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Speaker 1: On this week's episode of Cultivating her Space. We often

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Speaker 1: Today's episode is sure to provide you with motivation, inspiration,

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Speaker 2: Welcome to Cultivating her Space, a podcast dedicated to uplifting

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Speaker 2: women like you were you Go Yes Doctor Dominique Bussard,

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Speaker 2: a college professor and psychologist.

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Speaker 3: And Terry Lomax, a techy and motivational speaker. In a

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Speaker 3: world where black women are often misrepresented and misunderstood, please

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Speaker 3: join us as we initiate authentic conversations on everything from

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Speaker 4: Be our quote of the day. I have all the

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Speaker 4: get done. That quote comes to us from our very

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Speaker 4: own Terry Lomax, also known as Tea. I'm gonna say

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Speaker 4: that one more time for the folks in the back

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Speaker 4: of the day to make it your own affirmation or mind.

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Speaker 4: I have all the time I need to get everything

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Speaker 4: So thank you for that quote, and you know you

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Speaker 4: know how I do. I'm gonna turn it over to you. Yes, yeah, honestly,

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Speaker 4: dom My one, girl, You're welcome.

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Speaker 1: I needed it because I'm going to talk about this

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Speaker 1: we I think we all have such interesting relationships with

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Speaker 1: time and Lady. This is going to be a pretty

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Speaker 1: interactive episode. Okay, so get ready, let's talk about what

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Speaker 1: for this episode. So today we are going to delve

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Speaker 1: And then let me here's mind. I say bo, Wait

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Speaker 1: there's more. Oo, wait, there's more. Yes, there's more. So

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Speaker 1: we have an after show, right, every week we have

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Speaker 1: an after show, and in today's after show, we're going

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Speaker 1: to cover five ways to master your time. So, lady,

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Speaker 1: to Domini, I discuss this activity and going over it.

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Speaker 4: I think when before you gave me that mantra, right,

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Speaker 4: of slow and I want to have some energy, but

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Speaker 4: I don't need all the caffeine. So for me, that's

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Speaker 4: where magic mind comes in. Right. So on my like

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Speaker 4: for instance, my knee days, where my days are kind

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Speaker 4: of just go with the flow. Like I said, I

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Speaker 4: don't want all that caffeine, but I need a little

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Speaker 4: something to get me through the day. And I take

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Speaker 4: that cute little shot of magic mind and I'm good

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Speaker 4: to go. And so for me also, whether it's taking

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Speaker 4: it by itself or putting it in a smoothie that

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Speaker 4: I have for breakfast, I know that when I take

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Speaker 4: that magic mind shot, I'm taking something that is not

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Speaker 4: only good for me, it's good to me.

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Speaker 1: Hmm. Okay, that's a new tagline right there. Not only

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Speaker 1: is it good for me. It's good to me, and

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Speaker 1: now I'm just kind of going along with that, Like

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Speaker 1: our words have power, right, and we know our thoughts

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Speaker 1: obviously have power, and we have the ability to create

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Speaker 1: self fulfilling prophecies. And so with that said, magic mind

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Speaker 1: is also one of the meaningful activities that helps me

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Speaker 1: in the morning as someone who enjoys sleeping in, but

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Speaker 1: I wake up early because you know, I got to

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Speaker 1: and that's the time that works best for me. I

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Speaker 1: take my magic mind shot. But the thing is it

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Speaker 1: doesn't stop there. When I'm taking my vitamins, drinking my

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Speaker 1: water and throwing my magic mind shot back, I'm also

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Speaker 1: thanking the ingredients for giving me what I need to

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Speaker 1: be my healthiest self. So I am in the process

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Speaker 1: right now. I'm going through some big shifts in life,

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Speaker 1: and I am all about my internal dialogue. So I've

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Speaker 1: been turning up the volume on that because if it's

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Speaker 1: too quiet and I'm not programming myself, that's when other

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Speaker 1: stuff comes in. So I'm stating affirmations, right. I love

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Speaker 1: magic mind because I am not a coffee person, and

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Speaker 1: I'm also mindful of what I put my body, and

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Speaker 1: want it to be good for you and good to you, Yes,

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Speaker 1: to the reflection questions and some tips? I think so

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Speaker 1: I think it's not right. So our reflection question for

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Speaker 1: this step is what activities or hobbies have you neglected

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Speaker 1: due to the lack of time, and how can you

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Speaker 1: prioritize them in your schedule. So maybe for you, lady,

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Speaker 1: it's like maybe you're on your journey to like eating

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Speaker 1: well and like being more mindful of what you put

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Speaker 1: in your body. The magic mind shot will be perfect

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Speaker 1: for that, right. I know for me it's been stretching.

