1 00:00:03,520 --> 00:00:07,400 Speaker 1: Welcome to j dot Ill a production of I Heart Radio. 2 00:00:10,440 --> 00:00:12,080 Speaker 1: So it looks like it looks like it looks like 3 00:00:12,119 --> 00:00:16,079 Speaker 1: it looks like we've got somebody here. It is an 4 00:00:16,320 --> 00:00:20,320 Speaker 1: absolute pleasure to have her. But before we tell you 5 00:00:20,360 --> 00:00:23,400 Speaker 1: who it was, I would love for agent to tell 6 00:00:23,520 --> 00:00:28,240 Speaker 1: the story of why her son was in tears. Talk 7 00:00:28,320 --> 00:00:32,960 Speaker 1: to us. Okay, So I have an older son. He's twenty, 8 00:00:33,080 --> 00:00:35,040 Speaker 1: he'll be twenty three now, but at the time he 9 00:00:35,120 --> 00:00:37,199 Speaker 1: was in college. He was like maybe a freshman or 10 00:00:37,200 --> 00:00:39,680 Speaker 1: something like that. It's probably eighteen or nineteen years old. 11 00:00:39,960 --> 00:00:43,680 Speaker 1: And he was home from school and um, my daughter 12 00:00:43,800 --> 00:00:47,400 Speaker 1: have a twin. Um, she's a twin And at the time, 13 00:00:47,479 --> 00:00:52,839 Speaker 1: she was probably ten or eleven, and she came downstairs 14 00:00:52,840 --> 00:00:54,680 Speaker 1: and she said, my where is I killed. I said, well, 15 00:00:54,680 --> 00:00:57,960 Speaker 1: he's in the basement. But she looked like distraught, and 16 00:00:58,000 --> 00:00:59,840 Speaker 1: I'm like, so I followed her in the basement because 17 00:00:59,840 --> 00:01:02,000 Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm gonna find out why my baby is upset. 18 00:01:02,520 --> 00:01:04,560 Speaker 1: So I'm walking around being nosy, like what she about 19 00:01:04,560 --> 00:01:07,199 Speaker 1: to talk to him about? So she opens up the door. 20 00:01:07,280 --> 00:01:09,960 Speaker 1: He's in the office. She opens up the door and 21 00:01:10,120 --> 00:01:12,000 Speaker 1: she was like, he said, what's He was like you 22 00:01:12,000 --> 00:01:16,120 Speaker 1: know what's wrong, And she said, now, mind you. I 23 00:01:16,160 --> 00:01:20,920 Speaker 1: didn't know any what was going on. She says, I killed. 24 00:01:21,400 --> 00:01:26,160 Speaker 1: I just watched the last episode of Stephen Universe, and 25 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:30,840 Speaker 1: she just started bawling and she sat next to him 26 00:01:30,880 --> 00:01:33,800 Speaker 1: and they just hugged and cried. And I was like, 27 00:01:33,920 --> 00:01:38,759 Speaker 1: what are y'all watching? Like I'm in in a panic, 28 00:01:38,920 --> 00:01:43,880 Speaker 1: Like what has my children so emotional? And honestly, I 29 00:01:43,920 --> 00:01:46,679 Speaker 1: had never had no idea that he had been watching 30 00:01:46,720 --> 00:01:49,480 Speaker 1: it since it started airing, and that he was such 31 00:01:49,520 --> 00:01:51,680 Speaker 1: a big fan and had introduced the show to my 32 00:01:51,800 --> 00:01:55,080 Speaker 1: young to my daughter, and that she had been watched 33 00:01:55,080 --> 00:01:59,000 Speaker 1: the whole season and then was like distraught at the 34 00:01:59,120 --> 00:02:02,120 Speaker 1: very end of it. So that's what um started me 35 00:02:02,200 --> 00:02:05,840 Speaker 1: watching the show. And when I started watching the show, 36 00:02:06,040 --> 00:02:10,160 Speaker 1: and then I realized that our guest it's actually on 37 00:02:10,240 --> 00:02:13,040 Speaker 1: the show, and I started to listen to the voice, 38 00:02:13,120 --> 00:02:16,519 Speaker 1: and I'm like, I know who that is, And then 39 00:02:16,600 --> 00:02:19,440 Speaker 1: it just opened up a really wonderful conversation between me 40 00:02:19,480 --> 00:02:23,040 Speaker 1: and my baby, and I just will always and forever 41 00:02:23,840 --> 00:02:27,120 Speaker 1: remember that and just thank her for that. So please 42 00:02:27,160 --> 00:02:33,559 Speaker 1: introduce our guests. Jill Powerful impact boom from a cannon 43 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:38,440 Speaker 1: from Okay ladies and gentlemen where we're on with a 44 00:02:38,639 --> 00:02:42,440 Speaker 1: spell right now. This is this is a it's a 45 00:02:42,560 --> 00:02:51,480 Speaker 1: multiverse of a stell talking about Hi, Hi, you and 46 00:02:51,639 --> 00:02:53,799 Speaker 1: me out here in tears. I'm like, it's it's a 47 00:02:54,720 --> 00:02:59,239 Speaker 1: Hi fower girl, pleasey get your flowers because she leaves 48 00:02:59,280 --> 00:03:01,360 Speaker 1: get these flowers. As you know, she started as an 49 00:03:01,520 --> 00:03:03,919 Speaker 1: m C. And then she's singing and then and then 50 00:03:04,000 --> 00:03:07,480 Speaker 1: it's like everything just took off. I mean, I know 51 00:03:07,560 --> 00:03:10,959 Speaker 1: it doesn't work that way, like it isn't an overnight process, 52 00:03:11,040 --> 00:03:16,320 Speaker 1: but the fact that today you can literally do anything 53 00:03:16,919 --> 00:03:21,960 Speaker 1: that you want. It's the multiverse of that we're talking 54 00:03:21,960 --> 00:03:26,280 Speaker 1: about today. Okay, wow, Yeah, I'm just on it to 55 00:03:26,320 --> 00:03:28,440 Speaker 1: be here, Like I'm really in tears right now. That's 56 00:03:28,480 --> 00:03:32,680 Speaker 1: like this is a lot to be in a place 57 00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:37,320 Speaker 1: to let these black babies feel all their feelings. Yeah yeah, man, 58 00:03:38,240 --> 00:03:41,760 Speaker 1: it really is. It's an honor like it really is. Man. 59 00:03:43,080 --> 00:03:45,480 Speaker 1: I wanted to be got it to be selfish to 60 00:03:45,560 --> 00:03:48,480 Speaker 1: a degree. Everyone was telling me your voice is distinctive, 61 00:03:49,160 --> 00:03:52,560 Speaker 1: you should do voice overs, and I was like yeah, 62 00:03:52,720 --> 00:03:55,680 Speaker 1: then like offin like after hearing MC light on every 63 00:03:55,680 --> 00:04:00,160 Speaker 1: single thing running for like a year, servis it was like, 64 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:02,640 Speaker 1: you should do voice overs. I was like, okay, well 65 00:04:02,640 --> 00:04:05,000 Speaker 1: then I want to do voiceovers. I want to do 66 00:04:05,120 --> 00:04:07,240 Speaker 1: voice overs. And I started being my team in the 67 00:04:07,320 --> 00:04:08,920 Speaker 1: head like get me a voice over, get me a 68 00:04:09,000 --> 00:04:10,720 Speaker 1: voice over. And I was like, why do you want 69 00:04:10,760 --> 00:04:13,200 Speaker 1: to do voice over? You do the music. Just focus 70 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:14,880 Speaker 1: on the music. I was like, look, I got so 71 00:04:14,960 --> 00:04:18,000 Speaker 1: much family overseas, and it was selfish with me, like 72 00:04:18,080 --> 00:04:19,760 Speaker 1: I say like, oh, I just want my nieces and 73 00:04:19,760 --> 00:04:21,640 Speaker 1: nephews to hear my voice. Literally, I was like, I 74 00:04:21,720 --> 00:04:23,000 Speaker 1: just want them to hear it because I'm they're not 75 00:04:23,040 --> 00:04:25,480 Speaker 1: moving here, and I want them to know what Auntie 76 00:04:25,520 --> 00:04:28,919 Speaker 1: sounds like. I come from a big family, loads of women, 77 00:04:29,320 --> 00:04:33,120 Speaker 1: like it's very like, very feminine, but like and I'm 78 00:04:33,160 --> 00:04:35,719 Speaker 1: a auntie like a thousand times over right. So I 79 00:04:35,760 --> 00:04:37,640 Speaker 1: was like, I want them to know what at least 80 00:04:37,640 --> 00:04:39,839 Speaker 1: I sound like, you know, like, because they're not gonna 81 00:04:39,880 --> 00:04:42,200 Speaker 1: see me every day, so it is something that they 82 00:04:42,200 --> 00:04:45,159 Speaker 1: can watch. That was my my core reason. So I 83 00:04:45,240 --> 00:04:46,960 Speaker 1: was like, give me a voice over. I want a cartoon, 84 00:04:46,960 --> 00:04:49,360 Speaker 1: and I want a cartoon, get me a voice over something. 