WEBVTT - Awkward Tuesday: Ex-Expectations

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<v Speaker 1>You found it at the home of the Second Date Update.

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<v Speaker 2>It's Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning and thanks for

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<v Speaker 2>being here on the weekend with us. And I know

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<v Speaker 2>we have a lot of new listeners from all over

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<v Speaker 2>the world since we've been in the you know, top

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<v Speaker 2>ten charts of podcasts.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, also, which is awesome. And if you don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>we actually are a full radio show.

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<v Speaker 2>I know rio and we are talking on it and

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<v Speaker 2>we do a brand new full hour episode every day

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<v Speaker 2>on our main feed Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.

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<v Speaker 2>And we just thought, you know, y'all seem to like

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<v Speaker 2>relationship drama. We're kind of experts on it, and we

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<v Speaker 2>do a lot of other segments, including this one awkward

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<v Speaker 2>Tuesday phone call.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, love it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, seriously, it's not necessarily always a romantic relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>With these It was always awkward, yeah, and tricky.

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<v Speaker 2>So sit back and enjoy your awkward Tuesday phone call

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<v Speaker 2>on Sunday.

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<v Speaker 4>Totally.

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<v Speaker 1>It starts right now.

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<v Speaker 5>You have to sacrifice so much when you become a parent. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>your body, your sanity, your bathroom alone time, but it's

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<v Speaker 5>all worth it to see your child happy. Unless a

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<v Speaker 5>one in a million type of situation happens like it

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<v Speaker 5>did to our listener today, and now she's thinking, maybe

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<v Speaker 5>my child can be a little less happy as long

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<v Speaker 5>as I don't.

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<v Speaker 6>Have to deal with this anymore. Yikes, that's what she's thinking.

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<v Speaker 5>But for the sake of her kid, she is going

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<v Speaker 5>to put herself into a very uncomfortable spot. And we

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<v Speaker 5>are going to try to help. In your brand new

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<v Speaker 5>awkward Tuesday phone call.

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<v Speaker 6>Right now, it's awkward.

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<v Speaker 3>It's tesday.

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<v Speaker 6>It's awkward Tuesday phone call.

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<v Speaker 5>Imagine you accidentally run into somebody from your past, but

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<v Speaker 5>not a good somebody like your old second grade teacher

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<v Speaker 5>or your cool babysitter who taught you how to delete

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<v Speaker 5>your browser history.

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<v Speaker 6>Before mom and dad got shut out.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean that now, this is a person who you

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<v Speaker 5>don't want to run into again. You really don't, guy,

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<v Speaker 5>And that actually happened to one of our listeners, Dana,

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<v Speaker 5>who afterwards has emailed us for help because she does

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<v Speaker 5>not know how to continue.

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<v Speaker 1>In her hometown, because that's where it's the worst fun.

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<v Speaker 2>You can get away there something where she's not able

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<v Speaker 2>to get away.

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<v Speaker 6>Dana, Welcome to the show.

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<v Speaker 3>Hi, thanks for having me. I really appreciate it.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, I'm having an anxiety for you, just

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<v Speaker 2>the thought. I can think of two people that I

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<v Speaker 2>do not ever want to run into the rest of

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<v Speaker 2>my life.

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<v Speaker 5>I've never seen Alexis smile this big because she knows

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<v Speaker 5>dramas coming.

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<v Speaker 6>She's excited. What's going on? What made you email us?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my, I don't even know where to start, but

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<v Speaker 3>just to give you, like a I just recently moved

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<v Speaker 3>my family into a new neighborhood, so we're fresh there.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, that's exciting.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah it is, but it's also like dostful because

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<v Speaker 3>my daughter's already having to switch schools. Yeah, for sure,

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<v Speaker 3>she's nervous about making new friends.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but just remind her that the new kid is

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<v Speaker 2>always cool in the beginning.

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<v Speaker 5>And also remind her of the friends that you make

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<v Speaker 5>when you're young. They really don't last very long. You're

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<v Speaker 5>actually going to lose them all by adulthood.

