Speaker 1: Hi, Susan Olds here and Kathy Smarts from the Golden Bachelor.
Speaker 2: I'm so excited to share with you this.
Speaker 3: Is I do part two, a podcast all about finding
Speaker 3: love a second time.
Speaker 4: Around, and we're going to do a quick game of
Speaker 4: rapid fire questions.
Speaker 2: Are you ready? Here we go?
Speaker 1: All right, Susan, which do you prefer dating apps or
Speaker 1: being set up? At this stage of the game? Being
Speaker 1: set up? Probably me too? You know why I hate
Speaker 1: being judged off the picture?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 1: I know right now?
Speaker 2: And you swipe this way and that way.
Speaker 3: It just takes a lot.
Speaker 1: All right.
Speaker 2: Where are the best places to meet men?
Speaker 4: Football games, baseball games, golf course right there?
Speaker 2: Okay, always a golf course.
Speaker 1: Men are so involved when they're watching football and baseball
Speaker 1: and basketball games.
Speaker 3: Golf courses.
Speaker 2: Lots of single men on the golf course. I play golf,
Speaker 2: and yeah, I don't see a lot of single men.
Speaker 2: I see men.
Speaker 1: But you have to be at the nineteen cool season,
Speaker 1: all right? Who do you think was the hunkiest Bachelor
Speaker 1: of all time? Jesse with the Bachelor, Jesse Palmers.
Speaker 3: I'm with you on that. I think it's gorgeous.
Speaker 5: But you know what I think, Joe there's so.
Speaker 1: Many adorable Do you want to get married again?
Speaker 2: Oh gosh.
Speaker 4: I used to think yes, and I would be open
Speaker 4: to it, but it's not necessary.
Speaker 2: I do want to be in love again. How about you? No?
Speaker 3: Yeah, marriage is not on my to do list, but
Speaker 3: I would never rule it.
Speaker 2: So, Kathy, what is the best part of marriage? For me?
Speaker 1: The best part of marriage was just having that that
Speaker 1: time together, the intimacy of even if it wasn't having sex,
Speaker 1: just being together and talking about our days and traveling together.
Speaker 1: It was the togetherness. It was through thick and thin,
Speaker 1: the being together. What about you having kids?
Speaker 2: Yeah, sharing children, raising a family, it's the best part. Okay,
Speaker 2: make it out of a movie theater?
Speaker 3: Yes or no?
Speaker 4: I mean I'd probably say no, but I'm sure I
Speaker 4: do it.
Speaker 2: If the moment happened. Why you're not going to go
Speaker 2: bra I like kissing?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Why not?
Speaker 2: Why should you sleep together on the first date?
Speaker 3: Can we answer this in one word?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: No, don't care what how old you are? Never do it?
Speaker 2: All?
Speaker 3: Right?
Speaker 2: Our one night stands acceptable if you're over the age
Speaker 2: of fifty five? What is this fifty five?
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 2: Sill a love.
Speaker 3: Here's the thing, a one night stand is always acceptable
Speaker 3: if the two of you are agreement.
Speaker 1: Yes, I don't judge. I want to do all right, Susan.
Speaker 1: Here's a good one for us, and we've actually talked
Speaker 1: about this. What if you and I both like the
Speaker 1: same guy?
Speaker 2: What happens? It depends on how much I like him.
Speaker 4: I probably put my head between my legs and go
Speaker 4: away because I don't want to knock.
Speaker 1: Well, that's those are the two choices, aren't I don't
Speaker 1: think you and I actually we don't have the same
Speaker 1: tasted But all, oh.
Speaker 2: Sex toys? Are you into them? If yes, what are they?
Speaker 4: Can I answer that because I bought Kathy her first
Speaker 4: sex toy for her birthday last year.
Speaker 2: I mean we're alone. They're great, Yes, yes, we love them? Yes,
Speaker 2: all right.
Speaker 3: The worst thing about menopauds is.
Speaker 2: What's the dry up? I'm like a hearn desert.
Speaker 3: What's the best thing about mena or you don't get
Speaker 3: a period anymore?
Speaker 1: What about the best advice for women listening going through menopause?
Speaker 4: I would get bi identical hormones. They're the most fabulous things.
Speaker 4: They help with your sleep, the night sweats. You're definitely
Speaker 4: moist like you were young again, you don't feel dried
Speaker 4: up like a prune, and they help your you think
Speaker 4: a little bit better.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I highly recommend them.
