1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:03,040 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone. A lot of you have been messaging me 2 00:00:03,120 --> 00:00:05,440 Speaker 1: to ask if everything is all right. First of all, 3 00:00:05,519 --> 00:00:07,760 Speaker 1: thank you for the concern. To be honest, I don't 4 00:00:07,760 --> 00:00:11,000 Speaker 1: know what to say. Is everything okay? I guess so 5 00:00:11,720 --> 00:00:14,400 Speaker 1: since I can't sleep, I decided to write this late 6 00:00:14,440 --> 00:00:17,439 Speaker 1: at night so the answer would be no, Bro, you 7 00:00:17,480 --> 00:00:20,639 Speaker 1: can't sleep. Everything is not okay. I'm good. I just 8 00:00:20,640 --> 00:00:23,319 Speaker 1: can't sleep, eat our breath. I'm feeling better than I 9 00:00:23,320 --> 00:00:26,920 Speaker 1: did on Saturday. I haven't seen my wife since last Thursday, 10 00:00:27,000 --> 00:00:29,360 Speaker 1: and the last time the kids saw her was Friday, 11 00:00:29,440 --> 00:00:32,040 Speaker 1: when my son turned seven and my oldest son told 12 00:00:32,040 --> 00:00:34,800 Speaker 1: her to leave. She still sending me messages and calls 13 00:00:34,800 --> 00:00:38,640 Speaker 1: our daughter. Yesterday, her friend brought me to an envelope 14 00:00:38,760 --> 00:00:41,880 Speaker 1: that my wife sent. Inside was a nine page letter 15 00:00:41,920 --> 00:00:46,559 Speaker 1: plus four additional pages about her proposed changes. The first 16 00:00:46,600 --> 00:00:49,959 Speaker 1: five pages were basically a timeline of our relationship, recounting 17 00:00:50,000 --> 00:00:53,360 Speaker 1: our past, both the good and the bad moments, and 18 00:00:53,400 --> 00:00:57,400 Speaker 1: how we always managed to stick together. The last four 19 00:00:57,440 --> 00:01:03,040 Speaker 1: pages were more personal. Oh he's quoting them. The last 20 00:01:03,160 --> 00:01:07,560 Speaker 1: four pages. I'm embarrassed to say. I am sorry. I 21 00:01:07,640 --> 00:01:11,360 Speaker 1: can't express how sorry I am. I understand, it doesn't 22 00:01:11,400 --> 00:01:14,800 Speaker 1: mean it doesn't mean too much to you, but I 23 00:01:14,840 --> 00:01:18,160 Speaker 1: am really sorry. I wish I can turn the time back. 24 00:01:18,480 --> 00:01:21,759 Speaker 1: Seeing you and the kids hurt really makes me want 25 00:01:21,840 --> 00:01:25,160 Speaker 1: to not exist. I should be the person to help 26 00:01:25,200 --> 00:01:28,880 Speaker 1: you not hurt you. I failed as a mother and wife. 27 00:01:29,400 --> 00:01:32,440 Speaker 1: When our oldest son yelled at me, I really wished 28 00:01:32,760 --> 00:01:36,120 Speaker 1: that I didn't exist. What kind of mother does this 29 00:01:36,160 --> 00:01:38,600 Speaker 1: to her kids? What kind of wife does this to 30 00:01:38,640 --> 00:01:41,440 Speaker 1: her husband. I understand that you will never love me 31 00:01:41,520 --> 00:01:43,640 Speaker 1: like you did, that you will not trust me like 32 00:01:43,680 --> 00:01:46,360 Speaker 1: you did when you told me you made a DNA 33 00:01:46,520 --> 00:01:49,400 Speaker 1: test for all of our kids. My heart broke into pieces. 34 00:01:49,720 --> 00:01:52,160 Speaker 1: That was the toughest moment in my life. That moment 35 00:01:52,240 --> 00:01:54,000 Speaker 1: when you told me straight in the face that you 36 00:01:54,040 --> 00:01:56,960 Speaker 1: don't believe anything since we met each other, and that 37 00:01:57,000 --> 00:01:59,600 Speaker 1: you'll probably never believe me again. I need to live 38 00:01:59,640 --> 00:02:02,040 Speaker 1: with that fact. I just want you to know that 39 00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:04,880 Speaker 1: I love you. I know you don't think that, but 40 00:02:04,960 --> 00:02:07,560 Speaker 1: I really do love you. I would give my life 41 00:02:07,600 --> 00:02:10,240 Speaker 1: for you. I wish I can prove this somehow. I 42 00:02:10,280 --> 00:02:12,880 Speaker 1: wish you could put my heart in some machine so 43 00:02:12,919 --> 00:02:14,880 Speaker 1: you can get results to see that I love you. 44 00:02:15,480 --> 00:02:17,600 Speaker 1: I always knew I loved you more than anyone. But 45 00:02:17,760 --> 00:02:20,800 Speaker 1: after everything I did, I know I love you even 46 00:02:20,919 --> 00:02:24,480 Speaker 1: more than that. I understand how horrible this sounds, but 47 00:02:24,600 --> 00:02:26,880 Speaker 1: this is the truth. I threw all of that away 48 00:02:26,960 --> 00:02:30,280 Speaker 1: for what for just a little bit of attention. Ooh, 49 00:02:30,600 --> 00:02:32,720 Speaker 1: I lied about you cheating on me so I can 50 00:02:32,760 --> 00:02:38,080 Speaker 1: have excuses in mine and the affair partner's eyes. Who 51 00:02:38,120 --> 00:02:41,280 Speaker 1: does that? Who does that? I knew you did that. Yeah, 52 00:02:41,680 --> 00:02:46,480 Speaker 1: just oh, only horrible and cruel people. I'm really a 53 00:02:46,480 --> 00:02:49,399 Speaker 1: lost cause, but you are not. I wish I could 54 00:02:49,440 --> 00:02:51,440 Speaker 1: tell you to be with some girl so we can 55 00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:54,080 Speaker 1: be even. But the truth is is that will never 56 00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:56,840 Speaker 1: be even. Whatever you do will not be the same 57 00:02:56,880 --> 00:02:59,680 Speaker 1: as what I did. Also, I can't imagine seeing you 58 00:02:59,720 --> 00:03:02,560 Speaker 1: with an other woman. I know this is again selfish, 59 00:03:02,600 --> 00:03:04,600 Speaker 1: but I do love you and I can't accept that. 60 00:03:04,800 --> 00:03:07,120 Speaker 1: And I hate myself that you don't believe me. I 61 00:03:07,160 --> 00:03:09,520 Speaker 1: hate myself that whatever I say or do, you just 62 00:03:09,600 --> 00:03:12,600 Speaker 1: ignore me and don't believe. I wish you broke every 63 00:03:12,600 --> 00:03:15,639 Speaker 1: single bone inside me that day instead of this. Well 64 00:03:15,880 --> 00:03:18,799 Speaker 1: I don't, I for one, don't no, no, no, no, no. 65 00:03:18,960 --> 00:03:23,440 Speaker 1: Too many broken bones. She's basically just like I wish 66 00:03:23,480 --> 00:03:27,639 Speaker 1: that you turn me into goop on the floor, dude, insanity, 67 00:03:28,000 --> 00:03:30,680 Speaker 1: no words. I pray every day and night that you 68 00:03:30,720 --> 00:03:33,160 Speaker 1: will call me and tell me to come back. I 69 00:03:33,160 --> 00:03:35,720 Speaker 1: truly believe that day will come. If there is a 70 00:03:35,960 --> 00:03:40,840 Speaker 1: even one ten thousandth of a percent chance, I will believe, 71 00:03:41,000 --> 00:03:44,960 Speaker 1: and I will never stop believing. I'll accept whatever condition 72 00:03:45,040 --> 00:03:48,160 Speaker 1: you make me to return. I will sleep on the floor, 73 00:03:48,200 --> 00:03:51,600 Speaker 1: I'll clean, cook wash, I won't talk to anyone. I'll 74 00:03:51,640 --> 00:03:54,720 Speaker 1: lick the floor if I need. I just want to 75 00:03:54,720 --> 00:03:55,320 Speaker 1: be near you. 76 00:03:56,120 --> 00:03:57,760 Speaker 2: How many skid row toes would you? 77 00:03:58,000 --> 00:04:00,680 Speaker 1: And then I think, so there's some a little ellipses here, 78 00:04:00,680 --> 00:04:03,520 Speaker 1: so he's omitting some of it. Ah. I will never 79 00:04:03,640 --> 00:04:07,280 Speaker 1: understand why I did that. What did I achieve? I 80 00:04:07,360 --> 00:04:10,520 Speaker 1: was telling Zee, her married friend that knew about the affair. 