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Speaker 3: My in law said I couldn't share a bed with

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Speaker 3: my own wife.

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Speaker 2: So I left.

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Speaker 4: Did she follow you?

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Speaker 3: My wife and I got married last summer. Her family

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Speaker 3: lives across the country from us, so up until this point,

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Speaker 3: I had never actually visited them, but I had met

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Speaker 3: them a handful of times and we've always gotten along fine.

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Speaker 3: to the r slash Okay Storytime subreddit. I'm Savannah, I'm Keon,

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Speaker 3: and we are here to give some good advice. Goofy,

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Speaker 3: but we do not have all the ants, says, We

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Speaker 3: could only tell you what we would do in this situation.

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Speaker 3: Sean let us know what she will do down in

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Speaker 3: the comments, as Op says. They invited us to come

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Speaker 3: visit and stay with them for a few days, and

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Speaker 3: we took them up on the offer. We flew in

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Speaker 3: yesterday and everything went well. Her dad and I watched

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Speaker 3: football while she caught up with her mom and sisters,

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Speaker 3: and then we had a really nice dinner. But things

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Speaker 3: went south at the end of the night when it

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Speaker 3: was made clear that they didn't want me sharing a

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Speaker 3: they expected me to sleep on the couch. I honestly

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Speaker 3: thought they were joking at first, but they insisted we

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Speaker 3: sleep separately. I had a problem with the implication that

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Speaker 3: I shouldn't be allowed to sleep next to my wife,

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Speaker 3: and I also have a bad back, and the couch

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Speaker 3: did not look the least bit comfortable, and they don't

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Speaker 3: have a guest room. After arguing back and forth for

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Speaker 3: a bit, I decided to leave and book a hotel.

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Speaker 3: I told my wife she didn't have to come with me.

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Speaker 3: She chose to stay, and I said i'd come back

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Speaker 3: the next day. I went off to a Marriott about

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Speaker 3: ten minutes away and got a good night's sleep, trying

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Speaker 3: to not let the whole situation bother me. This morning,

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Speaker 3: I called my wife asking when I should come by.

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Speaker 3: She told me her parents want me to apologize for

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Speaker 3: leaving the way I did. I told her that I'm

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Speaker 3: willing to apologize to keep the peace, but they need

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Speaker 3: to acknowledge that it wasn't appropriate to insist I can't

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Speaker 3: talk to them and call me back. About ten minutes later,

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Speaker 3: I hear back from her and she tells me that

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Speaker 3: not only they not apologize for it, they are now

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Speaker 2: I'm pretty livid at this point.

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Speaker 3: I told her that there's absolutely no chance that I

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Speaker 3: offer any sort of apology.

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Speaker 2: My wife's sisters.

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Speaker 3: Are now bothering me, saying this is just the way

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Speaker 3: that I need to give in and stay on the

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Speaker 3: into some sort of family feud. From my perspective, I

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Speaker 3: don't care what they think, and I'm willing to treat

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Speaker 3: the rest of the strip as a solo vacation, go sightseeing,

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Speaker 3: end of the week.

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Speaker 2: Am I the a hole and there is an.

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Speaker 4: Update doing that. But again, your wife's not making it

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Speaker 4: any easier for you because she's just like that's how

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Speaker 4: they are, and like just you know you're getting you'reting

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Speaker 4: the best couch in their house.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like I don't ope, I don't think that

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Speaker 3: you're the a hole for like wanting to get a

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Speaker 3: good night's rest for like an entire week instead of

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Speaker 3: rest of the time. Like you know, if I if

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Speaker 4: Like, yeah, this is a real least. I don't know,

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Speaker 4: this is your vacation, Yeah you should be Why wouldn't

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Speaker 4: you want to be comfortable? Yeah, I mean I guess, Yeah,

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Speaker 4: you have the accommodation of not paying for anything, but

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Speaker 4: better comfort, yeah, I'm doing it. And why is it

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: It's like, do you want me to wake up with

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Speaker 2: I don't want to do that.

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Speaker 3: I want to enjoy the trip, and how I'm gonna

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Speaker 3: enjoy it is if I get a good night's rest,

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Speaker 3: because I'm an adult and I need to sleep on

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Speaker 3: a bed, not a couch, and I'm not fifteen. There

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Speaker 3: is an update. I took the advice of one of

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Speaker 3: the posters here to ask my wife and her sisters

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Speaker 3: was interesting, to say the least. After we sat down,

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Speaker 3: I leaned into them a bit about what had happen.

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Speaker 3: I asked my wife if she knew her dad was

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Speaker 3: was surprised by it as well. She'd expect that if

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Speaker 3: I were still just her boyfriend, but we're married now.

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Speaker 3: I then asked them all if they thought it was

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Speaker 3: They said it wasn't, but they know their father and

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Speaker 3: it's best to just let things like this go. This

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Speaker 3: led to a somewhat uncomfortable conversation about how controlling he

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Speaker 3: can get, how he angers easily when he doesn't get

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Speaker 3: over me disrespecting him by leaving. The reason they were

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Speaker 3: was because he would find some way to make them

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Speaker 4: So we just give we just give the bully more power.

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Speaker 3: It's like this, like little little man is just like

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Speaker 3: I ain't get my way. No, I am to make

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Speaker 3: this vacation miserable for everyone else. Like you are probably

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Speaker 3: the oldest one in this situation. Why are you acting

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Speaker 3: like you're twelve? Why you're gonna throw a tantrum because

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Speaker 3: he ain't get your way? You're he's probably like sixty five,

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Speaker 3: Like grow up.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I mean he's already he's already old. But he's got

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Like what like if things don't go his way,

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Speaker 2: What are you eight?

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Speaker 4: And I feel like, oh, piece wife and the sisters

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Speaker 4: to this where they're like they don't you know, he

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Speaker 4: want to make him mad? What's he gonna do? What

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Speaker 4: is he gonna do? Literally, he's gonna, Oh my gosh,

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Speaker 4: you're gonna you're gonna you're gonna have to leave the

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Speaker 3: Oh no, yeah, Like I I don't know what he

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Speaker 4: Will be upset, Oh he'll he'll be upset, Okay, won't

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Speaker 4: hang out with you? Then? Like, if you're gonna try

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I told my wife I was really disappointed that she

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Speaker 3: because it seemed more like their dad was just trying

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Speaker 3: to show me who was in charge. They agreed up

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Speaker 3: to this point, I had really done everything I could

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Speaker 3: and I'd book a second room for them if they

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Speaker 2: Ah, I don't know if.

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Speaker 4: That's that's okay. Now you're just trying to show like

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Speaker 4: you're trying to show the dad like it's the path

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Speaker 4: I also have. Like I also made a new door,

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Speaker 4: we can all enjoy it.

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Speaker 1: M a uh oh.

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Speaker 4: I mean again, this is a trip for your wife.

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Speaker 4: You it does suck, but how are you supposed to

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Speaker 4: enjoy this if he's going to be trying to bully

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Speaker 4: bully you and make you feel uncomfortable?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: No, literally, the whole thing is just like it's really

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Speaker 3: weird because it's like you you want to be able

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Speaker 3: to accommodate to like what your parents want, because you know,

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Speaker 3: obviously this is their house, it's.

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Speaker 2: You know, but it's everyone's vacation.

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Speaker 3: So like, you know, if you're if they want you

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Speaker 3: to be miserable, like, okay, then I'm just not going

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Speaker 3: to vacation with you. I don't know, Like I'll just

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Speaker 3: But then that's not the right answer either. Yeah, it's

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Speaker 3: like I'm not sleeping on a couch. I'm like forty five.

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Speaker 4: This is stemming from like who's in charge, this is

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Speaker 4: my house, this is my rules, but it should also

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Speaker 4: be like you're a guest and there should be mutual respect,

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Speaker 4: and it seems like there it's not there. Yeah, he's like,

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Speaker 4: oh you want you want follow my rules or you

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Speaker 4: want live in my house or stay in my house.

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna make everyone miserable.

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Speaker 2: I just don't understand, like the power trips.

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Speaker 4: It's a very weird dynamic.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, VOP, I don't really agree with you giving

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Speaker 3: another power trip back.

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Speaker 4: Yeah you're you're kind of like, all right, well I'm

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Speaker 4: gonna show who's more in charge, and like I can

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Speaker 4: give them freedom to do this without you. Kind of

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Speaker 4: thing like I dad should have been discussed with your wife.

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Speaker 4: I don't know. Very interesting.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, now I feel like this is going to cause

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Speaker 3: even more problems. They don't get to go on trips much,

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Speaker 3: so I figured they'd be excited to get a.

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Speaker 2: Free vacation away from their parents.

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Speaker 3: They know that their dad is probably going to freak

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Speaker 3: out when they leave, but I think they realized this

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Speaker 3: situation had gone too far, so they decided they would

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Speaker 2: The fallout afterwards.

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Speaker 3: Oh okay, so everyone's going. So that's where this all

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Speaker 3: stands for now. I'm about to check out of my

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Speaker 3: they left without telling him, but I really don't care

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Speaker 4: I cooked my husband's favorite meal, then he left to

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Speaker 4: I'd be like, you know what, stay over there, stay

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Speaker 4: Also, why am I cooking for you anymore? I you

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Speaker 4: You have takeout? Well, guess what I made? Sonny, come

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Speaker 4: And we got an update. I don't care if this

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Speaker 4: You know what, guess what, Bring your mom over here,

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Speaker 4: I realize how important boundaries are, but I also realize

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Speaker 4: But if he's still somehow unable to do his part,

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Speaker 4: So yeah, this is it. Thanks so much. That's theame

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Speaker 3: Like now, you know, I can't even you know, I

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Speaker 4: to cook meals for you and you just don't care

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Speaker 4: or show appreciation. Like he didn't like Opie didn't say

438
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Speaker 4: she was a bad cook. She said, I'm I'm not

439
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Speaker 4: like I have the recipes. They're not the same as

440
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Speaker 4: his moms, unfortunately, but I'm cooking you dinner, like if

441
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Speaker 4: I'm cooking you poison and like goop, that's one thing,

442
00:19:23,040 --> 00:19:25,479
Speaker 4: But it didn't say Opie was a bad cook. Maybe,

443
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Speaker 4: and he seems like she's talked him about it. I

444
00:19:27,240 --> 00:19:29,359
Speaker 4: don't know. There's like so many things that are just

445
00:19:29,640 --> 00:19:33,640
Speaker 4: blatant red flags, and this guy needs to understand that he's.

446
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Speaker 6: In the wrong.

447
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Speaker 3: Yeah, he's just got to grow up stop being a

448
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Speaker 3: big mom's boy.

449
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Speaker 4: Yeah, but that is the end of that story, and

450
00:19:39,280 --> 00:19:40,600
Speaker 4: we got another one coming right up.

451
00:19:41,040 --> 00:19:43,959
Speaker 3: My sister in law spent weeks trying to break our

452
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Speaker 3: wedding role.

453
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Speaker 2: Wait, didn't move an inch.

454
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Speaker 4: How about a centimeter?

455
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Speaker 3: My fiance thirty six male, and I thirty four female,

456
00:19:50,440 --> 00:19:52,960
Speaker 3: are getting married in three weeks, and for the most part,

457
00:19:53,200 --> 00:19:56,080
Speaker 3: planning has been simple and easy. We're having a small

458
00:19:56,160 --> 00:19:59,600
Speaker 3: ish wedding in a local hotel with fifty guests. Everything

459
00:19:59,680 --> 00:20:02,840
Speaker 3: is being held on site. Ceremony, the dinner, and the

460
00:20:02,880 --> 00:20:06,960
Speaker 3: reception are all taking place in the one hotel. By

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Speaker 3: the way, this comes from Wide Opportunity fifty nine eighty nine.

462
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Speaker 3: And if you want to submit your own stories, go

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Speaker 3: to the r slash Okay Storytime subred at I'm Savannah,

464
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Speaker 3: I'm Keon, and we are here to give some good

465
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Speaker 3: advice goofully.

466
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Speaker 2: We do not have all your answers.

467
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Speaker 3: We'll only tell you what we would do in this situation,

468
00:20:21,960 --> 00:20:23,800
Speaker 3: but let us know what you would do down in

469
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Speaker 3: those comments.

470
00:20:24,840 --> 00:20:26,280
Speaker 2: As Opie says.

471
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Speaker 3: My fiance and I decided early on that we wanted

472
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Speaker 3: the reception to be child free. Children are welcome at

473
00:20:31,880 --> 00:20:35,080
Speaker 3: the ceremony and the early dinner we're having, but not

474
00:20:35,320 --> 00:20:38,359
Speaker 3: for the party afterwards. I myself have a ten year

475
00:20:38,400 --> 00:20:41,359
Speaker 3: old son, who will be there for the ceremony and meal,

476
00:20:41,560 --> 00:20:45,440
Speaker 3: but not the reception. The issue is with my fiance sister,

477
00:20:45,680 --> 00:20:50,840
Speaker 3: Lisa thirty eight female. She has a daughter, Chloe, eleven female,

478
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Speaker 3: and has started insisting that Chloe be at the reception.

479
00:20:54,560 --> 00:20:57,760
Speaker 3: Lisa is the only girl in a family of five children,

480
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Speaker 3: and due to this, she has rarely been told no,

481
00:21:00,840 --> 00:21:04,040
Speaker 3: even into adulthood. My fiance and I have been firm

482
00:21:04,080 --> 00:21:06,320
Speaker 3: on the stance that no children would be allowed in

483
00:21:06,440 --> 00:21:09,120
Speaker 3: the reception, and she is fully aware of the on

484
00:21:09,200 --> 00:21:12,320
Speaker 3: site childcare. We have booked a separate room in the

485
00:21:12,359 --> 00:21:15,919
Speaker 3: hotel especially for this purpose. However, she is adamant that

486
00:21:16,000 --> 00:21:18,439
Speaker 3: Chloe stay with her. If it was just me and

487
00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:21,120
Speaker 3: my fiance, it wouldn't be too much of a big deal.

488
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Speaker 2: We can handle her.

489
00:21:22,560 --> 00:21:26,000
Speaker 3: However, she has begun hounding my future mother in law,

490
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Speaker 3: whom I get on with really well, and has even

491
00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:32,560
Speaker 3: begun messaging my mother on Facebook to try and get

492
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Speaker 3: them to convince the two of us to let Chloe

493
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Speaker 3: be at the reception. This is not okay with me

494
00:21:38,040 --> 00:21:41,280
Speaker 3: or with my fiance. Neither one of our mothers are

495
00:21:41,359 --> 00:21:44,040
Speaker 3: in the best of health and they don't need the

496
00:21:44,080 --> 00:21:47,520
Speaker 3: stress She either doesn't realize or doesn't care that if

497
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Speaker 3: we allow her daughter to attend the reception, we have

498
00:21:50,240 --> 00:21:52,960
Speaker 3: to allow all the children to attend, and we wanted

499
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Speaker 3: to allow the parents to have a fun time in

500
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Speaker 3: the evening. Even my son isn't going to be at

501
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Speaker 3: the reception. We don't see them often. However, last Sunday,

502
00:22:01,520 --> 00:22:03,639
Speaker 3: we were all at my future in laws for lunch

503
00:22:03,720 --> 00:22:05,480
Speaker 3: and so the kids could see each other, and she

504
00:22:05,560 --> 00:22:08,040
Speaker 3: decided to bring it up. She decided it would be

505
00:22:08,119 --> 00:22:10,080
Speaker 3: a good idea to try and corner me in the

506
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Speaker 3: kitchen to try and change my mind. Once again, I

507
00:22:13,640 --> 00:22:16,400
Speaker 3: reiterated that there would be no children at the reception,

508
00:22:16,520 --> 00:22:20,320
Speaker 3: and well, this didn't go down well. I swear she

509
00:22:20,560 --> 00:22:23,920
Speaker 3: was close to throwing a grown up tantrum. I've never

510
00:22:23,920 --> 00:22:25,240
Speaker 3: seen anything like it before.

511
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Speaker 4: What a good role model for your daughter?

512
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Speaker 2: Yeah, this girl sucks.

513
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Speaker 3: I just told her that the little ones in the

514
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Speaker 3: other room were better behaved than she was and to

515
00:22:34,000 --> 00:22:36,320
Speaker 3: grow the heck up and walked around her back to

516
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Speaker 3: the others. Her tantrum didn't stop. After this scene, my

517
00:22:39,960 --> 00:22:41,960
Speaker 3: future mother in law asked if we would be willing

518
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Speaker 3: to beten the rules we have for the reception for Lisa,

519
00:22:45,000 --> 00:22:47,199
Speaker 3: but the two of us were still firm on the no.

520
00:22:48,240 --> 00:22:50,600
Speaker 3: Usually I would just stick it out and not care

521
00:22:50,920 --> 00:22:53,880
Speaker 3: and if she hadn't started getting other family members involved,

522
00:22:54,280 --> 00:22:57,080
Speaker 3: but now that she has, it's beginning to stress me out.

523
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Speaker 3: I don't think that we're being unreasonable with our request

524
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Speaker 3: for no children at the reception, but I don't know

525
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Speaker 3: if I can handle this for another three weeks? Am

526
00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:07,960
Speaker 3: I the AH for sticking to our child free reception role?

527
00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:08,760
Speaker 3: There's an update?

