1 00:00:06,280 --> 00:00:17,200 Speaker 1: Hey, hey, Hey, Yes, we're bad. We're Black Mountain Ambition. 2 00:00:17,600 --> 00:00:24,560 Speaker 1: Ambition is Ambition Studio. Mandy. 3 00:00:25,480 --> 00:00:29,120 Speaker 2: Hi, I feel so happy to actually have a regular 4 00:00:29,200 --> 00:00:32,279 Speaker 2: voice again. I'm sure. I'm sure y'all are y'all are 5 00:00:32,280 --> 00:00:34,120 Speaker 2: sick and tired of listening to me be sick and tired. 6 00:00:34,200 --> 00:00:36,440 Speaker 2: So it's so good to see you again. I had 7 00:00:36,440 --> 00:00:37,920 Speaker 2: to write solo last week. 8 00:00:38,840 --> 00:00:41,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's all. Yeah, I honestly, I was still in Kenya. 9 00:00:41,920 --> 00:00:42,200 Speaker 2: Witch. 10 00:00:42,400 --> 00:00:44,360 Speaker 1: Let me tell you something, Mandy, let me tell you something. 11 00:00:44,680 --> 00:00:45,000 Speaker 2: Okay. 12 00:00:45,200 --> 00:00:47,440 Speaker 3: I went to Kenya and the girls were going up 13 00:00:47,479 --> 00:00:53,000 Speaker 3: for Brown Ambition. The Kenyan girls in Kenya. They were like, Tam, Mandy. 14 00:00:52,720 --> 00:00:55,200 Speaker 1: I'm terrible with access. I love her. I was like, 15 00:00:56,440 --> 00:00:59,040 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, yes, can you imagine? 16 00:00:59,200 --> 00:00:59,760 Speaker 2: Can you tour? 17 00:01:00,120 --> 00:01:00,320 Speaker 4: Yeah? 18 00:01:00,640 --> 00:01:02,520 Speaker 1: When I tell you, I couldn't believe, not one not 19 00:01:02,560 --> 00:01:02,960 Speaker 1: to that thing. 20 00:01:03,040 --> 00:01:06,200 Speaker 3: I mean, I couldn't believe how many women were like, 21 00:01:06,440 --> 00:01:08,920 Speaker 3: oh my god, I love you, Budjanista. I listened to 22 00:01:08,920 --> 00:01:11,880 Speaker 3: brand ambishon all the time. I'm like, and I'm thinking, like, oh, 23 00:01:12,319 --> 00:01:13,960 Speaker 3: you're here on the trip with us. You live in 24 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:15,960 Speaker 3: the US, but you just have to be Kenyan. They're like, no, No, 25 00:01:15,959 --> 00:01:18,680 Speaker 3: I live in Kenya. I'm like, wait, you listened to 26 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:20,959 Speaker 3: Brown and Mission here on the Motherland at Kenya. 27 00:01:21,360 --> 00:01:22,880 Speaker 1: They're like, yes, I love it. 28 00:01:22,959 --> 00:01:25,480 Speaker 3: I couldn't, honestly, I said, wait till I tell Mandy. 29 00:01:25,480 --> 00:01:26,720 Speaker 3: So shout out to you Kenyan women. 30 00:01:27,240 --> 00:01:28,399 Speaker 1: We love you. 31 00:01:29,880 --> 00:01:32,960 Speaker 2: Kenya is popping, like a lot of people are talking 32 00:01:32,959 --> 00:01:36,600 Speaker 2: about Nairobi and she's like having this whole renaissance and 33 00:01:36,720 --> 00:01:38,119 Speaker 2: like such a great prid to live. Is that where 34 00:01:38,160 --> 00:01:38,440 Speaker 2: you were? 35 00:01:38,920 --> 00:01:39,120 Speaker 1: Yeah? 36 00:01:39,120 --> 00:01:41,280 Speaker 3: So I was in Nairobi and also to oh I 37 00:01:41,600 --> 00:01:44,119 Speaker 3: flew to we flew to the coach. So I went 38 00:01:44,160 --> 00:01:48,800 Speaker 3: on this trip called the Safe Journey Retreat that's done 39 00:01:48,800 --> 00:01:49,880 Speaker 3: by Ijoma Kola. 40 00:01:50,360 --> 00:01:51,400 Speaker 1: She is Nigerian. 41 00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:55,320 Speaker 3: We actually grew up together and her husband is Kenyan 42 00:01:55,760 --> 00:01:58,320 Speaker 3: and so she she moved to Kenya, Kenya after marrying 43 00:01:58,360 --> 00:01:59,880 Speaker 3: him and they now is back in the States. But 44 00:02:00,280 --> 00:02:02,120 Speaker 3: she went loved it was like the girls have to 45 00:02:02,120 --> 00:02:04,640 Speaker 3: come out here. So she has this black woman retreat. 46 00:02:04,760 --> 00:02:07,960 Speaker 3: This was their first one and she asked me to speak. 47 00:02:08,160 --> 00:02:11,200 Speaker 3: It was maybe like four or five other speakers. But 48 00:02:11,240 --> 00:02:14,880 Speaker 3: when I tell you, the sisterhood, it was the perfect 49 00:02:14,919 --> 00:02:16,400 Speaker 3: way to start the new year because I was there 50 00:02:16,400 --> 00:02:18,760 Speaker 3: from the first to the ten, so ten days and 51 00:02:18,960 --> 00:02:25,680 Speaker 3: to be surrounded by amazing, kind, loving, funny, multifaceted Black women. 52 00:02:25,960 --> 00:02:28,959 Speaker 3: So each a herself is a PhD. So she also 53 00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:32,240 Speaker 3: has this Black woman PhD community group that she started, 54 00:02:32,480 --> 00:02:34,800 Speaker 3: so so many of the women there were also PhD. 55 00:02:34,919 --> 00:02:38,359 Speaker 3: So these brilliant but then you know, black women brilliant, 56 00:02:38,400 --> 00:02:40,920 Speaker 3: but also like, girl, let me change something. It was 57 00:02:42,080 --> 00:02:45,400 Speaker 3: it was when I tell you everything. And then Kenya 58 00:02:45,440 --> 00:02:49,200 Speaker 3: itself was most places I go and I'm like that 59 00:02:49,320 --> 00:02:51,120 Speaker 3: was great, but I'm gonna go someplace else because you know, 60 00:02:51,639 --> 00:02:53,960 Speaker 3: you know, time is money. But Kenya I would go 61 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:55,639 Speaker 3: back again so much, so I would go back again 62 00:02:55,720 --> 00:02:59,800 Speaker 3: this year because to Nairobi was amazing. All the hotels 63 00:03:00,040 --> 00:03:02,360 Speaker 3: dy and were amazing. You know, we got to go 64 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:04,840 Speaker 3: to the museum, we did it so far, which was 65 00:03:05,200 --> 00:03:07,840 Speaker 3: out of this world. And then we flew into Kenya 66 00:03:08,240 --> 00:03:10,640 Speaker 3: to the coast. I think it started with the ann Milani. 67 00:03:10,960 --> 00:03:14,160 Speaker 3: I'm staying it wrong, but that hotel it looked. 68 00:03:13,880 --> 00:03:17,040 Speaker 1: Like a I don't even know, like a. 69 00:03:16,760 --> 00:03:20,120 Speaker 3: Moroccan castle and it was right on the beach. It 70 00:03:20,200 --> 00:03:24,880 Speaker 3: was just every turn was so beautiful. I just honestly 71 00:03:25,240 --> 00:03:26,960 Speaker 3: not even a ten out of ten a twenty out 72 00:03:26,960 --> 00:03:31,240 Speaker 3: of ten. It restored, it rejuvenated, It just did all 73 00:03:31,240 --> 00:03:32,600 Speaker 3: the things that I needed and more because it was 74 00:03:32,639 --> 00:03:35,560 Speaker 3: the holiday season, if I'm being honest, was really really 75 00:03:36,000 --> 00:03:38,000 Speaker 3: hard for me this holiday season. It really hit me 76 00:03:38,040 --> 00:03:40,320 Speaker 3: that Jirell wasn't here, and it took me out. Like 77 00:03:40,360 --> 00:03:43,040 Speaker 3: I was like dark room, laying in the bed, could 78 00:03:43,040 --> 00:03:44,880 Speaker 3: barely get up, didn't want to shower, I didn't want 79 00:03:44,880 --> 00:03:46,840 Speaker 3: to brush my teeth, and I didn't even want to 80 00:03:46,840 --> 00:03:48,720 Speaker 3: go to Kenya honestly, Like I didn't pack until like 81 00:03:48,720 --> 00:03:51,800 Speaker 3: the day before, you know, and I dragged myself to 82 00:03:51,840 --> 00:03:54,880 Speaker 3: the airport, and it poured back into me everything I 83 00:03:54,880 --> 00:03:58,080 Speaker 3: needed and more. And so like if she ever has 84 00:03:58,120 --> 00:04:02,720 Speaker 3: that retreat again, I recommended had times a thousand, not 85 00:04:02,760 --> 00:04:05,480 Speaker 3: just for the women, but also have the planned Oh yeah, 86 00:04:05,560 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 3: I mean, you know, like I don't know what I 87 00:04:07,720 --> 00:04:10,520 Speaker 3: would have done honestly, because it was it really took 88 00:04:10,560 --> 00:04:12,240 Speaker 3: me out. So yeah, I'm just so grateful, but I'm 89 00:04:12,280 --> 00:04:14,120 Speaker 3: so happy to be back. And yes, the Kenyan women 90 00:04:14,240 --> 00:04:15,360 Speaker 3: go up. 91 00:04:17,040 --> 00:04:19,000 Speaker 2: That's my brother's hope is that we're going to get 92 00:04:19,040 --> 00:04:21,240 Speaker 2: my little brother. He's like you me, Dad, were going 93 00:04:21,279 --> 00:04:23,279 Speaker 2: to make a trip to he wants to do Kenya 94 00:04:23,360 --> 00:04:26,400 Speaker 2: or South Africa in I was like twenty twenty four 95 00:04:26,800 --> 00:04:28,240 Speaker 2: because I. 96 00:04:28,200 --> 00:04:29,279 Speaker 1: Got the baby's coming. 97 00:04:29,320 --> 00:04:31,680 Speaker 2: Baby, the baby is coming. 98 00:04:32,760 --> 00:04:32,920 Speaker 3: Yeah. 99 00:04:32,960 --> 00:04:35,440 Speaker 2: I just heard his little heartbeat this morning. He's in 100 00:04:35,520 --> 00:04:39,040 Speaker 2: there kicking on my bladder. Let me know he's there. Yeah, 101 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:42,159 Speaker 2: I'm very excited. Yeah I am, I'm almost. I have 102 00:04:42,279 --> 00:04:44,159 Speaker 2: had lunch with a friend. Remember we talked about before 103 00:04:44,240 --> 00:04:46,480 Speaker 2: the for like our New Year's episode. We were talking 104 00:04:46,520 --> 00:04:48,320 Speaker 2: about our intentions for the New year, and I think 105 00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:50,320 Speaker 2: one of the themes that really resonated was the sense 106 00:04:50,360 --> 00:04:52,960 Speaker 2: of making time to reconnect. So like you and me, 107 00:04:53,080 --> 00:04:53,760 Speaker 2: we need some time. 108 00:04:54,279 --> 00:04:54,479 Speaker 1: Yes. 109 00:04:54,720 --> 00:04:57,200 Speaker 2: And then I saw one of my oldest girlfriends who 110 00:04:57,279 --> 00:04:59,240 Speaker 2: I hadn't seen since August, which is a damn shame. 