85 00:04:50,320 --> 00:04:53,159 Speaker 1: And then Rebecca heard this song I did called Freak 86 00:04:53,320 --> 00:04:58,600 Speaker 1: Rebecca's Sugars, the creator of Seeming Universe, and she's a fan. 87 00:04:58,720 --> 00:05:01,200 Speaker 1: She loved the record, She loves video and she was like, yo, 88 00:05:01,680 --> 00:05:04,040 Speaker 1: I just love what you were doing. It was very strong, 89 00:05:04,120 --> 00:05:06,760 Speaker 1: it was powerful. And remember when I made the song 90 00:05:06,800 --> 00:05:09,040 Speaker 1: and I did it, I just like to be I 91 00:05:09,080 --> 00:05:12,120 Speaker 1: wasn't thinking about the community. I wasn't thinking about not me. 92 00:05:12,160 --> 00:05:14,240 Speaker 1: I was just like, yeah, it's be fire, it's hot, 93 00:05:15,320 --> 00:05:19,000 Speaker 1: and I want to write something about feeling empowered as 94 00:05:19,000 --> 00:05:21,880 Speaker 1: a woman. You know, like when people are telling you're 95 00:05:21,880 --> 00:05:25,360 Speaker 1: too sexual, you're to this, or you know you're quite quiet, 96 00:05:25,400 --> 00:05:27,719 Speaker 1: but you're not supposed to be a freak. If you're quiet, 97 00:05:27,720 --> 00:05:31,080 Speaker 1: you're not so you know, man, whatever, all of that 98 00:05:31,080 --> 00:05:33,120 Speaker 1: that's what freaks about. Like I can be a freak 99 00:05:33,240 --> 00:05:35,080 Speaker 1: every day, every week, you know, like I'll give it 100 00:05:35,120 --> 00:05:36,960 Speaker 1: you however you want it. That's that's the vibe of 101 00:05:37,000 --> 00:05:41,719 Speaker 1: the song. And she saw the video and she remember 102 00:05:41,839 --> 00:05:44,240 Speaker 1: dreaming about what the video would look like. One night. 103 00:05:44,320 --> 00:05:46,000 Speaker 1: I was really trying to think. I write all my 104 00:05:46,040 --> 00:05:49,359 Speaker 1: treatments and my songs and my videos, and I remember dreaming, 105 00:05:49,360 --> 00:05:50,920 Speaker 1: I said, oh, I see, I see what it's gonna 106 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:53,520 Speaker 1: look like. So I wrote, I scribbled down the image 107 00:05:53,520 --> 00:05:57,200 Speaker 1: of what became Garnet to the video director, and I 108 00:05:57,279 --> 00:05:59,080 Speaker 1: said to him, like, it's gonna be like this. She's 109 00:05:59,080 --> 00:06:00,760 Speaker 1: gonna be like a school teach of teaching their kids 110 00:06:00,760 --> 00:06:03,800 Speaker 1: how to like express it in a freaks there in 111 00:06:03,800 --> 00:06:07,359 Speaker 1: a flag, they're in a woman, right, And then you know, 112 00:06:07,520 --> 00:06:10,880 Speaker 1: we made the video and she said she based Garnet 113 00:06:11,040 --> 00:06:13,960 Speaker 1: on the look of me in there with my hair 114 00:06:14,480 --> 00:06:17,000 Speaker 1: and the big square hair like I had a bob 115 00:06:17,520 --> 00:06:20,159 Speaker 1: and the big glasses I was wearing and all the stuff. 116 00:06:20,200 --> 00:06:22,279 Speaker 1: So when it came time to ask me to be 117 00:06:22,320 --> 00:06:25,000 Speaker 1: part of it, it wasn't hard. It was like, you know, 118 00:06:25,120 --> 00:06:29,359 Speaker 1: like you know, you get it, you understand it. The 119 00:06:29,480 --> 00:06:33,520 Speaker 1: character was named Garnet. That's my bust on my favorite 120 00:06:33,560 --> 00:06:36,600 Speaker 1: colors purple. It was so many signs of like you 121 00:06:36,640 --> 00:06:38,800 Speaker 1: went to the cartoon, here you go. You know. I 122 00:06:38,920 --> 00:06:42,000 Speaker 1: was like, right, the thing in all the ways I 123 00:06:42,040 --> 00:06:45,200 Speaker 1: could show you clearly this is for you. I was like, oh, 124 00:06:45,880 --> 00:06:49,080 Speaker 1: I could do this. And then the characters, like they 125 00:06:49,120 --> 00:06:51,400 Speaker 1: didn't tell us any of the storys. It just told 126 00:06:51,480 --> 00:06:53,960 Speaker 1: us the characters. And I was like, well, what did 127 00:06:53,960 --> 00:06:56,640 Speaker 1: she do and she's like, well, it's them, And I 128 00:06:56,680 --> 00:07:00,000 Speaker 1: was like, okay, what does them do? Um she said, 129 00:07:00,160 --> 00:07:05,200 Speaker 1: was they take care of all the different crystals like 130 00:07:05,240 --> 00:07:07,560 Speaker 1: your big sister. I was like, oh yeah, I'm definitely 131 00:07:07,600 --> 00:07:10,920 Speaker 1: that I could do that. That's easy. It's not gonna 132 00:07:10,920 --> 00:07:13,080 Speaker 1: be hard to find the emotion there, and so I 133 00:07:13,120 --> 00:07:18,600 Speaker 1: did it. It was just easy and selfishness really, you know. 134 00:07:18,680 --> 00:07:22,160 Speaker 1: But when I think about it, it's like your core, 135 00:07:22,160 --> 00:07:25,280 Speaker 1: you're cooling, your cool person who you're supposed to the thing. 136 00:07:25,440 --> 00:07:28,880 Speaker 1: The purpose right kind of just pulled up on our father. 