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Speaker 2: Season seven of Hurdle, Wow, Finally and Bodi.

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Speaker 2: Hurdle, a wellness focused podcast where I connect with everyone

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Speaker 2: from your favorite athletes to top experts and industry CEOs

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Speaker 2: about their highest highs, toughest moments, and everything in between.

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Speaker 2: We all go through hurdles in life, and my goal

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Speaker 3: If you are a new hurdler.

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Speaker 2: I can totally relate to this story on a family level.

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Speaker 1: So I've changed a lot, and this is through self

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm totally someone that can relate to this, and

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Speaker 2: At times, I'm going to vocalize to you what I

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Speaker 1: Which is the healthiest thing we can all do for ourselves.

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Speaker 1: class or just in general.

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Speaker 4: She's basically the person who took care of us life.

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Speaker 1: Why, my mom and my aunt were back in school,

443
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Speaker 1: So my brother my aunt son are four years older,

444
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Speaker 1: so they came first, and then there's me, my younger sister,

445
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Speaker 1: and then my cousin Chris, and my cousin Jamie's little sister.

446
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Speaker 1: So she was basically the facilitator or the basit. So

447
00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:07,720
Speaker 1: anything you're talking about in terms of life, values, rules, discipline,

448
00:23:07,920 --> 00:23:11,399
Speaker 1: it was Nana, right, and so there's a way that

449
00:23:11,440 --> 00:23:15,360
Speaker 1: we all think that comes from her. And so who

450
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Speaker 1: I am she's of course, my parents have shaped me

451
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Speaker 1: and been the real root of who I am as

452
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Speaker 1: a person.

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Speaker 4: But she was she was like our heart. She was

454
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Speaker 4: the person who held the family together.

455
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Speaker 1: She was a person who made sure all the cousins

456
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Speaker 1: were getting together, that we went to family reunions, that

457
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Speaker 1: we understood how to treat one another, that we understood

458
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Speaker 1: how to treat strangers or people that weren't like us.

459
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Speaker 1: So and it's funny because she struggled with that with

460
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Speaker 1: my you know, my stepdad, because he was white and

461
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Speaker 1: at the time of him my mom getting together, she

462
00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:49,840
Speaker 1: was totally against it. She actually didn't talk to my

463
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Speaker 1: mom for a year. And I remember this because I

464
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Speaker 1: was so young, and I remember there being like sort

465
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Speaker 1: of like a fight about it, and we didn't see

466
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Speaker 1: her for like a year, and then all of a

467
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Speaker 1: sudden that changed, but and she changed, but it was

468
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Speaker 1: it was It was so great, I or such a

469
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Speaker 1: good learning lesson to watch my grandma, who is this

470
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Speaker 1: older woman for them from the South, with her own traumas, right,

471
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Speaker 1: because that's the only reason you don't want two people

472
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Speaker 1: who are different to be together, because you've experienced trauma

473
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Speaker 1: as a younger person or in your life that says

474
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Speaker 1: they're not supposed to be.

475
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Speaker 4: But it was beautiful to.

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Speaker 1: Watch her fall in love with him right and change

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Speaker 1: her own narrative, because I think there's always this.

478
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Speaker 4: People always say, oh.

479
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Speaker 1: I'm too old to change, that's bullshit, and so like

480
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Speaker 1: that was such a huge learning lesson for me.

481
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Speaker 4: But she was to rewind back to my dad's death.

482
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Speaker 4: She did.

483
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Speaker 1: She couldn't stand my dad, and then she was she

484
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Speaker 1: was the last person who saw him alive. So when

485
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Speaker 1: we left hospice, I remember she had gone back and

486
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Speaker 1: she had called us to say, like, Bobby is passing.

487
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Speaker 1: And that was like such a moment because you think

488
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Speaker 1: about the person not welcoming someone into their life and

489
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Speaker 1: then all of a sudden, this is the last person

490
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Speaker 1: they see with love, right, And so I remember, life

491
00:25:08,680 --> 00:25:11,199
Speaker 1: is crazy as a trainer, right fast forward. And I

492
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Speaker 1: worked a lot, you know, four point thirty was my

493
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Speaker 1: first client, and most of the time I would get

494
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Speaker 1: home at eight o'clock at night, and that was a

495
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Speaker 1: chunk of my day. So it was training clients. I

496
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Speaker 1: would teach classes, I would go to meetings, I would

497
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Speaker 1: have clients, and then I'd go home and that was

498
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Speaker 1: my day. And that was probably six days a week.

499
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Speaker 1: So I didn't see my family a lot. When it

500
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Speaker 1: came to like Sunday dinners and like them doing stuff

501
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Speaker 1: and it's not that far, right, the bronx is not

502
00:25:38,560 --> 00:25:41,240
Speaker 1: that far. But I was always so exhausted that I

503
00:25:41,280 --> 00:25:44,560
Speaker 1: would always just call and say, you know, talk to

504
00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:46,199
Speaker 1: her and say none, you know, I'm not coming up.

505
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Speaker 1: I'm really really tired, and I'd get ready for the week.

506
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Speaker 1: So one day they were over, well, they were going

507
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Speaker 1: over to my grandma's house for Sunday dinner. And you know,

508
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Speaker 1: my sister was there, my niece was there, my mom

509
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Speaker 1: was there. I think one of my cousins were there.

510
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Speaker 1: And she called and she was like, Marissa, you calling

511
00:26:07,680 --> 00:26:09,359
Speaker 1: Maurice's my middle name. By the way, if I'm ever

512
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Speaker 1: in trouble, you can call me that. So I was like, Nana,

513
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Speaker 1: you know, I'm too tired.

514
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Speaker 4: I can't come.

515
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Speaker 1: And she said to me, and she was like, Maurice,

516
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Speaker 1: you know you can't. Your family's not always going to

517
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Speaker 1: be here. You have to you have to set yourself

518
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Speaker 1: up so that you have time for friends and family.

519
00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:28,560
Speaker 1: And so that night they left, everyone went home, and

520
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Speaker 1: then my sister tried to get in contact with my grandmother.

521
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Speaker 4: The next day. She couldn't.

522
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Speaker 1: She thought that was strange, so she went to my

523
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Speaker 1: grandma's apartment and she found her there unconscious and she

524
00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:42,800
Speaker 1: was still alive, but she had aneurism. So they obviously

525
00:26:42,880 --> 00:26:45,199
Speaker 1: called nine one one. The ambulance came to get her

526
00:26:45,359 --> 00:26:48,760
Speaker 1: brought to the hospital. My whole family is there. We

527
00:26:48,840 --> 00:26:51,320
Speaker 1: didn't know what to do, and so they tried to

528
00:26:51,359 --> 00:26:53,800
Speaker 1: see if there was brain activity. There was no brain activity.

529
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Speaker 1: My grandma's not the kind of person who would want

530
00:26:56,200 --> 00:26:59,359
Speaker 1: to live life as a vegetable. So my mom my

531
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Speaker 1: aunt decision obviously to take our life support. And you know,

532
00:27:05,840 --> 00:27:10,760
Speaker 1: you go through this like this moment of like how why,

533
00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:12,560
Speaker 1: why is this happening? How is this happening?

534
00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:15,639
Speaker 4: Like? And then you just backtrack and you all.

535
00:27:15,800 --> 00:27:17,480
Speaker 1: All I could think about was every time I said

536
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:20,919
Speaker 1: no to to not being there, to not coming to dinner,

537
00:27:21,080 --> 00:27:24,720
Speaker 1: to just to not being present, and that's all I

538
00:27:24,840 --> 00:27:26,679
Speaker 1: focused on. And I was just there and I couldn't

539
00:27:26,680 --> 00:27:28,600
Speaker 1: hear anybody, and I was just like in the hospital.