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<v Speaker 6>It's fine.

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<v Speaker 5>One, I don't know, maybe deliver that a nicer way

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<v Speaker 5>to her, but okay.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, So on her first day of school, she's like, Mommy,

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<v Speaker 3>I made a new friend, and I'm like, awesome, wow, news,

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<v Speaker 3>thank god. Yeah, so we even I hadn't arranged the

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<v Speaker 3>play day over at her new friend's house, and afterwards

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<v Speaker 3>I go to pick her up, and you know, I

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<v Speaker 3>go inside and walking the entryway and I'm like, they

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<v Speaker 3>had Legos displayed on there.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh, that's cool, built Lego sets on there.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, And I'm looking at the Legos and I recognize them.

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<v Speaker 3>They're the same ones that my ex had on display

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<v Speaker 3>nine years ago. Woah, model, exact thing. It was like

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<v Speaker 3>a set. I knew that they were hit because I've

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<v Speaker 3>seen the exact set before on display at his apartment.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you saying you're at your ex's house right now?

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<v Speaker 3>Then that's what I think it is because I'm looking

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<v Speaker 3>around and I see a photo of him. It really

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<v Speaker 3>was him, Yep, it's And I'm like, you've got to

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<v Speaker 3>be kidding me. My daughter's friend is the child of

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<v Speaker 3>my ex.

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<v Speaker 2>That would be terrible, especially like most exes you're cool with,

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<v Speaker 2>but there's always the one that you just don't ever

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<v Speaker 2>want to see again, and it sounds like that's the

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<v Speaker 2>person for you.

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<v Speaker 3>Yep, And you're right. It is the worst thing ever

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<v Speaker 3>because it didn't end well with us.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait is he there when you pick her up? Do

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<v Speaker 1>you see him?

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<v Speaker 4>No?

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<v Speaker 3>Luckily he was at work that day and I've only

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<v Speaker 3>interacted with the mother.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh my god, do.

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<v Speaker 2>You bring it up to the mom like, I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>you have to because it's a be even more awkward

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<v Speaker 2>if you're like.

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<v Speaker 5>Less awkward to be like, nice to meet you. Our

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<v Speaker 5>daughters are now friends, by the way, me and your

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<v Speaker 5>husband used.

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<v Speaker 6>To be a thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I don't know, I don't know. I don't have

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<v Speaker 1>an answer. It's just all of that is like my

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<v Speaker 1>worst night.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, you walk up her and.

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<v Speaker 5>Go, oh he downgraded and then walk away.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's why I'm calling you, guys. I'm like conflicted

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<v Speaker 3>because my daughter's been asking me like mommy, mommy, let's

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<v Speaker 3>go over there, and I'm like what do I do?

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<v Speaker 3>And now it's the worst scenarios possible. If this couldn't

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<v Speaker 3>get any worse. Her friend is having a birthday party.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh and you know the dad will definitely be at

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<v Speaker 2>the birthday party because it's like you could avoid them

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<v Speaker 2>the other way.

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<v Speaker 3>And you know, it sounds like happy hour, mingo hour

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<v Speaker 3>for the adults, like they have a scene for the

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<v Speaker 3>adults to be there to have a good time too.

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<v Speaker 2>As if this guy, if this ex was in love

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<v Speaker 2>with you, do you think he has any idea that

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<v Speaker 2>you're the mom of his daughter's new friend.

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<v Speaker 3>I doubt it.

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<v Speaker 1>If you look alike it all or like resemble just

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<v Speaker 1>a name right the name or like?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, honestly, if people are still in love with

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<v Speaker 2>their exes, they stock them on social media.

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<v Speaker 6>Is that what you did?

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<v Speaker 1>No love with exes?

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, I did that. She's just curious what they were doing.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I've done it before, not currently.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm going a dilemma now because the birthday's coming

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<v Speaker 3>up in a few days and I need to have

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<v Speaker 3>a conversation with the wife.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I think that's the right thing to do.

