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Speaker 1: This is How Men Think and Gavin de grab and

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Speaker 1: I hear radio podcasts. Hi, my name is Brooks like

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Speaker 1: and welcome to the show. This is the How Men

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Speaker 1: Think podcast where we dive into the minds of these

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Speaker 1: goods serves sitting here with me today. So we have Rick,

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Speaker 1: we have Ryan, we have Dimitri, and we're gonna get

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Speaker 1: in plug in with Gavin later he's out on tour.

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Speaker 1: But first off, gentlemen, how are you doing. Let's say that,

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Speaker 1: let's bring you in doing well? Doing well? You look well?

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Speaker 1: Thank you? Okay, Well, here's the thing. Last week, at

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Speaker 1: the end of the show, we had Ryan's friend. Ryan

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Speaker 1: proposed a situation that his friend was going through and

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Speaker 1: we had an enormous response and out just an outrageous

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Speaker 1: amount of emails about what to do in this situation. So, Ryan,

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Speaker 1: can you tee up for anybody that didn't listen to

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Speaker 1: the last episode, can you tee up the scenario? Scenario?

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Speaker 1: And then we're gonna give our response to what we

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Speaker 1: think we would do in that. So they should go

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Speaker 1: back and listen to the last episode. Wait, wait, well done,

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Speaker 1: You're a better salesman than I and pause. Yeah, So

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Speaker 1: what is the scenario and then we'll give our response.

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Speaker 1: So the scenario is a buddy of mine um he

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Speaker 1: and his now wife were having a lot of trouble

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Speaker 1: to conceive. They've gone through two rounds of IVF. She

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Speaker 1: of IVF, she said to him, look, I really want

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Speaker 1: getting older, and I don't know if it's ever going

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Speaker 1: to happen. I don't biologically, I don't know if it's

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Speaker 1: in the cards for us. But I have a solution,

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Speaker 1: hear me out. The solution is my ex husband and

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Speaker 1: I went through IVF as well, and I have three

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Speaker 1: viable embryos on ice with his sperm that I could

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Speaker 1: implant tomorrow and we could have a baby together and

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Speaker 1: raise that baby as our own, the only copulation being

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Speaker 1: it will be my ex husband's sperm and technically his baby.

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Speaker 1: And there's resentment for the X right from the current husband.

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Speaker 1: There's resently does not like this guy. Yes, exactly right,

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Speaker 1: I mean yes, yes. So a lot of people weighed

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Speaker 1: in right because with a ton of emails. So we

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Speaker 1: had a ton of emails, and everybody the over overwhelmingly,

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Speaker 1: I shouldn't say everybody overwhelmingly people said no. They could

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Speaker 1: not get to the point of like, because we asked

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Speaker 1: the question, if you were that guy in this relationship,

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Speaker 1: would you say to your wife, yes, let's take the

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Speaker 1: and get pregnant that way, And overwhelmingly you guys responded

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Speaker 1: with no. What do you what is your what is

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Speaker 1: My feeling is what I started. What I said a

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Speaker 1: little bit at the last the end of the last

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Speaker 1: episode was um, you know, there's a lot of kids

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Speaker 1: adoption if this is a real problem. But what I

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Speaker 1: there's nothing more incredible than the feeling of being a dad. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so it sounds like these two really want to be parents.

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Speaker 1: I say, figure out what's best for you. Whether that's adoption,

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Speaker 1: I don't. What I will say is, if you're going

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Speaker 1: you're okay with it because once that baby is born,

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Speaker 1: that's your baby and you cannot have any of those

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Speaker 1: feelings towards that baby. Well that you really got to

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Speaker 1: think this through, is what I'm saying. So you have

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Speaker 1: to be a d percent sure before you do this. Okay,

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Speaker 1: But here's the thing, Like I said, people are people

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Speaker 1: So it can be done. But what I'm saying is

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Speaker 1: it and you be and you be the best parent

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Speaker 1: that you could. Difference with the stepfather of it all

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Speaker 1: And so he struggled with this exact thing, which is

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Speaker 1: And while that's an option for some people, I want

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Speaker 1: But if I do allow it, I'm going to resent

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Speaker 1: her and potentially the child. So it's a zero sum game.

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Speaker 1: There's going to be resentment from either side. So how

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Speaker 1: They've tried IVF twice, I believe, right, Could they go

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Speaker 1: but try one more time. Maybe. By the way, there

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Speaker 1: having been through IVF with my wife, knowing that it's

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Speaker 1: I say that, knowing fully what it's like to go

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Speaker 1: maybe try it one more time. But here here's the question.

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Speaker 1: I would say no, Ryan, I would say no. And

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Speaker 1: in the current position, I would say no, and I

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Speaker 1: I don't want that to ruin our marriage, but like

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Speaker 1: and got come on, really, yes, Wow, is that amazing?

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Speaker 1: That fires me up, man, because you know why, So

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Speaker 1: this is why that really fires me up. My wife

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Speaker 1: She says, no is not an answer that I will accept.

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Speaker 1: I will always find a way. And these two did that.

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Speaker 1: fires me up. I love that. Welcome everybody. My name

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Speaker 1: is Brooks, like and this is how men think. Right now.

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Speaker 1: We are missing our buddy in studio, Mr Gavin de

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Speaker 1: Gross so I cannot introduce him right here, but we've

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Speaker 1: got Ryan Rick and Dmitri fear not, fear not. Gavin

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Speaker 1: will be on later. Should have a moment to do.

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Speaker 1: We need a smile like Gavin does every time he gets.

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Speaker 1: Will be checking in from the road. Thanks Brooks. It

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Speaker 1: feels good to be I'm smiling, you know. I'm happy

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Speaker 1: don't know, maybe maybe do we even call him or

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Speaker 1: do we cut him from this show? Oh never, how

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Speaker 1: dare you to my tree? And Gavin had a little

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Speaker 1: bit of a romantic adventure in lake talk. I don't

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Speaker 1: know what romantic is that. Well, actually it was pretty romantic. Well,

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Speaker 1: we had some downtime, there was other stuff going on,

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Speaker 1: and you know, we're just looking around and Gavin said,

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Speaker 1: then he did the old well this is look how beautiful.

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Speaker 1: And again I was like, not something I normally do,

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Speaker 1: If Gavin was here, he'd say, hold on, hold on,

426
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Speaker 1: what am I having for dinner? Because if it's a

427
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Speaker 1: nice steak, maybe I can put off this, And he'd say,

428
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Speaker 1: who's paying for dinner? But yeah, I think it's I

429
00:21:45,800 --> 00:21:47,840
Speaker 1: think go either way. As as Demetri said, I do

430
00:21:47,920 --> 00:21:49,399
Speaker 1: have friends that have hooked up on the first night,

431
00:21:49,440 --> 00:21:52,080
Speaker 1: have been married fifteen years and have kids. So that

432
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Speaker 1: doesn't mean that that's going to dictate the quality of

433
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Speaker 1: the relationship. But I think it's just a personal preference.

434
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Speaker 1: Do you want to advance the physical part of it

435
00:22:00,400 --> 00:22:04,080
Speaker 1: sooner or later? I prevard later, And I'll wrap it

436
00:22:04,160 --> 00:22:06,480
Speaker 1: up with this. I think the older you get, the

437
00:22:06,600 --> 00:22:09,439
Speaker 1: more you know what you want. So when you find

438
00:22:09,520 --> 00:22:13,760
Speaker 1: that person, if you're older, you're like, yeah, I know this,

439
00:22:13,960 --> 00:22:16,119
Speaker 1: I want to be I want to have sex with

440
00:22:16,160 --> 00:22:18,640
Speaker 1: this person. Like I'm not gonna waste any time. It's

441
00:22:18,760 --> 00:22:21,000
Speaker 1: let's just I know what I want, he has what

442
00:22:21,080 --> 00:22:23,800
Speaker 1: I want. Let's do this. We'll be right back in

443
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Speaker 1: just a second. Okay, we're gonna get into today's topic.

444
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Speaker 1: We've covered this before on the show. So you guys

445
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Speaker 1: remember the episode where my wife Julianne was on and

446
00:22:34,560 --> 00:22:40,560
Speaker 1: she had mentioned about a special lady named Miss Jaia

447
00:22:40,760 --> 00:22:44,600
Speaker 1: who is a sex therapist. See, I'll be honest, I

448
00:22:44,600 --> 00:22:46,520
Speaker 1: thought that was a metaphor. I didn't realize that was

449
00:22:46,520 --> 00:22:49,840
Speaker 1: a real person. I realized that, yes, she's a sexologist,

450
00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:51,960
Speaker 1: not a sex therapist. I got that. I just want

451
00:22:51,960 --> 00:22:53,840
Speaker 1: to clear that up. But we talked about this lady

452
00:22:53,880 --> 00:22:57,400
Speaker 1: named Miss Jaya, and she has an erotic blueprint UM,

453
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Speaker 1: and it's an erotic blueprint or erotic bre Through dot com,

454
00:23:00,760 --> 00:23:03,440
Speaker 1: you can take this erotic blueprint and it sort of

455
00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:08,000
Speaker 1: gives you a little background about what you are essentially sexually. UM,

456
00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:10,800
Speaker 1: just your erotic blueprint. And so my wife and I

457
00:23:10,840 --> 00:23:13,880
Speaker 1: have have both taken this UM and did you guys

458
00:23:13,880 --> 00:23:15,720
Speaker 1: take it? Have you guys taken it? Now? We have

459
00:23:15,800 --> 00:23:19,360
Speaker 1: taken it. We have taken it UM. And the response

460
00:23:19,400 --> 00:23:21,560
Speaker 1: from this that show was incredible. We had so many

461
00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:25,200
Speaker 1: people email us and jump on our Instagram page saying

462
00:23:25,200 --> 00:23:27,879
Speaker 1: they want to hear more from Miss Jaya. So today

463
00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:31,680
Speaker 1: we actually have Miss Jaya coming on with us, which

464
00:23:31,760 --> 00:23:34,440
Speaker 1: is Rick's eyes just lit up. He's like, oh boy,

465
00:23:34,600 --> 00:23:36,880
Speaker 1: all your answers are all your questions, your whole life?

466
00:23:37,040 --> 00:23:39,919
Speaker 1: What blueprints? You know? How I gave you one word

467
00:23:40,040 --> 00:23:44,480
Speaker 1: describing you. I was a shape shifter? What is that?

468
00:23:44,480 --> 00:23:48,199
Speaker 1: That's what Miss Jaia is gonna answer. I was a

469
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Speaker 1: kid that wass sorry? I was a shape shifter. Also

470
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Speaker 1: a shape shifter, shape shifter shape my wife was also

471
00:24:00,280 --> 00:24:01,879
Speaker 1: a shape shift. Well, that's what I want to know.

472
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Speaker 1: Is it is an ideal situation that you and your

473
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Speaker 1: partner are the same? Or does a shape shifter pair

474
00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:13,359
Speaker 1: well with a kinky? I think actually in the test,

475
00:24:13,480 --> 00:24:15,760
Speaker 1: I think it does say who you pair well with?

476
00:24:16,359 --> 00:24:18,760
Speaker 1: I believe, but I could be mistaken. It sounds like

477
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Speaker 1: a question. Can't wait, what do you get? I got kinky?

478
00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:29,919
Speaker 1: You're kinky? Obviously? Wow? No, he got kinky taking the quiz?

479
00:24:29,960 --> 00:24:32,520
Speaker 1: What did you get? Wait? Is that when you're you

480
00:24:32,560 --> 00:24:36,040
Speaker 1: guys are a match? You're asking he's a shape shifter

481
00:24:36,200 --> 00:24:39,560
Speaker 1: and I'm a kinky there's and I was not expecting that.

482
00:24:39,680 --> 00:24:44,800
Speaker 1: But look, uh sexual sexual, which I don't know if

483
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Speaker 1: you read the fine print after he said this is

484
00:24:46,320 --> 00:24:50,920
Speaker 1: the best thing to be but I'm pretty sure. And

485
00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:53,400
Speaker 1: then Amy's face is really read over here because she

486
00:24:53,720 --> 00:24:59,520
Speaker 1: is kinky. I just get a text message from her.

487
00:24:59,720 --> 00:25:02,520
Speaker 1: Oh God, of course I'm kinky. It's all that said.

488
00:25:02,680 --> 00:25:04,320
Speaker 1: She hadn't even taken the quiz yet. I feel like

489
00:25:04,359 --> 00:25:06,960
Speaker 1: you even changed. You changed your voice when you said

490
00:25:06,960 --> 00:25:09,000
Speaker 1: that word to to try to you know, did I

491
00:25:09,080 --> 00:25:12,240
Speaker 1: sound kinkier? You have a big smile on right now.

492
00:25:12,720 --> 00:25:14,640
Speaker 1: I won wear it like a badge of honor? Would

493
00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:19,159
Speaker 1: you get Danielle? I got sensual? Sensual? And Tory and

494
00:25:19,200 --> 00:25:21,720
Speaker 1: Hanna took it to right? What did you guys get?

495
00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:26,080
Speaker 1: So if you guys want to take this, you can

496
00:25:26,119 --> 00:25:28,840
Speaker 1: go to Erotic breakthrough dot com. Miss Jaya can talk

497
00:25:28,880 --> 00:25:31,320
Speaker 1: more about it. But this is an erotic blueprint to

498
00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:34,040
Speaker 1: give you a little idea into how you look at

499
00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:38,159
Speaker 1: intimacy and sex. Um. This is producer Tori and I

500
00:25:38,240 --> 00:25:48,560
Speaker 1: had energizer or energetic, it's whatever. I also think it's

501
00:25:48,600 --> 00:25:51,240
Speaker 1: also what miss Jaya is because she said we share

502
00:25:51,280 --> 00:25:58,320
Speaker 1: the same erotic blue parents young. This is young Hanna

503
00:25:59,040 --> 00:26:04,639
Speaker 1: and I got sexual okay, so kind of neat that

504
00:26:04,680 --> 00:26:08,560
Speaker 1: we have like a mixture, that we have all different

505
00:26:08,600 --> 00:26:11,600
Speaker 1: kinds on this panel. So I'm I'm interested to ask

506
00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:15,240
Speaker 1: questions to miss Jaya um and find out what this

507
00:26:15,320 --> 00:26:18,440
Speaker 1: means for us. And so we have Jaya on the

508
00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:22,320
Speaker 1: show with us. Welcome Jaya. Hello, it's so pleased to

509
00:26:22,320 --> 00:26:27,480
Speaker 1: be here. Yeah, welcome, round of applause. I cannot state

510
00:26:27,480 --> 00:26:29,760
Speaker 1: this enough. I'm so excited that you're here. Um. We

511
00:26:29,880 --> 00:26:33,080
Speaker 1: have four gentlemen here that are extremely lost in this area,

512
00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:35,879
Speaker 1: um and are looking for some answers. And and and also

513
00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:37,320
Speaker 1: I just want to pass on to you. I don't

514
00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:39,640
Speaker 1: know if you heard the episode with my wife Julianne

515
00:26:39,680 --> 00:26:42,000
Speaker 1: Huff where she mentioned your name and that we took

516
00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:46,600
Speaker 1: your erotic blueprint quiz. UM. My wife doesn't fangirl over

517
00:26:46,720 --> 00:26:49,359
Speaker 1: many people, but last night when I told her that

518
00:26:49,400 --> 00:26:51,439
Speaker 1: we were speaking with you on the podcast today, she

519
00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:55,560
Speaker 1: tried to literally clear her schedule to come meet you.

520
00:26:56,640 --> 00:26:59,560
Speaker 1: So she wanted me to pass that on that she

521
00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:01,800
Speaker 1: is a ass a fan of yours and she hopes

522
00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:04,280
Speaker 1: that we can connect and talk. Um. She just loves

523
00:27:04,280 --> 00:27:06,120
Speaker 1: what you do loves your work and has so many

524
00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:08,760
Speaker 1: questions for you. So sometime after the show we'll have

525
00:27:08,840 --> 00:27:13,160
Speaker 1: to continue the conversation. But um one, we just want

526
00:27:13,200 --> 00:27:18,280
Speaker 1: to introduce you to our listeners. Um And you're often

527
00:27:18,400 --> 00:27:21,760
Speaker 1: mistaken for a sex therapist, but you're actually referred to

528
00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:25,560
Speaker 1: as a sexologist. Can you elaborate on that for us please.

529
00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:29,199
Speaker 1: So I have the great pleasure of not just talking

530
00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:32,879
Speaker 1: about sex, but I help people hands on. So my

531
00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:36,880
Speaker 1: practice is somatic, meaning you know, people come into my office,

532
00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:39,280
Speaker 1: we talk a little, and then I actually see how

533
00:27:39,320 --> 00:27:42,120
Speaker 1: they touch each other. So I can say, hey, you're

534
00:27:42,160 --> 00:27:44,280
Speaker 1: touching her like a piece of meat. You need to

535
00:27:44,280 --> 00:27:47,920
Speaker 1: start touching her more like very gently, like a tulip,

536
00:27:47,960 --> 00:27:50,919
Speaker 1: for like you're dropping a pebble into a pond, So

537
00:27:50,960 --> 00:27:53,520
Speaker 1: that we can start to really get this not sex

538
00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:55,399
Speaker 1: and just something we can talk about, it's something that

539
00:27:55,440 --> 00:27:58,720
Speaker 1: we actually need to get hands on and hands in with. Wow,

540
00:27:58,760 --> 00:28:02,520
Speaker 1: so you actually get to watch and coach real time.

541
00:28:03,280 --> 00:28:05,520
Speaker 1: I watched and coach real time. I work with the

542
00:28:05,560 --> 00:28:09,440
Speaker 1: physical body. We work with biochemistry, so we're working with hormones,

543
00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:12,720
Speaker 1: we're working with the emotional aspects, and we work with

544
00:28:12,720 --> 00:28:15,560
Speaker 1: the energetic aspects. Wow, okay, so I just want to

545
00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:18,399
Speaker 1: read here um your mission, So it says your mission

546
00:28:18,440 --> 00:28:22,200
Speaker 1: is to help people gain access to erotic ecstasy. You're

547
00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:25,400
Speaker 1: committed to shifting the cultural view of sexuality from being

548
00:28:25,440 --> 00:28:28,760
Speaker 1: something that is bad, wrong, or shameful to something seemed

549
00:28:28,800 --> 00:28:32,040
Speaker 1: as healthy, worth cultivating and celebrating, which I think is

550
00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:35,000
Speaker 1: an incredible mission mission. And you've been doing this work

551
00:28:35,040 --> 00:28:38,240
Speaker 1: for now over two decades. Over two decades. I really

552
00:28:38,280 --> 00:28:41,280
Speaker 1: want to acknowledge you guys. You know people kind of

553
00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:43,800
Speaker 1: judge like, oh, they're working on their sex life. You know,

554
00:28:43,920 --> 00:28:46,400
Speaker 1: things must be going wrong or self stuff like that,

555
00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:48,800
Speaker 1: and it's like, no, this is something that we need

556
00:28:48,880 --> 00:28:51,240
Speaker 1: to bring out of the dark and start talking about

557
00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:55,840
Speaker 1: because people feel like they're wrong, they're broken something, you know, shameful.