540
00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 1: And so they were like, listen, we're gonna take off

541
00:27:30,840 --> 00:27:34,640
Speaker 1: life support and she's gonna slowly pass away. So I said,

542
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Speaker 1: I said to my mom. I was like, hey, Mom,

543
00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:39,080
Speaker 1: can I can I just go lay on man's chest?

544
00:27:39,320 --> 00:27:42,080
Speaker 1: And she was like are you sure about that?

545
00:27:42,119 --> 00:27:46,440
Speaker 4: And I was like yeah, yeah, Like I need to.

546
00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:48,159
Speaker 1: Just be there in her final moments and show me

547
00:27:48,160 --> 00:27:52,920
Speaker 1: and my sister we went into the room and then

548
00:27:53,800 --> 00:27:55,879
Speaker 1: we just laid there on her chest and you listened

549
00:27:55,880 --> 00:28:00,320
Speaker 1: to someone's heartbeat and you listen to fade away. And

550
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Speaker 1: it was the most difficult thing that I ever had

551
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Speaker 1: to do, because I was counting down every heartbeat to

552
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Speaker 1: understand that, like, she won't be here soon.

553
00:28:12,200 --> 00:28:14,919
Speaker 4: And so finally I did not hear her heartbeat and

554
00:28:14,960 --> 00:28:17,359
Speaker 4: I could. I told my sister, she's not life, and

555
00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:23,720
Speaker 4: my sister obviously broke down. We broke down, and that

556
00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:26,440
Speaker 4: that was the moment when I was like nothing, I'm

557
00:28:26,520 --> 00:28:28,919
Speaker 4: nothing I'm doing is right. I'm not doing anything. I'm

558
00:28:28,960 --> 00:28:30,159
Speaker 4: not doing anything I'm supposed to do.

559
00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:35,760
Speaker 1: I'm I'm being a bad brother or that son, that grandson,

560
00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:38,560
Speaker 1: that cousin and that friend. And I wasn't doing anything

561
00:28:38,720 --> 00:28:41,120
Speaker 1: in terms of.

562
00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:42,360
Speaker 4: Who I was in life. And I was like what

563
00:28:42,800 --> 00:28:46,480
Speaker 4: it was? Literally, I said, what the fuck is going on? Right?

564
00:28:47,720 --> 00:28:52,800
Speaker 1: And I can I can always hear my grandma, I

565
00:28:52,800 --> 00:28:57,480
Speaker 1: can always feel my grandma, And that stuck with me. Maurice,

566
00:28:57,520 --> 00:29:00,360
Speaker 1: your family is not going to be around for all ways.

567
00:29:00,920 --> 00:29:03,080
Speaker 1: You have to make time. And I did not have

568
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Speaker 1: a life where I could make time. So I said

569
00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:10,760
Speaker 1: to myself, my life has to change immediately. And that's

570
00:29:10,880 --> 00:29:13,680
Speaker 1: when my brain was like, what do I want to do?

571
00:29:13,760 --> 00:29:16,760
Speaker 1: How do I get there? And like, what's the immediate

572
00:29:16,800 --> 00:29:18,760
Speaker 1: response that I need to take to get.

573
00:29:19,880 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 4: What I want out of this life?

574
00:29:21,200 --> 00:29:26,840
Speaker 1: Because I was thirty twenty eighteen, so I was thirty

575
00:29:26,880 --> 00:29:29,760
Speaker 1: four at the time, and I was on that cusp

576
00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:32,360
Speaker 1: of I'm not don't get me wrong, I'm so healthy

577
00:29:32,440 --> 00:29:36,680
Speaker 1: and in terms of age, well into my sixties seventies,

578
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:41,920
Speaker 1: I'll probably to have physically look like this, not going

579
00:29:41,960 --> 00:29:42,240
Speaker 1: to joke.

580
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Speaker 4: That's like a genetic thing for my grandfather, like my grandparents' side.

581
00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:46,160
Speaker 4: It's great.

582
00:29:46,320 --> 00:29:48,400
Speaker 1: I'm going to hold on to it. But I was

583
00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:51,440
Speaker 1: like to myself, where do I go? I want to

584
00:29:51,480 --> 00:29:55,160
Speaker 1: make people feel good? And what capacity should I be

585
00:29:55,280 --> 00:29:59,480
Speaker 1: doing my job? Or I think I need to explore

586
00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:02,400
Speaker 1: what this actually means. And that's why I wanted to

587
00:30:02,400 --> 00:30:04,000
Speaker 1: get out of the industry, because I didn't think that

588
00:30:04,080 --> 00:30:05,760
Speaker 1: I was actually helping people. I thought that I was

589
00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:09,960
Speaker 1: actually hurting people, right, creating this dysmorphia for everyone, because

590
00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:13,560
Speaker 1: everything's about how you physically look versus how you mentally feel,

591
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Speaker 2: Wow, I mean, what what an unbelievable story, And thank

664
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Speaker 2: you so much for sharing that you'd mentioned at that

665
00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:38,719
Speaker 2: time you were already training clients. So how had you

666
00:34:39,239 --> 00:34:43,480
Speaker 2: originally gotten into this line of work And at the

667
00:34:43,480 --> 00:34:45,960
Speaker 2: time did you think that it was possible to stay

668
00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:48,160
Speaker 2: in this line of work and find your purpose and

669
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Speaker 2: seek out working with clients on that more emotional level

670
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Speaker 2: as well, or did you think like, oh, I'm out

671
00:34:54,640 --> 00:34:54,960
Speaker 2: of here.

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Speaker 1: Well, so, I mean, my good friend is the person

673
00:35:01,360 --> 00:35:05,359
Speaker 1: who actually introduced me to boutique Fitness. I had been

674
00:35:05,400 --> 00:35:07,640
Speaker 1: training clients one on one at a time, but I

675
00:35:07,680 --> 00:35:11,360
Speaker 1: went to a class and I was like, this is

676
00:35:11,400 --> 00:35:14,759
Speaker 1: my speed right, Like this is great, the energy with

677
00:35:14,960 --> 00:35:18,440
Speaker 1: these people is amazing. This is something I want to explore.

678
00:35:20,360 --> 00:35:23,680
Speaker 1: So I did, and I was hired and I started

679
00:35:23,680 --> 00:35:26,359
Speaker 1: working at Tonyols at the time and I was still

680
00:35:26,840 --> 00:35:33,840
Speaker 1: training clients and that you can't you can't recreate that

681
00:35:33,920 --> 00:35:37,359
Speaker 1: kind of energy in terms of like teamwork and camaraderie

682
00:35:37,640 --> 00:35:42,359
Speaker 1: and helping people, you know, preshpatch their plateaus. There's there's

683
00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:44,759
Speaker 1: nothing like it that That is the by far my

684
00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:48,920
Speaker 1: favorite thing about connecting right what I what I do

685
00:35:49,000 --> 00:35:52,480
Speaker 1: now is just on a global level, right, and it's

686
00:35:52,640 --> 00:35:56,160
Speaker 1: I think it's more intimate because people aren't actually in

687
00:35:56,280 --> 00:35:59,839
Speaker 1: the room, so you have to your message has to

688
00:35:59,840 --> 00:36:02,759
Speaker 1: be so clear. What you're trying to give in terms

689
00:36:02,760 --> 00:36:08,319
Speaker 1: of your energy needs to be so clear. So when

690
00:36:08,360 --> 00:36:14,200
Speaker 1: I made this shift, it almost made me not question,

691
00:36:14,680 --> 00:36:18,240
Speaker 1: but rethink what am I? What do I want people

692
00:36:18,239 --> 00:36:20,200
Speaker 1: to feel like? What do I want you to walk

693
00:36:20,200 --> 00:36:24,279
Speaker 1: away with when you leave an aging class?