111 00:04:59,279 --> 00:05:01,000 Speaker 2: We used to like you know, when you work together 112 00:05:01,040 --> 00:05:03,200 Speaker 2: in your twenties. We were just like a cubicle away 113 00:05:03,400 --> 00:05:06,320 Speaker 2: and we were in each other's business. You know. All 114 00:05:06,360 --> 00:05:08,239 Speaker 2: I knew everything I knew is she ate for breakfast. 115 00:05:08,320 --> 00:05:10,680 Speaker 2: I knew how she was feeling about the weather, like everything, 116 00:05:10,720 --> 00:05:13,000 Speaker 2: And now I just found out she had shingles, She 117 00:05:13,080 --> 00:05:15,680 Speaker 2: had a whole illness. Yeah, well, you know we were 118 00:05:15,760 --> 00:05:17,440 Speaker 2: catching up, but like she had COVID and then shingles, 119 00:05:17,480 --> 00:05:19,120 Speaker 2: and I'm like, yeah, I have flu and bronchitis and 120 00:05:19,400 --> 00:05:22,040 Speaker 2: other stuff was happening, new jobs and stuff, but it 121 00:05:22,080 --> 00:05:23,680 Speaker 2: was so lovely and I got to go to city 122 00:05:24,200 --> 00:05:27,080 Speaker 2: and felt it felt really good to start reconnecting with 123 00:05:28,040 --> 00:05:31,479 Speaker 2: just new friends and not new friends old friends. In 124 00:05:31,560 --> 00:05:34,200 Speaker 2: twenty twenty three, and I'm trying to get it all done, 125 00:05:34,880 --> 00:05:37,520 Speaker 2: you know, before May, because I got this ticking, this 126 00:05:37,600 --> 00:05:42,200 Speaker 2: ticking clock, and we planned speaking up. We're planning like 127 00:05:42,240 --> 00:05:44,360 Speaker 2: a little baby moon, which will be our first time 128 00:05:44,400 --> 00:05:48,400 Speaker 2: traveling anywhere since twenty nineteen. Like it's pretty sad, you know, 129 00:05:49,279 --> 00:05:50,680 Speaker 2: but we're going to Costa Rica. 130 00:05:51,000 --> 00:05:55,080 Speaker 1: Ooh excited. I love It's very beautiful and lush. 131 00:05:55,560 --> 00:05:59,320 Speaker 2: I just want nature and quiet. And I feel kind 132 00:05:59,320 --> 00:06:01,000 Speaker 2: of like I feel I need twinge of guilt that 133 00:06:01,120 --> 00:06:04,240 Speaker 2: Rio is gonna miss out, but like it'll be okay, 134 00:06:04,320 --> 00:06:06,880 Speaker 2: He's gonna be fine. He'll see the slots another time, 135 00:06:07,080 --> 00:06:07,279 Speaker 2: you know. 136 00:06:07,600 --> 00:06:09,520 Speaker 1: Plus he's still really because how old is Rio? 137 00:06:10,320 --> 00:06:10,800 Speaker 2: He's three? 138 00:06:11,600 --> 00:06:14,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, So it's like the kind of vacation that he 139 00:06:14,360 --> 00:06:17,160 Speaker 3: might remember, like a general thing, but not the specific 140 00:06:17,160 --> 00:06:18,600 Speaker 3: things anyway. So it's like I'll give you one more 141 00:06:18,680 --> 00:06:22,480 Speaker 3: year before You're like, I remember, I could. 142 00:06:22,360 --> 00:06:24,240 Speaker 2: Hardly take two hours on a plane to Atlanta. I 143 00:06:24,240 --> 00:06:25,640 Speaker 2: don't know how I would do five and a half. 144 00:06:26,000 --> 00:06:27,520 Speaker 1: I know, Oh my god. 145 00:06:27,800 --> 00:06:30,200 Speaker 2: But I saw some like I wanted to kind of 146 00:06:30,200 --> 00:06:31,880 Speaker 2: you know, we used to do Buzzworthy back. 147 00:06:31,760 --> 00:06:32,839 Speaker 1: In the day. 148 00:06:33,160 --> 00:06:35,279 Speaker 2: I wondered if we can bring back brown Ambition buzz. 149 00:06:35,279 --> 00:06:36,839 Speaker 2: I was like, the ba buzz. Let's call it the 150 00:06:36,839 --> 00:06:40,400 Speaker 2: ba buzz. There's a lot that's been going on, So yeah, 151 00:06:41,600 --> 00:06:43,640 Speaker 2: first do we need to we have to talk about this. 152 00:06:43,800 --> 00:06:46,800 Speaker 2: Have you seen? And and Happy MLK Day everybody? That 153 00:06:46,960 --> 00:06:50,440 Speaker 2: was we're recording on Tuesday. It was yesterday. But have 154 00:06:50,560 --> 00:06:55,080 Speaker 2: you seen the statue in Boston the new Cure? 155 00:06:57,320 --> 00:06:59,200 Speaker 3: I mean I saw the picture was based off of 156 00:06:59,320 --> 00:07:01,440 Speaker 3: but I was like, what is giving? 157 00:07:04,000 --> 00:07:06,000 Speaker 2: I hate myself because it's like I want I'm one 158 00:07:06,040 --> 00:07:08,400 Speaker 2: of those people who I want to appreciate artists, you know, 159 00:07:08,839 --> 00:07:10,680 Speaker 2: their work and all the time and all that. But 160 00:07:10,720 --> 00:07:12,520 Speaker 2: my husband, I didn't really know there was a new 161 00:07:12,560 --> 00:07:14,720 Speaker 2: statue I was going to be unveiled, but all like 162 00:07:14,800 --> 00:07:16,640 Speaker 2: my husband just like puts his phone in front of 163 00:07:16,640 --> 00:07:18,720 Speaker 2: my face and he's like, what do you think that is? 164 00:07:19,320 --> 00:07:22,080 Speaker 2: And we're we were potty training Rio this weekend, and 165 00:07:22,120 --> 00:07:23,640 Speaker 2: all I can think of is is that a like? 166 00:07:23,760 --> 00:07:25,320 Speaker 2: Is that is that gold turd? 167 00:07:25,440 --> 00:07:25,520 Speaker 1: Like? 168 00:07:25,560 --> 00:07:27,880 Speaker 2: What am I looking at here? It was so and 169 00:07:27,880 --> 00:07:29,880 Speaker 2: then I felt so horrible when I learned what it was. 170 00:07:29,960 --> 00:07:33,640 Speaker 2: But yeah, that thing, it's causing a lot of controversy 171 00:07:33,880 --> 00:07:38,040 Speaker 2: because it looks like a sexual act. Yes, I just. 172 00:07:38,680 --> 00:07:41,800 Speaker 3: Beautiful because I'm just like, how many people did that 173 00:07:41,920 --> 00:07:43,920 Speaker 3: have to go through for it to be made? 174 00:07:44,120 --> 00:07:46,560 Speaker 2: And no one said, that's exactly what our producer Emani said. 175 00:07:47,680 --> 00:07:52,800 Speaker 2: No one said pick somebody else the sketches. Maybe they 176 00:07:52,800 --> 00:07:54,440 Speaker 2: had to make like a little mini mirror of means 177 00:07:54,600 --> 00:07:58,000 Speaker 2: of course they did. Yeah, I mean, what do you 178 00:07:58,080 --> 00:07:59,800 Speaker 2: do now? You can't there's no overturn. 179 00:08:00,200 --> 00:08:06,200 Speaker 1: See, I'm like, this massive, it's just phallic symbol. Yeah, 180 00:08:06,760 --> 00:08:07,560 Speaker 1: you need to see it. 181 00:08:07,720 --> 00:08:10,320 Speaker 2: Maybe need to see it in person, you know, from 182 00:08:10,360 --> 00:08:13,560 Speaker 2: the right angle. But uh, why just the arms in 183 00:08:13,600 --> 00:08:19,880 Speaker 2: the hands? Why know torsos or there were heads? I 184 00:08:20,120 --> 00:08:24,640 Speaker 2: just do. It's gotta be really awkward to be at 185 00:08:24,760 --> 00:08:25,680 Speaker 2: MLK descendant. 186 00:08:26,280 --> 00:08:35,240 Speaker 4: I know they're really like, okay, thank you, oh boy, 187 00:08:35,520 --> 00:08:37,480 Speaker 4: So we want to know y'all's thoughts on the new 188 00:08:37,559 --> 00:08:38,680 Speaker 4: MLK statue. 189 00:08:38,920 --> 00:08:40,640 Speaker 2: I want to be the kind of person who can 190 00:08:40,640 --> 00:08:43,079 Speaker 2: find beauty and anything, and like, I just feel bad 191 00:08:43,080 --> 00:08:45,160 Speaker 2: for the artists because God, like, you know, he put 192 00:08:45,400 --> 00:08:48,559 Speaker 2: his whole life on hold for that, and you know, 193 00:08:49,080 --> 00:08:51,280 Speaker 2: art isn't the eye of the beholder or whatever they say. 194 00:08:51,520 --> 00:08:55,920 Speaker 2: Some good news though, so inflation is it's gotten so bad, 195 00:08:55,960 --> 00:08:59,480 Speaker 2: like the cost of groceries and especially eating out. We 196 00:08:59,520 --> 00:09:02,160 Speaker 2: can't even look at door Dash or Uber Eats without 197 00:09:02,160 --> 00:09:04,360 Speaker 2: spending seventy five dollars. It feels like I'm just a 198 00:09:04,360 --> 00:09:07,280 Speaker 2: regular meal. So I even took my butt to Costco 199 00:09:07,480 --> 00:09:09,000 Speaker 2: and I was like, we're gonna be buying in bulk. 200 00:09:09,280 --> 00:09:12,120 Speaker 2: It's a new day, it's a new life. I'm feeling good. 201 00:09:12,480 --> 00:09:16,160 Speaker 2: Oh well, good news is that apparently customers, like consumers, 202 00:09:16,160 --> 00:09:18,720 Speaker 2: we have been changing our shopping habits. Finally it's like 203 00:09:18,720 --> 00:09:22,719 Speaker 2: gotten too expensive, and businesses are finally like, okay, we're 204 00:09:22,720 --> 00:09:25,400 Speaker 2: gonna slow down the price hikes and in some cases 205 00:09:25,400 --> 00:09:28,160 Speaker 2: either going back on them. But it seems like most businesses, 206 00:09:28,160 --> 00:09:31,400 Speaker 2: according to the Wall Street Journal, are just ceasing, you know, 207 00:09:31,440 --> 00:09:36,000 Speaker 2: additional price hikes. So hopefully a carton of eggs ain't 208 00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:39,080 Speaker 2: gonna cost girl you know, twelve dollars anymore. 