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Speaker 1: Is this Lyle? Yes?

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Speaker 2: Who is this.

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Speaker 1: Hid Lyle?

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Speaker 2: My name is Goldie, Goldie. What's going on, Goldie? How's life? Oh?

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Speaker 1: Man, I'm actually I'm crying right now, but so not

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Speaker 1: the greatest at the moment.

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Speaker 2: You're quiet? Why are you? Why are you crying?

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Speaker 1: It's kind of silly. But so I'm an avid Twitch watcher, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I love to watch Twitch streams, and uh, I've actually

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Speaker 1: been watching you for probably like two or three years now. Cool,

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Speaker 1: So I'm a very big fan. I love your stream, dude.

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Speaker 1: But but uh, yeah, I'm actually crying because another person

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Speaker 1: that I watch on here? Can you just ban me? Yeah? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: from his Twitter community because actually, as it turns out,

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Speaker 1: I'm already banned on Twitch, so I can't actually chat,

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Speaker 1: but I do listen, right, Okay, yeah, so but I

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Speaker 1: I just got banned from his Twitter community and I'm

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Speaker 2: Okay, all right, let's well let's talk this through. Well,

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Speaker 2: first of all, why why did you Why do you

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Speaker 2: think you got banns?

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Speaker 1: So I have a lot to say. I'm kind of

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Speaker 1: I kind of talk too much, I guess, and I

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Speaker 2: Okay, is this as like a small streamer.

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Speaker 1: Usually about like six hundred viewers a stream he has?

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Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, all right, I mean let's reverse engineer this

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Speaker 2: in a few ways, because why are you why are

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Speaker 2: you spending so much time talking in this guy's chat?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean they sometimes they call me a parasocial okay,

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Speaker 1: because yeah, I'm not exactly one hundred percent sure what

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Speaker 3: Like, like I where I believe that I'm closer to

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: A parasolic relationship is like a relationship that you form,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's definitely what I'm kind of doing. I

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Speaker 1: don't really have many Actually I don't have any friends

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Speaker 1: I kind of use twitch as a platform where I

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Speaker 2: Okay, why do you feel like you don't have any friends?

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Speaker 1: Well, I'm a single mom, though I kind of lost

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Speaker 1: I never made any new ones after I lost all

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Speaker 2: Where were your friends from? Like? Where or were they

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: M you know, I'm not fully opposed to using online

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Speaker 1: No, I'm actually in my room. I'm pacing back and

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Speaker 1: But but about what you were saying is, yeah, like

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Speaker 1: I definitely wish that I could find friends in real life.

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Speaker 2: Well, you can find friends in real life even if

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Speaker 2: truthfully more about repeated exposure than it is about any

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Speaker 2: But uh yeah, it's possible, And it's possible to do

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Speaker 1: Mostly like I would. I would interact with the other

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Speaker 1: You know, yeah, yeah, definitely.

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Speaker 2: And it's one thing if you like what they have

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Speaker 2: Well, are there areas in which you would feel more comfortable?

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Speaker 2: Like what are your what are your hobbies? What do

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Speaker 2: Why why is your guys' relationship strained?

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Speaker 1: Well, he's just he's always been very controlling and manipulative,

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Speaker 4: He just.

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Speaker 1: Ye for a while, he would try to make me

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Speaker 1: It's yeah, it goes pretty deep, which probably didn't need

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Speaker 2: But what's your what's your your kid sounds like he's

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Speaker 1: No, it's just us, just me, boys and.

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Speaker 2: Mm hmm, goldie, goldie, Goldie. Damn, you're holding that fucking

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, you got it down for sure.

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Speaker 2: You got it down. You got it down.

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Speaker 1: Man, dude, you have no idea how happy you just

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Speaker 1: nade me because, like, like I said, like when I

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Speaker 2: I'm Goldie. Try to try to try to build yourself up.

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Speaker 2: You're doing a fucking tough thing and you're doing a

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Speaker 2: and you just go just don't know. When you're going

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Speaker 2: So do with that information as you please. All right, man, Goldie,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, just love love, come on, chat, love on yourself,

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Speaker 1: keep this uh stream of love going, swag, do something

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much, Lyle, Thank you Goldi. You have

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Speaker 3: Good luck all right, you too, my Golden.

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Speaker 2: I want to join the word search Discord. No, I

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Speaker 2: actually don't want to do that. I'm not gonna lie

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Speaker 2: and say I want to do that, but it's because

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Speaker 2: I don't like word searches. If I liked word searches,

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Speaker 2: sex all the time. Hello, Hey, buddy, what's uh what's

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Speaker 4: My name title idle like like American? Yeah, like American idol?

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Speaker 2: Cool. I like that name. I assume we haven't spoken before,

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Speaker 4: No, yeah, we haven't. I've been watching for a while

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Speaker 4: Yeah. I have a lot of pent up anger towards

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Speaker 4: I'm going through Instagram and I see a fucking food

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Speaker 2: Fuck why does that upset you that that's that's good,

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Speaker 2: that's what you want that it's I I hate the

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Speaker 4: there and it's just too much, too much going on. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: But you don't run the business.

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Speaker 3: No, I don't.

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Speaker 4: It's just how can I say it. I'm just tired

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Speaker 4: Nobody knows. It's just I just like to enjoy it,

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Speaker 4: enjoy the scenery, you know, but you know people, You

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Speaker 4: in because you know, all this ship and it's just

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Speaker 4: too much, you do.

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Speaker 2: You do sound very angry. This is not about I

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Speaker 2: can tell this is not about tacos. There's something else

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Speaker 2: going it's definitely notice about going on in your life.

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Speaker 4: No, nothing that's going on. It's just I'm sick of

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Speaker 2: But do use what I don't know. I can. I

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Speaker 2: have go on to rants to you, and I don't

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Speaker 2: I mean? You don't know what I mean. I don't

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Speaker 2: I don't get like, Okay, I'm gonna say a bunch

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Speaker 2: of things that sound insane. But you know when people

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Speaker 2: I'm like, what who cares? There's food everywhere, Like, you

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Speaker 4: It's fine, but it's just you know, the quality of

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Speaker 4: the food in general. It's just places that were special

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Speaker 4: to me are being taken over. I guess you can say.

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Speaker 2: That, Yeah you don't. You don't own I don't own it.

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Speaker 4: No, I don't. I don't own the police. It's just

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Speaker 2: Where do you live? I live in Pennsylvania, what like

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Speaker 2: a billion restaurants in Philly. Just go to another place.

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Speaker 1: That. No, that's the thing.

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Speaker 4: I don't want to go to another place.

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Speaker 2: But you might discover a new place. But you might

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Speaker 4: That is true. But it's just okay, you're right on that.

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Speaker 4: I can discover a new place. It's just do I

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Speaker 2: What did? I don't understand what you're saying. Why would

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Speaker 4: I don't know. It's this new things scare me.

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Speaker 2: Well, let's talk about that. That's more interesting to me.

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Speaker 2: Why do new things scare you? Why does it scare

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Speaker 4: It's not necessarily taco place. It's just like, I hate

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Speaker 4: Then I'm just gonna waste money and just not enjoy it. Okay,

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Speaker 4: you know what is life?

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Speaker 2: Okay?

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Speaker 4: And everybody likes to Everybody likes to sit there and

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Speaker 4: if you pay a certain price for for disgusting food.

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Speaker 2: Mm hmm. Yeah, but that's what you gotta do. That's

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Speaker 2: the cost of Like I actually, I can I tell

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Speaker 2: you something. I hate reviews. Here's here's what my hot takes. No, No,

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Speaker 2: I hate okay, I hate review Like when we're about

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Speaker 2: if I'm with someone and I'm like, oh, let's try

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Speaker 2: start reading the reviews. I hate that because, to me,

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Speaker 2: if it's bad, let's just find out. Who cares? I

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Speaker 2: don't want to Why does every experience have to be

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Speaker 2: Why do I need the perfect, most amazing thing all

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Speaker 2: it's shitty, we'll just find it out by going there.

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Speaker 2: I hate that I have to like curate my life.

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Speaker 2: I hate like trying to curate your life so that

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Speaker 2: you never have any negative experiences ever, or any like

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Speaker 2: you eat the shitty food, and then you know not

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Speaker 2: to go there anymore. The reviews. I don't like the

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Speaker 2: system of like we have to protect ourselves from you know,

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Speaker 2: it's a real think. I think it's listen and I'm

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Speaker 2: podcast bro thing I'm gonna say it's part of the

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Speaker 2: overall pacification of America food reviews. You know what I mean.

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Speaker 2: It's it's it's a further passification of America that we

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Speaker 2: You can handle the experience of eating a shitty burrito,

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Speaker 2: and then that's what happens to you. You ate a

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Speaker 2: shitty burrito, you know, you get upsets, and then you

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Speaker 2: don't go to that place anymore. I'm being facetious, but

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Speaker 2: I also do one hundred percent believe everything I'm saying.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's just, you know, I'm just tired of it,

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Speaker 4: but I do. Jeraly do thoroughly enjoy talking to you.

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Speaker 4: It was good to get it off my chest. I

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Speaker 4: appreciate it and appreciate you answering my call.

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Speaker 2: Thanks mate, Is there anything else you want to say

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00:28:43,800 --> 00:28:47,840
Speaker 2: to the people of the computer before we go? Idle subscribe? Sweet?

438
00:28:48,240 --> 00:28:53,240
Speaker 2: Thank you, adel. I was explaining this to someone the

439
00:28:53,280 --> 00:28:55,520
Speaker 2: other day. This is why I don't I like when

440
00:28:55,560 --> 00:29:00,240
Speaker 2: people are like, oh, the food in Texas is so like,

441
00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:03,160
Speaker 2: the Mexican food in Texas is so great. I'm like,

442
00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:09,720
Speaker 2: I'm sure it is, But if you live in like

443
00:29:09,960 --> 00:29:17,800
Speaker 2: Rhode Island, there's some fucking Mexican restaurant within fifty miles

444
00:29:17,800 --> 00:29:22,040
Speaker 2: a year that's probably pretty good. Is it is the

445
00:29:22,320 --> 00:29:26,360
Speaker 2: one in Texas? Is it that much better? I don't know.

446
00:29:26,440 --> 00:29:28,040
Speaker 2: Food is food. That's just how I am. I'm not

447
00:29:28,120 --> 00:29:30,520
Speaker 2: like a Also, you know, I'm like, I think this

448
00:29:30,720 --> 00:29:33,600
Speaker 2: maybe maybe this is because I'm like, I'm a single guy,

449
00:29:33,720 --> 00:29:37,560
Speaker 2: you know, so I'm not gonna like like whatever. It's

450
00:29:37,600 --> 00:29:39,840
Speaker 2: when people like people like, oh, you live in New York,

451
00:29:39,880 --> 00:29:42,240
Speaker 2: you go do you go to all the restaurants? I'm like, no,

452
00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:45,640
Speaker 2: I'm a single guy. I'm not gonna like go out

453
00:29:45,840 --> 00:29:51,720
Speaker 2: alone to a nice restaurant on a Tuesday night. I don't.

