Speaker 1: It's time to Catch a Cheater.
Speaker 2: Only on the Jubile Show, Holly is on the phone
Speaker 2: today for to Catch a Cheater and she thinks that
Speaker 2: her husband of four years, Alan might be starting to
Speaker 2: see somebody else. Holly, thank you for coming on the show.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry that you're dealing with this. What's going on
Speaker 2: with Alan.
Speaker 1: We've been married for four years, but we were together
Speaker 1: probably three and a half years before that, so almost
Speaker 1: eight years we've been together.
Speaker 3: He's just been really distant all of a sudden, for
Speaker 3: like the past five to six months. I don't know
Speaker 3: what's one line I've asked him. He's just like, everything's
Speaker 3: fine or it's not you. I'm just going through some things.
Speaker 3: So I was like, okay, well, if you're going through
Speaker 3: some things, do you want to be in therapy or
Speaker 3: anything like that?
Speaker 1: And he was like sure.
Speaker 3: So he started therapy, which I commend him for and
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, I'm I'm happy that you're doing that.
Speaker 1: But he's still like distant, and even after therapy that
Speaker 1: felt like it got kind of worse. He spends his.
Speaker 3: Time on Twitch and on his phone, and we even
Speaker 3: used to once a week, like we would take our
Speaker 3: lunch breaks together from work and have lunch together, and
Speaker 3: that stopped like two months ago, Like, we don't even
Speaker 3: do that anymore. Huh.
Speaker 1: I don't know what to do. So I'm suspecting there's
Speaker 1: another person.
Speaker 4: Is there anything that is pointing to another person outside?
Speaker 4: I mean the distance is definitely a big flag for sure,
Speaker 4: But have there been any signs of another person?
Speaker 1: Well, he's always on.
Speaker 3: His phone, right, like I said, and we don't do
Speaker 3: our once of moss lunch breaks together anymore.
Speaker 2: So did he give you a reason for stopping those?
Speaker 3: Well, he just said he's swamped at work, and everybody
Speaker 3: knows that a cliche.
Speaker 2: Come on, really, I mean it could be.
Speaker 5: I mean I have you tried to just show up
Speaker 5: at his work with lunch and be like, hey, you
Speaker 5: couldn't do that?
Speaker 4: I do that?
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, surprise.
Speaker 1: I mean, for lack of a better to, I do
Speaker 1: not have to do.
Speaker 2: That, Okay, okay, fair. Does he interact with his friends
Speaker 2: the same way that he was before?
Speaker 1: No? Really, So that's kind of weird too. And I'm like,
Speaker 1: who is getting all of this attention from him?
Speaker 3: You know, because it's not me, it's not his friends,
Speaker 3: it is his phone. So I'm not going to go
Speaker 3: through his phone like I tried to once we got
Speaker 3: a big argument, didn't work out, so I stay away
Speaker 3: from going through his phone.
Speaker 1: I just don't know.
Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, so everyone's supposed to help, but it
Speaker 3: got worse.
Speaker 1: So now that i'd be like, stop going to therapy,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna look crazy.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: What if he's like having an affair with a therapist.
Speaker 2: Oh, that would have been a plotwaste. Yeah, then I
Speaker 2: would say ask him to stop going to that therapist.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and then go to a therapist that can talk
Speaker 4: about ethics and yeah, teach you how to get over divorce.
Speaker 4: And not getting a full blown, like one hundred percent
Speaker 4: cheating vibe from this though, I'm getting more of a
Speaker 4: like something's going on with him and he's just isolating
Speaker 4: himself from the world's kind of a thing, which is
Speaker 4: tough because when a guy gets to that space, it's
Speaker 4: hard to break through.
Speaker 5: But if he's not acting like if he's acting weird
Speaker 5: with his friends, also, that's what I mean, he's an
Speaker 5: isolation phase.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 3: I just feel like it's got to be something, like
Speaker 3: he's never done a drug in his life.
Speaker 1: So it's not drugs.