209 00:09:39,400 --> 00:09:41,319 Speaker 3: Well, we can't eat eggs around here, that's what that means. 210 00:09:41,360 --> 00:09:43,600 Speaker 3: We ain't eating them eggs, but we're gonna have chicks 211 00:09:43,600 --> 00:09:45,720 Speaker 3: to the back, like girl produced, That's what I'm saying. 212 00:09:45,760 --> 00:09:48,560 Speaker 2: How much could it cost to have a chicken? I 213 00:09:48,559 --> 00:09:51,600 Speaker 2: felt so bad. We went to Enrique's my husband's moms 214 00:09:51,640 --> 00:09:53,600 Speaker 2: for I don't know, like lunch the other day, and 215 00:09:53,720 --> 00:09:56,680 Speaker 2: Rio loves making eggs. He's not always interested in eating them. 216 00:09:57,800 --> 00:09:59,680 Speaker 2: And she got the fancy you know, the cage free 217 00:09:59,800 --> 00:10:03,520 Speaker 2: or and he made her make four of them join up. 218 00:10:03,600 --> 00:10:05,720 Speaker 2: And he did not eat a single egg. And I 219 00:10:05,800 --> 00:10:08,520 Speaker 2: was like, Myra, do you need twenty dollars like all 220 00:10:08,559 --> 00:10:10,920 Speaker 2: paint for these eggs? Oh? 221 00:10:11,000 --> 00:10:15,160 Speaker 1: Here, these fancy kids. He's like from gold dust on it. 222 00:10:16,360 --> 00:10:17,920 Speaker 2: I was like, Myra, get one of the you know, 223 00:10:17,960 --> 00:10:20,920 Speaker 2: the blue styrofoam eggs, girl, like, you know, the cheap ones. 224 00:10:20,960 --> 00:10:22,199 Speaker 2: I was like, get some of them for him to 225 00:10:22,200 --> 00:10:25,959 Speaker 2: play with next time. Yeah, oh god. Oh. And then 226 00:10:26,440 --> 00:10:28,280 Speaker 2: I caught a little bit of the Golden Globes just 227 00:10:28,280 --> 00:10:32,120 Speaker 2: because randomly someone was like tweeting about it. But black 228 00:10:32,160 --> 00:10:37,680 Speaker 2: people this Award season in Hollywood were cleaning up cleaning up. 229 00:10:38,120 --> 00:10:41,440 Speaker 2: Have any speeches or any winds touched your heart? 230 00:10:42,440 --> 00:10:45,640 Speaker 3: What I didn't see? I mean, I'm so glad for Quinta. 231 00:10:45,720 --> 00:10:48,959 Speaker 3: Quinta is really like slang. I love that, and I 232 00:10:49,000 --> 00:10:50,880 Speaker 3: love because you know, I remember Quinta from Oh he 233 00:10:50,960 --> 00:10:52,360 Speaker 3: got money from her? 234 00:10:52,440 --> 00:10:56,120 Speaker 1: Ye, like what I can get on my popcorn got 235 00:10:57,520 --> 00:10:58,480 Speaker 1: I remember her from that? 236 00:10:58,640 --> 00:11:00,080 Speaker 3: So she I just love to see this for he 237 00:11:00,520 --> 00:11:03,840 Speaker 3: of course, who does not love the incomparable Cherylie Rolf 238 00:11:03,880 --> 00:11:05,000 Speaker 3: because she's fabulous. 239 00:11:05,120 --> 00:11:07,880 Speaker 2: Yes, I was sad she didn't win the Golden Globe 240 00:11:07,880 --> 00:11:10,800 Speaker 2: because we didn't get a shiry Lee Ralph's speech, but 241 00:11:10,840 --> 00:11:15,240 Speaker 2: then she won something else, like it was Critics Choice Award. Yes, 242 00:11:15,520 --> 00:11:17,600 Speaker 2: have you seen that clip that's going viral. 243 00:11:17,840 --> 00:11:19,240 Speaker 1: With the one about that Kim Kardashian. 244 00:11:20,360 --> 00:11:22,880 Speaker 2: No, oh that one too, but no that was Golden Globes. 245 00:11:22,920 --> 00:11:24,680 Speaker 2: No this one. She's like giving the speech and she's like, 246 00:11:24,720 --> 00:11:26,600 Speaker 2: it doesn't matter what anyone thinks about you. We should 247 00:11:26,600 --> 00:11:27,880 Speaker 2: just play a clip because I'm not going to do 248 00:11:27,920 --> 00:11:31,000 Speaker 2: her justice at all. But basically, it's like, you better 249 00:11:31,040 --> 00:11:32,680 Speaker 2: love what you see in the mirror. It doesn't matter 250 00:11:32,679 --> 00:11:35,480 Speaker 2: when anyone else you know thinks about you. Is really moving. 251 00:11:36,120 --> 00:11:38,680 Speaker 3: Yes, No, I love that, honestly, I just I'm just 252 00:11:38,720 --> 00:11:41,800 Speaker 3: really I just love to see that people are getting 253 00:11:42,559 --> 00:11:45,880 Speaker 3: you know, that people are getting appreciated while they're still here, 254 00:11:46,000 --> 00:11:46,560 Speaker 3: you know what I mean. 255 00:11:47,000 --> 00:11:48,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, And so I just love to see that. 256 00:11:48,360 --> 00:11:50,320 Speaker 3: I mean, I mean because Charlie, she says she's been 257 00:11:50,320 --> 00:11:53,800 Speaker 3: an icon, I mean, from Dreamgirls to I think she 258 00:11:53,880 --> 00:11:58,000 Speaker 3: woned like miss Jamaica Toshau's mama. 259 00:11:58,760 --> 00:12:02,120 Speaker 1: She'd been out here. Yeah, so she ain't new to this, 260 00:12:02,160 --> 00:12:02,840 Speaker 1: She's true to this. 261 00:12:02,880 --> 00:12:05,440 Speaker 3: So it's nice for the bigger I mean, the black 262 00:12:05,440 --> 00:12:08,280 Speaker 3: girl we knew we were like girl, not not Ryl. 263 00:12:08,920 --> 00:12:11,280 Speaker 1: Right, but you know, sorry miss Lee Ralph because you 264 00:12:11,280 --> 00:12:12,640 Speaker 1: know you're grown. But you know what I mean. But 265 00:12:12,679 --> 00:12:15,400 Speaker 1: I love when people kind of get a chance. 266 00:12:15,200 --> 00:12:18,240 Speaker 2: To cross over and become household names. 267 00:12:18,320 --> 00:12:19,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what I mean. 268 00:12:19,120 --> 00:12:21,000 Speaker 3: That's what you're wanting, you know what I mean, Because 269 00:12:21,000 --> 00:12:22,960 Speaker 3: not everybody's wanting that, you know, but that's what you're wanting. 270 00:12:23,000 --> 00:12:25,000 Speaker 3: And so I'm loving that she's getting kind of like 271 00:12:25,040 --> 00:12:27,360 Speaker 3: this turn to be seen and appreciated. 272 00:12:27,440 --> 00:12:29,920 Speaker 2: So I love that, and the girls are loving what's 273 00:12:29,920 --> 00:12:32,319 Speaker 2: his face? What's this? Tyler? James Williams the guy who 274 00:12:32,320 --> 00:12:34,199 Speaker 2: plays mister m As. 275 00:12:34,480 --> 00:12:35,199 Speaker 1: Do you like Abbat? 276 00:12:35,320 --> 00:12:35,720 Speaker 2: I love it. 277 00:12:35,800 --> 00:12:39,560 Speaker 3: You know I don't watch TV, so wait, I know 278 00:12:40,480 --> 00:12:42,000 Speaker 3: you know what. You don't even shame me, but on 279 00:12:42,120 --> 00:12:43,920 Speaker 3: stream I know. 280 00:12:44,080 --> 00:12:45,720 Speaker 2: I don't read books. 281 00:12:46,000 --> 00:12:48,080 Speaker 1: No, I just I've been doing a lot of walking. 282 00:12:48,320 --> 00:12:49,559 Speaker 3: I just because I got out of the habit of 283 00:12:49,600 --> 00:12:52,440 Speaker 3: watching TV when I started the Budgeonessa because who had time. 284 00:12:52,720 --> 00:12:54,480 Speaker 3: And then it's hard for me to get back in 285 00:12:54,480 --> 00:12:57,400 Speaker 3: the happen because I get so bored so easily. So 286 00:12:57,440 --> 00:12:59,320 Speaker 3: I watch the little clips here and there, so like, 287 00:12:59,360 --> 00:13:01,320 Speaker 3: don't shame me, and I'm actually like act tonight, I 288 00:13:01,360 --> 00:13:03,439 Speaker 3: told myself, I'm taking myself out on a date, me, 289 00:13:03,559 --> 00:13:05,440 Speaker 3: myself and I, the three of us, and we're gonna 290 00:13:05,440 --> 00:13:06,640 Speaker 3: go see Black Panther. 291 00:13:06,720 --> 00:13:08,880 Speaker 1: I haven't seen it. Don't get nobody either. 292 00:13:10,760 --> 00:13:13,559 Speaker 2: No, no, I haven't because me like a pole babysitter 293 00:13:13,600 --> 00:13:15,720 Speaker 2: to see it, and then the times are always so 294 00:13:15,880 --> 00:13:19,520 Speaker 2: inconvenient for babysitter hours. Yeah, no, I'm I'm gonna go. 295 00:13:19,520 --> 00:13:21,600 Speaker 2: I'm waiting for it to come on streaming. I gave up. 296 00:13:21,640 --> 00:13:23,840 Speaker 3: I said I was gonna but I said, you know what, Tiffany, 297 00:13:24,240 --> 00:13:26,320 Speaker 3: go outside, girl. 298 00:13:26,960 --> 00:13:28,600 Speaker 1: I said, Glass slide. I said, you know what, I'm 299 00:13:28,600 --> 00:13:28,880 Speaker 1: gonna go. 300 00:13:28,880 --> 00:13:30,920 Speaker 3: I'm gonna actually gonna treat myself to one of the 301 00:13:30,960 --> 00:13:33,640 Speaker 3: dining theaters. Girl were gonna be fancy in the WHOA 302 00:13:34,559 --> 00:13:36,599 Speaker 3: love those girls. So have you seen me out on 303 00:13:36,640 --> 00:13:39,800 Speaker 3: about and You're like, ooh, she with other people? It's 304 00:13:39,880 --> 00:13:43,200 Speaker 3: myself and I. 305 00:13:41,920 --> 00:13:43,920 Speaker 2: Well, damn it. So I'm gonna have to cross off 306 00:13:44,000 --> 00:13:48,040 Speaker 2: below deck discussion from my list of buzzworthy because I've 307 00:13:48,040 --> 00:13:50,720 Speaker 2: been obsessed with below deck, y'all, it's so messy and delicious. 308 00:13:53,160 --> 00:13:55,719 Speaker 2: All right, Uh an employee and employment news. Well, one 309 00:13:55,720 --> 00:13:57,680 Speaker 2: thing I just wanted to like, I had a coaching session. 