Speaker 1: Come on, icebreakers. Come on, love an icebreaker? You ready?
Speaker 1: Mandy used to go, these are called icebreakers. Don't do
Speaker 1: that to make it sound really cute and sweet. They are.
Speaker 1: Did I used to explain what icebreakers was? Yes, basically
Speaker 1: icebreakers are. We're just getting to know. I did with
Speaker 1: the I have the white octane going on? Okay, white
Speaker 1: octlane levels of it? What is it? I am about
Speaker 1: to dry it will be octave, but it's really a
Speaker 1: kid was close though anyway, anyway, you got octane, well
Speaker 1: it was closed oct Can we look up what octane is? Though?
Speaker 1: For really it's because I want to know what octane
Speaker 1: actually is. I'm about now. I'm about to do this
Speaker 1: because I don't know words. Stress in the building. Yes,
Speaker 1: I'm for sure client chemical anyway, though, Welcome the horrible
Speaker 1: decisions because this is not the spelling. Be Can I
Speaker 1: tell you all the next time he and Manny an
Speaker 1: argument and be like, First of all, Pitch, you need
Speaker 1: to lower that octave, take your take your octame levels
Speaker 1: down to ota. Y'all. Welcome to horrible decisions. I don't
Speaker 1: know what day you're listening to us, but it's one
Speaker 1: day of the week. Um, I have a good day. Um,
Speaker 1: this is your girl, man, this is your girl. Mandy
Speaker 1: b a k A Peg the Stallion, the one and only,
Speaker 1: and I'm sitting across from I'm wheezy, not a Stallion taker.
Speaker 1: I am a casual. Yall don't heard the third um
Speaker 1: voice on the mic? Apparently apparently apparently she's a fucking
Speaker 1: English teacher. I didn't know. I didn't know we had
Speaker 1: an English teacher on today. You're welcome the first The
Speaker 1: first one was always free. That's how we feel, that's
Speaker 1: how we feel. Got to introduce yourself. Star listens, it's
Speaker 1: been a long time, you mean, listened a while. It's yeah,
Speaker 1: it's pretty Kelly. What's up, guys. I'm so I'm really happy.
Speaker 1: I'm really happy that I ran. I ran into Mandy
Speaker 1: the other night. I was like, all right, I need
Speaker 1: to just come on because she was like and mind you,
Speaker 1: I didn't even know if she knew me because I didn't. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, I've on it. I mean, I know, y'all know.
Speaker 1: It's a humblex. I just like I didn't know. We
Speaker 1: didn't know each other. We met every every day, we
Speaker 1: met every day. People. We Mandy, I feel you and
Speaker 1: I met a long time ago. We had we have
Speaker 1: a lot of I think it was Henny Palooza years
Speaker 1: and years and years ago. Yeah. Before we were around
Speaker 1: each other for about two hours showing's got a table
Speaker 1: and we were everyday people. And finally I waved at
Speaker 1: her and she waved at me, and he goes, y'all
Speaker 1: don't know each other. Yeah, because we're the we're the
Speaker 1: girls that are like, hey, I've seen you. I know
Speaker 1: who you are. Literally literally literally we're at Sham's event
Speaker 1: and I see her and we literally embraced, like bitch,
Speaker 1: we didn't know, you know. She was like, hey girl.
Speaker 1: I was like, what's not ye, I ain't gonna say nothing,
Speaker 1: but I ain't been on horrible decisions and I don't
Speaker 1: know what I was feeling away, you know what, you
Speaker 1: know what you're coming on. I did have to tell.
Speaker 1: I was like I was like Joe. Joe recently just
Speaker 1: like roasted me because I went on flagrant too, and
Speaker 1: he felt away. And I was like, because because he's
Speaker 1: petty and he doesn't he believes all the loudspeakers peasants.
Speaker 1: He calls me a peasant all the time. Yeah, he
Speaker 1: thought it was We had like the mecca of podcast three.
Speaker 1: You know, but I remember that that great dialogue between
Speaker 1: him and Cristal though, but I'm sorry. Yea, they absolutely did.
Speaker 1: But Joe was Joe was Joe, and he just he
Speaker 1: wants to be first. He wants to be, you know,
Speaker 1: the first team, or hate him. They've paved the way
Speaker 1: for they did no, no, no no, listen, I'll be on
Speaker 1: I'll be on their next month. I feel like that's
Speaker 1: what that's what week, that's what we establish. She's like,
Speaker 1: you already did that, so I'm gonna just wait for
Speaker 1: you on their TV show. I don't know how that
Speaker 1: like set up with Yeah, I don't know how that says.
Speaker 1: I don't know. They don't need the guests. No, I
Speaker 1: mean they don't. They don't really need it. My my
Speaker 1: guest appearance was by accident, and then they brought me
Speaker 1: back to say in time because it was it was
Speaker 1: I never want to say. I know that's a little
Speaker 1: humble flex as well. You've been the only goddamn woman
Speaker 1: on Joe Budden as well, and I came, I came
Speaker 1: with Joe about that. I said, okay, we know you
Speaker 1: fired Marissa whatever. But since Mall has been on there.
Speaker 1: You've had one female guest and you only allow goddamn
Speaker 1: Bridget on there? Hello, what the fund is up? Like
Speaker 1: Bridget the only the only one who could share the counsel.
Speaker 1: I was surprised that the fan response was even what
Speaker 1: it was. I was not expecting the fans, fans, really
Speaker 1: the everybody, They're like, cancel them YouTube live with him
Speaker 1: because we were just testing things out because you know,
Speaker 1: he's a creative, so he's like, all this free content
Speaker 1: we give Instagram, I want to own it and capitalize something.
Speaker 1: We were testing out YouTube and yeah, his fans. Surprisingly,
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, like they're crazy. What
Speaker 1: are they called? I don't know, but they're not They're
Speaker 1: not the high What is Joe's fans called? Because we
Speaker 1: know the act friends of the show, the show week, Sorry,
Speaker 1: Joe's friends of the show, Happy days. You want to
Speaker 1: confirm real quick, let's ask let's ask friends of the show.
Speaker 1: Let's figure this out. Who are you calling? My show?
Speaker 1: Bestie is very onsve is right? Exclusive content footage we're
Speaker 1: given only blowery up to go out. Like, I'm like,
Speaker 1: let's go. I just talked to him earlier today. He
Speaker 1: should be answering. I guess, I guess, I guess we're
Speaker 1: not friends of the show. I guess. You know what,
Speaker 1: let me leave a voice memo. You know I have
Speaker 1: been rooting for you as the Caucasian on the show
Speaker 1: always and forever, and you know what you chose not
Speaker 1: to answer. We're recording with Bridget, Kelly and Mandy and
Speaker 1: we just wanted to simply ask about your listenership. But
Speaker 1: I see that you're too fucking busy with your goddamn
Speaker 1: dog or whatever you're doing now, or be you're a
Speaker 1: fucking solo house since the Naked this guy's membership, well
Speaker 1: not a nigga, but well, we'll go ahead and get
Speaker 1: into the icebreaker, and I'm not gonna explain what that is.
Speaker 1: So bit we happen, right, this is the first one
Speaker 1: since company IK icebreakers are actually I don't do this,
Speaker 1: don't do this. So we're gonna play a nice lovely
Speaker 1: game of would you rather, all right, well, break the ice,
Speaker 1: smash the ice? Would you rather walking on your parents
Speaker 1: having sex or text the video of you masturbating to
Speaker 1: your parents. Walking on my parents having sex? Yeah, I
Speaker 1: think I mean on my parents having sex when I
Speaker 1: was wiped your pussy though when you were a baby.
Speaker 1: They not the way I'm wiping in a masturbating video.
Speaker 1: So that's not even at all. That's not masturbation vide.
Speaker 1: You what do you say in your master Do you
Speaker 1: have a sex voice? Yeah? Not that that give be
Speaker 1: it that there's there's only so there's literally only one
Speaker 1: thing that I say when I'm in my masturbation video.
Speaker 1: So you know I say it. I say, look what
Speaker 1: you did, just because I can send it to about
Speaker 1: ten niggas and they don't know. It's not the way.
Speaker 1: So look what you did and they think they did that.
Speaker 1: That's the member in a throuffle. You send it to
Speaker 1: multiple so I don't look what y'all did. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: you can't say that. Look look what y'all got me
Speaker 1: over here? Now I like to say the person's name.
Speaker 1: I see that's personalized. That that's two personally, and then
Speaker 1: things remembered, engravemente. See what happens that I've done the personalization.
Speaker 1: I've personalization of masturbating videos. Um, and it sucks me
Speaker 1: up because I keep it in my phone. So now
Speaker 1: I know to delete it right after because literally want
Speaker 1: I go to send it to somebody else. I'd be like, damn,
Speaker 1: which video did I say this nickname? And I have
Speaker 1: to watch all of them before? Oh, answer that phone?
Speaker 1: Here we go, Yeah, the boys phone. I know you
Speaker 1: want to look at his white asked, but we need
Speaker 1: to hear his audio is connecting. Maybe loud speaker, wife,
Speaker 1: I ain't really turn it off. Okay, I got I
Speaker 1: do that all the time, and I'm mad at maybe
Speaker 1: maybe it's is. Oh, it might be his what's going through?
Speaker 1: T s A what a flex? I hate? So keep
Speaker 1: going the Okay, Um, the next question we're gonna ask
Speaker 1: is do you would you rather have early morning sex
Speaker 1: or late night sex? Damn night? See? That depends because
Speaker 1: when I'm when i'm lit, I don't know. I'm not always.
Speaker 1: I don't always feel like I think I'm a better
Speaker 1: lit sucker, you're a better lit suckers. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just feel like backing out. So I like to
Speaker 1: remember the same. So I have sober sex with twenty
Speaker 1: four's but that we'll see. That's my thought. If i'm
Speaker 1: if I'm I'm smacked in the middle of the night,
Speaker 1: I don't really want to remember that I got late
Speaker 1: night sex. I guess doesn't mean that you're smacked. But
Speaker 1: we're just sitting here, so prenady bitches in here like
Speaker 1: it's late night. I usually be smack, but um no,
Speaker 1: I I like to give head in the morning. I
Speaker 1: would if I'm gonna if I'm gonna have sex, I'd
Speaker 1: rather be That's my least favorite time to give head,
Speaker 1: really in the morning. Because they were tasting my own
Speaker 1: goddamn nasty ast yu mouthfast. I absolutely go and brush
Speaker 1: my teeth. Oh no, I don't. Dick is right there
Speaker 1: and it's I don't god t s a like I can't.
Speaker 1: What do you not have? Clear? So anyway, um, we
Speaker 1: thank you very much. Yes, hey, are you welcome? You
Speaker 1: are live on the Horrible Decisions podcast. Wheezy and we
Speaker 1: were talking about y'all and we just wanted to know
Speaker 1: what do you guys call your listeners because I thought
Speaker 1: they were friends of the show, but like, what do
Speaker 1: you call them? Dast friends the show? We don't have
Speaker 1: a hive, They don't have a high. Don't say for
Speaker 1: sure have a high, but they just want to make
Speaker 1: for you. We can come up with something by the
Speaker 1: end of the show. Since no name the fan club later,
Speaker 1: I like that. That wasn't mine. That was all right,
Speaker 1: the hor hive creative. We weren't creating off the tongue
Speaker 1: they do. Somebody wanted to call them the Horribles. Oh,
Speaker 1: I like the Horribles. I've been to the live show.
