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Speaker 1: there is Uh, what's the I think Bernie alluded to it.

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Speaker 1: What's the win here, right, If the goal is for

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Speaker 1: your guests to have an I mean an unforgettable experience

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Speaker 1: while they wait and you take pictures. I've never I've

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Speaker 1: been to a lot of weddings. Can we come? Can

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Speaker 1: you just like invite to us? That would be sweet,

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Speaker 1: but that your guests will never forget your wedding day

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Speaker 1: if that happens. But if that's not your goal, then

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Speaker 1: you know they make a different decision. I would also

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Speaker 1: say too, it's a good opportunity like something like this

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Speaker 1: for couples considering marriage or moving towards that they have

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Speaker 1: to come to an understanding of how are you going

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Speaker 1: to make difficult decisions? What are the what's the criteria

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Speaker 1: by which you determine one way or the other? And

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Speaker 1: the financial component, but what are the values that you

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Speaker 1: guys have that help you make difficult decisions? Because they're

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Speaker 1: only going to get harder from here, and so you've

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Speaker 1: got to figure that out. How do you guys make

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Speaker 1: decisions whether to move, whether to take this job, whether

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Speaker 1: to you know, let this person move in for a season.

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Speaker 1: There's all kinds of weird life situations that there's no

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Speaker 1: book for, and you just got to figure out how

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Speaker 1: you're going to make those decisions. Great stuff, Mary, honor him,

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Speaker 1: go to him and just say, hey, babe, we should

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Speaker 1: do it. Why Granger Smith said, so, has anyone here

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Speaker 1: written a mechanical or live ball. I've been mechanical, yeah,

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Speaker 1: fun not very long, but I was out there. I

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Speaker 1: interesting question that I picked out of the group and

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Speaker 1: it says greater. My name is Ken. I live in

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Speaker 1: beautiful Falcon, Colorado with my amazing daughter Sammy question do

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Speaker 1: you feel or hear God in your heart or mind?

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Speaker 1: Slash thoughts? Are these at times interchangeable for you? For myself,

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Speaker 1: when I go into prayer about a decision, I'm very

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Speaker 1: aware of my mind trying to justify what I want

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Speaker 1: from the decision. Justifying almost always turns out to be

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Speaker 1: the wrong choice. How do you receive the message? Parker?

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Speaker 1: I'm kicking it off to you because it's an interesting

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Speaker 1: thought and I think highly misunderstood, and I want you

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Speaker 1: to go I want you to go straight reformed on us. Oh,

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Speaker 1: because this is uh, this is how you start babbling

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Speaker 1: in paganism if you start thinking too much about how's

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Speaker 1: God speaking to me? I'm going to kick this off

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Speaker 1: to No, I don't qualify. You've got this table you

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Speaker 1: could crush. I'm not really following the question. If I'm

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Speaker 1: being honest, and I don't know if the listener is

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Speaker 1: he's asking how do you hear God? How do you

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Speaker 1: hear God? And I'm fighting with my own consciousness over

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Speaker 1: what God is telling me? And how do I discern

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Speaker 1: the difference between its exactly exactly? M h. It's difficult,

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Speaker 1: it's not easy. I think that it starts with admitting

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Speaker 1: to God that you need his help, having a conversation

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Speaker 1: with him daily. I know that the Bible tells us

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Speaker 1: it's through the daily renewal of our minds to not hearts. Two. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's a good point. So, I mean John MacArthur passed

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Speaker 1: it that I like always says, I don't know a

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Speaker 1: better way for God to communicate with me what his

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Speaker 1: will is than through my own desires. And that's a

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Speaker 1: dangerous thing to say, because then the second part of

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Speaker 1: that is, Okay, what happens if my desires aren't in

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Speaker 1: line with His will? So this isn't helping very much.

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Speaker 1: But I would say, no, you're right on, You're right

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Speaker 1: where I wanted you to go with this. Yeah. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: So so then the question is, okay, well, how do

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Speaker 1: I align my desires my will with God's? How do

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Speaker 1: I have him give me the desires of my heart. Right,

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Speaker 1: and so I think that it's in trust, it's in

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Speaker 1: the daily reading of his word, it's in the seeking

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Speaker 1: of wise counsel, of godly men who have been there

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Speaker 1: and been in that situation before. It's through deep, honest,

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Speaker 1: humble prayer and repeat those three things and and then

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Speaker 1: you do whatever you want to do. Yeah. Yeah, that's

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Speaker 1: what you would say, is you do those things and

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Speaker 1: then you do whatever you want to do, because by

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Speaker 1: that point he's controlling your want to, he's controlling your desire.

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Speaker 1: He's putting the desires in you. Yeah, it's Psalm. I'm

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Speaker 1: going to get it wrong. Somewhere in the Psalms, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: says delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give

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Speaker 1: you the desires of your heart. And you think about that,

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Speaker 1: where is the center of delight, Well, it's in our heart.

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Speaker 1: So if we delight ourselves in the Lord, then we

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Speaker 1: get what our heart wants, which is Him. Right, So

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Speaker 1: as I pursue Him and am satisfied in Him, then

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Speaker 1: whatever I set out to do is going to glorify him.

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Speaker 1: So when I delight myself and him, he will give

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Speaker 1: me the desires of my heart. Some people read that

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Speaker 1: and go, well, all all kind of do lip service

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Speaker 1: to God, and then I'll get the ferrari, which is

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Speaker 1: what I really want. Right, Well, that's not the that's

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Speaker 1: not delighting yourself in the Lord truly, and so yeah,

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Speaker 1: I think you're I like what you said. I think

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Speaker 1: you're highly qualified. Yep. And I also say, Chad, I'm

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Speaker 1: thankful that you didn't quote where that was in the

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Speaker 1: psalms and you don't know, because it makes me feel

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Speaker 1: a little better at the pastor of the table. Can't

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Speaker 1: do it. So if I can't do it them, well,

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Speaker 1: the Bible says, I love that I could have said that. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I love it. Well, I think too. Some people they

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Speaker 1: go down a mystical road. They're wondering. I think we

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Speaker 1: back in one of the earlier podcasts, we had somebody

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Speaker 1: saying do you see God in the clouds? And some

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Speaker 1: people wonder, is there like an audible voice when when

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Speaker 1: Christians talk about I heard from the Lord or the

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Speaker 1: Lord was showing me, and we would naturally go, okay, well,

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Speaker 1: is there an apparition in the room or is there

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Speaker 1: a voice that you hear, or are there signs that

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Speaker 1: you're looking for, and they want there to be some

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Speaker 1: something more magical or mystical. Then he's revealed himself in

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Speaker 1: his Word. He speaks by the Holy Spirit through his body,

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Speaker 1: which are the body of believers. And so he has

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Speaker 1: revealed himself in creation to a certain extent, right, not

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Speaker 1: in the clouds or whatever, but the clouds declare his glory.

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Speaker 1: So we don't look for these magical mystical experiences. He's spoken,

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Speaker 1: He's revealed himself in the Word. And there's an analogy

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Speaker 1: about how the Holy Spirit works that's always helped me

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Speaker 1: to say, to understand the things that people claim are

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Speaker 1: happening via the Holy Spirit, like are they legitimate or not?

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Speaker 1: And if you've ever been to Washington, DC and gone

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Speaker 1: to check out all the monuments, have you guys been, Yeah, incredible.

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Speaker 1: And the best time to go is at night because

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Speaker 1: then not only is it not super hot, because I've

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Speaker 1: only ever been there in the summer and it's really

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Speaker 1: hot there, but the way the lights illuminate and bring

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Speaker 1: to life some of these monuments, and the fascinating thing

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Speaker 1: that I noticed one time when walking through there, I

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Speaker 1: can always see the monuments in the Korean War Memorial

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Speaker 1: or the Vietnam Memorial or the Lincoln Memorial. You can

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Speaker 1: see them and they're perfectly lit up. But what you

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Speaker 1: never notice is the actual light bulb that's doing it.

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Speaker 1: They're always like recessed in the ground or behind a

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Speaker 1: shrub or but you never can see the glare of

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Speaker 1: a bulb. You just see the light that it produces,

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Speaker 1: and it illuminates the monument the thing that you came

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Speaker 1: to see. And that is exactly like the ministry of

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Speaker 1: the Holy Spirit. That his goal, the reason why he

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Speaker 1: was sent, was to manifest and make known Christ. And

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Speaker 1: so if a thing that we're claiming is of the

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Speaker 1: Spirit of God, if it doesn't make much of Jesus

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Speaker 1: and cause us to look to him and exalt him,

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Speaker 1: then it may not be of the spirit, because his

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Speaker 1: whole goal is to get us to look and see

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Speaker 1: the wonderful works of God through Jesus Christ. That's so good, Kenya.

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Speaker 1: This is never as complicated as you think. If you're reading,

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Speaker 1: if you're deep in the Word, you're deep in prayer,

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Speaker 1: if you're surrounding yourself, like Parker said, with wise counsel

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Speaker 1: of godly men, then at that point you literally do

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Speaker 1: what you want because at that point, God is controlling

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Speaker 1: your wants. That is, it's so simple that it's revolutionary.

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Speaker 1: But don't sit around and think I don't hear anything God.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to listen for you, and I don't hear

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Speaker 1: you talking. He's not going to talk to you because

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Speaker 1: he only did that a few times to some of

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Speaker 1: the prophets, but everybody else in the Bible, he did

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Speaker 1: it through their desires and they're once. So yeah, there

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Speaker 1: you go. Brother, Let's let's find how about this? Uh,

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Speaker 1: Let's see if I can get one that's not about God.

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Speaker 1: I get so many questions about God. Now this one

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Speaker 1: says trying not to be a Karen Hey, Granger and Guest.

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Speaker 1: I have a situation i'd like to get your input on.

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Speaker 1: I'm currently married and been married for seven years. We

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Speaker 1: have one child. We are having issues such as communication, trust,

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Speaker 1: et cetera. He works out of town a lot. I'm

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Speaker 1: wondering do I put in the effort to fix the

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Speaker 1: relationship or give up and go our own ways. I

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Speaker 1: have asked to seek couples counseling and I got a

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Speaker 1: maybe from him. I have also looked into divorce. I

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Speaker 1: truly don't know what to do. Thanks for your input, Karen.

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Speaker 1: Let me start by this, Karen, is their abuse evolved involved?

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Speaker 1: Is there is there cheating involved? Is your Yeah, she

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Speaker 1: jumped pretty quick from yeah he works out of town

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Speaker 1: and or sorry we're having trouble communicating? Should I just

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Speaker 1: leave and like get divorced? And whoa? There's a lot

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Speaker 1: in between there that we don't know what's going on.

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Speaker 1: I guess there should be. If it's if she's making

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00:39:30,000 --> 00:39:33,400
Speaker 1: that leap, there must be something. Is your child in danger?

639
00:39:34,480 --> 00:39:38,359
Speaker 1: If you answer no to any of those questions, then

640
00:39:38,600 --> 00:39:45,759
Speaker 1: absolutely do not give up. Don't that that is That

641
00:39:45,880 --> 00:39:49,640
Speaker 1: is a huge problem in society today. Marriage is not

642
00:39:49,840 --> 00:39:54,400
Speaker 1: does not have an exit plan that doesn't come with contingencies.

643
00:39:55,760 --> 00:39:59,640
Speaker 1: That's not what it's about. And so you can't get

644
00:39:59,640 --> 00:40:01,960
Speaker 1: in your head that that's even a possibility. The D

645
00:40:02,080 --> 00:40:06,120
Speaker 1: word is out. Unless your child's in danger, unless you're

646
00:40:06,160 --> 00:40:10,600
Speaker 1: in danger, unless he unless he is cheated and will

647
00:40:10,640 --> 00:40:13,759
Speaker 1: not repent to you. Because even if he cheated, you

648
00:40:13,760 --> 00:40:22,280
Speaker 1: could you still got to try to hold it together. Parker,

649
00:40:22,320 --> 00:40:24,279
Speaker 1: you're you're the single man of the group. Well, you're

650
00:40:24,320 --> 00:40:29,040
Speaker 1: the one that's not married out of this group. I

651
00:40:29,080 --> 00:40:31,359
Speaker 1: know that you you're not looking at marriage in your

652
00:40:31,360 --> 00:40:34,120
Speaker 1: future as something that's going to have an explan to it.

653
00:40:34,840 --> 00:40:37,799
Speaker 1: You're not ever going to get into a marriage where

654
00:40:37,840 --> 00:40:40,719
Speaker 1: you might have to ask I don't know what to do,

655
00:40:41,000 --> 00:40:46,600
Speaker 1: should just give up? Right? Yeah? I think, Uh, that's

656
00:40:46,680 --> 00:40:48,560
Speaker 1: kind of why I was interested in going to the

657
00:40:48,560 --> 00:40:50,680
Speaker 1: ghosting question after this one, so that you don't end

658
00:40:50,760 --> 00:40:54,600
Speaker 1: up in this situation because that next girl, I'm assuming

659
00:40:54,600 --> 00:40:56,640
Speaker 1: he's going to say, there's a guy who just who

660
00:40:56,719 --> 00:40:58,319
Speaker 1: led me on and was talking to me, and then

661
00:40:58,360 --> 00:41:01,440
Speaker 1: now he's gone, and I have no idea, and I

662
00:41:01,480 --> 00:41:03,520
Speaker 1: feel really wronged and cheated and I want him back.

