WEBVTT - Erotic Blueprint 0:00:00.920 --> 0:00:05.240 This is How Men Think and Gavin de grab and 0:00:05.360 --> 0:00:09.720 I hear radio podcasts. Hi, my name is Brooks like 0:00:09.920 --> 0:00:12.800 and welcome to the show. This is the How Men 0:00:12.840 --> 0:00:17.120 Think podcast where we dive into the minds of these 0:00:17.200 --> 0:00:19.600 goods serves sitting here with me today. So we have Rick, 0:00:20.000 --> 0:00:22.000 we have Ryan, we have Dimitri, and we're gonna get 0:00:22.040 --> 0:00:24.200 in plug in with Gavin later he's out on tour. 0:00:24.880 --> 0:00:28.000 But first off, gentlemen, how are you doing. Let's say that, 0:00:28.120 --> 0:00:30.880 let's bring you in doing well? Doing well? You look well? 0:00:31.120 --> 0:00:34.000 Thank you? Okay, Well, here's the thing. Last week, at 0:00:34.000 --> 0:00:37.680 the end of the show, we had Ryan's friend. Ryan 0:00:37.680 --> 0:00:40.040 proposed a situation that his friend was going through and 0:00:40.080 --> 0:00:44.560 we had an enormous response and out just an outrageous 0:00:44.560 --> 0:00:47.680 amount of emails about what to do in this situation. So, Ryan, 0:00:47.720 --> 0:00:49.240 can you tee up for anybody that didn't listen to 0:00:49.280 --> 0:00:52.360 the last episode, can you tee up the scenario? Scenario? 0:00:52.479 --> 0:00:55.600 And then we're gonna give our response to what we 0:00:55.640 --> 0:00:57.440 think we would do in that. So they should go 0:00:57.480 --> 0:01:00.000 back and listen to the last episode. Wait, wait, well done, 0:01:00.080 --> 0:01:03.720 You're a better salesman than I and pause. Yeah, So 0:01:03.760 --> 0:01:06.400 what is the scenario and then we'll give our response. 0:01:06.560 --> 0:01:10.240 So the scenario is a buddy of mine um he 0:01:10.400 --> 0:01:13.639 and his now wife were having a lot of trouble 0:01:13.680 --> 0:01:16.280 to conceive. They've gone through two rounds of IVF. She 0:01:16.959 --> 0:01:20.640 was previously married uh, and after the second failed round 0:01:20.640 --> 0:01:23.360 of IVF, she said to him, look, I really want 0:01:23.720 --> 0:01:26.600 to start a family with you, and we've gone through 0:01:26.600 --> 0:01:30.360 two rounds of IVF and we're unsuccessful and I'm, you know, 0:01:30.480 --> 0:01:32.840 getting older, and I don't know if it's ever going 0:01:32.880 --> 0:01:35.679 to happen. I don't biologically, I don't know if it's 0:01:35.680 --> 0:01:38.760 in the cards for us. But I have a solution, 0:01:38.880 --> 0:01:42.560 hear me out. The solution is my ex husband and 0:01:42.600 --> 0:01:45.680 I went through IVF as well, and I have three 0:01:46.200 --> 0:01:52.440 viable embryos on ice with his sperm that I could 0:01:52.440 --> 0:01:56.560 implant tomorrow and we could have a baby together and 0:01:56.640 --> 0:02:00.800 raise that baby as our own, the only copulation being 0:02:02.080 --> 0:02:08.800 it will be my ex husband's sperm and technically his baby. 0:02:08.880 --> 0:02:12.440 And there's resentment for the X right from the current husband. 0:02:12.480 --> 0:02:16.000 There's resently does not like this guy. Yes, exactly right, 0:02:16.040 --> 0:02:18.720 I mean yes, yes. So a lot of people weighed 0:02:18.720 --> 0:02:22.400 in right because with a ton of emails. So we 0:02:22.480 --> 0:02:26.320 had a ton of emails, and everybody the over overwhelmingly, 0:02:26.320 --> 0:02:31.360 I shouldn't say everybody overwhelmingly people said no. They could 0:02:31.400 --> 0:02:34.079 not get to the point of like, because we asked 0:02:34.120 --> 0:02:36.519 the question, if you were that guy in this relationship, 0:02:36.840 --> 0:02:39.800 would you say to your wife, yes, let's take the 0:02:39.840 --> 0:02:42.320 embryo from you and your ex and implant and try 0:02:42.360 --> 0:02:46.280 and get pregnant that way, And overwhelmingly you guys responded 0:02:46.320 --> 0:02:49.320 with no. What do you what is your what is 0:02:49.360 --> 0:02:52.600 your feeling on the situation? What would you guys do? 0:02:53.320 --> 0:02:55.440 My feeling is what I started. What I said a 0:02:55.480 --> 0:02:56.919 little bit at the last the end of the last 0:02:56.919 --> 0:03:01.200 episode was um, you know, there's a lot of kids 0:03:01.240 --> 0:03:02.880 that that need home. So I think you look at 0:03:02.919 --> 0:03:05.040 adoption if this is a real problem. But what I 0:03:05.080 --> 0:03:07.200 think is the bottom line when it comes to is 0:03:07.680 --> 0:03:11.679 there's nothing more incredible than the feeling of being a dad. Okay, 0:03:11.720 --> 0:03:13.880 so it sounds like these two really want to be parents. 0:03:13.960 --> 0:03:16.959 I say, figure out what's best for you. Whether that's adoption, 0:03:17.840 --> 0:03:20.079 I don't. What I will say is, if you're going 0:03:20.120 --> 0:03:22.760 to use these embryos from a from a man that 0:03:22.800 --> 0:03:25.000 you have resentment towards you have to make sure that 0:03:25.000 --> 0:03:27.920 you're okay with it because once that baby is born, 0:03:28.280 --> 0:03:30.200 that's your baby and you cannot have any of those 0:03:30.240 --> 0:03:34.200 feelings towards that baby. Well that you really got to 0:03:34.200 --> 0:03:36.360 think this through, is what I'm saying. So you have 0:03:36.400 --> 0:03:38.720 to be a d percent sure before you do this. Okay, 0:03:38.800 --> 0:03:41.160 But here's the thing, Like I said, people are people 0:03:41.240 --> 0:03:45.160 become Um, you know stepfathers two kids that are that 0:03:45.240 --> 0:03:47.440 are from someone else, and they they love them and 0:03:47.480 --> 0:03:49.600 they they accept them, whether they like the father or not. 0:03:49.720 --> 0:03:51.600 So it can be done. But what I'm saying is 0:03:51.640 --> 0:03:53.400 you look at adoption and you figure out and if 0:03:53.440 --> 0:03:55.320 this is what you want to do, then you do 0:03:55.400 --> 0:03:57.200 it and you be and you be the best parent 0:03:57.240 --> 0:03:59.120 that you could. Difference with the stepfather of it all 0:03:59.280 --> 0:04:02.720 is is there no choice, no choice? This is a 0:04:02.800 --> 0:04:07.000 choice to get Yes, but yes, I agree, but this 0:04:07.120 --> 0:04:10.200 you're being presented with a situation where you have a 0:04:10.280 --> 0:04:12.480 choice and you're being asked are you okay with this? 0:04:12.720 --> 0:04:16.479 And so he struggled with this exact thing, which is 0:04:17.360 --> 0:04:20.680 his wife laid out everything on the line said, I 0:04:21.400 --> 0:04:23.719 want in my life, I want to be able to 0:04:23.800 --> 0:04:26.880 have my own child. Adoption is not really what I want. 0:04:26.920 --> 0:04:29.560 And while that's an option for some people, I want 0:04:29.560 --> 0:04:32.799 to know that I have my my son or daughter 0:04:32.920 --> 0:04:35.960 is my own biologically, and then I've given birth to 0:04:36.040 --> 0:04:38.520 this child and that it is my own, and so 0:04:39.400 --> 0:04:42.279 do not take that from me. We have an option 0:04:42.400 --> 0:04:45.040 and it just happens to be my ex is sperm 0:04:45.120 --> 0:04:48.040 and our embryo, but like, we will raise this baby 0:04:48.080 --> 0:04:53.040 as our own. And he felt so conflicted because he said, well, 0:04:53.160 --> 0:04:55.960 if I don't allow her this, she's going to resent me. 0:04:56.400 --> 0:04:58.360 But if I do allow it, I'm going to resent 0:04:58.880 --> 0:05:02.560 her and potentially the child. So it's a zero sum game. 0:05:02.600 --> 0:05:05.719 There's going to be resentment from either side. So how 0:05:05.760 --> 0:05:09.599 how do you proceed? So okay, here's one thought on this. 0:05:10.120 --> 0:05:13.920 They've tried IVF twice, I believe, right, Could they go 0:05:14.040 --> 0:05:17.480 around for one more shot at IVF? Could they do 0:05:17.520 --> 0:05:20.000 it one more time? I know you, I said last 0:05:20.040 --> 0:05:22.919 time she had fears that she wouldn't be able to 0:05:22.960 --> 0:05:26.840 do it. But like they've tried twice, I get that, 0:05:26.880 --> 0:05:30.320 but try one more time. Maybe. By the way, there 0:05:30.360 --> 0:05:33.039 are situations where let alone that, there are situations where 0:05:33.040 --> 0:05:34.920 people are told they can't have a baby, they do 0:05:35.279 --> 0:05:37.120 and then they have a baby. Nts like things can 0:05:37.480 --> 0:05:41.159 can It's a lot. I say that. I say that 0:05:41.240 --> 0:05:43.560 having been through IVF with my wife, knowing that it's 0:05:44.200 --> 0:05:47.440 financially expensive, and it's a lot as far as your 0:05:47.440 --> 0:05:49.640 time and your energy and what it puts a woman's 0:05:49.680 --> 0:05:54.239 body through. It is a massive undertaking. So anybody listening 0:05:54.240 --> 0:05:55.839 it says, oh, it's easy to just say that. No, 0:05:56.040 --> 0:05:57.800 I understand what it's like to go through it. So 0:05:57.880 --> 0:06:00.920 I say that, knowing fully what it's like to go 0:06:00.960 --> 0:06:03.880 through IVF, but a shot to have a baby together, 0:06:04.640 --> 0:06:08.360 maybe try it one more time. But here here's the question. 0:06:09.200 --> 0:06:12.480 If it was you, Dmitri, there's no political answer here, 0:06:12.560 --> 0:06:15.680 yes or no, Like, could you say yes to your 0:06:15.680 --> 0:06:18.400 wife in that situation take the embryo from the X 0:06:18.440 --> 0:06:25.440 and implanted I don't. I don't know that I could. 0:06:25.480 --> 0:06:28.480 I honestly, it would depend on on me knowing this 0:06:28.520 --> 0:06:30.320 other person. But if it was just straight up generic 0:06:30.360 --> 0:06:32.960 resentment towards this other guy, I would I would have 0:06:33.000 --> 0:06:35.040 a problem knowing that I was bringing someone into the 0:06:35.080 --> 0:06:39.680 world based on that, and and and my feelings would 0:06:39.720 --> 0:06:42.440 be conflicted. I if I had to give a quick answer, 0:06:42.440 --> 0:06:46.279 I would say no, Ryan, I would say no. And 0:06:46.360 --> 0:06:48.680 by the way, I don't think that makes either of 0:06:48.800 --> 0:06:52.280 us a bad person. I think that's just the honest truth. 0:06:52.400 --> 0:06:55.240 Like we're human beings, and if we're gonna look at 0:06:55.240 --> 0:06:58.240 that kid and constantly be constantly be reminded of an 0:06:58.440 --> 0:07:00.680 X that we're not fond of, then I don't think 0:07:00.680 --> 0:07:03.599 that's unfair. But that's just the honest truth. I I 0:07:03.720 --> 0:07:05.760 as well, would say no. I don't think I could 0:07:05.760 --> 0:07:08.680 get there. And as much as I and I mentioned 0:07:08.680 --> 0:07:10.560 this on the podcast last week, as much as I 0:07:10.560 --> 0:07:15.800 would love to see a representation of my wife in 0:07:15.880 --> 0:07:19.040 a child, to see those qualities and to imagine if 0:07:19.040 --> 0:07:21.160 the child looks like your wife, even like how cool 0:07:21.200 --> 0:07:24.440 would that be? Um, I just don't think I could 0:07:24.440 --> 0:07:27.280 get past the fact that it's an embryo with an 0:07:27.440 --> 0:07:32.360 X and that there's resentment between me and that man 0:07:32.440 --> 0:07:35.080 already whatever. I just don't see myself getting there. So 0:07:35.520 --> 0:07:37.560 in the current position, I would say no, and I 0:07:37.560 --> 0:07:39.760 would say try. I would like to try IVF one 0:07:39.760 --> 0:07:41.320 more time, and if it doesn't work, I would look 0:07:41.320 --> 0:07:43.840 at so I'll talk to at all. It all shipped up, 0:07:43.880 --> 0:07:48.800 which is wow. He he said exactly what all of 0:07:48.880 --> 0:07:51.080 us would have said, which is, really, I love you, 0:07:51.120 --> 0:07:55.360 but I can't. I cannot do it. I'm sorry, and 0:07:55.400 --> 0:07:57.680 I don't want that to ruin our marriage, but like 0:07:57.760 --> 0:08:00.880 I can't. If I'm being honest, I can't it. She 0:08:01.720 --> 0:08:06.280 was upset by that, admittedly, but they came to an agreement, 0:08:06.360 --> 0:08:10.520 was like, we will do it one more time. Go 0:08:10.920 --> 0:08:13.480 have you have one more time. She went to a 0:08:13.480 --> 0:08:18.040 different fertility doctor in Colorado, the leading guy in the nation, 0:08:18.800 --> 0:08:25.920 and got come on, really, yes, Wow, is that amazing? 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:28.720 It's amazing. Wow. Didn't they know what they having boy 0:08:28.800 --> 0:08:32.640 or girls? So they just literally, like two weeks ago, 0:08:32.840 --> 0:08:40.160 had a girl. Come on, dank, So we didn't know that. Wow. 0:08:40.200 --> 0:08:43.120 That fires me up, man, because you know why, So 0:08:43.200 --> 0:08:46.280 this is why that really fires me up. My wife 0:08:46.320 --> 0:08:48.320 and my wife. I'll give her credit because she was 0:08:48.360 --> 0:08:51.160 the first person that I heard that said this and 0:08:51.559 --> 0:08:54.880 I adopted it on the spot. She said no is 0:08:54.920 --> 0:08:57.760 not an answer. Will always find a way, and she 0:08:57.840 --> 0:09:00.680 applies that in her business, in her career, in her life. 0:09:00.679 --> 0:09:03.440 She says, no is not an answer that I will accept. 0:09:03.480 --> 0:09:06.560 I will always find a way. And these two did that. 0:09:07.200 --> 0:09:09.199 You know, they could have went that way and it 0:09:09.280 --> 0:09:11.480 could have caused who knows what that would have caused 0:09:11.480 --> 0:09:15.720 in their relationship, but they just they I just love it. 0:09:15.720 --> 0:09:17.640 They dug in and they found a way to do 0:09:17.720 --> 0:09:21.000 it together. And now that baby is their own. That 0:09:21.200 --> 0:09:27.480 fires me up. I love that. Welcome everybody. My name 0:09:27.520 --> 0:09:30.840 is Brooks, like and this is how men think. Right now. 0:09:30.880 --> 0:09:34.000 We are missing our buddy in studio, Mr Gavin de 0:09:34.040 --> 0:09:36.680 Gross so I cannot introduce him right here, but we've 0:09:36.679 --> 0:09:40.200 got Ryan Rick and Dmitri fear not, fear not. Gavin 0:09:40.240 --> 0:09:44.400 will be on later. Should have a moment to do. 0:09:44.440 --> 0:09:46.800 We need a smile like Gavin does every time he gets. 0:09:46.920 --> 0:09:50.959 Will be checking in from the road. Thanks Brooks. It 0:09:51.000 --> 0:09:53.040 feels good to be I'm smiling, you know. I'm happy 0:09:53.080 --> 0:09:58.080 every day. Had a good meal before it got here 0:09:57.880 --> 0:10:03.719 where I ordered a shrimp cocktail at a steakhouse. I 0:10:03.800 --> 0:10:05.240 missed him, though, I miss what We are going to 0:10:05.360 --> 0:10:08.679 call him. He's out on tour. Fantastic performer, so we're 0:10:08.679 --> 0:10:10.640 going to touch base with him. Kind of upset that 0:10:10.679 --> 0:10:12.800 we're not on tour with him right now. So I 0:10:12.800 --> 0:10:14.559 don't know, maybe maybe do we even call him or 0:10:14.559 --> 0:10:17.120 do we cut him from this show? Oh never, how 0:10:17.200 --> 0:10:20.240 dare you to my tree? And Gavin had a little 0:10:20.240 --> 0:10:23.240 bit of a romantic adventure in lake talk. I don't 0:10:23.240 --> 0:10:28.520 know what romantic is that. Well, actually it was pretty romantic. Well, 0:10:28.559 --> 0:10:30.760 we had some downtime, there was other stuff going on, 0:10:30.840 --> 0:10:32.880 and you know, we're just looking around and Gavin said, 0:10:33.400 --> 0:10:36.080 it's such a beautiful area, isn't it? And um? And 0:10:36.120 --> 0:10:38.440 I said yeah, And I normally don't fall for this, 0:10:38.480 --> 0:10:39.920 but he said, do you want to go for a drive? 0:10:39.960 --> 0:10:42.360 And I was like and I giggled like a schoolgirl 0:10:42.360 --> 0:10:44.240 and I was like, I think I do. Yeah, I 0:10:44.400 --> 0:10:46.600 felt good. Yeah, So we drove around the lake and 0:10:46.600 --> 0:10:49.240 then he did the old well this is look how beautiful. 0:10:49.280 --> 0:10:51.360 Let's pull over and then get out and take pictures. 0:10:52.000 --> 0:10:54.240 And again I was like, not something I normally do, 0:10:54.360 --> 0:10:56.120 but sure. But so what happened was we just got 0:10:56.160 --> 0:10:59.200 out and looked. It was actually a very beautiful, um scene. 0:10:59.559 --> 0:11:01.680 But what I His dog Buddy was in the car too, 0:11:01.760 --> 0:11:03.719 and I think he was mad because I got the 0:11:03.760 --> 0:11:06.559 front seat. So when we got out, we got back 0:11:06.559 --> 0:11:09.120 in and Buddy had taken my seat. Oh no, And 0:11:09.160 --> 0:11:11.520 at that point I was like, okay, well, Buddy, I 0:11:11.520 --> 0:11:14.280 know this is your car. But I can't go back. 0:11:14.360 --> 0:11:16.440 I can't go back to camp and be riding the 0:11:16.520 --> 0:11:18.600 back seat with your upfront because I'm gonna look like 0:11:19.559 --> 0:11:20.839 I don't know if I can say bitch, but that's 0:11:20.840 --> 0:11:24.439 what I'm gonna look like. So um So we compromised. 