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Speaker 1: Poppy Friday, everybody, good night, good morning. I thought that

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Speaker 1: you might be sleeping, are recording because I'm gonna tell

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Speaker 1: on you to the listeners. Yesterday you did.

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Speaker 2: I gave Kelly a scary yesterday. She literally made everyone.

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Speaker 2: She put out an APB on my ass.

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Speaker 1: I thought you were dead, and I was like, this

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Speaker 1: is such a fucking bummer for my year.

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Speaker 2: You're just like, this is definitely Chip's year of Nope.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, He's like, no about that was the way I

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Speaker 1: said no to everything. Actually, basically what happened is Chip

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Speaker 1: took a pill because you were having a pain, and

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Speaker 1: the pill made you fall asleep four.

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Speaker 2: Hours yesterday too. Like it was funny too, because I

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Speaker 2: feel like I looked back at like the time stamps

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Speaker 2: of stuff. The last like text I sent was at

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Speaker 2: like eleven already eight, and then you emailed me like

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Speaker 2: eleven fifty and.

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Speaker 1: You were out.

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Speaker 2: I was out.

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Speaker 1: But also do you know that I knew that was

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Speaker 1: your last email because I had you traced. Basically, I know.

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Speaker 2: Everything we had. I woke up to all these texts

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Speaker 2: like you alive.

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Speaker 1: Bro No. I literally had everyone in Chip's office searching

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Speaker 1: for him because he's also been traveling. That was the

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Speaker 1: thing that really through me. I hadn't talked to you

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Speaker 1: since you got back to town, so I was like,

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Speaker 1: what if he didn't get back to town.

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Speaker 2: What if he was abducted in Mexico. Yeah, like it

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Speaker 2: would be more likely that I said fuck it and

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Speaker 2: stayed because I've been thinking since I got back, I

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Speaker 2: might just retire in Cancun. It's a pretty easy flight

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Speaker 2: back to you of the US. It's cheap, it's lovely,

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Speaker 2: it is.

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Speaker 1: Good, the weather's nice, the beaches are beautiful.

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Speaker 2: Heaven. If you have not gone to Cancun, put it

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Speaker 2: on your list. I know it sounds like I wrote

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Speaker 2: it off forever because it sounded like where do you

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Speaker 2: get a spring break? You know? But it is. It's

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Speaker 2: just lovely. And I love Tuloom too, but Tulum is

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Speaker 2: super sleepy. So if you're going to go there, you gotta.

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Speaker 1: Just like I see, I love Taloom, but that's yeah.

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Speaker 2: You got to go there for the reset and the leg.

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Speaker 1: Oh good of it. Yeah, being good food.

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Speaker 2: But the beaches are better in Cancun.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's fair.

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Speaker 2: The beaches are prettier. So if you really want that,

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Speaker 2: like crystal blue water, I think that the government probably

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Speaker 2: brought in a bunch of white sand because it's very

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Speaker 2: conveniently right there on the hotel zone. But maybe they

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Speaker 2: built it there because the sand was white.

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Speaker 1: But get this little conspiracy theorist in here. I know, well, anyway,

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Speaker 1: he's not dead. Thank god, I'm not dead.

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Speaker 2: I'm here.

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Speaker 1: I literally said to our friend Mary, if I go,

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Speaker 1: I was about to leave to go to your house

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Speaker 1: because I was looking for you for four hours with nothing.

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Speaker 1: No one had seen you, but we had heard that

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Speaker 1: you would eat sit your last email on record at

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Speaker 1: eleven thirty eight, and I was like, well, should I

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Speaker 1: go over there? Like I don't know what, what if

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Speaker 1: mean we had just talked about ozembic and I was like,

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Speaker 1: what if this is like a side effect of you know,

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Speaker 1: I was like all over the place with it. So

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Speaker 1: I was like going to find my keys and at

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Speaker 2: I couldn't believe how late it was in the day either.

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Speaker 2: It's weird though, because you know, if you travel for work,

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Speaker 2: it's particularly for the kind of work that I do

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Speaker 2: it's not like I'm sitting in meetings all day, Like

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Speaker 2: it kind of feels a little bit like vacation, especially

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Speaker 2: when you're in a place like cancuon so you forget

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Speaker 2: what day it is.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I held that problem since coming back from the holidays.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I think that's probably magnifying it too,

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Speaker 2: some pain. I took a pain pill and it knocked

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Speaker 1: Yesterday, right, even though plus.

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Speaker 2: Like it's still pretty slow. I didn't have I didn't

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Speaker 1: So we were like opposites because I'm like, I'm leaving

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Speaker 2: Chips stay and I'm gonna have to stay first.