310 00:13:57,720 --> 00:14:00,640 Speaker 2: I sometimes this is off the record except for you 311 00:14:00,679 --> 00:14:03,680 Speaker 2: guys when women are let go from their jobs. And like, 312 00:14:03,720 --> 00:14:05,520 Speaker 2: if I've ever given you a coaching session, if you 313 00:14:05,520 --> 00:14:07,480 Speaker 2: reach out to me, I'm probably going to offer pro 314 00:14:07,520 --> 00:14:11,040 Speaker 2: bono coaching session if you've been let go. And so 315 00:14:11,080 --> 00:14:13,640 Speaker 2: I met this young woman earlier today and she had 316 00:14:13,640 --> 00:14:15,360 Speaker 2: been let go from a big tech company. I'm not 317 00:14:15,400 --> 00:14:17,520 Speaker 2: going to put her business out there, and like, you know, 318 00:14:17,640 --> 00:14:19,600 Speaker 2: thousands of people were let go from this tech company 319 00:14:20,200 --> 00:14:23,600 Speaker 2: and she was so down. I mean, obviously it's it 320 00:14:23,720 --> 00:14:26,560 Speaker 2: sucks because these layups have been happening, you know, right 321 00:14:26,560 --> 00:14:30,800 Speaker 2: around the holidays, and it really broke my heart because 322 00:14:31,320 --> 00:14:34,560 Speaker 2: she's the second, no, the third woman who I've met 323 00:14:34,640 --> 00:14:36,560 Speaker 2: who was let go the same year that they made 324 00:14:36,600 --> 00:14:39,640 Speaker 2: the change to that new job. And the sense of like, 325 00:14:40,080 --> 00:14:42,520 Speaker 2: when it's hard enough to take a career risk, right, 326 00:14:42,560 --> 00:14:44,760 Speaker 2: and to move new to move new jobs and all 327 00:14:44,800 --> 00:14:49,040 Speaker 2: of that, and sometimes we forget like there's this element 328 00:14:49,080 --> 00:14:51,480 Speaker 2: of shame to being let go and then let and 329 00:14:51,520 --> 00:14:53,640 Speaker 2: then you have this fear that if people you used 330 00:14:53,640 --> 00:14:56,400 Speaker 2: to work with find out that they're going to have 331 00:14:56,560 --> 00:14:59,200 Speaker 2: like they're going to be judgmental about it, like, oh, 332 00:15:00,240 --> 00:15:02,280 Speaker 2: you were all, you know, cool because you got a 333 00:15:02,360 --> 00:15:05,920 Speaker 2: job at this big tech company. And to hear her, 334 00:15:06,440 --> 00:15:08,480 Speaker 2: I mean, she got she was getting emotional about it, 335 00:15:08,520 --> 00:15:10,960 Speaker 2: you know, because I was suggesting that she posts on 336 00:15:11,000 --> 00:15:14,320 Speaker 2: LinkedIn and announces that she's open to work and all 337 00:15:14,360 --> 00:15:16,680 Speaker 2: of that, but there was this like she really didn't 338 00:15:16,720 --> 00:15:19,920 Speaker 2: want to do it, and she's just in the thick 339 00:15:20,080 --> 00:15:23,000 Speaker 2: of that job search. And so it just reminded me 340 00:15:23,040 --> 00:15:26,520 Speaker 2: that all these statistics about like layoffs and even though 341 00:15:26,520 --> 00:15:30,000 Speaker 2: the job market is still strong, there are people suffering 342 00:15:30,000 --> 00:15:32,920 Speaker 2: from like long term unemployment and long term job searching 343 00:15:32,920 --> 00:15:36,680 Speaker 2: out there, and so I just want to like acknowledge 344 00:15:36,680 --> 00:15:39,360 Speaker 2: that and say, you know, if you're feeling shame about it, 345 00:15:40,040 --> 00:15:43,240 Speaker 2: I really hope that you can be compassionate for yourself. 346 00:15:44,280 --> 00:15:47,120 Speaker 2: You're so not alone, and I feel like there's so 347 00:15:47,200 --> 00:15:48,640 Speaker 2: much I was trying to tell her. There's more to 348 00:15:48,640 --> 00:15:51,160 Speaker 2: be gained by telling that story and sharing it, I 349 00:15:51,200 --> 00:15:55,240 Speaker 2: believe than any potential downside of maybe someone passing a 350 00:15:55,320 --> 00:16:00,000 Speaker 2: judgmental you know, thought about you, Because I feel like, 351 00:16:00,040 --> 00:16:01,800 Speaker 2: if you don't share it or talk about it sometimes, 352 00:16:01,840 --> 00:16:03,880 Speaker 2: how do you then open yourself up to the help 353 00:16:04,920 --> 00:16:08,320 Speaker 2: and support of other people. So that was on my 354 00:16:09,520 --> 00:16:10,200 Speaker 2: spirit today. 355 00:16:11,440 --> 00:16:12,800 Speaker 1: Maybe I could just save in lives. 356 00:16:14,040 --> 00:16:15,320 Speaker 2: I don't know if I saved your life in half 357 00:16:15,360 --> 00:16:17,440 Speaker 2: an hour, but I made her you know what I mean. 358 00:16:17,800 --> 00:16:20,600 Speaker 3: Like there's just like sometimes you just need that person 359 00:16:20,640 --> 00:16:22,360 Speaker 3: to like, you know, pour into you, encourage you. 360 00:16:22,400 --> 00:16:23,600 Speaker 1: And so I love that you did. 361 00:16:23,440 --> 00:16:26,280 Speaker 2: That for her. Yeah. Please, I mean I'm coming from 362 00:16:26,280 --> 00:16:28,760 Speaker 2: the person who quit a job, didn't take a job, 363 00:16:28,880 --> 00:16:30,840 Speaker 2: came back six months later begging for the same job, 364 00:16:30,960 --> 00:16:33,240 Speaker 2: got the job, got a new job, and quit a 365 00:16:33,280 --> 00:16:35,400 Speaker 2: month later, and then got laid off from that job 366 00:16:35,400 --> 00:16:36,840 Speaker 2: that she quit for. That's my story. 367 00:16:36,920 --> 00:16:37,320 Speaker 1: Okay. 368 00:16:37,520 --> 00:16:39,840 Speaker 2: I know, don't talk to like. I've been there, I've 369 00:16:39,920 --> 00:16:42,520 Speaker 2: taken their risks, I've fallen on my ass and I'm like, 370 00:16:42,600 --> 00:16:46,920 Speaker 2: it's okay, you know, it's okay, all right. And our 371 00:16:47,040 --> 00:16:50,120 Speaker 2: last little news nugget is that if you heard you 372 00:16:50,120 --> 00:16:52,000 Speaker 2: know what non competes are, you probably do because you 373 00:16:52,000 --> 00:16:55,200 Speaker 2: probably have. Yeah, we so the fts Yeah, and like 374 00:16:55,440 --> 00:16:57,920 Speaker 2: non competes for employees, they can really stop you from 375 00:16:58,280 --> 00:17:01,000 Speaker 2: being able to work for other big places or like, 376 00:17:01,040 --> 00:17:04,600 Speaker 2: you know, navigate your career strategically because your company may 377 00:17:04,600 --> 00:17:06,560 Speaker 2: have a non compete saying you can't work for any 378 00:17:06,600 --> 00:17:09,600 Speaker 2: other fer months like ours, and if you do, you know, 379 00:17:09,640 --> 00:17:12,639 Speaker 2: really specific work that could limit your opportunities. So the 380 00:17:12,760 --> 00:17:16,200 Speaker 2: FTC good news. The FTC is like pushing to ban 381 00:17:16,840 --> 00:17:20,680 Speaker 2: non competes and employers are losing their damn minds. 382 00:17:21,119 --> 00:17:22,280 Speaker 1: Well here's my take. 383 00:17:22,400 --> 00:17:24,720 Speaker 3: I mean, I can see like not if you're not 384 00:17:24,760 --> 00:17:28,160 Speaker 3: working for me anymore, okay, but I don't want someone 385 00:17:28,160 --> 00:17:30,680 Speaker 3: who is simultaneously because sometimes people have side hustles, which 386 00:17:30,680 --> 00:17:34,840 Speaker 3: I encourage, but don't side hustle with. Like, although I'm 387 00:17:34,840 --> 00:17:36,159 Speaker 3: not gonna say I have a competitor or whatever, you 388 00:17:36,240 --> 00:17:38,119 Speaker 3: know what I mean? So because that's not really but 389 00:17:38,200 --> 00:17:39,280 Speaker 3: do you know what I mean? Because there a definitely 390 00:17:39,320 --> 00:17:42,560 Speaker 3: some point where I'm just like, yeah, yeah, I wouldn't 391 00:17:42,600 --> 00:17:47,160 Speaker 3: want someone working with me and then also working with 392 00:17:47,560 --> 00:17:49,879 Speaker 3: someone you know what, that's actually true. For example, Tracy, 393 00:17:50,160 --> 00:17:52,800 Speaker 3: my publicays, came to me and said, Hey, Tiffany, I've 394 00:17:52,840 --> 00:17:56,080 Speaker 3: got this potential client. She reached out to me, wants 395 00:17:56,119 --> 00:17:59,240 Speaker 3: to work with me. But she asked, would this compete 396 00:17:59,280 --> 00:18:02,199 Speaker 3: with your client the bunch of Nista, And I was like, 397 00:18:02,280 --> 00:18:05,040 Speaker 3: probably not because she's Tracy has worked with other financial 398 00:18:05,080 --> 00:18:07,520 Speaker 3: brands before. But then when she described a woman, I 399 00:18:07,560 --> 00:18:11,280 Speaker 3: was like, actually that is what I do, you know, 400 00:18:11,440 --> 00:18:14,560 Speaker 3: because for example, she's worked with people who only talk 401 00:18:14,600 --> 00:18:18,280 Speaker 3: about investing. No problem because I might cover it lightly, 402 00:18:18,320 --> 00:18:20,560 Speaker 3: but that's I'm not to invest Innista. You know, I'm 403 00:18:20,560 --> 00:18:21,960 Speaker 3: more of a if I'm going to be on TV 404 00:18:22,040 --> 00:18:23,720 Speaker 3: or whatever. As far as a poblicist is concerned, I'm 405 00:18:23,720 --> 00:18:25,959 Speaker 3: a generalist. People have me come on a little bit 406 00:18:25,960 --> 00:18:27,119 Speaker 3: of credit, a little bit of this, a little bit 407 00:18:27,160 --> 00:18:29,560 Speaker 3: of that, you know, And so if someone is highly 408 00:18:29,560 --> 00:18:32,160 Speaker 3: specialized in the thing, then no, that's not a compete, 409 00:18:32,200 --> 00:18:34,520 Speaker 3: even if it's personal finance, you know, or like let's 410 00:18:34,520 --> 00:18:38,760 Speaker 3: just say, for example, she worked with Tanya from Oh, 411 00:18:38,800 --> 00:18:41,120 Speaker 3: I forget what it was called before, but she has 412 00:18:41,160 --> 00:18:43,159 Speaker 3: like a kid's app, a kid's in money app. I 413 00:18:43,200 --> 00:18:45,360 Speaker 3: forget it was called something else before, but it has 414 00:18:45,400 --> 00:18:49,000 Speaker 3: a new name now. Anyway, Tanya Vancourt. She's got this 415 00:18:49,080 --> 00:18:51,800 Speaker 3: awesome app that helps kids like save money and put 416 00:18:51,840 --> 00:18:54,800 Speaker 3: money away whatever. So even though Tanya has financial education, 417 00:18:55,240 --> 00:18:59,320 Speaker 3: but it's a specific she's specifically for kids and the 418 00:18:59,359 --> 00:19:02,000 Speaker 3: specific app no problem. But like I said, this other 419 00:19:02,040 --> 00:19:04,159 Speaker 3: person was really kind of like a generalist. 