558
00:28:55,920 --> 00:28:58,840
Speaker 1: Let's not talk about it? When why not do this

559
00:28:58,880 --> 00:29:01,120
Speaker 1: in the beginning of your relation ship? That takes a

560
00:29:01,160 --> 00:29:03,320
Speaker 1: lot of courage, And I just really want to acknowledge

561
00:29:03,360 --> 00:29:06,320
Speaker 1: you guys, because that's amazing that you took steps to

562
00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:10,120
Speaker 1: really improve talk about these things, have conversations because I

563
00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:12,640
Speaker 1: see couples thirty or forty years into their relationship and

564
00:29:12,680 --> 00:29:15,520
Speaker 1: they've never had the conversation about sex, and they're both

565
00:29:15,560 --> 00:29:18,640
Speaker 1: really really suffering in this area. Well, and you this

566
00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:21,360
Speaker 1: is dmitri Um. You might know me as sexual from

567
00:29:21,360 --> 00:29:24,480
Speaker 1: the results. But it's kind of like a car, right,

568
00:29:24,520 --> 00:29:26,160
Speaker 1: Like you don't wait for your car to break down

569
00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:28,320
Speaker 1: to get it tuned up right, You bring it in

570
00:29:28,480 --> 00:29:29,880
Speaker 1: and you get you get it tuned up so that

571
00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:32,240
Speaker 1: it doesn't break down. And I imagine that's what the

572
00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:34,920
Speaker 1: same thing with the relationship and a sexual relationship. And

573
00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:37,000
Speaker 1: if you get a hyper sports car, you want to

574
00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:39,520
Speaker 1: know how the thing works, you know, like some people

575
00:29:39,600 --> 00:29:45,120
Speaker 1: are like some people have a McLaren and you've got

576
00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:47,240
Speaker 1: to learn you know, how to all the buttons and

577
00:29:47,280 --> 00:29:48,840
Speaker 1: how to drive it in the right gas to put

578
00:29:48,880 --> 00:29:51,680
Speaker 1: in it. And that's a more sophisticated blueprint. So you

579
00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:53,920
Speaker 1: mentioned your sexual blueprint, but that would be like an

580
00:29:54,040 --> 00:29:57,600
Speaker 1: energetic shape shifter. Is that fine automobile? You've got to

581
00:29:57,640 --> 00:29:59,360
Speaker 1: know how to play it just right. So I have

582
00:29:59,400 --> 00:30:02,320
Speaker 1: a question for Ugia. So when my wife first, she

583
00:30:02,400 --> 00:30:04,120
Speaker 1: came home one day and she said, I found this

584
00:30:04,240 --> 00:30:08,520
Speaker 1: quiz that gives you an erotic blueprint. Um, I've read

585
00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:12,760
Speaker 1: up on it. I've started studying her stuff she's watched videos. Um.

586
00:30:12,920 --> 00:30:16,280
Speaker 1: She was really informed on you when she brought you

587
00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:20,480
Speaker 1: to me. And originally, as you said, I pushed away.

588
00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:23,360
Speaker 1: I was like, wait, don't like why we don't need that? UM?

589
00:30:23,400 --> 00:30:26,560
Speaker 1: Our sex is great? UM Like why do we need

590
00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:29,320
Speaker 1: to what? What is this? I was uncomfortable with it?

591
00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:32,920
Speaker 1: Just full transparency. I was uncomfortable with this. It was

592
00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:36,240
Speaker 1: something that my wife had never mentioned before. UM did

593
00:30:36,280 --> 00:30:39,120
Speaker 1: you feel inadequate? No, I was just I was I

594
00:30:39,160 --> 00:30:42,440
Speaker 1: was curious, like why is she? Is she not happy?

595
00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:44,600
Speaker 1: I kind of started thinking like, is she not happy

596
00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:46,840
Speaker 1: in our sex life? I don't. And then I started

597
00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:49,880
Speaker 1: thinking about it more and I was like, well, I

598
00:30:49,920 --> 00:30:52,720
Speaker 1: go to I'm extremely well versed in nutrition, but I

599
00:30:52,720 --> 00:30:55,840
Speaker 1: still go to a nutritionist. I'm extremely well versed in

600
00:30:55,880 --> 00:31:00,240
Speaker 1: athletics and training, but I still seek advice from anthon

601
00:31:00,240 --> 00:31:03,920
Speaker 1: conditioning coaches and this other um. Kinds of areas of

602
00:31:03,960 --> 00:31:06,200
Speaker 1: my life that I still I might be proficient at,

603
00:31:06,280 --> 00:31:08,040
Speaker 1: but I still want to grow in that area. And

604
00:31:08,080 --> 00:31:11,440
Speaker 1: I'm not saying I'm proficient sexually. But when I started

605
00:31:11,440 --> 00:31:13,040
Speaker 1: thinking about it that way, I was like, Oh, actually,

606
00:31:13,040 --> 00:31:15,880
Speaker 1: I'm just seeking some growth in the area versus something

607
00:31:16,000 --> 00:31:18,360
Speaker 1: is wrong. But why do we tend to look at

608
00:31:19,120 --> 00:31:21,040
Speaker 1: for maybe listeners that think, oh, I could never go

609
00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:23,600
Speaker 1: to a sexologist or something. Why do we tend to

610
00:31:23,640 --> 00:31:26,120
Speaker 1: think that that's sort of taboo? And which I love

611
00:31:26,120 --> 00:31:27,920
Speaker 1: your mission is you're trying to change that. But what

612
00:31:28,160 --> 00:31:31,400
Speaker 1: is our mindset to try and think that that's taboo. Yeah,

613
00:31:31,440 --> 00:31:34,120
Speaker 1: we have this history of let's put it under the rug,

614
00:31:34,200 --> 00:31:36,200
Speaker 1: let's not talk about sex when we're taught from an

615
00:31:36,200 --> 00:31:39,040
Speaker 1: early age about sex. And I asked people this question

616
00:31:39,080 --> 00:31:42,440
Speaker 1: all over what were you taught about sex growing up?

617
00:31:42,840 --> 00:31:44,239
Speaker 1: And a lot of people say, oh, I didn't get

618
00:31:44,280 --> 00:31:48,520
Speaker 1: sex education, but you were taught about sex. You were

619
00:31:48,560 --> 00:31:51,120
Speaker 1: taught let's not talk about it. You were taught this

620
00:31:51,200 --> 00:31:54,280
Speaker 1: is how we behave. You were taught close your legs,

621
00:31:54,480 --> 00:31:58,120
Speaker 1: be good, don't you know, hash hash hash hashash Again

622
00:31:58,120 --> 00:32:01,040
Speaker 1: then like, don't talk about it, peace creates the taboo

623
00:32:01,080 --> 00:32:04,040
Speaker 1: around it, which either becomes an erotic charge like oh

624
00:32:04,160 --> 00:32:06,520
Speaker 1: it's naughty. That's one of the blueprints as well, and

625
00:32:06,640 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 1: like that naughty, let's not talk about it, and that

626
00:32:08,800 --> 00:32:11,840
Speaker 1: turns me on. Hey, Ji, I just wanted to ask you,

627
00:32:11,840 --> 00:32:16,320
Speaker 1: you know, what the benefit of do going to you know,

628
00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:20,680
Speaker 1: as uh, sexology sexologists Early on in the relationship, when

629
00:32:20,760 --> 00:32:23,200
Speaker 1: you're with somebody and you guys both think you may

630
00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:25,040
Speaker 1: have everything kind of going on the right way, and

631
00:32:25,520 --> 00:32:28,960
Speaker 1: what's the advantage of that. So the beginning of a relationship,

632
00:32:29,040 --> 00:32:33,040
Speaker 1: everything is kind of hot sexually, biochemically, you know, you're like, oh,

633
00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:36,160
Speaker 1: new hormones, new energy. And then what happens is we

634
00:32:36,200 --> 00:32:39,200
Speaker 1: go into the default of how we're wired erotically, and

635
00:32:39,240 --> 00:32:43,720
Speaker 1: so after like six months eighteen months, biochemistry changes, the

636
00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:47,520
Speaker 1: limerince wears off, and now we're like, maybe this person

637
00:32:47,720 --> 00:32:50,520
Speaker 1: isn't right for me. But what we do when we

638
00:32:50,560 --> 00:32:54,280
Speaker 1: have preventative, which is we really love this person, And

639
00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:55,920
Speaker 1: I want to bust a myth here, which is about

640
00:32:55,960 --> 00:33:00,000
Speaker 1: sexual compatibility. We think when we go talk to somebody

641
00:33:00,000 --> 00:33:03,360
Speaker 1: about our sexuality, or we like it isn't super hot

642
00:33:03,360 --> 00:33:05,719
Speaker 1: in the bed, or we're not having the orgasms that

643
00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:08,840
Speaker 1: we might think we should be having, we say, oh,

644
00:33:08,880 --> 00:33:12,760
Speaker 1: I'm incompatible with that person. But it's not incompatibility. If

645
00:33:12,800 --> 00:33:15,840
Speaker 1: you love someone, you're gonna learn their language. So think

646
00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:18,520
Speaker 1: about it more as a language, and so wouldn't it

647
00:33:18,520 --> 00:33:22,200
Speaker 1: be better at the beginning of the relationship, Oh my gosh,

648
00:33:22,200 --> 00:33:25,600
Speaker 1: you speak Spanish and I speak French. Let me learn

649
00:33:25,680 --> 00:33:28,320
Speaker 1: French and let me learn Spanish. Now we know each

650
00:33:28,320 --> 00:33:30,680
Speaker 1: other's languages. As we go into the relationship, we can

651
00:33:30,760 --> 00:33:33,920
Speaker 1: keep it much hotter. Or if things change. So you

652
00:33:33,960 --> 00:33:36,200
Speaker 1: have a baby, I hear one of you has a

653
00:33:36,240 --> 00:33:41,040
Speaker 1: baby on the way? Um or is your you know

654
00:33:41,120 --> 00:33:45,400
Speaker 1: your partner gets pregnant. Blueprints can change, sexuality can change.

655
00:33:45,600 --> 00:33:48,440
Speaker 1: And now you have a language to go. Oh, my

656
00:33:48,520 --> 00:33:51,840
Speaker 1: partner just shifted to energetic. Now I know how to

657
00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:55,240
Speaker 1: how to speak Chinese versus I have no idea what's

658
00:33:55,240 --> 00:33:57,160
Speaker 1: going on. I don't know how to touch my partner anymore.

659
00:33:57,200 --> 00:34:00,479
Speaker 1: I don't understand why things have changed. And we're at

660
00:34:00,480 --> 00:34:02,360
Speaker 1: a loss. And before you know what, you're in a

661
00:34:02,400 --> 00:34:05,480
Speaker 1: sexist situation or you're just dissatisfied and not talking about

662
00:34:05,520 --> 00:34:09,160
Speaker 1: it and you're going through the motions. So what is

663
00:34:10,280 --> 00:34:14,319
Speaker 1: what is one thing that the most common problem that

664
00:34:14,360 --> 00:34:18,399
Speaker 1: you you see in couples when they contact you, they

665
00:34:18,400 --> 00:34:21,160
Speaker 1: aren't having sex, or the sex isn't enjoyable or is

666
00:34:21,200 --> 00:34:27,000
Speaker 1: it um a partner is giving sex or acts of

667
00:34:27,040 --> 00:34:29,400
Speaker 1: sex how they want to receive them, and it's not

668
00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:32,799
Speaker 1: how their partner receives them or prefers like, what are

669
00:34:32,840 --> 00:34:36,680
Speaker 1: some common problems that maybe um our listeners are facing,

670
00:34:36,719 --> 00:34:39,600
Speaker 1: and maybe we're facing that we don't know. We actually

671
00:34:39,600 --> 00:34:42,319
Speaker 1: have an epidemic on our hands of sexist relationships. You'd

672
00:34:42,320 --> 00:34:45,440
Speaker 1: be really surprised. Last I heard, statistically, I think it

673
00:34:45,520 --> 00:34:49,719
Speaker 1: was one in seven long term relationships were sexless, one

674
00:34:49,760 --> 00:34:53,640
Speaker 1: of three in the US, And so this is a

675
00:34:53,840 --> 00:34:56,759
Speaker 1: that's a lot of sexist relationships. And then we have

676
00:34:56,840 --> 00:34:59,600
Speaker 1: the quality of sex, so we have people who aren't

677
00:34:59,600 --> 00:35:02,359
Speaker 1: having se ux and then we have the I'm just

678
00:35:02,400 --> 00:35:05,520
Speaker 1: not enjoying myself. I'm not saying anything. I wish my

679
00:35:05,560 --> 00:35:08,080
Speaker 1: partner would read my mind. I hear this a lot

680
00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:12,320
Speaker 1: from uh. We can say the feminine energy people or

681
00:35:12,400 --> 00:35:15,719
Speaker 1: people who are identify as women who say, you know,

682
00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:18,799
Speaker 1: I just wish my partner would know what to do

683
00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:21,920
Speaker 1: and read my mind and be able to just voila

684
00:35:22,120 --> 00:35:26,400
Speaker 1: magically give me orgasms. And that's not how it works.

685
00:35:26,440 --> 00:35:29,160
Speaker 1: Part of it's a communication challenge. And I had this

686
00:35:29,200 --> 00:35:31,560
Speaker 1: in my own relationship. You know here I was I

687
00:35:31,640 --> 00:35:33,960
Speaker 1: was a sex therapy sex I'm not a sex service.

688
00:35:34,160 --> 00:35:38,120
Speaker 1: I was a sexologist who when I knew all the

689
00:35:38,160 --> 00:35:41,480
Speaker 1: sex techniques. I knew everything. I've written the book on

690
00:35:41,640 --> 00:35:44,440
Speaker 1: oral I've written the book on erotic massage, I've written

691
00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:47,319
Speaker 1: the book on sex positions. I couldn't get my own

692
00:35:47,320 --> 00:35:50,000
Speaker 1: partner to have sex with me, and so you can,

693
00:35:50,040 --> 00:35:52,200
Speaker 1: guys can imagine I'm already like fifteen years into my

694
00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:54,239
Speaker 1: career and my own like we're rolling over on the

695
00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:57,000
Speaker 1: opposite side of the bed, and I'm crying myself to

696
00:35:57,040 --> 00:35:59,319
Speaker 1: sleep at night because I'm incongruent with what I'm doing

697
00:35:59,360 --> 00:36:01,920
Speaker 1: for a living. I had to figure out what this was,

698
00:36:02,000 --> 00:36:05,600
Speaker 1: and it wasn't about another sex technique. It wasn't about me.

699
00:36:05,680 --> 00:36:07,880
Speaker 1: You know, strip teasing on the floor. That wasn't my

700
00:36:07,960 --> 00:36:11,640
Speaker 1: partner's blueprint. Now, the sexuals, you guys might right of

701
00:36:11,760 --> 00:36:14,040
Speaker 1: luck the strip tease of the floor, but my partner

702
00:36:14,120 --> 00:36:16,480
Speaker 1: is not as sexual. So I had to refigure out

703
00:36:16,560 --> 00:36:18,080
Speaker 1: all of this. And that's where a part of this

704
00:36:18,120 --> 00:36:20,719
Speaker 1: came from, was my own pain in my own relationship.

705
00:36:20,760 --> 00:36:23,680
Speaker 1: I'm happy to say we have a amazing, epic sex

706
00:36:23,719 --> 00:36:26,759
Speaker 1: life now, but that time period after me having a

707
00:36:26,800 --> 00:36:30,480
Speaker 1: baby and me trying to figure out who he was erotically,

708
00:36:30,800 --> 00:36:33,120
Speaker 1: and it wasn't the stereotype of what we think men are.

709
00:36:33,239 --> 00:36:35,400
Speaker 1: We think men are all sexual and this is how

710
00:36:35,440 --> 00:36:38,239
Speaker 1: they should behave I'm naked, I'm on the bed, he

711
00:36:38,280 --> 00:36:40,400
Speaker 1: should be ready to go. But that's not the truth.

712
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:44,600
Speaker 1: As we've learned through seventy thousand people now taking this quiz, uh,

713
00:36:44,800 --> 00:36:48,200
Speaker 1: we see that there are men who have many different blueprints,

714
00:36:48,239 --> 00:36:51,400
Speaker 1: not just a sexual blueprint. Is the beginning of the blueprint.

715
00:36:52,000 --> 00:36:54,560
Speaker 1: No matter what the blueprint is, is it communication? Is

716
00:36:54,600 --> 00:36:57,600
Speaker 1: that how you would start the blueprint out? So we

717
00:36:57,640 --> 00:37:01,040
Speaker 1: start with taking the quiz and then figuring out from

718
00:37:01,120 --> 00:37:04,800
Speaker 1: there what is it? Just mentally that you would start

719
00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:06,480
Speaker 1: to type in and the quiz will give you different

720
00:37:06,480 --> 00:37:10,560
Speaker 1: percentages in that map. Then we actually have physical games.

721
00:37:10,600 --> 00:37:11,960
Speaker 1: So I don't have many of you been to the

722
00:37:12,000 --> 00:37:14,120
Speaker 1: eye doctor. When you do, like here's a and here's

723
00:37:14,120 --> 00:37:16,719
Speaker 1: be which one can you see clear? It's a similar

724
00:37:16,760 --> 00:37:19,320
Speaker 1: thing where we start to play games with the bodies.

725
00:37:19,400 --> 00:37:21,920
Speaker 1: To me, it's about what how the body responds. Somebody

726
00:37:21,960 --> 00:37:23,560
Speaker 1: may say, I'm not kinky. This is the one that

727
00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:26,719
Speaker 1: habits the most frequently. I'm not the kinky blueprint. Which

728
00:37:26,760 --> 00:37:30,040
Speaker 1: are people who are turned on by taboo, But then

729
00:37:30,080 --> 00:37:33,520
Speaker 1: we get them touching and all of a sudden, their

730
00:37:33,560 --> 00:37:36,760
Speaker 1: body responds like, oh my god, I love that rope

731
00:37:36,880 --> 00:37:40,760
Speaker 1: or oh my like you know, I love dominated and

732
00:37:41,200 --> 00:37:45,840
Speaker 1: that doesn't lie. So for we mentioned this already before,

733
00:37:45,880 --> 00:37:48,680
Speaker 1: but for people listening, they can take this quiz and

734
00:37:48,719 --> 00:37:53,200
Speaker 1: find out your erotic blueprint at erotic breakthrough dot com. Um.

735
00:37:53,239 --> 00:37:55,719
Speaker 1: But say somebody hasn't taken the quiz, or somebody has

736
00:37:55,760 --> 00:37:59,640
Speaker 1: taken the quiz. What are the different erotic blueprints and

737
00:37:59,680 --> 00:38:03,920
Speaker 1: what are characteristics of those blueprints? Great questions. So there's

738
00:38:04,080 --> 00:38:08,120
Speaker 1: five erotic blueprints. The first one is energetic. It's someone

739
00:38:08,120 --> 00:38:14,480
Speaker 1: who's turned on by anticipation, space, tease, and longing. They

740
00:38:14,600 --> 00:38:17,840
Speaker 1: love to yearn there's superpowers that they can have orgasms

741
00:38:17,840 --> 00:38:21,000
Speaker 1: without even being touched, so they can go into high

742
00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:24,319
Speaker 1: pleasure without actually having physical touch. This is a conundrum

743
00:38:24,360 --> 00:38:27,680
Speaker 1: for some of the other blueprints, and I find that

744
00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:30,160
Speaker 1: one really interested because there are like learning about this.

