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Speaker 1: Hey fam, Hello Sunshine. Today on the bright Side, it's

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Speaker 1: Wellness Wednesday. We're talking mindfulness and mindlessness with Harvard professor

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Speaker 1: doctor Ellen Langer. Her studies on decision making, healing, and

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Speaker 1: aging have taken over the internet. Let me ask you this,

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Speaker 1: what if age was just a mindset? We'll find out

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Speaker 1: if it is.

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Speaker 2: Today.

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Speaker 1: It's Wednesday, August fourteenth. I'm Danielle Robe.

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Speaker 2: And I'm Simon Boyce. And this is the bright Side

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Speaker 2: from Hello Sunshine, a daily show where we come together

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Speaker 2: to share women's stories, laugh, learn and brighten your day.

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Speaker 2: Today's Wellness Wednesday is presented by Coliguard Danielle. Today's show

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Speaker 2: is all about mindfulness and this topic reminds me of

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Speaker 2: one of my most mindful periods of life. It's when

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Speaker 2: I was at that retreat a few months ago in Nashville.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, the life changing retreat.

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Speaker 2: I'll never forget it, the life changing retreats. I mean,

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Speaker 2: I'll be honest, it's really easy to be mindful when

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Speaker 2: you're on this beautiful campus in the middle of the

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Speaker 2: countryside with no access to phones or screens. Was it verdant?

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Speaker 2: It was very verdant. It was lush, it was verdant,

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Speaker 2: not bucolic though.

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Speaker 1: So what kind of mindful practices did you learn there? Like,

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Speaker 1: what'd you do well?

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Speaker 2: We spent most of our time in therapy, so you

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Speaker 2: have no choice but to be dialed in and present

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Speaker 2: when you're in therapy. But there were some other mindfulness

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Speaker 2: hacks that I picked up. Just checking in with yourself,

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Speaker 2: so acknowledging what is the time the place that I'm

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Speaker 2: in right now, it's a great way to sent to yourself.

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Speaker 2: I also learned how to practice meditation in a way

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Speaker 2: that looks easier for me. I'm never going to be

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Speaker 2: that girl that wakes up every morning and is able

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Speaker 2: to just meditate and complete silence. However, for me, I

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Speaker 2: can do it through an instrumental track, through an orchestral track.

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Speaker 2: I can do it through walking or even an ice bath.

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Speaker 2: I don't know how regularly I'll do that, but that

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Speaker 1: How did that mindfulness shift things for you?

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Speaker 2: I've found that when I'm more mindful, I'm more open

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Speaker 2: to my intuition. I'm more open to community, to conversation,

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Speaker 2: to truth, and to serendipity, which is the most fun.

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Speaker 1: I really like that I do a heart meditation in

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Speaker 1: the morning. It's ten minutes. I just do it in

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Speaker 1: my bed. And when you breathe light out from your heart,

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Speaker 1: it makes you more open and does breathe into serendipity.

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Speaker 2: I love that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that sounded very woo woo, but it's true.

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Speaker 3: It does.

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Speaker 1: And our guest today has done a ton of research

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Speaker 1: on mindfulness. She's way less woo wu than we sounded

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Speaker 1: because she is an American professor of psychology at Harvard

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Speaker 1: and according to her research, mindfulness has shown to be

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Speaker 1: literally and figuratively enlivening. I'm talking improve relationships, health, well being,

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Speaker 1: even aging. It affects our aging process. I know, right,

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Speaker 1: that's the crazy part.

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Speaker 2: Doctor Langer has written over two hundred research articles and

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Speaker 2: thirteen books, including her most recent book called The Mindful Body,

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Speaker 2: Thinking Our Way to Chronic Health, and through all her research,

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Speaker 2: doctor Langer always does demonstrates the power of our thoughts.

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Speaker 2: So let's bring her in, Doctor Ellen Langer, Welcome to

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Speaker 2: the bright Side.

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Speaker 3: Thank you for having me.

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Speaker 2: Doctor Langer. You are a leading expert in mindfulness. You've

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Speaker 2: conducted more than ninety studies in this field. So my

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Speaker 2: first question is, how would you define mindfulness?