454
00:29:51,760 --> 00:29:54,120
Speaker 2: I'm not it. I just don't care. I eat at

455
00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:58,800
Speaker 2: like I eat at the grocery store, the bodegas, the

456
00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:03,600
Speaker 2: little fast casual whatever things. I also I hate. I also, like,

457
00:30:03,720 --> 00:30:10,600
Speaker 2: just on principle, I hate spending money on uh fancy

458
00:30:10,720 --> 00:30:17,280
Speaker 2: food with like low purport like low portions. You know,

459
00:30:17,480 --> 00:30:21,560
Speaker 2: I like going to a shitty Mexican place where they'll

460
00:30:21,560 --> 00:30:24,720
Speaker 2: give me a big fucking burrito for not that much money.

461
00:30:24,720 --> 00:30:28,960
Speaker 2: But if it's think it's like a fancy takaria whatever place,

462
00:30:29,000 --> 00:30:30,960
Speaker 2: and they give you a tiny thing of chips and

463
00:30:31,000 --> 00:30:33,680
Speaker 2: a tiny little whatever and you pay like it's like

464
00:30:33,800 --> 00:30:37,480
Speaker 2: thirty dollars. I hate that shit, and I hate I

465
00:30:37,520 --> 00:30:40,720
Speaker 2: hate yeah, and I hate reviews. It's like, just eatat

466
00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:42,720
Speaker 2: it's okay, you know, go you have a be in

467
00:30:42,760 --> 00:30:46,040
Speaker 2: a bad go to eat a bad food. You know

468
00:30:46,080 --> 00:30:51,440
Speaker 2: it'll be okay. I like good. I like UH. I

469
00:30:51,560 --> 00:30:56,280
Speaker 2: like good reviews of things. Sometimes do I read a review?

470
00:30:56,320 --> 00:30:59,160
Speaker 2: I guess I read reviews of uh. I read reviews

471
00:30:59,160 --> 00:31:03,200
Speaker 2: of video games? Yeah, okay, all right, maybe it's maybe

472
00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:05,120
Speaker 2: I'm you know what, I'm actually kind of a bullshitter

473
00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:10,120
Speaker 2: because I read reviews of video games before I play them,

474
00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:16,480
Speaker 2: or do do I? I do sometimes? Yeah, you know,

475
00:31:16,600 --> 00:31:19,760
Speaker 2: because I don't like to waste my time on it. Okay,

476
00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:23,000
Speaker 2: you know what, I take back everything I said. I

477
00:31:23,000 --> 00:31:25,920
Speaker 2: think I just I think I just applied it to

478
00:31:26,080 --> 00:31:28,600
Speaker 2: this situation because I don't care that much about food.

479
00:31:28,640 --> 00:31:32,120
Speaker 2: But when I apply it to something I care about, Yeah, yeah,

480
00:31:32,160 --> 00:31:35,480
Speaker 2: I think reviews are good. Hey, everybody, what's up. It's

481
00:31:35,520 --> 00:31:39,920
Speaker 2: me Lyle And I'm gonna do the second half of

482
00:31:40,000 --> 00:31:44,480
Speaker 2: this episode as a gek mal portion. If that's okay

483
00:31:44,520 --> 00:31:48,120
Speaker 2: with you. If that's not okay with you, then uh,

484
00:31:49,040 --> 00:31:50,720
Speaker 2: I don't know what to tell you. It's too late,

485
00:31:51,240 --> 00:31:55,880
Speaker 2: because I'm gonna I'm gonna do it. I am currently

486
00:31:56,920 --> 00:32:00,600
Speaker 2: alone in a room talking into a microphone. I feel good.

487
00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 2: I took a Celsius, I took a bathroom break, and

488
00:32:06,520 --> 00:32:09,000
Speaker 2: I feel good. I feel ready to talk into a

489
00:32:09,040 --> 00:32:14,360
Speaker 2: microphone alone and read some emails and I feel like

490
00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:18,480
Speaker 2: I'm talking directly to you guys. What's going on in

491
00:32:18,960 --> 00:32:23,719
Speaker 2: my life? I went to Canada. That was nice. New

492
00:32:23,800 --> 00:32:27,840
Speaker 2: York in the fall is great. I'm trying to romanticize

493
00:32:27,880 --> 00:32:30,240
Speaker 2: my own life. Here's what's going on. This is my

494
00:32:30,440 --> 00:32:32,320
Speaker 2: this is the portion of the podcast. I'll do my

495
00:32:33,880 --> 00:32:40,240
Speaker 2: therapy for a second. I find myself constantly thinking about

496
00:32:40,400 --> 00:32:45,800
Speaker 2: the future, the future, you know, I'm always making plans.

497
00:32:46,800 --> 00:32:48,840
Speaker 2: I'm always like, oh, wouldn't it be cool to live here?

498
00:32:48,880 --> 00:32:53,200
Speaker 2: One day? Like I go to fucking uh Zillow or whatever,

499
00:32:53,280 --> 00:32:59,560
Speaker 2: and I'm like, what's the what's the rent in uh Madison, Wisconsin?

500
00:33:00,360 --> 00:33:02,760
Speaker 2: What would it be like to be there? You know,

501
00:33:02,840 --> 00:33:05,600
Speaker 2: I'm on the Reddit. I'm looking at other people's lives

502
00:33:05,640 --> 00:33:07,480
Speaker 2: on Instagram. And shit, and I'm like, what would it

503
00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:09,920
Speaker 2: be like to live that life? What would be like

504
00:33:09,960 --> 00:33:11,320
Speaker 2: to do this? What would be like to do that?

505
00:33:11,520 --> 00:33:15,120
Speaker 2: And I'm realizing I'm like, I'm fucking thinking about versions

506
00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:18,680
Speaker 2: of myself and versions of different versions of life that

507
00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:23,560
Speaker 2: are that I'm not even in, and I'm missing my

508
00:33:23,600 --> 00:33:27,520
Speaker 2: own life. It's crazy. So I'm trying to romanticize my

509
00:33:27,560 --> 00:33:31,440
Speaker 2: own life. So I'm feeling very romantic about this very

510
00:33:31,480 --> 00:33:37,120
Speaker 2: moment in which I'm sitting here talking into this uh microphone,

511
00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:40,560
Speaker 2: talking to you guys. So I'm going to romanticize the

512
00:33:40,680 --> 00:33:45,880
Speaker 2: life I'm currently living right now, however good or bad

513
00:33:45,920 --> 00:33:50,200
Speaker 2: it is. When I'm with someone, I'm trying to really

514
00:33:50,200 --> 00:33:53,040
Speaker 2: be with them. I'm looking in their eyes. I'm like,

515
00:33:53,080 --> 00:33:56,680
Speaker 2: even if I hate them, I'm like, oh, this is nice.

516
00:33:56,680 --> 00:34:02,440
Speaker 2: I get to I'm like warmed by the distain I

517
00:34:02,520 --> 00:34:06,840
Speaker 2: have for this person. Get I feel alive. I'm like

518
00:34:06,920 --> 00:34:09,640
Speaker 2: really diving in all of my emotions. I'm like diving

519
00:34:09,680 --> 00:34:11,760
Speaker 2: into them. I'm like, oh, I get to feel angry,

520
00:34:11,800 --> 00:34:14,720
Speaker 2: I get to feel I'm getting into a I'm gonna

521
00:34:14,719 --> 00:34:17,799
Speaker 2: fight with my landlord, and I'm like, this is exciting.

522
00:34:18,640 --> 00:34:21,400
Speaker 2: I get to send an angry email about fixing my

523
00:34:22,640 --> 00:34:28,240
Speaker 2: fucking heater. Look at me, I'm engaging with the universe.

524
00:34:29,120 --> 00:34:32,320
Speaker 2: I don't know. I'm crazy. All right, let's read some emails.

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00:34:34,120 --> 00:34:39,880
Speaker 2: Let's see here. This is from Waka Hello GEK. My

526
00:34:39,960 --> 00:34:42,640
Speaker 2: life is not bad. I'm about to graduate college, I

527
00:34:42,640 --> 00:34:44,880
Speaker 2: have a good lady, I'm planning to marry, and a

528
00:34:45,000 --> 00:34:48,960
Speaker 2: job that is giving me good experience with decent pay. Recently,

529
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Speaker 2: I had a strange dream. In the dream, my parents

530
00:34:52,400 --> 00:34:54,960
Speaker 2: were flying out to where I live to visit me,

531
00:34:55,360 --> 00:34:58,880
Speaker 2: and their plane suddenly vanishes. But I can remember involves

532
00:34:58,920 --> 00:35:01,480
Speaker 2: me trying to process this moment. I don't know what

533
00:35:01,560 --> 00:35:03,520
Speaker 2: happened to the plane, but when I learned that my

534
00:35:03,600 --> 00:35:07,319
Speaker 2: parents were missing, I was devastated. After some time, I

535
00:35:07,360 --> 00:35:10,160
Speaker 2: began to question why I was even sad to begin with,

536
00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:12,880
Speaker 2: and I started to reflect on all the problems in

537
00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:16,319
Speaker 2: that relationship with my parents. I remember feeling angry for

538
00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:20,000
Speaker 2: even considering that. Eventually, some kind of authority came to

539
00:35:20,040 --> 00:35:22,440
Speaker 2: me and was about to reveal what happened to my

540
00:35:22,480 --> 00:35:26,399
Speaker 2: parent's plane. But then I woke up. My parents are

541
00:35:26,960 --> 00:35:29,040
Speaker 2: flying out to the state I live to visit me

542
00:35:29,040 --> 00:35:31,560
Speaker 2: and my sister for Thanksgiving, So the timing of this

543
00:35:31,719 --> 00:35:36,480
Speaker 2: dream is alarming. I recently asked chat gpt to interpret

544
00:35:36,520 --> 00:35:38,480
Speaker 2: the stream for me because it's been stuck on my

545
00:35:38,640 --> 00:35:42,040
Speaker 2: mind for a week now. Chat gave me mumbo jumbo

546
00:35:42,120 --> 00:35:45,000
Speaker 2: about how it is a reflection of my strained relationship

547
00:35:45,000 --> 00:35:48,880
Speaker 2: with my parents. Blah blah blah. What are your thoughts?