0:11:24.480 --> 0:11:26.120 I got in the car, we put you know, Buddy 0:11:26.160 --> 0:11:27.719 got down on the floor, and then I got there, 0:11:27.720 --> 0:11:30.680 and then Buddy jumped up on my lap. So every 0:11:30.679 --> 0:11:33.200 stoplight we stopped at, everybody's looked over and saw Gavin, 0:11:33.320 --> 0:11:36.839 myself and Buddy on my lapt and I'm gonna be honest, 0:11:36.840 --> 0:11:39.680 I think we look pretty cute. I have a I 0:11:39.720 --> 0:11:41.640 have a burning question. I don't know this whole time. 0:11:41.760 --> 0:11:44.560 This has been in my mind. What music did he 0:11:44.600 --> 0:11:48.160 play for you? It was weird he played all his music. No, 0:11:48.240 --> 0:11:52.000 I'm just kidding, Um, you know, I don't know. I 0:11:52.040 --> 0:11:53.880 don't know that there was music playing. And then we 0:11:53.920 --> 0:11:57.800 just had the windows down, smelling the Tahoe air. Deep conversation, 0:11:58.240 --> 0:12:00.880 Yeah we were. We were talking was like real good 0:12:00.880 --> 0:12:05.160 eye contact. I mean it was made it dangerous, but yes, 0:12:05.200 --> 0:12:06.920 he did keep we kept making eye contact, and I 0:12:06.960 --> 0:12:09.160 was like, should you be looking at the road. But 0:12:09.200 --> 0:12:10.720 it was, um, there was no it was. It was 0:12:10.720 --> 0:12:13.280 actually a very nice ride. And I got to know, um, 0:12:13.320 --> 0:12:15.319 a little bit about Gavin, a little bit about Tahoe 0:12:15.360 --> 0:12:18.200 because I had never been to Tahoe, and um, you know, 0:12:18.320 --> 0:12:20.520 Rick was was warming up because he was he was 0:12:20.760 --> 0:12:22.640 swimming the next day and he was. He spent the 0:12:22.679 --> 0:12:25.960 whole weekend in a speedo, which I thought unnecessary. I 0:12:26.000 --> 0:12:28.400 want to channel my inner Gavin right now. Let me 0:12:28.440 --> 0:12:32.680 ask you a question. Is his car stick shift or 0:12:32.720 --> 0:12:37.880 an automatic? Hypothetically speaking if the car broke down? Um, no, 0:12:37.960 --> 0:12:39.240 I'm having fun with it. We did have a nice 0:12:39.240 --> 0:12:42.240 time though, Yeah. Uh, here's actually we we had a 0:12:42.280 --> 0:12:44.680 whole nice time the whole weekend. Right, it was fantastic. Yeah, 0:12:44.679 --> 0:12:47.360 thank everyone for supporting and it was it was a blast. 0:12:47.440 --> 0:12:49.800 How did you do? Great race? We did well? Yeah, 0:12:49.840 --> 0:12:52.880 the weather was perfect. Team buil everybody in on what 0:12:52.960 --> 0:12:55.280 she could just competed in. Yeah. So we just finished 0:12:55.280 --> 0:12:57.240 the Trance Tahoe Race, which is a twelve mile race 0:12:57.280 --> 0:13:00.560 across Lake Tahoe. There's six people participate Pinson. It's a 0:13:00.559 --> 0:13:02.560 relay race, so everybody swims a half an hour and 0:13:02.600 --> 0:13:04.520 then after you do your first half hour, you go 0:13:04.600 --> 0:13:07.960 increments of ten minutes until you finish. Uh. It was 0:13:08.240 --> 0:13:10.439 eighty degree day. There was no wind, so the lake 0:13:10.559 --> 0:13:13.880 was perfectly flat. We started off. We ended up finishing 0:13:13.920 --> 0:13:16.800 sixty three out of two hundred and sixty seven teams. 0:13:16.840 --> 0:13:20.200 I think it was total UM six in our age bracket. 0:13:20.520 --> 0:13:22.800 So we were we were pleased with the results. It 0:13:22.840 --> 0:13:26.640 was it was exciting. Lady I did not mind the 0:13:26.679 --> 0:13:30.640 speedos at all. Enjoyed saw the photos. It looked like 0:13:30.720 --> 0:13:34.920 the water must have been cold. It's definitely cold, but 0:13:35.040 --> 0:13:37.640 putting everybody else down to make yourself feel better. We 0:13:37.760 --> 0:13:41.679 dubbed it um I will say though I was on 0:13:41.720 --> 0:13:43.080 the boat, I was kind of would you call me 0:13:43.080 --> 0:13:48.640 an honorary team? Uh oh yeah, yeah I was. I 0:13:48.679 --> 0:13:50.960 was ready to jump in, you know, for anybody that 0:13:51.000 --> 0:13:53.760 could not finish for any reason. Um I did not 0:13:53.800 --> 0:13:56.400 have a speedo, but um Amy said the speedos were 0:13:56.480 --> 0:13:59.000 not bad. You were not on a boat with with 0:13:59.080 --> 0:14:04.520 six of them just staring at you, just for those 0:14:04.559 --> 0:14:06.400 of you that aren't watching, so I can't see. She 0:14:06.520 --> 0:14:08.480 just hit her mouth on the mic because I wanted 0:14:08.480 --> 0:14:12.200 to say I wish I was question for you. Rick 0:14:12.280 --> 0:14:14.880 in a thirty minute swim. It's a twelve mile race 0:14:14.920 --> 0:14:17.080 in a thirty minute swim. How far would you swim 0:14:17.080 --> 0:14:20.320 in thirty minutes? I we did not measure it, but 0:14:20.360 --> 0:14:23.040 I estimated we'd probably swam about a mile and a half. 0:14:23.040 --> 0:14:26.440 I have each half each, so each partner did thirty minutes, 0:14:26.600 --> 0:14:28.720 so that's six times through. And then how many increments 0:14:28.760 --> 0:14:30.680 of ten minutes did you do? I had to do 0:14:30.960 --> 0:14:34.560 three ten minutes after that, so yeah, um, but I 0:14:34.600 --> 0:14:37.640 started the race, So basically the race starts started at 0:14:37.680 --> 0:14:40.560 seven fifty am. They dropped me off around seven. I 0:14:40.600 --> 0:14:42.280 sat on the beach for a while I had closed 0:14:42.280 --> 0:14:43.640 on and then you put your clothes in a bag 0:14:44.040 --> 0:14:47.040 and then the sponsorship brings it over to the end 0:14:47.040 --> 0:14:48.800 of the race and you grab your clothes after. But 0:14:49.520 --> 0:14:51.640 the beginning of the race is kind of hectic, like 0:14:51.680 --> 0:14:54.960 there's everyone's jumping in the water at one time, everyone's running. 0:14:55.000 --> 0:14:57.800 It's cold. It was was a gorgeous David. We're on 0:14:58.080 --> 0:15:01.280 the east side of the lay and so it's still shadow. 0:15:01.360 --> 0:15:04.120 The sun hasn't come up yet, water is cold, and 0:15:04.160 --> 0:15:07.680 I was heading around the first booie and I think 0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:10.720 I got like either altitude sickness, or maybe it was 0:15:10.760 --> 0:15:13.200 the three fingers rum the night before. I'm not sure 0:15:13.360 --> 0:15:15.400 you heard drinking the night before. We had a couple 0:15:15.440 --> 0:15:18.600 of SIPs. Yeah, just a couple of SIPs. It's like, 0:15:18.640 --> 0:15:20.760 tin cup, It's like, what do you think I should do? Like, 0:15:20.880 --> 0:15:24.160 you gotta get drunk, you always play better. We're talking 0:15:24.200 --> 0:15:26.680 about it because I was like, because obviously I was 0:15:26.760 --> 0:15:28.400 drinking the night before because I didn't have to, you know, 0:15:28.440 --> 0:15:31.840 as an alternate, you don't really have to. Um. But 0:15:31.880 --> 0:15:33.400 then I was like, I was actually surprised at how 0:15:33.480 --> 0:15:35.960 much these guys were drinking. But I wasn't gonna be like, guy, 0:15:36.000 --> 0:15:38.000 should you stop? Because then I would have been drinking alone, 0:15:38.000 --> 0:15:40.680 and that's an awkward feeling. UM. I will say, all 0:15:40.760 --> 0:15:43.840 joking aside, you guys were you did a phenomenal job. 0:15:43.920 --> 0:15:46.120 Like all the jokes I'm making about the speedos and 0:15:46.120 --> 0:15:47.360 is that you guys were in there and you were 0:15:47.400 --> 0:15:50.640 swimming and it was pretty impressive swimming through that that lake? 0:15:51.080 --> 0:15:53.520 Was it what you say? It was twelve miles? I 0:15:53.560 --> 0:15:55.560 was impressed, and I have to tip my captain. You'll 0:15:55.600 --> 0:15:57.760 see pictures I was in the boat drinking beer, is 0:15:57.840 --> 0:16:00.080 cheering them on, So maybe I was. It was it 0:16:00.160 --> 0:16:02.480 was you guys did a great job. It was impressive, 0:16:02.640 --> 0:16:04.360 Thank you, It was. It was great to see like 0:16:04.400 --> 0:16:06.800 every time you would you would turn and stroke and breathe. 0:16:07.080 --> 0:16:10.800 Dmitri on the boat like sipping his Coors Light, and 0:16:10.840 --> 0:16:13.360 it was like, oh, okay, just another nine more minutes 0:16:13.440 --> 0:16:16.040 until we get to have one of those. For anybody 0:16:16.040 --> 0:16:20.160 that hasn't or isn't a swimmer, try swimming thirty minutes 0:16:20.240 --> 0:16:23.520 straight in a lake that as hard as hell. Yeah, 0:16:24.560 --> 0:16:32.120 minutes straight in a pool and front crawl the whole way. Canadian. 0:16:32.240 --> 0:16:33.880 So Dan, Yelle and I would love nothing more than 0:16:33.920 --> 0:16:35.880 to hear you guys talk about swimming the whole time, 0:16:35.920 --> 0:16:38.280 But instead we'd rather know how long do you wait 0:16:38.280 --> 0:16:40.520 to have sex with someone that you have just begun dating? 0:16:40.680 --> 0:16:44.360 Did you meet somebody you mean like asking for a friend. 0:16:46.600 --> 0:16:49.160 It actually is from a listener, Okay, listener questions after 0:16:49.200 --> 0:16:54.240 the race or before the race, the night before. There's 0:16:54.320 --> 0:16:56.120 a lot of there's a lot of there's a lot 0:16:56.120 --> 0:16:59.080 of theory behind that. Save your legs, don't do it. 0:16:59.160 --> 0:17:01.320 Let me ask you that on that topic, did you 0:17:01.360 --> 0:17:06.919 abstain from sex before NHL games? Like was there a 0:17:06.960 --> 0:17:10.920 policy team wide? It's like night before game, guys, there 0:17:11.000 --> 0:17:13.880 was never a policy. No, you're grown man, you can 0:17:13.920 --> 0:17:17.439 do what you want. There's grown men with families, wives, kids. 0:17:17.480 --> 0:17:19.879 Just you're in control of your careers. Show up and 0:17:19.920 --> 0:17:23.920 your performance is going to reflect your preparation usually. So 0:17:24.280 --> 0:17:26.320 I never had anything like that, was single most of 0:17:26.359 --> 0:17:29.840 my life. So, um, I wasn't really doing much. And 0:17:29.880 --> 0:17:31.879 you already admitted that after the games you would go 0:17:31.880 --> 0:17:34.520 and work out, So clearly you weren't getting much before 0:17:34.560 --> 0:17:36.400 the games because you had so much energy even after. 0:17:36.560 --> 0:17:38.359 I just have a lot of energy in general. Brother, 0:17:38.520 --> 0:17:42.320 So let's focus. So here's the question. Is the success 0:17:42.359 --> 0:17:46.320 of the relationship determined in any way by how long 0:17:46.400 --> 0:17:49.280 you wait? Do you know what I mean? Like, you 0:17:49.320 --> 0:17:51.320 know how some women, Oh I made him wait for 0:17:51.359 --> 0:17:54.359 three months and then he married me, you know what 0:17:54.400 --> 0:17:57.760 I mean? This is seriously a question from her, and 0:17:57.760 --> 0:17:59.600 then she also wants to know this might be a 0:17:59.600 --> 0:18:02.320 lot of inn formation, but did you wait longer with 0:18:02.359 --> 0:18:10.240 your wives than maybe a previous relationship. Well, so you're asking, 0:18:10.359 --> 0:18:13.359 like when you're first dating somebody, that's what you're asking. 0:18:13.400 --> 0:18:15.159 How long how long do you wait to have sex. 0:18:15.200 --> 0:18:17.320 How long do you wait to have sex? I mean 0:18:17.400 --> 0:18:19.760 you want you don't care about what you do want 0:18:20.359 --> 0:18:22.720 want or like, I mean like the guy you want 0:18:22.720 --> 0:18:26.200 to like I did it right there? Right? I mean 0:18:26.920 --> 0:18:29.160 I mean right, isn't what you want to hear? Right? Like, yeah, 0:18:29.240 --> 0:18:31.520 we want to have sex that night if she's ready 0:18:31.560 --> 0:18:35.440 to go. But see, I think it depends on what 0:18:35.560 --> 0:18:37.119 I think it depends on what you're expecting or what 0:18:37.160 --> 0:18:40.400 you want from that situation. If it's like obviously you're saying, 0:18:40.440 --> 0:18:42.320 yea guy wants to have sex all the time, so 0:18:42.640 --> 0:18:45.919 first aid he'd like to have sex. But in my 0:18:46.040 --> 0:18:47.639 you know, in my opinion, it's like, all right, if 0:18:47.640 --> 0:18:49.639 this is someone you can see spending, you're gonna have 0:18:49.680 --> 0:18:51.399 that Like, oh, she just had sex right away? So 0:18:51.520 --> 0:18:55.080 is that something that affects you? I I agree with 0:18:55.080 --> 0:18:58.040 what he's saying. So when you meet somebody that you 0:18:58.080 --> 0:19:02.440 have a an intellectual connection with an emotional connection with, 0:19:03.000 --> 0:19:06.240 um something Because you meet somebody that you're physically attracted to, 0:19:06.240 --> 0:19:09.200 and then you meet somebody else that you're intrigued by, 0:19:09.400 --> 0:19:11.760 and when you meet that person that really intrigues you. 0:19:12.280 --> 0:19:15.679 From a man's standpoint, I think it's actually more enjoyable 0:19:15.760 --> 0:19:20.399 to not rush to the physical. Um, because you, as 0:19:20.480 --> 0:19:23.719 Dmitri said, you probably see this person, you see yourself 0:19:23.720 --> 0:19:26.880 with this person long term, so you don't want to know, oh, 0:19:26.960 --> 0:19:28.920 we just hooked up on the first night. You kind 0:19:28.920 --> 0:19:31.560 of want to have according period there. This is from 0:19:31.560 --> 0:19:34.480 my my life anyway. In my standpoint, you want to 0:19:34.480 --> 0:19:38.480 have a cording period where it's maybe one to three dates, um, 0:19:38.560 --> 0:19:41.919 whatever it is before you get really physical. Uh, and 0:19:41.920 --> 0:19:45.199 it's actually a really exciting time versus rushing right to 0:19:45.359 --> 0:19:49.440 it and then oh yeah, yeah, maybe that you haven't 0:19:49.520 --> 0:19:54.399 learned this person enough, or maybe that just tarnishes the 0:19:54.400 --> 0:19:57.720 the intrigue a little bit. That's so I found yeah, 0:19:57.720 --> 0:20:00.440 being respectful also because if you if you really appreciating 0:20:00.480 --> 0:20:02.800 our intrigued by this person, you want to respect them 0:20:02.840 --> 0:20:04.719 and you're probably not going to push those boundaries right 0:20:04.720 --> 0:20:06.760 out of the blocks. And that's that's the way I feel. 0:20:06.800 --> 0:20:09.840 That's a preference. But um, I'm it doesn't mean it 0:20:09.880 --> 0:20:12.919 doesn't work. Like I do have friends that that hooked up, 0:20:12.960 --> 0:20:15.720 slept together on the first date and they're happily married, 0:20:15.720 --> 0:20:17.520 they have a bunch of kids and and things are 0:20:17.520 --> 0:20:20.640 going great. So it is possible, but it's just really 0:20:20.640 --> 0:20:22.840 probably just a preference. Then I think what what you 0:20:22.840 --> 0:20:25.919 were saying Brooks, there is there's an excitement to the 0:20:25.960 --> 0:20:30.280 anticipation of actually having sex. It's it goes back to 0:20:30.320 --> 0:20:34.199 what I said weeks ago on about Christmas morning. I 0:20:34.280 --> 0:20:36.359 dread Christmas morning because it's here and then it's gonna 0:20:36.359 --> 0:20:39.679 go away. It's supposed to be the happiest day in 0:20:39.720 --> 0:20:43.320 the year, but it's like, once it's there, it's done. 0:20:43.480 --> 0:20:45.760 So it's the build up that leads to the moment. 0:20:46.000 --> 0:20:49.400 To me, that's probably more exciting than the actual moment itself. 0:20:49.640 --> 0:20:52.800 You're saying you get sex for Christmas. The chase, I 0:20:52.840 --> 0:20:55.119 think what you're saying is the chase. So for a guy, 0:20:55.600 --> 0:20:58.560 the chase is really enjoyable. And I'm sure I can't 0:20:58.560 --> 0:21:01.480 speak from a female standpoint, but I'm sure for them 0:21:01.480 --> 0:21:05.480 it's the same thing. But the chase of getting plus 0:21:05.520 --> 0:21:07.920 you're just infatuated by somebody, You're getting to know them, 0:21:08.160 --> 0:21:11.040 and that's going to amplify the physical experience when it 0:21:11.119 --> 0:21:17.399 comes to that. But that chase is really exciting. I agree. 0:21:17.480 --> 0:21:19.520 I think the chase is really exciting. But I think 0:21:19.560 --> 0:21:21.159 you're all kind of wrong because I feel like if 0:21:21.200 --> 0:21:23.200 you're actually sitting there and you're at a very nice 0:21:23.200 --> 0:21:24.919 dinner and you're having the time of your life and 0:21:24.960 --> 0:21:27.960 she is too or he or whatever, and like that, 0:21:28.359 --> 0:21:32.080 you just want to get at it, like why not? Well, 0:21:32.400 --> 0:21:35.400 maybe like that's the whole point, was not the whole point. 0:21:36.000 --> 0:21:37.679 If Gavin was here, he'd say, hold on, hold on, 0:21:37.720 --> 0:21:39.200 what am I having for dinner? Because if it's a 0:21:39.280 --> 0:21:41.760 nice steak, maybe I can put off this, And he'd say, 0:21:41.800 --> 0:21:45.760 who's paying for dinner? But yeah, I think it's I 0:21:45.800 --> 0:21:47.840 think go either way. As as Demetri said, I do 0:21:47.920 --> 0:21:49.399 have friends that have hooked up on the first night, 0:21:49.440 --> 0:21:52.080 have been married fifteen years and have kids. So that 0:21:52.160 --> 0:21:55.000 doesn't mean that that's going to dictate the quality of 0:21:55.080 --> 0:21:57.720 the relationship. But I think it's just a personal preference. 0:21:57.720 --> 0:22:00.320 Do you want to advance the physical part of it 0:22:00.400 --> 0:22:04.080 sooner or later? I prevard later, And I'll wrap it 0:22:04.160 --> 0:22:06.480 up with this. I think the older you get, the 0:22:06.600 --> 0:22:09.439 more you know what you want. So when you find 0:22:09.520 --> 0:22:13.760 that person, if you're older, you're like, yeah, I know this, 0:22:13.960 --> 0:22:16.119 I want to be I want to have sex with 0:22:16.160 --> 0:22:18.640 this person. Like I'm not gonna waste any time. It's 0:22:18.760 --> 0:22:21.000 let's just I know what I want, he has what 0:22:21.080 --> 0:22:23.800 I want. Let's do this. We'll be right back in 0:22:23.840 --> 0:22:28.400 just a second. Okay, we're gonna get into today's topic. 