Speaker 1: I know. Okay, that wasn't the shade. That was all right, Rory. Anyway,
Speaker 1: we'll come up with something. We'll come up with sevething,
Speaker 1: and we'll shoot you some ideas, yeah, Rory, real quick,
Speaker 1: late night sex or early morning sex, late night okay, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: I'm morning. Excuse that. Well, he has a dog now,
Speaker 1: so he has to get the dogs. You got a
Speaker 1: dog now, so you gotta get up and walk the
Speaker 1: dog like you got priorities now, all talked to you later, right,
Speaker 1: I am dead. That's exactly what that is. That's exactly
Speaker 1: what I have to give head in the morning. I'm
Speaker 1: about to give head in the morning because I wake
Speaker 1: up congested sometimes and absolutely clears then gets the flame out.
Speaker 1: It's fantastic. I mean, my breath is pretty bad because
Speaker 1: I eat before Jesus. I'll put a snack because I
Speaker 1: get high, so I like put a snap and then
Speaker 1: passed out. So my problem is my mouth be dry.
Speaker 1: So it's like, damn, Now I got a gag on
Speaker 1: the dick. I just woke up, like, now I gotta
Speaker 1: do extra to get it. You know what you should do?
Speaker 1: And it might be too nasty for the morning. What's
Speaker 1: too nasty for the morning? Sist? But isn't he Instantly
Speaker 1: I found that because I was smoking so much weed,
Speaker 1: I had dry mouth. And so instead of like figuring
Speaker 1: out a way to make it, like you know, I
Speaker 1: didn't know what to say. So I he was standing up,
Speaker 1: I was on the couch, and I opened my mouth
Speaker 1: and said, can you spit in it for me? So
Speaker 1: I just did. Then I talked about it on on
Speaker 1: Instagram Live. We like I was giving head because y'all
Speaker 1: know I give him for like twenty minutes. And so
Speaker 1: he literally spit down onto the shaft of his dick
Speaker 1: while I was going back and forest that did kin
Speaker 1: of what? So yeah, he went down. He just needs
Speaker 1: you to know that. Weey just threw the water bottle
Speaker 1: into the table to demonstrate she had drop heavy. Like
Speaker 1: if you spit down like this and the dick is
Speaker 1: right there, yet the chances of it going when I
Speaker 1: think that heavy dick. I love when it's like a
Speaker 1: nice I love it. I love when it's heavy. But yeah,
Speaker 1: he did that, and I was like, oh that's cute.
Speaker 1: Um um, would you rather not have sex for a
Speaker 1: whole year or not masturbate for a whole year? Whoa,
Speaker 1: I know there's a tough ones. Wow that's deep. But
Speaker 1: I'd rather not have sex or not masturbate. Um m m,
Speaker 1: I know mine, I'd rather not have sex to masturbate
Speaker 1: every single time every I have the Womanizer and literally
Speaker 1: I was just using it the other day and I
Speaker 1: had a whole conversation with myself in my house, Like
Speaker 1: I really felt weird because I had this conversation like niggas, bro,
Speaker 1: do you just see how you made yourself come bit like?
Speaker 1: And I was like you while I was coming, and
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, bitch, I need to throw this
Speaker 1: toy away. No, because I literally girls branded while I
Speaker 1: was coming. I was like, oh no, this is the devil.
Speaker 1: You gotta stop. Look at this. What bro, there's wit.
Speaker 1: There's a lot of there's a lot of great text
Speaker 1: messages right now. Thirty one July one July, second July,
Speaker 1: fourth July, hey July nineteen Saturday and today, and you
Speaker 1: know what, those are the days that I post a
Speaker 1: sexy of course when the titties come out. Good afternoon
Speaker 1: happens with Oh he must see you in the studio today?
Speaker 1: Is he around? Oh? I'm just playing. I'm just laying posted.
Speaker 1: So we're gon we are going to now. It's the
Speaker 1: very asked question, and this is one that I'm hoping
Speaker 1: retires with you vertic Kelly. This has been our most
Speaker 1: asked question during our icebreakers, and I would like to
Speaker 1: know would you rather eat ass or licktoes? I didn't
Speaker 1: did both nassalo I could even be applied, Um you can.
Speaker 1: What do you prefer? I would rather? I mean, I
Speaker 1: like my toes, but I've seen guys with bad like
Speaker 1: nasty black just like the toil the toenail, It's like
Speaker 1: it's like a different texture than the rest of the nails.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go with eat asks, to be honest, even
Speaker 1: though sometimes that don't be tasting like pennies. I just
Speaker 1: feel like it's just a better option than does kind
Speaker 1: of have a little what I don't know why, Like
Speaker 1: we just don't teach men hygiene with their feet, like
Speaker 1: I was in the nail place the other day and
Speaker 1: they do be trying mask on and then put another
Speaker 1: mask on, and I was like, wow, is it just
Speaker 1: I've always seen I've a we've seen them do with
Speaker 1: the gloves. I've seen them. They come in and they
Speaker 1: just they'll just like they'll be on the women's feet,
Speaker 1: just bare hands, and then you go they get to
Speaker 1: the man and it's like the surgical gloves come on
Speaker 1: because like I don't want to feet. Yeah, they over
Speaker 1: you see if it's it's crazy, damn disrespect because we go,
Speaker 1: Oh I go every two weeks. Oh yeah, same same
Speaker 1: And now I'm not needed no place. I was asking Mandy.
Speaker 1: I was like, I need to place. I'm about I'm
Speaker 1: about to start a foot page, are you so? First off?
Speaker 1: White toes only, and all these other little white toe
Speaker 1: pages been following me and baby posting me and the
Speaker 1: begetting like eight hundred likes send ship off my feet,
Speaker 1: And I'm like, so I'm thinking maybe I like the
Speaker 1: I'm taking toes only is a little weird. Well forever white,
Speaker 1: like I've only done all year. So this is my
Speaker 1: first time getting like lime green toes and I only
Speaker 1: got it because I'm like, oh the temperature getting I
Speaker 1: ain't gonna be able to do my knee on once
Speaker 1: you get fall. I actually just had to change. What
Speaker 1: do you mean, I'll show you cute right son? Only
Speaker 1: only one, only one for this cute right now? But
Speaker 1: this I didn't know. I'm at red and I'm lime
Speaker 1: green right now. I don't even know what mine right now?
Speaker 1: You don't know. They don't make I've been in a
Speaker 1: boot for like two months, so I mean at this point,
Speaker 1: I think it's like it's like red daring, like so
Speaker 1: I love red, but Beardy has been requesting white, so
Speaker 1: I've been leaving it. But now Old Bay season and
Speaker 1: was like no season. So we're pink cute, like I
Speaker 1: need to have a pale pink at all time. Just
Speaker 1: know I can probably sell this little clip and I'll
Speaker 1: make your money off. We got red, yes, we got green,
Speaker 1: lime green, and we got pink. Okay, now where do
Speaker 1: they send their venmos? Yeah, I'm working on that. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna set up the whole thing. I was even thinking
Speaker 1: of doing a Patreon just for my feet. Are there
Speaker 1: any um? No? But I was gonna make it as
Speaker 1: high as even thirty dollars a month for that you
Speaker 1: get to pick the couple only fans because only fans
Speaker 1: has a stigma to it, and I don't want an
Speaker 1: only fans bitch. Feet pages have a stigma. I'm creating content.
Speaker 1: I want to still be considered a content creator, not
Speaker 1: really an only fans webcam type. We need to talk
Speaker 1: about why this barrier is an issue. There is a barrier.
Speaker 1: First off, we are we have Bridget Kelly in the building.
Speaker 1: We are not going to dissect me, but just just
Speaker 1: just just know my foot page just kind of soon.
Speaker 1: So we're gonna get and actually, let's go ahead. We're
Speaker 1: gonna skip um the Vanilla ship for this week, but
Speaker 1: we are going to get right into our um kink
Speaker 1: of the week. So the kink of the week for
Speaker 1: this week. Actually I got um as I was talking
Speaker 1: about Area fifty one a couple of weeks ago. Wait wait, wait,
Speaker 1: what you're about to say some alien ship dog But
Speaker 1: this is a whole category on porn hub x videos.
Speaker 1: So I was literally talking to people about Area fifty
Speaker 1: one and how I think aliens are probably like nice.
Speaker 1: I don't know why they're being hidden from us. So
Speaker 1: I started just thinking of what sex with an alien
Speaker 1: like would be like because I had just watched Um
Speaker 1: Stranger Things three, which was really good, but that alien
Speaker 1: bit and I don't know what it was, but that's
Speaker 1: not the type of alien I would want to fund.
Speaker 1: That ship was real ugly and nasty looking. So I
Speaker 1: decided to go look to try to find an alien
Speaker 1: that would that you would potentially So that's what I
Speaker 1: wanted to ask y'all what y'all think and alien would
Speaker 1: look like? And would you have sex with the aliens?
Speaker 1: So to me, I went to really thinking about the
Speaker 1: aliens and men in black. So I was like, Okay,
Speaker 1: my alien gonna look like Boris, cool Joe, because they
Speaker 1: could they could shift flight going to look like Boris.
Speaker 1: Why they can shape look like the Giant. It's like
Speaker 1: the inside you know what I mean? Like what do
Speaker 1: you mean? Because she's saying because remember how they can
Speaker 1: put on a face, they could shape they could shape shift.
Speaker 1: But now we're talking about like what O. Well, I
Speaker 1: know the jigs will be big because they have tentacles
Speaker 1: and ship, so it would probably be the biggest dick
Speaker 1: I ever had. Maybe it's probably it's probably tiny and
Speaker 1: there's a lot of them. So if you guys are
Speaker 1: interesting bodies, like the chest, like like Whiz before he
Speaker 1: gained that weight, I still would have like it's okay,
Speaker 1: like Whiz was really skinny. Whizz actually did look like
Speaker 1: the little things from it in black. Imagine that you
Speaker 1: could do like bit just flex about sucking rich niggas
Speaker 1: like imagine if you like in the world you're talking about.
Speaker 1: I feel like I might have already alien if you
Speaker 1: look up alien porn on whatever site you choose to
Speaker 1: watch your porn, there's like so many there's like the
Speaker 1: Dead broke into Area fifty one, there is whole parodies
Speaker 1: on that already um Galaxy of Terror worm scene. This
Speaker 1: one is two blonds that are fucked by literally like
Speaker 1: tentacles and I don't know who creates it animated because
Speaker 1: this sounds very carts tentacle point where they can milk
Speaker 1: it like that was when we did our weird and
Speaker 1: they have they have like when you watch you when
Speaker 1: you like look up animals in front of mine was
Speaker 1: like yoality is a thing, but it's like they're actually
Speaker 1: have animated Paris. They're two blondes, white and they're being
Speaker 1: attacked by tentacles. In the very beginning hell it so
Speaker 1: they're being and then soon oh I guess she's being
Speaker 1: fucked by it, and yeah it's really odd, but I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna kink shame them. Oh look she's boy. Penetration
Speaker 1: will just make anything fine. Yeah, look look that's pretty
Speaker 1: much what it is. Really just changes that the whole dichotomy.