694
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Speaker 4: What does that actual message look like? And that drove

695
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Speaker 4: the narrative forward.

696
00:36:31,960 --> 00:36:33,440
Speaker 1: Right at the end of the day, I just want

697
00:36:33,520 --> 00:36:37,759
Speaker 1: people to smile, have a good time, and feel like

698
00:36:37,840 --> 00:36:39,000
Speaker 1: they're empowered.

699
00:36:39,200 --> 00:36:42,920
Speaker 2: It's super interesting this idea of how can you convey

700
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Speaker 2: a message without both having someone in the room and

701
00:36:47,200 --> 00:36:50,239
Speaker 2: be like saying a certain thing like how have you

702
00:36:50,440 --> 00:36:53,960
Speaker 2: learned through peloton to get to this place where you're

703
00:36:54,040 --> 00:36:56,280
Speaker 2: able to help people in that kind of a way.

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Speaker 4: It starts with good leadership. We have. We have amazing

705
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Speaker 4: leadership of Peloton.

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Speaker 1: I feel, especially where I'm in life now, it's because

707
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Speaker 1: I come from line of strong women.

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Speaker 4: It's nice to have such strong women.

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Speaker 1: As as leaders in this company. Obviously, it starts with

710
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Speaker 1: Robin Right who during this whole training process was not

711
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Speaker 1: only so supportive, she wanted me to push outside of

712
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Speaker 1: my comfort zone because my comfort zone was not in

713
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Speaker 1: front of the camp. The comfort zone for me was

714
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Speaker 1: behind the camera. And she every time we sat down

715
00:37:36,760 --> 00:37:40,800
Speaker 1: we go through this onboarding process, and she'd watch classes

716
00:37:40,800 --> 00:37:43,640
Speaker 1: and give me feedback. It was like a small piece

717
00:37:43,680 --> 00:37:45,440
Speaker 1: of growth, a small piece of growth. And then all

718
00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:49,680
Speaker 1: of a sudden, I was like, huh, you watch you

719
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Speaker 1: watch Peloton, and any class that you've seen were taken.

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Speaker 4: There's always a beginning of middle and an end.

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Speaker 1: Right, and listen to everyone's story, everyone's individual story, everyone's

722
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Speaker 1: unique story. You understand that there is a space for

723
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Speaker 1: you to be an individual and no, you don't have

724
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Speaker 1: to be anyone else. And I thought the actual opposite

725
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Speaker 1: when I was there. I was like, Okay, I'm going

726
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Speaker 1: to have to fit into a mold. Absolutely not. We

727
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Speaker 1: want you to be exactly who you are, Adrian, and

728
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Speaker 1: we're just trying to make you get to the most

729
00:38:22,480 --> 00:38:25,320
Speaker 1: authentic feel like you can be your most authentic self

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Speaker 1: in front of everyone. And I was like, Wow, it's

731
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Speaker 1: rare that you're in a workspace where it's like, no,

732
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Speaker 1: we need you to be exactly who you are because

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Speaker 1: we can see it. We want our members to see

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Speaker 1: it because they'll fall in love with you. So it

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Speaker 1: was again leadership top down. I had Robin there, I

736
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Speaker 1: had Beck Kennedy there, who was also Andy Spear Dennis.

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Speaker 1: They were like people. Anytime I was in the studio,

738
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Speaker 1: there would always be a piece because there was this

739
00:38:52,800 --> 00:38:56,279
Speaker 1: internal conflict of oh, I'm not I'm not kidable, I'm

740
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Speaker 1: not good enough. And it was always like listen, once

741
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Speaker 1: you once you get to it on the platform, and

742
00:39:02,480 --> 00:39:05,799
Speaker 1: once you have your first class, you'll understand what you

743
00:39:05,840 --> 00:39:08,239
Speaker 1: need to do and what you need to get. And

744
00:39:08,640 --> 00:39:11,120
Speaker 1: everyone was right as soon as I had that first class,

745
00:39:11,680 --> 00:39:17,840
Speaker 1: and the response from people who were in Ohio, California, Nevada,

746
00:39:18,000 --> 00:39:21,439
Speaker 1: like Florida, like all these people who are connected through

747
00:39:21,480 --> 00:39:26,800
Speaker 1: this one lens and understanding how you made them feel

748
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Speaker 1: in a moment or something that you said that you

749
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Speaker 1: may have deemed insignificant, and they took that as a piece,

750
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Speaker 1: and they took it as something that they could walk

751
00:39:37,000 --> 00:39:40,160
Speaker 1: away with and feel better about themselves, or that got

752
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Speaker 1: them through something. Then you understand the intimate connection that

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Speaker 1: you're making with people.

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Speaker 2: I want to go back briefly before we get more

755
00:39:48,680 --> 00:39:53,080
Speaker 2: into the Peloton chapter and revisit the time period after

756
00:39:53,160 --> 00:39:55,680
Speaker 2: your grandmother passed away, because this is certainly that so

757
00:39:55,719 --> 00:39:58,440
Speaker 2: many people listening to this show can really sympathize with,

758
00:39:58,640 --> 00:40:02,040
Speaker 2: just going through such a what feels like soul crushing moment,

759
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Speaker 2: figuring out how to move on, how to pick yourself

760
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Speaker 2: up off the ground. Aside from movement, which I know

761
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Speaker 2: is a obviously super integral part to your routine, what

762
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Speaker 2: were those weeks and months after this hurdle moment like

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Speaker 2: for you?

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Speaker 3: How did you find the strength to move forward?

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Speaker 1: So they were tough for me, because again, I was

766
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Speaker 1: still at that point in my life where everyone else

767
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Speaker 1: mattered more than I did.

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Speaker 4: So I.

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Speaker 1: Kept it in right and I didn't I didn't let

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Speaker 1: it out. I didn't let the you know, the client

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Speaker 1: see it. Where I was teaching.

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Speaker 4: I didn't. I didn't really go through it with my family.

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Speaker 1: I was I was angry after for a while, and

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Speaker 1: I was angry that I felt like I had to

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Speaker 1: keep it in and that that was a choice I

776
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Speaker 1: made me.

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Speaker 4: I didn't have to. I just felt that I needed to.

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Speaker 4: So it was for for probably two months in my brain.

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00:41:04,640 --> 00:41:08,239
Speaker 4: I was just upset, right, And then that's tough because

780
00:41:08,239 --> 00:41:12,440
Speaker 4: you have to go to a workspace and be completely different.

781
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Speaker 4: So you go to your workspace, you turn on smile, Hi,

782
00:41:17,040 --> 00:41:20,560
Speaker 4: how's everyone? And it is the duality of that is

783
00:41:20,640 --> 00:41:24,560
Speaker 4: chaos because you don't feel that way, but you have to,

784
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Speaker 4: and you know, in front of your clients or the members.

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Speaker 4: So I finally said to myself, Okay, no, I need

786
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Speaker 4: to be real with people, like when they asked me

787
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Speaker 4: how I'm doing, I'm just gonna tell them I'm not

788
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Speaker 4: doing well and there's nothing wrong with that. And I

789
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Speaker 4: didn't want people to feel like they had to reach

790
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Speaker 4: out all the time or that I needed taken care of.

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Speaker 1: I just didn't feel good. That's there's there's no rhyme

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Speaker 1: or reason. And so I said, wow, how do I

793
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Speaker 1: go about feeling good? And I said, is this industry.

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Speaker 1: Part of what makes me don't like, not feel good?