548
00:35:49,280 --> 00:35:51,279
Speaker 2: Does this sound like a sign that my parents are

549
00:35:51,320 --> 00:35:53,480
Speaker 2: going to die? Uh? No, I don't think it's a

550
00:35:53,520 --> 00:35:57,520
Speaker 2: sign that your parents are going to die. I don't think. Okay, Like,

551
00:35:57,719 --> 00:36:01,240
Speaker 2: there's actually a lot of woo shit that I believe

552
00:36:01,320 --> 00:36:04,000
Speaker 2: is completely logical that makes a lot of fucking sense

553
00:36:04,040 --> 00:36:06,200
Speaker 2: to me. I and what but and then there's a

554
00:36:06,239 --> 00:36:07,840
Speaker 2: lot of woo woo shit that I think is stupid

555
00:36:08,239 --> 00:36:16,759
Speaker 2: And with dreams, Like I don't interpret dreams to mean

556
00:36:17,040 --> 00:36:21,480
Speaker 2: anything about the about anything external, like they don't. I

557
00:36:21,480 --> 00:36:24,319
Speaker 2: don't think they mean shit about the external events of

558
00:36:24,320 --> 00:36:27,480
Speaker 2: the universe. So like, no, I don't think that, uh,

559
00:36:27,800 --> 00:36:31,480
Speaker 2: this dream means that your parents are gonna die or

560
00:36:31,520 --> 00:36:33,480
Speaker 2: that something bad will happen. I don't believe in wu

561
00:36:33,520 --> 00:36:36,920
Speaker 2: wuo shit like that. But I totally believe in dreams

562
00:36:36,960 --> 00:36:40,760
Speaker 2: being like reflective of the internal state. So it definitely

563
00:36:40,760 --> 00:36:44,480
Speaker 2: means you have some anxiety. It's definitely also dreams will

564
00:36:44,480 --> 00:36:46,160
Speaker 2: like show you shit that you don't want to admit

565
00:36:46,160 --> 00:36:51,279
Speaker 2: to yourself. Like what a perfect example is, like if

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00:36:51,280 --> 00:36:54,320
Speaker 2: you break up with someone and you believe you're fully

567
00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:57,680
Speaker 2: over it, your dreams will show you that you're not.

568
00:36:58,080 --> 00:37:00,520
Speaker 2: You'll be like, you'll be fucking like fun five months

569
00:37:00,520 --> 00:37:02,480
Speaker 2: after a breakup or something like that, and believe you're

570
00:37:02,480 --> 00:37:03,920
Speaker 2: totally over it, and then you just have a dream

571
00:37:04,000 --> 00:37:06,520
Speaker 2: that you're like holding hands with that person, and your

572
00:37:06,520 --> 00:37:08,919
Speaker 2: subconscious is like you're lying to yourself that you're over

573
00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:13,120
Speaker 2: this right now, you know. So dreams will like show

574
00:37:13,160 --> 00:37:17,279
Speaker 2: you uncomfortable shit, But that doesn't mean any That doesn't

575
00:37:17,320 --> 00:37:20,920
Speaker 2: mean shit about the you know your ex girlfriend, you

576
00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:22,440
Speaker 2: know she's out living her life, has nothing to do

577
00:37:22,440 --> 00:37:25,440
Speaker 2: with your fucking dream. It's just reflects how you feel.

578
00:37:25,880 --> 00:37:30,279
Speaker 2: So maybe you feel anxious that about your parents. Maybe

579
00:37:30,320 --> 00:37:33,319
Speaker 2: you feel anxious about your parents dying, which is a

580
00:37:33,400 --> 00:37:37,400
Speaker 2: legitimate feeling to have. Maybe, yeah, it's probably reflective of

581
00:37:37,440 --> 00:37:41,759
Speaker 2: some relationship problems that you have with your parents. It's

582
00:37:41,760 --> 00:37:48,840
Speaker 2: probably reflective of some anger of some kind. So I

583
00:37:49,239 --> 00:37:55,200
Speaker 2: agree with the chat gpt interpretation of that. But I

584
00:37:55,200 --> 00:38:00,880
Speaker 2: don't believe in like signs of external thing. I believe

585
00:38:00,920 --> 00:38:08,120
Speaker 2: in signs of internal things. Uh yeah, I mean thinking that.

586
00:38:08,480 --> 00:38:11,280
Speaker 2: To think that your dreams are like signs of the universe,

587
00:38:11,760 --> 00:38:18,000
Speaker 2: of like events that will happen, that means that means

588
00:38:18,040 --> 00:38:21,279
Speaker 2: that you're like God or some shit. You know what

589
00:38:21,320 --> 00:38:23,960
Speaker 2: I'm saying. Okay, there's more of this email. That is

590
00:38:24,000 --> 00:38:26,759
Speaker 2: the first of two strange experiences I have had at

591
00:38:26,840 --> 00:38:30,040
Speaker 2: night recently. The other was last night I could not

592
00:38:30,120 --> 00:38:34,239
Speaker 2: fall asleep after watching six episodes of Bob's Burgers. I

593
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:38,120
Speaker 2: turned to YouTube, and I decided to watch a documentary

594
00:38:38,160 --> 00:38:42,880
Speaker 2: about the ongoing civil war in Sudan. The documentary explored

595
00:38:42,920 --> 00:38:48,200
Speaker 2: the complex landscape of the parties involved in the war. Eventually,

596
00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:51,080
Speaker 2: the video talks about a specific skirmish over a town

597
00:38:51,400 --> 00:38:54,200
Speaker 2: in which one of the military forces kills hundreds of

598
00:38:54,239 --> 00:38:57,600
Speaker 2: civilians and burns everything down. At this point, I had

599
00:38:57,640 --> 00:39:00,920
Speaker 2: to stop watching the video. I feel like I somewhat

600
00:39:00,960 --> 00:39:03,640
Speaker 2: keep up with global events. I am aware of horrible

601
00:39:03,680 --> 00:39:07,759
Speaker 2: things that happen everywhere every day. Human history has an

602
00:39:07,880 --> 00:39:11,720
Speaker 2: unmeasurable list of tragedies that have occurred, but for some reason,

603
00:39:11,760 --> 00:39:14,520
Speaker 2: I could not go back to watching Bob's Burgers this time.

604
00:39:15,280 --> 00:39:17,600
Speaker 2: I feel like I try to typically keep a good

605
00:39:17,600 --> 00:39:20,040
Speaker 2: outlook on life, but this makes me feel like I

606
00:39:20,080 --> 00:39:24,000
Speaker 2: am so ungrateful for my problems. I get to be

607
00:39:24,120 --> 00:39:26,840
Speaker 2: upset at my parents from my childhood and not have

608
00:39:26,920 --> 00:39:30,680
Speaker 2: to grieve my entire town being slaughtered and burned to

609
00:39:30,719 --> 00:39:35,440
Speaker 2: the ground by an evil dictator. Ghek, am I going crazy?

610
00:39:35,840 --> 00:39:39,120
Speaker 2: Why am I suddenly burdened with these thoughts? I'm grateful

611
00:39:39,120 --> 00:39:41,720
Speaker 2: for the opportunity to be more appreciative of my place

612
00:39:41,760 --> 00:39:43,799
Speaker 2: in this world, But how do I not let this

613
00:39:43,920 --> 00:39:46,520
Speaker 2: haunt me? How am I supposed to bring kids into

614
00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:49,680
Speaker 2: this evil world one day? Is it not morally wrong

615
00:39:49,840 --> 00:39:52,799
Speaker 2: to be responsible for sending the next generation into a

616
00:39:52,840 --> 00:39:56,000
Speaker 2: place where so much bad happens? Anyway, I hope this

617
00:39:56,080 --> 00:39:58,480
Speaker 2: email reaches you. I enjoy your perspective on things, and

618
00:39:58,520 --> 00:40:03,239
Speaker 2: I hope to hear back from you on this. I

619
00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:06,880
Speaker 2: have the exact same thoughts, oh man, listen, man, I

620
00:40:06,920 --> 00:40:11,640
Speaker 2: have the same fucking thoughts all the time. And uh,

621
00:40:12,040 --> 00:40:17,960
Speaker 2: it's very funny because, like, I don't know, I've been

622
00:40:18,040 --> 00:40:21,520
Speaker 2: to places where like I've seen like object poverty, and

623
00:40:21,560 --> 00:40:23,600
Speaker 2: horrible things, but also like you know, I mean I

624
00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:26,000
Speaker 2: live in haven't lived in like New York and LA,

625
00:40:26,120 --> 00:40:30,319
Speaker 2: Like you just see that shit outside of your house, uh,

626
00:40:30,880 --> 00:40:32,520
Speaker 2: And also like whatever you hear about it and you

627
00:40:32,520 --> 00:40:35,200
Speaker 2: see it. Yeah, yeah, you know if you're looking at

628
00:40:35,239 --> 00:40:39,840
Speaker 2: if you if you look up from your phone or

629
00:40:39,880 --> 00:40:43,840
Speaker 2: down at your phone, yeah, you'll find lots of examples

630
00:40:43,840 --> 00:40:48,200
Speaker 2: of horrible things happening, for sure. And that makes you

631
00:40:48,360 --> 00:40:52,720
Speaker 2: feel a sense of like, damn, I'm ungrateful for feeling

632
00:40:52,760 --> 00:40:55,399
Speaker 2: like shit about my problems. And I've heard people talk

633
00:40:55,400 --> 00:40:59,560
Speaker 2: about this, and I've heard people say things like like

634
00:40:59,680 --> 00:41:03,480
Speaker 2: sad and this is relative and problems are relative and

635
00:41:03,520 --> 00:41:05,919
Speaker 2: this and that and the other thing, and it's like, well,

636
00:41:06,160 --> 00:41:09,400
Speaker 2: you know, like people people say like, oh, I think

637
00:41:09,440 --> 00:41:11,839
Speaker 2: it's so annoying when I have a problem and then

638
00:41:11,840 --> 00:41:14,600
Speaker 2: someone says to me, well, you could be starving in Africa.

639
00:41:14,640 --> 00:41:17,000
Speaker 2: It could be worse, like people people get like annoyed

640
00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:21,359
Speaker 2: by that. But I I I disagree. I disagree. I

641
00:41:21,360 --> 00:41:26,680
Speaker 2: think every problem. I think every problem can totally be

642
00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:30,000
Speaker 2: solved by being like, well, at least I'm not you know,

643
00:41:31,360 --> 00:41:35,239
Speaker 2: in Sedan getting killed by a dictator. You know, I

644
00:41:35,239 --> 00:41:38,799
Speaker 2: think that's real. I hate when people say that that

645
00:41:38,800 --> 00:41:41,839
Speaker 2: that is that that's not real. Like if your brave,

646
00:41:41,920 --> 00:41:44,719
Speaker 2: if you your girlfriend broke up with you, or you

647
00:41:46,080 --> 00:41:53,400
Speaker 2: didn't sell enough necklaces on Etsy or whatever, and someone's like, well,

648
00:41:53,440 --> 00:41:56,320
Speaker 2: it could be worse. You could be you know, starving

649
00:41:56,360 --> 00:41:59,759
Speaker 2: to death in the streets, and you're like, fuck you,

650
00:41:59,800 --> 00:42:02,000
Speaker 2: that's not helpful. I'm like, fuck you, that's really helpful.

