WEBVTT - Anchor-Like Tendencies 0:00:00.720 --> 0:00:04.920 Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya Rat, an iHeartRadio podcast. 0:00:09.000 --> 0:00:12.119 Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. 0:00:13.320 --> 0:00:15.880 Scrub dub and do scrub after your workout. 0:00:17.079 --> 0:00:18.960 I did, in fact scrub after my workout. 0:00:19.680 --> 0:00:20.800 Why did you hesitate? 0:00:21.000 --> 0:00:21.079 No? 0:00:21.239 --> 0:00:23.360 Because I actually, you know, I do the Lord's work 0:00:23.400 --> 0:00:27.360 and I get the scrubbers, one scrubber at a time, 0:00:27.400 --> 0:00:29.480 and I think I have made I think I converted 0:00:29.520 --> 0:00:31.920 a new scrubber today in my workout class. 0:00:32.120 --> 0:00:33.080 Oh yeah, yeah. 0:00:33.520 --> 0:00:36.040 So I have a two hour gap between the morning 0:00:36.040 --> 0:00:37.560 show when we do the podcast, so I try and 0:00:37.640 --> 0:00:39.479 do a workout so I can get my dorphins up 0:00:39.520 --> 0:00:41.479 and come back in here so that I'm ready to go. 0:00:41.640 --> 0:00:41.800 Yeah. 0:00:42.479 --> 0:00:44.879 And I'd showered and I got out at the shower 0:00:45.280 --> 0:00:47.159 and this woman was like, you look so much like 0:00:47.200 --> 0:00:48.920 Tanya Rat And I was like I am Tanya Rat 0:00:48.960 --> 0:00:50.839 and She's like, no way, and I said yeah. And 0:00:50.920 --> 0:00:52.520 she was like, I listened to the morning show listen 0:00:52.640 --> 0:00:55.040 Kiss FM and we were just talking about all this stuff, 0:00:55.080 --> 0:01:00.480 exchanging pleasantries and uh, I was like, oh, if you 0:01:00.520 --> 0:01:02.800 love because FM and she knew so much about me. 0:01:02.840 --> 0:01:04.120 I was like, you should listen to my podcast. She 0:01:04.120 --> 0:01:07.119 shows what's it called. I said, scrubbing it with Thtillian 0:01:07.200 --> 0:01:09.720 Tanya around wherever you get your podcasts. So she said 0:01:09.720 --> 0:01:11.280 that she's definitely gonna check it out. 0:01:11.800 --> 0:01:13.800 And uh, this is going to change her life because 0:01:13.840 --> 0:01:16.640 she knew you were gluten free, like, shed so much 0:01:16.680 --> 0:01:18.600 about you, and yet she's never heard scrubbing out. 0:01:18.720 --> 0:01:22.640 Yeah, so promoting us on the morning show often not often. 0:01:22.480 --> 0:01:25.039 Not not like every day, but yeah, it was news 0:01:25.040 --> 0:01:26.399 to me. Like I was like, oh, I can't believe 0:01:26.400 --> 0:01:28.240 she didn't know the name of my podcast. 0:01:28.360 --> 0:01:31.440 So although you do share a lot on the morning show, 0:01:31.520 --> 0:01:33.840 so her knowing that much about you, like you're gluten 0:01:33.840 --> 0:01:34.880 and hull like those things. 0:01:34.959 --> 0:01:36.880 Yeah, but I feel like with the morning show it's 0:01:37.080 --> 0:01:38.000 very bite sized. 0:01:38.000 --> 0:01:40.360 With this. This is like the real miss is the 0:01:41.080 --> 0:01:41.680 whole meal. 0:01:41.840 --> 0:01:44.880 You don't get more me than this, right, Yeah, it. 0:01:44.880 --> 0:01:47.720 Turns out she's like totally badass modern woman. She's a 0:01:48.280 --> 0:01:51.520 private chef, Like, oh yeah, yes, I got her number 0:01:51.520 --> 0:01:52.240 and now we're texting. 0:01:52.760 --> 0:01:55.000 You didn't mention that you were nude during this conversation? 0:01:55.080 --> 0:01:58.640 Yes, I oh, well I wasn't nude, but I just 0:01:58.680 --> 0:01:59.360 got out of the shower. 