795
00:42:06,880 --> 00:42:10,279
Speaker 1: Am I actually making people feel better about themselves? Are

796
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Speaker 1: people you know here with me in this space and

797
00:42:13,880 --> 00:42:17,120
Speaker 1: feeling like when they leave they are better? And I

798
00:42:17,200 --> 00:42:19,879
Speaker 1: questioned that, and so that's why I wanted to get

799
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Speaker 1: out of the fitness space because I and it still

800
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Speaker 1: is this. It's a cycle of what you see isn't

801
00:42:28,560 --> 00:42:31,560
Speaker 1: always what you get. In terms of social media, people preach,

802
00:42:31,760 --> 00:42:34,640
Speaker 1: but that's not really they're there to be worshiped. I

803
00:42:34,640 --> 00:42:36,880
Speaker 1: don't want to be worshiped. I wanted people to worship

804
00:42:36,920 --> 00:42:39,239
Speaker 1: themselves and I fall in love with themselves again. So

805
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Speaker 1: I said, maybe I should change industries because obviously my

806
00:42:44,719 --> 00:42:46,840
Speaker 1: in terms of what I like to do outside of fitness,

807
00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:52,239
Speaker 1: it's anything photography related and I'm had such a My

808
00:42:52,239 --> 00:42:54,760
Speaker 1: brother works in production. So I was like to myself, Okay,

809
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Speaker 1: I said, I can start there, and I'll just start

810
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Speaker 1: from the beginning, like some people go from being chefs.

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Speaker 1: They're all lives and then all of a suddenly my

812
00:43:02,400 --> 00:43:04,279
Speaker 1: friend was like I remember he was thirty five, He's like,

813
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Speaker 1: I want to be a doctor, and it changed roles.

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Speaker 4: So I was like, okay, it's possible. Maybe that's what

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna do.

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Speaker 2: Well, you mentioned you almost moved to La to do this,

817
00:43:14,520 --> 00:43:16,760
Speaker 2: So what happened on the journey?

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Speaker 4: Then? When I was getting ready to say, like, okay,

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Speaker 4: I'm calling it quits.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to move across to the west coast, Peloton happened,

821
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Speaker 1: which to me was like got it.

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Speaker 4: My grandma being like here you can.

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Speaker 1: I need you to start this new path for yourself,

824
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Speaker 1: Like this is your path I need you to go.

825
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Speaker 2: And I read somewhere on the internet that Peloton actually

826
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Speaker 2: came knocking twice, So it wasn't the first time but

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Speaker 2: the second time.

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Speaker 3: So do you mind like giving us some information totally?

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Speaker 1: So the first time they came knocking, I was, you know,

830
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Speaker 1: at the time, working for a startup. So for me,

831
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Speaker 1: I was very committed to seeing this startup become you know,

832
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Speaker 1: what it was, what it should be in terms of

833
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Speaker 1: growth and expansion and being in different cities. And so

834
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Speaker 1: when they came knock and the first time, I was like,

835
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Speaker 1: you know, I'm in this committed relationship. I can't it's now,

836
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Speaker 1: It's not the time. And you think about stuff like

837
00:44:23,520 --> 00:44:25,239
Speaker 1: that and you're like, I should have taken it then,

838
00:44:25,360 --> 00:44:28,759
Speaker 1: but in reality it's everything happens when it's supposed to.

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Speaker 4: But yeah, I said no the first time.

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Speaker 2: So is the second time when Rebecca saw you on

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Speaker 2: the tread or give me like some timeline here.

842
00:44:36,520 --> 00:44:36,759
Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So the second time, that's probably a year later, is

844
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Speaker 1: when I was in that showroom on Christopher Street and

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Speaker 1: Rebecca saw me on the tread. She didn't know it

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Speaker 1: was me, though, I don't think she saw my face.

847
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Speaker 1: She just saw me from.

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Speaker 2: Behind, because well from behind it was like, let's hire

849
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Speaker 2: this guy?

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Speaker 3: Oh man?

851
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Speaker 2: I I yeah, Hey. To each their own, I would

852
00:45:08,840 --> 00:45:11,319
Speaker 2: be remiss if I didn't say that. In my d MS,

853
00:45:11,440 --> 00:45:15,120
Speaker 2: people are like, I uh, I had put on too

854
00:45:15,440 --> 00:45:17,200
Speaker 2: into my stories. Earlier, I was like, I'm going to

855
00:45:17,239 --> 00:45:19,400
Speaker 2: be sitting down with Adrian, like what questions do we

856
00:45:19,440 --> 00:45:22,080
Speaker 2: have for Adrian? And you know, there's a flurry of

857
00:45:22,080 --> 00:45:24,719
Speaker 2: different thoughts and feelings and whatnot. And I keep in

858
00:45:24,760 --> 00:45:27,879
Speaker 2: mind I have like a predominantly female following who all

859
00:45:27,880 --> 00:45:32,320
Speaker 2: think you are like exteemingly attractive and a wonderful human

860
00:45:32,400 --> 00:45:34,920
Speaker 2: with a great personality. Many of them are also like

861
00:45:35,520 --> 00:45:37,880
Speaker 2: how do apps like this exist? And how do I

862
00:45:37,920 --> 00:45:40,000
Speaker 2: get glutes like this? And I'm like, let's just like

863
00:45:40,120 --> 00:45:42,320
Speaker 2: give it up to genetics for just like a second,

864
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Speaker 2: as well as as I'm privy to know an excellent diet.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I eat, I eat well. And that's

866
00:45:50,080 --> 00:45:52,759
Speaker 1: that was established at such a young age because my

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Speaker 1: mom we didn't we didn't grow up with red meat

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Speaker 1: in the house really stake till I was much much,

869
00:46:00,239 --> 00:46:04,040
Speaker 1: but it was there was mostly it was mostly fish chicken.

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Speaker 1: You had to eat south before you had your dinner.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes there was no meat involved at all during dinner.

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Speaker 1: We didn't have soda in the house. We rarely had juice.

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Speaker 1: Fruit Snacks were like if you got them, you hid them.

874
00:46:15,239 --> 00:46:17,120
Speaker 1: You took five and you hid them in like a

875
00:46:17,160 --> 00:46:19,759
Speaker 1: space because it was like snacks.

876
00:46:20,120 --> 00:46:21,960
Speaker 4: So that was such a young age.

877
00:46:22,120 --> 00:46:25,320
Speaker 1: So by the time I was out and about with myself,

878
00:46:25,360 --> 00:46:27,719
Speaker 1: it was something I already knew. So it was a

879
00:46:27,800 --> 00:46:29,480
Speaker 1: part of my life. So when I cook for myself,

880
00:46:29,480 --> 00:46:33,480
Speaker 1: it's it's still in that same line. I still am

881
00:46:33,560 --> 00:46:36,080
Speaker 1: like greens always. I always have to have salad, And

882
00:46:36,120 --> 00:46:38,200
Speaker 1: not that people are gonna hear salad and they're gonna

883
00:46:38,200 --> 00:46:40,520
Speaker 1: be like, oh, he eats is salad? No, I just

884
00:46:40,880 --> 00:46:43,200
Speaker 1: like to eat green and green is obviously good for

885
00:46:43,239 --> 00:46:45,880
Speaker 1: you and your health. And don't I drink water pretty

886
00:46:45,960 --> 00:46:50,800
Speaker 1: much unless I'm drinking like tequila or beer and be juice.

887
00:46:51,800 --> 00:46:55,359
Speaker 1: I love that this is the wave. I mostly drink water.

