Speaker 1: You found it at the home of the Second Date Update.
Speaker 2: It's Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning and thanks for
Speaker 2: being here on the weekend with us. And I know
Speaker 2: we have a lot of new listeners from all over
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Speaker 2: And we just thought, you know, y'all seem to like
Speaker 2: relationship drama. We're kind of experts on it, and we
Speaker 2: do a lot of other segments, including this one awkward
Speaker 2: Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 3: Yes, love it.
Speaker 2: Yes, seriously, it's not necessarily always a romantic relationship.
Speaker 1: With these It was always awkward, yeah, and tricky.
Speaker 2: So sit back and enjoy your awkward Tuesday phone call
Speaker 2: on Sunday.
Speaker 4: Totally.
Speaker 1: It starts right now.
Speaker 5: You have to sacrifice so much when you become a parent. Yeah,
Speaker 5: your body, your sanity, your bathroom alone time, but it's
Speaker 5: all worth it to see your child happy. Unless a
Speaker 5: one in a million type of situation happens like it
Speaker 5: did to our listener today, and now she's thinking, maybe
Speaker 5: my child can be a little less happy as long
Speaker 5: as I don't.
Speaker 6: Have to deal with this anymore. Yikes, that's what she's thinking.
Speaker 5: But for the sake of her kid, she is going
Speaker 5: to put herself into a very uncomfortable spot. And we
Speaker 5: are going to try to help. In your brand new
Speaker 5: awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 6: Right now, it's awkward.
Speaker 3: It's tesday.
Speaker 6: It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 5: Imagine you accidentally run into somebody from your past, but
Speaker 5: not a good somebody like your old second grade teacher
Speaker 5: or your cool babysitter who taught you how to delete
Speaker 5: your browser history.
Speaker 6: Before mom and dad got shut out.
Speaker 5: I mean that now, this is a person who you
Speaker 5: don't want to run into again. You really don't, guy,
Speaker 5: And that actually happened to one of our listeners, Dana,
Speaker 5: who afterwards has emailed us for help because she does
Speaker 5: not know how to continue.
Speaker 1: In her hometown, because that's where it's the worst fun.
Speaker 2: You can get away there something where she's not able
Speaker 2: to get away.
Speaker 6: Dana, Welcome to the show.
Speaker 3: Hi, thanks for having me. I really appreciate it.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I'm having an anxiety for you, just
Speaker 2: the thought. I can think of two people that I
Speaker 2: do not ever want to run into the rest of
Speaker 2: my life.
Speaker 5: I've never seen Alexis smile this big because she knows
Speaker 5: dramas coming.
Speaker 6: She's excited. What's going on? What made you email us?
Speaker 3: Oh my, I don't even know where to start, but
Speaker 3: just to give you, like a I just recently moved
Speaker 3: my family into a new neighborhood, so we're fresh there.
Speaker 6: Okay, that's exciting.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah it is, but it's also like dostful because
Speaker 3: my daughter's already having to switch schools. Yeah, for sure,
Speaker 3: she's nervous about making new friends.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but just remind her that the new kid is
Speaker 2: always cool in the beginning.
Speaker 5: And also remind her of the friends that you make
Speaker 5: when you're young. They really don't last very long. You're
Speaker 5: actually going to lose them all by adulthood.
Speaker 6: It's fine.
Speaker 5: One, I don't know, maybe deliver that a nicer way
Speaker 5: to her, but okay.
Speaker 3: Yeah, So on her first day of school, she's like, Mommy,
Speaker 3: I made a new friend, and I'm like, awesome, wow, news,
Speaker 3: thank god. Yeah, so we even I hadn't arranged the
Speaker 3: play day over at her new friend's house, and afterwards
Speaker 3: I go to pick her up, and you know, I
Speaker 3: go inside and walking the entryway and I'm like, they
Speaker 3: had Legos displayed on there.
Speaker 6: Oh, that's cool, built Lego sets on there.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I'm looking at the Legos and I recognize them.
Speaker 3: They're the same ones that my ex had on display
Speaker 3: nine years ago. Woah, model, exact thing. It was like
Speaker 3: a set. I knew that they were hit because I've
Speaker 3: seen the exact set before on display at his apartment.
Speaker 1: Are you saying you're at your ex's house right now?
Speaker 3: Then that's what I think it is because I'm looking
Speaker 3: around and I see a photo of him. It really
Speaker 3: was him, Yep, it's And I'm like, you've got to
Speaker 3: be kidding me. My daughter's friend is the child of
Speaker 3: my ex.
Speaker 2: That would be terrible, especially like most exes you're cool with,
Speaker 2: but there's always the one that you just don't ever
Speaker 2: want to see again, and it sounds like that's the
Speaker 2: person for you.
