1 00:00:18,880 --> 00:00:22,320 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached 2 00:00:22,320 --> 00:00:26,320 Speaker 1: my personal voicemailbox for the Dear Cheeky's podcast. I'm here 3 00:00:26,360 --> 00:00:28,880 Speaker 1: to give you advice on anything and everything you need 4 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:31,480 Speaker 1: help with. Whether you're going through a breakup or having 5 00:00:31,560 --> 00:00:34,000 Speaker 1: issues with your family, or maybe you have a question 6 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:36,600 Speaker 1: about my personal life. Whatever the case is, I want 7 00:00:36,600 --> 00:00:39,400 Speaker 1: to hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts in 8 00:00:39,440 --> 00:00:42,040 Speaker 1: my opinions, and if you're suffering from a serious issue 9 00:00:42,159 --> 00:00:45,560 Speaker 1: or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified professional. 10 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:48,800 Speaker 1: All right, now, go ahead and leave your message at 11 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:49,560 Speaker 1: the sound of the beeB. 12 00:00:51,520 --> 00:00:55,000 Speaker 2: Hi, good morning, Cheeky's. My name is na I am 13 00:00:55,000 --> 00:01:03,840 Speaker 2: from Houston, Texas, Perosiaki and one of the But anyway, 14 00:01:04,040 --> 00:01:07,120 Speaker 2: I wanted to reach out to you, pork and my 15 00:01:07,200 --> 00:01:09,959 Speaker 2: question is going to be the following. I recently wrote 16 00:01:10,120 --> 00:01:12,759 Speaker 2: a book which is the first book that I write, 17 00:01:12,800 --> 00:01:19,160 Speaker 2: Sam Perlas more Propanol Perro dambien la version and English, 18 00:01:19,480 --> 00:01:24,520 Speaker 2: and I'm so excited about it. Pero pois marketing, Ami 19 00:01:24,560 --> 00:01:31,920 Speaker 2: libroises Brinda. What can you share with me as far 20 00:01:31,959 --> 00:01:33,960 Speaker 2: as like, what do you think I could do I 21 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:34,399 Speaker 2: should do? 22 00:01:34,680 --> 00:01:34,840 Speaker 1: Yes? 23 00:01:34,920 --> 00:01:42,280 Speaker 2: That is one and Amazon promotion, Lopez and Re socialist 24 00:01:42,959 --> 00:01:52,160 Speaker 2: as if amilias, etceterasian porce significa, liro significant a choice 25 00:01:53,320 --> 00:02:01,880 Speaker 2: on meritatos, locus libro, perovi. 26 00:02:01,840 --> 00:02:07,440 Speaker 1: Aedna. That is that's amazing. I'm so happy and proud 27 00:02:07,480 --> 00:02:10,120 Speaker 1: of you for doing that. You didn't just think about it, 28 00:02:10,720 --> 00:02:13,959 Speaker 1: you did it, and that's amazing. I'm actually adding it 29 00:02:14,160 --> 00:02:16,359 Speaker 1: right now to my Amazon car as we speak. I'm 30 00:02:16,400 --> 00:02:19,079 Speaker 1: gonna buy it. I love this, I love this for you, 31 00:02:19,160 --> 00:02:20,919 Speaker 1: I love this for the world. We need more of 32 00:02:21,080 --> 00:02:23,520 Speaker 1: this in the world. And you know what the best 33 00:02:23,520 --> 00:02:26,280 Speaker 1: advice I can give you is you already wrote it. 34 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:31,639 Speaker 1: The hard part is done. Obviously, Yes, marketing it has 35 00:02:31,720 --> 00:02:34,239 Speaker 1: its thing, But the truth is when you do things 36 00:02:34,360 --> 00:02:37,440 