0:22:28.840 --> 0:22:31.320 We've covered this before on the show. So you guys 0:22:31.320 --> 0:22:34.480 remember the episode where my wife Julianne was on and 0:22:34.560 --> 0:22:40.560 she had mentioned about a special lady named Miss Jaia 0:22:40.760 --> 0:22:44.600 who is a sex therapist. See, I'll be honest, I 0:22:44.600 --> 0:22:46.520 thought that was a metaphor. I didn't realize that was 0:22:46.520 --> 0:22:49.840 a real person. I realized that, yes, she's a sexologist, 0:22:49.920 --> 0:22:51.960 not a sex therapist. I got that. I just want 0:22:51.960 --> 0:22:53.840 to clear that up. But we talked about this lady 0:22:53.880 --> 0:22:57.400 named Miss Jaya, and she has an erotic blueprint UM, 0:22:57.600 --> 0:23:00.720 and it's an erotic blueprint or erotic bre Through dot com, 0:23:00.760 --> 0:23:03.440 you can take this erotic blueprint and it sort of 0:23:03.480 --> 0:23:08.000 gives you a little background about what you are essentially sexually. UM, 0:23:08.040 --> 0:23:10.800 just your erotic blueprint. And so my wife and I 0:23:10.840 --> 0:23:13.880 have have both taken this UM and did you guys 0:23:13.880 --> 0:23:15.720 take it? Have you guys taken it? Now? We have 0:23:15.800 --> 0:23:19.360 taken it. We have taken it UM. And the response 0:23:19.400 --> 0:23:21.560 from this that show was incredible. We had so many 0:23:21.560 --> 0:23:25.200 people email us and jump on our Instagram page saying 0:23:25.200 --> 0:23:27.879 they want to hear more from Miss Jaya. So today 0:23:27.920 --> 0:23:31.680 we actually have Miss Jaya coming on with us, which 0:23:31.760 --> 0:23:34.440 is Rick's eyes just lit up. He's like, oh boy, 0:23:34.600 --> 0:23:36.880 all your answers are all your questions, your whole life? 0:23:37.040 --> 0:23:39.919 What blueprints? You know? How I gave you one word 0:23:40.040 --> 0:23:44.480 describing you. I was a shape shifter? What is that? 0:23:44.480 --> 0:23:48.199 That's what Miss Jaia is gonna answer. I was a 0:23:48.320 --> 0:23:56.359 kid that wass sorry? I was a shape shifter. Also 0:23:56.800 --> 0:24:00.200 a shape shifter, shape shifter shape my wife was also 0:24:00.280 --> 0:24:01.879 a shape shift. Well, that's what I want to know. 0:24:02.160 --> 0:24:06.200 Is it is an ideal situation that you and your 0:24:06.400 --> 0:24:10.120 partner are the same? Or does a shape shifter pair 0:24:10.200 --> 0:24:13.359 well with a kinky? I think actually in the test, 0:24:13.480 --> 0:24:15.760 I think it does say who you pair well with? 0:24:16.359 --> 0:24:18.760 I believe, but I could be mistaken. It sounds like 0:24:18.760 --> 0:24:24.680 a question. Can't wait, what do you get? I got kinky? 0:24:24.880 --> 0:24:29.919 You're kinky? Obviously? Wow? No, he got kinky taking the quiz? 0:24:29.960 --> 0:24:32.520 What did you get? Wait? Is that when you're you 0:24:32.560 --> 0:24:36.040 guys are a match? You're asking he's a shape shifter 0:24:36.200 --> 0:24:39.560 and I'm a kinky there's and I was not expecting that. 0:24:39.680 --> 0:24:44.800 But look, uh sexual sexual, which I don't know if 0:24:44.800 --> 0:24:46.280 you read the fine print after he said this is 0:24:46.320 --> 0:24:50.920 the best thing to be but I'm pretty sure. And 0:24:50.960 --> 0:24:53.400 then Amy's face is really read over here because she 0:24:53.720 --> 0:24:59.520 is kinky. I just get a text message from her. 0:24:59.720 --> 0:25:02.520 Oh God, of course I'm kinky. It's all that said. 0:25:02.680 --> 0:25:04.320 She hadn't even taken the quiz yet. I feel like 0:25:04.359 --> 0:25:06.960 you even changed. You changed your voice when you said 0:25:06.960 --> 0:25:09.000 that word to to try to you know, did I 0:25:09.080 --> 0:25:12.240 sound kinkier? You have a big smile on right now. 0:25:12.720 --> 0:25:14.640 I won wear it like a badge of honor? Would 0:25:14.680 --> 0:25:19.159 you get Danielle? I got sensual? Sensual? And Tory and 0:25:19.200 --> 0:25:21.720 Hanna took it to right? What did you guys get? 0:25:24.280 --> 0:25:26.080 So if you guys want to take this, you can 0:25:26.119 --> 0:25:28.840 go to Erotic breakthrough dot com. Miss Jaya can talk 0:25:28.880 --> 0:25:31.320 more about it. But this is an erotic blueprint to 0:25:31.320 --> 0:25:34.040 give you a little idea into how you look at 0:25:34.080 --> 0:25:38.159 intimacy and sex. Um. This is producer Tori and I 0:25:38.240 --> 0:25:48.560 had energizer or energetic, it's whatever. I also think it's 0:25:48.600 --> 0:25:51.240 also what miss Jaya is because she said we share 0:25:51.280 --> 0:25:58.320 the same erotic blue parents young. This is young Hanna 0:25:59.040 --> 0:26:04.639 and I got sexual okay, so kind of neat that 0:26:04.680 --> 0:26:08.560 we have like a mixture, that we have all different 0:26:08.600 --> 0:26:11.600 kinds on this panel. So I'm I'm interested to ask 0:26:11.680 --> 0:26:15.240 questions to miss Jaya um and find out what this 0:26:15.320 --> 0:26:18.440 means for us. And so we have Jaya on the 0:26:18.480 --> 0:26:22.320 show with us. Welcome Jaya. Hello, it's so pleased to 0:26:22.320 --> 0:26:27.480 be here. Yeah, welcome, round of applause. I cannot state 0:26:27.480 --> 0:26:29.760 this enough. I'm so excited that you're here. Um. We 0:26:29.880 --> 0:26:33.080 have four gentlemen here that are extremely lost in this area, 0:26:33.720 --> 0:26:35.879 um and are looking for some answers. And and and also 0:26:35.920 --> 0:26:37.320 I just want to pass on to you. I don't 0:26:37.320 --> 0:26:39.640 know if you heard the episode with my wife Julianne 0:26:39.680 --> 0:26:42.000 Huff where she mentioned your name and that we took 0:26:42.000 --> 0:26:46.600 your erotic blueprint quiz. UM. My wife doesn't fangirl over 0:26:46.720 --> 0:26:49.359 many people, but last night when I told her that 0:26:49.400 --> 0:26:51.439 we were speaking with you on the podcast today, she 0:26:51.560 --> 0:26:55.560 tried to literally clear her schedule to come meet you. 0:26:56.640 --> 0:26:59.560 So she wanted me to pass that on that she 0:26:59.680 --> 0:27:01.800 is a ass a fan of yours and she hopes 0:27:01.880 --> 0:27:04.280 that we can connect and talk. Um. She just loves 0:27:04.280 --> 0:27:06.120 what you do loves your work and has so many 0:27:06.160 --> 0:27:08.760 questions for you. So sometime after the show we'll have 0:27:08.840 --> 0:27:13.160 to continue the conversation. But um one, we just want 0:27:13.200 --> 0:27:18.280 to introduce you to our listeners. Um And you're often 0:27:18.400 --> 0:27:21.760 mistaken for a sex therapist, but you're actually referred to 0:27:21.840 --> 0:27:25.560 as a sexologist. Can you elaborate on that for us please. 0:27:26.080 --> 0:27:29.199 So I have the great pleasure of not just talking 0:27:29.240 --> 0:27:32.879 about sex, but I help people hands on. So my 0:27:33.000 --> 0:27:36.880 practice is somatic, meaning you know, people come into my office, 0:27:37.040 --> 0:27:39.280 we talk a little, and then I actually see how 0:27:39.320 --> 0:27:42.120 they touch each other. So I can say, hey, you're 0:27:42.160 --> 0:27:44.280 touching her like a piece of meat. You need to 0:27:44.280 --> 0:27:47.920 start touching her more like very gently, like a tulip, 0:27:47.960 --> 0:27:50.919 for like you're dropping a pebble into a pond, So 0:27:50.960 --> 0:27:53.520 that we can start to really get this not sex 0:27:53.520 --> 0:27:55.399 and just something we can talk about, it's something that 0:27:55.440 --> 0:27:58.720 we actually need to get hands on and hands in with. Wow, 0:27:58.760 --> 0:28:02.520 so you actually get to watch and coach real time. 0:28:03.280 --> 0:28:05.520 I watched and coach real time. I work with the 0:28:05.560 --> 0:28:09.440 physical body. We work with biochemistry, so we're working with hormones, 0:28:09.880 --> 0:28:12.720 we're working with the emotional aspects, and we work with 0:28:12.720 --> 0:28:15.560 the energetic aspects. Wow, okay, so I just want to 0:28:15.600 --> 0:28:18.399 read here um your mission, So it says your mission 0:28:18.440 --> 0:28:22.200 is to help people gain access to erotic ecstasy. You're 0:28:22.200 --> 0:28:25.400 committed to shifting the cultural view of sexuality from being 0:28:25.440 --> 0:28:28.760 something that is bad, wrong, or shameful to something seemed 0:28:28.800 --> 0:28:32.040 as healthy, worth cultivating and celebrating, which I think is 0:28:32.080 --> 0:28:35.000 an incredible mission mission. And you've been doing this work 0:28:35.040 --> 0:28:38.240 for now over two decades. Over two decades. I really 0:28:38.280 --> 0:28:41.280 want to acknowledge you guys. You know people kind of 0:28:41.480 --> 0:28:43.800 judge like, oh, they're working on their sex life. You know, 0:28:43.920 --> 0:28:46.400 things must be going wrong or self stuff like that, 0:28:46.440 --> 0:28:48.800 and it's like, no, this is something that we need 0:28:48.880 --> 0:28:51.240 to bring out of the dark and start talking about 0:28:51.320 --> 0:28:55.840 because people feel like they're wrong, they're broken something, you know, shameful. 0:28:55.920 --> 0:28:58.840 Let's not talk about it? When why not do this 0:28:58.880 --> 0:29:01.120 in the beginning of your relation ship? That takes a 0:29:01.160 --> 0:29:03.320 lot of courage, And I just really want to acknowledge 0:29:03.360 --> 0:29:06.320 you guys, because that's amazing that you took steps to 0:29:06.400 --> 0:29:10.120 really improve talk about these things, have conversations because I 0:29:10.160 --> 0:29:12.640 see couples thirty or forty years into their relationship and 0:29:12.680 --> 0:29:15.520 they've never had the conversation about sex, and they're both 0:29:15.560 --> 0:29:18.640 really really suffering in this area. Well, and you this 0:29:18.720 --> 0:29:21.360 is dmitri Um. You might know me as sexual from 0:29:21.360 --> 0:29:24.480 the results. But it's kind of like a car, right, 0:29:24.520 --> 0:29:26.160 Like you don't wait for your car to break down 0:29:26.200 --> 0:29:28.320 to get it tuned up right, You bring it in 0:29:28.480 --> 0:29:29.880 and you get you get it tuned up so that 0:29:29.960 --> 0:29:32.240 it doesn't break down. And I imagine that's what the 0:29:32.280 --> 0:29:34.920 same thing with the relationship and a sexual relationship. And 0:29:34.960 --> 0:29:37.000 if you get a hyper sports car, you want to 0:29:37.000 --> 0:29:39.520 know how the thing works, you know, like some people 0:29:39.600 --> 0:29:45.120 are like some people have a McLaren and you've got 0:29:45.120 --> 0:29:47.240 to learn you know, how to all the buttons and 0:29:47.280 --> 0:29:48.840 how to drive it in the right gas to put 0:29:48.880 --> 0:29:51.680 in it. And that's a more sophisticated blueprint. So you 0:29:51.720 --> 0:29:53.920 mentioned your sexual blueprint, but that would be like an 0:29:54.040 --> 0:29:57.600 energetic shape shifter. Is that fine automobile? You've got to 0:29:57.640 --> 0:29:59.360 know how to play it just right. So I have 0:29:59.400 --> 0:30:02.320 a question for Ugia. So when my wife first, she 0:30:02.400 --> 0:30:04.120 came home one day and she said, I found this 0:30:04.240 --> 0:30:08.520 quiz that gives you an erotic blueprint. Um, I've read 0:30:08.600 --> 0:30:12.760 up on it. I've started studying her stuff she's watched videos. Um. 0:30:12.920 --> 0:30:16.280 She was really informed on you when she brought you 0:30:16.480 --> 0:30:20.480 to me. And originally, as you said, I pushed away. 0:30:20.480 --> 0:30:23.360 I was like, wait, don't like why we don't need that? UM? 0:30:23.400 --> 0:30:26.560 Our sex is great? UM Like why do we need 0:30:26.600 --> 0:30:29.320 to what? What is this? I was uncomfortable with it? 0:30:29.360 --> 0:30:32.920 Just full transparency. I was uncomfortable with this. It was 0:30:33.000 --> 0:30:36.240 something that my wife had never mentioned before. UM did 0:30:36.280 --> 0:30:39.120 you feel inadequate? No, I was just I was I 0:30:39.160 --> 0:30:42.440 was curious, like why is she? Is she not happy? 0:30:42.480 --> 0:30:44.600 I kind of started thinking like, is she not happy 0:30:44.600 --> 0:30:46.840 in our sex life? I don't. And then I started 0:30:46.840 --> 0:30:49.880 thinking about it more and I was like, well, I 0:30:49.920 --> 0:30:52.720 go to I'm extremely well versed in nutrition, but I 0:30:52.720 --> 0:30:55.840 still go to a nutritionist. I'm extremely well versed in 0:30:55.880 --> 0:31:00.240 athletics and training, but I still seek advice from anthon 0:31:00.240 --> 0:31:03.920 conditioning coaches and this other um. Kinds of areas of 0:31:03.960 --> 0:31:06.200 my life that I still I might be proficient at, 0:31:06.280 --> 0:31:08.040 but I still want to grow in that area. And 0:31:08.080 --> 0:31:11.440 I'm not saying I'm proficient sexually. But when I started 0:31:11.440 --> 0:31:13.040 thinking about it that way, I was like, Oh, actually, 0:31:13.040 --> 0:31:15.880 I'm just seeking some growth in the area versus something 0:31:16.000 --> 0:31:18.360 is wrong. But why do we tend to look at 0:31:19.120 --> 0:31:21.040 for maybe listeners that think, oh, I could never go 0:31:21.120 --> 0:31:23.600 to a sexologist or something. Why do we tend to 0:31:23.640 --> 0:31:26.120 think that that's sort of taboo? And which I love 0:31:26.120 --> 0:31:27.920 your mission is you're trying to change that. But what 0:31:28.160 --> 0:31:31.400 is our mindset to try and think that that's taboo. Yeah, 0:31:31.440 --> 0:31:34.120 we have this history of let's put it under the rug, 0:31:34.200 --> 0:31:36.200 let's not talk about sex when we're taught from an 0:31:36.200 --> 0:31:39.040 early age about sex. And I asked people this question 0:31:39.080 --> 0:31:42.440 all over what were you taught about sex growing up? 0:31:42.840 --> 0:31:44.239 And a lot of people say, oh, I didn't get 0:31:44.280 --> 0:31:48.520 sex education, but you were taught about sex. You were 0:31:48.560 --> 0:31:51.120 taught let's not talk about it. You were taught this 0:31:51.200 --> 0:31:54.280 is how we behave. You were taught close your legs, 0:31:54.480 --> 0:31:58.120 be good, don't you know, hash hash hash hashash Again 0:31:58.120 --> 0:32:01.040 then like, don't talk about it, peace creates the taboo 0:32:01.080 --> 0:32:04.040 around it, which either becomes an erotic charge like oh 0:32:04.160 --> 0:32:06.520 it's naughty. That's one of the blueprints as well, and 0:32:06.640 --> 0:32:08.800 like that naughty, let's not talk about it, and that 0:32:08.800 --> 0:32:11.840 turns me on. Hey, Ji, I just wanted to ask you, 0:32:11.840 --> 0:32:16.320 you know, what the benefit of do going to you know, 0:32:16.400 --> 0:32:20.680 as uh, sexology sexologists Early on in the relationship, when 0:32:20.760 --> 0:32:23.200 you're with somebody and you guys both think you may 0:32:23.240 --> 0:32:25.040 have everything kind of going on the right way, and 0:32:25.520 --> 0:32:28.960 what's the advantage of that. So the beginning of a relationship, 0:32:29.040 --> 0:32:33.040 everything is kind of hot sexually, biochemically, you know, you're like, oh, 0:32:33.160 --> 0:32:36.160 new hormones, new energy. And then what happens is we 0:32:36.200 --> 0:32:39.200 go into the default of how we're wired erotically, and 0:32:39.240 --> 0:32:43.720 so after like six months eighteen months, biochemistry changes, the 0:32:43.800 --> 0:32:47.520 limerince wears off, and now we're like, maybe this person 0:32:47.720 --> 0:32:50.520 isn't right for me. But what we do when we 0:32:50.560 --> 0:32:54.280 have preventative, which is we really love this person, And 0:32:54.320 --> 0:32:55.920 I want to bust a myth here, which is about 0:32:55.960 --> 0:33:00.000 sexual compatibility. We think when we go talk to somebody 0:33:00.000 --> 0:33:03.360 about our sexuality, or we like it isn't super hot 0:33:03.360 --> 0:33:05.719 in the bed, or we're not having the orgasms that 0:33:05.760 --> 0:33:08.840 we might think we should be having, we say, oh, 0:33:08.880 --> 0:33:12.760 I'm incompatible with that person. But it's not incompatibility. If 0:33:12.800 --> 0:33:15.840 you love someone, you're gonna learn their language. So think 0:33:15.880 --> 0:33:18.520 about it more as a language, and so wouldn't it 0:33:18.520 --> 0:33:22.200 be better at the beginning of the relationship, Oh my gosh, 0:33:22.200 --> 0:33:25.600 you speak Spanish and I speak French. Let me learn 0:33:25.680 --> 0:33:28.320 French and let me learn Spanish. Now we know each 0:33:28.320 --> 0:33:30.680 other's languages. As we go into the relationship, we can 0:33:30.760 --> 0:33:33.920 keep it much hotter. Or if things change. So you 0:33:33.960 --> 0:33:36.200 have a baby, I hear one of you has a 0:33:36.240 --> 0:33:41.040 baby on the way? Um or is your you know 0:33:41.120 --> 0:33:45.400 your partner gets pregnant. Blueprints can change, sexuality can change. 0:33:45.600 --> 0:33:48.440 And now you have a language to go. Oh, my 0:33:48.520 --> 0:33:51.840 partner just shifted to energetic. Now I know how to 0:33:51.880 --> 0:33:55.240 how to speak Chinese versus I have no idea what's 0:33:55.240 --> 0:33:57.160 going on. I don't know how to touch my partner anymore. 0:33:57.200 --> 0:34:00.479 I don't understand why things have changed. And we're at 0:34:00.480 --> 0:34:02.360 a loss. And before you know what, you're in a 0:34:02.400 --> 0:34:05.480 sexist situation or you're just dissatisfied and not talking about 0:34:05.520 --> 0:34:09.160 it and you're going through the motions. So what is 0:34:10.280 --> 0:34:14.319 what is one thing that the most common problem that 0:34:14.360 --> 0:34:18.399 you you see in couples when they contact you, they 0:34:18.400 --> 0:34:21.160 aren't having sex, or the sex isn't enjoyable or is 0:34:21.200 --> 0:34:27.000 it um a partner is giving sex or acts of 0:34:27.040 --> 0:34:29.400 sex how they want to receive them, and it's not 0:34:29.480 --> 0:34:32.799 how their partner receives them or prefers like, what are 0:34:32.840 --> 0:34:36.680 some common problems that maybe um our listeners are facing, 0:34:36.719 --> 0:34:39.600 and maybe we're facing that we don't know. We actually 0:34:39.600 --> 0:34:42.319 have an epidemic on our hands of sexist relationships. You'd 0:34:42.320 --> 0:34:45.440 be really surprised. Last I heard, statistically, I think it 0:34:45.520 --> 0:34:49.719 was one in seven long term relationships were sexless, one 0:34:49.760 --> 0:34:53.640 of three in the US, And so this is a 0:34:53.840 --> 0:34:56.759 that's a lot of sexist relationships. And then we have 0:34:56.840 --> 0:34:59.600 the quality of sex, so we have people who aren't 0:34:59.600 --> 0:35:02.359 having se ux and then we have the I'm just 0:35:02.400 --> 0:35:05.520 not enjoying myself. I'm not saying anything. I wish my 0:35:05.560 --> 0:35:08.080 partner would read my mind. I hear this a lot 0:35:08.160 --> 0:35:12.320 from uh. We can say the feminine energy people or 0:35:12.400 --> 0:35:15.719 people who are identify as women who say, you know, 0:35:16.200 --> 0:35:18.799 I just wish my partner would know what to do 0:35:19.000 --> 0:35:21.920 and read my mind and be able to just voila 0:35:22.120 --> 0:35:26.400 magically give me orgasms. And that's not how it works. 