663
00:41:03,520 --> 00:41:06,080
Speaker 1: What do I do? It's like, you thank God that

664
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:08,440
Speaker 1: you didn't marry that guy, and he got out of

665
00:41:08,440 --> 00:41:11,239
Speaker 1: your life and made the decision for you. So I

666
00:41:11,280 --> 00:41:16,200
Speaker 1: think it just starts with understanding the seriousness and gravity

667
00:41:16,280 --> 00:41:19,720
Speaker 1: of what marriage is, yes, and that you're bringing God

668
00:41:19,800 --> 00:41:22,239
Speaker 1: into this relationship to become one. I think that one

669
00:41:22,239 --> 00:41:25,080
Speaker 1: of the biggest problems with society today is we just

670
00:41:25,160 --> 00:41:29,640
Speaker 1: don't take that seriously. That doesn't really help her in

671
00:41:29,640 --> 00:41:32,560
Speaker 1: this situation now, except for the fact that she needs

672
00:41:32,600 --> 00:41:37,440
Speaker 1: to fight, and only I mean, unless it was really

673
00:41:37,480 --> 00:41:40,959
Speaker 1: really really bad. Like you said, would you consider that child?

674
00:41:41,560 --> 00:41:45,440
Speaker 1: Did she mention like relationship with God or like no? No.

675
00:41:45,480 --> 00:41:47,480
Speaker 1: That's kind of why I read it because one of

676
00:41:47,520 --> 00:41:50,920
Speaker 1: the few that don't say God. Okay. So second question

677
00:41:50,960 --> 00:41:55,920
Speaker 1: would be what what when you say like fight for

678
00:41:55,960 --> 00:41:59,120
Speaker 1: it practically? What does Karen need to do? I would

679
00:41:59,160 --> 00:42:02,680
Speaker 1: say this with Karen, I would say I would go

680
00:42:02,760 --> 00:42:07,040
Speaker 1: to him and go, Honey, I know you're wishy washy

681
00:42:07,120 --> 00:42:10,200
Speaker 1: about going to counseling, but we're going to do it.

682
00:42:10,960 --> 00:42:12,480
Speaker 1: We're gonna do it me and you are going to

683
00:42:12,520 --> 00:42:15,680
Speaker 1: do it because I love you, and I made a

684
00:42:15,800 --> 00:42:21,880
Speaker 1: vow to love you until death, through sickness, through trouble.

685
00:42:22,360 --> 00:42:25,040
Speaker 1: We made a vow and I will stand by you.

686
00:42:25,719 --> 00:42:29,680
Speaker 1: We have if anything, we have a child that this

687
00:42:29,760 --> 00:42:33,360
Speaker 1: will devastate. Look at the statistics, it will devastate that

688
00:42:33,400 --> 00:42:36,360
Speaker 1: You're you're teeter tottering here with devastating this child or

689
00:42:36,360 --> 00:42:40,760
Speaker 1: putting this child on a path that's just rough. It's common,

690
00:42:41,719 --> 00:42:45,360
Speaker 1: it's like fifty percent or whatever, but very common, but rough.

691
00:42:45,480 --> 00:42:48,719
Speaker 1: Why would you put your child through something rough when

692
00:42:48,760 --> 00:42:51,439
Speaker 1: you're right here it sounds like you just don't want

693
00:42:51,480 --> 00:42:54,680
Speaker 1: to do it, And so I would say, we're going

694
00:42:54,719 --> 00:42:57,560
Speaker 1: to do counseling. I don't want to. Well I'm not

695
00:42:57,640 --> 00:43:00,440
Speaker 1: I'm not. I'm not saying if we I don't want

696
00:43:00,440 --> 00:43:05,320
Speaker 1: to either, but we have to. And and and I

697
00:43:05,360 --> 00:43:09,200
Speaker 1: would just say, what's the kind of what what is

698
00:43:09,200 --> 00:43:11,839
Speaker 1: a counseling that would make you feel comfortable? What is ah,

699
00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:15,200
Speaker 1: should we go to a male or a female or

700
00:43:15,239 --> 00:43:19,080
Speaker 1: a you know, I just find a compromise. But you

701
00:43:19,160 --> 00:43:23,480
Speaker 1: got to make it work. Yeah, I think, like Bernie

702
00:43:23,560 --> 00:43:26,920
Speaker 1: pointed out, there's just there was a huge leap, and

703
00:43:26,960 --> 00:43:29,399
Speaker 1: there's it seems like there's a lot of information that

704
00:43:29,520 --> 00:43:31,440
Speaker 1: we just are privy to that if you were here

705
00:43:31,480 --> 00:43:34,640
Speaker 1: at the count campfire, we'd have a lot of questions

706
00:43:35,200 --> 00:43:37,759
Speaker 1: and ask what you have tried to do and what

707
00:43:37,840 --> 00:43:40,399
Speaker 1: you've explored and when did this start to happen? When

708
00:43:40,440 --> 00:43:44,400
Speaker 1: did you start to experience this kind of distance and

709
00:43:44,520 --> 00:43:48,160
Speaker 1: try to kind of get some more context to it.

710
00:43:48,760 --> 00:43:51,560
Speaker 1: But I think, as you said, and you pointed out,

711
00:43:51,880 --> 00:43:55,520
Speaker 1: uh Granger, that unless there's this, this, this, this and

712
00:43:55,560 --> 00:43:59,480
Speaker 1: this fight, get into it and what does that look like?

713
00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:06,799
Speaker 1: It it means getting into the communication and yeah, calling engaging.

714
00:44:07,760 --> 00:44:09,680
Speaker 1: Are you able to go on some of these trips

715
00:44:09,719 --> 00:44:12,000
Speaker 1: with him, and what would that look like for you

716
00:44:12,040 --> 00:44:16,400
Speaker 1: guys to accompany him on within this travel and just

717
00:44:16,520 --> 00:44:20,160
Speaker 1: be a part of what is going on? Is there, yeah,

718
00:44:20,280 --> 00:44:23,879
Speaker 1: a way to challenge him to be to be more

719
00:44:23,880 --> 00:44:26,680
Speaker 1: engaged at home? And it says, what's seven years America?

720
00:44:26,760 --> 00:44:34,439
Speaker 1: Seven years? Yeah? Their kid doesn't say kids. Yeah. Well,

721
00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:37,359
Speaker 1: since we don't have all those answers, Karen, I would

722
00:44:37,440 --> 00:44:41,760
Speaker 1: just suggest find a group of ladies or maybe find

723
00:44:41,960 --> 00:44:45,799
Speaker 1: a counselor yourself that you can ask these questions and

724
00:44:45,880 --> 00:44:48,920
Speaker 1: they can kind of walk through and guide you a

725
00:44:48,920 --> 00:44:52,279
Speaker 1: little bit more specifically through the through the process, and

726
00:44:52,320 --> 00:44:55,280
Speaker 1: they can maybe hold your hand whatever is going to happen.

727
00:44:56,280 --> 00:44:59,360
Speaker 1: That you can actually have real life people kind of

728
00:44:59,360 --> 00:45:01,719
Speaker 1: that will sit in cry with you and laugh with

729
00:45:01,760 --> 00:45:05,440
Speaker 1: you and whatever through this. And then serve your husband

730
00:45:05,920 --> 00:45:09,160
Speaker 1: be in the word serve your husband until and I

731
00:45:09,200 --> 00:45:11,319
Speaker 1: hope everybody understands what I mean by serve your husband.

732
00:45:11,400 --> 00:45:13,720
Speaker 1: That doesn't mean like go get his beer and deliver

733
00:45:13,800 --> 00:45:18,120
Speaker 1: his food. That means like we take the posture of

734
00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:23,640
Speaker 1: humility and when we're just soaking in God's word, that

735
00:45:23,640 --> 00:45:25,600
Speaker 1: that's what it's gonna do to us. It's gonna it's

736
00:45:25,600 --> 00:45:28,319
Speaker 1: gonna make us want to like think of others and

737
00:45:28,400 --> 00:45:32,279
Speaker 1: like serving them and thinking of them. And if that's

738
00:45:32,320 --> 00:45:34,480
Speaker 1: not happening now, and it starts to maybe that's something

739
00:45:34,520 --> 00:45:37,960
Speaker 1: that your husband recognizes, like, man, something's something's changing, and

740
00:45:38,560 --> 00:45:40,759
Speaker 1: you know, could be the start of something. But absolutely,

741
00:45:41,000 --> 00:45:43,560
Speaker 1: what does it mean to be a Karen? I think

742
00:45:43,560 --> 00:45:47,279
Speaker 1: I've been told this before, Dude, I'm so, but I

743
00:45:47,320 --> 00:45:48,960
Speaker 1: think my kids have tried to explain it to me.

744
00:45:49,040 --> 00:45:55,240
Speaker 1: What sounds like a Parker crush? Yeah, what is a Karen? Well,

745
00:45:55,360 --> 00:46:00,319
Speaker 1: a Karen is somebody who is just a complainer and

746
00:46:00,600 --> 00:46:03,279
Speaker 1: is typically having a bad time wherever she goes. The

747
00:46:03,400 --> 00:46:09,080
Speaker 1: very first original Karen actually originated from somebody who's likely

748
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:12,520
Speaker 1: to ask to speak to the manager at a restaurant,

749
00:46:12,960 --> 00:46:16,760
Speaker 1: at a business, somebody who's not happy with the service

750
00:46:16,840 --> 00:46:19,239
Speaker 1: that they think they deserve. So it comes with a

751
00:46:19,239 --> 00:46:23,960
Speaker 1: sense of entitlement and typically imagine like a brunch, everybody's

752
00:46:23,960 --> 00:46:27,799
Speaker 1: just trying to have a good time. Karen asked for

753
00:46:27,880 --> 00:46:30,000
Speaker 1: her dressing on the side, she got on top. She

754
00:46:30,080 --> 00:46:31,680
Speaker 1: wants to speak to the manager who's going to make

755
00:46:31,680 --> 00:46:33,719
Speaker 1: a big order a lot of it. Yeah, Karen calls

756
00:46:33,719 --> 00:46:36,600
Speaker 1: the homeowners association because your grass is getting long or

757
00:46:36,640 --> 00:46:39,360
Speaker 1: your train still out. There was this like in a

758
00:46:39,520 --> 00:46:44,960
Speaker 1: skit somewhere or on the innywhere on social media where

759
00:46:45,120 --> 00:46:49,120
Speaker 1: it would it's typically a woman in her you know,

760
00:46:49,320 --> 00:46:53,600
Speaker 1: mid forties, big black sunglasses, highlighted hair typically down to

761
00:46:53,640 --> 00:46:58,680
Speaker 1: the shoulders, and an I part again or a fur jacket,

762
00:46:58,680 --> 00:47:01,400
Speaker 1: and it says girl with hair like this have a

763
00:47:01,440 --> 00:47:04,120
Speaker 1: twelve out of ten chance of asking to speak to

764
00:47:04,160 --> 00:47:08,320
Speaker 1: the manager. And I can totally visualize this person, Karen.

765
00:47:08,440 --> 00:47:12,319
Speaker 1: I know quite a few Karens. I'm well, what that said? Thanks,

766
00:47:12,320 --> 00:47:14,279
Speaker 1: So the subject line was I'm trying not to be

767
00:47:14,360 --> 00:47:19,240
Speaker 1: a Karen. Look when it's your marriage that that doesn't count,

768
00:47:19,360 --> 00:47:22,400
Speaker 1: doesn't count, that doesn't count. I want to go to

769
00:47:22,760 --> 00:47:26,640
Speaker 1: ghosted because Parker remembered the title ghosted and I think

770
00:47:26,640 --> 00:47:28,640
Speaker 1: it's going to be exactly what you thought it was

771
00:47:28,680 --> 00:47:31,359
Speaker 1: going to be, and said I like to remain anonymous,

772
00:47:31,719 --> 00:47:34,200
Speaker 1: but this is honestly kind of petty. The guy I've

773
00:47:34,200 --> 00:47:36,480
Speaker 1: been seeing for the last two months has ghosted me.

774
00:47:37,480 --> 00:47:39,960
Speaker 1: He seemed to be a strong believer, so I didn't

775
00:47:39,960 --> 00:47:43,360
Speaker 1: expect to get ghosted, especially since the last text he

776
00:47:43,480 --> 00:47:46,440
Speaker 1: sent was checking to see how I felt things were

777
00:47:46,440 --> 00:47:50,080
Speaker 1: going between us. Actually kind of sounds like a problem.