651
00:42:02,360 --> 00:42:05,200
Speaker 2: You could totally it could totally be worse. I really

652
00:42:05,200 --> 00:42:08,120
Speaker 2: try to think about that a lot. So I so

653
00:42:08,200 --> 00:42:13,640
Speaker 2: you're not crazy. You're not crazy for believing that your

654
00:42:13,680 --> 00:42:17,279
Speaker 2: life is so much better because you don't live in

655
00:42:17,320 --> 00:42:20,920
Speaker 2: a country where you could be killed by the government.

656
00:42:21,880 --> 00:42:26,560
Speaker 2: I don't think that makes you crazy. But also, at

657
00:42:26,600 --> 00:42:27,680
Speaker 2: the end of the day, you got to live your

658
00:42:27,680 --> 00:42:32,480
Speaker 2: own life, because I think if you dive too deep

659
00:42:32,480 --> 00:42:35,680
Speaker 2: into that, and I've dived really deep into that feeling

660
00:42:36,760 --> 00:42:40,160
Speaker 2: of like, well, let me just negate my entire existence

661
00:42:40,640 --> 00:42:43,720
Speaker 2: because it could be worse, and that's not helpful either.

662
00:42:44,760 --> 00:42:47,799
Speaker 2: That's not helpful either. So you know, I'm working. I'm

663
00:42:47,800 --> 00:42:50,560
Speaker 2: pondering this shit with you, and I think it's as

664
00:42:50,640 --> 00:42:53,160
Speaker 2: as as is the answer to a lot of shit.

665
00:42:53,440 --> 00:42:57,520
Speaker 2: It's a yin yang like hold a good make some

666
00:42:57,800 --> 00:43:01,400
Speaker 2: room in your brain for like a dedication. You like,

667
00:43:01,560 --> 00:43:08,719
Speaker 2: dedicate a real, nice, solid part of your brain portfolio

668
00:43:10,239 --> 00:43:16,520
Speaker 2: twenty thirty forty percent whatever you want delegate a real

669
00:43:16,640 --> 00:43:23,120
Speaker 2: solid part of your brain portfolio to. Thank God, I'm

670
00:43:23,239 --> 00:43:32,960
Speaker 2: not living in a country that's deeply impoverished in at war. Really, really,

671
00:43:33,760 --> 00:43:38,839
Speaker 2: that's worthy brain space to take, So dedicate that, But

672
00:43:38,840 --> 00:43:41,439
Speaker 2: don't dedicate the whole brain to it or else or else?

673
00:43:41,440 --> 00:43:46,160
Speaker 2: What even are you? You know you're You can't because

674
00:43:46,200 --> 00:43:47,920
Speaker 2: you have to engage with your life. And part of

675
00:43:47,960 --> 00:43:51,200
Speaker 2: engaging with your life is engaging with your problems and

676
00:43:51,239 --> 00:43:55,680
Speaker 2: your conflicts, such as your relationship with your parents. So

677
00:43:56,320 --> 00:43:58,440
Speaker 2: you still got to engage in that. You can't. Oh,

678
00:43:58,480 --> 00:44:02,440
Speaker 2: it could be worse. Your way out of your problems entirely,

679
00:44:03,440 --> 00:44:06,880
Speaker 2: but having a little bit of it could be worse.

680
00:44:06,920 --> 00:44:10,480
Speaker 2: I could be living in a bad place and subject

681
00:44:10,520 --> 00:44:12,840
Speaker 2: to horrible the horrible things of the universe. Is a

682
00:44:12,880 --> 00:44:14,960
Speaker 2: good it's a good thing to keep it in perspective,

683
00:44:15,080 --> 00:44:18,520
Speaker 2: But you can't just negate your life. So uh, I

684
00:44:18,520 --> 00:44:22,239
Speaker 2: think it's healthy. Uh Okay. And then the part where

685
00:44:22,239 --> 00:44:26,200
Speaker 2: you're like, how do I not let this haunt me exactly?

686
00:44:26,239 --> 00:44:27,680
Speaker 2: You don't want to let it haunt you. How am

687
00:44:27,719 --> 00:44:30,120
Speaker 2: I supposed to bring kids into this evil world one day?

688
00:44:30,200 --> 00:44:31,799
Speaker 2: That's another problem is you don't want to look at

689
00:44:31,840 --> 00:44:36,399
Speaker 2: the world as evil. You don't. And there's a lot

690
00:44:36,600 --> 00:44:40,560
Speaker 2: but you know, there's a lot of fucking people that

691
00:44:40,640 --> 00:44:47,319
Speaker 2: I've met and talked to who live One of the

692
00:44:47,360 --> 00:44:49,680
Speaker 2: craziest things that I've experienced in my life is like,

693
00:44:49,719 --> 00:44:52,840
Speaker 2: I feel like I've been so fucking lucky to live

694
00:44:53,719 --> 00:44:59,279
Speaker 2: the life I live, not even just like you know

695
00:44:59,760 --> 00:45:03,560
Speaker 2: this the like gecko stuff, but like just outside of that,

696
00:45:03,719 --> 00:45:06,840
Speaker 2: just like living in a growing up in like a suburb,

697
00:45:06,960 --> 00:45:12,839
Speaker 2: and like having good parents and all these things. And

698
00:45:12,960 --> 00:45:19,560
Speaker 2: I feel I feel these feelings of like of like

699
00:45:19,760 --> 00:45:26,480
Speaker 2: lack and of like, uh, depression or whatever. And I'll

700
00:45:26,520 --> 00:45:30,319
Speaker 2: meet people who've grown up with and have so much

701
00:45:30,480 --> 00:45:33,160
Speaker 2: less than I have, and their way and they just

702
00:45:33,280 --> 00:45:36,680
Speaker 2: figure out a fucking way to like be happy and

703
00:45:36,760 --> 00:45:41,359
Speaker 2: have a really positive outlook on the world. And I'm

704
00:45:41,480 --> 00:45:45,520
Speaker 2: like and that and that, and that blows my mind,

705
00:45:46,040 --> 00:45:50,239
Speaker 2: so uh. And I say that to mean that there's

706
00:45:50,360 --> 00:45:56,200
Speaker 2: probably people whose lives are worse than yours. That don't

707
00:45:56,760 --> 00:45:59,600
Speaker 2: think the world is evil. That there's people with who

708
00:45:59,600 --> 00:46:04,799
Speaker 2: are who's lives are worse than yours, that have a

709
00:46:04,840 --> 00:46:11,000
Speaker 2: better outlook on the planet than you do. And I

710
00:46:11,040 --> 00:46:12,800
Speaker 2: know that because I've met people like that, talk to

711
00:46:12,840 --> 00:46:17,000
Speaker 2: people like that, And so if they can have a

712
00:46:17,480 --> 00:46:20,279
Speaker 2: shittier life than you, and less stuff than you, and

713
00:46:20,320 --> 00:46:23,799
Speaker 2: worse problems than you and still not believe the world

714
00:46:23,920 --> 00:46:27,279
Speaker 2: is evil, then I think you can too. So I

715
00:46:27,719 --> 00:46:31,359
Speaker 2: don't think that. I don't I'm I don't think that

716
00:46:31,520 --> 00:46:35,239
Speaker 2: like object doom and being like, oh the world is

717
00:46:35,280 --> 00:46:40,000
Speaker 2: an evil, awful, terrible place. Being like, oh the world

718
00:46:40,080 --> 00:46:43,040
Speaker 2: is an evil, awful, terrible place is not fucking helpful

719
00:46:43,080 --> 00:46:46,520
Speaker 2: to anyone in the same way that being like, dude,

720
00:46:46,560 --> 00:46:48,759
Speaker 2: everything is fucking great. Like when you meet a guy

721
00:46:48,800 --> 00:46:51,680
Speaker 2: like that who's like, everything's amazing, Everything's awesome. I just

722
00:46:51,760 --> 00:46:55,160
Speaker 2: love being alive, and it's like, yeah, because you have

723
00:46:55,239 --> 00:46:57,799
Speaker 2: whatever the thing is or maybe or maybe you don't,

724
00:46:59,640 --> 00:47:04,279
Speaker 2: maybe it don't. I like a measured thing. I like

725
00:47:04,440 --> 00:47:09,560
Speaker 2: a measured perspective of the world of like something in

726
00:47:09,560 --> 00:47:12,880
Speaker 2: between those two things of like, yeah, there's some crazy

727
00:47:12,880 --> 00:47:15,840
Speaker 2: shit going on. There's a civil war in suitan there's

728
00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:24,400
Speaker 2: a horrible poverty and crazy wars and is awful stuff

729
00:47:24,440 --> 00:47:28,640
Speaker 2: going on, and you know, it's good to be aware

730
00:47:28,680 --> 00:47:30,239
Speaker 2: of that, like but also, like you know, there's a

731
00:47:30,239 --> 00:47:32,680
Speaker 2: lot of good stuff happening to people. There's great things

732
00:47:32,719 --> 00:47:36,759
Speaker 2: happening all over the world. There's right now, as I'm

733
00:47:36,840 --> 00:47:40,280
Speaker 2: right now, as I'm recording this, all over the planet,

734
00:47:40,760 --> 00:47:45,280
Speaker 2: there's like two, three, maybe four people who are eating

735
00:47:45,320 --> 00:47:52,200
Speaker 2: something and talking to each other. That's happening. That's happening

736
00:47:52,200 --> 00:47:56,880
Speaker 2: in an unfathomable amount across the planet Earth right now

737
00:47:57,080 --> 00:48:02,160
Speaker 2: is a group of two to four people eating something

738
00:48:02,200 --> 00:48:04,520
Speaker 2: and talking to each other. That's kind of amazing, that's

739
00:48:04,600 --> 00:48:09,280
Speaker 2: kind of beautiful. So you take this pros and cons

740
00:48:09,320 --> 00:48:12,560
Speaker 2: to it, and those four and those four people who

741
00:48:12,560 --> 00:48:17,520
Speaker 2: are eating something and talking to each other there they

742
00:48:17,560 --> 00:48:20,000
Speaker 2: have their own whatever problem's going on with their life,

743
00:48:20,000 --> 00:48:22,520
Speaker 2: but they have also little moments where things are good

744
00:48:23,320 --> 00:48:27,160
Speaker 2: and you have to believe that the good outweighs the

745
00:48:27,239 --> 00:48:31,200
Speaker 2: bad enough that life's worth living. And we want to

746
00:48:31,280 --> 00:48:34,719
Speaker 2: keep doing this, we want to keep doing this enough

747
00:48:34,760 --> 00:48:39,120
Speaker 2: that we'll bring a kid here. I've thought about that too, man,

748
00:48:39,120 --> 00:48:41,919
Speaker 2: I was thinking about that yesterday. I was i got

749
00:48:41,960 --> 00:48:46,799
Speaker 2: to earlier this year. I was in such a dumor

750
00:48:47,200 --> 00:48:50,839
Speaker 2: existentialist place that I was. I was on the Wikipedia

751
00:48:50,880 --> 00:48:54,480
Speaker 2: page for anti natalism. Maybe I talked about this already,

752
00:48:54,520 --> 00:48:57,719
Speaker 2: but yeah, and I was like looking through this like

753
00:48:57,880 --> 00:49:00,840
Speaker 2: movement of people who believe that it's like morally wrong

754
00:49:01,000 --> 00:49:03,760
Speaker 2: to have children and like bring consciousness into the world.