888
00:46:55,520 --> 00:46:59,400
Speaker 3: So it's the three, the three basic food groups. Tequiloer

889
00:47:00,080 --> 00:47:00,600
Speaker 3: use water.

890
00:47:01,600 --> 00:47:03,759
Speaker 4: How backwards is it? How backwards is it? It's like,

891
00:47:03,800 --> 00:47:05,160
Speaker 4: are you drinking to quilla in the morning?

892
00:47:05,200 --> 00:47:08,520
Speaker 1: Agor bee juice is probably the first one, and then

893
00:47:08,520 --> 00:47:09,879
Speaker 1: maybe a little to kill and beer.

894
00:47:10,080 --> 00:47:13,400
Speaker 2: We Adrian, but you didn't mention your blue bottle coffee obsession.

895
00:47:13,840 --> 00:47:16,400
Speaker 4: I mean it's always with me.

896
00:47:19,480 --> 00:47:22,160
Speaker 3: Holds it up front and center and you have.

897
00:47:22,120 --> 00:47:25,160
Speaker 1: To shake it before you drink it. I'm telling you

898
00:47:25,280 --> 00:47:28,600
Speaker 1: it'll change your life. If you like ice coffee, get

899
00:47:28,600 --> 00:47:30,760
Speaker 1: the shake her out. Get some ice or some coffee

900
00:47:30,800 --> 00:47:34,040
Speaker 1: in there, a little oat milk, shake that sucker up.

901
00:47:35,080 --> 00:47:38,760
Speaker 4: It's frothy. Ugh, really just changes your morning.

902
00:47:39,320 --> 00:47:41,799
Speaker 2: Chef's kiss, chef's kiss. Okay, wait, I'm going to get

903
00:47:41,840 --> 00:47:46,840
Speaker 2: us a little back on track now. So so, but

904
00:47:47,360 --> 00:47:51,279
Speaker 2: so you start teaching on the Peloton platform. I believe

905
00:47:51,320 --> 00:47:56,160
Speaker 2: you're announced in early twenty twenty. What was the experience

906
00:47:56,280 --> 00:48:00,440
Speaker 2: like for you from when you went through all those reviews,

907
00:48:00,440 --> 00:48:04,520
Speaker 2: so when you started training that, obviously COVID begins. All

908
00:48:04,560 --> 00:48:06,920
Speaker 2: of this is happening in the same kind of time period,

909
00:48:07,040 --> 00:48:08,799
Speaker 2: So talk me through a little bit in that.

910
00:48:10,320 --> 00:48:13,839
Speaker 1: So, yeah, that's the most interesting part of this process, right,

911
00:48:13,920 --> 00:48:15,080
Speaker 1: coming on during.

912
00:48:16,320 --> 00:48:16,680
Speaker 4: COVID.

913
00:48:17,480 --> 00:48:22,680
Speaker 1: So I was supposed to be I launched in May

914
00:48:22,680 --> 00:48:25,600
Speaker 1: of twenty twenty. But I was supposed to be launched

915
00:48:26,440 --> 00:48:31,279
Speaker 1: when COVID hit. So COVID hits and I'm like, oh, no,

916
00:48:32,560 --> 00:48:34,279
Speaker 1: what's going to happen. So we don't know what's going

917
00:48:34,320 --> 00:48:36,279
Speaker 1: to happen. Everyone thinks it's oh, this will be two

918
00:48:36,280 --> 00:48:37,600
Speaker 1: weeks and I was like, no, this is going to

919
00:48:37,600 --> 00:48:44,040
Speaker 1: be bad. So COVID happens. Obviously things shutdown, so we say, okay,

920
00:48:44,040 --> 00:48:48,600
Speaker 1: in April, maybe this is going to happen. Studio shuts down,

921
00:48:49,480 --> 00:48:51,560
Speaker 1: and so we get to May and there's there's a

922
00:48:51,600 --> 00:48:52,200
Speaker 1: lot happening.

923
00:48:52,320 --> 00:48:52,520
Speaker 4: Right.

924
00:48:54,480 --> 00:48:57,319
Speaker 1: Black Lives Matter is like, I feel like at the

925
00:48:57,320 --> 00:49:00,439
Speaker 1: peak of what's happening in terms of what the world

926
00:49:00,560 --> 00:49:03,680
Speaker 1: is seeing and everyone having eyes on you know, something

927
00:49:04,520 --> 00:49:06,960
Speaker 1: that's existed and been going on for such a long time.

928
00:49:07,000 --> 00:49:08,759
Speaker 1: But we were all in this pause state. So we

929
00:49:08,840 --> 00:49:11,480
Speaker 1: all could we only could focus on this one thing.

930
00:49:12,200 --> 00:49:15,279
Speaker 1: So I remember thinking to myself like, they're like, okay,

931
00:49:15,280 --> 00:49:17,120
Speaker 1: we're going to launch you in May, and I thought

932
00:49:17,120 --> 00:49:19,640
Speaker 1: to myself, I'm like, I really and this is how

933
00:49:19,680 --> 00:49:21,480
Speaker 1: I think I'm not important right now, Like is it

934
00:49:21,560 --> 00:49:23,480
Speaker 1: important for me to be launched or is it important

935
00:49:23,480 --> 00:49:29,160
Speaker 1: for people to focus on, you know, what's happening at hand,

936
00:49:29,480 --> 00:49:33,000
Speaker 1: because I'd rather be someone who helps people learn versus

937
00:49:33,160 --> 00:49:35,239
Speaker 1: bring the attention to me and say like it's this

938
00:49:35,280 --> 00:49:35,880
Speaker 1: is all about me.

939
00:49:35,920 --> 00:49:39,040
Speaker 4: And Robin put it so lovely.

940
00:49:39,080 --> 00:49:43,439
Speaker 1: She said, you can be an outlet for people, think

941
00:49:43,480 --> 00:49:47,120
Speaker 1: about yourself in that in that sense, and because people

942
00:49:47,120 --> 00:49:49,239
Speaker 1: are going through such a difficult time, you can be

943
00:49:49,239 --> 00:49:52,440
Speaker 1: a source of joy of happiness for them. And she's like,

944
00:49:52,440 --> 00:49:54,239
Speaker 1: I want you to focus on that, and I was like,

945
00:49:55,280 --> 00:49:57,600
Speaker 1: that's exactly what i want to do. This is exactly

946
00:49:57,920 --> 00:49:59,239
Speaker 1: what I've been trying to do the whole time. I

947
00:49:59,280 --> 00:50:01,680
Speaker 1: was like perfect when I was launched, and I was

948
00:50:01,760 --> 00:50:07,319
Speaker 1: launched with Chelsea Jackson, who's also amazing. The bullseye on

949
00:50:07,480 --> 00:50:11,440
Speaker 1: us was so intense because you had never been in

950
00:50:11,480 --> 00:50:13,600
Speaker 1: a place where you could have that much attention on

951
00:50:13,680 --> 00:50:15,280
Speaker 1: you at all, times.

952
00:50:16,239 --> 00:50:17,800
Speaker 4: So we we.

953
00:50:17,680 --> 00:50:21,360
Speaker 1: Had a unique launch because there was you want to

954
00:50:21,360 --> 00:50:26,120
Speaker 1: talk about an outpour of love that we received. It

955
00:50:26,480 --> 00:50:29,759
Speaker 1: was I couldn't believe what was happening. I couldn't believe

956
00:50:29,800 --> 00:50:34,040
Speaker 1: the messages that I was getting. I couldn't believe the growth,

957
00:50:34,200 --> 00:50:38,000
Speaker 1: right you talk about I mean social media. I had

958
00:50:38,960 --> 00:50:42,520
Speaker 1: twenty five thousand people follow me in less than forty

959
00:50:42,520 --> 00:50:46,319
Speaker 1: eight hours, you know, twenty five thousand new eyes on

960
00:50:46,360 --> 00:50:50,040
Speaker 1: you as a person, right, And so there was this

961
00:50:50,200 --> 00:50:55,759
Speaker 1: I felt this responsibility immediately and understanding of who won

962
00:50:56,160 --> 00:51:00,120
Speaker 1: that there's a lot of people watching, and two what

963
00:51:00,160 --> 00:51:01,279
Speaker 1: are they walking away with.