778
00:47:51,040 --> 00:47:54,960
Speaker 1: I want to make another online dating profile just to

779
00:47:55,040 --> 00:47:59,000
Speaker 1: catfish him, but I'm thinking that that's not turning the

780
00:47:59,000 --> 00:48:02,640
Speaker 1: other cheek. What do you think? I've tried everything to

781
00:48:02,680 --> 00:48:05,120
Speaker 1: meet a strong believer, but it just hasn't happened. I've

782
00:48:05,160 --> 00:48:07,840
Speaker 1: visited other churches, asked friends if they know God the guys,

783
00:48:08,080 --> 00:48:11,560
Speaker 1: to Texas for a blind date, and eventually tried online dating.

784
00:48:11,600 --> 00:48:14,319
Speaker 1: I went to a Christian college in grad school. Do

785
00:48:14,360 --> 00:48:16,960
Speaker 1: you have any tips for meeting God the guys? As

786
00:48:17,000 --> 00:48:19,839
Speaker 1: I'm getting closer to thirty, I started to give up

787
00:48:19,880 --> 00:48:22,439
Speaker 1: hope of getting married and having kids. Maybe it's God's

788
00:48:22,480 --> 00:48:28,319
Speaker 1: will for me to be single. Thanks Anonymous Parker. There

789
00:48:28,320 --> 00:48:30,640
Speaker 1: are some terms in there you needed to find. Yeah,

790
00:48:30,680 --> 00:48:35,279
Speaker 1: for sure. Oh man, Okay, there's a lot to unpack here.

791
00:48:35,520 --> 00:48:41,040
Speaker 1: I'm hearing online dating, for one, not to say that

792
00:48:41,080 --> 00:48:45,680
Speaker 1: you can't find someone with an online dating profile. Probably

793
00:48:47,120 --> 00:48:49,959
Speaker 1: what's your criteria for finding somebody in an online dating

794
00:48:50,040 --> 00:48:52,759
Speaker 1: You're just seeing a picture of them. I'm hearing that

795
00:48:52,800 --> 00:48:55,920
Speaker 1: you thought he was a believer, but his actions, I

796
00:48:56,040 --> 00:48:58,000
Speaker 1: like to say his actions are speaking, so loud that

797
00:48:58,000 --> 00:49:01,480
Speaker 1: I can't hear what he's saying. So I think that

798
00:49:01,960 --> 00:49:05,640
Speaker 1: I like the saying also, of the heart wants what

799
00:49:05,719 --> 00:49:09,560
Speaker 1: it's fed. Don't follow your heart, inform your heart. So

800
00:49:09,800 --> 00:49:12,360
Speaker 1: I think that she's in a spot right now where

801
00:49:13,320 --> 00:49:15,680
Speaker 1: she can kind of ask herself, what is it that

802
00:49:15,800 --> 00:49:18,000
Speaker 1: is making me attracted to these types of men that

803
00:49:18,080 --> 00:49:22,480
Speaker 1: are doing this, that are maybe saying that their believers

804
00:49:22,480 --> 00:49:24,319
Speaker 1: are saying that they're good guys, but their actions are

805
00:49:24,320 --> 00:49:29,840
Speaker 1: speaking otherwise. I would I would just encourage her to

806
00:49:31,440 --> 00:49:35,160
Speaker 1: also do a deep dive into trying to find contentment

807
00:49:35,200 --> 00:49:37,640
Speaker 1: in her singleness. Now it's that I'm hearing a little

808
00:49:37,680 --> 00:49:48,440
Speaker 1: bit of borderline being desperate and finding validation in a spouse.

809
00:49:48,600 --> 00:49:50,360
Speaker 1: You're not going to be able to find somebody to

810
00:49:50,400 --> 00:49:55,439
Speaker 1: completely complete you. You would only find that through God

811
00:49:55,480 --> 00:49:58,160
Speaker 1: and through who He says you are. So it's just

812
00:49:58,400 --> 00:50:02,000
Speaker 1: what a great opportunity now it's to focus on herself

813
00:50:02,040 --> 00:50:05,640
Speaker 1: and her relationship with God and to truly have an

814
00:50:05,640 --> 00:50:08,680
Speaker 1: honest conversation with herself. Of am I sounds like she's

815
00:50:08,719 --> 00:50:11,080
Speaker 1: going to these different churches trying to find a guy,

816
00:50:12,120 --> 00:50:13,879
Speaker 1: flying out of state to try to find a guy.

817
00:50:13,920 --> 00:50:16,759
Speaker 1: I would just encourage her to you know. Aside, note,

818
00:50:16,800 --> 00:50:19,880
Speaker 1: don't do that. Don't fly to another state for a

819
00:50:19,920 --> 00:50:24,160
Speaker 1: blind date please, especially if it's online. I hope that

820
00:50:24,200 --> 00:50:26,920
Speaker 1: this is what that wasn't from all, that's just dangerous. Yeah, sorry,

821
00:50:26,960 --> 00:50:33,440
Speaker 1: go ahead, Yeah, agreed. I think that one of the

822
00:50:33,440 --> 00:50:35,719
Speaker 1: best ways, one of the best pieces of advice at

823
00:50:35,719 --> 00:50:37,200
Speaker 1: this point in my life that I can give to

824
00:50:37,520 --> 00:50:41,319
Speaker 1: finding a spouse is first off, setting your non negotiables

825
00:50:41,360 --> 00:50:44,040
Speaker 1: of what you're looking for in a spouse, what's important

826
00:50:44,080 --> 00:50:46,000
Speaker 1: to you, of what's going to make a good husband

827
00:50:46,040 --> 00:50:49,760
Speaker 1: and father. Like I said, finding contentment in your singleness

828
00:50:49,800 --> 00:50:52,040
Speaker 1: now and saying even if I don't find someone, I

829
00:50:52,080 --> 00:50:54,359
Speaker 1: will truly be content. It's one thing to say, it's

830
00:50:54,400 --> 00:50:59,479
Speaker 1: another thing to really believe it, and then to find

831
00:50:59,480 --> 00:51:01,959
Speaker 1: that joy and peace that's found through Christ and getting

832
00:51:02,000 --> 00:51:04,399
Speaker 1: involved with your church. And then if you find someone

833
00:51:04,480 --> 00:51:07,120
Speaker 1: else who's running toward him as fast as you are,

834
00:51:07,160 --> 00:51:11,120
Speaker 1: then yes, you'll consider it. That's exactly my thought is

835
00:51:11,160 --> 00:51:16,840
Speaker 1: that Anonymous here has spoke many times about Christians. She

836
00:51:16,880 --> 00:51:20,400
Speaker 1: went to Christian college, she's talking to Christian friends about

837
00:51:20,760 --> 00:51:24,719
Speaker 1: Christian guys. He assumed her X was a Christian. She's

838
00:51:24,719 --> 00:51:28,600
Speaker 1: saying visited churches. She's thrown that out so much, but

839
00:51:29,160 --> 00:51:34,520
Speaker 1: nothing in here screams you're pursuing Christ. This is the

840
00:51:35,440 --> 00:51:40,600
Speaker 1: fundamental element of being a Christian, is passionately pursuing Christ.

841
00:51:41,440 --> 00:51:44,959
Speaker 1: It's not a heritage or a it's not even really

842
00:51:44,960 --> 00:51:47,160
Speaker 1: a religion. We like to say, it's not even really

843
00:51:47,239 --> 00:51:52,360
Speaker 1: a religion in that sense. It's passionately pursuing a relationship

844
00:51:52,360 --> 00:51:55,200
Speaker 1: with Christ. And that doesn't sound like you. I'm not

845
00:51:55,280 --> 00:51:59,439
Speaker 1: trying to be rude, but that doesn't sound like that's

846
00:51:59,480 --> 00:52:02,520
Speaker 1: not screening from your email that you're doing that you're

847
00:52:02,560 --> 00:52:05,880
Speaker 1: wanting everybody else to and you're wanting to surround yourself

848
00:52:05,880 --> 00:52:08,279
Speaker 1: with people that are. But I don't feel that from you.

849
00:52:08,480 --> 00:52:10,400
Speaker 1: And I think Parker said it right. You're if you

850
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Speaker 1: passionately pursue Christ, then you're going to find somebody that's

851
00:52:18,280 --> 00:52:20,719
Speaker 1: side by side parallel with you doing the same thing,

852
00:52:20,760 --> 00:52:23,359
Speaker 1: and you're going to turn and go, oh, hey, look

853
00:52:23,400 --> 00:52:27,160
Speaker 1: at you. Right, Yeah, that's so good. Y'all need to

854
00:52:27,239 --> 00:52:30,000
Speaker 1: rewind back to when Parker first started and listen to

855
00:52:30,000 --> 00:52:32,040
Speaker 1: that one more time. That was really good, dude, That

856
00:52:32,160 --> 00:52:37,000
Speaker 1: whole thing. I think that to ask something that what

857
00:52:37,040 --> 00:52:38,800
Speaker 1: a lot of people would be saying, is hold on Granger.

858
00:52:39,320 --> 00:52:41,879
Speaker 1: I do know a lot of Christians because they've said

859
00:52:41,880 --> 00:52:44,000
Speaker 1: the prayer, and the Bible says that when we say

860
00:52:44,040 --> 00:52:46,160
Speaker 1: the prayer and we accept Christ into our heart. Did

861
00:52:46,200 --> 00:52:48,560
Speaker 1: it when I was twelve at church and I meant it.

862
00:52:50,239 --> 00:52:52,200
Speaker 1: I do think that I'm a Christian. I do think

863
00:52:52,200 --> 00:52:56,759
Speaker 1: that all my friends are Christian. What do you think

864
00:52:56,800 --> 00:52:58,959
Speaker 1: is the difference between what you're saying of someone who's

865
00:52:58,960 --> 00:53:03,200
Speaker 1: passionately pursuing and what the world views a Christian as

866
00:53:03,239 --> 00:53:09,200
Speaker 1: now in America. I think it's a big problem. Thing's

867
00:53:09,200 --> 00:53:12,439
Speaker 1: a massive problem. I think there's a lot of self

868
00:53:12,480 --> 00:53:16,920
Speaker 1: proclaiming Christians that don't even really know what that means.

869
00:53:17,600 --> 00:53:21,760
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to throw shade. I've walked that walk before,

870
00:53:24,120 --> 00:53:28,080
Speaker 1: and I think it's a very dangerous walk. So, so,

871
00:53:28,120 --> 00:53:30,920
Speaker 1: what's the difference is someone passionately pursuing Christ versus someone

872
00:53:30,920 --> 00:53:33,000
Speaker 1: who has professed his name. Maybe this is a good

873
00:53:33,080 --> 00:53:37,719
Speaker 1: Chad question. Well, in the Gospel of Matthew and Luke,

874
00:53:37,840 --> 00:53:44,759
Speaker 1: there's a an instance where Jesus he has entered Jerusalem

875
00:53:45,280 --> 00:53:48,160
Speaker 1: and the triumphal entry has happened, and he's getting closer

876
00:53:48,200 --> 00:53:51,160
Speaker 1: and closer to the events leading up to the Crucifixion.

877
00:53:52,120 --> 00:53:54,920
Speaker 1: And after they enter they have to actually go and

878
00:53:55,000 --> 00:53:58,879
Speaker 1: leave to a small community called Bethany to stay there

879
00:53:58,920 --> 00:54:03,960
Speaker 1: for the night. So they're leaving and on their return

880
00:54:03,960 --> 00:54:06,960
Speaker 1: to Jerusalem, they see off in a distance, it says,

881
00:54:07,000 --> 00:54:12,759
Speaker 1: a fig tree full of leaves, and all of a

882
00:54:12,800 --> 00:54:16,360
Speaker 1: sudden this expectation that, oh, there's a fig tree with

883
00:54:16,520 --> 00:54:19,680
Speaker 1: leaves on it. And the indication is that in that region,

884
00:54:19,800 --> 00:54:21,879
Speaker 1: when a fig tree has leaves, it means that it's

885
00:54:21,880 --> 00:54:24,239
Speaker 1: bearing fruit. It's in the season for bearing fruit, and

886
00:54:24,719 --> 00:54:28,600
Speaker 1: the text even says it wasn't the season for figs. However,

887
00:54:28,760 --> 00:54:31,520
Speaker 1: this tree had leaves on it, so it looked like

888
00:54:31,600 --> 00:54:34,520
Speaker 1: it was going to be fruit bearing. And when they

889
00:54:34,600 --> 00:54:37,640
Speaker 1: get up closer because they're hungry, they find this tree

890
00:54:37,680 --> 00:54:41,040
Speaker 1: does not actually have any fruit on it. And so

891
00:54:41,160 --> 00:54:44,759
Speaker 1: then Jesus curses this fig tree and it shrivels up

892
00:54:44,760 --> 00:54:48,600
Speaker 1: and dies right moment or the next day. And so

893
00:54:49,160 --> 00:54:52,239
Speaker 1: I think the sober warning there is for believers to

894
00:54:52,320 --> 00:54:57,600
Speaker 1: not just look like they're a believer, and that they

895
00:54:58,080 --> 00:55:00,759
Speaker 1: say the right things and they go and do the

896
00:55:00,840 --> 00:55:03,920
Speaker 1: right They go to the church and they check the box.