Speaker 3: Yep, And you're right. It is the worst thing ever
Speaker 3: because it didn't end well with us.
Speaker 1: Wait is he there when you pick her up? Do
Speaker 1: you see him?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 3: Luckily he was at work that day and I've only
Speaker 3: interacted with the mother.
Speaker 6: Oh my god, do.
Speaker 2: You bring it up to the mom like, I mean,
Speaker 2: you have to because it's a be even more awkward
Speaker 2: if you're like.
Speaker 5: Less awkward to be like, nice to meet you. Our
Speaker 5: daughters are now friends, by the way, me and your
Speaker 5: husband used.
Speaker 6: To be a thing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know, I don't know. I don't have
Speaker 1: an answer. It's just all of that is like my
Speaker 1: worst night.
Speaker 6: Yeah, you walk up her and.
Speaker 5: Go, oh he downgraded and then walk away.
Speaker 3: And that's why I'm calling you, guys. I'm like conflicted
Speaker 3: because my daughter's been asking me like mommy, mommy, let's
Speaker 3: go over there, and I'm like what do I do?
Speaker 3: And now it's the worst scenarios possible. If this couldn't
Speaker 3: get any worse. Her friend is having a birthday party.
Speaker 2: Oh and you know the dad will definitely be at
Speaker 2: the birthday party because it's like you could avoid them
Speaker 2: the other way.
Speaker 3: And you know, it sounds like happy hour, mingo hour
Speaker 3: for the adults, like they have a scene for the
Speaker 3: adults to be there to have a good time too.
Speaker 2: As if this guy, if this ex was in love
Speaker 2: with you, do you think he has any idea that
Speaker 2: you're the mom of his daughter's new friend.
Speaker 3: I doubt it.
Speaker 1: If you look alike it all or like resemble just
Speaker 1: a name right the name or like?
Speaker 2: I mean, honestly, if people are still in love with
Speaker 2: their exes, they stock them on social media.
Speaker 6: Is that what you did?
Speaker 1: No love with exes?
Speaker 6: Okay, I did that. She's just curious what they were doing.
Speaker 1: I mean, I've done it before, not currently.
Speaker 3: So I'm going a dilemma now because the birthday's coming
Speaker 3: up in a few days and I need to have
Speaker 3: a conversation with the wife.
Speaker 2: Okay, I think that's the right thing to do.
Speaker 5: If I was you, I would move to another neighborhood
Speaker 5: and try again. How many can you?
Speaker 1: Did you unpack your boxes?
Speaker 3: My daughter she loves this new friend. So I really
Speaker 3: need some help and advice on like what I'm going
Speaker 3: to tell the wife and how it's going to go go.
Speaker 5: So that's going to be our job come up with
Speaker 5: some advice to give you. Juicy, We're going to figure
Speaker 5: out how you can talkalk to your ex's wife.
Speaker 6: And guess let her know.
Speaker 5: That the two of you used to date and now
Speaker 5: your kids are best friends.
Speaker 6: Oh, yeah, not too much totally to talk about.
Speaker 1: Maybe everyone will be an adult about this.
Speaker 6: Of course, you want adult stuff to happen. Brook.
Speaker 5: Anyway, let's try and do your awkward Tuesday phone call
Speaker 5: right after this.
Speaker 6: It's awkward.
Speaker 1: It's Tuesday.
Speaker 6: It's awkward Tuesday phone call. As a parent, you want
Speaker 6: your child to make.
Speaker 1: New friends, yes, of course.
Speaker 5: But worst case scenarios if you find out their new
Speaker 5: friend is the daughter of your old ex boyfriend.
Speaker 2: Oh man, the one ex you didn't want to see,
Speaker 2: not the one you want to get back.
Speaker 5: Yeah, thank you for clarifying, because that's exactly what happened
Speaker 5: to our listener, Dana. And now the clock is ticking
Speaker 5: because there's a birthday party coming up where all of
Speaker 5: the adults and the parents are supposed to hang out
Speaker 5: and mingle with each other. And Dana is absolutely terrified
Speaker 5: of what to do.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because she hasn't even seen the ex yet. She's
Speaker 2: only interacted with the mom of the girl you don't know,
Speaker 2: you know, and a birthday party means that he's going
Speaker 2: to be there.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that is a good question, Dana, Like, what is
Speaker 5: the percentage that your ex knows? This is already going on.
Speaker 3: Honestly, I don't know, but if I had to guess,
Speaker 3: maybe fifty percent.
Speaker 1: Fifty fifty fifty fifty fifty.