964
00:51:01,280 --> 00:51:10,000
Speaker 4: In terms of like character or just our relationship, Like

965
00:51:10,040 --> 00:51:11,840
Speaker 4: what is our relationship and what is that going to be?

966
00:51:11,880 --> 00:51:11,920
Speaker 2: Like?

967
00:51:12,640 --> 00:51:16,279
Speaker 1: Uh So I was like, oh, Adrian, this is this

968
00:51:16,360 --> 00:51:20,200
Speaker 1: is what you're supposed to be doing. And it's crazy

969
00:51:20,239 --> 00:51:24,560
Speaker 1: because if we're backtracking. Someone one of my friend's mentors said,

970
00:51:25,440 --> 00:51:27,080
Speaker 1: and I'll again never forget this.

971
00:51:27,080 --> 00:51:29,640
Speaker 4: This was a month before I actually auditioned. He said,

972
00:51:29,640 --> 00:51:31,239
Speaker 4: if you don't stop.

973
00:51:31,000 --> 00:51:36,319
Speaker 1: Wearing the cloak or the cape over yourself, if you

974
00:51:36,360 --> 00:51:38,759
Speaker 1: continue to wear that and you don't take that skin

975
00:51:38,800 --> 00:51:39,600
Speaker 1: off to show.

976
00:51:39,440 --> 00:51:41,400
Speaker 4: The world who you really are, you'll never realize your

977
00:51:41,400 --> 00:51:42,040
Speaker 4: full potential.

978
00:51:42,080 --> 00:51:44,640
Speaker 1: He's like, you're supposed to help help people on a

979
00:51:44,719 --> 00:51:48,439
Speaker 1: global scale, not in the capacity that you're doing right now.

980
00:51:48,440 --> 00:51:49,480
Speaker 4: And I was like, oh.

981
00:51:49,440 --> 00:51:53,279
Speaker 1: Really, And I thought he was, you know, like this

982
00:51:53,320 --> 00:51:55,680
Speaker 1: guy doesn't know what he's talking about. And then fast

983
00:51:55,719 --> 00:51:59,640
Speaker 1: forward a month later, I'm audi a peloton and now

984
00:51:59,680 --> 00:52:02,360
Speaker 1: I work for the school platform.

985
00:52:03,120 --> 00:52:06,080
Speaker 2: It's crazy to me because you mentioned so many times

986
00:52:06,120 --> 00:52:09,239
Speaker 2: in our conversation thus far being an EmPATH, then you

987
00:52:09,320 --> 00:52:13,160
Speaker 2: just highlighted twenty five thousand new followers in forty hours.

988
00:52:13,480 --> 00:52:15,680
Speaker 3: I have to ask a twofold question.

989
00:52:15,920 --> 00:52:19,480
Speaker 2: One, how have you learned to navigate the fact that

990
00:52:19,560 --> 00:52:25,319
Speaker 2: it is physically, mentally, emotionally impossible to legitimately show up

991
00:52:25,360 --> 00:52:29,480
Speaker 2: for hundreds of thousands of people at once? And two

992
00:52:30,120 --> 00:52:33,359
Speaker 2: if you wouldn't mind sharing, when in your journey did

993
00:52:33,400 --> 00:52:36,600
Speaker 2: you actually start to seek out therapy for yourself, because

994
00:52:36,600 --> 00:52:40,360
Speaker 2: I would imagine that was super super critical in helping

995
00:52:40,400 --> 00:52:42,960
Speaker 2: you figure out the right way to carry on and

996
00:52:42,960 --> 00:52:43,880
Speaker 2: show up for these people.

997
00:52:45,880 --> 00:52:50,719
Speaker 1: Right, So I think I'll start with therapy and then

998
00:52:50,760 --> 00:52:55,120
Speaker 1: how that translates. So, you know, after my Grandma, I

999
00:52:55,160 --> 00:52:57,480
Speaker 1: think that was it was a huge moment of I

1000
00:52:57,520 --> 00:53:01,160
Speaker 1: need a structured, safe space to talk about like how

1001
00:53:01,200 --> 00:53:03,160
Speaker 1: I'm actually feeling because I don't get to and I

1002
00:53:03,160 --> 00:53:05,520
Speaker 1: haven't gotten to. I felt like I had done it

1003
00:53:05,560 --> 00:53:08,000
Speaker 1: in years, right, like let's say it was a decade.

1004
00:53:08,239 --> 00:53:10,440
Speaker 1: I feel like that I wasn't talking about my feelings.

1005
00:53:11,000 --> 00:53:14,480
Speaker 1: I needed to get a lot of stuff out. And

1006
00:53:14,560 --> 00:53:18,000
Speaker 1: I think by purging and getting all of these feelings out,

1007
00:53:18,040 --> 00:53:20,400
Speaker 1: I could be the most authentic version of myself, the

1008
00:53:20,400 --> 00:53:22,720
Speaker 1: most true version of myself. So I started with therapy,

1009
00:53:23,160 --> 00:53:27,160
Speaker 1: and I think once I was back to feeling like

1010
00:53:27,239 --> 00:53:30,120
Speaker 1: Adrian because I always say this, I'm a super emotional

1011
00:53:30,160 --> 00:53:33,520
Speaker 1: person and you might not always get that in the

1012
00:53:33,600 --> 00:53:38,279
Speaker 1: beginning because I'm structured. So if there's a problem, I

1013
00:53:38,320 --> 00:53:40,960
Speaker 1: want to solve it. How do we, like, what's going on?

1014
00:53:41,160 --> 00:53:43,040
Speaker 1: How do we get through this? And like what's the answer?

1015
00:53:43,120 --> 00:53:46,000
Speaker 1: That's always how I am. But I take on people's

1016
00:53:46,000 --> 00:53:49,080
Speaker 1: feelings also at the same time, So I think when

1017
00:53:49,080 --> 00:53:51,200
Speaker 1: I was in therapy, I was like one of the

1018
00:53:51,200 --> 00:53:58,239
Speaker 1: best processes like about therapy was being one being questioned

1019
00:53:58,600 --> 00:54:01,600
Speaker 1: about decisions that I've made right, because there was never

1020
00:54:01,680 --> 00:54:04,640
Speaker 1: really feedback and there's never anyone being like oh I'm

1021
00:54:04,640 --> 00:54:06,440
Speaker 1: going to shove now. I have friends in my life

1022
00:54:06,480 --> 00:54:09,920
Speaker 1: who are like, yeah, Agrian, that's a stupid decision, or

1023
00:54:09,920 --> 00:54:12,239
Speaker 1: you shouldn't have done that, or like why did you

1024
00:54:12,320 --> 00:54:16,239
Speaker 1: do that? And in therapy, that's that's that's literally the relationship.

1025
00:54:16,320 --> 00:54:19,560
Speaker 1: You have someone who's there to you know, not only

1026
00:54:19,640 --> 00:54:22,919
Speaker 1: help you over the hurdles, but help you process these

1027
00:54:23,040 --> 00:54:25,520
Speaker 1: these feelings and emotions that you're feeling. So once I

1028
00:54:25,520 --> 00:54:27,839
Speaker 1: could process my own feelings and emotions, I knew when

1029
00:54:27,840 --> 00:54:31,720
Speaker 1: I showed up for people there were there were.