Speaker 1: I need to see something this this is, this is
Speaker 1: just crazy. Look at they have aliens fuck Asian chick,
Speaker 1: Bianca Evans, tentacle anal sex. I want to read the
Speaker 1: care from the read the comments. First off, can I
Speaker 1: just say what are the keywords? What are the keywords?
Speaker 1: I want to know what the keywords are people comments,
Speaker 1: because I'll leave comments on porn. I want to say, say,
Speaker 1: who's who's like decides what the keywords are for these things?
Speaker 1: What's the keyword? Tentacles like hardcore tentacles, you know, just
Speaker 1: in case one of the core though we don't slime it,
Speaker 1: we buck it. Just know the very first comment, weezy,
Speaker 1: does anyone know if there's a website where anyone can
Speaker 1: find the full version of these videos? That's the very
Speaker 1: first comm That's a genuine that is a that is
Speaker 1: the most genuine I've ever, I'm not. No, this is fake.
Speaker 1: Oh god, oh god, what you looking it up? Sis?
Speaker 1: Oh no, Now I'm an hole. Hold on the vascinating
Speaker 1: housewife tentacles. I want to get fun like that. Japs
Speaker 1: are weird. Oh my god, this is the next one
Speaker 1: is so good? Not my proudest fab Oh my god.
Speaker 1: You know what, though, shout out to all these people
Speaker 1: that are just showing up on these porn sides leaving
Speaker 1: comments as their true self. So I ain't gonna hold
Speaker 1: you unabash just not no shame at all, Like, just
Speaker 1: be who be, who you are, who you are, Please,
Speaker 1: don't be ashamed to leave comments because y'all help me
Speaker 1: in the comment session. Y'all let me know when there's
Speaker 1: no sorrow, when they're not intimate enough. Y'all also let
Speaker 1: me know if it's a waste of my time. So
Speaker 1: I actually, before I clicked play on a video, I
Speaker 1: do look to the comments section because they also will
Speaker 1: give you minute marks. So shout out to y'all who
Speaker 1: gave the minute mark. Um to let me know when
Speaker 1: Nicki Minaj got off the Joe Button podcast, because Jesus Christ,
Speaker 1: um don't come from me, barbs. I wasn't here for it. Um,
Speaker 1: so we are going to get into our Actually wait, no,
Speaker 1: I think we do have time for the Vanilla ship.
Speaker 1: So let's go ahead and rock with the Vanilla ship.
Speaker 1: So the Vanilla Ship for this week. Um. And this
Speaker 1: has a deal with dating. Would we all say we're
Speaker 1: currently dating? Or are you? Do you like somebody? No?
Speaker 1: I mean yeah, I like somebody, But I mean I
Speaker 1: when I got hurt, I had like this weird spiritual
Speaker 1: thing where I was like, maybe I just need to
Speaker 1: be settled before a while. But I also I had
Speaker 1: to like check myself because I'm like, this is my
Speaker 1: ego because I can't do any types of tricks in
Speaker 1: this dumbass boot. So it really had nothing to do
Speaker 1: with tricks. I can't like like I gotta throw my
Speaker 1: foot to the other like I gotta do triple axles
Speaker 1: and shipped to throw my foot to the other side
Speaker 1: of the bed and make sure it doesn't get you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. I had to have a relative experience,
Speaker 1: but I did one time having an ankle bracelet. Not
Speaker 1: proud of that. But when I had the ankle bracelet,
Speaker 1: I will say it was. It's kind of sexy though,
Speaker 1: like that's a sexy that's right. So I was really
Speaker 1: like worried about how which is which is usually yeah,
Speaker 1: but we'll say so like right towards the end, I
Speaker 1: couldn't take any when I had it for forty five days.
Speaker 1: So I invited him to come over and I let
Speaker 1: him know about the ankle bracelet. He was fined, and
Speaker 1: you know, while we were sucking, he like moved it
Speaker 1: around and make sure it didn't hit me. And we
Speaker 1: were done. I was like, yo, like was that your
Speaker 1: first time because you didn't act like and he was like, nah,
Speaker 1: what do you think hols on house for us want
Speaker 1: to do? Who? Totally makes sense. See my my experience
Speaker 1: with maybe broken limbs, of course, came from athletes. And
Speaker 1: there was one, Oh my god, his dick was so big.
Speaker 1: He was getting foot surgery or something on one a
Speaker 1: cl one of them ships, where his whole leg. He
Speaker 1: literally when he opened the door, he had to scoot
Speaker 1: around and so he got in the bed. But because
Speaker 1: it was his leg, but he couldn't even me from behind.
Speaker 1: But his dick was so big. I was like, and
Speaker 1: this was back before I was writing Dick. I was like,
Speaker 1: we can't even have sex. So all I did was
Speaker 1: suck is dick just because I didn't want to get
Speaker 1: in any scene of the positions that maybe you don't
Speaker 1: throw it back. Yeah, but his dick was so big.
Speaker 1: I was like I had to like I had. It
Speaker 1: was like it scared me may like and there's so
Speaker 1: much where maybe no, that's really I don't know. It
Speaker 1: was so big like. Also, this also didn't make my
Speaker 1: pussy west, so I normally get aroused when I give head.
Speaker 1: Same his dick was so big I wasn't even getting
Speaker 1: past the head. So it made me feel like inadequate
Speaker 1: a little bit like everyone everyone is the moment. I'm
Speaker 1: normally good at this with medium dicks, so aliens I
Speaker 1: do do well with like medium dicks though, way what
Speaker 1: you know what it is too. I feel like guys
Speaker 1: with medium dicks know that they have medium dicks, so
Speaker 1: they gotta they work harder than the guys with the
Speaker 1: massive dicks. Guys are massive dicks, don't feel like they
Speaker 1: got to work on the bit. They don't do nothing.
Speaker 1: And what you thought it was like, I know, just
Speaker 1: place it on the table, like you gotta deal with it.
Speaker 1: Nothing too much, but you know what, we gotta stop
Speaker 1: doing because it just boost their ego more. We really
Speaker 1: be wide eyed when we see a big dick, like
Speaker 1: that's all you look at that, like that's all you like?
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna hold you so okay, because I didn't
Speaker 1: really bring him up yet. So there's Bartender Bay. This
Speaker 1: might be a new nigga, but in his I know
Speaker 1: he's a bartender, but I don't know. He's so fucking fine.
Speaker 1: But his uniform at work is kind of small, and
Speaker 1: it didn't look like he had much in his pants.
Speaker 1: So when he said that video, I said, like, I
Speaker 1: even like, so do you want video video? Just real quick?
Speaker 1: Let me see this is the bad thing. It doesn't
Speaker 1: matter how big the dick is. His number is still
Speaker 1: not yet saved, but I know what his first three
Speaker 1: numbers are. I'm the worst. I don't be saving nigga's
Speaker 1: numbers until I really feel like they're going to be
Speaker 1: something in my life. And what did he thirteen apps? Bit? Right?
Speaker 1: Let me see the face. Oh, I'll sell you the
Speaker 1: face that cut on that app because the face don't
Speaker 1: really need to talk about nothing with a dick like that?
Speaker 1: Is he Latina? No, he's not. Latina calmed down and
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna tell you his race. We'll talk about
Speaker 1: it off because you're giving too much, right Um, But yeah,
Speaker 1: um he kind of looks out like it right from
Speaker 1: So we're we're gonna get into our vanilla ship. Um,
Speaker 1: this is while you're dating. These are the four ways
Speaker 1: you can tell the difference between love from lust. You
Speaker 1: because I feel like I picked this because I know
Speaker 1: we just talked about all Bay seasoning and You're like, damn,
Speaker 1: I'm really starting to like him because the dick is
Speaker 1: so good. But is it that I like him so
Speaker 1: much because the dick is so good? And so is
Speaker 1: it lust or is it love? It is lust? You
Speaker 1: know it's it's less. So here are four ways to
Speaker 1: tell that it's less, according according to Or, But the
Speaker 1: first sign that what your experience is love rather than
Speaker 1: lust is connection more as her whole chair Mandy's share
Speaker 1: more specifically, a desire for connection between your partner and
Speaker 1: other important people in your life. While lust may see
Speaker 1: you wanting to forge a deeper connection one on one
Speaker 1: with your partner, if it is love, you will want
Speaker 1: to You will want those important people in your life
Speaker 1: to know your partner as well. So that's when you
Speaker 1: start to know that it's, like I said, don't want
Speaker 1: to share the The next clue is how you speak
Speaker 1: of your relationship, as word choice can offer a deeper
Speaker 1: insight into your feelings. If you continue to say I
Speaker 1: rather than we, it is more likely that lust is
Speaker 1: driving the force in the relationship because two people in
Speaker 1: love often think of themselves in terms of a pair.
Speaker 1: I like that. Self disclosure is the third indicator, with
Speaker 1: love encouraging people to reveal all parts of themselves, whereas
Speaker 1: people and lust will likely reveal things about themselves at
Speaker 1: surface level, such as hobbies and foods. So this will
Speaker 1: let you know if you care to share maybe your
Speaker 1: family history with the person you're really maybe falling for
Speaker 1: them as opposed to nigga. You like oxtail, so do
Speaker 1: I what's the like, Let's go get some Jamaican extra hard.
Speaker 1: I don't you don't fry tail extra hard. I'm just saying,
Speaker 1: it's just like a big disparity though, between like lust
Speaker 1: and being in love, like what if? What if? Like
Speaker 1: how do you determine if it's on its way to love?
Speaker 1: And But you know what I'm saying, I think in
Speaker 1: my experience I've noticed is somebody that's like a serial
Speaker 1: person of being in love that when I'm in when
Speaker 1: I'm in love, I'm so anxious to like share moments
Speaker 1: with you, Like if something funny happens in my day,
Speaker 1: I have to tell you if I want to see
Speaker 1: a movie, I want to share experiences with you. What's
Speaker 1: funny is that's literally the last one. The final difference
Speaker 1: is the impact or influence, um so explain that. They
Speaker 1: explained that love often means another person can have an
Speaker 1: influence on your own life. So here's an example. Um
Speaker 1: She gives the example of a job offer in another state.
Speaker 1: If it is love, you would be more likely to
Speaker 1: consider your option on how that's going to affect you,
Speaker 1: or if you would consider moving, or if this is
Speaker 1: going to affect you, Whereas if it's lust, you would
Speaker 1: likely not have a substantial impact on whether they take
Speaker 1: that job or not. I mean, but I don't have
Speaker 1: a love and lust for that one, because I feel like,
Speaker 1: even if I was in love with someone, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: I don't know that was about example was a bad example, Yeah,
Speaker 1: because I think I mean, nowadays, at least for us,
Speaker 1: like unless I'm you know, like what kind of work.
Speaker 1: Everyone does here, but we're not the norm. Like if
Speaker 1: people are dating and not everyone can afford flights every
Speaker 1: weekend or just to go see someone long distance. That's
Speaker 1: not the reality for a lot of people. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I feel like that's an old school answer, isn't. I
Speaker 1: think the millennial woman is going to prioritize her her
Speaker 1: lifestyle first because there are so many fun niggas in
Speaker 1: abundance and I didn't abundance, and I really do feel
Speaker 1: like your job. I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm
Speaker 1: not saying that your partner can't make a change that.
