Speaker 1: Hi, guys, welcome to another episode of Diamonds in the
Speaker 1: Rough with Teddy.
Speaker 2: Mellencamp and Erica Jane.
Speaker 3: Hey, honey, I love that she just immediately starts laughing.
Speaker 3: Hi guys, welcome. Immediately, I'm like.
Speaker 4: Well, you know what, though, it's nice to see you
Speaker 4: and I'm happy to see you and I enjoy our
Speaker 4: time together.
Speaker 3: Well, me too, and that's why I put on Instagram.
Speaker 3: What are your questions for me and Erica and all
Speaker 3: y'all cared about is our sex life.
Speaker 2: Well that's okay though, so let's discuss it.
Speaker 3: Well, we're gonna have discuss us and we're gonna havelf
Speaker 3: discuss this new show that's on FX. It's called Dying
Speaker 3: for Sex.
Speaker 4: With Michelle Williams, which I watched. I got in the
Speaker 4: first two and a half episode.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it gets a little dark after that. So the
Speaker 3: first two and a half episodes is what I think
Speaker 3: everybody can relate to, whether you have cancer or not.
Speaker 3: But it's about Michelle Williams has cancer. It goes away
Speaker 3: that this season starts where she's in.
Speaker 2: Couple's therapy, which is not going well.
Speaker 3: Not going well, Like the husband's checking the phone, he's
Speaker 3: doing he's just checked out, he's done doing all the
Speaker 3: wrong things. And her phone rings and she looks at
Speaker 3: it and she's like, sorry, I have to take this,
Speaker 3: and it's her cancer doctor saying that her cancer is
Speaker 3: back and terminal yes, and then we just.
Speaker 2: Watch everything unravel.
Speaker 4: Literally we watch her completely change her life right after
Speaker 4: that session, right during that session, during the session, and
Speaker 4: walks out.
Speaker 3: Because I think this happens to people who are married,
Speaker 3: whether there's cancer.
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna say the same thing or not.
Speaker 4: When she said, you know, I want somebody to touch me, like,
Speaker 4: this is what happens, whether you're right, whether there's cancer
Speaker 4: or not. In relationships, a lot of times sex lives
Speaker 4: fall apart and there's no sex, or there's one partner
Speaker 4: that's into it or or not.
Speaker 3: Or it just changes. If you don't speak up for
Speaker 3: what it is that you want or what it is
Speaker 3: that you're looking for, most likely your partner is going
Speaker 3: to do it wrong well, and not just sex, but
Speaker 3: like intimacy or comfort.
Speaker 4: And there's also ebbs and flows in a marriage. Whether
Speaker 4: you feel closer, you feel pulled apart, whether it's it's
Speaker 4: simple stress of time or finances or children, like you know,
Speaker 4: marriage or partnerships, however you want to say it. They're
Speaker 4: very tough to They require daily watering and weeding. You know,
Speaker 4: it's a daily thing that you have to keep your
Speaker 4: eye on. And when you're busy with other things, you know,
Speaker 4: you pull apart. You become almost strangers living in the
Speaker 4: same house and the same sleeping in the same bed.
Speaker 3: And then like even sex becomes like procedural, Okay, we
Speaker 3: do it this time in this time.
Speaker 4: Like, but there are a lot more people that are
Speaker 4: living like that than than people in our cast. And
Speaker 4: they're like, listen, it is very tough to keep something
Speaker 4: like that alive.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and you have to both people have to be
Speaker 3: willing to receive the information and give.
Speaker 4: It and not be not that sounds so crazy, like
Speaker 4: not take it personal, to take it personal, like it's
Speaker 4: not an attack on you as a bad lover or
Speaker 4: anything like that. It's just, hey, I'm feeling this way,
Speaker 4: and I think also too. There's something that's interesting about
Speaker 4: this show is that women's sexual desires change as they
Speaker 4: mature and get older. And what you may have once
Speaker 4: thought was taboo or something, you know, when you get older,
Speaker 4: especially when you're my age. So I'm fifty three, almost
Speaker 4: fifty four. I've gone through menopause. But my sexual desires
Speaker 4: or my fantasies or whatever you want to say, are
Speaker 4: completely different than they were in my twenties and thirties years.
Speaker 3: And also what it's going to take, yeah, which is
Speaker 3: not which changes Like for me, for example, after going
Speaker 3: through all of this, they've changed my medication. You have
Speaker 3: a sex drive, I have a sex drive. It's really
Speaker 3: hard for me.
Speaker 5: To have it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would imagine that. But that's also.
Speaker 4: Antidepressants as well. Like I found that. I found that
Speaker 4: when I first went on antidepressants. I was like, whoa wait,
Speaker 4: wait a minute.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like it was I mean, not to TMI, but
Speaker 3: like I even tried myself, and I was like, this
Speaker 3: is fucking exhausting.
Speaker 2: It is.
Speaker 3: This is exhausting.
Speaker 2: I can't be.
Speaker 3: I can't be doing this all the time. No, Well,
Speaker 3: I was on Amazon. Apparently this was right out of
Speaker 3: the hospital when I'm still in the hotel.
Speaker 2: You don't even remember this, I don't.
Speaker 3: Apparently I had purchased too. I gave one to my
Speaker 3: friend Brooke that came to visit, and she's like, but
Speaker 3: you forgot the charger. I'm like, you can get another charger.
Speaker 3: This is the best there is supposedly, but I never
Speaker 3: tried it there. I tried it the night before last,
Speaker 3: and I was like, well, I can't do this again.
Speaker 2: So you didn't achieve.
Speaker 3: I achieved, but I had to achieve it in a
Speaker 3: way that wasn't the way it was set up to achieve.
Speaker 4: So I used to have to like to watch porn
Speaker 4: and and this is something that people don't want to discuss,
Speaker 4: but like I had to have multiple full stimulus and
Speaker 4: it is in order for me to and then I
Speaker 4: get into these sort of like non conventional sorts of thought,
Speaker 4: and you know it just my sexuality is.
Speaker 2: Really interesting.
Speaker 3: But also here's the problem I have with porn is like,
Speaker 3: when I'm looking through it, I'm a very like visual person.
Speaker 3: And if I find one of the people unattractive, ruined.
Speaker 4: Can I tell you something. I'm not looking at faces,
Speaker 4: I'm looking at body parts. Oh, I mean I have
Speaker 4: this beautiful way of sectioning out something that like I'm
Speaker 4: looking at very specific things.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm not taking in the entire picture.
Speaker 3: See I'm taking an entire picture.
Speaker 4: And oftentimes there's no sound. I watch it without sound.
Speaker 4: My brain is down to like very specific things.
Speaker 3: Well, one of the things she does on the show,
Speaker 3: which is so freaking hilarious to me. So they have
Speaker 3: a they've been together for I don't know, let's say
Speaker 3: it's seven years.
Speaker 2: I think it is seven years. Right when ship falls apart?
Speaker 3: Ye, ship falls apart. She gets cancer for the first time,
Speaker 3: and he turns into like the caregiver, but like solely.
Speaker 2: The character the martyred caregiver.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like, okay, you're only gonna have green juice? Is
Speaker 3: that you granted? I'm like, let me get my diet,
Speaker 3: Doctor Pepper. Can I tell you something?
Speaker 2: You can have a diet, Doctor Pepper. You've earned the diet.
Speaker 3: I asked my doctor everything. Now it's like I'm his stock.