745
00:38:30,200 --> 00:38:32,640
Speaker 1: There are people that they're most turned on when their

746
00:38:32,640 --> 00:38:35,799
Speaker 1: partner is six ft away or across the room, like

747
00:38:35,960 --> 00:38:42,200
Speaker 1: another city, the same thing we're unavailable. That could be

748
00:38:42,239 --> 00:38:46,319
Speaker 1: a shadow party. So that's an energetic. Each blueprint has

749
00:38:46,320 --> 00:38:49,480
Speaker 1: a superpower, and each blueprint has a shadow. The shadow

750
00:38:49,520 --> 00:38:51,600
Speaker 1: side of the energetic is they're so sensitive that they

751
00:38:51,640 --> 00:38:53,839
Speaker 1: may short circuit, so if you approach them too much,

752
00:38:53,880 --> 00:38:55,520
Speaker 1: too quickly, too fast. I don't know if any of

753
00:38:55,520 --> 00:38:57,840
Speaker 1: you had this experience where you're about to kiss somebody

754
00:38:58,160 --> 00:39:00,440
Speaker 1: and it's so hot and like your lips are just

755
00:39:00,680 --> 00:39:03,719
Speaker 1: like they're you're about you're about to do it, and

756
00:39:03,760 --> 00:39:06,840
Speaker 1: then there's all this excitement and then the moment the

757
00:39:06,880 --> 00:39:09,600
Speaker 1: kiss happens, it kind of fades. That could be that

758
00:39:09,640 --> 00:39:12,120
Speaker 1: you're an energetic or that it was just too much

759
00:39:12,320 --> 00:39:15,480
Speaker 1: and more time and that yearning and longing and tease

760
00:39:15,680 --> 00:39:19,000
Speaker 1: and edge play would be even more powerful. So that's

761
00:39:19,000 --> 00:39:21,160
Speaker 1: the first one, and the second one is the sensual,

762
00:39:21,800 --> 00:39:24,400
Speaker 1: and the sensual is turned on by all of their

763
00:39:24,440 --> 00:39:28,800
Speaker 1: senses being ignited, so this is taste, smell, touch. Superpower

764
00:39:28,880 --> 00:39:31,000
Speaker 1: is that they can have non genital orgasms, so this

765
00:39:31,080 --> 00:39:34,719
Speaker 1: could be like sucking on someone's big toe or you know,

766
00:39:35,120 --> 00:39:37,040
Speaker 1: bring down on the back of their knees something like that.

767
00:39:38,600 --> 00:39:43,680
Speaker 1: Clearly took a shower before that sounds like sensual shadow

768
00:39:43,719 --> 00:39:49,000
Speaker 1: who just said that. He's also the one that perked

769
00:39:49,080 --> 00:39:50,480
Speaker 1: up when you said there was a book on oral

770
00:39:50,560 --> 00:39:54,279
Speaker 1: so he's he's a roller coaster over here. I am

771
00:39:54,320 --> 00:39:58,440
Speaker 1: only a microphone, so that's sensual. So we have energetic,

772
00:39:58,480 --> 00:40:01,760
Speaker 1: we have sensual, and then the sexual is someone who's

773
00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:03,920
Speaker 1: turned on by what we think of in our culture

774
00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:09,839
Speaker 1: as sex is penetration, erection, intercourse, that is, and there's

775
00:40:09,920 --> 00:40:12,480
Speaker 1: zero to sixty like I can get turned on usually

776
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:17,480
Speaker 1: high drive, very very quickly. And sex is fun. It's simple.

777
00:40:17,680 --> 00:40:20,320
Speaker 1: So superpower is that it's just it's simple, it's easy.

778
00:40:20,360 --> 00:40:23,240
Speaker 1: It's like, how can you go wrong? And sex helps

779
00:40:23,320 --> 00:40:26,319
Speaker 1: the sexual relax, whereas like a sensual they need to

780
00:40:26,360 --> 00:40:29,560
Speaker 1: relax first in order to have sex. So a sexual

781
00:40:29,640 --> 00:40:34,440
Speaker 1: is maybe more like a primal primal feeling. Yes, sex

782
00:40:34,520 --> 00:40:37,200
Speaker 1: is a need, it's a desire, it's a drive. It's

783
00:40:37,200 --> 00:40:39,200
Speaker 1: like everything is right in the world if I am

784
00:40:39,239 --> 00:40:43,440
Speaker 1: having sex, successful sex. I think that's Gavin, isn't it?

785
00:40:43,560 --> 00:40:47,359
Speaker 1: Dmitries sexual That's what I can thank you. I came

786
00:40:47,440 --> 00:40:49,040
Speaker 1: up with that in the quiz, But I don't know

787
00:40:49,080 --> 00:40:52,080
Speaker 1: that that's I don't know that that says, you know,

788
00:40:52,239 --> 00:40:54,399
Speaker 1: nails me to a t there. I mean, I don't

789
00:40:54,440 --> 00:40:56,279
Speaker 1: feel primal. I don't feel like I need to have

790
00:40:56,320 --> 00:40:58,400
Speaker 1: sex like it sounds at least the way it was

791
00:40:58,400 --> 00:41:02,520
Speaker 1: described there, it sounds a very um what's the word

792
00:41:02,520 --> 00:41:06,640
Speaker 1: I'm looking for, very like transactional like yeah, and I

793
00:41:06,640 --> 00:41:08,560
Speaker 1: don't know, I don't think that's me. I'm sure you

794
00:41:08,640 --> 00:41:11,400
Speaker 1: probably possess or g I you could answer this, but

795
00:41:11,480 --> 00:41:13,880
Speaker 1: like Dmitri, so he's saying he's sexual, but that doesn't

796
00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:16,279
Speaker 1: sound like him. He would possess elements of all these

797
00:41:16,320 --> 00:41:20,800
Speaker 1: other blueprints, wouldn't he don't be embarrassed by your blueprint, Dmitri.

798
00:41:22,400 --> 00:41:25,080
Speaker 1: I'm not embarrassed, um actually, But the truth is so

799
00:41:25,440 --> 00:41:27,000
Speaker 1: with the way he's broke down, I do. I don't

800
00:41:27,040 --> 00:41:29,680
Speaker 1: remember what they said, but I know it said, um,

801
00:41:29,840 --> 00:41:32,120
Speaker 1: sexual was a certain percentage, and then you're at something

802
00:41:32,120 --> 00:41:36,400
Speaker 1: else a certain percentage. So maybe that's what you possess

803
00:41:36,600 --> 00:41:41,319
Speaker 1: other blueprints. Yeah, so that's somebody who's like, like, let's

804
00:41:41,360 --> 00:41:44,320
Speaker 1: say they're eighty percent sexual. They're gonna like that A

805
00:41:44,360 --> 00:41:48,440
Speaker 1: is a need, desire, want if it's high on your percentages.

806
00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:52,480
Speaker 1: Whereas like my my mapping used to be that I

807
00:41:52,560 --> 00:41:58,000
Speaker 1: was thirty three sexual and then I was thirty energetic,

808
00:41:58,719 --> 00:42:01,759
Speaker 1: So I had those two you as my high, my

809
00:42:01,760 --> 00:42:05,759
Speaker 1: my bottom. My zero was kinky now my partner, that's

810
00:42:05,800 --> 00:42:08,080
Speaker 1: the next blueprint on here. Kinky is turned on by

811
00:42:08,080 --> 00:42:10,279
Speaker 1: that taboo, someone who's turned on my taboo, And that

812
00:42:10,280 --> 00:42:14,480
Speaker 1: can be psychological kinky with dominance and submission play, or

813
00:42:14,520 --> 00:42:17,759
Speaker 1: it can be more sensation based, like spanking or the

814
00:42:17,800 --> 00:42:20,719
Speaker 1: feeling of constriction on your body, something like that. My

815
00:42:20,840 --> 00:42:25,920
Speaker 1: partner's highest is kinky and my zero was kinky. My

816
00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:29,279
Speaker 1: highest was sexual, his zero was sexual. So we were

817
00:42:29,320 --> 00:42:32,640
Speaker 1: complete opposites, which is why I'm stripped teasing for him,

818
00:42:32,680 --> 00:42:34,640
Speaker 1: and he's going, why are you doing that? That does

819
00:42:34,680 --> 00:42:37,640
Speaker 1: not you know, not doing it for me? Um, that

820
00:42:37,640 --> 00:42:40,240
Speaker 1: makes sense because I just pulled up my results. Sexual

821
00:42:40,360 --> 00:42:42,360
Speaker 1: was it was the most dominant one, but it was

822
00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:49,759
Speaker 1: only and then shape shift seventeen, kinky seventeen, and energetic eight.

823
00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:53,120
Speaker 1: Is it safe to say if if you are polar

824
00:42:53,160 --> 00:42:56,080
Speaker 1: opposite with your significant other? Is that are you in

825
00:42:56,080 --> 00:43:00,799
Speaker 1: the most need of help? Is that? Yeah? I guess

826
00:43:00,840 --> 00:43:03,800
Speaker 1: i'd say what what I'd say? You are not help necessarily,

827
00:43:03,800 --> 00:43:07,000
Speaker 1: But education, it's like learning, it's learning a language and

828
00:43:07,000 --> 00:43:10,200
Speaker 1: it's just getting an education around Well, how do I

829
00:43:10,239 --> 00:43:13,359
Speaker 1: speak like? You know? Meant you being eight percent there?

830
00:43:14,160 --> 00:43:17,320
Speaker 1: Then energetic is the place where he could expand and develop.

831
00:43:17,440 --> 00:43:19,520
Speaker 1: So once you know your blueprint is about learning how

832
00:43:19,560 --> 00:43:22,640
Speaker 1: to feed it so you feel satisfied speaking it, like

833
00:43:22,680 --> 00:43:24,480
Speaker 1: what are the right words to use, Like you're not

834
00:43:24,520 --> 00:43:26,759
Speaker 1: going to go to an energetic and speak sexual that's

835
00:43:26,800 --> 00:43:29,360
Speaker 1: going to turn them off. And the body language that

836
00:43:29,440 --> 00:43:32,759
Speaker 1: you use healing the shadow aspects of the blueprint. And

837
00:43:32,800 --> 00:43:36,080
Speaker 1: then the final piece is expanding into new territory with

838
00:43:36,120 --> 00:43:39,880
Speaker 1: the blueprint. So when I went to expand, I started

839
00:43:39,880 --> 00:43:43,440
Speaker 1: expanding into kinky because that was my partner's language. To

840
00:43:43,680 --> 00:43:46,759
Speaker 1: learn that and start to find my own turn on

841
00:43:46,800 --> 00:43:48,920
Speaker 1: and that so we can find cross over where we

842
00:43:49,000 --> 00:43:52,560
Speaker 1: really love to dance. So that's four of them. So

843
00:43:52,560 --> 00:43:55,960
Speaker 1: so far we have energetic, sensual, kinky, sexual, and then

844
00:43:56,040 --> 00:43:58,400
Speaker 1: what is the fifth one? And the final one is

845
00:43:58,400 --> 00:44:00,799
Speaker 1: the shape shifter and the shapes after there's someone who's

846
00:44:00,800 --> 00:44:04,120
Speaker 1: turned on by everything. It's they they love it all,

847
00:44:04,480 --> 00:44:07,600
Speaker 1: they could go forever, um, they speak all the languages,

848
00:44:07,719 --> 00:44:12,239
Speaker 1: they're great lovers. Um. The shadow side of this this is,

849
00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:15,080
Speaker 1: by the way, Brooks is a shape shifter and the

850
00:44:15,120 --> 00:44:18,080
Speaker 1: amount of gloating he is doing right now, I'm not

851
00:44:18,120 --> 00:44:20,759
Speaker 1: doing any listeners that they can't see. It's just like

852
00:44:20,840 --> 00:44:23,400
Speaker 1: the smile on his face and the way he's just

853
00:44:23,400 --> 00:44:26,320
Speaker 1: sitting back like taking it all, and it's tough to watch.

854
00:44:26,640 --> 00:44:30,000
Speaker 1: By the way, Botinue. By the way, Brooks speaks six languages,

855
00:44:30,239 --> 00:44:32,640
Speaker 1: and he also he's made thirty million dollars in his

856
00:44:32,760 --> 00:44:35,719
Speaker 1: NHL career, but he's counting. There's a new category called

857
00:44:35,719 --> 00:44:38,040
Speaker 1: Brooks now that that has nothing to do with sex.

858
00:44:38,040 --> 00:44:41,720
Speaker 1: Though I was doing I was doing none of those things.

859
00:44:41,800 --> 00:44:44,400
Speaker 1: Ryan just got irritated as soon as you started saying

860
00:44:44,440 --> 00:44:46,759
Speaker 1: that because we had talked before, and I am a

861
00:44:46,800 --> 00:44:49,399
Speaker 1: shape shifter, I've taken the test. I am a shape

862
00:44:49,400 --> 00:44:52,759
Speaker 1: shifter and my wife is also a shape shifter. Wow.

863
00:44:52,960 --> 00:44:57,319
Speaker 1: So is it is it good to be Is it

864
00:44:57,400 --> 00:45:00,960
Speaker 1: good to be, like Ryan asked his good to be opposite?

865
00:45:01,160 --> 00:45:02,880
Speaker 1: Or is it is it tough to be opposite of

866
00:45:02,920 --> 00:45:05,880
Speaker 1: your partner? Is it good to be the same erotic

867
00:45:05,920 --> 00:45:09,200
Speaker 1: blueprint as your partner? Is that good hans to both?

868
00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:12,480
Speaker 1: So it can be like if you get two energetics

869
00:45:12,480 --> 00:45:16,600
Speaker 1: together and they both are really high energetics, it's great.

870
00:45:16,640 --> 00:45:18,239
Speaker 1: But if you get when somebody who's like me, who

871
00:45:18,280 --> 00:45:21,880
Speaker 1: was an energetic sexual, I really love the physical aspect

872
00:45:21,920 --> 00:45:24,560
Speaker 1: of sex. So if I would just get really really

873
00:45:24,560 --> 00:45:27,879
Speaker 1: frustrated if somebody didn't also have that in their blueprint map,

874
00:45:28,680 --> 00:45:31,680
Speaker 1: because I want that physical aspect now to shape. Shifters

875
00:45:31,719 --> 00:45:34,800
Speaker 1: together can be great because you've got all that variety,

876
00:45:34,840 --> 00:45:36,440
Speaker 1: But what if one of you is in this mood

877
00:45:36,480 --> 00:45:38,200
Speaker 1: one night, but you're in the other mood, you know,

878
00:45:38,239 --> 00:45:39,799
Speaker 1: like one of you is energetic one night and the

879
00:45:39,800 --> 00:45:43,360
Speaker 1: other sexual, and you might need three to four hours

880
00:45:43,400 --> 00:45:46,560
Speaker 1: to have sex or you know ten I had a

881
00:45:46,560 --> 00:45:48,920
Speaker 1: partner who was that way, and we couldn't get sex

882
00:45:49,000 --> 00:45:51,800
Speaker 1: under thirteen hours. Like every time we were having sex,

883
00:45:52,200 --> 00:45:55,040
Speaker 1: and I know there's other things to do in life,

884
00:45:55,800 --> 00:45:59,520
Speaker 1: couldn't get it under thirteen hours. We were like sixteen

885
00:45:59,520 --> 00:46:04,719
Speaker 1: to twenty hours. We were averaging of our love making experiences. Yeah,

886
00:46:04,920 --> 00:46:11,200
Speaker 1: like in a month anything, what is that? Over winter break?

887
00:46:15,719 --> 00:46:18,840
Speaker 1: We call those that's called the champion. I don't know

888
00:46:18,840 --> 00:46:22,680
Speaker 1: if I like, and it's Olympic athletes, you know, like

889
00:46:22,719 --> 00:46:25,960
Speaker 1: we're the shapeshifterre can be like an Olympic athlete and

890
00:46:26,000 --> 00:46:28,040
Speaker 1: I'm more like an astronaut where I just like to

891
00:46:28,040 --> 00:46:30,400
Speaker 1: explore all that's erotically possible, Like what are all the

892
00:46:30,440 --> 00:46:32,560
Speaker 1: different things that you can do and play with because

893
00:46:32,960 --> 00:46:35,560
Speaker 1: in sexuality we're only hitting the tip of the iceberg

894
00:46:35,560 --> 00:46:38,719
Speaker 1: with the conversation. There's so much that's possible that we

895
00:46:39,120 --> 00:46:41,520
Speaker 1: most people just don't even know. Yeah, and if you're

896
00:46:41,520 --> 00:46:45,799
Speaker 1: a majority of one of those five and like, do

897
00:46:45,800 --> 00:46:49,200
Speaker 1: you want to work on the others? I mean even

898
00:46:49,239 --> 00:46:51,560
Speaker 1: if like you know, you want to be a well

899
00:46:51,600 --> 00:46:55,520
Speaker 1: balanced person, right, so if your partners, if you don't

900
00:46:55,560 --> 00:46:57,719
Speaker 1: match your partner, but you want to maybe work on

901
00:46:57,760 --> 00:47:00,160
Speaker 1: something else or I don't know, do you do you

902
00:47:00,200 --> 00:47:03,880
Speaker 1: ever see somebody that's nearly for each of the five categories,

903
00:47:03,920 --> 00:47:07,520
Speaker 1: so they are the most well rounded. We do see

904
00:47:07,560 --> 00:47:10,120
Speaker 1: people who are well rounded, it's usually after they've been

905
00:47:10,120 --> 00:47:12,520
Speaker 1: through some of our work. Like, my goal is that

906
00:47:12,600 --> 00:47:15,680
Speaker 1: everybody sort of becomes a full spectrum human and their

907
00:47:15,680 --> 00:47:19,600
Speaker 1: sexuality so that they become shape shifters essentially. I think

908
00:47:19,640 --> 00:47:22,080
Speaker 1: it's our true essence as human beings. I just think

909
00:47:22,120 --> 00:47:26,080
Speaker 1: we get shamed out of different desires like this is okay,

910
00:47:26,120 --> 00:47:28,839
Speaker 1: that's not okay, and then that starts to shape and

911
00:47:28,960 --> 00:47:31,799
Speaker 1: form who we are erotically, and so we have this

912
00:47:31,880 --> 00:47:35,799
Speaker 1: conditioned erotic mask. When we start to take that mask off,

913
00:47:35,800 --> 00:47:39,280
Speaker 1: you start to see that people are much more varied

914
00:47:39,440 --> 00:47:42,759
Speaker 1: in their sexual desire and what they really love. They

915
00:47:42,760 --> 00:47:44,600
Speaker 1: start to learn that, oh, I didn't even know that

916
00:47:44,680 --> 00:47:47,640
Speaker 1: I liked that. They start to go, oh, I'm free

917
00:47:47,760 --> 00:47:50,640
Speaker 1: now to express that as they start to learn more