897
00:55:04,000 --> 00:55:07,120
Speaker 1: But are they bearing fruit? Because we don't want to

898
00:55:07,200 --> 00:55:10,120
Speaker 1: be a fig tree that looks like it should be

899
00:55:10,120 --> 00:55:13,040
Speaker 1: bearing fruit. Right it claims that it's a Christian, but

900
00:55:13,120 --> 00:55:16,279
Speaker 1: there's no fruit found in our lives. And fruitfulness is

901
00:55:16,320 --> 00:55:22,400
Speaker 1: not only the fruit of the spirit love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness,

902
00:55:22,400 --> 00:55:26,080
Speaker 1: self control, but also the mark of a follower of

903
00:55:26,160 --> 00:55:30,520
Speaker 1: Christ is that you are causing others to meet Jesus

904
00:55:30,760 --> 00:55:34,560
Speaker 1: and following follow him right, discipleship, evangelism, you're bearing fruit.

905
00:55:34,600 --> 00:55:38,160
Speaker 1: You're causing other believers to occur, because that's what fruit does.

906
00:55:38,200 --> 00:55:40,000
Speaker 1: For a tree. It has seeds in it and it

907
00:55:40,040 --> 00:55:43,160
Speaker 1: produces other things like it, And so are we causing

908
00:55:43,200 --> 00:55:46,440
Speaker 1: others around us. So, if that's the pursuit of Christ

909
00:55:46,480 --> 00:55:50,000
Speaker 1: that's happening, it's gonna bear fruit, and you're gonna see

910
00:55:50,000 --> 00:55:52,520
Speaker 1: it really right away. You're gonna be able to detect

911
00:55:53,080 --> 00:55:55,880
Speaker 1: is somebody genuinely following Christ or not? If you were

912
00:55:55,880 --> 00:55:59,200
Speaker 1: at that level. And I kept thinking, man, she is

913
00:55:59,280 --> 00:56:00,880
Speaker 1: painted a picture or for us. I don't know if

914
00:56:00,920 --> 00:56:07,120
Speaker 1: she intended to of a strong pursuit of men right she.

915
00:56:07,719 --> 00:56:11,400
Speaker 1: I'm guessing a lot of time and energy and emotion

916
00:56:11,560 --> 00:56:18,160
Speaker 1: is spent thinking about and posturing life and time and

917
00:56:18,320 --> 00:56:23,480
Speaker 1: in pursuit of finding the guy. And I just what

918
00:56:23,800 --> 00:56:29,560
Speaker 1: if that level of intentionality was put on pursuing the Lord?

919
00:56:29,880 --> 00:56:33,279
Speaker 1: What would change in her life and her joy? So

920
00:56:33,520 --> 00:56:37,400
Speaker 1: pastor correct me if I'm wrong, or guide me in this.

921
00:56:37,640 --> 00:56:41,600
Speaker 1: But hey, guys, we've got a couple of minutes before

922
00:56:41,600 --> 00:56:44,759
Speaker 1: this is going to break again. So I'm kind of

923
00:56:45,200 --> 00:56:49,040
Speaker 1: proposing we do one more round. Okay, now do you

924
00:56:49,040 --> 00:56:52,040
Speaker 1: hold that thought? Kick off another round, take a break,

925
00:56:52,280 --> 00:56:54,319
Speaker 1: kick off another round. We'll leave with that, all right,

926
00:56:54,360 --> 00:57:02,560
Speaker 1: get it back? All right, we're going extra long episode

927
00:57:02,600 --> 00:57:05,640
Speaker 1: one hundred. I haven't even said how grateful I am

928
00:57:05,760 --> 00:57:09,279
Speaker 1: that this podcast has lasted that long. It took a

929
00:57:09,320 --> 00:57:14,080
Speaker 1: turn about episode fifty and turned into this, which I'm

930
00:57:14,239 --> 00:57:16,480
Speaker 1: so grateful for. And Parker had a big part to

931
00:57:16,520 --> 00:57:20,040
Speaker 1: do with that. We were trying to decide the direction

932
00:57:20,120 --> 00:57:22,480
Speaker 1: of the podcast, and I was coming up with content

933
00:57:22,520 --> 00:57:26,080
Speaker 1: and I was telling stories, and at some point Parker

934
00:57:26,160 --> 00:57:29,160
Speaker 1: was like, man, we just answer questions, answer people's questions.

935
00:57:29,520 --> 00:57:32,320
Speaker 1: That way, I don't have to worry about being creative

936
00:57:32,640 --> 00:57:36,120
Speaker 1: every week, and I could actually be consistent about putting

937
00:57:36,120 --> 00:57:38,480
Speaker 1: out the podcast, and then that turned in that was

938
00:57:38,600 --> 00:57:41,080
Speaker 1: all it was, and then it turned into something so

939
00:57:41,160 --> 00:57:44,680
Speaker 1: much more meaningful. So let's continue and burnieu. I don't

940
00:57:44,680 --> 00:57:48,160
Speaker 1: want to leave you hanging. Yeah. So Chad was just

941
00:57:48,600 --> 00:57:53,720
Speaker 1: referring to the fig tree, Jesus and the disciples walking

942
00:57:53,760 --> 00:57:57,840
Speaker 1: back into Jerusalem, right, and I was just going to

943
00:57:57,880 --> 00:58:01,240
Speaker 1: get some feedback from him on more of the specifics

944
00:58:01,280 --> 00:58:04,960
Speaker 1: of what's happening there. We were talking about this I

945
00:58:05,000 --> 00:58:11,160
Speaker 1: don't remember her name, Anonymous, pursuing these relationships with these

946
00:58:11,240 --> 00:58:15,840
Speaker 1: Christian guys, and we kind of were discussing the you know,

947
00:58:15,920 --> 00:58:20,640
Speaker 1: the adjective of Christian in front of something, and I

948
00:58:20,760 --> 00:58:24,360
Speaker 1: just wanted to hear what Chad, you know, had to

949
00:58:24,360 --> 00:58:28,200
Speaker 1: say about the fact that in that same passage that

950
00:58:30,160 --> 00:58:33,440
Speaker 1: you know, asking like, was Jesus was referring to the

951
00:58:33,560 --> 00:58:37,680
Speaker 1: nation of Israel and that was it was a metaphor,

952
00:58:38,360 --> 00:58:44,640
Speaker 1: and that that tree the leaves were representing this religiousness

953
00:58:44,680 --> 00:58:48,320
Speaker 1: that they that they had, that they showed they had

954
00:58:48,360 --> 00:58:50,520
Speaker 1: the adjective in front of their name, that they were this,

955
00:58:50,880 --> 00:58:54,120
Speaker 1: they were God's people, they were God's people. But yet

956
00:58:54,240 --> 00:58:56,880
Speaker 1: there was no fruit. And what Jesus turns and says

957
00:58:56,960 --> 00:59:01,520
Speaker 1: to the disciples is if you have faith and you

958
00:59:01,560 --> 00:59:06,560
Speaker 1: do not doubt, you will say to this mountain, move

959
00:59:06,800 --> 00:59:10,560
Speaker 1: and it will be so loosely right. Yeah, that's it.

960
00:59:10,640 --> 00:59:15,360
Speaker 1: That's it. And just for some context, as they're walking

961
00:59:15,400 --> 00:59:21,680
Speaker 1: back into Jerusalem, he doesn't say, you'll say to a mountain.

962
00:59:21,760 --> 00:59:25,600
Speaker 1: He says to this mountain, and they're facing the mountain

963
00:59:25,680 --> 00:59:29,439
Speaker 1: that the temple was on. And so what we're we're

964
00:59:29,440 --> 00:59:31,760
Speaker 1: guessing and what we're thinking that Jesus is alluding to

965
00:59:31,880 --> 00:59:35,640
Speaker 1: is that, hey, with your little bit of faith and

966
00:59:35,680 --> 00:59:38,760
Speaker 1: with you believing in not doubting, like you will be

967
00:59:39,360 --> 00:59:45,080
Speaker 1: the church. Yeah. And it's not in the substance of

968
00:59:44,360 --> 00:59:48,880
Speaker 1: the things you do. It's not in the show of religiosity.

969
00:59:49,000 --> 00:59:53,800
Speaker 1: It's in the substance of faith, trusting purely in the

970
00:59:53,840 --> 00:59:57,440
Speaker 1: work of God through Christ. And it's interesting that if

971
00:59:57,880 --> 01:00:03,480
Speaker 1: the reference is and we can we can extrapolate that,

972
01:00:03,560 --> 01:00:07,600
Speaker 1: it's probably that and if it is, the temple represents

973
01:00:08,280 --> 01:00:10,959
Speaker 1: and that's that's where people would go to meet with God.

974
01:00:11,400 --> 01:00:14,120
Speaker 1: That's where the dwelling place, the dwelling place, that's where

975
01:00:14,120 --> 01:00:17,439
Speaker 1: they would have interaction with God. That's where atonement for sin,

976
01:00:17,640 --> 01:00:20,640
Speaker 1: like where their sin was dealt with through the sacrificial system,

977
01:00:20,960 --> 01:00:24,280
Speaker 1: and so everything that the tuple represents, like he's literally

978
01:00:24,320 --> 01:00:27,560
Speaker 1: saying that that all of that, right, could you know

979
01:00:27,640 --> 01:00:32,520
Speaker 1: that's found in Christ through faith? And so the substance

980
01:00:32,560 --> 01:00:35,480
Speaker 1: of faith is not the show of religiosity or the

981
01:00:35,600 --> 01:00:40,280
Speaker 1: adjective oh yeah, I'm a Christian. It's it's truly a

982
01:00:40,360 --> 01:00:43,720
Speaker 1: life of trusting God and the fruit that that produces

983
01:00:43,880 --> 01:00:48,520
Speaker 1: in your life not working for your salvation. You're working

984
01:00:48,560 --> 01:00:53,560
Speaker 1: as a result from that salvation. This is not a

985
01:00:53,600 --> 01:00:57,640
Speaker 1: that we're not sliding mis anonymous here. That's that emailed.

986
01:00:59,280 --> 01:01:02,720
Speaker 1: But we're just making a point and everyone listening has

987
01:01:03,080 --> 01:01:06,640
Speaker 1: they're thinking, Actually, I was wondering about that person that

988
01:01:06,720 --> 01:01:10,000
Speaker 1: says they're such a big Christian, but I don't see it. Well,

989
01:01:10,040 --> 01:01:14,280
Speaker 1: that's a bunch of leaves and no fruit. So where

990
01:01:14,560 --> 01:01:17,360
Speaker 1: you could see the proof always in the fruit. You

991
01:01:17,360 --> 01:01:19,760
Speaker 1: guys know what I'm talking about here. I want to

992
01:01:19,800 --> 01:01:23,240
Speaker 1: go to a question that I haven't I don't think

993
01:01:23,240 --> 01:01:27,000
Speaker 1: I've seen anything like this before, and it's an interesting

994
01:01:27,040 --> 01:01:29,520
Speaker 1: thing to address it. Says Hey Grangee, this is Cindy

995
01:01:30,000 --> 01:01:32,880
Speaker 1: from Chico, California. I love all your podcasts and I

996
01:01:32,880 --> 01:01:35,120
Speaker 1: love the Smiths. I have a question that maybe you

997
01:01:35,120 --> 01:01:39,200
Speaker 1: could help me counsel on. I live with my adult

998
01:01:39,280 --> 01:01:45,000
Speaker 1: child and their other half. They have no income, and

999
01:01:45,040 --> 01:01:47,720
Speaker 1: it seems like they are happy that way. I want

1000
01:01:47,760 --> 01:01:51,880
Speaker 1: to find another place to live, but my dilemma is

1001
01:01:51,920 --> 01:01:53,760
Speaker 1: that I can't find the place big enough for the

1002
01:01:53,840 --> 01:01:57,400
Speaker 1: three of us on a fixed income. But if I

1003
01:01:57,480 --> 01:02:00,960
Speaker 1: leave them, they will be penniless, and I've tried that

1004
01:02:01,000 --> 01:02:04,280
Speaker 1: once before. They just keep coming to me asking me

1005
01:02:04,360 --> 01:02:08,400
Speaker 1: for money to get things they need so that I

1006
01:02:08,400 --> 01:02:12,440
Speaker 1: can support them. My question is how do I do

1007
01:02:12,520 --> 01:02:15,360
Speaker 1: what's best for me and not feel like I'm abandoning

1008
01:02:15,360 --> 01:02:18,880
Speaker 1: them and doing them wrong. In the end, I should

1009
01:02:18,880 --> 01:02:21,080
Speaker 1: add that my child has a disability that prevents them

1010
01:02:21,080 --> 01:02:30,040
Speaker 1: from getting a job and change that. Man, I was,

1011
01:02:30,080 --> 01:02:37,680
Speaker 1: I was about to go into that last sentence. I was,

1012
01:02:37,720 --> 01:02:39,880
Speaker 1: I'll tell you what I was going to say, because

1013
01:02:39,880 --> 01:02:43,240
Speaker 1: it might not be that far off. But Cindy, I

1014
01:02:43,280 --> 01:02:46,840
Speaker 1: hope you know that what you're doing out of love

1015
01:02:48,440 --> 01:02:53,560
Speaker 1: can and maybe a form of child abuse. Oh that's shocking,

1016
01:02:54,920 --> 01:02:58,040
Speaker 1: But what you're doing out of love in your mind

1017
01:02:58,840 --> 01:03:05,720
Speaker 1: may be a form of child abuse. Until you said

1018
01:03:05,720 --> 01:03:07,760
Speaker 1: that your child has a disability, and then once again

1019
01:03:07,800 --> 01:03:11,160
Speaker 1: we would have to ask, well, what what disability is it?

