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Speaker 1: You found it at the home of the Second Date Update.

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Speaker 2: It's Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning and thanks for

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Speaker 2: being here on the weekend with us. And I know

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Speaker 2: we have a lot of new listeners from all over

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Speaker 2: the world since we've been in the you know, top

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Speaker 2: ten charts of podcasts.

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Speaker 1: Yes, also, which is awesome. And if you don't know,

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Speaker 1: we actually are a full radio show.

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Speaker 2: I know rio and we are talking on it and

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Speaker 2: we do a brand new full hour episode every day

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Speaker 2: on our main feed Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.

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Speaker 2: And we just thought, you know, y'all seem to like

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Speaker 2: relationship drama. We're kind of experts on it, and we

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Speaker 2: do a lot of other segments, including this one awkward

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Speaker 3: Yes, love it.

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Speaker 2: Yes, seriously, it's not necessarily always a romantic relationship.

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Speaker 1: With these It was always awkward, yeah, and tricky.

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Speaker 2: So sit back and enjoy your awkward Tuesday phone call

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Speaker 2: on Sunday.

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Speaker 4: Totally.

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Speaker 1: It starts right now.

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Speaker 5: You have to sacrifice so much when you become a parent. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: your body, your sanity, your bathroom alone time, but it's

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Speaker 5: all worth it to see your child happy. Unless a

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Speaker 5: one in a million type of situation happens like it

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Speaker 5: did to our listener today, and now she's thinking, maybe

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Speaker 5: as I don't.

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Speaker 6: Have to deal with this anymore. Yikes, that's what she's thinking.

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Speaker 5: But for the sake of her kid, she is going

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Speaker 5: to put herself into a very uncomfortable spot. And we

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Speaker 5: are going to try to help. In your brand new

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Speaker 5: awkward Tuesday phone call.

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Speaker 6: Right now, it's awkward.

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Speaker 3: It's tesday.

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Speaker 6: It's awkward Tuesday phone call.

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Speaker 5: Imagine you accidentally run into somebody from your past, but

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Speaker 5: not a good somebody like your old second grade teacher

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Speaker 5: or your cool babysitter who taught you how to delete

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Speaker 5: your browser history.

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Speaker 6: Before mom and dad got shut out.

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Speaker 5: I mean that now, this is a person who you

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Speaker 5: don't want to run into again. You really don't, guy,

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Speaker 5: And that actually happened to one of our listeners, Dana,

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Speaker 5: who afterwards has emailed us for help because she does

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Speaker 1: In her hometown, because that's where it's the worst fun.

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Speaker 2: You can get away there something where she's not able

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Speaker 6: Dana, Welcome to the show.

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Speaker 3: Hi, thanks for having me. I really appreciate it.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, I'm having an anxiety for you, just

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Speaker 2: the thought. I can think of two people that I

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Speaker 2: do not ever want to run into the rest of

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Speaker 5: I've never seen Alexis smile this big because she knows

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Speaker 5: dramas coming.

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Speaker 6: She's excited. What's going on? What made you email us?

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Speaker 3: Oh my, I don't even know where to start, but

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Speaker 3: just to give you, like a I just recently moved

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Speaker 6: Okay, that's exciting.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah it is, but it's also like dostful because

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Speaker 3: my daughter's already having to switch schools. Yeah, for sure,

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Speaker 3: she's nervous about making new friends.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but just remind her that the new kid is

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Speaker 5: And also remind her of the friends that you make

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Speaker 6: It's fine.

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Speaker 5: One, I don't know, maybe deliver that a nicer way

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So on her first day of school, she's like, Mommy,

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Speaker 6: Oh, that's cool, built Lego sets on there.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And I'm looking at the Legos and I recognize them.

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Speaker 3: They're the same ones that my ex had on display

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Speaker 1: Are you saying you're at your ex's house right now?

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Speaker 3: Then that's what I think it is because I'm looking

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Speaker 2: That would be terrible, especially like most exes you're cool with,

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Speaker 3: Yep, And you're right. It is the worst thing ever

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Speaker 1: Wait is he there when you pick her up? Do

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Speaker 3: Luckily he was at work that day and I've only

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Speaker 6: Oh my god, do.

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Speaker 2: You bring it up to the mom like, I mean,

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Speaker 2: you have to because it's a be even more awkward

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Speaker 2: if you're like.

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Speaker 5: Less awkward to be like, nice to meet you. Our

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Speaker 6: To be a thing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know, I don't know. I don't have

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Speaker 6: Yeah, you walk up her and.

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Speaker 5: Go, oh he downgraded and then walk away.

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Speaker 3: And that's why I'm calling you, guys. I'm like conflicted

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Speaker 3: And now it's the worst scenarios possible. If this couldn't

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Speaker 2: Oh and you know the dad will definitely be at

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Speaker 3: And you know, it sounds like happy hour, mingo hour

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Speaker 2: As if this guy, if this ex was in love

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Speaker 3: I doubt it.

