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Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast

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Speaker 2: Hello everyone, welcome to the Almost Famous podcast. Today Guess

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Speaker 2: what I Am joined by Ben Higgins Surprise and his

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Speaker 2: beautiful wife, Jessica Clark Higgins. We wanted to do a

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Speaker 2: little catch up about parenthood about one month in So

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Speaker 2: Hello guys, Ben, Welcome to your podcast.

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Speaker 3: It's been a long time since I've been here. Thanks

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Speaker 3: for the invite.

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Speaker 2: So first off, jess how are you feeling emotionally physically

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Speaker 2: about a month after giving birth?

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Speaker 4: Physically, I feel, honestly pretty much one hundred percent. I

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Speaker 4: definitely get tired faster than I did before I was

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Speaker 4: pregnant or had a baby, but I'm all healed for

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Speaker 4: the most part. I'm not in diapers anymore. I can

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Speaker 4: walk for like an hour at a time, which is

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Speaker 4: really great and amazing for my mental health because the

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Speaker 4: mental health piece of postpartum is a lot harder for me.

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Speaker 4: I've had a lot more anxiety than I thought I would,

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Speaker 4: a lot more emotional than I normally am.

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Speaker 3: Why did you look at me when you said that?

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Speaker 5: Because I've been more emotional.

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Speaker 2: Because you can vouch for her, yeah, yeah, I'll support her.

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Speaker 2: And say yes, is he looking at you thinking you

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Speaker 2: haven't been more emotional or has he been Like.

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Speaker 6: It's up to you to answer this both.

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Speaker 7: Okay, I don't know what I expected. I expected that

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Speaker 7: postpartum to be hard emotionally. I thought it'd be harder physically,

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Speaker 7: like Jess's was walking a week later and like we go,

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Speaker 7: we just got back from a family walk and like

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Speaker 7: we can walk pretty far.

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Speaker 3: She could walk for as long as she wants.

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Speaker 7: I feel like at this point, amazing, Yeah, I mean,

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Speaker 7: the emotions are are all over the place. I think

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Speaker 7: she thinks they're worse than they are. I think she

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Speaker 7: carries this like feeling that it's she's been a monster

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Speaker 7: she has.

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Speaker 4: I'm such a head case, which like I normally am

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Speaker 4: not at all, And I think that a lot of

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Speaker 4: that does have to do with the postpartum emotions. And

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Speaker 4: I am exclusively breastfeeding, and everyone has told me that

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Speaker 4: like with your milk, and it changes every day, so

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Speaker 4: your hormones and emotions change every day. And I've definitely

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Speaker 4: felt that, like some days I'll be totally normal and

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Speaker 4: fine and chill, and some days I'm like so controlling

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Speaker 4: or like I don't want to leave Winny or I

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Speaker 4: just get like nervous about little things, and there's I

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Speaker 4: have no idea how I'm going to wake up every morning, honestly.

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Speaker 2: Well, yeah, so breastfeeding isn't something that I did, so

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Speaker 2: I never I never got to experience the emotions that

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Speaker 2: go with it. I do think that it's it affects

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Speaker 2: you a lot, such a job that you are doing,

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Speaker 2: and you're providing for sweet Winny, so you're just just

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Speaker 2: know that, like every day you're doing so much, and like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I think that like it's just going to take a

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Speaker 2: toll on your body, emotionally, physically, all of it. So

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Speaker 2: don't ever feel you know that, I mean you you know,

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Speaker 2: you know that you're doing an amazing job. So even

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Speaker 2: if you're feeling down, just know that, like you're killing it.

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Speaker 2: But I do think that that probably does make it

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Speaker 2: a prostpartum more of an emotional experience.

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Speaker 4: I've heard that it does. I mean, obviously I don't

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Speaker 4: know either because I haven't not breastfed yet, but I

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Speaker 4: think that no matter what you do, when you have

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Speaker 4: a baby, you just change emotionally for a while, but

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Speaker 4: every day gets better.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean, I think it's I mean, I've seen

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Speaker 7: moments where it definitely feels like it's it's unhealthy. Like

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Speaker 7: There's been very few, but a few moments where I'm like,

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Speaker 7: she's not in a healthy place, something like she's not

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Speaker 7: processing things. Well that those are very few. There's there's

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Speaker 7: another side of it. I think that I've seen where

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Speaker 7: this like concern and she's not overly concerned. I'm definitely though,

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Speaker 7: like less concerned than she is, which was a shock.

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Speaker 3: To both of us.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we asked you that question on the pre parent

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Speaker 2: podcast episode, and we thought that you would be the

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Speaker 2: nervous one.

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Speaker 3: No, very much, like not as nervous, but but there's

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Speaker 3: this cool thing.

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Speaker 7: So my point was, I think what Jess is going

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Speaker 7: through as a mom is actually like really beautiful because

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Speaker 7: she's more nervous, because she's alert, because she thinks about Winnie.