0:01:59.360 --> 0:02:01.520 So I had like a town around me. I was 0:02:01.560 --> 0:02:03.760 about to pull my towel down just because I just 0:02:03.760 --> 0:02:05.320 get naked in there. I don't care. Just put me, 0:02:05.360 --> 0:02:07.640 you know. Yeah, thank goodness I held it on for low. 0:02:07.720 --> 0:02:09.760 That would an awkward I'm naked, I'm like, yes, hello, 0:02:10.200 --> 0:02:10.640 this is me. 0:02:11.120 --> 0:02:13.200 That would have felt very barbiesque though. 0:02:13.440 --> 0:02:13.800 Yeah. 0:02:13.919 --> 0:02:16.679 Yeah, just like the girls doing the girls, you know, yeah, 0:02:16.880 --> 0:02:18.520 girls doing girl things, et cetera. 0:02:18.760 --> 0:02:21.359 Exactly. So we have a new Scrubs sister, hopefully. 0:02:21.320 --> 0:02:23.160 What was her name, Devora? 0:02:23.639 --> 0:02:27.760 Devora. Shout out to Devora. If you're listening to this episode. 0:02:27.880 --> 0:02:29.640 She starts at the beginning. She'll hear this in like 0:02:29.680 --> 0:02:30.800 twenty twenty seven. 0:02:30.960 --> 0:02:33.280 Yeah, yeah, yeah, you know. 0:02:33.440 --> 0:02:36.040 Hayley the other day goes how often do y'all do 0:02:36.080 --> 0:02:36.720 the podcast? 0:02:36.760 --> 0:02:40.480 And I go every week? What do you mean? 0:02:40.560 --> 0:02:42.280 And she's like like, you don't have like you know 0:02:42.320 --> 0:02:44.280 how this show has seasons and it's like you have 0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:45.800 a break And she was like, do you ever have 0:02:45.880 --> 0:02:46.280 the breaks? 0:02:46.280 --> 0:02:49.760 And I was like no, I mean okay, technically no. 0:02:49.919 --> 0:02:52.840 Because we always record an episode for the holiday, so 0:02:52.919 --> 0:02:54.640 like we might not work on the holiday, but we 0:02:54.720 --> 0:02:55.440 have an episode. 0:02:55.560 --> 0:02:56.240 Yeah. 0:02:56.400 --> 0:02:57.680 I wish we had seasons. 0:02:58.919 --> 0:03:02.120 I think the whole thing podcast, though, is the consistency 0:03:02.160 --> 0:03:05.200 of a weekly episode I do. 0:03:05.280 --> 0:03:06.800 I don't want I'm not saying I want to like 0:03:06.880 --> 0:03:09.240 go away for periods of time, but I wish that 0:03:09.280 --> 0:03:11.000 we had like every year. I wish it was like 0:03:11.040 --> 0:03:12.360 a season, you know what I mean, Like that was 0:03:12.400 --> 0:03:16.040 season one of scrubbing In, Scrubbing In. This is season three, 0:03:16.400 --> 0:03:17.440 because like we can. 0:03:17.320 --> 0:03:20.880 Make this, we can say we can do whatever we want. Yeah, 0:03:21.240 --> 0:03:21.600 so like. 0:03:21.560 --> 0:03:26.600 We could say year one was the season Sex and 0:03:26.600 --> 0:03:27.000 the City. 0:03:27.480 --> 0:03:28.440 Yeah, I feel like we should. 0:03:28.520 --> 0:03:32.360 We should go back and make season single in the City. 0:03:32.800 --> 0:03:38.440 That could have been three four seasons honestly, yeah, true, Yeah, 0:03:39.240 --> 0:03:41.920 speaking of we should label them, actually we should. 0:03:43.040 --> 0:03:43.280 Yeah. 0:03:43.360 --> 0:03:45.040 Well, I mean I don't know if it made, but yeah, 0:03:45.080 --> 0:03:46.760 I guess for new listeners, if they go back and 0:03:46.800 --> 0:03:50.440 they see like season one, season two, maybe it'll be like, yeah, crashing, 0:03:50.520 --> 0:03:53.600 even for our scrubbers, it's so cute. We'll have to 0:03:53.640 --> 0:03:55.560 find like a starting an endpoint where it makes sense 0:03:55.560 --> 0:03:56.520 to be the finale. 0:03:56.680 --> 0:03:58.400 Well, no, I think we would just do like gen 0:03:58.560 --> 0:04:01.120 one of whatever year through December. 