81 00:04:10,920 --> 00:04:14,120 Speaker 1: How I don't find the affair partner more attractive than you. 82 00:04:14,560 --> 00:04:17,840 Speaker 1: In my eyes, no one is more beautiful than you. 83 00:04:18,160 --> 00:04:20,560 Speaker 1: How I love the spicy sleep with you a million 84 00:04:20,600 --> 00:04:23,320 Speaker 1: times more than with him, and I still went there 85 00:04:23,400 --> 00:04:26,560 Speaker 1: a few times. I'm so sick. I know you don't 86 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:28,640 Speaker 1: want to hear this, but I felt like the biggest 87 00:04:28,640 --> 00:04:31,640 Speaker 1: piece of trash and with you like the happiest person 88 00:04:32,000 --> 00:04:35,440 Speaker 1: and again I still did this since you left me, 89 00:04:35,560 --> 00:04:39,279 Speaker 1: I asked myself, was everything okay with me back then? Sure? 90 00:04:39,680 --> 00:04:42,760 Speaker 1: It wasn't. But when I try to remember everything, I 91 00:04:42,839 --> 00:04:45,599 Speaker 1: feel like someone changed my head, like some kind of 92 00:04:45,880 --> 00:04:49,080 Speaker 1: substance was inside me to do that. I could never 93 00:04:49,160 --> 00:04:52,720 Speaker 1: imagine myself doing that, not even in my dreams, and 94 00:04:52,760 --> 00:04:55,919 Speaker 1: I did that in reality and hurt the person I 95 00:04:55,960 --> 00:04:58,520 Speaker 1: love the most. I really hope that I'll find the 96 00:04:58,560 --> 00:05:01,440 Speaker 1: answer why I did this. I just hope you'll not 97 00:05:01,520 --> 00:05:04,479 Speaker 1: make your decision until then. You were always stronger than 98 00:05:04,560 --> 00:05:07,600 Speaker 1: I was. I hope that you'll survive until then. If 99 00:05:07,640 --> 00:05:09,960 Speaker 1: you want me to leave and stop calling, I will 100 00:05:10,000 --> 00:05:13,040 Speaker 1: do that. But please don't forget about me. Don't give 101 00:05:13,120 --> 00:05:17,360 Speaker 1: up on us like I did. Oh god, girl, dude, 102 00:05:17,400 --> 00:05:21,520 Speaker 1: it's all this to say, clearly, she has something wrong 103 00:05:21,560 --> 00:05:24,560 Speaker 1: with her mental There's there's there is a missing piece 104 00:05:24,640 --> 00:05:25,560 Speaker 1: of her mental. 105 00:05:25,640 --> 00:05:31,920 Speaker 3: It feels like that there is there is something yeah, 106 00:05:32,440 --> 00:05:36,080 Speaker 3: mentally that is that is wrong, but she's like trying 107 00:05:36,120 --> 00:05:38,880 Speaker 3: to fight against it and be rational and stuff, but 108 00:05:39,160 --> 00:05:42,920 Speaker 3: it's still there and she can't like she can't like, yep, 109 00:05:43,000 --> 00:05:45,000 Speaker 3: just navigate without it because it is there. That's what 110 00:05:45,640 --> 00:05:48,480 Speaker 3: total speculation, but that is what it is. 111 00:05:48,800 --> 00:05:51,680 Speaker 4: Yeah, kind of right, it's still I don't know, speculative, 112 00:05:51,720 --> 00:05:54,719 Speaker 4: but yeah, when she's going like I have, I don't 113 00:05:54,720 --> 00:05:57,440 Speaker 4: even know why I did this, Like everything was fine, 114 00:05:57,440 --> 00:05:59,480 Speaker 4: I guess, and I still did this. Yeah, And I 115 00:05:59,520 --> 00:06:01,360 Speaker 4: was like, I I don't even like being with him 116 00:06:01,360 --> 00:06:02,480 Speaker 4: as much as I like being with you, but I'm 117 00:06:02,520 --> 00:06:03,080 Speaker 4: still doing it. 118 00:06:03,120 --> 00:06:06,520 Speaker 3: And also I'm kind of getting the vibe in this 119 00:06:06,640 --> 00:06:10,800 Speaker 3: where I'm like, would She's like, you know, I love you, 120 00:06:10,839 --> 00:06:12,440 Speaker 3: know being with you a million more times, and I 121 00:06:12,480 --> 00:06:14,760 Speaker 3: realize I love you even more, and I'm like, yeah, 122 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:17,920 Speaker 3: you might still, Like I do believe that she probably 123 00:06:17,920 --> 00:06:20,440 Speaker 3: does still like love him and would like rather have 124 00:06:20,520 --> 00:06:23,920 Speaker 3: their life together. But I'm like, would you ever say 125 00:06:23,960 --> 00:06:27,120 Speaker 3: this if this whole thing never happened, you know what 126 00:06:27,120 --> 00:06:30,960 Speaker 3: I mean? Almost like she's in an altered emotional state 127 00:06:31,120 --> 00:06:33,960 Speaker 3: because if everything that's happened, and. 128 00:06:34,080 --> 00:06:37,159 Speaker 1: Yeah, she would have taken this to the grave for sure. Yeah, 129 00:06:37,200 --> 00:06:40,000 Speaker 1: so I don't know that part. Reading it too, I 130 00:06:40,160 --> 00:06:42,560 Speaker 1: was like, I don't know, but anyways, I know this 131 00:06:42,600 --> 00:06:45,440 Speaker 1: sounds horrible, but don't give up on us because the 132 00:06:45,560 --> 00:06:48,840 Speaker 1: kids and everything we went through together, I know, because 133 00:06:48,839 --> 00:06:51,680 Speaker 1: of this, my betrayal is even bigger. But I'll do 134 00:06:51,760 --> 00:06:54,640 Speaker 1: everything that I can so that we can be happy 135 00:06:54,680 --> 00:06:57,880 Speaker 1: again wherever we would be. I'm ready to follow you 136 00:06:57,960 --> 00:06:59,960 Speaker 1: and be there for you a thousand times more than 137 00:07:00,080 --> 00:07:03,640 Speaker 1: I was then. You know I would do and give 138 00:07:04,080 --> 00:07:06,960 Speaker 1: everything for the kids and for you. You know how 139 00:07:07,000 --> 00:07:10,200 Speaker 1: happy we were, but I destroyed everything. If you give 140 00:07:10,240 --> 00:07:13,800 Speaker 1: me another chance, we could be happy again because of you. 141 00:07:14,200 --> 00:07:18,320 Speaker 1: We will again have smiles like we had. I will 142 00:07:18,320 --> 00:07:20,400 Speaker 1: show you for the rest of my life how sorry 143 00:07:20,440 --> 00:07:22,840 Speaker 1: I am and that nothing and no one can stop 144 00:07:22,880 --> 00:07:26,280 Speaker 1: my love for you. I understand. You can say that 145 00:07:26,560 --> 00:07:29,720 Speaker 1: the affair partner stopped, but he didn't. I never looked 146 00:07:30,040 --> 00:07:32,160 Speaker 1: at a fair partner like I was looking at you. 147 00:07:32,400 --> 00:07:35,120 Speaker 1: I never touched him like I was touching you. I 148 00:07:35,160 --> 00:07:39,200 Speaker 1: never even kissed him. I would, well, come on, is 149 00:07:39,240 --> 00:07:41,680 Speaker 1: that really what we're gonna break out? The pretty woman? 150 00:07:41,880 --> 00:07:44,960 Speaker 1: No kissing. There was no kissing. Come on, man, So 151 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:45,600 Speaker 1: it's fine. 152 00:07:46,000 --> 00:07:51,360 Speaker 3: It was just straight backshots, one round, all backshots. Kimberly 153 00:07:51,400 --> 00:07:56,160 Speaker 3: Fine says there's nothing finite, actionable, no suggestions to on 154 00:07:56,400 --> 00:07:59,120 Speaker 3: forming a plan to improve their situation. She has absolutely 155 00:07:59,160 --> 00:08:00,960 Speaker 3: no plan to fix herself if she just wants op 156 00:08:01,160 --> 00:08:04,120 Speaker 3: to comply because that's the only resolution. 