Speaker 1: I don't know if that's a differential piece for like
Speaker 1: love and lust. Obviously you're in a relationship, you would
Speaker 1: consider something like that. But in the same term, I
Speaker 1: think lust is very obvious. You frequently talked about sex. There.
Speaker 1: There's not much more you care to know about each other.
Speaker 1: You have more of a purely physical relationship. You don't
Speaker 1: meet each other's friends or family. You don't discuss friends
Speaker 1: or family because you're fucking so much. But you know what, though,
Speaker 1: I don't even know if that's true, because I was, like,
Speaker 1: like regularly fucking somebody for a while and met his
Speaker 1: whole family. So I don't and I and it was
Speaker 1: and it was never really about the time do you
Speaker 1: spent like how long it went on? It was early
Speaker 1: on and it was, but from I mean, I also
Speaker 1: think I treat things differently as a woman. To me,
Speaker 1: I'm not introducing nobody to my mom lessening together. My
Speaker 1: mom did meet fella Bay. She did meet Fella Bay
Speaker 1: because she came over and she stayed with me, and
Speaker 1: he was downstairs and I was like, come up, I cooked,
Speaker 1: so he came and ate. Like when my mom had
Speaker 1: said that, I think that's a different thing. That's a circumstance.
Speaker 1: It was a circumstances when you have a planet, would
Speaker 1: I would a plan meet him at his mom and everything,
Speaker 1: and he still wasn't ship and we weren't shipped. He
Speaker 1: still plan meet me and something because for example, it
Speaker 1: just be like, well I met your mom, I met
Speaker 1: your whole family. Okay, bitch, but they was already out
Speaker 1: and you came over because I lived with her, and
Speaker 1: she made you fool because she just finished my laundry.
Speaker 1: You came over to suck my dick, and it just
Speaker 1: it didn't mean much. Okay, you plan meets are really
Speaker 1: fucking stressful, like they are when Beard Bay came to
Speaker 1: Florida and like my mom and I was just like yo,
Speaker 1: like should be brun, should we have drinks? Like that
Speaker 1: ship is anxiety ridden because you know that that's the
Speaker 1: next step. It is also you want like people because
Speaker 1: as soon as that person leaves, you know there's going
Speaker 1: to be a talk about what they look like, what
Speaker 1: they do. My god, my mother is the president of
Speaker 1: the Haters Club. I'm not interesting nobody to her, somebody apart.
Speaker 1: I just my mom. My mom is just the realist.
Speaker 1: I'm Irish. I'm Irish and black, and so my mom is.
Speaker 1: My mom is Irish and my dad's So it's a
Speaker 1: little it's a little career being European back people are firecrackers.
Speaker 1: She's she's literally like it scares me sometimes, like I'm
Speaker 1: afraid to like introduce her to my mama white so
Speaker 1: I know there's Irish in there somewhere. It's wild, like
Speaker 1: I know she is. I'll be asking her mom, you
Speaker 1: Italian too, Like I just be wanting to claim all
Speaker 1: that white because white people just mix with a whole
Speaker 1: bunch of white. She's just the way she talks to people.
Speaker 1: I'm like, there's no way, there's no way, there's just
Speaker 1: no way. Something is off, something is wrong, Like she's
Speaker 1: from gangs of New York Times, Like that's how I feel, Okay,
Speaker 1: Like she's like she might be an alien. Like I
Speaker 1: feel like, not to say that white people are a
Speaker 1: different breed, but those old school white New Yorkers they
Speaker 1: are think think of mon precisely, period, precisely, yeah, percisely.
Speaker 1: You know, I don't introduce the people you need to
Speaker 1: street away from, not black people. Okay, it's the mobster's
Speaker 1: damn it that people are scary. So we're gonna get
Speaker 1: into our horrible decision. We kind of had an episode
Speaker 1: on this on why we think women cheat, but we
Speaker 1: actually have a cheater in here now. So um, I
Speaker 1: wanted to have this conversation. Um if you guys, um,
Speaker 1: no of Bridget Kelly, not only through her music and
Speaker 1: her beautiful voice. I was Normally when we have artists,
Speaker 1: I'll be like, can you do something? But no rapper
Speaker 1: has rapped, no one has saying on the mic, so
Speaker 1: you probably won't because it's like saying I'm gonna tell
Speaker 1: me a joke. Your comedians. Yeah, it's the same thing.
Speaker 1: It's the same thing. I mean, I I do this,
Speaker 1: I do the sing on the man thing at like
Speaker 1: a wedding or like a angle. So ironically, I didn't
Speaker 1: um know that you sing. And I had just added
Speaker 1: Scotty Beam's playlist of like all girl artists and in
Speaker 1: my rotation, I was like, oh, this is cute, so
Speaker 1: I'll download the ones I like it. It It was yeah,
Speaker 1: do you know what song is on her playlist? Okay,
Speaker 1: it just came out. Yeah, super dope. But um, you
Speaker 1: were also a cast member on Love and Hip Hop, um,
Speaker 1: the Hollywood one, and you've made an appearance on the
Speaker 1: New York one as well, right, Like, like you're like
Speaker 1: everyone's friends, so I feel like I've seen all of
Speaker 1: them briefly. I didn't make it on one episode of
Speaker 1: New York. Okay, So I did go into reading how
Speaker 1: Love and Hip Hop did ruin a relationship that was
Speaker 1: long standing for you, But you guys opened up about
Speaker 1: the act of cheating and how that affected your relationship.
Speaker 1: But it was also to where you knew he was
Speaker 1: cheating and you stayed. Um. So I kind of wanted
Speaker 1: to dig into that conversation because it's something that we see.
Speaker 1: We talk about non monogamy, but non monogamy to us
Speaker 1: is open communication that you're seeing other people cheating. Is
Speaker 1: the betrayal of I thought you were exclusive to me.
Speaker 1: You are not um. And then most recently we've seen
Speaker 1: Cardi TakeBack offset after he cheated on her or allegedly
Speaker 1: cheated on her. So what goes through your mind as
Speaker 1: a woman to keep someone who's cheated on you? And
Speaker 1: when he said he wouldn't do it again, did you
Speaker 1: believe him? I think every woman's bottom line at the
Speaker 1: end of the day is embarrassment and humiliation. If you
Speaker 1: embarrassed me, I can't. I can't. There's no coming back
Speaker 1: from that, which was really what happened on the show.
Speaker 1: It was like, you came out on this show after
Speaker 1: we talked about everything that we would discuss with with
Speaker 1: all of these things in mind, I have a thicker
Speaker 1: skin than he does, so I was like, it's cool,
Speaker 1: I'll be the punching bag on this show. I don't
Speaker 1: really care right together as long as we're working it
Speaker 1: out and you don't you don't let you don't try
Speaker 1: to like shame me, you don't try to call me
Speaker 1: out of you don't say anything wild. And he sat
Speaker 1: up there while he was cheating on me at the
Speaker 1: reunion and was like, oh, yeah, well I dodged a bullet,
Speaker 1: And I'm like, I heard you. Yeah, because even during
Speaker 1: the show, that was the storyline where you were okay
Speaker 1: as a woman saying yeah, I cheated on you and
Speaker 1: you did love in hip. Hep l a, yeah, Um,
Speaker 1: so you didn't really throw him under the bus, but
Speaker 1: he took Did he take your cheating harder than you
Speaker 1: took his cheating? I know? Wen't how did that play out? Um?
Speaker 1: It was it was an ego thing, but I also
Speaker 1: think for him not just ego thing. The guy, the
Speaker 1: guy that I cheated on him with was a high
Speaker 1: profile person, so that also made it worse. That was
Speaker 1: also like he works in my industry, so I'm always
Speaker 1: going to see him, and you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: there's gonna be moments he wasn't. He didn't work closely
Speaker 1: with me, so he has nothing to do with my
Speaker 1: industry really and with my peers. This is there was
Speaker 1: no control key. What's crazy is I have a question
Speaker 1: for both of you have with I was with both
Speaker 1: of my friends. Um, a few weeks ago, and we
Speaker 1: had the conversation. Both of them were in long term
Speaker 1: relationships UM. One was four years, the other was in
Speaker 1: a six year relationship, and they found out they had
Speaker 1: been cheated on. Both of them saw the girls that
Speaker 1: they were being cheated on with and looked at them
Speaker 1: as downgrades to them, are you hurt more when you're
Speaker 1: cheated by someone who's deemed as a downgrade and isn't
Speaker 1: as either successful or beautiful as you? Or does it
Speaker 1: hurt more when it is someone who you feel is damn,
Speaker 1: she's an upgrade and she does this, she does that? Like,
Speaker 1: what doesn't hurt to know that there was something? I
Speaker 1: don't know? I would feel better about an upgrade, something
Speaker 1: more like. And it's shitty to say because because downgrade
Speaker 1: is by my standards, right, it's by no one else is,
Speaker 1: because it's obviously not his. So it's like, is it attractivity?
Speaker 1: Is it the fact that she's I don't know. For example,
Speaker 1: my ex cheated on me um with a girl. At
Speaker 1: the time. He didn't want me to work. I was
Speaker 1: in college, paid for my school, all this stuff, right,
Speaker 1: and he was obsessed with the idea of me being
Speaker 1: a housewife, and he cheated on me with a girl
Speaker 1: that had just I found a picture of them at
Speaker 1: her college graduation because she was becoming a dentist and
Speaker 1: she was going into this certain field. And I remember thinking, like, okay,
Speaker 1: so you do like that, Like you just don't like
Speaker 1: it with me? Why is that? You know what I mean?
Speaker 1: And it showed me that men sometimes want to keep
Speaker 1: you in their place. But it's weird though, because feel comfortable.
Speaker 1: And this reminds me of the conversation. But that is attractive,
Speaker 1: whether he was saying it or not. Of course, her
Speaker 1: ambitiousness and her goals were attractive to him. He might
Speaker 1: say he likes me in the house, but he don't
Speaker 1: the idea of the upgrade and downgrade um and even
Speaker 1: just how we just judge other women in their accolades.
Speaker 1: It reminds me of when we did the episode you
Speaker 1: were talking about um letting loverboy go on other dates,
Speaker 1: and he mentioned going on a date with like a doctor,
Speaker 1: and as soon as you found out she was a doctor,
Speaker 1: you were like, oh, no, I don't want him with
Speaker 1: no doctor because she's this I don't go out with
Speaker 1: I don't know, a student or a bartender or something.
Speaker 1: I think for me at the time, our non monogamy
Speaker 1: was a little bit different. So the non monogamy I
Speaker 1: have now, the partners I have are in decent relationships.
Speaker 1: I in my mind pictured the doctor as a long
Speaker 1: term thing, so I was like, Okay, well, if you
Speaker 1: go out with a woman who is a doctor, she's
Speaker 1: probably not going to be looking for the fucking run
Speaker 1: of the mill fuck like the other girls you've been fucking.
Speaker 1: So if she's expecting more, are you gonna give it
Speaker 1: to her? That's that's get I think that's the comparison
Speaker 1: that gets that gets tricky right more younger, it's like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, she's pretty into me. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: she's got you know, I mean, she's doing more than
Speaker 1: I am. Like, she's active. Whatever the situation. Now it's like, damn,
Speaker 1: are you do you really have feelings for this chick?