755
00:49:03,920 --> 00:49:06,920
Speaker 2: I was thinking about that. I was like, yeah, I was.

756
00:49:07,000 --> 00:49:09,200
Speaker 2: I was feeling really scared yesterday because I was thinking about,

757
00:49:09,239 --> 00:49:11,960
Speaker 2: like if I want to have a kid, and I

758
00:49:12,040 --> 00:49:14,040
Speaker 2: was like, fuck, that's a terrifying idea to me that

759
00:49:14,080 --> 00:49:17,960
Speaker 2: I like bring consciousness into the world and then my

760
00:49:18,160 --> 00:49:25,000
Speaker 2: kid is unhappy or feels, uh, you know, has exist

761
00:49:25,120 --> 00:49:29,200
Speaker 2: some bad life, and I would feel weirdly responsible for that, Like,

762
00:49:29,239 --> 00:49:33,160
Speaker 2: oh fuck, I've brought a new consciousness into this like

763
00:49:33,320 --> 00:49:41,440
Speaker 2: kind of difficult thing and now I'm responsible for that.

764
00:49:43,640 --> 00:49:46,840
Speaker 2: Like that spooks That spooks me out for sure. But

765
00:49:47,000 --> 00:49:50,360
Speaker 2: I think it's gonna be up to me to believe

766
00:49:51,880 --> 00:49:58,360
Speaker 2: that this thing that we're experiencing between two Oreo cookies

767
00:49:58,400 --> 00:50:02,839
Speaker 2: of fucking oblivion is uh is worth, it is a

768
00:50:02,840 --> 00:50:06,359
Speaker 2: cool ride, is a good thing, and that I have

769
00:50:06,400 --> 00:50:14,400
Speaker 2: the opportunity to uh like install a positive perspective upon

770
00:50:15,520 --> 00:50:17,160
Speaker 2: or dude, try the best I fucking can. I mean,

771
00:50:17,200 --> 00:50:18,759
Speaker 2: at the end of the day, you bring a kid

772
00:50:18,760 --> 00:50:22,560
Speaker 2: into this world, and you you have, of course a

773
00:50:22,560 --> 00:50:26,040
Speaker 2: lot of influences. You have probably the most influence. You'll

774
00:50:26,040 --> 00:50:31,480
Speaker 2: be the most influential person to this kid's life. And

775
00:50:31,920 --> 00:50:33,959
Speaker 2: you know, I try to do that the best you can.

776
00:50:34,680 --> 00:50:37,279
Speaker 2: But then after that, they, you know, develop their own

777
00:50:39,320 --> 00:50:41,680
Speaker 2: perception of the world. And that's kind of a beautiful

778
00:50:41,680 --> 00:50:45,000
Speaker 2: thing too. But uh, yeah, you have the opportunity to

779
00:50:45,080 --> 00:50:50,279
Speaker 2: find your own I guess joy and positive perspective and

780
00:50:50,320 --> 00:50:53,279
Speaker 2: like show and like introduce you can't make You can

781
00:50:53,360 --> 00:50:54,960
Speaker 2: lead a horse to water, but you can't make it.

782
00:50:55,160 --> 00:50:58,799
Speaker 2: You can lead a horse to good vibes, but you

783
00:50:58,840 --> 00:51:00,880
Speaker 2: can't make them take it, you know what I mean.

784
00:51:00,880 --> 00:51:02,880
Speaker 2: You can introduce your kid to like, oh, hey, this

785
00:51:02,920 --> 00:51:04,960
Speaker 2: is a way of looking at the world that I

786
00:51:04,960 --> 00:51:06,520
Speaker 2: think is good, and you can't make them take it,

787
00:51:06,560 --> 00:51:08,000
Speaker 2: but you can at least be like I tried to

788
00:51:08,040 --> 00:51:13,600
Speaker 2: introduce them to it. So is it not morally wrong

789
00:51:13,680 --> 00:51:15,600
Speaker 2: to be sending the next generation into a place where

790
00:51:15,600 --> 00:51:17,640
Speaker 2: so much bad happens? But also think about it like this,

791
00:51:19,120 --> 00:51:20,840
Speaker 2: and I think about it all the time. And I

792
00:51:20,840 --> 00:51:22,120
Speaker 2: have been the thing like I've been talking about on

793
00:51:22,120 --> 00:51:24,759
Speaker 2: the show of like bad shit has been happening forever.

794
00:51:24,800 --> 00:51:30,279
Speaker 2: I mean there's bad things have been happening forever, and

795
00:51:30,320 --> 00:51:34,640
Speaker 2: we keep that, we keep doing it, we keep doing it.

796
00:51:35,440 --> 00:51:38,680
Speaker 2: This is not new like all the stuff that we're

797
00:51:38,680 --> 00:51:44,319
Speaker 2: thinking all the like uh numerism that we're dealing with.

798
00:51:44,480 --> 00:51:48,279
Speaker 2: It's not like our problem where it's we have new problems.

799
00:51:48,840 --> 00:51:49,279
Speaker 1: But like.

800
00:51:51,160 --> 00:51:57,319
Speaker 2: You know, think about like whatever nineteen thirty whatever the

801
00:51:57,360 --> 00:52:01,520
Speaker 2: fuck being like you know, oh fuck, this Hitler guy

802
00:52:01,600 --> 00:52:05,200
Speaker 2: is kind of crazy. Uh, the world? Is it war?

803
00:52:05,280 --> 00:52:06,880
Speaker 2: Should we have a kid? I don't know about how

804
00:52:06,880 --> 00:52:10,319
Speaker 2: I feel about the world right now. You know, we

805
00:52:10,400 --> 00:52:13,000
Speaker 2: figure it out. We just keep we keep figuring it out.

806
00:52:13,080 --> 00:52:15,440
Speaker 2: And we've been and I'm pretty confident that we'll keep

807
00:52:15,440 --> 00:52:17,360
Speaker 2: figuring it out because we just we keep figuring it

808
00:52:17,400 --> 00:52:23,080
Speaker 2: out after like, uh, I mean, isn't that wild? We

809
00:52:23,200 --> 00:52:27,759
Speaker 2: people keep even in like fucking places that have experienced

810
00:52:28,680 --> 00:52:31,960
Speaker 2: a lot of turmoil, people keep having kids, and they

811
00:52:32,040 --> 00:52:38,040
Speaker 2: keep figuring it out, and they keep deciding either logically

812
00:52:38,160 --> 00:52:40,920
Speaker 2: or just or biologically their bodies. I mean, we're programmed

813
00:52:40,960 --> 00:52:43,160
Speaker 2: to fucking reproduce. We just keep deciding we want to

814
00:52:43,239 --> 00:52:49,239
Speaker 2: keep doing it. So the answer to why we keep

815
00:52:49,239 --> 00:52:51,680
Speaker 2: deciding that as a species that we want to keep

816
00:52:51,680 --> 00:52:53,760
Speaker 2: doing it is beyond me. I think it's just innate.

817
00:52:53,840 --> 00:52:57,360
Speaker 2: I think it's just as a species where like sharks,

818
00:52:57,440 --> 00:52:59,960
Speaker 2: we just want to We just fucking want to keep

819
00:53:00,760 --> 00:53:04,800
Speaker 2: going and we're gonna do it. If you believe yourself

820
00:53:04,840 --> 00:53:10,120
Speaker 2: to be part of a eight billion large collective conscious,

821
00:53:12,239 --> 00:53:15,279
Speaker 2: we've unanimously, not unanimously, but we've kind of as a

822
00:53:15,280 --> 00:53:20,040
Speaker 2: whole decided that we're gonna keep doing this until we can't.

823
00:53:20,880 --> 00:53:25,839
Speaker 2: So if you wanna, with whatever individual agency you have,

824
00:53:26,800 --> 00:53:31,040
Speaker 2: make a new person and try to raise them to

825
00:53:31,040 --> 00:53:35,719
Speaker 2: be one of the good ones, I think that's a

826
00:53:35,760 --> 00:53:41,040
Speaker 2: noble thing to do, regardless of would you believe the

827
00:53:41,080 --> 00:53:46,040
Speaker 2: current state of the world to be, because there's always

828
00:53:46,080 --> 00:53:49,640
Speaker 2: gonna be there's never gonna be a time where something

829
00:53:49,719 --> 00:53:51,880
Speaker 2: bad is not happening, and there's never and there's never

830
00:53:51,920 --> 00:53:55,200
Speaker 2: gonna be a time where something good's not happening. I

831
00:53:55,239 --> 00:53:57,880
Speaker 2: really do believe this is bad. There's so like you,

832
00:53:58,840 --> 00:54:03,480
Speaker 2: and that's why I love living in the city because

833
00:54:04,040 --> 00:54:07,480
Speaker 2: every day I see, like, if you live in like

834
00:54:07,480 --> 00:54:10,200
Speaker 2: a big American city like every day, or I guess

835
00:54:10,239 --> 00:54:12,840
Speaker 2: a lot of European cities, there's not a lot of

836
00:54:12,880 --> 00:54:14,520
Speaker 2: like a like I don't know, I haven't been to

837
00:54:14,560 --> 00:54:18,879
Speaker 2: a lot of Asian cities, but like, uh, I think

838
00:54:18,880 --> 00:54:21,040
Speaker 2: in most major places, you walk around and you see

839
00:54:24,320 --> 00:54:28,920
Speaker 2: people living in some form of poverty. But then you

840
00:54:28,960 --> 00:54:31,120
Speaker 2: also just see like if you if you're if you're

841
00:54:31,200 --> 00:54:33,960
Speaker 2: looking for it, go on a walk outside in a

842
00:54:34,120 --> 00:54:37,279
Speaker 2: populated area and you just watch like a mom like

843
00:54:37,320 --> 00:54:40,279
Speaker 2: walking with their like normal fucking things, like a mom

844
00:54:40,360 --> 00:54:42,239
Speaker 2: like walking with their kid and the kid has is

845
00:54:42,239 --> 00:54:46,880
Speaker 2: holding a thing, or like two people just like someone

846
00:54:47,000 --> 00:54:50,120
Speaker 2: just walking and existing like like, I don't know, there's

847
00:54:50,160 --> 00:54:53,160
Speaker 2: good stuff about being alive as well as bad stuff.