137 00:07:29,080 --> 00:07:31,600 Speaker 1: You called you called to it. Yeah, y'all are ushering 138 00:07:31,600 --> 00:07:35,440 Speaker 1: in a totally different, emotionally intelligent group of of of 139 00:07:35,480 --> 00:07:41,560 Speaker 1: young people, completely further down the road than we would 140 00:07:41,600 --> 00:07:47,480 Speaker 1: ever have expected with language that we that that needed 141 00:07:47,600 --> 00:07:53,360 Speaker 1: to exist is really amazing. And from an Afro futurist perspective, 142 00:07:54,040 --> 00:07:59,160 Speaker 1: to have um that image in front of young people 143 00:08:00,640 --> 00:08:04,520 Speaker 1: and saying the things and doing the things. Someone said 144 00:08:04,560 --> 00:08:07,720 Speaker 1: up in an interview They asked for record interview like 145 00:08:07,920 --> 00:08:11,200 Speaker 1: why make her black? Why make her woman right? And 146 00:08:11,320 --> 00:08:13,800 Speaker 1: she said, well why not? Everything else is white and male? 147 00:08:13,960 --> 00:08:16,240 Speaker 1: Like we need some you know, like there is this 148 00:08:16,320 --> 00:08:18,920 Speaker 1: is why not? This is what it really is and 149 00:08:18,960 --> 00:08:21,360 Speaker 1: why not? I was just like, and this is why 150 00:08:21,400 --> 00:08:24,880 Speaker 1: I'm on this sucking show. That's right, because then why not, 151 00:08:25,160 --> 00:08:29,120 Speaker 1: you know, like everything, why they are not. I just 152 00:08:29,160 --> 00:08:31,520 Speaker 1: thought about it, and as like I said at the beginning, 153 00:08:31,520 --> 00:08:34,240 Speaker 1: I had no clue what the stories would be, what 154 00:08:34,440 --> 00:08:37,840 Speaker 1: the real context of the show was. As I kind 155 00:08:37,840 --> 00:08:41,040 Speaker 1: of started, it started unfolding and the l g b 156 00:08:41,160 --> 00:08:44,440 Speaker 1: q T I A community themes were unveiled. It was 157 00:08:44,480 --> 00:08:48,040 Speaker 1: just like madam honored. I'm an ally first up and 158 00:08:48,480 --> 00:08:51,360 Speaker 1: second of what. I'm honored too to be able to, 159 00:08:51,920 --> 00:08:55,040 Speaker 1: like you said, give language to it for somebody. I 160 00:08:55,160 --> 00:08:57,000 Speaker 1: never had it when I was a kid. My friends 161 00:08:57,000 --> 00:08:58,880 Speaker 1: who are gain never had it when I was a kid. 162 00:08:58,920 --> 00:09:01,240 Speaker 1: I was just saying, the community never had it when 163 00:09:01,240 --> 00:09:03,920 Speaker 1: there were kids, And I'm just like, well, I can give. 164 00:09:04,600 --> 00:09:08,280 Speaker 1: I can be a part of helping somebody feel feel human, 165 00:09:08,320 --> 00:09:12,120 Speaker 1: feel except to feel wanted to feel loved. I'm about that. 166 00:09:12,240 --> 00:09:15,319 Speaker 1: I'm about that. I feel exactly what I was about 167 00:09:15,320 --> 00:09:20,440 Speaker 1: to say that It's so human, it's so touching, it's 168 00:09:20,440 --> 00:09:27,360 Speaker 1: so emotional, it's spiritual. The music is incredible, just incredible, 169 00:09:28,000 --> 00:09:33,040 Speaker 1: like brib Vosis like for Real to arc and arc 170 00:09:33,160 --> 00:09:37,600 Speaker 1: and Art and arc and and you know, to to build. 171 00:09:37,800 --> 00:09:40,080 Speaker 1: What I think is the most important thing you know 172 00:09:40,160 --> 00:09:44,680 Speaker 1: in a in a career is to have longevity, to 173 00:09:44,720 --> 00:09:47,959 Speaker 1: be able to do whatever you want, whenever you want, 174 00:09:48,520 --> 00:09:51,880 Speaker 1: however you want for the long run. You said it 175 00:09:52,080 --> 00:09:55,839 Speaker 1: like you gave us the decades, Ja Jail, you gave 176 00:09:55,920 --> 00:09:57,920 Speaker 1: us the decades about what you should be doing and 177 00:09:57,960 --> 00:10:01,400 Speaker 1: how you should be doing. And I'm like, on the money, 178 00:10:01,559 --> 00:10:04,000 Speaker 1: exactly that you said. The folies, I felt like was 179 00:10:04,040 --> 00:10:07,040 Speaker 1: for when you want to do it, or like working, 180 00:10:07,080 --> 00:10:10,960 Speaker 1: when you want to work? How how are you how 181 00:10:11,080 --> 00:10:13,040 Speaker 1: you want? And that's exactly where I'm at right now 182 00:10:13,240 --> 00:10:15,600 Speaker 1: for me too. But I feel like I was like, yo, 183 00:10:15,760 --> 00:10:18,760 Speaker 1: I'm on parf Okay, I'm good. I'm not crazy, you know, 184 00:10:21,120 --> 00:10:24,000 Speaker 1: because you mentioned like two things you said this role 185 00:10:24,080 --> 00:10:25,480 Speaker 1: has a lot to do with like who you are 186 00:10:25,480 --> 00:10:27,360 Speaker 1: in your family. I think what you're the second of 187 00:10:27,480 --> 00:10:30,800 Speaker 1: nine and you did this for your nieces and your nephew. 188 00:10:30,840 --> 00:10:32,880 Speaker 1: So you gotta tell us, like what's the family? What 189 00:10:32,920 --> 00:10:35,640 Speaker 1: do they think? What they're saying? They just love having 190 00:10:35,679 --> 00:10:38,520 Speaker 1: Anti Stelle on TV, hearing my voice and then being 191 00:10:38,559 --> 00:10:40,480 Speaker 1: like that's Anti. I remember that They sent me a 192 00:10:40,559 --> 00:10:43,920 Speaker 1: video like two three years into it, and I'm a 193 00:10:44,040 --> 00:10:46,760 Speaker 1: I'm a weeper. I've learned now I cry all the time. 194 00:10:47,160 --> 00:10:49,280 Speaker 1: I never knew it before. I was like thirty five, 195 00:10:49,320 --> 00:10:50,760 Speaker 1: and then I hit thirty five and it was like 196 00:10:50,920 --> 00:10:54,600 Speaker 1: who works, And like, I feel like I look at 197 00:10:54,600 --> 00:10:57,480 Speaker 1: that video and I cry every five minutes, like every 198 00:10:57,480 --> 00:11:00,240 Speaker 1: time I saw it, because I was just like, oh, 199 00:11:00,280 --> 00:11:02,560 Speaker 1: my goodness, like they really do know it's my voice 200 00:11:02,640 --> 00:11:05,080 Speaker 1: like it, you know. And then, like I said, I 201 00:11:05,120 --> 00:11:07,480 Speaker 1: feel like in order for us to like, just as 202 00:11:07,559 --> 00:11:11,959 Speaker 1: humans move forward, we have to give. We have to 203 00:11:12,000 --> 00:11:14,160 Speaker 1: start raising the kids in a way more inclusive, in 204 00:11:14,240 --> 00:11:17,719 Speaker 1: a human way, right. And I'm just, like I said, 205 00:11:17,760 --> 00:11:19,960 Speaker 1: I'm just honored to be a part of what that 206 00:11:20,000 --> 00:11:22,520 Speaker 1: looks like. Like we did something amazing with that. I 207 00:11:22,520 --> 00:11:24,960 Speaker 1: didn't even know what I was signing up for, you know. 208 00:11:25,000 --> 00:11:27,400 Speaker 1: I was kind of like just I was just like, 209 00:11:27,440 --> 00:11:31,200 Speaker 1: this is good. I caught my dream, I caught my wish. Okay, God, 210 00:11:31,240 --> 00:11:38,120 Speaker 1: you said bigger than me? Cool, cool, cool, more real 211 00:11:38,160 --> 00:11:52,120 Speaker 1: talk after the break, Well, ma'am, I'm here. I'm here 212 00:11:52,160 --> 00:11:56,400 Speaker 1: with one of your your bands. And it still has 213 00:11:56,440 --> 00:12:00,760 Speaker 1: been so sweet over the years. Sending sending side things 214 00:12:01,240 --> 00:12:04,320 Speaker 1: from Garder and it just has been very, very lovely, 215 00:12:04,360 --> 00:12:08,400 Speaker 1: and we just wanted to thank you. The little boy 216 00:12:08,600 --> 00:12:12,720 Speaker 1: that you talked to then as become this guy. Let 217 00:12:12,760 --> 00:12:19,199 Speaker 1: me see, it's about to scare me by that boye. 218 00:12:19,559 --> 00:12:23,520 Speaker 1: It's deep. How are you? I'm great? How are you? 219 00:12:23,920 --> 00:12:26,400 Speaker 1: I am amazing? It's so good to see you again. 