918
00:47:50,640 --> 00:47:53,080
Speaker 1: and more and more about their sexuality. I think that's

919
00:47:53,080 --> 00:47:55,160
Speaker 1: a very important point which you just touched on. There

920
00:47:55,239 --> 00:47:58,640
Speaker 1: is um Sometimes I think in a relationship it could

921
00:47:58,680 --> 00:48:01,839
Speaker 1: be difficult for a person or a couple to bring

922
00:48:01,960 --> 00:48:04,560
Speaker 1: up topics like this to talk about what they want

923
00:48:04,680 --> 00:48:09,200
Speaker 1: sexually and for people listening. Taking just from my own experience,

924
00:48:09,239 --> 00:48:13,799
Speaker 1: taking this erotic blueprint quiz just sort of open the

925
00:48:13,800 --> 00:48:15,520
Speaker 1: door a little bit from my wife and I. We

926
00:48:15,560 --> 00:48:17,600
Speaker 1: have very good communication as it is, but it opened

927
00:48:17,640 --> 00:48:19,400
Speaker 1: the door a little bit for us to just talk

928
00:48:19,480 --> 00:48:23,120
Speaker 1: about more of this. And this was a platform in

929
00:48:23,160 --> 00:48:27,040
Speaker 1: a way, um too, for me to voice what I want,

930
00:48:27,160 --> 00:48:29,239
Speaker 1: things that are important to be. And then because we

931
00:48:29,239 --> 00:48:34,719
Speaker 1: were both shapeshifters, we started discussing things different things, specific

932
00:48:34,840 --> 00:48:36,840
Speaker 1: things that turn us on, whether it's a touch or

933
00:48:36,880 --> 00:48:39,839
Speaker 1: a kiss of the ear or space or like just

934
00:48:39,920 --> 00:48:42,759
Speaker 1: gently rubbing your hand or like your fingertips down the

935
00:48:42,800 --> 00:48:46,040
Speaker 1: back or stuff like that. So, for if you're struggling

936
00:48:46,200 --> 00:48:49,040
Speaker 1: people listening, if you're struggling in your relationship, to bring

937
00:48:49,120 --> 00:48:51,319
Speaker 1: up something like this, or you want to bring up

938
00:48:51,360 --> 00:48:54,400
Speaker 1: something like this. This is this Erotic Blueprint quiz is

939
00:48:54,400 --> 00:48:57,440
Speaker 1: maybe a little bit of an icebreaker um that you

940
00:48:57,480 --> 00:49:04,919
Speaker 1: can share with your partner to start this conversation. Should yeah, um, okay,

941
00:49:04,960 --> 00:49:06,319
Speaker 1: I have one. I have a question for you then,

942
00:49:06,360 --> 00:49:11,880
Speaker 1: So moving from that, jaya um, the sex quiz um,

943
00:49:11,920 --> 00:49:15,799
Speaker 1: the Erotic Blueprint quiz? Can you give everyone listening one

944
00:49:16,320 --> 00:49:20,640
Speaker 1: one or two really important questions from the quiz um?

945
00:49:20,680 --> 00:49:22,640
Speaker 1: Maybe what the most important one is and what that

946
00:49:22,680 --> 00:49:24,799
Speaker 1: answer might tell us? Is there anything that jumps out

947
00:49:24,880 --> 00:49:28,279
Speaker 1: from this quiz? Absolutely? I love to just do an

948
00:49:28,320 --> 00:49:31,920
Speaker 1: exercise with my partner. I'm most turned on when and

949
00:49:31,960 --> 00:49:35,759
Speaker 1: go back and forth with one another. So um, one

950
00:49:35,760 --> 00:49:38,000
Speaker 1: of the examples would be something like, I'm most turned

951
00:49:38,040 --> 00:49:42,200
Speaker 1: on when I'm doing something I consider edgy, naughty or taboo.

952
00:49:43,239 --> 00:49:46,960
Speaker 1: Or I'm most turned on when I'm immersed in a

953
00:49:46,960 --> 00:49:53,759
Speaker 1: beautiful environment with amazing fragrances, music and sensual artistry. So

954
00:49:53,920 --> 00:49:56,640
Speaker 1: how would you answer this, you guys, which which one

955
00:49:56,640 --> 00:49:58,640
Speaker 1: of you are most turned on with edgy, naughty and

956
00:49:58,680 --> 00:50:03,920
Speaker 1: taboo or beautiful environment with smells and music. And I

957
00:50:03,960 --> 00:50:05,839
Speaker 1: have to admit I fell asleep when you were talking

958
00:50:05,880 --> 00:50:08,480
Speaker 1: about the beautiful environment in the music in the artistra

959
00:50:08,680 --> 00:50:12,439
Speaker 1: So what would you what would be your form deal

960
00:50:13,280 --> 00:50:19,759
Speaker 1: which is more naughty taboo? I guess yeah, as I'm

961
00:50:19,800 --> 00:50:23,840
Speaker 1: watching you, I notice too, like when I'm talking about

962
00:50:23,880 --> 00:50:26,200
Speaker 1: those things, you light up a little bit. So I

963
00:50:26,320 --> 00:50:28,480
Speaker 1: just when I watched body language a lot to just

964
00:50:28,480 --> 00:50:31,839
Speaker 1: see when people light up or so I would agree

965
00:50:31,880 --> 00:50:33,520
Speaker 1: with you on that one. The truth is I lit

966
00:50:33,560 --> 00:50:35,520
Speaker 1: up because I was looking at Brooks and it's it's

967
00:50:35,560 --> 00:50:37,400
Speaker 1: all of us, we're victims of it. But yeah, I

968
00:50:37,440 --> 00:50:42,799
Speaker 1: get it. Um, to answer your question, I like, I

969
00:50:42,920 --> 00:50:48,000
Speaker 1: really like an environment, So I like, UM like some

970
00:50:48,120 --> 00:50:52,719
Speaker 1: dim lighting. I like like candles on music. Um, I

971
00:50:52,760 --> 00:50:56,160
Speaker 1: like that. But then also something specifically that I that

972
00:50:56,320 --> 00:50:59,960
Speaker 1: really gets me um in the mood would be when

973
00:51:00,040 --> 00:51:03,560
Speaker 1: my wife wears lingerie. So when she comes, it's just

974
00:51:03,600 --> 00:51:06,480
Speaker 1: there's an element of risque, there's an element of desire

975
00:51:06,560 --> 00:51:09,440
Speaker 1: and lust and also a little space there. So she

976
00:51:09,480 --> 00:51:12,759
Speaker 1: wears lingerie, but she's just like five or six ft away,

977
00:51:12,840 --> 00:51:14,879
Speaker 1: or maybe she just walks around the bed a little

978
00:51:14,920 --> 00:51:17,960
Speaker 1: bit or walks back or just creates a little bit

979
00:51:17,960 --> 00:51:21,960
Speaker 1: of space there. Um is something that's very erotic for myself.

980
00:51:24,880 --> 00:51:28,240
Speaker 1: Do you need a minute? Do you need a minute?

981
00:51:28,280 --> 00:51:30,840
Speaker 1: I may, I got I got nervous because Brooks was like,

982
00:51:30,840 --> 00:51:32,759
Speaker 1: I like a room. It smells good, it's dimly lit,

983
00:51:32,760 --> 00:51:34,719
Speaker 1: and he started describing the room we're in right now,

984
00:51:35,239 --> 00:51:36,880
Speaker 1: and it kind of made me a little bit. You

985
00:51:36,920 --> 00:51:39,440
Speaker 1: guys are pretty, but you're not as pretty as my wife.

986
00:51:41,880 --> 00:51:45,160
Speaker 1: And with the lingerie, that can be more sensual, or

987
00:51:45,200 --> 00:51:47,320
Speaker 1: it could be sexual. You know, if it's the visual

988
00:51:47,440 --> 00:51:49,560
Speaker 1: part of it, it's like seeing the body, it's like

989
00:51:49,560 --> 00:51:53,120
Speaker 1: seeing the roundness of a butt or you know, seeing breasts,

990
00:51:53,120 --> 00:51:56,160
Speaker 1: that that that piece is more of the sexual blueprint.

991
00:51:56,239 --> 00:51:59,000
Speaker 1: But then if it's like I like the feeling of

992
00:51:59,040 --> 00:52:01,600
Speaker 1: the lease and I like the colors, then that can

993
00:52:01,640 --> 00:52:05,120
Speaker 1: be more sensual in the environment we actually she was

994
00:52:05,160 --> 00:52:09,200
Speaker 1: cleaning out her lingerie or two days ago, um, and

995
00:52:09,719 --> 00:52:11,560
Speaker 1: I told her to throw out everything that wasn't black

996
00:52:11,640 --> 00:52:13,560
Speaker 1: or red, so anything that I had to pink on

997
00:52:13,640 --> 00:52:15,520
Speaker 1: it or anything. I was like, I don't, I don't,

998
00:52:15,640 --> 00:52:17,680
Speaker 1: and I think maybe in the past I might like that,

999
00:52:17,719 --> 00:52:21,880
Speaker 1: but now anything black or red. To me, that's very sexy.

1000
00:52:22,040 --> 00:52:24,479
Speaker 1: And I think the other thing about lingerie is that

1001
00:52:24,719 --> 00:52:28,520
Speaker 1: to me, it emotes a feeling that she's excited and

1002
00:52:28,600 --> 00:52:31,759
Speaker 1: she's erotic. So when I when she puts it on,

1003
00:52:31,800 --> 00:52:33,279
Speaker 1: I mean I don't ask her to put on, she

1004
00:52:33,400 --> 00:52:37,359
Speaker 1: puts it on. I'm like, whoa, she's She's really in

1005
00:52:37,400 --> 00:52:40,600
Speaker 1: the mood and really erotic right now. And that, um,

1006
00:52:40,680 --> 00:52:44,240
Speaker 1: that stimulation mentally is a big part of the experience

1007
00:52:44,239 --> 00:52:46,480
Speaker 1: as well. When you say throw them away, you mean

1008
00:52:46,560 --> 00:52:51,880
Speaker 1: like donate them. Uh? Yeah, donated. We always, Dmitri, We

1009
00:52:51,960 --> 00:52:55,279
Speaker 1: always donate everything that we give away that we have

1010
00:52:55,360 --> 00:53:01,760
Speaker 1: no use for. I gave it to Rick. He's wearing

1011
00:53:01,800 --> 00:53:05,520
Speaker 1: it right now. Uh. You two gentlemen, what about you?

1012
00:53:05,560 --> 00:53:10,719
Speaker 1: What is something specifically? UM? I think mine, something like

1013
00:53:10,760 --> 00:53:13,759
Speaker 1: a turn on, is more probably more mental, and it's

1014
00:53:13,800 --> 00:53:17,240
Speaker 1: more of like I find situations to be to be exciting.

1015
00:53:17,320 --> 00:53:20,000
Speaker 1: So if you're out somewhere, maybe you're you know, you're

1016
00:53:20,360 --> 00:53:22,040
Speaker 1: I don't know, if you're out at a bar or

1017
00:53:22,040 --> 00:53:23,800
Speaker 1: a restaurant or with you know, and all of a

1018
00:53:23,840 --> 00:53:26,279
Speaker 1: sudden you realize you kind of connect with your partner

1019
00:53:26,320 --> 00:53:28,920
Speaker 1: and realize that you're both kind of thinking something and

1020
00:53:28,960 --> 00:53:31,080
Speaker 1: no one else knows that you're thinking this, and you

1021
00:53:31,120 --> 00:53:32,959
Speaker 1: have to go like, say, you're at a dinner party

1022
00:53:33,040 --> 00:53:36,200
Speaker 1: right and um, and you and you're and your wife

1023
00:53:36,560 --> 00:53:38,960
Speaker 1: are both aware that you're you're attracted to each other

1024
00:53:39,080 --> 00:53:41,000
Speaker 1: right now, but no one else knows. To me, that's

1025
00:53:41,040 --> 00:53:43,600
Speaker 1: exciting and you think, Okay, well we're gonna go through this.

1026
00:53:44,360 --> 00:53:48,200
Speaker 1: Are you going into the bathroom by the time you

1027
00:53:48,239 --> 00:53:50,520
Speaker 1: get home? When you go home, then it's then it's on.

1028
00:53:50,840 --> 00:53:53,960
Speaker 1: And so it's just that that acknowledgement of knowing and

1029
00:53:54,160 --> 00:53:56,480
Speaker 1: you're both kind of turned on, but no one else

1030
00:53:56,520 --> 00:53:59,000
Speaker 1: knows it. And to me, that's exciting. When you're can

1031
00:53:59,040 --> 00:54:04,080
Speaker 1: I jump in on this first? Because to each other,

1032
00:54:04,160 --> 00:54:06,680
Speaker 1: are you touching each other? I have something? I have

1033
00:54:06,800 --> 00:54:09,279
Speaker 1: something on this topic. So what you were just saying,

1034
00:54:09,280 --> 00:54:10,920
Speaker 1: I know what you're talking about. And here's a story

1035
00:54:10,960 --> 00:54:12,560
Speaker 1: from a teammate. I'm not going to say his name,

1036
00:54:12,600 --> 00:54:15,160
Speaker 1: but a teammate of mine. Brooks just winked when he

1037
00:54:15,200 --> 00:54:20,880
Speaker 1: said teammates continue, He bought and g I I'm interested

1038
00:54:20,960 --> 00:54:24,040
Speaker 1: to see what you think of this. He bought his

1039
00:54:24,120 --> 00:54:29,799
Speaker 1: wife vibrating underwear that he had a remote too. And

1040
00:54:29,840 --> 00:54:33,560
Speaker 1: so when they would go out and sometimes two team parties,

1041
00:54:33,600 --> 00:54:36,520
Speaker 1: a Christmas party, he would they'd be across the room

1042
00:54:36,560 --> 00:54:38,840
Speaker 1: from each other and he'd hit this button on the

1043
00:54:38,880 --> 00:54:42,160
Speaker 1: remote and her her underwear would vibrate and you could

1044
00:54:42,160 --> 00:54:44,320
Speaker 1: see her move and squirm a little bit, and it

1045
00:54:45,760 --> 00:54:48,640
Speaker 1: turned him on, and he told us about this. But

1046
00:54:48,719 --> 00:54:50,719
Speaker 1: what do you think about that? Gi, I don't know.

1047
00:54:50,840 --> 00:54:53,759
Speaker 1: This is probably for everyone listening, that is not what

1048
00:54:53,840 --> 00:54:55,920
Speaker 1: I was talking about. I was just thinking maybe you

1049
00:54:55,920 --> 00:54:59,040
Speaker 1: could add that indomitri, if that's what you're into. I've

1050
00:54:59,040 --> 00:55:01,440
Speaker 1: done this many times, and I recommend it for homework,

1051
00:55:01,640 --> 00:55:04,000
Speaker 1: especially for any of you who have kinky in your

1052
00:55:04,040 --> 00:55:07,400
Speaker 1: blueprint and you love the taboo and loved you know,

1053
00:55:07,480 --> 00:55:11,200
Speaker 1: the movie theaters um. And there are lots of different

1054
00:55:11,239 --> 00:55:13,480
Speaker 1: kinds of vibrating panties out there and all kinds of

1055
00:55:13,480 --> 00:55:16,200
Speaker 1: fun things. There's even apps that you can control from

1056
00:55:16,200 --> 00:55:19,000
Speaker 1: far away, so you don't even have to be there, Like,

1057
00:55:19,040 --> 00:55:20,960
Speaker 1: there's so many fun things that you can play with,

1058
00:55:21,080 --> 00:55:24,560
Speaker 1: and then you can create context around it of you know,

1059
00:55:24,760 --> 00:55:27,799
Speaker 1: your tonight. I own you, you know, in a in

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00:55:27,840 --> 00:55:30,759
Speaker 1: a good way own you because it's consent, but I

1061
00:55:30,800 --> 00:55:33,920
Speaker 1: own you your mind and therefore I get to control

1062
00:55:34,000 --> 00:55:36,879
Speaker 1: your pleasure. You can't have an orgasm until I say so.

1063
00:55:37,120 --> 00:55:39,040
Speaker 1: I'm going to, you know, turn this on and off,

1064
00:55:39,080 --> 00:55:41,719
Speaker 1: like these kinds of fun things where you can go. Yeah,

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00:55:41,840 --> 00:55:45,160
Speaker 1: is anybody else getting like insanely turned on your right now?

1066
00:55:45,520 --> 00:55:48,200
Speaker 1: I think we're all sitting down. They want complain about

1067
00:55:48,200 --> 00:55:50,040
Speaker 1: They won't complain about you being on your phone too much.

1068
00:55:52,960 --> 00:55:57,760
Speaker 1: That was That was amazing. That was amazing by the way, Gavin,

1069
00:55:58,719 --> 00:56:00,880
Speaker 1: he said he's the one that it's into the sucking

1070
00:56:00,880 --> 00:56:03,279
Speaker 1: of the big toes. So just so we cover that

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00:56:04,840 --> 00:56:09,640
Speaker 1: I do that that my wife really enjoys it when

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00:56:09,640 --> 00:56:15,480
Speaker 1: I suck on her toes. Yeah, true story. Interesting what

1073
00:56:15,960 --> 00:56:21,480
Speaker 1: I'm giving signals to Danielle. But please call People magazine. Hey,

1074
00:56:21,520 --> 00:56:26,080
Speaker 1: we play around. Why do you like? Do you like

1075
00:56:26,120 --> 00:56:29,160
Speaker 1: your toes? I don't know. I would never. My toes

1076
00:56:29,200 --> 00:56:32,920
Speaker 1: are in skates and workout shoes and I can shower

1077
00:56:33,040 --> 00:56:35,560
Speaker 1: and soap them off, but I would never. Hey, there

1078
00:56:35,560 --> 00:56:37,560
Speaker 1: are some people who are into that too. Let's see

1079
00:56:37,560 --> 00:56:40,880
Speaker 1: you're not wearing shoes right now? Oh yeah, oh yeah, definitely.