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<v Speaker 5>If I was you, I would move to another neighborhood

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<v Speaker 5>and try again. How many can you?

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<v Speaker 1>Did you unpack your boxes?

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<v Speaker 3>My daughter she loves this new friend. So I really

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<v Speaker 3>need some help and advice on like what I'm going

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<v Speaker 3>to tell the wife and how it's going to go go.

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<v Speaker 5>So that's going to be our job come up with

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<v Speaker 5>some advice to give you. Juicy, We're going to figure

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<v Speaker 5>out how you can talkalk to your ex's wife.

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<v Speaker 6>And guess let her know.

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<v Speaker 5>That the two of you used to date and now

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<v Speaker 5>your kids are best friends.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh, yeah, not too much totally to talk about.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe everyone will be an adult about this.

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<v Speaker 6>Of course, you want adult stuff to happen. Brook.

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<v Speaker 5>Anyway, let's try and do your awkward Tuesday phone call

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<v Speaker 5>right after this.

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<v Speaker 6>It's awkward.

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<v Speaker 1>It's Tuesday.

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<v Speaker 6>It's awkward Tuesday phone call. As a parent, you want

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<v Speaker 6>your child to make.

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<v Speaker 1>New friends, yes, of course.

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<v Speaker 5>But worst case scenarios if you find out their new

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<v Speaker 5>friend is the daughter of your old ex boyfriend.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh man, the one ex you didn't want to see,

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<v Speaker 2>not the one you want to get back.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, thank you for clarifying, because that's exactly what happened

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<v Speaker 5>to our listener, Dana. And now the clock is ticking

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<v Speaker 5>because there's a birthday party coming up where all of

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<v Speaker 5>the adults and the parents are supposed to hang out

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<v Speaker 5>and mingle with each other. And Dana is absolutely terrified

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<v Speaker 5>of what to do.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because she hasn't even seen the ex yet. She's

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<v Speaker 2>only interacted with the mom of the girl you don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, and a birthday party means that he's going

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<v Speaker 2>to be there.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, that is a good question, Dana, Like, what is

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<v Speaker 5>the percentage that your ex knows? This is already going on.

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<v Speaker 3>Honestly, I don't know, but if I had to guess,

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<v Speaker 3>maybe fifty percent.

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<v Speaker 1>Fifty fifty fifty fifty fifty.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, well Brook, she needs some advice before we call

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<v Speaker 5>this other mom and basically lay it all out there

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<v Speaker 5>for her. What do you think Dana needs to keep

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<v Speaker 5>in mind?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, this is the thing. You have to be so casual.

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<v Speaker 2>You cannot act like it's a big deal.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, so casual. Don't even wear pants ye for this conversation. No,

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<v Speaker 5>keep it back and chill.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying, when you talk to her, you need to

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<v Speaker 1>be like, oh my god, so funny. I just realized

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<v Speaker 1>I know your husband. What a small bothered?

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<v Speaker 4>Bothered?

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<v Speaker 6>What do you think of that, Dana, No big deal.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know if I could do that because I

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<v Speaker 3>feel like I'll be lying and acting.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's what I want you to do.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, let's give it a try.

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<v Speaker 5>Give us your best nonchalant like, oh weird, me and

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<v Speaker 5>your husband used to date.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh what a small world.

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<v Speaker 4>I believe it. We're flirting.

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<v Speaker 3>Me and your husband used today. Fun fact of the day.

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<v Speaker 2>Sound a little bit excited about it, more like silly

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<v Speaker 2>funny coincidence story, not fun fact.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, we'll just take a little bit of nugget, a

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<v Speaker 5>little nugget from that.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm not trying to.

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<v Speaker 1>Sprinkle it in good and I'm more stressed out anywhere.

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<v Speaker 6>Just do you, I think, just be you and you're

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<v Speaker 6>gonna be good.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>She could have done that without us, Jeff, Well, that

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<v Speaker 2>was her fault for calling in.