Speaker 3: I'm like, am I allowed to do this? Am I
Speaker 3: allowed to have diet? Doctor Pepper? Am I allowed to
Speaker 3: get a tattoo? He's like, you're having a lot of
Speaker 3: life changes. Yes, you're allowed to do these things.
Speaker 4: So I kind of like this doctor. I don't know
Speaker 4: who this is, but good for you. But are you
Speaker 4: thinking of getting tattoos?
Speaker 3: I think I might be getting one tonight. It's on
Speaker 3: my friend's birthday.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3: But what I want to get. Everyone in my life
Speaker 3: is like, it's this is not a good idea, but
Speaker 3: I think it's hilarious. What so I want to get
Speaker 3: this cute little knife. Okay, so instead of when I'm
Speaker 3: annoyed at somebody, you can joy, I can just go.
Speaker 2: I don't. I don't find a problem with that. I
Speaker 2: think it's cute. I did too.
Speaker 3: I just have to. I'll send you the pictures of
Speaker 3: my cute little knives that I've chosen. But either way,
Speaker 3: it's probably you know, it could be the tumors.
Speaker 2: It could be, but who cares My sister and I.
Speaker 3: I was gonna say my sister and I discussed it
Speaker 3: over the fourth of July, but I had the tumors
Speaker 3: then too.
Speaker 4: Well you know what, though, did you talk to your
Speaker 4: doctor about your personality changing or your thing or how
Speaker 4: you're during this time or have they said anything about that?
Speaker 4: I mean, the first off, let me be super clear.
Speaker 4: For anybody that wants to try to come from me
Speaker 4: right now, stop. So I'm just asking you, have they
Speaker 4: did they say anything about that?
Speaker 3: Well? I've had appointments with what are the doctors that
Speaker 3: give you medications? Psychiatrists, So psychiatrists versus therapist. Yeah, and
Speaker 3: the psychiatrist was like, okay, so there's some things we
Speaker 3: need to to talk through. You had massive brain surgery. Yeah,
Speaker 3: you had tumors the size of plums in your head
Speaker 3: and they had to take it out. And like, now,
Speaker 3: part of what I said, I'm feeling sort of depressed.
Speaker 2: I think, I mean just on like I kind of
Speaker 2: down and out.
Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm not, I'm not really feeling like I
Speaker 3: was depressed. I was like, I'm feeling kind of depressed.
Speaker 3: And she's like, have you ever considered like cause She's
Speaker 3: like I'm talking to you and I can see you
Speaker 3: losing your train of thought. And I'm like, yeah, because
Speaker 3: I don't even care what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: No, imagine you don't.
Speaker 3: I'm my brain, you know. And so she suggested a medication.
Speaker 3: She thinks that there's something, you know. I took multiple tests,
Speaker 3: but she did give me a medication that's a bit
Speaker 3: of like an upper She said, you may not live
Speaker 3: on this forever, but let's out let's try it out.
Speaker 3: And it is.
Speaker 2: It's really changed.
Speaker 3: It's really changed, and like to the point where some
Speaker 3: days I'm like I'm not going to, so I don't
Speaker 3: want to see how I do. And then I'm like,
Speaker 3: didn't do well?
Speaker 4: Right, that's I tried that too, Like I remember when
Speaker 4: Obviously our situations are different, but I remember when I
Speaker 4: went on into depressants and I was feeling good and
Speaker 4: I was like, Okay, I have this handle and I
Speaker 4: went off and I was like, no, I don't, No,
Speaker 4: I don't well.
Speaker 3: And anna depressants are even trickier because you can't just
Speaker 3: stop those cold turkeys, No you can't.
Speaker 2: You have to wean yourself off of them.
Speaker 3: Yeah, So I mean, who knows. We're figuring it out.
Speaker 3: I feel like every day I'm getting more with it.
Speaker 2: I love that.
Speaker 3: But I see parts of I saw so much you.
Speaker 4: I'm so glad, I'm I'm and I'm glad that we
Speaker 4: spoke about this before we we pop because I did
Speaker 4: ask study. I said, how much of this can I
Speaker 4: talk to you about? Because I see so much of
Speaker 4: your journey in just these first couple of episodes and
Speaker 4: and just knowing you, and and I like when she
Speaker 4: has her inner monologue, I thought, I.
Speaker 3: Thought, that's exactly what I do, and so thinking it
Speaker 3: and then I'm like should I say this out?
Speaker 4: Like, I think, you know what, at this point in
Speaker 4: your life, you have the right to say anything you're
Speaker 4: fucking thinking. Yeah, why why not?
Speaker 3: I have noticed my anxiety is a lot better. Like
Speaker 3: I used to be very type A about everything, and
Speaker 3: I'm like, yeah, whatever.
Speaker 2: I think that's good though.
Speaker 4: I mean, look, no one, if you spoke you how
Speaker 4: you really feel about everything?
Speaker 2: No one here. That's what everybody really.
Speaker 3: Wants to do.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but they don't.
Speaker 4: They can't because of whatever they're thinking, you know, will happen.
Speaker 4: But I think you have full license to say whatever
Speaker 4: you think and feel. Yeah, I mean that just for me,
Speaker 4: like saying, well.
Speaker 3: There was a point where they get back from well
Speaker 3: the second that she finds out she has cancer, which
Speaker 3: oddly the doctor is right next to where her therapist is,
Speaker 3: and she like runs away from her husband to find out,
Speaker 3: and then she calls her best friend, and her best
Speaker 3: friend's like, hilarious, disaster.
Speaker 2: I love it.
Speaker 4: She goes, oh my god, I'm just coming from rehearsal,
Speaker 4: which I was like, I'm coming from rehearsal too.
Speaker 2: Hold On, I'm reading it all about me.
Speaker 3: You're like hold on, and I feel that, like hold on.
Speaker 2: I feel this.
Speaker 3: I see the difference between us. She's coming from rehearsal.
Speaker 3: I'm seeing it from the other side. But I saw
Speaker 3: parts of her where she's like, you know, we're gonna
Speaker 3: laugh this up. We're gonna do that.
Speaker 2: We're gonna laugh this, We're gonna laugh right through this.
Speaker 3: So those points you really appreciate when somebody says we
Speaker 3: But then her husband comes down from the doctor realizes
Speaker 3: what's going on, and he immediately, you know, takes her
Speaker 3: soda away. I didn't. He's like, I made green juice
Speaker 3: for at home.
Speaker 2: I can't have that.
Speaker 3: You can't have this. We need to change this, and
Speaker 3: blah blah blah. And I'm all about you know, but like,
Speaker 3: if it's something you want to do, great, But I
Speaker 3: don't want to do something that somebody else that's not
Speaker 3: a doctor is telling me to do.
Speaker 4: I agree with it, And I think that you're in
Speaker 4: a very This is you, you know what I'm saying, Like,
Speaker 4: this is your body, your fight, your experience, your journey.
Speaker 4: All of us that are your friends or your family
Speaker 4: that are around you. Like the only person that's this
Speaker 4: is happening to is you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, But what you see is the hush completely takes
Speaker 3: it on as him. It takes over their whole life.
Speaker 3: He no longer can even have sex with her.
Speaker 2: Well that's the reason they're in couples therapy. Anyway, he
Speaker 2: won't touch her.
Speaker 3: He won't touch her. You're scared he's gonna break her.
