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Speaker 1: Well, guys, it's time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And

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Speaker 1: we're gonna read this one right here, right now. Buggle

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Speaker 1: here it is Strawberry Letter. What are you doing all right?

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Speaker 1: Hit the wrong button? You know? Thank you nephew. Subject

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Speaker 1: why can't we both have a side piece? Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: My husband and I I know. My husband and I

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Speaker 1: have been married for three years. Our marriage was good.

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Speaker 1: It was going good until a year ago when he

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Speaker 1: told me he was having an affair. Shortly after we met,

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Speaker 1: he told me about a female friend of his that

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Speaker 1: to him. I met her five days ago when she

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Speaker 1: came to town for homecoming. We got along great, but

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Speaker 1: I don't trust any females around my man. He and

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Speaker 1: this woman texted and called each other often, and when

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Speaker 1: Last June, she moved to our city and my husband

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Speaker 1: was so excited. Last July, I found a tin pack

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Speaker 1: there were only two left in the pack. My female

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Speaker 1: intuitions mmmmmm, my female intimition. Intuition told me that he

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Speaker 1: I asked him about the condoms, and he admitted that

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Speaker 1: he was having sex with her. He told me to

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Speaker 1: of his system. I told him that he needed to

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Speaker 1: stop the affair and we could go to counseling to

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Speaker 1: counseling because he wants us both. I haven't had sex

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Speaker 1: with him in over a year, but we still keep

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Speaker 1: His affair is still going on, and I don't plan

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Speaker 1: if he can have a side piece. Shouldn't I be

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Speaker 1: allowed to please advise? Well, wouldn't that just be perfect

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Speaker 1: if we lived in a perfect world, you know, where

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Speaker 1: we could do whatever we wanted to do and you

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Speaker 1: know whatever. But it's not like that. And you know

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Speaker 1: that you already know there's a double standard in the world,

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Speaker 1: and that they're just things that men do that are

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Speaker 1: And that's this is one of those things. This is

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Speaker 1: one of those times. Okay, the double standard. That's why

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Speaker 1: he tried to fight your so called side piece. Okay,

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Speaker 1: because he can do it, but he doesn't want you

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Speaker 1: doing it. You know, I do give him credit, I

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Speaker 1: guess for coming clean finally, you know, I mean after

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Speaker 1: he got busted out with the tim pack of condoms

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Speaker 1: and only two in there. But I mean, your husband's

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Speaker 1: way out of line here. You know that he has

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Speaker 1: of marriage. He's already lying and cheating and won't stop.

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Speaker 1: But to you, I just say, this is not a joke.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you say you just want to stick around

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Speaker 1: because you love seeing him stressed out. I mean, I

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Speaker 1: suppose you can get some sort of satisfaction and seeing

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Speaker 1: him and went on with your man that you have

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Speaker 1: now and lived a happier life. You know, two wrongs

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Speaker 1: do not make a right. You know, I guess don't

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Speaker 1: you want a happier life? I don't get this. Why

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Speaker 1: why you're still there doing this? You know you could

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Speaker 1: my response, Steve, Well, surely, great response. Um the problem.

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Speaker 1: we both have a side piece? Answer? Because you and

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Speaker 1: your damn husband have been married for three years? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: our marriage was going good till a year ago. Oh no, no,

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Speaker 1: would he do that? And I'm gonna tell you why.

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Speaker 1: I shortened. Shortly after we met, he told me about

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Speaker 1: and she's like a little sister to him. Most regular

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Speaker 1: people ain't sleeping with their little sister. I just want

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Speaker 1: to throw that out there as to why this whole

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Speaker 1: letter reeks of false information. Why can't we both have

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Speaker 1: town for homecoming. We got along great, but I don't

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Speaker 1: just saying small talk. Okay. Last year when she moved

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Speaker 1: she only been here a month. Right, you found a

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Speaker 1: ten packer condoms in this car, Tommy said, out loud.

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Speaker 1: ten damn times. Whoa, I'm just work this out. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: down ten bam. All right, hang on, hang on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: because I got most of you when we come back.

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Speaker 1: Just how long I've been on this show. That's right

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Speaker 1: All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today. Strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: Why can't we both have a side piece? Well, the

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Speaker 1: reason you can't have a side piece, first of all,

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Speaker 1: because y'all been married three years. Side pieces don't ever

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Speaker 1: work out. I'm just sharing something with you. The marriage

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Speaker 1: you thought was good till a year ago when he

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Speaker 1: Shortly after we met, he told me about a female

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Speaker 1: and what they talked about, he would say, small talk.

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Speaker 1: What you want? You know what I want? That's small talk.

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Speaker 1: You got it, you want it, that's small talk. Last

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Speaker 1: I asked, what's up? Small talk? Last June? She moved

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Speaker 1: You found the ten pack of condoms in his car.

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Speaker 1: Tommy pointed out that condoms come into twelve pack. I

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Speaker 1: which means ten times in thirty days. That's every three days.

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Speaker 1: He over there with his little sister, small talking, small talking, chatting. Huh,

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Speaker 1: My female intuition told me he was messing with this

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Speaker 1: your female intuition, you know what told me he was

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Speaker 1: messing with. And I don't have female intuition. That twelve

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Speaker 1: pack of condoms you found that ain't have but two left.

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Speaker 1: You ain't got to have intuition and know that all

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Speaker 1: you gotta do is be able to count. Yeah, Now,

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Speaker 1: if you got a twelve pack in your car, fellas

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Speaker 1: Sid as? You dumb? Let me explain this part to you.

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Speaker 1: tell y'all was having sex with somebody, and I care

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Speaker 1: When she came from homecoming, she was in the system.

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Speaker 1: This is where you got in trouble. You know what

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Speaker 1: What counseling go help that? I want both of y'all.

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Speaker 1: Now hear where you started me, I haven't had sexual

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Speaker 1: with him in over a year. Well, how many condoms

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Speaker 1: you think he'd went through in a year? Let's just

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Speaker 1: go eight in a month? Time? Twelve seventy two times?

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Speaker 1: Oh dude, that mask seven y two damn time. You're

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Speaker 1: we both have side pieces? Because y'all two foods is

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Speaker 1: a letter get twisted, Like Shirley said, I don't plan

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Speaker 1: heat that damn stressed out. He ain't that damn stressed

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Speaker 1: out because he ain't moved out and he's still seeing her. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'll just start dating the new guy. And my husband

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Speaker 1: is being overly possessive and tried to fight him. He

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Speaker 1: going to home coming and all that. Yeah, he's being

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Speaker 1: Of course you can. If he got a side piece,

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Speaker 1: Hume one time? We got to get out of here. Listen.

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