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Speaker 1: is the Strawberry Letter, subject my boys can't be trusted.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, I've been worrying about my marriage and

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Speaker 1: how my past actions may threaten it. A few months ago,

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Speaker 1: my friends and I went on a guy's trip. We

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Speaker 1: always go on trips together, and the wives got together

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Speaker 1: close to one particular lady that danced very sensually. I

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Speaker 1: didn't make out with her or anyone else, but my

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Speaker 1: body language was inappropriate for a married man. I enjoyed

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Speaker 1: myself on the trip. But here's where my problem started.

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Speaker 1: a few compromising positions, and my friends don't even check

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Speaker 1: the videos or pictures before they post them. Again, I'm innocent,

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Speaker 1: but I am enjoying myself while on vacation and should

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Speaker 1: not have to worry about my boys snapping pictures. The

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Speaker 1: and career. I have told my boys that they are

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Speaker 1: my vacations in peace. How should I handle this? Help me? Well,

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Speaker 1: you certainly sound like the adult, the grown man in

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Speaker 1: this group for sure. And of what you're saying is true.

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Speaker 1: were dancing with. That's good because you're right posting pictures

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Speaker 1: look for a married man. Your friends are wrong. They

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Speaker 1: because they're taking pictures and posting. I mean, everyone does that,

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Speaker 1: but these are your boys, you know, and you're right.

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Speaker 1: You guys do have a certain man code. I mean

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Speaker 1: women have girl codes. We have that too. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I just think your friends are wrong. I think if

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Speaker 1: it's definitely gonna cause some problems in your marriage. Obviously,

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Speaker 1: Nobody wants to be worried if they're on vacation, you know,

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Speaker 1: especially if you're not doing anything wrong about posting pictures

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Speaker 1: and people getting the wrong ideas. Steve, you know this

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Speaker 1: like what this is like? Man? You did what every

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Speaker 1: didn't happen. This dude go on this trip with his boys,

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Speaker 1: but they post stuff on social media. Now, he had

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Speaker 1: But he danced some way too close. Come on, toe,

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Speaker 1: you're rubbing up against me? I got the rub back.

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Speaker 1: phrase just for Vegas. That's what's happening in New York.

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Speaker 1: bachelor party, Stay at the bachelor party. All this women

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Speaker 1: you something, man, when you post, I don't care how

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Speaker 1: it's doing this? Is you know you got some punk

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Speaker 1: know you're grown. When people post something it's intentional that

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Speaker 1: who you know saying, oh I accidentally posted that. Now,

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Speaker 1: posting is a process, partner, you ain't accidentally. You intentionally

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Speaker 1: you got some punk ass friends. I'm gonna just let

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Speaker 1: you know that fail who you said that real though? No,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna mess your marriage up with these dudes right

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Speaker 1: here over nothing. Yeah, I know where you had you

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Speaker 1: what was that voice you had earlier? Oh you, I'm

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Speaker 1: So now let's review your boys. No better. All y'all

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Speaker 1: need to quit drinking. What happens in Vega stays in Vegas.

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Speaker 1: cut off. That's real, Dog, twenty six were grown halftime ago. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I cut them all, all my punk ass friends. Now,

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