0:04:01.360 --> 0:04:04.360 We started in September, so does it go September to 0:04:04.480 --> 0:04:06.760 August like a school year type thing. 0:04:06.880 --> 0:04:07.840 Sure, we can do school year. 0:04:07.880 --> 0:04:10.320 Okay, okay, well we'll troubleshoot that. 0:04:10.400 --> 0:04:12.720 We'll troubleshoot. It sounds super cute. 0:04:12.560 --> 0:04:16.760 Sounds cute and a little unnecessary. But I think there's 0:04:16.880 --> 0:04:19.400 bigger things we can do with the podcast and such energy, 0:04:19.760 --> 0:04:24.320 such a live shows, cool merge, like lots of different things. 0:04:24.360 --> 0:04:28.360 Probably before we create seasons for old episodes. 0:04:28.440 --> 0:04:30.599 That would take us ten minutes if we sat down 0:04:30.640 --> 0:04:31.440 and actually did it. 0:04:31.440 --> 0:04:34.080 It would take us ten minutes to do that, maybe twenty. 0:04:34.720 --> 0:04:39.320 Yeah, I haven't listened to old episodes, like I'll listen. 0:04:39.040 --> 0:04:40.640 Back, my god, girl, you're missing out. 0:04:40.720 --> 0:04:43.080 No, Like when people will send them listen to this, 0:04:43.160 --> 0:04:45.240 I'll listen, but it's not like I go back and 0:04:45.320 --> 0:04:46.960 listen to the whole start. 0:04:47.120 --> 0:04:48.919 People will send me stuff that we said in the 0:04:48.920 --> 0:04:52.640 beginning of the podcast that's so crazy. 0:04:53.120 --> 0:04:55.640 Like everything I've said. 0:04:55.760 --> 0:04:58.080 There's so many things in the past in my life 0:04:58.120 --> 0:04:59.720 that I've said that are crazy. 0:05:00.120 --> 0:05:01.359 Yeah, like I've. 0:05:01.160 --> 0:05:03.200 Always I guess I always said that I think I'm 0:05:03.200 --> 0:05:05.599 gonna end up with a guy that has kids because 0:05:05.600 --> 0:05:08.240 I want many kids, but I don't think I'm gonna 0:05:08.240 --> 0:05:08.800 burn them all. 0:05:09.240 --> 0:05:11.839 Oh really, Yeah, I'm like, how who knew that? 0:05:12.600 --> 0:05:16.120 Speaking of I texted you about this, Robbie is such 0:05:16.160 --> 0:05:17.119 a sweet dad. 0:05:17.440 --> 0:05:20.320 Yeah, he is the loves those kids so much. 0:05:20.480 --> 0:05:21.680 Yeah, they're like a part of him. 0:05:21.839 --> 0:05:23.080 Yeah, it's really cool. 0:05:23.160 --> 0:05:26.640 I don't know, maybe it's unfair to see say this, 0:05:26.839 --> 0:05:29.480 but like sometimes I don't feel like maybe it's a 0:05:29.520 --> 0:05:34.800 man don't get to feel the u freedom to express themselves. 0:05:34.880 --> 0:05:37.760 But like the way he expresses his feelings towards his 0:05:37.839 --> 0:05:39.760 kids is like really really sweet. 0:05:40.040 --> 0:05:41.280 Yeah, I will. 0:05:41.120 --> 0:05:44.480 Say that's something that really like turned me on early 0:05:44.560 --> 0:05:47.320 days with him, is how good? Like again, I do 0:05:47.360 --> 0:05:50.160 think maybe it is dads get a bad rap. 0:05:49.920 --> 0:05:50.320 But like. 0:05:51.920 --> 0:05:54.600 I never felt love like to me, he is the 0:05:54.880 --> 0:05:57.640 epitome of what you want in a dad. 0:05:57.680 --> 0:05:59.719 Ford. That's why I'm like so horning for him. 0:06:01.600 --> 0:06:04.200 You just never know when a conversation is gonna take 0:06:04.200 --> 0:06:06.640 a sharp, sharp turn. 0:06:06.760 --> 0:06:08.120 No, but I think it's really you know, you, when 0:06:08.120 --> 0:06:09.760 you're dating somebody, you always think what are they going 0:06:09.839 --> 0:06:11.360 to be like as a dad? And I was able 0:06:11.400 --> 0:06:12.040 to see that. 0:06:12.920 --> 0:06:16.720 Yeah, and it I imagine gives you confidence for when 0:06:16.800 --> 0:06:20.080 y'all have kids that you're like, we're chilling, chilling. 