 0:01:53.560 with who you connect with. 0:01:53.640 --> 0:01:54.320 Yeah, for sure. 0:01:54.760 --> 0:01:57.840 Same you know you're gonna learn all those things through prayer. 0:01:58.360 --> 0:01:59.920 I'm very close to God, so I feel like, you know, 0:02:00.240 --> 0:02:02.560 when you get that close connection and you pray, you're 0:02:02.600 --> 0:02:03.840 gonna get the answers that you need. 0:02:04.480 --> 0:02:05.880 Listen, I know you have a lung job, but I 0:02:05.960 --> 0:02:07.880 want to ask you a couple more quick questions. 0:02:07.960 --> 0:02:08.959 Let's get it all right. 0:02:09.560 --> 0:02:11.519 Do you think you need to tell your partner everything? 0:02:12.040 --> 0:02:15.600 Because people always say in a relationship there's no secrets, 0:02:16.280 --> 0:02:18.400 But is there ever a time when you're like, you 0:02:18.440 --> 0:02:21.239 know what it might be better if I don't even 0:02:21.240 --> 0:02:21.640 mention this. 0:02:21.680 --> 0:02:22.360 I'll bring it up. 0:02:24.960 --> 0:02:26.239 Now we're saying like small things. 0:02:26.919 --> 0:02:29.079 I mean like, for instance, let's just say like I 0:02:29.160 --> 0:02:32.000 eat you in the fridge last night to say this, right, 0:02:32.040 --> 0:02:36.240 what happens, Let's just say what happened before you Let's 0:02:36.280 --> 0:02:39.760 just say you, guys, maybe you don't want to disclose 0:02:39.800 --> 0:02:42.760 certain things from your past and you're not ready to 0:02:42.800 --> 0:02:45.440 do that. Do you think that's important to be able 0:02:45.480 --> 0:02:48.240 to share you know certain things from your past or 0:02:49.280 --> 0:02:53.320 can you still thrive without giving all of that information? 0:02:53.919 --> 0:02:56.240 Anything that start will come to the light. So anything 0:02:56.280 --> 0:02:57.679 in your past is gonna come, and you want to 0:02:57.720 --> 0:02:59.480 make sure your partner's prepare for that, especially if you 0:02:59.480 --> 0:03:01.760 can spotlight. You want to make sure your partner knows 0:03:01.800 --> 0:03:04.000 everything about you before somebody else says it and then 0:03:04.040 --> 0:03:06.960 you look crazy. I think it's communication is important and 0:03:07.160 --> 0:03:09.639 somebody knowing every aspect of you. And that's why I'm 0:03:09.680 --> 0:03:12.560 referring back to what you said about or what you 0:03:12.600 --> 0:03:15.440 talked about about jumping into relationship quick, make sure you 0:03:15.480 --> 0:03:18.280 know everything of everything. You want to know everything about 0:03:18.280 --> 0:03:21.079 your partner before you jump into that that marriage. How 0:03:21.120 --> 0:03:23.119 do you act when you're mad? What type of person 0:03:23.160 --> 0:03:23.320 are you? 0:03:23.400 --> 0:03:23.480 Not? 0:03:23.480 --> 0:03:25.080 The only people I feel like shouldn't know all of 0:03:25.080 --> 0:03:27.560 this stuff. And I think that where people make mistakes 0:03:27.720 --> 0:03:30.440 is when they tell their mom or their dad because 0:03:30.720 --> 0:03:33.200 your you forgive your partner, but your mom and your 0:03:33.240 --> 0:03:37.720 dad might not your friends and your friends too. 0:03:38.040 --> 0:03:40.160 But what if, like you had some wild days and 0:03:40.200 --> 0:03:43.000 those away behind you. Because I do feel like sometimes 0:03:43.000 --> 0:03:44.640 people don't want to know those things. 0:03:45.000 --> 0:03:47.640 Yeah, that's what I was going to say. I don't agree. 0:03:47.680 --> 0:03:51.080 I don't think you should say everything. Just pick the 0:03:51.160 --> 0:03:56.320 things that are important. You know, sometimes things into you know. 0:03:57.040 --> 0:03:59.800 I was about some things that happened in my past 0:03:59.800 --> 0:04:02.560 with the previous previous relationship. 