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<v Speaker 1>Hi, Susan Olds here and Kathy Smarts from the Golden Bachelor.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm so excited to share with you this.

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<v Speaker 3>Is I do part two, a podcast all about finding

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<v Speaker 3>love a second time.

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<v Speaker 4>Around, and we're going to do a quick game of

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<v Speaker 4>rapid fire questions.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you ready? Here we go?

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<v Speaker 1>All right, Susan, which do you prefer dating apps or

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<v Speaker 1>being set up? At this stage of the game? Being

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<v Speaker 1>set up? Probably me too? You know why I hate

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<v Speaker 1>being judged off the picture?

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<v Speaker 5>Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>I know right now?

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<v Speaker 2>And you swipe this way and that way.

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<v Speaker 3>It just takes a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>All right.

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<v Speaker 2>Where are the best places to meet men?

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<v Speaker 4>Football games, baseball games, golf course right there?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, always a golf course.

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<v Speaker 1>Men are so involved when they're watching football and baseball

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<v Speaker 1>and basketball games.

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<v Speaker 3>Golf courses.

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<v Speaker 2>Lots of single men on the golf course. I play golf,

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<v Speaker 2>and yeah, I don't see a lot of single men.

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<v Speaker 2>I see men.

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<v Speaker 1>But you have to be at the nineteen cool season,

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<v Speaker 1>all right? Who do you think was the hunkiest Bachelor

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<v Speaker 1>of all time? Jesse with the Bachelor, Jesse Palmers.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm with you on that. I think it's gorgeous.

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<v Speaker 5>But you know what I think, Joe there's so.

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<v Speaker 1>Many adorable Do you want to get married again?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh gosh.

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<v Speaker 4>I used to think yes, and I would be open

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<v Speaker 4>to it, but it's not necessary.

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<v Speaker 2>I do want to be in love again. How about you? No?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, marriage is not on my to do list, but

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<v Speaker 3>I would never rule it.

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<v Speaker 2>So, Kathy, what is the best part of marriage? For me?

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<v Speaker 1>The best part of marriage was just having that that

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<v Speaker 1>time together, the intimacy of even if it wasn't having sex,

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<v Speaker 1>just being together and talking about our days and traveling together.

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<v Speaker 1>It was the togetherness. It was through thick and thin,

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<v Speaker 1>the being together. What about you having kids?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, sharing children, raising a family, it's the best part. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>make it out of a movie theater?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes or no?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean I'd probably say no, but I'm sure I

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<v Speaker 4>do it.

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<v Speaker 2>If the moment happened. Why you're not going to go

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<v Speaker 2>bra I like kissing?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Why not?

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<v Speaker 2>Why should you sleep together on the first date?

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<v Speaker 3>Can we answer this in one word?

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<v Speaker 2>No?

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<v Speaker 3>No, don't care what how old you are? Never do it?

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<v Speaker 2>All?

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<v Speaker 3>Right?

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<v Speaker 2>Our one night stands acceptable if you're over the age

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<v Speaker 2>of fifty five? What is this fifty five?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Sill a love.

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<v Speaker 3>Here's the thing, a one night stand is always acceptable

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<v Speaker 3>if the two of you are agreement.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I don't judge. I want to do all right, Susan.

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<v Speaker 1>Here's a good one for us, and we've actually talked

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<v Speaker 1>about this. What if you and I both like the

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<v Speaker 1>same guy?

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<v Speaker 2>What happens? It depends on how much I like him.

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<v Speaker 4>I probably put my head between my legs and go

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<v Speaker 4>away because I don't want to knock.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, that's those are the two choices, aren't I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think you and I actually we don't have the same

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<v Speaker 1>tasted But all, oh.

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<v Speaker 2>Sex toys? Are you into them? If yes, what are they?

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<v Speaker 4>Can I answer that because I bought Kathy her first

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<v Speaker 4>sex toy for her birthday last year.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean we're alone. They're great, Yes, yes, we love them? Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>all right.