Speaker 4: And she's had the double masktect to me, and and
Speaker 4: then that throws her into this really crazy space because
Speaker 4: what are you supposed to do? I mean, nobody really knows.
Speaker 4: I mean, I can only speculate what you're going through.
Speaker 4: But this is this is your right to feel, in
Speaker 4: my opinion, however you want to feel.
Speaker 3: And I mean, I think so many people have come
Speaker 3: to me and been like, so what does this mean
Speaker 3: for you and Edwin because you got none of your businesses.
Speaker 3: I'm like, one, it's none of your fucking business. And two,
Speaker 3: we're in a good, safe place that's the best for
Speaker 3: our kids.
Speaker 2: About this. It's a day to day thing and we're
Speaker 2: doing good today.
Speaker 3: We're doing good today and for the first time we're
Speaker 3: having conversations we never.
Speaker 2: Had, probably the hard ones. It's you could have and.
Speaker 3: Laughing good and kind of saying like this it's not
Speaker 3: I don't think that we will get back together. I
Speaker 3: think matter, But I don't think everything needs to be
Speaker 3: figured out this week while I'm still in immunotherapy and
Speaker 3: we have kids at the house.
Speaker 4: How about this No way, Like you need to live
Speaker 4: present in the moment and you need to do what's
Speaker 4: right for you and fuck these outside voices and I
Speaker 4: would have done fuck you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, my dad every he calls every day.
Speaker 2: I love that.
Speaker 3: And some days I'm all worked up and some days
Speaker 3: I'm pretty chill, and he's like.
Speaker 2: Just be cool, just be cool.
Speaker 3: I'm like, you know, when has anyone ever said that
Speaker 3: I'm cool? That is not something mean? He's like, just
Speaker 3: be cool.
Speaker 2: You don't have to you don't have to do anything.
Speaker 2: This is not the time to be making these crazy decisions.
Speaker 3: Yeah, He's like, just be cool. You guys are fine
Speaker 3: right now. You're not having you're not sharing a bed,
Speaker 3: you're not doing this, You're you're both allowed to date.
Speaker 3: Like do what you want to do. Be safe.
Speaker 4: I think, yeah, as long as exactly be safe and
Speaker 4: be smart. But other than that, like it's no one's
Speaker 4: lives but yours, Like.
Speaker 3: It's between you two and we have and we finally
Speaker 3: had to have the conversation where I was like, listen,
Speaker 3: I know you're different than me, Like, you don't want
Speaker 3: to hear the information. I want every fucking crumb. Do
Speaker 3: you really I need every Crump's that you've always been
Speaker 3: that way? Yeah, but I like, I mean, if you
Speaker 3: were to tell me about a guy right now, I'd
Speaker 3: be like, can I see his picture? Not because I
Speaker 3: want to be an asshole, but because you.
Speaker 2: Need to know.
Speaker 3: If not, I'm going to make up in my head
Speaker 3: what he looks like. I need every single details.
Speaker 2: Over active brain. I thought that medication was supposed to come.
Speaker 3: Don't worry.
Speaker 4: Listen, let me talk to the psychiatrist. Because you're like
Speaker 4: I'm like.
Speaker 3: Hey, no, no, no, no, no no, I want to see
Speaker 3: I see that you cropped that uncropping I like every day.
Speaker 3: And I don't have jealousy.
Speaker 2: It's the crazy I've never seen you as a jealous
Speaker 2: person as I've never seen this.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like, I don't have jealousy. I don't know.
Speaker 2: I think you're just into like you like it information
Speaker 2: and if.
Speaker 3: I'm going to be friends with somebody, yeah, you want
Speaker 3: to be full on friends, like I want to know.
Speaker 4: I think you don't like it when friends concealed that
Speaker 4: you know, like hold on. There are levels of friends
Speaker 4: and your inner circle of friends, which is what I'm
Speaker 4: talking about. I think you really appreciate transparency because you
Speaker 4: are transparent with your friends.
Speaker 3: Like I can't take it. I'm like, no, I give
Speaker 3: me more details.
Speaker 4: It's fine, Like I wish I had some details to
Speaker 4: give you.
Speaker 3: Well, I'm sure you do.
Speaker 4: I have nothing to share at the moment, but I
Speaker 4: am hoping, like I said last time, like two weeks ago,
Speaker 4: like I gotta get I have to get social, and
Speaker 4: I cannot. I'm such a scaredy cat. I am so
Speaker 4: afraid of putting myself out there.
Speaker 3: Why, what's the worst happen.
Speaker 4: I don't know the worst that's going to happen. Let
Speaker 4: me see, Well, I have a I have an idea
Speaker 4: about myself post divorce that is not healthy, meaning that
Speaker 4: I think that everyone's.
Speaker 2: Out to hurt me.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you're going to need one good person.
Speaker 2: Trust. It's really about trust.
Speaker 4: And I feel that like uh oh my god, like
Speaker 4: everybody's going to hurt me and not in it. It
Speaker 4: just I can't relax into meeting new people. And I've
Speaker 4: always been kind of like a loner.
Speaker 2: Anyway.
Speaker 4: And so this has certainly put me into a position
Speaker 4: that I feel like it's.
Speaker 3: Just like, yeah, I think it's I mean, I think
Speaker 3: of you say those things about yourself, but as being
Speaker 3: your friend, you're one of the most comfortable, Like you're
Speaker 3: comforting yours going with like you take the pressure off
Speaker 3: as a friend that you have to do that to yourself.
Speaker 2: Maybe that that's a good point. It's interesting you don't
Speaker 2: have to be perfect. No, it's not that.
Speaker 4: I just I think I'd have to be a little
Speaker 4: bit more comfortable in my own skin, trusting people and
Speaker 4: just opening up. And I think that that's a lot
Speaker 4: of it is just being brave enough to open.
Speaker 3: Up a bit.
Speaker 2: Well you take her to badly burned, Yes, I think so.
Speaker 4: And then and then you know it's continued on and
Speaker 4: in other ways as well. And so when that happens,
Speaker 4: you just become a little gun shy, you know, and
Speaker 4: so you don't know if people really want to get
Speaker 4: to know you or you know, what where is this
Speaker 4: going and what is this?
Speaker 3: You know? I mean I think as we I mean,
Speaker 3: I found you know, they did this thing and us
Speaker 3: weekly where they said that I'm dat I've I dated
Speaker 3: two guys or whatever it was. And then I saw
Speaker 3: some of some of the messages were like yeah, go girl,
Speaker 3: and some are like, what the hell is wrong with
Speaker 3: this woman? It doesn't she want to spend time with her.
Speaker 2: Kids or she spent time with your kids?
Speaker 3: Why would this even be a concern?
Speaker 2: Because it is. You're a human being and you're allowed
Speaker 2: to live.
Speaker 3: And I think something that I want to say if
Speaker 3: you are going through anything like this. Of course every
Speaker 3: moment that I possibly can, I want to be there
Speaker 3: for my you are, but you know what, they sleep.
Speaker 2: And you don't.
Speaker 3: And I'm on insomnia and I'm also on medication that
Speaker 3: keeps me awake.
Speaker 2: I'm sure.
Speaker 3: Yeah, So I'm not going to nightclubs and meeting strangers.
Speaker 2: Oh Jesus Christ. We're not acting like doing putting dangerous shit.
