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Speaker 1: Hi, guys, welcome to another episode of Diamonds in the

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Speaker 1: Rough with Teddy.

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Speaker 2: Mellencamp and Erica Jane.

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Speaker 3: Hey, honey, I love that she just immediately starts laughing.

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Speaker 3: Hi guys, welcome. Immediately, I'm like.

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Speaker 4: Well, you know what, though, it's nice to see you

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Speaker 4: and I'm happy to see you and I enjoy our

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Speaker 4: time together.

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Speaker 3: Well, me too, and that's why I put on Instagram.

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Speaker 3: What are your questions for me and Erica and all

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Speaker 3: y'all cared about is our sex life.

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Speaker 2: Well that's okay though, so let's discuss it.

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Speaker 3: Well, we're gonna have discuss us and we're gonna havelf

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Speaker 3: discuss this new show that's on FX. It's called Dying

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Speaker 3: for Sex.

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Speaker 4: With Michelle Williams, which I watched. I got in the

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Speaker 4: first two and a half episode.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it gets a little dark after that. So the

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Speaker 3: first two and a half episodes is what I think

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Speaker 3: everybody can relate to, whether you have cancer or not.

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Speaker 3: But it's about Michelle Williams has cancer. It goes away

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Speaker 3: that this season starts where she's in.

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Speaker 2: Couple's therapy, which is not going well.

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Speaker 3: Not going well, Like the husband's checking the phone, he's

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Speaker 3: doing he's just checked out, he's done doing all the

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Speaker 3: wrong things. And her phone rings and she looks at

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Speaker 3: it and she's like, sorry, I have to take this,

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Speaker 3: and it's her cancer doctor saying that her cancer is

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Speaker 3: back and terminal yes, and then we just.

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Speaker 2: Watch everything unravel.

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Speaker 4: Literally we watch her completely change her life right after

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Speaker 4: that session, right during that session, during the session, and

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Speaker 4: walks out.

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Speaker 3: Because I think this happens to people who are married,

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Speaker 3: whether there's cancer.

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Speaker 2: I'm just gonna say the same thing or not.

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Speaker 4: When she said, you know, I want somebody to touch me, like,

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Speaker 4: this is what happens, whether you're right, whether there's cancer

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Speaker 4: or not. In relationships, a lot of times sex lives

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Speaker 4: fall apart and there's no sex, or there's one partner

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Speaker 3: Or it just changes. If you don't speak up for

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Speaker 3: what it is that you want or what it is

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Speaker 3: that you're looking for, most likely your partner is going

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Speaker 3: to do it wrong well, and not just sex, but

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Speaker 3: like intimacy or comfort.

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Speaker 4: And there's also ebbs and flows in a marriage. Whether

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Speaker 4: you feel closer, you feel pulled apart, whether it's it's

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Speaker 4: simple stress of time or finances or children, like you know,

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Speaker 4: marriage or partnerships, however you want to say it. They're

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Speaker 4: very tough to They require daily watering and weeding. You know,

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Speaker 4: it's a daily thing that you have to keep your

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Speaker 4: eye on. And when you're busy with other things, you know,

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Speaker 4: you pull apart. You become almost strangers living in the

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Speaker 4: same house and the same sleeping in the same bed.

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Speaker 3: And then like even sex becomes like procedural, Okay, we

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Speaker 4: Like, but there are a lot more people that are

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Speaker 4: living like that than than people in our cast. And

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Speaker 4: they're like, listen, it is very tough to keep something

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and you have to both people have to be

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Speaker 3: willing to receive the information and give.

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Speaker 4: It and not be not that sounds so crazy, like

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Speaker 4: not take it personal, to take it personal, like it's

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Speaker 4: not an attack on you as a bad lover or

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Speaker 4: anything like that. It's just, hey, I'm feeling this way,

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Speaker 4: and I think also too. There's something that's interesting about

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Speaker 4: this show is that women's sexual desires change as they

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Speaker 4: mature and get older. And what you may have once

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Speaker 4: thought was taboo or something, you know, when you get older,

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Speaker 4: especially when you're my age. So I'm fifty three, almost

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Speaker 4: fifty four. I've gone through menopause. But my sexual desires

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Speaker 4: or my fantasies or whatever you want to say, are

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Speaker 4: completely different than they were in my twenties and thirties years.

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Speaker 3: And also what it's going to take, yeah, which is

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Speaker 3: not which changes Like for me, for example, after going

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Speaker 3: through all of this, they've changed my medication. You have

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Speaker 5: To have it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I would imagine that. But that's also.

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Speaker 4: Antidepressants as well. Like I found that. I found that

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like it was I mean, not to TMI, but

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Speaker 3: like I even tried myself, and I was like, this

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Speaker 2: It is.

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Speaker 3: This is exhausting.

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Speaker 2: I can't be.

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Speaker 3: I can't be doing this all the time. No, Well,

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Speaker 3: I was on Amazon. Apparently this was right out of

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Speaker 2: You don't even remember this, I don't.

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Speaker 3: Apparently I had purchased too. I gave one to my

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Speaker 3: friend Brooke that came to visit, and she's like, but

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Speaker 3: you forgot the charger. I'm like, you can get another charger.

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Speaker 3: This is the best there is supposedly, but I never

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Speaker 3: and I was like, well, I can't do this again.

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Speaker 2: So you didn't achieve.

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Speaker 3: I achieved, but I had to achieve it in a

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Speaker 4: So I used to have to like to watch porn

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Speaker 4: and and this is something that people don't want to discuss,

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Speaker 4: but like I had to have multiple full stimulus and

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Speaker 4: get into these sort of like non conventional sorts of thought,

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Speaker 4: and you know it just my sexuality is.

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Speaker 2: Really interesting.

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Speaker 3: But also here's the problem I have with porn is like,

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Speaker 3: when I'm looking through it, I'm a very like visual person.

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Speaker 3: And if I find one of the people unattractive, ruined.

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Speaker 4: Can I tell you something. I'm not looking at faces,

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Speaker 4: I'm looking at body parts. Oh, I mean I have

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Speaker 4: this beautiful way of sectioning out something that like I'm

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Speaker 4: looking at very specific things.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I'm not taking in the entire picture.

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Speaker 3: See I'm taking an entire picture.

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Speaker 4: And oftentimes there's no sound. I watch it without sound.

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Speaker 4: My brain is down to like very specific things.

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Speaker 3: Well, one of the things she does on the show,

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Speaker 3: which is so freaking hilarious to me. So they have

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Speaker 2: I think it is seven years. Right when ship falls apart?

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Speaker 3: Ye, ship falls apart. She gets cancer for the first time,

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Speaker 3: and he turns into like the caregiver, but like solely.

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Speaker 2: The character the martyred caregiver.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Like, okay, you're only gonna have green juice? Is

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Speaker 3: that you granted? I'm like, let me get my diet,

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Speaker 2: You can have a diet, Doctor Pepper. You've earned the diet.

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Speaker 3: I asked my doctor everything. Now it's like I'm his stock.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, am I allowed to do this? Am I

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Speaker 3: allowed to have diet? Doctor Pepper? Am I allowed to

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Speaker 3: get a tattoo? He's like, you're having a lot of

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Speaker 3: life changes. Yes, you're allowed to do these things.

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Speaker 4: So I kind of like this doctor. I don't know

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Speaker 4: who this is, but good for you. But are you

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Speaker 4: thinking of getting tattoos?

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Speaker 3: I think I might be getting one tonight. It's on

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Speaker 3: my friend's birthday.

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 3: But what I want to get. Everyone in my life

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Speaker 3: is like, it's this is not a good idea, but

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Speaker 3: I think it's hilarious. What so I want to get

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Speaker 3: this cute little knife. Okay, so instead of when I'm

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Speaker 2: I don't. I don't find a problem with that. I

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Speaker 3: I just have to. I'll send you the pictures of

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Speaker 3: my cute little knives that I've chosen. But either way,

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Speaker 3: it's probably you know, it could be the tumors.

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Speaker 2: It could be, but who cares My sister and I.

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Speaker 3: I was gonna say my sister and I discussed it

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Speaker 4: Well you know what, though, did you talk to your

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Speaker 4: you're during this time or have they said anything about that?

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Speaker 4: I mean, the first off, let me be super clear.

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Speaker 3: Well? I've had appointments with what are the doctors that

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Speaker 3: part of what I said, I'm feeling sort of depressed.

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Speaker 2: No, imagine you don't.

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Speaker 3: I'm my brain, you know. And so she suggested a medication.

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Speaker 3: of like an upper She said, you may not live

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Speaker 3: And it is.

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Speaker 2: It's really changed.

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Speaker 3: It's really changed, and like to the point where some

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Speaker 4: Right, that's I tried that too, Like I remember when

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Speaker 4: Obviously our situations are different, but I remember when I

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Speaker 3: And anna depressants are even trickier because you can't just

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Speaker 3: stop those cold turkeys, No you can't.

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Speaker 2: You have to wean yourself off of them.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So I mean, who knows. We're figuring it out.

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Speaker 3: I feel like every day I'm getting more with it.

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Speaker 2: I love that.

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Speaker 3: But I see parts of I saw so much you.

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Speaker 4: I'm so glad, I'm I'm and I'm glad that we

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Speaker 4: ask study. I said, how much of this can I

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Speaker 4: talk to you about? Because I see so much of

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Speaker 4: and just knowing you, and and I like when she

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Speaker 4: has her inner monologue, I thought, I.

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Speaker 3: Thought, that's exactly what I do, and so thinking it

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Speaker 3: and then I'm like should I say this out?

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Speaker 4: Like, I think, you know what, at this point in

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Speaker 3: I have noticed my anxiety is a lot better. Like

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Speaker 3: You're like hold on, and I feel that, like hold on.

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Speaker 3: I see the difference between us. She's coming from rehearsal.

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Speaker 3: You can't have this. We need to change this, and

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Speaker 4: I agree with it, And I think that you're in

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Speaker 3: Yeah, But what you see is the hush completely takes

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Speaker 2: Well that's the reason they're in couples therapy. Anyway, he

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Speaker 3: He won't touch her. You're scared he's gonna break her.

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Speaker 4: And she's had the double masktect to me, and and

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Speaker 4: I mean, I can only speculate what you're going through.

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Speaker 4: But this is this is your right to feel, in

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Speaker 3: And I mean, I think so many people have come

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Speaker 3: I'm like, one, it's none of your fucking business. And two,

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Speaker 2: About this. It's a day to day thing and we're

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Speaker 3: We're doing good today and for the first time we're

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Speaker 3: having conversations we never.

