Speaker 1: Second, if a date doesn't go quite according to plan,
Speaker 1: could be a bad thing, but could be a good
Speaker 1: thing too. Like one time, my plan going into the
Speaker 1: night was to pay the entire dinner bill, but forgot
Speaker 1: my wallet instead had to pivot, dined and dashed, ended
Speaker 1: up getting the whole meal for free. That turned out
Speaker 1: to be a good thing, and you found out your
Speaker 1: date was a really good runner exactly. You know, athletic
Speaker 1: athletic plans turns out to be good. And that was
Speaker 1: the case for one of our listeners, Megan, whose night
Speaker 1: got derailed in a good way and now she's needing
Speaker 1: our help. What's up, Megan? How you doing? Hey? You
Speaker 1: doing all right? A guy? We like people who can
Speaker 1: turn you know, lemons into lemonade, despite Jeffrey's whole situation.
Speaker 1: But yeah, as long as you make some vodka in
Speaker 1: the lead, right, Yeah, So tell us about the guy
Speaker 1: that you want us to call. What's his name? His
Speaker 1: name is Curtis, And where'd you meet him that we
Speaker 1: always needed to know? Well, we met online. Honestly, that's
Speaker 1: the first first date but I've had since I broke
Speaker 1: up with my long time relationship about Oh, we'll love
Speaker 1: our a month ago. Oh okay, this is your rebound,
Speaker 1: you're getting back out there that. Yeah. I was straight
Speaker 1: up with him about this my first first date since
Speaker 1: I've been out there and it's been a long time.
Speaker 1: And so what we did is we made a plan. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: So he was okay with that. He was like, let's
Speaker 1: plan everything out so you're not super nervous. That's a
Speaker 1: good idea. What was the plan? The plan was just
Speaker 1: to kind of go and see. But he turned up
Speaker 1: to be a really really great guy. Go good. So
Speaker 1: what did you guys do? We decided we're gonna go
Speaker 1: to the bar, gonna have a couple of drinks, gonna
Speaker 1: go to a movie, and just kind of hang out.
Speaker 1: So you went to a theater. It wasn't like a
Speaker 1: Netflix and chill situation. Well no, because after we had
Speaker 1: the drinks at the bar, we were like, you know what,
Speaker 1: we just want to continue talking and you can't do
Speaker 1: that at a movie theater. So we just stayed there.
Speaker 1: So canceled the plan to go to the theater, just
Speaker 1: stay and get more drunk at the bar. I like
Speaker 1: that idea. That's a good plan. Beat, it's a better date,
Speaker 1: to be honest, yeah. I mean it must have been
Speaker 1: going pretty well. Oh it's going great. I mean we
Speaker 1: got kind of tipsy, and I came back from the
Speaker 1: restroom and I told him, Carnis, you've got to see
Speaker 1: this picture that they've got in the restroom, oh, the
Speaker 1: ladies room. So he was like, he was like what,
Speaker 1: And I was like, come on, I will watch to
Speaker 1: make sure no one comes in you, but you've got
Speaker 1: to see this thing as hilarious. You know that he
Speaker 1: thinks something else is going to happen in the bathroom
Speaker 1: with you too, right, Maybe he's just like a restroom
Speaker 1: art connoisseur. That's just his big passion. So he said okay,
Speaker 1: like really reluctantly. So he was right. It was a trap.
Speaker 1: I pulled him into the handicap stall and I started
Speaker 1: to make out with him. You are delighted with yourself.
Speaker 1: Look at you. That's fine. It's good for you. I mean,
Speaker 1: you're having fun. I mean was he into that? Oh yeah?
Speaker 1: I mean it only lasted a couple of minutes because
Speaker 1: he was like, look, we're in the ladies or let's
Speaker 1: get out of here. Oh couple minutes, that's my record.