848
00:54:53,280 --> 00:54:54,960
Speaker 2: I've been ranking about this for too long, but I

849
00:54:55,000 --> 00:54:58,759
Speaker 2: hope you understand what I'm kind of trying to say.

850
00:55:00,480 --> 00:55:07,560
Speaker 2: All right, Okay, this is from jose Hey Lyle. I'm

851
00:55:07,560 --> 00:55:09,120
Speaker 2: an on and off listener, and I want to know

852
00:55:09,160 --> 00:55:12,760
Speaker 2: how tall you are. I'm five foot six and a half.

853
00:55:13,880 --> 00:55:16,800
Speaker 2: I was five foot seven and then I started telling

854
00:55:16,840 --> 00:55:19,960
Speaker 2: the truth. When I go on the day, when I

855
00:55:19,960 --> 00:55:22,120
Speaker 2: go on the dating apps, I'm five foot seven. I

856
00:55:22,120 --> 00:55:24,040
Speaker 2: can get away with five foot seven. I'm five foot

857
00:55:24,120 --> 00:55:26,279
Speaker 2: six and a half. I'm somewhere in between five foot

858
00:55:26,360 --> 00:55:32,680
Speaker 2: six and five foot seven, and uh, you know, I

859
00:55:32,719 --> 00:55:34,360
Speaker 2: can work with five foot seven. I could work with

860
00:55:34,400 --> 00:55:39,560
Speaker 2: five foot six, honestly whatever. I think. I've gone through

861
00:55:40,760 --> 00:55:44,600
Speaker 2: ebbs and flows about my height where sometimes I get

862
00:55:44,640 --> 00:55:48,239
Speaker 2: really insecure about it, and then other times I'm like,

863
00:55:48,320 --> 00:55:51,960
Speaker 2: it's so stupid to be insecure about your height. It

864
00:55:52,000 --> 00:55:57,879
Speaker 2: really is. It really is stupid to be insecure about

865
00:55:57,880 --> 00:56:06,040
Speaker 2: your height. I sometimes I go to bush I think

866
00:56:07,040 --> 00:56:13,640
Speaker 2: I go to Bushwick sometimes and that's a strong Mexican community,

867
00:56:14,280 --> 00:56:17,760
Speaker 2: and I think in general Mexican guys are a little shorter.

868
00:56:18,160 --> 00:56:20,680
Speaker 2: Walk around Bushwick and I'll see like a five foot

869
00:56:20,760 --> 00:56:28,000
Speaker 2: three Mexican guy with a beautiful girlfriend, and I'm like, okay,

870
00:56:28,080 --> 00:56:30,440
Speaker 2: you know, we like, this is workable, you can work

871
00:56:30,480 --> 00:56:35,399
Speaker 2: with this. Okay, wait, there's another height thing. Okay, here

872
00:56:35,400 --> 00:56:38,719
Speaker 2: we go, Yeah, there we go. All right. This is

873
00:56:38,719 --> 00:56:43,719
Speaker 2: from Danny, subject line five foot guy with women troubles.

874
00:56:45,120 --> 00:56:48,240
Speaker 2: Dear Gek, First and foremost, you and your podcast are wicked.

875
00:56:48,560 --> 00:56:50,960
Speaker 2: I've been listening to your show for almost a year now.

876
00:56:51,600 --> 00:56:54,200
Speaker 2: It's been such a refreshing way to get new perspectives

877
00:56:54,239 --> 00:56:57,480
Speaker 2: on life and hear experiences I'd never come across otherwise.

878
00:56:58,239 --> 00:57:01,640
Speaker 2: Having you on in the background during my my team calls, Outlook, Grind,

879
00:57:01,719 --> 00:57:04,160
Speaker 2: and daily work routine has made the nine to five

880
00:57:04,280 --> 00:57:08,240
Speaker 2: so much more bearable. For context, I'm twenty five years old,

881
00:57:08,480 --> 00:57:11,680
Speaker 2: five foot in stature, single and ready to mingle. I

882
00:57:11,719 --> 00:57:13,760
Speaker 2: haven't been in a relationship for the past two years.

883
00:57:14,080 --> 00:57:15,960
Speaker 2: I mentioned my height because it's been a bit of

884
00:57:15,960 --> 00:57:20,120
Speaker 2: a hurdle on dating apps. Being short isn't exactly society's

885
00:57:20,120 --> 00:57:23,600
Speaker 2: gold standard for attractiveness, and that can suck sometimes, but

886
00:57:23,680 --> 00:57:25,960
Speaker 2: it is what it is. I've been using Tinder and

887
00:57:26,040 --> 00:57:29,240
Speaker 2: Hinge for a couple of years. Met my past girlfriend's there, Okay,

888
00:57:29,320 --> 00:57:32,400
Speaker 2: fucking we got some. We got some, we got a

889
00:57:32,440 --> 00:57:35,640
Speaker 2: track record, and while I do get matches and occasional dates,

890
00:57:35,640 --> 00:57:38,000
Speaker 2: there are definitely dry spells. Since moving to a new

891
00:57:38,000 --> 00:57:40,480
Speaker 2: city last year, I've only been on two dates. I

892
00:57:40,480 --> 00:57:43,040
Speaker 2: feel like I've reached a place where I'm comfortable being alone,

893
00:57:43,560 --> 00:57:46,200
Speaker 2: but I still want to find someone to experience life with.

894
00:57:46,600 --> 00:57:48,720
Speaker 2: I'm not trying to rush into a relationship just to

895
00:57:48,800 --> 00:57:51,640
Speaker 2: check a box. I want it to feel right, so

896
00:57:51,880 --> 00:57:55,120
Speaker 2: here's someone in my mind, I matched with a girl,

897
00:57:55,320 --> 00:57:58,240
Speaker 2: let's call her April on Hinge. I was attracted to

898
00:57:58,280 --> 00:58:00,439
Speaker 2: her and after a few days of texting, we set

899
00:58:00,480 --> 00:58:03,840
Speaker 2: up a date. By the way, just like, that's another like, look,

900
00:58:03,880 --> 00:58:07,520
Speaker 2: this guy's five feet and he's able to find meet

901
00:58:07,560 --> 00:58:11,480
Speaker 2: a lady unhinged. And also, here's another cool thing I

902
00:58:11,560 --> 00:58:16,120
Speaker 2: like about this is this guy's not like, uh whatever

903
00:58:16,280 --> 00:58:20,360
Speaker 2: cards you were adults on the planet of like height

904
00:58:20,600 --> 00:58:26,160
Speaker 2: or whatever whatever it is. It's it's only over when

905
00:58:26,160 --> 00:58:28,720
Speaker 2: you when you spiral because you read this guy's email

906
00:58:28,760 --> 00:58:31,560
Speaker 2: and this guy like this guy because this guy again,

907
00:58:31,960 --> 00:58:37,440
Speaker 2: you can't. Falling into doom is not a good strategy,

908
00:58:38,080 --> 00:58:45,000
Speaker 2: as is falling into blind optimism. Look at this guy.

909
00:58:45,040 --> 00:58:48,040
Speaker 2: This guy's like, look I because this guy's like, look,

910
00:58:48,440 --> 00:58:51,800
Speaker 2: it sucks being short, but it is what it is. Like,

911
00:58:51,840 --> 00:58:59,120
Speaker 2: that's a perfect mindset. Because if this guy was like,

912
00:58:59,680 --> 00:59:02,960
Speaker 2: I'm foot six, it's over. I'll just I just have

913
00:59:03,080 --> 00:59:05,520
Speaker 2: to assume I'm never gonna be happy ever in my life,

914
00:59:05,760 --> 00:59:09,600
Speaker 2: then you know that's he's never gonna be anywhere. But look,

915
00:59:09,840 --> 00:59:13,520
Speaker 2: he's got a he's a sensible guy. He has some

916
00:59:13,560 --> 00:59:16,760
Speaker 2: fucking grip on himself and so he's able to, you know,

917
00:59:16,960 --> 00:59:22,640
Speaker 2: meet someone. Okay, I met a girl. We set up

918
00:59:22,680 --> 00:59:25,240
Speaker 2: a date. We went thrifting and grabbed a late lunch

919
00:59:25,480 --> 00:59:28,560
Speaker 2: an early dinner. I paid, did the gentleman thing. Date

920
00:59:28,600 --> 00:59:31,800
Speaker 2: went well, conversation flowed, she was receptive. At the end,

921
00:59:31,840 --> 00:59:33,400
Speaker 2: she asked if I wanted to hang out again. I

922
00:59:33,440 --> 00:59:37,040
Speaker 2: said yes. Afterwards she texted me a lot of sweet messages,

923
00:59:37,200 --> 00:59:40,240
Speaker 2: complimenting me and checking in on my day. I responded

924
00:59:40,400 --> 00:59:43,480
Speaker 2: with playful, cute replies. But now I'm not sure how

925
00:59:43,520 --> 00:59:45,920
Speaker 2: I feel about her. It feels like she's more into

926
00:59:46,000 --> 00:59:49,360
Speaker 2: me than I am into her. Oh my god, look

927
00:59:49,400 --> 00:59:51,200
Speaker 2: at this. This is not how where I thought this

928
00:59:51,240 --> 00:59:55,520
Speaker 2: email was coming. Don't get me wrong. Being chased is nice,

929
00:59:55,520 --> 00:59:57,000
Speaker 2: But I don't know if we see this turning. I

930
00:59:57,040 --> 00:59:58,560
Speaker 2: don't know if I see this turning into a long

931
00:59:58,640 --> 01:00:01,400
Speaker 2: term relationship. We have a I can date, planned moving

932
01:00:01,440 --> 01:00:04,920
Speaker 2: it at her place where young. We have urges. We

933
01:00:05,040 --> 01:00:07,920
Speaker 2: might not watch the movie if you catch my drift. Okay,

934
01:00:08,080 --> 01:00:09,760
Speaker 2: but I worry about leading her on if I go

935
01:00:09,840 --> 01:00:13,680
Speaker 2: through with it, and that thought keeps lingering. Can I

936
01:00:13,760 --> 01:00:17,000
Speaker 2: do better? It sounds shallow, but it's there, so I'm

937
01:00:17,000 --> 01:00:24,280
Speaker 2: asking for your advice. What should I do? You know, well,

938
01:00:24,400 --> 01:00:26,440
Speaker 2: the I used, by the way, the whole idea of

939
01:00:26,440 --> 01:00:31,640
Speaker 2: like can I do better? Being shallow. Can I do better?

940
01:00:32,200 --> 01:00:35,000
Speaker 2: Is not like a when you say can I do better?