Speaker 1: Or you really like this is who you want to
Speaker 1: build your life with? What does she have? We did
Speaker 1: a whole EPI SOD and it was titled if you
Speaker 1: guys want to go back, why Women Cheat? I want
Speaker 1: to ask you why do you think women cheat? Or
Speaker 1: what was not to be even specific to you, and
Speaker 1: why you chose to but why do why do women cheat? Um?
Speaker 1: I think women cheat because there's something missing, But I
Speaker 1: don't always think it has I don't always think it's
Speaker 1: that the guy that that she's in a relationship with
Speaker 1: it just doesn't have it. I think there's something missing
Speaker 1: with her because the guy, the guy that I cheated
Speaker 1: on my ex with was was my really was somebody
Speaker 1: that was my really close friend. He was the guy
Speaker 1: that he's the He's the guy that was like, don't
Speaker 1: worry Bane, that's my friend. It's not like that. That
Speaker 1: was the guy that I ended up cheating on him
Speaker 1: because him and I were really really close and we
Speaker 1: had a good rapport and it just naturally progressed into
Speaker 1: I mean really, and that builds the foundation so that
Speaker 1: already off the rip was like, Okay, well, this is
Speaker 1: the one person I told him he didn't have to
Speaker 1: worry about, which is crazy because that's why when you're
Speaker 1: in relationships, that idea of having strictly platonic friends of
Speaker 1: another gender strict people suddenly on somebody because of Alex.
Speaker 1: So like, we have a close friend actually probably met Alex.
Speaker 1: He does flagrants. Yes, So, um, Alex and I work
Speaker 1: out together all the time, he'll work at my house.
Speaker 1: He helps me with stuff and we are absolutely friends.
Speaker 1: And I was in my bedroom on FaceTime with this
Speaker 1: niggad while Alex was in my living room and he
Speaker 1: was like, are you fucking kidding me? And I was like, no,
Speaker 1: I'm not, that's my nigga, Like what the fund do
Speaker 1: you think I about to do? Like just skip around
Speaker 1: talking to you because he's here, Like what makes you
Speaker 1: feel more comfortable? Would you rather me not talk to
Speaker 1: you because Alex is here my homeboy? Like are you
Speaker 1: fucking dumb? I was so pissed and I was like,
Speaker 1: this is exactly why bitches be lying. Like but I
Speaker 1: also in her defense, like can understand because it's like
Speaker 1: maybe you have been burned because you might have had
Speaker 1: a friend that you had more feelings for, so you
Speaker 1: think that that's this way or the other. Like he
Speaker 1: said something to me like oh, and you'd just be
Speaker 1: talking about me to him, and I'm like, yes, what
Speaker 1: do you think he's gonna say that? That's what I
Speaker 1: think the hardward deals to, like even with some of
Speaker 1: my guy friends, Like I'm in my thirties now, so
Speaker 1: I have guy friends that I might have smashed once
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Speaker 1: you gotta go, it's home to go. We're sitting around
Speaker 1: his pool. There's like eight to his homeboy. That's me
Speaker 1: and my home grown, a couple of girls, and we're
Speaker 1: literally having this conversation so wheezing, and I want to
Speaker 1: know how you answer this. You fucked somebody, It doesn't
Speaker 1: matter if it was last year, ten years ago, x
Speaker 1: y Z. You now have to introduce them to your
Speaker 1: partner because that person is now your friend. Do you
Speaker 1: let that person know that you guys had a sexual encounter. Yes,
Speaker 1: absolute you think that that person can still be considered
Speaker 1: a friend. And I want to put you guys in
Speaker 1: a different in a different um position. And you got
Speaker 1: one of my best one of my best male friends
Speaker 1: is somebody that we crossed the line literally when while
Speaker 1: I was like nineteen or twenty years old, and it
Speaker 1: happened one time and we were like, no, this is terrible.
Speaker 1: We never revisited, never never looked at him like that.
Speaker 1: So we have a lot of male listeners and this
Speaker 1: is what we had to do at the table. Put
Speaker 1: yourself in the other position. So you are now with
Speaker 1: your boyfriend and he is really good friends with a
Speaker 1: female that he at one point or another had sex with,
Speaker 1: and let's you know, just so you know, babe, we fucked,
Speaker 1: but she's still only my friend. This is this is
Speaker 1: this happened to me literally at old bay Season's house.
Speaker 1: So I go to his place. He's like, yo, when
Speaker 1: my homegirl come over, right. So I get there and
Speaker 1: the girl is pretty and at first I thought for
Speaker 1: a second like he couldn't have not sucked this girl right,
Speaker 1: like she's so cute. Um. But I walk in, kisses me,
Speaker 1: like holding me on the couch and we're talking casually
Speaker 1: and da dada. So the next day I said something
Speaker 1: like what's up with you and so and so and
Speaker 1: he's like, I mean, I know R eight years like,
Speaker 1: obviously I sucked her. And I was like, obviously you
Speaker 1: sucked her. He's like, I didn't even think, like that
Speaker 1: wouldn't have crossed your mind. He was like, that's my
Speaker 1: home girl, but was years ago. Who care, But you're
Speaker 1: not in a relationship with him. If you were to
Speaker 1: get in a relationship, of course, But I will say
Speaker 1: knowing that his his attitude around me, knowing that she
Speaker 1: didn't she had not one point was like oh wow,
Speaker 1: you know, because maybe she want to funk both of y'all. No,
Speaker 1: but I she like comfortable in her. They were both
Speaker 1: comfortable in their positions as friends. It was very obvious
Speaker 1: to me. To me, when it gets tricky is if
Speaker 1: the friendship dynamic changes when you're in a relationship. Because
Speaker 1: when I when I was I've dated guys before who
Speaker 1: have best friends that are that are women there were
Speaker 1: Their friendship was was very consistent when I was dating
Speaker 1: him and when I was and when we were not together.
Speaker 1: So nothing changed. So for me, that was an indicator.
Speaker 1: It was because I've been on women that will say
Speaker 1: something like I was around a bitch that a nigga
Speaker 1: had sucked before, and I remember once I got there,
Speaker 1: she was like, you remember that time that we read
Speaker 1: And I'm like she's just trying to stunt on me.
Speaker 1: But see, I ain't even gonna hold you. I feel
Speaker 1: like I feel like those some some women and men
Speaker 1: will sit here and take the back seat and accept
Speaker 1: the front row and literally be right there when you ready,
Speaker 1: when you and your man getting in an argument or
Speaker 1: fight in or vice versa, and they try to slide
Speaker 1: right on in there because they've been there as your
Speaker 1: friend and now y'all have built this. I mean, it's
Speaker 1: connection like to me honestly even, but I also think
Speaker 1: that for example, like if you fucked someone that you know,
Speaker 1: like you're really gonna wait that long. He's a pretty girl,
Speaker 1: he's a lot of work to be the girl, to
Speaker 1: be the friend, that's the home girl that's holding it
Speaker 1: down for you. Now you gotta be the fake friends
Speaker 1: to the girlfriend and you wait, you plotting on a
Speaker 1: girlfriend to up like I don't on Instagram is enough
Speaker 1: for Like they get bored, these holes be FBI agents,
Speaker 1: any guy they do, so this is what they go. Bro.
Speaker 1: They undercover, So you could be undercover looking undercover cops.
Speaker 1: They'd be doing it for years. So will bitches, So
Speaker 1: will pitch. And I'm for sure the ops for literally
Speaker 1: they be they do. I will tell you this. The
Speaker 1: only thing I was shocked at was like his response
Speaker 1: to me, like like she wanted it to and I
Speaker 1: know what's good, but I think that just that's my
Speaker 1: concerned and you said it's good, dicks, So you don't
Speaker 1: think h'all want it again, bro, whether she does or not,
Speaker 1: that bitch ain't sucking him like me. But okay, but
Speaker 1: here's the other part. I just genuinely believe that you
Speaker 1: can feel someone's energy facts And I was so comfortable,
Speaker 1: Like I said, I have been around a girl that's
Speaker 1: funiggs I've been with and I was very Why would
Speaker 1: he invite me over if it was gonna be some bullshit? Right?
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like you can't know because
Speaker 1: that's a hiding plain site that actually was were't gonna
Speaker 1: be real. Let's not act like bitches can't be this
Speaker 1: type of low key bitch out of ship, hands out
Speaker 1: of met kids. Hey, I mean I've done that. When
Speaker 1: when I know when I when I know the husband
Speaker 1: and ship and I know that, and I know that
Speaker 1: I know that I like and I'll be telling my
Speaker 1: friends like, oh my god, he's such a great guy.
Speaker 1: And my friend be like, but he just brought you
Speaker 1: around the wife, and I'd be like, you know, trash
Speaker 1: that he trash for that he's not a trash person.
Speaker 1: Let's not do that here, not on you because you're
Speaker 1: not married. But I guess you don't think, but guess
Speaker 1: what if you heard this on the other that's fine.
Speaker 1: But I'm bringing this back to you to say whatever
Speaker 1: energy you thought you got from her, she could have
Speaker 1: been under cover like me. But she could have been
Speaker 1: I can didn't vibes be there like hey girl, oh
Speaker 1: you're so pretty. Let's all play space together by antoine,
Speaker 1: I'll see you later, and bitch, as soon as you leave,
Speaker 1: I'm coming right back over the stuff that did. That's wild.
Speaker 1: Just know that's fine information that they exist. They exist,
Speaker 1: y'all acting like let's day is me, that this is me.
Speaker 1: I will say this, I think that's a trash because
Speaker 1: I just don't see the purpose in needing it to happen,
Speaker 1: Like if you there was a circumstance where you were
Speaker 1: around the wife and it's like, okay, you guys just
Speaker 1: both happened to be at this club. I get it.
Speaker 1: I do get that, But to invite me and things
Speaker 1: happened to Yeah, this has been multiple That is different
Speaker 1: than inviting me in the space where you know you're
Speaker 1: so trifling, so for one, because the other thing is
Speaker 1: to the other thing is too In my mind, I'm
Speaker 1: thinking to myself, what if what if you what if
Speaker 1: you really fussed with him for real and all of
Speaker 1: a sudden you saw her and all of a sudden
Speaker 1: something just well that's what was just the fiancee and
Speaker 1: she did question about our So she did question about me,
Speaker 1: and he said, that's just my friend. So I came
Speaker 1: to the club with my friends. We was all at
Speaker 1: the table and I was just like being just chill, like,
Speaker 1: hey girl, what's the like, great, make gotta worry about me?
Speaker 1: And no, you did not say that. Yes, and he
Speaker 1: was paid, But bitch said that to me, you don't
Speaker 1: have to worry about me. I'd be like, well, first,
Speaker 1: I'm a friend. Well no, because they had got into
Speaker 1: into an argument about me, I know, and they wanted
Speaker 1: to meet to meet me to check vibes and energy
Speaker 1: and bitch, she ain't asked about me again. And we're
Speaker 1: getting paid. Yes, if I had to get into character
Speaker 1: the same way you said you do on this podcast
Speaker 1: as a personality, still mad that you see, you didn't
Speaker 1: have to go to the club, bitch. I wanted my
Speaker 1: bill to continue getting paid, and I was bringing havoc
Speaker 1: to the home. I am not a home hav to
Speaker 1: the home. That happens right right, thank god? And your
Speaker 1: octane levels are high, right yo. Set. Anyways, I did
Speaker 1: want to ask you guys, So there is a recent
Speaker 1: study that actually looked into um the reasons people cheating relationships,
Speaker 1: and it says that people who have had higher numbers
Speaker 1: of sexual partners or who have impulsive tendencies are more
Speaker 1: likely to cheat. So we were having this UM conversation
Speaker 1: prior to getting on the mic, and we actually said
Speaker 1: she agreed. She said that when you have multiple sex partners,
Speaker 1: you're sexual. What do you say, appetite. I'm just saying, yeah, apple,
Speaker 1: apple tite. Appetite UM increases. So if if your partner
Speaker 1: is not keeping up with your you know, sexual appetite,
Speaker 1: you can look for it elsewhere. UM, do you agree
Speaker 1: that people who have maybe went through their whole phase
Speaker 1: or have had multiple sexual partners are more prone to
Speaker 1: cheat when they get into a relationship. I don't think
Speaker 1: because they've had more. I don't think because they have more.