Speaker 1: like this out of a place with intention and to 37 00:02:37,560 --> 00:02:39,520 Speaker 1: help the world, because that's what it feels like your 38 00:02:39,560 --> 00:02:43,000 Speaker 1: book is about, it will find its way to the 39 00:02:43,120 --> 00:02:46,680 Speaker 1: people that need it. Not only that, I would definitely 40 00:02:46,760 --> 00:02:52,160 Speaker 1: promote it on Facebook using the hashtags that go with 41 00:02:52,840 --> 00:02:57,239 Speaker 1: the theme of your book healing self Love Espanol. Because 42 00:02:57,240 --> 00:02:58,680 Speaker 1: it's in Spanish, you're going to do it in English 43 00:02:58,680 --> 00:03:01,880 Speaker 1: as well. So all these hashtag books, all that stuff, 44 00:03:01,919 --> 00:03:04,000 Speaker 1: and people when they're looking for these things will come 45 00:03:04,040 --> 00:03:08,320 Speaker 1: across it one way or another. Also reaching out to influencers, 46 00:03:08,480 --> 00:03:12,720 Speaker 1: to micro influencers, sending them dms. If you send out 47 00:03:12,760 --> 00:03:15,000 Speaker 1: fifty and only ten reply, girl, that's ten people. 48 00:03:15,520 --> 00:03:15,560 Speaker 2: Like. 49 00:03:15,880 --> 00:03:18,119 Speaker 1: The more you send it out to people, the better, 50 00:03:18,240 --> 00:03:19,600 Speaker 1: Like just say hey, I would love to send you 51 00:03:20,040 --> 00:03:22,079 Speaker 1: my book. Please give it a little read. It's about 52 00:03:22,120 --> 00:03:24,639 Speaker 1: such and such, and obviously you have to know who 53 00:03:24,639 --> 00:03:27,400 Speaker 1: you're sending it to. Like people that read, are they 54 00:03:27,480 --> 00:03:30,919 Speaker 1: into self love, into beauty and wellness and all that stuff. 55 00:03:30,960 --> 00:03:32,480 Speaker 1: I think all that is very important. So you have 56 00:03:32,560 --> 00:03:36,560 Speaker 1: to do your research. But again, Nada and Manan Lulu 57 00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:43,080 Speaker 1: sakisas Nunka Losuban, But you're doing your your due diligence 58 00:03:43,120 --> 00:03:44,760 Speaker 1: and you're doing what you need to do on your end. 59 00:03:45,080 --> 00:03:47,320 Speaker 1: So again, send it out to one hundred people and 60 00:03:48,000 --> 00:03:51,160 Speaker 1: if freaking twenty respond, that's already a win, bim. So 61 00:03:51,560 --> 00:03:55,760 Speaker 1: I'm going to buy it, and I promise you that 62 00:03:55,800 --> 00:03:57,160 Speaker 1: as soon as I get it, I will post it 63 00:03:58,120 --> 00:03:59,760 Speaker 1: because I think that's beautiful and I can't wait to 64 00:03:59,760 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 1: see what your book is all about. And here it is, 65 00:04:02,520 --> 00:04:05,240 Speaker 1: and it's getting to my house in one to three days. 66 00:04:05,760 --> 00:04:08,320 Speaker 1: So I'm excited. I'm excited for you. I'm excited for 67 00:04:08,400 --> 00:04:11,080 Speaker 1: the world to read the book. And that's my best 68 00:04:11,120 --> 00:04:13,560 Speaker 1: advice for now, and also going to book fairs and 69 00:04:13,840 --> 00:04:16,000 Speaker 1: just asking if you can be there, like you know, 70 00:04:16,200 --> 00:04:19,760 Speaker 1: like as Google. Honestly, how can I get my book 71 00:04:19,760 --> 00:04:22,000 Speaker 1: into people's hands and it'll give you a bunch of 72 00:04:22,080 --> 00:04:24,360 Speaker 1: tips and whatever feels