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<v Speaker 6>Stop recording. Just tell us how this goes later. Here

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<v Speaker 6>we go.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm going to dial the other mom and let you

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<v Speaker 5>talk to her so you can let her know that

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<v Speaker 5>you used to date her husband.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my, well, pray for me. I'll pray for me.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, we will as I'm dialing the number. Now, good luck.

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<v Speaker 6>We'll jump in if we feel like you need help.

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<v Speaker 4>Hello.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh hi, is this Alix? Yes it is, who says

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<v Speaker 3>it's Deliah's mom? Stay that?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh hi?

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<v Speaker 4>How are you? Oh?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm good, you know, just getting some things done around

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<v Speaker 3>the house.

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<v Speaker 4>How are you? I'm good. I can't complain. I'm just

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<v Speaker 4>getting ready for this card we have in a few days,

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<v Speaker 4>and I'm definitely not prepared.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my gosh, I know how that goes. Well, Bless

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<v Speaker 3>your heart.

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<v Speaker 4>What could I do for you? Is everything? Okay?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah? So this is okay. Sorry, I'm trying. I wanted

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<v Speaker 3>to call you and discuss something with you.

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<v Speaker 4>I have a few parents call about food allergies. Is

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<v Speaker 4>that what this is about?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh no, no, thank god, she doesn't have any food allergies.

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<v Speaker 3>But I'm calling you because it's just kind of like

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<v Speaker 3>an awkward thing. So I don't know how to sugarcoat this.

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<v Speaker 3>But it involved your husband.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh oh, my husband.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so please, like, don't worry. He's not like cheating

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<v Speaker 3>on you or anything. But I don't know if you

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<v Speaker 3>know this or if he's told you. But the other day,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, I took it up Delilah, and I realized

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<v Speaker 3>after going to your house that I actually know your

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<v Speaker 3>husband and we used to date.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, and.

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<v Speaker 3>You don't seem surprised by this.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, she do you not looking to date now?

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<v Speaker 4>If that's what you're wondering.

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<v Speaker 3>We're married, so okay, hold on, hold on, I'm married too,

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<v Speaker 3>so you know, I don't know how much he told you.

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<v Speaker 3>We kind of have like a weird breakup. So I'm

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<v Speaker 3>just feeling a little uncomfortable.

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<v Speaker 4>Do you feel this way because you still have phyllings

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<v Speaker 4>for him? Or I'm getting really confused?

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<v Speaker 3>No, no, no, no, no, why it's.

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<v Speaker 4>Like or anyone would be uncomfortable, Like, I mean he

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<v Speaker 4>told me all about you.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, so you know he told you about this.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, he said it was a really it was a

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<v Speaker 4>really hard breakup when you got dumped. He didn't want

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<v Speaker 4>to hurt you.

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm dumb.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I didn't get exactly. So I mean, I understand.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm a woman. First, I totally get it.

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<v Speaker 3>No, he first of all, I didn't get dumped. I

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<v Speaker 3>dumped him.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, it's the honey, everybody gets dumped. It's okay, it's

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<v Speaker 4>no new to be embarrassed. It's not a lie. Okay

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<v Speaker 4>what I mean, I haven't, but I can imagine the

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<v Speaker 4>pain of getting dump Wow.

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<v Speaker 3>No, no, no, no, no, that's not what happened.

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<v Speaker 4>And I now comes with it, and no one, you

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<v Speaker 4>have nothing to worry about. Our daughters they like together.

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<v Speaker 4>We can come and leave it at that.

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<v Speaker 3>You need to understand I jumped him, and like you're

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<v Speaker 3>just awkward and resentful after that and like this is

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<v Speaker 3>not cool.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, do you like see a therapist at all? Or

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<v Speaker 4>have you ever consider that? Like you definitely you definitely should.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, wow, wait all this.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, that's the sound of an entire morning show being

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<v Speaker 5>on this phone call with you, because you're you're on

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<v Speaker 5>the radio right now, Alice. Oh my god, we're broking

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<v Speaker 5>Jeffrey in the morning. We're trying to help out Dana

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<v Speaker 5>with this awkward conversation that she was trying to have

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<v Speaker 5>with you about your daughters and oh the dating history

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<v Speaker 5>between them.