0:06:19.880 --> 0:06:21.320 I think it's going to be good that I have 0:06:21.440 --> 0:06:24.239 somebody along with me that like can calm me down. 0:06:24.360 --> 0:06:31.280 You know, yeah, yeah, man, I know talk about spiral sisters. 0:06:31.760 --> 0:06:32.039 Why. 0:06:32.839 --> 0:06:35.000 I just feel like that that's like a whole journey 0:06:35.000 --> 0:06:35.800 that's gonna be. 0:06:35.960 --> 0:06:38.279 You and Ali have children at the same time. I'm 0:06:38.279 --> 0:06:42.360 gonna be booked and busy. I'm gonna be like twenty 0:06:42.400 --> 0:06:45.000 four hour call between the two of you. 0:06:45.120 --> 0:06:46.839 It's gonna be crazy, glorious. 0:06:46.920 --> 0:06:48.000 Yeah, You're very lucky. 0:06:48.080 --> 0:06:52.200 I'm so lucky. Your post yesterday was so nice. Yeah, 0:06:52.240 --> 0:06:55.600 and I'm like it was like not my birthday or anything, 0:06:55.680 --> 0:06:55.960 so I. 0:06:55.960 --> 0:06:58.719 Was like where it was in an International Friendship Day? 0:06:58.800 --> 0:07:01.320 I know, I don't all of those things very well. 0:07:01.320 --> 0:07:04.160 You should put them in your calendar. They're important to celebrate. 0:07:04.320 --> 0:07:06.440 I feel like we have been like every three months, 0:07:06.440 --> 0:07:08.080 so I feel like there's some sort of like. 0:07:08.120 --> 0:07:12.320 Well there Frinday best frienday, and there's like International best FRIENDAY, 0:07:12.480 --> 0:07:15.960 and there's like International Women's Day, and. 0:07:15.520 --> 0:07:16.840 It's a lot. There's a lot. 0:07:16.880 --> 0:07:20.320 But it was so thoughtful and kind and that song 0:07:20.440 --> 0:07:22.160 is so. 0:07:23.200 --> 0:07:26.440 I cannot So I heard the song before I saw Barbie, 0:07:26.520 --> 0:07:27.840 and I was like, oh, this song's. 0:07:27.640 --> 0:07:28.160 Kind of whack. 0:07:29.320 --> 0:07:32.480 Now I'm obsessed with that song and I can't get 0:07:32.600 --> 0:07:33.520 enough of that song. 0:07:33.840 --> 0:07:35.040 It's so emotional. 0:07:35.120 --> 0:07:38.840 Barbie was a I've been thinking about it NonStop since 0:07:38.840 --> 0:07:41.080 I saw it too. It'll just pop into my mind 0:07:41.080 --> 0:07:43.840 and I'll think of like something else that an emotion 0:07:44.200 --> 0:07:45.240 evoked me too. 0:07:46.040 --> 0:07:46.960 Should we get into that? 0:07:47.200 --> 0:07:47.480 Sure? 0:07:47.960 --> 0:07:49.800 So Haley and I went. 0:07:49.880 --> 0:07:51.840 Hailey had already seen it while I went to Hawaii 0:07:51.840 --> 0:07:53.920 with my mom, which we can get into later, but 0:07:54.800 --> 0:07:56.120 she had already seen it and she was like, I 0:07:56.240 --> 0:07:58.080 really She called me. She's like, that was one of 0:07:58.120 --> 0:08:00.000 the best movies I've ever seen, Like, I can't wait 0:08:00.080 --> 0:08:02.720 to see it again with you. So we went on Saturday, 0:08:02.840 --> 0:08:05.480 and I had heard, like just from what I've seen 0:08:05.520 --> 0:08:08.600 on social media, I still didn't really understand what the 0:08:09.040 --> 0:08:11.240 plot was or like what it was about either. 