157 00:08:04,520 --> 00:08:06,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, she I haven't heard her say, let's go to 158 00:08:06,600 --> 00:08:09,880 Speaker 2: marriage counseling, let's I'm going to put myself back into therapy. 159 00:08:10,120 --> 00:08:12,000 Speaker 1: Nothing, nothing like that. Yeah, here's what. 160 00:08:12,080 --> 00:08:14,160 Speaker 3: I'm going to therapy and doing these things. And like, 161 00:08:14,240 --> 00:08:16,000 Speaker 3: even if you never speak to me again, I truly 162 00:08:16,040 --> 00:08:19,040 Speaker 3: understand you're within your right. But I'm going to improve 163 00:08:19,120 --> 00:08:22,040 Speaker 3: myself in the meantime, and then if you do decide 164 00:08:22,080 --> 00:08:24,559 Speaker 3: one day to bring me back, I will be better 165 00:08:24,600 --> 00:08:25,960 Speaker 3: because of the word company. 166 00:08:25,840 --> 00:08:28,160 Speaker 1: Kind of say that, but not explicitly. She was like, 167 00:08:28,360 --> 00:08:30,960 Speaker 1: the main focus is like she said. She said something like, 168 00:08:31,240 --> 00:08:35,200 Speaker 1: I don't know why I did this, and I'm going 169 00:08:35,240 --> 00:08:39,200 Speaker 1: to figure out why, and please don't make any final 170 00:08:39,240 --> 00:08:41,800 Speaker 1: decisions about us until then. Yeah, so I think she 171 00:08:41,920 --> 00:08:44,360 Speaker 1: was implying she was maybe going to go to therapy, 172 00:08:44,400 --> 00:08:47,440 Speaker 1: but yeah, she didn't say anything direct. Yeah. So I 173 00:08:47,520 --> 00:08:50,440 Speaker 1: never even kissed him, I would never bring him near 174 00:08:50,480 --> 00:08:53,080 Speaker 1: my kids. I would never even tell him my secrets 175 00:08:53,080 --> 00:08:55,880 Speaker 1: that I told you after a week into our relationship. 176 00:08:56,360 --> 00:08:58,760 Speaker 1: I never smiled with him, but I was always smiling 177 00:08:58,800 --> 00:09:02,120 Speaker 1: with you. I understand my actions tell a different story. 178 00:09:02,120 --> 00:09:05,000 Speaker 1: But you were always the only man in my heart, 179 00:09:05,280 --> 00:09:08,080 Speaker 1: and I will never stop hating myself for everything I did. 180 00:09:08,559 --> 00:09:11,679 Speaker 1: I'm so sorry for breaking your heart along with mine. 181 00:09:12,080 --> 00:09:14,760 Speaker 1: This is something I will never ever forget, but I 182 00:09:14,840 --> 00:09:16,960 Speaker 1: will live with it for the rest of my life 183 00:09:17,240 --> 00:09:20,200 Speaker 1: to be there for you and our angels in the 184 00:09:20,240 --> 00:09:23,480 Speaker 1: best and the worst, and I'll appreciate every second with 185 00:09:23,600 --> 00:09:27,840 Speaker 1: you more than ever. I love you more than anything s. 186 00:09:28,360 --> 00:09:30,720 Speaker 1: She also wrote this, I'm telling you that I will 187 00:09:30,720 --> 00:09:33,960 Speaker 1: do everything for you to forgive me, but I didn't 188 00:09:34,080 --> 00:09:37,440 Speaker 1: actually do anything yet. Now I will make everything in 189 00:09:37,440 --> 00:09:39,600 Speaker 1: my power so you can have some answers in your 190 00:09:39,640 --> 00:09:42,760 Speaker 1: head and start believing me and hopefully one day forgive me, 191 00:09:42,920 --> 00:09:45,760 Speaker 1: at least in your mind, if not in your heart. 192 00:09:45,840 --> 00:09:49,199 Speaker 1: She included a list of changes that she's committing to Okay, 193 00:09:49,480 --> 00:09:55,920 Speaker 1: she decided to delete her Instagram, TikTok and Facebook accounts permanently. Finally, Hey, 194 00:09:56,240 --> 00:09:59,319 Speaker 1: sounds like that might be a good move for her. 195 00:09:59,360 --> 00:10:02,000 Speaker 1: But yeah, you guys, don't don't go doing that. Don't 196 00:10:02,000 --> 00:10:03,640 Speaker 1: do that, because then how are you gonna watch us. 197 00:10:05,000 --> 00:10:08,920 Speaker 1: Don't listen to the wife. She's not with it. She's 198 00:10:08,960 --> 00:10:11,760 Speaker 1: looking for a job, though her qualifications make it nearly 199 00:10:11,760 --> 00:10:15,240 Speaker 1: impossible to find one here, even as a cleaner. Still, 200 00:10:15,280 --> 00:10:18,240 Speaker 1: I respect the effort. She will write a full timeline 201 00:10:18,320 --> 00:10:21,360 Speaker 1: of her affair. Honestly, I don't care about this. Yeah, 202 00:10:21,960 --> 00:10:24,880 Speaker 1: keep it, Please leave that to yourself. I don't need that. 203 00:10:24,960 --> 00:10:25,760 Speaker 1: I just it happened. 204 00:10:25,800 --> 00:10:27,800 Speaker 3: We already know the pounds per round. We don't need 205 00:10:27,840 --> 00:10:29,920 Speaker 3: any more detail than we've already been tortured with. 206 00:10:30,120 --> 00:10:32,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, we don't need to know the girl high. No, 207 00:10:33,200 --> 00:10:35,120 Speaker 1: come on, She's like, here's a list of all the 208 00:10:35,120 --> 00:10:38,120 Speaker 1: positions to prove that there was no kissing. 209 00:10:38,880 --> 00:10:39,120 Speaker 2: God. 210 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:43,520 Speaker 1: Uh see, we couldn't have kissed. We were doing this. 211 00:10:43,760 --> 00:10:46,720 Speaker 1: Oh my god, dude. Yeah, you know who can't kiss 212 00:10:46,760 --> 00:10:49,319 Speaker 1: while they're doing it? Tom hands? Yea, his hands. He's 213 00:10:49,360 --> 00:10:51,760 Speaker 1: just a big old finger. Hasn't even have I done? 214 00:10:51,960 --> 00:10:54,440 Speaker 1: Move around? Huh? I said, what have I done? Yeah, 215 00:10:54,480 --> 00:10:58,080 Speaker 1: it's okay, it's great. She plans to attend all of 216 00:10:58,080 --> 00:11:01,200 Speaker 1: our boys football practices and school events, but will leave 217 00:11:01,440 --> 00:11:04,160 Speaker 1: if they ask her to. She'll send them letters weekly 218 00:11:04,240 --> 00:11:06,800 Speaker 1: and bring their favorite snacks, toys, or food a few 219 00:11:06,800 --> 00:11:10,120 Speaker 1: times per week. I like this. She cut ties with 220 00:11:10,160 --> 00:11:12,720 Speaker 1: the friend who knew about the affair. She even offered 221 00:11:12,720 --> 00:11:14,760 Speaker 1: to tell her friend's husband about it if I want 222 00:11:14,800 --> 00:11:17,320 Speaker 1: her to. I like this since I never liked her 223 00:11:17,360 --> 00:11:20,400 Speaker 1: friend anyway. See, that's not the right vibe, dude. Or 224 00:11:20,520 --> 00:11:22,880 Speaker 1: is he saying that he likes the husband knowing that 225 00:11:22,960 --> 00:11:26,120 Speaker 1: she knew about the affair. It's like you're reveling too 226 00:11:26,160 --> 00:11:30,760 Speaker 1: much in other people's like suffering or turmoil. Yeah, I 227 00:11:30,760 --> 00:11:33,440 Speaker 1: don't think that's a good thing. Yeah, my dog to us. 228 00:11:33,760 --> 00:11:37,600 Speaker 