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Speaker 2: Had, probably the hard ones. It's you could have and.

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Speaker 3: Laughing good and kind of saying like this it's not

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Speaker 3: I don't think that we will get back together. I

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Speaker 4: How about this No way, Like you need to live

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Speaker 4: would have done fuck you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, my dad every he calls every day.

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Speaker 2: I love that.

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Speaker 3: And some days I'm all worked up and some days

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Speaker 2: Just be cool, just be cool.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, you know, when has anyone ever said that

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Speaker 2: You don't have to you don't have to do anything.

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Speaker 2: This is not the time to be making these crazy decisions.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, He's like, just be cool. You guys are fine

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Speaker 3: right now. You're not having you're not sharing a bed,

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Speaker 3: you're not doing this, You're you're both allowed to date.

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Speaker 3: Like do what you want to do. Be safe.

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Speaker 4: I think, yeah, as long as exactly be safe and

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Speaker 4: be smart. But other than that, like it's no one's

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Speaker 3: It's between you two and we have and we finally

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Speaker 3: I know you're different than me, Like, you don't want

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Speaker 3: to hear the information. I want every fucking crumb. Do

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Speaker 3: you really I need every Crump's that you've always been

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Speaker 3: that way? Yeah, but I like, I mean, if you

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Speaker 3: be like, can I see his picture? Not because I

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Speaker 2: Need to know.

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Speaker 3: If not, I'm going to make up in my head

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Speaker 3: what he looks like. I need every single details.

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Speaker 2: Over active brain. I thought that medication was supposed to come.

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Speaker 3: Don't worry.

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Speaker 4: Listen, let me talk to the psychiatrist. Because you're like

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Speaker 3: Hey, no, no, no, no, no no, I want to see

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Speaker 3: I see that you cropped that uncropping I like every day.

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Speaker 3: And I don't have jealousy.

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Speaker 2: It's the crazy I've never seen you as a jealous

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Speaker 2: person as I've never seen this.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Like, I don't have jealousy. I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I think you're just into like you like it information

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Speaker 3: I'm going to be friends with somebody, yeah, you want

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Speaker 3: to be full on friends, like I want to know.

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Speaker 4: I think you don't like it when friends concealed that

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Speaker 4: you know, like hold on. There are levels of friends

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Speaker 3: Like I can't take it. I'm like, no, I give

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Speaker 4: It's fine, Like I wish I had some details to

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Speaker 3: Well, I'm sure you do.

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Speaker 4: I have nothing to share at the moment, but I

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Speaker 4: am hoping, like I said last time, like two weeks ago,

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Speaker 4: like I gotta get I have to get social, and

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Speaker 4: I cannot. I'm such a scaredy cat. I am so

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Speaker 4: afraid of putting myself out there.

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Speaker 3: Why, what's the worst happen.

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Speaker 4: I don't know the worst that's going to happen. Let

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Speaker 4: me see, Well, I have a I have an idea

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Speaker 4: about myself post divorce that is not healthy, meaning that

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Speaker 4: I think that everyone's.

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Speaker 2: Out to hurt me.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but you're going to need one good person.

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Speaker 2: Trust. It's really about trust.

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Speaker 4: And I feel that like uh oh my god, like

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Speaker 4: just I can't relax into meeting new people. And I've

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Speaker 2: Anyway.

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Speaker 4: And so this has certainly put me into a position

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Speaker 3: Just like, yeah, I think it's I mean, I think

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Speaker 3: of you say those things about yourself, but as being

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Speaker 3: comforting yours going with like you take the pressure off

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Speaker 2: Maybe that that's a good point. It's interesting you don't

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Speaker 4: I just I think I'd have to be a little

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Speaker 3: Up a bit.

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Speaker 2: Well you take her to badly burned, Yes, I think so.

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Speaker 4: And then and then you know it's continued on and

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Speaker 4: so you don't know if people really want to get

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Speaker 4: to know you or you know, what where is this

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Speaker 4: going and what is this?

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Speaker 3: You know? I mean I think as we I mean,

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Speaker 3: weekly where they said that I'm dat I've I dated

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Speaker 3: two guys or whatever it was. And then I saw

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Speaker 3: some of some of the messages were like yeah, go girl,

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Speaker 3: and some are like, what the hell is wrong with

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Speaker 2: Kids or she spent time with your kids?

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Speaker 3: Why would this even be a concern?

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Speaker 2: Because it is. You're a human being and you're allowed

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Speaker 3: And I think something that I want to say if

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Speaker 3: for my you are, but you know what, they sleep.

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Speaker 2: And you don't.

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Speaker 3: And I'm on insomnia and I'm also on medication that

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Speaker 3: keeps me awake.

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Speaker 2: I'm sure.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So I'm not going to nightclubs and meeting strangers.

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Speaker 2: Oh Jesus Christ. We're not acting like doing putting dangerous shit.

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Speaker 3: But I have learned, like so, where your insecurity comes

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Speaker 3: And this is when I realized, like, am I shallow?

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Speaker 3: Like I will be like I look like this now

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Speaker 3: or this is how I feel right now? Or do

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Speaker 2: I'm telling you what, you look pretty fucking awesome.

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Speaker 3: Well I'm in full glamor right now, I can assure.

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Speaker 4: You when I'm sucking, I can assure you. But you

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Speaker 4: know what though that that let me tell you something.

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Speaker 4: So what You're a human being going through like a

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Speaker 4: you know, do whatever makes you happy because I know you,

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Speaker 4: and I know that you're not putting yourself at risk.

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Speaker 3: And I'm not putting I'm not lying. Like we have

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Speaker 3: a calendar where I put like Monday, this dead dad,

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Speaker 3: this whens like that way, there's never a point where

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Speaker 3: Edwin has to be like Teddy's trying to you know,

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Speaker 3: we all have in the same house together.

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Speaker 2: I just saw him downstairs. Yeah, I just gave him

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Like it's we all live in the same house together.

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Speaker 3: How we want to communicate what the other what we're

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Speaker 3: doing is different. Like I'll be like, oh, yeah, no, I'm.

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Speaker 2: Going on a date like it is what it is, y'all.

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Speaker 3: And he doesn't have to do the same for me.

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Speaker 3: I do assume when he puts a leather jacket on

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Speaker 2: And does he come back, No, he doesn't come home

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Speaker 3: ass I'll be like, have fun tonight, Like, oh, what

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00:19:50,040 --> 00:19:53,520
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm just having to I'm like, a, sure

444
00:19:53,560 --> 00:19:54,359
Speaker 3: you are, buddy.

445
00:19:54,840 --> 00:19:55,280
Speaker 2: Have fun.

446
00:19:55,400 --> 00:19:56,320
Speaker 3: Your hair looks good.

447
00:19:56,560 --> 00:19:58,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, you look a little too good to be just

448
00:19:58,480 --> 00:20:00,240
Speaker 2: going to the place. Here are you?

449
00:20:00,280 --> 00:20:02,600
Speaker 3: When I'm heading over to Kyle's, I'm a pair of sweats?

450
00:20:02,640 --> 00:20:05,879
Speaker 2: Oh off? Are you using that as an excuse?

451
00:20:06,600 --> 00:20:09,160
Speaker 4: But if I'm going to Kyle's, well yeah, I would

452
00:20:09,240 --> 00:20:11,359
Speaker 4: use Kyle as a total excuse to do anything.

453
00:20:11,560 --> 00:20:12,720
Speaker 2: I'm at Kyle's.

454
00:20:12,720 --> 00:20:14,960
Speaker 3: But that being said, I am going to see Kyle tonight,

455
00:20:15,040 --> 00:20:16,080
Speaker 3: but I really am saying.

456
00:20:15,920 --> 00:20:19,960
Speaker 2: Kyle, Yeah, she's home. I need to give her a text.

457
00:20:21,440 --> 00:20:23,640
Speaker 2: You guys having a birthday party tonight for Jen.

458
00:20:23,920 --> 00:20:26,840
Speaker 3: Lovely. Jen is the one that pretty much nursed me

459
00:20:26,920 --> 00:20:28,880
Speaker 3: back to life. She really did, she really did.

460
00:20:28,960 --> 00:20:29,560
Speaker 2: She's awesome.

461
00:20:29,680 --> 00:20:35,160
Speaker 3: She's amazing. We call her Jen Jens. Jen knows everything

462
00:20:35,200 --> 00:20:37,560
Speaker 3: like that. You ask any Question's like, oh yeah, of course,

463
00:20:37,560 --> 00:20:38,000
Speaker 3: follow them.

464
00:20:38,760 --> 00:20:39,639
Speaker 2: Jen's pretty amazing.

465
00:20:39,760 --> 00:20:55,320
Speaker 3: She's she's great. Okay, So anyways, I said, there's all

466
00:20:55,400 --> 00:20:56,720
Speaker 3: this press about dere.

467
00:20:57,000 --> 00:21:00,960
Speaker 2: Oh right front, who Yeah, what is who?

468
00:21:01,040 --> 00:21:04,840
Speaker 3: He's Zach Eron's brother. He was on Who's that? Who's

469
00:21:05,240 --> 00:21:10,600
Speaker 3: He's Zach's brother? Hot? He was on this Past Traders. Oh,

470
00:21:10,520 --> 00:21:11,719
Speaker 3: why haven't we been on?

471
00:21:11,920 --> 00:21:12,040
Speaker 2: Well?

472
00:21:12,080 --> 00:21:13,879
Speaker 4: I was asked the first season, but I was in

473
00:21:13,920 --> 00:21:14,919
Speaker 4: no mental shape to go.

474
00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:17,680
Speaker 3: Well. I feel like I'm in good mental shape right now.

475
00:21:18,600 --> 00:21:20,480
Speaker 2: Probably fucking let me tell you something.

476
00:21:20,480 --> 00:21:24,240
Speaker 4: You want to talk about laying everybody out, You probably

477
00:21:24,280 --> 00:21:25,000
Speaker 4: fucking win.

478
00:21:25,560 --> 00:21:28,000
Speaker 2: I would go with you, just to like watch you,

479
00:21:28,119 --> 00:21:29,800
Speaker 2: and I don't even.

480
00:21:29,720 --> 00:21:31,360
Speaker 3: Know it's in case I get a little stumbling.

481
00:21:31,520 --> 00:21:34,080
Speaker 2: No, I will help you. I will help you lay

482
00:21:34,080 --> 00:21:34,720
Speaker 2: out everything.

