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Speaker 1: Subject he knows I don't I don't wear underwear. Dear

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley. My husband is thirty nine and I'm thirty seven.

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Speaker 1: We have three children under the age ten. I rarely

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Speaker 1: get out anymore, so I was so excited when my

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Speaker 1: girlfriends planned a night out for my birthday. I got

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Speaker 1: a babysitter so my husband could go hang out with

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Speaker 1: his friends too. My girls took me to my favorite restaurant,

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Speaker 1: and then we went to the club down the street

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Speaker 1: from the restaurant. My husband and I know the owner,

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Speaker 1: so he sat me in a VIP and sent over

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Speaker 1: two bottles of champagne. I called my husband to let

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Speaker 1: him know I was at the club. He said he

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Speaker 1: would pick me up around one am because he didn't

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Speaker 1: want me in the car with one of my drunk girlfriends.

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Speaker 1: After we hung up, I started drinking a lot and

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Speaker 1: I was dancing a lot. I danced with whoever asked me,

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Speaker 1: but mostly I was in a circle dancing with my girlfriends.

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Speaker 2: At one point I.

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Speaker 1: Had to use a bathroom and it was crowded, so

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Speaker 1: the security guard led me to the bathroom and he

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Speaker 1: stayed by the door until I finished. When I came out,

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Speaker 1: he put me on his shoulders and cut through the

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Speaker 1: dance floor to take me back to my girls. They

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Speaker 1: cheered and hyped me up for being on this big,

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Speaker 1: strong man's shoulders. My husband had to come pick me

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Speaker 1: up and he saw me on the man's shoulders, and

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Speaker 1: he was very unhappy. He said that everybody in the

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Speaker 1: club could see my bear, but he knows that I

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Speaker 1: don't wear underwear, especially with tight He said, I had

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Speaker 1: my bear the JJ on the back of another man's neck,

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Speaker 1: and I should be ashamed. I get why he's mad,

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Speaker 1: but it's still kind of funny to me. He said,

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Speaker 1: I can't go out again until i'm fifty. I'm cool

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Speaker 1: with that, But how do I reassure my husband that

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Speaker 1: it was just innocent fun You can't. You can't and

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Speaker 1: your husband can't unsee that some man picking you up

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Speaker 1: in a club. Your husband is never not going to

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Speaker 1: be upset about that visual. He will always be mad

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Speaker 1: at the chance the idea that this security guard or

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Speaker 1: any other man may have seen you. It's not a

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Speaker 1: joke to him. You can't make this funny. You know,

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Speaker 1: men are territorial and they have egos. He doesn't want

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Speaker 1: another man even thinking about you in that way. So no, ma'am,

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Speaker 1: no jokes. This is not funny to him, because he's

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Speaker 1: mad you even let another man pick you up in

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Speaker 1: the first place. Your husband should be the only one

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Speaker 1: who knows you don't wear underwear.

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Speaker 2: Okay, period, Steve.

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Speaker 4: I'm confused. Where where is the dismay at in this letter?

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Speaker 4: Why are you questioning? The only thing you said in

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Speaker 4: this letter that made sense to me was you said I.

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Speaker 3: Get why he's mad. And you should have left it.

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Speaker 4: At that, because you have got to understand.

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Speaker 3: Lady.

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Speaker 4: First of all, you drink, and after you hung up

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Speaker 4: and said he come get you started drinking a lot now.

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Speaker 3: You're in there. You made a couple of statements to

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Speaker 3: let me those finny go.

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Speaker 4: I dance with whoever asked me, but mostly in a

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Speaker 4: circle with my girlfriend, So that means it was some

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Speaker 4: men coming up to you asking you to dance. Now

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Speaker 4: you thirty nine.

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Speaker 3: You've fully grown. Yeah, oh yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.

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Speaker 4: The husband's thirty nine. You're thirty seven, so you're fully grown.

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Speaker 4: You got all these kids, all of them under ten.

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Speaker 4: You deserve tonight, thou great. I your husband set you

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Speaker 4: up with God. He know at the club VIP section

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Speaker 4: couple battle of Champagne hit apart that throwing your husband.

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Speaker 4: When you went to the bathroom and the security guard

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Speaker 4: stood there, what was the conversation that you and mister

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Speaker 4: big strong security guard had had that would make you

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Speaker 4: vijayj What conversation did y'all have.

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Speaker 3: And you agreed to climb.

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Speaker 4: On the back this man's neck. What conversation was that

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Speaker 4: at the bathroom? Because that's not a normal conversation. I've

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Speaker 4: been to a lot of clubs. I've never seen anybody

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Speaker 4: putting nobody on their shoulder to walk them back to

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Speaker 4: but I ain't never seen it. Why are you going back?

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Speaker 3: Now? You sitting up in here? He know I don't

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Speaker 4: Okay, he also don't know that you have on a

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Speaker 4: with no underwear, and your dress would come up and

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Speaker 4: your bottom showing, and all the rest of you is

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Speaker 4: on his neck.

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Speaker 2: See that's too much.

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Speaker 4: I see too much unexplainable in here. Number one, How

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Speaker 4: drunk are you?

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Speaker 3: Number two?

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Speaker 4: Whose idea suggestion was it, I'm gonna give you a

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Speaker 4: ride back to your table? What made the security guard

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Speaker 4: think that was a good idea? But what's deeper than that?