941
01:00:36,040 --> 01:00:38,960
Speaker 2: It doesn't mean like, uh, I don't think that's like

942
01:00:39,040 --> 01:00:41,720
Speaker 2: reflective of the other person. That's a reflective of you.

943
01:00:42,600 --> 01:00:44,280
Speaker 2: When you say can I do better, you're not like,

944
01:00:44,400 --> 01:00:46,880
Speaker 2: can I do better? In terms of like this person

945
01:00:46,920 --> 01:00:49,920
Speaker 2: that's standing up, can I find a better person? You're

946
01:00:49,960 --> 01:00:53,360
Speaker 2: more like, can I find a person where I feel

947
01:00:53,360 --> 01:00:55,800
Speaker 2: a better feeling about them? So I don't think that

948
01:00:55,800 --> 01:00:59,320
Speaker 2: that's shallow necessarily, because what's the fucking point, right, Because

949
01:00:59,360 --> 01:01:02,920
Speaker 2: if you're like not that into this person, I don't know.

950
01:01:02,960 --> 01:01:05,320
Speaker 2: I mean everyone's experiences this shit differently. Some people they

951
01:01:05,680 --> 01:01:07,880
Speaker 2: can like be not that into some person and then

952
01:01:07,920 --> 01:01:12,520
Speaker 2: over time they really like grow with them and they

953
01:01:12,840 --> 01:01:21,160
Speaker 2: feel good with them and they kind of get a uh,

954
01:01:21,640 --> 01:01:23,800
Speaker 2: they get they get like a positive you know, they

955
01:01:23,920 --> 01:01:26,600
Speaker 2: they develop attraction over time. And that could be you,

956
01:01:30,000 --> 01:01:34,600
Speaker 2: But I don't know, maybe you're maybe you're not that guy.

957
01:01:34,720 --> 01:01:36,560
Speaker 2: Have you been that guy in the past, Like you

958
01:01:36,600 --> 01:01:38,480
Speaker 2: said you met your past girlfriend's there. Are you a

959
01:01:38,520 --> 01:01:41,240
Speaker 2: slow build guy or are you a I know when

960
01:01:41,280 --> 01:01:43,520
Speaker 2: I know it guy? If you if you've been a

961
01:01:43,560 --> 01:01:46,800
Speaker 2: slow build guy and you kind of feel in your

962
01:01:46,840 --> 01:01:48,880
Speaker 2: gut you're like I could, I could be a slow

963
01:01:48,880 --> 01:01:52,320
Speaker 2: build guy. I could slowly build attraction, then go for it.

964
01:01:52,360 --> 01:01:53,920
Speaker 2: But if you're if you know in your gut that

965
01:01:53,960 --> 01:01:59,400
Speaker 2: you're not a slow build guy, then I understand wanted

966
01:01:59,440 --> 01:02:01,120
Speaker 2: to call it, and I don't. I don't think it's

967
01:02:01,160 --> 01:02:04,040
Speaker 2: shallow because I think also, like you want to fucking

968
01:02:04,200 --> 01:02:05,840
Speaker 2: be with someone that you want to be with and

969
01:02:05,880 --> 01:02:08,800
Speaker 2: you want and so does this fucking this lady wants

970
01:02:08,840 --> 01:02:10,240
Speaker 2: to be with someone that wants to be with her.

971
01:02:11,200 --> 01:02:16,120
Speaker 2: So I don't think it's shallow to look for a

972
01:02:16,160 --> 01:02:18,680
Speaker 2: stronger connection. I don't. I don't even think it's reflective

973
01:02:18,720 --> 01:02:20,520
Speaker 2: of this lady. I think it's just reflective of like

974
01:02:20,560 --> 01:02:24,800
Speaker 2: your own brain. That's That's another thing about like attraction

975
01:02:24,920 --> 01:02:28,800
Speaker 2: is it's so it's a lot more complicated I think

976
01:02:28,840 --> 01:02:33,360
Speaker 2: than people give it credit for. I mean, obviously, in general,

977
01:02:33,600 --> 01:02:35,960
Speaker 2: like if you're more physically attractive, if you're taller, if

978
01:02:36,000 --> 01:02:38,840
Speaker 2: you're in better shape, and you know, you get people,

979
01:02:38,880 --> 01:02:40,280
Speaker 2: more people are going to be attracted to you, but

980
01:02:40,400 --> 01:02:45,080
Speaker 2: like there's still a lot of subtleties that make it

981
01:02:45,120 --> 01:02:47,680
Speaker 2: so that you can't be too black and white with

982
01:02:47,720 --> 01:02:51,520
Speaker 2: this stuff. Uh So that's that's what I suggest you

983
01:02:51,560 --> 01:02:56,600
Speaker 2: should do, is decide if you're open to a slow

984
01:02:56,640 --> 01:03:00,160
Speaker 2: burn or if you're not, then it's okay to it's

985
01:03:00,200 --> 01:03:10,560
Speaker 2: okay to withdraw respectfully. Uh let's see here, let's do

986
01:03:10,640 --> 01:03:20,120
Speaker 2: one or two more. Uh okay. This is from Malachi.

987
01:03:21,280 --> 01:03:25,360
Speaker 2: Subject line, I got stalked by a creep in prison.

988
01:03:26,360 --> 01:03:31,600
Speaker 2: My name is Malachi aka Invader mal and I wanted

989
01:03:31,640 --> 01:03:33,960
Speaker 2: to share a story with you. That's funny now, but

990
01:03:34,080 --> 01:03:36,960
Speaker 2: back then it had me shook. I was locked up

991
01:03:36,960 --> 01:03:38,920
Speaker 2: in prison and for a minute I had a cell

992
01:03:38,960 --> 01:03:42,760
Speaker 2: buddy who called himself Mike that smokes crack. I thought

993
01:03:42,760 --> 01:03:45,000
Speaker 2: it was just a weird nickname, but it turns out

994
01:03:45,040 --> 01:03:48,600
Speaker 2: he was a full blown creep. Dude. Was this fat,

995
01:03:48,760 --> 01:03:51,480
Speaker 2: oversized white guy. And at first he told me he

996
01:03:51,520 --> 01:03:54,400
Speaker 2: got locked up for breaking into a pharmacy in the daytime,

997
01:03:54,880 --> 01:03:58,760
Speaker 2: high on drugs after his girlfriend left him. Sounded believable

998
01:03:58,920 --> 01:04:01,920
Speaker 2: until it got weird. One night, I'm asleep in my

999
01:04:02,000 --> 01:04:04,520
Speaker 2: bunk and I wake up to this dude literally sitting

1000
01:04:04,520 --> 01:04:07,440
Speaker 2: at the edge of my bed watching me sleep. I

1001
01:04:07,520 --> 01:04:09,800
Speaker 2: jump up, I go what the hell and he hits

1002
01:04:09,840 --> 01:04:12,240
Speaker 2: me with, oh, hey, sell, buddy, I was just waiting

1003
01:04:12,280 --> 01:04:14,400
Speaker 2: for you to wake up. Jes got off the phone

1004
01:04:14,400 --> 01:04:19,560
Speaker 2: with my pastor bro what So later that day I

1005
01:04:19,600 --> 01:04:22,440
Speaker 2: told one of my big homies, yes, I'm a gang member.

1006
01:04:22,680 --> 01:04:26,720
Speaker 2: Tree Top pierro a blood set. I let my og

1007
01:04:26,960 --> 01:04:30,120
Speaker 2: know that Mike was watching me sleep, and he said,

1008
01:04:30,160 --> 01:04:32,560
Speaker 2: if he do that again, let me know we're gonna

1009
01:04:32,560 --> 01:04:35,680
Speaker 2: handle it. The funny part. I'm playing spades in the

1010
01:04:35,760 --> 01:04:38,120
Speaker 2: card room later that week and I run upstairs to

1011
01:04:38,120 --> 01:04:41,800
Speaker 2: grab my coffee. Mike's in the cell and goes, hey, sell, buddy,

1012
01:04:42,040 --> 01:04:46,200
Speaker 2: I accidentally showed someone my butt. I'm like what. He

1013
01:04:46,280 --> 01:04:48,800
Speaker 2: explains he was in the shower, bent over with the

1014
01:04:48,800 --> 01:04:52,680
Speaker 2: curtain wide open, and a Muslim brother saw him. That

1015
01:04:52,880 --> 01:04:56,439
Speaker 2: Muslim brother threatened to stab him for real. I went

1016
01:04:56,520 --> 01:04:59,800
Speaker 2: and asked the Muslim brother myself, and he said, Bro

1017
01:05:00,240 --> 01:05:02,520
Speaker 2: was straight bent over in the shower like he was

1018
01:05:02,560 --> 01:05:06,960
Speaker 2: in a music video. I was done. So now I'm

1019
01:05:06,960 --> 01:05:11,120
Speaker 2: thinking something's off. Rumors start going around the unit that

1020
01:05:11,200 --> 01:05:14,200
Speaker 2: he's in for touching boys at a Catholic church. I

1021
01:05:14,200 --> 01:05:16,680
Speaker 2: asked for his paperwork, and he sends me some fake

1022
01:05:16,800 --> 01:05:20,160
Speaker 2: nonsense that said breaking and entering. I dig deeper and

1023
01:05:20,200 --> 01:05:24,080
Speaker 2: find the real charges, multiple counts of molesting boys in

1024
01:05:24,120 --> 01:05:27,400
Speaker 2: the church. That night I went to bed with a plan,

1025
01:05:28,120 --> 01:05:30,560
Speaker 2: wake up and get him the hell out of my cell.

1026
01:05:31,160 --> 01:05:33,320
Speaker 2: I wake up to him again, staring at me, this

1027
01:05:33,400 --> 01:05:35,760
Speaker 2: time sitting on the bunk reading a book like this

1028
01:05:35,920 --> 01:05:40,000
Speaker 2: was some lifetime movie. I said, nah, not again. I

1029
01:05:40,160 --> 01:05:43,680
Speaker 2: ran to my og The whole blood set formed up.

1030
01:05:44,160 --> 01:05:49,160
Speaker 2: We went in that cell, took all his commissary, his food,

1031
01:05:49,680 --> 01:05:53,280
Speaker 2: and kicked him out barefoot. It was like prison house hunters.