Speaker 5: Okay, well Brook, she needs some advice before we call
Speaker 5: this other mom and basically lay it all out there
Speaker 5: for her. What do you think Dana needs to keep
Speaker 5: in mind?
Speaker 2: Okay, this is the thing. You have to be so casual.
Speaker 2: You cannot act like it's a big deal.
Speaker 5: Yeah, so casual. Don't even wear pants ye for this conversation. No,
Speaker 5: keep it back and chill.
Speaker 1: I'm saying, when you talk to her, you need to
Speaker 1: be like, oh my god, so funny. I just realized
Speaker 1: I know your husband. What a small bothered?
Speaker 4: Bothered?
Speaker 6: What do you think of that, Dana, No big deal.
Speaker 3: I don't know if I could do that because I
Speaker 3: feel like I'll be lying and acting.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I want you to do.
Speaker 6: Okay, let's give it a try.
Speaker 5: Give us your best nonchalant like, oh weird, me and
Speaker 5: your husband used to date.
Speaker 3: Oh what a small world.
Speaker 4: I believe it. We're flirting.
Speaker 3: Me and your husband used today. Fun fact of the day.
Speaker 2: Sound a little bit excited about it, more like silly
Speaker 2: funny coincidence story, not fun fact.
Speaker 5: Okay, we'll just take a little bit of nugget, a
Speaker 5: little nugget from that.
Speaker 6: I'm not trying to.
Speaker 1: Sprinkle it in good and I'm more stressed out anywhere.
Speaker 6: Just do you, I think, just be you and you're
Speaker 6: gonna be good.
Speaker 3: Thank you.
Speaker 2: She could have done that without us, Jeff, Well, that
Speaker 2: was her fault for calling in.
Speaker 6: Stop recording. Just tell us how this goes later. Here
Speaker 6: we go.
Speaker 5: I'm going to dial the other mom and let you
Speaker 5: talk to her so you can let her know that
Speaker 5: you used to date her husband.
Speaker 3: Oh my, well, pray for me. I'll pray for me.
Speaker 6: Okay, we will as I'm dialing the number. Now, good luck.
Speaker 6: We'll jump in if we feel like you need help.
Speaker 4: Hello.
Speaker 3: Oh hi, is this Alix? Yes it is, who says
Speaker 3: it's Deliah's mom? Stay that?
Speaker 1: Oh hi?
Speaker 4: How are you? Oh?
Speaker 3: I'm good, you know, just getting some things done around
Speaker 3: the house.
Speaker 4: How are you? I'm good. I can't complain. I'm just
Speaker 4: getting ready for this card we have in a few days,
Speaker 4: and I'm definitely not prepared.
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, I know how that goes. Well, Bless
Speaker 3: your heart.
Speaker 4: What could I do for you? Is everything? Okay?
Speaker 3: Yeah? So this is okay. Sorry, I'm trying. I wanted
Speaker 3: to call you and discuss something with you.
Speaker 4: I have a few parents call about food allergies. Is
Speaker 4: that what this is about?
Speaker 3: Oh no, no, thank god, she doesn't have any food allergies.
Speaker 3: But I'm calling you because it's just kind of like
Speaker 3: an awkward thing. So I don't know how to sugarcoat this.
Speaker 3: But it involved your husband.
Speaker 4: Oh oh, my husband.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so please, like, don't worry. He's not like cheating
Speaker 3: on you or anything. But I don't know if you
Speaker 3: know this or if he's told you. But the other day,
Speaker 3: you know, I took it up Delilah, and I realized
Speaker 3: after going to your house that I actually know your
Speaker 3: husband and we used to date.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and.
Speaker 3: You don't seem surprised by this.
Speaker 4: I mean, she do you not looking to date now?
Speaker 4: If that's what you're wondering.
Speaker 3: We're married, so okay, hold on, hold on, I'm married too,
Speaker 3: so you know, I don't know how much he told you.
Speaker 3: We kind of have like a weird breakup. So I'm
Speaker 3: just feeling a little uncomfortable.
Speaker 4: Do you feel this way because you still have phyllings
Speaker 4: for him? Or I'm getting really confused?
Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, no, why it's.
Speaker 4: Like or anyone would be uncomfortable, Like, I mean he
Speaker 4: told me all about you.
Speaker 3: Okay, so you know he told you about this.
Speaker 4: Yeah, he said it was a really it was a
Speaker 4: really hard breakup when you got dumped. He didn't want
Speaker 4: to hurt you.
Speaker 3: And I'm dumb.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I didn't get exactly. So I mean, I understand.
Speaker 4: I'm a woman. First, I totally get it.
