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Speaker 1: Well, ladies and gentlemen, it is time. It's time for

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Speaker 1: the Strawberry Little with my good friend Shirley straw theory.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, junior subject. I need him to use it

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Speaker 1: before I lose it. That's right, Jake, Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: My boyfriend and I are both seventy five years old,

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Speaker 1: and we've been in a great relationship for about fifteen years.

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Speaker 1: so we had to wait a while before we could

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Speaker 1: resume a normal sex life. We did other things to

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Speaker 1: each other to keep the fire going. In the meantime,

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Speaker 1: everything was fine until a year ago when my honey

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Speaker 1: wait for our sex life to get back to normal,

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Speaker 1: but it has not. My honey is afraid of doing

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Speaker 1: any kind of strenuous activities, and if we do have sex,

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Speaker 1: good years ahead of us, and I don't know what

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Speaker 1: He does not have any problems with that. So how

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Speaker 1: world like he used to? Are you freaking kidding me

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Speaker 1: with this letter? Man? Okay, but I mean, you know

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Speaker 1: forty five? Maybe I don't know, but that's the way

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Speaker 1: you guys are doing it. But yeah, you had a

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Speaker 1: Then he had a hard problem and had to have

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Speaker 1: a pacemaker put in. Well when the doctor cleared him.

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Speaker 1: He still doesn't want to go at it like he

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Speaker 1: this letter is proving me wrong. But I will say

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Speaker 1: this though, Carla Junior, h now we know why Jay

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Speaker 1: was out. I just it all. Yeah, Steve, I got this.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how old you are, j And I

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Speaker 1: do not think it's sixty five seventy five by any

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Speaker 1: stretch of the imagination. Close but close, Oh no, you're not.

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Speaker 1: He ain't that he right around now because he never

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Speaker 1: really told us why but that, yeah, I see it,

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Speaker 1: you know, but I see it all through the ladder though,

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Speaker 1: I see it. Yeah. But but the good thing is

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Speaker 1: take it slowly, okay, take it slow. Uh. And and

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Speaker 1: You can't do this. This is really some different type

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Speaker 1: and it's not enough. Oh oh my god, I know

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Speaker 1: it's seventy five. You're not Come on, Yeah, I'm nervous.

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Speaker 1: I mean I'm not mad. It gives everybody hope. I

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Speaker 1: A woman wrote in I'm a Sure Woman seventy five.

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Speaker 1: They must have read Steve's book and did that ninety

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Speaker 1: you're up. Okay, here's a problem. You got a bad hip. Yep,

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Speaker 1: bad knee, knee, bad heart pacemaker, you got a pacement.

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Speaker 1: maybe two or three notches doing that. I see her fresh.

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Speaker 1: He got a perfectly brand new heart and he pushing it.

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Speaker 1: You got your manual, I got my manual. Let's read.

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Speaker 1: because I'm still I'm still uh, I'm still wanting the

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Speaker 1: wow wow. But Junior's right there. When you think about

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Speaker 1: want to. I knew my grandmama was active. I knew it, Joe,

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Speaker 1: how do you put that together? Yeah? J cook us

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Speaker 1: I knew something. You see a slip? Where your where

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Speaker 1: people even wear slips anymore? I don't even get me

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Speaker 1: talking about my parents? Oh my god? What brown brown brown?

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, I don't want to think about it.

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Speaker 1: You wouldn't hear it. You would hear next to me

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Speaker 1: the next brown brown. That explains so much memories to me.

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Speaker 1: Who brown brown? Yeah, everybody's last name? And what did

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Speaker 1: they build it? I'm hearing knocking that they build us?

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