1: She scheduled a polygraph test to answer questions about me, 229 00:11:37,840 --> 00:11:41,240 Speaker 1: her and the affair partner, as well as whether she's 230 00:11:41,320 --> 00:11:45,120 Speaker 1: cheated before. I'm actually looking forward to this goodness. She 231 00:11:45,160 --> 00:11:47,400 Speaker 1: also offered to never leave the house without me. She 232 00:11:47,520 --> 00:11:50,440 Speaker 1: even suggested installing cameras so I can monitor her if 233 00:11:50,480 --> 00:11:56,280 Speaker 1: I'm not home. Insane. She's willing to sign a post 234 00:11:56,480 --> 00:11:59,960 Speaker 1: up or agreement giving me full custody and all assets 235 00:12:00,200 --> 00:12:03,120 Speaker 1: if she's unfaithful again in any form. I'm not sure 236 00:12:03,160 --> 00:12:06,720 Speaker 1: if this is legally possible, but it is interesting. She's 237 00:12:06,760 --> 00:12:10,920 Speaker 1: starting individual counseling this week. Whatever. She won't use her 238 00:12:10,920 --> 00:12:13,920 Speaker 1: phone anymore unless it's unlocked and only for family or 239 00:12:14,000 --> 00:12:18,400 Speaker 1: specific contacts. I don't care much about this. If we reconcile, 240 00:12:18,520 --> 00:12:22,480 Speaker 1: she'll share her location, win running errands, and record herself 241 00:12:22,480 --> 00:12:26,280 Speaker 1: shopping to prove she isn't meeting or talking to anyone insane. 242 00:12:26,360 --> 00:12:29,520 Speaker 1: She's listening to podcasts by former cheaters and plans to 243 00:12:29,559 --> 00:12:33,040 Speaker 1: read books about infidelity. I honestly couldn't care less about this. 244 00:12:33,480 --> 00:12:35,960 Speaker 1: Some of her other ideas were equally over the top, 245 00:12:36,080 --> 00:12:38,360 Speaker 1: like selling all of her clothes and using the money 246 00:12:38,360 --> 00:12:41,640 Speaker 1: for something else. While I believe she doesn't care about money, 247 00:12:41,840 --> 00:12:45,600 Speaker 1: this seems unnecessary. My favorite part, though, is her plan 248 00:12:45,679 --> 00:12:48,640 Speaker 1: to ditch her current phone for an old Nokia thirty 249 00:12:48,720 --> 00:12:51,560 Speaker 1: three ten. At least then she wouldn't be able to 250 00:12:51,559 --> 00:12:54,320 Speaker 1: send me so many messages so quickly shout out to 251 00:12:54,320 --> 00:12:56,200 Speaker 1: all the folks who had the Nokia brick. I had 252 00:12:56,240 --> 00:12:58,839 Speaker 1: one of them, Yes, sir, I ever had. I love snake, 253 00:12:58,960 --> 00:13:02,160 Speaker 1: and I've been bricks. So Riley is permanently bricked. Did 254 00:13:02,160 --> 00:13:03,400 Speaker 1: we all hear that? No? 255 00:13:03,480 --> 00:13:06,120 Speaker 3: I think we need to say it again because I didn't. 256 00:13:06,240 --> 00:13:08,079 Speaker 3: I didn't hear it clearly enough, Riley? 257 00:13:08,080 --> 00:13:09,280 Speaker 1: Can you let us know what you are? 258 00:13:09,440 --> 00:13:11,800 Speaker 3: Could we could we just create like a giant billboard 259 00:13:11,800 --> 00:13:13,960 Speaker 3: that we put over like the one on one and. 260 00:13:14,480 --> 00:13:19,880 Speaker 1: Riley is bricked permanent. That is the end of the list. 261 00:13:21,160 --> 00:13:23,439 Speaker 1: It's just so it's so unhealthy for her. 262 00:13:23,480 --> 00:13:26,439 Speaker 3: It's like, you don't have to lick any floors clean, 263 00:13:26,520 --> 00:13:30,560 Speaker 3: that's not what we're asking here, recording yourself grocery shopping, 264 00:13:30,640 --> 00:13:34,160 Speaker 3: and like even like Opie did dismiss most of them, 265 00:13:34,200 --> 00:13:35,960 Speaker 3: but some of them he was like, oh, like a 266 00:13:35,960 --> 00:13:37,160 Speaker 3: polygraph test, I like this. 267 00:13:37,200 --> 00:13:38,280 Speaker 1: It's like it. 268 00:13:40,280 --> 00:13:43,520 Speaker 3: Seems like he's almost considering it. And like, dude, he 269 00:13:43,520 --> 00:13:49,200 Speaker 3: would Opie would become such a controlling, maniacal villain by 270 00:13:49,320 --> 00:13:51,959 Speaker 3: like doing this stuff. And just like even if he 271 00:13:51,960 --> 00:13:53,560 Speaker 3: doesn't want to do some of the stuff, she would 272 00:13:53,679 --> 00:13:55,760 Speaker 3: do it. It's just it's just a. 273 00:13:55,640 --> 00:14:02,800 Speaker 1: Weird, terrible, terrible, terrible dynamic. And I'm I just I'm 274 00:14:02,800 --> 00:14:05,240 Speaker 1: not happy. Yeah, it certainly doesn't read like he's anywhere 275 00:14:05,240 --> 00:14:08,120 Speaker 1: and closed to a place where he's ever going to 276 00:14:08,200 --> 00:14:08,640 Speaker 1: have her back. 277 00:14:08,760 --> 00:14:10,280 Speaker 2: And to add on, it's just going to be a 278 00:14:10,360 --> 00:14:12,920 Speaker 2: checklist if they if they even ended up together, it 279 00:14:12,920 --> 00:14:15,080 Speaker 2: would be a checklist of I have to do X 280 00:14:15,120 --> 00:14:16,600 Speaker 2: in order to save this marriage. 281 00:14:16,679 --> 00:14:21,760 Speaker 1: Every day. Yeah, so health probably inevitably come to resent him. 282 00:14:21,960 --> 00:14:26,240 Speaker 1: And yes, and if the underlying issue which I it's 283 00:14:26,280 --> 00:14:28,720 Speaker 1: still an assumption at this point. But I the thing 284 00:14:28,760 --> 00:14:31,320 Speaker 1: that really made it, Like, I'm like, there's clearly something 285 00:14:31,320 --> 00:14:33,760 Speaker 1: going on here. Giving all of your life savings to 286 00:14:33,760 --> 00:14:40,160 Speaker 1: a manument five months. Yeah, that's your swinging something. Something's 287 00:14:40,200 --> 00:14:43,920 Speaker 1: going on and undiagnosed this whole time. And even this, 288 00:14:44,200 --> 00:14:46,600 Speaker 1: like the way that she's sending this letter, like this 289 00:14:46,760 --> 00:14:51,320 Speaker 1: is not coming from a healthy perspective of like reality, 290 00:14:51,440 --> 00:14:54,800 Speaker 1: I will lick the floors clean. You're like degrading yourself 291 00:14:54,800 --> 00:14:58,880 Speaker 1: to like you're moving your humanity. Yes, and it's coming 292 00:14:58,880 --> 00:15:01,480 Speaker 1: from a place of like remorse and guilt and like 293 00:15:01,600 --> 00:15:05,720 Speaker 1: wanting to fix things. But like thinking that this, like 294 00:15:05,840 --> 00:15:08,160 Speaker 1: I gotta assume that she thought maybe he'd see that 295 00:15:08,320 --> 00:15:11,040 Speaker 1: and change his mind. Thinking that someone would see that 296 00:15:11,120 --> 00:15:15,360 Speaker 1: and change their mind is ridiculous. It is, it is. 297 00:15:15,680 --> 00:15:18,040 Speaker 1: Let's get back again, Let's do it. The kids are 298 00:15:18,040 --> 00:15:21,240 Speaker 1: doing okay all things considered. I'm busy with work. I've 299 00:15:21,240 --> 00:15:24,560 Speaker 1: scheduled psychologist appointments for both of my sons starting tomorrow. 