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Speaker 1: And I was literally like, oh my god, this is

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Speaker 1: This year has gone to shit. It's already been a

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Speaker 1: hard or weird January. This would really be the icing

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Speaker 1: I'm definitely retiring for twenty twenty five. That is going

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Speaker 1: to be the end of my year. In January, the

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Speaker 1: podcasts canceled, I mean everything. It would just be like

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no one needs to know he's.

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Speaker 1: Gone stark anyway. On Wednesday of this week, I talked

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Speaker 1: to Carolyn Sharp. She wrote this book called Fire It Up,

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Speaker 1: which is all about I was telling you Chip, it's

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Speaker 1: all about reviving stale relationships. Like how often are you

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Speaker 1: hearing people in our age group bitch about where they

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Speaker 2: A lot, a lot.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's really common because people get married

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Speaker 1: a while. How do you keep the passion alive? How

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Speaker 1: do you take it deeper? Even? How do you get

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Speaker 1: you live together like jigs up, you know, like you

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Speaker 2: Right Also at our age, you know, because I can

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Speaker 2: really only speak to that experience. You know, life isn't

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Speaker 2: as exciting. The honeymoon phase is even different at our age,

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Speaker 2: especially if you're in like a newer relationship, Like you're

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Speaker 2: Like that's just not the life that you live in, right,

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Speaker 2: So I feel like the stale stuff comes a lot

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Speaker 1: We have more responsibilities. Yeah, we're tired. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I saw a meme yesterday that says old age is

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Speaker 2: one day you get really tired, and then you're tired for.

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Speaker 1: The rest of your tired.

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Speaker 2: So true.

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Speaker 1: Yeah that's pretty funny.

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Speaker 1: Well, so anyway, you and I were discussing, like how

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Speaker 1: not in a stale relationship at this point. My boyfriend

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Speaker 1: You are dating, you're out dating, and so we don't

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Speaker 2: I've got plenty of syry too.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. So we were like, Okay, let's talk about the

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Speaker 1: funny stuff that's come up for us. We have a

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Speaker 2: I mean, I'd love to say that I'm perfect in

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Speaker 1: That's what I want to tell it.

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Speaker 2: And obviously, from the observer standpoint, I don't look at

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Speaker 2: something annoying that I do. I am definitely guilty of

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Speaker 2: and it's like not even a conscious thing, you know,

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Speaker 2: So because I recognize that I often don't say what

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Speaker 1: So you're in a full circle with yourself.

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Speaker 2: It sounds like a little bit, yeah, because and I

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Speaker 2: I'm happy to plan shit, but I don't want to

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Speaker 2: I'm like, oh god, it's so fucking boring.

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Speaker 1: Well, I also wonder if that's like cause your partners

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Speaker 2: But then it's like I get in my head about it,

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Speaker 2: In my last relationship, in the beginning, it was like

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Speaker 2: But I was also I was so into him that

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Speaker 1: Like sure, yeah, I think I'll do that.

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't have ever done before. And you know, I

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Speaker 2: So how about yourself?

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Speaker 1: I was thinking more like small weird things on the

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Speaker 1: We just laugh about it actually, and I mentioned it

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Speaker 1: on the Wednesday podcast too. But so you know, I

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Speaker 1: but Briane does. Yeah, a lot of our friends do.

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Speaker 1: My boyfriend talks about it too. Is like in the

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Speaker 1: morning I do all the time, or in the middle

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Speaker 2: For sure, the middle of the night, definitely.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Okay, well so anyway, but I always sit down

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Speaker 1: What it really is about, right, right, Because you said

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Speaker 1: He foldedm But like, probably you both were attaching something

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Speaker 2: So yeah, I'm gonna walk away with that as a

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Speaker 2: Yeah, just like approach it with some humor, especially if

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Speaker 1: And like repair is going to need to happen in relationships.

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Speaker 1: I usually need to meditate. Oh god, I mean when

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Speaker 1: we're traveling. Yeah, I have to have air pods in

440
00:20:21,760 --> 00:20:24,680
Speaker 1: so I have no extra noise. Like, there's just all

441
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Speaker 1: these things that I do. I put magnesium on my feet,

442
00:20:28,840 --> 00:20:31,879
Speaker 1: I like, have essential oils. You know, there's just lots

443
00:20:31,880 --> 00:20:35,439
Speaker 1: of different things, and it could be a recipe for

444
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Speaker 1: someone to be like, what in the world.

445
00:20:38,200 --> 00:20:39,400
Speaker 2: Is this witch doctor?