1030
00:54:31,600 --> 00:54:32,520
Speaker 4: There's always for me.

1031
00:54:32,600 --> 00:54:34,520
Speaker 1: I have rules when I when I show up in class,

1032
00:54:36,040 --> 00:54:41,360
Speaker 1: and my rules are that you feel one really supported

1033
00:54:41,400 --> 00:54:45,480
Speaker 1: while you're there challenged, and I provide some sort of

1034
00:54:45,600 --> 00:54:48,440
Speaker 1: mental clarity, uh, just because I think a lot of

1035
00:54:48,480 --> 00:54:52,279
Speaker 1: times when we work out, we're we're purging in terms

1036
00:54:52,320 --> 00:54:56,440
Speaker 1: of physical in the physical sense, and I want people

1037
00:54:56,560 --> 00:55:00,520
Speaker 1: to walk away feeling just a little bit more clear,

1038
00:55:00,600 --> 00:55:03,839
Speaker 1: whether that's in your own strength, whether that's in you

1039
00:55:03,920 --> 00:55:05,320
Speaker 1: know what you need to do for the rest of

1040
00:55:05,320 --> 00:55:07,680
Speaker 1: your day, for your children or work. I want you

1041
00:55:07,760 --> 00:55:10,120
Speaker 1: to walk away and have some sort of answer for

1042
00:55:10,200 --> 00:55:12,200
Speaker 1: yourself or feel some sort of empowerment.

1043
00:55:12,440 --> 00:55:13,759
Speaker 4: Right for the rest of your day.

1044
00:55:13,880 --> 00:55:16,319
Speaker 1: I knew if I made sure people felt those things

1045
00:55:16,360 --> 00:55:21,280
Speaker 1: in class, that I was giving exactly what I wanted

1046
00:55:21,320 --> 00:55:23,440
Speaker 1: in terms of how people are supposed to feel, but

1047
00:55:23,640 --> 00:55:28,920
Speaker 1: also helping people walk away feeling better about themselves. And

1048
00:55:28,520 --> 00:55:32,040
Speaker 1: that's been if you've heard anything in this conversation, that's

1049
00:55:32,080 --> 00:55:34,520
Speaker 1: been the point, right, like trying to really just make

1050
00:55:34,560 --> 00:55:37,440
Speaker 1: people walk away feeling better about themselves. Mine or major,

1051
00:55:37,840 --> 00:55:40,560
Speaker 1: doesn't always have to be major. But if you, for me,

1052
00:55:40,600 --> 00:55:43,040
Speaker 1: if you smiled, if you felt a sense of joy,

1053
00:55:43,239 --> 00:55:47,120
Speaker 1: that's also you're walking away feeling better about life in yourself.

1054
00:55:47,800 --> 00:55:52,160
Speaker 1: So having that structure or rules, like for myself in class,

1055
00:55:52,719 --> 00:55:57,480
Speaker 1: it's easy for me to teach because that drives my energy.

1056
00:55:57,520 --> 00:56:00,880
Speaker 1: That drives me teaching, That drives what I say a

1057
00:56:00,920 --> 00:56:03,759
Speaker 1: lot of times and sometimes things come out right, like

1058
00:56:04,080 --> 00:56:07,200
Speaker 1: I've cried in class quite a few times actually, And

1059
00:56:07,239 --> 00:56:08,960
Speaker 1: you don't know that this is going to happen. It

1060
00:56:09,200 --> 00:56:12,759
Speaker 1: just when you're working out, you know this, you become emotional.

1061
00:56:12,840 --> 00:56:14,680
Speaker 1: And sometimes I was help people in my classes. You

1062
00:56:14,719 --> 00:56:16,440
Speaker 1: need to cry, just cry, like let it, you need

1063
00:56:16,480 --> 00:56:19,880
Speaker 1: to let it out. But I think working out is therapeutic.

1064
00:56:20,520 --> 00:56:23,200
Speaker 1: It's some of the best therapy I've ever and you

1065
00:56:23,280 --> 00:56:26,879
Speaker 1: know it's more than anyone because you do it all.

1066
00:56:28,080 --> 00:56:31,439
Speaker 1: But it's some of the best therapy that you can

1067
00:56:31,760 --> 00:56:33,840
Speaker 1: use for yourself and that you can get for sure.

1068
00:56:34,000 --> 00:56:36,080
Speaker 3: For sure, I can totally totally relate to it.

1069
00:56:36,120 --> 00:56:37,360
Speaker 2: I don't know if I do it all, but at

1070
00:56:37,440 --> 00:56:41,840
Speaker 2: least sometimes, just like you, I try to in some ways.

1071
00:56:42,560 --> 00:56:45,560
Speaker 2: So I mean, now we're a year and a half

1072
00:56:45,600 --> 00:56:49,719
Speaker 2: into your journey at Peloton. If you had to articulate

1073
00:56:49,800 --> 00:56:53,160
Speaker 2: maybe one of the biggest lessons you've learned during this time,

1074
00:56:53,520 --> 00:56:54,359
Speaker 2: what would you say?

1075
00:56:54,440 --> 00:56:54,960
Speaker 3: It would be?

1076
00:56:55,239 --> 00:57:01,279
Speaker 1: The biggest learning lesson is a time right? Is what

1077
00:57:01,320 --> 00:57:03,080
Speaker 1: am I doing with my time? And how am I

1078
00:57:03,160 --> 00:57:08,239
Speaker 1: using it wisely? And I think because a Peloton, the

1079
00:57:08,239 --> 00:57:20,800
Speaker 1: instructors wear so many hats, right, whether were TJS programmers, therapists, instructors, peers,

1080
00:57:20,880 --> 00:57:23,040
Speaker 1: we have to wear so many hats. So what I

1081
00:57:23,080 --> 00:57:25,160
Speaker 1: do with my time is really important now, and how

1082
00:57:25,200 --> 00:57:28,080
Speaker 1: I spend my time is even more so important now.

1083
00:57:28,120 --> 00:57:30,640
Speaker 1: I think time management is the biggest is the biggest

1084
00:57:30,680 --> 00:57:32,760
Speaker 1: thing I learned and I didn't have it before, and

1085
00:57:32,800 --> 00:57:35,760
Speaker 1: I know how to. I always focused on like I

1086
00:57:35,920 --> 00:57:38,680
Speaker 1: have to do X Y, z for work, which is

1087
00:57:38,760 --> 00:57:41,800
Speaker 1: now very much a part of my life, but it's

1088
00:57:41,840 --> 00:57:44,360
Speaker 1: like where do I fit my family and friends in

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Speaker 1: there consistently?

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Speaker 4: So my time management, I think is the most important thing.

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Speaker 4: The second is it's how do I describe it.

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Speaker 1: It's like being in a going from that unhealthy relationship

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Speaker 1: to a healthy relationship. My partner now cares about me,

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Speaker 1: and it's concerned for my physical health and my mental health.

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Speaker 1: So I think that's also a big learning lesson, right Like,

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Speaker 1: you want to be in or work in a space

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Speaker 1: where there's a symbiotic relationship of care, and I couldn't

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Speaker 1: be more cared for in the space. So it's just

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Speaker 1: good to be somewhere where you're loved and appreciated.

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Speaker 2: Right now, if someone was to go to your social

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Speaker 2: media feeds, they would see someone with increasingly increasingly increasingly

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Speaker 2: every day, thousands of new followers, one hundred and fifty

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Speaker 2: thousand people looking at this great, huge, smiling.

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Speaker 3: Guy that loves to help other people.