220 00:12:27,320 --> 00:12:34,600 Speaker 1: Do I mean it's just grow look a yeah, I 221 00:12:34,600 --> 00:12:37,400 Speaker 1: guess I feel special. I get I get like a 222 00:12:37,480 --> 00:12:39,440 Speaker 1: guest appearance from the one I only I don't know 223 00:12:39,480 --> 00:12:45,000 Speaker 1: what you're saying. The first we've never got. It's not 224 00:12:45,080 --> 00:12:48,000 Speaker 1: on the show. I am so honest, and it's so 225 00:12:48,040 --> 00:12:50,920 Speaker 1: peopful to speak to you, sweetheart. You look incredible. You're 226 00:12:50,920 --> 00:12:56,480 Speaker 1: having a good sunday. You are jil Well does mean 227 00:12:58,280 --> 00:13:01,440 Speaker 1: it's like it's like looking at two faces. Thank you. 228 00:13:01,800 --> 00:13:04,320 Speaker 1: I'll do it. That one of the fourground, one of 229 00:13:04,320 --> 00:13:11,280 Speaker 1: the backgrounds. The problem. Oh, he would killed problems. That's 230 00:13:11,280 --> 00:13:16,200 Speaker 1: what he is that I killed. He reminds me so much. Yeah, 231 00:13:16,280 --> 00:13:21,640 Speaker 1: that's what that is. He really doesn't remind him. Grew 232 00:13:22,120 --> 00:13:27,559 Speaker 1: well done. He was trying so hard to control his 233 00:13:27,760 --> 00:13:31,320 Speaker 1: voice because you know we're there, so is the voice 234 00:13:31,360 --> 00:13:38,080 Speaker 1: pre stage stored answers because you know it does what 235 00:13:38,200 --> 00:13:42,079 Speaker 1: it does, and he didn't want he didn't want that. Yo. 236 00:13:42,880 --> 00:13:46,520 Speaker 1: I'm curious because says Joe Barjette on, like, how do 237 00:13:46,559 --> 00:13:49,240 Speaker 1: you how do young folks been responding to you when 238 00:13:49,280 --> 00:13:52,840 Speaker 1: he comes to the show, since you're whole parades for 239 00:13:52,880 --> 00:14:01,320 Speaker 1: this woman. Okay, yeah, it's there. If you don't know, 240 00:14:01,600 --> 00:14:05,280 Speaker 1: ladies and gentlemen, if you don't know about this wonderful show, 241 00:14:05,440 --> 00:14:08,439 Speaker 1: if you don't know about Stephen Universe and you've been 242 00:14:09,000 --> 00:14:15,480 Speaker 1: get involved. It is. Um. It is as healthy as 243 00:14:15,720 --> 00:14:19,520 Speaker 1: any television show in the history of television. It is 244 00:14:19,560 --> 00:14:22,360 Speaker 1: good for the heart, it is good for your intentions, 245 00:14:23,000 --> 00:14:26,000 Speaker 1: it's good for the spirit. It's good for understanding other 246 00:14:26,120 --> 00:14:31,600 Speaker 1: human beings. UM, without without judgment. Um. It is is 247 00:14:31,640 --> 00:14:36,600 Speaker 1: absolutely beautiful and we're sincerely proud of of you. Thank 248 00:14:36,680 --> 00:14:41,720 Speaker 1: go ahead, thank you, thank you. I feel like even 249 00:14:41,720 --> 00:14:44,480 Speaker 1: the impact even on young people has extended to to 250 00:14:44,640 --> 00:14:47,840 Speaker 1: adults because I don't know this for a fact, but 251 00:14:48,080 --> 00:14:49,680 Speaker 1: I just want to say this really quickly. I was 252 00:14:49,720 --> 00:14:53,800 Speaker 1: obsessed with that show Lovecraft Country, and that was a 253 00:14:53,840 --> 00:14:56,720 Speaker 1: really particular episode called the I Am Episode, which talked 254 00:14:56,720 --> 00:15:01,640 Speaker 1: about black women in our evolution. And I'm sorry there 255 00:15:01,920 --> 00:15:06,880 Speaker 1: was a depiction woman in the future that was absolute, 256 00:15:07,920 --> 00:15:12,520 Speaker 1: and I was like, listen, somebody, and I wanted to 257 00:15:12,520 --> 00:15:16,359 Speaker 1: mention that because to take because that image is that powerful, 258 00:15:17,240 --> 00:15:21,160 Speaker 1: that that as adults in an adult show where adults 259 00:15:21,200 --> 00:15:24,720 Speaker 1: will be watching that, they of all of the images 260 00:15:24,800 --> 00:15:27,240 Speaker 1: of what they felt the black woman would be in 261 00:15:27,280 --> 00:15:32,280 Speaker 1: an infinite future, they chose the image of garning good God, 262 00:15:33,480 --> 00:15:38,320 Speaker 1: I am sorry. That to me was transcending. That's that's 263 00:15:38,320 --> 00:15:41,600 Speaker 1: when you know you've done something that has transcended simple light. 264 00:15:41,840 --> 00:15:43,840 Speaker 1: So I know that's not that's not a question, that's 265 00:15:43,840 --> 00:15:45,760 Speaker 1: a comment. I want to I want to ask you 266 00:15:45,760 --> 00:15:47,160 Speaker 1: to hear what you think about that and how you 267 00:15:47,200 --> 00:15:52,520 Speaker 1: responded when you first realized that the flooded. My texts 268 00:15:52,560 --> 00:15:54,720 Speaker 1: and my d m s and my my tweets were 269 00:15:54,760 --> 00:15:57,120 Speaker 1: being flooded. And I was like, what do you? What 270 00:15:57,160 --> 00:15:59,440 Speaker 1: do you because I okay, so I'm I'm a punk. 271 00:15:59,640 --> 00:16:03,040 Speaker 1: I don't watch scary things. I don't watch because I 272 00:16:03,080 --> 00:16:06,000 Speaker 1: will dream about right, I really will, Like you know, 273 00:16:06,000 --> 00:16:09,560 Speaker 1: with ay, as we absorbed, right, so then you did, 274 00:16:09,600 --> 00:16:11,600 Speaker 1: it comes back out or as I jump out of 275 00:16:11,600 --> 00:16:13,120 Speaker 1: my sleep, that's how it comes back out. And I 276 00:16:13,120 --> 00:16:15,400 Speaker 1: don't like that. So I just decided to stop a 277 00:16:15,400 --> 00:16:18,480 Speaker 1: while ago, so I don't watch Lovecraft Country. I watched 278 00:16:18,480 --> 00:16:21,000 Speaker 1: the clips and I saw the pictures, the text, the 279 00:16:21,080 --> 00:16:22,640 Speaker 1: d m s, the clips, and I was just like, 280 00:16:23,560 --> 00:16:28,360 Speaker 1: hold this. Look at I literally just like, well look 281 00:16:28,400 --> 00:16:31,160 Speaker 1: at this. Look God couldn't make this up. I couldn't 282 00:16:31,160 --> 00:16:34,720 Speaker 1: make this up. Like cool, thank you. And that's I 283 00:16:34,760 --> 00:16:37,320 Speaker 1: was like reposted it and saying thank you, like God, 284 00:16:37,360 --> 00:16:40,600 Speaker 1: it's good. Like I didn't make this up. I didn't, 285 00:16:40,640 --> 00:16:43,080 Speaker 1: you know, I was giving it in a dream and 286 00:16:43,120 --> 00:16:46,000 Speaker 1: it became this. I just played my part. I just 287 00:16:46,360 --> 00:16:48,680 Speaker 1: I followed along and I played the part that I 288 00:16:48,720 --> 00:16:51,200 Speaker 1: was given to play. And and you know, it's me. 289 00:16:51,320 --> 00:16:54,400 Speaker 1: It means something to someone beyond me. It means what 290 00:16:54,520 --> 00:16:56,560 Speaker 1: we do every day means something to somebody beyond us. 291 00:16:56,560 --> 00:16:59,320 Speaker 1: And then this means a lot to a lot of people, 292 00:16:59,600 --> 00:17:02,840 Speaker 1: you know. And I'm just again, I'm just happy to 293 00:17:02,840 --> 00:17:06,919 Speaker 1: to play, to be here, man, I'm like, this is 294 00:17:07,160 --> 00:17:11,000 Speaker 1: I'm saying here like three seconds from ball and every 295 00:17:11,000 --> 00:17:14,480 