1020
01:03:12,640 --> 01:03:21,160
Speaker 1: They have a spouse, so there, if they're functioning with

1021
01:03:21,200 --> 01:03:26,439
Speaker 1: a spouse, I would want to question, like why why

1022
01:03:26,480 --> 01:03:30,640
Speaker 1: can't they get a job? Why can't this the the

1023
01:03:30,720 --> 01:03:37,960
Speaker 1: better half get a job? But you are you are

1024
01:03:38,080 --> 01:03:41,760
Speaker 1: right to think at some level that it is time

1025
01:03:42,400 --> 01:03:45,040
Speaker 1: that you took care of yourself. You got to take

1026
01:03:45,080 --> 01:03:47,720
Speaker 1: care of yourself. It is this is the scenario of

1027
01:03:47,720 --> 01:03:51,640
Speaker 1: the airplane where the mask, the oxygen masks pop out.

1028
01:03:51,960 --> 01:03:55,000
Speaker 1: You put yours on first, and then your child, and

1029
01:03:55,040 --> 01:03:57,680
Speaker 1: it sounds like you're constantly putting the oxygen mask on

1030
01:03:57,720 --> 01:04:00,600
Speaker 1: your child and you're running out of air and you

1031
01:04:00,600 --> 01:04:04,000
Speaker 1: can't breathe anymore. And it doesn't matter if they're an

1032
01:04:04,080 --> 01:04:07,960
Speaker 1: infant or an adult with a disability. You've got to

1033
01:04:08,000 --> 01:04:11,240
Speaker 1: put the mask on that. I can't say that these days,

1034
01:04:11,600 --> 01:04:15,960
Speaker 1: the oxygen mask on you first, because if you don't,

1035
01:04:15,960 --> 01:04:21,880
Speaker 1: if you're not breathing, you can't help anybody. So Burns,

1036
01:04:22,080 --> 01:04:25,840
Speaker 1: where are you going with this? M Yeah, I do.

1037
01:04:27,440 --> 01:04:29,840
Speaker 1: The only thing she said about the disability is that

1038
01:04:30,240 --> 01:04:34,600
Speaker 1: it keeps him from getting a job. Right, It's interesting

1039
01:04:34,640 --> 01:04:41,600
Speaker 1: that she put them every time something like that, the

1040
01:04:41,680 --> 01:04:49,560
Speaker 1: sex of the child, Ye, the pronoun deal. Okay, yeah,

1041
01:04:49,760 --> 01:04:52,880
Speaker 1: I griz, I think you nailed it. I don't know

1042
01:04:52,920 --> 01:04:56,400
Speaker 1: if there's much more to this man like she well, no,

1043
01:04:56,800 --> 01:05:00,440
Speaker 1: the more is what does she do now? Yeah? Right, Like,

1044
01:05:00,520 --> 01:05:02,720
Speaker 1: let's give her a let's give her a point of action. Okay,

1045
01:05:03,400 --> 01:05:08,240
Speaker 1: I think it's communication. You got to talk with the kids.

1046
01:05:09,200 --> 01:05:11,040
Speaker 1: I think, I mean again, just not knowing like the

1047
01:05:11,080 --> 01:05:13,360
Speaker 1: ages of them and a lot of story like, but

1048
01:05:13,440 --> 01:05:15,960
Speaker 1: I think you got to talk with them and communicate. Hey,

1049
01:05:16,040 --> 01:05:19,840
Speaker 1: I'm not in a healthy place here and I want

1050
01:05:19,920 --> 01:05:24,160
Speaker 1: us all to be healthy. One. Maybe she doesn't even

1051
01:05:24,200 --> 01:05:28,200
Speaker 1: maybe she recognizes it, that's why she's writing in. First

1052
01:05:28,240 --> 01:05:31,720
Speaker 1: of all, it's a tough situation. I admire you for

1053
01:05:32,600 --> 01:05:35,520
Speaker 1: fighting through this and like help doing what you think

1054
01:05:35,880 --> 01:05:38,080
Speaker 1: you know you can do for your disabled child. I

1055
01:05:38,120 --> 01:05:41,680
Speaker 1: know that that probably wasn't an easy upbringing, so recognize

1056
01:05:41,680 --> 01:05:45,440
Speaker 1: the struggle you've been through. But also hopefully you have

1057
01:05:45,760 --> 01:05:51,200
Speaker 1: prepared them enough. They do have a spouse. I think

1058
01:05:51,200 --> 01:05:54,720
Speaker 1: you have the conversation and maybe whenever it becomes a

1059
01:05:54,760 --> 01:05:58,240
Speaker 1: group dialogue, hey guys, let's get a plan together, because

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Speaker 1: we all know this isn't going to continue. Y'all are broke.

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01:06:00,840 --> 01:06:03,520
Speaker 1: I'm almost broke. This place isn't big enough. What do

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01:06:03,560 --> 01:06:05,840
Speaker 1: we do? And so maybe bring him into the discussion

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01:06:07,240 --> 01:06:10,480
Speaker 1: and just kind of see and if they're just apathetic

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01:06:10,520 --> 01:06:16,160
Speaker 1: and like they don't want to contribute anything, then I think, yeah,

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01:06:16,400 --> 01:06:18,600
Speaker 1: so you can you can respond in that way. I

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01:06:18,680 --> 01:06:21,440
Speaker 1: have a big problem with this. If the disability is

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01:06:22,280 --> 01:06:27,200
Speaker 1: lower back pain or a bad need, that's true. He

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Speaker 1: disability keeps him from getting I think us, all four

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01:06:31,160 --> 01:06:35,160
Speaker 1: of us kind of thought mental disability, yeah, but severe. Yeah,

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01:06:35,200 --> 01:06:39,880
Speaker 1: this could be struggles with lower back pain. Yeah, can't

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Speaker 1: lift anything. And if there if it's a disability that

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Speaker 1: does not allow for them to work, then there's probably

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Speaker 1: some sort of assistance, like financial assistance that's available. I

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Speaker 1: would think, will you unpack why you said it's child abuse?

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01:07:01,720 --> 01:07:06,800
Speaker 1: Because if you are enabling an adult to live with

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01:07:06,880 --> 01:07:11,800
Speaker 1: mommy and to live off mommy's food and money, you

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01:07:11,880 --> 01:07:17,240
Speaker 1: are It is a a not talked about form, but

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01:07:17,640 --> 01:07:20,320
Speaker 1: it is a major form of child abuse because you

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01:07:20,440 --> 01:07:26,880
Speaker 1: are you are by through your enabling, you are disabling

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01:07:26,920 --> 01:07:30,720
Speaker 1: them from growing and learning and going into the world

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01:07:30,800 --> 01:07:35,400
Speaker 1: and facing adversity and getting getting a job and losing

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Speaker 1: a job and get in hunting for a job again,

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01:07:38,120 --> 01:07:42,000
Speaker 1: or getting some form of education or skill or trade.

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01:07:42,480 --> 01:07:47,120
Speaker 1: You're you're inhibiting that by enabling them to feel comfortable,

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01:07:48,640 --> 01:07:52,480
Speaker 1: and that is a form of abuse. Yeah, it's almost

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01:07:52,520 --> 01:07:54,960
Speaker 1: like emotional like the physical would be like if you

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01:07:55,880 --> 01:07:59,160
Speaker 1: tiede your kid's hands together, people be like, that's child abuse.

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01:07:59,200 --> 01:08:02,400
Speaker 1: It's like your emotion. Yeah, kind of exact tying their

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01:08:02,400 --> 01:08:06,400
Speaker 1: hands together, not letting them, you know, learn how to

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01:08:06,480 --> 01:08:09,760
Speaker 1: use them. This is interesting, Cindy. It says your last

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01:08:09,800 --> 01:08:11,400
Speaker 1: and it says I will be seeing you in my

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01:08:11,520 --> 01:08:15,680
Speaker 1: hometown on November sixteenth. What I want you to do,

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01:08:15,760 --> 01:08:19,720
Speaker 1: Cindy is I've never done this on this podcast, but

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01:08:19,800 --> 01:08:23,559
Speaker 1: i want you to email back that week and I'm

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01:08:23,600 --> 01:08:25,160
Speaker 1: going to get you a meet and greet on me,

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01:08:25,439 --> 01:08:27,200
Speaker 1: Brie on me. I'm going to get you a meet

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01:08:27,200 --> 01:08:30,320
Speaker 1: and greet, get you backstage. I'll get to put a

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01:08:30,360 --> 01:08:32,280
Speaker 1: face to the name. I've just never done this on

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01:08:32,320 --> 01:08:33,920
Speaker 1: this podcast. To be able to put a face to

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01:08:33,960 --> 01:08:36,040
Speaker 1: the name and the story. I want to hug your

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01:08:36,080 --> 01:08:38,719
Speaker 1: neck and I want to I want to see you

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01:08:39,320 --> 01:08:41,400
Speaker 1: and I want to hear if there's been any kind

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01:08:41,400 --> 01:08:44,360
Speaker 1: of form of action, and if not, I want to

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01:08:44,360 --> 01:08:46,479
Speaker 1: hear it for myself. But I want to meet you

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01:08:46,520 --> 01:08:51,320
Speaker 1: in Chico and and you sound like you sound like

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01:08:51,320 --> 01:08:53,120
Speaker 1: you're ready, You sound like you're in, You're in a

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01:08:53,560 --> 01:08:57,800
Speaker 1: in a place to change, and I'm excited for you.

1108
01:08:58,080 --> 01:09:07,799
Speaker 1: So we got Chico and bull ride wherever. That is okay? Cool?

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01:09:08,560 --> 01:09:11,160
Speaker 1: So this could go a lot of different ways here.

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01:09:11,640 --> 01:09:13,439
Speaker 1: How to introduce prayer to a two and a half

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01:09:13,520 --> 01:09:19,920
Speaker 1: year old life after loss? Getting into the word career,

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01:09:20,040 --> 01:09:25,080
Speaker 1: life advice, faith help for Chad? I think I think

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01:09:25,120 --> 01:09:34,320
Speaker 1: it means from a timely advice question and legalistic Christians.

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01:09:36,520 --> 01:09:39,799
Speaker 1: I picked side note. Everything I picked for the podcast

1115
01:09:39,800 --> 01:09:43,960
Speaker 1: today is fresh, like these emails just came in. I

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01:09:44,040 --> 01:09:49,759
Speaker 1: kept it all just right this week. Yeah, I'm on Jeopardy.

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01:09:51,680 --> 01:09:59,920
Speaker 1: I'll take getting into the word. That's great, I don't

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01:10:00,080 --> 01:10:02,000
Speaker 1: I feel like we've covered a lot of different topics today.

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01:10:02,040 --> 01:10:05,400
Speaker 1: Does anything jump out to you? We've covered lost relationships.

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Speaker 1: I kind of wanted to get into how to introduce

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01:10:08,280 --> 01:10:11,920
Speaker 1: a prayer to a two and a half year old? Yeah, hey,

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01:10:11,920 --> 01:10:13,800
Speaker 1: gring your my name is Monica and I'm the mother

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Speaker 1: of two boys. Growing up, I was raised in a

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01:10:16,760 --> 01:10:19,800
Speaker 1: very religious household. Ever since college, having children, COVID, and

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01:10:19,880 --> 01:10:22,120
Speaker 1: all the other crazy events going on in today's world,

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01:10:22,400 --> 01:10:25,080
Speaker 1: my husband and I have been horrible about making time

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01:10:25,080 --> 01:10:28,400
Speaker 1: for church and prayer. How did you introduce your children

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Speaker 1: to God in prayer? What are some activities or conversations

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01:10:31,800 --> 01:10:33,960
Speaker 1: we could have with our sons to bring God back

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01:10:34,000 --> 01:10:37,680
Speaker 1: into our lives. My husband and I have been to

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01:10:38,600 --> 01:10:40,920
Speaker 1: your concert numerous times. We cannot wait to see you

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01:10:40,960 --> 01:10:51,559
Speaker 1: back in San Diego. Thanks Monica. The bigger concern than

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01:10:51,840 --> 01:10:55,000
Speaker 1: the children, This is like the oxygen mask thing. You know,

1134
01:10:55,360 --> 01:10:58,720
Speaker 1: you're worried about the children. When I'm looking at you, going, hey,

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01:10:58,720 --> 01:11:01,160
Speaker 1: you got to get your oxygen mask on. You said

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01:11:01,160 --> 01:11:03,679
Speaker 1: you've been horrible about making time for church and prayer.