300 00:15:24,760 --> 00:15:26,760 Speaker 1: I hope to find some answers through that way to 301 00:15:26,800 --> 00:15:30,320 Speaker 1: go op. As for my wife, she continues to send 302 00:15:30,320 --> 00:15:33,120 Speaker 1: me daily messages wishing me good morning, good night, or 303 00:15:33,160 --> 00:15:36,520 Speaker 1: asking about the kids. She shares old photos and talks 304 00:15:36,560 --> 00:15:40,320 Speaker 1: about her dreams of us, and of course she constantly 305 00:15:40,360 --> 00:15:43,200 Speaker 1: repeats how much she regrets her actions and how much 306 00:15:43,240 --> 00:15:46,080 Speaker 1: she loves me. Maybe I'll update again after she takes 307 00:15:46,080 --> 00:15:51,000 Speaker 1: the polygraph test. Thanks for reading as always, and here 308 00:15:51,080 --> 00:15:54,760 Speaker 1: we have another update. Polygraph tests. Oh come on, I 309 00:15:54,760 --> 00:15:57,080 Speaker 1: mean the polygraph test is interesting because I mean it's 310 00:15:57,080 --> 00:16:00,280 Speaker 1: not court admissible, but like the way that polygraphs work, 311 00:16:00,400 --> 00:16:03,560 Speaker 1: is it basically just like judges somebody's physiological response to 312 00:16:03,600 --> 00:16:06,720 Speaker 1: a question. So it would be interesting to see how 313 00:16:07,800 --> 00:16:10,640 Speaker 1: her body responds to the question of like, you know, 314 00:16:11,480 --> 00:16:13,760 Speaker 1: are you still do you still love me? 315 00:16:13,920 --> 00:16:17,600 Speaker 3: Or like I'm just like it's it's it's still it's 316 00:16:17,600 --> 00:16:19,240 Speaker 3: not as bad as some of the other things, but 317 00:16:19,280 --> 00:16:22,680 Speaker 3: it's still kind of in line with the like ridiculous, 318 00:16:22,800 --> 00:16:28,880 Speaker 3: like dehumanizing or like overly uh overly punitive like mindset 319 00:16:29,120 --> 00:16:30,240 Speaker 3: for herself that she's in. 320 00:16:30,280 --> 00:16:32,640 Speaker 1: It's just like, yeah, I think his perspective is he 321 00:16:32,720 --> 00:16:35,360 Speaker 1: just thinks it's like gonna be fun, yeah, which he's 322 00:16:35,400 --> 00:16:37,640 Speaker 1: not thinking it's gonna get anything out. He's just like, yeah, 323 00:16:37,760 --> 00:16:39,520 Speaker 1: I would love to be able to put you on 324 00:16:39,600 --> 00:16:41,800 Speaker 1: the spot where I can see if you're lying. 325 00:16:41,880 --> 00:16:44,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, he's well, and then blow up your spot about 326 00:16:44,840 --> 00:16:48,160 Speaker 3: it like you just blow up, op, Op, leave it, 327 00:16:48,600 --> 00:16:52,480 Speaker 3: leave it alone, Op, just just keep keep working towards 328 00:16:52,480 --> 00:16:55,080 Speaker 3: like now you gotta you gotta work on you. You 329 00:16:55,120 --> 00:16:56,920 Speaker 3: need to go back to therapy and work on just 330 00:16:57,080 --> 00:17:00,640 Speaker 3: moving on and rebuilding. I think so right, this can't 331 00:17:00,640 --> 00:17:01,960 Speaker 3: be healthy, dude, not at all. 332 00:17:02,400 --> 00:17:05,040 Speaker 1: Storm kitt In thirteen says, this definitely sounds like the 333 00:17:05,080 --> 00:17:08,400 Speaker 1: aftermath of a bad manic episode. I've been there, melty 334 00:17:08,440 --> 00:17:12,280 Speaker 1: face EMOCHI lots of apologizing that you know it's pointless 335 00:17:12,320 --> 00:17:16,560 Speaker 1: because you know you are horrible. Yeah, I mean there is. 336 00:17:17,240 --> 00:17:20,960 Speaker 1: I will stand on that there's something going on. Yep. Update, 337 00:17:21,640 --> 00:17:26,640 Speaker 1: kids finally opened and decision next week. Cool kids finally opened. 338 00:17:27,280 --> 00:17:30,800 Speaker 1: I opened the kid but now they're not. I don't know, 339 00:17:31,480 --> 00:17:34,560 Speaker 1: I don't know. It was like a caterpillar becoming a butterfly. 340 00:17:34,840 --> 00:17:37,960 Speaker 1: Oh ah, yes, the kids, Oh they they have blossomed 341 00:17:37,960 --> 00:17:42,000 Speaker 1: into a new butterfly. Indeed. Okay, sorry sorry for everyone 342 00:17:42,000 --> 00:17:44,440 Speaker 1: who just heard me say that my kids started seeing 343 00:17:44,480 --> 00:17:48,119 Speaker 1: a psychologist and the situation isn't looking great. I spoke 344 00:17:48,160 --> 00:17:51,560 Speaker 1: with the psychologist before their first session and explained everything. 345 00:17:51,800 --> 00:17:54,919 Speaker 1: Their first visit was on Wednesday. Afterwards, she shared some 346 00:17:54,960 --> 00:17:58,199 Speaker 1: observations with me. She explained that my oldest son is 347 00:17:58,320 --> 00:18:01,800 Speaker 1: deeply hurt. According to her, he has hate towards my 348 00:18:01,920 --> 00:18:05,679 Speaker 1: wife his mother, but this is actually a defense mechanism. 349 00:18:06,000 --> 00:18:08,800 Speaker 1: On the other hand, my younger son is suffering even more. 350 00:18:09,119 --> 00:18:12,240 Speaker 1: She said. It's clear he's mimicking his older brother's behavior. 351 00:18:12,800 --> 00:18:15,840 Speaker 1: Despite his actions and words, she believes he doesn't harbor 352 00:18:15,880 --> 00:18:19,200 Speaker 1: the same negative feelings towards my wife. She suggested speaking 353 00:18:19,280 --> 00:18:22,639 Speaker 1: with them individually during the next session. Did you totally 354 00:18:22,640 --> 00:18:25,159 Speaker 1: call that? Called that one again? Nice work crushing it. 355 00:18:25,320 --> 00:18:28,560 Speaker 1: Yesterday we had another session and my older son went 356 00:18:28,600 --> 00:18:31,399 Speaker 1: in first, followed by my younger son, with each session 357 00:18:31,480 --> 00:18:34,359 Speaker 1: lasting about an hour. While my younger son was with 358 00:18:34,480 --> 00:18:37,160 Speaker 1: the psychologist, I took my older son out to eat. 359 00:18:37,720 --> 00:18:39,600 Speaker 1: I didn't want to press him, but out of nowhere, 360 00:18:39,640 --> 00:18:43,119 Speaker 1: he said, Dad, I don't like this woman. She's boring 361 00:18:43,200 --> 00:18:45,560 Speaker 1: and keeps telling me to cry, but I just want 362 00:18:45,560 --> 00:18:48,240 Speaker 1: to go home and play with my friends. That is 363 00:18:48,280 --> 00:18:51,280 Speaker 1: the most kid response to a therapist I've ever heard 364 00:18:51,359 --> 00:18:53,760 Speaker 1: my life. I don't like this lady. She's boring and 365 00:18:53,800 --> 00:18:55,760 Speaker 1: she wants me to cry. I just want to play 366 00:18:55,760 --> 00:18:59,120 Speaker 1: with my friends. Oh my god, dude, I couldn't help 367 00:18:59,160 --> 00:19:03,560 Speaker 1: but laugh. He really is a mini version of me. Afterwards, 368 00:19:03,600 --> 00:19:05,679 Speaker 1: we picked up my younger son and I spoke with 369 00:19:05,720 --> 00:19:08,400 Speaker 1: the psychologist. She told me that my older son would 370 00:19:08,440 --> 00:19:11,679 Speaker 1: need many more sessions. He's extremely protective of me and 371 00:19:11,880 --> 00:19:15,720 Speaker 1: refuses to acknowledge my wife. She said that it's shocking 372 00:19:15,840 --> 00:19:19,320 Speaker 1: considering they had such a close bond before. According to her, 373 00:19:19,480 --> 00:19:22,320 Speaker 1: he's fully aware of the situation and my wife's betrayal, 374 00:19:22,400 --> 00:19:24,879 Speaker 1: which is why he feels this way. When she asked 375 00:19:24,920 --> 00:19:27,600 Speaker 1: him if he wanted to see his mother, he immediately 376 00:19:27,640 --> 00:19:30,640 Speaker 