natural to you, you do that. 73 00:04:25,000 --> 00:04:27,960 Speaker 1: But that's my advice. And again I'm very happy, proud 74 00:04:28,000 --> 00:04:35,200 Speaker 1: of you. You go girl, Hey self love, We love that. Okay, guys. 75 00:04:35,320 --> 00:04:36,760 Speaker 1: Next question comes from Liz. 76 00:04:37,880 --> 00:04:41,960 Speaker 3: My husband was supported in September. He was working. He 77 00:04:42,120 --> 00:04:45,360 Speaker 3: has a tree company service here in Texas, which I've 78 00:04:45,400 --> 00:04:50,360 Speaker 3: been managing with his brother. But honestly, it's been so hard, 79 00:04:50,480 --> 00:04:55,000 Speaker 3: like financially, like even to like live here. My husband 80 00:04:55,279 --> 00:04:59,440 Speaker 3: is in Mexico City working a construction and whatnot. 81 00:05:00,040 --> 00:05:00,360 Speaker 4: I don't know. 82 00:05:00,480 --> 00:05:02,520 Speaker 3: Lately, like I've been thinking, like what if I just 83 00:05:02,640 --> 00:05:04,760 Speaker 3: like move over there with my kids. We have three 84 00:05:04,839 --> 00:05:08,680 Speaker 3: kids together. My families really, like my parents are so 85 00:05:08,880 --> 00:05:11,839 Speaker 3: against it. However, my kids do cry for their. 86 00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:13,320 Speaker 1: Dad a lot. 87 00:05:14,360 --> 00:05:16,640 Speaker 3: I think one of the reasons my family's against it 88 00:05:16,920 --> 00:05:19,760 Speaker 3: was because we were really rocky before he even got 89 00:05:19,880 --> 00:05:22,840 Speaker 3: like pulled over. He was pulled over at a free way, 90 00:05:23,320 --> 00:05:25,640 Speaker 3: taken to jail, and then you know, moved over to Ice. 91 00:05:26,160 --> 00:05:28,680 Speaker 3: So I think one of the main reasons we were 92 00:05:28,760 --> 00:05:31,320 Speaker 3: rocky were fighting. But I don't know. I have faith 93 00:05:31,400 --> 00:05:34,440 Speaker 3: that God can restore our marriage, and we are kind 94 00:05:34,480 --> 00:05:37,200 Speaker 3: of like talking about it and stuff, but I'm just 95 00:05:37,640 --> 00:05:39,920 Speaker 3: so like, I don't know, I'm just I don't know 96 00:05:40,000 --> 00:05:42,880 Speaker 3: what to do. I need I guess, non biased advice 97 00:05:42,960 --> 00:05:46,120 Speaker 3: from somebody to kind of I don't know, just maybe 98 00:05:46,600 --> 00:05:48,440 Speaker 3: like a friend be like, hey, you're doing the right 99 00:05:48,480 --> 00:05:50,320 Speaker 3: thing or you're doing the wrong thing, Like I planned 100 00:05:50,360 --> 00:05:53,040 Speaker 3: my kids on being homeschooled for like the year or 101 00:05:53,080 --> 00:05:54,560 Speaker 3: two that I might be living there. 102 00:05:55,000 --> 00:05:55,720 Speaker 4: I don't know. Help. 103 00:05:57,080 --> 00:06:03,160 Speaker 1: Oh my Liz, I can hear how this is tormenting 104 00:06:03,240 --> 00:06:06,720 Speaker 1: you emotionally and mentally, and I get it, and thank 105 00:06:06,760 --> 00:06:09,320 Speaker 1: you for trusting me to give you advice. I know 106 00:06:09,440 --> 00:06:11,640 Speaker 1: this is a very delicate situation, and I'm so sorry 107 00:06:11,680 --> 00:06:14,560 Speaker 1: that that happened to your husband, to your family. It's 108 00:06:14,720 --> 00:06:19,840 Speaker 1: just so so sad and so disappointing, to say the least, 109 00:06:20,040 --> 00:06:22,000 Speaker 1: with what everything that's going on. But that's a