446
00:20:39,760 --> 00:20:42,440
Speaker 1: Yeah? I mean, and my partner is a good sleeper,

447
00:20:42,640 --> 00:20:45,080
Speaker 1: and so he's just kind to me about it, and

448
00:20:45,080 --> 00:20:48,240
Speaker 1: he's like, gosh, like you know, I feel sad that

449
00:20:48,280 --> 00:20:50,000
Speaker 1: you don't sleep well, and then he tries to help

450
00:20:50,000 --> 00:20:54,240
Speaker 1: support me. And that all plays on your feet. Yeah,

451
00:20:54,280 --> 00:20:56,600
Speaker 1: but like, I mean, we all have that stuff, right,

452
00:20:56,640 --> 00:20:59,440
Speaker 1: and you don't really necessarily realize it until you get

453
00:20:59,440 --> 00:21:01,680
Speaker 1: in the relationship and then you're like having someone else

454
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Speaker 1: observe all the weird things you do.

455
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Speaker 2: I mean, tell me about it. I just got a

456
00:21:05,440 --> 00:21:08,440
Speaker 2: seapap machine and I haven't had anyone, Like, I haven't

457
00:21:08,440 --> 00:21:12,160
Speaker 2: had any relations since, and I'm like, is this gonna

458
00:21:12,200 --> 00:21:15,160
Speaker 2: be sexy? There's nothing sexy about it.

459
00:21:15,480 --> 00:21:17,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you just got to find a person who's like, well,

460
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Speaker 1: I want him to survive, right, and I don't.

461
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Speaker 2: I mean, I might have a couple of snores throughout

462
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Speaker 2: the night. But like anyone who shared a room with

463
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Speaker 2: me knows that I saw logs, I don't snore with it.

464
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Speaker 1: Well, I would see. I would be like put that

465
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Speaker 1: machine on all day every day because like I can't

466
00:21:33,400 --> 00:21:35,840
Speaker 1: sleep near you because the snoring is real.

467
00:21:36,320 --> 00:21:39,199
Speaker 2: Yeah, it is real. Even my dad said something about it.

468
00:21:39,200 --> 00:21:42,000
Speaker 2: And my dad is the worst to snore in the world.

469
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Speaker 2: But he's got a seatpap now, so he doesn't say.

470
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Speaker 1: Ah, and he heard you mm hmmm. Interesting, So really,

471
00:21:48,160 --> 00:21:51,000
Speaker 1: the machine's doing everyone a favor, so they should beful

472
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Speaker 1: for it.

473
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Speaker 2: It also goes like you'd probably love it because it's

474
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Speaker 2: also rhythmic.

475
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Speaker 1: And yeah, see, okay, we'll see these some of these

476
00:22:00,200 --> 00:22:03,120
Speaker 1: can work well. Since we were on this topic, we

477
00:22:03,119 --> 00:22:06,800
Speaker 1: were thinking through Okay, well some habits like the seapat,

478
00:22:06,800 --> 00:22:09,679
Speaker 1: we just immediately got to where it's a benefit for everyone,

479
00:22:09,720 --> 00:22:12,000
Speaker 1: so like it's kind of cute now instead of cringe.

480
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Speaker 1: So we were going to play a quick game of

481
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Speaker 1: cute or cringe. And I'm going to list off a

482
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Speaker 1: bunch of prompts that the chat GBT gave me as

483
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Speaker 1: far as some ideas of what could be cute a cringe,

484
00:22:24,119 --> 00:22:25,920
Speaker 1: and then you and I both have to weigh in

485
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Speaker 1: on if we think it's cute okay in a relationship,

486
00:22:29,280 --> 00:22:30,040
Speaker 1: or it's cringe.

487
00:22:30,240 --> 00:22:37,680
Speaker 2: Okay.

488
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Speaker 1: Are you ready for this? Okay? So let's talk about

489
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Speaker 1: household habits first, because I think this is a big one.

490
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Speaker 1: So once you move in with someone or you're staying

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Speaker 1: with them a lot, or things like that, leaving dishes

492
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Speaker 1: in the sink instead of putting them in the dishwasher

493
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Speaker 1: cute or cringe.

494
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Speaker 2: If I'm doing it, it's cute if someone else does. Okay,

495
00:23:01,840 --> 00:23:04,480
Speaker 2: I say that because I live alone, so I do it.

496
00:23:04,560 --> 00:23:06,640
Speaker 2: But if I were living with somebody, I would put

497
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Speaker 2: them away or wash them because I actually like washing dishes.

498
00:23:09,440 --> 00:23:12,200
Speaker 1: Yeah. My big thing is before we go to bed

499
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Speaker 1: at night. I don't like there to be stuff in

500
00:23:13,880 --> 00:23:15,960
Speaker 1: the sink if during the day you're in a hurry

501
00:23:16,040 --> 00:23:19,520
Speaker 1: and it just happens. Yes, and every now and again

502
00:23:19,520 --> 00:23:21,520
Speaker 1: when you're like, I can't do the dishes tonight.

503
00:23:21,400 --> 00:23:22,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, who cares?