0:08:11.360 --> 0:08:12.840 I'd heard so much about it, but it was like 0:08:12.920 --> 0:08:14.800 if somebody asked me what it was about, I'd say, 0:08:14.880 --> 0:08:16.040 I don't I have no idea. 0:08:16.160 --> 0:08:19.040 Which remember when Jojo and Jordan went to the premiere 0:08:19.040 --> 0:08:20.160 and then we had dinner and we were like, how 0:08:20.240 --> 0:08:22.720 was it and they both couldn't like particulate it. 0:08:22.800 --> 0:08:24.800 Yeah, which again oh. 0:08:24.640 --> 0:08:27.400 Really, well now and reverse, I feel like the explanation 0:08:27.440 --> 0:08:28.680 could have been a little better. Jojo. 0:08:28.840 --> 0:08:31.160 Yeah, but I'm saying, like, like the plot of it, 0:08:31.200 --> 0:08:34.480 they're like they're barbies that enter like a portal, but 0:08:34.640 --> 0:08:39.440 you don't really they didn't explain why they enter, like 0:08:39.480 --> 0:08:41.559 why she was going to the real world, which was 0:08:41.640 --> 0:08:43.800 to find the girl who had been playing with her. 0:08:43.920 --> 0:08:49.080 Right anyways, Yeah, so I just heard it was emotional. 0:08:49.240 --> 0:08:51.640 Easton's review really got me hyped for it because I 0:08:51.679 --> 0:08:54.760 was like, Okay, they didn't really Jordan and Jojo were like, 0:08:54.800 --> 0:08:55.679 oh my god, it's amazing. 0:08:55.720 --> 0:08:57.680 They were just like, yeah, it was good, it was entertaining. 0:08:58.040 --> 0:09:01.320 I was like, okay, east interview, I was like, okay, 0:09:01.400 --> 0:09:02.400 I trust. 0:09:02.559 --> 0:09:05.320 But you know what's interesting Easton is that I'm seeing 0:09:05.360 --> 0:09:09.160 this whole slew of men that are appalled by the movie. 0:09:10.160 --> 0:09:11.120 Oh have you seen it too? 0:09:12.400 --> 0:09:14.319 Fragile fragile individuals. 0:09:14.679 --> 0:09:19.000 I'm like, it's a satire. It's meant to be like, well. 0:09:18.840 --> 0:09:21.400 They're like they make men look so dumb and like 0:09:21.440 --> 0:09:25.480 this so and I'm like, to be honest, at the end, 0:09:25.600 --> 0:09:28.280 she was so nice to him that I'm like, they 0:09:28.320 --> 0:09:30.600 could have made this so much worse for men. 0:09:30.920 --> 0:09:34.720 Look, they're mocking toxic masculinity. Yeah, Like, if you're offended 0:09:34.760 --> 0:09:36.800 by this, you may want to look internally on that 0:09:37.320 --> 0:09:40.040 because those are not good guys that they're mocking. But 0:09:40.120 --> 0:09:43.560 I don't even point out that the patriarchy serves nobody. 0:09:43.800 --> 0:09:46.320 It doesn't serve men, well, it doesn't serve women. Well, 0:09:46.440 --> 0:09:47.040 it's bad. 0:09:47.280 --> 0:09:49.200 But I thought that they were trying to say, they're like, 0:09:49.200 --> 0:09:52.680 at least make the point that, like, the way men 0:09:52.720 --> 0:09:55.000 are treated in Barbie Land is kind of the way 0:09:55.080 --> 0:09:57.880 women are treated in real life. 0:09:57.600 --> 0:10:01.640 But better though, valid because when the movie starts, all 0:10:01.679 --> 0:10:05.400 the kens they're not objectified, they're not you know, they're 0:10:05.440 --> 0:10:09.760 not like in danger. They're just not in charge, right, so, 0:10:09.960 --> 0:10:11.960 which is like a much better position than women are 0:10:11.960 --> 0:10:14.920 in the real world. I think, Yeah, and that's what 0:10:15.000 --> 0:10:18.400 has them so mad, Like you're just ignored sometimes, come on, bro, 0:10:18.640 --> 0:10:20.720 Like that makes me so mad. 0:10:20.840 --> 0:10:21.760 Yeah, I mean it. 0:10:22.920 --> 0:10:26.959 Unfortunately, it's not surprising at all, but it is interesting 0:10:27.160 --> 0:10:30.920 to think that. Like in my mind, I was thinking, 0:10:31.000 --> 0:10:33.439 I hope that if someone goes in and sees that 0:10:33.520 --> 0:10:36.880 movie that they would feel challenged, if anything, Like, why 0:10:36.920 --> 0:10:39.640 do I feel defensive about this? Like maybe, but that's 0:10:39.679 --> 0:10:41.920 an emotion, like you have to be emotionally aware and 0:10:41.960 --> 0:10:43.520 intelligent enough to go there. 