0:35:26.440 --> 0:35:29.160 Part of it's a communication challenge. And I had this 0:35:29.200 --> 0:35:31.560 in my own relationship. You know here I was I 0:35:31.640 --> 0:35:33.960 was a sex therapy sex I'm not a sex service. 0:35:34.160 --> 0:35:38.120 I was a sexologist who when I knew all the 0:35:38.160 --> 0:35:41.480 sex techniques. I knew everything. I've written the book on 0:35:41.640 --> 0:35:44.440 oral I've written the book on erotic massage, I've written 0:35:44.480 --> 0:35:47.319 the book on sex positions. I couldn't get my own 0:35:47.320 --> 0:35:50.000 partner to have sex with me, and so you can, 0:35:50.040 --> 0:35:52.200 guys can imagine I'm already like fifteen years into my 0:35:52.239 --> 0:35:54.239 career and my own like we're rolling over on the 0:35:54.239 --> 0:35:57.000 opposite side of the bed, and I'm crying myself to 0:35:57.040 --> 0:35:59.319 sleep at night because I'm incongruent with what I'm doing 0:35:59.360 --> 0:36:01.920 for a living. I had to figure out what this was, 0:36:02.000 --> 0:36:05.600 and it wasn't about another sex technique. It wasn't about me. 0:36:05.680 --> 0:36:07.880 You know, strip teasing on the floor. That wasn't my 0:36:07.960 --> 0:36:11.640 partner's blueprint. Now, the sexuals, you guys might right of 0:36:11.760 --> 0:36:14.040 luck the strip tease of the floor, but my partner 0:36:14.120 --> 0:36:16.480 is not as sexual. So I had to refigure out 0:36:16.560 --> 0:36:18.080 all of this. And that's where a part of this 0:36:18.120 --> 0:36:20.719 came from, was my own pain in my own relationship. 0:36:20.760 --> 0:36:23.680 I'm happy to say we have a amazing, epic sex 0:36:23.719 --> 0:36:26.759 life now, but that time period after me having a 0:36:26.800 --> 0:36:30.480 baby and me trying to figure out who he was erotically, 0:36:30.800 --> 0:36:33.120 and it wasn't the stereotype of what we think men are. 0:36:33.239 --> 0:36:35.400 We think men are all sexual and this is how 0:36:35.440 --> 0:36:38.239 they should behave I'm naked, I'm on the bed, he 0:36:38.280 --> 0:36:40.400 should be ready to go. But that's not the truth. 0:36:40.440 --> 0:36:44.600 As we've learned through seventy thousand people now taking this quiz, uh, 0:36:44.800 --> 0:36:48.200 we see that there are men who have many different blueprints, 0:36:48.239 --> 0:36:51.400 not just a sexual blueprint. Is the beginning of the blueprint. 0:36:52.000 --> 0:36:54.560 No matter what the blueprint is, is it communication? Is 0:36:54.600 --> 0:36:57.600 that how you would start the blueprint out? So we 0:36:57.640 --> 0:37:01.040 start with taking the quiz and then figuring out from 0:37:01.120 --> 0:37:04.800 there what is it? Just mentally that you would start 0:37:04.800 --> 0:37:06.480 to type in and the quiz will give you different 0:37:06.480 --> 0:37:10.560 percentages in that map. Then we actually have physical games. 0:37:10.600 --> 0:37:11.960 So I don't have many of you been to the 0:37:12.000 --> 0:37:14.120 eye doctor. When you do, like here's a and here's 0:37:14.120 --> 0:37:16.719 be which one can you see clear? It's a similar 0:37:16.760 --> 0:37:19.320 thing where we start to play games with the bodies. 0:37:19.400 --> 0:37:21.920 To me, it's about what how the body responds. Somebody 0:37:21.960 --> 0:37:23.560 may say, I'm not kinky. This is the one that 0:37:23.640 --> 0:37:26.719 habits the most frequently. I'm not the kinky blueprint. Which 0:37:26.760 --> 0:37:30.040 are people who are turned on by taboo, But then 0:37:30.080 --> 0:37:33.520 we get them touching and all of a sudden, their 0:37:33.560 --> 0:37:36.760 body responds like, oh my god, I love that rope 0:37:36.880 --> 0:37:40.760 or oh my like you know, I love dominated and 0:37:41.200 --> 0:37:45.840 that doesn't lie. So for we mentioned this already before, 0:37:45.880 --> 0:37:48.680 but for people listening, they can take this quiz and 0:37:48.719 --> 0:37:53.200 find out your erotic blueprint at erotic breakthrough dot com. Um. 0:37:53.239 --> 0:37:55.719 But say somebody hasn't taken the quiz, or somebody has 0:37:55.760 --> 0:37:59.640 taken the quiz. What are the different erotic blueprints and 0:37:59.680 --> 0:38:03.920 what are characteristics of those blueprints? Great questions. So there's 0:38:04.080 --> 0:38:08.120 five erotic blueprints. The first one is energetic. It's someone 0:38:08.120 --> 0:38:14.480 who's turned on by anticipation, space, tease, and longing. They 0:38:14.600 --> 0:38:17.840 love to yearn there's superpowers that they can have orgasms 0:38:17.840 --> 0:38:21.000 without even being touched, so they can go into high 0:38:21.000 --> 0:38:24.319 pleasure without actually having physical touch. This is a conundrum 0:38:24.360 --> 0:38:27.680 for some of the other blueprints, and I find that 0:38:27.719 --> 0:38:30.160 one really interested because there are like learning about this. 0:38:30.200 --> 0:38:32.640 There are people that they're most turned on when their 0:38:32.640 --> 0:38:35.799 partner is six ft away or across the room, like 0:38:35.960 --> 0:38:42.200 another city, the same thing we're unavailable. That could be 0:38:42.239 --> 0:38:46.319 a shadow party. So that's an energetic. Each blueprint has 0:38:46.320 --> 0:38:49.480 a superpower, and each blueprint has a shadow. The shadow 0:38:49.520 --> 0:38:51.600 side of the energetic is they're so sensitive that they 0:38:51.640 --> 0:38:53.839 may short circuit, so if you approach them too much, 0:38:53.880 --> 0:38:55.520 too quickly, too fast. I don't know if any of 0:38:55.520 --> 0:38:57.840 you had this experience where you're about to kiss somebody 0:38:58.160 --> 0:39:00.440 and it's so hot and like your lips are just 0:39:00.680 --> 0:39:03.719 like they're you're about you're about to do it, and 0:39:03.760 --> 0:39:06.840 then there's all this excitement and then the moment the 0:39:06.880 --> 0:39:09.600 kiss happens, it kind of fades. That could be that 0:39:09.640 --> 0:39:12.120 you're an energetic or that it was just too much 0:39:12.320 --> 0:39:15.480 and more time and that yearning and longing and tease 0:39:15.680 --> 0:39:19.000 and edge play would be even more powerful. So that's 0:39:19.000 --> 0:39:21.160 the first one, and the second one is the sensual, 0:39:21.800 --> 0:39:24.400 and the sensual is turned on by all of their 0:39:24.440 --> 0:39:28.800 senses being ignited, so this is taste, smell, touch. Superpower 0:39:28.880 --> 0:39:31.000 is that they can have non genital orgasms, so this 0:39:31.080 --> 0:39:34.719 could be like sucking on someone's big toe or you know, 0:39:35.120 --> 0:39:37.040 bring down on the back of their knees something like that. 0:39:38.600 --> 0:39:43.680 Clearly took a shower before that sounds like sensual shadow 0:39:43.719 --> 0:39:49.000 who just said that. He's also the one that perked 0:39:49.080 --> 0:39:50.480 up when you said there was a book on oral 0:39:50.560 --> 0:39:54.279 so he's he's a roller coaster over here. I am 0:39:54.320 --> 0:39:58.440 only a microphone, so that's sensual. So we have energetic, 0:39:58.480 --> 0:40:01.760 we have sensual, and then the sexual is someone who's 0:40:01.800 --> 0:40:03.920 turned on by what we think of in our culture 0:40:03.920 --> 0:40:09.839 as sex is penetration, erection, intercourse, that is, and there's 0:40:09.920 --> 0:40:12.480 zero to sixty like I can get turned on usually 0:40:12.600 --> 0:40:17.480 high drive, very very quickly. And sex is fun. It's simple. 0:40:17.680 --> 0:40:20.320 So superpower is that it's just it's simple, it's easy. 0:40:20.360 --> 0:40:23.240 It's like, how can you go wrong? And sex helps 0:40:23.320 --> 0:40:26.319 the sexual relax, whereas like a sensual they need to 0:40:26.360 --> 0:40:29.560 relax first in order to have sex. So a sexual 0:40:29.640 --> 0:40:34.440 is maybe more like a primal primal feeling. Yes, sex 0:40:34.520 --> 0:40:37.200 is a need, it's a desire, it's a drive. It's 0:40:37.200 --> 0:40:39.200 like everything is right in the world if I am 0:40:39.239 --> 0:40:43.440 having sex, successful sex. I think that's Gavin, isn't it? 0:40:43.560 --> 0:40:47.359 Dmitries sexual That's what I can thank you. I came 0:40:47.440 --> 0:40:49.040 up with that in the quiz, But I don't know 0:40:49.080 --> 0:40:52.080 that that's I don't know that that says, you know, 0:40:52.239 --> 0:40:54.399 nails me to a t there. I mean, I don't 0:40:54.440 --> 0:40:56.279 feel primal. I don't feel like I need to have 0:40:56.320 --> 0:40:58.400 sex like it sounds at least the way it was 0:40:58.400 --> 0:41:02.520 described there, it sounds a very um what's the word 0:41:02.520 --> 0:41:06.640 I'm looking for, very like transactional like yeah, and I 0:41:06.640 --> 0:41:08.560 don't know, I don't think that's me. I'm sure you 0:41:08.640 --> 0:41:11.400 probably possess or g I you could answer this, but 0:41:11.480 --> 0:41:13.880 like Dmitri, so he's saying he's sexual, but that doesn't 0:41:13.920 --> 0:41:16.279 sound like him. He would possess elements of all these 0:41:16.320 --> 0:41:20.800 other blueprints, wouldn't he don't be embarrassed by your blueprint, Dmitri. 0:41:22.400 --> 0:41:25.080 I'm not embarrassed, um actually, But the truth is so 0:41:25.440 --> 0:41:27.000 with the way he's broke down, I do. I don't 0:41:27.040 --> 0:41:29.680 remember what they said, but I know it said, um, 0:41:29.840 --> 0:41:32.120 sexual was a certain percentage, and then you're at something 0:41:32.120 --> 0:41:36.400 else a certain percentage. So maybe that's what you possess 0:41:36.600 --> 0:41:41.319 other blueprints. Yeah, so that's somebody who's like, like, let's 0:41:41.360 --> 0:41:44.320 say they're eighty percent sexual. They're gonna like that A 0:41:44.360 --> 0:41:48.440 is a need, desire, want if it's high on your percentages. 0:41:48.880 --> 0:41:52.480 Whereas like my my mapping used to be that I 0:41:52.560 --> 0:41:58.000 was thirty three sexual and then I was thirty energetic, 0:41:58.719 --> 0:42:01.759 So I had those two you as my high, my 0:42:01.760 --> 0:42:05.759 my bottom. My zero was kinky now my partner, that's 0:42:05.800 --> 0:42:08.080 the next blueprint on here. Kinky is turned on by 0:42:08.080 --> 0:42:10.279 that taboo, someone who's turned on my taboo, And that 0:42:10.280 --> 0:42:14.480 can be psychological kinky with dominance and submission play, or 0:42:14.520 --> 0:42:17.759 it can be more sensation based, like spanking or the 0:42:17.800 --> 0:42:20.719 feeling of constriction on your body, something like that. My 0:42:20.840 --> 0:42:25.920 partner's highest is kinky and my zero was kinky. My 0:42:26.040 --> 0:42:29.279 highest was sexual, his zero was sexual. So we were 0:42:29.320 --> 0:42:32.640 complete opposites, which is why I'm stripped teasing for him, 0:42:32.680 --> 0:42:34.640 and he's going, why are you doing that? That does 0:42:34.680 --> 0:42:37.640 not you know, not doing it for me? Um, that 0:42:37.640 --> 0:42:40.240 makes sense because I just pulled up my results. Sexual 0:42:40.360 --> 0:42:42.360 was it was the most dominant one, but it was 0:42:42.400 --> 0:42:49.759 only and then shape shift seventeen, kinky seventeen, and energetic eight. 0:42:50.600 --> 0:42:53.120 Is it safe to say if if you are polar 0:42:53.160 --> 0:42:56.080 opposite with your significant other? Is that are you in 0:42:56.080 --> 0:43:00.799 the most need of help? Is that? Yeah? I guess 0:43:00.840 --> 0:43:03.800 i'd say what what I'd say? You are not help necessarily, 0:43:03.800 --> 0:43:07.000 But education, it's like learning, it's learning a language and 0:43:07.000 --> 0:43:10.200 it's just getting an education around Well, how do I 0:43:10.239 --> 0:43:13.359 speak like? You know? Meant you being eight percent there? 0:43:14.160 --> 0:43:17.320 Then energetic is the place where he could expand and develop. 0:43:17.440 --> 0:43:19.520 So once you know your blueprint is about learning how 0:43:19.560 --> 0:43:22.640 to feed it so you feel satisfied speaking it, like 0:43:22.680 --> 0:43:24.480 what are the right words to use, Like you're not 0:43:24.520 --> 0:43:26.759 going to go to an energetic and speak sexual that's 0:43:26.800 --> 0:43:29.360 going to turn them off. And the body language that 0:43:29.440 --> 0:43:32.759 you use healing the shadow aspects of the blueprint. And 0:43:32.800 --> 0:43:36.080 then the final piece is expanding into new territory with 0:43:36.120 --> 0:43:39.880 the blueprint. So when I went to expand, I started 0:43:39.880 --> 0:43:43.440 expanding into kinky because that was my partner's language. To 0:43:43.680 --> 0:43:46.759 learn that and start to find my own turn on 0:43:46.800 --> 0:43:48.920 and that so we can find cross over where we 0:43:49.000 --> 0:43:52.560 really love to dance. So that's four of them. So 0:43:52.560 --> 0:43:55.960 so far we have energetic, sensual, kinky, sexual, and then 0:43:56.040 --> 0:43:58.400 what is the fifth one? And the final one is 0:43:58.400 --> 0:44:00.799 the shape shifter and the shapes after there's someone who's 0:44:00.800 --> 0:44:04.120 turned on by everything. It's they they love it all, 0:44:04.480 --> 0:44:07.600 they could go forever, um, they speak all the languages, 0:44:07.719 --> 0:44:12.239 they're great lovers. Um. The shadow side of this this is, 0:44:12.280 --> 0:44:15.080 by the way, Brooks is a shape shifter and the 0:44:15.120 --> 0:44:18.080 amount of gloating he is doing right now, I'm not 0:44:18.120 --> 0:44:20.759 doing any listeners that they can't see. It's just like 0:44:20.840 --> 0:44:23.400 the smile on his face and the way he's just 0:44:23.400 --> 0:44:26.320 sitting back like taking it all, and it's tough to watch. 0:44:26.640 --> 0:44:30.000 By the way, Botinue. By the way, Brooks speaks six languages, 0:44:30.239 --> 0:44:32.640 and he also he's made thirty million dollars in his 0:44:32.760 --> 0:44:35.719 NHL career, but he's counting. There's a new category called 0:44:35.719 --> 0:44:38.040 Brooks now that that has nothing to do with sex. 0:44:38.040 --> 0:44:41.720 Though I was doing I was doing none of those things. 0:44:41.800 --> 0:44:44.400 Ryan just got irritated as soon as you started saying 0:44:44.440 --> 0:44:46.759 that because we had talked before, and I am a 0:44:46.800 --> 0:44:49.399 shape shifter, I've taken the test. I am a shape 0:44:49.400 --> 0:44:52.759 shifter and my wife is also a shape shifter. Wow. 0:44:52.960 --> 0:44:57.319 So is it is it good to be Is it 0:44:57.400 --> 0:45:00.960 good to be, like Ryan asked his good to be opposite? 0:45:01.160 --> 0:45:02.880 Or is it is it tough to be opposite of 0:45:02.920 --> 0:45:05.880 your partner? Is it good to be the same erotic 0:45:05.920 --> 0:45:09.200 blueprint as your partner? Is that good hans to both? 0:45:09.800 --> 0:45:12.480 So it can be like if you get two energetics 0:45:12.480 --> 0:45:16.600 together and they both are really high energetics, it's great. 0:45:16.640 --> 0:45:18.239 But if you get when somebody who's like me, who 0:45:18.280 --> 0:45:21.880 was an energetic sexual, I really love the physical aspect 0:45:21.920 --> 0:45:24.560 of sex. So if I would just get really really 0:45:24.560 --> 0:45:27.879 frustrated if somebody didn't also have that in their blueprint map, 0:45:28.680 --> 0:45:31.680 because I want that physical aspect now to shape. Shifters 0:45:31.719 --> 0:45:34.800 together can be great because you've got all that variety, 0:45:34.840 --> 0:45:36.440 But what if one of you is in this mood 0:45:36.480 --> 0:45:38.200 one night, but you're in the other mood, you know, 0:45:38.239 --> 0:45:39.799 like one of you is energetic one night and the 0:45:39.800 --> 0:45:43.360 other sexual, and you might need three to four hours 0:45:43.400 --> 0:45:46.560 to have sex or you know ten I had a 0:45:46.560 --> 0:45:48.920 partner who was that way, and we couldn't get sex 0:45:49.000 --> 0:45:51.800 under thirteen hours. Like every time we were having sex, 0:45:52.200 --> 0:45:55.040 and I know there's other things to do in life, 0:45:55.800 --> 0:45:59.520 couldn't get it under thirteen hours. We were like sixteen 0:45:59.520 --> 0:46:04.719 to twenty hours. We were averaging of our love making experiences. Yeah, 0:46:04.920 --> 0:46:11.200 like in a month anything, what is that? Over winter break? 