Speaker 2: Well that's good, yeah, all right, Well we'll try to
Speaker 2: figure it out for you. We'll play a song. You
Speaker 2: already told us what a grocery store he's a Rewards
Speaker 2: card member at. So we'll do the usual and call up,
Speaker 2: pretend to be from the grocery store and say that
Speaker 2: he's this month's lucky winner of thirty six longstim red
Speaker 2: roses delivered to anybody that he wants to, and we'll
Speaker 2: see if he sends us to you or to somebody else. Okay, okay,
Speaker 2: all right, to play a song. Come back and get
Speaker 2: your To Catch a Teater next if you're just joining
Speaker 2: us for today's To Catch a Teeter. Holly is on
Speaker 2: the phone and she thinks that her husband of four
Speaker 2: years might be messing around. We're about to call him
Speaker 2: and pretend to be from the grocery store that he
Speaker 2: is a RWARS card member at, and say that every
Speaker 2: single month, we randomly choose one RARS card member who
Speaker 2: gets free flower delivery from our Florida department, and we'll
Speaker 2: see v sends those flowers to Holly or to somebody else. Hally,
Speaker 2: before we do that, why don't you refresh everybody's memory
Speaker 2: on what's going on with Alan.
Speaker 3: Alan and I have been together total was almost eight years,
Speaker 3: four of them married.
Speaker 1: She's guys really distant.
Speaker 3: He spends most of his time playing Twitch or on
Speaker 3: his phone. He stopped our monthly lunch date that we
Speaker 3: do together from work. He did start therapy, but it
Speaker 3: only got worse after therapy.
Speaker 1: And I don't want to go through phone and I'm
Speaker 1: not a.
Speaker 3: Cap of pop up at works.
Speaker 2: You ready for us to call him? Yeah, okay, here
Speaker 2: we go. Hi, this is Jorable calling from I was
Speaker 2: looking for our rewards card member named Alan.
Speaker 6: Uh yeah, this is Alan.
Speaker 2: Hi, Alan, Please don't hang up. This is not a
Speaker 2: marketing phone call. I'm calling to give you some exciting news.
Speaker 2: You're this month's big winner. Thank you very much for
Speaker 2: shopping with us. Yeah, the clouding. We're here in the
Speaker 2: office and everything. Hey, every single month, we choose one
Speaker 2: rewards card member totally random, who gets free flowers delivered
Speaker 2: from our floral department. So it's thirty six longstim red roses,
Speaker 2: a box of candy or chocolates or whatever, and a
Speaker 2: car that sent to anybody that you want.
Speaker 6: Oh, hey, that's pretty cool.
Speaker 2: You said free, right, absolutely, Frank pocket nothing out of
Speaker 2: pocket will give you a confirmations and everything, so you
Speaker 2: know that it's free. It's just our little way of
Speaker 2: saying thank you very much for shopping with us.
Speaker 6: Oh well all right, I mean I guess I could
Speaker 6: use that for sure.
Speaker 2: Great. If you know the person that you want to
Speaker 2: send the flowers to right now, I can do it
Speaker 2: quickly over the phone in just a matter of minutes.
Speaker 6: But yeah, I can give it to you on the
Speaker 6: phone now, so it's easy.
Speaker 2: The first thing that I will need would be the
Speaker 2: first and the last name of the person that you
Speaker 2: would like to send the flowers to.
Speaker 6: Okay, why don't you make the card out the judy
Speaker 6: it's j.
Speaker 2: U d Y okay, and you have the last name
Speaker 2: on on judy.
Speaker 6: Yeah, what's the name as my last name?
Speaker 2: So was your last name?
Speaker 3: Is?
Speaker 2: What was that your wife?
Speaker 6: Uh? No not Actually I'm going to put this in
Speaker 6: the card. But if you could write I love you mom,
Speaker 6: it's going to be okay.
Speaker 2: Oh that okay, yes, I can do that. Were you
Speaker 2: And at this point I'll just let you know that
Speaker 2: I'm not from the grocery store at all. Wait what, Yeah,
Speaker 2: this is actually Jewbel from the Jewel Show. That's a
Speaker 2: radio show.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm Nina on.