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00:56:41,920 --> 00:56:48,040
Speaker 1: That one looks like it has a wig on. So

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00:56:48,200 --> 00:56:51,960
Speaker 1: that's a that's one anyway back on track here. So

1082
00:56:52,000 --> 00:56:54,439
Speaker 1: another great question that I like to ask is when

1083
00:56:54,440 --> 00:56:57,359
Speaker 1: it comes to sexual interaction, I mostly crave And if

1084
00:56:57,360 --> 00:56:58,839
Speaker 1: any of you go to take the quiz, you're gonna

1085
00:56:58,920 --> 00:57:02,239
Speaker 1: see these questions. So you can you can work with

1086
00:57:02,280 --> 00:57:05,120
Speaker 1: your partner and just say, tell me something that you

1087
00:57:05,280 --> 00:57:08,240
Speaker 1: crave when it comes to sex, and just go back

1088
00:57:08,280 --> 00:57:10,719
Speaker 1: and forth. This is a great exercise to start to

1089
00:57:10,719 --> 00:57:14,360
Speaker 1: open up the conversation. So here's another one. When it

1090
00:57:14,480 --> 00:57:19,240
Speaker 1: comes to sexual interaction, I mostly crave endless, timeless, erotic

1091
00:57:19,280 --> 00:57:23,120
Speaker 1: sessions where I am fed in always, when my hunger

1092
00:57:23,240 --> 00:57:27,400
Speaker 1: is seen and as a superpower instead of as overwhelming

1093
00:57:27,440 --> 00:57:33,520
Speaker 1: and too much. Or I crave scratching, slapping, squeezing, or

1094
00:57:33,560 --> 00:57:36,520
Speaker 1: holding or being held down. You can guess which blueprint

1095
00:57:36,560 --> 00:57:41,320
Speaker 1: that is. Or I crave mostly sexual penetration ending in

1096
00:57:41,360 --> 00:57:48,000
Speaker 1: a climax more intercourse overall. Or I crave amazing touch, massage,

1097
00:57:48,360 --> 00:57:52,280
Speaker 1: pleasure and my whole body. Or I crave my partner's

1098
00:57:52,360 --> 00:57:55,760
Speaker 1: full presence in this moment, my partner being fully present

1099
00:57:55,840 --> 00:57:59,960
Speaker 1: to my body, my heart, my soul, and my spirit. Wow,

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00:58:00,320 --> 00:58:03,880
Speaker 1: that's crazy, as you were just as you were talking

1101
00:58:03,880 --> 00:58:06,880
Speaker 1: about that, Um, do you recommend that couples take this

1102
00:58:06,960 --> 00:58:10,720
Speaker 1: quiz at the same time. Just a good question. I

1103
00:58:11,520 --> 00:58:15,640
Speaker 1: taking it separately really and then coming back and then

1104
00:58:15,680 --> 00:58:18,400
Speaker 1: talking about it. And and this is only if you

1105
00:58:18,520 --> 00:58:22,400
Speaker 1: really have struggled communicating about sex. You're gonna feel more comfortable.

1106
00:58:22,400 --> 00:58:25,440
Speaker 1: You're going to answer more honestly. If your partner is

1107
00:58:25,480 --> 00:58:28,000
Speaker 1: not there now, if the two of you are already comfortable,

1108
00:58:28,040 --> 00:58:30,520
Speaker 1: then yet go ahead and take it together. And then

1109
00:58:30,520 --> 00:58:33,080
Speaker 1: you're gonna get enlightened and be able to like, actually,

1110
00:58:33,080 --> 00:58:35,200
Speaker 1: stop while you're taking the quiz and go, let's talk

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00:58:35,240 --> 00:58:37,840
Speaker 1: about that one. Let's share more about that. What about

1112
00:58:37,920 --> 00:58:40,800
Speaker 1: that turns you on? That's another really great question if,

1113
00:58:41,040 --> 00:58:43,240
Speaker 1: for example, the big toe sucking. If you're turned on

1114
00:58:43,320 --> 00:58:47,840
Speaker 1: by big toe toe sucking, what about that turns you on? Yeah,

1115
00:58:48,040 --> 00:58:50,040
Speaker 1: So as you were just talking there, I was thinking,

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00:58:50,080 --> 00:58:52,560
Speaker 1: my wife and I have taken this quiz separately, but

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00:58:52,600 --> 00:58:54,400
Speaker 1: as you were just talking, I would like to take

1118
00:58:54,440 --> 00:58:56,200
Speaker 1: it with her at the same time, so we can

1119
00:58:56,320 --> 00:58:59,800
Speaker 1: look at the question together and voice why this I

1120
00:59:00,000 --> 00:59:03,200
Speaker 1: think this one and why she thinks that one. That's

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00:59:03,240 --> 00:59:05,640
Speaker 1: got a quick question for Brooks. When you said about

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00:59:05,760 --> 00:59:08,680
Speaker 1: the sucking the toe, now you said that's obviously a

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00:59:08,680 --> 00:59:10,800
Speaker 1: big turn on for your wife. Is that a turn

1124
00:59:10,840 --> 00:59:13,440
Speaker 1: on for you as well? Or is it like knowing

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00:59:13,440 --> 00:59:19,160
Speaker 1: that to turn on for her makes it do? Yes?

1126
00:59:19,160 --> 00:59:20,840
Speaker 1: I do? And I like I enjoy giving my wife

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00:59:20,880 --> 00:59:25,520
Speaker 1: a massage. I really enjoy like, um, touching her body

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00:59:25,520 --> 00:59:29,560
Speaker 1: and giving her a massage before just getting before as

1129
00:59:29,600 --> 00:59:32,919
Speaker 1: like four play before getting to just straight sex. Um.

1130
00:59:33,000 --> 00:59:34,960
Speaker 1: So and and that's every part of her body. And

1131
00:59:35,000 --> 00:59:37,560
Speaker 1: my wife's my wife's a dancer. So her whole life,

1132
00:59:37,600 --> 00:59:40,360
Speaker 1: her feet have been in high heels and her feet

1133
00:59:40,400 --> 00:59:42,360
Speaker 1: that she's a danced eight hours a day. Her feet

1134
00:59:42,400 --> 00:59:44,960
Speaker 1: are always sore, and so a big turn on for

1135
00:59:45,000 --> 00:59:48,760
Speaker 1: her because of her profession has been feet. And so

1136
00:59:48,840 --> 00:59:50,520
Speaker 1: there will be a lot of times where we're on

1137
00:59:50,560 --> 00:59:52,280
Speaker 1: the couch and she'll put her feet on me. She

1138
00:59:52,400 --> 00:59:55,400
Speaker 1: just like it's a it's a love language for her.

1139
00:59:55,440 --> 00:59:58,240
Speaker 1: If I rub her feet, she feels immensely loved and

1140
00:59:58,280 --> 01:00:02,880
Speaker 1: taken care of. Tell you a secret about feet. A spot,

1141
01:00:03,400 --> 01:00:05,959
Speaker 1: Oh please, let me look at the screen he's getting

1142
01:00:05,960 --> 01:00:10,800
Speaker 1: a pen hold on. It's called the bubbling spring and

1143
01:00:10,880 --> 01:00:13,240
Speaker 1: it's right below the big toe. Okay, I'm gonna show

1144
01:00:13,240 --> 01:00:20,240
Speaker 1: you guys my feet right here. Spring, that's it there,

1145
01:00:20,400 --> 01:00:24,040
Speaker 1: that's it right there. Gorgeous, But I think that's where

1146
01:00:24,160 --> 01:00:27,720
Speaker 1: my blister is, though, can you too hard? Can you

1147
01:00:27,760 --> 01:00:30,240
Speaker 1: elaborate on the bubbling spring? And why you show the stuff?

1148
01:00:31,160 --> 01:00:34,040
Speaker 1: So I know a whole lot of different sexual modalities.

1149
01:00:34,080 --> 01:00:37,160
Speaker 1: I studied a whole lot about ancient cultures and sexuality.

1150
01:00:37,200 --> 01:00:39,880
Speaker 1: So this is a Taoist practice and it goes in

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01:00:39,960 --> 01:00:42,680
Speaker 1: with Chinese medicine. But there's a there's an act pressure

1152
01:00:42,720 --> 01:00:45,360
Speaker 1: point right there, and a lot of times when I

1153
01:00:45,440 --> 01:00:47,680
Speaker 1: have clients will go right to that spot when we

1154
01:00:47,720 --> 01:00:50,120
Speaker 1: start to get into higher pleasure and we'll press on

1155
01:00:50,160 --> 01:00:52,040
Speaker 1: that spot and it just sends them crazy, like they'll

1156
01:00:52,040 --> 01:00:54,160
Speaker 1: start to get dibrasions through their whole body and kind

1157
01:00:54,160 --> 01:00:58,920
Speaker 1: of like shaking. It's really fun um So so pressing

1158
01:00:58,920 --> 01:01:01,280
Speaker 1: in that spot stimulates one of the meridians that goes

1159
01:01:01,360 --> 01:01:03,960
Speaker 1: up into the kidneys and it and it's I can

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01:01:04,000 --> 01:01:06,320
Speaker 1: get into all kinds of fun stuff there, but I

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01:01:06,320 --> 01:01:09,200
Speaker 1: think that that's enough brain package there for the fun facts.

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01:01:09,240 --> 01:01:11,920
Speaker 1: And you guys get it. Just pressing right there, you

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01:01:11,960 --> 01:01:13,640
Speaker 1: can go right up into the meridian and then it

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01:01:13,640 --> 01:01:16,600
Speaker 1: can starts to get convulsions into the body. It's really

1165
01:01:16,640 --> 01:01:19,440
Speaker 1: fun bubbling spring of the foot. Maybe we'll have to

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01:01:19,440 --> 01:01:21,760
Speaker 1: put a picture on our Instagram page for yeah, so

1167
01:01:21,760 --> 01:01:24,880
Speaker 1: you can find it easier for everybody next to the manator.

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01:01:25,280 --> 01:01:28,240
Speaker 1: Which of you will be our foot model? Probably not.

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01:01:29,560 --> 01:01:31,440
Speaker 1: Ryan claimed today he was going to be a hand model.

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01:01:31,480 --> 01:01:33,360
Speaker 1: So maybe Ryan's gonna be if we can get those

1171
01:01:33,480 --> 01:01:35,480
Speaker 1: orthopedic shoes off and we can probably get a picture

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01:01:35,480 --> 01:01:38,480
Speaker 1: of his feet. Jaya, can you hold your foot up

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01:01:38,520 --> 01:01:42,400
Speaker 1: again for our camera? Oh, Tori has taking a picture

1174
01:01:42,720 --> 01:01:49,280
Speaker 1: right there. You. Brooks is so distracted he just called

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01:01:49,720 --> 01:01:55,040
Speaker 1: Danielle Tory. Did I just getting Tori more airtime? Do

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01:01:55,160 --> 01:01:59,080
Speaker 1: you enjoy giving a massage to Julianne If you don't,

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01:01:59,440 --> 01:02:01,160
Speaker 1: or if you know that it's not going to lead

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01:02:01,160 --> 01:02:05,240
Speaker 1: to sex, yes, yeah, I'll probably almost do that daily. Um,

1179
01:02:05,800 --> 01:02:08,160
Speaker 1: she like I'll be most days there will be some

1180
01:02:08,240 --> 01:02:11,000
Speaker 1: element of rubbing her feet or shoulders or something. I

1181
01:02:11,040 --> 01:02:13,160
Speaker 1: know she really appreciates it. There's other times she just

1182
01:02:13,200 --> 01:02:15,840
Speaker 1: comes and puts her feet right on me. So, um,

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01:02:15,920 --> 01:02:18,280
Speaker 1: yes I do. I I would for sure. Well, thanks

1184
01:02:18,320 --> 01:02:23,720
Speaker 1: for making the rest of us look like, Yeah, I

1185
01:02:23,720 --> 01:02:26,880
Speaker 1: don't do it. Let's be honest, it's probably not every day,

1186
01:02:26,920 --> 01:02:29,400
Speaker 1: but it's not an in common occurrence. You're gonna do

1187
01:02:29,440 --> 01:02:31,160
Speaker 1: it more that you know about the bubbling spring, though

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01:02:31,160 --> 01:02:34,000
Speaker 1: I have never tried the bubbling spring. Maybe good nights

1189
01:02:34,040 --> 01:02:38,919
Speaker 1: the nights tonight bubbling spring and I'll and I'll stay

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01:02:38,960 --> 01:02:41,800
Speaker 1: here that it just shows blueprinting, like nobody's wrong or bad.

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01:02:42,080 --> 01:02:44,280
Speaker 1: Like if you just like to give the shoulder massage

1192
01:02:44,320 --> 01:02:47,240
Speaker 1: for five seconds and then get to intercourse, that's awesome,

1193
01:02:47,360 --> 01:02:50,600
Speaker 1: Like that's that was me right, Like I like, get

1194
01:02:50,600 --> 01:02:52,120
Speaker 1: me a little bit turned on, and then I want

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01:02:52,120 --> 01:02:53,800
Speaker 1: to go straight to intercourse. I want to go straight

1196
01:02:53,800 --> 01:02:57,560
Speaker 1: to penetration. And there's nothing wrong or bad about that.

1197
01:02:57,560 --> 01:03:01,200
Speaker 1: That's just perhaps the type that you are. Now if

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01:03:01,240 --> 01:03:03,600
Speaker 1: you like to give a five hour massage or you know,

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01:03:03,640 --> 01:03:05,880
Speaker 1: thirty minute massage and you don't need, like you feel

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01:03:05,920 --> 01:03:09,240
Speaker 1: fulfilled in that, you're great too, Like nobody is wrong,

1201
01:03:09,360 --> 01:03:11,280
Speaker 1: bad or broken. And I think that's one of the

1202
01:03:11,280 --> 01:03:13,400
Speaker 1: messages that I really want to get across. Because we

1203
01:03:13,480 --> 01:03:16,320
Speaker 1: don't talk about sex, we feel we get in a

1204
01:03:16,360 --> 01:03:18,840
Speaker 1: comparison game like oh my god, that person is having

1205
01:03:18,840 --> 01:03:21,640
Speaker 1: all these different orgasms or this or that as opposed

1206
01:03:21,680 --> 01:03:25,240
Speaker 1: to you are just who you are erotically right now,

1207
01:03:25,240 --> 01:03:28,800
Speaker 1: in this moment, and that's okay. Now, can you grow absolutely,

1208
01:03:29,360 --> 01:03:31,920
Speaker 1: But who you are erotically is not bad and wrong

1209
01:03:32,080 --> 01:03:35,720
Speaker 1: or strange or not normal. The majority of people out

1210
01:03:35,720 --> 01:03:38,560
Speaker 1: there feel like they're abnormal, and I'm here to say

1211
01:03:38,600 --> 01:03:42,720
Speaker 1: you are normal, and you're erotic mapping most likely, and

1212
01:03:42,920 --> 01:03:48,680
Speaker 1: you're not broken. Wow, that's amazing. Yeah, I find it

1213
01:03:48,680 --> 01:03:50,800
Speaker 1: fascinating that you said you were a fan of the

1214
01:03:50,880 --> 01:03:53,640
Speaker 1: five second massage, but yet ten minutes ago you told

1215
01:03:53,720 --> 01:03:56,440
Speaker 1: us about your thirteen hour marathon sessions. I don't know

1216
01:03:56,480 --> 01:03:59,880
Speaker 1: where the rest of the time goes. But she also

1217
01:04:00,040 --> 01:04:04,200
Speaker 1: said you said that erotic blueprints can change over time. Yes,

1218
01:04:04,800 --> 01:04:06,960
Speaker 1: So have you seen that happen in any of the

1219
01:04:06,960 --> 01:04:08,880
Speaker 1: couples you've worked with, where maybe they start out as

1220
01:04:08,920 --> 01:04:11,520
Speaker 1: one and then how long over time? How long are

1221
01:04:11,520 --> 01:04:13,320
Speaker 1: we talking? Is it a year? Is it five years?

1222
01:04:13,400 --> 01:04:16,080
Speaker 1: Or like for people Rick and Dmitri have both been

1223
01:04:16,120 --> 01:04:18,200
Speaker 1: married almost fifteen years. Would you say, in the course

1224
01:04:18,240 --> 01:04:20,600
Speaker 1: of their lives that you think their erotic blueprint is

1225
01:04:20,600 --> 01:04:24,000
Speaker 1: probably shifted or their wives has shifted. Yes, So we

1226
01:04:24,040 --> 01:04:26,920
Speaker 1: have different things that happen in life that can create

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01:04:26,960 --> 01:04:29,440
Speaker 1: a shift in blueprint. So birth of a child can

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01:04:29,440 --> 01:04:32,600
Speaker 1: create a shift in blueprint. Longevity of the relationship can

1229
01:04:32,600 --> 01:04:36,720
Speaker 1: create a shift to menopause. You know, life changes, injuries, sickness,

1230
01:04:36,840 --> 01:04:39,560
Speaker 1: or many things that can shift our blueprint, as well

1231
01:04:39,600 --> 01:04:42,680
Speaker 1: as partner shifts. So if you're single and you're listening,

1232
01:04:43,000 --> 01:04:45,600
Speaker 1: that can also change depending upon the partner that you get.

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01:04:45,800 --> 01:04:50,960
Speaker 1: We're looking at polarization. Oftentimes we polarized in relationship. So

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01:04:51,000 --> 01:04:54,360
Speaker 1: what I see happen is as people gain awareness of

1235
01:04:54,360 --> 01:04:58,280
Speaker 1: their blueprint, and they have this awareness, they're then able

1236
01:04:58,320 --> 01:05:01,640
Speaker 1: to go, Oh, I can expand into all these different languages.

1237
01:05:01,680 --> 01:05:05,040
Speaker 1: Now influent in like you said, five six different languages.

1238
01:05:05,280 --> 01:05:08,440
Speaker 1: I can speak all the different erotic languages. And therefore,

1239
01:05:08,600 --> 01:05:11,680
Speaker 1: no matter what life hits me with, or what life

1240
01:05:11,760 --> 01:05:14,400
Speaker 1: change happens, or how things shift, I'm able to go

1241
01:05:14,480 --> 01:05:21,520
Speaker 1: in and create epics X Wow, epic sex, Ryan, epic sex. Amen,

1242
01:05:21,600 --> 01:05:25,280
Speaker 1: He's blown away. Your mind is blown. Um. I want

1243
01:05:25,280 --> 01:05:27,800
Speaker 1: to thank you so much, Jaya. Can we give her

1244
01:05:27,800 --> 01:05:31,720
Speaker 1: a round of applause? Um? First, I want to commend you.

1245
01:05:31,840 --> 01:05:34,360
Speaker 1: Just listening to you speak, You're attacking an area that

1246
01:05:34,720 --> 01:05:37,439
Speaker 1: socially is maybe as you said, taboo or hush hush,

1247
01:05:37,520 --> 01:05:39,400
Speaker 1: and you're very bold and courageous, and I want to

1248
01:05:39,400 --> 01:05:43,440
Speaker 1: acknowledge that. Um, yeah, you you attack this and you

1249
01:05:43,480 --> 01:05:46,120
Speaker 1: try and open this platform for other people to have

1250
01:05:46,200 --> 01:05:50,000
Speaker 1: a voice in and to feel expressed and understood by

1251
01:05:50,000 --> 01:05:53,640
Speaker 1: their partners. So, um, anybody listening can take the Erotic

1252
01:05:53,640 --> 01:05:57,400
Speaker 1: Blueprint quiz at Erotic Breakthrough dot com. But where can

1253
01:05:57,440 --> 01:05:59,560
Speaker 1: they find you and get in touch with you? Because

1254
01:05:59,760 --> 01:06:02,040
Speaker 1: you are you are a hot topic from our listeners

1255
01:06:02,040 --> 01:06:04,200
Speaker 1: from the episode with my wife and now after our

1256
01:06:04,240 --> 01:06:06,600
Speaker 1: listeners here you talk. I'm sure your your email is

1257
01:06:06,640 --> 01:06:08,240
Speaker 1: gonna be full and your phone's gonna bring it off

1258
01:06:08,280 --> 01:06:10,080
Speaker 1: the hook. But where is the best place for our

1259
01:06:10,120 --> 01:06:13,520
Speaker 1: listeners to get in touch with you? Jaya dot Love

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01:06:13,800 --> 01:06:17,120
Speaker 1: is my website, So it's j A I y A

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Speaker 1: dot love l O B E. If you want to

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01:06:21,200 --> 01:06:23,640
Speaker 1: visit our website, but go take the quiz Erotic Breakthrough

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Speaker 1: dot com and you'll see me talking on videos you

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Speaker 1: You'll get a video with me and you'll get connected

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Speaker 1: with us there. I'm also on Facebook and all those

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Speaker 1: good social media platforms, and I want to also just

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Speaker 1: acknowledge you guys for having this conversation. I know that

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Speaker 1: this could be edgy territory and you're opening a box.