0:46:15.719 --> 0:46:18.840 We call those that's called the champion. I don't know 0:46:18.840 --> 0:46:22.680 if I like, and it's Olympic athletes, you know, like 0:46:22.719 --> 0:46:25.960 we're the shapeshifterre can be like an Olympic athlete and 0:46:26.000 --> 0:46:28.040 I'm more like an astronaut where I just like to 0:46:28.040 --> 0:46:30.400 explore all that's erotically possible, Like what are all the 0:46:30.440 --> 0:46:32.560 different things that you can do and play with because 0:46:32.960 --> 0:46:35.560 in sexuality we're only hitting the tip of the iceberg 0:46:35.560 --> 0:46:38.719 with the conversation. There's so much that's possible that we 0:46:39.120 --> 0:46:41.520 most people just don't even know. Yeah, and if you're 0:46:41.520 --> 0:46:45.799 a majority of one of those five and like, do 0:46:45.800 --> 0:46:49.200 you want to work on the others? I mean even 0:46:49.239 --> 0:46:51.560 if like you know, you want to be a well 0:46:51.600 --> 0:46:55.520 balanced person, right, so if your partners, if you don't 0:46:55.560 --> 0:46:57.719 match your partner, but you want to maybe work on 0:46:57.760 --> 0:47:00.160 something else or I don't know, do you do you 0:47:00.200 --> 0:47:03.880 ever see somebody that's nearly for each of the five categories, 0:47:03.920 --> 0:47:07.520 so they are the most well rounded. We do see 0:47:07.560 --> 0:47:10.120 people who are well rounded, it's usually after they've been 0:47:10.120 --> 0:47:12.520 through some of our work. Like, my goal is that 0:47:12.600 --> 0:47:15.680 everybody sort of becomes a full spectrum human and their 0:47:15.680 --> 0:47:19.600 sexuality so that they become shape shifters essentially. I think 0:47:19.640 --> 0:47:22.080 it's our true essence as human beings. I just think 0:47:22.120 --> 0:47:26.080 we get shamed out of different desires like this is okay, 0:47:26.120 --> 0:47:28.839 that's not okay, and then that starts to shape and 0:47:28.960 --> 0:47:31.799 form who we are erotically, and so we have this 0:47:31.880 --> 0:47:35.799 conditioned erotic mask. When we start to take that mask off, 0:47:35.800 --> 0:47:39.280 you start to see that people are much more varied 0:47:39.440 --> 0:47:42.759 in their sexual desire and what they really love. They 0:47:42.760 --> 0:47:44.600 start to learn that, oh, I didn't even know that 0:47:44.680 --> 0:47:47.640 I liked that. They start to go, oh, I'm free 0:47:47.760 --> 0:47:50.640 now to express that as they start to learn more 0:47:50.640 --> 0:47:53.080 and more and more about their sexuality. I think that's 0:47:53.080 --> 0:47:55.160 a very important point which you just touched on. There 0:47:55.239 --> 0:47:58.640 is um Sometimes I think in a relationship it could 0:47:58.680 --> 0:48:01.839 be difficult for a person or a couple to bring 0:48:01.960 --> 0:48:04.560 up topics like this to talk about what they want 0:48:04.680 --> 0:48:09.200 sexually and for people listening. Taking just from my own experience, 0:48:09.239 --> 0:48:13.799 taking this erotic blueprint quiz just sort of open the 0:48:13.800 --> 0:48:15.520 door a little bit from my wife and I. We 0:48:15.560 --> 0:48:17.600 have very good communication as it is, but it opened 0:48:17.640 --> 0:48:19.400 the door a little bit for us to just talk 0:48:19.480 --> 0:48:23.120 about more of this. And this was a platform in 0:48:23.160 --> 0:48:27.040 a way, um too, for me to voice what I want, 0:48:27.160 --> 0:48:29.239 things that are important to be. And then because we 0:48:29.239 --> 0:48:34.719 were both shapeshifters, we started discussing things different things, specific 0:48:34.840 --> 0:48:36.840 things that turn us on, whether it's a touch or 0:48:36.880 --> 0:48:39.839 a kiss of the ear or space or like just 0:48:39.920 --> 0:48:42.759 gently rubbing your hand or like your fingertips down the 0:48:42.800 --> 0:48:46.040 back or stuff like that. So, for if you're struggling 0:48:46.200 --> 0:48:49.040 people listening, if you're struggling in your relationship, to bring 0:48:49.120 --> 0:48:51.319 up something like this, or you want to bring up 0:48:51.360 --> 0:48:54.400 something like this. This is this Erotic Blueprint quiz is 0:48:54.400 --> 0:48:57.440 maybe a little bit of an icebreaker um that you 0:48:57.480 --> 0:49:04.919 can share with your partner to start this conversation. Should yeah, um, okay, 0:49:04.960 --> 0:49:06.319 I have one. I have a question for you then, 0:49:06.360 --> 0:49:11.880 So moving from that, jaya um, the sex quiz um, 0:49:11.920 --> 0:49:15.799 the Erotic Blueprint quiz? Can you give everyone listening one 0:49:16.320 --> 0:49:20.640 one or two really important questions from the quiz um? 0:49:20.680 --> 0:49:22.640 Maybe what the most important one is and what that 0:49:22.680 --> 0:49:24.799 answer might tell us? Is there anything that jumps out 0:49:24.880 --> 0:49:28.279 from this quiz? Absolutely? I love to just do an 0:49:28.320 --> 0:49:31.920 exercise with my partner. I'm most turned on when and 0:49:31.960 --> 0:49:35.759 go back and forth with one another. So um, one 0:49:35.760 --> 0:49:38.000 of the examples would be something like, I'm most turned 0:49:38.040 --> 0:49:42.200 on when I'm doing something I consider edgy, naughty or taboo. 0:49:43.239 --> 0:49:46.960 Or I'm most turned on when I'm immersed in a 0:49:46.960 --> 0:49:53.759 beautiful environment with amazing fragrances, music and sensual artistry. So 0:49:53.920 --> 0:49:56.640 how would you answer this, you guys, which which one 0:49:56.640 --> 0:49:58.640 of you are most turned on with edgy, naughty and 0:49:58.680 --> 0:50:03.920 taboo or beautiful environment with smells and music. And I 0:50:03.960 --> 0:50:05.839 have to admit I fell asleep when you were talking 0:50:05.880 --> 0:50:08.480 about the beautiful environment in the music in the artistra 0:50:08.680 --> 0:50:12.439 So what would you what would be your form deal 0:50:13.280 --> 0:50:19.759 which is more naughty taboo? I guess yeah, as I'm 0:50:19.800 --> 0:50:23.840 watching you, I notice too, like when I'm talking about 0:50:23.880 --> 0:50:26.200 those things, you light up a little bit. So I 0:50:26.320 --> 0:50:28.480 just when I watched body language a lot to just 0:50:28.480 --> 0:50:31.839 see when people light up or so I would agree 0:50:31.880 --> 0:50:33.520 with you on that one. The truth is I lit 0:50:33.560 --> 0:50:35.520 up because I was looking at Brooks and it's it's 0:50:35.560 --> 0:50:37.400 all of us, we're victims of it. But yeah, I 0:50:37.440 --> 0:50:42.799 get it. Um, to answer your question, I like, I 0:50:42.920 --> 0:50:48.000 really like an environment, So I like, UM like some 0:50:48.120 --> 0:50:52.719 dim lighting. I like like candles on music. Um, I 0:50:52.760 --> 0:50:56.160 like that. But then also something specifically that I that 0:50:56.320 --> 0:50:59.960 really gets me um in the mood would be when 0:51:00.040 --> 0:51:03.560 my wife wears lingerie. So when she comes, it's just 0:51:03.600 --> 0:51:06.480 there's an element of risque, there's an element of desire 0:51:06.560 --> 0:51:09.440 and lust and also a little space there. So she 0:51:09.480 --> 0:51:12.759 wears lingerie, but she's just like five or six ft away, 0:51:12.840 --> 0:51:14.879 or maybe she just walks around the bed a little 0:51:14.920 --> 0:51:17.960 bit or walks back or just creates a little bit 0:51:17.960 --> 0:51:21.960 of space there. Um is something that's very erotic for myself. 0:51:24.880 --> 0:51:28.240 Do you need a minute? Do you need a minute? 0:51:28.280 --> 0:51:30.840 I may, I got I got nervous because Brooks was like, 0:51:30.840 --> 0:51:32.759 I like a room. It smells good, it's dimly lit, 0:51:32.760 --> 0:51:34.719 and he started describing the room we're in right now, 0:51:35.239 --> 0:51:36.880 and it kind of made me a little bit. You 0:51:36.920 --> 0:51:39.440 guys are pretty, but you're not as pretty as my wife. 0:51:41.880 --> 0:51:45.160 And with the lingerie, that can be more sensual, or 0:51:45.200 --> 0:51:47.320 it could be sexual. You know, if it's the visual 0:51:47.440 --> 0:51:49.560 part of it, it's like seeing the body, it's like 0:51:49.560 --> 0:51:53.120 seeing the roundness of a butt or you know, seeing breasts, 0:51:53.120 --> 0:51:56.160 that that that piece is more of the sexual blueprint. 0:51:56.239 --> 0:51:59.000 But then if it's like I like the feeling of 0:51:59.040 --> 0:52:01.600 the lease and I like the colors, then that can 0:52:01.640 --> 0:52:05.120 be more sensual in the environment we actually she was 0:52:05.160 --> 0:52:09.200 cleaning out her lingerie or two days ago, um, and 0:52:09.719 --> 0:52:11.560 I told her to throw out everything that wasn't black 0:52:11.640 --> 0:52:13.560 or red, so anything that I had to pink on 0:52:13.640 --> 0:52:15.520 it or anything. I was like, I don't, I don't, 0:52:15.640 --> 0:52:17.680 and I think maybe in the past I might like that, 0:52:17.719 --> 0:52:21.880 but now anything black or red. To me, that's very sexy. 0:52:22.040 --> 0:52:24.479 And I think the other thing about lingerie is that 0:52:24.719 --> 0:52:28.520 to me, it emotes a feeling that she's excited and 0:52:28.600 --> 0:52:31.759 she's erotic. So when I when she puts it on, 0:52:31.800 --> 0:52:33.279 I mean I don't ask her to put on, she 0:52:33.400 --> 0:52:37.359 puts it on. I'm like, whoa, she's She's really in 0:52:37.400 --> 0:52:40.600 the mood and really erotic right now. And that, um, 0:52:40.680 --> 0:52:44.240 that stimulation mentally is a big part of the experience 0:52:44.239 --> 0:52:46.480 as well. When you say throw them away, you mean 0:52:46.560 --> 0:52:51.880 like donate them. Uh? Yeah, donated. We always, Dmitri, We 0:52:51.960 --> 0:52:55.279 always donate everything that we give away that we have 0:52:55.360 --> 0:53:01.760 no use for. I gave it to Rick. He's wearing 0:53:01.800 --> 0:53:05.520 it right now. Uh. You two gentlemen, what about you? 0:53:05.560 --> 0:53:10.719 What is something specifically? UM? I think mine, something like 0:53:10.760 --> 0:53:13.759 a turn on, is more probably more mental, and it's 0:53:13.800 --> 0:53:17.240 more of like I find situations to be to be exciting. 0:53:17.320 --> 0:53:20.000 So if you're out somewhere, maybe you're you know, you're 0:53:20.360 --> 0:53:22.040 I don't know, if you're out at a bar or 0:53:22.040 --> 0:53:23.800 a restaurant or with you know, and all of a 0:53:23.840 --> 0:53:26.279 sudden you realize you kind of connect with your partner 0:53:26.320 --> 0:53:28.920 and realize that you're both kind of thinking something and 0:53:28.960 --> 0:53:31.080 no one else knows that you're thinking this, and you 0:53:31.120 --> 0:53:32.959 have to go like, say, you're at a dinner party 0:53:33.040 --> 0:53:36.200 right and um, and you and you're and your wife 0:53:36.560 --> 0:53:38.960 are both aware that you're you're attracted to each other 0:53:39.080 --> 0:53:41.000 right now, but no one else knows. To me, that's 0:53:41.040 --> 0:53:43.600 exciting and you think, Okay, well we're gonna go through this. 0:53:44.360 --> 0:53:48.200 Are you going into the bathroom by the time you 0:53:48.239 --> 0:53:50.520 get home? When you go home, then it's then it's on. 0:53:50.840 --> 0:53:53.960 And so it's just that that acknowledgement of knowing and 0:53:54.160 --> 0:53:56.480 you're both kind of turned on, but no one else 0:53:56.520 --> 0:53:59.000 knows it. And to me, that's exciting. When you're can 0:53:59.040 --> 0:54:04.080 I jump in on this first? Because to each other, 0:54:04.160 --> 0:54:06.680 are you touching each other? I have something? I have 0:54:06.800 --> 0:54:09.279 something on this topic. So what you were just saying, 0:54:09.280 --> 0:54:10.920 I know what you're talking about. And here's a story 0:54:10.960 --> 0:54:12.560 from a teammate. I'm not going to say his name, 0:54:12.600 --> 0:54:15.160 but a teammate of mine. Brooks just winked when he 0:54:15.200 --> 0:54:20.880 said teammates continue, He bought and g I I'm interested 0:54:20.960 --> 0:54:24.040 to see what you think of this. He bought his 0:54:24.120 --> 0:54:29.799 wife vibrating underwear that he had a remote too. And 0:54:29.840 --> 0:54:33.560 so when they would go out and sometimes two team parties, 0:54:33.600 --> 0:54:36.520 a Christmas party, he would they'd be across the room 0:54:36.560 --> 0:54:38.840 from each other and he'd hit this button on the 0:54:38.880 --> 0:54:42.160 remote and her her underwear would vibrate and you could 0:54:42.160 --> 0:54:44.320 see her move and squirm a little bit, and it 0:54:45.760 --> 0:54:48.640 turned him on, and he told us about this. But 0:54:48.719 --> 0:54:50.719 what do you think about that? Gi, I don't know. 0:54:50.840 --> 0:54:53.759 This is probably for everyone listening, that is not what 0:54:53.840 --> 0:54:55.920 I was talking about. I was just thinking maybe you 0:54:55.920 --> 0:54:59.040 could add that indomitri, if that's what you're into. I've 0:54:59.040 --> 0:55:01.440 done this many times, and I recommend it for homework, 0:55:01.640 --> 0:55:04.000 especially for any of you who have kinky in your 0:55:04.040 --> 0:55:07.400 blueprint and you love the taboo and loved you know, 0:55:07.480 --> 0:55:11.200 the movie theaters um. And there are lots of different 0:55:11.239 --> 0:55:13.480 kinds of vibrating panties out there and all kinds of 0:55:13.480 --> 0:55:16.200 fun things. There's even apps that you can control from 0:55:16.200 --> 0:55:19.000 far away, so you don't even have to be there, Like, 0:55:19.040 --> 0:55:20.960 there's so many fun things that you can play with, 0:55:21.080 --> 0:55:24.560 and then you can create context around it of you know, 0:55:24.760 --> 0:55:27.799 your tonight. I own you, you know, in a in 0:55:27.840 --> 0:55:30.759 a good way own you because it's consent, but I 0:55:30.800 --> 0:55:33.920 own you your mind and therefore I get to control 0:55:34.000 --> 0:55:36.879 your pleasure. You can't have an orgasm until I say so. 0:55:37.120 --> 0:55:39.040 I'm going to, you know, turn this on and off, 0:55:39.080 --> 0:55:41.719 like these kinds of fun things where you can go. Yeah, 0:55:41.840 --> 0:55:45.160 is anybody else getting like insanely turned on your right now? 0:55:45.520 --> 0:55:48.200 I think we're all sitting down. They want complain about 0:55:48.200 --> 0:55:50.040 They won't complain about you being on your phone too much. 0:55:52.960 --> 0:55:57.760 That was That was amazing. That was amazing by the way, Gavin, 0:55:58.719 --> 0:56:00.880 he said he's the one that it's into the sucking 0:56:00.880 --> 0:56:03.279 of the big toes. So just so we cover that 0:56:04.840 --> 0:56:09.640 I do that that my wife really enjoys it when 0:56:09.640 --> 0:56:15.480 I suck on her toes. Yeah, true story. Interesting what 0:56:15.960 --> 0:56:21.480 I'm giving signals to Danielle. But please call People magazine. Hey, 0:56:21.520 --> 0:56:26.080 we play around. Why do you like? Do you like 0:56:26.120 --> 0:56:29.160 your toes? I don't know. I would never. My toes 0:56:29.200 --> 0:56:32.920 are in skates and workout shoes and I can shower 0:56:33.040 --> 0:56:35.560 and soap them off, but I would never. Hey, there 0:56:35.560 --> 0:56:37.560 are some people who are into that too. Let's see 0:56:37.560 --> 0:56:40.880 you're not wearing shoes right now? Oh yeah, oh yeah, definitely. 0:56:41.920 --> 0:56:48.040 That one looks like it has a wig on. So 0:56:48.200 --> 0:56:51.960 that's a that's one anyway back on track here. So 0:56:52.000 --> 0:56:54.439 another great question that I like to ask is when 0:56:54.440 --> 0:56:57.359 it comes to sexual interaction, I mostly crave And if 0:56:57.360 --> 0:56:58.839 any of you go to take the quiz, you're gonna 0:56:58.920 --> 0:57:02.239 see these questions. So you can you can work with 0:57:02.280 --> 0:57:05.120 your partner and just say, tell me something that you 0:57:05.280 --> 0:57:08.240 crave when it comes to sex, and just go back 0:57:08.280 --> 0:57:10.719 and forth. This is a great exercise to start to 0:57:10.719 --> 0:57:14.360 open up the conversation. So here's another one. When it 0:57:14.480 --> 0:57:19.240 comes to sexual interaction, I mostly crave endless, timeless, erotic 0:57:19.280 --> 0:57:23.120 sessions where I am fed in always, when my hunger 0:57:23.240 --> 0:57:27.400 is seen and as a superpower instead of as overwhelming 0:57:27.440 --> 0:57:33.520 and too much. Or I crave scratching, slapping, squeezing, or 0:57:33.560 --> 0:57:36.520 holding or being held down. You can guess which blueprint 0:57:36.560 --> 0:57:41.320 that is. Or I crave mostly sexual penetration ending in 0:57:41.360 --> 0:57:48.000 a climax more intercourse overall. Or I crave amazing touch, massage, 0:57:48.360 --> 0:57:52.280 pleasure and my whole body. Or I crave my partner's 0:57:52.360 --> 0:57:55.760 full presence in this moment, my partner being fully present 0:57:55.840 --> 0:57:59.960 to my body, my heart, my soul, and my spirit. Wow, 0:58:00.320 --> 0:58:03.880 that's crazy, as you were just as you were talking 0:58:03.880 --> 0:58:06.880 about that, Um, do you recommend that couples take this 0:58:06.960 --> 0:58:10.720 quiz at the same time. Just a good question. I 0:58:11.520 --> 0:58:15.640 taking it separately really and then coming back and then 0:58:15.680 --> 0:58:18.400 talking about it. And and this is only if you 0:58:18.520 --> 0:58:22.400 really have struggled communicating about sex. You're gonna feel more comfortable. 0:58:22.400 --> 0:58:25.440 You're going to answer more honestly. If your partner is 0:58:25.480 --> 0:58:28.000 not there now, if the two of you are already comfortable, 0:58:28.040 --> 0:58:30.520 then yet go ahead and take it together. And then 0:58:30.520 --> 0:58:33.080 you're gonna get enlightened and be able to like, actually, 0:58:33.080 --> 0:58:35.200 stop while you're taking the quiz and go, let's talk 0:58:35.240 --> 0:58:37.840 about that one. Let's share more about that. What about 0:58:37.920 --> 0:58:40.800 that turns you on? That's another really great question if, 0:58:41.040 --> 0:58:43.240 for example, the big toe sucking. If you're turned on 0:58:43.320 --> 0:58:47.840 by big toe toe sucking, what about that turns you on? Yeah, 0:58:48.040 --> 0:58:50.040 So as you were just talking there, I was thinking, 0:58:50.080 --> 0:58:52.560 my wife and I have taken this quiz separately, but 0:58:52.600 --> 0:58:54.400 as you were just talking, I would like to take 0:58:54.440 --> 0:58:56.200 it with her at the same time, so we can 0:58:56.320 --> 0:58:59.800 look at the question together and voice why this I 0:59:00.000 --> 0:59:03.200 think this one and why she thinks that one. That's 0:59:03.240 --> 0:59:05.640 got a quick question for Brooks. When you said about 0:59:05.760 --> 0:59:08.680 the sucking the toe, now you said that's obviously a 0:59:08.680 --> 0:59:10.800 big turn on for your wife. Is that a turn 0:59:10.840 --> 0:59:13.440 on for you as well? Or is it like knowing 0:59:13.440 --> 0:59:19.160 that to turn on for her makes it do? Yes? 0:59:19.160 --> 0:59:20.840 I do? And I like I enjoy giving my wife 0:59:20.880 --> 0:59:25.520 a massage. I really enjoy like, um, touching her body 0:59:25.520 --> 0:59:29.560 and giving her a massage before just getting before as 0:59:29.600 --> 0:59:32.919 like four play before getting to just straight sex. Um. 0:59:33.000 --> 0:59:34.960 So and and that's every part of her body. And 0:59:35.000 --> 0:59:37.560 my wife's my wife's a dancer. So her whole life, 0:59:37.600 --> 0:59:40.360 her feet have been in high heels and her feet 0:59:40.400 --> 0:59:42.360 that she's a danced eight hours a day. Her feet 0:59:42.400 --> 0:59:44.960 are always sore, and so a big turn on for 0:59:45.000 --> 0:59:48.760 her because of her profession has been feet. And so 0:59:48.840 --> 0:59:50.520 there will be a lot of times where we're on 0:59:50.560 --> 0:59:52.280 the couch and she'll put her feet on me. She 0:59:52.400 --> 0:59:55.400 just like it's a it's a love language for her. 0:59:55.440 --> 0:59:58.240 If I rub her feet, she feels immensely loved and 0:59:58.280 --> 1:00:02.880 taken care of. Tell you a secret about feet. A spot, 1:00:03.400 --> 1:00:05.959 Oh please, let me look at the screen he's getting 1:00:05.960 --> 1:00:10.800 a pen hold on. It's called the bubbling spring and 1:00:10.880 --> 1:00:13.240 it's right below the big toe. Okay, I'm gonna show 1:00:13.240 --> 1:00:20.240 you guys my feet right here. Spring, that's it there, 1:00:20.400 --> 1:00:24.040 that's it right there. Gorgeous, But I think that's where 1:00:24.160 --> 1:00:27.720 my blister is, though, can you too hard? Can you 1:00:27.760 --> 1:00:30.240 elaborate on the bubbling spring? And why you show the stuff? 