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<v Speaker 3>The worst thing about menopauds is.

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<v Speaker 2>What's the dry up? I'm like a hearn desert.

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<v Speaker 3>What's the best thing about mena or you don't get

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<v Speaker 3>a period anymore?

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<v Speaker 1>What about the best advice for women listening going through menopause?

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<v Speaker 4>I would get bi identical hormones. They're the most fabulous things.

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<v Speaker 4>They help with your sleep, the night sweats. You're definitely

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<v Speaker 4>moist like you were young again, you don't feel dried

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<v Speaker 4>up like a prune, and they help your you think

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<v Speaker 4>a little bit better.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I highly recommend them.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, would you rather have your kids overhearing you have sex?

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<v Speaker 3>Or would you rather overhear one of your kids having sex?

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<v Speaker 2>No brainer? I'd much rather hear not that I want

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<v Speaker 2>to my child having it.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, They're so right.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, this was so fun.

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like I know way more about you than

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<v Speaker 4>I could have.

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<v Speaker 2>Imagine chat.

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<v Speaker 5>This is Kelly ben Simone from the Real Housewives of

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<v Speaker 5>New York City and The Ultimate Girls Trip.

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<v Speaker 6>And this is Cheryl Burke, former pro dancer for twenty

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<v Speaker 6>six seasons on Dancing with the Stars and host of

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<v Speaker 6>the podcast Sex Lies and Spray Tands. So let's do

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<v Speaker 6>a fun game of rapid fire questions. Kelly, are you

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<v Speaker 6>up for this?

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<v Speaker 1>Or what?

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<v Speaker 5>Yes?

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<v Speaker 6>You start?

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<v Speaker 5>Which you prefer dating? Apps? Are being set up?

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<v Speaker 6>Neither? How about you?

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<v Speaker 5>She's like, I'm not dating. I prefer being set up.

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<v Speaker 5>I like to have a connection with someone because then

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<v Speaker 5>I like to like talk my friends.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, if I were to choose, that would be it too.

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<v Speaker 6>Where are the best places to meet men? You think

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<v Speaker 6>football baseball games or golf course, neither.

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<v Speaker 5>All anywhere that there are men.

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<v Speaker 6>There are sports players.

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<v Speaker 5>What they had to do is look up and there

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<v Speaker 5>are men. They might not be looking at you, they

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<v Speaker 5>may be looking at a beer, but they're still there. Right.

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<v Speaker 5>Who do you think was the hunkiest Bachelor of all times?

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<v Speaker 6>I suck at this reb but I have never seen

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<v Speaker 6>anything as far as the Bachelor franchise goes. But because

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<v Speaker 6>Joey is currently on Dancing with the Stars, and this

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<v Speaker 6>man can move, and there's been a notorious, like full

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<v Speaker 6>on horrible record of bachelor's joining Dancing with the Stars

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<v Speaker 6>and then not having any rhythm, I'm going with Joey.

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<v Speaker 5>I love Joey too. I thought he was so charming

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<v Speaker 5>and engaging and just genuine like he just oozes.

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<v Speaker 6>Have you seen his dancing skills yet?

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<v Speaker 5>No? As Oh my god, I can't wait.

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<v Speaker 6>It's amazing.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know if I can look at him because

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<v Speaker 5>he's underage. I mean he's not you know, I'm fifty

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<v Speaker 5>six under age. Well, I mean it's it's a lot eight.

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<v Speaker 5>It's just a number, haven't you. My kids would be like,

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<v Speaker 5>stop talking about Joey. I'm like, oh god, okay, and.

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<v Speaker 6>I love how honest your kids are. Do you do

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<v Speaker 6>you would you get married again?

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<v Speaker 5>Yes? Okay too? What about you? Would you get married

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<v Speaker 5>a yeah?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, but I think the first i'd have to date.