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Speaker 1: I've been like trying to work on my slits for

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Speaker 1: the longest and so I'm being more consistent with that,

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Speaker 1: and I've been stretching a few times a week, coloring

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Speaker 1: FaceTime dates with family and friends, like all those are

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Speaker 1: things that I bake into the day so that my

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Speaker 1: life feels a lot more full, you know what I mean,

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Speaker 1: Like in a good way.

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Speaker 4: Yes, I love that because I think for me, one

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Speaker 4: of the things that I want to get better about

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Speaker 4: is breakfasts. Have started my day with a good breakfast

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Speaker 4: and if I take if I had that smoothie in

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Speaker 4: the morning right then while that's not like a huge breakfast,

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Speaker 4: it's still I'm consuming something in the morning to get

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Speaker 4: my to get my day going and I think also

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Speaker 4: figuring out time for stretching in between sessions, but then also,

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Speaker 4: like you said, like making time for calls with family

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Speaker 4: and friends and catching up on text messages and figuring out,

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Speaker 4: like how can I incorporate those things into my day

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Speaker 4: in a way that feels fulfilling for me and not

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Speaker 4: extra right, Like it feels expansive, like pouring into myself

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Speaker 4: as opposed to, oh, here's one more thing on my

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Speaker 4: to do list.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that, don because you're right. Sometimes when

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Speaker 1: you are trying to be more intentional about your time

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Speaker 1: than the things that you're trying to bake in, it

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Speaker 1: feels like this feels like it feels like a lot,

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Speaker 1: It feels like more so. One of the other things too,

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Speaker 1: I don't think we talked about this is I've been

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Speaker 1: testing out like what works for me in this phase

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Speaker 1: of life, and I've been looking at different sprints, Like

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Speaker 1: I have a sprint where I did a cleanse in

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Speaker 1: the beginning of the year, and I think it was

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Speaker 1: like a for the six week sprint where I was like,

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Speaker 1: I'm focused on this goal for this amount of time

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Speaker 1: and then I'm gonna rest because I don't want to

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Speaker 1: be on all the time I've been I did that

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Speaker 1: shit for the longest, and I'm like, I'm oh, it's

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Speaker 1: time for me to live my life now. I did

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Speaker 1: a lot of work, you know, in college and after

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Speaker 1: you know, postgraps all that, So I did a lot

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Speaker 1: of work then. So now it's all about the kind

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Speaker 1: of balancing out what works best in this phase in life.

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Speaker 1: So sprints are really great if you want to kind

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Speaker 1: of manage your life by semesters, whether you or not

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Speaker 1: you're in school. I used to love the semester setup

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Speaker 1: of how our life was sort of managed in college,

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Speaker 1: and so I've used that before as well. So, lady,

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Speaker 1: we have everything we need to support our best life

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Speaker 1: right now. It's just a matter of us tapping into

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Speaker 1: it and figuring out what that looks like for us.

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Speaker 1: So one of the tips for this step here is

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Speaker 1: to schedule regular white space sessions in your calendar for

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Speaker 1: self reflection, creativity, and rejuvenation. So the same way they

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Speaker 1: were scheduling time to chat with friends or to stretch

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Speaker 1: or to to you know, go to an appointment, just

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Speaker 1: schedule space to do nothing. And I know that probably sound.

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Speaker 1: I know for me that sounds that is still I'm

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Speaker 1: still working progress there. It sounds pretty wild because I'm like,

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Speaker 1: what white space?

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Speaker 4: Right? And we have, lady, stay tuned, because we have

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Speaker 4: a whole episode coming to you soon where we talk

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Speaker 4: about like white space and me time and what that

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Speaker 4: really how you can really make that happen for you.