Speaker 3: But I have learned, like so, where your insecurity comes
Speaker 3: more from people hurting you, my insecurity comes from more.
Speaker 3: And this is when I realized, like, am I shallow?
Speaker 3: Like I will be like I look like this now
Speaker 3: or this is how I feel right now? Or do
Speaker 3: they notice these things?
Speaker 2: I'm telling you what, you look pretty fucking awesome.
Speaker 3: Well I'm in full glamor right now, I can assure.
Speaker 4: You when I'm sucking, I can assure you. But you
Speaker 4: know what though that that let me tell you something.
Speaker 4: So what You're a human being going through like a
Speaker 4: massive thing in your life, and I think you should,
Speaker 4: you know, do whatever makes you happy because I know you,
Speaker 4: and I know that you're not putting yourself at risk.
Speaker 3: And I'm not putting I'm not lying. Like we have
Speaker 3: a calendar where I put like Monday, this dead dad,
Speaker 3: this whens like that way, there's never a point where
Speaker 3: Edwin has to be like Teddy's trying to you know,
Speaker 3: we all have in the same house together.
Speaker 2: I just saw him downstairs. Yeah, I just gave him
Speaker 2: a hug after his workout.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like it's we all live in the same house together.
Speaker 3: How we want to communicate what the other what we're
Speaker 3: doing is different. Like I'll be like, oh, yeah, no, I'm.
Speaker 2: Going on a date like it is what it is, y'all.
Speaker 3: And he doesn't have to do the same for me.
Speaker 3: I do assume when he puts a leather jacket on
Speaker 3: and leaves at seven thirty pm.
Speaker 2: And does he come back, No, he doesn't come home
Speaker 2: those nights.
Speaker 3: I can I make the assumption, but I'm such an
Speaker 3: ass I'll be like, have fun tonight, Like, oh, what
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm just having to I'm like, a, sure
Speaker 3: you are, buddy.
Speaker 2: Have fun.
Speaker 3: Your hair looks good.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you look a little too good to be just
Speaker 2: going to the place. Here are you?
Speaker 3: When I'm heading over to Kyle's, I'm a pair of sweats?
Speaker 2: Oh off? Are you using that as an excuse?
Speaker 4: But if I'm going to Kyle's, well yeah, I would
Speaker 4: use Kyle as a total excuse to do anything.
Speaker 2: I'm at Kyle's.
Speaker 3: But that being said, I am going to see Kyle tonight,
Speaker 3: but I really am saying.
Speaker 2: Kyle, Yeah, she's home. I need to give her a text.
Speaker 2: You guys having a birthday party tonight for Jen.
Speaker 3: Lovely. Jen is the one that pretty much nursed me
Speaker 3: back to life. She really did, she really did.
Speaker 2: She's awesome.
Speaker 3: She's amazing. We call her Jen Jens. Jen knows everything
Speaker 3: like that. You ask any Question's like, oh yeah, of course,
Speaker 3: follow them.
Speaker 2: Jen's pretty amazing.
Speaker 3: She's she's great. Okay, So anyways, I said, there's all
Speaker 3: this press about dere.
Speaker 2: Oh right front, who Yeah, what is who?
Speaker 3: He's Zach Eron's brother. He was on Who's that? Who's
Speaker 3: He's Zach's brother? Hot? He was on this Past Traders. Oh,
Speaker 3: why haven't we been on?
Speaker 2: Well?
Speaker 4: I was asked the first season, but I was in
Speaker 4: no mental shape to go.
Speaker 3: Well. I feel like I'm in good mental shape right now.
Speaker 2: Probably fucking let me tell you something.
Speaker 4: You want to talk about laying everybody out, You probably
Speaker 4: fucking win.
Speaker 2: I would go with you, just to like watch you,
Speaker 2: and I don't even.
Speaker 3: Know it's in case I get a little stumbling.
Speaker 2: No, I will help you. I will help you lay
Speaker 2: out everything.
Speaker 3: Everyone would think that you were a trader.
Speaker 2: Oh of course they would.
Speaker 4: I'm like not knowing girl next door, And then we
Speaker 4: could flip these roles.
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is what the villain's all wrong.
Speaker 4: I'm actually a sweet person, but you guys are insistent.
Speaker 2: That I'm a villain.
Speaker 3: I'm on the dark side.
Speaker 2: This one over here, we already know you rule.
Speaker 3: But any who made a comment, which by the way,
Speaker 3: I already made fun of on the other pod, But
Speaker 3: it was like over a sentence long about this guy Dylan's.
Speaker 2: She she likes words, she does like she needed less words.
Speaker 3: She could have just done the fire or as my
Speaker 3: kids have taught me.
Speaker 2: Like riz, oh you mean it's in charisma, yeah.
Speaker 3: Like anything. But it was a full sentence.
Speaker 2: But that's Dree. You know she loves she likes words.
Speaker 2: He probably yawned, well probably, well whatever.
Speaker 3: Dread less words on your flirting.
Speaker 2: My god, we've been trying to do this for a decade.
Speaker 2: It's not working. We've known this one for a decade.
Speaker 3: And it's but Dylan doesn't so quickly.
Speaker 2: Uh so your libido? Yes, no, maybe I just got
Speaker 2: my I'll to ask you. I'll tell you why.
Speaker 4: I just got my hormones and planted yesterday and they
Speaker 4: go right in your glutes and I'm gonna tell you
Speaker 4: right now.
Speaker 3: It's a little like you're all horned up.
Speaker 2: Not yet.
Speaker 4: But I said to her, I's like, look, bitch, I
Speaker 4: got zero libido today, but like this last week, and
Speaker 4: like who am I? So, I said, you know, like,
Speaker 4: give me some libido. She said, not a problem.
Speaker 3: Well here's the problem for me.
Speaker 2: You have too much libido.
Speaker 4: No, but I'm also afraid to I know me like
Speaker 4: my libido's like I will start getting on this phone
Speaker 4: and it'll be a disaster.
Speaker 3: I remember the last time that I was with you
Speaker 3: when you took the libido meds. I don't know what
Speaker 3: they were, but we were in Santa Barbara. You didn't
Speaker 3: want to leave the room because you were You were busy.
Speaker 3: She was busy. I was like, I'm not fighting with
Speaker 3: Denise alone again. Get your ass in here. No, I
Speaker 3: don't think, get a good one and come out.
Speaker 2: I was masturbating.
Speaker 3: I apparently needed a lesson, not from you. Everyone calmed down.
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, but no.
Speaker 3: They're talking a lot about why Mollie who?
Speaker 2: That's Michelle's character.
Speaker 3: Michelle's character, it's so horny after she leaves her husband.
Speaker 3: She's been trying to have sex with her husband three years,
Speaker 3: for three years, and he won't and then they kind
Speaker 3: of start to and then he like pushes her off.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not shocked, And then are weird?
Speaker 3: It gave me the egg.
Speaker 2: He gave me the egg.
Speaker 3: But then she made listen, guys, if you want to
Speaker 3: go on the World Wide Web to masturbate. The mistake
Speaker 3: she made almost pushed me over the edge. So she
Speaker 3: goes on. She thinks she's watching let's just call him Max.
Speaker 3: She thinks she's watching Max masturbate so she can masturbate.
Speaker 4: Too, So it's kind of like they're doing it together,
Speaker 4: but he in fact records her and then holds her
Speaker 4: hostage for money.