1: said no. Then, out of the blue, she asked if 377 00:19:30,680 --> 00:19:34,439 Speaker 1: I was seeing another woman, which left me dumbfounded. Oooh yeah, 378 00:19:34,520 --> 00:19:37,080 Speaker 1: but by the way, are you seeing another woman? Oh wait, 379 00:19:37,200 --> 00:19:41,479 Speaker 1: this is the therapist. They're the psychologist. Yeah, right, because 380 00:19:41,880 --> 00:19:48,000 Speaker 1: I'm single. He immediately takes it as her asking him 381 00:19:48,040 --> 00:19:51,160 Speaker 1: on a date. The real surprise came when she shared 382 00:19:51,200 --> 00:19:54,440 Speaker 1: insights about my younger son during his session. He broke 383 00:19:54,520 --> 00:19:57,840 Speaker 1: down and opened up. As we suspected, he's been following 384 00:19:57,880 --> 00:20:01,120 Speaker 1: his older brother's lead since everything happened. My older son 385 00:20:01,160 --> 00:20:03,760 Speaker 1: has been telling him daily how cruel and evil my 386 00:20:03,840 --> 00:20:06,720 Speaker 1: wife is and that they need to support me. My 387 00:20:06,800 --> 00:20:08,880 Speaker 1: younger son wanted to see his mom on his birthday 388 00:20:08,960 --> 00:20:11,680 Speaker 1: and was sad when she cried after my older son 389 00:20:11,760 --> 00:20:14,960 Speaker 1: yelled at her. However, he refrained from reaching out because 390 00:20:15,000 --> 00:20:18,200 Speaker 1: he didn't want to disappoint me or his older brother. Oh. 391 00:20:18,400 --> 00:20:21,400 Speaker 1: The psychologist suggested that I allow my wife to join 392 00:20:21,440 --> 00:20:23,840 Speaker 1: a session with my younger son in the coming weeks, 393 00:20:24,160 --> 00:20:27,720 Speaker 1: and I agreed that's good. Later that day, I spoke 394 00:20:27,760 --> 00:20:30,679 Speaker 1: to my younger son at home. He confirmed what he 395 00:20:30,760 --> 00:20:34,240 Speaker 1: told the psychologist, explaining that he didn't want to invite 396 00:20:34,240 --> 00:20:36,920 Speaker 1: his mom to his birthday because of his brother's influence. 397 00:20:37,359 --> 00:20:40,080 Speaker 1: When I asked him what he truly wanted, he said 398 00:20:40,080 --> 00:20:42,320 Speaker 1: he'd like her to come back home, but only if 399 00:20:42,440 --> 00:20:46,160 Speaker 1: I was there too. He became emotional, so I reassured 400 00:20:46,240 --> 00:20:49,520 Speaker 1: him he could always express his true feelings without fear 401 00:20:49,560 --> 00:20:52,440 Speaker 1: of disappointing anyone. I also spoke to my older son. 402 00:20:52,920 --> 00:20:55,520 Speaker 1: He admitted he'd been saying bad things about my wife 403 00:20:55,520 --> 00:20:58,879 Speaker 1: to his younger brother because, in his words, she deserves it. 404 00:20:59,359 --> 00:21:02,159 Speaker 1: But when I ad asked why, he quickly responded, because 405 00:21:02,200 --> 00:21:04,879 Speaker 1: she hurt you. He's incredibly smart and aware for an 406 00:21:04,960 --> 00:21:08,000 Speaker 1: almost nine year old, So I agree with the psychologist 407 00:21:08,080 --> 00:21:11,320 Speaker 1: that he fully understands the situation. When I asked him 408 00:21:11,400 --> 00:21:13,960 Speaker 1: if he wanted his mom to return, his answer was 409 00:21:14,000 --> 00:21:17,479 Speaker 1: a firm no. As for my daughter, she adores her 410 00:21:17,480 --> 00:21:20,040 Speaker 1: mom and has no issues with her at all. As 411 00:21:20,040 --> 00:21:22,680 Speaker 1: for my wife, I'm in contact with her only regarding 412 00:21:22,720 --> 00:21:25,800 Speaker 1: the kids. She continues begging for another chance and sending 413 00:21:25,880 --> 00:21:29,040 Speaker 1: long texts several times a day. Today she mentioned that 414 00:21:29,119 --> 00:21:31,520 Speaker 1: the husband of one of her friends, not the one 415 00:21:31,560 --> 00:21:34,159 Speaker 1: who knew about the affair, offered her a job as 416 00:21:34,200 --> 00:21:37,439 Speaker 1: a translator. She's fluent in English and proficient in the 417 00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:41,120 Speaker 1: local language, which is a rare skill here, so she's excited. 418 00:21:41,160 --> 00:21:43,640 Speaker 1: What makes sense. She emphasized that working from home would 419 00:21:43,640 --> 00:21:47,639 Speaker 1: allow her to prove her commitment and her transparency. I 420 00:21:47,680 --> 00:21:50,720 Speaker 1: haven't told her anything about the psychologist or the kids yet. 421 00:21:50,760 --> 00:21:53,400 Speaker 1: On Wednesday, while I was at the kids' football practice, 422 00:21:53,440 --> 00:21:57,080 Speaker 1: I received a message from her saying, quote, you look 423 00:21:57,200 --> 00:22:00,240 Speaker 1: so hot in all black? Well, I mean yeah, black 424 00:22:00,280 --> 00:22:03,120 Speaker 1: absorbs the most, you know, light from the sun, so 425 00:22:03,160 --> 00:22:06,240 Speaker 1: it's going to be hotter. His literal physical body temperature. Yes, 426 00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:09,360 Speaker 1: it is. It is increasing because of the black fabrics 427 00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:11,600 Speaker 1: soaking up all the heat. When I wear black, my 428 00:22:11,640 --> 00:22:15,000 Speaker 1: temperature increases. Okay, what are you talking about? 429 00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:16,440 Speaker 3: Do you want me to read the facts out of 430 00:22:16,440 --> 00:22:19,840 Speaker 3: a science textbook? Alaska is the capital of Australia. 431 00:22:19,960 --> 00:22:22,199 Speaker 1: That's what we learned today. That's what we learned. Sorry, 432 00:22:22,240 --> 00:22:27,320 Speaker 1: I'm just reading fact. Sorry geographists, sorry, sorry, cartographers. Don't 433 00:22:27,480 --> 00:22:29,399 Speaker 1: get mad at me. You can have to change your maps. 434 00:22:30,400 --> 00:22:35,320 Speaker 1: Sorry map Ooh that's me whoop turning the page on 435 00:22:35,400 --> 00:22:41,400 Speaker 1: the next map. Whoa Anyways, shout out cartographers. On Wednesday, 436 00:22:41,480 --> 00:22:43,919 Speaker 1: while I was at the kids football practice, I received 437 00:22:43,920 --> 00:22:45,679 Speaker 1: a message from her saying, you look so hot in 438 00:22:45,760 --> 00:22:48,520 Speaker 1: all black. I looked around, but I didn't see her 439 00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:51,639 Speaker 1: at first, and then noticed her across the field. Oh. 440 00:22:51,640 --> 00:22:54,199 Speaker 1: She had promised in her changes to attend all the 441 00:22:54,200 --> 00:22:56,920 Speaker 1: practices unless the kids asked her to leave, and since 442 00:22:56,960 --> 00:22:59,120 Speaker 1: my sons didn't mention her, I assumed that they didn't 443 00:22:59,160 --> 00:23:02,399 Speaker 1: see her. I can't deny that this is a positive 444 00:23:02,480 --> 00:23:05,200 Speaker 1: effort on her part, and by the way, I'll always 445 00:23:05,280 --> 00:23:08,880 Speaker 1: consider it a positive effort. If you join us live 446 00:23:08,920 --> 00:23:11,120 Speaker 1: on YouTube every weekday at three pm. All you gotta 447 00:23:11,160 --> 00:23:13,480 Speaker 1: do is tap our profile and if that doesn't work, 448 00:23:13,520 --> 00:23:16,000 Speaker 1: tap it again and make it happen. Sometimes. Yeah, I've 449 00:23:16,000 --> 00:23:18,000 Speaker 1: just noticed. Sometimes you go to tap, it'll take you 450 00:23:18,040 --> 00:23:20,280 Speaker 1: to our profile and then you got to tap tap 451 00:23:20,320 --> 00:23:23,520 Speaker 1: our profile one more time. Sometimes you gotta double tap 452 00:23:23,680 --> 00:23:26,960 Speaker 1: it's twice. Make it nice sometime anyway, before we finish 453 00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:30,360 Speaker 1: out part three? Yes, right, yeah, where are we at? 454 00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:31,560 Speaker 1: How are we feeling? Man? 455 00:23:31,920 --> 00:23:33,639 Speaker 3: I was hoping we would get the court case, and 456 00:23:33,680 --> 00:23:34,960 Speaker 3: that seems like a Part four thing. 