528
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Speaker 4: No, this is your wedding, literally not at all, and

529
00:23:12,520 --> 00:23:14,600
Speaker 4: the fact that you have like the kids can go

530
00:23:14,680 --> 00:23:18,760
Speaker 4: in a room and hang out after everything is phenomenal.

531
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Speaker 4: I feel like every other parent is like this is great,

532
00:23:22,160 --> 00:23:24,560
Speaker 4: Like we actually get to not worry about our kids,

533
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Speaker 4: or like, you know, we can actually like party a

534
00:23:26,920 --> 00:23:30,960
Speaker 4: little bit without like adult supervision all this jazz. It's great.

535
00:23:31,480 --> 00:23:32,439
Speaker 4: It is a small wedding.

536
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Speaker 3: What, yeah, Like I don't understand what the big deal is.

537
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Speaker 3: Why do you need your eleven year old to be

538
00:23:37,920 --> 00:23:39,840
Speaker 3: there just so you can like take care of her

539
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Speaker 3: and like talk like you know, like I feel like

540
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Speaker 3: you like why people, I'm.

541
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Speaker 4: Sure like I don't know, I'm you know, sorry, for it.

542
00:23:48,960 --> 00:23:51,640
Speaker 3: For me at least, like my family weddings, like we

543
00:23:51,720 --> 00:23:53,120
Speaker 3: go till like early morn.

544
00:23:53,280 --> 00:23:56,439
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, Filipinos, we go. We go till we have

545
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Speaker 4: to get kicked out. Yeah, yes, same, until we get

546
00:23:58,480 --> 00:23:59,000
Speaker 4: punted out.

547
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Speaker 2: Yes, I agree.

548
00:24:00,480 --> 00:24:04,840
Speaker 3: We we go until there's either you know, people are

549
00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:07,960
Speaker 3: the people are getting us out of there, or there's

550
00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:10,600
Speaker 3: an ambulance called, which is what happened either or.

551
00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:12,600
Speaker 2: Whichever comes first.

552
00:24:12,760 --> 00:24:18,399
Speaker 3: But but like, this is not your wedding, Like so

553
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Speaker 3: I don't understand why this girl thinks that she can

554
00:24:20,800 --> 00:24:22,840
Speaker 3: just be like hmm, maybe I'll like if I just

555
00:24:22,920 --> 00:24:26,440
Speaker 3: like bully her and then like make her whole entire

556
00:24:26,600 --> 00:24:30,920
Speaker 3: family like against her, then maybe she'll let me bring her.

557
00:24:30,960 --> 00:24:33,879
Speaker 4: Like, well, people are now breaking, Like the mother in

558
00:24:33,960 --> 00:24:36,119
Speaker 4: law is like, just what if you just bent the

559
00:24:36,200 --> 00:24:38,600
Speaker 4: rule a little bit? Because people are just tired of it.

560
00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:40,919
Speaker 4: They're just like shut up. If this is gonna make

561
00:24:40,960 --> 00:24:44,760
Speaker 4: you shut up, great, but good for up. Stand strong,

562
00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:48,800
Speaker 4: hold firm, do not falter, Do not let her win.

563
00:24:49,080 --> 00:24:51,639
Speaker 4: You got just again, give her the ultimat of I'm like,

564
00:24:51,680 --> 00:24:54,240
Speaker 4: if you keep pushing, you're not invited to the wedding anymore.

565
00:24:54,320 --> 00:24:54,520
Speaker 7: Yeah.

566
00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:56,920
Speaker 3: Sorry, I just be like, listen, it's my wedding. These

567
00:24:56,920 --> 00:24:59,359
Speaker 3: are the rules and everyone is following them. You are

568
00:24:59,400 --> 00:25:01,879
Speaker 3: the only one that is having an issue with this.

569
00:25:02,080 --> 00:25:03,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, what makes you so special?

570
00:25:03,600 --> 00:25:07,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, there's an update. We got married last Saturday and

571
00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:11,200
Speaker 3: everything went perfectly. Everyone and everything was where it was

572
00:25:11,200 --> 00:25:13,560
Speaker 3: supposed to be when it was supposed to be, and

573
00:25:13,760 --> 00:25:15,800
Speaker 3: if there were any issues, I didn't hear about it.

574
00:25:16,200 --> 00:25:18,439
Speaker 3: My older sister arrived a week and a half before

575
00:25:18,480 --> 00:25:21,359
Speaker 3: the wedding, and she's like a miniature tornado when she

576
00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:24,440
Speaker 3: gets going. She firmly told me not to worry about.

577
00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:26,880
Speaker 2: Lisa and that she would deal with her nice, no

578
00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:27,840
Speaker 2: doubt about that.

579
00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:30,280
Speaker 4: Nice, love that clutch.

580
00:25:30,560 --> 00:25:33,480
Speaker 3: Lisa brought up Chloe coming to the reception once again

581
00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:36,720
Speaker 3: the day after I posted and my husband, I love

582
00:25:36,880 --> 00:25:40,240
Speaker 3: seeing that ow and I told her that if she

583
00:25:40,400 --> 00:25:42,520
Speaker 3: tried to bring Chloe in the both of them would

584
00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:45,719
Speaker 3: be removed. We didn't hear anything more from Lisa following

585
00:25:45,720 --> 00:25:48,479
Speaker 3: than instant. A few people wondered what Chloe thought about it,

586
00:25:48,560 --> 00:25:50,560
Speaker 3: and she told us that she thinks adults are boring

587
00:25:50,600 --> 00:25:53,000
Speaker 3: and she'd rather spend time with her cousins and other kids.

588
00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:55,320
Speaker 4: There it is. I was waiting. I was waiting for

589
00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:57,840
Speaker 4: Lisa to use Chloe as like a weapon. Yea of

590
00:25:57,960 --> 00:26:01,680
Speaker 4: like hi o peek, I really want to spend time

591
00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:04,480
Speaker 4: with you at the wedding. Yeah, yeah, no.

592
00:26:04,840 --> 00:26:06,080
Speaker 2: So there's that.

593
00:26:06,720 --> 00:26:08,960
Speaker 3: When my older brothers turned up a few days before

594
00:26:09,000 --> 00:26:11,159
Speaker 3: the wedding, all of them were laughing about how my

595
00:26:11,240 --> 00:26:14,320
Speaker 3: sister was doing her guard dog routine with Lisa.

596
00:26:14,119 --> 00:26:17,320
Speaker 2: And wasn't letting her anywhere near either of us or

597
00:26:17,440 --> 00:26:18,040
Speaker 2: our mothers.

598
00:26:18,240 --> 00:26:20,639
Speaker 4: Amazing, buy her. You got to buy her like a

599
00:26:20,760 --> 00:26:22,240
Speaker 4: nice dinner or something.

600
00:26:22,480 --> 00:26:23,880
Speaker 2: You gotta be like girl. You did it.

601
00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:27,440
Speaker 4: Again, like you are the tornado that keeps on giving.

602
00:26:28,480 --> 00:26:32,360
Speaker 3: My sister's tiny four eleven and petite, but a powerhouse

603
00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:35,320
Speaker 3: behind it. I love that it turned out that my

604
00:26:35,359 --> 00:26:37,600
Speaker 3: sister was the one keeping her at bay, and you

605
00:26:37,640 --> 00:26:38,320
Speaker 3: can bet she.

606
00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:40,360
Speaker 2: Got a very large bottle of wine.

607
00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:43,280
Speaker 3: And thanks for my husband and I, the day was

608
00:26:43,440 --> 00:26:46,000
Speaker 3: as close to perfect as it could get. We only

609
00:26:46,040 --> 00:26:49,159
Speaker 3: found out two days later that Lisa had tried to

610
00:26:49,160 --> 00:26:52,360
Speaker 3: sneak Chloe into their reception and had been intercepted by

611
00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:55,960
Speaker 3: all of my siblings. I have six well before reaching

612
00:26:55,960 --> 00:26:57,960
Speaker 3: the hall, and had been told that she could either

613
00:26:58,000 --> 00:27:00,359
Speaker 3: send Chloe upstairs with the other kids, or or they

614
00:27:00,359 --> 00:27:03,119
Speaker 3: could both leave the event completely, knowing it would make

615
00:27:03,160 --> 00:27:04,800
Speaker 3: her look bad and she'd never hear the end of

616
00:27:04,840 --> 00:27:07,399
Speaker 3: it from her family. Lisa sent Chloe upstairs and has

617
00:27:07,480 --> 00:27:10,480
Speaker 3: been sulking since. There have been a few passive aggressive

618
00:27:10,480 --> 00:27:13,000
Speaker 3: Facebook posts which no one seems to care about. But

619
00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:14,040
Speaker 3: that's about it.

620
00:27:14,640 --> 00:27:15,760
Speaker 2: No, pee, you did it.

621
00:27:16,119 --> 00:27:18,399
Speaker 4: You got your wedding shout out to your sister.

622
00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:21,720
Speaker 2: Screw Lisa, and honestly, I don't think it's Chloe's fault.

623
00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:24,280
Speaker 4: No, no, Chloe was never It was never Chloe's fault.

624
00:27:24,359 --> 00:27:25,840
Speaker 4: She even said she didn't want to hang out with

625
00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:28,840
Speaker 4: the adults. She's like, you guys are boring and old.

626
00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:30,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, Chloe's cool.

627
00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:31,680
Speaker 4: I want to hang out with the kids.

628
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Speaker 5: Sister mom six'.

629
00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:39,640
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630
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Speaker 3: sisters just some words from my terrifying, sister and that

631
00:27:43,520 --> 00:27:45,800
Speaker 3: was that everyone had a good, time and when we

632
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Speaker 3: went to check on them, later all the kids were

633
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Speaker 3: passed out in positions that gave me aches and pains

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00:28:50,680 --> 00:28:54,040
Speaker 4: often takes multiple stores and twenty five to fifty cards

657
00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:56,960
Speaker 4: BEFORE i find the one that is at least somewhat.

658
00:28:56,960 --> 00:29:01,360
Speaker 4: Appropriate this year. Sucked after three, STORES i wanted to

659
00:29:01,360 --> 00:29:03,800
Speaker 4: start ripping the cards in. Half the past two years

660
00:29:03,840 --> 00:29:06,120
Speaker 4: of our marriage have been the most difficult we have.

661
00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:08,440
Speaker 4: Faced she got her dream job in our drive each,

662
00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:11,720
Speaker 4: way her mother, passed and she's been dealing with women's

663
00:29:11,720 --> 00:29:14,040
Speaker 4: health issues, that due to the lack of investment in

664
00:29:14,080 --> 00:29:18,600
Speaker 4: women's health, research are treated using trial and, error primarily.

665
00:29:18,760 --> 00:29:21,840
Speaker 4: Error in her. Case the exhaustion from her health, issues

666
00:29:21,840 --> 00:29:25,040
Speaker 4: combined with stress and work, pressure means no energy left for,

667
00:29:25,160 --> 00:29:29,200
Speaker 4: us and there is no spicy. SLEEP i could survive

668
00:29:29,240 --> 00:29:31,680
Speaker 4: without the spicy, sleep but the lack of any affection

669
00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:35,280
Speaker 4: is taking its. Toll she knows we need, therapy but

670
00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:38,880
Speaker 4: just doesn't have the time or energy right, now which is.

671
00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:42,080
Speaker 4: Understandable unless she gave up her dream, job it just

672
00:29:42,120 --> 00:29:45,360
Speaker 4: wouldn't be. REALISTIC i won't let that. Happen she is

673
00:29:45,480 --> 00:29:48,080
Speaker 4: so smart and, talented and this is the first time

674
00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:50,920
Speaker 4: someone has truly seen how valuable she. Is we do

675
00:29:51,000 --> 00:29:54,280
Speaker 4: have a. Plan we are simplifying our, lives moving from

676
00:29:54,320 --> 00:29:56,600
Speaker 4: our home to a house five minutes from, work getting

677
00:29:56,680 --> 00:29:59,120
Speaker 4: rid of side gigs and hiring a house cleaner once we.

678
00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:01,040
Speaker 4: Move we are a also going to continue to try

679
00:30:01,080 --> 00:30:03,920
Speaker 4: treatments for her health. Issues we already bought the, house

680
00:30:03,960 --> 00:30:05,960
Speaker 4: but had to run it out until our day finished

681
00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:09,000
Speaker 4: her senior year In. May by the time that renovations are,

682
00:30:09,000 --> 00:30:11,200
Speaker 4: DONE i am looking at twelve months of feeling LIKE

683
00:30:11,280 --> 00:30:14,120
Speaker 4: i am right. Now has anyone been in a similar

684
00:30:14,160 --> 00:30:17,360
Speaker 4: situation that can offer? Advice she knows how MUCH i am.

685
00:30:17,400 --> 00:30:19,720
Speaker 4: STRUGGLING i have said it is bad enough THAT i

686
00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:22,520
Speaker 4: would eventually want a, divorce but that we would get

687
00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:24,760
Speaker 4: to the other side of this and go to therapy

688
00:30:24,800 --> 00:30:27,400
Speaker 4: BEFORE i would do something that. Drastic and we have

689
00:30:27,400 --> 00:30:30,440
Speaker 4: an edit. HERE i wrote my own card and it

690
00:30:30,560 --> 00:30:33,480
Speaker 4: says in, quotes these past two years have been such a.

691
00:30:33,560 --> 00:30:36,560
Speaker 4: Challenge you KNOW i have been. Struggling the hardest emotion

692
00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:39,240
Speaker 4: to deal with is. Fear fear of losing such an amazing.

693
00:30:39,280 --> 00:30:43,120
Speaker 4: Woman you are, loyal, honest, smart, talented and WHEN i

694
00:30:43,160 --> 00:30:45,720
Speaker 4: look at, You i'm filled with a lust so INTENSE

695
00:30:46,040 --> 00:30:48,680
Speaker 4: i physically ache to touch. You the best WAY i

696
00:30:48,680 --> 00:30:50,680
Speaker 4: have found to deal with the fear is to look

697
00:30:50,720 --> 00:30:53,320
Speaker 4: at the reality of our, love not the reality of this,

698
00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:56,400
Speaker 4: moment but rather the reality of. Us if you love

699
00:30:56,440 --> 00:30:59,040
Speaker 4: me even half as much AS i love, you if

700
00:30:59,080 --> 00:31:01,920
Speaker 4: you desire for grown altogether is half what is, mine

701
00:31:02,400 --> 00:31:04,600
Speaker 4: our love will live on beyond the days we have

702
00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:07,160
Speaker 4: left on. EARTH i don't say this to dimssion your

703
00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:09,760
Speaker 4: love for me or your desire for our, future but

704
00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:11,360
Speaker 4: to let you know that my love for you is

705
00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:14,400
Speaker 4: so deep that even by, itself it is almost. Enough

706
00:31:14,720 --> 00:31:17,560
Speaker 4: and before we get into a second edit, here there's

707
00:31:17,600 --> 00:31:20,640
Speaker 4: a lot to soak In. Savannah that was so weird

708
00:31:21,320 --> 00:31:26,200
Speaker 4: that first and, foremost that felt like a rollercoaster to, Read, Like,

709
00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:30,440
Speaker 4: yeah you're LIKE i love you so, much but, like.

710
00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:33,160
Speaker 3: If you loved me as half as much AS i loved,

711
00:31:33,160 --> 00:31:33,840
Speaker 3: you this would.

712
00:31:33,840 --> 00:31:34,640
Speaker 5: WORK i love.

713
00:31:34,680 --> 00:31:36,800
Speaker 4: Her, yeah it's literally SAYING i love you so, much

714
00:31:36,840 --> 00:31:38,640
Speaker 4: but you don't love me as much AS i love.

715
00:31:38,640 --> 00:31:41,840
Speaker 4: You and it's not a, competition but it feels, like you,

716
00:31:41,920 --> 00:31:43,120
Speaker 4: know it feels LIKE.

717
00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:44,360
Speaker 2: I just noticed that.

718
00:31:45,120 --> 00:31:47,680
Speaker 4: Love, YEAH i don't. KNOW i want to see her

719
00:31:47,760 --> 00:31:50,160
Speaker 4: reaction to reading, that because it just seems like and

720
00:31:50,200 --> 00:31:54,320
Speaker 4: maybe it was a loss of, translation but that didn't

721
00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:56,720
Speaker 4: SEEM i don't. Know if you have to use cards

722
00:31:56,720 --> 00:31:59,000
Speaker 4: to tell you where your relationship is at in. Life

723
00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:01,720
Speaker 4: that's very LIKE i think it's very cute that you

724
00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:04,240
Speaker 4: have cards and, everything but you're trying to find a.

725
00:32:04,240 --> 00:32:08,320
Speaker 4: Car that's, Saying, HEY i know life isn't lifing right,

726
00:32:08,360 --> 00:32:11,720
Speaker 4: now but our relationship is not. Great what do you

727
00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:13,760
Speaker 4: mean you're trying to find something like that in a?

728
00:32:13,840 --> 00:32:16,200
Speaker 3: Card, yeah the fact that you went to like three

729
00:32:16,240 --> 00:32:18,880
Speaker 3: different places trying to look for a car that it's just.

730
00:32:18,800 --> 00:32:21,200
Speaker 2: LIKE i love, you but LIKE i love you way

731
00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:21,840
Speaker 2: more than you love.