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Speaker 7: Like I don't expect that to continue in the way

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Speaker 7: this like motherly like instinct and love and care and like, yeah,

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Speaker 7: But as you get like in a rhythm and it

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Speaker 3: A second nature to you.

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Speaker 7: I think what we're experiencing is like Jessica's body like

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Speaker 7: building up this like mom instinct, and I think it's

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Speaker 7: cool but not always easy, Like, yeah, you're gonna wake

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Speaker 7: up in the middle night freaking out, like thinking something

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Speaker 7: bad is happening to Lenny when she's just snoozing. But yeah,

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Speaker 7: I mean I've seen a lot of just change in

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Speaker 7: just like for the better, just becoming a mom.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I was gonna say, do you feel like moments where

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Speaker 2: you're like I am experiencing postparum depression, post part anxiety,

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Speaker 2: or do you think it's baby blues somewhere maybe in

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Speaker 4: The first two weeks, I was like, this is postpartum anxiety.

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Speaker 4: I like had the shakes, I couldn't eat, I was

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Speaker 4: like sobbing at everything, Like when he turned seven days

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Speaker 5: I was like, there's no way she can be a

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Speaker 5: week old.

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Speaker 3: That's one of the moments that I was thinking of

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Speaker 4: I like went to the post office for literally fifteen

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Speaker 4: But after those first like two or three weeks, I

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Speaker 5: I don't think I have like postpartum depression.

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Speaker 4: I don't even think I have the baby blues as

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Speaker 4: much as I just I never worried about anything, probably

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Speaker 5: And now it's kind of flipped a little bit.

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Speaker 6: Oh that's hilarious. Okay.

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Speaker 2: So I would say that I probably had the baby

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Speaker 2: It was just everything. I was overcome by emotion, like

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Speaker 2: Like life can get better than this. So one is

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Speaker 4: Is so real every time something bad happens to her,

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Speaker 4: she has a stomach bug, like she has to because

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Speaker 4: nothing bad has happened yet, so like something has to

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I totally really that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And then I mean, good for you on healing

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Speaker 2: so quickly. I was a little bit more of the opposite,

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Speaker 2: Like I felt pretty mentally good, like right off the bat.

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Speaker 2: It's because I hated being pregnant, so like it was

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Speaker 6: And then my body like I couldn't. I don't know

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Speaker 2: You were more torn than me, so tm I but

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Speaker 2: like I couldn't stand for more than five minutes for

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Speaker 4: I started to do pelvic floor physical therapy before I

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Speaker 4: had her, and I helped me so much with just

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Speaker 4: like getting my muscles back, okay, like the standing muscles

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Speaker 5: I feel like that was so helpful.

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Speaker 7: I don't know what yeah, what, Yeah, I mean I

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Speaker 7: think Jess wouldn't say it, but like you got we

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Speaker 7: got to give her a lot of credit. Like she

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Speaker 7: was doing not intense workouts, but she was working out

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Speaker 7: and then she like really prepped her body to recover

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Speaker 7: it wasn't like this crazy amount of like hour long exercises,

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Speaker 3: Then even after.

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Speaker 7: I think has been not only impressive, but it would

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Speaker 7: probably be something like in the little amount of advice

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Speaker 4: Well, and here's what happened is everyone prepared me for

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Speaker 4: the physical piece of postpart and they're like, you're gonna tear,

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Speaker 4: So in my brain, I spent my whole pregnancy like

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Speaker 4: so I think that, yeah, my body has been good,

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Speaker 4: which thank god, because my mind's been a disaster. But

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Speaker 4: next time, I would definitely maybe start like some talk

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Speaker 6: You guys, you trigger me, trigger me, deep, we.

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Speaker 7: But I do think Jessica and I both read enough,

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Speaker 4: Been surprising for me that he how chill he's been

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Speaker 7: Jessica's getting more sleep than me right now, which is crazy.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So, like this is what triggers me, and I

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Speaker 5: She knows when to expect that she's getting things.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so she knows when to expect to feed and like,

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Speaker 2: and now when did you start getting on that schedule?

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Speaker 5: Two weeks?

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Speaker 7: Like she knows what she's going to be playing, Like

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Speaker 7: when she needs to stay awake, she knows like fifteen

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Speaker 7: minutes four feeding time, Like she starts to get fussy,

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Speaker 7: it's wild, Like she really like you, she'll know she

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Speaker 7: knows what she's supposed to be doing at every moment

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Speaker 7: of the day.

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Speaker 6: Right, do you have the most highly intellectual child ever?

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Speaker 3: Yes?

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Speaker 11: Wow, she's so advanced to wow, she can't keep her passing.

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Speaker 11: Don't you love that that at that age that the

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Speaker 11: pacifier is just gigantic on their face?

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Speaker 6: This thing so funny.

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Speaker 5: So sweet.

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Speaker 6: All right, well, we're happy to hear that.

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Speaker 2: You guys, you know that you are recovering so well

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Speaker 2: physically that you know you might need some more time

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Speaker 2: to get there emotionally and mentally.