Speaker 3: Yeah. So then after she's done, she sees a picture
Speaker 3: of herself like.
Speaker 4: Yeah, kind of like and I yeah, but you know
Speaker 4: it's funny. He goes, I paid him in Behavian dollars.
Speaker 3: It's like, so at the end of the fucking day,
Speaker 3: she has to call her husband and says, I'm being
Speaker 3: held hostage from a poor and I recorded on myself.
Speaker 4: Yes, And you know this makes me like this character
Speaker 4: meaning her husband, because he helped. He said, Okay, I
Speaker 4: don't want to see you like this like this, given
Speaker 4: the money problem.
Speaker 3: But then he then he kept going. He didn't just
Speaker 3: leave it, he kept going.
Speaker 2: Then he's shamed her for it. Yeah, and this is like, okay,
Speaker 2: let's just yeah, let's not do.
Speaker 3: That, like you. I haven't watched the full season, but
Speaker 3: I think a PSA to anybody that wants to get
Speaker 3: back together with a partner, whether it's they're dying or
Speaker 3: they're you know, just they had a bunch of kids
Speaker 3: and she's hit the fan is like, quit making it
Speaker 3: about you.
Speaker 2: Yep, quit making it about you.
Speaker 3: Quit making it about you. I listened to something. I'm
Speaker 3: listening to self help these days. Guys. That's the level.
Speaker 3: That's the level.
Speaker 2: Do you know that?
Speaker 4: That's all that plays in my home is like meditation
Speaker 4: and self help and realization and all that because I
Speaker 4: just feel like I need it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, apparently we need it. Well. I was listening to
Speaker 3: mel Robbins and she said, who I don't necessarily always
Speaker 3: love the long stuff, but when she has little clips.
Speaker 3: So there's a clip about how when you want your
Speaker 3: partner to change and you continuously give them advice or
Speaker 3: tips or like provide over information, it makes your partner
Speaker 3: want to change less. I agree with that, like quit
Speaker 3: shoving it down my throat.
Speaker 4: I also think that they they're reminded of their mothers.
Speaker 4: Like everybody thinks that, like you know, you're mothering them
Speaker 4: and they turn it gets turned off.
Speaker 3: Like yeah, but from a guy especially, what is your
Speaker 3: thought on men being very close with their mothers.
Speaker 2: I think there's a limit. I think that well.
Speaker 4: I think when a mother oversteps their boundary in a
Speaker 4: grown man's life, I'm not talking about a child in
Speaker 4: a grown man's life, you know, I think that you
Speaker 4: have to separate from your mom and be your own person.
Speaker 4: It's great to have a close relationship with your mother,
Speaker 4: but you also have to be your own person.
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, Slate says that, no matter what the situation is,
Speaker 3: I will always pick cruise.
Speaker 2: Oh where is this coming from?
Speaker 3: Well, because the other night we were watching Well, now
Speaker 3: I really have to second guess myself.
Speaker 2: But wait a second, note Slate's twelve.
Speaker 3: Slate's twelve.
Speaker 4: Well, we already know what well think about when Teddy
Speaker 4: was twelve fighting with her mom.
Speaker 3: You think she's going through the curse.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I know Erica twelve fighting with Renee. I'm fifty
Speaker 4: three and I still fight with that woman. Well, listen,
Speaker 4: I'm just telling you mothers and daughters, but heads, mothers
Speaker 4: and sons. That's a love affair.
Speaker 3: Well, that that's where we're getting. Yeah, so we're watching
Speaker 3: Bad Robot, which, now, in the last three months, I've
Speaker 3: cried in two Robot movies. Okay, so that's a fucking
Speaker 3: the Jennifer Lopez Robot movie. That had to have been
Speaker 3: The Tomb.
Speaker 2: Okay, sorry, I didn't.
Speaker 3: I cried in that, and then I cried in Bad Robot,
Speaker 3: And Slate got up to go to the restroom and
Speaker 3: she was cuddling with me, but Slay cuddle's kind of
Speaker 3: in a love you slate.
Speaker 2: Like a teddy way, like it's like falling on you way. Oh,
Speaker 2: she's like overly. Oh she's laying on you.
Speaker 4: Yeah, like laying on Well, they get bigger and it's
Speaker 4: it's like, yeah, now she's heavy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're heavy.
Speaker 3: And so and it's like very like and I'm like,
Speaker 3: I'm like having hot and cold flashes and then cruise.
Speaker 3: When Slay got up to go to the restroom, he
Speaker 3: jumped right in and snuggled in perfectly with the farm
Speaker 3: and slight came out. She's like, Mom, you let them
Speaker 3: in again. And I was like, ah, only for ten minutes.
Speaker 2: But now I realize I am that person. That's okay,
Speaker 2: that's okay. I know you love your children.
Speaker 3: I love them all equally, but sometimes they different ones
Speaker 3: annoy me at different times.
Speaker 4: You know, I'm an only child and I only have
Speaker 4: one child, so I have no experience in this area.
Speaker 4: So I can't tell you whether parents have favorites or
Speaker 4: children that they connect with more. But I would imagine
Speaker 4: I'm imagining that there are kids like certain ones of
Speaker 4: your kids that you connect with on different levels, like
Speaker 4: I connect with this one in this way, or you know, and.
Speaker 3: There's different things. I'm like Slate, I would lay down
Speaker 3: and die for you tomorrow and do anything to be
Speaker 3: at every single event you're at, like I would do
Speaker 3: any think.
Speaker 2: You have are thing, our addativity.
Speaker 3: We like to do these certain things together, like our
Speaker 3: thing may not be cuddling.
Speaker 4: Right, you're thinking, yeah, and I think, but she's also twelve.
Speaker 4: She's you know.
Speaker 3: I know she knows all the words. She asked me
Speaker 3: to if I want to see her halls, which I
Speaker 3: absolutely don't.
Speaker 2: What is that?
Speaker 3: That's when you go shopping at addictive a hall?
Speaker 2: H a U L.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I want to do I want to see her hall?
Speaker 3: No I don't. I already paid for.
Speaker 4: It, like her Sophora Hall. Yes, they're into skincare these
Speaker 4: kids more better.
Speaker 3: I'm like, go into my drawer and take take every
Speaker 3: single thing that someone sent me. But anyways, back to
Speaker 3: dying for sex.
Speaker 4: So what's your most adventurous sexual I kind of like that. Yeah,
Speaker 4: I already said what mine was weeks ago. I said multiples, multiples.
Speaker 3: I think the more that I think about it now
Speaker 3: is like I've been trying to figure out what is
Speaker 3: that I really like and what I don't like? And
Speaker 3: what what I've realized is if.
Speaker 2: I'm do you have a lot of sexual partners?
Speaker 3: I mean I've had more than ten.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I blue White, I've had body count.
Speaker 3: But she's got a high body count, but not high
Speaker 3: body count hair. No, what is wig hair considered for
Speaker 3: body counts? Who would even know?
Speaker 2: It's fabulous. That's what we're going with.
Speaker 3: So anyways, this could be a newer old person. We'll
Speaker 3: just you guys, gather what you want. But it's figuring
Speaker 3: out like I like this or I don't like this.
Speaker 4: So you have like, uh, someone like a partner that
Speaker 4: you're really discovering things with.