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Speaker 1: And one of my big missions in life is to

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Speaker 1: have a conversation community around sexuality, and you're all putting

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Speaker 1: yourselves out there too, So just thank you so much

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Speaker 1: for having me on, for having this conversation. It really

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Speaker 1: means a lot to me. Thank you so much. Thank you.

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Speaker 1: We appreciate and like I said, my wife, my wife,

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Speaker 1: if you're ever in l A would love to take

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Speaker 1: you out for dinner, have you up to the house.

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Speaker 1: But some at some point we'll be in touch real

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Speaker 1: soon because she's a massive fan of yours and all

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Speaker 1: the work that you do, and she's very explorative and

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Speaker 1: curious in this space. So that's how I got into it.

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Speaker 1: So credit to her, Um, and credit to you for

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Speaker 1: all the work that you do. And I'm sure that

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Speaker 1: I will be seeing your face or talking to you

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Speaker 1: very soon. So thank you for the time today. Really

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Speaker 1: appreciate it. Thank you, good sirs for you opening up

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Speaker 1: um about some intimate topics, and we'll be right back.

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Speaker 1: Is Gavin. Hello, it's Givin. What a brother? What's going on?

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Speaker 1: Some ice cream cake? We miss you? Somebody? Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: miss you guys. Back man what are you doing right now,

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Speaker 1: hanging man, I'm on the tour bus, hanging out with

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Speaker 1: my dog and uh, buddy, give us so tour kicked

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Speaker 1: off on Thursday. How's it going so far, buddy, man,

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01:07:57,920 --> 01:08:01,880
Speaker 1: it better be going good. I'm in trouble. Hopefully this

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01:08:01,920 --> 01:08:04,160
Speaker 1: podcast someday makes money and it can be your backup

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01:08:04,200 --> 01:08:07,720
Speaker 1: plan in case the vocals, in case the vocals disappear,

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01:08:08,880 --> 01:08:12,080
Speaker 1: or or the offers on the table from all four

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Speaker 1: of us to turn us into like a boy band

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Speaker 1: of five man band band. Yeah, there's nothing. There's nothing

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Speaker 1: cooler than a man band. And I think, I think,

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Speaker 1: I think we should all have our have our own

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Speaker 1: independent stylists where we show up and like, you know,

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Speaker 1: we do like you know, like one of us is,

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Speaker 1: you know, the hot one, and one of us is

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Speaker 1: not as hot one. And then there's a third one

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Speaker 1: who's not as hot as the one that is. And

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Speaker 1: then there's there's the one who are the one, the

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Speaker 1: one who knows, but the one who everybody likes because

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Speaker 1: he knows that he's not hot, but he's okay with

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Speaker 1: not being the hot one. And then there's the other

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Speaker 1: one who's like girls like him just because they know

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Speaker 1: that he would never even claim to accept the fact

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Speaker 1: that he was. Where are you going there? There's only

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Speaker 1: five of us, but that was you caught that too.

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Speaker 1: That was the sixth guy. But all the cousins of

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Speaker 1: the man band members who also would be out and

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Speaker 1: I'll start up their own social accounts, I think. And

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Speaker 1: then back to your stylist point, buddy, I think I'd

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Speaker 1: have the best stylist because right now I'm wearing a

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Speaker 1: Gavin the graw T shirt, the new merch there's a

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Speaker 1: big there's like a big moon behind you. I just

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Speaker 1: text you the photo we did. Hey, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: We made shirts for boys. Hey put it this way,

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Speaker 1: you put it this way. You sold five shirts already. Dude.

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Speaker 1: He cut off the sleeves. He rolled it up like

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Speaker 1: I'll put I'll post it on our Instagram for you

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Speaker 1: to see everybody's best damn shirt. This might be my

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Speaker 1: new date night. It's a good workout shirt. To you know,

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Speaker 1: this is a date You don't wear shirts on date night.

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Speaker 1: Which ones did you get? Because I tried to mail

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Speaker 1: you guys a little the little half shirts were talking

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Speaker 1: about should we cut the sleeves off? Cut these off?

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Speaker 1: At the belly and send just the photo. Do you

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01:10:09,720 --> 01:10:11,599
Speaker 1: saying we're your biggest fans. We just did that thing

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Speaker 1: where you pull it up to the neck and pull

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Speaker 1: it down so it's like it it looks like a

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Speaker 1: tube top. I do got a commandia though, brother. This

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Speaker 1: T shirt is extremely comfortable and I'm gonna I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: share it on my Instagram page to plug your rch

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01:10:25,120 --> 01:10:26,760
Speaker 1: because we want you to get your grotto. You're not

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01:10:26,760 --> 01:10:30,000
Speaker 1: getting any checks from hell men think, so we we

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01:10:30,080 --> 01:10:32,360
Speaker 1: gotta get that merged flying off the shelves and get

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Speaker 1: you your grotto. Okay, well that was death Ray Jenner seven.

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Speaker 1: Let me tell you why those are so soft because

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01:10:38,600 --> 01:10:41,840
Speaker 1: I hand washed them, so I thought you were going

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01:10:41,880 --> 01:10:46,880
Speaker 1: you hand knit them, and then they smelled so good

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01:10:46,920 --> 01:10:50,439
Speaker 1: because I call drive my dog with them before I

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01:10:50,560 --> 01:10:53,600
Speaker 1: pulled them up and put them in the boxes to distribute.

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Speaker 1: You're a hard working man. Yeah. By the way, I

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Speaker 1: saw a picture. I saw a picture of your dog

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Speaker 1: on your Instagram um um, and then I comment, I

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01:11:02,040 --> 01:11:04,200
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, we gotta get we gotta get him

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01:11:04,200 --> 01:11:07,760
Speaker 1: a play date with our boy Coda. You know we

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01:11:07,800 --> 01:11:11,960
Speaker 1: should do We should start a TV show that's like

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01:11:12,320 --> 01:11:16,280
Speaker 1: it's like chips, but two dogs dogs, but they're like

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Speaker 1: they're they're they're canine dogs that are a duo. That's

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Speaker 1: what I'm talking about. To have their own merchandizing. They

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Speaker 1: can start. We could have our own video game video

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Speaker 1: bubble heads. That's right. So there's there's alcohol on the

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Speaker 1: tour bus. It seems. Yeah, Hey, Gavin, yav we just

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Speaker 1: talked to miss Jaya, the sexual blueprint woman, sexologists, the sexologists.

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Speaker 1: Wait a second, was she the one um my wife

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Speaker 1: references the dark haired girl. Yes, yeah, yeah, yes, yeah,

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Speaker 1: she's a sexologist. I guess we had to sum it

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Speaker 1: up and give you the cliff notes. Brooks sucks Julianne's tone.

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Speaker 1: It's pologist, somebody who basically makes drinks but with generals.

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Speaker 1: Uh maybe that's I can't say no, but I mean,

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Speaker 1: if that's a really profound question enough, that makes sense.

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Speaker 1: But anyway, so she ran us through the have you

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Speaker 1: taken the quiz? Have you taken your erotic blueprint quiz?

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Speaker 1: Because we were all kind of laughing and wondering what

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Speaker 1: you might be. Man, I'm not much for schoolwork. I

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Speaker 1: think Gavin's Gavin's got an Eurotic tattoo. He doesn't go

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Speaker 1: for the blueprint. It's a straight tattoo. The problem with

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Speaker 1: me and quizzes and the second someone even says the

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Speaker 1: word quiz, I just break out sweating profusely and start

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01:12:52,120 --> 01:12:55,240
Speaker 1: feeling a little bit noxious. So anyway, it gives you

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Speaker 1: this answer of whether you are energetic as as like

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Speaker 1: your sexual energy is energetic, kinky, uh, sensual? Sexual sensual

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Speaker 1: or a shape shifter? And so we're all all four

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Speaker 1: of us were different things. Um isn't that the nature

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Speaker 1: of a shape shifter or that they would be different things?

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Speaker 1: So are you all shape shifters? No? No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: I'm a shape shifter. The other guys are? I was apexual?

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Speaker 1: Rick shape shifter? Sap. When you say, when you say

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Speaker 1: shape shifter, does that make me like con man? Think

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01:13:31,200 --> 01:13:32,600
Speaker 1: of it like you can play you can think of

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01:13:32,640 --> 01:13:34,920
Speaker 1: it like you can play all of the instruments in

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01:13:34,960 --> 01:13:39,000
Speaker 1: the band, Like you can play the drums, the bass,

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01:13:39,040 --> 01:13:42,400
Speaker 1: the guitar, and you can suck a cringing over there.

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01:13:43,200 --> 01:13:47,080
Speaker 1: I'm trying to make sense of this analogy. But OK,

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01:13:47,560 --> 01:13:51,920
Speaker 1: so we took the question I'm going to sit next.

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Speaker 1: Do you want the answer to that? Because it's you're

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01:13:55,080 --> 01:14:00,200
Speaker 1: gonna go Oh, of course Amy was kinky. A was

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01:14:00,280 --> 01:14:05,479
Speaker 1: kinky self, admittedly kinky or like, she didn't even take

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01:14:05,479 --> 01:14:08,400
Speaker 1: the test. She just came right out with it. And

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01:14:08,439 --> 01:14:10,720
Speaker 1: there's a pole running, there's a pole running that you're

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01:14:10,760 --> 01:14:14,559
Speaker 1: probably kinky as well. Oh that's the pole. Yeah, well,

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01:14:14,560 --> 01:14:18,479
Speaker 1: what's the wager? I just made it up? Hell, I mean,

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01:14:18,520 --> 01:14:22,240
Speaker 1: I want to know the odds because all that all

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01:14:22,280 --> 01:14:25,080
Speaker 1: bet a hundred bucks that says you come out kinky.

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01:14:25,479 --> 01:14:30,040
Speaker 1: Hey man, it's very possible. I think basically, uh, if

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Speaker 1: I was to discuss this in public, which I would

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01:14:33,280 --> 01:14:42,160
Speaker 1: never do. Nobody's listening to this, No, I would say

1404
01:14:42,320 --> 01:14:47,200
Speaker 1: that you uh, you basically uh have to become whatever

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01:14:47,280 --> 01:14:51,080
Speaker 1: the environment is, right, But at the same time you

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01:14:51,160 --> 01:14:54,920
Speaker 1: have your own you know, your own I guess version

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01:14:55,000 --> 01:14:58,240
Speaker 1: of adapting to the moment, right. So I don't know

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01:14:58,280 --> 01:15:01,400
Speaker 1: what that makes me, but hopefully I I'm adaptable. I

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01:15:01,439 --> 01:15:03,479
Speaker 1: think that makes you a shape shifter. You're sort of

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01:15:03,520 --> 01:15:06,680
Speaker 1: you play with all these Actually I have to say

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01:15:06,720 --> 01:15:08,400
Speaker 1: that that actually kind of makes me a little bit.

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01:15:09,240 --> 01:15:15,840
Speaker 1: They call that a one man band, son one man band.

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01:15:17,240 --> 01:15:20,080
Speaker 1: That's right, that's too funny. I think the best part

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01:15:20,120 --> 01:15:23,160
Speaker 1: about this is that probably this isn't even going on.

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01:15:23,240 --> 01:15:25,320
Speaker 1: You guys are just sent me like, yeah, so I'm

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01:15:26,600 --> 01:15:32,320
Speaker 1: what are you gavin to grow? Are you super kink

1417
01:15:34,360 --> 01:15:39,800
Speaker 1: super in? In our conversation with the sexologist, one of

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01:15:39,920 --> 01:15:46,360
Speaker 1: us in the group divulged that he sucks his wives

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01:15:46,600 --> 01:15:51,360
Speaker 1: wife's toes. Which, among the four of us here today,

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01:15:51,439 --> 01:15:58,479
Speaker 1: do you believe that to be Huh, well, it wouldn't

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01:15:58,520 --> 01:16:08,679
Speaker 1: be Brooks interesting, would be talk us through your logic

1422
01:16:08,720 --> 01:16:11,439
Speaker 1: as you eliminate people. Somebody who gets to put their

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01:16:11,479 --> 01:16:14,160
Speaker 1: feet up on their desk at work, so they think

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01:16:14,520 --> 01:16:24,120
Speaker 1: that perhaps they have a clean foot. Somebody somebody somebody

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01:16:24,200 --> 01:16:27,160
Speaker 1: somebody who does who they have never bought open to

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01:16:27,439 --> 01:16:36,080
Speaker 1: choose for. And uh somebody who also um somebody who

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01:16:36,080 --> 01:16:40,680
Speaker 1: also must have very very nice looking feet, I mean

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01:16:40,840 --> 01:16:45,160
Speaker 1: very nice feet. They have very very bad teeth and

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01:16:45,160 --> 01:16:48,479
Speaker 1: they don't care what coasts in their mouth. So who

1430
01:16:48,600 --> 01:16:51,680
Speaker 1: is your guests for? Who on our panel sucks their

1431
01:16:51,720 --> 01:17:01,679
Speaker 1: wives toes? Who sucks your wives toes? Uh? Ryan wrong?

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01:17:01,960 --> 01:17:03,840
Speaker 1: I take that as a compliment, thank you, but the

1433
01:17:04,040 --> 01:17:10,880
Speaker 1: that is not correct. Next, a process of elimination actually

1434
01:17:11,479 --> 01:17:16,920
Speaker 1: is that insulting? Or is that a compliment. It's not Brian. Okay, sick.

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01:17:16,960 --> 01:17:20,120
Speaker 1: Hold on a second, now, maybe Rick would do it.

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01:17:22,240 --> 01:17:25,360
Speaker 1: Why do you think Rick would do it? Because I've

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01:17:25,360 --> 01:17:31,760
Speaker 1: seen him swim in a dirty lake. You won't even

1438
01:17:31,800 --> 01:17:34,479
Speaker 1: suck a lollipop. He's out what they say, a pig

1439
01:17:34,520 --> 01:17:39,680
Speaker 1: will always find dirt. Okay, So it's not Rick. Not

1440
01:17:40,200 --> 01:17:42,519
Speaker 1: so it is not Ryan. You've guessed Ryan and Ricken

1441
01:17:42,680 --> 01:17:47,200
Speaker 1: is not Ryan or Rick. He's sort of ruling out Brooks.

1442
01:17:47,240 --> 01:17:49,000
Speaker 1: But I don't know if you guys got you guys

1443
01:17:49,000 --> 01:17:51,160
Speaker 1: got me feeling lucky. I need to spend more time

1444
01:17:51,160 --> 01:17:56,599
Speaker 1: in Las Vegas. We're going there, buddy, September nine. We're

1445
01:17:56,600 --> 01:18:00,920
Speaker 1: going there for the iHeart Music Fest we're doing and

1446
01:18:00,920 --> 01:18:03,599
Speaker 1: and I might need your weight on this, but I

1447
01:18:03,600 --> 01:18:06,880
Speaker 1: am leveraging Amy hard to put us at the Blaggio

1448
01:18:07,120 --> 01:18:09,600
Speaker 1: or the Venetian. And she's saying, we kind of have

1449
01:18:09,840 --> 01:18:12,840
Speaker 1: accommodation somewhere else, and I said, no, Gavin will not

1450
01:18:13,200 --> 01:18:19,360
Speaker 1: put up with that Blaggio. Listen, all I heard was wait,

1451
01:18:19,520 --> 01:18:24,519
Speaker 1: do you call me fat? That was like ten minutes ago.

1452
01:18:26,040 --> 01:18:29,720
Speaker 1: All the ice cream cake is gone. Okay, back to it.

1453
01:18:29,760 --> 01:18:31,680
Speaker 1: Who do you think it is? Rick? Or do you

1454
01:18:31,680 --> 01:18:37,720
Speaker 1: think it's Dmitri or myself. Man, I don't know. Man,

1455
01:18:37,760 --> 01:18:42,840
Speaker 1: this is the hardest game of roulette I've ever played. Gentlemen, Um,

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01:18:42,960 --> 01:18:45,040
Speaker 1: I don't know. Well, you're the newly win, I mean

1457
01:18:45,479 --> 01:18:50,360
Speaker 1: newly wins, dude, see your honeymoon face. So probably everbat

1458
01:18:50,400 --> 01:18:55,519
Speaker 1: anything right about now. So we'll see in twenty years

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01:18:55,520 --> 01:19:04,240
Speaker 1: if you're still sucking. That's rights Brooks its Yeah, of course,

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01:19:04,920 --> 01:19:06,559
Speaker 1: I was the first word out of your mouth. It's

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01:19:06,600 --> 01:19:09,160
Speaker 1: not Brooks's how it goes. Of course, there's a little twist.

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01:19:09,560 --> 01:19:21,400
Speaker 1: Brooks sucks Ryan's wife's toes. No, buddy, buddy, how's the tour?

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01:19:21,800 --> 01:19:25,200
Speaker 1: How's um? How's life on the tour? So it's good man.

1464
01:19:25,240 --> 01:19:27,400
Speaker 1: I love torns, so I love the road, and I

1465
01:19:27,479 --> 01:19:30,800
Speaker 1: happen to love being on the tour buses. So it's

1466
01:19:30,840 --> 01:19:34,200
Speaker 1: just kind of just a comfortable place for me and

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01:19:34,280 --> 01:19:37,920
Speaker 1: I I'm just somebody who likes watching the miles kicked by. Yeah,

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01:19:39,680 --> 01:19:43,559
Speaker 1: I'm not a big airplane fan. Um. I much prefer

1469
01:19:43,680 --> 01:19:46,560
Speaker 1: choling on tour buses. I got a question, probably for

1470
01:19:46,600 --> 01:19:48,360
Speaker 1: the listeners want to hear any answer. I mean, do

1471
01:19:48,439 --> 01:19:50,920
Speaker 1: you eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner on the bus. What

1472
01:19:50,960 --> 01:19:52,280
Speaker 1: are you? What are you doing on the bus? Do

1473
01:19:52,280 --> 01:19:54,200
Speaker 1: you stop over? Do you have an agenda on where

1474
01:19:54,240 --> 01:19:59,519
Speaker 1: you want to stop and eat and visit things? I

1475
01:19:59,600 --> 01:20:02,160
Speaker 1: looked some stuff up online, you know, like uh use

1476
01:20:02,520 --> 01:20:05,479
Speaker 1: you know, use the apps, like where do you recommend

1477
01:20:05,560 --> 01:20:08,479
Speaker 1: I eat such and such a town? You know, do

1478
01:20:08,520 --> 01:20:12,240
Speaker 1: a little research and uh find recommended places and talk

1479
01:20:12,320 --> 01:20:14,760
Speaker 1: to locals. Also when you get a certain places and

1480
01:20:14,840 --> 01:20:17,519
Speaker 1: say what's the best place in town? And what place

1481
01:20:17,600 --> 01:20:20,519
Speaker 1: would you? You know, where where do the tourists go?