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Speaker 1: If you look alike it all or like resemble just

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Speaker 2: I mean, honestly, if people are still in love with

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Speaker 6: Is that what you did?

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Speaker 1: No love with exes?

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Speaker 6: Okay, I did that. She's just curious what they were doing.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I've done it before, not currently.

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Speaker 3: So I'm going a dilemma now because the birthday's coming

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Speaker 2: Okay, I think that's the right thing to do.

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Speaker 5: If I was you, I would move to another neighborhood

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Speaker 5: and try again. How many can you?

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Speaker 1: Did you unpack your boxes?

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Speaker 3: My daughter she loves this new friend. So I really

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Speaker 5: So that's going to be our job come up with

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Speaker 5: some advice to give you. Juicy, We're going to figure

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Speaker 5: out how you can talkalk to your ex's wife.

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Speaker 6: And guess let her know.

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Speaker 5: That the two of you used to date and now

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Speaker 5: your kids are best friends.

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Speaker 6: Oh, yeah, not too much totally to talk about.

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Speaker 1: Maybe everyone will be an adult about this.

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Speaker 6: Of course, you want adult stuff to happen. Brook.

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Speaker 5: Anyway, let's try and do your awkward Tuesday phone call

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Speaker 5: right after this.

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Speaker 6: It's awkward.

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Speaker 1: It's Tuesday.

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Speaker 6: It's awkward Tuesday phone call. As a parent, you want

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Speaker 1: New friends, yes, of course.

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Speaker 5: But worst case scenarios if you find out their new

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Speaker 2: Oh man, the one ex you didn't want to see,

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Speaker 5: Yeah, thank you for clarifying, because that's exactly what happened

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Speaker 5: to our listener, Dana. And now the clock is ticking

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Speaker 5: because there's a birthday party coming up where all of

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because she hasn't even seen the ex yet. She's

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that is a good question, Dana, Like, what is

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Speaker 5: the percentage that your ex knows? This is already going on.

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Speaker 1: Fifty fifty fifty fifty fifty.

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Speaker 5: Okay, well Brook, she needs some advice before we call

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Speaker 5: this other mom and basically lay it all out there

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Speaker 2: Okay, this is the thing. You have to be so casual.

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Speaker 2: You cannot act like it's a big deal.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so casual. Don't even wear pants ye for this conversation. No,

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Speaker 1: I'm saying, when you talk to her, you need to

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Speaker 1: be like, oh my god, so funny. I just realized

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Speaker 1: I know your husband. What a small bothered?

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Speaker 4: Bothered?

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Speaker 6: What do you think of that, Dana, No big deal.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if I could do that because I

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I want you to do.

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Speaker 6: Okay, let's give it a try.

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Speaker 5: Give us your best nonchalant like, oh weird, me and

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Speaker 5: your husband used to date.

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Speaker 3: Oh what a small world.

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Speaker 4: I believe it. We're flirting.

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Speaker 3: Me and your husband used today. Fun fact of the day.

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Speaker 2: Sound a little bit excited about it, more like silly

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Speaker 2: funny coincidence story, not fun fact.

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Speaker 5: Okay, we'll just take a little bit of nugget, a

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Speaker 5: little nugget from that.

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Speaker 6: I'm not trying to.

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Speaker 1: Sprinkle it in good and I'm more stressed out anywhere.

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Speaker 6: Just do you, I think, just be you and you're

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Speaker 6: gonna be good.

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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Speaker 2: She could have done that without us, Jeff, Well, that

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Speaker 2: was her fault for calling in.

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Speaker 6: Stop recording. Just tell us how this goes later. Here

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Speaker 6: we go.

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Speaker 5: I'm going to dial the other mom and let you

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Speaker 5: talk to her so you can let her know that

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Speaker 5: you used to date her husband.

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Speaker 3: Oh my, well, pray for me. I'll pray for me.

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Speaker 6: Okay, we will as I'm dialing the number. Now, good luck.

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Speaker 4: Hello.

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Speaker 3: Oh hi, is this Alix? Yes it is, who says

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Speaker 3: it's Deliah's mom? Stay that?

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Speaker 1: Oh hi?

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Speaker 4: How are you? Oh?

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Speaker 3: I'm good, you know, just getting some things done around

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Speaker 4: How are you? I'm good. I can't complain. I'm just

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Speaker 4: and I'm definitely not prepared.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, I know how that goes. Well, Bless

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Speaker 3: your heart.

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Speaker 4: What could I do for you? Is everything? Okay?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? So this is okay. Sorry, I'm trying. I wanted

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Speaker 4: I have a few parents call about food allergies. Is

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Speaker 4: that what this is about?