Speaker 2: The radio show too. Hi, and I'm Victoria. Yeah, and wait.
Speaker 6: What's going on?
Speaker 2: Your wife, Holly is actually on the phone with us.
Speaker 6: Holly, Are you kidding me?
Speaker 2: Nope, Holly. Do you want to explain what this is?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: I kind of. I feel stupid now, but I kinda
Speaker 1: ask them.
Speaker 7: To do this because you've been getting like, really really
Speaker 7: distant and you haven't been telling me what's been going on,
Speaker 7: and I've been asking.
Speaker 3: You about it and spend most of your time on
Speaker 3: your phone, and you've been canceling Island State.
Speaker 2: The segue is called to catch a cheeter Allan, so
Speaker 2: if somebody thinks their significant other might be cheating, then
Speaker 2: they will email us to call them and see I
Speaker 2: see who they send flowers too.
Speaker 6: Oh no, okay, I've see now. Well, I gotta tell you, babe,
Speaker 6: I'm not I'm not cheating on you. I'm so sorry
Speaker 6: that you even thought that. And yet I've been distant lately,
Speaker 6: and the truth is that I do have a secret.
Speaker 6: But you know it's it's nothing about you. It's actually
Speaker 6: my mom has been getting sick oh answer.
Speaker 2: Sorry, Oh, we just.
Speaker 6: Kind of figured this out. And you know, my siblings,
Speaker 6: they're not going to be helping me, so it's it's
Speaker 6: like pretty much my responsibility here.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 3: I mean, your mom had Why why wouldn't you tell
Speaker 3: me something like that.
Speaker 6: I don't want to put the burden on you. I mean,
Speaker 6: you know me, I'm the kind of person who just
Speaker 6: kind of deals with whatever is in front of them,
Speaker 6: and I.
Speaker 2: Should have told you.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: And also Alan, just a quick note, I get what
Speaker 2: he's saying with that person that deals with stuff in
Speaker 2: front of him. Everybody needs somebody to lean on, especially
Speaker 2: if you have a wife. Sounds like you have a
Speaker 2: supportive partner.
Speaker 4: It sounds like it's been going on for a long time,
Speaker 4: and you probably you know, you shouldn't have to bear
Speaker 4: this by yourself.
Speaker 2: I have six months and if you if your partner
Speaker 2: cares about you, it's not burdening them with anything. They
Speaker 2: want to be there for you, Allie. Do you want
Speaker 2: to be there for them?
Speaker 1: Of course I do.
Speaker 7: I'm even embarrassed that it had to come.
Speaker 3: This far to be on the radio, But like I
Speaker 3: wish I would have known like this is a big deal.
Speaker 6: I'm sorry, you know what, It is my fault that
Speaker 6: you feel this way, and you guys are totally right.
Speaker 6: I mean you should have let her know and and yeah,
Speaker 6: I guess I could use some help myself, so.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know me at all that.
Speaker 3: Okay, Well, do you want to finish having this conversation
Speaker 3: like outside of.
Speaker 6: Actually, baby, you know what I really missed and we
Speaker 6: haven't done it in a while because you know, I've
Speaker 6: been so wrapped up in all this. But you know,
Speaker 6: we haven't had lunch in a while, and I think
Speaker 6: if maybe we go to lunch today that would be
Speaker 6: pretty cool.
Speaker 2: I'm sure up to it, of course.
Speaker 1: Yeah, let's do that.
Speaker 2: Okay. Well, yeah, I mean, you have a lot to
Speaker 2: talk about, and I'm glad that he wasn't cheating me too.
Speaker 3: We too.
Speaker 4: I am sorry to hear about about your mom, Alan,
Speaker 4: and this is going to be a tough time for
Speaker 4: all of you, but thankfully you have each other and
Speaker 4: a lot of love, so you're lucky in that.
Speaker 6: Thank you, and I appreciate you guys for that.
Speaker 5: The Jewel shows to catch a cheater