1032
01:05:53,680 --> 01:05:56,640
Speaker 2: He got moved to the old man tier and where

1033
01:05:56,720 --> 01:05:59,440
Speaker 2: it is. They beat his ass and had him transferred

1034
01:05:59,440 --> 01:06:03,120
Speaker 2: out to another prison. When I got home, I looked

1035
01:06:03,200 --> 01:06:06,520
Speaker 2: him up. Everything was true. Not only did he have

1036
01:06:06,600 --> 01:06:09,200
Speaker 2: those charges, but apparently he used to sleep up in

1037
01:06:09,240 --> 01:06:13,080
Speaker 2: the rafters at church and wait until the service started

1038
01:06:13,440 --> 01:06:18,480
Speaker 2: and play with himself. That man was a real life boogieman. So, Gecko,

1039
01:06:18,920 --> 01:06:23,680
Speaker 2: what would you have done in that situation? Dude? I

1040
01:06:23,680 --> 01:06:28,600
Speaker 2: don't I don't know what would I What would I

1041
01:06:28,680 --> 01:06:33,520
Speaker 2: have done in that situation? I would have gone to

1042
01:06:33,520 --> 01:06:37,680
Speaker 2: sleep and been like I'm gonna would I would have

1043
01:06:37,800 --> 01:06:42,360
Speaker 2: just slept as much as I possibly could. Probably I

1044
01:06:42,360 --> 01:06:45,280
Speaker 2: would have been I would have attempted to be unconscious

1045
01:06:46,200 --> 01:06:48,400
Speaker 2: as long as humanly possible. I would have read a

1046
01:06:48,440 --> 01:06:52,200
Speaker 2: book and be like I would have I don't know.

1047
01:06:52,280 --> 01:06:54,080
Speaker 2: I don't know what I would have done in that situation. Man,

1048
01:06:55,400 --> 01:06:57,400
Speaker 2: how are you doing now? Matt? Like I call in,

1049
01:06:57,440 --> 01:06:58,640
Speaker 2: I want to talk to you. You see to make an

1050
01:06:58,680 --> 01:07:00,919
Speaker 2: interesting guy. I want to hear more more stories about

1051
01:07:00,920 --> 01:07:06,200
Speaker 2: what's going on with you. If you're listening, I want

1052
01:07:06,200 --> 01:07:07,520
Speaker 2: to I want to hear what's going on. You got

1053
01:07:07,560 --> 01:07:08,840
Speaker 2: a good you got it?

1054
01:07:08,880 --> 01:07:09,040
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1055
01:07:09,080 --> 01:07:13,720
Speaker 2: I like the way you tell stories. Also, yeah, I

1056
01:07:13,720 --> 01:07:16,320
Speaker 2: feel like I'm only hearing about Mike, who smokes crack.

1057
01:07:16,360 --> 01:07:17,880
Speaker 2: I want to hear about Malachi. I want to hear

1058
01:07:17,920 --> 01:07:25,600
Speaker 2: what's going on with you. Let's see here. I think

1059
01:07:25,640 --> 01:07:28,760
Speaker 2: that's it. I think I think I'm done reading email

1060
01:07:29,400 --> 01:07:33,720
Speaker 2: for now. Thank you guys for listening to the podcast.

1061
01:07:33,760 --> 01:07:35,280
Speaker 2: I hope you enjoyed it. I hope it was a

1062
01:07:35,280 --> 01:07:38,720
Speaker 2: good time for you all.

1063
01:07:39,760 --> 01:07:39,880
Speaker 4: Uh.

1064
01:07:41,160 --> 01:07:44,360
Speaker 2: I hope I didn't piss anyone off every time. I

1065
01:07:44,360 --> 01:07:47,600
Speaker 2: I don't. I think I try to be pretty fair

1066
01:07:48,840 --> 01:07:52,640
Speaker 2: about the way I do this, But sometimes I'm like,

1067
01:07:52,680 --> 01:07:53,680
Speaker 2: am I pissing someone off?

1068
01:07:53,760 --> 01:07:54,120
Speaker 4: Right? Now?

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Speaker 2: That's the that's the trade off of talking into a

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01:07:56,800 --> 01:07:58,560
Speaker 2: microphone and putting it on the internet, is you can

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01:07:58,680 --> 01:08:02,080
Speaker 2: just piss someone off somehow. I hope I don't do that. Okay,

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01:08:02,080 --> 01:08:03,960
Speaker 2: maybe I should read one more? Should I read one more?

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01:08:05,720 --> 01:08:07,520
Speaker 2: I'll read one more. I'll make the podcast a little

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01:08:07,520 --> 01:08:18,240
Speaker 2: bit longer. Okay, let's see here, Hey GEK call me ismail.

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01:08:18,680 --> 01:08:23,000
Speaker 2: Oh the subject line is h I stopped listening to podcasts.

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01:08:23,320 --> 01:08:25,960
Speaker 2: Hey GEK call me ismail. Thanks for all the time

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Speaker 2: I spent on your podcast because I was depressed and

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01:08:28,240 --> 01:08:30,799
Speaker 2: wouldn't leave my house and had to remember how regular

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Speaker 2: conversations worked. Now the Lexapro is working, and in a

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01:08:34,600 --> 01:08:39,640
Speaker 2: four month turnaround, I'm sleeping with two people that know

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01:08:40,240 --> 01:08:44,160
Speaker 2: about each other and are fine with it and love

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01:08:44,320 --> 01:08:47,880
Speaker 2: biting me. He capitalized all those anything that I said

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01:08:47,880 --> 01:08:52,639
Speaker 2: in that weird voice. He he had fully capitalized. Big

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01:08:52,640 --> 01:08:55,920
Speaker 2: shout out to Lexapro. Glad I'm not dead. I don't

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01:08:55,960 --> 01:08:59,240
Speaker 2: have a whole lot of use for podcasts now that

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01:08:59,320 --> 01:09:02,120
Speaker 2: I quit night shifts at UPS and got my sleep

1087
01:09:02,160 --> 01:09:05,320
Speaker 2: schedule right, started getting some writing done in a coffee

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01:09:05,320 --> 01:09:07,519
Speaker 2: shop and then going up to people that I'd seen

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Speaker 2: around town, which is possible without lexapro for those interested.

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01:09:11,880 --> 01:09:16,640
Speaker 2: I got back to therapy. Fuck, working out, meds and

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01:09:16,760 --> 01:09:19,240
Speaker 2: sleep is fucking fine. I don't know what that last

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01:09:19,240 --> 01:09:22,760
Speaker 2: part means, but I mean working out it's cool. I

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01:09:22,760 --> 01:09:24,840
Speaker 2: always forget that I'm great at talking to people when

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01:09:24,880 --> 01:09:26,800
Speaker 2: I'm hold up in my room. Thanks for getting me

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01:09:26,800 --> 01:09:29,120
Speaker 2: through the night shift. I have listening since episode ten,

1096
01:09:29,320 --> 01:09:31,519
Speaker 2: but I have to go now. Sorry, and thanks again.

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Speaker 2: Is Meil, But you know what is mil? I'm I'm

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01:09:37,880 --> 01:09:40,040
Speaker 2: happy to hear. Oh he sent this. He sent this

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01:09:40,080 --> 01:09:42,360
Speaker 2: email a long time. He sent this email months ago,

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01:09:43,080 --> 01:09:47,280
Speaker 2: so he's not he's not even gonna hear this. But whatever,

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01:09:47,280 --> 01:09:50,400
Speaker 2: he's he's having sex right now with two people that

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01:09:50,600 --> 01:09:52,680
Speaker 2: know about each other and are fine with it and

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01:09:52,840 --> 01:09:59,080
Speaker 2: love biting him. So that's good. Hmm. Yeah, that happens

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01:09:59,120 --> 01:10:01,200
Speaker 2: to me all the time. Man, Oh God, that hapens

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01:10:01,200 --> 01:10:02,920
Speaker 2: to me all the time. I'll be like, I'll be

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01:10:02,960 --> 01:10:05,439
Speaker 2: like really fucking depressed and like not wanting to talk

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01:10:05,479 --> 01:10:07,360
Speaker 2: to anyone, and I'll be like, shit, I think I've

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01:10:07,680 --> 01:10:11,519
Speaker 2: there's been so many times. It happens multiple times a

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01:10:11,600 --> 01:10:14,280
Speaker 2: week where I'm just like, shit, I don't think I

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01:10:14,280 --> 01:10:16,400
Speaker 2: can have a conversation with another human being. I do

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01:10:16,479 --> 01:10:20,720
Speaker 2: it for a living, and I'm just like, fuck, I

1112
01:10:20,760 --> 01:10:24,200
Speaker 2: don't I can't talk to other people. And then let's

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01:10:24,240 --> 01:10:26,720
Speaker 2: have a day where I'm like, I don't know the

1114
01:10:26,760 --> 01:10:30,280
Speaker 2: fucking vivance hits right or the sun hits right or whatever,

1115
01:10:30,280 --> 01:10:31,920
Speaker 2: and I'm just like, damn, I forgot that I'm actually

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01:10:32,000 --> 01:10:36,439
Speaker 2: awesome at talking to people. You got to remind yourself

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01:10:36,479 --> 01:10:39,240
Speaker 2: who you are. It's in there, folks. You just got

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01:10:39,240 --> 01:10:42,600
Speaker 2: to remind yourself who you are sometimes, and then you

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01:10:42,600 --> 01:10:44,920
Speaker 2: could end up like Ismail and stop listening to this

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Speaker 2: podcast as well. No, thank you guys for listening.

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Speaker 4: I listen.

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01:10:51,400 --> 01:10:54,439
Speaker 2: I don't, I don't, I don't. It's funny because this

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01:10:54,560 --> 01:10:57,080
Speaker 2: kind of harkens back to the very first caller we had.

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01:10:57,160 --> 01:10:59,640
Speaker 2: But uh, I don't, I don't know. I listened to

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01:10:59,680 --> 01:11:05,799
Speaker 2: a lot of podcasts just for like I guess noise,

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01:11:06,640 --> 01:11:15,000
Speaker 2: not so much for like social interaction. I fall asleep

1127
01:11:15,040 --> 01:11:20,200
Speaker 2: every night to podcasts about Nintendo games. I love that shit,

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01:11:21,920 --> 01:11:24,759
Speaker 2: And you know what, I'm gonna go do that right now.

1129
01:11:24,920 --> 01:11:28,080
Speaker 2: Actually I'm not. It's the morning time. So thank you,

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Speaker 2: guys for listening to Therapy Gecko. I'm a gecko. I

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01:11:30,920 --> 01:11:32,800
Speaker 2: hope you enjoyed this episode. I hope this was good

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01:11:32,800 --> 01:11:37,640
Speaker 2: for you guys. I hope you enjoyed being here. I

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01:11:37,720 --> 01:11:43,320
Speaker 2: enjoyed recording it. I know that much. Thank you all.

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Speaker 2: Have a good night and have a good What is

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01:11:48,840 --> 01:11:54,880
Speaker 2: it today's Wednesday? Okay, have a good weekend. Everyone, Get blessed,

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Speaker 2: see you around the universe. Repeat, Get Ghosts on the line,

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01:12:02,160 --> 01:12:05,559
Speaker 2: taking your phone calls every night. The repeat, Get ghost

1138
01:12:05,600 --> 01:12:08,559
Speaker 2: doing his ride. He's teaching you a housing over your life,

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01:12:08,920 --> 01:12:11,120
Speaker 2: but he's not really an expert.