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<v Speaker 6>You know, sometimes I jump zero to one hundred. That's

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<v Speaker 6>my addiction in me. But I'm definitely an addict. I

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<v Speaker 6>go straight, let's get married. I meet you today, let's

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<v Speaker 6>get married tomorrow. That's just obviously we have to change

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<v Speaker 6>that pattern.

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<v Speaker 5>Well that's what they say, you have to date until

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<v Speaker 5>you get married. It's like with.

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<v Speaker 6>Every yeah, or just not just not date, just get married.

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<v Speaker 5>Hi, how are you married? Okay?

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<v Speaker 6>Arrangement? That would be called an arranged marriage.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I think you'd be okay with that. To be honest,

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<v Speaker 5>I think you'd be like, fine, whatever. What's the best

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<v Speaker 5>part of marriage.

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<v Speaker 6>Well, if you're in a healthy one, I'm assuming. I

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<v Speaker 6>think in general, just having a partner, a companion, someone,

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<v Speaker 6>a best friend.

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<v Speaker 5>You know. The one thing that I love about, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>the relationships that I just was like so crazy about

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<v Speaker 5>was just like spending time with that person doing like

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<v Speaker 5>really mundane things, like you know, I mean, I don't

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<v Speaker 5>know if it was like, oh, we have to walk

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<v Speaker 5>down the street and we have to walk the dog

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<v Speaker 5>and then we have to go get paper towels, like

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<v Speaker 5>and that person just chatting about nonsense or whatever. Like

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<v Speaker 5>those those moments are so special because there's just not

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<v Speaker 5>they're they're not attached to anything. And that's what I

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<v Speaker 5>loved about. I love that with my ex husband, even

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<v Speaker 5>though he was so much older than me, when he

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<v Speaker 5>would like that was his that was the time that

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<v Speaker 5>he would like actually spend with me, And I love that.

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<v Speaker 6>I love that. Making out in a movie theater, how

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<v Speaker 6>old are we, yes or no? I don't think it

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<v Speaker 6>matters where the hell you are. If you want to

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<v Speaker 6>make out, make out.

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<v Speaker 5>Thank you. I mean I'm not going to like like

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<v Speaker 5>lay on top of you, but I mean if i

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<v Speaker 5>want to give you a little smooch, I'm definitely gonna

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<v Speaker 5>do that. Yeah, make noise appropriate, I mean.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, exactly. Gross.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, Cheryl's gonna be like Kelly I in the movie

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<v Speaker 5>with you, you're making too much noise.

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<v Speaker 6>Well, I don't remember the last time I was in

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<v Speaker 6>a movie theater since COVID. Okay, so like I'm.

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<v Speaker 5>Just saying, in a movie theater with the guy making out,

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<v Speaker 5>you would probably be there poporn and.

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<v Speaker 6>You're at your head.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, Kelly, embarrassing me, I'm embarrassing me.

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<v Speaker 6>Should you say I wouldn't be the third wheel? Hopefully

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<v Speaker 6>I would also have a date though.

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<v Speaker 5>No, you can have a date. You can have a date,

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<v Speaker 5>thank you. Should you sleep together on the first date? No,

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<v Speaker 5>you see, I've actually slept with someone on the first

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<v Speaker 5>date and I spent a long time with them, so.

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<v Speaker 6>That night or again afterwards. What do you mean, like

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<v Speaker 6>you spend a long time with them, like in the future,

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<v Speaker 6>like after that one night.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, I've got a long time with them that night. No,

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<v Speaker 5>I've got it. I've had like men that I've like

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<v Speaker 5>waited and kind of just like checked it out and

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<v Speaker 5>kind of pushed and pulled and just kind of seen

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<v Speaker 5>like where they are played the game, not the game,

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<v Speaker 5>just was like just to see, like what's really going

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<v Speaker 5>to happen. I mean, I was married just when so

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<v Speaker 5>much older than I was. So now it's like when

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<v Speaker 5>guys are giving me attention, I'm like, is it like

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<v Speaker 5>well intended attention or is it just like they're just

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<v Speaker 5>trying to like play a game with me? So I

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<v Speaker 5>have slept with the guy and we had and I

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<v Speaker 5>was crazy about him, and then I've waited, so yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>well I don't have it. I don't.