732
00:32:21,960 --> 00:32:25,280
Speaker 3: Me and if you gave, me you, know even half

733
00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:27,440
Speaker 3: of WHAT i give, you like that would be, enough

734
00:32:27,480 --> 00:32:30,520
Speaker 3: but like you, don't AND i, understand Like i'm not

735
00:32:30,560 --> 00:32:32,920
Speaker 3: looking at this reality right. Now i'm looking at the

736
00:32:32,960 --> 00:32:35,480
Speaker 3: reality of what it could be and what it should.

737
00:32:35,560 --> 00:32:38,800
Speaker 3: Be it's, like no card is going to say that

738
00:32:38,840 --> 00:32:39,840
Speaker 3: because that's actually.

739
00:32:39,880 --> 00:32:43,640
Speaker 4: Insane that's, insane or, like, hmmm sorry that your mom passed,

740
00:32:43,680 --> 00:32:48,600
Speaker 4: Away i'm so happy you found your dream. Job, wow

741
00:32:48,640 --> 00:32:51,120
Speaker 4: women's health issues and they haven't done enough research on,

742
00:32:51,160 --> 00:32:55,560
Speaker 4: that dumb like love you love? You these last two

743
00:32:55,640 --> 00:32:57,240
Speaker 4: years have, sucked BUT i love you.

744
00:32:57,280 --> 00:32:57,520
Speaker 7: Still.

745
00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:00,440
Speaker 3: Yeah it's LIKE i don't know they All it's kind

746
00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:02,120
Speaker 3: of like he just did backhanded.

747
00:33:02,160 --> 00:33:05,280
Speaker 4: Compliment it was it was very backhanded or like it

748
00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:07,040
Speaker 4: was LIKE i love, you but there's.

749
00:33:06,800 --> 00:33:09,920
Speaker 3: This a compliment sandwich of like giving a, compliment then

750
00:33:09,920 --> 00:33:12,480
Speaker 3: putting like the bad, news and then giving another compliment.

751
00:33:12,520 --> 00:33:16,080
Speaker 2: After so, yeah you don't notice, it but you do notice.

752
00:33:16,160 --> 00:33:18,520
Speaker 4: IT i don't. Know we have a second edit Here

753
00:33:18,880 --> 00:33:21,240
Speaker 4: opie says thanks for the, advice BEFORE i write in

754
00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:23,400
Speaker 4: pen on my new. CARD i want to get some

755
00:33:23,440 --> 00:33:27,760
Speaker 4: opinions on my. REVISION i focused too much on. Me, yeah,

756
00:33:27,840 --> 00:33:31,520
Speaker 4: yeah and how you're very. Upset. Obviously the THING i

757
00:33:31,560 --> 00:33:34,440
Speaker 4: miss most is out of emotional, intimacy is WHAT i.

758
00:33:34,520 --> 00:33:37,360
Speaker 4: MISS i didn't attend for my mention of lust to

759
00:33:37,360 --> 00:33:40,440
Speaker 4: make it seem like that was my primary. Concern mostly

760
00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:43,040
Speaker 4: just wanted her to know, that even twenty five years,

761
00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:46,240
Speaker 4: later she's my definition of what sexy. Is the THING

762
00:33:46,280 --> 00:33:48,520
Speaker 4: i disliked the most was the way my wordings seemed

763
00:33:48,520 --> 00:33:51,480
Speaker 4: to dismiss her love and. Commitment, well here it, is

764
00:33:51,680 --> 00:33:53,600
Speaker 4: let me know what you. Think so we have a

765
00:33:53,680 --> 00:33:58,200
Speaker 4: revision on what wew his first. Card, dude just be,

766
00:33:58,280 --> 00:34:03,560
Speaker 4: LIKE i love. You we need, therapy that's. It but

767
00:34:03,920 --> 00:34:06,920
Speaker 4: here we go to quote as you know these past

768
00:34:06,920 --> 00:34:09,719
Speaker 4: two years have been challenging as a. Couple on top of,

769
00:34:09,719 --> 00:34:12,360
Speaker 4: that you have been fighting a frustrating battle of trial

770
00:34:12,400 --> 00:34:15,520
Speaker 4: and error with your. HEALTH i can't begin to imagine your.

771
00:34:15,520 --> 00:34:19,120
Speaker 4: Frustration you are the most amazing. Woman your, honesty, loyalty,

772
00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:23,400
Speaker 4: intelligence and, talent all combined with you being the definition of,

773
00:34:23,440 --> 00:34:26,080
Speaker 4: beautiful makes my heart skip a beat every time you

774
00:34:26,120 --> 00:34:28,120
Speaker 4: walk in a. Room what gets me through the fear

775
00:34:28,120 --> 00:34:30,920
Speaker 4: of us growing apart is remembering the reality of, us

776
00:34:31,480 --> 00:34:34,160
Speaker 4: not the reality of this, moment but the reality of our.

777
00:34:34,239 --> 00:34:36,359
Speaker 4: LOVE i know that you love me every bit as

778
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:38,480
Speaker 4: much AS i love. You when we get to the

779
00:34:38,520 --> 00:34:41,400
Speaker 4: other side of, this even if everything is not, solved

780
00:34:41,640 --> 00:34:44,440
Speaker 4: we will be. Okay the things we have overcome have

781
00:34:44,600 --> 00:34:47,120
Speaker 4: always led to something stronger on the other. Side you

782
00:34:47,160 --> 00:34:49,799
Speaker 4: mentioned reading an article that said every relationship goes through,

783
00:34:49,800 --> 00:34:53,360
Speaker 4: seasons and even though this one is, DIFFICULT i don't

784
00:34:53,400 --> 00:34:55,560
Speaker 4: just want to endure. IT i want us to enjoy.

785
00:34:55,600 --> 00:34:59,480
Speaker 4: It there's still. Joy enjoy our dinners out seeing a play,

786
00:34:59,520 --> 00:35:02,400
Speaker 4: together because even though this season is, difficult it is

787
00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:04,480
Speaker 4: still a SEASON i get to spend with. You and

788
00:35:04,520 --> 00:35:06,560
Speaker 4: we got an update that was a little bit.

789
00:35:06,440 --> 00:35:09,200
Speaker 2: Better that was a better revision that was a.

790
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:10,600
Speaker 4: Little bit, better a little.

791
00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:12,399
Speaker 2: Long, YEAH i.

792
00:35:12,320 --> 00:35:14,440
Speaker 3: Think you don't even need to, Mention, LIKE i know

793
00:35:14,480 --> 00:35:17,239
Speaker 3: you've been going through such a hard. TIME i think

794
00:35:17,280 --> 00:35:20,480
Speaker 3: you should just be, like, listen you are my definition of.

795
00:35:20,480 --> 00:35:23,520
Speaker 3: Beautiful you are this and and the other, thing, talented,

796
00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:27,439
Speaker 3: smart like, encouraging, whatever blah blah, blah give her all

797
00:35:27,480 --> 00:35:30,479
Speaker 3: these like nice, little nice little things about her and

798
00:35:30,840 --> 00:35:33,319
Speaker 3: just be, like, uh you, KNOW i know it's been,

799
00:35:33,360 --> 00:35:36,400
Speaker 3: hard BUT i always look forward to seeing you at

800
00:35:36,400 --> 00:35:38,880
Speaker 3: the end of the day AND i always, like you,

801
00:35:38,920 --> 00:35:40,680
Speaker 3: know just love being in your.

802
00:35:40,719 --> 00:35:41,799
Speaker 2: Presence blah blah, blah all this.

803
00:35:41,800 --> 00:35:42,440
Speaker 5: STUFF i just.

804
00:35:42,440 --> 00:35:44,960
Speaker 2: Feel like it doesn't need to be, like let's talk

805
00:35:45,000 --> 00:35:48,719
Speaker 2: about our problems right. Now it's like he keeps trying

806
00:35:48,760 --> 00:35:49,359
Speaker 2: to sneak those.

807
00:35:49,360 --> 00:35:52,080
Speaker 4: In it's like very subtle. Stuff, yeah like, hint you're

808
00:35:52,120 --> 00:35:54,000
Speaker 4: like hinting at. Something you're, like we're going through a

809
00:35:54,040 --> 00:35:57,840
Speaker 4: season that's really really, difficult but we can endure. It

810
00:35:57,880 --> 00:36:00,759
Speaker 4: and it's like, why, really like this is really hard for, Me.

811
00:36:01,320 --> 00:36:02,799
Speaker 2: Yeah like why are you focusing on?

812
00:36:02,840 --> 00:36:05,359
Speaker 3: That LIKE i don't, know focus on what you do

813
00:36:05,440 --> 00:36:07,880
Speaker 3: have and focus on what the good things, are, because

814
00:36:08,200 --> 00:36:10,160
Speaker 3: like you, KNOW i feel like you're trying to like

815
00:36:10,360 --> 00:36:13,640
Speaker 3: bring up your like issues that you have in this

816
00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:16,440
Speaker 3: like love, letter and that's just that's gonna diminish the

817
00:36:16,560 --> 00:36:17,120
Speaker 3: entire love.

818
00:36:17,200 --> 00:36:18,920
Speaker 4: LETTER i needs to need to see your other letters

819
00:36:18,920 --> 00:36:21,920
Speaker 4: in the. Past that's. It oh, god, yeah but we

820
00:36:21,960 --> 00:36:23,960
Speaker 4: have an. Update i'm not sure if popular is the

821
00:36:24,040 --> 00:36:26,560
Speaker 4: right way to describe my first, post but there were

822
00:36:26,600 --> 00:36:30,000
Speaker 4: a lot of comments even if the pitchforks were definitely

823
00:36:30,040 --> 00:36:33,880
Speaker 4: out first for the. Card knowing my, WIFE i was

824
00:36:33,960 --> 00:36:37,600
Speaker 4: confident she would like the second second. Card the question

825
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:40,719
Speaker 4: then was what to do with the first? Card throw it,

826
00:36:40,760 --> 00:36:44,239
Speaker 4: away burn. IT i knew she would find the fact

827
00:36:44,239 --> 00:36:46,360
Speaker 4: THAT i stressed over a stupid card and THAT i

828
00:36:46,360 --> 00:36:48,359
Speaker 4: put my foot in my mouth on the first card.

829
00:36:48,400 --> 00:36:51,600
Speaker 4: AMUSING i sent her a text Saying Happy Valentine's. DAY

830
00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:54,920
Speaker 4: i went to three. Stores all the cards, sucked wrote one.

831
00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:58,120
Speaker 4: Myself it was. Bad wrote you a second one that

832
00:36:58,160 --> 00:37:01,319
Speaker 4: one was less. Bad i'll give you. Both i'll give

833
00:37:01,360 --> 00:37:03,160
Speaker 4: you both of them when you get back On. Sunday

834
00:37:03,600 --> 00:37:09,480
Speaker 4: her response was ha ha, lmfao you are. Ridiculous Happy Valentine's.

835
00:37:09,560 --> 00:37:13,160
Speaker 4: Day she nearly pissed herself reading the first, card said

836
00:37:13,160 --> 00:37:16,120
Speaker 4: she would have understood WHAT i, meant but it was pretty.

837
00:37:16,160 --> 00:37:19,239
Speaker 4: Bad she liked the second. Card after she read them,

838
00:37:19,239 --> 00:37:22,480
Speaker 4: both she, Said you're, Lucky you're so. PRETTY i want

839
00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:24,400
Speaker 4: to throw away the first, card and she said, no, no,

840
00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:27,799
Speaker 4: no no, No i'm keeping both of. Those next some thank

841
00:37:27,800 --> 00:37:30,279
Speaker 4: yous to the people that offered some medical. ADVICE i

842
00:37:30,360 --> 00:37:32,840
Speaker 4: shared all of it with my. Wife it is encouraging

843
00:37:32,880 --> 00:37:34,600
Speaker 4: to know that we are not even close to running

844
00:37:34,600 --> 00:37:36,800
Speaker 4: out of. Options to the people who like my, cards

845
00:37:36,960 --> 00:37:38,759
Speaker 4: it is nice to know that there are others that.

846
00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:42,239
Speaker 4: Love there's messy. Relationships we have always Used Valentine's day

847
00:37:42,480 --> 00:37:44,920
Speaker 4: and our anniversary to express our love but still be

848
00:37:44,960 --> 00:37:47,160
Speaker 4: honest about where we are. At we value the strength

849
00:37:47,160 --> 00:37:50,120
Speaker 4: that the challenging periods have added to our. Partnership, well

850
00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:54,400
Speaker 4: all's well and ends well with your.

851
00:37:54,280 --> 00:37:56,040
Speaker 2: CARDS i, GUESS i don't.

852
00:37:56,080 --> 00:38:00,080
Speaker 3: Know it seems like a weird dynamic you, got but,

853
00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:00,799
Speaker 3: YEAH i.

854
00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:01,960
Speaker 2: WOULD i don't.

855
00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:04,839
Speaker 4: KNOW i would bring up the elephant in the room

856
00:38:04,840 --> 00:38:08,520
Speaker 4: that you you, yourself are there for your, wife, yes

857
00:38:08,560 --> 00:38:11,440
Speaker 4: and you love your, wife, yes but you are not

858
00:38:11,600 --> 00:38:15,359
Speaker 4: happy or something's got to, change and you know it's

859
00:38:15,400 --> 00:38:18,080
Speaker 4: going to be a gradual. Change, hopefully and it seems

860
00:38:18,080 --> 00:38:21,359
Speaker 4: like she's like she, understands she read those, cards and she's,

861
00:38:21,440 --> 00:38:24,120
Speaker 4: like you know where we're going through the thick and the.

862
00:38:24,160 --> 00:38:27,239
Speaker 3: Thin but Also Valentine's day is not the day to

863
00:38:27,360 --> 00:38:28,560
Speaker 3: bring this, up and.

864
00:38:28,600 --> 00:38:30,279
Speaker 4: It seems like they do. It it seems like they do.

865
00:38:30,280 --> 00:38:32,440
Speaker 4: It i'm, like you know, what let's do a like

866
00:38:32,480 --> 00:38:34,880
Speaker 4: a a check, in like a check in or like

867
00:38:34,920 --> 00:38:37,799
Speaker 4: a season recap of where we're, at but on like the,

868
00:38:37,840 --> 00:38:40,759
Speaker 4: two like the like On Valentine's day and our, anniversary

869
00:38:41,200 --> 00:38:41,719
Speaker 4: like we like to.

870
00:38:41,760 --> 00:38:45,040
Speaker 3: Talk we we always like love to share our love

871
00:38:45,040 --> 00:38:45,359
Speaker 3: with each.

872
00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:48,600
Speaker 2: Other but also we're gonna give a quick, update.

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00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:57,960
Speaker 4: You, know like, yeah intimacy f literally monetary. Values, okay,

874
00:38:58,000 --> 00:39:01,719
Speaker 4: a you, know let's go ahead and fish up the. Story,

875
00:39:01,719 --> 00:39:05,120
Speaker 4: though to those with the, pitchforks thank. You your comments

876
00:39:05,200 --> 00:39:07,960
Speaker 4: did several things for. Me my wife has been. Amazing

877
00:39:08,160 --> 00:39:10,320
Speaker 4: she has let me talk about my feelings even though

878
00:39:10,560 --> 00:39:12,920
Speaker 4: she is going through a really tough. TIME i need

879
00:39:12,960 --> 00:39:14,840
Speaker 4: to pull my head out of my butt and and

880
00:39:15,000 --> 00:39:17,960
Speaker 4: my pity party for several. Reasons even if my feelings are,

881
00:39:18,040 --> 00:39:22,000
Speaker 4: valid she doesn't need the added. Stress, secondly even if

882
00:39:22,000 --> 00:39:23,680
Speaker 4: this isn't going to be the best time in our.

883
00:39:23,680 --> 00:39:25,920
Speaker 4: Marriage IF i don't knock this, Off i'm going to

884
00:39:25,920 --> 00:39:28,239
Speaker 4: miss out on the moments that we can, enjoy that

885
00:39:28,320 --> 00:39:31,440
Speaker 4: we could be. Having what a. Waste, also it made

886
00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:34,399
Speaker 4: me realize how rare my wife. Is my wife loves

887
00:39:34,440 --> 00:39:37,120
Speaker 4: my mess AND i love. Hers we just don't tolerate.

888
00:39:37,160 --> 00:39:38,319
Speaker 2: It why does that?

889
00:39:38,480 --> 00:39:39,760
Speaker 4: SENTENCE i don't.

890
00:39:39,840 --> 00:39:42,720
Speaker 2: Know we love each other's, mess but we don't tolerate.

891
00:39:42,760 --> 00:39:47,520
Speaker 4: It pick up that. Mess clean your own, mess is.

892
00:39:47,800 --> 00:39:49,359
Speaker 4: COMPLAIN i love, IT i love. IT i love your

893
00:39:49,360 --> 00:39:53,000
Speaker 4: mess over, there clean it up Like i'm not cleaning

894
00:39:53,000 --> 00:39:53,319
Speaker 4: it up for.

895
00:39:53,360 --> 00:39:53,480
Speaker 8: You.

896
00:39:53,600 --> 00:39:56,160
Speaker 4: Yeah from the volume of, COMMENTS i realize there aren't

897
00:39:56,200 --> 00:39:58,319
Speaker 4: many women out there that would feel the same. Way

898
00:39:58,760 --> 00:40:01,120
Speaker 4: we are lucky to have found each. Other and that

899
00:40:01,440 --> 00:40:02,000
Speaker 4: is the end of that.