1482
01:20:20,800 --> 01:20:23,479
Speaker 1: So don't send me there? Send me where like you

1483
01:20:23,520 --> 01:20:26,240
Speaker 1: would go with your you know, with your friends or whatever.

1484
01:20:26,280 --> 01:20:30,599
Speaker 1: You know, you find exactly exactly. You find some great

1485
01:20:30,640 --> 01:20:32,280
Speaker 1: stuff out on the road. You know, there's some great

1486
01:20:32,720 --> 01:20:35,000
Speaker 1: great hole holes in the wall and places like that,

1487
01:20:35,080 --> 01:20:38,599
Speaker 1: and there's some great better dining and worth dining and

1488
01:20:38,720 --> 01:20:42,280
Speaker 1: you know taverns and pubs and stuff like that. So um,

1489
01:20:42,320 --> 01:20:44,160
Speaker 1: there's just a lot. There's a lot of world to see.

1490
01:20:44,160 --> 01:20:46,360
Speaker 1: You know, my liver is willing to do all of it.

1491
01:20:46,720 --> 01:20:48,800
Speaker 1: Do you only eat at places that guy Fiery has

1492
01:20:48,840 --> 01:20:53,880
Speaker 1: eaten on? Diners, drivings and dives? Is that accurate? It's

1493
01:20:53,880 --> 01:20:55,960
Speaker 1: good enough for triple D it's good enough for the gav.

1494
01:20:56,120 --> 01:21:01,280
Speaker 1: You know that's correct. One way trip to flavor Town, Bud.

1495
01:21:03,439 --> 01:21:06,000
Speaker 1: Are you a donkey sauce on a flip flop? Do

1496
01:21:06,000 --> 01:21:07,920
Speaker 1: you know what the side deal with Guy Fieri here

1497
01:21:07,960 --> 01:21:10,280
Speaker 1: that I've always just wanted to work donkey sauce into

1498
01:21:10,280 --> 01:21:14,240
Speaker 1: a flip flop. That's into a podcast, missing accomplice, goodbye.

1499
01:21:14,520 --> 01:21:18,800
Speaker 1: Random question. Guys in flip flops? How do you think

1500
01:21:19,520 --> 01:21:24,400
Speaker 1: you were perceived socially? Because I was wearing flip flops

1501
01:21:24,439 --> 01:21:26,680
Speaker 1: today and I was thinking to myself, well, these are

1502
01:21:26,680 --> 01:21:29,120
Speaker 1: pretty comfortable, and somebody took a picture and I was like,

1503
01:21:29,560 --> 01:21:34,960
Speaker 1: come wearing flip flops so full transparency. Brother, If you

1504
01:21:35,000 --> 01:21:37,519
Speaker 1: could see me, I'm kicked back on the couch with

1505
01:21:37,640 --> 01:21:39,920
Speaker 1: one leg crossed over the other, and I have a

1506
01:21:39,960 --> 01:21:42,559
Speaker 1: pair of black flip flops on right now. That's all

1507
01:21:42,600 --> 01:21:45,479
Speaker 1: I wear. Are you watching the Golf Channel? No, I'm not.

1508
01:21:45,560 --> 01:21:48,280
Speaker 1: I've never I don't. My dad actually watches the I live.

1509
01:21:48,360 --> 01:21:51,000
Speaker 1: I live in flip flops. I'm either in workout shoes

1510
01:21:51,080 --> 01:21:53,400
Speaker 1: or flip flops. The weird thing is Brooks has socks

1511
01:21:53,479 --> 01:21:57,800
Speaker 1: on too, so they's a good luck. Are you? Are

1512
01:21:57,840 --> 01:22:00,519
Speaker 1: you rocking the sacks with the sandals right now. Yeah,

1513
01:22:00,880 --> 01:22:04,840
Speaker 1: I am like he likes to keep his toes free

1514
01:22:04,880 --> 01:22:11,120
Speaker 1: for sucking. Don't don't never tell anybody else that, Um, nobody,

1515
01:22:11,240 --> 01:22:15,200
Speaker 1: You're You're fine in the flip flops. Um? Yeah, but

1516
01:22:15,280 --> 01:22:20,160
Speaker 1: what about what about the musician? For example, if I'm

1517
01:22:20,200 --> 01:22:23,960
Speaker 1: asking for a friend, if there's a musician on stage

1518
01:22:24,240 --> 01:22:27,639
Speaker 1: and he's wearing flip flops, how do you feel about

1519
01:22:27,680 --> 01:22:32,240
Speaker 1: that during this, like during the show or during Yeah,

1520
01:22:32,280 --> 01:22:34,360
Speaker 1: I probably wouldn't be a fan of that unless it

1521
01:22:34,400 --> 01:22:37,920
Speaker 1: was like Jimmy Buffett. It's like if you're okay, okay,

1522
01:22:37,960 --> 01:22:40,320
Speaker 1: So it has to shoot the music style. Yeah, is

1523
01:22:40,360 --> 01:22:43,200
Speaker 1: it like a little summer kind of festival, just kicking back, relaxed,

1524
01:22:43,280 --> 01:22:46,599
Speaker 1: just chill music. Or is it like what she's wearing one?

1525
01:22:46,840 --> 01:22:49,799
Speaker 1: What if he's up there playing his songs, he's wearing

1526
01:22:49,840 --> 01:22:53,120
Speaker 1: one very nice shoe and his wife is sucking on

1527
01:22:53,200 --> 01:22:57,640
Speaker 1: his other foot. I don't even know how to go

1528
01:22:57,720 --> 01:23:03,560
Speaker 1: with that one me neither question for you, buddy. Um,

1529
01:23:03,600 --> 01:23:06,200
Speaker 1: just to educate, Just to educate us so we know

1530
01:23:06,240 --> 01:23:07,840
Speaker 1: what you're going through out there. And then also our

1531
01:23:07,840 --> 01:23:11,400
Speaker 1: listeners are probably really super curious. What does an average

1532
01:23:11,479 --> 01:23:14,240
Speaker 1: day on tour look like like, let's say, uh, what

1533
01:23:14,360 --> 01:23:16,080
Speaker 1: do you have a show tonight? What does the full

1534
01:23:16,160 --> 01:23:20,400
Speaker 1: day on tour look like? Full day on tour? It's

1535
01:23:20,520 --> 01:23:23,639
Speaker 1: it's kind of it's hard to explain. It's a bit

1536
01:23:23,640 --> 01:23:26,679
Speaker 1: of a little bit like half hibernation, half hard work

1537
01:23:27,479 --> 01:23:30,439
Speaker 1: because you're you know, sitting your tour bus for a

1538
01:23:30,439 --> 01:23:33,000
Speaker 1: good part of the day hanging out just because it's

1539
01:23:33,040 --> 01:23:35,840
Speaker 1: your house. You know, your bus is your home on

1540
01:23:35,920 --> 01:23:38,120
Speaker 1: the road. You know, it's sort of like sort of

1541
01:23:38,160 --> 01:23:43,479
Speaker 1: like this just traveling cabin. Um. And then I'll go in,

1542
01:23:43,520 --> 01:23:46,920
Speaker 1: I'll rehearse with the band. Um, we'll do that for

1543
01:23:46,960 --> 01:23:49,400
Speaker 1: an hour or two or three hours. What time? What

1544
01:23:49,479 --> 01:23:54,120
Speaker 1: time is that material that's in the afternoon? Um? And

1545
01:23:54,240 --> 01:23:56,519
Speaker 1: But but typically the hours are a little bit messed

1546
01:23:56,600 --> 01:23:59,920
Speaker 1: up because this sleep thing is a little bit inconsistent,

1547
01:24:00,000 --> 01:24:02,920
Speaker 1: depending because I don't know about what kind of sleeper

1548
01:24:03,000 --> 01:24:07,439
Speaker 1: you guys are. But if the bus stops, right, and

1549
01:24:07,479 --> 01:24:11,120
Speaker 1: it stopped frequently throughout the night because drivers want to

1550
01:24:11,120 --> 01:24:14,120
Speaker 1: take a break and hop off the bus and refuel, etcetera,

1551
01:24:14,560 --> 01:24:16,680
Speaker 1: you may wake up a few times throughout the night

1552
01:24:16,880 --> 01:24:19,400
Speaker 1: or several times throughout the night, So you're kind of

1553
01:24:19,400 --> 01:24:22,080
Speaker 1: sleeping on and off, on and off, on and off, working,

1554
01:24:22,240 --> 01:24:27,439
Speaker 1: taking a nap, working rehearsal, take a nap, go overter walk,

1555
01:24:28,040 --> 01:24:31,479
Speaker 1: check out the town, head back to a signing, uh,

1556
01:24:32,080 --> 01:24:34,160
Speaker 1: you know, do a meet and greet, hang with your fans,

1557
01:24:34,160 --> 01:24:37,400
Speaker 1: signed some autographs, player show, hang out after the show,

1558
01:24:37,960 --> 01:24:41,160
Speaker 1: sign autographs, take picture and stuff like that. Um, and

1559
01:24:41,200 --> 01:24:43,920
Speaker 1: then you roll out, usually very late at night because

1560
01:24:43,920 --> 01:24:47,960
Speaker 1: the best the best traveling time is in the middle

1561
01:24:47,960 --> 01:24:50,080
Speaker 1: of the night for the buses because there's no traffic.

1562
01:24:50,439 --> 01:24:52,439
Speaker 1: So do you guys leave I am? Do you leave

1563
01:24:52,479 --> 01:24:56,879
Speaker 1: it two am? That's common? That's common, you know, midnight

1564
01:24:57,000 --> 01:25:00,200
Speaker 1: to UM. Depends on how long the drive is. And

1565
01:25:00,200 --> 01:25:02,120
Speaker 1: if it's a really long drive, well we'll go out

1566
01:25:02,160 --> 01:25:05,320
Speaker 1: with double drivers, will bring a couple of drivers, um,

1567
01:25:05,400 --> 01:25:07,679
Speaker 1: you know, and uh, you know, a couple of drivers

1568
01:25:07,720 --> 01:25:12,599
Speaker 1: will split the shifts like that. What's your absolute favorite

1569
01:25:12,600 --> 01:25:17,920
Speaker 1: thing about being on tour? I like, I like not

1570
01:25:18,120 --> 01:25:19,960
Speaker 1: sticking around, you know what I mean. I like just

1571
01:25:20,080 --> 01:25:22,240
Speaker 1: kind of checking out the scenery and then hopping on

1572
01:25:22,320 --> 01:25:24,200
Speaker 1: the bus and split and then go to the next place.

1573
01:25:24,600 --> 01:25:26,040
Speaker 1: That's just what I like to do, you know. I

1574
01:25:26,080 --> 01:25:29,120
Speaker 1: like the fact that it changes every day, and I

1575
01:25:29,160 --> 01:25:33,479
Speaker 1: actually like the small inconveniences that kind of forced you

1576
01:25:33,520 --> 01:25:37,160
Speaker 1: to go out, and you know, it makes the most

1577
01:25:37,560 --> 01:25:41,840
Speaker 1: fundamental task become a task. You're like, oh, damn, I

1578
01:25:41,920 --> 01:25:44,920
Speaker 1: just ran out of whatever. I don't have a car here.

1579
01:25:45,000 --> 01:25:46,880
Speaker 1: I need to go figure out a ride to get

1580
01:25:46,920 --> 01:25:49,639
Speaker 1: to such and such. And to be honest with you,

1581
01:25:49,960 --> 01:25:52,160
Speaker 1: just because day to day life is so much easier

1582
01:25:52,200 --> 01:25:56,120
Speaker 1: at home and kind of like overly convenient at home

1583
01:25:56,280 --> 01:25:59,559
Speaker 1: tends to be overly convenient. Um, it's nice being down

1584
01:25:59,600 --> 01:26:02,560
Speaker 1: the road as it kind of the small things to

1585
01:26:02,640 --> 01:26:05,360
Speaker 1: do are actually pleasurable. I don't know how to I

1586
01:26:05,400 --> 01:26:07,640
Speaker 1: don't know how to over I can't really sell that

1587
01:26:07,760 --> 01:26:10,400
Speaker 1: idea to anybody. But if you just notice everything is

1588
01:26:10,400 --> 01:26:12,080
Speaker 1: where you're used to having it, and then you kind

1589
01:26:12,080 --> 01:26:14,960
Speaker 1: of get thrown into a different house in a different

1590
01:26:15,000 --> 01:26:18,320
Speaker 1: town every day. Um, you know, it's just it just

1591
01:26:18,400 --> 01:26:22,760
Speaker 1: changes your your routine sounds. I mean, it sounds like

1592
01:26:22,800 --> 01:26:24,960
Speaker 1: you're it sounds like you got it down. It sounds

1593
01:26:25,040 --> 01:26:28,680
Speaker 1: kind of cool. It's an adventure. It's like being I've

1594
01:26:28,680 --> 01:26:32,120
Speaker 1: been on tour with yeah, my wife and her brother,

1595
01:26:32,200 --> 01:26:35,000
Speaker 1: my brother in law. Um, and it is it's an eventure.

1596
01:26:35,000 --> 01:26:37,360
Speaker 1: You have little many adventures in every little city, like

1597
01:26:37,400 --> 01:26:38,960
Speaker 1: something goes wrong, you don't know where this is and

1598
01:26:38,960 --> 01:26:41,040
Speaker 1: you have to figure this out, and it's every day

1599
01:26:41,160 --> 01:26:42,439
Speaker 1: is kind of a new little day. You get to

1600
01:26:42,439 --> 01:26:46,240
Speaker 1: the new venues. There's different staff, Um, different places have

1601
01:26:46,720 --> 01:26:49,760
Speaker 1: you can probably attest to this. Some audiences in some

1602
01:26:49,840 --> 01:26:52,160
Speaker 1: places are exceptional and other ones you'll have to work

1603
01:26:52,200 --> 01:26:58,120
Speaker 1: harder to get them to feel some energy back from them. Absolutely, absolutely, absolutely,

1604
01:26:58,120 --> 01:27:00,880
Speaker 1: there's certain things about it that are really predictable, but

1605
01:27:01,000 --> 01:27:06,160
Speaker 1: there's certain things about it also that they're they're completely uncontrollable, right,

1606
01:27:06,439 --> 01:27:08,599
Speaker 1: and so you know, and the reality is you can

1607
01:27:08,640 --> 01:27:12,600
Speaker 1: give the same show, uh, tomorrow night. I think you

1608
01:27:12,680 --> 01:27:17,280
Speaker 1: give tonight and tonight's show people are next actolutely losing

1609
01:27:17,320 --> 01:27:20,120
Speaker 1: their minds and tomorrow night you may feel like, you know,

1610
01:27:20,120 --> 01:27:23,080
Speaker 1: they're you know, they're sleep at the wheel, but it

1611
01:27:23,160 --> 01:27:25,120
Speaker 1: doesn't mean they're not loving the show. Do you ever

1612
01:27:25,200 --> 01:27:28,600
Speaker 1: change the show set list from one night to the

1613
01:27:28,600 --> 01:27:31,840
Speaker 1: next night? Is a change? Yeah, well we'll alter some

1614
01:27:31,920 --> 01:27:34,640
Speaker 1: things and just to keep it fresh for ourselves up

1615
01:27:34,640 --> 01:27:38,400
Speaker 1: on stage. Um, you know, you get the few maybe

1616
01:27:38,400 --> 01:27:41,760
Speaker 1: a first a few nights going give it a little consistency,

1617
01:27:41,920 --> 01:27:44,880
Speaker 1: just so you feel like you have your bearings then

1618
01:27:44,920 --> 01:27:47,519
Speaker 1: to begin, you know, making making changes kind of like

1619
01:27:47,600 --> 01:27:50,200
Speaker 1: learning anything, you know what I mean, Like learning an instrument,

1620
01:27:50,240 --> 01:27:52,040
Speaker 1: The same thing with kind of learning your set list,

1621
01:27:52,120 --> 01:27:54,800
Speaker 1: and than any technique. You learn your technique and then

1622
01:27:54,840 --> 01:27:56,880
Speaker 1: you start expounding on your technique, you know what I mean.

1623
01:27:56,960 --> 01:27:59,479
Speaker 1: Same thing with same thing with the show the second

1624
01:27:59,479 --> 01:28:03,120
Speaker 1: you start, the second you get a few down and

1625
01:28:03,200 --> 01:28:06,880
Speaker 1: you're feeling you're really capable of it, that then you

1626
01:28:06,920 --> 01:28:09,880
Speaker 1: could start throwing throwing wrenches at it and uh, you know,

1627
01:28:09,880 --> 01:28:11,680
Speaker 1: and altering it a little bit here and there and

1628
01:28:11,760 --> 01:28:14,800
Speaker 1: kind of keeping it, keeping it interesting for yourself. Plus

1629
01:28:14,880 --> 01:28:17,360
Speaker 1: you know, there's a lot of revisitation, you know, with

1630
01:28:17,439 --> 01:28:19,479
Speaker 1: fans will come out. Some fans will come out to

1631
01:28:20,000 --> 01:28:21,800
Speaker 1: you know, one or two shows. Some fans come out

1632
01:28:21,840 --> 01:28:23,800
Speaker 1: to ten shows, do you know what I mean? And

1633
01:28:24,000 --> 01:28:26,200
Speaker 1: just showed people who come out to eight shows, you

1634
01:28:26,240 --> 01:28:28,599
Speaker 1: know what I mean. So, and and you want to

1635
01:28:28,640 --> 01:28:31,880
Speaker 1: give them some variation so that they go, oh wow,

1636
01:28:31,920 --> 01:28:35,479
Speaker 1: that night he played you know, some song that they

1637
01:28:35,479 --> 01:28:38,400
Speaker 1: haven't heard in you know, ten years, you know. So,

1638
01:28:39,400 --> 01:28:41,160
Speaker 1: and I think I think you need to do that

1639
01:28:41,280 --> 01:28:43,799
Speaker 1: right exactly we never know. It's like you played Chariot

1640
01:28:43,800 --> 01:28:45,719
Speaker 1: one night, or you know, I tend to play Chariot

1641
01:28:45,760 --> 01:28:47,880
Speaker 1: more often just because it was a hit, So you

1642
01:28:48,000 --> 01:28:50,360
Speaker 1: to play Chariot, I don't want to be not over you.

1643
01:28:50,920 --> 01:28:53,680
Speaker 1: Certain songs that are bigger hits, you try to you

1644
01:28:53,760 --> 01:28:57,400
Speaker 1: try to give those to your fans on a regular basis.

1645
01:28:57,439 --> 01:29:00,280
Speaker 1: Do you always save one of those for the core?