Speaker 1: time I stopped talking, So this is just like that's 296 00:17:14,520 --> 00:17:23,960 Speaker 1: what we do. Welcome, Welcome to the baby party, Happy 297 00:17:24,000 --> 00:17:33,000 Speaker 1: free boobs and real tears a regular basis Yeah, we're 298 00:17:33,000 --> 00:17:35,320 Speaker 1: gonna take a quick break and then we'll be right back. 299 00:17:45,760 --> 00:17:50,360 Speaker 1: So there is one question and that is a step. Yes, 300 00:17:50,600 --> 00:17:56,680 Speaker 1: what's on your heart? Ah? Oh today, don't need to rush, 301 00:17:56,720 --> 00:18:01,080 Speaker 1: take your time. Oh my goodness, the day was today 302 00:18:01,200 --> 00:18:04,080 Speaker 1: is good so far. I was just reminded. I was 303 00:18:04,119 --> 00:18:06,040 Speaker 1: at church this morning. I was just reminded, and it 304 00:18:06,119 --> 00:18:08,760 Speaker 1: keeps going around in my head. So I was just 305 00:18:08,800 --> 00:18:12,239 Speaker 1: reminded to like of all the things, with all the 306 00:18:12,240 --> 00:18:14,640 Speaker 1: things that we do to get us wherever we go, 307 00:18:15,920 --> 00:18:18,520 Speaker 1: like prayer is a powerful way to do it right. 308 00:18:19,080 --> 00:18:22,240 Speaker 1: And and because you know, like there's like all the 309 00:18:22,240 --> 00:18:25,080 Speaker 1: different I believe in everything. I believe in the ancestors, 310 00:18:25,080 --> 00:18:27,119 Speaker 1: I believe in all of the things. I believe that 311 00:18:27,160 --> 00:18:29,960 Speaker 1: God made it all. But the point is God made 312 00:18:29,960 --> 00:18:33,760 Speaker 1: it all right. So today I was just like sitting 313 00:18:33,800 --> 00:18:37,560 Speaker 1: in church and just got reminded like of like particular 314 00:18:37,640 --> 00:18:40,840 Speaker 1: moments where I was going through all the processes. I 315 00:18:40,880 --> 00:18:43,160 Speaker 1: was in front of my all every day, and I 316 00:18:43,200 --> 00:18:46,280 Speaker 1: was praying every day, and I was missing the key thing, 317 00:18:46,720 --> 00:18:48,840 Speaker 1: which was like in the name of Jesus, which was 318 00:18:49,240 --> 00:18:51,400 Speaker 1: like I had decree and I declare, which was calling 319 00:18:51,520 --> 00:18:54,919 Speaker 1: in the blessings and it was just it punished me 320 00:18:54,920 --> 00:18:57,359 Speaker 1: in the face this morning, like at at church, this 321 00:18:57,400 --> 00:19:00,840 Speaker 1: one it was just like, yo, you're forgetting that you 322 00:19:00,880 --> 00:19:04,359 Speaker 1: know the detail and to and to say it with conviction. 323 00:19:04,680 --> 00:19:06,760 Speaker 1: You know, you're forgetting that this is this is what 324 00:19:06,840 --> 00:19:08,760 Speaker 1: brings in the blessing. This is what brings in the thing. 325 00:19:08,960 --> 00:19:12,800 Speaker 1: And I don't want no no fluffy and the thou 326 00:19:13,119 --> 00:19:16,760 Speaker 1: thou prayers. He just wants you to talk say the thing. 327 00:19:18,119 --> 00:19:19,840 Speaker 1: And so always been a lot of things in my 328 00:19:19,920 --> 00:19:22,119 Speaker 1: personal when I'm just like, oh, so I can't wait 329 00:19:22,160 --> 00:19:23,879 Speaker 1: to be married, when my husband, I want my baby, 330 00:19:23,920 --> 00:19:25,640 Speaker 1: I'm ready for my kids, I'm ready for the I'm 331 00:19:25,680 --> 00:19:28,919 Speaker 1: ready for this the next side of my life to start, 332 00:19:29,640 --> 00:19:33,360 Speaker 1: you know, to or to to to bloom. And I've 333 00:19:33,400 --> 00:19:36,960 Speaker 1: been frustrated about that. So this was like a reminder like, yo, 334 00:19:37,080 --> 00:19:39,080 Speaker 1: I hear you, I hear you. I need you to 335 00:19:39,119 --> 00:19:41,679 Speaker 1: do one thing for me though, you know, so this 336 00:19:41,720 --> 00:19:43,399 Speaker 1: is what's been in my heart. It's just like for 337 00:19:43,440 --> 00:19:46,280 Speaker 1: anybody that needs it, like you know, declare it. Be 338 00:19:46,359 --> 00:19:48,439 Speaker 1: clear about what you've got to be clear about the 339 00:19:48,440 --> 00:19:49,760 Speaker 1: things that I put in your heart. They're not there 340 00:19:49,800 --> 00:19:55,680 Speaker 1: for no reason. It's yours you know. That's that's it. Yeah. 341 00:19:56,160 --> 00:20:00,920 Speaker 1: I love the idea of decreeing and declaring h because 342 00:20:00,960 --> 00:20:03,240 Speaker 1: it's like there's so much power and the things that 343 00:20:03,280 --> 00:20:06,480 Speaker 1: we say, and it's like we have to say the thing. 344 00:20:07,119 --> 00:20:10,080 Speaker 1: I remember sometimes I would pray in my car, just 345 00:20:10,200 --> 00:20:14,879 Speaker 1: talking like I just have a whole conversation, and I 346 00:20:14,920 --> 00:20:17,560 Speaker 1: had gotten into this mode where all I understood to 347 00:20:17,600 --> 00:20:20,080 Speaker 1: do was ritual prayer, or all I understood how to 348 00:20:20,119 --> 00:20:23,159 Speaker 1: do was to have be on my knees or have 349 00:20:23,320 --> 00:20:25,880 Speaker 1: my hands a certain way or being a certain place. 350 00:20:26,080 --> 00:20:32,760 Speaker 1: And I identify with um the idea of what it 351 00:20:32,840 --> 00:20:34,960 Speaker 1: is you're saying, how you're saying it, and being really 352 00:20:35,000 --> 00:20:38,720 Speaker 1: intentional about that you know, and you know, regardless of 353 00:20:38,760 --> 00:20:40,960 Speaker 1: whatever your faith is, I think it's really important to 354 00:20:40,960 --> 00:20:44,119 Speaker 1: be specific about what you say and you know, and 355 00:20:44,160 --> 00:20:48,160 Speaker 1: how you say it, and and being you know, open 356 00:20:48,200 --> 00:20:51,320 Speaker 1: to the fact that you're thinking these things, saying the 357 00:20:51,480 --> 00:20:54,119 Speaker 1: saying the thing and thinking the thing kind of different, 358 00:20:55,640 --> 00:20:59,080 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. It's the specifics. For me, 359 00:21:00,040 --> 00:21:04,800 Speaker 1: it's it's the specifics, like paying for specifics. You want 360 00:21:04,840 --> 00:21:08,960 Speaker 1: what you want to be like ridiculously specific about what 361 00:21:09,000 --> 00:21:14,879 Speaker 1: it is and honest. Okay, Amen, anybody could pray for 362 00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:17,800 Speaker 1: a for a husband or spouse or mate and get 363 00:21:17,920 --> 00:21:24,520 Speaker 1: something absolutely terrible. Get it, but you have to be 364 00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:28,440 Speaker 1: specific about it. A while, a lot of our sisters 365 00:21:28,480 --> 00:21:33,960 Speaker 1: are really paying attention to the net worth or gross, 366 00:21:34,520 --> 00:21:37,040 Speaker 1: you know, paying attention to what this person has or 367 00:21:37,080 --> 00:21:40,920 Speaker 1: doesn't have, you know, just to shout out to remember 368 00:21:41,280 --> 