900
00:40:02,080 --> 00:40:05,200
Speaker 8: Story, hey It's, carly your Favorite jersey.

901
00:40:05,200 --> 00:40:05,439
Speaker 7: Girl.

902
00:40:05,480 --> 00:40:07,560
Speaker 2: Here we're going to get back to the. Stories but

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00:40:07,640 --> 00:40:08,360
Speaker 2: here's three.

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00:40:08,200 --> 00:40:09,200
Speaker 8: Minutes of ads from our.

905
00:40:09,239 --> 00:40:13,319
Speaker 7: Sponsors my best friend couldn't stop making jokes around my,

906
00:40:13,360 --> 00:40:15,240
Speaker 7: girlfriend SO i put my foot.

907
00:40:15,280 --> 00:40:17,600
Speaker 2: Down not very, funny, DUDE.

908
00:40:17,520 --> 00:40:20,200
Speaker 7: I twenty six mail have a best friend twenty six,

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00:40:20,239 --> 00:40:23,560
Speaker 7: mail and we like to crack jokes together like all other.

910
00:40:23,719 --> 00:40:27,200
Speaker 7: People he's genuinely funny when we're, together and everything we

911
00:40:27,280 --> 00:40:29,640
Speaker 7: talk about is relevant, Too like he doesn't joke about

912
00:40:29,640 --> 00:40:31,799
Speaker 7: a MOVIE i haven't, seen et. Cetera our joking can

913
00:40:31,840 --> 00:40:34,399
Speaker 7: be a bit low, brow and we can also joke

914
00:40:34,440 --> 00:40:38,239
Speaker 7: about pretty offensive. Stuff by the, way this comes, From

915
00:40:38,320 --> 00:40:40,319
Speaker 7: so throw with this and if you want to smit

916
00:40:40,360 --> 00:40:43,000
Speaker 7: your own, stories go to the Rslash, okay, storytime separate.

917
00:40:43,000 --> 00:40:45,919
Speaker 7: It I'm, Sophia I'm carly The we're here to give good, Advice,

918
00:40:45,960 --> 00:40:47,839
Speaker 7: goofley but we don't have all the. Answers we only

919
00:40:47,880 --> 00:40:49,520
Speaker 7: know what we'd, do so let us know you do

920
00:40:49,600 --> 00:40:52,640
Speaker 7: in the, comments And opie, says But i've noticed that

921
00:40:52,719 --> 00:40:55,080
Speaker 7: IF i invite him to dinner with my, girlfriend she

922
00:40:55,280 --> 00:40:58,520
Speaker 7: can't ask him a gosh darn thing without him.

923
00:40:58,600 --> 00:41:00,680
Speaker 2: Instantly are we not.

924
00:41:00,640 --> 00:41:01,120
Speaker 5: A thought out?

925
00:41:01,160 --> 00:41:05,359
Speaker 7: Action answering with some really stupid witty remark trying to

926
00:41:05,400 --> 00:41:09,200
Speaker 7: resemble a joke before actually answering the. Question these jokes

927
00:41:09,239 --> 00:41:14,600
Speaker 7: can be borderline. Offensive, example someone asks, him, So, john how.

928
00:41:14,640 --> 00:41:17,640
Speaker 7: School it's, Terrible i've flung everything AND i have to

929
00:41:17,719 --> 00:41:18,080
Speaker 7: leave the.

930
00:41:18,120 --> 00:41:19,680
Speaker 2: Country, Eh i'm just.

931
00:41:19,760 --> 00:41:22,880
Speaker 7: Kidding it's. Good like every single question has to be

932
00:41:22,920 --> 00:41:26,920
Speaker 7: answered like This in, addition he'll constantly be cracking terrible

933
00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:30,719
Speaker 7: jokes bordering on being. Offensive one such gem he cracked at.

934
00:41:30,719 --> 00:41:33,000
Speaker 7: Dinner it was directed to my, Girlfriend so how do

935
00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:36,960
Speaker 7: you feel About josh sending me unclothed? Pictures obviously my

936
00:41:37,000 --> 00:41:39,440
Speaker 7: girlfriend is pretty clueless what the heck he's talking, about

937
00:41:39,440 --> 00:41:42,160
Speaker 7: so she kind of just starts ignoring him, eventually because

938
00:41:42,239 --> 00:41:43,880
Speaker 7: it's impossible to communicate with.

939
00:41:43,960 --> 00:41:45,160
Speaker 2: Him thoughts so far.

940
00:41:46,719 --> 00:41:49,839
Speaker 8: As someone who's just sounds Like, dakota as someone whose

941
00:41:49,840 --> 00:41:53,000
Speaker 8: boyfriend just has a boyfriend like, This, yeah just sounds Like.

942
00:41:53,080 --> 00:41:57,279
Speaker 8: Dakota Like dakota, though can have a conversation outside of.

943
00:41:57,280 --> 00:42:02,680
Speaker 8: That but if he's just also, joking, yes side, LIKE

944
00:42:02,719 --> 00:42:05,279
Speaker 8: i don't think that's crazy to, Make like the h

945
00:42:05,320 --> 00:42:05,640
Speaker 8: what do you.

946
00:42:05,600 --> 00:42:06,319
Speaker 5: Think about me and your?

947
00:42:06,320 --> 00:42:09,279
Speaker 8: Boyfriend? Smoochin LIKE i get those ones all the. Time,

948
00:42:09,360 --> 00:42:12,719
Speaker 8: yeah but if every QUESTION i Asked dakota he couldn't, Answer.

949
00:42:12,760 --> 00:42:16,319
Speaker 7: Like i'm Smooching, Kean you're like, Okay like did you

950
00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:16,879
Speaker 7: have a nice?

951
00:42:16,920 --> 00:42:21,759
Speaker 4: Day, yeah good?

952
00:42:21,840 --> 00:42:25,000
Speaker 8: Day smooth yeah, Friend, yeah what did you.

953
00:42:25,000 --> 00:42:25,960
Speaker 2: Think of that movie last?

954
00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:26,840
Speaker 4: Night it was so?

955
00:42:27,040 --> 00:42:29,799
Speaker 5: GOOD i. SMOOTHED i didn't watch any of.

956
00:42:29,800 --> 00:42:34,320
Speaker 1: IT i was swoo it's, Like, OKAY i Get, DAKOTA

957
00:42:34,480 --> 00:42:34,879
Speaker 1: i get.

958
00:42:34,920 --> 00:42:37,600
Speaker 7: It, yeah but like it really depends on the.

959
00:42:37,920 --> 00:42:40,160
Speaker 2: AMOUNT i guess because.

960
00:42:39,920 --> 00:42:43,360
Speaker 8: That part seems innocent, enough but the not answering a,

961
00:42:43,440 --> 00:42:45,759
Speaker 8: QUESTION i can totally understand it getting so.

962
00:42:45,840 --> 00:42:49,240
Speaker 7: Annoying, Yeah and BECAUSE i was reading the borderline offensive

963
00:42:49,239 --> 00:42:51,480
Speaker 7: as like actually offensive.

964
00:42:51,080 --> 00:42:53,680
Speaker 8: JOKES i thought it was gonna be, like, oh like

965
00:42:54,200 --> 00:42:54,920
Speaker 8: because you're the.

966
00:42:54,880 --> 00:43:00,719
Speaker 7: Worst, yeah, yeah but these seem more. Tame he's not

967
00:43:00,800 --> 00:43:03,360
Speaker 7: only like this around my, Girlfriend he's like this around

968
00:43:03,400 --> 00:43:07,160
Speaker 7: his parents and our other friends. Too it's absolutely, obnoxious

969
00:43:07,160 --> 00:43:08,920
Speaker 7: AND i don't know what to. Do the behavior is

970
00:43:08,960 --> 00:43:12,319
Speaker 7: strongly exacerbated by. Booze if he's been, drinking he will

971
00:43:12,360 --> 00:43:15,040
Speaker 7: be one hundred percent impossible to communicate with for my,

972
00:43:15,120 --> 00:43:18,040
Speaker 7: girlfriend his, parents or anyone other than me and maybe

973
00:43:18,080 --> 00:43:20,600
Speaker 7: one or two close. FRIENDS i honestly don't know how

974
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:22,680
Speaker 7: to bring this up with. Them is this some sort

975
00:43:22,680 --> 00:43:24,560
Speaker 7: of known. Behavior he's always been a bit of a,

976
00:43:24,600 --> 00:43:29,960
Speaker 7: owner but this is bordering on autistic. BEHAVIOR i would not, say,

977
00:43:30,000 --> 00:43:33,200
Speaker 7: yeah that's a bit of a. REACH i would, say

978
00:43:34,040 --> 00:43:38,719
Speaker 7: we do have an update six weeks, Later but how

979
00:43:38,719 --> 00:43:39,520
Speaker 7: would you approach?

980
00:43:39,560 --> 00:43:40,840
Speaker 2: This that's.

981
00:43:41,000 --> 00:43:45,360
Speaker 8: Tough, honestly BECAUSE i feel like if this truly just

982
00:43:45,480 --> 00:43:48,560
Speaker 8: is how he, is then it's not really much of

983
00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:50,719
Speaker 8: something to. Approach it's something THAT i feel, like might

984
00:43:50,840 --> 00:43:53,279
Speaker 8: calm down as he gets to know your.

985
00:43:53,320 --> 00:43:55,799
Speaker 2: Girlfriend, YEAH i might just be trying to you. Know,

986
00:43:55,880 --> 00:43:57,600
Speaker 2: yeah that is a good. Question how overly?

987
00:43:57,719 --> 00:43:58,319
Speaker 8: Introduce?

988
00:43:58,840 --> 00:44:01,319
Speaker 7: Yes how long have they known each? Other maybe he's

989
00:44:01,360 --> 00:44:05,759
Speaker 7: trying to impress her from like a friend a friend standpoint.

990
00:44:05,280 --> 00:44:08,160
Speaker 8: Rightly he's, Like i'm this guy's best, friend, yeah and

991
00:44:08,320 --> 00:44:10,920
Speaker 8: you're a special to. Him, like, yeah we have to

992
00:44:11,040 --> 00:44:12,920
Speaker 8: we have to be. Friendly, yeah but you also need

993
00:44:13,000 --> 00:44:14,239
Speaker 8: to know how Much i'm smooching your girl.

994
00:44:14,239 --> 00:44:17,560
Speaker 2: Friend, yeah hopefully.

995
00:44:17,600 --> 00:44:18,920
Speaker 5: Not we have that second.

996
00:44:18,920 --> 00:44:20,399
Speaker 2: One i'm a BITSTIR i get.

997
00:44:20,480 --> 00:44:23,680
Speaker 7: It you gotta do a little bit, sometimes but you,

998
00:44:23,719 --> 00:44:25,120
Speaker 7: know you gotta know when to end the.

999
00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:25,839
Speaker 2: Bit and there's.

1000
00:44:25,880 --> 00:44:29,000
Speaker 7: More six weeks, later SO i realized that this couldn't

1001
00:44:29,040 --> 00:44:31,960
Speaker 7: go on AND i had to do. Something, okay the

1002
00:44:32,000 --> 00:44:34,799
Speaker 7: comments in the thread made me realize why he was doing,

1003
00:44:34,840 --> 00:44:37,680
Speaker 7: this and so one time when we were driving to my,

1004
00:44:37,719 --> 00:44:40,319
Speaker 7: HOUSE i don't, know, why why is he doing? What

1005
00:44:40,320 --> 00:44:43,759
Speaker 7: what did the comments reveal to? YOU i led the

1006
00:44:43,800 --> 00:44:47,480
Speaker 7: conversation to social awkwardness which he has had some problems.

1007
00:44:47,520 --> 00:44:50,440
Speaker 7: With so we started talking about his social, awkwardness in.

1008
00:44:50,520 --> 00:44:53,279
Speaker 7: Particular this is WHERE i use the opportunity to, say,

1009
00:44:53,320 --> 00:44:55,799
Speaker 7: well you got this thing in social, settings, though which

1010
00:44:55,880 --> 00:44:59,520
Speaker 7: really shows that you're struggling in the. Circumstances he asks what,

1011
00:44:59,680 --> 00:45:02,719
Speaker 7: thing AND i, reply you joke a, lot like with my.

1012
00:45:02,760 --> 00:45:06,480
Speaker 7: Girlfriend she can't ask you. Anything it just keep cracking constant.

1013
00:45:06,560 --> 00:45:09,000
Speaker 7: Jokes it's almost a reflex for. YOU i think you

1014
00:45:09,080 --> 00:45:12,959
Speaker 7: may do it because you're not sure how to. Act you, agreed, DANG.

1015
00:45:13,640 --> 00:45:15,560
Speaker 5: I was a directed.

1016
00:45:16,680 --> 00:45:19,600
Speaker 2: That could have gone, yeah so. Different, yeah if he

1017
00:45:19,680 --> 00:45:20,040
Speaker 2: took that.

1018
00:45:20,160 --> 00:45:22,480
Speaker 7: Rong, YEAH i MEAN i guess you approached it well

1019
00:45:22,480 --> 00:45:23,080
Speaker 7: with him.

1020
00:45:23,600 --> 00:45:29,800
Speaker 2: In a joke. Form. Yeah she's, like, jokes you're. Jokes

1021
00:45:30,239 --> 00:45:31,080
Speaker 2: what do you think about?

1022
00:45:31,080 --> 00:45:32,520
Speaker 5: That you got any inner?

1023
00:45:32,760 --> 00:45:37,040
Speaker 7: Feelings you want to, say existential dread in it and

1024
00:45:37,200 --> 00:45:39,440
Speaker 7: said it's a. Problem so we agreed to go to

1025
00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:41,400
Speaker 7: my house to see my, girlfriend with the goal in

1026
00:45:41,480 --> 00:45:44,040
Speaker 7: mine that he wouldn't joke so, much get a little

1027
00:45:44,080 --> 00:45:45,080
Speaker 7: exposure therapy.

1028
00:45:45,120 --> 00:45:48,840
Speaker 8: Here they're like having a pep talk, outside, Like, okay

1029
00:45:48,880 --> 00:45:49,520
Speaker 8: you're gonna meet my.

1030
00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:52,480
Speaker 7: Girlfriend she's gonna, say how are You you're not gonna

1031
00:45:52,480 --> 00:45:57,319
Speaker 7: say good smooching your. Boyfriend you're gonna, Say i'm, good

1032
00:45:57,360 --> 00:45:57,680
Speaker 7: how are?

1033
00:45:57,760 --> 00:45:57,840
Speaker 4: You?

1034
00:45:58,440 --> 00:46:00,920
Speaker 8: Okay he's like a, child, like, okay CAN I CAN

1035
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:02,080
Speaker 8: i say THAT i smooch you after?

1036
00:46:02,160 --> 00:46:02,279
Speaker 4: Him?

1037
00:46:02,320 --> 00:46:03,960
Speaker 7: No, no no.

1038
00:46:04,080 --> 00:46:07,560
Speaker 2: Smooching but we did. Smooch, YEAH i. Know don't tell her.

1039
00:46:07,600 --> 00:46:11,240
Speaker 7: That in the, start he was obviously under a men's

1040
00:46:11,360 --> 00:46:14,120
Speaker 7: pressure because we had just been talking about, this and

1041
00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:16,000
Speaker 7: he must have been feeling as IF i was judging

1042
00:46:16,040 --> 00:46:19,879
Speaker 7: his every, move and perhaps my girlfriend. Too so there

1043
00:46:19,960 --> 00:46:21,759
Speaker 7: was a bit of stuttering where he must have been

1044
00:46:21,800 --> 00:46:25,960
Speaker 7: battling his insecurities deeply. Inside but he won that, battle

1045
00:46:26,040 --> 00:46:27,759
Speaker 7: because you know, what he was great that.

1046
00:46:27,840 --> 00:46:33,680
Speaker 2: Evening, hey, okay old, dog new. TRICKS i guess it went.

1047
00:46:33,760 --> 00:46:38,600
Speaker 2: WELL i guess so. Score, yeah no other. Thoughts you handled.

1048
00:46:38,640 --> 00:46:40,440
Speaker 2: It you handled.

1049
00:46:40,480 --> 00:46:40,799
Speaker 6: It mm.

1050
00:46:40,880 --> 00:46:43,600
Speaker 2: Hmm and that's that and there's a little bit.

1051
00:46:43,680 --> 00:46:46,960
Speaker 7: Left. Yeah my girlfriend and he had a great, conversation

1052
00:46:47,080 --> 00:46:49,080
Speaker 7: and after he left she told me how great it

1053
00:46:49,160 --> 00:46:51,960
Speaker 7: was to talk to him when he acted. Normal it

1054
00:46:52,080 --> 00:46:54,319
Speaker 7: was really great to open the issue up because now

1055
00:46:54,360 --> 00:46:56,879
Speaker 7: we can communicate about it freely and work on. It

1056
00:46:57,239 --> 00:46:59,520
Speaker 7: i'd like to thank you all for your invaluable help

1057
00:46:59,719 --> 00:47:01,839
Speaker 7: with THAT i would have never realized what to, do

1058
00:47:02,600 --> 00:47:05,279
Speaker 7: And lockanessa seven, says make sure you let him know

1059
00:47:05,320 --> 00:47:07,960
Speaker 7: that you thought he did an awesome. Job great update and.

