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Speaker 1: Mother in law wants to abduct my terminally ill daughter,

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Speaker 1: but I wanted to terminate with me.

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Speaker 2: Am I the a hole.

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Speaker 1: I mean it depends like are you are you like

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Speaker 1: killing your baby when you're with it, Like base of

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Speaker 1: the title, it's like, look, he sounds like yo, yo,

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Speaker 1: you don't get to kill my baby.

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Speaker 2: I get to kill my baby. Bro.

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Speaker 1: This mother in law abductions going on like it. Mother

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Speaker 1: in law is an alien. It's it's it's crazy, dude,

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Speaker 1: alien Yeah from outer space?

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Speaker 2: Great? U. Yeah, we need.

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Speaker 1: Make a soundboard of our collective noises. We got to

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Speaker 1: make this happen. Remember, I have.

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Speaker 2: An almost three year old beautiful girl.

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Speaker 1: She's just a few weeks almost applying to like three

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Speaker 1: year old beautiful and girl Like I have an almost

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Speaker 1: beautiful three year old girl, almost girl. I have a

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Speaker 1: daughter who would be gorgeous, but you know, she's just

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Speaker 1: not quite there, so I guess she's kind of ugly.

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Speaker 1: It'll be funny, you know, I have a girl that

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Speaker 1: would be gorgeous if it wasn't for your father.

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Speaker 2: Was my jeens alone, it would be fine.

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Speaker 1: She my daughter is just a few weeks shy of

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Speaker 1: her third birthday. My baby was out in hospice four

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Speaker 1: weeks ago after having gone into remission late in May.

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Speaker 1: That is rough, immensely harding babies, sad, very Unfortunately, the

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Speaker 1: cancer has returned, except now it is crushing her optic nerve,

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Speaker 1: which is about eight centimeters long. Multiple doctors recommended we

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Speaker 1: make our we make our daughter as comfortable as possible

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Speaker 1: as they as they don't believe that removing the tumor

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Speaker 1: is a good option. I have so much to say

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Speaker 1: in regard I have so much to say in regards

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Speaker 1: of her diagnosis.

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Speaker 2: But heartbroken will suffice for now? Dude, I can't.

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Speaker 1: That's the only thing you can be and such like

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Speaker 1: you you can't, you can't even like fathom it being

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Speaker 1: outside of the situation.

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Speaker 2: You can't even like and.

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Speaker 1: Where do you, like, I don't know, Like how do

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Speaker 1: you spend those last months exactly? It's like it's so important,

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Speaker 1: but it's like, like what kind of experience or is

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Speaker 1: are you trying to give that three year old? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and like yeah, it's yeah, massively hard. My husband and

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Speaker 1: I have been making tons of memories with her. My

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Speaker 1: husband and I have been making tons of memories with

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Speaker 1: her for the past few weeks. We've included family in

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Speaker 1: some of these memories, but we both feel that we

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Speaker 1: want to spend as much time with.

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Speaker 2: Our daughter as possible. Totally makes sense. My mother in law.

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Speaker 1: My mother in law called me yesterday to tell me

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Speaker 1: she booked tickets hotel fair to book tickets and a

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Speaker 1: hotel for a trip next month.

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, okay cool?

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Speaker 1: So I mean, I guess the mother in law is

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Speaker 1: like trying to invite everyone and like make it be

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Speaker 1: like okay, like you're you're the parents of this baby, right,

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Speaker 1: and so like let's all spend like I want to

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Speaker 1: see the baby too, Let's all spend time together, you know,

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Speaker 1: before the baby dies.

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Speaker 2: But Samuel, you.

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Speaker 1: Forget Oh wait, this is this is reddits. I thought

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Speaker 1: it sounded fun until she said that she was taking

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Speaker 1: our toddler with her, just her, my daughter and her husband.

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Speaker 1: She did not invite my husband and I what how

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Speaker 1: it makes that make sense? Like your babies last couple

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Speaker 1: weeks or months, and you're gonna like not invite the parents.

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Speaker 1: Why would they agree to that? Why does it makes

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Speaker 1: any sense? No sense whatsoever? My daughter isn't even three yet,

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Speaker 1: she has never stayed overnight anywhere. And mother in law

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Speaker 1: wants to take her for an entire week across the country.

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Speaker 1: That's a point, dude, that's a good point. Like even

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Speaker 1: if the daughter was healthy, you probably wouldn't do that.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 1: It's like it's a lot I suggested for a baby,

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Speaker 1: like like, you know, you don't know this that well,

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Speaker 1: like if we're thinking what it is mother in law,

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Speaker 1: but yeah, but like not that not as well as

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Speaker 1: your your own mother.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I feel like that's you know.