1646
01:29:00,360 --> 01:29:03,120
Speaker 1: And do you leave the stage and demand the standing

1647
01:29:03,160 --> 01:29:07,439
Speaker 1: ovation to woo you you gonna love this, so so

1648
01:29:07,640 --> 01:29:09,880
Speaker 1: get this, so my so my first, my first big

1649
01:29:09,960 --> 01:29:15,880
Speaker 1: hit was was I Don't want to be right, I

1650
01:29:15,920 --> 01:29:19,120
Speaker 1: don't want to be And I remember I started becoming

1651
01:29:19,160 --> 01:29:21,760
Speaker 1: a hit song, and I remember I was getting all

1652
01:29:21,800 --> 01:29:24,120
Speaker 1: these gigs um and and a lot of the gigs

1653
01:29:24,120 --> 01:29:27,240
Speaker 1: that were coming were sort of, uh like college type

1654
01:29:27,280 --> 01:29:33,559
Speaker 1: gigs right and and which almost seemed like the jokers

1655
01:29:33,560 --> 01:29:36,519
Speaker 1: on me because I quit school and so you know

1656
01:29:36,560 --> 01:29:40,240
Speaker 1: they're they be playing all these colleges, and I remember

1657
01:29:40,720 --> 01:29:42,640
Speaker 1: I wanted to change things up. So one day I

1658
01:29:42,680 --> 01:29:45,240
Speaker 1: go out and I played the song that's the big hit,

1659
01:29:46,080 --> 01:29:49,080
Speaker 1: um the first hit, and I played it like fifth

1660
01:29:49,120 --> 01:29:53,400
Speaker 1: song and by like the tenth song. They're like half

1661
01:29:53,439 --> 01:29:57,240
Speaker 1: as made people in there, and they showed up to

1662
01:29:57,280 --> 01:30:02,680
Speaker 1: hear one song. We got what we came herefore to

1663
01:30:02,720 --> 01:30:09,160
Speaker 1: see you later, sucker, you know, and so you know,

1664
01:30:09,479 --> 01:30:11,080
Speaker 1: but but you know, it's a little bit of a

1665
01:30:11,120 --> 01:30:13,720
Speaker 1: learning curve there. But at the same time, you know,

1666
01:30:13,800 --> 01:30:16,760
Speaker 1: you you you must play certain songs at your show.

1667
01:30:16,840 --> 01:30:18,599
Speaker 1: The song is that of your biggest hits, you gotta

1668
01:30:18,600 --> 01:30:21,840
Speaker 1: play those. It's important. What's your what's your favorite song

1669
01:30:22,000 --> 01:30:24,360
Speaker 1: right now? To play the one that you just like

1670
01:30:24,560 --> 01:30:26,080
Speaker 1: might not be the biggest hit, but the one that

1671
01:30:26,200 --> 01:30:32,160
Speaker 1: you yourself enjoy singing the most most recently. It would

1672
01:30:32,160 --> 01:30:36,000
Speaker 1: probably be the most recent one. Uh, that I've been

1673
01:30:36,600 --> 01:30:38,320
Speaker 1: wanting to add to the set list for a few

1674
01:30:38,400 --> 01:30:42,799
Speaker 1: years but haven't. It's called You Make My Heart Sing Louder,

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01:30:43,320 --> 01:30:47,040
Speaker 1: and uh because that was my mom's favorite song from

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01:30:47,080 --> 01:30:50,400
Speaker 1: my last record and uh yeah, now my mom is

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01:30:50,400 --> 01:30:53,040
Speaker 1: not around anymore. So it's so it was great to

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01:30:54,000 --> 01:30:56,400
Speaker 1: nail that one down in the studio or in the

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01:30:56,560 --> 01:31:01,080
Speaker 1: rehearsal studio. Um, I feel like we we finally we're

1680
01:31:01,120 --> 01:31:03,600
Speaker 1: executing it right, you know, to bring it out on

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01:31:03,680 --> 01:31:06,679
Speaker 1: tour this tour, will you will you intro it with

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01:31:06,720 --> 01:31:09,080
Speaker 1: that that it was your mom's favorite song and this

1683
01:31:09,120 --> 01:31:11,720
Speaker 1: is why you want to tell stories about the do

1684
01:31:12,120 --> 01:31:16,759
Speaker 1: you get? It depends on the night, you know. Sometimes

1685
01:31:16,760 --> 01:31:20,400
Speaker 1: some songs you roll right through. Yeah, Sometimes you pick

1686
01:31:20,439 --> 01:31:23,160
Speaker 1: your certain moments in the show to stay, you know,

1687
01:31:23,200 --> 01:31:26,280
Speaker 1: if you if you find this is something that that's

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01:31:26,280 --> 01:31:29,920
Speaker 1: really worth telling. Sometimes you tell little bits and pieces

1689
01:31:29,960 --> 01:31:32,320
Speaker 1: throughout the show and you think, oh, that's not connecting

1690
01:31:32,520 --> 01:31:35,519
Speaker 1: or maybe I'm talking too much throughout the show and

1691
01:31:35,640 --> 01:31:39,800
Speaker 1: taking the flow from the actual show. You know. So

1692
01:31:39,840 --> 01:31:44,880
Speaker 1: there's that fine line right between um, the bits of

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01:31:44,920 --> 01:31:50,160
Speaker 1: storytelling and the relatability stuff on stage. Uh, but also

1694
01:31:50,600 --> 01:31:53,599
Speaker 1: trying not to slow the showdown so much where they're like, man,

1695
01:31:53,640 --> 01:31:55,800
Speaker 1: this is a real snooze fest. If I thought we

1696
01:31:55,840 --> 01:31:57,560
Speaker 1: were too many story time, I would have gone to

1697
01:31:57,600 --> 01:32:00,280
Speaker 1: the bookstore, you know what I mean. So, you know,

1698
01:32:00,520 --> 01:32:03,000
Speaker 1: so you're trying to you try to find those sweet

1699
01:32:03,040 --> 01:32:07,160
Speaker 1: spots where you're we're the right times to the right

1700
01:32:07,280 --> 01:32:11,160
Speaker 1: times to engage the audience. Have you have you thought

1701
01:32:11,200 --> 01:32:13,000
Speaker 1: about giving a shout out and being like, listen, if

1702
01:32:13,000 --> 01:32:16,360
Speaker 1: you guys like hearing me talk, download the How Men

1703
01:32:16,479 --> 01:32:21,200
Speaker 1: Think podcast? That's right, I mean, these arenas are packed, right,

1704
01:32:22,120 --> 01:32:25,000
Speaker 1: you do this I agree with you, and we should

1705
01:32:25,040 --> 01:32:32,920
Speaker 1: have a T shirt that tays Brooks sucks toes. Ryan

1706
01:32:32,960 --> 01:32:39,519
Speaker 1: will make one for me. That's right by the way

1707
01:32:39,600 --> 01:32:41,360
Speaker 1: on your tour bus. Do you have do you This

1708
01:32:41,400 --> 01:32:43,479
Speaker 1: is gonna seem like a base on the side of

1709
01:32:43,520 --> 01:32:50,400
Speaker 1: the bus, doesn't I have like your autograph like that?

1710
01:32:50,640 --> 01:32:52,599
Speaker 1: That's you know what that says when you have your

1711
01:32:52,640 --> 01:32:54,360
Speaker 1: face on the side of your bus says I'm a

1712
01:32:54,439 --> 01:32:56,280
Speaker 1: big deal. I got my face on the side of

1713
01:32:56,360 --> 01:32:59,599
Speaker 1: a bus. Boom. It says, draw something in my mouth

1714
01:32:59,640 --> 01:33:03,240
Speaker 1: with the sharpie and on the outside. That's why Ryan

1715
01:33:03,360 --> 01:33:05,640
Speaker 1: was asking, you're gonna fly down there and do that?

1716
01:33:07,240 --> 01:33:11,519
Speaker 1: So here's the real important question, um, or actually, I'm

1717
01:33:11,560 --> 01:33:13,479
Speaker 1: just excited to say I'll see you in a couple

1718
01:33:13,520 --> 01:33:15,880
Speaker 1: of days at that place where we're doing the gig

1719
01:33:16,040 --> 01:33:18,559
Speaker 1: together that we told that we said we wouldn't tell

1720
01:33:18,560 --> 01:33:20,120
Speaker 1: the other guys about you know what I'm talking about.

1721
01:33:21,080 --> 01:33:23,120
Speaker 1: So I'll be excited to see you there. But um,

1722
01:33:23,560 --> 01:33:26,280
Speaker 1: how come, how come we haven't actually been offered a

1723
01:33:26,320 --> 01:33:29,200
Speaker 1: featuring gig on your tour. I thought we were good,

1724
01:33:29,680 --> 01:33:33,360
Speaker 1: or at least like maybe maybe there should be a

1725
01:33:33,520 --> 01:33:35,800
Speaker 1: day that you guys come at and we just sit

1726
01:33:35,920 --> 01:33:38,120
Speaker 1: on stage and we do an episode in front of

1727
01:33:38,160 --> 01:33:41,760
Speaker 1: the audience. So see what he did there. You see

1728
01:33:41,800 --> 01:33:44,839
Speaker 1: what he did there. That's a deflection. That's a classic.

1729
01:33:45,040 --> 01:33:47,160
Speaker 1: But I like this better. I'd rather go talking for

1730
01:33:47,200 --> 01:33:49,200
Speaker 1: the audience than go and sing. No. But he just

1731
01:33:49,280 --> 01:33:51,880
Speaker 1: said what he just said in in a polite way,

1732
01:33:52,000 --> 01:33:55,160
Speaker 1: was you guys can't sing worth? Yeah, no, he's right, though, No,

1733
01:33:55,439 --> 01:33:57,120
Speaker 1: that's not what I said. What I meant to say

1734
01:33:57,320 --> 01:34:00,439
Speaker 1: was what I meant to say was what you guys

1735
01:34:00,479 --> 01:34:06,000
Speaker 1: show up. I'm gonna need some extra hands moving the gear, alright.

1736
01:34:06,040 --> 01:34:12,360
Speaker 1: But Ryan wants his face on the bus though, Man, absolutely, well,

1737
01:34:12,439 --> 01:34:16,519
Speaker 1: we all got sharpie. Be careful, be careful. What the

1738
01:34:16,680 --> 01:34:19,559
Speaker 1: portrait you put up? Man? I think yeah, I think

1739
01:34:19,600 --> 01:34:21,240
Speaker 1: that would be great. Come on out if you want

1740
01:34:21,280 --> 01:34:23,600
Speaker 1: to get up and we'll do a little jam. You

1741
01:34:23,680 --> 01:34:26,920
Speaker 1: guys play any instruments I do. I play guitar, I

1742
01:34:26,960 --> 01:34:30,519
Speaker 1: played drums, and I play piano. Is that true? That's true?

1743
01:34:30,640 --> 01:34:32,320
Speaker 1: When I was seven, eight and nine, my mom said

1744
01:34:32,320 --> 01:34:34,240
Speaker 1: I had to take piano lessons. She took piano, and

1745
01:34:34,280 --> 01:34:35,840
Speaker 1: she said I had to take piano where I couldn't

1746
01:34:35,840 --> 01:34:38,479
Speaker 1: play hockey. So I learned piano at a very young age.

1747
01:34:38,560 --> 01:34:41,559
Speaker 1: And then when I turned pro, I was nineteen years

1748
01:34:41,600 --> 01:34:44,840
Speaker 1: old and a trainer in our room. His dad had

1749
01:34:44,880 --> 01:34:47,559
Speaker 1: got arthritis, and his dad played guitar and had nine

1750
01:34:47,640 --> 01:34:50,920
Speaker 1: guitars for sale. He was trying to sell his dad's guitar,

1751
01:34:50,960 --> 01:34:52,400
Speaker 1: and I said, I'll buy one, Just give me one.

1752
01:34:52,439 --> 01:34:54,240
Speaker 1: All buy like I can make it. You're like I

1753
01:34:54,320 --> 01:34:56,439
Speaker 1: can make it. I can make a stick out of this.

1754
01:34:59,200 --> 01:35:01,760
Speaker 1: And then so that's how I picked up guitar. And

1755
01:35:01,840 --> 01:35:03,439
Speaker 1: then I used to go to the guitar center to

1756
01:35:03,479 --> 01:35:05,240
Speaker 1: get new strings and look at guitars and all that

1757
01:35:05,320 --> 01:35:06,519
Speaker 1: kind of stuff. And in the one day I was

1758
01:35:06,560 --> 01:35:07,920
Speaker 1: in there, there was a sale on drums, and I

1759
01:35:08,000 --> 01:35:10,200
Speaker 1: just bought a set of drums so I can play

1760
01:35:11,800 --> 01:35:14,120
Speaker 1: my drumming. I actually I love drums, man. When I

1761
01:35:14,200 --> 01:35:16,679
Speaker 1: had when I had drums and guitar in my basement

1762
01:35:16,720 --> 01:35:18,439
Speaker 1: in my house, I would go downstairs and I would

1763
01:35:18,439 --> 01:35:22,400
Speaker 1: gravitate towards the drums first. I wish I would. I

1764
01:35:22,479 --> 01:35:25,280
Speaker 1: have never taken any lessons in in guitar or drums

1765
01:35:25,560 --> 01:35:27,599
Speaker 1: um and ended up giving them away when I left

1766
01:35:27,680 --> 01:35:30,880
Speaker 1: d c UM. But it's so much fun, man, You

1767
01:35:30,960 --> 01:35:34,800
Speaker 1: can lose yourself in music. It is so much fun. Yeah, absolutely,

1768
01:35:35,120 --> 01:35:37,240
Speaker 1: they say that. They say that, and I don't know

1769
01:35:37,240 --> 01:35:39,599
Speaker 1: if this is true, but they say that people who

1770
01:35:39,720 --> 01:35:44,479
Speaker 1: played drums and people who study martial arts that their

1771
01:35:44,720 --> 01:35:51,479
Speaker 1: brain actually rewires itself for for your limb independence. Oh yeah,

1772
01:35:51,600 --> 01:35:54,479
Speaker 1: that's the first thing. You have to completely big time.

1773
01:35:54,520 --> 01:35:56,240
Speaker 1: Have you ever played drums? Have you played, like, sat

1774
01:35:56,280 --> 01:35:58,240
Speaker 1: down and tried to play those drums? Can you? I

1775
01:35:58,840 --> 01:36:03,439
Speaker 1: only do it for money, Um, it is, but you

1776
01:36:03,560 --> 01:36:06,800
Speaker 1: have to break everything everything, Like your limbs all move

1777
01:36:06,880 --> 01:36:08,680
Speaker 1: in sequence. They go up and down together, and you

1778
01:36:08,760 --> 01:36:10,719
Speaker 1: have to break that change so they can move in depends.

1779
01:36:11,360 --> 01:36:14,120
Speaker 1: He's a black belt on the snare drum. Oh yeah,

1780
01:36:17,479 --> 01:36:19,760
Speaker 1: um well, buddy, we appreciate you taking the time. I

1781
01:36:19,800 --> 01:36:22,879
Speaker 1: know you're super busy. I know tour life is excited

1782
01:36:22,920 --> 01:36:24,439
Speaker 1: to talk to you guys. And we missed you at

1783
01:36:24,479 --> 01:36:26,640
Speaker 1: the lake man. I know, I know I missed you

1784
01:36:26,720 --> 01:36:29,280
Speaker 1: guys too. I heard all these stories. Um, I heard

1785
01:36:29,320 --> 01:36:31,960
Speaker 1: you and Dmitri had a nice little heard you and

1786
01:36:32,120 --> 01:36:34,519
Speaker 1: Dmitri had a nice little date around the lake. He

1787
01:36:34,640 --> 01:36:36,479
Speaker 1: filled us in on the dude. They started saying we

1788
01:36:36,520 --> 01:36:38,519
Speaker 1: had a romantic drive around the lake and finally I

1789
01:36:38,640 --> 01:36:39,760
Speaker 1: just gave in and I said, you know what, it

1790
01:36:39,880 --> 01:36:43,519
Speaker 1: was pretty nice. That's it. That's it us. And uh,

1791
01:36:43,880 --> 01:36:45,880
Speaker 1: you know, a couple of solo cups and a bottle

1792
01:36:45,920 --> 01:36:51,240
Speaker 1: of Corbel. We got crazy and buddy and Buddy, that's it. Um, well, dude,

1793
01:36:51,320 --> 01:36:53,200
Speaker 1: we wish you the best. We wish you the best

1794
01:36:53,240 --> 01:36:55,559
Speaker 1: of luck on tour at some point, at some point

1795
01:36:55,600 --> 01:36:57,800
Speaker 1: we'll come out and see you. Um, just huge fan,

1796
01:36:59,640 --> 01:37:02,200
Speaker 1: huge out of your music. Um. Where can people get

1797
01:37:02,240 --> 01:37:05,080
Speaker 1: tickets for the tour right now? Where can they go?

1798
01:37:06,520 --> 01:37:08,400
Speaker 1: I just go just go to my name Gavin to

1799
01:37:08,479 --> 01:37:11,479
Speaker 1: Grow and just type up Gavin to Grow on tour

1800
01:37:11,920 --> 01:37:14,680
Speaker 1: and you tickets right there and buy the v I

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01:37:14,800 --> 01:37:18,920
Speaker 1: P that's right by the v I P or not

1802
01:37:19,479 --> 01:37:20,920
Speaker 1: and just come on and take out the show man.

1803
01:37:20,960 --> 01:37:23,120
Speaker 1: It's all about the music. So we come out and

1804
01:37:23,439 --> 01:37:25,879
Speaker 1: we do what we do and we put some smiles

1805
01:37:25,920 --> 01:37:32,439
Speaker 1: on faces. We'll have fun. Man. We miss you, yeah, man, thanks, yeah, brother,

1806
01:37:32,600 --> 01:37:38,160
Speaker 1: miss you too, sugar man. Yeah yeah. Shout out to you. Amy.

1807
01:37:39,160 --> 01:37:41,160
Speaker 1: She loves you, she said she loves you. She misses

1808
01:37:41,160 --> 01:37:47,000
Speaker 1: you too. Love she said she's kinky. Okay, buddy, travel

1809
01:37:47,040 --> 01:37:50,120
Speaker 1: safety Well, um, have a fun, have a blast out there,

1810
01:37:50,240 --> 01:37:52,759
Speaker 1: and for everybody else listening, take care of one another,

1811
01:37:52,880 --> 01:37:55,160
Speaker 1: love one another, and we will see you right back

1812
01:37:55,200 --> 01:37:59,439
Speaker 1: here for another episode of How Men Think Next week Licktoes. Yeah,

1813
01:38:03,360 --> 01:38:05,519
Speaker 1: hey guys, it's Brooks and one last thing before we

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01:38:05,600 --> 01:38:07,920
Speaker 1: let you go. If you like today's episode, we would

1815
01:38:08,040 --> 01:38:09,800
Speaker 1: love to get a five star review from you on

1816
01:38:09,920 --> 01:38:12,120
Speaker 1: iTunes and if you could possibly share it with a friend,

1817
01:38:12,240 --> 01:38:14,719
Speaker 1: that would be amazing as well. We always look forward

1818
01:38:14,720 --> 01:38:17,599
Speaker 1: to your questions, comments, or insights, so you can send

1819
01:38:17,680 --> 01:38:20,040
Speaker 1: us an email at men at I heart radio dot

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01:38:20,080 --> 01:38:22,960
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