Speaker 3: Okay, would you rather have your kids overhearing you have sex?
Speaker 3: Or would you rather overhear one of your kids having sex?
Speaker 2: No brainer? I'd much rather hear not that I want
Speaker 2: to my child having it.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, They're so right.
Speaker 2: Okay, this was so fun.
Speaker 4: I feel like I know way more about you than
Speaker 4: I could have.
Speaker 2: Imagine chat.
Speaker 5: This is Kelly ben Simone from the Real Housewives of
Speaker 5: New York City and The Ultimate Girls Trip.
Speaker 6: And this is Cheryl Burke, former pro dancer for twenty
Speaker 6: six seasons on Dancing with the Stars and host of
Speaker 6: the podcast Sex Lies and Spray Tands. So let's do
Speaker 6: a fun game of rapid fire questions. Kelly, are you
Speaker 6: up for this?
Speaker 1: Or what?
Speaker 5: Yes?
Speaker 6: You start?
Speaker 5: Which you prefer dating? Apps? Are being set up?
Speaker 6: Neither? How about you?
Speaker 5: She's like, I'm not dating. I prefer being set up.
Speaker 5: I like to have a connection with someone because then
Speaker 5: I like to like talk my friends.
Speaker 6: Yeah, if I were to choose, that would be it too.
Speaker 6: Where are the best places to meet men? You think
Speaker 6: football baseball games or golf course, neither.
Speaker 5: All anywhere that there are men.
Speaker 6: There are sports players.
Speaker 5: What they had to do is look up and there
Speaker 5: are men. They might not be looking at you, they
Speaker 5: may be looking at a beer, but they're still there. Right.
Speaker 5: Who do you think was the hunkiest Bachelor of all times?
Speaker 6: I suck at this reb but I have never seen
Speaker 6: anything as far as the Bachelor franchise goes. But because
Speaker 6: Joey is currently on Dancing with the Stars, and this
Speaker 6: man can move, and there's been a notorious, like full
Speaker 6: on horrible record of bachelor's joining Dancing with the Stars
Speaker 6: and then not having any rhythm, I'm going with Joey.
Speaker 5: I love Joey too. I thought he was so charming
Speaker 5: and engaging and just genuine like he just oozes.
Speaker 6: Have you seen his dancing skills yet?
Speaker 5: No? As Oh my god, I can't wait.
Speaker 6: It's amazing.
Speaker 5: I don't know if I can look at him because
Speaker 5: he's underage. I mean he's not you know, I'm fifty
Speaker 5: six under age. Well, I mean it's it's a lot eight.
Speaker 5: It's just a number, haven't you. My kids would be like,
Speaker 5: stop talking about Joey. I'm like, oh god, okay, and.
Speaker 6: I love how honest your kids are. Do you do
Speaker 6: you would you get married again?
Speaker 5: Yes? Okay too? What about you? Would you get married
Speaker 5: a yeah?
Speaker 6: Yeah, but I think the first i'd have to date.
Speaker 6: You know, sometimes I jump zero to one hundred. That's
Speaker 6: my addiction in me. But I'm definitely an addict. I
Speaker 6: go straight, let's get married. I meet you today, let's
Speaker 6: get married tomorrow. That's just obviously we have to change
Speaker 6: that pattern.
Speaker 5: Well that's what they say, you have to date until
Speaker 5: you get married. It's like with.
Speaker 6: Every yeah, or just not just not date, just get married.
Speaker 5: Hi, how are you married? Okay?
Speaker 6: Arrangement? That would be called an arranged marriage.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think you'd be okay with that. To be honest,
Speaker 5: I think you'd be like, fine, whatever. What's the best
Speaker 5: part of marriage.
Speaker 6: Well, if you're in a healthy one, I'm assuming. I
Speaker 6: think in general, just having a partner, a companion, someone,
Speaker 6: a best friend.
Speaker 5: You know. The one thing that I love about, you know,
Speaker 5: the relationships that I just was like so crazy about
Speaker 5: was just like spending time with that person doing like
Speaker 5: really mundane things, like you know, I mean, I don't
Speaker 5: know if it was like, oh, we have to walk
Speaker 5: down the street and we have to walk the dog
Speaker 5: and then we have to go get paper towels, like
Speaker 5: and that person just chatting about nonsense or whatever. Like
Speaker 5: those those moments are so special because there's just not
Speaker 5: they're they're not attached to anything. And that's what I
Speaker 5: loved about. I love that with my ex husband, even
Speaker 5: though he was so much older than me, when he
Speaker 5: would like that was his that was the time that
Speaker 5: he would like actually spend with me, And I love that.