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<v Speaker 6>When I did that, I didn't. I never heard from

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<v Speaker 6>them again. Most likely there was just this. It was

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<v Speaker 6>more about my emotional well being. It's not good, Like

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<v Speaker 6>I feel like I was vulnerable enough to sleep with

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<v Speaker 6>you and then you now have the power. But again

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<v Speaker 6>it's my control, controlling side of myself.

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<v Speaker 5>So sure, I'll hop on top boom.

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<v Speaker 6>Don't tell me twice. Okay, our one night stands acceptable

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<v Speaker 6>if you're over the age of fifty five. I think

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<v Speaker 6>we kind of talked about. I don't think the age matters,

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<v Speaker 6>does it.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean I think that if you have a you know,

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<v Speaker 5>like a strong emotional intelligence and you're feeling good about yourself.

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<v Speaker 5>But I mean, I think to have sex with somebody

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<v Speaker 5>and then feel so bad about yourself the next day,

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<v Speaker 5>I'm like the point.

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<v Speaker 6>I thought, I will fall in love with you if

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<v Speaker 6>I have sex with you, so that now you're warned, right,

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<v Speaker 6>So now you've been warned, like it's at your move forward,

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<v Speaker 6>at your own risk.

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<v Speaker 5>Really, See, it's interesting because I'm like that too. That's

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<v Speaker 5>why I try to like hold off because if I

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<v Speaker 5>have sex with someone, I'm just I am like all in.

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<v Speaker 6>But isn't that what's so fun? It's like are we

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<v Speaker 6>are we not? Are we like? And then just I

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<v Speaker 6>mean it is a game for me, that is a game.

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<v Speaker 6>But at the end of the day too, you get

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<v Speaker 6>to protect your vagina and your heart.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, protect the vagina. Yeah, we need t shirts protect

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<v Speaker 5>the vagina. What if you and I were both out

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<v Speaker 5>and we were liking the same kind of guy, what happens?

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<v Speaker 6>See, I always find that, first of all, it depends

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<v Speaker 6>like if we have a strong friendship, you know, it's

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<v Speaker 6>just like and this is the thing, Like this goes

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<v Speaker 6>back to a question I actually asked my friend when

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<v Speaker 6>you're if you're good friends or if you're friends and

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<v Speaker 6>you have the same taste in men, what, I don't

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<v Speaker 6>know what happened? Actually, what happens?

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<v Speaker 5>You know. I'm just like I'm not very competitive with women.

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<v Speaker 6>That's good. I mean for women.

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<v Speaker 5>You can see how I am. I'm like, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>I'm it's not normal, by the way, I'm just not

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know why. I'm just not competitive with women

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<v Speaker 5>and I'm not competitive with men. I'm competitive with myself,

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<v Speaker 5>like I'm I'm so laser focused on myself that I'd like,

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<v Speaker 5>so I would probably help you if you wanted to

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<v Speaker 5>be with somebody, I'd be like, oh my god, let

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<v Speaker 5>me help you. I'd like, let's say, help Cheryl.

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<v Speaker 6>And what if you have called DIBs though, like what if.

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<v Speaker 5>Then I'd be like Cheryl, hands off?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, exactly, pause off, bits.

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<v Speaker 5>Right, I mean in the in the words of Luandella Steps,

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<v Speaker 5>there is.

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<v Speaker 6>Girl there is girl code. Actually a lot of people

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<v Speaker 6>follow that for.

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<v Speaker 5>Sure, And there's also a song associated to the word

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<v Speaker 5>to the girl code.

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<v Speaker 6>What is what song?