whole 110 00:06:22,080 --> 00:06:25,360 Speaker 1: other conversation. I'm glad he's okay. I'm glad he's safe. 111 00:06:25,400 --> 00:06:29,200 Speaker 1: I'm glad that he has a job. I'm also sorry 112 00:06:29,240 --> 00:06:31,360 Speaker 1: to hear that you guys were not doing too well 113 00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:36,360 Speaker 1: when he was supported. But look, it doesn't sound like 114 00:06:36,560 --> 00:06:41,960 Speaker 1: you have gotten to the end of your rope. You 115 00:06:42,200 --> 00:06:44,200 Speaker 1: want to work on your marriage and you have faith 116 00:06:44,279 --> 00:06:46,440 Speaker 1: that God can restore it. And if you have faith, 117 00:06:46,839 --> 00:06:49,800 Speaker 1: then that's all you need grow is faith, especially if 118 00:06:49,839 --> 00:06:53,359 Speaker 1: he's also willing. And if you guys are talking about it. Baby, 119 00:06:53,480 --> 00:06:57,120 Speaker 1: you can't worry about what your family thinks. This is 120 00:06:57,200 --> 00:07:01,040 Speaker 1: your family. What if this all happen and it's part 121 00:07:01,080 --> 00:07:03,679 Speaker 1: of the divine plan for you guys to move away 122 00:07:04,480 --> 00:07:07,120 Speaker 1: and where you guys just have each other and you 123 00:07:07,240 --> 00:07:10,640 Speaker 1: appreciate him more and he appreciates you. It would be 124 00:07:10,800 --> 00:07:13,120 Speaker 1: worse for you not to do it out of fear 125 00:07:13,440 --> 00:07:15,400 Speaker 1: than to do it and know it didn't work out. 126 00:07:15,440 --> 00:07:19,720 Speaker 1: There you have children together. This is your family, your 127 00:07:19,840 --> 00:07:23,240 Speaker 1: husband and your children. If I were you, I would 128 00:07:23,280 --> 00:07:25,400 Speaker 1: try it because let me tell you, you speak English, 129 00:07:25,440 --> 00:07:28,720 Speaker 1: you speak Spanish, You're bilingual. It's Mexico City that is 130 00:07:29,040 --> 00:07:32,520 Speaker 1: one of the most traveled cities in the world. Go 131 00:07:33,280 --> 00:07:35,720 Speaker 1: you will find a job. You can homeschool your children. 132 00:07:36,040 --> 00:07:39,360 Speaker 1: There's great schools for your kids out there, Like they'll 133 00:07:39,400 --> 00:07:41,640 Speaker 1: speak and learn Spanish and know how to write it. 134 00:07:41,800 --> 00:07:43,800 Speaker 1: Like how beneficial would that be for them as well? 135 00:07:44,160 --> 00:07:46,120 Speaker 1: You guys will be together. You guys need each other 136 00:07:46,240 --> 00:07:50,200 Speaker 1: right now. And things are expensive. Girl, I want to 137 00:07:50,240 --> 00:07:52,240 Speaker 1: move to Mexico. Sometimes I'm not even gonna lie, like 138 00:07:52,920 --> 00:07:54,520 Speaker 1: you may not get paid as much as you would 139 00:07:54,560 --> 00:07:56,880 Speaker 1: out here. But the truth is is, if you guys 140 00:07:56,960 --> 00:07:58,800 Speaker 1: come to this agreement, it's like I think you guys 141 00:07:58,840 --> 00:08:01,560 Speaker 1: should give your marriage a shot. If not, like too 142 00:08:01,680 --> 00:08:05,680 Speaker 1: much separation can cause even more distance, So don't let 143 00:08:05,800 --> 00:08:08,600 Speaker 1: too much time go by, Like this is the time 144 00:08:09,240 --> 00:08:12,800 Speaker 1: to do it. Start a new year, there a fresh 145 00:08:12,880 --> 00:08:15,440 Speaker 1: start for your family. And if you're like extended