Speaker 1: So I think we had a good time. How the
Speaker 1: day end? I mean, you're you're making out, you go
Speaker 1: back to your table and then what, well, you know,
Speaker 1: we weren't at a table when we were at the bar.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, And I mean the bartender was really nice,
Speaker 1: and I guess I might have been a little flirty
Speaker 1: with him. With the bartender two, you're like, hey, bartender,
Speaker 1: there's a picture in the bathroom that you have to
Speaker 1: I mean I wasn't that flirty? Okay, what type of
Speaker 1: flirty then? I mean just chit chatty and smiling and
Speaker 1: you know, talking Okay, how you talk to bartenders? Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: But you felt like there was something more there. I mean, honestly,
Speaker 1: it could just be that Curtis is like, oh, okay,
Speaker 1: she's just coming back into her own after being out
Speaker 1: of a relationship. You know, good for her. But I
Speaker 1: just am not I'm looking for something more serious. I mean,
Speaker 1: did he ever talk to you about that? You know,
Speaker 1: we never really got into that. We were just kind
Speaker 1: of like, hey, this is going to be a casual,
Speaker 1: fun vibe, and we never really talked about anything serious. Okay,
Speaker 1: that's good, casual fun. It's always good. Yeah. I mean,
Speaker 1: no matter who you're with, I mean maybe you gave
Speaker 1: off that vibe where that's all you were looking for
Speaker 1: that night was just like a casual, fun night and
Speaker 1: didn't want to see him again. Yeah, and that's kind
Speaker 1: of how I went into the night. But you know,
Speaker 1: after talking with him and after the little makeout session,
Speaker 1: he is so he hasn't texted or called or anything.
Speaker 1: Have you reached out to him? No, I mean I've
Speaker 1: reached out to him several times, but he hasn't chexted
Speaker 1: back or anything. And I just don't know if I
Speaker 1: moved too fast or thanks. Maybe it was a flirting
Speaker 1: with the bartender. I don't know. Yeah, I mean it
Speaker 1: could be that, it could be something else. It could
Speaker 1: be that Curtis was with the bartender that night too.
Speaker 1: You moved in on his man. Oh, I really don't
Speaker 1: think so. Well, He's like, look, she's a liar. There's
Speaker 1: no art in their own. Let's not close the door
Speaker 1: to any possibilities. We're gonna play a song, we'll come back,
Speaker 1: we'll call Curtis, and we'll find out why he's not
Speaker 1: calling you anymore when we do your second date update.
Speaker 1: All right, okay, all right, hold on. It's another classic
Speaker 1: modern dating tale of girl meets boy. Girl lies to
Speaker 1: boy about a picture in the woman's bathroom, Girl makes
Speaker 1: out with boy in the handicapped stall. Suddenly girl not
Speaker 1: getting a call back from boy. We've seen it a
Speaker 1: million times. Come on, seriously, now it's the million and
Speaker 1: one time because it's happened to one of our listeners, Megan,
Speaker 1: after she went out with a guy named Curtis and
Speaker 1: now he's ghosting. Have you ever thought that maybe he's
Speaker 1: a rule follower and it was morally corrupt for him
Speaker 1: to use the handicap stall. Oh, that's a good point,
Speaker 1: you know, not bother you, Brooke. I mean, if you're
Speaker 1: going to pick a stall, let's just stand on the
Speaker 1: toilet of the regular stall. There was just a line
Speaker 1: in wheelchairs outside of the stall waiting to get it.
Speaker 1: That would be my luck, though, Jeffrey, is that what
Speaker 1: happened Megan? No, not at all. But I don't know
Speaker 1: if that was his issue, it might have been okay,
Speaker 1: Actually be happy if that was it. If he was
Speaker 1: that good of a guy, let him go. I mean,
Speaker 1: here's the thing, Megan. If this doesn't work out, you
Speaker 1: are fresh out of a big relationship. We will find
Speaker 1: you somebody else on the text board or something, you know,
Speaker 1: and you got a bathroom trick that works, so yeah, score,
Speaker 1: Or you could just fall back into that old relationship again, Jeffrey,
Speaker 1: it's just a backup. That is a cycle. I just
Speaker 1: want to see if you know, it's maybe something stupid
Speaker 1: I did or what I really want to try and
Speaker 1: make this work. He's pretty great. Okay, Well let's find out.
Speaker 1: We're going to dial his number right now, try and
Speaker 1: get your second date update? You ready? Ready? Okay, here
Speaker 1: we go. Hello. Hey, I'm looking for Curtis. This is Curtis. Hey, Curtis,
Speaker 1: how you doing? Man? My name is Jeff from the
Speaker 1: radio show Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. No way,
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, you listen. Okay, see Jeffrey, somebody recognized you.