0:10:44.120 --> 0:10:50.760 But yeah, the shift when she I guess spoiler alert, 0:10:50.800 --> 0:10:55.000 I don't know, like you even get it really a spoiler. 0:10:55.040 --> 0:10:55.600 I don't think. 0:10:55.760 --> 0:10:59.080 Well, the shift when you go to when she goes 0:10:59.120 --> 0:11:01.000 to the real world and it was like, all of 0:11:01.000 --> 0:11:04.360 a sudden, the men were objectifying her and her like 0:11:04.360 --> 0:11:06.839 like while she was rollerblading. Yeah, it was like this, 0:11:07.160 --> 0:11:10.040 I felt it so heavily from being like, oh, this 0:11:10.200 --> 0:11:13.640 blissful world of Barbie Land to like that was so 0:11:13.920 --> 0:11:16.040 jarring to me. Yeah, it was like they try to 0:11:16.160 --> 0:11:19.800 encompassed that feeling of like just being a woman walking 0:11:19.800 --> 0:11:23.760 outside and the fear and like just like grossness that 0:11:23.800 --> 0:11:24.559 you can encounter. 0:11:24.760 --> 0:11:27.880 Yeah, but I thought the brilliance of the movie, and 0:11:27.920 --> 0:11:31.160 again it's a minor spoiler, but the idea that there's 0:11:31.200 --> 0:11:36.520 a sadness. The sadness of Barbie is not for kids 0:11:36.559 --> 0:11:38.719 when they stopped playing with Barbie, and that's kind of 0:11:38.760 --> 0:11:41.720 where you think they're going. The sadness is for the 0:11:41.920 --> 0:11:45.520 parents when the kids stopped playing with Barbie. And that's 0:11:45.559 --> 0:11:48.480 a brilliant take on the whole thing. Because man, I 0:11:48.600 --> 0:11:50.960 struggled when my kids gave up their barbies. That was 0:11:50.960 --> 0:11:51.960 a rough day for me. 0:11:52.320 --> 0:11:56.800 It's really profound because that's like they're growing up. 0:11:57.000 --> 0:11:59.160 Yeah, yeah, and they're fine, they're fine to get rid 0:11:59.200 --> 0:12:01.720 of their barbies because that they're ready to they're ready 0:12:01.760 --> 0:12:04.480 to grow up. But as parents, you're like, no, no, no, no, 0:12:04.480 --> 0:12:05.120 no not yet. 0:12:05.240 --> 0:12:06.240 Yeah. 0:12:07.240 --> 0:12:09.040 That hit me hard and then tight in. 0:12:09.120 --> 0:12:11.520 I don't know if this tied into that is the 0:12:11.559 --> 0:12:15.280 reality of how like losing your innocence. Like even the 0:12:15.320 --> 0:12:17.680 song that Billy wrote, what was I Made for? She's 0:12:17.760 --> 0:12:20.160 like I was floating and now I'm falling, and it's 0:12:20.160 --> 0:12:22.480 like you're a kid and you're floating and there's nothing wrong, 0:12:22.600 --> 0:12:24.760 you have no worries, you're not thinking about anything, and 0:12:24.800 --> 0:12:27.600 then you grow up and it's like, all of a sudden, 0:12:28.400 --> 0:12:30.600 it feels heavy, like life feels heavy. 0:12:30.800 --> 0:12:31.760 Life feels heavy. 0:12:32.200 --> 0:12:33.040 It was amazing. 0:12:33.320 --> 0:12:36.120 It was amazing, and I cried at the end, Oh. 0:12:36.080 --> 0:12:40.240 Me too, take my hand up, And they showed the montage. 