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01:11:05,040 --> 01:11:07,519
Speaker 1: And I love to say I love to quote this

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01:11:08,080 --> 01:11:12,960
Speaker 1: paraphrasing quote from Martin Luther when he said, I'm so

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01:11:13,160 --> 01:11:17,000
Speaker 1: busy right now. It's going to take me weeks to

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01:11:17,120 --> 01:11:21,640
Speaker 1: pray through all these things. And I love that medieval

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01:11:22,600 --> 01:11:25,280
Speaker 1: concept of prayer that was probably a lot closer to

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01:11:25,320 --> 01:11:27,479
Speaker 1: what the Apostles wanted us to think about it and

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01:11:27,560 --> 01:11:29,439
Speaker 1: Jesus wanted us to think about it. Where it's like

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01:11:29,720 --> 01:11:33,280
Speaker 1: the busier you are, the more you better be praying.

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01:11:34,040 --> 01:11:37,639
Speaker 1: And I think we've totally gotten away from that, And

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01:11:39,200 --> 01:11:42,920
Speaker 1: you say, crazy events today's world. You've you guys have

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01:11:42,960 --> 01:11:46,200
Speaker 1: been busy with having children in college and COVID, and

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01:11:46,240 --> 01:11:50,120
Speaker 1: you've been horrible about making time. Well, the first way

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01:11:50,160 --> 01:11:53,719
Speaker 1: to introduce your kids to God, like your question is saying,

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01:11:54,080 --> 01:12:02,040
Speaker 1: is for you to engulf yourself in God. Kid comes

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01:12:02,080 --> 01:12:06,120
Speaker 1: out of their room and catches you on your knees

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01:12:06,320 --> 01:12:11,240
Speaker 1: praying for them. That is the best example you could show.

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01:12:11,640 --> 01:12:15,320
Speaker 1: That is better than any recited dinner time prayer or

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01:12:15,600 --> 01:12:19,439
Speaker 1: nighttime go to sleep, have good dreams prayer. They walk

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01:12:19,520 --> 01:12:24,200
Speaker 1: in on mommy on her knees, eyes clenched, clothes, and

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01:12:25,080 --> 01:12:29,479
Speaker 1: her hands clasped praying for the salvation of their child.

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01:12:30,400 --> 01:12:35,479
Speaker 1: That's a beautiful image for a child to walk into.

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01:12:36,479 --> 01:12:40,760
Speaker 1: And and everything after that is going to trickle down.

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01:12:40,840 --> 01:12:44,240
Speaker 1: You put that oxygen mask on first, you make time

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01:12:44,280 --> 01:12:47,200
Speaker 1: for that church. Don't tell me you're too busy for church.

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01:12:47,760 --> 01:12:51,559
Speaker 1: Everybody listening, don't tell me you're too busy. You're talking

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01:12:51,560 --> 01:12:55,080
Speaker 1: to four busy guys here. Don't tell us or anyone

1163
01:12:55,160 --> 01:12:59,160
Speaker 1: else you're too busy to go to church on Sunday.

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01:13:00,080 --> 01:13:02,639
Speaker 1: Find a time. There is a church in your town.

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01:13:02,640 --> 01:13:05,360
Speaker 1: You're in San Diego, monic, I'm not yelling at you.

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01:13:07,479 --> 01:13:11,720
Speaker 1: He's just far up our church somewhere. Chad could look

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01:13:11,720 --> 01:13:13,439
Speaker 1: one up if you don't have one. Chad is good

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01:13:13,479 --> 01:13:15,640
Speaker 1: at finding churches. But there is one that has a

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01:13:15,680 --> 01:13:19,720
Speaker 1: service time that matches your schedule. It might be five

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01:13:19,720 --> 01:13:22,640
Speaker 1: o'clock on a Saturday, it might be five o'clock on

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01:13:22,680 --> 01:13:26,080
Speaker 1: a Sunday PM. It might be eleven am on Sunday.

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01:13:26,080 --> 01:13:28,720
Speaker 1: But there is there is a service and that you

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01:13:28,800 --> 01:13:32,479
Speaker 1: can give an hour and a half to And if

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01:13:32,520 --> 01:13:35,280
Speaker 1: you make that a priority, and you show your kids

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01:13:35,280 --> 01:13:38,280
Speaker 1: that we're getting dressed, we're going to church, why because

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01:13:38,720 --> 01:13:44,120
Speaker 1: we love God in this house? Then then everything, like

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Speaker 1: I said, everything trickles down to you your original question

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01:13:48,800 --> 01:13:53,160
Speaker 1: of how to introduce God. All right, I'll stop preaching.

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01:13:53,200 --> 01:13:56,479
Speaker 1: Now he's got this. Now that's good. I think. On

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01:13:56,479 --> 01:13:59,320
Speaker 1: one of the podcasts Grangeer, you answered a question similar

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01:13:59,320 --> 01:14:04,160
Speaker 1: to this with how you prayed with London like that

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01:14:04,240 --> 01:14:06,439
Speaker 1: night before maybe it was Lincoln the night before, And

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01:14:06,680 --> 01:14:09,120
Speaker 1: I really liked it and appreciated how you said, like

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01:14:09,800 --> 01:14:12,360
Speaker 1: you don't just go in and say like a recited prayer,

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01:14:12,720 --> 01:14:17,240
Speaker 1: but you're like very specific whenever you pray with them,

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01:14:17,360 --> 01:14:19,519
Speaker 1: and I thought that that was cool. I started using

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01:14:19,560 --> 01:14:25,200
Speaker 1: that too. I think anytime, like meal times. I know

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01:14:25,240 --> 01:14:29,600
Speaker 1: it may seem cliche, but that has been when my

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01:14:29,680 --> 01:14:33,400
Speaker 1: kids are really little, a given opportunity because I'm not

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01:14:33,400 --> 01:14:37,120
Speaker 1: going to miss a meal, yes right, unless intentionally. And

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01:14:37,200 --> 01:14:40,240
Speaker 1: so we're gonna sit down and everyone's excited about food.

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01:14:40,760 --> 01:14:42,920
Speaker 1: So I would ask them, you know, what's your favorite

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01:14:42,920 --> 01:14:44,960
Speaker 1: part of this meal that we're about to have? And

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01:14:45,800 --> 01:14:49,080
Speaker 1: isn't it cool that God made food to be yummy? Yeah,

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01:14:49,439 --> 01:14:52,280
Speaker 1: that's He's a god that wants us to enjoy stuff.

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01:14:52,360 --> 01:14:56,400
Speaker 1: Isn't that awesome? What's your favorite thing? And you just

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01:14:56,479 --> 01:14:58,360
Speaker 1: kind of have them go around and go, okay, you

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01:14:58,400 --> 01:15:00,760
Speaker 1: say thanks God for this being yummy. Thanks God, and

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01:15:00,800 --> 01:15:04,080
Speaker 1: you just at two and a half, they know that

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01:15:04,160 --> 01:15:06,759
Speaker 1: there's things they like, there's things that they get excited about.

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01:15:06,880 --> 01:15:09,400
Speaker 1: Sometimes they get scared, and so we would always talk

1202
01:15:09,439 --> 01:15:12,599
Speaker 1: to our kids like, you can absolutely come to us

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01:15:12,600 --> 01:15:14,960
Speaker 1: at night if you have a nightmare or you're scared,

1204
01:15:15,360 --> 01:15:19,680
Speaker 1: but you can also begin by just asking God to

1205
01:15:19,760 --> 01:15:23,160
Speaker 1: help you get through this. And so giving them real

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01:15:23,240 --> 01:15:26,920
Speaker 1: practical They eat all the time and they like yummy things,

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01:15:26,920 --> 01:15:30,240
Speaker 1: and God could have made everything taste like wood or something,

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01:15:30,280 --> 01:15:33,280
Speaker 1: but it's yummy. So thank you God. That tells us

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01:15:33,280 --> 01:15:34,960
Speaker 1: a little bit about him that he wants us to

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01:15:35,000 --> 01:15:38,040
Speaker 1: have joy and experience the pleasure of food, and so

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01:15:38,240 --> 01:15:41,439
Speaker 1: thank you for that. Have you guys ever had kids,

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01:15:41,600 --> 01:15:43,479
Speaker 1: or I know Parker, you've probably seen it with my kids,

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01:15:43,520 --> 01:15:46,719
Speaker 1: but have you ever seen kids really little walking around

1214
01:15:46,840 --> 01:15:49,200
Speaker 1: acting like they're talking on the phone and they're using

1215
01:15:49,240 --> 01:15:54,920
Speaker 1: a toy because they're imitating adults. Yep, they're seeing that.

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01:15:55,479 --> 01:15:59,960
Speaker 1: So imagine, imagine an invitation of a prayer. I'm doing

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01:16:00,120 --> 01:16:02,439
Speaker 1: what Daddy does, closes his eyes and puts his hands

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01:16:02,479 --> 01:16:06,800
Speaker 1: together and he talks to God. I love seeing their

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01:16:06,840 --> 01:16:09,880
Speaker 1: little personalities come out, too, because each one of my

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01:16:09,960 --> 01:16:13,040
Speaker 1: kids will pray differently, like Boston's very like to the

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01:16:13,080 --> 01:16:16,960
Speaker 1: point like here I think for this food, Amy, Yeah,

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01:16:17,040 --> 01:16:20,439
Speaker 1: and Stella is like thirty minute sermon on her friends

1223
01:16:20,479 --> 01:16:23,120
Speaker 1: at school and her teacher and all of this different stuff,

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01:16:23,160 --> 01:16:25,000
Speaker 1: and then you'll get to the food so we can eat.

1225
01:16:25,040 --> 01:16:28,680
Speaker 1: But but yeah, you're right, they're they're watching us to

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01:16:28,720 --> 01:16:30,160
Speaker 1: see how we do it, but it's also cool to

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01:16:30,200 --> 01:16:33,320
Speaker 1: kind of see how each one of them approach it.

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01:16:33,400 --> 01:16:35,479
Speaker 1: You know, their personalities start to kind of come out too.

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01:16:36,080 --> 01:16:38,400
Speaker 1: Have you ever heard them like sign off on a

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01:16:38,439 --> 01:16:41,240
Speaker 1: prayer like you do, and you're like, oh, I guess

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01:16:41,240 --> 01:16:43,400
Speaker 1: that's how I do it. Like they're saying things they

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01:16:43,400 --> 01:16:49,479
Speaker 1: don't know, right, Precious Heavenly Father, You're like like that,

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01:16:51,000 --> 01:16:53,679
Speaker 1: I'm gonna switch gears here and go to career life Advice.