483
00:21:34,840 --> 00:21:37,760
Speaker 3: Everyone would think that you were a trader.

484
00:21:37,960 --> 00:21:39,200
Speaker 2: Oh of course they would.

485
00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:42,480
Speaker 4: I'm like not knowing girl next door, And then we

486
00:21:42,480 --> 00:21:43,720
Speaker 4: could flip these roles.

487
00:21:44,440 --> 00:21:48,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is what the villain's all wrong.

488
00:21:48,520 --> 00:21:52,800
Speaker 4: I'm actually a sweet person, but you guys are insistent.

489
00:21:52,200 --> 00:21:52,960
Speaker 2: That I'm a villain.

490
00:21:53,160 --> 00:21:54,240
Speaker 3: I'm on the dark side.

491
00:21:54,320 --> 00:21:56,400
Speaker 2: This one over here, we already know you rule.

492
00:21:57,800 --> 00:22:01,080
Speaker 3: But any who made a comment, which by the way,

493
00:22:01,200 --> 00:22:03,280
Speaker 3: I already made fun of on the other pod, But

494
00:22:03,320 --> 00:22:08,560
Speaker 3: it was like over a sentence long about this guy Dylan's.

495
00:22:08,000 --> 00:22:11,280
Speaker 2: She she likes words, she does like she needed less words.

496
00:22:11,280 --> 00:22:13,720
Speaker 3: She could have just done the fire or as my

497
00:22:13,800 --> 00:22:14,600
Speaker 3: kids have taught me.

498
00:22:14,600 --> 00:22:17,919
Speaker 2: Like riz, oh you mean it's in charisma, yeah.

499
00:22:17,720 --> 00:22:20,160
Speaker 3: Like anything. But it was a full sentence.

500
00:22:20,200 --> 00:22:23,040
Speaker 2: But that's Dree. You know she loves she likes words.

501
00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:27,400
Speaker 2: He probably yawned, well probably, well whatever.

502
00:22:27,280 --> 00:22:29,800
Speaker 3: Dread less words on your flirting.

503
00:22:29,920 --> 00:22:31,679
Speaker 2: My god, we've been trying to do this for a decade.

504
00:22:31,800 --> 00:22:36,400
Speaker 2: It's not working. We've known this one for a decade.

505
00:22:35,960 --> 00:22:39,600
Speaker 3: And it's but Dylan doesn't so quickly.

506
00:22:39,920 --> 00:22:43,520
Speaker 2: Uh so your libido? Yes, no, maybe I just got

507
00:22:43,560 --> 00:22:44,800
Speaker 2: my I'll to ask you. I'll tell you why.

508
00:22:44,800 --> 00:22:47,560
Speaker 4: I just got my hormones and planted yesterday and they

509
00:22:47,560 --> 00:22:49,000
Speaker 4: go right in your glutes and I'm gonna tell you

510
00:22:49,080 --> 00:22:49,280
Speaker 4: right now.

511
00:22:49,320 --> 00:22:50,960
Speaker 3: It's a little like you're all horned up.

512
00:22:51,440 --> 00:22:51,960
Speaker 2: Not yet.

513
00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:53,639
Speaker 4: But I said to her, I's like, look, bitch, I

514
00:22:53,640 --> 00:22:56,760
Speaker 4: got zero libido today, but like this last week, and

515
00:22:56,840 --> 00:22:58,479
Speaker 4: like who am I? So, I said, you know, like,

516
00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:01,000
Speaker 4: give me some libido. She said, not a problem.

517
00:23:01,400 --> 00:23:02,720
Speaker 3: Well here's the problem for me.

518
00:23:03,080 --> 00:23:04,040
Speaker 2: You have too much libido.

519
00:23:04,240 --> 00:23:06,719
Speaker 4: No, but I'm also afraid to I know me like

520
00:23:06,800 --> 00:23:09,359
Speaker 4: my libido's like I will start getting on this phone

521
00:23:09,359 --> 00:23:10,800
Speaker 4: and it'll be a disaster.

522
00:23:11,040 --> 00:23:15,040
Speaker 3: I remember the last time that I was with you

523
00:23:15,119 --> 00:23:17,840
Speaker 3: when you took the libido meds. I don't know what

524
00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:21,760
Speaker 3: they were, but we were in Santa Barbara. You didn't

525
00:23:21,760 --> 00:23:25,080
Speaker 3: want to leave the room because you were You were busy.

526
00:23:25,320 --> 00:23:27,760
Speaker 3: She was busy. I was like, I'm not fighting with

527
00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:30,399
Speaker 3: Denise alone again. Get your ass in here. No, I

528
00:23:30,400 --> 00:23:31,960
Speaker 3: don't think, get a good one and come out.

529
00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:33,119
Speaker 2: I was masturbating.

530
00:23:37,200 --> 00:23:41,240
Speaker 3: I apparently needed a lesson, not from you. Everyone calmed down.

531
00:23:41,440 --> 00:23:42,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, but no.

532
00:23:42,880 --> 00:23:45,880
Speaker 3: They're talking a lot about why Mollie who?

533
00:23:45,960 --> 00:23:47,960
Speaker 2: That's Michelle's character.

534
00:23:48,080 --> 00:23:52,560
Speaker 3: Michelle's character, it's so horny after she leaves her husband.

535
00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:54,920
Speaker 3: She's been trying to have sex with her husband three years,

536
00:23:55,240 --> 00:23:58,359
Speaker 3: for three years, and he won't and then they kind

537
00:23:58,359 --> 00:24:01,520
Speaker 3: of start to and then he like pushes her off.

538
00:24:01,680 --> 00:24:03,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not shocked, And then are weird?

539
00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:05,640
Speaker 3: It gave me the egg.

540
00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:06,600
Speaker 2: He gave me the egg.

541
00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:09,320
Speaker 3: But then she made listen, guys, if you want to

542
00:24:09,359 --> 00:24:12,840
Speaker 3: go on the World Wide Web to masturbate. The mistake

543
00:24:12,960 --> 00:24:16,119
Speaker 3: she made almost pushed me over the edge. So she

544
00:24:16,280 --> 00:24:19,760
Speaker 3: goes on. She thinks she's watching let's just call him Max.

545
00:24:20,119 --> 00:24:24,040
Speaker 3: She thinks she's watching Max masturbate so she can masturbate.

546
00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:25,560
Speaker 4: Too, So it's kind of like they're doing it together,

547
00:24:25,600 --> 00:24:27,760
Speaker 4: but he in fact records her and then holds her

548
00:24:27,760 --> 00:24:28,760
Speaker 4: hostage for money.

549
00:24:28,840 --> 00:24:31,879
Speaker 3: Yeah. So then after she's done, she sees a picture

550
00:24:31,880 --> 00:24:32,640
Speaker 3: of herself like.

551
00:24:33,520 --> 00:24:36,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, kind of like and I yeah, but you know

552
00:24:36,119 --> 00:24:38,879
Speaker 4: it's funny. He goes, I paid him in Behavian dollars.

553
00:24:39,960 --> 00:24:42,760
Speaker 3: It's like, so at the end of the fucking day,

554
00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:45,200
Speaker 3: she has to call her husband and says, I'm being

555
00:24:45,240 --> 00:24:47,840
Speaker 3: held hostage from a poor and I recorded on myself.

556
00:24:47,920 --> 00:24:51,119
Speaker 4: Yes, And you know this makes me like this character

557
00:24:51,320 --> 00:24:53,840
Speaker 4: meaning her husband, because he helped. He said, Okay, I

558
00:24:53,880 --> 00:24:55,480
Speaker 4: don't want to see you like this like this, given

559
00:24:55,480 --> 00:24:56,440
Speaker 4: the money problem.

560
00:24:56,480 --> 00:24:58,960
Speaker 3: But then he then he kept going. He didn't just

561
00:24:59,040 --> 00:25:00,400
Speaker 3: leave it, he kept going.

562
00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:03,800
Speaker 2: Then he's shamed her for it. Yeah, and this is like, okay,

563
00:25:03,840 --> 00:25:05,720
Speaker 2: let's just yeah, let's not do.

564
00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:08,919
Speaker 3: That, like you. I haven't watched the full season, but

565
00:25:09,000 --> 00:25:12,440
Speaker 3: I think a PSA to anybody that wants to get

566
00:25:12,480 --> 00:25:16,560
Speaker 3: back together with a partner, whether it's they're dying or

567
00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:19,680
Speaker 3: they're you know, just they had a bunch of kids

568
00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:23,800
Speaker 3: and she's hit the fan is like, quit making it

569
00:25:23,840 --> 00:25:24,320
Speaker 3: about you.

570
00:25:24,480 --> 00:25:26,000
Speaker 2: Yep, quit making it about you.

571
00:25:26,119 --> 00:25:28,800
Speaker 3: Quit making it about you. I listened to something. I'm

572
00:25:28,840 --> 00:25:31,159
Speaker 3: listening to self help these days. Guys. That's the level.

573
00:25:32,080 --> 00:25:33,119
Speaker 3: That's the level.

574
00:25:33,200 --> 00:25:33,880
Speaker 2: Do you know that?

575
00:25:33,880 --> 00:25:36,480
Speaker 4: That's all that plays in my home is like meditation

576
00:25:36,560 --> 00:25:39,159
Speaker 4: and self help and realization and all that because I

577
00:25:39,240 --> 00:25:40,360
Speaker 4: just feel like I need it.

578
00:25:40,680 --> 00:25:43,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, apparently we need it. Well. I was listening to

579
00:25:43,280 --> 00:25:47,679
Speaker 3: mel Robbins and she said, who I don't necessarily always

580
00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:50,560
Speaker 3: love the long stuff, but when she has little clips.

581
00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:55,000
Speaker 3: So there's a clip about how when you want your

582
00:25:55,000 --> 00:25:59,159
Speaker 3: partner to change and you continuously give them advice or

583
00:25:59,320 --> 00:26:04,119
Speaker 3: tips or like provide over information, it makes your partner

584
00:26:04,200 --> 00:26:06,840
Speaker 3: want to change less. I agree with that, like quit

585
00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:08,080
Speaker 3: shoving it down my throat.

586
00:26:08,160 --> 00:26:10,480
Speaker 4: I also think that they they're reminded of their mothers.

587
00:26:10,720 --> 00:26:13,520
Speaker 4: Like everybody thinks that, like you know, you're mothering them

588
00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:15,360
Speaker 4: and they turn it gets turned off.