0:12:40.400 --> 0:12:42.120 Yeah, when I was gonna say that when the Billy 0:12:42.200 --> 0:12:44.160 song started, Yeah, that's kind of when I was. Because 0:12:44.160 --> 0:12:48.160 it's also very interesting because America Frere is monologue about 0:12:48.200 --> 0:12:51.240 just like being a woman in general. It's such this 0:12:51.360 --> 0:12:55.880 like dichotomy of all these roles we have to play, 0:12:56.080 --> 0:12:59.400 you know, like the business woman, but like you can't 0:12:59.520 --> 0:13:01.959 cut men down otherwise you're this and you want to 0:13:02.000 --> 0:13:04.319 make money, but you can't ask for money because that's crass. 0:13:04.360 --> 0:13:07.960 And like it's just all these crazy that you you 0:13:07.960 --> 0:13:09.400 you want to be thin, but you can't say that 0:13:09.440 --> 0:13:13.640 you want to be thin. And I mean, it was 0:13:13.840 --> 0:13:18.040 all these being a mother and like all it was 0:13:18.320 --> 0:13:21.240 so well done, and I just like lost it because 0:13:21.280 --> 0:13:25.360 it's also like I feel like it made me think 0:13:25.400 --> 0:13:27.080 of that saying of like you can have it all, 0:13:27.080 --> 0:13:28.520 but you can't have it all at the same time. 0:13:28.720 --> 0:13:29.120 Mm hmm. 0:13:29.679 --> 0:13:32.600 And I think that that's saying is true for women, 0:13:32.679 --> 0:13:34.520 Like we can't have it all at the same time, 0:13:34.559 --> 0:13:36.200 you know, like when you have a baby, like your 0:13:36.240 --> 0:13:40.280 body actually needs to feed another human being, and like 0:13:40.320 --> 0:13:44.359 you cannot be doing all these things when you're breastfeeding. 0:13:44.400 --> 0:13:47.840 And it's like we as women, we can't, and so 0:13:47.960 --> 0:13:52.719 we have to have seasons of life and compartmentalize and like, 0:13:53.400 --> 0:13:55.200 I don't know, it was just it was all these 0:13:55.960 --> 0:13:57.320 crazy thoughts that were and I just. 0:13:57.360 --> 0:14:01.319 Like lost it. That speech was were Yeah, it was 0:14:01.360 --> 0:14:04.400 so good. My my whole body, I have like full 0:14:04.440 --> 0:14:05.199 body chills. 0:14:05.280 --> 0:14:06.880 Yeah, it was so good. I want to do Barbie 0:14:06.880 --> 0:14:08.000 again for Halloween this year. 0:14:08.160 --> 0:14:08.760 I get it. 0:14:09.080 --> 0:14:11.160 I wanted a different I was saying that was like 0:14:11.240 --> 0:14:15.040 everyone dressed up as Barbie, Like every woman dressed up 0:14:15.040 --> 0:14:16.360 as Barbie for Halloween. 0:14:17.640 --> 0:14:19.360 There was this thing that was like should we all 0:14:19.440 --> 0:14:21.440 dress up as Barbie's for Halloween. 0:14:21.640 --> 0:14:25.520 I missed that, just like everyone in America. 0:14:25.200 --> 0:14:27.280 Like walking down the street just hearing hi Barbie or whatever. 0:14:28.160 --> 0:14:32.160 Yeah, yeah, I texted Tanya because before we walked into 0:14:32.200 --> 0:14:34.640 the theater, there were these two groups of girls taking 0:14:34.640 --> 0:14:37.200 photos for each other in the like Barbie box and 0:14:37.240 --> 0:14:39.360 they were all dressed up and like in character. 0:14:39.520 --> 0:14:41.360 And then uh, they were like thank you for taking 0:14:41.400 --> 0:14:41.880 our photo. 0:14:41.960 --> 0:14:44.200 They exchanged you know, thank yous, and then as the 0:14:44.240 --> 0:14:47.120 other group was walking away, the group was like bye Barbie. 0:14:47.520 --> 0:14:53.840 It was so cute. There was just something so unifying. 0:14:53.880 --> 0:14:55.560 That's the word I was gonna say. But then also 0:14:55.720 --> 0:14:58.960 just like sweet, I don't know, it was really cool. 0:14:59.320 --> 0:15:00.520 I'm saying it now my every day. 0:15:00.520 --> 0:15:04.120 I'm like, hey, Marmy, yes you have and I do 0:15:04.240 --> 0:15:08.160 have to say I love like Ryan Gosling was brilliant. 