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Speaker 1: Hi, Susan Olds here and Kathy Smarts from the Golden Bachelor.

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Speaker 2: I'm so excited to share with you this.

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Speaker 3: Is I do part two, a podcast all about finding

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Speaker 3: love a second time.

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Speaker 4: Around, and we're going to do a quick game of

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Speaker 4: rapid fire questions.

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Speaker 2: Are you ready? Here we go?

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Speaker 1: All right, Susan, which do you prefer dating apps or

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Speaker 1: being set up? At this stage of the game? Being

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Speaker 1: set up? Probably me too? You know why I hate

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Speaker 1: being judged off the picture?

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Speaker 5: Oh?

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Speaker 1: I know right now?

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Speaker 2: And you swipe this way and that way.

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Speaker 3: It just takes a lot.

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Speaker 1: All right.

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Speaker 2: Where are the best places to meet men?

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Speaker 4: Football games, baseball games, golf course right there?

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Speaker 2: Okay, always a golf course.

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Speaker 1: Men are so involved when they're watching football and baseball

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Speaker 1: and basketball games.

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Speaker 3: Golf courses.

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Speaker 2: Lots of single men on the golf course. I play golf,

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Speaker 2: and yeah, I don't see a lot of single men.

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Speaker 2: I see men.

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Speaker 1: But you have to be at the nineteen cool season,

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Speaker 1: all right? Who do you think was the hunkiest Bachelor

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Speaker 1: of all time? Jesse with the Bachelor, Jesse Palmers.

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Speaker 3: I'm with you on that. I think it's gorgeous.

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Speaker 5: But you know what I think, Joe there's so.

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Speaker 1: Many adorable Do you want to get married again?

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Speaker 2: Oh gosh.

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Speaker 4: I used to think yes, and I would be open

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Speaker 4: to it, but it's not necessary.

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Speaker 2: I do want to be in love again. How about you? No?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, marriage is not on my to do list, but

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Speaker 3: I would never rule it.

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Speaker 2: So, Kathy, what is the best part of marriage? For me?

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Speaker 1: The best part of marriage was just having that that

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Speaker 1: time together, the intimacy of even if it wasn't having sex,

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Speaker 1: just being together and talking about our days and traveling together.

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Speaker 1: It was the togetherness. It was through thick and thin,

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Speaker 1: the being together. What about you having kids?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, sharing children, raising a family, it's the best part. Okay,

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Speaker 2: make it out of a movie theater?

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Speaker 3: Yes or no?

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Speaker 4: I mean I'd probably say no, but I'm sure I

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Speaker 4: do it.

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Speaker 2: If the moment happened. Why you're not going to go

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Speaker 2: bra I like kissing?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Why not?

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Speaker 2: Why should you sleep together on the first date?

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Speaker 3: Can we answer this in one word?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 3: No, don't care what how old you are? Never do it?

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Speaker 2: All?

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Speaker 3: Right?

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Speaker 2: Our one night stands acceptable if you're over the age

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Speaker 2: of fifty five? What is this fifty five?

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Sill a love.

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Speaker 3: Here's the thing, a one night stand is always acceptable

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Speaker 3: if the two of you are agreement.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I don't judge. I want to do all right, Susan.

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Speaker 1: Here's a good one for us, and we've actually talked

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Speaker 1: about this. What if you and I both like the

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Speaker 1: same guy?

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Speaker 2: What happens? It depends on how much I like him.

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Speaker 4: I probably put my head between my legs and go

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Speaker 4: away because I don't want to knock.

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Speaker 1: Well, that's those are the two choices, aren't I don't

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Speaker 1: think you and I actually we don't have the same

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Speaker 1: tasted But all, oh.

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Speaker 2: Sex toys? Are you into them? If yes, what are they?

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Speaker 4: Can I answer that because I bought Kathy her first

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Speaker 4: sex toy for her birthday last year.

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Speaker 2: I mean we're alone. They're great, Yes, yes, we love them? Yes,

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Speaker 2: all right.

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Speaker 3: The worst thing about menopauds is.

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Speaker 2: What's the dry up? I'm like a hearn desert.