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01:16:53,760 --> 01:16:56,120
Speaker 1: It says, Hey, grand your name is Josh. I live

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01:16:56,200 --> 01:16:58,439
Speaker 1: just north of you in Colleen, Texas. I've been in

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01:16:58,479 --> 01:17:02,000
Speaker 1: the military for over eleven years now. I'm not getting

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01:17:02,120 --> 01:17:06,600
Speaker 1: the job satisfaction anymore. I have an entrepreneur mindset, and

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01:17:06,680 --> 01:17:08,760
Speaker 1: my wife and I want to pursue that path. We

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01:17:08,800 --> 01:17:11,479
Speaker 1: have a small micro brewery and we want to run

1240
01:17:12,040 --> 01:17:15,559
Speaker 1: and that we run, and we want to pursue opening

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01:17:15,640 --> 01:17:19,559
Speaker 1: our own business. Giving up not only job security but

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01:17:19,600 --> 01:17:21,960
Speaker 1: the benefits that come with the military is such a

1243
01:17:22,000 --> 01:17:25,760
Speaker 1: hard choice. Retiring is an option, but I would much

1244
01:17:25,840 --> 01:17:28,160
Speaker 1: rather be home with my kids and family than what

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01:17:28,200 --> 01:17:32,080
Speaker 1: I currently do. What advice do you have for me? Josh,

1246
01:17:32,160 --> 01:17:34,639
Speaker 1: thank you for your service. I'm assuming you're at Fort

1247
01:17:34,680 --> 01:17:40,920
Speaker 1: Hood and we we want you to know that we

1248
01:17:41,640 --> 01:17:46,320
Speaker 1: could sit around microphones and talk about religion and life

1249
01:17:46,680 --> 01:17:50,800
Speaker 1: and freedom and post it to the world because of

1250
01:17:50,960 --> 01:17:56,640
Speaker 1: the freedoms protected by men like you, Josh. So you

1251
01:17:56,640 --> 01:17:58,040
Speaker 1: don't have to hear that from me, but I want

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01:17:58,080 --> 01:18:04,479
Speaker 1: to tell you that this is a common This is

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01:18:04,600 --> 01:18:09,200
Speaker 1: this is a common theme right now of a dissatisfaction

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01:18:09,880 --> 01:18:12,599
Speaker 1: in a career. If there's something better, it's the old

1255
01:18:13,360 --> 01:18:16,640
Speaker 1: The grass is greener right burns of you and I

1256
01:18:16,760 --> 01:18:19,160
Speaker 1: looked at stuff like that. Oh yeah, the questions like

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01:18:19,200 --> 01:18:22,000
Speaker 1: this before. I think I think that this can go

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01:18:22,080 --> 01:18:26,120
Speaker 1: a couple different ways. Though he's been in the military

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01:18:26,120 --> 01:18:32,280
Speaker 1: for eleven years. I think that God can move us

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01:18:33,360 --> 01:18:39,200
Speaker 1: two different things in different seasons. Right, So if this

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01:18:39,320 --> 01:18:41,600
Speaker 1: falls into one of the categories, the six categories that

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01:18:41,600 --> 01:18:44,040
Speaker 1: we're talking about, I think this may be go to

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01:18:44,080 --> 01:18:46,320
Speaker 1: the Word of God, like I feel like a lot

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01:18:46,400 --> 01:18:48,400
Speaker 1: of those will fall into this. But I think if

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01:18:48,439 --> 01:18:53,000
Speaker 1: you are spending time in the word Josh had mentioned

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01:18:53,040 --> 01:18:55,960
Speaker 1: that in here. Okay, well, I'm just advising this is

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Speaker 1: a good place to start. What's next for you is

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01:19:01,240 --> 01:19:03,519
Speaker 1: gonna I feel like it's gonna be revealed as you

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01:19:03,600 --> 01:19:08,120
Speaker 1: were just like saturating yourself, uh in soaking in God's

1270
01:19:08,160 --> 01:19:12,160
Speaker 1: word and asking him and giving your life to him. Jesus,

1271
01:19:12,240 --> 01:19:14,880
Speaker 1: I want you to be known through my life. Whether

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01:19:14,920 --> 01:19:16,840
Speaker 1: I'm doing this or that, it doesn't matter. Where do

1273
01:19:16,880 --> 01:19:21,400
Speaker 1: you want me to go? And let's go. I think

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01:19:21,439 --> 01:19:25,360
Speaker 1: that that could be one path that this question could

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01:19:25,400 --> 01:19:30,040
Speaker 1: fall into. The other one could be the whole contentment thing.

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01:19:30,360 --> 01:19:32,160
Speaker 1: And I think you guys may have hit on this

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01:19:32,400 --> 01:19:36,479
Speaker 1: on the last podcast where we've or maybe it was

1278
01:19:36,520 --> 01:19:41,280
Speaker 1: you and I just about you know, somebody's not satisfied,

1279
01:19:41,479 --> 01:19:45,559
Speaker 1: they're not content in the job that they have, and

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01:19:45,960 --> 01:19:47,800
Speaker 1: it was there's kind of this question of like when

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01:19:47,840 --> 01:19:52,759
Speaker 1: did the generations kind of move towards this of like yeah,

1282
01:19:53,320 --> 01:19:56,280
Speaker 1: and I think it was you because we were talking

1283
01:19:56,280 --> 01:20:00,880
Speaker 1: about your did your grandparents change job? Yeah? They work?

1284
01:20:01,240 --> 01:20:06,080
Speaker 1: That was not caught for thirty years. And dude, since

1285
01:20:06,160 --> 01:20:10,040
Speaker 1: that podcast, I remember just thinking about this and thinking

1286
01:20:10,080 --> 01:20:13,080
Speaker 1: about this, and I feel like something that just kept

1287
01:20:13,160 --> 01:20:19,320
Speaker 1: coming up that is much more prevalent now is options, right,

1288
01:20:20,320 --> 01:20:25,120
Speaker 1: and man, it is options in people that you're available

1289
01:20:25,120 --> 01:20:27,400
Speaker 1: to date because you now have like the access to

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01:20:27,439 --> 01:20:29,840
Speaker 1: the internet. It's things you can buy because you can

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01:20:29,920 --> 01:20:34,120
Speaker 1: find the same thing and get it. The options of jobs, stuff,

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01:20:34,320 --> 01:20:41,240
Speaker 1: everything is endless, and it's creating so much discontentment and

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01:20:41,360 --> 01:20:46,480
Speaker 1: so much unsatisfaction with what we have because we're exposed

1294
01:20:46,479 --> 01:20:49,639
Speaker 1: to like all of this stuff and we believe this

1295
01:20:49,800 --> 01:20:53,400
Speaker 1: lie that, Oh man, if if I had that, I

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01:20:53,439 --> 01:20:55,439
Speaker 1: would be happy. If I had that, I would be happy.

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01:20:55,880 --> 01:20:58,479
Speaker 1: And all it's doing is keeping us from fully committing

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01:20:58,520 --> 01:21:00,719
Speaker 1: and being grateful for what we have in the moment.

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01:21:01,760 --> 01:21:04,720
Speaker 1: On social media, I know there's a lot of good

1300
01:21:04,720 --> 01:21:06,840
Speaker 1: things about it. I think this is one of the

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01:21:07,040 --> 01:21:11,040
Speaker 1: absolute downfalls of social media is it is exposing people

1302
01:21:11,080 --> 01:21:14,160
Speaker 1: to things that are not real and they're not in

1303
01:21:14,240 --> 01:21:18,120
Speaker 1: their lives, and people are giving their time and energy thinking, man,

1304
01:21:18,240 --> 01:21:19,960
Speaker 1: I wish I could go to that place, I wish

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01:21:20,000 --> 01:21:22,000
Speaker 1: I could be with that. Man, I wish my husband

1306
01:21:22,000 --> 01:21:23,800
Speaker 1: looked like that. I wish my wife looked like that.

1307
01:21:24,560 --> 01:21:27,479
Speaker 1: And it's really just all of these options were just

1308
01:21:27,560 --> 01:21:32,559
Speaker 1: bombarded with it. It's creating this lack of contentment. You're

1309
01:21:32,560 --> 01:21:37,000
Speaker 1: absolutely right, and that's probably where the microbrewery entrepreneur plan

1310
01:21:37,240 --> 01:21:40,920
Speaker 1: comes from too, is he's seeing an Instagram account. It's like, man,

1311
01:21:41,000 --> 01:21:43,880
Speaker 1: those guys are crushing it. They got they started up

1312
01:21:43,920 --> 01:21:46,360
Speaker 1: this microbrewery and now they've got their own brand. They're

1313
01:21:46,360 --> 01:21:50,920
Speaker 1: in HGB now, and Man, I could do that, and Josh.

1314
01:21:51,160 --> 01:21:53,360
Speaker 1: Part of that is the American dream. And so I

1315
01:21:53,360 --> 01:21:57,240
Speaker 1: don't want to diminish the fact that our heritage as Americans,

1316
01:21:58,280 --> 01:22:00,559
Speaker 1: it came from people going there's got to be something

1317
01:22:00,600 --> 01:22:02,960
Speaker 1: better out there. There's got to be something better, and

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01:22:03,640 --> 01:22:06,759
Speaker 1: whatever it takes for me to provide for my family,

1319
01:22:06,880 --> 01:22:09,240
Speaker 1: I'll do it. So I don't want to take that away.

1320
01:22:10,640 --> 01:22:16,880
Speaker 1: But just from a practical standpoint here, if you want

1321
01:22:16,920 --> 01:22:19,920
Speaker 1: to do this microbrewery thing, I would stay up later

1322
01:22:19,960 --> 01:22:21,720
Speaker 1: at night or get up earlier in the morning and

1323
01:22:21,760 --> 01:22:26,960
Speaker 1: try to start that while you're still working in the military.

1324
01:22:27,320 --> 01:22:30,200
Speaker 1: That maybe that's impossible. Maybe your wife could start. But

1325
01:22:30,280 --> 01:22:35,120
Speaker 1: don't just quit and start cold. That's tough. You're going

1326
01:22:35,160 --> 01:22:37,360
Speaker 1: to find yourself in a gap that you need another

1327
01:22:37,439 --> 01:22:40,200
Speaker 1: job quickly. So see if you can kick something going.

1328
01:22:40,400 --> 01:22:43,519
Speaker 1: You know, you can get a label and get this

1329
01:22:43,560 --> 01:22:45,519
Speaker 1: out to some friends and see if it's something you

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01:22:45,560 --> 01:22:47,960
Speaker 1: really want to do. I think the other lie that's

1331
01:22:47,960 --> 01:22:51,240
Speaker 1: out there is that you can be famous, you can

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01:22:51,320 --> 01:22:53,200
Speaker 1: run a brewery, you can do this, you can be

1333
01:22:53,240 --> 01:22:55,200
Speaker 1: a CEO, and there's a book to tell you how

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01:22:55,240 --> 01:22:58,439
Speaker 1: to do all of that. And it's I think that

1335
01:22:58,520 --> 01:23:01,639
Speaker 1: a lot of people are like, I am entitled to this.

1336
01:23:03,560 --> 01:23:06,240
Speaker 1: They said that I can do this, So why is

1337
01:23:06,280 --> 01:23:09,240
Speaker 1: it not happening for me? And you know the generation

1338
01:23:09,280 --> 01:23:12,960
Speaker 1: we were talking about, man, they started in the mailroom

1339
01:23:13,120 --> 01:23:15,000
Speaker 1: and they worked there for six years and then they

1340
01:23:15,200 --> 01:23:17,880
Speaker 1: moved up a little bit and they just there's no diligence,

1341
01:23:17,880 --> 01:23:22,559
Speaker 1: there's no you know, just sticking adherents, like sticking with

1342
01:23:22,600 --> 01:23:25,799
Speaker 1: something and going through it and feeling like a calling

1343
01:23:25,960 --> 01:23:31,679
Speaker 1: Like I think that, And I'll get off my soapbox now.

1344
01:23:31,880 --> 01:23:34,880
Speaker 1: The Jesus is going to provide for you far more

1345
01:23:34,880 --> 01:23:39,120
Speaker 1: than the American dream hands down. That's like a T

1346
01:23:39,240 --> 01:23:49,679
Speaker 1: shirt wouldn't sell very much. Noyea. The cameras are ready

1347
01:23:49,720 --> 01:23:51,720
Speaker 1: to reset, so I don't. I just don't want to

1348
01:23:51,800 --> 01:23:55,679
Speaker 1: quit yet. So we're about done for anyone that's listening,

1349
01:23:55,800 --> 01:23:57,320
Speaker 1: We're just about done. But I'm going to re set

1350
01:23:57,360 --> 01:24:06,280
Speaker 1: the cameras real quick and finish this. What you got ched? Well,

1351
01:24:06,640 --> 01:24:09,080
Speaker 1: I kept thinking as you guys were talking about this,

1352
01:24:09,280 --> 01:24:13,080
Speaker 1: that there is a what Bernie says about this instant

1353
01:24:13,120 --> 01:24:17,800
Speaker 1: gratification in this sense of entitlement is pretty pervasive. And

1354
01:24:17,840 --> 01:24:21,160
Speaker 1: we're not necessarily accusing the you know, the writer of

1355
01:24:21,160 --> 01:24:23,360
Speaker 1: this question of that, but there is that. It's very

1356
01:24:23,360 --> 01:24:26,479
Speaker 1: pervasive in our culture, and I think we all have

1357
01:24:26,560 --> 01:24:30,240
Speaker 1: to guard against that. And in First John, one of

1358
01:24:30,280 --> 01:24:33,639
Speaker 1: the letters in the New Testament, he talks about don't

1359
01:24:33,720 --> 01:24:35,559
Speaker 1: love the world or the things of the world. And

1360
01:24:35,560 --> 01:24:38,880
Speaker 1: the things of the world are lust of the flesh, right,

1361
01:24:39,080 --> 01:24:42,240
Speaker 1: are appetites the things that you know, this instant gratification.

1362
01:24:42,400 --> 01:24:44,720
Speaker 1: I want this, and I've just got this urge and

1363
01:24:44,760 --> 01:24:48,439
Speaker 1: I need to fulfill that urge, the lust of the eyes. Right.

1364
01:24:48,479 --> 01:24:50,400
Speaker 1: I see things that I want and I need to

1365
01:24:50,439 --> 01:24:53,400
Speaker 1: have them. Right. I'm not content with here, but I

1366
01:24:53,439 --> 01:24:55,280
Speaker 1: look out there and I go, oh, I want that.