Speaker 3: Correct, Oh my god, that's wonderful. Yes, that is okay,
Speaker 3: discovering that's wonderful.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: So it's cool when you have that type of back
Speaker 4: and forth and like you can just try things and
Speaker 4: you feel comfortable enough to do them.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then being like, eh, that actually wasn't it
Speaker 3: for me, but but I can tell maybe it was
Speaker 3: it for you.
Speaker 4: Well, then that's where you switch off, you know, like
Speaker 4: I know you really like this and I really like that,
Speaker 4: So let's do this and.
Speaker 3: Then so here's the moral of the story. Guys is
Speaker 3: have conversations. I talk about it. Yeah.
Speaker 4: I think it's the more relaxed and open you are,
Speaker 4: the easier it is to have these conversations. And it
Speaker 4: really is like, that's how you're gonna get the best
Speaker 4: sex life is.
Speaker 3: And I'm faking it doesn't do anything for anybody. I'm
Speaker 3: going to tell you, I'm not even bother with faking it. No, no,
Speaker 3: not even not even a little who nothing, it's a zip.
Speaker 4: It should I look it should have never had to
Speaker 4: but yes, certainly not now.
Speaker 3: No no, no no. So then we into part that
Speaker 3: I don't necessarily relate to. But Mollie is trying. Mollie
Speaker 3: has never had an orgasm. I I have pre cancer.
Speaker 3: I had orgasms, not.
Speaker 2: I said I have them now I fixed my problem.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not.
Speaker 2: Can I tell you something I remember having orgasms is
Speaker 2: really young?
Speaker 3: I feel like I did too, like really like is
Speaker 3: this in appropriate to say? But like with the with
Speaker 3: the jacuzzi thing.
Speaker 2: I love a jet.
Speaker 3: I used to tell people about it.
Speaker 2: I love the jacuzi jets.
Speaker 4: Everybody knows what that is?
Speaker 2: Like nine or ten?
Speaker 3: Yeahzi jets.
Speaker 4: I was like, no, no, I'll get in then by
Speaker 4: myself in these weird positions.
Speaker 2: Why are you let wait my backburns?
Speaker 3: Hold on, I'm in a one piece right, hold on?
Speaker 3: Hold on? Oh yeah.
Speaker 2: The Chacoozi jets like anything I could get my hand.
Speaker 3: But the problem is, I don't think a jacuzzi jet
Speaker 3: would work for me these days.
Speaker 2: It's a lot of water. I feel like I'm.
Speaker 3: Be getting UTIs left and right.
Speaker 2: We probably did, just don't remember that part.
Speaker 4: We just don't know a lot of girls know about
Speaker 4: the jacuzzi jets.
Speaker 3: Listen the jacuzzi. If you had a friend who had
Speaker 3: a house that had a jacuzzi and it was warm,
Speaker 3: you knew what you were going to go?
Speaker 2: Do you knew what you were doing? And shit, let's
Speaker 2: go to Kyle's.
Speaker 3: Hey, Kyle Saudi and Erica, can you go ahead and
Speaker 3: turn on the heat?
Speaker 4: Can you turn on the heat and the zis will
Speaker 4: be right over And you said over there, it's what
Speaker 4: we ought to do and time ourselves.
Speaker 2: Aha, how long.
Speaker 3: It takes each of us with the jet?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 3: What if I took the longest. That might be because
Speaker 3: I don't get to have the since I had the cancers.
Speaker 3: I don't get to have all my hormones I used
Speaker 3: to have. Yeah, I know, so I had to really
Speaker 3: get inside my head.
Speaker 4: That's really where you have to start going is inside
Speaker 4: your head, which is why do you think I will
Speaker 4: I do certain things to trick myself into it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but well now I know this whole thing about
Speaker 3: porn not looking at people's faces, and I got so
Speaker 3: desperate the other day. I was like, maybe I should porns.
Speaker 3: I was like, I guess I'll watch the Kim Kardashian one.
Speaker 3: And then I got into it. I was like, I
Speaker 3: can't have sex. I mean, I can't during this.
Speaker 2: No, that's not a that's not one that we needed. Yeah,
Speaker 2: well it was readily available.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you.
Speaker 4: Need to do You need to do specific searches on
Speaker 4: things that you're into, and then you will get the
Speaker 4: material that will help you achieve that moment. I'm not,
Speaker 4: oh gosh, it's all about tricking yourself into certain visuals.
Speaker 3: Well. Another part that we get into is that Michelle
Speaker 3: Williams's character gets really into controlling men, and that's what
Speaker 3: actually gets her off for the first time.
Speaker 4: I think that a lot of women could relate to
Speaker 4: that quite honestly controlling and.
Speaker 3: What do you like that? Are you one of those
Speaker 3: women that relate to that?
Speaker 4: Not really, I mean I like back and forth. I
Speaker 4: don't think that that's something. I think it it would
Speaker 4: be interesting to explore. I followed this and Dominatrix on TikTok,
Speaker 4: like I like the idea of it, but maybe not
Speaker 4: in a personal sense, like like I think how she
Speaker 4: does it, which is a client based service, okay, but
Speaker 4: not in my personal personal relationships. That's not something that
Speaker 4: I need to have happened. But I like I like surrendering.
Speaker 2: I like feeling. I like feeling.
Speaker 3: I like feeling not small and like a physical way,
Speaker 3: but like this person is.
Speaker 2: I like feeling, for lack of a better word, feminine.
Speaker 3: I know it's soft and it's not like we have
Speaker 3: the voices that we.
Speaker 4: Have right, and not that we're not the bitches that
Speaker 4: we are raging.
Speaker 3: I was like, you know, here's the thing I would like.
Speaker 4: To And I think that you know, you and I
Speaker 4: live these lives where we are perceived one way, and
Speaker 4: that's fine, but in a personal relationship or in an
Speaker 4: intimate relationship, I don't want to be that.
Speaker 2: I want to be soft and.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I want to feel dare I say this guys love? Yeah,
Speaker 3: I loved and cared for and like this person would
Speaker 3: do anything for me, but also has enough going on
Speaker 3: for themselves.
Speaker 2: Well, I don't even get that far.
Speaker 4: Like I'm just talking about the moment of intimacy, like
Speaker 4: when you talk about intimate moments. I would like to
Speaker 4: feel cared for and loved and then a little bit
Speaker 4: of like I mean in moments and then the other moments,
Speaker 4: I'd like to feel some dirty shit.
Speaker 3: But yeah, yeah, but I think that can all kind
Speaker 3: of work together. Does But she, on the other hand,
Speaker 3: you know, pretends to be a dog and peas on somebody,
Speaker 3: but her radiation is apparently can't get on the person.
Speaker 3: So there's like, oh is.
Speaker 2: That a real thing?
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like when I go to get radiation, yeah, I'm
Speaker 3: always like why can't you know? Most of the time
Speaker 3: it's Gen with me. I'm like, why can't Gen come in?
Speaker 3: And she's like, you're radioactive?
Speaker 2: You are radioactive.
Speaker 3: That being said, I haven't damn it, I missed the
Speaker 3: opportunity because now I'm done with radiation. I had didn't
Speaker 3: try to pee on anybody after well.
Speaker 2: Hey, I don't know.
Speaker 3: Can can you come over here and give me a
Speaker 3: quick radiation. I'm gonna be on eric and see what happens.
Speaker 2: Please do not pee on me.
Speaker 4: Now I may have peed on some people, but I'm
Speaker 4: not radioactive.
Speaker 3: Have you ever squirted?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2: The squirt thing is just another way of happening an organism.