Speaker 1: You listen to the show. Uh no, but I know
Speaker 1: somebody who does. Okay, I kind of that's also, jeff
Speaker 1: That's cool. Thank them. Well, we're doing a segment on
Speaker 1: our show called a second date Update. Yeah I figured
Speaker 1: that too. Oh oh are you sure you figured? Megan
Speaker 1: messaged me that this was going to be happening, So
Speaker 1: she warned you that we were going to call I
Speaker 1: don't know if she knew for sure that I saw
Speaker 1: her message, but yeah, she said this is something that
Speaker 1: she might try to do to contact me. Are you
Speaker 1: saying like she messaged you like five minutes ago right
Speaker 1: before we called her. This was days ago that she
Speaker 1: warned you this might happen. It's more like, when isn't
Speaker 1: she messaging me? Oh? Wait a minute, she didn't say that.
Speaker 1: She said she had texted you a couple of times
Speaker 1: and hadn't heard back after your guys's date at the bar. No, no,
Speaker 1: that was happening. How many How many texts are we talking?
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say around three hundred? Wow, Oh that's it. Okay,
Speaker 1: I was worried for a second. It's only three is
Speaker 1: there to say? Three times? How have you not blocked her?
Speaker 1: I mean honestly, well, there's really no point, as you
Speaker 1: can see, like she's gonna try to contact me by
Speaker 1: any means. All right, Well, before we talk about why
Speaker 1: this is happening, let's just refocus on the date for
Speaker 1: a second, because Curtis, we spoke with Megan, and from
Speaker 1: her perspective, she said it went really well. She seemed
Speaker 1: so normal. Yeah. No, that part of it is pretty true.
Speaker 1: Actually it did go pretty well. So when you ended
Speaker 1: the date, right, she said, you guys took to Uber's home.
Speaker 1: Did you have plans to call her and go out again? Yeah?
Speaker 1: No at that point. Yeah, I had a lot of fun.
Speaker 1: I would have loved to go out again for sure.
Speaker 1: What happened, Yeah, why did she send you so many texts?
Speaker 1: I don't know. So what happened is I went home,
Speaker 1: I took a shower, came out of the shower, and
Speaker 1: there was about four text from her, and then so
Speaker 1: I responded, yeah, you had a great night, thanks, And
Speaker 1: so I went to bed. When you're just done with
Speaker 1: the dates, sometimes it is like, hey, I had a
Speaker 1: lot of fun. Sorry if I'm talking too much, not horrible.
Speaker 1: Did you not respond to those initial four text he said,
Speaker 1: he did? He did, Yeah I did. I said, yeah,
Speaker 1: I had a lot of fun, and yeah, hopefully we
Speaker 1: can do it again, okay. And then and then you
Speaker 1: woke up the next morning, you went to bed, you
Speaker 1: woke up the next morning, then what Then there was
Speaker 1: about another twenty text messages saying what just saying what
Speaker 1: a good time she had, and then sorry for messaging
Speaker 1: you so late. I hope you can get this, hope
Speaker 1: things like that. It sounds like she doesn't know how
Speaker 1: to put the phone down. Yeah, it sounds like she
Speaker 1: really likes you though doesn't or she just an obsessive
Speaker 1: person that means really like someone's healthy. Yeah. So when
Speaker 1: I quit responding, it kind of made the snowball effect.
Speaker 1: The twenty messages became sixty messages, which became two hundred messages.
Speaker 1: It just got a real crazy, real quick oh stressed,
Speaker 1: and you just never told her anything after that. You
Speaker 1: just let it snowball and continue to this point, I
Speaker 1: couldn't keep up with one to pick which one to
Speaker 1: respond to. So no, man, you have such a good
Speaker 1: attitude about this right now I would be freaked out.
Speaker 1: I'm so glad we're not doing textual healing right now.
Speaker 1: That's where people through via text message, Curtis, if you
Speaker 1: don't listen. So yeah, wow, this one's much easier because
Speaker 1: instead of going with text, we just have the person
Speaker 1: jump on the phone and let you know that they've
Speaker 1: been on the other line listening this entire time and
Speaker 1: want to talk to you. Much less messy. Knew this,
Speaker 1: Yeah sorry, Curtis. Yeah, yeah, I figured this was going
Speaker 1: to happen too, honestly, Okay, okay, Megan, did you warn
Speaker 1: him that this that you were waiting on the other
Speaker 1: line this whole time? Did you text him during this conversation? No?