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<v Speaker 5>She has a song called girl Code?

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<v Speaker 6>Oh I didn't know that. Okay, you got it now,

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<v Speaker 6>I do.

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<v Speaker 5>Sex toys? Are you into them? If yes, what are they?

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<v Speaker 6>I mean me and my pocket Rocket are besties. So

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<v Speaker 6>I don't know. I don't think I would be into

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<v Speaker 6>it in the like No, not at first. I mean,

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<v Speaker 6>I don't know. I'm not into like pocket Rocket is

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<v Speaker 6>the maximum. I'm not going to stick anything up there,

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<v Speaker 6>like I've never done that, nor do I plant on it,

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<v Speaker 6>like that's weird.

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<v Speaker 5>To be Okay. So this was a long time ago.

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<v Speaker 5>Juliana Ransick was hosting this party in New York. She's like,

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<v Speaker 5>you have to come. It's gonna be so much fun.

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<v Speaker 5>I can't wait to see you. So I like, I

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<v Speaker 5>go and I see her and she gives me a

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<v Speaker 5>goodie bag and I'm with this friend of mine and

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<v Speaker 5>I was like, oh, no, thank you so much. I

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<v Speaker 5>had no idea. I was not paying attention to anything.

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<v Speaker 5>We leave and he goes, she just gave you a vibrator.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm like, she did not give me a vibran great, yes,

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<v Speaker 5>hold on, so cut to I bring it home and

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<v Speaker 5>I put it in my I put it in my

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<v Speaker 5>bedside table. My girls because they're looking through everything. They're

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<v Speaker 5>looking through everything all the time. I mean, you name it,

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<v Speaker 5>and they are like, what is this. I'm like, I

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<v Speaker 5>have no idea. We're like screaming.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm sure they know what it was.

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<v Speaker 5>Then on Ultimate Girls Trip, I brought the ladies some

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<v Speaker 5>friends with benefits from Kiki to Monparnaz and they had

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<v Speaker 5>a meltdown that I brought them toys. So like, I

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<v Speaker 5>am not I would love to entertain the melt toy

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<v Speaker 5>way as a as my kids are not like looking

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<v Speaker 5>in my looking or around.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean they're also I mean, it's not I mean,

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<v Speaker 6>I don't know when I grew up fast, so I

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<v Speaker 6>don't know. I mean in my late twenties, I was

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<v Speaker 6>still me and my battery operated only pocket rocket because

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<v Speaker 6>I'm so sorry. Nowadays, I think a man created this.

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<v Speaker 6>When you have to charge your vibrator, like when I

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<v Speaker 6>want to use it, I want to use it now,

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<v Speaker 6>not after it's charged, Like, I don't know, that's weird

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<v Speaker 6>to be, like it should only be building in a

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<v Speaker 6>battery operated only. Yes, people plug in their vibrators, Like

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<v Speaker 6>are you do you leave it out in the open

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<v Speaker 6>next to your toothbrush, Like that's odd, that's.

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<v Speaker 5>Weird, piteous.

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<v Speaker 6>No, yeah, I don't understand who invented that. That is

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<v Speaker 6>not a good invention.

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<v Speaker 5>No, I think that anything that makes you feel good

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<v Speaker 5>is amazing, exactly. Okay, Next, I just have to keep

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<v Speaker 5>my children out of my drawers. And even children, they're

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<v Speaker 5>young adults, but they need to stay out. They can

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<v Speaker 5>borrow any clothes they want. Girls, I told you that.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh here, you see that thing right there, that's a safe.

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<v Speaker 6>You should get one. You can fit it vibrator in

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<v Speaker 6>there all day.

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<v Speaker 5>Like, here are the three things you need. Here are

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<v Speaker 5>the three takeaways you're safe.

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<v Speaker 6>You're safe, and you're safe. Worst thing about metopause.