1367
01:24:56,040 --> 01:25:00,240
Speaker 1: And then he says this phrase, the boastful pride of life, right,

1368
01:25:00,320 --> 01:25:04,040
Speaker 1: this idea of status, like if I have status, if

1369
01:25:04,080 --> 01:25:08,120
Speaker 1: I have stuff, and if I can satiate these appetites,

1370
01:25:08,200 --> 01:25:10,600
Speaker 1: then then I'll be good. And what we find is

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01:25:10,640 --> 01:25:12,960
Speaker 1: the more that we get of all of that stuff,

1372
01:25:13,560 --> 01:25:17,960
Speaker 1: we find ourselves increasingly more hungry because they don't satisfy.

1373
01:25:18,640 --> 01:25:24,000
Speaker 1: And so he says, rather to abide in God. That

1374
01:25:24,200 --> 01:25:27,320
Speaker 1: is where ultimate satisfaction will come, is when we abide

1375
01:25:27,400 --> 01:25:31,439
Speaker 1: or live in and dwell with Him. So, Josh, your question,

1376
01:25:32,000 --> 01:25:35,720
Speaker 1: really to yourself needs to be Am I truly not

1377
01:25:35,960 --> 01:25:40,559
Speaker 1: happy with my job? Or is it something deeper? Is

1378
01:25:40,560 --> 01:25:44,599
Speaker 1: it myself? Am I not finding something in me that's missing?

1379
01:25:45,479 --> 01:25:47,439
Speaker 1: Or is it just Hey, I'm actually just burnt out.

1380
01:25:47,479 --> 01:25:49,519
Speaker 1: And I think I could actually run a micro brewery.

1381
01:25:49,920 --> 01:25:52,160
Speaker 1: And can you do them simultaneous? I don't know, That's

1382
01:25:52,160 --> 01:25:54,800
Speaker 1: what I was thinking. At least get it started so

1383
01:25:54,840 --> 01:25:57,320
Speaker 1: that it's not a cold turkey, you know, quit the

1384
01:25:57,400 --> 01:26:01,439
Speaker 1: job and start something new. Maybe you could drop off

1385
01:26:01,479 --> 01:26:03,680
Speaker 1: a case at ee Farms. That would be great just

1386
01:26:03,680 --> 01:26:08,559
Speaker 1: down the road, right, Josh and everyone else that emailed,

1387
01:26:10,160 --> 01:26:12,000
Speaker 1: I hope that you never felt like I was, or

1388
01:26:12,040 --> 01:26:14,840
Speaker 1: any of us were yelling at you. The reason I

1389
01:26:14,880 --> 01:26:19,000
Speaker 1: get passionate is because I feel myself in your question. Yeah, sure,

1390
01:26:19,040 --> 01:26:22,040
Speaker 1: I'm not any better than you. I don't know any

1391
01:26:22,160 --> 01:26:26,360
Speaker 1: more than you. I just I feel because I'm a human.

1392
01:26:26,560 --> 01:26:29,240
Speaker 1: So with all these are like the ghostings of friends.

1393
01:26:29,280 --> 01:26:32,519
Speaker 1: And you know, I can't tell Amber I'm ready to

1394
01:26:32,600 --> 01:26:35,919
Speaker 1: quit the marriage, but but I feel that human sentiment

1395
01:26:35,960 --> 01:26:40,120
Speaker 1: in that I feel myself deep down inside going, yeah,

1396
01:26:40,240 --> 01:26:43,560
Speaker 1: I agree, what's the answer. And so I get passionate

1397
01:26:43,960 --> 01:26:47,120
Speaker 1: because we all know that you could answer things with

1398
01:26:47,280 --> 01:26:51,160
Speaker 1: trust or communication or run to Jesus as fast as

1399
01:26:51,200 --> 01:26:54,599
Speaker 1: you can, and you could answer almost all of these

1400
01:26:56,600 --> 01:27:00,000
Speaker 1: and so I love answering them and I get pass

1401
01:27:01,560 --> 01:27:05,000
Speaker 1: not because I feel better, but I feel you. I

1402
01:27:05,040 --> 01:27:10,920
Speaker 1: feel me in this question, so that that career life

1403
01:27:11,200 --> 01:27:15,759
Speaker 1: advice question is it's common and a lot of people.

1404
01:27:15,800 --> 01:27:17,800
Speaker 1: I read it on this episode because I know a

1405
01:27:17,800 --> 01:27:21,080
Speaker 1: lot of people ask me something like this, and I

1406
01:27:21,560 --> 01:27:24,120
Speaker 1: think it. I think we'd all four of us would

1407
01:27:24,120 --> 01:27:27,520
Speaker 1: be lying if we said we don't think this. Sometimes

1408
01:27:27,920 --> 01:27:31,280
Speaker 1: we don't think am I really gonna do this forever?

1409
01:27:32,880 --> 01:27:37,040
Speaker 1: And we all have really cool jobs. So that says something.

1410
01:27:38,880 --> 01:27:43,120
Speaker 1: Donald Trump said that I wonder what could be next.

1411
01:27:43,560 --> 01:27:46,320
Speaker 1: Donald Trump said that before he was president. Then he

1412
01:27:46,360 --> 01:27:48,639
Speaker 1: probably said it sitting in the Oval Office. I bet

1413
01:27:48,760 --> 01:27:50,800
Speaker 1: I bet you thought, how long am I going to

1414
01:27:50,880 --> 01:27:54,880
Speaker 1: do this? Like? Right, I could never be never in

1415
01:27:54,920 --> 01:27:58,360
Speaker 1: their everyone's everyone's going to have that because they're human,

1416
01:27:59,120 --> 01:28:02,519
Speaker 1: and part of it can become very destructive, and part

1417
01:28:02,520 --> 01:28:06,120
Speaker 1: of it could create the United States of America. To

1418
01:28:06,120 --> 01:28:09,720
Speaker 1: what it became with that mentality. I think another category

1419
01:28:09,880 --> 01:28:13,400
Speaker 1: that these things could kind of fall into and be

1420
01:28:13,520 --> 01:28:18,720
Speaker 1: answered by maybe is community. And so this couple, I

1421
01:28:18,760 --> 01:28:22,400
Speaker 1: would say, your community friends. If you don't have a

1422
01:28:22,439 --> 01:28:25,599
Speaker 1: community of friends, find them, push into them, serve them,

1423
01:28:25,640 --> 01:28:29,599
Speaker 1: give yourself to it, and just talk to hey, Parker,

1424
01:28:29,600 --> 01:28:32,599
Speaker 1: I'm thinking about doing this thing. And he may be like, man,

1425
01:28:32,640 --> 01:28:35,439
Speaker 1: I've always seen the way that you handled this and this,

1426
01:28:35,520 --> 01:28:37,960
Speaker 1: and I actually know somebody I can like plug you

1427
01:28:37,960 --> 01:28:40,880
Speaker 1: in and you I think that you would be really

1428
01:28:40,920 --> 01:28:44,000
Speaker 1: good at this and get affirmation from them and support.

1429
01:28:44,160 --> 01:28:49,120
Speaker 1: And I think it's I think it's very and you know,

1430
01:28:49,600 --> 01:28:51,080
Speaker 1: I don't know if this is right, but I feel

1431
01:28:51,120 --> 01:28:53,680
Speaker 1: like it's very rare where you wake up one day

1432
01:28:53,680 --> 01:28:55,800
Speaker 1: and God says do this, and it's like you have

1433
01:28:55,840 --> 01:28:58,360
Speaker 1: to decide in a moment. I feel like he just

1434
01:28:58,400 --> 01:29:01,679
Speaker 1: starts to kind of like nudge at you a little bit,

1435
01:29:01,920 --> 01:29:04,599
Speaker 1: and and then you go to his word and you're like, sis,

1436
01:29:05,120 --> 01:29:06,920
Speaker 1: what I feel. I'm feeling this? And then you talk

1437
01:29:06,960 --> 01:29:09,320
Speaker 1: to your community and you talk to your wife or

1438
01:29:09,680 --> 01:29:12,880
Speaker 1: you know, whoever, and talk to your friends, and I

1439
01:29:12,880 --> 01:29:14,880
Speaker 1: think you could get there that way. I think that's

1440
01:29:15,120 --> 01:29:18,960
Speaker 1: community is definitely so good. And what you mean, Burns

1441
01:29:19,080 --> 01:29:21,640
Speaker 1: is I would go to I would go to the

1442
01:29:21,720 --> 01:29:27,519
Speaker 1: general and talk to him about this. I'll talk to

1443
01:29:27,720 --> 01:29:29,439
Speaker 1: I would talk to the retired guy. You don't talk

1444
01:29:29,439 --> 01:29:32,040
Speaker 1: to the guy that's that's active, because you can find

1445
01:29:32,040 --> 01:29:33,880
Speaker 1: out you're not happy with your job. But I'd go

1446
01:29:33,880 --> 01:29:36,920
Speaker 1: to the retired general that works at the cigar shop

1447
01:29:36,960 --> 01:29:40,439
Speaker 1: in Slaedo, Texas or whatever and just say, sir, can

1448
01:29:40,520 --> 01:29:42,960
Speaker 1: I can I run something by you? And he's probably

1449
01:29:43,000 --> 01:29:45,800
Speaker 1: gonna go, I know exactly how you feel. And then

1450
01:29:45,800 --> 01:29:49,000
Speaker 1: I would go to the micro brewery guy, the guy

1451
01:29:49,080 --> 01:29:51,280
Speaker 1: the guy at the brewery and go the guy that's

1452
01:29:51,320 --> 01:29:54,479
Speaker 1: successful and go, I talk to you about something, and

1453
01:29:54,600 --> 01:29:56,400
Speaker 1: he might look you in the eye and go, don't

1454
01:29:56,400 --> 01:29:58,599
Speaker 1: get into this business. It's not what it looks like.

1455
01:29:58,680 --> 01:30:01,960
Speaker 1: It's terrible and we're fighting to pay the rent every day.

1456
01:30:02,400 --> 01:30:06,120
Speaker 1: You don't know, so that that community, that that's the

1457
01:30:06,120 --> 01:30:09,280
Speaker 1: wise counsel that it's also just such a great answer

1458
01:30:09,360 --> 01:30:14,920
Speaker 1: to any question. So, guys, episode one, thank you for

1459
01:30:15,760 --> 01:30:18,200
Speaker 1: thanks for being on it, Thanks for everyone for watching

1460
01:30:18,200 --> 01:30:20,720
Speaker 1: a little extra well, dude, thank you. Can we just

1461
01:30:20,760 --> 01:30:23,880
Speaker 1: say that, like one, thank you for having you know

1462
01:30:24,040 --> 01:30:28,360
Speaker 1: us on here, but to thank you that you continue

1463
01:30:29,000 --> 01:30:33,920
Speaker 1: to pursue this calling unapologetically and put out the kind

1464
01:30:33,960 --> 01:30:38,080
Speaker 1: of content that you do, and we, I think are

1465
01:30:38,120 --> 01:30:40,360
Speaker 1: all privileged to get to walk with you in this.

1466
01:30:40,640 --> 01:30:43,800
Speaker 1: It's fun stuff. So and I can say you asked

1467
01:30:43,800 --> 01:30:45,960
Speaker 1: me one time, like, you know, why do you come

1468
01:30:46,000 --> 01:30:49,840
Speaker 1: from so far? Whatever? I was thinking about Eye Nation.

1469
01:30:51,160 --> 01:30:53,680
Speaker 1: Anybody out there listening to this, if you called them

1470
01:30:53,680 --> 01:30:55,320
Speaker 1: and said, can you come to the podcast? You have

1471
01:30:55,360 --> 01:30:56,760
Speaker 1: to drive an hour and have to get here, they

1472
01:30:56,800 --> 01:30:59,479
Speaker 1: would be like yes. So I think all of us

1473
01:30:59,479 --> 01:31:01,680
Speaker 1: are like, man, of course, of course we're gonna come,

1474
01:31:01,720 --> 01:31:04,280
Speaker 1: because anyone out there would probably do the same thing,

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Speaker 1: just to sit and chop it up with you. Man,

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Speaker 1: Thanks buddy, appreciate you guys, and congrats one hundred. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Once sword a guy said that he wouldn't listen to

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Speaker 1: a podcast unless there's been at least one hundred episodes,

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Speaker 1: because he said that's how long it takes. Who was

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Speaker 1: able to facilitate a conversation and host it? Well, I

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Speaker 1: don't remember, but I remember that too. People can officially

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Speaker 1: start listening now I guess at it's actually a legit podcast.

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Speaker 1: We have one hundred et it. I understand all right,

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Speaker 1: Love you guys. We'll see you next time, one on one.

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Speaker 1: Ye thanks for joining me on the Grangersmith Podcast. I

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Speaker 1: appreciate all of you guys. You could help me out

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Speaker 1: a video. If you have a question for me that

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Speaker 1: you would like me to answer, email Grangersmith Podcast at

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Speaker 1: gmail dot com. Ye un, don't