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Speaker 3: What's the best thing about mena or you don't get

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Speaker 3: a period anymore?

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Speaker 1: What about the best advice for women listening going through menopause?

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Speaker 4: I would get bi identical hormones. They're the most fabulous things.

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Speaker 4: They help with your sleep, the night sweats. You're definitely

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Speaker 4: moist like you were young again, you don't feel dried

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I highly recommend them.

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Speaker 3: Okay, would you rather have your kids overhearing you have sex?

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Speaker 3: Or would you rather overhear one of your kids having sex?

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Speaker 2: No brainer? I'd much rather hear not that I want

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Speaker 2: to my child having it.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, They're so right.

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Speaker 2: Okay, this was so fun.

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Speaker 4: I feel like I know way more about you than

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Speaker 4: I could have.

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Speaker 2: Imagine chat.

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Speaker 5: This is Kelly ben Simone from the Real Housewives of

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Speaker 5: New York City and The Ultimate Girls Trip.

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Speaker 6: And this is Cheryl Burke, former pro dancer for twenty

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Speaker 6: six seasons on Dancing with the Stars and host of

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Speaker 6: the podcast Sex Lies and Spray Tands. So let's do

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Speaker 6: a fun game of rapid fire questions. Kelly, are you

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Speaker 6: up for this?

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Speaker 1: Or what?

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Speaker 5: Yes?

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Speaker 6: You start?

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Speaker 5: Which you prefer dating? Apps? Are being set up?

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Speaker 6: Neither? How about you?

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Speaker 5: She's like, I'm not dating. I prefer being set up.

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Speaker 5: I like to have a connection with someone because then

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Speaker 5: I like to like talk my friends.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, if I were to choose, that would be it too.

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Speaker 6: Where are the best places to meet men? You think

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Speaker 6: football baseball games or golf course, neither.

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Speaker 5: All anywhere that there are men.

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Speaker 6: There are sports players.

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Speaker 5: What they had to do is look up and there

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Speaker 5: are men. They might not be looking at you, they

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Speaker 5: may be looking at a beer, but they're still there. Right.

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Speaker 5: Who do you think was the hunkiest Bachelor of all times?

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Speaker 6: I suck at this reb but I have never seen

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Speaker 6: anything as far as the Bachelor franchise goes. But because

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Speaker 6: Joey is currently on Dancing with the Stars, and this

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Speaker 6: man can move, and there's been a notorious, like full

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Speaker 6: and then not having any rhythm, I'm going with Joey.

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Speaker 5: I love Joey too. I thought he was so charming

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Speaker 5: and engaging and just genuine like he just oozes.

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Speaker 6: Have you seen his dancing skills yet?

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Speaker 5: No? As Oh my god, I can't wait.

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Speaker 6: It's amazing.

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Speaker 5: I don't know if I can look at him because

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Speaker 5: he's underage. I mean he's not you know, I'm fifty

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Speaker 5: six under age. Well, I mean it's it's a lot eight.

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Speaker 5: It's just a number, haven't you. My kids would be like,

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Speaker 6: I love how honest your kids are. Do you do

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Speaker 6: you would you get married again?

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Speaker 5: Yes? Okay too? What about you? Would you get married

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Speaker 5: a yeah?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, but I think the first i'd have to date.

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Speaker 6: You know, sometimes I jump zero to one hundred. That's

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Speaker 6: my addiction in me. But I'm definitely an addict. I

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Speaker 6: go straight, let's get married. I meet you today, let's

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Speaker 6: get married tomorrow. That's just obviously we have to change

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Speaker 5: Well that's what they say, you have to date until

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Speaker 5: you get married. It's like with.

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Speaker 6: Every yeah, or just not just not date, just get married.

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Speaker 5: Hi, how are you married? Okay?

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Speaker 6: Arrangement? That would be called an arranged marriage.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I think you'd be okay with that. To be honest,

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Speaker 5: I think you'd be like, fine, whatever. What's the best

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Speaker 5: part of marriage.