589
00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:21,399
Speaker 3: Like yeah, but from a guy especially, what is your

590
00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:24,240
Speaker 3: thought on men being very close with their mothers.

591
00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:27,040
Speaker 2: I think there's a limit. I think that well.

592
00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:30,040
Speaker 4: I think when a mother oversteps their boundary in a

593
00:26:30,040 --> 00:26:32,639
Speaker 4: grown man's life, I'm not talking about a child in

594
00:26:32,680 --> 00:26:35,359
Speaker 4: a grown man's life, you know, I think that you

595
00:26:35,480 --> 00:26:38,199
Speaker 4: have to separate from your mom and be your own person.

596
00:26:38,560 --> 00:26:40,600
Speaker 4: It's great to have a close relationship with your mother,

597
00:26:40,640 --> 00:26:42,440
Speaker 4: but you also have to be your own person.

598
00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:46,520
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, Slate says that, no matter what the situation is,

599
00:26:46,960 --> 00:26:49,199
Speaker 3: I will always pick cruise.

600
00:26:50,040 --> 00:26:52,080
Speaker 2: Oh where is this coming from?

601
00:26:52,440 --> 00:26:54,840
Speaker 3: Well, because the other night we were watching Well, now

602
00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:56,560
Speaker 3: I really have to second guess myself.

603
00:26:56,560 --> 00:26:58,160
Speaker 2: But wait a second, note Slate's twelve.

604
00:26:58,480 --> 00:26:59,080
Speaker 3: Slate's twelve.

605
00:26:59,240 --> 00:27:01,760
Speaker 4: Well, we already know what well think about when Teddy

606
00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:02,880
Speaker 4: was twelve fighting with her mom.

607
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:04,040
Speaker 3: You think she's going through the curse.

608
00:27:04,359 --> 00:27:07,720
Speaker 4: Yeah, I know Erica twelve fighting with Renee. I'm fifty

609
00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:10,480
Speaker 4: three and I still fight with that woman. Well, listen,

610
00:27:10,560 --> 00:27:14,199
Speaker 4: I'm just telling you mothers and daughters, but heads, mothers

611
00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:15,479
Speaker 4: and sons. That's a love affair.

612
00:27:15,680 --> 00:27:19,160
Speaker 3: Well, that that's where we're getting. Yeah, so we're watching

613
00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:23,480
Speaker 3: Bad Robot, which, now, in the last three months, I've

614
00:27:23,520 --> 00:27:26,879
Speaker 3: cried in two Robot movies. Okay, so that's a fucking

615
00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:29,800
Speaker 3: the Jennifer Lopez Robot movie. That had to have been

616
00:27:29,840 --> 00:27:30,160
Speaker 3: The Tomb.

617
00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:33,560
Speaker 2: Okay, sorry, I didn't.

618
00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:36,920
Speaker 3: I cried in that, and then I cried in Bad Robot,

619
00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:39,040
Speaker 3: And Slate got up to go to the restroom and

620
00:27:39,040 --> 00:27:41,399
Speaker 3: she was cuddling with me, but Slay cuddle's kind of

621
00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:43,160
Speaker 3: in a love you slate.

622
00:27:43,000 --> 00:27:47,280
Speaker 2: Like a teddy way, like it's like falling on you way. Oh,

623
00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:50,520
Speaker 2: she's like overly. Oh she's laying on you.

624
00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:52,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, like laying on Well, they get bigger and it's

625
00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:54,440
Speaker 4: it's like, yeah, now she's heavy.

626
00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:55,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're heavy.

627
00:27:56,000 --> 00:27:59,520
Speaker 3: And so and it's like very like and I'm like,

628
00:27:59,600 --> 00:28:03,040
Speaker 3: I'm like having hot and cold flashes and then cruise.

629
00:28:03,119 --> 00:28:04,679
Speaker 3: When Slay got up to go to the restroom, he

630
00:28:04,760 --> 00:28:07,840
Speaker 3: jumped right in and snuggled in perfectly with the farm

631
00:28:08,560 --> 00:28:13,399
Speaker 3: and slight came out. She's like, Mom, you let them

632
00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:16,600
Speaker 3: in again. And I was like, ah, only for ten minutes.

633
00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:21,680
Speaker 2: But now I realize I am that person. That's okay,

634
00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:23,720
Speaker 2: that's okay. I know you love your children.

635
00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:27,400
Speaker 3: I love them all equally, but sometimes they different ones

636
00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:28,919
Speaker 3: annoy me at different times.

637
00:28:29,240 --> 00:28:31,320
Speaker 4: You know, I'm an only child and I only have

638
00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:34,760
Speaker 4: one child, so I have no experience in this area.

639
00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:37,480
Speaker 4: So I can't tell you whether parents have favorites or

640
00:28:37,560 --> 00:28:40,120
Speaker 4: children that they connect with more. But I would imagine

641
00:28:40,280 --> 00:28:44,040
Speaker 4: I'm imagining that there are kids like certain ones of

642
00:28:44,080 --> 00:28:46,239
Speaker 4: your kids that you connect with on different levels, like

643
00:28:46,400 --> 00:28:49,240
Speaker 4: I connect with this one in this way, or you know, and.

644
00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:51,800
Speaker 3: There's different things. I'm like Slate, I would lay down

645
00:28:51,840 --> 00:28:55,120
Speaker 3: and die for you tomorrow and do anything to be

646
00:28:55,160 --> 00:28:57,560
Speaker 3: at every single event you're at, like I would do

647
00:28:57,800 --> 00:28:58,520
Speaker 3: any think.

648
00:28:58,360 --> 00:29:02,120
Speaker 2: You have are thing, our addativity.

649
00:29:02,720 --> 00:29:05,280
Speaker 3: We like to do these certain things together, like our

650
00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:07,040
Speaker 3: thing may not be cuddling.

651
00:29:07,120 --> 00:29:10,720
Speaker 4: Right, you're thinking, yeah, and I think, but she's also twelve.

652
00:29:11,960 --> 00:29:12,760
Speaker 4: She's you know.

653
00:29:13,640 --> 00:29:17,840
Speaker 3: I know she knows all the words. She asked me

654
00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:20,560
Speaker 3: to if I want to see her halls, which I

655
00:29:20,600 --> 00:29:21,440
Speaker 3: absolutely don't.

656
00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:22,160
Speaker 2: What is that?

657
00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:24,720
Speaker 3: That's when you go shopping at addictive a hall?

658
00:29:25,160 --> 00:29:25,840
Speaker 2: H a U L.

659
00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:27,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, I want to do I want to see her hall?

660
00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:29,880
Speaker 3: No I don't. I already paid for.

661
00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:33,640
Speaker 4: It, like her Sophora Hall. Yes, they're into skincare these

662
00:29:33,720 --> 00:29:34,840
Speaker 4: kids more better.

663
00:29:35,040 --> 00:29:39,280
Speaker 3: I'm like, go into my drawer and take take every

664
00:29:39,360 --> 00:29:41,920
Speaker 3: single thing that someone sent me. But anyways, back to

665
00:29:42,480 --> 00:29:43,360
Speaker 3: dying for sex.

666
00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:50,160
Speaker 4: So what's your most adventurous sexual I kind of like that. Yeah,

667
00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:54,880
Speaker 4: I already said what mine was weeks ago. I said multiples, multiples.

668
00:29:55,040 --> 00:29:57,480
Speaker 3: I think the more that I think about it now

669
00:29:57,880 --> 00:30:00,280
Speaker 3: is like I've been trying to figure out what is

670
00:30:00,280 --> 00:30:03,200
Speaker 3: that I really like and what I don't like? And

671
00:30:03,240 --> 00:30:04,840
Speaker 3: what what I've realized is if.

672
00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:06,400
Speaker 2: I'm do you have a lot of sexual partners?

673
00:30:07,200 --> 00:30:08,360
Speaker 3: I mean I've had more than ten.

674
00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:20,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, I blue White, I've had body count.

675
00:30:18,880 --> 00:30:21,000
Speaker 3: But she's got a high body count, but not high

676
00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:25,440
Speaker 3: body count hair. No, what is wig hair considered for

677
00:30:25,480 --> 00:30:27,000
Speaker 3: body counts? Who would even know?

678
00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:30,000
Speaker 2: It's fabulous. That's what we're going with.

679
00:30:30,280 --> 00:30:34,280
Speaker 3: So anyways, this could be a newer old person. We'll

680
00:30:34,320 --> 00:30:37,600
Speaker 3: just you guys, gather what you want. But it's figuring

681
00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:40,520
Speaker 3: out like I like this or I don't like this.

682
00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:44,760
Speaker 4: So you have like, uh, someone like a partner that

683
00:30:44,800 --> 00:30:46,240
Speaker 4: you're really discovering things with.

684
00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:49,400
Speaker 3: Correct, Oh my god, that's wonderful. Yes, that is okay,

685
00:30:49,520 --> 00:30:51,240
Speaker 3: discovering that's wonderful.

686
00:30:51,400 --> 00:30:51,800
Speaker 2: Yeah.

687
00:30:52,280 --> 00:30:54,920
Speaker 4: So it's cool when you have that type of back

688
00:30:54,920 --> 00:30:58,200
Speaker 4: and forth and like you can just try things and

689
00:30:58,240 --> 00:30:59,640
Speaker 4: you feel comfortable enough to do them.

690
00:30:59,680 --> 00:31:02,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then being like, eh, that actually wasn't it

691
00:31:02,680 --> 00:31:04,760
Speaker 3: for me, but but I can tell maybe it was

692
00:31:04,920 --> 00:31:05,520
Speaker 3: it for you.

693
00:31:05,920 --> 00:31:08,040
Speaker 4: Well, then that's where you switch off, you know, like

694
00:31:08,160 --> 00:31:10,000
Speaker 4: I know you really like this and I really like that,

695
00:31:10,080 --> 00:31:10,960
Speaker 4: So let's do this and.

696
00:31:10,920 --> 00:31:13,720
Speaker 3: Then so here's the moral of the story. Guys is

697
00:31:14,120 --> 00:31:16,640
Speaker 3: have conversations. I talk about it. Yeah.

698
00:31:16,640 --> 00:31:18,640
Speaker 4: I think it's the more relaxed and open you are,

699
00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:22,440
Speaker 4: the easier it is to have these conversations. And it

700
00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:24,000
Speaker 4: really is like, that's how you're gonna get the best

701
00:31:24,000 --> 00:31:24,680
Speaker 4: sex life is.