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Speaker 4: And I think I really am a proponent of having

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Speaker 4: time for yourself, and some of that time for yourself

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Speaker 4: will be where you absolutely do nothing, like nothing as

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Speaker 4: in I'm sitting on my couch looking at the wall,

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Speaker 4: watching paint dry, so to speak. Right like, I'm just

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Speaker 4: sitting here and I'm letting my mind just wander, and

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Speaker 4: thirty minutes might go by, and I've just been letting

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Speaker 4: my mind just wander on whatever. And you'd be surprised

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Speaker 4: at like how helpful that is in figuring out what

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Speaker 4: are the things that your mind is currently prioritizing, because

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Speaker 4: that's what comes up when you sit in that white

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Speaker 4: space and that do nothing time. And again, lady, we

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Speaker 4: have a whole episode coming to you soon where we

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Speaker 4: talk about that more in depth. So too, and let's

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Speaker 4: move on to our third tip or our third reflection.

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Speaker 1: Let's do it, okay, So we are going to be

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Speaker 1: shattering self imposed limits, Lady. We often impose these artificial

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Speaker 1: limits on ourselves based on societal expectations or fear of failure, right,

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Speaker 1: or sometimes fear of success. It's time to break free

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Speaker 1: from the constraints, right, and let's push beyond our comfort

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Speaker 1: zone to discover the true capabilities. I feel like a

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Speaker 1: lot of times the messages that we get from the

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Speaker 1: messages that we may have gotten from my childhood, but

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Speaker 1: also from society, it sort of perpetuates the fact that

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Speaker 1: there's never enough time. We don't have time, All time

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Speaker 1: is running out.

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Speaker 3: It's like a lot of fear mongering and just these

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Speaker 3: different ideas and other people's projections of how they're viewing time.

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Speaker 3: So I think that when it comes to shattering self

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Speaker 3: and post limits, that include the the limitations of other people.

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Speaker 1: So I also I'm trying to figure out, like if

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Speaker 1: I want to use the word busy or if I

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Speaker 1: want to use the word full, because I'm trying to

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Speaker 1: be mindful of how am I describing, you know, because

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Speaker 1: full to me, I like, I like what's good, but

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Speaker 1: I like it right, I feel like busy sometimes it

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Speaker 1: kind of invokes this or it evokes like a I

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Speaker 1: don't know anxiety, negativity, negativity and negative kind of takes right.

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Speaker 1: When you think about busy, it's like I just think

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Speaker 1: of like running around like a chicken on my head

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Speaker 1: cut off. That's what I That's what I have a

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Speaker 1: vision where I think of busy. So I think being

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Speaker 1: mindful of how are we describing our day to other people?

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Speaker 1: What projections are we allowing folks to put on us.

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Speaker 1: I remember being a I don't want to say too

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Speaker 1: much here, but I was in a setting with a

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Speaker 1: friend and they had said some I'm like, yeah, that's hard,

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Speaker 1: and I'm thinking to myself, it's hard for who like

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Speaker 1: it may be it may be a challenge for me,

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Speaker 1: but I don't want to I don't want to receive that,

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Speaker 1: you know, So just be mindful, like what are we receiving?

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Speaker 1: Even if you don't say it to the person, because

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Speaker 1: sometimes you just may not be in a space where

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Speaker 1: you want to actually say that to the person. To

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Speaker 1: start a whole thing in your mind, you can just

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Speaker 1: say like, oh, I see where they are. I accept

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Speaker 1: you for where you are. I don't receive that this

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Speaker 1: is you know. I'm a work in progress, so I'm

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Speaker 1: getting better with whatever the thing might be, so that

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Speaker 1: that's what I do personally, like I may have the

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Speaker 1: conversation in my head if someone has a limiting belief

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Speaker 1: and not take that on as my own.

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Speaker 4: You know, I love how you said that, and as

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Speaker 4: you it's so funny or fascinating how we are sink, right,

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Speaker 4: Because as you were talking about the word busy, I

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Speaker 4: was like, literally, that's the word that I was having

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Speaker 4: in my head and I was trying to come up

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Speaker 4: with what's a different word, and then you immediately had

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Speaker 4: it like the word full, right, okayre And I love

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Speaker 4: that word being full because as soon as you said it,

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Speaker 4: I was sitting like immediately, I like, I sat with

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Speaker 4: it and fell a sense of calmness and relief as

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Speaker 4: you said that, And I was like, yes, I love

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Speaker 4: that idea of reframing my life is full instead of

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Speaker 4: saying busy, right, because I think people like when I

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Speaker 4: talk to family and friends and I say, oh, I'm busy,

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Speaker 4: they're like, yeah, I'm busy too, or a girl, yeah

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Speaker 4: you stay busy. And it's the way that it's said

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Speaker 4: that makes me feel guilt, And I'm like, huh do

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Speaker 4: I like, I don't want to feel busy in the

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Speaker 4: way that makes me feel guilty my life and so

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Speaker 4: when you said the word full, my life is full. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: Like I have a lot going on, whether it's you know,

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Speaker 4: we have the podcast, I have a full time job,

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Speaker 4: I have my private practice. But I'm also very clear

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Speaker 4: about making time for friends, family, traveling, like reading, for fun,

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Speaker 4: Like I make time for the things that I enjoy.

