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Speaker 1: All right, Steve. This one is from Tamra and New Haven.

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Speaker 2: Tamra says, I've been with the same man for almost

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Speaker 2: ten years, and he is a five year old son

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Speaker 2: that we just found out about. I encouraged him to

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Speaker 2: do a blood test to find out if he really

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Speaker 2: is his child. The child's mother is in the military,

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Speaker 2: and she asked if the child can live with us,

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Speaker 2: which means I would be responsible for the child because

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Speaker 2: my boyfriend is a kid himself. Not only do I

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Speaker 2: have to forgive him for cheating, I will have to

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Speaker 2: raise his son.

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Speaker 1: What's in it for me? Is it time to leave?

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Speaker 3: Are they married?

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Speaker 1: Ten years? They've been together, they're not mad.

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Speaker 3: The baby five?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that he just found out about it.

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Speaker 3: Oh God, you can't.

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Speaker 4: You can't get out of this one, don't You can't

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Speaker 4: get out of this only thing only you can't tell

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Speaker 4: no lies.

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Speaker 3: It's nothing you could do. Can't tell no lies. It's

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Speaker 3: too late.

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Speaker 1: Oh what's the truth.

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Speaker 4: You gotta go through your paperwork because he's a DNA.

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Speaker 4: You've got to take care baby. I don't promote me

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Speaker 4: and not taking care of you.

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Speaker 3: That's right. This ain't the turn to play.

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Speaker 4: So you got to let your responsibility, but she's saying

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Speaker 4: that she can't because he's a child herself.

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Speaker 1: Exactly, you're married to a.

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Speaker 4: Child and now you got another child. Well, you've got

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Speaker 4: a lot of experience with raising kids.

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Speaker 2: Then she's not married to them, they've just been together

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Speaker 2: for almost ten years.

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Speaker 4: Oh and then the lady says, I need to send

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Speaker 4: him to be with you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 2: And then the woman who wrote this is saying that

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Speaker 2: she will have to be responsible for the child, she'll

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Speaker 2: have to raise him, and she wants to know what's

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Speaker 2: in it for her and.

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Speaker 1: Is it time for her to leave after ten years?

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Speaker 4: I have no idea, and I have no idea. But

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Speaker 4: here's the one innocent party in this all, and that's

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Speaker 4: the child, the five year old baby, right who will

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Speaker 4: need love and guidance. Now, are you that person or

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Speaker 4: are you not? Can you move past it? I don't know? Right,

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Speaker 4: let me, y'all said the last ten years of y'all's

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Speaker 4: life blue bye?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? You mean you mean?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: You all right?

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Speaker 3: You know I promote divorce, so don't ask me.

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Speaker 1: All right, y'all, I know.

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Speaker 2: Would she be in the wrong basically if she left

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Speaker 2: this situation?

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Speaker 3: No, I mean you know it's tough. One is tougher.

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Speaker 4: She found out they cheated, then the baby ones come

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Speaker 4: be with y'all. You ain't got this. There's no wrong

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Speaker 4: in this woman, the woman that wrote the letter. I

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Speaker 4: ain't no wrong in it. You you being handed the

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Speaker 4: situation you had no say so in or nothing to

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Speaker 4: do with it. He gotta he gotta handle business.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, all right, See, we have time for another one.

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Speaker 2: This is from Ronda and Tyler. Ronda says, my lover

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Speaker 2: and I have are having a major dispute over how

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Speaker 2: he should be pleased. He's married, so there is a

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Speaker 2: limited amount of activities that I can do with him

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Speaker 2: because he made it clear that he's still sexually active

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Speaker 2: with his wife. Why does he cheat if they're still

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Speaker 2: having sex?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, this is crazy.

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Speaker 4: This is a side chick right now? Yah, side chick.

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Speaker 4: Let's understand your role with here. You you the side chick,

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Speaker 4: and you volunteer to be the sade chick.

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Speaker 3: You ain't no rights. Rights don't come with that.

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Speaker 2: Mm hmm.

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Speaker 4: You forego all your rights when you and when you

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Speaker 4: agree to be two and that one, all the rights

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Speaker 4: go to one. Now is he having a side chicken

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Speaker 4: if he's still having sex because he won't to have

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Speaker 4: sex with two people.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well she has his wife after all.

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Speaker 3: But see, that's what the side piece is for.

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Speaker 1: If for extra sex, So she's extra.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what the side pieces for. That's what extra

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Speaker 3: it's like.

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Speaker 4: It's it's like at Popeye's or any other place the

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Speaker 4: side dishes.

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Speaker 3: It's to have something to go with the chicken. You

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Speaker 3: ain't a chicken.

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