Speaker 1: But I also think cheating. There's a lot of forms
Speaker 1: of cheating. Cheating isn't just like especially for women, like
Speaker 1: cheating can be emotional, cheating can be you can just
Speaker 1: be flirting with somebody and come off like a single
Speaker 1: person and some people don't even like that. Before we go,
Speaker 1: that was gonna be my last question. What is cheating
Speaker 1: you're in a relationship, what constitutes cheating? Um, Because you
Speaker 1: just brought up flirting, I would say, I would say
Speaker 1: I would say saying or doing something like that you're
Speaker 1: in front of your partner that they would or without
Speaker 1: your partner being that they wouldn't agree with something that's deceitful,
Speaker 1: like I don't necessarily know flirting with a girl like
Speaker 1: is a problem for me because for what you're you're
Speaker 1: saying doing something that I wouldn't like, would be flirting
Speaker 1: with the bus in front of me, But if I
Speaker 1: wasn't there and you're flirting with some grondal care but
Speaker 1: I think something deceitful, like you, you know, sneaking around,
Speaker 1: going on dates, you getting numbers when we haven't discussed
Speaker 1: being open, you know what I mean? That was the
Speaker 1: openness to meeting someone new right, because flirting, to me,
Speaker 1: I really feel like we all need that. Like I agree,
Speaker 1: I agree, but I'm also I'm also I don't. I
Speaker 1: don't flip out when a guy flirts with a grow
Speaker 1: in front of me either, So I'm not. That's that's
Speaker 1: why I say, like, it's it depends on the individual,
Speaker 1: because to me, you I just want you to be
Speaker 1: a consistent person. It's like you could say whatever you
Speaker 1: want to say a chick walks by, like Dan, that's
Speaker 1: fat if another person is entering your life and like
Speaker 1: because the thing that's that's a problem to me, cheating
Speaker 1: is betrayal. So to me, cheating is if we have
Speaker 1: this idea of what our relationship is and you do
Speaker 1: things knowing that it's against what we've set as the
Speaker 1: president of this relationship. Especially so being with you even
Speaker 1: though you're in an open relationship or or if you're
Speaker 1: in a polly relationship, if someone is doing something that
Speaker 1: you guys specifically have talked about that is not okay,
Speaker 1: and they're going out of their way to do that
Speaker 1: because not necessarily being or physical or talking to another
Speaker 1: person is cheating to those who are in open relationships.
Speaker 1: But if I know we're in an open relationship and
Speaker 1: I know of one or two people, but you're really
Speaker 1: seeing three or four or five, to me, that's cheating
Speaker 1: because you're keeping that information from me. So it's weird
Speaker 1: because I think learning the boundaries was a thing. Um
Speaker 1: Like for example, scissors, who's the girl in the threatle
Speaker 1: had sex with someone and like we found out like
Speaker 1: two weeks later and he called me like did you
Speaker 1: know that? Um? She was working? I was like, I
Speaker 1: think you don't know. He was like, I mean, I ain't.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying like I know, did you know? And
Speaker 1: that was interesting because then it's like, okay, so do
Speaker 1: we want to know if it's just you went on
Speaker 1: a cruise and a cruise like do I want to know?
Speaker 1: And that's a whole another conversation in itself, like if
Speaker 1: it don't ask, don't tell or does it tell it all? Um?
Speaker 1: I think? I mean again, as a woman, that comes
Speaker 1: down to don't embarrass me, don't humiliate me. If you
Speaker 1: go on vacations somewhere, listen the field of work that
Speaker 1: we're in and the type of that we around with
Speaker 1: all the access and all the ship and all these
Speaker 1: ancient girls out here. At the end of the day,
Speaker 1: for me, don't ever have a bit comfortable enough to
Speaker 1: speak on me you sound, don't ever have a girl
Speaker 1: comfortable enough saying coming up to me. Nobody should ever
Speaker 1: feel any type of way. It's just like that line
Speaker 1: crossed it. I think you should always teck your primary partner.
Speaker 1: But I think another thing I just thought about with
Speaker 1: like exchanging numbers. This is a big reason why like
Speaker 1: dating within your industry can suck, because everything can be
Speaker 1: considered networking. I had a conversation with Mandy about someone
Speaker 1: where I was like, I don't know if I'm going
Speaker 1: on a date with this nigger in meeting. Oh. I
Speaker 1: was like, is it? Remember that? I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I called her because she knew him, and I was like,
Speaker 1: is this it? And she was like and I didn't
Speaker 1: even know after. But that's also tricky too, because I've
Speaker 1: run into that problem with even trying to date, because
Speaker 1: I'm like, I dated, I dated, I dated somebody in
Speaker 1: the industry, and then all of a sudden it was like, Okay,
Speaker 1: well he's he knows all of these people that are
Speaker 1: in the industry, but y'all are not really friends you
Speaker 1: don't know his mother's name, but industry friends. So it's like,
Speaker 1: so does that mean I can't I can't date? I
Speaker 1: can't The things that sucked to it's like, okay, I
Speaker 1: joined um a dating app called Riot because it's for
Speaker 1: creative and you can't screenshot, and I haven't been screenshot
Speaker 1: at a lot, Like really yeah, people would tag me
Speaker 1: in it and I was like, this is dumb, So
Speaker 1: like I just got a rid of it. But I
Speaker 1: really liked using bumble, So once I got on Riya,
Speaker 1: what I found that I like is that we didn't
Speaker 1: talk about my sex podcast at all, Like that just
Speaker 1: was not interesting at all to someone who's in a
Speaker 1: creative field, right, Like they're just like, okay, what about you?
Speaker 1: Opposed to a guy that works on Wall Street was like, wow,
Speaker 1: you have a podcast about being a whore. It's actually
Speaker 1: what Muslim Muslim Bay will not like. We don't talk
Speaker 1: about the podcast, and he's made sure he's He's like,
Speaker 1: I'm going out of my way not to listen because
Speaker 1: I feel like I want to ask you and I
Speaker 1: want to learn you before listening to that. And I
Speaker 1: told him I would actually appreciate you not to listen to.
Speaker 1: I think that is somebody though, that is making the
Speaker 1: extra effort. I don't necessarily know if the average person
Speaker 1: would be like that. He's coming with me to the
Speaker 1: Lave show next Friday. What's the last show so Shameless
Speaker 1: Live Show. Yeah, yeah, we'll be there. Yeah, and then
Speaker 1: we gotta we have a we're gonna go grab something
Speaker 1: to eat after. Like we were talking last night, he
Speaker 1: came over because I talked about his effort of seeing me,
Speaker 1: like wasn't showing. I felt like he was trying to
Speaker 1: fit me into a schedule he already had instead of
Speaker 1: trying to make plans with me, and that's what I
Speaker 1: don't like. So he's like, well, I'm going to come over,
Speaker 1: and we talked about it. I brought up every everything
Speaker 1: we talked about um on the podcast with a scante too,
Speaker 1: just like my lack of communication with dating and how
Speaker 1: maybe I just am fearful because I don't know what
Speaker 1: a relationship looks like to me. I don't. I told
Speaker 1: him that, I said, I don't. I'm not envious of
Speaker 1: any of my friends that I know. They're in relationships,
Speaker 1: whether they're open, monogamous, non monogamous, married. There's no one
Speaker 1: whose relationship you should never be envious, but more so
Speaker 1: just like okay, that would work for me, or like
Speaker 1: that's where I'm at, none of them would work for Well,
Speaker 1: do you have a list of ship that you don't want?
Speaker 1: Because that's I mean to me, that's at the end
Speaker 1: of it. You can literally go down a line of
Speaker 1: a bunch of dude find an adult relationship. No, you're
Speaker 1: not gonna And generally, I will say this the reason
Speaker 1: that we probably don't want to friends relationships because people
Speaker 1: very rarely tell you the great good things. They feel
Speaker 1: like you're boasting. They feel like the good things that
Speaker 1: happen is boasting and bragging, and so they want advice
Speaker 1: from you, so they'll tell you the terrible ship. I think.
Speaker 1: I think I've refrained from sharing stuff about guys. Same general,
Speaker 1: same refrained Like this year for me taught me a
Speaker 1: lot because I was dealing with somebody that really was
Speaker 1: not worth my time and dealt with it for a year.
Speaker 1: So it was like, oh my god, oh my god.
Speaker 1: So really I just had to like, okay, let me
Speaker 1: just retreat share. Yeah, like let me see where it goes,
Speaker 1: and then I can make like subtle announcements here and
Speaker 1: there when the ship is great and then leave it
Speaker 1: at that, or if it's not and just be like, damn,
Speaker 1: it didn't work out, disappointed. But life goes on, you
Speaker 1: know the question, rather than divulge everything, because it's tricky
Speaker 1: when you're like, especially when you have close girlfriends, it's
Speaker 1: like you trust what they're gonna say. So you say
Speaker 1: one thing. I've been swayed in the complete opposite direction
Speaker 1: of like wanting to date a guy, because my close
Speaker 1: girlfriends were like so in my improv class, right, basically
Speaker 1: the PRIP way, the way that we practice is they
Speaker 1: say one word and you go back and forth and
Speaker 1: you start bouncing. Right, so the guy, uh, My teacher said,
Speaker 1: here's the scenario. You're excited for her about something. I
Speaker 1: was talking to the only black girl in the class
Speaker 1: that I was doing a scene with, and the first
Speaker 1: thing that came out of her mouth was I'm so
Speaker 1: glad you left his ass. That was what she was
Speaker 1: excited about. And I said, I know, like I was
Speaker 1: really tired of talking to him about you. She was like,
Speaker 1: because you know, I hated him, and it was like
Speaker 1: boom boom boom. Right, you have to think in two
Speaker 1: seconds or less. And it's so funny because you're like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, this is so real. Your friend is
Speaker 1: glad you left somebody because they're tired to hear about
Speaker 1: that nigga they out of here. Well, I'm one of
Speaker 1: those where I've literally told my friends, um, because I've
Speaker 1: had friends stay with guys who have cheated on them,
Speaker 1: Guys that they found out they had kids because they
Speaker 1: found sucking medical insurance cards for the kids in the house,
Speaker 1: Um got STDs from niggas that they wast thing. Oh yes,
Speaker 1: and they stayed so like, and of course they've also
Speaker 1: stayed through cheating. So like. To me, I've gotten to
Speaker 1: the point where I've told my friends, don't call me
Speaker 1: about him, find another friend for that and the because
Speaker 1: there's only because to me, it's one of those where
Speaker 1: I won't stand for my friend being with an abuser.