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Speaker 4: And so when I think about it, yes, time in

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Speaker 4: the day is a chount, like my moments of the

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Speaker 4: day are accounted for, right, but it's accounted for in

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Speaker 4: a way that makes me feel full based on how

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Speaker 4: I'm moving now, right. I think previously, prior to us

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Speaker 4: having this new mantra of how we look at time,

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Speaker 4: it may have been actually like busy, right, Yeah, But

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Speaker 4: in the space that I am in in this moment,

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Speaker 4: I feel full and I like that feeling.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I love that for you, Dom and I feel

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Speaker 1: you because I feel the same way like I feel

656
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Speaker 1: like it makes me. It also sort of brings about

657
00:37:44,000 --> 00:37:47,959
Speaker 1: feeling the gratitude as well, because it's foul like even

658
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Speaker 1: with the podcast, like this is so much work, y'all,

659
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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, it's so much work on the back

660
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Speaker 1: end that you don't see that we that we that

661
00:37:55,800 --> 00:37:58,200
Speaker 1: we put into this podcast for you, but also because

662
00:37:58,200 --> 00:38:00,359
Speaker 1: it's a labor of love for us and it's fueling us.

663
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Speaker 1: And there are some days where it's like I'm tired,

664
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Speaker 1: know what shit, And I'm like, I get to do this,

665
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Speaker 1: like we get to have sponsors, we get to have

666
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Speaker 1: listeners from all over the globe. And I think the

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Speaker 1: framing of it is everything. Perspective is everything. And I

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Speaker 1: want to go back to something you said earlier. We

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Speaker 1: were talking about the long list of tasks. What you

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Speaker 1: said about task right, we were talking about having all

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Speaker 1: the tasks, and I feel like for the longest I

672
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Speaker 1: would make my task list life or death, like I

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Speaker 1: gotta get this done. It's the end of the world.

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Speaker 1: And now I'm just like girl boy, like what right?

675
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Speaker 1: I think? Because I'm in the state where I'm like,

676
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Speaker 1: I paid my dues, I've worked so hard, I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna ease into my work. So there are days

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Speaker 1: where I'm like, if this task don't get done, is

679
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Speaker 1: the world gonna end? Is someone gonna no? So I

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Speaker 1: love that question.

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Speaker 4: I love that question, and I think as you're saying

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Speaker 4: that what's coming up for me is you were moving

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Speaker 4: out of the space of being acious. Yeah, you're moving

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Speaker 4: out of a space of not living in an anxiety

685
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Speaker 4: filled world.

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Speaker 1: Yes, But down the other thing is too, that was

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Speaker 1: my norm. I was so comfortable doing that though, going

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Speaker 1: back to the footsteps, the footsteps in the snow, Yeah,

689
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Speaker 1: it might be uncomfortable, but it's also my norm. So

690
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Speaker 1: I'm used to being anxious. I'm used to putting myself

691
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Speaker 1: in scenarios where my anxiety is triggered, and so it's

692
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Speaker 1: been an unlearning and like relearning process for me. But

693
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Speaker 1: it has felt so great not being so attached to

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Speaker 1: my task in that way where I'm not a surgeon.

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Speaker 1: I'm not a doctor. I'm not you know, doing brain surgery,

696
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Speaker 1: to like it's it's okay, Everything's gonna be okay. I

697
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Speaker 1: have all the time I need to get done everything

698
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Speaker 1: that needs to get done, Yet everything that needs to

699
00:39:45,040 --> 00:39:47,880
Speaker 1: get done want to get done. Everything that needs to

700
00:39:47,880 --> 00:39:51,040
Speaker 1: getting need to get done. For instance, a priority for

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Speaker 1: the podcast might be like we're going to make sure

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Speaker 1: we launched the episode on Friday. That's like our big priority.