504
00:23:22,520 --> 00:23:24,479
Speaker 1: Like thet it go? So to me, it's just kind

505
00:23:24,520 --> 00:23:28,080
Speaker 1: of like it depends I lived.

506
00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:32,320
Speaker 2: This was a college roommate situation, so it wasn't romantic,

507
00:23:32,359 --> 00:23:34,600
Speaker 2: but it was you know one of my best friends

508
00:23:34,600 --> 00:23:37,040
Speaker 2: at that time, and we still laugh about it, like

509
00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:39,960
Speaker 2: he would never do dishes, so I would just put

510
00:23:39,960 --> 00:23:41,200
Speaker 2: the dirty dishes on his bed.

511
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Speaker 1: Oh.

512
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Speaker 2: I was like, I'm not doing your fucking dishes, man,

513
00:23:45,400 --> 00:23:49,119
Speaker 2: I would just put them all on his bed. Yeah,

514
00:23:50,160 --> 00:23:51,960
Speaker 2: that is We still about it.

515
00:23:51,960 --> 00:23:54,080
Speaker 1: It's not even like passive aggressive. It's pretty just straight

516
00:23:54,119 --> 00:23:58,080
Speaker 1: up aggressive. It's kind of not like you, I know.

517
00:23:58,400 --> 00:24:00,600
Speaker 2: I was just like, dude, you got I'm not I'm

518
00:24:00,640 --> 00:24:01,760
Speaker 2: done doing your dishes.

519
00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:05,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay. Squeezing toothpaste from the middle of the tube.

520
00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:08,240
Speaker 2: Ough, that is cringe.

521
00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:12,400
Speaker 1: I think. Okay, my boyfriend doesn't put the top back

522
00:24:12,440 --> 00:24:15,200
Speaker 1: on the toothpaste, and that's that's been That's.

523
00:24:15,000 --> 00:24:18,440
Speaker 2: Cringey from me too. That was a criteria central. Well.

524
00:24:18,440 --> 00:24:21,119
Speaker 1: It's just also like I could lose the top then

525
00:24:21,119 --> 00:24:22,760
Speaker 1: I'm floating around. It's just like I don't and I

526
00:24:22,760 --> 00:24:25,800
Speaker 1: could hit the toothpaste and toothpaste Garselle Like, it's just

527
00:24:26,119 --> 00:24:27,160
Speaker 1: I just want the lid on it.

528
00:24:27,480 --> 00:24:28,960
Speaker 2: Put the lid on. By the way, if you haven't

529
00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:33,200
Speaker 2: watched the Nate Burgatsy Special, The New Special on Net,

530
00:24:33,280 --> 00:24:36,600
Speaker 2: notice I watched it last night. He's literally the funniest

531
00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:39,320
Speaker 2: person on earth because he talks about very normal things. Yeah,

532
00:24:39,359 --> 00:24:41,199
Speaker 2: and he talks about how his wife is like a

533
00:24:41,200 --> 00:24:44,520
Speaker 2: penny pincher and there's a whole like he's like, you know,

534
00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:46,520
Speaker 2: if I get to the end of the like ketchup

535
00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:48,640
Speaker 2: and there's like a little bit left, I throw it away.

536
00:24:48,680 --> 00:24:50,960
Speaker 2: He's like, my wife puts the old ketchup in the

537
00:24:51,000 --> 00:24:53,359
Speaker 2: new ketchup, so my ketchup is always gross. And then

538
00:24:53,400 --> 00:24:55,480
Speaker 2: he has a toothpaste thing where he's like, she cuts

539
00:24:55,520 --> 00:25:00,960
Speaker 2: it open and gets every last No, it's so funn okay.

540
00:25:00,680 --> 00:25:06,800
Speaker 1: Anyway, take okay. Leaving wet towels on the bed, that's cringe,

541
00:25:07,040 --> 00:25:09,760
Speaker 1: so cringe. I'm a weird one about the towels, Like

542
00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:14,200
Speaker 1: wet towels on clothes, even on my rugs, like hang

543
00:25:14,240 --> 00:25:14,520
Speaker 1: it up.

544
00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:15,959
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, hang your towel up.

545
00:25:16,720 --> 00:25:19,920
Speaker 1: Setting ten alarms in the morning, this is so good

546
00:25:19,960 --> 00:25:22,880
Speaker 1: for you, and snoozing every single one.

547
00:25:23,680 --> 00:25:26,280
Speaker 2: I mean, it must be cringe, but I do it.

548
00:25:26,280 --> 00:25:29,600
Speaker 1: It's so cringe, But you're gonna say cute because you

549
00:25:29,640 --> 00:25:30,000
Speaker 1: do it.