1:00:31.160 --> 1:00:34.040 So I know a whole lot of different sexual modalities. 1:00:34.080 --> 1:00:37.160 I studied a whole lot about ancient cultures and sexuality. 1:00:37.200 --> 1:00:39.880 So this is a Taoist practice and it goes in 1:00:39.960 --> 1:00:42.680 with Chinese medicine. But there's a there's an act pressure 1:00:42.720 --> 1:00:45.360 point right there, and a lot of times when I 1:00:45.440 --> 1:00:47.680 have clients will go right to that spot when we 1:00:47.720 --> 1:00:50.120 start to get into higher pleasure and we'll press on 1:00:50.160 --> 1:00:52.040 that spot and it just sends them crazy, like they'll 1:00:52.040 --> 1:00:54.160 start to get dibrasions through their whole body and kind 1:00:54.160 --> 1:00:58.920 of like shaking. It's really fun um So so pressing 1:00:58.920 --> 1:01:01.280 in that spot stimulates one of the meridians that goes 1:01:01.360 --> 1:01:03.960 up into the kidneys and it and it's I can 1:01:04.000 --> 1:01:06.320 get into all kinds of fun stuff there, but I 1:01:06.320 --> 1:01:09.200 think that that's enough brain package there for the fun facts. 1:01:09.240 --> 1:01:11.920 And you guys get it. Just pressing right there, you 1:01:11.960 --> 1:01:13.640 can go right up into the meridian and then it 1:01:13.640 --> 1:01:16.600 can starts to get convulsions into the body. It's really 1:01:16.640 --> 1:01:19.440 fun bubbling spring of the foot. Maybe we'll have to 1:01:19.440 --> 1:01:21.760 put a picture on our Instagram page for yeah, so 1:01:21.760 --> 1:01:24.880 you can find it easier for everybody next to the manator. 1:01:25.280 --> 1:01:28.240 Which of you will be our foot model? Probably not. 1:01:29.560 --> 1:01:31.440 Ryan claimed today he was going to be a hand model. 1:01:31.480 --> 1:01:33.360 So maybe Ryan's gonna be if we can get those 1:01:33.480 --> 1:01:35.480 orthopedic shoes off and we can probably get a picture 1:01:35.480 --> 1:01:38.480 of his feet. Jaya, can you hold your foot up 1:01:38.520 --> 1:01:42.400 again for our camera? Oh, Tori has taking a picture 1:01:42.720 --> 1:01:49.280 right there. You. Brooks is so distracted he just called 1:01:49.720 --> 1:01:55.040 Danielle Tory. Did I just getting Tori more airtime? Do 1:01:55.160 --> 1:01:59.080 you enjoy giving a massage to Julianne If you don't, 1:01:59.440 --> 1:02:01.160 or if you know that it's not going to lead 1:02:01.160 --> 1:02:05.240 to sex, yes, yeah, I'll probably almost do that daily. Um, 1:02:05.800 --> 1:02:08.160 she like I'll be most days there will be some 1:02:08.240 --> 1:02:11.000 element of rubbing her feet or shoulders or something. I 1:02:11.040 --> 1:02:13.160 know she really appreciates it. There's other times she just 1:02:13.200 --> 1:02:15.840 comes and puts her feet right on me. So, um, 1:02:15.920 --> 1:02:18.280 yes I do. I I would for sure. Well, thanks 1:02:18.320 --> 1:02:23.720 for making the rest of us look like, Yeah, I 1:02:23.720 --> 1:02:26.880 don't do it. Let's be honest, it's probably not every day, 1:02:26.920 --> 1:02:29.400 but it's not an in common occurrence. You're gonna do 1:02:29.440 --> 1:02:31.160 it more that you know about the bubbling spring, though 1:02:31.160 --> 1:02:34.000 I have never tried the bubbling spring. Maybe good nights 1:02:34.040 --> 1:02:38.919 the nights tonight bubbling spring and I'll and I'll stay 1:02:38.960 --> 1:02:41.800 here that it just shows blueprinting, like nobody's wrong or bad. 1:02:42.080 --> 1:02:44.280 Like if you just like to give the shoulder massage 1:02:44.320 --> 1:02:47.240 for five seconds and then get to intercourse, that's awesome, 1:02:47.360 --> 1:02:50.600 Like that's that was me right, Like I like, get 1:02:50.600 --> 1:02:52.120 me a little bit turned on, and then I want 1:02:52.120 --> 1:02:53.800 to go straight to intercourse. I want to go straight 1:02:53.800 --> 1:02:57.560 to penetration. And there's nothing wrong or bad about that. 1:02:57.560 --> 1:03:01.200 That's just perhaps the type that you are. Now if 1:03:01.240 --> 1:03:03.600 you like to give a five hour massage or you know, 1:03:03.640 --> 1:03:05.880 thirty minute massage and you don't need, like you feel 1:03:05.920 --> 1:03:09.240 fulfilled in that, you're great too, Like nobody is wrong, 1:03:09.360 --> 1:03:11.280 bad or broken. And I think that's one of the 1:03:11.280 --> 1:03:13.400 messages that I really want to get across. Because we 1:03:13.480 --> 1:03:16.320 don't talk about sex, we feel we get in a 1:03:16.360 --> 1:03:18.840 comparison game like oh my god, that person is having 1:03:18.840 --> 1:03:21.640 all these different orgasms or this or that as opposed 1:03:21.680 --> 1:03:25.240 to you are just who you are erotically right now, 1:03:25.240 --> 1:03:28.800 in this moment, and that's okay. Now, can you grow absolutely, 1:03:29.360 --> 1:03:31.920 But who you are erotically is not bad and wrong 1:03:32.080 --> 1:03:35.720 or strange or not normal. The majority of people out 1:03:35.720 --> 1:03:38.560 there feel like they're abnormal, and I'm here to say 1:03:38.600 --> 1:03:42.720 you are normal, and you're erotic mapping most likely, and 1:03:42.920 --> 1:03:48.680 you're not broken. Wow, that's amazing. Yeah, I find it 1:03:48.680 --> 1:03:50.800 fascinating that you said you were a fan of the 1:03:50.880 --> 1:03:53.640 five second massage, but yet ten minutes ago you told 1:03:53.720 --> 1:03:56.440 us about your thirteen hour marathon sessions. I don't know 1:03:56.480 --> 1:03:59.880 where the rest of the time goes. But she also 1:04:00.040 --> 1:04:04.200 said you said that erotic blueprints can change over time. Yes, 1:04:04.800 --> 1:04:06.960 So have you seen that happen in any of the 1:04:06.960 --> 1:04:08.880 couples you've worked with, where maybe they start out as 1:04:08.920 --> 1:04:11.520 one and then how long over time? How long are 1:04:11.520 --> 1:04:13.320 we talking? Is it a year? Is it five years? 1:04:13.400 --> 1:04:16.080 Or like for people Rick and Dmitri have both been 1:04:16.120 --> 1:04:18.200 married almost fifteen years. Would you say, in the course 1:04:18.240 --> 1:04:20.600 of their lives that you think their erotic blueprint is 1:04:20.600 --> 1:04:24.000 probably shifted or their wives has shifted. Yes, So we 1:04:24.040 --> 1:04:26.920 have different things that happen in life that can create 1:04:26.960 --> 1:04:29.440 a shift in blueprint. So birth of a child can 1:04:29.440 --> 1:04:32.600 create a shift in blueprint. Longevity of the relationship can 1:04:32.600 --> 1:04:36.720 create a shift to menopause. You know, life changes, injuries, sickness, 1:04:36.840 --> 1:04:39.560 or many things that can shift our blueprint, as well 1:04:39.600 --> 1:04:42.680 as partner shifts. So if you're single and you're listening, 1:04:43.000 --> 1:04:45.600 that can also change depending upon the partner that you get. 1:04:45.800 --> 1:04:50.960 We're looking at polarization. Oftentimes we polarized in relationship. So 1:04:51.000 --> 1:04:54.360 what I see happen is as people gain awareness of 1:04:54.360 --> 1:04:58.280 their blueprint, and they have this awareness, they're then able 1:04:58.320 --> 1:05:01.640 to go, Oh, I can expand into all these different languages. 1:05:01.680 --> 1:05:05.040 Now influent in like you said, five six different languages. 1:05:05.280 --> 1:05:08.440 I can speak all the different erotic languages. And therefore, 1:05:08.600 --> 1:05:11.680 no matter what life hits me with, or what life 1:05:11.760 --> 1:05:14.400 change happens, or how things shift, I'm able to go 1:05:14.480 --> 1:05:21.520 in and create epics X Wow, epic sex, Ryan, epic sex. Amen, 1:05:21.600 --> 1:05:25.280 He's blown away. Your mind is blown. Um. I want 1:05:25.280 --> 1:05:27.800 to thank you so much, Jaya. Can we give her 1:05:27.800 --> 1:05:31.720 a round of applause? Um? First, I want to commend you. 1:05:31.840 --> 1:05:34.360 Just listening to you speak, You're attacking an area that 1:05:34.720 --> 1:05:37.439 socially is maybe as you said, taboo or hush hush, 1:05:37.520 --> 1:05:39.400 and you're very bold and courageous, and I want to 1:05:39.400 --> 1:05:43.440 acknowledge that. Um, yeah, you you attack this and you 1:05:43.480 --> 1:05:46.120 try and open this platform for other people to have 1:05:46.200 --> 1:05:50.000 a voice in and to feel expressed and understood by 1:05:50.000 --> 1:05:53.640 their partners. So, um, anybody listening can take the Erotic 1:05:53.640 --> 1:05:57.400 Blueprint quiz at Erotic Breakthrough dot com. But where can 1:05:57.440 --> 1:05:59.560 they find you and get in touch with you? Because 1:05:59.760 --> 1:06:02.040 you are you are a hot topic from our listeners 1:06:02.040 --> 1:06:04.200 from the episode with my wife and now after our 1:06:04.240 --> 1:06:06.600 listeners here you talk. I'm sure your your email is 1:06:06.640 --> 1:06:08.240 gonna be full and your phone's gonna bring it off 1:06:08.280 --> 1:06:10.080 the hook. But where is the best place for our 1:06:10.120 --> 1:06:13.520 listeners to get in touch with you? Jaya dot Love 1:06:13.800 --> 1:06:17.120 is my website, So it's j A I y A 1:06:17.680 --> 1:06:21.120 dot love l O B E. If you want to 1:06:21.200 --> 1:06:23.640 visit our website, but go take the quiz Erotic Breakthrough 1:06:23.680 --> 1:06:25.520 dot com and you'll see me talking on videos you 1:06:25.520 --> 1:06:27.760 You'll get a video with me and you'll get connected 1:06:27.800 --> 1:06:29.760 with us there. I'm also on Facebook and all those 1:06:29.800 --> 1:06:32.560 good social media platforms, and I want to also just 1:06:32.640 --> 1:06:35.520 acknowledge you guys for having this conversation. I know that 1:06:35.600 --> 1:06:38.240 this could be edgy territory and you're opening a box. 1:06:38.560 --> 1:06:40.600 And one of my big missions in life is to 1:06:40.720 --> 1:06:44.560 have a conversation community around sexuality, and you're all putting 1:06:44.560 --> 1:06:47.320 yourselves out there too, So just thank you so much 1:06:47.400 --> 1:06:50.000 for having me on, for having this conversation. It really 1:06:50.040 --> 1:06:52.880 means a lot to me. Thank you so much. Thank you. 1:06:54.000 --> 1:06:56.800 We appreciate and like I said, my wife, my wife, 1:06:56.960 --> 1:06:58.480 if you're ever in l A would love to take 1:06:58.480 --> 1:06:59.919 you out for dinner, have you up to the house. 1:07:00.240 --> 1:07:02.040 But some at some point we'll be in touch real 1:07:02.080 --> 1:07:04.520 soon because she's a massive fan of yours and all 1:07:04.520 --> 1:07:07.000 the work that you do, and she's very explorative and 1:07:07.080 --> 1:07:09.640 curious in this space. So that's how I got into it. 1:07:09.680 --> 1:07:12.400 So credit to her, Um, and credit to you for 1:07:12.440 --> 1:07:14.400 all the work that you do. And I'm sure that 1:07:14.840 --> 1:07:16.440 I will be seeing your face or talking to you 1:07:16.520 --> 1:07:18.680 very soon. So thank you for the time today. Really 1:07:18.720 --> 1:07:22.480 appreciate it. Thank you, good sirs for you opening up 1:07:22.960 --> 1:07:27.120 um about some intimate topics, and we'll be right back. 1:07:28.520 --> 1:07:37.280 Is Gavin. Hello, it's Givin. What a brother? What's going on? 1:07:38.480 --> 1:07:43.680 Some ice cream cake? We miss you? Somebody? Yeah, I 1:07:43.720 --> 1:07:46.120 miss you guys. Back man what are you doing right now, 1:07:46.280 --> 1:07:48.560 hanging man, I'm on the tour bus, hanging out with 1:07:48.600 --> 1:07:53.600 my dog and uh, buddy, give us so tour kicked 1:07:53.600 --> 1:07:57.880 off on Thursday. How's it going so far, buddy, man, 1:07:57.920 --> 1:08:01.880 it better be going good. I'm in trouble. Hopefully this 1:08:01.920 --> 1:08:04.160 podcast someday makes money and it can be your backup 1:08:04.200 --> 1:08:07.720 plan in case the vocals, in case the vocals disappear, 1:08:08.880 --> 1:08:12.080 or or the offers on the table from all four 1:08:12.080 --> 1:08:13.960 of us to turn us into like a boy band 1:08:14.000 --> 1:08:19.559 of five man band band. Yeah, there's nothing. There's nothing 1:08:19.560 --> 1:08:23.000 cooler than a man band. And I think, I think, 1:08:23.040 --> 1:08:25.920 I think we should all have our have our own 1:08:25.960 --> 1:08:30.800 independent stylists where we show up and like, you know, 1:08:30.840 --> 1:08:33.800 we do like you know, like one of us is, 1:08:34.640 --> 1:08:37.960 you know, the hot one, and one of us is 1:08:38.640 --> 1:08:41.120 not as hot one. And then there's a third one 1:08:41.160 --> 1:08:48.720 who's not as hot as the one that is. And 1:08:44.800 --> 1:08:50.519 then there's there's the one who are the one, the 1:08:50.560 --> 1:08:53.200 one who knows, but the one who everybody likes because 1:08:53.240 --> 1:08:55.200 he knows that he's not hot, but he's okay with 1:08:55.280 --> 1:08:57.320 not being the hot one. And then there's the other 1:08:57.360 --> 1:09:00.840 one who's like girls like him just because they know 1:09:00.960 --> 1:09:03.519 that he would never even claim to accept the fact 1:09:03.520 --> 1:09:06.920 that he was. Where are you going there? There's only 1:09:06.920 --> 1:09:09.920 five of us, but that was you caught that too. 1:09:09.960 --> 1:09:13.160 That was the sixth guy. But all the cousins of 1:09:13.200 --> 1:09:16.479 the man band members who also would be out and 1:09:16.800 --> 1:09:20.360 I'll start up their own social accounts, I think. And 1:09:20.439 --> 1:09:23.639 then back to your stylist point, buddy, I think I'd 1:09:23.680 --> 1:09:25.680 have the best stylist because right now I'm wearing a 1:09:25.840 --> 1:09:31.080 Gavin the graw T shirt, the new merch there's a 1:09:31.080 --> 1:09:33.360 big there's like a big moon behind you. I just 1:09:33.400 --> 1:09:36.920 text you the photo we did. Hey, I don't know. 1:09:36.960 --> 1:09:39.360 We made shirts for boys. Hey put it this way, 1:09:39.439 --> 1:09:43.719 you put it this way. You sold five shirts already. Dude. 1:09:43.720 --> 1:09:46.760 He cut off the sleeves. He rolled it up like 1:09:47.720 --> 1:09:49.920 I'll put I'll post it on our Instagram for you 1:09:49.960 --> 1:09:52.040 to see everybody's best damn shirt. This might be my 1:09:52.120 --> 1:09:55.000 new date night. It's a good workout shirt. To you know, 1:09:55.160 --> 1:09:57.360 this is a date You don't wear shirts on date night. 1:09:58.520 --> 1:10:00.720 Which ones did you get? Because I tried to mail 1:10:00.800 --> 1:10:06.280 you guys a little the little half shirts were talking 1:10:06.320 --> 1:10:08.120 about should we cut the sleeves off? Cut these off? 1:10:08.120 --> 1:10:09.720 At the belly and send just the photo. Do you 1:10:09.720 --> 1:10:11.599 saying we're your biggest fans. We just did that thing 1:10:11.600 --> 1:10:13.080 where you pull it up to the neck and pull 1:10:13.120 --> 1:10:15.000 it down so it's like it it looks like a 1:10:15.040 --> 1:10:17.240 tube top. I do got a commandia though, brother. This 1:10:17.320 --> 1:10:20.599 T shirt is extremely comfortable and I'm gonna I'm gonna 1:10:20.640 --> 1:10:24.559 share it on my Instagram page to plug your rch 1:10:25.120 --> 1:10:26.760 because we want you to get your grotto. You're not 1:10:26.760 --> 1:10:30.000 getting any checks from hell men think, so we we 1:10:30.080 --> 1:10:32.360 gotta get that merged flying off the shelves and get 1:10:32.360 --> 1:10:35.559 you your grotto. Okay, well that was death Ray Jenner seven. 1:10:35.800 --> 1:10:38.559 Let me tell you why those are so soft because 1:10:38.600 --> 1:10:41.840 I hand washed them, so I thought you were going 1:10:41.880 --> 1:10:46.880 you hand knit them, and then they smelled so good 1:10:46.920 --> 1:10:50.439 because I call drive my dog with them before I 1:10:50.560 --> 1:10:53.600 pulled them up and put them in the boxes to distribute. 1:10:54.120 --> 1:10:56.720 You're a hard working man. Yeah. By the way, I 1:10:56.720 --> 1:10:58.920 saw a picture. I saw a picture of your dog 1:10:59.120 --> 1:11:02.000 on your Instagram um um, and then I comment, I 1:11:02.040 --> 1:11:04.200 was like, yeah, we gotta get we gotta get him 1:11:04.200 --> 1:11:07.760 a play date with our boy Coda. You know we 1:11:07.800 --> 1:11:11.960 should do We should start a TV show that's like 1:11:12.320 --> 1:11:16.280 it's like chips, but two dogs dogs, but they're like 1:11:16.320 --> 1:11:21.599 they're they're they're canine dogs that are a duo. That's 1:11:21.600 --> 1:11:24.840 what I'm talking about. To have their own merchandizing. They 1:11:24.840 --> 1:11:29.160 can start. We could have our own video game video 1:11:30.080 --> 1:11:34.920 bubble heads. That's right. So there's there's alcohol on the 1:11:34.960 --> 1:11:44.400 tour bus. It seems. Yeah, Hey, Gavin, yav we just 1:11:44.439 --> 1:11:50.920 talked to miss Jaya, the sexual blueprint woman, sexologists, the sexologists. 