Speaker 6: I love that. Making out in a movie theater, how
Speaker 6: old are we, yes or no? I don't think it
Speaker 6: matters where the hell you are. If you want to
Speaker 6: make out, make out.
Speaker 5: Thank you. I mean I'm not going to like like
Speaker 5: lay on top of you, but I mean if i
Speaker 5: want to give you a little smooch, I'm definitely gonna
Speaker 5: do that. Yeah, make noise appropriate, I mean.
Speaker 6: Yeah, exactly. Gross.
Speaker 5: Okay, Cheryl's gonna be like Kelly I in the movie
Speaker 5: with you, you're making too much noise.
Speaker 6: Well, I don't remember the last time I was in
Speaker 6: a movie theater since COVID. Okay, so like I'm.
Speaker 5: Just saying, in a movie theater with the guy making out,
Speaker 5: you would probably be there poporn and.
Speaker 6: You're at your head.
Speaker 5: Yeah, Kelly, embarrassing me, I'm embarrassing me.
Speaker 6: Should you say I wouldn't be the third wheel? Hopefully
Speaker 6: I would also have a date though.
Speaker 5: No, you can have a date. You can have a date,
Speaker 5: thank you. Should you sleep together on the first date? No,
Speaker 5: you see, I've actually slept with someone on the first
Speaker 5: date and I spent a long time with them, so.
Speaker 6: That night or again afterwards. What do you mean, like
Speaker 6: you spend a long time with them, like in the future,
Speaker 6: like after that one night.
Speaker 5: Okay, I've got a long time with them that night. No,
Speaker 5: I've got it. I've had like men that I've like
Speaker 5: waited and kind of just like checked it out and
Speaker 5: kind of pushed and pulled and just kind of seen
Speaker 5: like where they are played the game, not the game,
Speaker 5: just was like just to see, like what's really going
Speaker 5: to happen. I mean, I was married just when so
Speaker 5: much older than I was. So now it's like when
Speaker 5: guys are giving me attention, I'm like, is it like
Speaker 5: well intended attention or is it just like they're just
Speaker 5: trying to like play a game with me? So I
Speaker 5: have slept with the guy and we had and I
Speaker 5: was crazy about him, and then I've waited, so yeah,
Speaker 5: well I don't have it. I don't.
Speaker 6: When I did that, I didn't. I never heard from
Speaker 6: them again. Most likely there was just this. It was
Speaker 6: more about my emotional well being. It's not good, Like
Speaker 6: I feel like I was vulnerable enough to sleep with
Speaker 6: you and then you now have the power. But again
Speaker 6: it's my control, controlling side of myself.
Speaker 5: So sure, I'll hop on top boom.
Speaker 6: Don't tell me twice. Okay, our one night stands acceptable
Speaker 6: if you're over the age of fifty five. I think
Speaker 6: we kind of talked about. I don't think the age matters,
Speaker 6: does it.
Speaker 5: I mean I think that if you have a you know,
Speaker 5: like a strong emotional intelligence and you're feeling good about yourself.
Speaker 5: But I mean, I think to have sex with somebody
Speaker 5: and then feel so bad about yourself the next day,
Speaker 5: I'm like the point.
Speaker 6: I thought, I will fall in love with you if
Speaker 6: I have sex with you, so that now you're warned, right,
Speaker 6: So now you've been warned, like it's at your move forward,
Speaker 6: at your own risk.
Speaker 5: Really, See, it's interesting because I'm like that too. That's
Speaker 5: why I try to like hold off because if I
Speaker 5: have sex with someone, I'm just I am like all in.
Speaker 6: But isn't that what's so fun? It's like are we
Speaker 6: are we not? Are we like? And then just I
Speaker 6: mean it is a game for me, that is a game.
Speaker 6: But at the end of the day too, you get
Speaker 6: to protect your vagina and your heart.
Speaker 5: Yes, protect the vagina. Yeah, we need t shirts protect
Speaker 5: the vagina. What if you and I were both out
Speaker 5: and we were liking the same kind of guy, what happens?