550
00:25:30,760 --> 00:25:34,720
Speaker 2: Yeah. I actually someone I saw someone talking about that

551
00:25:35,119 --> 00:25:38,680
Speaker 2: thing the other day and they actually say it makes

552
00:25:38,800 --> 00:25:42,840
Speaker 2: your morning worse. It does because if you just get

553
00:25:42,920 --> 00:25:45,600
Speaker 2: up on the first one, you just start your day right,

554
00:25:46,000 --> 00:25:48,920
Speaker 2: But now that you're dealing with the second one, you're

555
00:25:48,960 --> 00:25:51,520
Speaker 2: like this that you have to get up finally. So

556
00:25:51,720 --> 00:25:53,560
Speaker 2: I'm gonna that's something that I want to try and repair.

557
00:25:53,640 --> 00:25:55,280
Speaker 2: This year is not hitting some well.

558
00:25:55,320 --> 00:25:57,720
Speaker 1: And if you live with someone or someone else is

559
00:25:57,760 --> 00:26:01,800
Speaker 1: like at your house with you, it's really disrespectful. Ycause really,

560
00:26:02,200 --> 00:26:04,080
Speaker 1: once I'm up, it's hard for me to go back

561
00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:06,919
Speaker 1: to sleep. But one alarm sometimes I can you know

562
00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:10,080
Speaker 1: if there were five different alarm, like I'm up, and

563
00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:11,960
Speaker 1: what if I didn't want to get up when you got.

564
00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:14,640
Speaker 2: Up right right? Yeah? That is cringe.

565
00:26:15,200 --> 00:26:19,600
Speaker 1: Wearing the same quote unquote lucky shirt for multiple days

566
00:26:19,600 --> 00:26:20,240
Speaker 1: in a row.

567
00:26:21,200 --> 00:26:25,119
Speaker 2: That's cringe. That's also that's just gross.

568
00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:27,760
Speaker 1: I don't know if I care two days in a row,

569
00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:31,400
Speaker 1: especially like if you're traveling. I think there's a lot

570
00:26:31,440 --> 00:26:32,840
Speaker 1: of exceptions to this rule.

571
00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:35,960
Speaker 2: Or is it like a sweatshirt or like a button

572
00:26:36,000 --> 00:26:38,159
Speaker 2: down that you wear as a jacket. We don't know.

573
00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:39,600
Speaker 1: I think we can make it whatever we want. A

574
00:26:39,600 --> 00:26:44,359
Speaker 1: T shirt though, nah, yeah, because the pits Yeah, Okay,

575
00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:49,760
Speaker 1: communication quirks. How about sending memes instead of saying I

576
00:26:49,840 --> 00:26:53,280
Speaker 1: love you, Like I think all day you're sending like

577
00:26:53,359 --> 00:26:55,479
Speaker 1: cute things that are making you think about the person,

578
00:26:55,920 --> 00:26:58,200
Speaker 1: but you're not saying I love you over and over.

579
00:26:58,480 --> 00:27:00,560
Speaker 2: I think it's cute because I think it's a cute

580
00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:03,159
Speaker 2: way of saying I love you. Like any sort of

581
00:27:03,200 --> 00:27:08,480
Speaker 2: interaction to me means you're being thought of, And the

582
00:27:08,520 --> 00:27:10,240
Speaker 2: memes are kind of my love language.

583
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:13,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's not like special memes.

584
00:27:13,640 --> 00:27:16,520
Speaker 2: I know. I don't blanket memes, you know. It's like

585
00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:18,440
Speaker 2: when I see a meme, I'm like, this is going

586
00:27:18,520 --> 00:27:21,720
Speaker 2: to this person because I think they'll think it's funny. Yeah,

587
00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:25,320
Speaker 2: I don't have like a distribution list, you know. So

588
00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:27,720
Speaker 2: I think it's a love language move. It's cute.

589
00:27:28,119 --> 00:27:32,639
Speaker 1: Well I need both, so right, I don't know. I

590
00:27:32,640 --> 00:27:35,719
Speaker 1: don't know if I would say it's cringe. If I

591
00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:38,000
Speaker 1: was only getting memes and not getting I love you,

592
00:27:38,160 --> 00:27:39,920
Speaker 1: I would be upset by the house.

593
00:27:40,080 --> 00:27:43,359
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, because at a certain point it becomes friend zoning.

594
00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:48,280
Speaker 1: Well, and it's just like it's not real intimacy. It's

595
00:27:48,280 --> 00:27:51,000
Speaker 1: like faux intimacy in a way, so you're not actually

596
00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:54,120
Speaker 1: being vulnerable enough to like take the next step or

597
00:27:54,359 --> 00:27:57,480
Speaker 1: write lean in or whatever it is. It just feels

598
00:27:57,560 --> 00:28:01,040
Speaker 1: very like surface level to me, right, I get that

599
00:28:01,960 --> 00:28:04,560
Speaker 1: using baby talk when addressing each other.