1:11:51.200 --> 1:11:54.679 Wait a second, was she the one um my wife 1:11:54.720 --> 1:12:00.320 references the dark haired girl. Yes, yeah, yeah, yes, yeah, 1:12:00.600 --> 1:12:03.880 she's a sexologist. I guess we had to sum it 1:12:03.960 --> 1:12:07.080 up and give you the cliff notes. Brooks sucks Julianne's tone. 1:12:07.120 --> 1:12:12.000 It's pologist, somebody who basically makes drinks but with generals. 1:12:13.680 --> 1:12:20.360 Uh maybe that's I can't say no, but I mean, 1:12:19.320 --> 1:12:23.639 if that's a really profound question enough, that makes sense. 1:12:27.000 --> 1:12:29.240 But anyway, so she ran us through the have you 1:12:29.280 --> 1:12:32.479 taken the quiz? Have you taken your erotic blueprint quiz? 1:12:32.520 --> 1:12:35.280 Because we were all kind of laughing and wondering what 1:12:35.400 --> 1:12:40.559 you might be. Man, I'm not much for schoolwork. I 1:12:40.600 --> 1:12:43.200 think Gavin's Gavin's got an Eurotic tattoo. He doesn't go 1:12:43.240 --> 1:12:45.880 for the blueprint. It's a straight tattoo. The problem with 1:12:45.920 --> 1:12:48.200 me and quizzes and the second someone even says the 1:12:48.200 --> 1:12:52.080 word quiz, I just break out sweating profusely and start 1:12:52.120 --> 1:12:55.240 feeling a little bit noxious. So anyway, it gives you 1:12:55.280 --> 1:12:58.599 this answer of whether you are energetic as as like 1:12:58.680 --> 1:13:06.840 your sexual energy is energetic, kinky, uh, sensual? Sexual sensual 1:13:07.120 --> 1:13:09.599 or a shape shifter? And so we're all all four 1:13:09.640 --> 1:13:14.160 of us were different things. Um isn't that the nature 1:13:14.160 --> 1:13:16.280 of a shape shifter or that they would be different things? 1:13:17.080 --> 1:13:19.160 So are you all shape shifters? No? No, no, no, 1:13:19.200 --> 1:13:22.360 I'm a shape shifter. The other guys are? I was apexual? 1:13:23.040 --> 1:13:26.040 Rick shape shifter? Sap. When you say, when you say 1:13:26.120 --> 1:13:31.160 shape shifter, does that make me like con man? Think 1:13:31.200 --> 1:13:32.600 of it like you can play you can think of 1:13:32.640 --> 1:13:34.920 it like you can play all of the instruments in 1:13:34.960 --> 1:13:39.000 the band, Like you can play the drums, the bass, 1:13:39.040 --> 1:13:42.400 the guitar, and you can suck a cringing over there. 1:13:43.200 --> 1:13:47.080 I'm trying to make sense of this analogy. But OK, 1:13:47.560 --> 1:13:51.920 so we took the question I'm going to sit next. 1:13:52.920 --> 1:13:55.080 Do you want the answer to that? Because it's you're 1:13:55.080 --> 1:14:00.200 gonna go Oh, of course Amy was kinky. A was 1:14:00.280 --> 1:14:05.479 kinky self, admittedly kinky or like, she didn't even take 1:14:05.479 --> 1:14:08.400 the test. She just came right out with it. And 1:14:08.439 --> 1:14:10.720 there's a pole running, there's a pole running that you're 1:14:10.760 --> 1:14:14.559 probably kinky as well. Oh that's the pole. Yeah, well, 1:14:14.560 --> 1:14:18.479 what's the wager? I just made it up? Hell, I mean, 1:14:18.520 --> 1:14:22.240 I want to know the odds because all that all 1:14:22.280 --> 1:14:25.080 bet a hundred bucks that says you come out kinky. 1:14:25.479 --> 1:14:30.040 Hey man, it's very possible. I think basically, uh, if 1:14:30.120 --> 1:14:33.240 I was to discuss this in public, which I would 1:14:33.280 --> 1:14:42.160 never do. Nobody's listening to this, No, I would say 1:14:42.320 --> 1:14:47.200 that you uh, you basically uh have to become whatever 1:14:47.280 --> 1:14:51.080 the environment is, right, But at the same time you 1:14:51.160 --> 1:14:54.920 have your own you know, your own I guess version 1:14:55.000 --> 1:14:58.240 of adapting to the moment, right. So I don't know 1:14:58.280 --> 1:15:01.400 what that makes me, but hopefully I I'm adaptable. I 1:15:01.439 --> 1:15:03.479 think that makes you a shape shifter. You're sort of 1:15:03.520 --> 1:15:06.680 you play with all these Actually I have to say 1:15:06.720 --> 1:15:08.400 that that actually kind of makes me a little bit. 1:15:09.240 --> 1:15:15.840 They call that a one man band, son one man band. 1:15:17.240 --> 1:15:20.080 That's right, that's too funny. I think the best part 1:15:20.120 --> 1:15:23.160 about this is that probably this isn't even going on. 1:15:23.240 --> 1:15:25.320 You guys are just sent me like, yeah, so I'm 1:15:26.600 --> 1:15:32.320 what are you gavin to grow? Are you super kink 1:15:34.360 --> 1:15:39.800 super in? In our conversation with the sexologist, one of 1:15:39.920 --> 1:15:46.360 us in the group divulged that he sucks his wives 1:15:46.600 --> 1:15:51.360 wife's toes. Which, among the four of us here today, 1:15:51.439 --> 1:15:58.479 do you believe that to be Huh, well, it wouldn't 1:15:58.520 --> 1:16:08.679 be Brooks interesting, would be talk us through your logic 1:16:08.720 --> 1:16:11.439 as you eliminate people. Somebody who gets to put their 1:16:11.479 --> 1:16:14.160 feet up on their desk at work, so they think 1:16:14.520 --> 1:16:24.120 that perhaps they have a clean foot. Somebody somebody somebody 1:16:24.200 --> 1:16:27.160 somebody who does who they have never bought open to 1:16:27.439 --> 1:16:36.080 choose for. And uh somebody who also um somebody who 1:16:36.080 --> 1:16:40.680 also must have very very nice looking feet, I mean 1:16:40.840 --> 1:16:45.160 very nice feet. They have very very bad teeth and 1:16:45.160 --> 1:16:48.479 they don't care what coasts in their mouth. So who 1:16:48.600 --> 1:16:51.680 is your guests for? Who on our panel sucks their 1:16:51.720 --> 1:17:01.679 wives toes? Who sucks your wives toes? Uh? Ryan wrong? 1:17:01.960 --> 1:17:03.840 I take that as a compliment, thank you, but the 1:17:04.040 --> 1:17:10.880 that is not correct. Next, a process of elimination actually 1:17:11.479 --> 1:17:16.920 is that insulting? Or is that a compliment. It's not Brian. Okay, sick. 1:17:16.960 --> 1:17:20.120 Hold on a second, now, maybe Rick would do it. 1:17:22.240 --> 1:17:25.360 Why do you think Rick would do it? Because I've 1:17:25.360 --> 1:17:31.760 seen him swim in a dirty lake. You won't even 1:17:31.800 --> 1:17:34.479 suck a lollipop. He's out what they say, a pig 1:17:34.520 --> 1:17:39.680 will always find dirt. Okay, So it's not Rick. Not 1:17:40.200 --> 1:17:42.519 so it is not Ryan. You've guessed Ryan and Ricken 1:17:42.680 --> 1:17:47.200 is not Ryan or Rick. He's sort of ruling out Brooks. 1:17:47.240 --> 1:17:49.000 But I don't know if you guys got you guys 1:17:49.000 --> 1:17:51.160 got me feeling lucky. I need to spend more time 1:17:51.160 --> 1:17:56.599 in Las Vegas. We're going there, buddy, September nine. We're 1:17:56.600 --> 1:18:00.920 going there for the iHeart Music Fest we're doing and 1:18:00.920 --> 1:18:03.599 and I might need your weight on this, but I 1:18:03.600 --> 1:18:06.880 am leveraging Amy hard to put us at the Blaggio 1:18:07.120 --> 1:18:09.600 or the Venetian. And she's saying, we kind of have 1:18:09.840 --> 1:18:12.840 accommodation somewhere else, and I said, no, Gavin will not 1:18:13.200 --> 1:18:19.360 put up with that Blaggio. Listen, all I heard was wait, 1:18:19.520 --> 1:18:24.519 do you call me fat? That was like ten minutes ago. 1:18:26.040 --> 1:18:29.720 All the ice cream cake is gone. Okay, back to it. 1:18:29.760 --> 1:18:31.680 Who do you think it is? Rick? Or do you 1:18:31.680 --> 1:18:37.720 think it's Dmitri or myself. Man, I don't know. Man, 1:18:37.760 --> 1:18:42.840 this is the hardest game of roulette I've ever played. Gentlemen, Um, 1:18:42.960 --> 1:18:45.040 I don't know. Well, you're the newly win, I mean 1:18:45.479 --> 1:18:50.360 newly wins, dude, see your honeymoon face. So probably everbat 1:18:50.400 --> 1:18:55.519 anything right about now. So we'll see in twenty years 1:18:55.520 --> 1:19:04.240 if you're still sucking. That's rights Brooks its Yeah, of course, 1:19:04.920 --> 1:19:06.559 I was the first word out of your mouth. It's 1:19:06.600 --> 1:19:09.160 not Brooks's how it goes. Of course, there's a little twist. 1:19:09.560 --> 1:19:21.400 Brooks sucks Ryan's wife's toes. No, buddy, buddy, how's the tour? 1:19:21.800 --> 1:19:25.200 How's um? How's life on the tour? So it's good man. 1:19:25.240 --> 1:19:27.400 I love torns, so I love the road, and I 1:19:27.479 --> 1:19:30.800 happen to love being on the tour buses. So it's 1:19:30.840 --> 1:19:34.200 just kind of just a comfortable place for me and 1:19:34.280 --> 1:19:37.920 I I'm just somebody who likes watching the miles kicked by. Yeah, 1:19:39.680 --> 1:19:43.559 I'm not a big airplane fan. Um. I much prefer 1:19:43.680 --> 1:19:46.560 choling on tour buses. I got a question, probably for 1:19:46.600 --> 1:19:48.360 the listeners want to hear any answer. I mean, do 1:19:48.439 --> 1:19:50.920 you eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner on the bus. What 1:19:50.960 --> 1:19:52.280 are you? What are you doing on the bus? Do 1:19:52.280 --> 1:19:54.200 you stop over? Do you have an agenda on where 1:19:54.240 --> 1:19:59.519 you want to stop and eat and visit things? I 1:19:59.600 --> 1:20:02.160 looked some stuff up online, you know, like uh use 1:20:02.520 --> 1:20:05.479 you know, use the apps, like where do you recommend 1:20:05.560 --> 1:20:08.479 I eat such and such a town? You know, do 1:20:08.520 --> 1:20:12.240 a little research and uh find recommended places and talk 1:20:12.320 --> 1:20:14.760 to locals. Also when you get a certain places and 1:20:14.840 --> 1:20:17.519 say what's the best place in town? And what place 1:20:17.600 --> 1:20:20.519 would you? You know, where where do the tourists go? 1:20:20.800 --> 1:20:23.479 So don't send me there? Send me where like you 1:20:23.520 --> 1:20:26.240 would go with your you know, with your friends or whatever. 1:20:26.280 --> 1:20:30.599 You know, you find exactly exactly. You find some great 1:20:30.640 --> 1:20:32.280 stuff out on the road. You know, there's some great 1:20:32.720 --> 1:20:35.000 great hole holes in the wall and places like that, 1:20:35.080 --> 1:20:38.599 and there's some great better dining and worth dining and 1:20:38.720 --> 1:20:42.280 you know taverns and pubs and stuff like that. So um, 1:20:42.320 --> 1:20:44.160 there's just a lot. There's a lot of world to see. 1:20:44.160 --> 1:20:46.360 You know, my liver is willing to do all of it. 1:20:46.720 --> 1:20:48.800 Do you only eat at places that guy Fiery has 1:20:48.840 --> 1:20:53.880 eaten on? Diners, drivings and dives? Is that accurate? It's 1:20:53.880 --> 1:20:55.960 good enough for triple D it's good enough for the gav. 1:20:56.120 --> 1:21:01.280 You know that's correct. One way trip to flavor Town, Bud. 1:21:03.439 --> 1:21:06.000 Are you a donkey sauce on a flip flop? Do 1:21:06.000 --> 1:21:07.920 you know what the side deal with Guy Fieri here 1:21:07.960 --> 1:21:10.280 that I've always just wanted to work donkey sauce into 1:21:10.280 --> 1:21:14.240 a flip flop. That's into a podcast, missing accomplice, goodbye. 1:21:14.520 --> 1:21:18.800 Random question. Guys in flip flops? How do you think 1:21:19.520 --> 1:21:24.400 you were perceived socially? Because I was wearing flip flops 1:21:24.439 --> 1:21:26.680 today and I was thinking to myself, well, these are 1:21:26.680 --> 1:21:29.120 pretty comfortable, and somebody took a picture and I was like, 1:21:29.560 --> 1:21:34.960 come wearing flip flops so full transparency. Brother, If you 1:21:35.000 --> 1:21:37.519 could see me, I'm kicked back on the couch with 1:21:37.640 --> 1:21:39.920 one leg crossed over the other, and I have a 1:21:39.960 --> 1:21:42.559 pair of black flip flops on right now. That's all 1:21:42.600 --> 1:21:45.479 I wear. Are you watching the Golf Channel? No, I'm not. 1:21:45.560 --> 1:21:48.280 I've never I don't. My dad actually watches the I live. 1:21:48.360 --> 1:21:51.000 I live in flip flops. I'm either in workout shoes 1:21:51.080 --> 1:21:53.400 or flip flops. The weird thing is Brooks has socks 1:21:53.479 --> 1:21:57.800 on too, so they's a good luck. Are you? Are 1:21:57.840 --> 1:22:00.519 you rocking the sacks with the sandals right now. Yeah, 1:22:00.880 --> 1:22:04.840 I am like he likes to keep his toes free 1:22:04.880 --> 1:22:11.120 for sucking. Don't don't never tell anybody else that, Um, nobody, 1:22:11.240 --> 1:22:15.200 You're You're fine in the flip flops. Um? Yeah, but 1:22:15.280 --> 1:22:20.160 what about what about the musician? For example, if I'm 1:22:20.200 --> 1:22:23.960 asking for a friend, if there's a musician on stage 1:22:24.240 --> 1:22:27.639 and he's wearing flip flops, how do you feel about 1:22:27.680 --> 1:22:32.240 that during this, like during the show or during Yeah, 1:22:32.280 --> 1:22:34.360 I probably wouldn't be a fan of that unless it 1:22:34.400 --> 1:22:37.920 was like Jimmy Buffett. It's like if you're okay, okay, 1:22:37.960 --> 1:22:40.320 So it has to shoot the music style. Yeah, is 1:22:40.360 --> 1:22:43.200 it like a little summer kind of festival, just kicking back, relaxed, 1:22:43.280 --> 1:22:46.599 just chill music. Or is it like what she's wearing one? 1:22:46.840 --> 1:22:49.799 What if he's up there playing his songs, he's wearing 1:22:49.840 --> 1:22:53.120 one very nice shoe and his wife is sucking on 1:22:53.200 --> 1:22:57.640 his other foot. I don't even know how to go 1:22:57.720 --> 1:23:03.560 with that one me neither question for you, buddy. Um, 1:23:03.600 --> 1:23:06.200 just to educate, Just to educate us so we know 1:23:06.240 --> 1:23:07.840 what you're going through out there. And then also our 1:23:07.840 --> 1:23:11.400 listeners are probably really super curious. What does an average 1:23:11.479 --> 1:23:14.240 day on tour look like like, let's say, uh, what 1:23:14.360 --> 1:23:16.080 do you have a show tonight? What does the full 1:23:16.160 --> 1:23:20.400 day on tour look like? Full day on tour? It's 1:23:20.520 --> 1:23:23.639 it's kind of it's hard to explain. It's a bit 1:23:23.640 --> 1:23:26.679 of a little bit like half hibernation, half hard work 1:23:27.479 --> 1:23:30.439 because you're you know, sitting your tour bus for a 1:23:30.439 --> 1:23:33.000 good part of the day hanging out just because it's 1:23:33.040 --> 1:23:35.840 your house. You know, your bus is your home on 1:23:35.920 --> 1:23:38.120 the road. You know, it's sort of like sort of 1:23:38.160 --> 1:23:43.479 like this just traveling cabin. Um. And then I'll go in, 1:23:43.520 --> 1:23:46.920 I'll rehearse with the band. Um, we'll do that for 1:23:46.960 --> 1:23:49.400 an hour or two or three hours. What time? What 1:23:49.479 --> 1:23:54.120 time is that material that's in the afternoon? Um? And 1:23:54.240 --> 1:23:56.519 But but typically the hours are a little bit messed 1:23:56.600 --> 1:23:59.920 up because this sleep thing is a little bit inconsistent, 1:24:00.000 --> 1:24:02.920 depending because I don't know about what kind of sleeper 1:24:03.000 --> 1:24:07.439 you guys are. But if the bus stops, right, and 1:24:07.479 --> 1:24:11.120 it stopped frequently throughout the night because drivers want to 1:24:11.120 --> 1:24:14.120 take a break and hop off the bus and refuel, etcetera, 1:24:14.560 --> 1:24:16.680 you may wake up a few times throughout the night 1:24:16.880 --> 1:24:19.400 or several times throughout the night, So you're kind of 1:24:19.400 --> 1:24:22.080 sleeping on and off, on and off, on and off, working, 1:24:22.240 --> 1:24:27.439 taking a nap, working rehearsal, take a nap, go overter walk, 1:24:28.040 --> 1:24:31.479 check out the town, head back to a signing, uh, 1:24:32.080 --> 1:24:34.160 you know, do a meet and greet, hang with your fans, 1:24:34.160 --> 1:24:37.400 signed some autographs, player show, hang out after the show, 1:24:37.960 --> 1:24:41.160 sign autographs, take picture and stuff like that. Um, and 1:24:41.200 --> 1:24:43.920 then you roll out, usually very late at night because 1:24:43.920 --> 1:24:47.960 the best the best traveling time is in the middle 1:24:47.960 --> 1:24:50.080 of the night for the buses because there's no traffic. 1:24:50.439 --> 1:24:52.439 So do you guys leave I am? Do you leave 1:24:52.479 --> 1:24:56.879 it two am? That's common? That's common, you know, midnight 1:24:57.000 --> 1:25:00.200 to UM. Depends on how long the drive is. And 1:25:00.200 --> 1:25:02.120 if it's a really long drive, well we'll go out 1:25:02.160 --> 1:25:05.320 with double drivers, will bring a couple of drivers, um, 1:25:05.400 --> 1:25:07.679 you know, and uh, you know, a couple of drivers 1:25:07.720 --> 1:25:12.599 will split the shifts like that. What's your absolute favorite 1:25:12.600 --> 1:25:17.920 thing about being on tour? I like, I like not 1:25:18.120 --> 1:25:19.960 sticking around, you know what I mean. I like just 1:25:20.080 --> 1:25:22.240 kind of checking out the scenery and then hopping on 1:25:22.320 --> 1:25:24.200 the bus and split and then go to the next place. 1:25:24.600 --> 1:25:26.040 That's just what I like to do, you know. I 1:25:26.080 --> 1:25:29.120 like the fact that it changes every day, and I 1:25:29.160 --> 1:25:33.479 actually like the small inconveniences that kind of forced you 1:25:33.520 --> 1:25:37.160 to go out, and you know, it makes the most 1:25:37.560 --> 1:25:41.840 fundamental task become a task. You're like, oh, damn, I 1:25:41.920 --> 1:25:44.920 just ran out of whatever. I don't have a car here. 1:25:45.000 --> 1:25:46.880 I need to go figure out a ride to get 1:25:46.920 --> 1:25:49.639 to such and such. And to be honest with you, 1:25:49.960 --> 1:25:52.160 just because day to day life is so much easier 1:25:52.200 --> 1:25:56.120 at home and kind of like overly convenient at home 1:25:56.280 --> 1:25:59.559 tends to be overly convenient. Um, it's nice being down 1:25:59.600 --> 1:26:02.560 the road as it kind of the small things to 1:26:02.640 --> 1:26:05.360 do are actually pleasurable. I don't know how to I 1:26:05.400 --> 1:26:07.640 don't know how to over I can't really sell that 1:26:07.760 --> 1:26:10.400 idea to anybody. But if you just notice everything is 1:26:10.400 --> 1:26:12.080 where you're used to having it, and then you kind 1:26:12.080 --> 1:26:14.960 of get thrown into a different house in a different 1:26:15.000 --> 1:26:18.320 town every day. Um, you know, it's just it just 1:26:18.400 --> 1:26:22.760 changes your your routine sounds. I mean, it sounds like 1:26:22.800 --> 1:26:24.960 you're it sounds like you got it down. It sounds 1:26:25.040 --> 1:26:28.680 kind of cool. It's an adventure. It's like being I've 1:26:28.680 --> 1:26:32.120 been on tour with yeah, my wife and her brother, 1:26:32.200 --> 1:26:35.000 my brother in law. Um, and it is it's an eventure. 