1060
00:47:08,080 --> 00:47:10,200
Speaker 7: Hope he, says, YEAH i should have. Mentioned WHEN i

1061
00:47:10,280 --> 00:47:11,879
Speaker 7: drove him back, home we talked about what.

1062
00:47:11,840 --> 00:47:15,200
Speaker 2: A great success it's. Been great, success great.

1063
00:47:15,280 --> 00:47:18,200
Speaker 7: Success he was really happy about it, too and at.

1064
00:47:18,239 --> 00:47:21,520
Speaker 7: It to clear up some possible, CONFUSION i had a

1065
00:47:21,560 --> 00:47:23,960
Speaker 7: talk with my girlfriend after driving my friend home and

1066
00:47:24,120 --> 00:47:24,680
Speaker 7: there you, go.

1067
00:47:25,040 --> 00:47:26,360
Speaker 2: Gotcha, lovely.

1068
00:47:26,800 --> 00:47:31,200
Speaker 8: LOVELY i would, say just make sure that he doesn't

1069
00:47:31,239 --> 00:47:32,760
Speaker 8: feel like he can't make any.

1070
00:47:32,920 --> 00:47:35,880
Speaker 6: Joke, yeah he just knows he needs to know how

1071
00:47:35,880 --> 00:47:40,919
Speaker 6: to toe the. Line, yeah guys, said problem. Solved love

1072
00:47:41,000 --> 00:47:43,719
Speaker 6: this and that's the end of this. Story we're gonna

1073
00:47:43,719 --> 00:47:44,239
Speaker 6: go to the next.

1074
00:47:44,280 --> 00:47:47,840
Speaker 4: ONE i supported my best friend through her, affair BUT

1075
00:47:47,920 --> 00:47:50,200
Speaker 4: i refuse to be the maid of honor.

1076
00:47:50,280 --> 00:47:51,239
Speaker 2: Supported her through her.

1077
00:47:51,280 --> 00:47:54,160
Speaker 4: Affair my best friend of twelve years lives in another

1078
00:47:54,200 --> 00:47:56,600
Speaker 4: state and has been in a relationship with her girlfriend

1079
00:47:56,680 --> 00:48:00,839
Speaker 4: for five years and recently got engaged to get married next,

1080
00:48:00,920 --> 00:48:02,719
Speaker 4: year and she asked me to be her maid of,

1081
00:48:02,760 --> 00:48:05,359
Speaker 4: honor WHICH i previously said yes. To by the, way

1082
00:48:05,400 --> 00:48:07,319
Speaker 4: this comes from user Earth, dweller and if you want

1083
00:48:07,360 --> 00:48:09,200
Speaker 4: submit your own, stories go to the r Slash okay story,

1084
00:48:09,239 --> 00:48:11,759
Speaker 4: time separate. It i'm Key, On I'm, carly and we're

1085
00:48:11,760 --> 00:48:13,839
Speaker 4: here to give good. Advice. Goofly we do not have

1086
00:48:13,880 --> 00:48:15,920
Speaker 4: all the. Answers we only know what we, do so

1087
00:48:16,040 --> 00:48:18,240
Speaker 4: let us know what you do in the. Comments would

1088
00:48:18,280 --> 00:48:21,400
Speaker 4: you help your friend through an? Affair so As, zope he,

1089
00:48:21,480 --> 00:48:24,120
Speaker 4: Says over the last couple of, months she's been confiding

1090
00:48:24,120 --> 00:48:27,440
Speaker 4: in me that she has been cheating on her aance

1091
00:48:28,960 --> 00:48:32,439
Speaker 4: is AND i don't mean one accidental, THING i mean

1092
00:48:32,880 --> 00:48:38,240
Speaker 4: having a full, blown, intentional ongoing. Affair.

1093
00:48:38,719 --> 00:48:40,120
Speaker 2: Oo there it.

1094
00:48:40,239 --> 00:48:44,239
Speaker 4: Is. Oh i've been having many conversations on the phone

1095
00:48:44,239 --> 00:48:46,440
Speaker 4: with her about the, situation and she has seemed to

1096
00:48:46,440 --> 00:48:50,279
Speaker 4: be remorseful and know that what she's doing is, wrong.

1097
00:48:50,120 --> 00:48:53,360
Speaker 8: But she's still doing. It, yeah and she's still friends

1098
00:48:53,400 --> 00:48:53,960
Speaker 8: with Her.

1099
00:48:53,920 --> 00:48:57,120
Speaker 4: Yeah and has expressed many other issues with the, relationship

1100
00:48:57,239 --> 00:48:59,120
Speaker 4: and she knows that she should break up with.

1101
00:48:59,160 --> 00:49:02,200
Speaker 8: Her, oh your friends out for doing crappy.

1102
00:49:02,239 --> 00:49:04,680
Speaker 4: THINGS i Know i'm having an, affair AND i know it's,

1103
00:49:04,760 --> 00:49:06,319
Speaker 4: bad but will you still be my maid of?

1104
00:49:06,320 --> 00:49:09,440
Speaker 8: Honor call your friends out for being crappy?

1105
00:49:09,440 --> 00:49:12,080
Speaker 4: People So i've been trying to help her get to

1106
00:49:12,120 --> 00:49:14,279
Speaker 4: the point of breaking, up WHICH i know is hard

1107
00:49:14,280 --> 00:49:16,320
Speaker 4: to do when you've been with someone for so. Long

1108
00:49:16,520 --> 00:49:18,719
Speaker 4: So i'm trying to have some empathy and grace for

1109
00:49:18,800 --> 00:49:21,480
Speaker 4: why they haven't broken up. Yet, however this has been

1110
00:49:21,520 --> 00:49:24,680
Speaker 4: going on for so long that now we are all

1111
00:49:24,719 --> 00:49:27,160
Speaker 4: going to be back in our hometown For christmas and

1112
00:49:27,280 --> 00:49:29,160
Speaker 4: supposed to all hang out with our old high school

1113
00:49:29,160 --> 00:49:31,879
Speaker 4: friend group and our. PARTNERS i haven't seen my friend's

1114
00:49:31,920 --> 00:49:35,239
Speaker 4: fiance since knowing all, this And i'm deeply uncomfortable with

1115
00:49:35,320 --> 00:49:37,040
Speaker 4: keeping this a. SECRET i thought they would have broken

1116
00:49:37,080 --> 00:49:39,360
Speaker 4: up by, now AND i didn't KNOW i would be

1117
00:49:39,360 --> 00:49:42,400
Speaker 4: put in this. Situation SO i called my friend and

1118
00:49:42,440 --> 00:49:44,360
Speaker 4: told her THAT i love her And i'm here for,

1119
00:49:44,400 --> 00:49:46,759
Speaker 4: her and she has to deal with things in her own,

1120
00:49:46,800 --> 00:49:49,719
Speaker 4: time BUT i am not comfortable being around her and

1121
00:49:49,719 --> 00:49:54,000
Speaker 4: her fiance knowing WHAT i. Know she got pissed the

1122
00:49:54,239 --> 00:49:57,320
Speaker 4: f off at me and basically attacked me for forty

1123
00:49:57,320 --> 00:49:59,560
Speaker 4: five minutes and called me a terrible friend and said

1124
00:49:59,560 --> 00:50:01,759
Speaker 4: that she to told me those things in confidence and

1125
00:50:02,000 --> 00:50:04,239
Speaker 4: wouldn't have told me if she KNEW i felt this.

1126
00:50:04,320 --> 00:50:06,600
Speaker 4: WAY i told her THAT i was keeping it in,

1127
00:50:06,640 --> 00:50:09,480
Speaker 4: confidence and that was putting me in a crappy. Situation

1128
00:50:09,800 --> 00:50:11,759
Speaker 4: and if she wanted to continue to be in, CONFIDENCE

1129
00:50:11,840 --> 00:50:14,600
Speaker 4: i probably shouldn't be around them together so she could

1130
00:50:14,640 --> 00:50:16,680
Speaker 4: deal with it on her own. Time she can't take the,

1131
00:50:16,680 --> 00:50:21,000
Speaker 4: accountability and she's definitely deflecting her anger and stress back to.

1132
00:50:21,040 --> 00:50:23,840
Speaker 8: You she's, LIKE i know with her being a little stinky.

1133
00:50:23,920 --> 00:50:26,880
Speaker 4: Cheater, yeah she's, like, OH i know this is, bad

1134
00:50:27,120 --> 00:50:29,279
Speaker 4: BUT i told you in confidence and now you see

1135
00:50:29,280 --> 00:50:31,640
Speaker 4: me as a bad. Person how dare? You she made

1136
00:50:31,680 --> 00:50:33,799
Speaker 4: it pretty clear that she never actually intended to break

1137
00:50:33,840 --> 00:50:36,239
Speaker 4: up with her fiance and still plans to marry her

1138
00:50:36,400 --> 00:50:40,440
Speaker 4: and never tell her about the. Affair, Nope, No i'm

1139
00:50:40,480 --> 00:50:42,719
Speaker 4: quite shocked BECAUSE i thought this whole time that there

1140
00:50:42,800 --> 00:50:44,840
Speaker 4: was not going to be a wedding and that she

1141
00:50:45,000 --> 00:50:48,000
Speaker 4: knew that what she was doing would end the. Relationship,

1142
00:50:48,160 --> 00:50:54,640
Speaker 4: yike your friend. Sucks so there's gonna be two ships

1143
00:50:54,719 --> 00:50:58,919
Speaker 4: now sailing their relationship and your friendship bye. Bye that's.

1144
00:50:58,920 --> 00:51:03,400
Speaker 4: Crazy your friend is insane that one she knows what

1145
00:51:03,440 --> 00:51:07,080
Speaker 4: she did was wrong but doesn't care and is going

1146
00:51:07,120 --> 00:51:09,600
Speaker 4: to continue to marry this, person living on a lie

1147
00:51:09,880 --> 00:51:11,520
Speaker 4: and just be a scummy. Person you know how much

1148
00:51:11,560 --> 00:51:14,799
Speaker 4: power you? HOLD Opi, well that's a weird way to put.

1149
00:51:14,840 --> 00:51:17,000
Speaker 4: THAT i, mean it's just like IF i were In opie,

1150
00:51:17,000 --> 00:51:19,719
Speaker 4: Shoes i'd be, Like, hey EITHER i will tell your

1151
00:51:19,760 --> 00:51:23,080
Speaker 4: fiance like by this, date or you have to tell. Him,

1152
00:51:23,520 --> 00:51:25,680
Speaker 4: yep that's WHAT i meant by the. POWER i didn't mean, like,

1153
00:51:25,840 --> 00:51:28,319
Speaker 4: OH i have this dingle like it's like you you

1154
00:51:28,400 --> 00:51:30,160
Speaker 4: have the opportunity to give him the ultimate of a

1155
00:51:30,200 --> 00:51:30,440
Speaker 4: love of.

1156
00:51:30,440 --> 00:51:33,120
Speaker 2: Ike, yeah And i'm not being your maid of honor

1157
00:51:33,239 --> 00:51:33,440
Speaker 2: in the.

1158
00:51:33,560 --> 00:51:35,719
Speaker 8: WEDDING i didn't even think what was happening because you're

1159
00:51:35,760 --> 00:51:36,600
Speaker 8: actively cheating on.

1160
00:51:36,680 --> 00:51:37,719
Speaker 5: Her this is.

1161
00:51:37,800 --> 00:51:40,319
Speaker 4: CRAZY i know there's, like, ah friends till the, end but,

1162
00:51:40,680 --> 00:51:43,320
Speaker 4: no this is not. It let's finish up the story.

1163
00:51:43,560 --> 00:51:45,520
Speaker 4: Now it's clear that she has wanted me to keep

1164
00:51:45,560 --> 00:51:47,399
Speaker 4: it just a secret and be the maid of honor

1165
00:51:47,400 --> 00:51:50,080
Speaker 4: in her, wedding and it's convinced there's nothing wrong with

1166
00:51:50,120 --> 00:51:53,400
Speaker 4: what she's doing as long as her fiance never finds

1167
00:51:53,400 --> 00:51:55,480
Speaker 4: out and she breaks it off with the person she's

1168
00:51:55,520 --> 00:51:57,840
Speaker 4: been seeing and they move on and are. Happy this

1169
00:51:58,040 --> 00:52:01,440
Speaker 4: is so so wrong to me AND i can't be

1170
00:52:01,480 --> 00:52:03,239
Speaker 4: a part of. It she Thinks i'm being a bad

1171
00:52:03,280 --> 00:52:05,600
Speaker 4: friend and this may be the end of a twelve year.

1172
00:52:05,640 --> 00:52:07,440
Speaker 4: Friendship AM i the a?

1173
00:52:07,560 --> 00:52:11,279
Speaker 8: Hole, no she's being a bad friend and a bad, partner.

1174
00:52:11,000 --> 00:52:13,880
Speaker 4: Bad, partner bad person all in, all bad.

1175
00:52:13,920 --> 00:52:16,880
Speaker 8: Person you end the, friendship you tell the fiance if

1176
00:52:17,360 --> 00:52:20,200
Speaker 8: she's not willing to in your ultimatum time, period and

1177
00:52:20,239 --> 00:52:21,560
Speaker 8: then you say bye. Bye we're not.

1178
00:52:21,640 --> 00:52:21,839
Speaker 6: Friends.

1179
00:52:21,960 --> 00:52:24,919
Speaker 4: MOORE i know you're stuck in a really hard place

1180
00:52:24,960 --> 00:52:27,919
Speaker 4: because this is someone who you cherish as like your

1181
00:52:27,960 --> 00:52:30,319
Speaker 4: best friend for twelve, years or someone that's been close to,

1182
00:52:30,360 --> 00:52:32,960
Speaker 4: you maybe even potentially. Family is this someone that you

1183
00:52:33,000 --> 00:52:35,520
Speaker 4: want to continue your life with where they can be

1184
00:52:35,600 --> 00:52:40,359
Speaker 4: that hideous and you, know devious to someone that they're

1185
00:52:40,400 --> 00:52:42,960
Speaker 4: supposed to. Marry you know what you need to? Do,

1186
00:52:43,000 --> 00:52:44,600
Speaker 4: ope it does. SUCK i know you don't want to

1187
00:52:44,600 --> 00:52:47,560
Speaker 4: be that, Person but what if it were the other way?

1188
00:52:47,560 --> 00:52:50,480
Speaker 4: Around you know what if you were the fiance and

1189
00:52:50,840 --> 00:52:52,400
Speaker 4: it's THAT i put yourself in their shoes kind of.

1190
00:52:52,440 --> 00:52:55,440
Speaker 4: Thing it does, Suck BUT i think you have the

1191
00:52:55,560 --> 00:52:58,439
Speaker 4: right mindset because you know this is all wrong and all.

1192
00:52:58,520 --> 00:53:00,920
Speaker 4: BAD i think you need to make sure you tell

1193
00:53:01,080 --> 00:53:04,839
Speaker 4: your ex friend that she needs to tell her fiance if,

1194
00:53:04,880 --> 00:53:07,960
Speaker 4: not you Will and that's. That and that's the end

1195
00:53:07,960 --> 00:53:10,600
Speaker 4: of this. Story we're good to go onto the next. One,

1196
00:53:11,040 --> 00:53:11,600
Speaker 4: hey It's.

1197
00:53:11,520 --> 00:53:13,600
Speaker 2: Dakota your favorite good time boy.

1198
00:53:13,760 --> 00:53:14,080
Speaker 4: Host.

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00:53:14,160 --> 00:53:16,560
Speaker 1: Here we're gonna get back to the. Stories but here's

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00:53:16,560 --> 00:53:19,680
Speaker 1: three minutes of ads from our. SPONSORS i told my

1201
00:53:19,760 --> 00:53:23,680
Speaker 1: friend to respect our. Boundaries she called my wife. Controlling,

1202
00:53:23,920 --> 00:53:27,640
Speaker 1: ooh what kind of. Boundaries, RECENTLY i forty mail cut

1203
00:53:27,640 --> 00:53:30,960
Speaker 1: off contact with one of my good, Friends ananya.

1204
00:53:30,920 --> 00:53:33,400
Speaker 4: Forty, Female ananya, Business Ananya.

1205
00:53:33,480 --> 00:53:37,520
Speaker 1: BUSINESS i have Known ananya almost sixteen, years long BEFORE

1206
00:53:37,560 --> 00:53:39,719
Speaker 1: i met my. Wife we met in college and we're

1207
00:53:39,719 --> 00:53:41,680
Speaker 1: part of the same friend. Group and by the, way

1208
00:53:41,880 --> 00:53:44,600
Speaker 1: this comes from user THROWAWAY. Msi if you want to

1209
00:53:44,600 --> 00:53:47,160
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1210
00:53:47,239 --> 00:53:49,120
Speaker 5: Subreddit I'm, Dakota I'm.