00:21:43,960 Speaker 1: the character of the human being you're talking about with, 369 00:21:44,480 --> 00:21:48,080 Speaker 1: because that comes, um, that's what that's that's the meat, 370 00:21:48,760 --> 00:21:50,720 Speaker 1: that's the that's the part that's gonna get you full 371 00:21:50,960 --> 00:21:56,320 Speaker 1: in bed and replenished. Okay, it could be or it 372 00:21:56,320 --> 00:21:58,800 Speaker 1: could be the way or to say it in or 373 00:21:58,840 --> 00:22:00,760 Speaker 1: whatever it else, you know you want to call it. 374 00:22:00,800 --> 00:22:02,920 Speaker 1: But I'm just gonna go ahead and call it to meet. 375 00:22:03,560 --> 00:22:05,879 Speaker 1: But it's good. It's good for you too, to be specific, 376 00:22:05,920 --> 00:22:07,840 Speaker 1: because we are women of a certain age, and we 377 00:22:07,880 --> 00:22:09,800 Speaker 1: all know what we want and what we don't want, 378 00:22:09,880 --> 00:22:12,880 Speaker 1: and so why not go ahead and tell God, like 379 00:22:14,240 --> 00:22:18,040 Speaker 1: to all I've learned from lessons. Yes, So I'm not 380 00:22:18,119 --> 00:22:20,120 Speaker 1: asking for what I asked for two or three years 381 00:22:20,119 --> 00:22:22,320 Speaker 1: ago God, because I'm listening and I'm learning, Yes, God, 382 00:22:22,400 --> 00:22:24,640 Speaker 1: I yes, you know what I mean. And then really 383 00:22:24,680 --> 00:22:28,439 Speaker 1: being specific and saying like, well, yeah, you want a husband, 384 00:22:28,440 --> 00:22:30,480 Speaker 1: you want to a partner, you want to want the 385 00:22:30,560 --> 00:22:33,080 Speaker 1: best friend, and you want to laugh with them. You 386 00:22:33,320 --> 00:22:36,040 Speaker 1: you want them to be open to uh, the things 387 00:22:36,040 --> 00:22:37,600 Speaker 1: that you say. You want them to be able to 388 00:22:37,680 --> 00:22:40,240 Speaker 1: learn from you and from them. Like it's just I 389 00:22:40,280 --> 00:22:43,280 Speaker 1: love them. I personally love the process. I don't love 390 00:22:43,320 --> 00:22:46,080 Speaker 1: the process of let me not get a twist. I 391 00:22:46,080 --> 00:22:47,879 Speaker 1: don't know the process of being single and having to 392 00:22:47,920 --> 00:22:50,560 Speaker 1: ask these questions. But I do love the process of 393 00:22:50,840 --> 00:22:54,440 Speaker 1: learning from myself and my actions and asking from now 394 00:22:54,440 --> 00:22:57,359 Speaker 1: and knowing what I want. You know what I'm saying. 395 00:22:57,720 --> 00:23:00,639 Speaker 1: I did say, I did the US before. I just 396 00:23:00,720 --> 00:23:02,879 Speaker 1: I don't want my house, but yeah I'm my husband. 397 00:23:02,920 --> 00:23:06,240 Speaker 1: I wanted to and I did the general right, and 398 00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:11,560 Speaker 1: then this dude team along and I remember feeling like 399 00:23:12,680 --> 00:23:18,000 Speaker 1: after like a week of being around and being like, I, huh, 400 00:23:19,560 --> 00:23:22,960 Speaker 1: this this can't be this can't be it. This, this 401 00:23:23,440 --> 00:23:25,639 Speaker 1: ain't the model that you wanted for me. Jesus right, 402 00:23:25,760 --> 00:23:28,080 Speaker 1: This ain't this ain't the Tesla kid out that ots 403 00:23:28,119 --> 00:23:30,879 Speaker 1: for right. No, right, this is this is the Ford. 404 00:23:31,800 --> 00:23:35,199 Speaker 1: It was because you let me, let me can I 405 00:23:35,280 --> 00:23:38,639 Speaker 1: can I interject a little bit one this one I 406 00:23:40,680 --> 00:23:47,720 Speaker 1: now has been married for three thousand seven four. She 407 00:23:47,920 --> 00:23:55,480 Speaker 1: also has se nineteen children well with her with her 408 00:23:53,800 --> 00:23:59,440 Speaker 1: HU also at twenty orgasms a week, so we see, 409 00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:06,640 Speaker 1: and it's the lines for me. But a week. Look, 410 00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:10,760 Speaker 1: I'll take it. I'll take it. I'll take it. I'm gonna. 411 00:24:10,920 --> 00:24:12,639 Speaker 1: I'm a client. It's a lot of that's a lot 412 00:24:12,640 --> 00:24:15,120 Speaker 1: of orgasm taking parties ahead. Sorry, so that's a nice, 413 00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:19,200 Speaker 1: good amount. That's a good amount. You put seven days. 414 00:24:19,240 --> 00:24:24,280 Speaker 1: You just vide that and carried it on. Okay, anyway, 415 00:24:24,320 --> 00:24:29,240 Speaker 1: I love it. I mean, but I'm gonna I'm gonna 416 00:24:29,280 --> 00:24:40,159 Speaker 1: say this about the uh, partnership. It's not marriage, right, 417 00:24:40,240 --> 00:24:42,800 Speaker 1: that's what Those are two different things, that's what I'm saying. 418 00:24:44,400 --> 00:24:47,320 Speaker 1: Different than when I said that. That was that right 419 00:24:47,359 --> 00:24:50,480 Speaker 1: your nails when you said two different things that the 420 00:24:51,920 --> 00:24:57,840 Speaker 1: metaphor was just like back the metaphors. I broke that nail. 421 00:24:57,920 --> 00:25:01,359 Speaker 1: So there you go. So there's a with that language correct, 422 00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:03,159 Speaker 1: Asia will do what I said then I said partner. 423 00:25:03,160 --> 00:25:05,920 Speaker 1: I didn't say husband. When I said partner, I would 424 00:25:05,920 --> 00:25:10,000 Speaker 1: say partnership. And the reason why those things are different, 425 00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:12,200 Speaker 1: the reason why those things are different and not because 426 00:25:12,240 --> 00:25:14,640 Speaker 1: the intent is different. It's because of what we've done 427 00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:18,360 Speaker 1: to these things, how we created institutions and not been 428 00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:22,080 Speaker 1: attached things to them make us look at it in 429 00:25:22,080 --> 00:25:25,560 Speaker 1: a general way that is aside from what we know 430 00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:29,720 Speaker 1: love to be. Because we assigned love to certain spaces. 431 00:25:30,160 --> 00:25:32,439 Speaker 1: We say love lives in this space, and this space 432 00:25:32,680 --> 00:25:35,840 Speaker 1: is space, and if we don't get access to that space, 433 00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:41,879 Speaker 1: we don't qualify it as love. And so love and 434 00:25:41,920 --> 00:25:46,879 Speaker 1: how it exists in a partnership is not specific to marriage. 