600
00:28:06,000 --> 00:28:10,320
Speaker 2: No French cris, I mean, you couldn't even read it.

601
00:28:10,320 --> 00:28:11,280
Speaker 2: It was so cringe.

602
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:14,720
Speaker 1: I know. Well, because there is one thing my boyfriend

603
00:28:14,720 --> 00:28:17,639
Speaker 1: and I do. He calls me ma'am. He's like, ma'am

604
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:20,119
Speaker 1: sometimes something and blah blah blah, and so I started

605
00:28:20,119 --> 00:28:23,200
Speaker 1: calling him sir back, and I'm like, if anybody else

606
00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:27,960
Speaker 1: hears us, though, like it's cute between us, but if

607
00:28:28,040 --> 00:28:30,359
Speaker 1: someone hears. I actually was in a grocery store with

608
00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:32,680
Speaker 1: him recently and I was like, sir, and he turned

609
00:28:32,680 --> 00:28:34,480
Speaker 1: around because he knew it was me. But then it's

610
00:28:34,520 --> 00:28:39,560
Speaker 1: like five other guys also turned around that it was

611
00:28:39,640 --> 00:28:43,560
Speaker 1: just funny. But baby talk hell no, hell no. Over

612
00:28:43,760 --> 00:28:47,120
Speaker 1: using pet names even in public, Well, I just said it.

613
00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:49,840
Speaker 1: I don't mind it. I don't know. I think it's

614
00:28:49,880 --> 00:28:50,400
Speaker 1: kind of cute.

615
00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:52,440
Speaker 2: It's kind of cute. I think it's kind of It

616
00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:54,240
Speaker 2: also kind of depends on the name.

617
00:28:54,200 --> 00:28:59,680
Speaker 1: Like m true, you'd like baby doll. Yeah, I think

618
00:28:59,720 --> 00:29:02,120
Speaker 1: of ain sweetie.

619
00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:03,160
Speaker 2: Pie, Snookers.

620
00:29:03,520 --> 00:29:07,120
Speaker 1: I don't know, honey child, No, we're just losing it

621
00:29:07,720 --> 00:29:10,640
Speaker 1: texting Kay instead of a full response.

622
00:29:12,720 --> 00:29:15,160
Speaker 2: It really depends on what you're responding to. To me,

623
00:29:15,400 --> 00:29:19,000
Speaker 2: that that one's like right down the middle, because sometimes

624
00:29:19,000 --> 00:29:21,320
Speaker 2: you just didn't need to acknowledge that, like you've received

625
00:29:21,320 --> 00:29:24,800
Speaker 2: the information, okay, Kay, is like it should be.

626
00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:28,360
Speaker 1: Okay like you One other letters, One.

627
00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:33,200
Speaker 2: Other letter I had. This was a friendship thing. What

628
00:29:33,280 --> 00:29:35,760
Speaker 2: was the word that I used to say all the time?

629
00:29:35,760 --> 00:29:38,440
Speaker 2: And it drove my friend Bonnie crazy? But I was

630
00:29:38,640 --> 00:29:40,560
Speaker 2: it was a word of acknowledgement. I can't remember what

631
00:29:40,560 --> 00:29:42,360
Speaker 2: it was, so this is a bad story. But it

632
00:29:42,440 --> 00:29:44,880
Speaker 2: drove her crazy that I would do it. I was like, wait,

633
00:29:44,920 --> 00:29:47,120
Speaker 2: I'm acknowledging what you said. But so I had to

634
00:29:47,160 --> 00:29:49,600
Speaker 2: like find a new word because it made her unhappy.

635
00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:53,600
Speaker 1: Romantic gestures planning surprise date nights without consulting the other

636
00:29:53,640 --> 00:29:54,520
Speaker 1: person's schedule.

637
00:29:55,800 --> 00:29:56,840
Speaker 2: I think that's cute.

638
00:29:57,800 --> 00:30:00,840
Speaker 1: I think it can lead to a problem exactly like

639
00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:01,240
Speaker 1: you got to.

640
00:30:01,400 --> 00:30:03,480
Speaker 2: I think you would have to say like, hey, keep

641
00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:05,800
Speaker 2: Thursday open, yeah.

642
00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:07,920
Speaker 1: Or be like what's your week look like? And then

643
00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:11,600
Speaker 1: get the vibe and yeah, But I like what you said,

644
00:30:11,760 --> 00:30:14,120
Speaker 1: like have a little bit of a heads up of

645
00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:17,239
Speaker 1: like we're going to do something, or let's make that

646
00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:19,160
Speaker 1: the night for each other. And then if you plan

647
00:30:19,280 --> 00:30:22,880
Speaker 1: something cute, that's really cute. I think all people love

648
00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:26,360
Speaker 1: that stuff because that makes you feel thought of, considered.