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Speaker 6: But we're here for you. And you have the best

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Speaker 6: husband who is there for you as well. I do.

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Speaker 5: He's been the best. He's been so supportive.

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Speaker 4: He makes me feel normal when I am having a

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Speaker 4: hard time feeling normal.

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Speaker 5: He's loved me insanely well when I probably don't deserve it.

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Speaker 4: He's such a good dad too. Watching bim be a

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Speaker 4: dad is like the coolest thing in the whole world.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I just like I get like I mean, I

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Speaker 7: obviously my role right now is very limited, but today

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Speaker 7: I had a really busy day Jess. I was like,

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Speaker 7: I want to hold Winny, and so jess brought her in.

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Speaker 7: I was holding her, and all of a sudden, I

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Speaker 7: was like, I haven't done anything in twenty minutes.

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Speaker 3: Like I just like, it's wild how.

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Speaker 7: Peaceful it is just to stare at her. Yeah, and

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Speaker 7: it's been a very peaceful season for me. So I

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Speaker 7: think in closing here, because I know we're going to

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Speaker 7: close up like there. I think we talked about it

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Speaker 7: at the one week like kind of follow up, but

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Speaker 7: I didn't reckon. I don't think I could put words

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Speaker 7: to it then. But like for many reasons, Jessica and

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Speaker 7: I started to get we we had a good lot.

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Speaker 3: We had a good thing.

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Speaker 7: Going here right with a dog and a good house,

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Speaker 7: and we loved our walks and our dinners, and I

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Speaker 7: got really worried towards the end of Justice's pregnancy that

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Speaker 7: that was all going to change in a drastic way.

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Speaker 7: And I didn't realize how like stressed I was about that.

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Speaker 7: But honestly, for the last five weeks, like things have changed,

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Speaker 7: but only for the better, Like our dog loves winning,

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Speaker 7: and like when I saw when I saw them together,

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Speaker 7: obviously I broke down for the first time. Like I

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Speaker 7: think I just was feeling so much stressed that I

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Speaker 7: didn't realize that like once I see life being so beautiful.

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Speaker 7: Now I'm like in a really cool season of like

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Speaker 7: peace and joy and like every day I wake up

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Speaker 7: just feeling this like enormous amount of like gratitude and

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Speaker 7: so that's.

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Speaker 3: Been cool for me.

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Speaker 7: And I didn't realize how stressed I was until like

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Speaker 7: a couple of weeks ago when I told Jessa was like,

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Speaker 7: I haven't felt this kind of peace in so long,

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Speaker 7: and I'm just loving this, Like so yeah, I mean

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Speaker 7: I don't know even with the hard stuff, it's like

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Speaker 7: but we're still doing it together and life's better and

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Speaker 7: I'm happy and we're going to make.

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Speaker 3: This thing work.

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Speaker 2: Let's normalize Dad pre pre labor stress, because like, guys

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Speaker 2: have so much stress leading up to it, and I

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Speaker 2: don't think they're very vocal about it because they feel

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Speaker 2: guilty about it. They're like, she's carried the child for

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Speaker 2: nine months. Why do I have to pumplain it's gonna

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Speaker 2: come out of her body?

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Speaker 7: Right?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, But Jared had the exact same thing before Hayden.

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Speaker 2: He was so stressed about it and then he you know,

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Speaker 2: the baby's there, and you're like, oh, I can relax.

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Speaker 6: But guys, you know, like.

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Speaker 3: It's a real thing.

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Speaker 7: It is like and what you just said is exactly right,

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Speaker 7: Like you don't want to start bringing it up because

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Speaker 7: you're like, this is this is unnecessary, like this is crazy.

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Speaker 7: And then it's just been five weeks of not like

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Speaker 7: all easy, but it's been peace and excitement and joy

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Speaker 7: and and I'm really grateful for that because I was

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Speaker 7: I think I was carrying it for a long time.

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Speaker 6: M hmm.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, I'm so glad we did this, and I'm

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Speaker 2: so happy for you guys, and I truly am happy

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Speaker 2: for your sleep. It's really really great, especially if you're

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Speaker 2: having anxiety, Like I want you to have the mental rest.

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Speaker 6: Thank you.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm very grateful for it.

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Speaker 4: We have.

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Speaker 5: We have some big ones with little Winny over here?

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Speaker 3: Yeah here, so say goodbye? Is me close by?

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Speaker 5: Whinny?

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Speaker 2: So cute? Your so?

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Speaker 6: She's seriously so cute.

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Speaker 3: She is so cute.

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Speaker 6: Hold her up one more Time's.

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Speaker 3: The best family picture with me? Let me get let

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Speaker 3: me not choke you? Why I do this?

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Speaker 6: There you go so cute.

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Speaker 2: Oh the guys are going to be really good. I

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Speaker 2: know this all right, Well, guys, thank you. Until next time.

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Speaker 2: I've been Ashley and I've been Ben, I've been Jess

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