702
00:31:24,960 --> 00:31:29,440
Speaker 3: And I'm faking it doesn't do anything for anybody. I'm

703
00:31:29,480 --> 00:31:33,760
Speaker 3: going to tell you, I'm not even bother with faking it. No, no,

704
00:31:33,920 --> 00:31:38,000
Speaker 3: not even not even a little who nothing, it's a zip.

705
00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:41,280
Speaker 4: It should I look it should have never had to

706
00:31:41,600 --> 00:31:43,400
Speaker 4: but yes, certainly not now.

707
00:31:43,480 --> 00:32:00,760
Speaker 3: No no, no no. So then we into part that

708
00:32:00,800 --> 00:32:05,400
Speaker 3: I don't necessarily relate to. But Mollie is trying. Mollie

709
00:32:05,480 --> 00:32:08,840
Speaker 3: has never had an orgasm. I I have pre cancer.

710
00:32:08,880 --> 00:32:10,680
Speaker 3: I had orgasms, not.

711
00:32:11,400 --> 00:32:13,680
Speaker 2: I said I have them now I fixed my problem.

712
00:32:13,920 --> 00:32:15,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not.

713
00:32:15,360 --> 00:32:17,640
Speaker 2: Can I tell you something I remember having orgasms is

714
00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:18,360
Speaker 2: really young?

715
00:32:19,400 --> 00:32:22,320
Speaker 3: I feel like I did too, like really like is

716
00:32:22,360 --> 00:32:25,920
Speaker 3: this in appropriate to say? But like with the with

717
00:32:26,120 --> 00:32:27,560
Speaker 3: the jacuzzi thing.

718
00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:28,800
Speaker 2: I love a jet.

719
00:32:29,440 --> 00:32:31,000
Speaker 3: I used to tell people about it.

720
00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:33,160
Speaker 2: I love the jacuzi jets.

721
00:32:33,400 --> 00:32:37,400
Speaker 4: Everybody knows what that is?

722
00:32:37,440 --> 00:32:38,160
Speaker 2: Like nine or ten?

723
00:32:38,440 --> 00:32:39,880
Speaker 3: Yeahzi jets.

724
00:32:39,880 --> 00:32:42,440
Speaker 4: I was like, no, no, I'll get in then by

725
00:32:42,480 --> 00:32:44,720
Speaker 4: myself in these weird positions.

726
00:32:45,440 --> 00:32:47,880
Speaker 2: Why are you let wait my backburns?

727
00:32:48,280 --> 00:32:51,320
Speaker 3: Hold on, I'm in a one piece right, hold on?

728
00:32:51,440 --> 00:32:52,720
Speaker 3: Hold on? Oh yeah.

729
00:32:52,760 --> 00:32:55,000
Speaker 2: The Chacoozi jets like anything I could get my hand.

730
00:32:55,080 --> 00:32:56,960
Speaker 3: But the problem is, I don't think a jacuzzi jet

731
00:32:57,040 --> 00:32:58,320
Speaker 3: would work for me these days.

732
00:32:58,520 --> 00:33:02,800
Speaker 2: It's a lot of water. I feel like I'm.

733
00:33:02,640 --> 00:33:04,600
Speaker 3: Be getting UTIs left and right.

734
00:33:04,640 --> 00:33:07,000
Speaker 2: We probably did, just don't remember that part.

735
00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:10,400
Speaker 4: We just don't know a lot of girls know about

736
00:33:10,400 --> 00:33:11,560
Speaker 4: the jacuzzi jets.

737
00:33:12,040 --> 00:33:14,920
Speaker 3: Listen the jacuzzi. If you had a friend who had

738
00:33:14,960 --> 00:33:17,560
Speaker 3: a house that had a jacuzzi and it was warm,

739
00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:19,080
Speaker 3: you knew what you were going to go?

740
00:33:19,120 --> 00:33:22,200
Speaker 2: Do you knew what you were doing? And shit, let's

741
00:33:22,240 --> 00:33:22,920
Speaker 2: go to Kyle's.

742
00:33:24,080 --> 00:33:26,360
Speaker 3: Hey, Kyle Saudi and Erica, can you go ahead and

743
00:33:26,400 --> 00:33:26,920
Speaker 3: turn on the heat?

744
00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:28,800
Speaker 4: Can you turn on the heat and the zis will

745
00:33:28,800 --> 00:33:31,920
Speaker 4: be right over And you said over there, it's what

746
00:33:32,120 --> 00:33:33,480
Speaker 4: we ought to do and time ourselves.

747
00:33:33,760 --> 00:33:35,360
Speaker 2: Aha, how long.

748
00:33:35,280 --> 00:33:37,400
Speaker 3: It takes each of us with the jet?

749
00:33:37,640 --> 00:33:38,040
Speaker 2: Yes?

750
00:33:38,080 --> 00:33:40,560
Speaker 3: What if I took the longest. That might be because

751
00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:44,560
Speaker 3: I don't get to have the since I had the cancers.

752
00:33:44,600 --> 00:33:46,760
Speaker 3: I don't get to have all my hormones I used

753
00:33:46,760 --> 00:33:49,640
Speaker 3: to have. Yeah, I know, so I had to really

754
00:33:49,640 --> 00:33:51,160
Speaker 3: get inside my head.

755
00:33:51,240 --> 00:33:53,520
Speaker 4: That's really where you have to start going is inside

756
00:33:53,560 --> 00:33:55,080
Speaker 4: your head, which is why do you think I will

757
00:33:55,160 --> 00:33:57,719
Speaker 4: I do certain things to trick myself into it.

758
00:33:57,920 --> 00:34:00,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, but well now I know this whole thing about

759
00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:03,040
Speaker 3: porn not looking at people's faces, and I got so

760
00:34:03,120 --> 00:34:07,440
Speaker 3: desperate the other day. I was like, maybe I should porns.

761
00:34:07,560 --> 00:34:09,960
Speaker 3: I was like, I guess I'll watch the Kim Kardashian one.

762
00:34:10,040 --> 00:34:11,400
Speaker 3: And then I got into it. I was like, I

763
00:34:11,440 --> 00:34:14,359
Speaker 3: can't have sex. I mean, I can't during this.

764
00:34:14,719 --> 00:34:17,800
Speaker 2: No, that's not a that's not one that we needed. Yeah,

765
00:34:17,880 --> 00:34:19,880
Speaker 2: well it was readily available.

766
00:34:20,600 --> 00:34:21,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you.

767
00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:23,880
Speaker 4: Need to do You need to do specific searches on

768
00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:26,480
Speaker 4: things that you're into, and then you will get the

769
00:34:26,520 --> 00:34:30,319
Speaker 4: material that will help you achieve that moment. I'm not,

770
00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:36,480
Speaker 4: oh gosh, it's all about tricking yourself into certain visuals.

771
00:34:36,600 --> 00:34:40,560
Speaker 3: Well. Another part that we get into is that Michelle

772
00:34:40,560 --> 00:34:43,680
Speaker 3: Williams's character gets really into controlling men, and that's what

773
00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:46,680
Speaker 3: actually gets her off for the first time.

774
00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:48,640
Speaker 4: I think that a lot of women could relate to

775
00:34:48,680 --> 00:34:50,359
Speaker 4: that quite honestly controlling and.

776
00:34:50,320 --> 00:34:52,040
Speaker 3: What do you like that? Are you one of those

777
00:34:52,080 --> 00:34:53,040
Speaker 3: women that relate to that?

778
00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:55,440
Speaker 4: Not really, I mean I like back and forth. I

779
00:34:55,480 --> 00:34:57,839
Speaker 4: don't think that that's something. I think it it would

780
00:34:57,880 --> 00:35:01,600
Speaker 4: be interesting to explore. I followed this and Dominatrix on TikTok,

781
00:35:02,320 --> 00:35:06,279
Speaker 4: like I like the idea of it, but maybe not

782
00:35:06,360 --> 00:35:10,600
Speaker 4: in a personal sense, like like I think how she

783
00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:14,560
Speaker 4: does it, which is a client based service, okay, but

784
00:35:14,760 --> 00:35:17,560
Speaker 4: not in my personal personal relationships. That's not something that

785
00:35:17,600 --> 00:35:21,160
Speaker 4: I need to have happened. But I like I like surrendering.

786
00:35:21,239 --> 00:35:23,440
Speaker 2: I like feeling. I like feeling.

787
00:35:23,880 --> 00:35:26,799
Speaker 3: I like feeling not small and like a physical way,

788
00:35:27,280 --> 00:35:29,319
Speaker 3: but like this person is.

789
00:35:30,040 --> 00:35:33,839
Speaker 2: I like feeling, for lack of a better word, feminine.

790
00:35:34,320 --> 00:35:37,400
Speaker 3: I know it's soft and it's not like we have

791
00:35:37,440 --> 00:35:38,279
Speaker 3: the voices that we.

792
00:35:38,280 --> 00:35:41,120
Speaker 4: Have right, and not that we're not the bitches that

793
00:35:41,200 --> 00:35:42,760
Speaker 4: we are raging.

794
00:35:43,840 --> 00:35:47,319
Speaker 3: I was like, you know, here's the thing I would like.

795
00:35:47,320 --> 00:35:49,120
Speaker 4: To And I think that you know, you and I

796
00:35:49,160 --> 00:35:51,839
Speaker 4: live these lives where we are perceived one way, and

797
00:35:52,200 --> 00:35:56,080
Speaker 4: that's fine, but in a personal relationship or in an

798
00:35:56,120 --> 00:35:57,960
Speaker 4: intimate relationship, I don't want to be that.

799
00:35:58,200 --> 00:35:59,720
Speaker 2: I want to be soft and.

800
00:36:00,160 --> 00:36:05,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, I want to feel dare I say this guys love? Yeah,

801
00:36:05,760 --> 00:36:09,600
Speaker 3: I loved and cared for and like this person would

802
00:36:09,640 --> 00:36:12,319
Speaker 3: do anything for me, but also has enough going on

803
00:36:12,400 --> 00:36:13,120
Speaker 3: for themselves.

804
00:36:13,360 --> 00:36:14,560
Speaker 2: Well, I don't even get that far.

805
00:36:15,080 --> 00:36:18,040
Speaker 4: Like I'm just talking about the moment of intimacy, like

806
00:36:18,120 --> 00:36:20,400
Speaker 4: when you talk about intimate moments. I would like to

807
00:36:20,400 --> 00:36:23,359
Speaker 4: feel cared for and loved and then a little bit

808
00:36:23,400 --> 00:36:26,120
Speaker 4: of like I mean in moments and then the other moments,

809
00:36:26,160 --> 00:36:27,439
Speaker 4: I'd like to feel some dirty shit.