0:04:02.960 --> 0:04:04.560 He hung it over y'all know what I'm talking about. 0:04:04.760 --> 0:04:06.559 He hung it over my head for years. 0:04:06.560 --> 0:04:08.760 Clearly he was No, he should have never did that. 0:04:08.920 --> 0:04:10.880 It's not him that he should have never did that. No, 0:04:10.880 --> 0:04:12.760 but no, lie, now you're never going to be able 0:04:12.760 --> 0:04:15.080 to communicate everything with him because you're going to be 0:04:15.120 --> 0:04:15.920 scared that he's going to. 0:04:16.000 --> 0:04:19.360 Well, I have a story. I made that relationship. I May. 0:04:19.520 --> 0:04:21.799 I met this guy and we were having a great time. 0:04:21.920 --> 0:04:24.679 We were perfect, We loved each other like the minute 0:04:24.680 --> 0:04:27.200 we saw each other, and then we start to talking 0:04:27.200 --> 0:04:29.600 about things we weren't supposed to be talking about. 0:04:30.000 --> 0:04:31.159 And you want to know what happened. 0:04:33.000 --> 0:04:36.120 We were up arguing till seven am. And this is 0:04:36.200 --> 0:04:39.960 like a really great person and we were up arguing, 0:04:40.080 --> 0:04:46.640 having a whole like lecture debate. It was insane seven 0:04:46.720 --> 0:04:49.240 in the morning when we started about nine pm till 0:04:49.240 --> 0:04:49.799 seven am. 0:04:49.839 --> 0:04:53.440 So it was perfect until it wasn't. I'm just saying 0:04:54.520 --> 0:04:55.240 all of us. 0:04:57.520 --> 0:04:59.120 In the chicken going around the house fight. 0:05:00.720 --> 0:05:01.320 Over shared. 0:05:01.400 --> 0:05:04.000 We started talking about our past. What we did was 0:05:04.000 --> 0:05:05.400 we went we went. 0:05:05.320 --> 0:05:07.320 Named or name, and then you try to wine up 0:05:07.320 --> 0:05:07.680 each other. 0:05:09.920 --> 0:05:12.480 He got he got a couple, He got a couple. 0:05:12.920 --> 0:05:15.800 You know, he got sensitive about a name on a 0:05:15.920 --> 0:05:19.320 throughout there. He got sensitive about it. And it's like, 0:05:19.720 --> 0:05:22.680 after the whole thing, after the whole thing, I know 0:05:23.000 --> 0:05:26.520 we would have never had that argument. I just avoided 0:05:26.560 --> 0:05:27.120 that whole time. 0:05:27.320 --> 0:05:29.800 Yeah, certain things I do feel like guys in particular 0:05:29.920 --> 0:05:30.479 don't want to know. 0:05:30.600 --> 0:05:32.920 Certain things have been Remember. 0:05:32.720 --> 0:05:35.760 This guy, I know, I he started dating one of 0:05:35.800 --> 0:05:39.240 my friends and he knew a couple of things about 0:05:39.240 --> 0:05:41.880 her and he knew she did it like a big celebrity, 0:05:41.880 --> 0:05:44.320 and he told me specifically, please don't tell her. 0:05:44.360 --> 0:05:46.440 I know that because he didn't even want her to 0:05:46.520 --> 0:05:47.200 know that he. 0:05:48.720 --> 0:05:49.560 Was dating you. 0:05:50.200 --> 0:05:52.560 No, it wasn't out in the public like that. It 0:05:52.680 --> 0:05:55.760 was you know, she wasn't famous, so it wasn't like 0:05:55.960 --> 0:05:59.320 the general public would know. But he, you know, he 0:05:59.400 --> 0:06:02.120 knew because he was one of my friends, and so 0:06:02.160 --> 0:06:03.600 it was something that was discussed. 0:06:03.720 --> 0:06:05.320 But he was like, I don't even. 0:06:05.200 --> 0:06:07.680 Want Like he did not want to know nothing that 0:06:07.800 --> 0:06:09.600 happened before him and they ended up getting married and 0:06:09.640 --> 0:06:12.560 everything his own. 0:06:12.680 --> 0:06:14.599 But I think, honest, you don't want to get yourself 0:06:14.600 --> 0:06:16.960 caught up. Some people don't react like that. Some people 0:06:17.040 --> 0:06:19.160 find things out and then they completely I don't trust. 