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<v Speaker 5>The worst thing about menopause is the worst thing about

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<v Speaker 5>menopause was getting warm. The great thing about menopause is

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<v Speaker 5>that your boobs get a little fuller, which is amazing.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, I already have some I already have some

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<v Speaker 5>very nice friends, but like now they're like actually more friendly.

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<v Speaker 6>They're like perky, just frowned, nice, fuller. Yeah, yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 6>And then I think I believe I'm going through paramedopause.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't know, maybe you know. I mean I got

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<v Speaker 6>my I developed at a young age, at nine years old,

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<v Speaker 6>I got my menstrual cycle. So best advice for women

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<v Speaker 6>I guess listening going through metopause or paramedopause. What does

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<v Speaker 6>that feel like?

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<v Speaker 5>Like?

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<v Speaker 6>How do I know if I'm going through meta para metopause.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, obviously see a doctor, but.

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<v Speaker 5>You can you know, I from my experience, I'm not

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<v Speaker 5>a doctor, but I could play one on TV. But

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<v Speaker 5>what is what you see is you see different differences

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<v Speaker 5>in the textures in your skin, your taste and smell

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<v Speaker 5>start changing. You see different quality in your that your

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<v Speaker 5>texture of your hair. You definitely there's gonna be weig

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<v Speaker 5>loss and gain, and then you can obviously have some

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<v Speaker 5>hot flashes. I mean all of these.

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<v Speaker 6>Two, Like if I have all of that regardless.

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<v Speaker 5>When I was when I was in parimedopase, this is

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<v Speaker 5>when I wrote I can make you hot, and I

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<v Speaker 5>cleaned up everything. I also have psoriasis, so I was like,

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<v Speaker 5>we are on the clean diet cheese and I are

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<v Speaker 5>in a toxic relationship. I just like cleaned everything up

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<v Speaker 5>and it helped a lot. I mean, you also there's

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<v Speaker 5>also other things to do, but I feel like if

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<v Speaker 5>you just really take care of yourself and give yourself

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<v Speaker 5>a hug during that time, you can actually get through it.

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<v Speaker 6>And how about your mood.

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<v Speaker 5>It goes up and it goes down.

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<v Speaker 6>Well, yeah, it's so hard because nowadays, like like I said,

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<v Speaker 6>I'm not even kidding, Like I feel like I've gotten

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<v Speaker 6>all the symptoms even fifteen years ago. You know, I

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<v Speaker 6>sweat in general a lot.

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<v Speaker 5>But you know, you're a dancer, and I started taking

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<v Speaker 5>dance Body and that actually helped me as well, just

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<v Speaker 5>the difference in movement and using my body in different ways.

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<v Speaker 5>It's great, awesome, great.

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<v Speaker 6>Would you rather have your kids overhearing? You have sex.

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<v Speaker 6>This is a horrible question. Or would you rather overhear

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<v Speaker 6>one of your kids having sex? What type of now

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<v Speaker 6>question is this? I didn't make that up.

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<v Speaker 5>Neither, thank you.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, god, that's so disturbing.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah yeah, and you should, by the way, if you

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<v Speaker 5>have solid doors, you should not be hearing either.

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<v Speaker 6>So yeah, but yeah, and just wait, like stop.

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<v Speaker 5>Or invest in good doors.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, or cover. Put something in your mouth so you

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<v Speaker 6>don't make sounds. I don't know what to say. We

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<v Speaker 6>put a few cotton balls in it and shut up, okay, cool,

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<v Speaker 6>suffocate with a pillow. I don't know what to say.

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<v Speaker 5>Wait, I love you, I love you, I love That

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<v Speaker 5>was so fun. I feel like your answers are not

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<v Speaker 5>what I expected. I did not expecting the cotton balls.

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<v Speaker 2>Uh.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I wasn't expecting this either from me. But I

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<v Speaker 6>appreciate your honesty, Kelly, I really do. And your transparency

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<v Speaker 6>so fun.

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