457 00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:37,280 Speaker 1: I don't know. To me, it's sounding like there might 458 00:23:37,280 --> 00:23:38,720 Speaker 1: not be any court case. Yeah, they might. 459 00:23:38,760 --> 00:23:41,040 Speaker 3: They might figure it out out outside of court, like 460 00:23:41,160 --> 00:23:46,040 Speaker 3: in in because he hasn't offered her a deal yet, 461 00:23:46,200 --> 00:23:50,320 Speaker 3: right no officially no, So yeah, I think like, yeah, 462 00:23:50,359 --> 00:23:53,640 Speaker 3: we're just seeing. If I were if I were OP, 463 00:23:53,840 --> 00:23:55,600 Speaker 3: I feel like I would be like, hey, you need 464 00:23:55,640 --> 00:23:57,760 Speaker 3: to go to like a psychiatrist and get like a 465 00:23:57,840 --> 00:23:59,159 Speaker 3: full you know. 466 00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:03,080 Speaker 1: Well, funny you say that because there is a psychologist 467 00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:05,920 Speaker 1: in the story. Now this is true, and they were 468 00:24:05,960 --> 00:24:08,240 Speaker 1: talking about having her being in one of the sessions 469 00:24:08,480 --> 00:24:14,640 Speaker 1: like next week. Ah you And here's my theory. I think, 470 00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:17,120 Speaker 1: what's gonna happen is that the mom gets into therapy 471 00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:20,800 Speaker 1: with the kids, they all flip and it's going to 472 00:24:20,880 --> 00:24:25,120 Speaker 1: become the mom and the kids are both like, well, 473 00:24:25,160 --> 00:24:28,600 Speaker 1: I mean the kids are gonna not The oldest is 474 00:24:28,640 --> 00:24:31,280 Speaker 1: not going to outright hate his mom anymore. And then 475 00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:35,040 Speaker 1: the mom in the through therapy or through the psychologist whatever, 476 00:24:35,520 --> 00:24:40,640 Speaker 1: is going to discover exactly what is ailing her. Yes, yes, 477 00:24:40,680 --> 00:24:43,840 Speaker 1: and then the entire flip the script is gonna get 478 00:24:43,880 --> 00:24:47,080 Speaker 1: flipped on, op, and it's going to be like, you know, 479 00:24:47,320 --> 00:24:49,639 Speaker 1: this was like a you know, a mental break or 480 00:24:49,760 --> 00:24:52,400 Speaker 1: a psychotic whatever you want to call it. It was an episode. 481 00:24:52,720 --> 00:24:55,240 Speaker 1: And I've had these episodes before. Remember when I gave 482 00:24:55,280 --> 00:24:57,960 Speaker 1: you my entire life savings. Turns out that was an episode, 483 00:24:58,280 --> 00:25:00,679 Speaker 1: like please, like, let's can we He's work through this, 484 00:25:00,840 --> 00:25:04,199 Speaker 1: like you can freaking throw me in the basement and 485 00:25:04,280 --> 00:25:07,560 Speaker 1: get me scraps every other day Like I don't care. Yeah, 486 00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:11,040 Speaker 1: but like you know, I don't know. I'm sealing the 487 00:25:11,080 --> 00:25:12,440 Speaker 1: script slowly. 488 00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:14,119 Speaker 3: Flipping and do you and do you think when you 489 00:25:14,160 --> 00:25:17,600 Speaker 3: say flipping the script like OPI will take her back. 490 00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:22,240 Speaker 1: Yes, that's I'm feeling it slowly because she texted him 491 00:25:22,280 --> 00:25:24,480 Speaker 1: you look so hot and all black And he didn't 492 00:25:24,480 --> 00:25:26,919 Speaker 1: say and that was just the most And I just 493 00:25:27,040 --> 00:25:29,600 Speaker 1: roll my eyes because I hate my stupid ex wife 494 00:25:29,600 --> 00:25:32,880 Speaker 1: that I don't like. He just was like I started. 495 00:25:32,560 --> 00:25:34,840 Speaker 3: Looking for and remember in the beginning of the episode, 496 00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:37,680 Speaker 3: I believe he was reminiscing about like that she did, 497 00:25:37,760 --> 00:25:39,320 Speaker 3: you know, pay off his debts and they did, like 498 00:25:39,359 --> 00:25:40,760 Speaker 3: she was kind of the one that like, you know, 499 00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:43,040 Speaker 3: I quote unquote saved him, you know, from being this 500 00:25:43,119 --> 00:25:48,240 Speaker 3: like gambling degenerate. Reading in between the lines's giving a 501 00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:50,679 Speaker 3: vibe of like, oh, like he's like thinking back to 502 00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:51,880 Speaker 3: like the good times. 503 00:25:51,560 --> 00:25:53,760 Speaker 1: And stuff like the kids, dude, it's gonna and it's 504 00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:56,520 Speaker 1: gonna be that and the kids being like we want 505 00:25:56,600 --> 00:25:59,520 Speaker 1: you mom to live together. Yeah, I don't want to 506 00:25:59,520 --> 00:26:02,920 Speaker 1: say that. And I think he's gonna try to do it. 507 00:26:03,080 --> 00:26:05,280 Speaker 1: That's a very good theory. Yeah, I think. 508 00:26:05,800 --> 00:26:08,159 Speaker 3: I mean if if, Because what I wonder too is like, 509 00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:12,280 Speaker 3: let's say she gets like actual, you know, good medical 510 00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:16,359 Speaker 3: treatment for whatever is ailing her. Does she also stop 511 00:26:16,640 --> 00:26:20,920 Speaker 3: stop with the like you know, self degragating like talk 512 00:26:20,960 --> 00:26:22,680 Speaker 3: and stuff like that, and she finally comes to it's 513 00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:24,919 Speaker 3: like level head, like, hey, look, I know this happened. 514 00:26:25,160 --> 00:26:26,640 Speaker 3: I thought when you said pump the script, I thought 515 00:26:26,640 --> 00:26:28,600 Speaker 3: you were gonna say that. She like kind of come 516 00:26:28,640 --> 00:26:30,840 Speaker 3: back at him, like, why did you let me do these, 517 00:26:30,880 --> 00:26:33,680 Speaker 3: like say, these self degorating things and why why did 518 00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:36,640 Speaker 3: you like let all your the family cut me off? 519 00:26:36,640 --> 00:26:37,920 Speaker 3: And you know what I mean, like, why did you 520 00:26:37,960 --> 00:26:41,440 Speaker 3: why did you punish me further than was necessary? Once 521 00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:46,200 Speaker 3: she has like a calmer, cooler head about yeah, everything. 