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<v Speaker 4>So she goes on the radio.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, well, well you wanted advice, but that's not the

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<v Speaker 2>advice we gave her.

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<v Speaker 5>No, we were expecting you to be surprised by the

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<v Speaker 5>news that Dana had a relationship in the past with

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<v Speaker 5>your husband.

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<v Speaker 1>Because it was definitely a surprise to Dana.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh yeah, no, we my husband and I talked already.

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<v Speaker 4>We know what's going on. Like she's someone of the past,

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<v Speaker 4>and I just I feel like she may still be

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<v Speaker 4>a little hurt.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not hurt, Alice. I'm just calling you to let

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<v Speaker 3>you know that we were dating, just in case you

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<v Speaker 3>didn't know. And then you say I was lying or

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<v Speaker 3>hiding something from you. He was like a complete loser

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<v Speaker 3>after ok.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, here's the thing.

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<v Speaker 4>Data.

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<v Speaker 1>It feels like Alice is maybe being.

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<v Speaker 6>A little bit more of the adult here.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but it is lying.

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<v Speaker 3>They're lying. That's like, that doesn't make me feel comfortable

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<v Speaker 3>to come over to their house.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay.

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<v Speaker 3>Who broke up with him?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Woman, it was nine years ago. You found a husband,

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<v Speaker 1>you had the kids, you did the dream.

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<v Speaker 5>Cause couples that lie together stay together, that's the saying.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, So just now that you know Alice, can we

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<v Speaker 3>like move forward from this?

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<v Speaker 4>What's the I mean, we already moved forward. If you

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<v Speaker 4>are involving the radio and you have all these feelings

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<v Speaker 4>and all these things going on in your mind. I

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<v Speaker 4>just want to make sure you're okay, because we're definitely

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<v Speaker 4>okay over here.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay.

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<v Speaker 5>So, Dana, I guess ball's in your court here, because

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<v Speaker 5>it sounds like Alice has known about the past relationship

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<v Speaker 5>and has no concerns about it.

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<v Speaker 4>As long as she doesn't want my husband. Were good

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<v Speaker 4>to go?

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<v Speaker 6>Okay? Does not sound like she does, Dana.

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<v Speaker 5>Can you verbally acknowledge that you are not interested in

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<v Speaker 5>Alice's husband?

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<v Speaker 3>I am not interested in your husband?

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<v Speaker 6>Thankful friends.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, so when the birthday party happens, are you comfortable

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<v Speaker 5>now going over there?

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<v Speaker 6>Dana?

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<v Speaker 3>You know, I think for this birth birthday party. I'm

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<v Speaker 3>just gonna drop her off and have you guys do

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<v Speaker 3>and maybe we can just have a one on one

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<v Speaker 3>after something and just time.

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<v Speaker 4>I just want our girls to be able to play

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<v Speaker 4>together and get to know one another, like that's all

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<v Speaker 4>that matters.

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<v Speaker 1>It seems like the most chill, go with a flow, mom.

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<v Speaker 4>I know.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that maybe we should don't say therapy.

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<v Speaker 5>I think it's a good chance for you to go

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<v Speaker 5>over to the house with the birthday party.

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<v Speaker 6>You can be the better person.

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<v Speaker 5>Walk in there, write a note and put it under

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<v Speaker 5>the husband's pillow, saying, just to be clear, I broke

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<v Speaker 5>up with you just so strange.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I don't want to be petty, but that is

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<v Speaker 3>a good idea.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, sticky notes. They're nice and small. You won't see

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<v Speaker 5>them until he goes

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<v Speaker 3>To bed Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.