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Speaker 6: Well, if you're in a healthy one, I'm assuming. I

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Speaker 6: think in general, just having a partner, a companion, someone,

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Speaker 5: You know. The one thing that I love about, you know,

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Speaker 5: was just like spending time with that person doing like

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Speaker 5: those those moments are so special because there's just not

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Speaker 5: loved about. I love that with my ex husband, even

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Speaker 5: though he was so much older than me, when he

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Speaker 5: he would like actually spend with me, And I love that.

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Speaker 6: I love that. Making out in a movie theater, how

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Speaker 6: old are we, yes or no? I don't think it

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Speaker 5: Thank you. I mean I'm not going to like like

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Speaker 5: do that. Yeah, make noise appropriate, I mean.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, exactly. Gross.

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Speaker 5: Okay, Cheryl's gonna be like Kelly I in the movie

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Speaker 5: with you, you're making too much noise.

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Speaker 6: Well, I don't remember the last time I was in

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Speaker 6: a movie theater since COVID. Okay, so like I'm.

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Speaker 5: Just saying, in a movie theater with the guy making out,

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Speaker 5: you would probably be there poporn and.

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Speaker 6: You're at your head.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, Kelly, embarrassing me, I'm embarrassing me.

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Speaker 6: Should you say I wouldn't be the third wheel? Hopefully

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Speaker 6: I would also have a date though.

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Speaker 5: No, you can have a date. You can have a date,

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Speaker 5: thank you. Should you sleep together on the first date? No,

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Speaker 5: you see, I've actually slept with someone on the first

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Speaker 5: date and I spent a long time with them, so.

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Speaker 6: That night or again afterwards. What do you mean, like

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Speaker 6: you spend a long time with them, like in the future,

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Speaker 6: like after that one night.

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Speaker 5: Okay, I've got a long time with them that night. No,

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Speaker 5: I've got it. I've had like men that I've like

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Speaker 5: waited and kind of just like checked it out and

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Speaker 5: like where they are played the game, not the game,

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Speaker 5: just was like just to see, like what's really going

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Speaker 5: to happen. I mean, I was married just when so

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Speaker 5: much older than I was. So now it's like when

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Speaker 5: guys are giving me attention, I'm like, is it like

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Speaker 5: well intended attention or is it just like they're just

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Speaker 5: trying to like play a game with me? So I

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Speaker 5: was crazy about him, and then I've waited, so yeah,

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Speaker 5: well I don't have it. I don't.

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Speaker 6: When I did that, I didn't. I never heard from

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Speaker 6: them again. Most likely there was just this. It was

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Speaker 6: more about my emotional well being. It's not good, Like

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Speaker 6: I feel like I was vulnerable enough to sleep with

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Speaker 6: you and then you now have the power. But again

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Speaker 6: it's my control, controlling side of myself.

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Speaker 5: So sure, I'll hop on top boom.

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Speaker 6: Don't tell me twice. Okay, our one night stands acceptable

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Speaker 6: if you're over the age of fifty five. I think

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Speaker 6: we kind of talked about. I don't think the age matters,

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Speaker 6: I thought, I will fall in love with you if

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Speaker 5: Really, See, it's interesting because I'm like that too. That's

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Speaker 6: But isn't that what's so fun? It's like are we

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Speaker 6: But at the end of the day too, you get

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Speaker 6: to protect your vagina and your heart.

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Speaker 5: Yes, protect the vagina. Yeah, we need t shirts protect

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Speaker 6: See, I always find that, first of all, it depends

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Speaker 5: You know. I'm just like I'm not very competitive with women.

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Speaker 5: like I'm I'm so laser focused on myself that I'd like,

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Speaker 6: And what if you have called DIBs though, like what if.

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Speaker 5: Then I'd be like Cheryl, hands off?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, exactly, pause off, bits.

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Speaker 6: Girl there is girl code. Actually a lot of people

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Speaker 5: Sure, And there's also a song associated to the word

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Speaker 6: What is what song?

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Speaker 5: She has a song called girl Code?

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Speaker 6: Oh I didn't know that. Okay, you got it now,

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Speaker 5: Sex toys? Are you into them? If yes, what are they?

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Speaker 6: I mean me and my pocket Rocket are besties. So

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Speaker 6: I don't know. I'm not into like pocket Rocket is

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Speaker 6: like I've never done that, nor do I plant on it,

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Speaker 5: To be Okay. So this was a long time ago.