522 00:26:45,920 --> 00:26:47,800 Speaker 1: No, that is not the script. I imagine. 523 00:26:47,880 --> 00:26:50,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I don't know. I could I could see it. 524 00:26:50,359 --> 00:26:51,320 Speaker 3: I could see. I could see. 525 00:26:51,440 --> 00:26:54,479 Speaker 1: I can also see your script. Many scripts, many scripts 526 00:26:54,520 --> 00:26:56,440 Speaker 1: could happen. There's no way for us to know. And 527 00:26:56,520 --> 00:26:58,879 Speaker 1: until we continue on with the story, that is true. 528 00:26:59,000 --> 00:27:01,080 Speaker 1: So let's go, let's close it out. I also spoke 529 00:27:01,119 --> 00:27:03,399 Speaker 1: to my lawyer about the post and up agreement that 530 00:27:03,480 --> 00:27:06,800 Speaker 1: she suggested. He confirmed that it is possible in our 531 00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:09,479 Speaker 1: country due to a law that allows an infidelity clause 532 00:27:09,560 --> 00:27:12,920 Speaker 1: and child custody agreements if one parent is a foreigner. 533 00:27:13,400 --> 00:27:15,480 Speaker 1: While it was interesting to learn this, I couldn't help 534 00:27:15,520 --> 00:27:18,400 Speaker 1: but question why I'm even discussing this. I don't plan 535 00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:21,680 Speaker 1: to reconcile with her as a husband for me, our 536 00:27:21,680 --> 00:27:24,879 Speaker 1: marriage is over. Hmmm, I don't know. He's like, I 537 00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:28,399 Speaker 1: don't even know why I'm discussing this. It's over, but 538 00:27:28,440 --> 00:27:30,920 Speaker 1: there's a part of you that doesn't want it to be. 539 00:27:31,000 --> 00:27:34,040 Speaker 1: It's in there, there's a little thing of that. Maybe, 540 00:27:34,160 --> 00:27:36,400 Speaker 1: I don't know. Even if she were to move back 541 00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:38,600 Speaker 1: into the house, it would be strictly for the kid's sake, 542 00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:41,359 Speaker 1: not for us as a couple. The lawyer said the 543 00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:43,800 Speaker 1: divorce papers would be ready next week, but advised me 544 00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:46,359 Speaker 1: to take some time to carefully consider what's best for 545 00:27:46,400 --> 00:27:50,080 Speaker 1: the kids and myself. Tomorrow, I plan to speak with 546 00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:53,520 Speaker 1: my family, my wife's parents, and friends for additional perspectives. 547 00:27:53,800 --> 00:27:56,760 Speaker 1: During the week, I'll discuss everything with the kids. They're psychologist, 548 00:27:56,840 --> 00:27:59,760 Speaker 1: and eventually my wife. I'll gauge the kid's reactions when 549 00:27:59,760 --> 00:28:02,640 Speaker 1: I tell them their mom might not return home. I'll 550 00:28:02,640 --> 00:28:05,240 Speaker 1: also assess how my wife reacts to the divorce papers 551 00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:08,640 Speaker 1: and whether her potential job offer materializes, as it could 552 00:28:08,720 --> 00:28:11,920 Speaker 1: impact her visa status. At the moment, my kids remain 553 00:28:12,040 --> 00:28:16,200 Speaker 1: my top priority while I'm leaning heavily towards divorce. I'm 554 00:28:16,359 --> 00:28:19,640 Speaker 1: open to letting her return home temporarily if it would 555 00:28:19,680 --> 00:28:24,600 Speaker 1: significantly benefit the kids. Ultimately, their well being will guide 556 00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:28,359 Speaker 1: my final decision. Thank you for reading. Dude, I don't wanna. 557 00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:31,160 Speaker 1: I don't want to feel like I'm too hot over here. 558 00:28:31,240 --> 00:28:35,919 Speaker 1: But and that sounded pretty much exactly like what I 559 00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:37,600 Speaker 1: was predicting might happen. 560 00:28:37,960 --> 00:28:40,920 Speaker 3: I think he's like he went from like ork cloud, 561 00:28:41,320 --> 00:28:42,760 Speaker 3: you were sending you to the orc cloud to be 562 00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:47,680 Speaker 3: ripped into cosmic smithereens, to hey, maybe she could live 563 00:28:47,720 --> 00:28:50,520 Speaker 3: with us, and maybe that's good for the kids, and 564 00:28:50,560 --> 00:28:53,600 Speaker 3: maybe wow, maybe seeing it, Oh wow, you're really being 565 00:28:53,640 --> 00:28:56,560 Speaker 3: a mug get giving motherly loved my kids, and oh wow, 566 00:28:56,640 --> 00:29:00,520 Speaker 3: remember all his good times when oh well boom marriage and. 567 00:29:00,520 --> 00:29:03,600 Speaker 1: Don't forget the oh wow, she's still hot and she's 568 00:29:04,240 --> 00:29:07,680 Speaker 1: she's still looks good, still hot. I can't even deny it. 569 00:29:07,720 --> 00:29:08,680 Speaker 1: And then she's like. 570 00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:10,640 Speaker 3: He said that, He said that multiple times, He said 571 00:29:10,640 --> 00:29:13,680 Speaker 3: that multiple times. And then she said, oh, you're looking hot, 572 00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:16,000 Speaker 3: not all black. And I'm not talking about temperatures being 573 00:29:16,040 --> 00:29:16,680 Speaker 3: as older of the son. 574 00:29:17,120 --> 00:29:19,200 Speaker 1: You're not talking about that hot and all black. That's right. 575 00:29:19,240 --> 00:29:22,360 Speaker 1: And he didn't have anything snooty to say back about that. 576 00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:24,400 Speaker 1: He just let he started looking for her maybe he 577 00:29:24,480 --> 00:29:27,920 Speaker 1: liked it. I think he did mm. But how do 578 00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:29,600 Speaker 1: we how do you know? You know what I'd like, 579 00:29:29,760 --> 00:29:32,320 Speaker 1: what I'd like for us to read Part four because 580 00:29:32,320 --> 00:29:34,000 Speaker 1: that's the end of that story. But if that's the 581 00:29:34,040 --> 00:29:35,280 Speaker 1: end of the story, that means that's the end of 582 00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:36,960 Speaker 1: this episode. That's true. So if you want to listen 583 00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:38,200 Speaker 1: to part four, you're gonna have to listen to it 584 00:29:38,240 --> 00:29:38,720 Speaker 1: on the next one. 585 00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:40,680 Speaker 3: That being said, if you love us, make sure to 586 00:29:40,760 --> 00:29:43,959 Speaker 3: subscribe We Love you, and see it tomorrow.