0:06:19.000 --> 0:06:19.840 You, nobody I want. 0:06:20.560 --> 0:06:24.120 That's why you want to communicate everything that's beautiful. G 0:06:25.120 --> 0:06:29.080 I just feel like I don't know what I guess 0:06:29.080 --> 0:06:31.159 the right man for me is going to have. 0:06:31.040 --> 0:06:33.360 A experience and was fighting in the crib. 0:06:33.640 --> 0:06:40.640 That's really growing a good thing, so fucked up a 0:06:40.680 --> 0:06:41.960 good thing because. 0:06:41.720 --> 0:06:43.080 Some people can't get out their head. 0:06:43.120 --> 0:06:45.920 You got to know like who you could tell stuff to, Okay, 0:06:45.960 --> 0:06:49.120 And the last thing I want to ask is sometimes 0:06:49.120 --> 0:06:51.960 men feel like if they're not financially in a place 0:06:51.960 --> 0:06:54.360 where they want to be, they just shouldn't even bother dating. 0:06:54.800 --> 0:06:56.400 What do you think about that? Right if? 0:06:56.560 --> 0:07:01.400 Right now, like he's down and he's saying shit went left, 0:07:01.400 --> 0:07:03.760 he's living with his mom, he doesn't have a job 0:07:03.880 --> 0:07:06.320 right now, financially not secure, he can't even afford to 0:07:06.320 --> 0:07:08.839 take you like certain places. What do you think about 0:07:08.880 --> 0:07:10.760 men who feel like, right now, I'm not in a 0:07:10.800 --> 0:07:13.440 space where I can even ask this woman on a 0:07:13.520 --> 0:07:15.880 date because I just ain't got it like that. 0:07:15.920 --> 0:07:18.880 Well, he just communicated with you how he his situation, 0:07:19.000 --> 0:07:21.040 in his position, So you got to respect that he's 0:07:21.080 --> 0:07:23.160 not ready to date. He can't give you what you need. 0:07:23.280 --> 0:07:25.120 You know that now you have to, as a woman, 0:07:25.200 --> 0:07:27.520 have to decide I can't get what I need from you. 0:07:27.520 --> 0:07:29.520 You just told me that I have to go this 0:07:29.560 --> 0:07:31.160 way now. But the thing is women see that and 0:07:31.200 --> 0:07:32.800 they just want to They want to try to break 0:07:32.840 --> 0:07:35.920 that barrier and try to help that man. People. Women 0:07:36.120 --> 0:07:38.760 often want to help men get out of their situation. 0:07:38.800 --> 0:07:39.960 I have to agree. 0:07:40.480 --> 0:07:43.240 When a guy tells me he's not financially ready to date, 0:07:43.360 --> 0:07:44.840 I'm like, thank you for letting me know. 0:07:45.080 --> 0:07:46.400 I appreciate it. 0:07:46.400 --> 0:07:49.920 Right, thanks honesty by I got to ar until seven 0:07:49.960 --> 0:07:51.000 am about shit. 0:07:51.200 --> 0:07:52.840 Right. 0:07:52.880 --> 0:07:54.800 But if he's communicating with you where he's at in 0:07:54.840 --> 0:07:57.240 his life and that he's not ready for a relationship, 0:07:57.280 --> 0:07:58.880 you gotta respect that. And especially a man that's not 0:07:58.920 --> 0:08:02.280 financially stable, it's very hard for him to give you 0:08:02.320 --> 0:08:05.360 what he wants, what you want, because he's not in 0:08:05.360 --> 0:08:07.200 the position to even give himself what he wants. 0:08:08.040 --> 0:08:11.480 Do you think that men should not date until they're 0:08:11.480 --> 0:08:14.720 financially stable because men sometimes think that, Like if a 0:08:14.760 --> 0:08:16.960 guy was like, Yo, I want to ask this girl out, 0:08:17.000 --> 0:08:18.000 but you know, I don't really. 