0:15:08.760 --> 0:15:13.520 He was so funny and like it balanced out the 0:15:13.560 --> 0:15:16.960 emotions of the movie because the underlying theme was pretty heavy, 0:15:17.080 --> 0:15:17.560 right like. 0:15:18.040 --> 0:15:20.200 Yeah, I'd say yeah, but then there was. 0:15:20.120 --> 0:15:23.400 Like this comedy aspect that he brought. It was so good. 0:15:23.480 --> 0:15:24.360 Yeah, it was really good. 0:15:24.760 --> 0:15:29.640 Wow, I was gonna go into something else in Hawaii 0:15:29.720 --> 0:15:30.440 tripe with your mom? 0:15:30.960 --> 0:15:33.640 Should we take a break before we get Okay? Great, 0:15:51.960 --> 0:15:56.280 all right, we are back. So I went to Kawaii 0:15:56.440 --> 0:16:00.400 with my mom. So here, I guess like a year 0:16:00.480 --> 0:16:02.200 or two ago. I was just talking to my mom 0:16:02.200 --> 0:16:04.320 and I was like, oh, like where she hasn't I mean, 0:16:04.360 --> 0:16:08.240 she raised five kids and it's you know, traveling. We 0:16:08.280 --> 0:16:10.240 would like go on our beach trip every year, but 0:16:10.600 --> 0:16:12.840 she hasn't traveled a lot. So I was like, oh, 0:16:13.080 --> 0:16:14.560 where would you want to go? And she was like, well, 0:16:14.560 --> 0:16:16.280 I've always wanted to go to New York and. 0:16:16.360 --> 0:16:17.680 Hawaii, it's just so far. 0:16:18.400 --> 0:16:21.960 So last year during the fall, I took her to 0:16:22.360 --> 0:16:24.000 New York and we had like the best time. And 0:16:24.000 --> 0:16:25.720 then for her sixtieth I was like, oh, it would 0:16:25.760 --> 0:16:28.640 be so fun to get to go to take her 0:16:28.640 --> 0:16:29.280 to Hawaii. 0:16:29.840 --> 0:16:33.640 So we went to Kawai and we had the best time. 0:16:34.040 --> 0:16:37.400 It was like so fun getting to have uninterrupted time 0:16:37.440 --> 0:16:39.840 and it was it actually felt like every night there 0:16:39.840 --> 0:16:41.880 would be something where we got like the giggles, and 0:16:41.920 --> 0:16:42.920 it felt like we were just like. 0:16:43.440 --> 0:16:44.480 Two friends, you know. 0:16:44.760 --> 0:16:51.000 And I think it kind of opened this new relationship 0:16:51.000 --> 0:16:53.040 with my mom in a way where it really, yeah, 0:16:53.080 --> 0:16:56.200 we're just felt like we talked, you know, we laughed. 0:16:56.320 --> 0:16:59.240 She hiked to a waterfall, which was a really intense hike, 0:16:59.880 --> 0:17:01.480 and I was just so impressed with her. I was 0:17:01.520 --> 0:17:04.000 just like, this is amazing because she she just turned sixty, 0:17:04.280 --> 0:17:06.560 and I almost forget, like in my mind because she 0:17:08.040 --> 0:17:10.639 is an act so young. I think like, oh, you know, 0:17:11.240 --> 0:17:14.080 she can do what I can do. And she did actually, 0:17:14.119 --> 0:17:15.880 but it was like I had to remember, like, oh, yeah, 0:17:15.920 --> 0:17:20.840 she's not thirty five or going on thirty five. But 0:17:20.920 --> 0:17:24.440 it was just so fun and I was so happy 0:17:24.800 --> 0:17:26.439 that we got to do it, and I felt so 0:17:26.520 --> 0:17:29.200 grateful that I was able to like take. 0:17:29.040 --> 0:17:29.960 Her on a trip like that. 0:17:30.240 --> 0:17:34.879 Yeah, like being able to experience and do those things 0:17:34.880 --> 0:17:36.960 together was just like really special. 0:17:37.320 --> 0:17:40.879 It's so nice, and uh. 0:17:40.280 --> 0:17:42.320