810
00:36:27,520 --> 00:36:29,480
Speaker 3: But yeah, yeah, but I think that can all kind

811
00:36:29,520 --> 00:36:32,520
Speaker 3: of work together. Does But she, on the other hand,

812
00:36:33,120 --> 00:36:35,680
Speaker 3: you know, pretends to be a dog and peas on somebody,

813
00:36:35,719 --> 00:36:39,840
Speaker 3: but her radiation is apparently can't get on the person.

814
00:36:40,160 --> 00:36:41,719
Speaker 3: So there's like, oh is.

815
00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:42,359
Speaker 2: That a real thing?

816
00:36:43,480 --> 00:36:46,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like when I go to get radiation, yeah, I'm

817
00:36:46,000 --> 00:36:47,719
Speaker 3: always like why can't you know? Most of the time

818
00:36:47,719 --> 00:36:49,520
Speaker 3: it's Gen with me. I'm like, why can't Gen come in?

819
00:36:49,560 --> 00:36:51,800
Speaker 3: And she's like, you're radioactive?

820
00:36:52,040 --> 00:36:53,040
Speaker 2: You are radioactive.

821
00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:55,560
Speaker 3: That being said, I haven't damn it, I missed the

822
00:36:55,600 --> 00:36:58,160
Speaker 3: opportunity because now I'm done with radiation. I had didn't

823
00:36:58,160 --> 00:37:01,680
Speaker 3: try to pee on anybody after well.

824
00:37:02,840 --> 00:37:04,040
Speaker 2: Hey, I don't know.

825
00:37:05,360 --> 00:37:07,200
Speaker 3: Can can you come over here and give me a

826
00:37:07,239 --> 00:37:09,600
Speaker 3: quick radiation. I'm gonna be on eric and see what happens.

827
00:37:09,680 --> 00:37:12,360
Speaker 2: Please do not pee on me.

828
00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:15,879
Speaker 4: Now I may have peed on some people, but I'm

829
00:37:15,880 --> 00:37:16,920
Speaker 4: not radioactive.

830
00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:18,600
Speaker 3: Have you ever squirted?

831
00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:19,120
Speaker 1: Yeah?

832
00:37:19,600 --> 00:37:20,439
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah.

833
00:37:20,920 --> 00:37:23,480
Speaker 2: The squirt thing is just another way of happening an organism.

834
00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:26,160
Speaker 2: We can you. Yes, I love that.

835
00:37:26,320 --> 00:37:26,839
Speaker 3: I love it.

836
00:37:26,920 --> 00:37:27,520
Speaker 2: I love it.

837
00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:29,640
Speaker 3: I can do it, but I mean it takes it.

838
00:37:30,200 --> 00:37:30,960
Speaker 2: Okay, let's it.

839
00:37:30,920 --> 00:37:33,719
Speaker 4: Takes a certain time. I was telling someone this the

840
00:37:33,760 --> 00:37:36,920
Speaker 4: other day. I was like, look, this takes a certain

841
00:37:37,040 --> 00:37:41,000
Speaker 4: setup and a certain level of relaxation and then it's

842
00:37:41,080 --> 00:37:43,520
Speaker 4: like the water hose is open.

843
00:37:43,800 --> 00:37:47,799
Speaker 3: Yeah, then, but if you try to do it too quick.

844
00:37:47,840 --> 00:37:48,560
Speaker 2: It does not work.

845
00:37:48,640 --> 00:37:49,239
Speaker 3: It won't work.

846
00:37:49,280 --> 00:37:49,879
Speaker 2: It won't work.

847
00:37:50,000 --> 00:37:50,640
Speaker 3: It's flawed.

848
00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:53,120
Speaker 4: It is flawed, and it has to be a certain

849
00:37:53,560 --> 00:37:54,720
Speaker 4: it's a certain angle.

850
00:37:55,360 --> 00:37:59,000
Speaker 3: So if you're listening and you think that you can't squirt,

851
00:37:59,160 --> 00:38:02,000
Speaker 3: you can't because the way I did. For the first time,

852
00:38:02,040 --> 00:38:04,799
Speaker 3: I actually made a bet and said I know I can't. Oh,

853
00:38:05,880 --> 00:38:07,800
Speaker 3: I know I can't, And then all of a sudden,

854
00:38:08,040 --> 00:38:10,759
Speaker 3: seven minutes later, I was like, that must be what

855
00:38:10,840 --> 00:38:11,200
Speaker 3: that is.

856
00:38:11,280 --> 00:38:13,279
Speaker 4: So I bought a book many years ago because I

857
00:38:13,320 --> 00:38:16,719
Speaker 4: was fascinated by this. So like fifteen years ago, I

858
00:38:16,760 --> 00:38:20,319
Speaker 4: bought this book from this please call cocoad demur it's

859
00:38:20,320 --> 00:38:21,120
Speaker 4: not open anymore.

860
00:38:21,280 --> 00:38:23,160
Speaker 3: And I used to buy your Screwed if you want

861
00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:23,760
Speaker 3: any sections.

862
00:38:23,800 --> 00:38:25,360
Speaker 2: So I used to buy all of this erotica.

863
00:38:25,360 --> 00:38:28,200
Speaker 4: And I actually want to write some erotica because I

864
00:38:28,200 --> 00:38:30,319
Speaker 4: think it'd be fun for me. And I have a

865
00:38:30,320 --> 00:38:31,120
Speaker 4: wild imagination.

866
00:38:31,280 --> 00:38:32,600
Speaker 3: Would you use a stage name?

867
00:38:33,080 --> 00:38:34,560
Speaker 2: Oh, I just write it as Erica Jane.

868
00:38:34,560 --> 00:38:36,400
Speaker 3: Why know, let's do this. I want I want to

869
00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:38,400
Speaker 3: do I want you to do it. Okay, so I

870
00:38:38,440 --> 00:38:41,799
Speaker 3: can read it. I just recently learned something, so.

871
00:38:41,880 --> 00:38:43,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I think I should do it.

872
00:38:44,360 --> 00:38:48,279
Speaker 4: And I bought this book about scorting, and I read

873
00:38:48,320 --> 00:38:49,400
Speaker 4: through it and read through it and read through it

874
00:38:49,600 --> 00:38:51,360
Speaker 4: like all the biology and how you do this and

875
00:38:51,360 --> 00:38:53,399
Speaker 4: stuff and stuff, and so at first I did it

876
00:38:53,600 --> 00:38:55,680
Speaker 4: by myself, like I made myself do it.

877
00:38:55,719 --> 00:38:57,160
Speaker 3: You can make yourself do it.

878
00:38:57,320 --> 00:38:59,799
Speaker 2: I had learned how to do Did you have nails on? No?

879
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:02,600
Speaker 4: I did not, no, not no no no, But I

880
00:39:02,719 --> 00:39:04,440
Speaker 4: learned how to make myself do it.

881
00:39:04,520 --> 00:39:07,600
Speaker 2: And then years later I did it with a partner.

882
00:39:07,680 --> 00:39:09,920
Speaker 3: Did you teach. Did you have to teach the partner now?

883
00:39:10,040 --> 00:39:13,000
Speaker 2: The partner taught me a lot I already had.

884
00:39:13,040 --> 00:39:15,000
Speaker 4: I said, look, I can do this by myself, but

885
00:39:15,040 --> 00:39:16,560
Speaker 4: I've never done it with a partner.

886
00:39:16,600 --> 00:39:20,239
Speaker 2: The partner taught me and then and.

887
00:39:20,280 --> 00:39:21,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's pretty great, guys.

888
00:39:22,000 --> 00:39:24,880
Speaker 2: It's worth but it is it is, it is worth it.

889
00:39:24,960 --> 00:39:26,719
Speaker 2: I mean it is a different type of release. It

890
00:39:26,800 --> 00:39:27,759
Speaker 2: really is like.

891
00:39:27,760 --> 00:39:29,920
Speaker 3: You feel very relaxed afterwards.

892
00:39:30,520 --> 00:39:32,880
Speaker 4: And I always knew I could do it because I

893
00:39:32,880 --> 00:39:35,400
Speaker 4: always had to pee after I had an orgasm.

894
00:39:35,160 --> 00:39:37,840
Speaker 3: Me too, well, which you're actually supposed to, that's exactly,

895
00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:40,000
Speaker 3: but I have to pee even if there's I've been,

896
00:39:40,040 --> 00:39:43,320
Speaker 3: I don't have an orgasm, I immediately have to pee

897
00:39:43,600 --> 00:39:45,080
Speaker 3: before restarting.

898
00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:47,440
Speaker 4: Having I there's a lot of there's a lot to that,

899
00:39:48,000 --> 00:39:50,880
Speaker 4: and I'm shured, like, look, the medical profession thinks that

900
00:39:51,200 --> 00:39:52,680
Speaker 4: you know this is word.

901
00:39:52,920 --> 00:39:55,839
Speaker 3: I think it's pe, but it's not. I I want

902
00:39:55,880 --> 00:39:57,960
Speaker 3: to teach down the rabbit hole. It's clear, it's.

903
00:39:57,840 --> 00:39:59,520
Speaker 2: Clear, and it has no smell, no taste.

904
00:39:59,560 --> 00:40:01,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I didn't taste it.

905
00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:03,839
Speaker 4: I did I did it all I needed to do it.

906
00:40:03,880 --> 00:40:06,160
Speaker 4: I did it all, especially when I was making myself

907
00:40:06,200 --> 00:40:08,200
Speaker 4: do it. At first I needed to know exactly what

908
00:40:08,239 --> 00:40:12,560
Speaker 4: was happening. And then I had this partner who really

909
00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:15,200
Speaker 4: we did it together, and now I.

910
00:40:15,160 --> 00:40:16,360
Speaker 3: Can leaned into.

911
00:40:16,120 --> 00:40:18,120
Speaker 2: It, really leaned into it, and it was great.

912
00:40:18,400 --> 00:40:21,680
Speaker 3: Yeah. So guys experiment trying to think make you don't

913
00:40:21,680 --> 00:40:24,960
Speaker 3: just wait till you're you know the stories about you

914
00:40:25,160 --> 00:40:28,000
Speaker 3: on FX, you're dying for sex. You're having to try

915
00:40:28,040 --> 00:40:30,200
Speaker 3: things for the first time in a panicked way.