435 00:25:47,359 --> 00:25:49,000 Speaker 1: If you want to be married, that's great. You want 436 00:25:49,000 --> 00:25:52,800 Speaker 1: to be partnered with somebody, that's a different thing. And 437 00:25:52,840 --> 00:25:55,959 Speaker 1: a partnership can exist in a marriage, but a marriage 438 00:25:56,000 --> 00:26:01,159 Speaker 1: can exist without partnership. M So that and so I 439 00:26:01,240 --> 00:26:03,880 Speaker 1: think it's important to think about these things and and 440 00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:08,639 Speaker 1: and the ways in which partnership lasts is its ability 441 00:26:08,680 --> 00:26:14,119 Speaker 1: to be flexible, to evolve, to change, and it cannot 442 00:26:14,119 --> 00:26:18,320 Speaker 1: be rigid. So as you pray for partnership, you have 443 00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:21,480 Speaker 1: to pray for the ability to be open. That you're 444 00:26:21,560 --> 00:26:25,280 Speaker 1: not gonna know what to ask for specifically about every 445 00:26:25,280 --> 00:26:28,240 Speaker 1: little thing. You will not be and you're not even 446 00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:32,440 Speaker 1: capable of making that prayer because love does not exist 447 00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:36,000 Speaker 1: in that binary way. Love exists in all many, many, 448 00:26:36,040 --> 00:26:42,600 Speaker 1: many ways, and it's important to honor it in all 449 00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:45,399 Speaker 1: the places it comes because if we focus on it 450 00:26:45,440 --> 00:26:49,560 Speaker 1: as this place that can only exist in that spot, right, 451 00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:55,240 Speaker 1: then we mess with our sense of worthiness. So if 452 00:26:55,280 --> 00:26:56,960 Speaker 1: you don't get access to that spot, then it means 453 00:26:57,000 --> 00:26:59,560 Speaker 1: you're not worthy of love, and that's not true. So 454 00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:02,960 Speaker 1: you're that the idea that we have, these ideas about 455 00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:06,360 Speaker 1: what love is, and if it doesn't suit the idea 456 00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:10,080 Speaker 1: that we've established, then we don't recognize it as love 457 00:27:10,480 --> 00:27:14,560 Speaker 1: amen marriage. And so I think, and I think, I 458 00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:18,840 Speaker 1: think it's important to allow it to be the fluid 459 00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:22,679 Speaker 1: thing that it is, so that then if you don't 460 00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:26,400 Speaker 1: ever get access to marriage, that you can see love 461 00:27:26,480 --> 00:27:29,800 Speaker 1: and its abundance in your life in all the ways 462 00:27:29,880 --> 00:27:34,360 Speaker 1: in which it shows up and nurtures and feeds you 463 00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:37,920 Speaker 1: that it is. And I know, coming from me, that 464 00:27:38,480 --> 00:27:40,719 Speaker 1: is saying okay, yeah, for you, you can say that, 465 00:27:40,760 --> 00:27:44,360 Speaker 1: but let me say this to you. Marriages fall apart 466 00:27:44,560 --> 00:27:50,600 Speaker 1: even when they don't end. What so what you may 467 00:27:50,640 --> 00:27:53,160 Speaker 1: be looking at a marriage that has lasted and you'll 468 00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:55,520 Speaker 1: be thinking, oh, yeah, that's what I want, and that 469 00:27:55,640 --> 00:28:01,040 Speaker 1: thing could be in shambles see still, can I ask 470 00:28:01,040 --> 00:28:02,720 Speaker 1: you a question in this moment as you are listening 471 00:28:02,720 --> 00:28:04,399 Speaker 1: to Asia talk, because I don't know about you, but 472 00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:06,679 Speaker 1: meeting you both the single girls here with the no babies, 473 00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:10,120 Speaker 1: so I feel like sometimes listen to Asian Jill talk, 474 00:28:10,320 --> 00:28:12,840 Speaker 1: We've grown up on a certain thing that Asia just acknowledged, right, 475 00:28:12,840 --> 00:28:15,160 Speaker 1: this whole idea of marriage, husband and this is what 476 00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:17,720 Speaker 1: this is what your goal is, and stuff like that. However, 477 00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:21,560 Speaker 1: we are also conscious individuals, and we have people in 478 00:28:21,600 --> 00:28:23,520 Speaker 1: our lives, like these two women who will let us 479 00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:26,359 Speaker 1: know the truths of these institutions. Not just them, we 480 00:28:26,400 --> 00:28:27,879 Speaker 1: have playing people that are alive to tell us the 481 00:28:27,880 --> 00:28:31,760 Speaker 1: truths of these institutions. However, in our inner body parts, 482 00:28:32,119 --> 00:28:35,720 Speaker 1: our inners are fighting. Our inners are fighting with what 483 00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:38,400 Speaker 1: we know to be true and what we also have 484 00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:40,920 Speaker 1: been pushed who has been pushed into our little girl 485 00:28:40,960 --> 00:28:43,440 Speaker 1: bodies since we got our first Barbie doll or whatever 486 00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:46,400 Speaker 1: the doll baby was. So I'm just am I wrong? 487 00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:51,440 Speaker 1: It's still feeling You're not wrong. Listen, I think, uh, 488 00:28:51,440 --> 00:28:53,920 Speaker 1: two twelve, when I got when I went home, this 489 00:28:54,000 --> 00:28:56,440 Speaker 1: is an example from then to now two twelve and 490 00:28:56,480 --> 00:29:00,360 Speaker 1: go home to see my first niece for one like, 491 00:29:00,480 --> 00:29:03,200 Speaker 1: so we do the last tradition forty days where you 492 00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:05,120 Speaker 1: have the baby and the mother at home for forty 493 00:29:05,200 --> 00:29:07,040 Speaker 1: days and then you do a ceremony. And I went 494 00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:09,920 Speaker 1: home to see my first little sisters having her babies 495 00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:14,600 Speaker 1: for a day. And I'm there with like women heavy, right, 496 00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:17,760 Speaker 1: women heavy, And one of my outheries is like, you 497 00:29:17,760 --> 00:29:20,440 Speaker 1: ain't had a baby, just have a baby. And I 498 00:29:20,480 --> 00:29:26,640 Speaker 1: said to lady two things. Um, I can call you 499 00:29:26,680 --> 00:29:29,280 Speaker 1: lady now because I feel like I'm grown right. Um. 500 00:29:29,480 --> 00:29:31,240 Speaker 1: I was just like, lady, you don't even know where 501 00:29:31,240 --> 00:29:33,240 Speaker 1: I live. Second of all, I'm don't I'm not doing 502 00:29:33,240 --> 00:29:34,880 Speaker 1: this on my own, Like what do you mean, just 503 