family 146 00:08:15,480 --> 00:08:18,160 Speaker 1: gets upset, baby, then that's just that's okay. You have 147 00:08:18,320 --> 00:08:20,000 Speaker 1: to come out. You don't have to, but you should 148 00:08:20,080 --> 00:08:22,040 Speaker 1: come out and visit them once in a while. But 149 00:08:22,160 --> 00:08:25,080 Speaker 1: don't let that stop you, especially if the kids mis 150 00:08:25,200 --> 00:08:28,920 Speaker 1: their dad. I think it'll cause more issues down the line, 151 00:08:29,040 --> 00:08:31,520 Speaker 1: and you will have regret if you don't try this, 152 00:08:32,000 --> 00:08:33,800 Speaker 1: if you don't give it a shot, if you don't 153 00:08:33,840 --> 00:08:37,080 Speaker 1: give it the chance that it deserves. I think that's 154 00:08:37,160 --> 00:08:41,000 Speaker 1: my honest feeling about it. I know it's not an 155 00:08:41,040 --> 00:08:44,920 Speaker 1: easy decision, it's not an easy move, but I don't know. 156 00:08:45,040 --> 00:08:48,839 Speaker 1: Something tells me you, guys will be fine. But you 157 00:08:49,000 --> 00:08:52,760 Speaker 1: seem like a woman of faith, So just trust your intuition, 158 00:08:53,760 --> 00:08:57,199 Speaker 1: put to the side everyone else's opinions, and ask your heart. 159 00:08:57,320 --> 00:08:59,520 Speaker 1: What do I really want? Do I miss my husband? 160 00:08:59,559 --> 00:09:01,320 Speaker 1: Do I want to I want to take my kids 161 00:09:01,679 --> 00:09:03,880 Speaker 1: to him? Do I feel better when he's around. That's 162 00:09:03,920 --> 00:09:06,280 Speaker 1: going to give you your answer. Trust that, bab I 163 00:09:06,360 --> 00:09:08,040 Speaker 1: hope it all works out. Please keep us updated. I 164 00:09:08,080 --> 00:09:09,680 Speaker 1: want to know what you decided, because yes I am 165 00:09:09,800 --> 00:09:19,320 Speaker 1: nosy okay, wishing you are the best Mamasi dad okay, guys. 166 00:09:19,440 --> 00:09:21,640 Speaker 1: Our last question comes from Margarita. 167 00:09:22,520 --> 00:09:26,600 Speaker 4: Hi, hell chickies. I am a single mother of six kids. 168 00:09:27,480 --> 00:09:32,800 Speaker 4: We lost everything due to me having bad decisions, bad choices, 169 00:09:33,360 --> 00:09:37,520 Speaker 4: due to my daughter's molestation. She was sexually abused by 170 00:09:37,800 --> 00:09:44,120 Speaker 4: her father's brother and after that everything went downhill. I 171 00:09:44,520 --> 00:09:47,719 Speaker 4: have been starting from zero. We currently live in a 172 00:09:47,880 --> 00:09:52,440 Speaker 4: really small trailer, one bedroom. Our car is not the greatest. 173 00:09:52,600 --> 00:09:55,559 Speaker 4: We are surviving. I do have employment. I am a 174 00:09:55,679 --> 00:09:59,160 Speaker 4: manager at a retail store. But more than anything, I 175 00:09:59,240 --> 00:10:01,280 Speaker 4: just want to say I am admire you for who 176 00:10:01,400 --> 00:10:04,760 Speaker 4: you are, who you've become, who you've always been. I've 177 00:10:05,679 --> 00:10:09,520 Speaker 4: watched I Love Jenny many many times. More than anything, 178 00:10:09,559 --> 00:10:13,400 Speaker 4: I wanted to ask, how do you survive after everything 179 00:10:13,440 --> 00:10:15,840 Speaker 4: you've been through with your father? You know, my daughter 180 00:10:16,000 --> 00:10:18,520 Speaker 4: currently is going through therapy, and she was five years 181 00:10:18,520 --> 00:10:22,160 Speaker 4: old when that