0:08:18.600 --> 0:08:20.480 I mean, if you're sixteen, that's different. But if you're 0:08:21.320 --> 0:08:23.480 I think it's very important to be financially stable before 0:08:23.480 --> 0:08:26.720 you before you jump into a relationship. I think so too, 0:08:26.840 --> 0:08:29.200 because you're never going to be truly satisfied and give 0:08:29.240 --> 0:08:31.960 a woman what she needs until you're able to follow 0:08:32.040 --> 0:08:34.240 those three things that I always talk about, which is protect, 0:08:34.280 --> 0:08:37.320 to provide, and lead as a man. That's important and 0:08:37.360 --> 0:08:39.720 we got to hold ourselves accountable for those three things. 0:08:40.320 --> 0:08:42.400 And I think financially, as I talk about in all 0:08:42.400 --> 0:08:45.240 of my videos, that's very important. You know what I mean, 0:08:45.240 --> 0:08:45.680 you can't. 0:08:46.720 --> 0:08:48.800 I don't understand how a person could be horny when 0:08:48.840 --> 0:08:49.319 they're broke. 0:08:49.400 --> 0:08:56.840 It just doesn't mean regardless outside jerking off. 0:08:56.880 --> 0:09:04.400 Okay, when I'm fucked up, hobo sexual. 0:09:07.240 --> 0:09:09.760 Hobox, you're gonna dig you down. 0:09:09.600 --> 0:09:12.479 For a good morning going. I don't got no money. 0:09:12.760 --> 0:09:14.079 Have you ever been with a man it was a 0:09:14.240 --> 0:09:15.079 relationship going on. 0:09:15.080 --> 0:09:18.400 I got my bank account is looking nice. 0:09:18.679 --> 0:09:21.120 Have you ever been with a man and he lost 0:09:21.120 --> 0:09:22.880 his job or something? And then you just see the 0:09:22.920 --> 0:09:25.559 transition he stops doing the things that he was doing. 0:09:26.000 --> 0:09:28.320 I was, and I always So it's so funny because 0:09:28.320 --> 0:09:31.920 I had this conversation yesterday about you know, people will 0:09:31.960 --> 0:09:34.800 say that like, oh, women are materialistic, they only want 0:09:34.800 --> 0:09:37.319 a man, But I feel like it's more that when 0:09:37.360 --> 0:09:40.439 a man is down, he doesn't feel good about himself, right, 0:09:40.480 --> 0:09:42.600 And so I remember one time I was dating a 0:09:42.640 --> 0:09:45.000 guy he lost his job, and it was super early 0:09:45.040 --> 0:09:46.000 on in the relationship. 0:09:46.160 --> 0:09:47.720 His whole attitude change. 0:09:48.000 --> 0:09:50.240 He was not a nice person after that, like he 0:09:50.360 --> 0:09:54.040 was so unhappy with himself, saying he was just really 0:09:54.080 --> 0:09:56.800 negative and pessimistic. And it was too early on for 0:09:56.840 --> 0:09:58.640 me to be right or die. And I know the 0:09:58.760 --> 0:09:59.640 same exact thing. 0:10:00.040 --> 0:10:02.000 I was with a guy who lost his job and 0:10:02.000 --> 0:10:05.720 he started acting just like that, really pessimistic, really mean. 0:10:06.040 --> 0:10:10.120 Even it was like he was like fust you know. 0:10:10.800 --> 0:10:12.560 So I tried to want to be like I didn't 0:10:12.559 --> 0:10:14.640 want to leave him because he lost his job. You 0:10:14.679 --> 0:10:17.079 didn't want to leave him, right, like right right? It 0:10:17.640 --> 0:10:18.240 was an early stay. 0:10:18.280 --> 0:10:18.800 It was early. 0:10:18.840 --> 0:10:21.080 But if I was with you and we've been together 0:10:21.240 --> 0:10:24.480 and then unfortunate happened and I got to like, step up, 0:10:24.880 --> 0:10:25.840 I'm good, Like. 0:10:25.800 --> 0:10:28.120 I didn't want to leave him because he lost his job, 0:10:28.200 --> 0:10:30.640 but he became really a person. 0:10:30.760 --> 0:10:32.360 Yeah, And that's what I think. 