Speaker 3: No, he first of all, I didn't get dumped. I
Speaker 3: dumped him.
Speaker 4: Well, it's the honey, everybody gets dumped. It's okay, it's
Speaker 4: no new to be embarrassed. It's not a lie. Okay
Speaker 4: what I mean, I haven't, but I can imagine the
Speaker 4: pain of getting dump Wow.
Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, no, that's not what happened.
Speaker 4: And I now comes with it, and no one, you
Speaker 4: have nothing to worry about. Our daughters they like together.
Speaker 4: We can come and leave it at that.
Speaker 3: You need to understand I jumped him, and like you're
Speaker 3: just awkward and resentful after that and like this is
Speaker 3: not cool.
Speaker 4: Okay, do you like see a therapist at all? Or
Speaker 4: have you ever consider that? Like you definitely you definitely should.
Speaker 6: Oh my god.
Speaker 3: Okay, wow, wait all this.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's the sound of an entire morning show being
Speaker 5: on this phone call with you, because you're you're on
Speaker 5: the radio right now, Alice. Oh my god, we're broking
Speaker 5: Jeffrey in the morning. We're trying to help out Dana
Speaker 5: with this awkward conversation that she was trying to have
Speaker 5: with you about your daughters and oh the dating history
Speaker 5: between them.
Speaker 4: So she goes on the radio.
Speaker 2: Okay, well, well you wanted advice, but that's not the
Speaker 2: advice we gave her.
Speaker 5: No, we were expecting you to be surprised by the
Speaker 5: news that Dana had a relationship in the past with
Speaker 5: your husband.
Speaker 1: Because it was definitely a surprise to Dana.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, no, we my husband and I talked already.
Speaker 4: We know what's going on. Like she's someone of the past,
Speaker 4: and I just I feel like she may still be
Speaker 4: a little hurt.
Speaker 3: I'm not hurt, Alice. I'm just calling you to let
Speaker 3: you know that we were dating, just in case you
Speaker 3: didn't know. And then you say I was lying or
Speaker 3: hiding something from you. He was like a complete loser
Speaker 3: after ok.
Speaker 1: Okay, here's the thing.
Speaker 4: Data.
Speaker 1: It feels like Alice is maybe being.
Speaker 6: A little bit more of the adult here.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it is lying.
Speaker 3: They're lying. That's like, that doesn't make me feel comfortable
Speaker 3: to come over to their house.
Speaker 6: Okay.
Speaker 3: Who broke up with him?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Woman, it was nine years ago. You found a husband,
Speaker 1: you had the kids, you did the dream.
Speaker 5: Cause couples that lie together stay together, that's the saying.
Speaker 3: Okay, So just now that you know Alice, can we
Speaker 3: like move forward from this?
Speaker 4: What's the I mean, we already moved forward. If you
Speaker 4: are involving the radio and you have all these feelings
Speaker 4: and all these things going on in your mind. I
Speaker 4: just want to make sure you're okay, because we're definitely
Speaker 4: okay over here.
Speaker 6: Okay.
Speaker 5: So, Dana, I guess ball's in your court here, because
Speaker 5: it sounds like Alice has known about the past relationship
Speaker 5: and has no concerns about it.
Speaker 4: As long as she doesn't want my husband. Were good
Speaker 4: to go?
Speaker 6: Okay? Does not sound like she does, Dana.
Speaker 5: Can you verbally acknowledge that you are not interested in
Speaker 5: Alice's husband?
Speaker 3: I am not interested in your husband?
Speaker 6: Thankful friends.
Speaker 5: Yeah, so when the birthday party happens, are you comfortable
Speaker 5: now going over there?
Speaker 6: Dana?
Speaker 3: You know, I think for this birth birthday party. I'm
Speaker 3: just gonna drop her off and have you guys do
Speaker 3: and maybe we can just have a one on one
Speaker 3: after something and just time.
Speaker 4: I just want our girls to be able to play
Speaker 4: together and get to know one another, like that's all
Speaker 4: that matters.
Speaker 1: It seems like the most chill, go with a flow, mom.
Speaker 4: I know.
Speaker 2: I think that maybe we should don't say therapy.
Speaker 5: I think it's a good chance for you to go
Speaker 5: over to the house with the birthday party.
Speaker 6: You can be the better person.
Speaker 5: Walk in there, write a note and put it under
Speaker 5: the husband's pillow, saying, just to be clear, I broke
Speaker 5: up with you just so strange.
Speaker 3: No, I don't want to be petty, but that is
Speaker 3: a good idea.
Speaker 5: Okay, sticky notes. They're nice and small. You won't see
Speaker 5: them until he goes
Speaker 3: To bed Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.