420 00:19:04,200 --> 00:19:05,160 Speaker 1: And after when she. 421 00:19:05,160 --> 00:19:07,119 Speaker 3: Was describing it, because I told her, I said, you 422 00:19:07,119 --> 00:19:09,280 Speaker 3: have to think to yourself, if you're going to pitch her, 423 00:19:09,560 --> 00:19:11,920 Speaker 3: how are you pitching her. Is it for a specific 424 00:19:12,000 --> 00:19:14,960 Speaker 3: thing or is it for she can do what Tiffany 425 00:19:15,000 --> 00:19:17,119 Speaker 3: does basically? And so we both talked about it and 426 00:19:17,160 --> 00:19:18,560 Speaker 3: I was like, I'm glad that that woman, you know, 427 00:19:18,720 --> 00:19:20,840 Speaker 3: had to Wherewithal was like, think about it before we 428 00:19:20,880 --> 00:19:23,160 Speaker 3: move forward, and I was just like, oh yeah. 429 00:19:23,080 --> 00:19:26,400 Speaker 2: No, yeah to her credit, like she also would want 430 00:19:26,400 --> 00:19:28,800 Speaker 2: a publicist, you can focus on her pitching her, yes, 431 00:19:29,119 --> 00:19:31,200 Speaker 2: And Tracy, I mean not only is your publishers also 432 00:19:31,240 --> 00:19:33,199 Speaker 2: your sister. And I'm like, yes, she's gonna know that 433 00:19:33,240 --> 00:19:33,879 Speaker 2: it will be weird. 434 00:19:35,680 --> 00:19:38,200 Speaker 1: But try to say because I'm my pa says, people 435 00:19:38,320 --> 00:19:38,639 Speaker 1: just think that. 436 00:19:38,720 --> 00:19:42,240 Speaker 3: But I know, girl, whatever, but you know because because 437 00:19:42,240 --> 00:19:44,200 Speaker 3: she's you're right, because because here's the thing. If I'm 438 00:19:44,200 --> 00:19:47,920 Speaker 3: being honest, if she's going to pitch, you know who 439 00:19:48,320 --> 00:19:52,080 Speaker 3: who is she pitching? You know, like, if they're pitching 440 00:19:52,160 --> 00:19:54,720 Speaker 3: the both of us, you know, not to flex. But 441 00:19:54,760 --> 00:19:56,879 Speaker 3: I've been doing it longer, so today Sho's gonna be 442 00:19:56,880 --> 00:19:58,040 Speaker 3: like Tiffany, but he just had it a couple of 443 00:19:58,040 --> 00:20:00,600 Speaker 3: weeks ago. Yeah, Tiffany, you know, to me, it wouldn't 444 00:20:00,600 --> 00:20:03,360 Speaker 3: actually be fair to her because if she's going to pitch, 445 00:20:03,400 --> 00:20:05,399 Speaker 3: you know, so yeah, so I just thought that that 446 00:20:05,520 --> 00:20:08,359 Speaker 3: was really you know, like that, I like, I mean, 447 00:20:08,680 --> 00:20:11,040 Speaker 3: I'm not opposed to non compete. If it's like you 448 00:20:11,119 --> 00:20:13,879 Speaker 3: are currently working with me, I don't think that you 449 00:20:13,920 --> 00:20:16,320 Speaker 3: should be working with someone who does exact same thing. 450 00:20:16,560 --> 00:20:19,560 Speaker 3: But if you're not currently working with me, then you know, like, girl, 451 00:20:19,680 --> 00:20:20,560 Speaker 3: that's your business, you. 452 00:20:20,560 --> 00:20:24,199 Speaker 2: Know, right, But it's about that like trade secret. I mean, 453 00:20:24,240 --> 00:20:26,439 Speaker 2: how can you stop people from sharing what they learned 454 00:20:26,520 --> 00:20:30,680 Speaker 2: at a Facebook with a snapchat, you know, if they can't. Yeah, 455 00:20:30,960 --> 00:20:33,119 Speaker 2: so it's all that. So I just I was like, 456 00:20:33,280 --> 00:20:36,120 Speaker 2: I wonder, I wonder what because that's like the golden 457 00:20:36,160 --> 00:20:37,760 Speaker 2: handcuffs a little bit. That's why they give you like 458 00:20:37,840 --> 00:20:40,480 Speaker 2: sweet equity and stuff. And then they have the non compete, 459 00:20:40,480 --> 00:20:42,119 Speaker 2: which is like this like carrot and the stick a 460 00:20:42,160 --> 00:20:44,360 Speaker 2: little bit. That's the stick, like if you leave us, 461 00:20:45,160 --> 00:20:46,800 Speaker 2: we're going to come for you. And you have seen 462 00:20:46,840 --> 00:20:50,240 Speaker 2: people get sued, you know, and lost their jobs because 463 00:20:50,240 --> 00:20:51,760 Speaker 2: they got a new job. And then they're like, oh, 464 00:20:51,800 --> 00:20:54,720 Speaker 2: we don't want to go against that big corporation. Yeah, 465 00:20:54,960 --> 00:20:55,760 Speaker 2: you know, it's a fine for you. 466 00:20:56,680 --> 00:20:58,520 Speaker 3: I think there should be some moderation with it because 467 00:20:58,560 --> 00:21:00,720 Speaker 3: I can understand as a company, you know, because I 468 00:21:00,760 --> 00:21:02,240 Speaker 3: mean I had somebody on my team that was doing 469 00:21:02,320 --> 00:21:04,920 Speaker 3: that secretly working for like someone who did the exact 470 00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:07,879 Speaker 3: same thing and feeding them everything we were doing. What 471 00:21:08,040 --> 00:21:12,600 Speaker 3: she didn't know is sauce sold separately, so you know, 472 00:21:12,680 --> 00:21:14,800 Speaker 3: because honest see, the sauce is sold separately. So when 473 00:21:14,840 --> 00:21:17,040 Speaker 3: I found out, I let them go, and I was like, well, 474 00:21:17,080 --> 00:21:18,960 Speaker 3: that's not cool. But when I saw how I was 475 00:21:19,000 --> 00:21:22,080 Speaker 3: looking on the new person. I was like, well, that's 476 00:21:22,280 --> 00:21:22,520 Speaker 3: that's what. 477 00:21:22,640 --> 00:21:23,040 Speaker 2: She gave you. 478 00:21:23,400 --> 00:21:25,760 Speaker 1: Okay, girl, it's not looking the same. 479 00:21:25,920 --> 00:21:29,400 Speaker 3: Sen it's because it's a different you know, it navigates 480 00:21:29,440 --> 00:21:31,960 Speaker 3: differently on other people. But I just didn't like that, 481 00:21:32,280 --> 00:21:35,480 Speaker 3: like you know, kind of like secret back backyard dealing, 482 00:21:35,880 --> 00:21:38,320 Speaker 3: you know, because we're literally sometimes we're working through things, 483 00:21:38,560 --> 00:21:41,320 Speaker 3: so you're you're, you know, you're bringing it to someone else. 484 00:21:41,320 --> 00:21:42,800 Speaker 1: I just was like, oh no, girl, you can't stay here. 485 00:21:42,880 --> 00:21:44,760 Speaker 1: So you know, I definitely have seen it both ways, so. 486 00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:50,200 Speaker 2: You're the sauce, just to be clear. So so all right, 487 00:21:50,280 --> 00:21:53,120 Speaker 2: well that's it for the brown buzz probably wait ba 488 00:21:53,280 --> 00:21:54,440 Speaker 2: buzz the ba buzz. 489 00:21:54,440 --> 00:21:54,720 Speaker 1: I love that? 490 00:21:55,040 --> 00:21:57,480 Speaker 2: Really getting back to my uh set, my twelve year 491 00:21:57,480 --> 00:22:01,560 Speaker 2: old run the school paper roots here. Oh god, all right, 492 00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:03,200 Speaker 2: let's take a quick break and come back with Brown 493 00:22:03,200 --> 00:22:03,840 Speaker 2: Boosts Brown. 494 00:22:03,760 --> 00:22:11,240 Speaker 3: Break and We're Bad and We're Black fun for Boost 495 00:22:11,280 --> 00:22:12,200 Speaker 3: to Break, the Boost to Break. 496 00:22:12,280 --> 00:22:15,840 Speaker 1: Okay, Oh I forgot, Oh I forgot the song already. 497 00:22:16,640 --> 00:22:18,600 Speaker 3: I thought you were bringing us into a new year 498 00:22:18,720 --> 00:22:21,080 Speaker 3: with a new beat. Girl, I forgot the song the 499 00:22:21,480 --> 00:22:23,119 Speaker 3: are we gonna boost? I was talking about are we 500 00:22:23,240 --> 00:22:24,119 Speaker 3: gonna break? Right? 501 00:22:24,200 --> 00:22:28,400 Speaker 1: Look at me? My bootstop, break up, boost stop break 502 00:22:28,680 --> 00:22:31,680 Speaker 1: Are we going to boost? Are we going to break? 503 00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:33,080 Speaker 2: Which? 504 00:22:33,640 --> 00:22:36,680 Speaker 1: Which are you gonna take? I don't remember anyway, you 505 00:22:36,800 --> 00:22:40,800 Speaker 1: know we boosting, we break in. You want to go first? Second? Manager? 506 00:22:40,840 --> 00:22:41,479 Speaker 1: How are you feeling? 507 00:22:41,800 --> 00:22:43,600 Speaker 2: I want you to go first? But I got my boost? 