0:10:32.360 --> 0:10:34.120 It is the more of the dynamic of how a 0:10:34.160 --> 0:10:37.200 man feels about himself. And that's for women too, Like 0:10:37.320 --> 0:10:40.640 we don't feel good when we'm saying yeah, like when. 0:10:40.480 --> 0:10:43.359 I got when I don't want when I'm eating McDonald's 0:10:43.360 --> 0:10:46.680 and I'm calling as to let me some money, I'm 0:10:46.679 --> 0:10:48.720 not feeling like I want him get fucked. I don't 0:10:48.760 --> 0:10:51.079 want to have suck, I don't want to date. I 0:10:51.120 --> 0:10:53.000 don't want to talk to any of these men. I 0:10:53.000 --> 0:10:57.280 want to get my life together, Like no, no, no, no, 0:10:57.360 --> 0:11:00.520 I don't understand. So I just like if a man 0:11:00.559 --> 0:11:02.600 tells me. If a man tells me, listen, I'm not 0:11:02.679 --> 0:11:04.840 my money's on right right now. But stuff, I'm gonna 0:11:04.840 --> 0:11:07.280 come after you when I when it is, I respect that, 0:11:07.520 --> 0:11:12.200 like thanks, it's a compliment you see you later appreciated 0:11:12.240 --> 0:11:14.439 because don't bring problems to me. I already have enough problems. 0:11:14.480 --> 0:11:14.679 I don't. 0:11:14.800 --> 0:11:17.520 I don't have to sign for everybody's problems, right, And. 0:11:17.480 --> 0:11:20.280 We're in a new era where women are entrepreneurs and 0:11:20.360 --> 0:11:23.240 women are making things happen, and men have to adapt 0:11:23.280 --> 0:11:24.719 to that. If some women aren't ready to be in 0:11:24.720 --> 0:11:27.120 a relationship until they are financially where they want to be, 0:11:27.200 --> 0:11:30.240 until they have their goals, so maybe some women are like, 0:11:30.240 --> 0:11:31.760 I want to stay single till I'm happy where I 0:11:31.800 --> 0:11:34.160 am and I'm open for a relationship and I don't 0:11:34.160 --> 0:11:35.520 want to deal with no man that's not going to 0:11:35.600 --> 0:11:38.320 respect that or help me grow or be a better person. 0:11:39.480 --> 0:11:42.880 It's just it's it's a balance, and it's really just 0:11:42.920 --> 0:11:45.240 like it's a daily balance because you're going to go 0:11:45.240 --> 0:11:48.560 through struggles every day. Relationships are super hard, and anybody 0:11:48.559 --> 0:11:50.920 that makes you think that it's a smooth ride doesn't 0:11:51.000 --> 0:11:53.640 understand what it needs to be a question reship. 0:11:53.720 --> 0:11:58.760 One last question, right, So what if as a woman 0:11:59.679 --> 0:12:04.800 I tend to make men feel intimidated? And you probably 0:12:04.840 --> 0:12:07.400 go through this and all of us like, have you 0:12:07.400 --> 0:12:09.959 ever felt like a guy dated too and he gets 0:12:10.000 --> 0:12:12.640 to know you and he realizes your lifestyle or realizes 0:12:12.720 --> 0:12:15.720 your situation, how you move or whatever, and then he 0:12:15.760 --> 0:12:16.679 gets intimidated. 0:12:16.720 --> 0:12:17.760 I've had that, heaven. 0:12:20.440 --> 0:12:22.440 Well, and maybe I'm dating. 0:12:22.320 --> 0:12:24.800 Too a lot. 0:12:25.640 --> 0:12:30.520 I've definitely been around someone who didn't realize the level 0:12:30.760 --> 0:12:33.360 of comfortability that I had in life at the time, 0:12:33.880 --> 0:12:37.440 and once they did, they were just like, oh okay. 0:12:37.679 --> 0:12:38.360 I feel like. 0:12:38.400 --> 0:12:41.679 They felt like they couldn't they weren't where I was at, 0:12:41.760 --> 0:12:44.640 and they felt like you got more than I was. 0:12:44.679 --> 0:12:47.960 Actually dating a guy a couple of years ago really 0:12:48.120 --> 0:12:50.120 liked and I never talk about this guy, but I 0:12:50.120 --> 0:12:52.160 really liked him. I respect him as a man and 0:12:52.280 --> 0:12:55.080 as a friend. But he then told me straight to 0:12:55.120 --> 0:12:57.400 my face, like I can't afford the way you live. 0:12:57.440 --> 0:13:00.000 I can't afford your lifestyle, Like you drive a band, 0:13:00.480 --> 0:13:02.600 you live in the house by