Speaker 2: We can you. Yes, I love that.
Speaker 3: I love it.
Speaker 2: I love it.
Speaker 3: I can do it, but I mean it takes it.
Speaker 2: Okay, let's it.
Speaker 4: Takes a certain time. I was telling someone this the
Speaker 4: other day. I was like, look, this takes a certain
Speaker 4: setup and a certain level of relaxation and then it's
Speaker 4: like the water hose is open.
Speaker 3: Yeah, then, but if you try to do it too quick.
Speaker 2: It does not work.
Speaker 3: It won't work.
Speaker 2: It won't work.
Speaker 3: It's flawed.
Speaker 4: It is flawed, and it has to be a certain
Speaker 4: it's a certain angle.
Speaker 3: So if you're listening and you think that you can't squirt,
Speaker 3: you can't because the way I did. For the first time,
Speaker 3: I actually made a bet and said I know I can't. Oh,
Speaker 3: I know I can't, And then all of a sudden,
Speaker 3: seven minutes later, I was like, that must be what
Speaker 3: that is.
Speaker 4: So I bought a book many years ago because I
Speaker 4: was fascinated by this. So like fifteen years ago, I
Speaker 4: bought this book from this please call cocoad demur it's
Speaker 4: not open anymore.
Speaker 3: And I used to buy your Screwed if you want
Speaker 3: any sections.
Speaker 2: So I used to buy all of this erotica.
Speaker 4: And I actually want to write some erotica because I
Speaker 4: think it'd be fun for me. And I have a
Speaker 4: wild imagination.
Speaker 3: Would you use a stage name?
Speaker 2: Oh, I just write it as Erica Jane.
Speaker 3: Why know, let's do this. I want I want to
Speaker 3: do I want you to do it. Okay, so I
Speaker 3: can read it. I just recently learned something, so.
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I think I should do it.
Speaker 4: And I bought this book about scorting, and I read
Speaker 4: through it and read through it and read through it
Speaker 4: like all the biology and how you do this and
Speaker 4: stuff and stuff, and so at first I did it
Speaker 4: by myself, like I made myself do it.
Speaker 3: You can make yourself do it.
Speaker 2: I had learned how to do Did you have nails on? No?
Speaker 4: I did not, no, not no no no, But I
Speaker 4: learned how to make myself do it.
Speaker 2: And then years later I did it with a partner.
Speaker 3: Did you teach. Did you have to teach the partner now?
Speaker 2: The partner taught me a lot I already had.
Speaker 4: I said, look, I can do this by myself, but
Speaker 4: I've never done it with a partner.
Speaker 2: The partner taught me and then and.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's pretty great, guys.
Speaker 2: It's worth but it is it is, it is worth it.
Speaker 2: I mean it is a different type of release. It
Speaker 2: really is like.
Speaker 3: You feel very relaxed afterwards.
Speaker 4: And I always knew I could do it because I
Speaker 4: always had to pee after I had an orgasm.
Speaker 3: Me too, well, which you're actually supposed to, that's exactly,
Speaker 3: but I have to pee even if there's I've been,
Speaker 3: I don't have an orgasm, I immediately have to pee
Speaker 3: before restarting.
Speaker 4: Having I there's a lot of there's a lot to that,
Speaker 4: and I'm shured, like, look, the medical profession thinks that
Speaker 4: you know this is word.
Speaker 3: I think it's pe, but it's not. I I want
Speaker 3: to teach down the rabbit hole. It's clear, it's.
Speaker 2: Clear, and it has no smell, no taste.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I didn't taste it.
Speaker 4: I did I did it all I needed to do it.
Speaker 4: I did it all, especially when I was making myself
Speaker 4: do it. At first I needed to know exactly what
Speaker 4: was happening. And then I had this partner who really
Speaker 4: we did it together, and now I.
Speaker 3: Can leaned into.
Speaker 2: It, really leaned into it, and it was great.
Speaker 3: Yeah. So guys experiment trying to think make you don't
Speaker 3: just wait till you're you know the stories about you
Speaker 3: on FX, you're dying for sex. You're having to try
Speaker 3: things for the first time in a panicked way.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like maybe I'm just going to say something this Really,
Speaker 4: when I was watching this, I was like, my.
Speaker 3: God, this is tinny, Like you don't want to be
Speaker 3: in that situation. And I think so many of us
Speaker 3: are so scared to open up or talk about what
Speaker 3: we want or need or what feels good or what
Speaker 3: doesn't that you end up missing your whole life. And
Speaker 3: that goes for everything in life.
Speaker 2: No matter what you're doing, yeah, or what you're facing.
Speaker 3: Like, there's things in my life that I'm like, shit,
Speaker 3: I never did that?
Speaker 2: What just like like what.
Speaker 3: Annoying dumb shit?
Speaker 2: Like should we do it now?
Speaker 3: I mean it's not great, it's to clean out my
Speaker 3: drawers in the cabinet.
Speaker 2: You might though you're gonna say something cool. Now, like
Speaker 2: got to to bet.
Speaker 3: Let's let's go out of town somewhere.
Speaker 2: I'll go with you.
Speaker 3: But I can't wear heels, so what.
Speaker 2: It would be a break not to wear heels?
Speaker 3: Okay, great? If we can commit to going somewhere and not.
Speaker 4: Somewhere like on an adventure where like we really but
Speaker 4: I don't want to have to be itchy itchy?
Speaker 3: Yeah, like I don't want to have to deal with bugs.
Speaker 2: I don't want I don't want to do that either. Okay, great,
Speaker 2: are you allowed to travel?
Speaker 3: Like?
Speaker 2: What are your limitations? I'm not allowed to do anything.
Speaker 3: I'm allowed to do anything. I thought I wasn't allowed
Speaker 3: to do anything, and things got a little dark around here. Sure,
Speaker 3: and then I just now every time I have a question.
Speaker 3: I sent him a text and immediately he writes back.
Speaker 3: I'm like, he's like, I cursed the day I gave
Speaker 3: that woman my No, he doesn't.
Speaker 4: He did much rather hear from you and have you
Speaker 4: happy and doing being But.
Speaker 3: Then he's like hilarious. Then he asked questions what's the
Speaker 3: tattoo going to be? And I'm like, I am not
Speaker 3: riding back at I.
Speaker 2: Want to ask you a question.
Speaker 4: Is there anything that we your friends, can do better
Speaker 4: to support you like.
Speaker 3: Now and with cancer.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, because I'll be honest with you, people
Speaker 4: are listening, and oftentimes we as friends don't know the
Speaker 4: best way to support someone like you, and we make
Speaker 4: it about ourselves, or we start to cry, or we
Speaker 4: get upset, and I'm wondering, what can you tell me
Speaker 4: as your friend or maybe others that are listening to
Speaker 4: help people that are that are where you are.
Speaker 3: I think if you truly have a question you want
Speaker 3: to help, you have to listen to what the person says,
Speaker 3: like which you do. So one of the biggest things
Speaker 3: that I've struggled with since and which I'm struggling with
Speaker 3: these lights right now, is.
Speaker 2: It hurting you not terribly but not your eyeballs.