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Speaker 3: Oh no, no, thank god, she doesn't have any food allergies.

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Speaker 3: But I'm calling you because it's just kind of like

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Speaker 3: an awkward thing. So I don't know how to sugarcoat this.

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Speaker 3: But it involved your husband.

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Speaker 4: Oh oh, my husband.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so please, like, don't worry. He's not like cheating

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Speaker 3: you know, I took it up Delilah, and I realized

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Speaker 3: after going to your house that I actually know your

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Speaker 3: husband and we used to date.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and.

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Speaker 3: You don't seem surprised by this.

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Speaker 4: I mean, she do you not looking to date now?

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Speaker 4: If that's what you're wondering.

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Speaker 3: We're married, so okay, hold on, hold on, I'm married too,

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Speaker 3: so you know, I don't know how much he told you.

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Speaker 3: We kind of have like a weird breakup. So I'm

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Speaker 4: Do you feel this way because you still have phyllings

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, no, why it's.

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Speaker 4: Like or anyone would be uncomfortable, Like, I mean he

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Speaker 4: told me all about you.

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Speaker 3: Okay, so you know he told you about this.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, he said it was a really it was a

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Speaker 4: really hard breakup when you got dumped. He didn't want

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Speaker 3: And I'm dumb.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I didn't get exactly. So I mean, I understand.

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Speaker 4: I'm a woman. First, I totally get it.

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Speaker 3: No, he first of all, I didn't get dumped. I

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Speaker 4: Well, it's the honey, everybody gets dumped. It's okay, it's

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Speaker 4: no new to be embarrassed. It's not a lie. Okay

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Speaker 4: what I mean, I haven't, but I can imagine the

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Speaker 4: pain of getting dump Wow.

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, no, that's not what happened.

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Speaker 4: And I now comes with it, and no one, you

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Speaker 4: have nothing to worry about. Our daughters they like together.

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Speaker 4: We can come and leave it at that.

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Speaker 3: You need to understand I jumped him, and like you're

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Speaker 3: just awkward and resentful after that and like this is

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Speaker 4: Okay, do you like see a therapist at all? Or

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Speaker 4: have you ever consider that? Like you definitely you definitely should.

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Speaker 6: Oh my god.

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Speaker 3: Okay, wow, wait all this.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's the sound of an entire morning show being

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Speaker 5: on this phone call with you, because you're you're on

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Speaker 5: the radio right now, Alice. Oh my god, we're broking

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Speaker 5: Jeffrey in the morning. We're trying to help out Dana

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Speaker 5: with this awkward conversation that she was trying to have

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Speaker 4: So she goes on the radio.

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Speaker 2: Okay, well, well you wanted advice, but that's not the

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Speaker 5: No, we were expecting you to be surprised by the

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Speaker 1: Because it was definitely a surprise to Dana.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, no, we my husband and I talked already.

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Speaker 4: We know what's going on. Like she's someone of the past,

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Speaker 3: I'm not hurt, Alice. I'm just calling you to let

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Speaker 1: Okay, here's the thing.

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Speaker 4: Data.

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Speaker 1: It feels like Alice is maybe being.

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Speaker 6: A little bit more of the adult here.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but it is lying.

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Speaker 3: They're lying. That's like, that doesn't make me feel comfortable

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Speaker 3: to come over to their house.

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Speaker 6: Okay.

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Speaker 3: Who broke up with him?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Woman, it was nine years ago. You found a husband,

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Speaker 1: you had the kids, you did the dream.

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Speaker 5: Cause couples that lie together stay together, that's the saying.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So just now that you know Alice, can we

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Speaker 4: What's the I mean, we already moved forward. If you

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Speaker 6: Okay.

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Speaker 5: So, Dana, I guess ball's in your court here, because

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Speaker 4: As long as she doesn't want my husband. Were good

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Speaker 6: Okay? Does not sound like she does, Dana.

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Speaker 5: Can you verbally acknowledge that you are not interested in

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Speaker 3: I am not interested in your husband?

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Speaker 6: Thankful friends.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so when the birthday party happens, are you comfortable

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Speaker 3: You know, I think for this birth birthday party. I'm

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Speaker 4: I just want our girls to be able to play

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Speaker 1: It seems like the most chill, go with a flow, mom.

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Speaker 4: I know.

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Speaker 2: I think that maybe we should don't say therapy.

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Speaker 5: I think it's a good chance for you to go

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Speaker 6: You can be the better person.

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Speaker 5: Walk in there, write a note and put it under

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Speaker 5: the husband's pillow, saying, just to be clear, I broke

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Speaker 3: No, I don't want to be petty, but that is

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Speaker 3: a good idea.

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Speaker 5: Okay, sticky notes. They're nice and small. You won't see

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Speaker 3: To bed Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.