yourself, and you are 0:13:02.640 --> 0:13:05.440 always shopping and you're always doing this. I can't afford you. 0:13:05.520 --> 0:13:09.360 Like I want to be around that's not what I'm 0:13:09.360 --> 0:13:12.640 doing exactly. Like even that the way you travel, I 0:13:12.679 --> 0:13:12.960 don't know. 0:13:13.840 --> 0:13:16.440 I never had a guy tell me that straight to 0:13:16.520 --> 0:13:20.360 my face. And I feel like I'm really good at 0:13:20.440 --> 0:13:23.160 not making you feel like me too. 0:13:23.360 --> 0:13:25.440 I feel the same way like I'm not trying to 0:13:25.440 --> 0:13:26.520 make I never felt like I. 0:13:26.559 --> 0:13:29.800 Because I get I feel like me, I get a lot. 0:13:29.920 --> 0:13:31.600 He couldn't afford to pay for those things, Is that 0:13:31.640 --> 0:13:32.280 what he was saying. 0:13:32.600 --> 0:13:34.680 He said he couldn't afford anything that I do, like 0:13:34.720 --> 0:13:37.160 the way the way that I dress, the way the 0:13:37.240 --> 0:13:40.320 car that I have, the way that I'm living, I 0:13:40.360 --> 0:13:43.400 can't afford you, like, Okay, so this is this is 0:13:43.400 --> 0:13:45.520 what happened with us. We he and I. We were 0:13:45.559 --> 0:13:48.520 getting along. We were seeing each other like literally every day. 0:13:48.520 --> 0:13:50.079 The way the situation was up. I'm not going to 0:13:50.160 --> 0:13:51.960 say too much about it, but the way the situation 0:13:52.040 --> 0:13:53.840 was set up, we were seeing each other a lot, 0:13:54.080 --> 0:13:59.600 you know what I mean. And suddenly, you know, the 0:14:00.200 --> 0:14:03.520 like we started to stop seeing each like out of nowhere, 0:14:03.720 --> 0:14:05.959 And I was really confused about it. And I'm not 0:14:06.000 --> 0:14:09.400 the type of person who holds in my feelings, you know, 0:14:09.720 --> 0:14:13.840 And when I'm comfortable with somebody I can't stop talking 0:14:13.880 --> 0:14:18.800 to them, like I have a extended vernacular, you know, 0:14:19.480 --> 0:14:24.240 with them. And it's like, so I I hit him 0:14:24.320 --> 0:14:25.840 up and I let him know, like what's going on, 0:14:25.960 --> 0:14:27.480 like because we're not going to do this, like I 0:14:27.520 --> 0:14:29.480 want to be clear what's going on right now? And 0:14:29.520 --> 0:14:32.160 he was like, come over, let's talk about it. And 0:14:32.160 --> 0:14:34.600 he told me straight to my face that night, like 0:14:34.600 --> 0:14:36.920 like I love you stuff, but I can't. I can't 0:14:36.920 --> 0:14:41.040 afford you to edit. It makes me nervous every time. Okay, 0:14:41.120 --> 0:14:43.120 so this is what triggered it. I got to get 0:14:43.240 --> 0:14:46.000 from somebody else. He and I were, you know, we 0:14:46.000 --> 0:14:48.360 were seeing each other, but we weren't in locked in 0:14:48.360 --> 0:14:51.120 in a serious relationship. And I actually called him with 0:14:51.280 --> 0:14:59.640 another woman once or twice exactly what I'm talking about me. 0:15:00.240 --> 0:15:03.440 So he and we whatever, we had a night together, 0:15:03.520 --> 0:15:05.240 and like I said, he and I used to talk 0:15:05.320 --> 0:15:08.240 a lot, but we used to have these long conversations. 0:15:08.520 --> 0:15:10.400 So I went upstairs and we had the conversation and 0:15:10.400 --> 0:15:13.360 he just told me straight up like I can't afford you. 0:15:13.400 --> 0:15:15.480 I can't afford to against you gifts like that, like 0:15:15.840 --> 0:15:18.720 you're I feel like being with you, I'll never make 0:15:18.800 --> 0:15:20.640 you happy, it'll never be enough. 