happened, and she is now fourteen. We're 182 00:10:22,360 --> 00:10:25,280 Speaker 4: currently going through it all over again. And I see 183 00:10:25,320 --> 00:10:29,520 Speaker 4: that you're a very strong, empowered woman, you know, powerful woman, 184 00:10:29,679 --> 00:10:32,560 Speaker 4: and just like your mom, if you can just please 185 00:10:33,160 --> 00:10:37,720 Speaker 4: help me to get through this mentally, emotionally and physically, 186 00:10:38,400 --> 00:10:40,240 Speaker 4: and would be all I love. 187 00:10:40,160 --> 00:10:44,240 Speaker 1: You, Oh mar I want to hug you. I'm so 188 00:10:44,440 --> 00:10:50,480 Speaker 1: sorry that you're having a bad time right now. And 189 00:10:51,200 --> 00:10:53,520 Speaker 1: I've shared this a lot on the podcast because my 190 00:10:53,640 --> 00:10:55,920 Speaker 1: niece is the one that said it. It's a bad moment, 191 00:10:56,040 --> 00:10:58,680 Speaker 1: it's not a bad life. I think when you think 192 00:10:58,760 --> 00:11:00,480 Speaker 1: of it that way of like, Okay, this is a 193 00:11:00,559 --> 00:11:03,000 Speaker 1: bad situation right now, I'm going through a rough patch. 194 00:11:03,800 --> 00:11:05,520 Speaker 1: That doesn't mean the rest of my life has to 195 00:11:05,600 --> 00:11:08,560 Speaker 1: look like this. I think it helps you feel better, 196 00:11:08,679 --> 00:11:10,920 Speaker 1: like this too shell pass. That's one thing that I'm like, Okay, 197 00:11:10,960 --> 00:11:13,160 Speaker 1: when I'm having a bad day, I'm like, okay, this 198 00:11:13,240 --> 00:11:15,199 Speaker 1: two shell pass. I have faith. It's just a moment. 199 00:11:15,280 --> 00:11:17,480 Speaker 1: It's okay. What do I need to learn from this? 200 00:11:17,640 --> 00:11:19,360 Speaker 1: And that's what I like to do is ask myself. 201 00:11:19,840 --> 00:11:22,319 Speaker 1: You admitted it, you said, you know I made some 202 00:11:22,480 --> 00:11:27,920 Speaker 1: bad decisions, and that's good. You're recognizing that. So you're 203 00:11:27,960 --> 00:11:30,719 Speaker 1: not going to do those things anymore, right, because you 204 00:11:30,880 --> 00:11:33,560 Speaker 1: want to get yourself and your children out of this situation. 205 00:11:34,480 --> 00:11:38,360 Speaker 1: It's always asking ourselves what did I do to cause 206 00:11:38,400 --> 00:11:42,880 Speaker 1: the situation? What can I do differently? Right? And about 207 00:11:42,920 --> 00:11:47,840 Speaker 1: your daughter, I am so sorry. I especially at her age. 208 00:11:48,360 --> 00:11:51,520 Speaker 1: She's growing up, her mind is developing, she's a teenager. 209 00:11:51,679 --> 00:11:55,719 Speaker 1: There's so much going on, her hormones, puberty, like, it's 210 00:11:55,800 --> 00:11:59,920 Speaker 1: a lot happening. So just know that that is all 211 00:12:00,000 --> 00:12:02,960 Speaker 1: also playing a role. I'm glad that she's in therapy. 212 00:12:03,120 --> 00:12:04,920 Speaker 1: That's the best thing that you could do for her. 213 00:12:05,280 --> 00:12:07,439 Speaker 1: If you guys are able to do therapy together, I 214 00:12:07,559 --> 00:12:10,280 Speaker 1: hope you are. If not, please do it. It's going 215 00:12:10,400 --> 00:12:12,920 Speaker 1: to help you as a mother because you're probably going 216 00:12:12,960 --> 00:12:15,760 Speaker 1: through guilt and thinking Oh my gosh, I didn't protect her, 217 00:12:16,360 --> 00:12:17,640 