916
00:40:30,520 --> 00:40:33,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like maybe I'm just going to say something this Really,

917
00:40:33,560 --> 00:40:34,759
Speaker 4: when I was watching this, I was like, my.

918
00:40:34,719 --> 00:40:37,080
Speaker 3: God, this is tinny, Like you don't want to be

919
00:40:37,960 --> 00:40:40,680
Speaker 3: in that situation. And I think so many of us

920
00:40:40,719 --> 00:40:43,640
Speaker 3: are so scared to open up or talk about what

921
00:40:43,680 --> 00:40:45,600
Speaker 3: we want or need or what feels good or what

922
00:40:45,680 --> 00:40:47,799
Speaker 3: doesn't that you end up missing your whole life. And

923
00:40:47,840 --> 00:40:50,080
Speaker 3: that goes for everything in life.

924
00:40:49,840 --> 00:40:52,160
Speaker 2: No matter what you're doing, yeah, or what you're facing.

925
00:40:52,480 --> 00:40:54,520
Speaker 3: Like, there's things in my life that I'm like, shit,

926
00:40:54,640 --> 00:40:55,360
Speaker 3: I never did that?

927
00:40:55,640 --> 00:40:57,920
Speaker 2: What just like like what.

928
00:40:57,920 --> 00:40:59,040
Speaker 3: Annoying dumb shit?

929
00:40:59,160 --> 00:40:59,920
Speaker 2: Like should we do it now?

930
00:41:00,440 --> 00:41:02,200
Speaker 3: I mean it's not great, it's to clean out my

931
00:41:02,920 --> 00:41:04,400
Speaker 3: drawers in the cabinet.

932
00:41:04,880 --> 00:41:06,800
Speaker 2: You might though you're gonna say something cool. Now, like

933
00:41:06,920 --> 00:41:07,760
Speaker 2: got to to bet.

934
00:41:08,320 --> 00:41:10,160
Speaker 3: Let's let's go out of town somewhere.

935
00:41:10,200 --> 00:41:11,040
Speaker 2: I'll go with you.

936
00:41:11,160 --> 00:41:13,480
Speaker 3: But I can't wear heels, so what.

937
00:41:13,760 --> 00:41:15,680
Speaker 2: It would be a break not to wear heels?

938
00:41:15,760 --> 00:41:18,640
Speaker 3: Okay, great? If we can commit to going somewhere and not.

939
00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:22,160
Speaker 4: Somewhere like on an adventure where like we really but

940
00:41:22,239 --> 00:41:24,680
Speaker 4: I don't want to have to be itchy itchy?

941
00:41:25,160 --> 00:41:27,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, like I don't want to have to deal with bugs.

942
00:41:27,239 --> 00:41:29,439
Speaker 2: I don't want I don't want to do that either. Okay, great,

943
00:41:29,560 --> 00:41:30,640
Speaker 2: are you allowed to travel?

944
00:41:30,640 --> 00:41:30,719
Speaker 3: Like?

945
00:41:30,719 --> 00:41:33,440
Speaker 2: What are your limitations? I'm not allowed to do anything.

946
00:41:33,520 --> 00:41:36,040
Speaker 3: I'm allowed to do anything. I thought I wasn't allowed

947
00:41:36,080 --> 00:41:39,160
Speaker 3: to do anything, and things got a little dark around here. Sure,

948
00:41:39,440 --> 00:41:41,879
Speaker 3: and then I just now every time I have a question.

949
00:41:41,920 --> 00:41:43,879
Speaker 3: I sent him a text and immediately he writes back.

950
00:41:43,960 --> 00:41:45,839
Speaker 3: I'm like, he's like, I cursed the day I gave

951
00:41:45,880 --> 00:41:47,440
Speaker 3: that woman my No, he doesn't.

952
00:41:47,440 --> 00:41:49,279
Speaker 4: He did much rather hear from you and have you

953
00:41:49,800 --> 00:41:51,839
Speaker 4: happy and doing being But.

954
00:41:51,800 --> 00:41:53,960
Speaker 3: Then he's like hilarious. Then he asked questions what's the

955
00:41:54,000 --> 00:41:55,480
Speaker 3: tattoo going to be? And I'm like, I am not

956
00:41:55,560 --> 00:41:57,719
Speaker 3: riding back at I.

957
00:41:57,719 --> 00:41:58,760
Speaker 2: Want to ask you a question.

958
00:41:58,920 --> 00:42:02,760
Speaker 4: Is there anything that we your friends, can do better

959
00:42:02,840 --> 00:42:04,719
Speaker 4: to support you like.

960
00:42:04,880 --> 00:42:06,200
Speaker 3: Now and with cancer.

961
00:42:06,400 --> 00:42:09,719
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, because I'll be honest with you, people

962
00:42:09,800 --> 00:42:16,319
Speaker 4: are listening, and oftentimes we as friends don't know the

963
00:42:16,320 --> 00:42:20,120
Speaker 4: best way to support someone like you, and we make

964
00:42:20,160 --> 00:42:22,480
Speaker 4: it about ourselves, or we start to cry, or we

965
00:42:22,520 --> 00:42:26,719
Speaker 4: get upset, and I'm wondering, what can you tell me

966
00:42:26,760 --> 00:42:28,920
Speaker 4: as your friend or maybe others that are listening to

967
00:42:29,000 --> 00:42:30,959
Speaker 4: help people that are that are where you are.

968
00:42:31,320 --> 00:42:33,279
Speaker 3: I think if you truly have a question you want

969
00:42:33,280 --> 00:42:36,160
Speaker 3: to help, you have to listen to what the person says,

970
00:42:36,160 --> 00:42:39,440
Speaker 3: like which you do. So one of the biggest things

971
00:42:39,719 --> 00:42:43,120
Speaker 3: that I've struggled with since and which I'm struggling with

972
00:42:43,160 --> 00:42:45,120
Speaker 3: these lights right now, is.

973
00:42:45,040 --> 00:42:48,040
Speaker 2: It hurting you not terribly but not your eyeballs.

974
00:42:48,120 --> 00:42:53,040
Speaker 3: But my eyeballs get really sore, so I'm not. I

975
00:42:53,080 --> 00:42:55,480
Speaker 3: don't love to text, like texting used to be my

976
00:42:55,640 --> 00:42:57,920
Speaker 3: thing now I know now we send audio. Yeah, So

977
00:42:58,000 --> 00:43:01,759
Speaker 3: I told Erica and actually they were like, what's the

978
00:43:01,800 --> 00:43:04,800
Speaker 3: best way to communicate? And I said, please just voice

979
00:43:04,840 --> 00:43:08,399
Speaker 3: text me. I can't read. It's I mean, I can read,

980
00:43:08,480 --> 00:43:10,040
Speaker 3: it's just a pain. And then I don't want to

981
00:43:10,040 --> 00:43:12,480
Speaker 3: do it, so just listening to that and sending voice

982
00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:14,919
Speaker 3: like my sister sent her first voice note of all time,

983
00:43:15,000 --> 00:43:20,560
Speaker 3: and she's like, hey, period, it's justice, period. Just want

984
00:43:22,440 --> 00:43:24,359
Speaker 3: the amount of time. I made fun of her after

985
00:43:24,560 --> 00:43:27,200
Speaker 3: like that gave me so much joy. I said, you

986
00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:34,040
Speaker 3: said a fucking comma on the voice Noteirl, like, don't

987
00:43:34,160 --> 00:43:34,640
Speaker 3: you don't.

988
00:43:34,480 --> 00:43:36,600
Speaker 2: Need to put a comma a recording.

989
00:43:36,880 --> 00:43:40,279
Speaker 3: It's your recording of your voice. And now now it's

990
00:43:40,320 --> 00:43:42,040
Speaker 3: her new favorite thing. Now I'm like, I'm about to

991
00:43:42,080 --> 00:43:43,759
Speaker 3: take this feature away from you.

992
00:43:43,760 --> 00:43:44,880
Speaker 2: Because now she's just voicing.

993
00:43:45,480 --> 00:43:47,640
Speaker 3: Now it could be anything. It could be twenty seven

994
00:43:47,680 --> 00:43:48,239
Speaker 3: minutes long.

995
00:43:48,440 --> 00:43:52,239
Speaker 4: Welldres remember went on for two minutes. I was like, girl,

996
00:43:52,320 --> 00:43:54,959
Speaker 4: we're just trying to I love you, but you know.

997
00:43:55,040 --> 00:43:58,719
Speaker 3: If we have to halt, press pod twice yes, and

998
00:43:58,760 --> 00:44:01,960
Speaker 3: then again to through your voice note. I'm not listening

999
00:44:02,040 --> 00:44:02,640
Speaker 3: to the whole thing.

1000
00:44:03,320 --> 00:44:06,200
Speaker 4: It's a lot, I think. But so voice notes are

1001
00:44:06,200 --> 00:44:08,359
Speaker 4: good under a minute, under a minute, So.

1002
00:44:08,320 --> 00:44:11,000
Speaker 3: What voice notes are good under a minute? Something that

1003
00:44:11,080 --> 00:44:13,120
Speaker 3: has been really helpful and people are gonna be like,

1004
00:44:13,120 --> 00:44:17,040
Speaker 3: oh wow, you have money. It's so stupid. But people

1005
00:44:17,160 --> 00:44:20,640
Speaker 3: kept asking Jen what should we do for Teddy? And

1006
00:44:20,719 --> 00:44:22,279
Speaker 3: she was like listen. You know, she has a lot

1007
00:44:22,280 --> 00:44:25,719
Speaker 3: of kids. She's used to preparing dinner every night for everybody. Right,

1008
00:44:26,480 --> 00:44:28,439
Speaker 3: so there's like a it's called the food train.

1009
00:44:28,880 --> 00:44:29,479
Speaker 2: What is that?

1010
00:44:29,719 --> 00:44:32,359
Speaker 3: And you sign up for a night and you have

1011
00:44:32,640 --> 00:44:35,920
Speaker 3: dinner delivered to the family at five o'clock.

1012
00:44:36,120 --> 00:44:37,040
Speaker 2: Oh, that's nice.

1013
00:44:37,040 --> 00:44:38,600
Speaker 4: So the cool thing for I thought she were going

1014
00:44:38,680 --> 00:44:40,279
Speaker 4: to say, somebody came and cook. I was like, girl,

1015
00:44:40,360 --> 00:44:43,560
Speaker 4: don't ask me. These kids will be starting No, that's.