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Speaker 2: When you look in the mirror, what is it that

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Speaker 2: you see looking back at you.

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Speaker 1: I see a better version of what my grandma was

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Speaker 1: trying to help me understand in terms of who I

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Speaker 1: was as a person.

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Speaker 4: I see someone who's.

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Speaker 1: In a short time, and I would say, in the

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Speaker 1: past two and a half years, become the best version

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Speaker 1: of himself, just because there's no apology for who I

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Speaker 1: am as a human and I know I'm a good person,

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Speaker 1: and I know I'd like to give to the world.

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Speaker 1: So I see someone who's not only wanting to love

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Speaker 1: everyone who's in my space, but wanting to bring people

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Speaker 1: who don't feel that way into my space so they do.

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Speaker 1: I see someone who just wants to help, you know,

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Speaker 1: and be a part of someone's positive journey. And I

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Speaker 1: think when I teach now, I've always said, like, if

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Speaker 1: I can give you one thing that you can take

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Speaker 1: with you and carry with you for the rest of

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Speaker 1: your life, I've become your trainer for life. So if

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Speaker 1: there's one value that you walk away with from me,

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Speaker 1: for me, I've done my job.

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Speaker 4: And that's the most important thing.

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Speaker 2: A few times in this conversation you have recalled like

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Speaker 2: little tidbits piece of advice that other individuals have given you.

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Speaker 2: You just articulated how great it is if someone could

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Speaker 2: walk away with one piece from you. And I think

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Speaker 2: that that is such an awesome opportunity and such a

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Speaker 2: beautiful takeaway from your journey is knowing that at any

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Speaker 2: given moment, we as individuals have the opportunity to help someone,

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Speaker 2: and anything that we say at any moment could inspire

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Speaker 2: another human. And it doesn't matter if you have hundreds

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Speaker 2: of thousands of followers or five followers, or if it's

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Speaker 2: the Whole Foods grocery clerk, or if it's your local barista, Like,

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Speaker 2: any human interaction is an opportunity to positively influence another person.

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Speaker 3: And how beautiful is that opportunity?

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Speaker 4: And I think as humans we take advantage of that.

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Speaker 1: It's so easy to get caught up in you think

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Speaker 1: we're thinking things are insignificant. Right, Saying good it's so simple,

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Speaker 1: And it's like the things you were taught as a child.

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Speaker 1: Saying good morning to someone, asking someone if they need help,

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Speaker 1: holding the door for someone, smiling at someone. It's so simple.

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Speaker 1: How like the smallest things can change someone's someone's day, right.

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Speaker 4: I'll never forget one of my coworkers. I was teaching

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Speaker 4: on the Sunday and she was having like a typical day.

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Speaker 4: So I went and got.

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Speaker 1: Her macha and she started crying, and I was like,

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Speaker 1: are you like Katie, are you okay? And she's like yeah,

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Speaker 1: She's just like, no one ever does things for me.

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Speaker 1: And I was like the simplicity of buying someone macha,

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Speaker 1: and that being something that means so much to them

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Speaker 1: is small. So just think about that on a large scale,

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Speaker 1: what you could.

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Speaker 4: Do for someone.

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Speaker 3: It's so special. Okay.

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Speaker 2: The final question, my friend, right now, you have an

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Speaker 2: opportunity to offer that Adrian in the days and weeks

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Speaker 2: after losing his grandmother during that Hurtle moment, one piece

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Speaker 2: of advice looking back on it, now, what do you

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Speaker 2: tell him to.

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Speaker 1: Make sure you do what's what's really important to you,

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Speaker 1: and if that means having to make adjustments in your

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Speaker 1: work life so that you can, for me, spend the

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Speaker 1: spend time with people that you love and care about,

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Speaker 1: or you know, nurture the relationships that are important for you.

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Speaker 1: I think it's important. I think it would have been

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Speaker 1: important to know that, like, maybe I didn't have to

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Speaker 1: always be working so much, Maybe I didn't have to

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Speaker 1: say yes to everything. Maybe it was okay to say

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Speaker 1: no to certain things and not do not do everything

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Speaker 1: just to do everything. I think I always felt bad

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Speaker 1: saying saying no to you know, extra work because I

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Speaker 1: was like, oh, they'll think I'm not a hard worker,

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Speaker 1: or like maybe i won't get an opportunity because I'm

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Speaker 1: saying no for something else. What's really important, right, Like,

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Speaker 1: I work hard. That's that's that's always been me. That's

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Speaker 1: always who I am as a person. But I think

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Speaker 1: saying no, like Adrian, it's okay to say no to

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Speaker 1: thinks that's probably the biggest piece of advice. You don't

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Speaker 1: have to say yes to everything. And if you miss

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Speaker 1: out in an opportunity just because I'm so hard working,

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Speaker 1: eventually it will come. And I think being at Pelton

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Speaker 1: has really made me understand that. I was like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I've worked this hard and gotten to this place because

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Speaker 1: I do think I'm a valuable member in terms of

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Speaker 1: having a person who's your coworker or as a friend

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Speaker 1: or as a son. I'm I think I add value

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Speaker 1: to the workspace. So just say no, Adrian, just say

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Speaker 1: no sometimes, just say no.

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Speaker 4: Do you.

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Speaker 2: I'm so grateful for your perspective and thank you again

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Speaker 2: for your vulnerability and for opening up about your family story.

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Speaker 3: Again.

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Speaker 2: I know there are so many people listening to this

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Speaker 2: who have been through similar hurdle moments, and it's a

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Speaker 2: really special chance that we have to communicate about them

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Speaker 2: and share our experiences about them so that we can

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Speaker 2: feel less alone in our journeys wherever they may take us. Adrian,

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Speaker 2: how do the hurdlers follow along with you? How do

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Speaker 2: they keep up with you? Give me all of the details.

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Speaker 1: You could find me on Instagram by Adrian Williams and YC.

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Speaker 1: You can also follow me on the Peloton app. Download it.

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Speaker 1: You don't need any sort of hardware if you do amazing,

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Speaker 1: but come take any of my shrank classes. We can

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Speaker 1: run outdoors, we can run on the tread and do

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Speaker 1: boot camps. There's a ton of ways you can spend

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Speaker 1: time with me and let's just connect.

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Speaker 4: That's what we're here to do.

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Speaker 3: Let's just connect.

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Speaker 2: If someone is brand new to you and you have

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Speaker 2: the opportunity to tell them one class to run to

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Speaker 2: a SAP, do you have like one or two faves

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Speaker 2: to call out one hundred percent.

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Speaker 1: We have a program that we did for runners who

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Speaker 1: are just starting on their journey, so it like brings

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Speaker 1: you from the person who's never run in their life

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Speaker 1: into getting you to run for thirty minutes. We also

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Speaker 1: have in terms of strength. We have strength for runners,

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Speaker 1: we have beginners classes. In terms of strength, there are

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Speaker 1: so many ways to.

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Speaker 4: Train with me.

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Speaker 1: Don't think because you haven't ever run or picked up

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Speaker 1: away before or done a push up, that we can't

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Speaker 1: train together the journeys. Once you start the journey, it's

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Speaker 1: something that you sign on as a lifestyle, right, so

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Speaker 1: it'll continue and it'll evolve and it'll change.

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Speaker 4: All you have to do is start.

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Speaker 1: I'm a huge fan of forgiveness and not being able

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Speaker 1: to do everything, but trying, I think is the most

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Speaker 1: important thing.

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Speaker 3: Love that takeaway.

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Speaker 2: I'm over at Emily a Body and at Hurdle Podcast

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Speaker 2: Another Hurdle Conquered.

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Speaker 4: I love it a