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like, that's what my mom 218 00:12:17,720 --> 00:12:19,400 Speaker 1: felt for a long time. She's like, oh my goodness, 219 00:12:19,440 --> 00:12:21,719 Speaker 1: I'm the one that shows this man and he did 220 00:12:21,760 --> 00:12:25,000 Speaker 1: this to my daughters. I'm also guilty of it. So 221 00:12:25,240 --> 00:12:29,000 Speaker 1: she went through that a lot. So if you are 222 00:12:29,080 --> 00:12:32,480 Speaker 1: not in therapy, please get yourself into therapy because it's 223 00:12:32,559 --> 00:12:35,840 Speaker 1: really going to help you. And just know the therapy 224 00:12:35,920 --> 00:12:38,360 Speaker 1: will definitely give her clarity and give her the tools 225 00:12:38,520 --> 00:12:43,360 Speaker 1: hopefully that she needs to get through this, and she will. 226 00:12:44,400 --> 00:12:47,000 Speaker 1: She will, and you have to have her back on 227 00:12:47,080 --> 00:12:50,959 Speaker 1: this and don't overcompensate because this happened to her. That's 228 00:12:51,000 --> 00:12:53,839 Speaker 1: one thing I love and appreciate for my mother is 229 00:12:53,920 --> 00:12:56,839 Speaker 1: that she never treated me like a victim. She's like, 230 00:12:56,960 --> 00:12:58,599 Speaker 1: this happened to you, and you're a victim of this, 231 00:12:58,760 --> 00:13:01,480 Speaker 1: but you're not a victim, and that's not going to 232 00:13:01,520 --> 00:13:06,480 Speaker 1: define you. We're going to use this for something positive, 233 00:13:06,800 --> 00:13:09,640 Speaker 1: as ugly as it was. We're going to use this 234 00:13:09,800 --> 00:13:12,719 Speaker 1: to help other people. And that just changed everything for me. 235 00:13:13,160 --> 00:13:16,280 Speaker 1: We don't understand why things happen in the world, why 236 00:13:16,400 --> 00:13:19,480 Speaker 1: certain things happen to children, like why this kind of 237 00:13:19,480 --> 00:13:22,480 Speaker 1: stuff continues to happen. I Don'll never understand it, and 238 00:13:22,520 --> 00:13:24,719 Speaker 1: I'm like, God, the only thing that makes me feel better. 239 00:13:24,760 --> 00:13:27,360 Speaker 1: It's like, Okay, now I have this platform. Even if 240 00:13:27,360 --> 00:13:29,640 Speaker 1: I didn't have this platform, I probably would have become 241 00:13:29,720 --> 00:13:33,600 Speaker 1: a psychologist something to help other people and help them 242 00:13:33,679 --> 00:13:37,560 Speaker 1: through what I've been through. So maybe ask your daughter. 243 00:13:37,600 --> 00:13:40,640 Speaker 1: I mean, she's still young, but like she'll understand it later, 244 00:13:40,920 --> 00:13:43,160 Speaker 1: maybe not right now, but later in her life. She's 245 00:13:43,200 --> 00:13:46,720 Speaker 1: going to understand. Okay, this happened to me for whatever reason. 246 00:13:46,880 --> 00:13:50,560 Speaker 1: There's really no there's no excuse right for what happened. 247 00:13:50,600 --> 00:13:55,600 Speaker 1: And uh, it sucks when it's family and someone so close, 248 00:13:55,760 --> 00:13:58,920 Speaker 1: even more because it's so confusing. So please do me 249 00:13:58,960 --> 00:14:00,360 Speaker 1: a favor and give your daughter a home for me. 250 00:14:00,440 --> 00:14:03,120 Speaker 1: Tell her that I understand that she's not alone, and 251 00:14:03,280 --> 00:14:06,640 Speaker 1: just tell her that with time and when she becomes 252 00:14:06,640 --> 00:14:10,360 Speaker 1: a