00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:40,920 Speaker 1: have a baby. And I think to myself, ten years later, Okay, 504 00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:45,560 Speaker 1: she's she said it wrong, But I understand where she 505 00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:48,040 Speaker 1: was coming from with it as being a woman, as 506 00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:50,480 Speaker 1: being able to make that decision for myself. It shouldn't 507 00:29:50,480 --> 00:29:55,320 Speaker 1: be held up on anything or anyone else right, or 508 00:29:55,360 --> 00:29:58,080 Speaker 1: anybody's version of events, or whether I want to this 509 00:29:59,000 --> 00:30:00,600 Speaker 1: when we live in a whole day for an age. 510 00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:04,640 Speaker 1: But the thinking behind it is what had me like, girl, 511 00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:07,040 Speaker 1: I don't want to do it. I'm not not I 512 00:30:07,040 --> 00:30:08,800 Speaker 1: don't want you. I can't do this on my own. 513 00:30:08,840 --> 00:30:12,160 Speaker 1: I'm not able to write, and had me and are 514 00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:16,880 Speaker 1: holding pattern for a very long time, like not not 515 00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:18,640 Speaker 1: that I couldn't have had a kid or whatnot, but 516 00:30:18,760 --> 00:30:22,239 Speaker 1: had me myself arrested if it didn't go with this 517 00:30:22,280 --> 00:30:25,160 Speaker 1: particular way, in this particular format, with this particular guide, 518 00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:27,680 Speaker 1: and I don't want it, and I'm scared to do it, 519 00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:31,760 Speaker 1: like no, it's only take it's taking me this long 520 00:30:31,800 --> 00:30:34,960 Speaker 1: to get new files to understand that, like you said, age, 521 00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:38,600 Speaker 1: it's love, It's all around us. If I want it, 522 00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:42,160 Speaker 1: it is there now. I do still believe I need help, okay, 523 00:30:42,240 --> 00:30:46,800 Speaker 1: because you do. I'm tired, righty, But I'm no longer 524 00:30:46,920 --> 00:30:50,640 Speaker 1: afraid of the idea of you know, having a child, 525 00:30:50,680 --> 00:30:52,880 Speaker 1: that the help won't be there, that the help and 526 00:30:52,920 --> 00:30:56,760 Speaker 1: the love won't be there, and the help will be 527 00:30:57,400 --> 00:30:59,120 Speaker 1: just it just made come in the pack of you. 528 00:30:59,320 --> 00:31:07,040 Speaker 1: Thinks exactly right, that's exactly it. But hearing that when 529 00:31:07,040 --> 00:31:10,720 Speaker 1: I was thirty two and like everything was so uncertain 530 00:31:10,760 --> 00:31:12,560 Speaker 1: and then this lady was coming to tell me this, 531 00:31:12,800 --> 00:31:14,200 Speaker 1: like who don't even know where I live in the 532 00:31:14,280 --> 00:31:17,080 Speaker 1: United States, Like even though she's my family. I said, 533 00:31:17,120 --> 00:31:19,520 Speaker 1: you're not flying out to help me. You're not coming out. 534 00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:21,680 Speaker 1: My mama has like twelve other kids to take girls. 535 00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:26,360 Speaker 1: She ain't she'll come, but she staying, you know, how 536 00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:30,280 Speaker 1: would I do this? So I just agree, and I'm 537 00:31:30,560 --> 00:31:32,680 Speaker 1: want to say, I'm grateful because you're giving me extra 538 00:31:32,800 --> 00:31:36,920 Speaker 1: new files. You're giving me new files to kind of 539 00:31:37,800 --> 00:31:40,640 Speaker 1: quill and quiet the old files that don't work for 540 00:31:40,680 --> 00:31:42,920 Speaker 1: me anymore at this stage in my life, you know, 541 00:31:43,040 --> 00:31:46,600 Speaker 1: like just take me in. Yeah, like, because that's what 542 00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:50,240 Speaker 1: I think, especially, and I'll say it's like in our life, 543 00:31:50,280 --> 00:31:53,320 Speaker 1: like we you know, we need new files. We're not. 544 00:31:54,720 --> 00:31:57,720 Speaker 1: We're not thirty five, We're not we need new files. 545 00:31:57,800 --> 00:32:00,720 Speaker 1: I don't have a big ship. Oh we will. I 546 00:32:00,760 --> 00:32:03,120 Speaker 1: don't have a big existence. So I'm listening to you talk, 547 00:32:03,160 --> 00:32:05,320 Speaker 1: and I'm like, that's how this goes cool. Thank you. 548 00:32:05,560 --> 00:32:08,200 Speaker 1: I'll take the bitst I work for me, and maybe 549 00:32:08,200 --> 00:32:10,040 Speaker 1: the bits that don't work right now we'll work in 550 00:32:10,040 --> 00:32:12,840 Speaker 1: the future. But right now I'm listening and I'm grateful. 551 00:32:12,920 --> 00:32:15,360 Speaker 1: I really am. Like I listened to the podcast every week, 552 00:32:15,400 --> 00:32:22,560 Speaker 1: so you know, because I love Yeah, We're so grateful 553 00:32:22,720 --> 00:32:26,320 Speaker 1: to have you here, and so exceptionally proud of you. 554 00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:33,040 Speaker 1: Go lie continue to lie for me personally, Um, I 555 00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:36,240 Speaker 1: just think that you're the sweetest. You've been the sweetheart 556 00:32:36,400 --> 00:32:39,840 Speaker 1: since we've met, like, and it's in an industry where 557 00:32:40,080 --> 00:32:42,160 Speaker 1: a lot of people are sweet for the moment, you 558 00:32:42,160 --> 00:32:44,400 Speaker 1: know what I mean. You have been very consistent and 559 00:32:44,400 --> 00:32:48,000 Speaker 1: I'm very grateful for that. Here's the deal for me, friends, 560 00:32:48,280 --> 00:32:52,840 Speaker 1: when it comes to prayer, I do not ask for anything. 561 00:32:53,080 --> 00:32:58,120 Speaker 1: I thank God for everything so in in in my specifics, 562 00:32:58,960 --> 00:33:01,760 Speaker 1: you know, I'm thinking, I'm thinking the creative for this moment. 563 00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:06,840 Speaker 1: We're having strong, powerful women who are also vulnerable, who 564 00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:11,160 Speaker 1: also are funny and love to have a good time, 565 00:33:11,560 --> 00:33:14,479 Speaker 1: and that are growing. I'm very grateful for that, and 566 00:33:14,480 --> 00:33:16,960 Speaker 1: we're very grateful for all of you listening to j 567 00:33:17,120 --> 00:33:20,680 Speaker 1: dot Elga podcast. We thank you so much. Please take 568 00:33:20,680 --> 00:33:30,160 Speaker 1: good care of yourselves. You fine, amen, Hollelleen. 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