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Speaker 1: But you know, if the social media post is post

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Speaker 1: it late or maybe we go a couple of weeks

705
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Speaker 1: without it, because you know, our life is so full,

706
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Speaker 1: it's gonna be all right. It's exactly okay. And the

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Speaker 1: other thing I wanted to say kind of in this

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Speaker 1: realm is being mindful of how you do a thing.

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Speaker 1: And the reason I say that is because I remember

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Speaker 1: back in the day when we first started the podcast

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Speaker 1: and I would edit the episodes, I observed my body

712
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Speaker 1: domb and what I realized is that whenever I would edit,

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Speaker 1: I would like hold my breath. I don't know if

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Speaker 1: it's I don't know why I would do it, but

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Speaker 1: it was probably anxiety. For sure. I had some anxiety

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Speaker 1: as I was editing, and there was like a lot

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Speaker 1: of pressure. It's like we have to get this episode out,

718
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Speaker 1: and I would hold my breath and I began to stop.

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Speaker 1: I began to just like breathe and calm down, take

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Speaker 1: deep breaths and just kind of like slow with it more.

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Speaker 1: And that my anxiety wasn't as heightened, But that was

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Speaker 1: that was the thing I realized, Like, how are you

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Speaker 1: doing the thing when you are driving to go pick

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Speaker 1: up the kids or you want to laundry, Like are

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Speaker 1: you just brush rush rush fresh rush, or like, how

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Speaker 1: are you breathing? Are you breathing? You know? Yes?

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Speaker 4: Yes, I love that. I love that, And I think

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Speaker 4: that takes us to our tip, right is start small,

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Speaker 4: right by setting like achievable goals and then gradually increasing

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Speaker 4: the level of challenge as you build your confidence and resilience.

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Speaker 5: Right.

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Speaker 4: And so maybe it's I'm gonna give myself five minutes

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Speaker 4: in between shifting activities, right, or hell, for some of us,

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Speaker 4: maybe it might be I'm gonna start with one minute

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Speaker 4: where I focus on some deep breathing in between shifting activities.

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Speaker 4: And then as you build confidence and resilience in that

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Speaker 4: area of taking time to really focus on your breathing

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Speaker 4: and meditating, maybe it's you start to look at your

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Speaker 4: schedule and you build in longer periods of time, right,

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Speaker 4: and you're like, Okay, I have thirty minutes for lunch.

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Speaker 4: Can I give myself five minutes of that thirty to

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Speaker 4: just do some deep breathing. And then maybe we build

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Speaker 4: up to I start my mourning with a twenty minute

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Speaker 4: meditation practice, and then eventually I have my twenty minute

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Speaker 4: morning meditation practice. I have my small increments throughout the day,

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Speaker 4: and then part of my evening wind down routine includes

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Speaker 4: another twenty minute meditation practice. And so you start small

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Speaker 4: and then build your way up in a way that

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Speaker 4: works for you.

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, and yes, I love that in a way

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Speaker 1: that works for you. Got should we do a quicker

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Speaker 1: recap and then share like how the mantra has impacted

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Speaker 1: our life, like what we've noticed, and then we're going

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Speaker 1: to talk about the after show.

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Speaker 4: Yes, yes, I got you here, all right. So the

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Speaker 4: first thing is rethink how you view time. Our obsession

757
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Speaker 4: with time can often be a hindrance rather than a

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Speaker 4: tool of productivity. So again read think how you view time.

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Speaker 4: Focus Number two expand your schedule. Contrary to popular belief,

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Speaker 4: expanding your schedule doesn't necessarily mean cramming more tasks into

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Speaker 4: each day. Rather, it's about creating space for meaningful activities

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Speaker 4: and allowing ourselves to pursue interest beyond the usual routine.

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Speaker 4: Expand your schedule and number three shatter those self impose limits.

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Speaker 4: When we impose these artificial limits on ourselves based on

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Speaker 4: societies expectations around feure or failure, we're not setting ourselves

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Speaker 4: up for our best life. It's time to break free

767
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Speaker 4: from those constraints and push beyond our comfort zones to

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Speaker 4: discover our true capabilities. So shatter those self imposed limits.

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Speaker 1: Period. Okay, us, So now we're going to talk about

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Speaker 1: our results and what we noticed over the past few

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Speaker 1: weeks and months of using this mantra. So I say

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Speaker 1: this mantra the quote of the day. That's my mantra.

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Speaker 1: I've been saying that throughout the day constantly, right, And

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Speaker 1: so what I've noticed is that I have more found time.