1211
00:53:49,160 --> 00:53:52,160
Speaker 1: Keon we're here to give good advice, goofully but we

1212
00:53:52,200 --> 00:53:55,399
Speaker 1: are not the all, knowing all SEEING. Orb you don't

1213
00:53:55,400 --> 00:53:58,480
Speaker 1: have all the, answers so let us know what you

1214
00:53:58,520 --> 00:54:02,719
Speaker 1: think in the comments and op. Says After ananya AND

1215
00:54:02,760 --> 00:54:05,280
Speaker 1: i graduated, college we both moved to the same city

1216
00:54:05,280 --> 00:54:07,640
Speaker 1: for a. Job we found apartments close by and would

1217
00:54:07,680 --> 00:54:10,640
Speaker 1: hang out. Regularly we would do grocery shopping, together hang

1218
00:54:10,680 --> 00:54:12,880
Speaker 1: out at each other's, apartments and go out for. Dinner

1219
00:54:12,880 --> 00:54:15,120
Speaker 1: one day And nanya told me that she loved spending

1220
00:54:15,120 --> 00:54:18,080
Speaker 1: time with me and that maybe we should officially. DATE

1221
00:54:21,000 --> 00:54:23,080
Speaker 1: i can see where this is gonna get. MESSY i

1222
00:54:23,200 --> 00:54:25,680
Speaker 1: told her THAT i liked her as a friend, too

1223
00:54:26,200 --> 00:54:28,040
Speaker 1: but we were very different people AND i did not

1224
00:54:28,160 --> 00:54:28,959
Speaker 1: think of her in that.

1225
00:54:28,880 --> 00:54:30,600
Speaker 4: Way friend, zoned get.

1226
00:54:30,680 --> 00:54:33,239
Speaker 1: Zoned she told me that since we already spent so

1227
00:54:33,320 --> 00:54:36,120
Speaker 1: much time, together she just ASSUMED i was interested in

1228
00:54:36,160 --> 00:54:38,960
Speaker 1: her and hence asked, me and she also felt we

1229
00:54:38,960 --> 00:54:42,040
Speaker 1: were very different. People we never discussed this after.

1230
00:54:42,080 --> 00:54:45,040
Speaker 5: That oh so it just dimod, There.

1231
00:54:44,960 --> 00:54:46,160
Speaker 4: You just let sleeping dogs.

1232
00:54:46,200 --> 00:54:51,560
Speaker 1: Lie nothing changed between us after, that and we remained close.

1233
00:54:51,680 --> 00:54:54,799
Speaker 1: Friends one year, LATER i met my. Wife oh, boy

1234
00:54:54,840 --> 00:54:58,000
Speaker 1: here comes the. Change we started dating AND i couldn't be.

1235
00:54:58,040 --> 00:55:00,759
Speaker 1: HAPPIER i remember thinking after our first date that she

1236
00:55:00,800 --> 00:55:03,120
Speaker 1: was exactly the PERSON i wanted to be. With she

1237
00:55:03,239 --> 00:55:06,080
Speaker 1: is smart and, caring AND i can't help but feel

1238
00:55:06,160 --> 00:55:08,440
Speaker 1: LUCKY i found. Her we both got married and are

1239
00:55:08,520 --> 00:55:12,520
Speaker 1: now happily married for eleven years with one cute. Kid

1240
00:55:12,680 --> 00:55:15,120
Speaker 1: ananya also met her husband around at the. TIME i

1241
00:55:15,160 --> 00:55:17,839
Speaker 1: was dating my wife and she also married a few

1242
00:55:17,840 --> 00:55:18,399
Speaker 1: months after.

1243
00:55:18,440 --> 00:55:19,640
Speaker 5: Me the plot.

1244
00:55:19,640 --> 00:55:22,160
Speaker 4: Thickens we're riding the same wavelength over.

1245
00:55:22,200 --> 00:55:26,120
Speaker 1: Here, okay we got wifed up and somebody put a

1246
00:55:26,200 --> 00:55:26,480
Speaker 1: ring on.

1247
00:55:26,560 --> 00:55:28,320
Speaker 4: It, okay we got booted.

1248
00:55:28,400 --> 00:55:31,960
Speaker 1: Up we're Even steven's across the. Board anaya, op we

1249
00:55:32,000 --> 00:55:34,520
Speaker 1: got booed. Up so we all remain good friends to this.

1250
00:55:34,640 --> 00:55:37,160
Speaker 1: Day my wife had asked me WHEN i was dating

1251
00:55:37,200 --> 00:55:40,160
Speaker 1: If ananya AND i ever. DATED i was honest with

1252
00:55:40,200 --> 00:55:42,800
Speaker 1: her and told her about that one night When ananya

1253
00:55:42,840 --> 00:55:45,360
Speaker 1: asked if we should. Date she never had a problem With,

1254
00:55:45,360 --> 00:55:47,600
Speaker 1: ananya and they both also went shopping.

1255
00:55:47,600 --> 00:55:50,680
Speaker 5: Together the issue started happening a year.

1256
00:55:50,719 --> 00:55:53,319
Speaker 1: Ago ananya told my wife and me one night that

1257
00:55:53,400 --> 00:55:57,000
Speaker 1: she was not happy with her marriage and felt her

1258
00:55:57,120 --> 00:55:59,400
Speaker 1: husband did not treat her. WELL i don't want to

1259
00:55:59,400 --> 00:56:02,160
Speaker 1: go into specific but four months after, that they filed

1260
00:56:02,160 --> 00:56:05,840
Speaker 1: for divorce and amicably, separated And nanya did start spending

1261
00:56:05,880 --> 00:56:08,680
Speaker 1: more time with my wife and me as we were

1262
00:56:08,719 --> 00:56:11,560
Speaker 1: her emotional. Support, however as time went by And nanya

1263
00:56:11,600 --> 00:56:14,200
Speaker 1: started texting me and telling me how sad she, WAS

1264
00:56:15,080 --> 00:56:17,480
Speaker 1: i always told her we were happy to have her

1265
00:56:17,560 --> 00:56:20,320
Speaker 1: visit us anytime if she wanted to. Talk my, wife,

1266
00:56:20,360 --> 00:56:23,640
Speaker 1: however did not like that she was messaging me rather

1267
00:56:23,680 --> 00:56:26,000
Speaker 1: than a group, chat as she was as much of

1268
00:56:26,040 --> 00:56:28,319
Speaker 1: a friend To ananya AS i. Was, yeah but you're

1269
00:56:28,640 --> 00:56:31,680
Speaker 1: forgetting the crucial. Component she doesn't want to be married to.

1270
00:56:31,719 --> 00:56:33,520
Speaker 1: You she wants to be married To.

1271
00:56:33,560 --> 00:56:37,560
Speaker 4: Ope it depends the context of what's being. TEXTED i, mean,

1272
00:56:37,640 --> 00:56:41,200
Speaker 4: yes we have a, history there's a, past nothing too like,

1273
00:56:42,040 --> 00:56:45,920
Speaker 4: real but you guys have also been friends. LONGER i don't,

1274
00:56:45,960 --> 00:56:49,080
Speaker 4: know it's a very like, hey how come you and

1275
00:56:49,120 --> 00:56:52,239
Speaker 4: your girlfriend are like? Texting or, like how come you

1276
00:56:52,280 --> 00:56:54,600
Speaker 4: and my girlfriend are texting And i'm not in that group? Chat,

1277
00:56:54,760 --> 00:56:58,480
Speaker 4: WELL i think it's. OKAY i think it's just given the.

1278
00:56:58,600 --> 00:57:03,480
Speaker 1: Context, yes that's what makes it, Like, oh it's, like

1279
00:57:03,560 --> 00:57:06,960
Speaker 1: so you get a divorce and the guy that YOU i,

1280
00:57:07,000 --> 00:57:09,120
Speaker 1: MEAN i don't, know everyone's, different BUT i feel like

1281
00:57:09,200 --> 00:57:12,120
Speaker 1: for a girl to be, like, hey should we, date

1282
00:57:12,400 --> 00:57:15,480
Speaker 1: like they have to really like like that person a

1283
00:57:15,520 --> 00:57:17,160
Speaker 1: lot to be the one to suggest.

1284
00:57:17,200 --> 00:57:20,680
Speaker 4: It, yeah it gets just the context of what's being

1285
00:57:20,720 --> 00:57:22,120
Speaker 4: texted between you and your.

1286
00:57:22,160 --> 00:57:25,200
Speaker 1: Friends, well here's the real, key and we don't have

1287
00:57:25,240 --> 00:57:27,840
Speaker 1: a lot of insight into what we split but if

1288
00:57:27,840 --> 00:57:30,920
Speaker 1: the reason is it's like always, split because seeing how

1289
00:57:31,080 --> 00:57:35,240
Speaker 1: happy you guys are pr together made me realize it inspired.

1290
00:57:35,280 --> 00:57:38,280
Speaker 4: Me you inspired me to look for something. Better like

1291
00:57:38,520 --> 00:57:40,520
Speaker 4: you like you're like, you like.

1292
00:57:40,640 --> 00:57:42,480
Speaker 1: You my wife also felt that it was okay to

1293
00:57:42,520 --> 00:57:45,400
Speaker 1: be her support as a, couple but didn't want her

1294
00:57:45,440 --> 00:57:49,280
Speaker 1: to see me along as her emotional support and message

1295
00:57:49,280 --> 00:57:51,920
Speaker 1: me after TEN pm about her. PROBLEMS i did follow

1296
00:57:51,960 --> 00:57:54,160
Speaker 1: what my wife, said AS i feel as a married

1297
00:57:54,200 --> 00:57:56,480
Speaker 1: couple we should have boundaries with how we talk to our,

1298
00:57:56,520 --> 00:57:59,240
Speaker 1: friends irrespective of their. GENDER i don't know IF i

1299
00:57:59,320 --> 00:58:02,240
Speaker 1: said it in the, wrong but WHEN i Told ananya about,

1300
00:58:02,240 --> 00:58:05,200
Speaker 1: this she lost it on me and started berating my

1301
00:58:05,280 --> 00:58:08,120
Speaker 1: wife for being. CONTROLLING i tried to explain to her

1302
00:58:08,120 --> 00:58:10,360
Speaker 1: that it is just boundaries that we've said as a,

1303
00:58:10,400 --> 00:58:12,680
Speaker 1: couple And i'm SURE i would do the same if

1304
00:58:12,680 --> 00:58:14,600
Speaker 1: my wife's friend was messaging her late at.

1305
00:58:14,640 --> 00:58:15,920
Speaker 5: Night, however she.

1306
00:58:16,000 --> 00:58:18,800
Speaker 1: Was just offended by the implication that she had any

1307
00:58:18,960 --> 00:58:21,920
Speaker 1: motives for talking to. Me after the, FIGHT i decided

1308
00:58:21,920 --> 00:58:24,000
Speaker 1: to let the situation cool off on its own and

1309
00:58:24,040 --> 00:58:24,840
Speaker 1: didn't reach out To.

1310
00:58:24,880 --> 00:58:27,400
Speaker 5: Ananya she also has not messaged me since.

1311
00:58:27,440 --> 00:58:29,560
Speaker 1: Then my college friends are now calling me and telling

1312
00:58:29,560 --> 00:58:32,040
Speaker 1: Me i'm an aole for Ignoring ananya in such a

1313
00:58:32,120 --> 00:58:36,000
Speaker 1: vulnerable moment and That i'm a bad. Person my, wife of,

1314
00:58:36,000 --> 00:58:38,440
Speaker 1: course supports, me but feels LIKE i let the situation

1315
00:58:38,600 --> 00:58:41,040
Speaker 1: go too. FAR i do Miss, ananya BUT i am

1316
00:58:41,040 --> 00:58:43,440
Speaker 1: not comfortable talking to her if she does not respect

1317
00:58:43,440 --> 00:58:46,760
Speaker 1: my wife and my boundaries and messages me at any

1318
00:58:46,760 --> 00:58:48,720
Speaker 1: time of the. Day do you THINK i Offended ananya

1319
00:58:48,760 --> 00:58:50,360
Speaker 1: WHEN i told her not to message me late at?

1320
00:58:50,440 --> 00:58:53,160
Speaker 1: Night if you were in my, situation how would you

1321
00:58:53,160 --> 00:58:55,400
Speaker 1: tell your friend respect your. Boundaries we do have an

1322
00:58:55,440 --> 00:58:57,040
Speaker 1: update and plenty more story to, go.

1323
00:58:57,120 --> 00:58:58,240
Speaker 5: Folks this is gonna be multiple.

1324
00:58:58,240 --> 00:59:00,600
Speaker 4: Parts, YEAH i, mean we'll get into. IT i think

1325
00:59:00,600 --> 00:59:03,360
Speaker 4: it's a simple. Boundary you also, Like i'm not going

1326
00:59:03,440 --> 00:59:05,240
Speaker 4: to be there for you twenty four to. Seven, YES

1327
00:59:05,280 --> 00:59:07,800
Speaker 4: i love, You you're my, friend but you cannot be texting

1328
00:59:07,840 --> 00:59:10,240
Speaker 4: me in the late nights expecting That i'm going to

1329
00:59:10,280 --> 00:59:12,920
Speaker 4: respond to twenty four. Seven this was like an, emergency

1330
00:59:13,000 --> 00:59:16,040
Speaker 4: BUT i think you just had a. Divorce, Yes i'm

1331
00:59:16,040 --> 00:59:19,080
Speaker 4: here as your you, know your, support But i'm not

1332
00:59:19,120 --> 00:59:20,680
Speaker 4: going to be your twenty four seven support kind of.

1333
00:59:20,680 --> 00:59:23,560
Speaker 1: THING i just think that her reaction is also so

1334
00:59:23,720 --> 00:59:25,680
Speaker 1: telling because.

1335
00:59:25,560 --> 00:59:27,680
Speaker 4: But is this also like is the wife too controlling?

1336
00:59:27,760 --> 00:59:29,200
Speaker 4: Now where it's, LIKE i don't think.

1337
00:59:29,240 --> 00:59:30,640
Speaker 1: SO i think even she was, LIKE i, mean you

1338
00:59:30,640 --> 00:59:32,600
Speaker 1: could have maybe peeled back on that a little, bit

1339
00:59:33,040 --> 00:59:34,520
Speaker 1: which is kind of a red flag to. Me i'm, like,

1340
00:59:34,560 --> 00:59:37,080
Speaker 1: girl what are we? Doing you wanted, this now you're,

1341
00:59:37,120 --> 00:59:40,400
Speaker 1: LIKE i went too. Far but there's this psychological principle of,

1342
00:59:40,440 --> 00:59:42,640
Speaker 1: like if somebody accuses you of something that's, falls you

1343
00:59:42,640 --> 00:59:46,320
Speaker 1: will very like kind of like calmly assert that that's

1344
00:59:46,360 --> 00:59:48,960
Speaker 1: not you, know the way it is just almost like

1345
00:59:48,960 --> 00:59:50,400
Speaker 1: a matter of factly it's, like oh, no, no well

1346
00:59:50,440 --> 00:59:53,200
Speaker 1: that's it's not the, case, Right and that's, okay especially

1347
00:59:53,240 --> 00:59:55,800
Speaker 1: given the context of LIKE i used TO i confess

1348
00:59:55,880 --> 00:59:57,600
Speaker 1: to you THAT i had feelings for you in the,

1349
00:59:57,640 --> 01:00:00,720
Speaker 1: past it makes sense that you would go there, first

1350
01:00:00,720 --> 01:00:03,000
Speaker 1: but that's not the. Case but she immediately got like,

1351
01:00:03,240 --> 01:00:08,040
Speaker 1: snippy really defensive and upset about. It and, yeah that's

1352
01:00:08,080 --> 01:00:11,320
Speaker 1: probably because there is some truth to that. Update thanks

1353
01:00:11,360 --> 01:00:14,360
Speaker 1: everyone for all your. OPINIONS i didn't know who to

1354
01:00:14,360 --> 01:00:16,760
Speaker 1: talk to you about this since everyone around me seemed

1355
01:00:16,760 --> 01:00:18,800
Speaker 1: to THINK i was. OVERREACTING i showed the post to

1356
01:00:18,840 --> 01:00:21,040
Speaker 1: my wife and after reading it and the, comments she

1357
01:00:21,120 --> 01:00:23,440
Speaker 1: was a bit mad at. Me, correctly according to, HER

1358
01:00:23,560 --> 01:00:25,920
Speaker 1: i did omit some key facts from the story that

1359
01:00:26,000 --> 01:00:27,480
Speaker 1: Make ananya sound.

1360
01:00:27,280 --> 01:00:29,440
Speaker 5: Like a bad. Guy. Hmm here are some of the

1361
01:00:29,440 --> 01:00:30,120
Speaker 5: THINGS i should have.

1362
01:00:30,200 --> 01:00:33,760
Speaker 1: Mentioned according to my, Wife ananya asked about dating once

1363
01:00:34,280 --> 01:00:35,160
Speaker 1: thirteen years.

1364
01:00:35,200 --> 01:00:36,800
Speaker 5: AGO i should let it.

1365
01:00:36,840 --> 01:00:39,440
Speaker 1: Go she's been a great friend to us and a

1366
01:00:39,480 --> 01:00:42,200
Speaker 1: great aunt to my. Son ananya AND i only hang

1367
01:00:42,240 --> 01:00:45,160
Speaker 1: out in social, settings mostly at parties and get togethers

1368
01:00:45,200 --> 01:00:47,280
Speaker 1: with our friends and. Family my wife is in charge

1369
01:00:47,280 --> 01:00:50,160
Speaker 1: of my social, calendar hence she talks To ananya more

1370
01:00:50,200 --> 01:00:51,760
Speaker 1: THAN i. Do she has been a close friend Of

1371
01:00:51,760 --> 01:00:54,120
Speaker 1: ananya for a long, time and she spends time together

1372
01:00:54,160 --> 01:00:56,520
Speaker 1: with her and makes plans with her even When i'm not.

