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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and welcome to Stephane

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Speaker 1: Never Told You production of I Heart Radio. And welcome

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Speaker 1: to another happy hour. Despite the title of this one,

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Speaker 1: I was just kind of playing on never Been Kissed,

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Speaker 1: which is sort of related to what we're talking about today.

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't call this an unhappy hour. It's more like

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Speaker 1: a Annie has a lot of nerd thoughts and also

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Speaker 1: thoughts about a sexuality our slash twenty minutes. I like that. Yes,

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Speaker 1: as always with these, we're just asking you to hopefully

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Speaker 1: join us for something that is relaxing a time in

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Speaker 1: your day you can take a break whatever that means

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Speaker 1: to you. Um. And also it's always drink responsibly if

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Speaker 1: you choose to do. So, what are you sipping on, Samantha,

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Speaker 1: I am sticking to my bubble water or bubbly water. Nice.

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Speaker 1: I keep confusing how to pronounce this because in my

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Speaker 1: head it is bubble, but then it's got that little

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Speaker 1: which is boublet, which I'm not a huge fan of

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Speaker 1: him in general. But I'm like, I'm now three pronunciations

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Speaker 1: I'm sure bubbly. I think I don't know. I have

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Speaker 1: to so I have actually not a sponsor, but you

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Speaker 1: got it through a sponsorship, so to stream water, which

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Speaker 1: you gifted me. Thank you very much. That's what I'm drinking.

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Speaker 1: Keep it, keeping it crisp, Keeping it crisp. People have

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Speaker 1: such strong opinions about bubble water. I offered some bubble

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Speaker 1: like recoiled as if she was a cat, and I

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Speaker 1: throwing water. I mean, I really I like bubble water.

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Speaker 1: For the longest time, I was like, yeah, the way,

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Speaker 1: And I remember you telling me that one of our

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Speaker 1: friends and the coworkers like that's all she would drink.

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Speaker 1: And I was like that's unusual. What that's the only way.

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Speaker 1: And then now that I've got my solo stream of

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Speaker 1: like yeah, yeah, I get it. Now there's something to it.

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Speaker 1: It's freshening, it's chris. Yeah, I'm drinking red wine from

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Speaker 1: a box because that's where I am today. That song,

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Speaker 1: like you can't not see hear that song? You say

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Speaker 1: red Wine. I have a character and our Dungeons and

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Speaker 1: Dragon's campaign. Her name was red Wine, and she was

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Speaker 1: the gossip. There's so many questions to them, well it

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Speaker 1: was spelled interestingly questions. But we'll save Okay, we'll put

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Speaker 1: a been in that. We'll come back that later. All right.

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Speaker 1: So I apologize to Samantha before this one. I think

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Speaker 1: I made you kind of nervous because I'm really like

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Speaker 1: going to nerd out Hard's let's rephrase this. You didn't

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Speaker 1: just apologize. You started laughing at snickering, making me think

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Speaker 1: And then you're like, oh, I don't know if you're

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Speaker 1: because we live in such different worlds that this is

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Speaker 1: a hot button topic in the Star Wars community right now?

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Speaker 1: Did I love to you like it does? You're just

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Speaker 1: going to get into any spoilers about book Boba fet

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Speaker 1: But that is what inspired this whole conversation, um which

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Speaker 1: that is the saddest thing that could ever happen to you,

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Speaker 1: so what does it mean? What did? No one could

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Speaker 1: triggered this is the Jedi attachment theory. Okay, so you're

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Speaker 1: gonna have to bear with me in a minute, Samantha, Okay,

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Speaker 1: he really could have used some help. So it's attachment

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Speaker 1: to the attachment is bad, is what I like to say.

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Speaker 1: You can have an attachment, but if you're too attached

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Speaker 1: But anyway, what more, what we're talking about right now

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Speaker 1: And you've got your father's Darth Vader. And how sad

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Speaker 1: lot of these unhealthy depictions of love. They're getting mad

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Speaker 1: are you threatening me with a good time? Like what

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Speaker 1: what do you mean? It's the level of like, you

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Speaker 1: Let's just go ahead with that. Like when you were

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Speaker 1: my gosh. Well, and also, I know people are going

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Speaker 1: something goes terribly wrong, Grogu and the Mandalorian are not

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Speaker 1: romantically attached. Odd. Yes, so I was just saying people

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Speaker 1: like that takes his adopted daughter. Yes, I was just

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Speaker 1: clarifying my own words. There's no they would never ever over.

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure that was a moment you just had.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I've made things worse. UM so I usually

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Speaker 1: do with these nerd topics, I try to make things better.

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Speaker 1: us and for listening. If you have any thoughts on this,

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