508 00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:45,239 Speaker 1: Okay, I have a boost too. 509 00:22:45,880 --> 00:22:48,280 Speaker 3: So one of the things we did in Kenya that 510 00:22:48,480 --> 00:22:51,240 Speaker 3: was so transformative for me, because the whole trip was 511 00:22:51,240 --> 00:22:53,560 Speaker 3: amazing is that we did a service project at this 512 00:22:53,640 --> 00:22:55,320 Speaker 3: place called Wings, Wings for Hope. 513 00:22:55,400 --> 00:22:58,000 Speaker 1: I think that's what it's called, Yes, Wings for Hope, 514 00:22:58,000 --> 00:22:58,560 Speaker 1: And it was a. 515 00:23:00,400 --> 00:23:03,280 Speaker 3: A shelter of some sort, but like a compound, because 516 00:23:03,359 --> 00:23:05,960 Speaker 3: like a series of buildings for young teen moms. 517 00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:07,480 Speaker 1: Some of the girls were as young as twelve years 518 00:23:07,520 --> 00:23:08,159 Speaker 1: old and pregnant. 519 00:23:09,680 --> 00:23:12,000 Speaker 3: You know, all of them obviously had been taken care of, 520 00:23:12,119 --> 00:23:15,760 Speaker 3: taken advantage of, because you know, you can't be twelve 521 00:23:15,760 --> 00:23:18,080 Speaker 3: and consenting to whom, you know, But honestly, most of 522 00:23:18,119 --> 00:23:19,719 Speaker 3: them had been oh well, all of them had been 523 00:23:19,800 --> 00:23:22,479 Speaker 3: kind of disowned or thrown away by their family as 524 00:23:22,520 --> 00:23:25,000 Speaker 3: a result of the pregnancy. And some of them were 525 00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:27,960 Speaker 3: even you know, taking advantage of. And this is just 526 00:23:28,400 --> 00:23:30,040 Speaker 3: I mean, if you might want to fast forward if 527 00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:31,719 Speaker 3: this is going to be triggering. I should have had 528 00:23:31,720 --> 00:23:35,119 Speaker 3: a trigger warning, but had been taking advantage of by 529 00:23:35,119 --> 00:23:36,920 Speaker 3: their own fathers and were carrying their father's babies. 530 00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:39,159 Speaker 1: It was really heavy, and. 531 00:23:39,240 --> 00:23:42,720 Speaker 3: I was just like, I mean, you know, eleven, twelve, thirty, 532 00:23:42,880 --> 00:23:44,639 Speaker 3: I just and so. 533 00:23:46,160 --> 00:23:47,440 Speaker 1: When I was there, I mean, we were. 534 00:23:47,400 --> 00:23:51,960 Speaker 3: All fighting tears because it just was so heavy. And 535 00:23:52,080 --> 00:23:55,119 Speaker 3: the angels that run It's a husband and wife they 536 00:23:55,200 --> 00:23:57,760 Speaker 3: met while kind of doing the work. The wife was 537 00:23:57,800 --> 00:24:00,600 Speaker 3: a nurse, and she said that baby would come into 538 00:24:00,600 --> 00:24:04,439 Speaker 3: the hospital that had been found thrown away in trash bags, 539 00:24:04,640 --> 00:24:08,680 Speaker 3: hidden in bushes. Yeah, and she was like, where are yes, 540 00:24:08,960 --> 00:24:11,720 Speaker 3: I'm sorry, Mandy, yes, and she just was like, where's okay? 541 00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:14,479 Speaker 3: But where are these babies coming from? And so as 542 00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:17,040 Speaker 3: they started to like the husband was volunteering at the hospital. 543 00:24:17,560 --> 00:24:18,800 Speaker 3: It was at the time it was just a guy, 544 00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:20,600 Speaker 3: you know, like volunteer at the hospital. 545 00:24:21,000 --> 00:24:21,280 Speaker 2: And she. 546 00:24:22,920 --> 00:24:25,119 Speaker 3: After doing more research, she found out that it was 547 00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:28,080 Speaker 3: these t young teen girls that were doing this, that 548 00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:29,879 Speaker 3: the large variority of these babies that were coming to 549 00:24:29,960 --> 00:24:31,640 Speaker 3: the hospital were as a result of these young young 550 00:24:31,680 --> 00:24:33,000 Speaker 3: girls who were like I don't know what to do. 551 00:24:33,480 --> 00:24:35,399 Speaker 1: I'm twelve, so. 552 00:24:35,480 --> 00:24:38,800 Speaker 3: She said, which I think is so beautiful. How do 553 00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:41,800 Speaker 3: we solve the issue. It's not just like taking care 554 00:24:41,840 --> 00:24:43,560 Speaker 3: of the baby that when it gets here, can we 555 00:24:43,640 --> 00:24:46,720 Speaker 3: take care of that girl? And so they created this 556 00:24:47,000 --> 00:24:50,000 Speaker 3: beautiful place for the girls, Wings for Hope, where you know, 557 00:24:50,080 --> 00:24:51,480 Speaker 3: when they find out a girl's been kind of like 558 00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:53,399 Speaker 3: thrown out of her family as a result, you know, 559 00:24:53,560 --> 00:24:55,200 Speaker 3: as much as they can, they take them in here 560 00:24:55,240 --> 00:24:58,719 Speaker 3: and then look after them, give them food, shelter, they 561 00:24:58,800 --> 00:25:02,280 Speaker 3: get therapy, they get you know, education, they pay for school, 562 00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:04,359 Speaker 3: they do all these things and based upon all like 563 00:25:04,520 --> 00:25:07,119 Speaker 3: donations and things. And so one of the reasons why 564 00:25:07,160 --> 00:25:09,880 Speaker 3: I said Kenya was restorative is because before I left, 565 00:25:09,920 --> 00:25:12,000 Speaker 3: like I said, I was drowning in the grief. And 566 00:25:12,800 --> 00:25:17,320 Speaker 3: this going here like reminded me a lesson that doctor Green, 567 00:25:17,440 --> 00:25:21,000 Speaker 3: my amazing black therapist, told me a few months after 568 00:25:21,080 --> 00:25:22,960 Speaker 3: Drill passed away. And because I kept saying, this is 569 00:25:23,040 --> 00:25:25,320 Speaker 3: the worst thing that could have ever happened, this is 570 00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:27,439 Speaker 3: the worst thing that could have ever happened, And then 571 00:25:27,480 --> 00:25:28,639 Speaker 3: one day she said, is it. 572 00:25:28,760 --> 00:25:29,280 Speaker 1: The worst thing? 573 00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:31,920 Speaker 3: Tiffany and I wanted to jump through the zoom and 574 00:25:32,080 --> 00:25:33,520 Speaker 3: rock and sock with her, cause I was like, what 575 00:25:33,600 --> 00:25:36,440 Speaker 3: are you talking about? Of course it is, you know, 576 00:25:37,720 --> 00:25:40,320 Speaker 3: you know, and so because what she was saying, your 577 00:25:40,320 --> 00:25:42,439 Speaker 3: parents are still here, your sisters in Roman and Amelia 578 00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:45,200 Speaker 3: and Lily, and but at the time I was like, 579 00:25:45,280 --> 00:25:46,600 Speaker 3: and am I trying to hear all that it is 580 00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:47,200 Speaker 3: the worst thing? 581 00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:48,359 Speaker 4: And so. 582 00:25:49,840 --> 00:25:54,200 Speaker 3: But this sitting in this compound, you know, with the 583 00:25:54,320 --> 00:25:57,520 Speaker 3: girls and this amazing husband and wife team, It's like 584 00:25:58,119 --> 00:26:01,399 Speaker 3: there was a huge prospective shift and it wasn't trauma 585 00:26:01,480 --> 00:26:06,359 Speaker 3: comparison that instead it opened up for me to see 586 00:26:06,400 --> 00:26:09,639 Speaker 3: that like is it the worst thing that could have 587 00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:12,960 Speaker 3: happened to you, Tiffany, Meaning like is it just grief 588 00:26:13,400 --> 00:26:15,399 Speaker 3: that you're experiencing in your life or is there so 589 00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:16,480 Speaker 3: many things to be grateful for? 590 00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:17,879 Speaker 1: You know? 591 00:26:18,119 --> 00:26:20,000 Speaker 3: And it was literally like a line in the sand 592 00:26:20,040 --> 00:26:23,680 Speaker 3: of the before Tiffany and the after Tiffany. And I 593 00:26:23,760 --> 00:26:25,960 Speaker 3: said to myself like I was talking to doctor Green 594 00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:27,399 Speaker 3: about it, like, you know, and she was like, you know, 595 00:26:28,040 --> 00:26:30,520 Speaker 3: you know, it was a transformation for you because you 596 00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:35,240 Speaker 3: got to feel simultaneously or your grief but also acknowledge 597 00:26:35,320 --> 00:26:38,159 Speaker 3: the other grief of the people in that room alongside 598 00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:40,560 Speaker 3: of you. Without detracting or adding to the grief that 599 00:26:40,640 --> 00:26:43,000 Speaker 3: you're holding. And then on the third part, I was like, 600 00:26:43,200 --> 00:26:45,440 Speaker 3: what can we do to help? And so one of 601 00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:47,840 Speaker 3: the best ways for anyone to kind of get out 602 00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:50,159 Speaker 3: of the situation is always education. And so we