649
00:30:27,120 --> 00:30:30,560
Speaker 1: It's yeah, a bid for connection all the things.

650
00:30:30,760 --> 00:30:33,680
Speaker 2: And it's exciting to plan something fun like that, you know.

651
00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:40,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, spontaneously serenading them at home or in public, I.

652
00:30:40,800 --> 00:30:44,680
Speaker 2: Think it can be really cute. The public side of

653
00:30:44,720 --> 00:30:46,480
Speaker 2: it brings the cringe.

654
00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:49,520
Speaker 1: But it's also like, yeah, go ahead.

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Speaker 2: But that's me really personalizing it because I think that

656
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Speaker 2: there is something very When I see it on the internet,

657
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Speaker 2: I think it's really cute.

658
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Speaker 1: But if it were happening to see this on the internet,

659
00:30:59,680 --> 00:31:01,800
Speaker 1: though I don't know I've seen I'm missing.

660
00:31:01,600 --> 00:31:04,560
Speaker 2: Saying stuff go viral where people like do really it

661
00:31:04,600 --> 00:31:07,080
Speaker 2: seems really cute when it's happening to somebody.

662
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Speaker 1: Else, But I tell you, when it's cringe for me

663
00:31:10,480 --> 00:31:12,800
Speaker 1: is because you know, we work in the music industries

664
00:31:12,840 --> 00:31:15,520
Speaker 1: are around artists a lot, like people who can legit

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00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:18,120
Speaker 1: sing and who are also used to being on a

666
00:31:18,160 --> 00:31:22,440
Speaker 1: stage and having an audience. If that person is serenading

667
00:31:22,520 --> 00:31:26,280
Speaker 1: in public or kind of all the time, or you know, pleasure.

668
00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:29,880
Speaker 1: It's like, that's about you. You want attention, This isn't

669
00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:32,040
Speaker 1: about me, So that's cringe to me.

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00:31:32,120 --> 00:31:33,680
Speaker 2: That is, I get. I'm on board with that.

671
00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:36,680
Speaker 1: But if it's about you and maybe it's an inside

672
00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:39,640
Speaker 1: joke with the song or you're just feeling overcome with

673
00:31:39,880 --> 00:31:42,520
Speaker 1: love and you're being kind of fun and silly about

674
00:31:42,520 --> 00:31:44,760
Speaker 1: it and like maybe you're dancing with the person or

675
00:31:44,760 --> 00:31:48,160
Speaker 1: whatever it is, I think it's cute. Yeah, yeah, okay,

676
00:31:48,200 --> 00:31:50,600
Speaker 1: physical habits, cracking knuckles constantly.

677
00:31:52,120 --> 00:31:53,640
Speaker 2: I don't think that that's cringe.

678
00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:56,200
Speaker 1: I think it's one of those things though, that like

679
00:31:56,320 --> 00:31:58,520
Speaker 1: almost you know, when like you've been with someone for

680
00:31:58,720 --> 00:32:00,640
Speaker 1: a really long time and then the way they eat

681
00:32:01,040 --> 00:32:03,000
Speaker 1: starts to bother you like this, Yes.

682
00:32:03,560 --> 00:32:07,240
Speaker 2: Yes, but I think I think those things are when

683
00:32:07,280 --> 00:32:09,520
Speaker 2: those are really cringe to you, it's an indication of

684
00:32:09,520 --> 00:32:11,720
Speaker 2: something so much deeper, Like you just don't like the

685
00:32:11,760 --> 00:32:12,960
Speaker 2: person and you're like, ugh.

686
00:32:13,200 --> 00:32:15,400
Speaker 1: You're mad about something else, and then it's like dumb

687
00:32:15,480 --> 00:32:17,600
Speaker 1: chewing cereal literally feels like it's going to send you

688
00:32:17,640 --> 00:32:18,800
Speaker 1: over the e right.

689
00:32:18,960 --> 00:32:21,400
Speaker 2: You're like, now it's time to put your noses together

690
00:32:21,480 --> 00:32:22,200
Speaker 2: and talk about it.

691
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:24,800
Speaker 1: The way you bit into that apple.

692
00:32:27,000 --> 00:32:27,920
Speaker 2: You didn't eat it down.

693
00:32:27,760 --> 00:32:35,200
Speaker 1: To the core, leaving hair behind, like beard clippings, long strands. Cringe,

694
00:32:35,280 --> 00:32:36,600
Speaker 1: And yeah, I think it's cringe too.

695
00:32:36,840 --> 00:32:37,160
Speaker 2: Cringe.