woman, she'll have more clarity. And it doesn't make 253 00:14:10,440 --> 00:14:14,360 Speaker 1: her less of a person or less of a woman 254 00:14:15,000 --> 00:14:18,280 Speaker 1: because this happened to her. She's still beautiful, she's still worthy, 255 00:14:18,360 --> 00:14:22,520 Speaker 1: she's still very valuable, and this is not going to 256 00:14:22,600 --> 00:14:25,320 Speaker 1: define who she's going to become in the world. And 257 00:14:25,440 --> 00:14:28,360 Speaker 1: you have to speak those words of life to her 258 00:14:28,680 --> 00:14:32,040 Speaker 1: and tell her and I'm so sorry. I'm praying for you, 259 00:14:32,320 --> 00:14:34,840 Speaker 1: for the kids, for your family. Like, girl, all you 260 00:14:34,920 --> 00:14:36,200 Speaker 1: have to do is just you need to get on 261 00:14:36,240 --> 00:14:37,280 Speaker 1: your knees and you need to pray. 262 00:14:38,160 --> 00:14:38,880 Speaker 3: You need to pray. 263 00:14:39,080 --> 00:14:40,600 Speaker 1: And it's like, what is a prayer going to do? 264 00:14:40,680 --> 00:14:40,880 Speaker 4: Girl? 265 00:14:41,440 --> 00:14:43,760 Speaker 1: When you pray with all of your might and all 266 00:14:43,800 --> 00:14:47,920 Speaker 1: of your faith, I'm telling you, it does move mountains. 267 00:14:48,320 --> 00:14:51,720 Speaker 1: It really does, even if it's just emotionally in the moment. 268 00:14:52,480 --> 00:14:55,720 Speaker 1: For that day. That's all you need is that day 269 00:14:55,840 --> 00:14:58,080 Speaker 1: of like, Okay, I got through the day. Do the 270 00:14:58,160 --> 00:15:00,200 Speaker 1: same thing over and over and then one day you're 271 00:15:00,200 --> 00:15:03,400 Speaker 1: going to just realize, oh my gosh, opportunities are coming 272 00:15:03,440 --> 00:15:07,000 Speaker 1: because you're setting your intentions. You're attracting these things by 273 00:15:07,240 --> 00:15:11,040 Speaker 1: putting your best foot forward, which is praying and faith 274 00:15:11,160 --> 00:15:14,360 Speaker 1: and hope and not losing those things because in places 275 00:15:14,400 --> 00:15:17,040 Speaker 1: of darkness, people tend to do that. They just dig 276 00:15:17,120 --> 00:15:20,680 Speaker 1: theirselves deeper into darkness instead of just reaching for the 277 00:15:20,760 --> 00:15:23,480 Speaker 1: light and doing all those things that make you feel good. 278 00:15:25,440 --> 00:15:30,800 Speaker 1: Probably not at the moment, but eventually it will. Marita, 279 00:15:31,360 --> 00:15:34,480 Speaker 1: thank you, Thank you for again for trusting me enough 280 00:15:34,560 --> 00:15:37,320 Speaker 1: to give you advice I'm sending you guys love Edna 281 00:15:37,360 --> 00:15:39,720 Speaker 1: and Liz as well. Thank you, guys for taking the 282 00:15:39,800 --> 00:15:42,880 Speaker 1: time to leave your questions. I promise you I may 283 00:15:42,920 --> 00:15:45,400 Speaker 1: not always have the right answers or all the answers, 284 00:15:45,520 --> 00:15:48,200 Speaker 1: but I always tell you, guys what I'm feeling and 285 00:15:49,200 --> 00:15:53,440 Speaker 1: from my experiences, and I always always always have your 286 00:15:53,520 --> 00:15:56,560 Speaker 1: best interests at heart for real. Like I talk to 287 00:15:56,600 --> 00:15:59,120 Speaker 1: you guys as if you were my sister, you know, 288 00:15:59,280 --> 00:16:02,400 Speaker 1: my best friend. 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