Speaker 3: But my eyeballs get really sore, so I'm not. I
Speaker 3: don't love to text, like texting used to be my
Speaker 3: thing now I know now we send audio. Yeah, So
Speaker 3: I told Erica and actually they were like, what's the
Speaker 3: best way to communicate? And I said, please just voice
Speaker 3: text me. I can't read. It's I mean, I can read,
Speaker 3: it's just a pain. And then I don't want to
Speaker 3: do it, so just listening to that and sending voice
Speaker 3: like my sister sent her first voice note of all time,
Speaker 3: and she's like, hey, period, it's justice, period. Just want
Speaker 3: the amount of time. I made fun of her after
Speaker 3: like that gave me so much joy. I said, you
Speaker 3: said a fucking comma on the voice Noteirl, like, don't
Speaker 3: you don't.
Speaker 2: Need to put a comma a recording.
Speaker 3: It's your recording of your voice. And now now it's
Speaker 3: her new favorite thing. Now I'm like, I'm about to
Speaker 3: take this feature away from you.
Speaker 2: Because now she's just voicing.
Speaker 3: Now it could be anything. It could be twenty seven
Speaker 3: minutes long.
Speaker 4: Welldres remember went on for two minutes. I was like, girl,
Speaker 4: we're just trying to I love you, but you know.
Speaker 3: If we have to halt, press pod twice yes, and
Speaker 3: then again to through your voice note. I'm not listening
Speaker 3: to the whole thing.
Speaker 4: It's a lot, I think. But so voice notes are
Speaker 4: good under a minute, under a minute, So.
Speaker 3: What voice notes are good under a minute? Something that
Speaker 3: has been really helpful and people are gonna be like,
Speaker 3: oh wow, you have money. It's so stupid. But people
Speaker 3: kept asking Jen what should we do for Teddy? And
Speaker 3: she was like listen. You know, she has a lot
Speaker 3: of kids. She's used to preparing dinner every night for everybody. Right,
Speaker 3: so there's like a it's called the food train.
Speaker 2: What is that?
Speaker 3: And you sign up for a night and you have
Speaker 3: dinner delivered to the family at five o'clock.
Speaker 2: Oh, that's nice.
Speaker 4: So the cool thing for I thought she were going
Speaker 4: to say, somebody came and cook. I was like, girl,
Speaker 4: don't ask me. These kids will be starting No, that's.
Speaker 3: Super expensive, but no, And so it's the cool thing
Speaker 3: for me is like I'm such a creature of habit.
Speaker 3: I normally would eat the same thing every day, like
Speaker 3: rotate between four options for the kids. This way, it's
Speaker 3: a different person sending you food. And you know, I
Speaker 3: don't do weekends so we can go out and stuff
Speaker 3: like that. But it's been really nice, like I can
Speaker 3: expect it. It comes, it utilizes the entire family, and.
Speaker 2: I guess it really like frees you up to do.
Speaker 3: That's what I'm really It was like making me feel
Speaker 3: guilty because at four o'clock's like when I get really
Speaker 3: tired and I'm like, oh no, I at gymnastics and
Speaker 3: then I gotta get blah blah, blah, and then I
Speaker 3: gotta get food. But now I come home from whatever
Speaker 3: afternoon event, the kids have or ready dinners sitting there, and.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I need to sign up for you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's been really nice. The food train, the.
Speaker 2: Food train, and I think not making it about us.
Speaker 3: Not making it about us and the food train and
Speaker 3: telling people what you actually want.
Speaker 2: There's no better time than the present.
Speaker 3: But guys, for next week, because now you know, I
Speaker 3: think that I'm coming back together a little bit more.
Speaker 3: We want to hear what you want me and Erica
Speaker 3: to speak about what topics, what things? Yeah, yes, we
Speaker 3: of course we can talk about sex.
Speaker 4: Forever, but that's kind of boring too, Like we wanted
Speaker 4: a lot today and okay, whatever, we're freaks, but freaks.
Speaker 3: Hold on, I have a new business venture.
Speaker 2: First, Oh my god, what is it?
Speaker 5: Creamer jets Jets a little two portable jets.
Speaker 2: You know what I think it said? The medicine is
Speaker 2: getting to your.
Speaker 3: No, what listen, A portable jet could look like a
Speaker 3: little foot massage.
Speaker 2: It has to have a water source.
Speaker 3: Right, the foot massage where you put your feet in air.
Speaker 3: Now you're getting you know what you're getting? It they're
Speaker 3: seeing it back there.
Speaker 2: Ever done the jets on the jacuzzi?
Speaker 3: See everyone?
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, Oh does it get that to go?
Speaker 3: Ah?
Speaker 4: I'm gonna try that way, Okay, I have where to
Speaker 4: get filled up.
Speaker 3: So guys, send us a message if you have tried
Speaker 3: out the jacuzzi for more ways than a sore back.
Speaker 2: I have a sore back after it, you know what.
Speaker 2: I have the jacuzzie at home and I don't get in.
Speaker 2: Let me get that going.
Speaker 3: That might be the time that I come over to visit. Hey, guys,
Speaker 3: we're thirty minutes late for the pod. Don't worry about it.
Speaker 3: We'll see you when we see you.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, you know you have to laugh at
Speaker 4: this shit because you have to.
Speaker 3: Oh guys, I didn't mean to make that noise, But
Speaker 3: Cruz and I were very excited to see Erica on
Speaker 3: the mask singer. How good was she? Those were hard songs.
Speaker 2: They were hard songs.
Speaker 4: The costume was a lot. The costume weighed eight pounds,
Speaker 4: of the head weighed about eight pounds and so, and
Speaker 4: you can see very little. So it was wonderful. And
Speaker 4: I'll show you some bts. Yeah, I had a great time,
Speaker 4: thank you. I had the best time.
Speaker 3: Did you have any idea who anyone else was? No.
Speaker 4: I am telling you this show to everyone, the production,
Speaker 4: to costume, to dancers, to core, everybody at mass singer.
Speaker 4: I just want to say, this is the most fun show.
Speaker 4: And Method Man.
Speaker 2: Was my neighbor and I had no idea, and I'm
Speaker 2: a fan.
Speaker 3: I love Method Man. I'm at Dan and I we
Speaker 3: had you walked around like this, you never saw anybody.
Speaker 4: You walk around with gloves, a hoodie advisor and you
Speaker 4: do not speak, and you have a handler and they.
Speaker 2: Take you everywhere and you are separating.
Speaker 4: Uh not really, there's suggested to you, and then you
Speaker 4: go with I think what best fits your vocal or
Speaker 4: the there's nights, you know, so there's like Grand Old
Speaker 4: Opry night, or there was the Ghostbuster night, or there's
Speaker 4: you know whatever night, and like boy band night.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so you have a songs that you.
Speaker 3: Choose from that are obviously boy bands and then you well,
Speaker 3: Cruise guessed you night one. But unfortunately he called you
Speaker 3: Erica James.
Speaker 4: That's fine, Erica James is good too, Jenna James, listen,
Speaker 4: Erica James.
Speaker 2: Whatever he goes, that's your friend, mom, whatever.
Speaker 3: And I was like who And he's like the one
Speaker 3: I thought was you the one day Erica James.
Speaker 2: I love that. I love that.
Speaker 4: Go cruise, Go cruise like it's Jane. It doesn't matter,
Speaker 4: call me whatever the hell you want, whatever, But.
Speaker 3: I was really proud of you and I loved watching him.
Speaker 2: Thank you. It was a great time. I had the
Speaker 2: best time.
Speaker 3: Thanks guys, thank you.