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Speaker 3: It's so simple it almost defies belief. What many people

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Speaker 3: think of as mindfulness as meditation. And meditation is nice,

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Speaker 3: study it. Mindfulness as we study it is immedia. All

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Speaker 3: you need to do is notice. So there are two

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Speaker 3: ways of becoming mindful. One is bottom up, which means

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Speaker 3: the things you think you know, just notice new things

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Speaker 3: goes there. When I started to paint, for instance, I

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Speaker 3: So my mindless notion of green became a multitude of sensations.

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Speaker 3: The other way to be there, which is top down,

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Speaker 3: wouldn't have to practice anything. You'd walk in everything would

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Speaker 3: do that painting books? What is that over there? And

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Speaker 3: the essence of what we're doing when we're happening. So

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Speaker 3: you actively notice the neurons are firing, and the research

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Speaker 2: In your most recent book, you write that quote, we

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Speaker 2: all already have a potent tool for improving our health

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Speaker 2: and we may not even know it.

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Speaker 3: That is so powerful. What do you mean by that?

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Speaker 3: So the title of the book is The Mindful Body.

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Speaker 3: call mind body unity. Now, people have a notion you

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Speaker 3: that is how do you get a thought, something immaterial,

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Speaker 3: the mind. The studies that I report in there, the

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Speaker 3: examples I give from my own life other people's lives

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Speaker 3: makes clear that we have enormous control over our health

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Speaker 3: what we're able to do. So we have lots and

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Speaker 3: first study in that series was the counterclockwise study. Now

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Speaker 3: their vision improved, the hearing improved, their strength, their memory,

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Speaker 3: and they look noticeably younger, all by changing their minds.

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Speaker 1: I have so many questions, what do you mean by

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Speaker 3: Let's take the second study in the series. We took

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Speaker 3: all we did was change their minds and teach them

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Speaker 3: The other group who doesn't realize this. They're not eating

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Speaker 3: And so people are in front, individually, are in front

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Speaker 1: and we're back with doctor Ellen Langer. So mindfulness is

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Speaker 1: the act of noticing. And you say mindlessness is actually

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Speaker 3: Well, first of all, you're not there. Every time you're

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Speaker 3: oblivious to alternative perspectives. In fact, in general, when we're

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Speaker 3: And so what that means is that everything is mutable.

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Speaker 1: is how did you become so flexible? Was it your upbringing?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? I was very, very fortunate. My parents were extremely

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Speaker 3: so even as a little girl, I remember people would

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Speaker 3: I think people don't realize that events don't cause us stress,

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Speaker 3: then you are going to feel good. People often ask

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Speaker 3: it positively? And you know, I don't change. I just

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Speaker 3: see it positively in the first place. But it is

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Speaker 1: You do a lot of work on decision making, and

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Speaker 1: one of the things that you actually named is the

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Speaker 1: illusion of control. I'm fascinated by this. HM is the

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Speaker 3: I'll give people the bottom likes rather than waste your

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Speaker 1: Does that include spouses?

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Speaker 2: Ellen Langer. Doctor Langer. We are coming to you from

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Speaker 3: Yes? And no. If I want to speak Greek and

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Speaker 3: but it's very different. And the work that I talk about,

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Speaker 1: Doctor Langer, I want to better understand what you mean

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Speaker 1: because what you just said to Simon was really interesting.

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Speaker 3: the unity idea does explain it. So when you're feeling

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Speaker 3: It's not positive or negative. It just is, and then

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Speaker 3: Yes, I write a lot about stress and mindfulness as

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Speaker 3: Too many people are sealed and unlived lives, and I've

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Speaker 2: Doctor Langer. Your advice about having an internal locus of

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Speaker 2: that's everything. That's the key to happiness.

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Speaker 1: Well said doctor Langer. Thank you for joining us today

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Speaker 1: on the bright side.

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much, doctor Langer.

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Speaker 3: This was fun. Be well.

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Speaker 1: Doctor Ellen Langer is a professor of psychology at Harvard University.

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Speaker 1: She's written more than two hundred research articles and thirteen books,

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Speaker 1: including The Mindful Body Thinking Our Way to Chronic Health.

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