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Speaker 1: What's the mother in law doing? Just gonna like flee

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Speaker 1: the country and yeah I did. I don't know, you know, honestly,

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Speaker 1: anything is with the stories we've read, anything is backable,

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Speaker 1: anything is possible. I took the baby because I felt

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Speaker 1: like it, and I went to Russia to get an

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Speaker 1: emergency surgery. But the attaching a third optic nerve bro,

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Speaker 1: the logistical like Hulu hoops that these people jump through

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Speaker 1: is us astonishing. I suggested that my husband and I

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Speaker 1: both go that way. Our daughter is comfortable, and for

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Speaker 1: God's sakes, in the event that she passes away, she

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Speaker 1: can't be gone for a week. Her nurses are here

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Speaker 1: or care is here. Yeah, it doesn't even make sense. Dude,

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Speaker 1: it doesn't even make sense to do it doesn't. It's

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Speaker 1: it's one thing if it's like, you know, oh, you know,

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Speaker 1: the baby is healthy, we want to go out of

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Speaker 1: town for a weekend or whatever, just like you know,

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Speaker 1: have some like husband wifetime, Hey come to the house

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Speaker 1: and like watch the baby. That's totally fine. But like

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Speaker 1: you taking this this terminally ill child away across the country,

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Speaker 1: just like what are you doing?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 1: I suggested, what if we all go for a shorter

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Speaker 1: amount of time. I came up with various suggestions, all

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Speaker 1: of which which is a great idea. That is a

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Speaker 1: great compromise. That is a fantastic compromise. All of my

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Speaker 1: suggestions turned down. Dude, how how dare you think of

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Speaker 1: a good solution? I am I am disgusted.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: How is how is this mother in law like that

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Speaker 1: blind to the needs of the parents, Like these parents

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Speaker 1: need to spend time with their kid, The kid needs

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Speaker 1: to spend time with the parents, Like this doesn't make anything.

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Speaker 1: She would understand as a mother, yeah, as a mother, bro,

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Speaker 1: But again, she's a mother in law, and as we know,

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Speaker 1: all mother in laws are evil. Yes, I should add

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Speaker 1: that if my daughter was not in hospice, I still

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Speaker 1: would not be comfortable with our toddler being across the

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Speaker 1: country four a week for a week alone without that.

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Speaker 1: That's such a good point, too, Yes, it absolutely is,

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Speaker 1: And I feel like these special circumstances weren't an even

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Speaker 1: closer relationship with the daughter and the.

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Speaker 2: Parents exactly exactly.

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Speaker 1: My child being in hospice adds another layer of complexity

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Speaker 1: to this already complex situation.

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Speaker 2: Exactly real, exactly.

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Speaker 1: I told my mother in law that her I told

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Speaker 1: my mother in law that her decisions that she had

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Speaker 1: made alone without consulting us was a solid.

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Speaker 2: No, okay, which you have power to do? Apparent.

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Speaker 1: She called me a few names and hung up on me.

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Speaker 1: What is this mother in law doing, dude?

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Speaker 2: Just why? Why? Like?

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Speaker 1: What what could you possibly why? Why on earth would

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Speaker 1: you possibly want to do this? She then called my

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Speaker 1: husband and called me a few more names and suggested

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Speaker 1: that she would fight for her rights before my daughter dies.

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Speaker 2: What rights? What rights do you have? Got? No rights? Bro?

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Speaker 1: When I when I was putting my hand down, I

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Speaker 1: slapped myself on the nutsack and that was painful. Nice John,

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Speaker 1: I'm not going to have any kids We're not gonnaout.

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Speaker 2: This situation now.

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Speaker 1: I am already grieving. My husband said that we should

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Speaker 1: acquiesce to his mother's trip to avoid drama. What that's crazy, bro,

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Speaker 1: What even though he also agrees that our daughter is

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Speaker 1: too young for this, but I want to spend time

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Speaker 1: with her before her cancer takes her and she's too little,

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Speaker 1: et cetera, et cetera. I said no for various reasons,

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Speaker 1: not just to say no again, like ope, he does

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Speaker 1: not need any more reasons than I am this terminali

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Speaker 1: old baby's mother, and I deserve to spend time. I

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Speaker 1: want to know what's going through the mother in law's mind,

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Speaker 1: Like I I will say, like I don't know if

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Speaker 1: it's like the word the phrasing is like you have

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Speaker 1: the right to, but like you know, it's good for

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Speaker 1: her to probably see the baby. A.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they don't take it away.

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Speaker 1: Don't take it away from the parents, especially like if

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Speaker 1: you care about this child, you would obviously be like,

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Speaker 1: oh wait, like all of like op said, all of

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Speaker 1: the cares here, like everything is here, Like why would

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Speaker 1: I seems like this is put this situation is putting

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Speaker 1: the child into more stress and more danger. Exactly doesn't

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Speaker 1: make any sense. Yeah, I think this mother in law

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Speaker 1: like he's just like she's like wants to selfishly just

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Speaker 1: have time alone. And you know, you're not the parent,

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Speaker 1: so like you don't necessarily you're not entitled to that

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Speaker 1: mother in law.

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Speaker 2: You're canceled, canceled