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Speaker 5: Juliana Ransick was hosting this party in New York. She's like,

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Speaker 5: I can't wait to see you. So I like, I

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Speaker 5: I was like, oh, no, thank you so much. I

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Speaker 5: had no idea. I was not paying attention to anything.

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Speaker 5: We leave and he goes, she just gave you a vibrator.

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Speaker 5: I'm like, she did not give me a vibran great, yes,

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Speaker 5: I put it in my I put it in my

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Speaker 6: I'm sure they know what it was.

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Speaker 5: Then on Ultimate Girls Trip, I brought the ladies some

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Speaker 5: friends with benefits from Kiki to Monparnaz and they had

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Speaker 6: I mean they're also I mean, it's not I mean,

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Speaker 6: I don't know when I grew up fast, so I

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Speaker 6: I'm so sorry. Nowadays, I think a man created this.

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Speaker 6: When you have to charge your vibrator, like when I

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Speaker 6: not after it's charged, Like, I don't know, that's weird

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Speaker 6: to be, like it should only be building in a

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Speaker 6: battery operated only. Yes, people plug in their vibrators, Like

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Speaker 5: Weird, piteous.

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Speaker 6: No, yeah, I don't understand who invented that. That is

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Speaker 6: not a good invention.

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Speaker 5: No, I think that anything that makes you feel good

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Speaker 5: is amazing, exactly. Okay, Next, I just have to keep

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Speaker 5: young adults, but they need to stay out. They can

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Speaker 6: Oh here, you see that thing right there, that's a safe.

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Speaker 6: You should get one. You can fit it vibrator in

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Speaker 5: Like, here are the three things you need. Here are

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Speaker 6: You're safe, and you're safe. Worst thing about metopause.

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Speaker 5: The worst thing about menopause is the worst thing about

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Speaker 5: that your boobs get a little fuller, which is amazing.

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Speaker 5: I mean, I already have some I already have some

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Speaker 5: very nice friends, but like now they're like actually more friendly.

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Speaker 6: They're like perky, just frowned, nice, fuller. Yeah, yeah, okay,

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Speaker 6: And then I think I believe I'm going through paramedopause.

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Speaker 6: I guess listening going through metopause or paramedopause. What does

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Speaker 6: How do I know if I'm going through meta para metopause.

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Speaker 6: I mean, obviously see a doctor, but.

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Speaker 5: You can you know, I from my experience, I'm not

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Speaker 5: loss and gain, and then you can obviously have some

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Speaker 5: hot flashes. I mean all of these.

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Speaker 6: Two, Like if I have all of that regardless.

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Speaker 5: When I was when I was in parimedopase, this is

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Speaker 6: And how about your mood.

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Speaker 5: It goes up and it goes down.

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Speaker 6: Well, yeah, it's so hard because nowadays, like like I said,

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Speaker 6: I'm not even kidding, Like I feel like I've gotten

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Speaker 5: But you know, you're a dancer, and I started taking

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Speaker 5: It's great, awesome, great.

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Speaker 6: Would you rather have your kids overhearing? You have sex.

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Speaker 6: This is a horrible question. Or would you rather overhear

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Speaker 6: one of your kids having sex? What type of now

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Speaker 5: Neither, thank you.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, god, that's so disturbing.

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Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, and you should, by the way, if you

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Speaker 5: have solid doors, you should not be hearing either.

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Speaker 6: So yeah, but yeah, and just wait, like stop.

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Speaker 5: Or invest in good doors.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, or cover. Put something in your mouth so you

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Speaker 6: don't make sounds. I don't know what to say. We

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Speaker 6: put a few cotton balls in it and shut up, okay, cool,

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Speaker 6: suffocate with a pillow. I don't know what to say.

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Speaker 5: Wait, I love you, I love you, I love That

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Speaker 5: was so fun. I feel like your answers are not

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Speaker 5: what I expected. I did not expecting the cotton balls.

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Speaker 2: Uh.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I wasn't expecting this either from me. But I

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Speaker 6: appreciate your honesty, Kelly, I really do. And your transparency

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Speaker 6: so fun.

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