0:15:22.480 --> 0:15:23.400 And he bought me. 0:15:23.360 --> 0:15:26.200 And he brought me like stupid gifts for like my 0:15:26.320 --> 0:15:32.280 birthday and for Christmas and you like little stupid gifts 0:15:32.320 --> 0:15:34.400 for Valentine's Day and those and all those days. 0:15:34.400 --> 0:15:35.160 But I liked them. 0:15:35.240 --> 0:15:38.920 I was very grateful, Yeah, Like they were thoughtful gifts 0:15:39.000 --> 0:15:42.720 and nice flowers, and I was really grateful for them. 0:15:42.960 --> 0:15:45.320 But he saw the competition. 0:15:45.640 --> 0:15:47.920 Yeah, and he always before I got with him, he 0:15:48.040 --> 0:15:50.400 used to see my ex. He used to see me 0:15:50.440 --> 0:15:52.800 and my ex together, like actually get to see it, 0:15:52.920 --> 0:15:55.000 like a lot of people never even got to see it, 0:15:55.040 --> 0:15:58.120 and he actually was able to see us together. So 0:15:58.280 --> 0:16:01.120 even that was intimidating for him from the beginning. Right 0:16:01.560 --> 0:16:04.040 like when I met him, he was like, oh, he 0:16:04.160 --> 0:16:04.400 was like. 0:16:04.400 --> 0:16:05.040 Yeah, I've seen. 0:16:05.640 --> 0:16:08.280 I've seen you had the Mayback and the Bentley and 0:16:08.400 --> 0:16:12.160 your driveway. So you know, he knew what I was 0:16:12.200 --> 0:16:14.480 dealing with before him, and what I was dealing with 0:16:14.520 --> 0:16:17.480 before him was like sending me gifts and shit. 0:16:17.920 --> 0:16:19.880 Right, his confidence was in the toilet. 0:16:20.200 --> 0:16:22.680 Yeah, like he saw he saw one of my gifts. 0:16:22.680 --> 0:16:25.040 It was like a fifteen thousand dollars gift. 0:16:25.640 --> 0:16:28.160 I've admit him and I didn't think anything of it. 0:16:28.240 --> 0:16:29.640 I opened it in his house. 0:16:29.840 --> 0:16:31.880 I opened it in his in his garage, like in 0:16:31.920 --> 0:16:33.800 his house. I got the mail in front of him 0:16:33.800 --> 0:16:35.280 and I was like, oh, let's see what it is. 0:16:35.520 --> 0:16:39.800 And it was like a purse and no, lie, he 0:16:40.240 --> 0:16:41.240 got weird after that. 0:16:41.520 --> 0:16:43.440 Competing with your partner, I think a lot of people, 0:16:43.840 --> 0:16:50.680 especially men, from the beginning, if that's a big red flag. 0:16:51.000 --> 0:16:54.720 One time he came into my house and said, Stephanie, 0:16:55.400 --> 0:16:57.920 you're a big dog, but I'm a big dog too. 0:17:00.040 --> 0:17:01.880 Okay, that would have ended it. Right after that. I 0:17:01.920 --> 0:17:05.119 couldn't believe it. I couldn't. I couldn't believe. 0:17:05.119 --> 0:17:07.280 It's funny to me because I remember when all of 0:17:07.320 --> 0:17:08.240 these things happened. 0:17:08.520 --> 0:17:12.800 I never talked about this that Turnobody says that to me, 0:17:13.080 --> 0:17:15.240 Like you're a big dog, but I'm a big dog. 0:17:15.680 --> 0:17:16.920 In your corny. Yeah. 0:17:17.560 --> 0:17:21.359 I think it's like him being secure with himself. Whether secure. 0:17:21.520 --> 0:17:24.800 He was very intimidated by everything that she had. 0:17:24.680 --> 0:17:27.360 Going on and I had nothing going on. 0:17:27.560 --> 0:17:30.240 Men like men like competition to a certain point. 0:17:31.119 --> 0:17:32.199 I think I have a like. 0:17:32.440 --> 0:17:33.560 But look at what he was used to. 0:17:33.800 --> 0:17:35.280 I know he was, and he was. 0:17:35.600 --> 0:17:40.000 It was a lot of men when successful woman wanted 0:17:40.000 --> 0:17:40.480 to control. 0:17:40.920 --> 0:17:43.600 Can you judge a person by who they dated before you? 0:17:43.640 --> 0:17:46.320 Because sometimes we look at like who that I did. 0:17:46.200 --> 0:17:50.240 It, and like, oh no, I'm waite, No because people change, right, No, 0:17:50.840 --> 0:17:51.480 I dated some. 0:17:51.600 --> 0:17:53.639