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Speaker 4: What made you think it was a good idea to

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Speaker 4: even do it? And then your husband comes in the

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Speaker 4: club and that's what he see, his wife, the mother,

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Speaker 4: his children, bottom out on the back of a man's

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Speaker 4: neck with no draws. Good Houston, We have a problem.

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Speaker 1: Yes we do, and we'll have part two of your

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Speaker 1: response Steve coming up at twenty three minutes after the

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Speaker 1: hour Today's Strawberry Letter subject he knows I don't wear underwear.

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Speaker 1: I don't wear underwear.

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Speaker 4: For those of you who missed it, let me just

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Speaker 4: recap this quickly. This woman is thirty seven. She's celebrating

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Speaker 4: the birthday. The husband knows. They went to a restaurant.

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Speaker 4: The husband knows the club she wants to go to.

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Speaker 4: She gets a VIP session. He sends a couple of

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Speaker 4: bottles of champagne. You also let him go out that night,

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Speaker 4: so y'all got a babysitter so he could go out,

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Speaker 4: and she went out with the girlfriend. He called and

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Speaker 4: said he didn't want her ride home with her drunk girlfriends.

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Speaker 4: He'll come pick his wife up. You said, okay, So

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Speaker 4: then you start drinking a lot. It got drunk, you

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Speaker 4: said in the letter, I was dancing with anybody that

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Speaker 4: So that means he was out there with a bunch

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Speaker 4: of men too. You got your drinking, you had to

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Speaker 4: go to the bathroom. Security walked you to the bathroom.

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Speaker 4: It was crowded. Walked you in the bathroom, and security

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Speaker 4: still there and waited on you.

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Speaker 3: To come out.

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Speaker 4: When you came out, here was the brilliant idea one

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Speaker 4: of you. I'm thinking it's him, said, get on my shoulders.

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna take you back to your table, your drunk

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Speaker 4: behind with you can pick me up.

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Speaker 3: He said, here he is. He squatted down.

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Speaker 4: You raised your legs up over the shoulders of another man.

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Speaker 4: You said, you was on the shoulders of this big,

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Speaker 4: strong man. He was carrying you back to the table.

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Speaker 4: Why why y'all couldn't walk just like y'all walked.

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Speaker 3: To the bathroom.

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Speaker 4: What made him think you would even agree to this?

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Speaker 4: And then how drunk were you that you did agree

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Speaker 4: to you. Now you're going back to the club and

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Speaker 4: your husband come to pick you up. He looked and

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Speaker 4: see your bare bottom is showing your butt out. And

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Speaker 4: your response is he know our own way underwear, but

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Speaker 4: the rest of your naked body is up against this

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Speaker 4: man's neck. He see all that. How did you get down?

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Speaker 4: Because that's even more interesting than how you got up there?

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Speaker 4: Slide across the top of his head. Did you pull

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Speaker 3: Put your approach? Did you use.

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Speaker 4: Did you need help with your staggering? How long did

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Speaker 4: he have to get down on his knees to let

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Speaker 4: Your response is, he knows I don't wear underwear. You said,

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Speaker 4: you understand why your husband was mad, but it's still

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Speaker 4: kind of funny to me. You still drunk. It's still

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Speaker 4: I'm turn fifty. I'm cool with that, But how do

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Speaker 4: I reassure my husband that it was just innocent fun

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Speaker 4: because that's not what it looked like. My wife on

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Speaker 4: the back of another man I'm trying to see where

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Speaker 4: innocent or fun fits in this situation. And Shirley said

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Speaker 4: it best. He can't unsee what he saw. You've learned

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Speaker 4: no more, no more. You need to tell you alcohol

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Speaker 4: off your list of things to do. And I'm really surprised, lady.

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Speaker 4: I mean, that was just unacceptable behavior. That doesn't make

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Speaker 2: And it's not funny. This is not funny.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, if you was a college student, this

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Speaker 4: got no kids all, this would make more sense. You

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Speaker 4: got three babies, all of them under ten, and you married.

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Speaker 4: I'm not understanding. I'm just not understanding.

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Speaker 1: What about the part where her girls cheered her on

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Speaker 1: when he brought her back on top of his shoulders.

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Speaker 2: They were cheering that she was on top of this

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Speaker 4: Yeah, she got her hands up. It's her birthday, it's

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Speaker 4: a birthday. She wasating drink all down her arm and everything. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: and she's in coherent.

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Speaker 3: I don't have birth to meet the birth from me. Yeah, yow.

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Speaker 3: So I don't know how.

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Speaker 2: You.

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Speaker 3: I can't explain this you this is crazy.

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Speaker 2: This really is crazy.

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Speaker 3: No, no, what let me tell you how crazy it is.

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Speaker 4: Cal He got her husband, call, he got a child

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Speaker 4: call her got birthdays like everybody else. She go with

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Speaker 4: Tori and her girls out to a club to set

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Speaker 4: them up in the VIP, get them some champagne bottles.

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Speaker 4: Color got to go to the bathroom. Call her come

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Speaker 4: back in the crowd, and she climb up on the shoulder,

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Speaker 4: big strong man he bringing her back to the table.

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Speaker 3: On her show, she drunk.

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Speaker 1: Carl Cash, Carl, it's your birthday.

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Speaker 4: Tell you if I saw that from Carla, I would

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Speaker 4: be like what in the Yeah?

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Speaker 3: No, no, I would never disrespect my husband.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she doesn't know that. This is how behavior.

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