696
00:32:37,240 --> 00:32:39,280
Speaker 1: I used to dat a guy who would literally shave

697
00:32:39,320 --> 00:32:42,520
Speaker 1: his balls into the sink and leave it. Sometimes I

698
00:32:42,560 --> 00:32:43,479
Speaker 1: was like, are you joking?

699
00:32:43,560 --> 00:32:45,120
Speaker 2: Oh my god, do that in the shower?

700
00:32:45,360 --> 00:32:49,960
Speaker 1: Yeah? Exactly, Oh okay. Social media posting mushy partner tributes

701
00:32:50,000 --> 00:32:51,560
Speaker 1: on Instagram without warning.

702
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:54,520
Speaker 2: I think that's a little cringe too, do too. That's

703
00:32:54,520 --> 00:32:56,560
Speaker 2: for attention and not for intention.

704
00:32:57,360 --> 00:33:00,160
Speaker 1: Also, I had a boyfriend who did that once, and

705
00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:02,400
Speaker 1: it would always actually be when we were in a

706
00:33:02,520 --> 00:33:06,240
Speaker 1: massive fight or like not doing well, and then I

707
00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:08,360
Speaker 1: would open my Instagram and he had done some mushy

708
00:33:08,400 --> 00:33:10,360
Speaker 1: post about me, and I was like, Yo, why don't

709
00:33:10,400 --> 00:33:12,280
Speaker 1: you take care of it on the home front first,

710
00:33:12,760 --> 00:33:16,280
Speaker 1: versus trying to like tell the public that how amazing

711
00:33:16,320 --> 00:33:18,720
Speaker 1: I am. You know, like that just felt it doesn't

712
00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:22,040
Speaker 1: feel sincere constantly texting during date.

713
00:33:21,920 --> 00:33:24,040
Speaker 2: Night, that's cringe.

714
00:33:24,320 --> 00:33:31,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree. Making tiktoks or reels together willingly, I mean, oh.

715
00:33:31,120 --> 00:33:33,920
Speaker 2: That makes me cringe. My neck just got tight thinking

716
00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:34,400
Speaker 2: about that.

717
00:33:36,040 --> 00:33:38,400
Speaker 1: I think it depends on the context, I mean a

718
00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:39,880
Speaker 1: regular view of that.

719
00:33:40,360 --> 00:33:43,720
Speaker 2: What's that couple that like it's like Pumpkin and baby

720
00:33:43,720 --> 00:33:46,840
Speaker 2: Boo or something like that, like where he it's like

721
00:33:46,920 --> 00:33:48,560
Speaker 2: he seems kind of gay, but he.

722
00:33:48,520 --> 00:33:50,960
Speaker 1: Loves his oh yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, he like.

723
00:33:50,920 --> 00:33:55,560
Speaker 2: Loves her outfits. Like that's cringe to me, but yeah,

724
00:33:56,800 --> 00:33:57,160
Speaker 2: in love.

725
00:33:57,520 --> 00:34:02,720
Speaker 1: Anytime that you're making your relationship public, it gets tricky

726
00:34:02,800 --> 00:34:05,200
Speaker 1: because then it becomes like is this a business? Is

727
00:34:05,240 --> 00:34:09,440
Speaker 1: this real life? Like those lines, they get tricky and

728
00:34:09,480 --> 00:34:12,719
Speaker 1: then it can become cringe really fast because when you're

729
00:34:12,760 --> 00:34:15,280
Speaker 1: not doing it authentically and it's just for the public,

730
00:34:15,440 --> 00:34:16,120
Speaker 1: Yeah cringe.

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00:34:16,320 --> 00:34:17,080
Speaker 2: Yeah.

732
00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:18,560
Speaker 1: Anyway, I could go on with these. I have a

733
00:34:18,600 --> 00:34:20,560
Speaker 1: whole like a full list. Maybe we'll have to do

734
00:34:20,600 --> 00:34:24,520
Speaker 1: another game of cuter cr for me. Oh my god.

735
00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:26,120
Speaker 1: Maybe you hate being in relationship?

736
00:34:26,239 --> 00:34:26,919
Speaker 2: Maybe I do.

737
00:34:27,040 --> 00:34:31,719
Speaker 1: God, we just don't know. If you guys have any

738
00:34:31,719 --> 00:34:34,759
Speaker 1: cuter cringe ideas or things that we said that you

739
00:34:34,800 --> 00:34:37,160
Speaker 1: think are cuter cringe, email us at the Edge at

740
00:34:37,239 --> 00:34:39,840
Speaker 1: velvetedge dot com. You can also slide into my dms

741
00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:43,760
Speaker 1: I'm at Velvet's Edge on Instagram, Chip I'm.

742
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Speaker 2: At chip door, should chip d r sch and as.

743
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Speaker 1: You guys go into the weekend and you're living on

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Speaker 1: the edge. I hope you always remember too, AuAl Bye

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