Speaker 1: But if you're gonna stay with the nigga thing, guess what.
Speaker 1: I don't want to hear about it anymore. And I'm
Speaker 1: sorry I've told you I don't want you to be
Speaker 1: with him. I think you deserve better. But a woman
Speaker 1: is going to do what they want to do. I mean,
Speaker 1: I think the one piece of advice I would have
Speaker 1: for that, Like, it's very it's not easy for people
Speaker 1: when they're being emotionally or mentally abused to understand the
Speaker 1: right way to leave. Like I'm a very confident person
Speaker 1: in relationships now, but when I was dating someone who
Speaker 1: was abusive to me, I didn't really get it. Plus
Speaker 1: you're so hopeful you think it will be over, and
Speaker 1: then and then enough time passes because I went through
Speaker 1: that last year. And then enough time passes and it
Speaker 1: just becomes that, it just becomes a habit. And now
Speaker 1: you're being loyal to the mistake that you made because
Speaker 1: now it's like, well, so much time has passed, so
Speaker 1: maybe like at this point, this is just gonna be.
Speaker 1: This is just what it's gonna be, Like we're gonna
Speaker 1: we'll figure it out, Like we'll figure it out because
Speaker 1: now it's been a year. Ind so now if I
Speaker 1: walk away from this, look at all the good stuff
Speaker 1: that I'm leaving. Not only that, oh my god, I
Speaker 1: would have wasted a year. So we hate the idea,
Speaker 1: hate the acknowledging wasting time is not a thing. You
Speaker 1: don't waste it. You literally from experience, just know it's
Speaker 1: an experience. It is she doesn't jamaking niggas with guns
Speaker 1: under their pillows no more. And now drug dealers. You know. Actually,
Speaker 1: one of my own girls said this weekend we were
Speaker 1: out in Puerto Rico, all hanging. She said something about
Speaker 1: her drug dealing niggas, and somebody said drugs. She said,
Speaker 1: I don't do drugs, but I do Nick. Before we
Speaker 1: get out of here, we're gonna get into our wholemail
Speaker 1: and it fits the topic. It is accidentally cheated is
Speaker 1: the title high Ladies. I love you guys, and I've
Speaker 1: binge listened to your podcast and I've learned so much
Speaker 1: about myself. So thank you. Okay, So I wrote, UM,
Speaker 1: what happened was, I'm in a relationship with someone I
Speaker 1: love very much and we've been together three years. It
Speaker 1: hasn't always been easy, and during what I felt was
Speaker 1: the worst time in our relationship, I had a weak
Speaker 1: moment and slept with someone else. The problem is, I
Speaker 1: really do regret it because I feel like I should
Speaker 1: have had more self control. But I did what I
Speaker 1: did before me and him got into a relation and ship.
Speaker 1: I was in another long term relationship, but only twenty one.
Speaker 1: I haven't dated around and I feel like I wanted
Speaker 1: more experience, but I'm not sure how to go about it.
Speaker 1: I haven't told my boyfriend what I did because I'm
Speaker 1: terrified that he will break that I will break his
Speaker 1: heart and mess up his view on love if I don't.
Speaker 1: If I don't tell him, I don't think he will
Speaker 1: ever find out. Should I just break up with him
Speaker 1: as if it's for personal growth reasons? Or do I
Speaker 1: tell him the truth? Sincerely, I funked up? Tell them truth?
Speaker 1: Don't tell the truth? Break up with him? Well they actually?
Speaker 1: I think either or she wasn't answer, she don't want either,
Speaker 1: or she gave us either or break up with him,
Speaker 1: or tell him the truth if you're gonna stay with him,
Speaker 1: So if she's gonna stay with him, tell him the truth.
Speaker 1: Don't it's not that big of a deal. Then tell
Speaker 1: him like you just wrote an email. She thinks it is,
Speaker 1: like if you think that the person, like the experience
Speaker 1: wasn't a big deal, Like, no, it doesn't matter to men,
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter. Whether it don't matter. I think the
Speaker 1: secret will eat at you. Oh it's gonna eat at
Speaker 1: her for sure. But then the idea that she's like
Speaker 1: he'll never find out. It's going to be even worse
Speaker 1: if he ever does. Here's the thing, right, and as women,
Speaker 1: this is the hardest. This is the hardest part, right,
Speaker 1: the bottom line, Get to your bottom line. That's to me,
Speaker 1: to me, even in dealing with conflict, with dealing with anybody,
Speaker 1: at this point, for me is what is our bottom line?
Speaker 1: It for sure is like her bottom line. The only
Speaker 1: thing that I that I could deduce from everything in
Speaker 1: that email. She doesn't want to be in a relationship period.
Speaker 1: She said it. She was in her long sorm relationship
Speaker 1: prior to she feels like she didn't get to experience
Speaker 1: certain ship. That's really why she slipped. I'm never mistaken.
Speaker 1: Maybe it's not a mistake. Maybe it's not a mistake.
Speaker 1: But if it's not a mistake, then you need to
Speaker 1: not be in a relationship. She did say she like
Speaker 1: she fell onto some dick. I'm like, how do you
Speaker 1: just trip on some dick? It was definitely the biggest Listen,
Speaker 1: listen the way it's I've definitely falling on some tick before.
Speaker 1: It's definitely been maybe you have, but you look at
Speaker 1: me trying to okay, I've definitely I probably shouldn't have
Speaker 1: or whatever, but really, on accident, I have any here
Speaker 1: you can because I have the option to do whatever
Speaker 1: I want with this course. Now, if I'm in a
Speaker 1: monogamous relationship, real feminist way to say, go ahead and
Speaker 1: cheat with your pussy. Yeah, but I feel like, yeah,
Speaker 1: cheating is cheating is really shitty, and it's also a
Speaker 1: very it's it is really shitty, but it's also a
Speaker 1: very selfish personal decision. So I was gonna say, this
Speaker 1: seems more as though it's eating at her mental health,
Speaker 1: Like she feels really bad that she did this, and
Speaker 1: she's also concerned about the feelings that he's going to
Speaker 1: have once he finds out that she did. So listen,
Speaker 1: coming from coming from a cheater, coming from a cheater,
Speaker 1: somebody that cheated and stuck around through more, through abuse
Speaker 1: and cheating because I felt guilty, I tolerated a lot
Speaker 1: more ship because because I sucked up, So the relationship
Speaker 1: dynamic changed. Well yeah, I mean he knew and I
Speaker 1: ended up going on a reality show and he ended
Speaker 1: up throwing it in my face and he was cheating
Speaker 1: on me the whole time. He felt justified because nobody
Speaker 1: really knew. And then it was like I mean, if
Speaker 1: you think you're gonna pass it back and forth obviously,
Speaker 1: and he's not mature enough to handle even if but
Speaker 1: even if he doesn't pass it back and forth, if
Speaker 1: you're feeling that guilty about it, and you're gonna and
Speaker 1: it's eating away now, like this isn't somebody that she's
Speaker 1: date that she is like secretly having an affair with.
Speaker 1: This is somebody she literally one which left one when
Speaker 1: you feel her responsibility to something. For example, she just
Speaker 1: said she fell on some dick. I said, I fell
Speaker 1: on some date, But we didn't have relationships. Right, When
Speaker 1: you have a responsibility to something, you don't accidentally do ship.
Speaker 1: You don't accidentally leave your children at home when you
Speaker 1: know they're there. We can leave whenever the funk we
Speaker 1: want to, because we ain't got no kids in the
Speaker 1: house to be looking at. Don't accidentally do something when
Speaker 1: you have a responsibility to your fucking person. So here's
Speaker 1: my question. She she didn't get pregnant and clearly didn't
Speaker 1: bring him back a disease girl. I mean I think
Speaker 1: she should lie. Do you think she should lie? I don't.
Speaker 1: My thing is what you're not you're omitting, won't since
Speaker 1: you're lying. My thing is you're omitting everything. He's not
Speaker 1: telling the whole truth. My thing is she doesn't want
Speaker 1: to be in a relationship. She just said it. She
Speaker 1: wants to experience other ship. So go experience other ship,
Speaker 1: just literally and and say it exactly that, because that's
Speaker 1: the truth. That's the truth, that's the bottom line. The
Speaker 1: bottom line is you don't want to be in a relationship.
Speaker 1: That's if you break up with him yet, don't say
Speaker 1: you're working on yourself, because I'm gonna be real with you,
Speaker 1: that to me is worse to do to somebody, Like
Speaker 1: being broken up with and not knowing a real reason
Speaker 1: is really hurtful. It is, and then that would hurt
Speaker 1: probably more than finding out your cheating. I mean, just
Speaker 1: tell me, dog, no, don't. I don't want to feel
Speaker 1: like I'm working on myself. What but why nigger? Well,
Speaker 1: my thing is, do you work together on you? It's
Speaker 1: definitely not a I'm working on myself. It's I want
Speaker 1: to see other people, because that's really what it is.
Speaker 1: That's fine. Just tell them to say that. I don't
Speaker 1: say you working on yourself, just be like, you know what,
Speaker 1: I really but I've been listening to the horrible decisions
Speaker 1: and now I want to try like Polly Amory and
Speaker 1: open relationships and let's see if we could do that.
Speaker 1: That's what. Just blame us. I just feel my friends.
Speaker 1: Anytime my friends go and they just know they're gonna
Speaker 1: do something, I'd be like, y'all nigga think I'm a
Speaker 1: whole anyway, Just blame me, girl, Just say that was
Speaker 1: my nigga, even though my friends, Girl, I know we're
Speaker 1: going out with his nigga. Yeah, I put I'll put
Speaker 1: you onto him, but just say he's mine. It just
Speaker 1: doesn't matter. I'll be helping on my cut anyway. Anyways, Guys,
Speaker 1: before we get out of Bridget, let everyone know where
Speaker 1: they can hear you, where they can maybe watch you,
Speaker 1: and where they can keep up with you. UM, or
Speaker 1: you can follow me on Instagram and Twitters. I am
Speaker 1: Bridget Kelly, I A am B R I D G
Speaker 1: E T once you know E K E l O
Speaker 1: Y and you know yeah once you know eat and
Speaker 1: UM music is coming out. So the greatest, my greatest
Speaker 1: gapp August sixteenth. UM, it's gonna be great. It's gonna
Speaker 1: get sixteen. That's like you want to press run that's why.
Speaker 1: That's why you want to press you are not No,
Speaker 1: I don't press run. I'm here. I've been here for
Speaker 1: like two and a half weeks. I'm here all the time.
Speaker 1: Was in New York. It felt like a press. Whenever
Speaker 1: I see the same person as doing a podcast on
Speaker 1: that they got so made every Day people with this
Speaker 1: boot up talking on the table. There was to be
Speaker 1: done there when you didn't sit, did not sit at all.
Speaker 1: That whole night was actually it was fun as that
Speaker 1: was the Yeah, I told you. The last time I
Speaker 1: went to Everyday People I made out with dub, I
Speaker 1: got numbers that I didn't remember. That's the negative be
Speaker 1: writing me good morning, Good morning from me too, bitch.