1373
01:00:56,600 --> 01:00:59,680
Speaker 1: Around ananya has told my wife that she sees me

1374
01:00:59,720 --> 01:01:01,000
Speaker 1: as an older brother.

1375
01:01:00,800 --> 01:01:02,920
Speaker 5: Who is very protective of. Her this is.

1376
01:01:02,960 --> 01:01:05,800
Speaker 1: TRUE i have very few good, friends AND i do

1377
01:01:05,920 --> 01:01:08,080
Speaker 1: care a lot about all of. Them the messaging at

1378
01:01:08,200 --> 01:01:11,720
Speaker 1: night happened only. Twice we have do not, disturb but

1379
01:01:11,800 --> 01:01:13,720
Speaker 1: there is a list of people as an, exception And

1380
01:01:13,760 --> 01:01:16,680
Speaker 1: ananya is one of. Them, however we only expect them

1381
01:01:16,680 --> 01:01:19,520
Speaker 1: to message if there is an Emergency When ananya messaged,

1382
01:01:19,560 --> 01:01:23,520
Speaker 1: me my wife first asked is she, okay but then

1383
01:01:23,640 --> 01:01:26,320
Speaker 1: was annoyed since we were both. Sleeping, hence when it happened,

1384
01:01:26,320 --> 01:01:28,160
Speaker 1: again she asked me to tell her not to message.

1385
01:01:28,240 --> 01:01:31,040
Speaker 1: Late she also mentioned why she was messaging me and

1386
01:01:31,120 --> 01:01:31,680
Speaker 1: not the group.

1387
01:01:31,760 --> 01:01:33,240
Speaker 5: Chat our fight happened three weeks.

1388
01:01:33,280 --> 01:01:35,600
Speaker 1: Ago my wife has been telling me every day to

1389
01:01:35,640 --> 01:01:39,360
Speaker 1: Call ananya and sort things. Out we both still care about.

1390
01:01:39,360 --> 01:01:41,840
Speaker 1: Her my wife also thinks That ananya AND i have

1391
01:01:42,160 --> 01:01:45,480
Speaker 1: huge egos and are acting like, kids and my post

1392
01:01:45,720 --> 01:01:48,480
Speaker 1: just went too. Far so my wife Called ananya this

1393
01:01:48,560 --> 01:01:51,760
Speaker 1: evening after reading the. Post they are meeting On sunday for.

1394
01:01:51,840 --> 01:01:54,720
Speaker 1: Brunch i'm not going As i'm not going to talk

1395
01:01:54,760 --> 01:01:56,360
Speaker 1: to her until she apologizes to my.

1396
01:01:56,480 --> 01:01:57,720
Speaker 5: Wife let's see what.

1397
01:01:57,800 --> 01:02:02,080
Speaker 1: Happens update number, two let's get into. It my wife

1398
01:02:02,080 --> 01:02:04,479
Speaker 1: read my post and decided to take things into her own.

1399
01:02:04,520 --> 01:02:07,400
Speaker 1: Hands she's also good friends With ananya and told me

1400
01:02:07,440 --> 01:02:10,120
Speaker 1: that she cannot stop being her friend just because of our.

1401
01:02:10,200 --> 01:02:13,320
Speaker 1: Misunderstanding she met A nania On sunday for. BRUNCH i

1402
01:02:13,400 --> 01:02:16,120
Speaker 1: took my kid to a trampoline park and had fun after.

1403
01:02:16,200 --> 01:02:19,160
Speaker 1: Brunch this is my wife's description of what. Happened she

1404
01:02:19,200 --> 01:02:22,320
Speaker 1: said That ananya met her and looked. Sad she immediately

1405
01:02:22,360 --> 01:02:25,040
Speaker 1: apologized to my wife and told her that she said

1406
01:02:25,080 --> 01:02:26,840
Speaker 1: some terrible things about her in the heat of the

1407
01:02:26,880 --> 01:02:29,520
Speaker 1: moment that she did not. Mean they hugged it out

1408
01:02:29,640 --> 01:02:31,600
Speaker 1: and had a nice. BRUNCH i also heard that a

1409
01:02:31,600 --> 01:02:33,920
Speaker 1: lot of tears were. Shed ananya told my wife that

1410
01:02:34,000 --> 01:02:36,440
Speaker 1: she had been feeling down Since thanksgiving since it was

1411
01:02:36,480 --> 01:02:39,760
Speaker 1: her First thanksgiving without her ex after many, years and

1412
01:02:39,920 --> 01:02:42,080
Speaker 1: was overwhelmed with the prospect of being alone during the,

1413
01:02:42,080 --> 01:02:45,040
Speaker 1: holidays and so she wanted to talk to. Someone since

1414
01:02:45,080 --> 01:02:47,280
Speaker 1: she lost most of her friends in the, divorce as

1415
01:02:47,280 --> 01:02:50,480
Speaker 1: they were mostly her husband's, friends we were the closest

1416
01:02:50,480 --> 01:02:51,240
Speaker 1: people to, her.

1417
01:02:51,360 --> 01:02:52,680
Speaker 5: So she wanted to talk to us that.

1418
01:02:52,800 --> 01:02:55,600
Speaker 1: Night she knows my wife AND i sleep, early so

1419
01:02:55,680 --> 01:02:58,040
Speaker 1: she didn't message in the group chat like she usually.

1420
01:02:58,080 --> 01:03:01,560
Speaker 5: Does she saw me online at ten and messaged.

1421
01:03:01,560 --> 01:03:04,040
Speaker 1: Me this part was not, correct AS i distinctly remember

1422
01:03:04,080 --> 01:03:06,520
Speaker 1: being woken up from sleep with her. Messages she felt

1423
01:03:06,560 --> 01:03:09,080
Speaker 1: bad THAT i was so dry my responses and lost

1424
01:03:09,080 --> 01:03:10,680
Speaker 1: it WHEN i told her not to message me at.

1425
01:03:10,760 --> 01:03:13,200
Speaker 1: Night she also hated the implication of me telling her

1426
01:03:13,240 --> 01:03:15,120
Speaker 1: to use the group chat as she FELT i was

1427
01:03:15,120 --> 01:03:15,920
Speaker 1: her friend.

1428
01:03:15,760 --> 01:03:16,760
Speaker 5: AND i was pushing her.

1429
01:03:16,760 --> 01:03:19,720
Speaker 1: Away after, that from WHAT i, understand there was a

1430
01:03:19,720 --> 01:03:22,360
Speaker 1: lot of talk about HOW i am emotionally unavailable to,

1431
01:03:22,400 --> 01:03:25,280
Speaker 1: her and my wife also agreed that WHILE i did

1432
01:03:25,280 --> 01:03:27,600
Speaker 1: a lot of, THINGS i never really talked to her

1433
01:03:27,640 --> 01:03:30,840
Speaker 1: in detail about how she's. Feeling after brunch And nanya

1434
01:03:30,880 --> 01:03:33,080
Speaker 1: gave my wife a big bag of gifts she got

1435
01:03:33,200 --> 01:03:36,240
Speaker 1: for my kid For. Christmas she always spoils, him especially

1436
01:03:36,320 --> 01:03:38,680
Speaker 1: during the. Holidays my wife invited A nanya to spend

1437
01:03:38,680 --> 01:03:40,480
Speaker 1: the night at our place so that she could watch

1438
01:03:40,480 --> 01:03:42,920
Speaker 1: my kid open the, presence And nanya, agreed and she

1439
01:03:43,040 --> 01:03:44,560
Speaker 1: told her that she would.

1440
01:03:44,400 --> 01:03:44,760
Speaker 5: Come in the.

1441
01:03:44,800 --> 01:03:47,640
Speaker 1: Evening ananya messaged me before coming that she was gonna

1442
01:03:47,680 --> 01:03:50,040
Speaker 1: be there in thirty minutes and to tell my wife

1443
01:03:50,080 --> 01:03:51,840
Speaker 1: when she, came it was nice to see, her and

1444
01:03:51,880 --> 01:03:53,320
Speaker 1: she gave me a, long warm.

1445
01:03:53,440 --> 01:03:55,760
Speaker 5: Hug that's. Descriptive how warm was that?

1446
01:03:55,840 --> 01:03:57,000
Speaker 4: Hug how long was?

1447
01:03:57,040 --> 01:03:58,400
Speaker 5: It how long and warm is that?

1448
01:03:58,480 --> 01:04:01,280
Speaker 1: Hug we had a wonderful time that, night but my

1449
01:04:01,400 --> 01:04:04,479
Speaker 1: kid was the happiest since his favorite person was. Home

1450
01:04:04,520 --> 01:04:07,000
Speaker 1: we also had a nice morning and Then nanya helped

1451
01:04:07,040 --> 01:04:09,320
Speaker 1: me make breakfast while my wife got my son ready

1452
01:04:09,320 --> 01:04:12,520
Speaker 1: for the. Morning my wife Got annya. Sweater But ananya

1453
01:04:12,640 --> 01:04:15,520
Speaker 1: commented HOW i didn't buy her a. Gift she asked

1454
01:04:15,560 --> 01:04:18,840
Speaker 1: me to assemble her furniture On friday and mount her NEW.

1455
01:04:18,920 --> 01:04:22,680
Speaker 1: Tv so there goes my free day On. Friday, DUDE

1456
01:04:23,040 --> 01:04:23,640
Speaker 1: i don't.

1457
01:04:23,400 --> 01:04:25,240
Speaker 4: Know, man that's an interesting.

1458
01:04:25,320 --> 01:04:27,480
Speaker 5: Thing that's another.

1459
01:04:27,760 --> 01:04:32,600
Speaker 4: Classic you didn't get me a, gift so you can

1460
01:04:32,880 --> 01:04:35,600
Speaker 4: mount MY. Tv you can my, wall.

1461
01:04:35,640 --> 01:04:38,000
Speaker 1: So you can come Over friday and be my man

1462
01:04:38,440 --> 01:04:41,400
Speaker 1: and mount MY tv and do this seaman.

1463
01:04:41,560 --> 01:04:44,320
Speaker 4: Stuff this seems like chess right, now where seems like

1464
01:04:44,320 --> 01:04:46,400
Speaker 4: we're playing a, long long game of.

1465
01:04:46,560 --> 01:04:50,120
Speaker 1: Chess, yeah man, like and it's, like, yeah could that

1466
01:04:50,160 --> 01:04:52,200
Speaker 1: also just be, like, yeah come over and help me

1467
01:04:52,200 --> 01:04:52,520
Speaker 1: make this.

1468
01:04:52,560 --> 01:04:55,160
Speaker 5: Stuff you're a, dude you can do dude.

1469
01:04:55,200 --> 01:04:58,560
Speaker 1: Stuff and it's totally you, Know i'm, patonic but it's

1470
01:04:58,560 --> 01:05:00,040
Speaker 1: gonna be me and you.

1471
01:05:00,400 --> 01:05:05,560
Speaker 4: Alone i'm newly, Divorced i'm alone and you in my,

1472
01:05:05,720 --> 01:05:07,800
Speaker 4: place mounting.

1473
01:05:07,440 --> 01:05:09,200
Speaker 1: Stuff inginginging and.

1474
01:05:09,240 --> 01:05:12,120
Speaker 5: Ginging eh or could be very.

1475
01:05:12,240 --> 01:05:15,320
Speaker 1: Chill and you, know we might be biased because we

1476
01:05:15,400 --> 01:05:17,720
Speaker 1: read these all day and we know where this.

1477
01:05:17,800 --> 01:05:21,400
Speaker 4: Goes maybe this can go another. Way who knows it?

1478
01:05:21,400 --> 01:05:23,160
Speaker 5: Could it can only go one of two.

1479
01:05:23,200 --> 01:05:26,360
Speaker 1: Ways, overall my thoughts are That ananya is a good,

1480
01:05:26,400 --> 01:05:28,680
Speaker 1: friend AND i know how MUCH i love my wife

1481
01:05:28,840 --> 01:05:31,560
Speaker 1: and would never do anything to jeopardize our. Relationship so

1482
01:05:31,600 --> 01:05:34,240
Speaker 1: if my wife is, COMFORTABLE i should not make things

1483
01:05:34,240 --> 01:05:36,360
Speaker 1: weird and just be there for a. FRIEND i just

1484
01:05:36,400 --> 01:05:39,440
Speaker 1: wanted to write this out as things turned out okay

1485
01:05:39,440 --> 01:05:42,440
Speaker 1: in the. End update Three mini. UPDATE i thought the

1486
01:05:42,520 --> 01:05:44,959
Speaker 1: last update was my final one and things are going,

1487
01:05:45,040 --> 01:05:47,800
Speaker 1: great but all comments felt like you were trying to

1488
01:05:47,840 --> 01:05:50,560
Speaker 1: talk me off the. Ledge my wife is going to

1489
01:05:50,600 --> 01:05:53,439
Speaker 1: her parents' house today with my, kid so this morning during,

1490
01:05:53,440 --> 01:05:55,520
Speaker 1: BREAKFAST i asked her to read the comments On. Reddit

1491
01:05:55,600 --> 01:05:57,480
Speaker 1: she told me that it's Stupid i'm posting this On,

1492
01:05:57,520 --> 01:06:00,800
Speaker 1: reddit and she's SURE i must have again the facts

1493
01:06:00,800 --> 01:06:02,920
Speaker 1: to suit my. Narrative she refuse to even read the

1494
01:06:02,920 --> 01:06:05,240
Speaker 1: post you. Feel she is great at reading people and

1495
01:06:05,280 --> 01:06:07,680
Speaker 1: she knows A nanya better than anyone On reddit who

1496
01:06:07,760 --> 01:06:09,840
Speaker 1: just knows. Her through my short, post she brought up

1497
01:06:09,880 --> 01:06:12,080
Speaker 1: HOW i go to help my guy friends on their

1498
01:06:12,080 --> 01:06:15,080
Speaker 1: projects sometimes Early sunday, mornings and ask me Why i'm

1499
01:06:15,080 --> 01:06:17,680
Speaker 1: hesitant to Help. Ananya i'm sorry to, say but she

1500
01:06:17,720 --> 01:06:19,680
Speaker 1: also told all of you to get a life and

1501
01:06:19,760 --> 01:06:21,120
Speaker 1: stop watching soap operas.

1502
01:06:21,520 --> 01:06:22,640
Speaker 5: As real life is not as.

1503
01:06:22,640 --> 01:06:25,439
Speaker 4: Complicated, Hey, kakota get a, life but.

1504
01:06:25,440 --> 01:06:26,720
Speaker 5: Real life is really.

1505
01:06:26,800 --> 01:06:29,960
Speaker 1: Complicated, ACTUALLY i don't understand that at. All like where

1506
01:06:29,960 --> 01:06:32,640
Speaker 1: do you think the storylines and soap operas come? From

1507
01:06:32,680 --> 01:06:35,760
Speaker 1: like do people really do crazy stuff our?

1508
01:06:35,880 --> 01:06:38,280
Speaker 4: Imagination these things have never happened.

1509
01:06:38,320 --> 01:06:41,840
Speaker 1: Before people have the potential to keep a thirteen year

1510
01:06:41,880 --> 01:06:42,640
Speaker 1: long emotional.

1511
01:06:42,680 --> 01:06:44,520
Speaker 5: Secret they can do.

1512
01:06:44,640 --> 01:06:48,760
Speaker 4: That, Listen i'm hoping just a very, chill happy. Story that's.

1513
01:06:48,800 --> 01:06:51,840
Speaker 4: It maybe the, Wife maybe your wife is. Right maybe

1514
01:06:51,880 --> 01:06:54,760
Speaker 4: it's just a you know. What maybe you're reading into

1515
01:06:54,800 --> 01:06:57,960
Speaker 4: things a little too deep and overthinking. THINGS i want

1516
01:06:58,040 --> 01:06:59,360
Speaker 4: to go that. Route there's two.

1517
01:06:59,440 --> 01:07:02,320
Speaker 1: Lenses so it's, like, yes the people On reddit don't

1518
01:07:02,320 --> 01:07:03,560
Speaker 1: know this person at, all so.

1519
01:07:04,000 --> 01:07:05,480
Speaker 5: They they don't really care.

1520
01:07:05,680 --> 01:07:08,400
Speaker 1: To people are, like divorce your, wife, right which don't do? That,

1521
01:07:08,520 --> 01:07:10,720
Speaker 1: hello someone's always gonna tell you to get. Divorced but

1522
01:07:11,040 --> 01:07:13,640
Speaker 1: you also have the blinders of like you've known this

1523
01:07:13,680 --> 01:07:16,360
Speaker 1: person for so, long you assume all of these things about,

1524
01:07:16,400 --> 01:07:19,240
Speaker 1: Them you've already have all These so it's, like with

1525
01:07:19,800 --> 01:07:23,680
Speaker 1: no bias and no, context this does sound suspicious written.