1016
00:44:43,080 --> 00:44:46,319
Speaker 3: Super expensive, but no, And so it's the cool thing

1017
00:44:46,360 --> 00:44:48,840
Speaker 3: for me is like I'm such a creature of habit.

1018
00:44:48,920 --> 00:44:52,000
Speaker 3: I normally would eat the same thing every day, like

1019
00:44:52,360 --> 00:44:55,359
Speaker 3: rotate between four options for the kids. This way, it's

1020
00:44:55,360 --> 00:44:57,960
Speaker 3: a different person sending you food. And you know, I

1021
00:44:57,960 --> 00:45:00,000
Speaker 3: don't do weekends so we can go out and stuff

1022
00:45:00,160 --> 00:45:03,440
Speaker 3: like that. But it's been really nice, like I can

1023
00:45:03,560 --> 00:45:08,719
Speaker 3: expect it. It comes, it utilizes the entire family, and.

1024
00:45:08,719 --> 00:45:11,160
Speaker 2: I guess it really like frees you up to do.

1025
00:45:12,080 --> 00:45:14,319
Speaker 3: That's what I'm really It was like making me feel

1026
00:45:14,400 --> 00:45:17,320
Speaker 3: guilty because at four o'clock's like when I get really

1027
00:45:17,360 --> 00:45:21,960
Speaker 3: tired and I'm like, oh no, I at gymnastics and

1028
00:45:21,960 --> 00:45:24,200
Speaker 3: then I gotta get blah blah, blah, and then I

1029
00:45:24,200 --> 00:45:27,160
Speaker 3: gotta get food. But now I come home from whatever

1030
00:45:27,200 --> 00:45:31,839
Speaker 3: afternoon event, the kids have or ready dinners sitting there, and.

1031
00:45:31,800 --> 00:45:33,919
Speaker 2: I'm like, I need to sign up for you.

1032
00:45:35,320 --> 00:45:38,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's been really nice. The food train, the.

1033
00:45:38,200 --> 00:45:41,720
Speaker 2: Food train, and I think not making it about us.

1034
00:45:41,560 --> 00:45:43,840
Speaker 3: Not making it about us and the food train and

1035
00:45:43,880 --> 00:45:45,799
Speaker 3: telling people what you actually want.

1036
00:45:46,080 --> 00:45:47,600
Speaker 2: There's no better time than the present.

1037
00:45:48,160 --> 00:45:51,040
Speaker 3: But guys, for next week, because now you know, I

1038
00:45:51,080 --> 00:45:53,600
Speaker 3: think that I'm coming back together a little bit more.

1039
00:45:54,080 --> 00:45:57,080
Speaker 3: We want to hear what you want me and Erica

1040
00:45:57,120 --> 00:46:00,279
Speaker 3: to speak about what topics, what things? Yeah, yes, we

1041
00:46:00,480 --> 00:46:02,200
Speaker 3: of course we can talk about sex.

1042
00:46:01,960 --> 00:46:04,600
Speaker 4: Forever, but that's kind of boring too, Like we wanted

1043
00:46:04,640 --> 00:46:10,640
Speaker 4: a lot today and okay, whatever, we're freaks, but freaks.

1044
00:46:10,920 --> 00:46:12,880
Speaker 3: Hold on, I have a new business venture.

1045
00:46:12,880 --> 00:46:14,319
Speaker 2: First, Oh my god, what is it?

1046
00:46:14,800 --> 00:46:26,080
Speaker 5: Creamer jets Jets a little two portable jets.

1047
00:46:26,600 --> 00:46:29,319
Speaker 2: You know what I think it said? The medicine is

1048
00:46:29,320 --> 00:46:30,000
Speaker 2: getting to your.

1049
00:46:30,239 --> 00:46:33,440
Speaker 3: No, what listen, A portable jet could look like a

1050
00:46:33,480 --> 00:46:34,960
Speaker 3: little foot massage.

1051
00:46:37,520 --> 00:46:40,040
Speaker 2: It has to have a water source.

1052
00:46:39,920 --> 00:46:44,120
Speaker 3: Right, the foot massage where you put your feet in air.

1053
00:46:46,040 --> 00:46:49,279
Speaker 3: Now you're getting you know what you're getting? It they're

1054
00:46:49,280 --> 00:46:50,000
Speaker 3: seeing it back there.

1055
00:46:50,640 --> 00:46:52,280
Speaker 2: Ever done the jets on the jacuzzi?

1056
00:46:53,400 --> 00:46:55,480
Speaker 3: See everyone?

1057
00:46:56,000 --> 00:47:00,600
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, Oh does it get that to go?

1058
00:47:01,280 --> 00:47:01,520
Speaker 3: Ah?

1059
00:47:03,040 --> 00:47:08,239
Speaker 4: I'm gonna try that way, Okay, I have where to

1060
00:47:08,239 --> 00:47:08,960
Speaker 4: get filled up.

1061
00:47:10,239 --> 00:47:13,760
Speaker 3: So guys, send us a message if you have tried

1062
00:47:13,800 --> 00:47:19,399
Speaker 3: out the jacuzzi for more ways than a sore back.

1063
00:47:22,000 --> 00:47:25,120
Speaker 2: I have a sore back after it, you know what.

1064
00:47:25,280 --> 00:47:27,120
Speaker 2: I have the jacuzzie at home and I don't get in.

1065
00:47:27,239 --> 00:47:28,600
Speaker 2: Let me get that going.

1066
00:47:29,560 --> 00:47:32,120
Speaker 3: That might be the time that I come over to visit. Hey, guys,

1067
00:47:32,160 --> 00:47:34,400
Speaker 3: we're thirty minutes late for the pod. Don't worry about it.

1068
00:47:34,480 --> 00:47:35,480
Speaker 3: We'll see you when we see you.

1069
00:47:35,680 --> 00:47:38,920
Speaker 4: Oh my god, you know you have to laugh at

1070
00:47:38,960 --> 00:47:41,160
Speaker 4: this shit because you have to.

1071
00:47:41,640 --> 00:47:45,319
Speaker 3: Oh guys, I didn't mean to make that noise, But

1072
00:47:45,880 --> 00:47:49,520
Speaker 3: Cruz and I were very excited to see Erica on

1073
00:47:49,560 --> 00:47:53,280
Speaker 3: the mask singer. How good was she? Those were hard songs.

1074
00:47:52,920 --> 00:47:53,880
Speaker 2: They were hard songs.

1075
00:47:53,960 --> 00:47:57,120
Speaker 4: The costume was a lot. The costume weighed eight pounds,

1076
00:47:57,160 --> 00:48:00,120
Speaker 4: of the head weighed about eight pounds and so, and

1077
00:48:00,719 --> 00:48:04,160
Speaker 4: you can see very little. So it was wonderful. And

1078
00:48:04,160 --> 00:48:07,080
Speaker 4: I'll show you some bts. Yeah, I had a great time,

1079
00:48:08,160 --> 00:48:09,480
Speaker 4: thank you. I had the best time.

1080
00:48:09,719 --> 00:48:12,080
Speaker 3: Did you have any idea who anyone else was? No.

1081
00:48:13,080 --> 00:48:16,640
Speaker 4: I am telling you this show to everyone, the production,

1082
00:48:16,719 --> 00:48:20,480
Speaker 4: to costume, to dancers, to core, everybody at mass singer.

1083
00:48:20,520 --> 00:48:23,840
Speaker 4: I just want to say, this is the most fun show.

1084
00:48:24,080 --> 00:48:25,760
Speaker 4: And Method Man.

1085
00:48:25,640 --> 00:48:27,879
Speaker 2: Was my neighbor and I had no idea, and I'm

1086
00:48:27,920 --> 00:48:28,400
Speaker 2: a fan.

1087
00:48:28,719 --> 00:48:31,839
Speaker 3: I love Method Man. I'm at Dan and I we

1088
00:48:31,880 --> 00:48:34,560
Speaker 3: had you walked around like this, you never saw anybody.

1089
00:48:34,640 --> 00:48:38,520
Speaker 4: You walk around with gloves, a hoodie advisor and you

1090
00:48:38,560 --> 00:48:41,440
Speaker 4: do not speak, and you have a handler and they.

1091
00:48:41,280 --> 00:48:44,120
Speaker 2: Take you everywhere and you are separating.

1092
00:48:45,239 --> 00:48:48,600
Speaker 4: Uh not really, there's suggested to you, and then you

1093
00:48:48,640 --> 00:48:50,880
Speaker 4: go with I think what best fits your vocal or

1094
00:48:50,920 --> 00:48:53,759
Speaker 4: the there's nights, you know, so there's like Grand Old

1095
00:48:53,760 --> 00:48:56,440
Speaker 4: Opry night, or there was the Ghostbuster night, or there's

1096
00:48:56,640 --> 00:48:58,560
Speaker 4: you know whatever night, and like boy band night.

1097
00:48:58,680 --> 00:49:00,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, so you have a songs that you.

1098
00:49:00,640 --> 00:49:03,879
Speaker 3: Choose from that are obviously boy bands and then you well,

1099
00:49:03,960 --> 00:49:06,840
Speaker 3: Cruise guessed you night one. But unfortunately he called you

1100
00:49:07,040 --> 00:49:07,920
Speaker 3: Erica James.

1101
00:49:08,280 --> 00:49:11,360
Speaker 4: That's fine, Erica James is good too, Jenna James, listen,

1102
00:49:11,640 --> 00:49:12,360
Speaker 4: Erica James.

1103
00:49:12,360 --> 00:49:15,360
Speaker 2: Whatever he goes, that's your friend, mom, whatever.

1104
00:49:15,120 --> 00:49:17,600
Speaker 3: And I was like who And he's like the one

1105
00:49:17,600 --> 00:49:20,040
Speaker 3: I thought was you the one day Erica James.

1106
00:49:19,840 --> 00:49:21,239
Speaker 2: I love that. I love that.

1107
00:49:21,320 --> 00:49:25,359
Speaker 4: Go cruise, Go cruise like it's Jane. It doesn't matter,

1108
00:49:25,960 --> 00:49:28,480
Speaker 4: call me whatever the hell you want, whatever, But.

1109
00:49:28,800 --> 00:49:30,640
Speaker 3: I was really proud of you and I loved watching him.

1110
00:49:30,680 --> 00:49:32,799
Speaker 2: Thank you. It was a great time. I had the

1111
00:49:32,880 --> 00:49:33,399
Speaker 2: best time.

1112
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Speaker 3: Thanks guys, thank you.