were 603 00:26:50,200 --> 00:26:51,760 Speaker 3: asking them, like, you know, how much does it cost 604 00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:54,200 Speaker 3: for like a year to like, you know, there's about 605 00:26:54,240 --> 00:26:57,520 Speaker 3: maybe twenty twenty five girls there, because in Africa in 606 00:26:57,600 --> 00:27:00,160 Speaker 3: many places, although school is free, you have to pay 607 00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:01,760 Speaker 3: a school fee to go to the next level. So 608 00:27:01,840 --> 00:27:04,199 Speaker 3: you take your exams in order to get those exam grades, 609 00:27:04,240 --> 00:27:06,200 Speaker 3: you have to pay a fee. And for all the girls, 610 00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:08,720 Speaker 3: like twenty twenty five girls, it's you know, there's a fee, 611 00:27:08,800 --> 00:27:10,800 Speaker 3: and so it's maybe like fifteen thousand dollars for the year. 612 00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:13,280 Speaker 3: And I said, okay, that I'm going to pay that, 613 00:27:13,960 --> 00:27:15,359 Speaker 3: and you know, maybe the year after and the year 614 00:27:15,359 --> 00:27:17,040 Speaker 3: after and in the year after. And so it was 615 00:27:17,119 --> 00:27:18,920 Speaker 3: like doctor Green was like, I don't think you realized 616 00:27:18,960 --> 00:27:22,040 Speaker 3: what you've unlocked in yourself, Tiffany. And then you can 617 00:27:22,240 --> 00:27:25,399 Speaker 3: acknowledge your grief, you can acknowledge that it's part of 618 00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:28,840 Speaker 3: a larger like grief that is in that room, and 619 00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:33,560 Speaker 3: then you can even from a place of your own sadness, 620 00:27:33,640 --> 00:27:35,320 Speaker 3: say I want to help with somebody else. 621 00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:37,119 Speaker 1: She was like, that's a huge transition. I hope you 622 00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:38,359 Speaker 1: recognize that. 623 00:27:38,520 --> 00:27:41,560 Speaker 3: And so it was just when I say so transformat 624 00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:43,760 Speaker 3: in it just felt like such a joy to be 625 00:27:43,800 --> 00:27:47,159 Speaker 3: able to do that. And so I just yeah, like, 626 00:27:47,320 --> 00:27:49,520 Speaker 3: I'm hoping that Wings for Hope will like start like 627 00:27:49,560 --> 00:27:51,440 Speaker 3: a because they're a nonprofit in Kenya. They're not based 628 00:27:51,480 --> 00:27:53,760 Speaker 3: in the United States, and hope they'll have like an 629 00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:55,760 Speaker 3: you know, like some sort of arm here so. 630 00:27:55,800 --> 00:27:56,960 Speaker 1: People can donate and give. 631 00:27:57,000 --> 00:27:59,480 Speaker 3: Because so I exchanged emails with the oldest girl there 632 00:27:59,600 --> 00:28:03,480 Speaker 3: him as say, she's in school in college New Alsara 633 00:28:03,600 --> 00:28:04,000 Speaker 3: is twenty. 634 00:28:04,280 --> 00:28:05,640 Speaker 1: She has a seven year old. 635 00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:10,800 Speaker 3: You know, and you know, but to see I could 636 00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:13,560 Speaker 3: see the joy in her, and she was sharing how 637 00:28:13,920 --> 00:28:15,439 Speaker 3: she tries to come back from school as much as 638 00:28:15,480 --> 00:28:17,080 Speaker 3: possible to help the younger ones because some of the 639 00:28:17,160 --> 00:28:20,440 Speaker 3: younger ones are having such a hard time, you know, 640 00:28:20,520 --> 00:28:22,720 Speaker 3: they have to stop them from harming their babies sometimes 641 00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:25,000 Speaker 3: because they don't know what's going on. And so she 642 00:28:25,640 --> 00:28:27,600 Speaker 3: but I could see the joy in her, I could 643 00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:30,040 Speaker 3: see how happy her son was. And I asked her, 644 00:28:30,080 --> 00:28:32,040 Speaker 3: because you know, sometimes you have these facilities and you're like, 645 00:28:32,119 --> 00:28:34,440 Speaker 3: is it really good, because sometimes it's more it's worse 646 00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:36,320 Speaker 3: than where they came from. And she was like, they 647 00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:39,560 Speaker 3: love us so well here, Tiffany, they love us so well. 648 00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:42,320 Speaker 3: I don't know what I would have done. And so yeah, 649 00:28:42,360 --> 00:28:45,240 Speaker 3: I'm just committed to like that type of service. You know. 650 00:28:45,640 --> 00:28:47,920 Speaker 3: I certainly I've lived my life in service and teaching 651 00:28:48,040 --> 00:28:50,280 Speaker 3: and even the BUNCHONISA does an active service and every 652 00:28:50,520 --> 00:28:52,800 Speaker 3: but this is more concrete for me, and so just 653 00:28:52,880 --> 00:28:56,120 Speaker 3: looking for opportunities to do this. It just yeah, So 654 00:28:56,240 --> 00:28:57,600 Speaker 3: that is I mean, I know, I hopefully it's not 655 00:28:57,640 --> 00:28:59,760 Speaker 3: a Debbie Dowter for y'all, but it just it up 656 00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:02,800 Speaker 3: did me so much to know that like I can 657 00:29:02,880 --> 00:29:06,040 Speaker 3: participate in like helping making these like because they look 658 00:29:06,120 --> 00:29:09,320 Speaker 3: like me, these they are us, these little black girls. 659 00:29:09,480 --> 00:29:13,760 Speaker 3: That's just me, just a different circumstance or situation. And 660 00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:17,520 Speaker 3: so so yeah, that is my brown boost wings for Hope. 661 00:29:17,680 --> 00:29:21,600 Speaker 3: Thank you so much for the amazing really just amazing 662 00:29:21,960 --> 00:29:23,920 Speaker 3: miracle work that you do with these beautiful girls. And 663 00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:25,440 Speaker 3: you know, in the ways I can help and I 664 00:29:25,640 --> 00:29:27,160 Speaker 3: find more ways that I'm sure you guys are like 665 00:29:27,200 --> 00:29:29,200 Speaker 3: I want to help. When I find more ways, I 666 00:29:29,320 --> 00:29:32,520 Speaker 3: will share them with you because I just think that, like, yeah, 667 00:29:32,560 --> 00:29:34,120 Speaker 3: because they want to have they want to be at capacity, 668 00:29:34,160 --> 00:29:35,840 Speaker 3: they want to be at sixty girls, but they can't 669 00:29:35,840 --> 00:29:38,120 Speaker 3: currently afford it. They don't even have enough beds. And 670 00:29:38,240 --> 00:29:39,880 Speaker 3: so we're all like kind of working together and figure 671 00:29:39,880 --> 00:29:41,760 Speaker 3: out what does that look like? How do we help 672 00:29:41,840 --> 00:29:45,320 Speaker 3: so more girls are not left in the dangerous situation. 673 00:29:45,080 --> 00:29:46,040 Speaker 1: They have a safe place to be. 674 00:29:47,120 --> 00:29:47,320 Speaker 3: Yeah. 675 00:29:47,320 --> 00:29:49,480 Speaker 2: I think it's also a beautiful message of when you travel, 676 00:29:49,640 --> 00:29:52,360 Speaker 2: just leaving a place better, like even a little bit better, 677 00:29:53,240 --> 00:29:55,800 Speaker 2: you know, than the way you found it. And even 678 00:29:55,840 --> 00:29:57,920 Speaker 2: that impulse for me is to cringe and to look 679 00:29:57,960 --> 00:29:59,800 Speaker 2: away from a story like that, but it doesn't stop 680 00:29:59,840 --> 00:30:01,960 Speaker 2: the story from being true and those girls needing help. 681 00:30:02,040 --> 00:30:04,800 Speaker 2: So I love hearing stories like that and the spin 682 00:30:04,960 --> 00:30:07,400 Speaker 2: is okay, it's a tragedy, but then what good can 683 00:30:07,440 --> 00:30:11,640 Speaker 2: come of it? And what can you do? That is beautiful? Yeah, 684 00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:13,360 Speaker 2: I got to put Kenny on the list for sure, 685 00:30:14,040 --> 00:30:17,280 Speaker 2: the huge list of where I need to go. All right, well, 686 00:30:17,360 --> 00:30:21,920 Speaker 2: I'll do a quick little I'll take my bigger boosts 687 00:30:21,920 --> 00:30:23,680 Speaker 2: and do my quick little one, my little backup boost 688 00:30:24,400 --> 00:30:27,680 Speaker 2: I wanted to. I read this article in Fortune just 689 00:30:27,760 --> 00:30:29,800 Speaker 2: today and I thought it was so powerful. It's called 690 00:30:29,840 --> 00:30:33,880 Speaker 2: the pandemic killed my Ambition and here's how I'm getting 691 00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:35,480 Speaker 2: it back. And I thought it was such a I 692 00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:37,320 Speaker 2: won't read the whole I'm gonna read the whole article, 693 00:30:37,440 --> 00:30:39,200 Speaker 2: but I love it because this is the kind of 694 00:30:39,240 --> 00:30:42,479 Speaker 2: conversation I'm having all the time with my BANDI money Makers, 695 00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:46,120 