Speaker 1: And then I had to block the one because I
Speaker 1: was like, I gave you my numbers who listened to
Speaker 1: the show that he's a fan, bro, we just lost
Speaker 1: a fan because of you. Well, are you be coming
Speaker 1: to me? Because I said, I just want to say,
Speaker 1: you don't remember what you look like? And maybe that
Speaker 1: means that now y'all get a group chat, y'all get
Speaker 1: a group text message from this that supporter I even
Speaker 1: subscribe from. Pat you out because a wheezy watch we
Speaker 1: get a goddamn email, then went on with a date
Speaker 1: from the show in d C. Yeah, oh my god,
Speaker 1: can you tell me about how keep from Cat tells us?
Speaker 1: That was so weird? Now listening, If I'm on a
Speaker 1: date and any of y'all ask me about Bridget, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna just give them your number now they like close,
Speaker 1: what I'm gonna hook you up? Um? But no, um, guys,
Speaker 1: I will be giving a percentage of this clip to
Speaker 1: Bridget and Wheezy for showing their lovely fee because I'm
Speaker 1: about to make some money. Ops. Uh no, I don't are.
Speaker 1: Toes came out today. Okay, we got some, they came many,
Speaker 1: got some bomass toes. Why why do we do this?
Speaker 1: I don't know. Why would do names? I think everything
Speaker 1: secretly want to become sexual every time. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I'm convinced there's a lot of money to be made.
Speaker 1: The prostitution is a very real thing. And there's so
Speaker 1: many on her feet. You think not to hold these
Speaker 1: feet only fans. You're done. I'm just ain't gonna hold
Speaker 1: this puss find more people because the only fans. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so then you can rubb in my face. Oh bit,
Speaker 1: you got a only fans page. What you never do
Speaker 1: it with your job to get only fans? Why? Because
Speaker 1: that's more profitable about I'm encouraging you. I'm going to
Speaker 1: do the research. But anyways, I do want to shout honestly,
Speaker 1: I would never and I would shame our listeners for
Speaker 1: shaming you about doing that when all we do every
Speaker 1: week is de stigma. Way, I literally be posting my
Speaker 1: feet on Instagram and wife about to give them money.
Speaker 1: Like every time I go on Live, I just literally
Speaker 1: pinned my cash up and by the end of my
Speaker 1: life I get forty sixty dollars sent to my cash
Speaker 1: ap from my feet from from randoms. No, they just
Speaker 1: be like these are for your tells, not be like
Speaker 1: thank you, thank you, um amazing the transaction, the transactions
Speaker 1: amazing me in my lives, Like damn, Mandy, show me
Speaker 1: your white sister, teach me the way. So they feel
Speaker 1: like Muslim Bay's gonna be I like, does he know
Speaker 1: your user name on Instagram? He doesn't have Instagram or Twitter? Awesome,
Speaker 1: he doesn't have about to be a lawyer. And he
Speaker 1: just told me a little like so even that, Yeah,
Speaker 1: he did just get a job offer in d c
Speaker 1: so we're like a love not a lust moment because
Speaker 1: she was saying it's he and he says and he's great. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're gonna share the funds from my only fans. We
Speaker 1: are not sharing no funds, but you already knowing about that.
Speaker 1: Like anyways, I want to give a shoutut to all
Speaker 1: of our patrons who support us. Um, we are gonna
Speaker 1: leave you guys off with a clip at the end
Speaker 1: of this episode. If four episodes a month is not
Speaker 1: enough for you, or every Monday you're just like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, I actually want to hear something else. We
Speaker 1: dropped three bonus episodes every month, so y'all you can
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Speaker 1: top of all of the features we do, joining our
Speaker 1: other podcast friends and ship like that. So if you
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Speaker 1: working on getting a store for merch and all this
Speaker 1: other ship as well. But the only way to get
Speaker 1: merch currently is by becoming a patron at our top tier.
Speaker 1: That's patriarch dot com backslash horrible to san don't have
Speaker 1: to me. We are getting tour merch. We're working on that.
Speaker 1: So I'm excited and the tour we are working right now,
Speaker 1: it's looking like sixteen cities and for all you hoss
Speaker 1: in the cities that we didn't hit before, we come
Speaker 1: to y'all bitches too. And by the way, Charlotte, y'all
Speaker 1: can shut up. Now we're coming the Bay. We're coming, Detroit,
Speaker 1: We're coming. Never so much aggression, no from any other
Speaker 1: city than Charlotte and the Bay. The Bay was like,
Speaker 1: we ain't all want to come to l A, but
Speaker 1: y'all forced us because y'all want to come to the Bay. Okay,
Speaker 1: we come in. We're coming, We're coming, We're coming. Um anyways, guys,
Speaker 1: um again, we're leaving you off with a clip. Thank you,
Speaker 1: Bridget for joining us. It's been a long time, mother
Speaker 1: fucking coming. You want to come again because this was
Speaker 1: a nice little mix here, maybe the little barbracial squad,
Speaker 1: I don't know what this was. Now we're black people.
Speaker 1: We are wanted to have black people problematic picture fixture octane.
Speaker 1: Fuck y'all, this has been Yeah, another episode of horrible
Speaker 1: decisions by We're gonna let them here, all three of
Speaker 1: y'all hosts, And so I want to get here okay,
Speaker 1: the kink of the week. Normally we pick one, but
Speaker 1: I don't know you guys are listeners, may not know you.
Speaker 1: I would love for y'all to tell us your kinks.
Speaker 1: Just tell us yours or the most kinkiest thing that
Speaker 1: you think you've done. So we're not gonna vanilla shame.
Speaker 1: So if only maybe you had a nigga spit in
Speaker 1: your mouth one time, that's great. We'll talk about it.
Speaker 1: So what are the levels of kink that you guys
Speaker 1: have experienced with? There is anything you're like, whoa, I
Speaker 1: went too far? Um? Damn, I don't know if you
Speaker 1: tell this. No, of course you have to know her,
Speaker 1: not me, not y'all. You keep you can't sell myself.
Speaker 1: It's a weird thing. Y'all definitely always picks. Oh you
Speaker 1: gotta be sucking each other. Okay, what's go ahead, let's
Speaker 1: find out y'all had a three something. What happened? Well,
Speaker 1: we had like an all girl, three of us. Oh
Speaker 1: that's it, okay, so waiting all three girls. So I've
Speaker 1: done this before it started. It was on a on
Speaker 1: the floor in the strip club and I talked about
Speaker 1: it on the show. Yeah, my home girl, I ate
Speaker 1: my I ate her pussy out and she told my
Speaker 1: other home girl, you gotta come try this, and so
Speaker 1: I was like a story. It was a care and
Speaker 1: then the nigga we was with was sucking the stripper,
Speaker 1: so oh yeah it was. It took me the Miami.
Speaker 1: What year was this? Two thousand thirteen, fourteen fifteen? One
Speaker 1: of them? Um, but yeah, so I've done this trade
Speaker 1: way three singing girls. So how was it? Wait, that's
Speaker 1: the name of my group chair I know. Well, we
Speaker 1: was was drawn. It was really really we was drunk
Speaker 1: as fun that started with this disclaimer out there. Did
Speaker 1: y'all enjoy it though? Yeah? I mean we remembered this
Speaker 1: ship and everything that matters. Okay. It started with me
Speaker 1: at her and then like actually was at a friend's
Speaker 1: house and then she was like, yo, what y'all doing?
Speaker 1: You need to get out of here, and then she
Speaker 1: just joined in and we was on face time and everything.
Speaker 1: Wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait, y'all were
Speaker 1: all in face time with who my nigga? And so
Speaker 1: y'all put on a show for your nigga, the three
Speaker 1: of y'all. Oh here a lucky nigga. Um no, he
Speaker 1: did I don't know. We put the phone down and
Speaker 1: we did what we did, but he was on the
Speaker 1: phone the whole time. He wasn't talking. Did you start?
Speaker 1: Are you good? He did? Stuck up, he didn't s yeah.
Speaker 1: I was flipping the phone and ship for him. He said, well,
Speaker 1: laying skap. Wait, this is great. I don't think we
Speaker 1: we ain't never had this story before. Yeah, that's what
Speaker 1: guys do it again, dude, No, I think that's not
Speaker 1: not That was the only all girl on Yeah. How
Speaker 1: long have you guys been friends? Oh? Yeah, Yeah, So
Speaker 1: I actually got Julie. I used to work barttime at
Speaker 1: this um this bar, and she used to come in
Speaker 1: there and then like on your customers. Girl. The night
Speaker 1: I met her, this bitch drawn and when she's drunk,
Speaker 1: she fucking like s girls. So she was kissing on
Speaker 1: me and I was like, okay, whatever, we're just going
Speaker 1: to be together, fake together. We've been together? Felt like, yeah,
Speaker 1: got you okay, And what's the kinkiest thing you've ever done? Alight,
Speaker 1: don't be nervous, bitch, you know what show you want.
Speaker 1: There's not not nervous, fake nervous like I'd be. Damn.
Speaker 1: I was gonna say this ship for our show. But alright, cool,
Speaker 1: so you're listen here. Yeah, right, So I was I
Speaker 1: was sick and ship. I was in the hospital for
Speaker 1: like five days. Whole five days. My nigga coming, he
Speaker 1: comes to see me. He coming to bring me full
Speaker 1: every day because you know, I don't eat that hospital ship.
Speaker 1: So he coming, and I felt kind of bad, like, damn, bit,
Speaker 1: you've been in here for five days, this niga and
Speaker 1: getting no ask First of all, this bitch has the
Speaker 1: worst lungs on earth and she can't fucking breathe. What
Speaker 1: were you there first? That's funny. That's how she got
Speaker 1: her name. We think we to be in the club
Speaker 1: and if you need it. Yeah, So I had um,
Speaker 1: I had like the Harmon and son ship like plugged
Speaker 1: up to me. Right. So I'm feeling bad, like, damn
Speaker 1: is five days now, this nigga, he ain't getting nothing.
Speaker 1: So he comes to my room. I'm like, yo, put
Speaker 1: your dick out and in the hospital. So he pulls
Speaker 1: his dick out. Bitch, I'm sucking this nigga dick the
Speaker 1: fucking nerve. She like bum rushes in and she's like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, are you okay? Oh my god, you're okay,
Speaker 1: get used in your heart right, So you got did
Speaker 1: you get caught? No? Like we heard her coming in
Speaker 1: the room and like how my room was. It was
Speaker 1: like it was like an old lady and then it
Speaker 1: was my bead, like sucking dick with the other part
Speaker 1: I have dad. I thought she was at the whole time,
Speaker 1: you ain't his dick got hard. Would have have that
Speaker 1: woman next door? The curtain was closed, she was into
Speaker 1: you're her breathing heavy, I promise you. I thought she
Speaker 1: was dead the whole time I was there. She I
Speaker 1: ain't never seen her get up to use the bathsom
Speaker 1: open her eyes, and TV never came on. I thought
Speaker 1: she was sucking dead. I'm like, well, they didn't take
Speaker 1: this lady yet, So you sucking dick would have had
Speaker 1: that woman. I need this. This is good. Yes, And
Speaker 1: then my heart rate went out. So she come busting
Speaker 1: and doing I'm like, I gotta white my mouth and ship.
Speaker 1: So I'm like she's like, are you okay. I'm like yeah,
Speaker 1: She's like yeah, Harry, when I was like, oh, he
Speaker 1: just tickled me. Yeah, bit wi dick,