1526
01:07:23,680 --> 01:07:28,240
Speaker 1: Out it just feels, off feels, weird especially after all of,

1527
01:07:28,280 --> 01:07:31,560
Speaker 1: that and it's like immediately, like, yep come over to my,

1528
01:07:31,560 --> 01:07:34,040
Speaker 1: house just. YOU i don't, know it's just, funny it's just.

1529
01:07:34,080 --> 01:07:35,800
Speaker 1: Weird it's just a little.

1530
01:07:35,800 --> 01:07:38,400
Speaker 4: Weird, listen we don't. Know and we're going to keep.

1531
01:07:38,440 --> 01:07:39,440
Speaker 5: Reading she has a.

1532
01:07:39,480 --> 01:07:41,880
Speaker 1: POINT i help my friends all the, time and if

1533
01:07:41,920 --> 01:07:43,880
Speaker 1: she trusts me to be alone With, ananya then it

1534
01:07:43,920 --> 01:07:46,000
Speaker 1: would be inappropriate for me to be hesitant to not

1535
01:07:46,120 --> 01:07:48,800
Speaker 1: help her just because she's a good looking. Woman, also

1536
01:07:48,920 --> 01:07:51,840
Speaker 1: after reading the, Comments i'm curious as to what exactly

1537
01:07:51,880 --> 01:07:53,760
Speaker 1: is going. On so this is What i'm going to.

1538
01:07:53,800 --> 01:07:56,520
Speaker 1: Do i'm going to An anya's house tomorrow to help

1539
01:07:56,560 --> 01:07:58,280
Speaker 1: her with the. Furniture i'm going to see if she

1540
01:07:58,280 --> 01:08:01,400
Speaker 1: says anything remotely weird that is out of, line and

1541
01:08:01,440 --> 01:08:03,800
Speaker 1: if she, DOES i have a reason to avoid her

1542
01:08:03,800 --> 01:08:06,640
Speaker 1: in the. Future if she doesn't do, this then she

1543
01:08:06,680 --> 01:08:09,880
Speaker 1: gets her furniture. Assembled, ALSO i Know i'm one hundred

1544
01:08:09,880 --> 01:08:12,680
Speaker 1: percent faithful to my. WIFE i am six, three two hundred.

1545
01:08:12,720 --> 01:08:15,400
Speaker 1: POUNDS i don't THINK i need to worry about. ANYTHING

1546
01:08:15,480 --> 01:08:17,519
Speaker 1: i liked the comment to go there early and get

1547
01:08:17,560 --> 01:08:19,519
Speaker 1: it done. Quickly that WAY i get the rest of

1548
01:08:19,560 --> 01:08:22,160
Speaker 1: the day to myself and finally try on my.

1549
01:08:22,160 --> 01:08:23,880
Speaker 5: New quest three for the rest of the.

1550
01:08:23,960 --> 01:08:26,200
Speaker 1: Day, finally A nanya messaged me this morning and ask

1551
01:08:26,240 --> 01:08:28,240
Speaker 1: me what TIME i was. Coming she asked me to

1552
01:08:28,240 --> 01:08:30,439
Speaker 1: come after ten am since it's her day off two

1553
01:08:30,560 --> 01:08:32,840
Speaker 1: and she wants to sleep. In, also she asked me

1554
01:08:32,960 --> 01:08:34,960
Speaker 1: WHAT i would like to have for, lunch as she

1555
01:08:35,000 --> 01:08:36,360
Speaker 1: would be cooking and we.

1556
01:08:36,360 --> 01:08:37,080
Speaker 5: Have the fourth.

1557
01:08:37,160 --> 01:08:37,880
Speaker 4: UPDATE i didn't do.

1558
01:08:37,920 --> 01:08:40,760
Speaker 1: It so the plan WAS i was going to go

1559
01:08:40,800 --> 01:08:43,800
Speaker 1: To ananya's place at ten am and assemble her. Stuff

1560
01:08:43,920 --> 01:08:45,800
Speaker 1: she was to cook an ic meal for, me and

1561
01:08:45,840 --> 01:08:47,880
Speaker 1: Then i'd come home and finally get to play My

1562
01:08:47,960 --> 01:08:49,080
Speaker 1: quest three on my free.

1563
01:08:49,160 --> 01:08:51,080
Speaker 4: Day this guy was so. Excited he's, like you know

1564
01:08:51,080 --> 01:08:54,080
Speaker 4: WHAT i got the day planned? Out quest three top

1565
01:08:54,120 --> 01:08:54,280
Speaker 4: of the.

1566
01:08:54,320 --> 01:08:56,840
Speaker 1: List i'm the, Man i've got the, Plan it's all

1567
01:08:56,880 --> 01:08:57,880
Speaker 1: laid out in front of.

1568
01:08:57,920 --> 01:08:59,000
Speaker 4: Me wants to Play Beat.

1569
01:08:59,040 --> 01:09:02,040
Speaker 1: Saber Two thursday, NIGHT i was talking to my wife

1570
01:09:02,080 --> 01:09:05,639
Speaker 1: before sleeping and her tone was slightly. Different she had

1571
01:09:05,680 --> 01:09:08,760
Speaker 1: one hundred questions about my visit To ananya's, Place WHEN

1572
01:09:08,800 --> 01:09:11,080
Speaker 1: i was, going WHEN i was coming, back et, cetera et.

1573
01:09:11,160 --> 01:09:13,200
Speaker 1: Cetera she said that our toddler son missed me a,

1574
01:09:13,200 --> 01:09:16,880
Speaker 1: lot especially when, sleeping SINCE i always tuck him. In

1575
01:09:17,040 --> 01:09:19,400
Speaker 1: she asked me IF i could directly come to her parents'

1576
01:09:19,400 --> 01:09:22,800
Speaker 1: place AFTER i was done With ananya's and try to

1577
01:09:22,800 --> 01:09:24,840
Speaker 1: come there before dinner. TIME i was okay with, that

1578
01:09:24,960 --> 01:09:27,360
Speaker 1: but that MEANT i had to Leave ananya's place before two.

1579
01:09:27,360 --> 01:09:29,120
Speaker 5: Pm SO i Messaged.

1580
01:09:28,640 --> 01:09:31,360
Speaker 1: Ananya and we decided THAT i come at nine. AM

1581
01:09:31,720 --> 01:09:35,519
Speaker 1: i reached there around that. Time ananya had just woken

1582
01:09:35,640 --> 01:09:38,559
Speaker 1: up and was in her night, pajamas as some of

1583
01:09:38,560 --> 01:09:43,680
Speaker 1: you guys had, predicted another classic, sign, right, OH i,

1584
01:09:43,720 --> 01:09:46,479
Speaker 1: mean hold, on the woman Slept she, said you wanted

1585
01:09:46,479 --> 01:09:47,799
Speaker 1: to sleep in until?

1586
01:09:47,840 --> 01:09:51,080
Speaker 4: Ten you change it to. Nine she just woke. Up

1587
01:09:51,400 --> 01:09:54,000
Speaker 4: you got there a little, early all, Right i'm giving

1588
01:09:54,000 --> 01:09:57,040
Speaker 4: her the benefit of the. Doubt, okay, hey all, right

1589
01:09:57,360 --> 01:10:00,920
Speaker 4: not jumping to any conclusions right, now but all, right you're, like,

1590
01:10:01,240 --> 01:10:04,439
Speaker 4: whoa all, right, hey what's? Up i'm gonna go where's

1591
01:10:04,479 --> 01:10:05,720
Speaker 4: the stuff THAT i need to set? Up BECAUSE i

1592
01:10:05,720 --> 01:10:08,280
Speaker 4: gotta get stuff going AND i want to go play

1593
01:10:08,320 --> 01:10:09,000
Speaker 4: my QUESTIONS.

1594
01:10:08,880 --> 01:10:15,320
Speaker 1: I accept as, residents, Sleepyhead, kean you do provide the

1595
01:10:15,320 --> 01:10:18,479
Speaker 1: most valuable insight, there AND i agree with. YOU i

1596
01:10:18,520 --> 01:10:20,519
Speaker 1: think MAYBE i think maybe that Is oh.

1597
01:10:20,600 --> 01:10:23,519
Speaker 4: Boy everyone, Said, oh you're gonna wake her up and

1598
01:10:23,560 --> 01:10:27,280
Speaker 4: she's gonna be wearing her night. Pajamas but was she

1599
01:10:27,320 --> 01:10:28,240
Speaker 4: supposed to be sleeping in a.

1600
01:10:28,280 --> 01:10:30,640
Speaker 5: Suit, Whatever, okay here we.

1601
01:10:30,680 --> 01:10:33,799
Speaker 1: Go she offered me coffee and, breakfast BUT i had already,

1602
01:10:33,800 --> 01:10:36,680
Speaker 1: eaten SO i just took the. Coffee she showed me

1603
01:10:36,720 --> 01:10:38,840
Speaker 1: what needed to be done and then went to take

1604
01:10:38,840 --> 01:10:41,960
Speaker 1: a shower and got. Dressed after, that she came to help,

1605
01:10:42,000 --> 01:10:44,680
Speaker 1: me but after she messed up a few, THINGS i

1606
01:10:44,760 --> 01:10:47,479
Speaker 1: told her to just play something On netflix and continue my.

1607
01:10:47,520 --> 01:10:50,840
Speaker 1: Work she then went to prep for. Food we talked

1608
01:10:50,840 --> 01:10:54,680
Speaker 1: about our friends and gossip blah blah blah blah, blah.

1609
01:10:53,960 --> 01:10:55,960
Speaker 5: And to be, honest it was a really nice. Time

1610
01:10:56,080 --> 01:10:56,320
Speaker 5: it was.

1611
01:10:56,360 --> 01:10:59,040
Speaker 1: FUN i did confront her about why she told our

1612
01:10:59,080 --> 01:11:02,040
Speaker 1: friends about our fallout and made me the. Villain she

1613
01:11:02,200 --> 01:11:05,840
Speaker 1: taunted me, that unlike, me they call her to check

1614
01:11:05,840 --> 01:11:08,920
Speaker 1: on how she. Is one funny thing was my wife

1615
01:11:08,960 --> 01:11:11,400
Speaker 1: and son kept on calling me every hour as my

1616
01:11:11,479 --> 01:11:13,720
Speaker 1: son wanted to show me all the things he was,

1617
01:11:13,760 --> 01:11:17,640
Speaker 1: doing so that kept us entertained, too And nanya was

1618
01:11:17,640 --> 01:11:20,479
Speaker 1: mostly talking to him WHILE i was working the food

1619
01:11:20,520 --> 01:11:23,120
Speaker 1: was amazing for, context And nanya AND i are from

1620
01:11:23,160 --> 01:11:25,759
Speaker 1: the same country and were born in the same, city

1621
01:11:26,479 --> 01:11:28,600
Speaker 1: so she cooked some curry that we only get in

1622
01:11:28,640 --> 01:11:30,880
Speaker 1: my part of the. Country it was great AND i

1623
01:11:30,960 --> 01:11:33,840
Speaker 1: thoroughly enjoyed the. Food it made the visit totally worth.

1624
01:11:33,840 --> 01:11:36,960
Speaker 1: It to be, honest she did not say anything bad

1625
01:11:37,000 --> 01:11:39,559
Speaker 1: about my, wife but asked me why my wife had

1626
01:11:39,560 --> 01:11:42,719
Speaker 1: reached out to her and not. Me she also asked

1627
01:11:42,720 --> 01:11:45,479
Speaker 1: me if our fight caused any tension between, us WHICH

1628
01:11:45,520 --> 01:11:46,360
Speaker 1: i hope you were, like.

1629
01:11:46,520 --> 01:11:47,479
Speaker 5: Yeah a.

1630
01:11:47,600 --> 01:11:50,640
Speaker 1: Bit, FINALLY i was done by two. Thirty since it

1631
01:11:50,680 --> 01:11:53,439
Speaker 1: was a four hour. Drive she asked me IF i

1632
01:11:53,439 --> 01:11:55,120
Speaker 1: wanted to rest for a bit SINCE i had been

1633
01:11:55,160 --> 01:11:57,960
Speaker 1: working since the, morning BUT i decided to get going

1634
01:11:58,040 --> 01:12:00,240
Speaker 1: so THAT i can make it to. Dinner he also

1635
01:12:00,320 --> 01:12:01,880
Speaker 1: had a great time and told me we should hang

1636
01:12:01,920 --> 01:12:04,479
Speaker 1: out more. Often ananya did pack some leftovers for my

1637
01:12:04,520 --> 01:12:08,000
Speaker 1: wife and her. Parents, overall you guys were, wrong and

1638
01:12:08,040 --> 01:12:10,280
Speaker 1: it was nice to spend time with a dear. FRIEND

1639
01:12:10,439 --> 01:12:12,479
Speaker 1: i did not get any creepy vibes from. Her WHEN

1640
01:12:12,479 --> 01:12:14,400
Speaker 1: i reached my in law's, place it was, late but

1641
01:12:14,520 --> 01:12:17,000
Speaker 1: we had a nice dinner and of course was able

1642
01:12:17,000 --> 01:12:19,439
Speaker 1: to talk in my. SON i was talking to my

1643
01:12:19,479 --> 01:12:21,400
Speaker 1: wife and my mother in law at, night and my

1644
01:12:21,400 --> 01:12:23,479
Speaker 1: mother in law was pissed at WHY i would go

1645
01:12:23,520 --> 01:12:26,120
Speaker 1: To ananya's place. Alone apparently my wife told my mother

1646
01:12:26,160 --> 01:12:28,559
Speaker 1: in law about the whole saga and she saw red

1647
01:12:28,560 --> 01:12:30,720
Speaker 1: flags all, over just like you.

1648
01:12:30,720 --> 01:12:34,559
Speaker 4: Guys why would? Maybe, yeah it's like the new tea

1649
01:12:35,240 --> 01:12:38,920
Speaker 4: is your this is a, question genuine is your wife

1650
01:12:39,000 --> 01:12:42,240
Speaker 4: trying to test? You what it's been.

1651
01:12:42,240 --> 01:12:45,240
Speaker 1: Thirteen years is the biggest thing for, Me, like AND i,

1652
01:12:45,320 --> 01:12:48,120
Speaker 1: know you, know we've had our suspicions throughout the whole

1653
01:12:48,120 --> 01:12:50,080
Speaker 1: story that still could.

1654
01:12:49,800 --> 01:12:51,160
Speaker 5: Be going, on you.

1655
01:12:51,200 --> 01:12:54,400
Speaker 1: KNOW i mean people who play the long, con they

1656
01:12:54,400 --> 01:12:55,920
Speaker 1: can play it for a long.

1657
01:12:56,160 --> 01:12:58,160
Speaker 4: Time LIKE i, said it did seem like a game of.

1658
01:12:58,240 --> 01:13:02,720
Speaker 4: Chess BUT i mean you did everything, okayop and now

1659
01:13:02,760 --> 01:13:05,920
Speaker 4: you're being barraged when you come in like, oh your

1660
01:13:05,960 --> 01:13:08,000
Speaker 4: mother in law is, like why are you doing? That like?

1661
01:13:08,000 --> 01:13:10,599
Speaker 1: That that's, terrible that's. Terrible it's like it does make.

1662
01:13:10,720 --> 01:13:13,599
Speaker 1: Sense it's like the very standard like traditional. View it's

1663
01:13:13,640 --> 01:13:17,280
Speaker 1: like a married man shouldn't ever be alone in another woman's,

1664
01:13:17,280 --> 01:13:19,920
Speaker 1: House like that makes, sense you, Know but you didn't

1665
01:13:19,920 --> 01:13:20,559
Speaker 1: do anything really.

1666
01:13:20,600 --> 01:13:23,000
Speaker 4: WEIRD i don't know they're. Friends you can have, yeah

1667
01:13:23,360 --> 01:13:26,720
Speaker 4: opposite gender friends, ever you, can you can do. THAT

1668
01:13:26,800 --> 01:13:27,120
Speaker 4: i don't.

1669
01:13:27,120 --> 01:13:29,679
Speaker 1: Know my mother in law scared my wife into thinking

1670
01:13:29,720 --> 01:13:32,240
Speaker 1: something was. Off that was the real reason my wife

1671
01:13:32,280 --> 01:13:35,000
Speaker 1: was calling me over early so THAT i could finish

1672
01:13:35,040 --> 01:13:37,719
Speaker 1: the work. SOONER i think my wife was also calling

1673
01:13:37,760 --> 01:13:40,320
Speaker 1: me every hour to check if everything was. Okay, HOWEVER

1674
01:13:40,360 --> 01:13:42,840
Speaker 1: i told them there was nothing to worry, about AND

1675
01:13:42,880 --> 01:13:45,439
Speaker 1: i had a very nice time And ananya was very.

1676
01:13:45,479 --> 01:13:49,240
Speaker 1: Appropriate we had a great weekend and just returned. Today

1677
01:13:49,920 --> 01:13:52,719
Speaker 1: sorry everyone if my post is not as spicy as everyone,

1678
01:13:52,720 --> 01:13:54,440
Speaker 1: expected BUT i guess.

1679
01:13:54,280 --> 01:13:54,800
Speaker 5: This is real.

1680
01:13:54,840 --> 01:13:58,840
Speaker 1: LIFE i wish you all a Happy New, year and

1681
01:13:58,880 --> 01:13:59,600
Speaker 1: that is the end of that.

1682
01:13:59,640 --> 01:14:00,160
Speaker 5: Story