Speaker 2: about like redefining ambition on our own terms, and where 696 00:30:46,200 --> 00:30:48,840 Speaker 2: does the ambition like where can we embrace our ambition 697 00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:51,440 Speaker 2: and our want to learn more and always be growing 698 00:30:51,520 --> 00:30:54,520 Speaker 2: and you know, developing and all that, and where does 699 00:30:54,600 --> 00:30:57,520 Speaker 2: that fall with also wanting a softer life and not 700 00:30:57,720 --> 00:31:01,720 Speaker 2: wanting to grind ourselves into the dust. And I'm just 701 00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:03,920 Speaker 2: happy to see an article like this, And we'll post 702 00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:05,720 Speaker 2: a link in the show notes because I feel like 703 00:31:06,080 --> 00:31:07,720 Speaker 2: this is it. It's really up to us how we 704 00:31:07,840 --> 00:31:11,120 Speaker 2: define ambition. And I mean, for a show called Brown Ambition, 705 00:31:11,280 --> 00:31:13,840 Speaker 2: what I hope is we can define it in such 706 00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:15,680 Speaker 2: a way that it gives you time to reflect on 707 00:31:15,760 --> 00:31:18,000 Speaker 2: what it is that you're striving for and not just what, 708 00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:22,000 Speaker 2: but why, like the why behind why you're ambitious about 709 00:31:22,000 --> 00:31:24,520 Speaker 2: a certain opportunity or a certain you know, moving up 710 00:31:24,560 --> 00:31:27,080 Speaker 2: in a certain way, and just taking time to reflect 711 00:31:27,160 --> 00:31:31,120 Speaker 2: and personally, like, when I approach twenty twenty three, I 712 00:31:31,160 --> 00:31:33,200 Speaker 2: have these I do have these big goals for Mandy money, 713 00:31:33,200 --> 00:31:35,240 Speaker 2: and I feel this ticking clock of there's a baby 714 00:31:35,280 --> 00:31:36,960 Speaker 2: coming and I have to I got a lot of 715 00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:39,680 Speaker 2: shit to do before I go on maternity leave and 716 00:31:39,720 --> 00:31:43,120 Speaker 2: all that. But these first few weeks of the new year, 717 00:31:43,320 --> 00:31:46,680 Speaker 2: I have found myself just like really slowing down and 718 00:31:46,960 --> 00:31:51,080 Speaker 2: trying to think thoughtfully before just rushing into things, and 719 00:31:51,200 --> 00:31:53,080 Speaker 2: just trying to be intentional about what it is that 720 00:31:53,160 --> 00:31:58,040 Speaker 2: I'm doing instead of just going all in, burning myself out, 721 00:31:58,520 --> 00:32:00,840 Speaker 2: so that I can, like what skin across the finish 722 00:32:00,880 --> 00:32:04,000 Speaker 2: line into the labor and delivery room and be like, 723 00:32:04,800 --> 00:32:06,600 Speaker 2: you know, thank God to have a break, you know, 724 00:32:06,680 --> 00:32:09,080 Speaker 2: a free a freeze, not a free day at a hospital. 725 00:32:09,120 --> 00:32:10,200 Speaker 2: I don't want to be like that, you know, I 726 00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:12,880 Speaker 2: want to I want to have some energy left, you know, 727 00:32:13,080 --> 00:32:16,280 Speaker 2: for having two little ones at home. So I'll post 728 00:32:16,320 --> 00:32:18,240 Speaker 2: a link to that. But if you're struggling with that, 729 00:32:18,720 --> 00:32:20,320 Speaker 2: I feel like women are. If you're struggling with the 730 00:32:20,360 --> 00:32:23,120 Speaker 2: idea of how can I be ambitious but still want 731 00:32:23,160 --> 00:32:25,120 Speaker 2: that softer life. I think this is a great article 732 00:32:25,200 --> 00:32:27,760 Speaker 2: to read and then start like redefining that for yourself. 733 00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:28,640 Speaker 1: I love that. 734 00:32:28,840 --> 00:32:30,560 Speaker 3: I think I feel like that's the space I always say. 735 00:32:30,600 --> 00:32:33,640 Speaker 3: I was telling the girls that the and Kenya, like 736 00:32:33,720 --> 00:32:37,240 Speaker 3: the other Retreat members, I said, I'm in my shadd 737 00:32:37,360 --> 00:32:39,720 Speaker 3: era right about now, like I used to be in 738 00:32:39,760 --> 00:32:40,440 Speaker 3: my Beionce era. 739 00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:43,120 Speaker 1: So you don't Beyonce like her. I'm talking to Icon. 740 00:32:43,360 --> 00:32:46,360 Speaker 1: Whatever it takes, the grind, the work, you know, I'm like, 741 00:32:46,640 --> 00:32:48,680 Speaker 1: we off that for me anyway. Yeah, So I'm in 742 00:32:48,720 --> 00:32:49,480 Speaker 1: my shad Day era. 743 00:32:49,680 --> 00:32:51,720 Speaker 3: So if you know anything about shad Day, she literally 744 00:32:51,760 --> 00:32:54,320 Speaker 3: comes out with an album every seven to fifteen years. 745 00:32:55,440 --> 00:32:57,600 Speaker 3: Like she literally would be like, oh, here's a little something, 746 00:32:57,960 --> 00:33:00,160 Speaker 3: go back to your business, and then she will go 747 00:33:00,280 --> 00:33:02,160 Speaker 3: back to wherever she's living her best life. 748 00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:05,160 Speaker 1: Because Shade is sixty but skin glowing. 749 00:33:06,040 --> 00:33:08,400 Speaker 3: She just looks beautiful. She looks well rested, like she 750 00:33:08,520 --> 00:33:11,000 Speaker 3: minds her business and drinks water, you know. And so 751 00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:14,920 Speaker 3: I that's the space that I'm in now that I'm not. 752 00:33:15,560 --> 00:33:18,240 Speaker 3: I don't have the desire to be ambitious anymore in 753 00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:25,120 Speaker 3: the traditional sense, you know, because even though Shade is not, 754 00:33:25,960 --> 00:33:28,440 Speaker 3: like you know, out there doing all the interviews or whatever. 755 00:33:28,600 --> 00:33:32,160 Speaker 3: I suspect she's still making music for music's sake, you know, 756 00:33:32,440 --> 00:33:35,200 Speaker 3: meaning like I like, I'm so, I'm still I'm still 757 00:33:35,720 --> 00:33:39,000 Speaker 3: doing beautiful work, and you know, but I don't have 758 00:33:39,120 --> 00:33:43,760 Speaker 3: this necessity to be externally gratified by it anymore. I'm 759 00:33:43,840 --> 00:33:46,520 Speaker 3: just tired and I don't have the desire to go 760 00:33:46,760 --> 00:33:48,680 Speaker 3: as hard as I used to go. There's nothing wrong 761 00:33:48,760 --> 00:33:50,640 Speaker 3: with the Beyonce era because there's this place. There's a 762 00:33:50,680 --> 00:33:52,880 Speaker 3: reason why I can buy that condo cash. It's because 763 00:33:52,880 --> 00:33:55,000 Speaker 3: of my Beyonce era. So certainly I'm not going to 764 00:33:55,040 --> 00:33:57,360 Speaker 3: turn my nose up in somebody who is in that 765 00:33:57,520 --> 00:33:59,840 Speaker 3: space right now. But even Beyonce, and it ain't even 766 00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:05,160 Speaker 3: have Beonce era, you know, are the visuals. Girl, If 767 00:34:05,200 --> 00:34:06,800 Speaker 3: y'all to leave me alone, She says, I have fifty 768 00:34:06,800 --> 00:34:08,279 Speaker 3: eleven kids. You heard her in a song, I got 769 00:34:08,320 --> 00:34:09,320 Speaker 3: fifty eleven kids. 770 00:34:09,880 --> 00:34:10,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, you know. 771 00:34:10,800 --> 00:34:13,800 Speaker 3: So even Beyonce has taken down the Beyonce era. And 772 00:34:13,920 --> 00:34:17,080 Speaker 3: so because there are moments, you know, I think, then, yeah, 773 00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:19,120 Speaker 3: many of us make the mistake of staying one place 774 00:34:19,200 --> 00:34:22,320 Speaker 3: too long, and so like, yeah, so I love that. Honestly, 775 00:34:22,320 --> 00:34:24,160 Speaker 3: I can't wait to read that because I'm like, you know, 776 00:34:24,560 --> 00:34:26,200 Speaker 3: to redefine what ambition looks like. 777 00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:29,400 Speaker 2: All Right, we're going to keep that show called Brown Ambition, 778 00:34:29,520 --> 00:34:33,640 Speaker 2: but we're redefining it as we go. Okay, y'all, Oh 779 00:34:33,960 --> 00:34:35,960 Speaker 2: so good to be back with you, TIV, Happy New 780 00:34:36,040 --> 00:34:39,640 Speaker 2: Year everybody. Officially, yeah, we'll see y'all next week. We'll 781 00:34:39,640 --> 00:34:44,960 Speaker 2: see you Friday for BAQ and a bye bye hey 782 00:34:45,040 --> 00:34:47,200 Speaker 2: ba fam. We could not do this show without your 783 00:34:47,239 --> 00:34:50,080 Speaker 2: support or the support of our team behind the scenes. 784 00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:54,000 Speaker 2: The Brown Ambition podcast is produced by Cumulus Podcast Network. 785 00:34:54,120 --> 00:34:57,560 Speaker 2: It's edited by the wonderful Emani Crosby and produced by 786 00:34:57,640 --> 00:35:01,400 Speaker 2: Tanya Bustos. Dennis Taplinsky is our in house tech crew, 787 00:35:01,800 --> 00:35:04,480 Speaker 2: and I am Bandy Woindchard Santos your co host, and 788 00:35:04,680 --> 00:35:06,359 Speaker 2: I will see y'all next week.