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Speaker 1: I find more flow and ease in my day. Also,

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Speaker 1: it's so funny because I'm like, look at the universe

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Speaker 1: go when you say that and you open up to

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Speaker 1: the fact that I have all the time I needed

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Speaker 1: to get everything done I need to get done. Meetings

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Speaker 1: are like randomly canceled meetings I thought I had really

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00:45:35,120 --> 00:45:38,400
Speaker 1: prep for they end up getting canceled, and I find

782
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Speaker 1: myself being able to cut and focus by time blocking. Right.

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Speaker 1: I also feel empowered to cancel meetings myself. So there

784
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Speaker 1: are times where I'm like, you know what, I didn't

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Speaker 1: stay up until midnight last night like I used to do,

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Speaker 1: and then get up early in the morning to do

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Speaker 1: this work because I was like, no, I'm going to

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Speaker 1: get my rest and do my nighttime routine, and so

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Speaker 1: all let me canceled this meeting in the morning because

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Speaker 1: we don't need to have it, and I'll do the

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Speaker 1: work that I was going to do it at midnight during

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Speaker 1: that time block where the meeting was. So I find

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Speaker 1: that I am just flowing in life, and I feel

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Speaker 1: like I'm in my own little universe that's based on

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Speaker 1: the energy that I am cultivating. And when things happen

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Speaker 1: that are not ideal, or maybe something happens and I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I'm actually I don't have as much time as I

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Speaker 1: thought I was gonna have. I see it as an

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Speaker 1: opportunity or I see it as it's serving me in

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Speaker 1: some ways. I'm like, Okay, how is this gonna you know?

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Speaker 1: How can this assist me on my journey or whatever

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Speaker 1: it might be. So those are some of the things

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Speaker 1: I've noticed on this journey with time and shifting my perspective.

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Speaker 4: What about you, dom, I think you know, I kind

805
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Speaker 4: of mentioned this at the top of the episode around

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Speaker 4: noticing that I'm able to do the things that I

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00:46:51,320 --> 00:46:54,759
Speaker 4: want to do in addition to the things that need

808
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Speaker 4: to get done. But most importantly for me is the

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Speaker 4: release of the guilt of the things that don't get

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Speaker 4: done by the end of the day, right. And so

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Speaker 4: for me, what I've found is throughout the day, when

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Speaker 4: I feel that little nudge of cramp, I still got

813
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Speaker 4: these ten things to do. It's no you have all

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Speaker 4: the time you need to get everything that needs to

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Speaker 4: get done, and those ten things that need to get

816
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Speaker 4: done seem to happen. And like you said, I like

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Speaker 4: that word of ease and flow right, Like my days

818
00:47:41,080 --> 00:47:45,680
Speaker 4: seem to flow better, and I find that I am

819
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Speaker 4: way less stressed. So it has come in handy when

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Speaker 4: I'm reflecting over the last couple of months, it has

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Speaker 4: been it has been hexic, like there's been a lot

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Speaker 4: going on, and normally I might feel incredibly overwhelmed by

823
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Speaker 4: it all, but I find myself in this space of

824
00:48:12,520 --> 00:48:18,160
Speaker 4: being at peace because I've been allowing myself to remember

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Speaker 4: that everything that needs to get done is going to

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Speaker 4: get done, and it might not get done in the

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Speaker 4: timeframe that I initially envision, but it gets done and

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Speaker 4: I can rest assured that it will get done. And

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Speaker 4: that has been a game changer.

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Speaker 1: I loved that for you, and I love this for us,

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Speaker 1: and Lady We hope that you have enjoyed this conversation.

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Speaker 1: Make sure you rewind if you need to, and go

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Speaker 1: back to those mantras we shared initially. Dom and I

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Speaker 1: are going to hop over into the after show and

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Speaker 1: we're going to share five ways to mass to your

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Speaker 1: time and we might share a little t well behind

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Speaker 1: the scenes stuff. And you can also see us on

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Speaker 1: video if you want to see our beautiful face as

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Speaker 1: y'a out, So feel free to visit her Space podcast

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00:49:13,000 --> 00:49:16,280
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Speaker 1: I believe it's the sister Friend tier and that way

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Speaker 1: you can converse with us on these behind the scene topics.

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Speaker 1: So we'll catch you on the other side.

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Speaker 1: And before we meet again, repeat after me, The universe

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