1:26:35.000 --> 1:26:37.360 You have little many adventures in every little city, like 1:26:37.400 --> 1:26:38.960 something goes wrong, you don't know where this is and 1:26:38.960 --> 1:26:41.040 you have to figure this out, and it's every day 1:26:41.160 --> 1:26:42.439 is kind of a new little day. You get to 1:26:42.439 --> 1:26:46.240 the new venues. There's different staff, Um, different places have 1:26:46.720 --> 1:26:49.760 you can probably attest to this. Some audiences in some 1:26:49.840 --> 1:26:52.160 places are exceptional and other ones you'll have to work 1:26:52.200 --> 1:26:58.120 harder to get them to feel some energy back from them. Absolutely, absolutely, absolutely, 1:26:58.120 --> 1:27:00.880 there's certain things about it that are really predictable, but 1:27:01.000 --> 1:27:06.160 there's certain things about it also that they're they're completely uncontrollable, right, 1:27:06.439 --> 1:27:08.599 and so you know, and the reality is you can 1:27:08.640 --> 1:27:12.600 give the same show, uh, tomorrow night. I think you 1:27:12.680 --> 1:27:17.280 give tonight and tonight's show people are next actolutely losing 1:27:17.320 --> 1:27:20.120 their minds and tomorrow night you may feel like, you know, 1:27:20.120 --> 1:27:23.080 they're you know, they're sleep at the wheel, but it 1:27:23.160 --> 1:27:25.120 doesn't mean they're not loving the show. Do you ever 1:27:25.200 --> 1:27:28.600 change the show set list from one night to the 1:27:28.600 --> 1:27:31.840 next night? Is a change? Yeah, well we'll alter some 1:27:31.920 --> 1:27:34.640 things and just to keep it fresh for ourselves up 1:27:34.640 --> 1:27:38.400 on stage. Um, you know, you get the few maybe 1:27:38.400 --> 1:27:41.760 a first a few nights going give it a little consistency, 1:27:41.920 --> 1:27:44.880 just so you feel like you have your bearings then 1:27:44.920 --> 1:27:47.519 to begin, you know, making making changes kind of like 1:27:47.600 --> 1:27:50.200 learning anything, you know what I mean, Like learning an instrument, 1:27:50.240 --> 1:27:52.040 The same thing with kind of learning your set list, 1:27:52.120 --> 1:27:54.800 and than any technique. You learn your technique and then 1:27:54.840 --> 1:27:56.880 you start expounding on your technique, you know what I mean. 1:27:56.960 --> 1:27:59.479 Same thing with same thing with the show the second 1:27:59.479 --> 1:28:03.120 you start, the second you get a few down and 1:28:03.200 --> 1:28:06.880 you're feeling you're really capable of it, that then you 1:28:06.920 --> 1:28:09.880 could start throwing throwing wrenches at it and uh, you know, 1:28:09.880 --> 1:28:11.680 and altering it a little bit here and there and 1:28:11.760 --> 1:28:14.800 kind of keeping it, keeping it interesting for yourself. Plus 1:28:14.880 --> 1:28:17.360 you know, there's a lot of revisitation, you know, with 1:28:17.439 --> 1:28:19.479 fans will come out. Some fans will come out to 1:28:20.000 --> 1:28:21.800 you know, one or two shows. Some fans come out 1:28:21.840 --> 1:28:23.800 to ten shows, do you know what I mean? And 1:28:24.000 --> 1:28:26.200 just showed people who come out to eight shows, you 1:28:26.240 --> 1:28:28.599 know what I mean. So, and and you want to 1:28:28.640 --> 1:28:31.880 give them some variation so that they go, oh wow, 1:28:31.920 --> 1:28:35.479 that night he played you know, some song that they 1:28:35.479 --> 1:28:38.400 haven't heard in you know, ten years, you know. So, 1:28:39.400 --> 1:28:41.160 and I think I think you need to do that 1:28:41.280 --> 1:28:43.799 right exactly we never know. It's like you played Chariot 1:28:43.800 --> 1:28:45.719 one night, or you know, I tend to play Chariot 1:28:45.760 --> 1:28:47.880 more often just because it was a hit, So you 1:28:48.000 --> 1:28:50.360 to play Chariot, I don't want to be not over you. 1:28:50.920 --> 1:28:53.680 Certain songs that are bigger hits, you try to you 1:28:53.760 --> 1:28:57.400 try to give those to your fans on a regular basis. 1:28:57.439 --> 1:29:00.280 Do you always save one of those for the core? 1:29:00.360 --> 1:29:03.120 And do you leave the stage and demand the standing 1:29:03.160 --> 1:29:07.439 ovation to woo you you gonna love this, so so 1:29:07.640 --> 1:29:09.880 get this, so my so my first, my first big 1:29:09.960 --> 1:29:15.880 hit was was I Don't want to be right, I 1:29:15.920 --> 1:29:19.120 don't want to be And I remember I started becoming 1:29:19.160 --> 1:29:21.760 a hit song, and I remember I was getting all 1:29:21.800 --> 1:29:24.120 these gigs um and and a lot of the gigs 1:29:24.120 --> 1:29:27.240 that were coming were sort of, uh like college type 1:29:27.280 --> 1:29:33.559 gigs right and and which almost seemed like the jokers 1:29:33.560 --> 1:29:36.519 on me because I quit school and so you know 1:29:36.560 --> 1:29:40.240 they're they be playing all these colleges, and I remember 1:29:40.720 --> 1:29:42.640 I wanted to change things up. So one day I 1:29:42.680 --> 1:29:45.240 go out and I played the song that's the big hit, 1:29:46.080 --> 1:29:49.080 um the first hit, and I played it like fifth 1:29:49.120 --> 1:29:53.400 song and by like the tenth song. They're like half 1:29:53.439 --> 1:29:57.240 as made people in there, and they showed up to 1:29:57.280 --> 1:30:02.680 hear one song. We got what we came herefore to 1:30:02.720 --> 1:30:09.160 see you later, sucker, you know, and so you know, 1:30:09.479 --> 1:30:11.080 but but you know, it's a little bit of a 1:30:11.120 --> 1:30:13.720 learning curve there. But at the same time, you know, 1:30:13.800 --> 1:30:16.760 you you you must play certain songs at your show. 1:30:16.840 --> 1:30:18.599 The song is that of your biggest hits, you gotta 1:30:18.600 --> 1:30:21.840 play those. It's important. What's your what's your favorite song 1:30:22.000 --> 1:30:24.360 right now? To play the one that you just like 1:30:24.560 --> 1:30:26.080 might not be the biggest hit, but the one that 1:30:26.200 --> 1:30:32.160 you yourself enjoy singing the most most recently. It would 1:30:32.160 --> 1:30:36.000 probably be the most recent one. Uh, that I've been 1:30:36.600 --> 1:30:38.320 wanting to add to the set list for a few 1:30:38.400 --> 1:30:42.799 years but haven't. It's called You Make My Heart Sing Louder, 1:30:43.320 --> 1:30:47.040 and uh because that was my mom's favorite song from 1:30:47.080 --> 1:30:50.400 my last record and uh yeah, now my mom is 1:30:50.400 --> 1:30:53.040 not around anymore. So it's so it was great to 1:30:54.000 --> 1:30:56.400 nail that one down in the studio or in the 1:30:56.560 --> 1:31:01.080 rehearsal studio. Um, I feel like we we finally we're 1:31:01.120 --> 1:31:03.600 executing it right, you know, to bring it out on 1:31:03.680 --> 1:31:06.679 tour this tour, will you will you intro it with 1:31:06.720 --> 1:31:09.080 that that it was your mom's favorite song and this 1:31:09.120 --> 1:31:11.720 is why you want to tell stories about the do 1:31:12.120 --> 1:31:16.759 you get? It depends on the night, you know. Sometimes 1:31:16.760 --> 1:31:20.400 some songs you roll right through. Yeah, Sometimes you pick 1:31:20.439 --> 1:31:23.160 your certain moments in the show to stay, you know, 1:31:23.200 --> 1:31:26.280 if you if you find this is something that that's 1:31:26.280 --> 1:31:29.920 really worth telling. Sometimes you tell little bits and pieces 1:31:29.960 --> 1:31:32.320 throughout the show and you think, oh, that's not connecting 1:31:32.520 --> 1:31:35.519 or maybe I'm talking too much throughout the show and 1:31:35.640 --> 1:31:39.800 taking the flow from the actual show. You know. So 1:31:39.840 --> 1:31:44.880 there's that fine line right between um, the bits of 1:31:44.920 --> 1:31:50.160 storytelling and the relatability stuff on stage. Uh, but also 1:31:50.600 --> 1:31:53.599 trying not to slow the showdown so much where they're like, man, 1:31:53.640 --> 1:31:55.800 this is a real snooze fest. If I thought we 1:31:55.840 --> 1:31:57.560 were too many story time, I would have gone to 1:31:57.600 --> 1:32:00.280 the bookstore, you know what I mean. So, you know, 1:32:00.520 --> 1:32:03.000 so you're trying to you try to find those sweet 1:32:03.040 --> 1:32:07.160 spots where you're we're the right times to the right 1:32:07.280 --> 1:32:11.160 times to engage the audience. Have you have you thought 1:32:11.200 --> 1:32:13.000 about giving a shout out and being like, listen, if 1:32:13.000 --> 1:32:16.360 you guys like hearing me talk, download the How Men 1:32:16.479 --> 1:32:21.200 Think podcast? That's right, I mean, these arenas are packed, right, 1:32:22.120 --> 1:32:25.000 you do this I agree with you, and we should 1:32:25.040 --> 1:32:32.920 have a T shirt that tays Brooks sucks toes. Ryan 1:32:32.960 --> 1:32:39.519 will make one for me. That's right by the way 1:32:39.600 --> 1:32:41.360 on your tour bus. Do you have do you This 1:32:41.400 --> 1:32:43.479 is gonna seem like a base on the side of 1:32:43.520 --> 1:32:50.400 the bus, doesn't I have like your autograph like that? 1:32:50.640 --> 1:32:52.599 That's you know what that says when you have your 1:32:52.640 --> 1:32:54.360 face on the side of your bus says I'm a 1:32:54.439 --> 1:32:56.280 big deal. I got my face on the side of 1:32:56.360 --> 1:32:59.599 a bus. Boom. It says, draw something in my mouth 1:32:59.640 --> 1:33:03.240 with the sharpie and on the outside. That's why Ryan 1:33:03.360 --> 1:33:05.640 was asking, you're gonna fly down there and do that? 1:33:07.240 --> 1:33:11.519 So here's the real important question, um, or actually, I'm 1:33:11.560 --> 1:33:13.479 just excited to say I'll see you in a couple 1:33:13.520 --> 1:33:15.880 of days at that place where we're doing the gig 1:33:16.040 --> 1:33:18.559 together that we told that we said we wouldn't tell 1:33:18.560 --> 1:33:20.120 the other guys about you know what I'm talking about. 1:33:21.080 --> 1:33:23.120 So I'll be excited to see you there. But um, 1:33:23.560 --> 1:33:26.280 how come, how come we haven't actually been offered a 1:33:26.320 --> 1:33:29.200 featuring gig on your tour. I thought we were good, 1:33:29.680 --> 1:33:33.360 or at least like maybe maybe there should be a 1:33:33.520 --> 1:33:35.800 day that you guys come at and we just sit 1:33:35.920 --> 1:33:38.120 on stage and we do an episode in front of 1:33:38.160 --> 1:33:41.760 the audience. So see what he did there. You see 1:33:41.800 --> 1:33:44.839 what he did there. That's a deflection. That's a classic. 1:33:45.040 --> 1:33:47.160 But I like this better. I'd rather go talking for 1:33:47.200 --> 1:33:49.200 the audience than go and sing. No. But he just 1:33:49.280 --> 1:33:51.880 said what he just said in in a polite way, 1:33:52.000 --> 1:33:55.160 was you guys can't sing worth? Yeah, no, he's right, though, No, 1:33:55.439 --> 1:33:57.120 that's not what I said. What I meant to say 1:33:57.320 --> 1:34:00.439 was what I meant to say was what you guys 1:34:00.479 --> 1:34:06.000 show up. I'm gonna need some extra hands moving the gear, alright. 1:34:06.040 --> 1:34:12.360 But Ryan wants his face on the bus though, Man, absolutely, well, 1:34:12.439 --> 1:34:16.519 we all got sharpie. Be careful, be careful. What the 1:34:16.680 --> 1:34:19.559 portrait you put up? Man? I think yeah, I think 1:34:19.600 --> 1:34:21.240 that would be great. Come on out if you want 1:34:21.280 --> 1:34:23.600 to get up and we'll do a little jam. You 1:34:23.680 --> 1:34:26.920 guys play any instruments I do. I play guitar, I 1:34:26.960 --> 1:34:30.519 played drums, and I play piano. Is that true? That's true? 1:34:30.640 --> 1:34:32.320 When I was seven, eight and nine, my mom said 1:34:32.320 --> 1:34:34.240 I had to take piano lessons. She took piano, and 1:34:34.280 --> 1:34:35.840 she said I had to take piano where I couldn't 1:34:35.840 --> 1:34:38.479 play hockey. So I learned piano at a very young age. 1:34:38.560 --> 1:34:41.559 And then when I turned pro, I was nineteen years 1:34:41.600 --> 1:34:44.840 old and a trainer in our room. His dad had 1:34:44.880 --> 1:34:47.559 got arthritis, and his dad played guitar and had nine 1:34:47.640 --> 1:34:50.920 guitars for sale. He was trying to sell his dad's guitar, 1:34:50.960 --> 1:34:52.400 and I said, I'll buy one, Just give me one. 1:34:52.439 --> 1:34:54.240 All buy like I can make it. You're like I 1:34:54.320 --> 1:34:56.439 can make it. I can make a stick out of this. 1:34:59.200 --> 1:35:01.760 And then so that's how I picked up guitar. And 1:35:01.840 --> 1:35:03.439 then I used to go to the guitar center to 1:35:03.479 --> 1:35:05.240 get new strings and look at guitars and all that 1:35:05.320 --> 1:35:06.519 kind of stuff. And in the one day I was 1:35:06.560 --> 1:35:07.920 in there, there was a sale on drums, and I 1:35:08.000 --> 1:35:10.200 just bought a set of drums so I can play 1:35:11.800 --> 1:35:14.120 my drumming. I actually I love drums, man. When I 1:35:14.200 --> 1:35:16.679 had when I had drums and guitar in my basement 1:35:16.720 --> 1:35:18.439 in my house, I would go downstairs and I would 1:35:18.439 --> 1:35:22.400 gravitate towards the drums first. I wish I would. I 1:35:22.479 --> 1:35:25.280 have never taken any lessons in in guitar or drums 1:35:25.560 --> 1:35:27.599 um and ended up giving them away when I left 1:35:27.680 --> 1:35:30.880 d c UM. But it's so much fun, man, You 1:35:30.960 --> 1:35:34.800 can lose yourself in music. It is so much fun. Yeah, absolutely, 1:35:35.120 --> 1:35:37.240 they say that. They say that, and I don't know 1:35:37.240 --> 1:35:39.599 if this is true, but they say that people who 1:35:39.720 --> 1:35:44.479 played drums and people who study martial arts that their 1:35:44.720 --> 1:35:51.479 brain actually rewires itself for for your limb independence. Oh yeah, 1:35:51.600 --> 1:35:54.479 that's the first thing. You have to completely big time. 1:35:54.520 --> 1:35:56.240 Have you ever played drums? Have you played, like, sat 1:35:56.280 --> 1:35:58.240 down and tried to play those drums? Can you? I 1:35:58.840 --> 1:36:03.439 only do it for money, Um, it is, but you 1:36:03.560 --> 1:36:06.800 have to break everything everything, Like your limbs all move 1:36:06.880 --> 1:36:08.680 in sequence. They go up and down together, and you 1:36:08.760 --> 1:36:10.719 have to break that change so they can move in depends. 1:36:11.360 --> 1:36:14.120 He's a black belt on the snare drum. Oh yeah, 1:36:17.479 --> 1:36:19.760 um well, buddy, we appreciate you taking the time. I 1:36:19.800 --> 1:36:22.879 know you're super busy. I know tour life is excited 1:36:22.920 --> 1:36:24.439 to talk to you guys. And we missed you at 1:36:24.479 --> 1:36:26.640 the lake man. I know, I know I missed you 1:36:26.720 --> 1:36:29.280 guys too. I heard all these stories. Um, I heard 1:36:29.320 --> 1:36:31.960 you and Dmitri had a nice little heard you and 1:36:32.120 --> 1:36:34.519 Dmitri had a nice little date around the lake. He 1:36:34.640 --> 1:36:36.479 filled us in on the dude. They started saying we 1:36:36.520 --> 1:36:38.519 had a romantic drive around the lake and finally I 1:36:38.640 --> 1:36:39.760 just gave in and I said, you know what, it 1:36:39.880 --> 1:36:43.519 was pretty nice. That's it. That's it us. And uh, 1:36:43.880 --> 1:36:45.880 you know, a couple of solo cups and a bottle 1:36:45.920 --> 1:36:51.240 of Corbel. We got crazy and buddy and Buddy, that's it. Um, well, dude, 1:36:51.320 --> 1:36:53.200 we wish you the best. We wish you the best 1:36:53.240 --> 1:36:55.559 of luck on tour at some point, at some point 1:36:55.600 --> 1:36:57.800 we'll come out and see you. Um, just huge fan, 1:36:59.640 --> 1:37:02.200 huge out of your music. Um. Where can people get 1:37:02.240 --> 1:37:05.080 tickets for the tour right now? Where can they go? 1:37:06.520 --> 1:37:08.400 I just go just go to my name Gavin to 1:37:08.479 --> 1:37:11.479 Grow and just type up Gavin to Grow on tour 1:37:11.920 --> 1:37:14.680 and you tickets right there and buy the v I 1:37:14.800 --> 1:37:18.920 P that's right by the v I P or not 1:37:19.479 --> 1:37:20.920 and just come on and take out the show man. 1:37:20.960 --> 1:37:23.120 It's all about the music. So we come out and 1:37:23.439 --> 1:37:25.879 we do what we do and we put some smiles 1:37:25.920 --> 1:37:32.439 on faces. We'll have fun. Man. We miss you, yeah, man, thanks, yeah, brother, 1:37:32.600 --> 1:37:38.160 miss you too, sugar man. Yeah yeah. Shout out to you. Amy. 1:37:39.160 --> 1:37:41.160 She loves you, she said she loves you. She misses 1:37:41.160 --> 1:37:47.000 you too. Love she said she's kinky. Okay, buddy, travel 1:37:47.040 --> 1:37:50.120 safety Well, um, have a fun, have a blast out there, 1:37:50.240 --> 1:37:52.759 and for everybody else listening, take care of one another, 1:37:52.880 --> 1:37:55.160 love one another, and we will see you right back 1:37:55.200 --> 1:37:59.439 here for another episode of How Men Think Next week Licktoes. Yeah, 1:38:03.360 --> 1:38:05.519 hey guys, it's Brooks and one last thing before we 1:38:05.600 --> 1:38:07.920 let you go. If you like today's episode, we would 1:38:08.040 --> 1:38:09.800 love to get a five star review from you on 1:38:09.920 --> 1:38:12.120 iTunes and if you could possibly share it with a friend, 1:38:12.240 --> 1:38:14.719 that would be amazing as well. 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