Speaker 1: I didn't. But I'm really surprised. I think I think
Speaker 1: you mean embarrassed, And that's okay. What's surprising, honest Like,
Speaker 1: what are you doing? No? I mean we we were
Speaker 1: just like chit chatting and stuff, and I was just
Speaker 1: trying to keep the conversation going. I don't know why
Speaker 1: it seems so weird about it. I mean, there's definitely
Speaker 1: the hit happening on your end. I don't know if
Speaker 1: the chat has happened to Look, I'll defend you a
Speaker 1: little bit. I'm a flurry texter, we can call it.
Speaker 1: Where you're text and flurries. It's like, yeah, hey, send,
Speaker 1: how are you saying? Yeah? Seven? Though you stop, you
Speaker 1: don't keep going forever and ever? And you want you
Speaker 1: want to leave the person on the other end of
Speaker 1: the text message wanting more, right, Like you want to
Speaker 1: leave him hanging, like you have other things going on
Speaker 1: in your life, the game, Like what happened? Were you
Speaker 1: just sitting staring at your phone like what's going through
Speaker 1: your head during this time. I don't know. I just
Speaker 1: wanted to talk to him, like you know, as if
Speaker 1: we were just sitting together at the bar, talking back
Speaker 1: and forth. It was just whatever came into my head.
Speaker 1: I don't know why you all think that's so weird.
Speaker 1: They are like off, I mean, yeah, he's yeah. I mean,
Speaker 1: Curtis is on the phone right now. Why don't you
Speaker 1: guys talk at this moment. This is the perfect opportunity
Speaker 1: to have a discussion. Sure, you know the all the
Speaker 1: messaging was excessive, but there's really no point of blocking
Speaker 1: your number because I know that you keep messaging me
Speaker 1: from other people's phones too, and all these different numbers.
Speaker 1: The last part. No, no, I have multiple phones. I
Speaker 1: have a phone for work, I have my private phone,
Speaker 1: and I text from both phones. For all she knows,
Speaker 1: he's not getting the text. Okay, I don't know how
Speaker 1: you guys are defending this behavior. Curtis. Please step in
Speaker 1: here and tell her what your boundaries to defend the
Speaker 1: person that actually listens to our show, person that's never
Speaker 1: heard of us before my legan side. You could be great,
Speaker 1: but you need to tone it down. Curtis. You got
Speaker 1: to tell her your boundaries right now, so all the
Speaker 1: people texting them, because she obviously is not getting it.
Speaker 1: I mean, if people want to talk to me, he
Speaker 1: would just say, so, Megan, please stop texting me again?
Speaker 1: Say it again, Curtis, would you pretty pretty please stop
Speaker 1: texting me? Don't do you get it? Megan? I mean,
Speaker 1: does that mean you don't want to talk to me
Speaker 1: at all? I want to be just really clear about this.
Speaker 1: You just don't want to talk to me or see me.
Speaker 1: You just have to come out and say that. Yes,
Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying. I don't know if we should
Speaker 1: talk anymore. You don't know or you know, you're not
Speaker 1: being clear with me. I'm trying to be nice. I'm
Speaker 1: not sure of what you mean. You drop nice. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're gonna have to be brutal here, Curtis. I think
Speaker 1: I'm just going to change my number. Guys, Oh say
Speaker 1: it likely? Oh wow? See this is why I keep
Speaker 1: talking and I'm not getting a clear answer, And oh
Speaker 1: my god, she needs just text our text board anytime
Speaker 1: you feel like you want to text Curtis, Okay, forward
Speaker 1: it to him. I mean, you're a great guy, but
Speaker 1: you're just not really great at communication. I think that's
Speaker 1: a good lesson guys text back, be better communicators and
Speaker 1: also be better listeners, like Curtis, did you hear what
Speaker 1: she said? Okay, she's breaking up with you. She's not
Speaker 1: interested in seeing you because you don't know how to
Speaker 1: communicate properly. Damn there go working very in the morning.