Speaker 6: See, I always find that, first of all, it depends
Speaker 6: like if we have a strong friendship, you know, it's
Speaker 6: just like and this is the thing, Like this goes
Speaker 6: back to a question I actually asked my friend when
Speaker 6: you're if you're good friends or if you're friends and
Speaker 6: you have the same taste in men, what, I don't
Speaker 6: know what happened? Actually, what happens?
Speaker 5: You know. I'm just like I'm not very competitive with women.
Speaker 6: That's good. I mean for women.
Speaker 5: You can see how I am. I'm like, you know,
Speaker 5: I'm it's not normal, by the way, I'm just not
Speaker 5: I don't know why. I'm just not competitive with women
Speaker 5: and I'm not competitive with men. I'm competitive with myself,
Speaker 5: like I'm I'm so laser focused on myself that I'd like,
Speaker 5: so I would probably help you if you wanted to
Speaker 5: be with somebody, I'd be like, oh my god, let
Speaker 5: me help you. I'd like, let's say, help Cheryl.
Speaker 6: And what if you have called DIBs though, like what if.
Speaker 5: Then I'd be like Cheryl, hands off?
Speaker 6: Yeah, exactly, pause off, bits.
Speaker 5: Right, I mean in the in the words of Luandella Steps,
Speaker 5: there is.
Speaker 6: Girl there is girl code. Actually a lot of people
Speaker 6: follow that for.
Speaker 5: Sure, And there's also a song associated to the word
Speaker 5: to the girl code.
Speaker 6: What is what song?
Speaker 5: She has a song called girl Code?
Speaker 6: Oh I didn't know that. Okay, you got it now,
Speaker 6: I do.
Speaker 5: Sex toys? Are you into them? If yes, what are they?
Speaker 6: I mean me and my pocket Rocket are besties. So
Speaker 6: I don't know. I don't think I would be into
Speaker 6: it in the like No, not at first. I mean,
Speaker 6: I don't know. I'm not into like pocket Rocket is
Speaker 6: the maximum. I'm not going to stick anything up there,
Speaker 6: like I've never done that, nor do I plant on it,
Speaker 6: like that's weird.
Speaker 5: To be Okay. So this was a long time ago.
Speaker 5: Juliana Ransick was hosting this party in New York. She's like,
Speaker 5: you have to come. It's gonna be so much fun.
Speaker 5: I can't wait to see you. So I like, I
Speaker 5: go and I see her and she gives me a
Speaker 5: goodie bag and I'm with this friend of mine and
Speaker 5: I was like, oh, no, thank you so much. I
Speaker 5: had no idea. I was not paying attention to anything.
Speaker 5: We leave and he goes, she just gave you a vibrator.
Speaker 5: I'm like, she did not give me a vibran great, yes,
Speaker 5: hold on, so cut to I bring it home and
Speaker 5: I put it in my I put it in my
Speaker 5: bedside table. My girls because they're looking through everything. They're
Speaker 5: looking through everything all the time. I mean, you name it,
Speaker 5: and they are like, what is this. I'm like, I
Speaker 5: have no idea. We're like screaming.
Speaker 6: I'm sure they know what it was.
Speaker 5: Then on Ultimate Girls Trip, I brought the ladies some
Speaker 5: friends with benefits from Kiki to Monparnaz and they had
Speaker 5: a meltdown that I brought them toys. So like, I
Speaker 5: am not I would love to entertain the melt toy
Speaker 5: way as a as my kids are not like looking
Speaker 5: in my looking or around.
Speaker 6: I mean they're also I mean, it's not I mean,
Speaker 6: I don't know when I grew up fast, so I
Speaker 6: don't know. I mean in my late twenties, I was
Speaker 6: still me and my battery operated only pocket rocket because
Speaker 6: I'm so sorry. Nowadays, I think a man created this.
Speaker 6: When you have to charge your vibrator, like when I
Speaker 6: want to use it, I want to use it now,
Speaker 6: not after it's charged, Like, I don't know, that's weird
Speaker 6: to be, like it should only be building in a
Speaker 6: battery operated only. Yes, people plug in their vibrators, Like
Speaker 6: are you do you leave it out in the open
Speaker 6: next to your toothbrush, Like that's odd, that's.
Speaker 5: Weird, piteous.
Speaker 6: No, yeah, I don't understand who invented that. That is
Speaker 6: not a good invention.
Speaker 5: No, I think that anything that makes you feel good
Speaker 5: is amazing, exactly. Okay, Next, I just have to keep
Speaker 5: my children out of my drawers. And even children, they're
Speaker 5: young adults, but they need to stay out. They can
Speaker 5: borrow any clothes they want. Girls, I told you that.
Speaker 6: Oh here, you see that thing right there, that's a safe.
Speaker 6: You should get one. You can fit it vibrator in
Speaker 6: there all day.
Speaker 5: Like, here are the three things you need. Here are
Speaker 5: the three takeaways you're safe.
Speaker 6: You're safe, and you're safe. Worst thing about metopause.
Speaker 5: The worst thing about menopause is the worst thing about
Speaker 5: menopause was getting warm. The great thing about menopause is
Speaker 5: that your boobs get a little fuller, which is amazing.
Speaker 5: I mean, I already have some I already have some
Speaker 5: very nice friends, but like now they're like actually more friendly.
Speaker 6: They're like perky, just frowned, nice, fuller. Yeah, yeah, okay,
Speaker 6: And then I think I believe I'm going through paramedopause.
Speaker 6: I don't know, maybe you know. I mean I got
Speaker 6: my I developed at a young age, at nine years old,
Speaker 6: I got my menstrual cycle. So best advice for women
Speaker 6: I guess listening going through metopause or paramedopause. What does
Speaker 6: that feel like?
Speaker 5: Like?
Speaker 6: How do I know if I'm going through meta para metopause.
Speaker 6: I mean, obviously see a doctor, but.
Speaker 5: You can you know, I from my experience, I'm not
Speaker 5: a doctor, but I could play one on TV. But
Speaker 5: what is what you see is you see different differences
Speaker 5: in the textures in your skin, your taste and smell
Speaker 5: start changing. You see different quality in your that your
Speaker 5: texture of your hair. You definitely there's gonna be weig
Speaker 5: loss and gain, and then you can obviously have some
Speaker 5: hot flashes. I mean all of these.
Speaker 6: Two, Like if I have all of that regardless.
Speaker 5: When I was when I was in parimedopase, this is
Speaker 5: when I wrote I can make you hot, and I
Speaker 5: cleaned up everything. I also have psoriasis, so I was like,
Speaker 5: we are on the clean diet cheese and I are
Speaker 5: in a toxic relationship. I just like cleaned everything up
Speaker 5: and it helped a lot. I mean, you also there's
Speaker 5: also other things to do, but I feel like if
Speaker 5: you just really take care of yourself and give yourself
Speaker 5: a hug during that time, you can actually get through it.
Speaker 6: And how about your mood.
Speaker 5: It goes up and it goes down.
Speaker 6: Well, yeah, it's so hard because nowadays, like like I said,
Speaker 6: I'm not even kidding, Like I feel like I've gotten
Speaker 6: all the symptoms even fifteen years ago. You know, I
Speaker 6: sweat in general a lot.
Speaker 5: But you know, you're a dancer, and I started taking
Speaker 5: dance Body and that actually helped me as well, just
Speaker 5: the difference in movement and using my body in different ways.
Speaker 5: It's great, awesome, great.
Speaker 6: Would you rather have your kids overhearing? You have sex.
Speaker 6: This is a horrible question. Or would you rather overhear
Speaker 6: one of your kids having sex? What type of now
Speaker 6: question is this? I didn't make that up.
Speaker 5: Neither, thank you.
Speaker 6: Yeah, god, that's so disturbing.
Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, and you should, by the way, if you
Speaker 5: have solid doors, you should not be hearing either.
Speaker 6: So yeah, but yeah, and just wait, like stop.
Speaker 5: Or invest in good doors.
Speaker 6: Yeah, or cover. Put something in your mouth so you
Speaker 6: don't make sounds. I don't know what to say. We
Speaker 6: put a few cotton balls in it and shut up, okay, cool,
Speaker 6: suffocate with a pillow. I don't know what to say.
Speaker 5: Wait, I love you, I love you, I love That
Speaker 5: was so fun. I feel like your answers are not
Speaker 5: what I expected. I did not expecting the cotton balls.
Speaker 2: Uh.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I wasn't expecting this either from me. But I
Speaker 6: appreciate your honesty, Kelly, I really do. And your transparency
Speaker 6: so fun.
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