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Speaker 1: Okay for the High and Mighty Tour people, we are

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Speaker 1: rocket and rolling. These are the shows we have coming up.

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Speaker 1: April twenty third is Kansas City, Missouri. April twenty fourth

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Speaker 1: is Saint Louis, Missouri. April twenty fifth is Minneapolis. April

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Speaker 1: thirtieth Nashville. May first, Charlotte, North Carolina. May second is Durham,

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Speaker 1: North Carolina. May sixth in Los Angeles at the Sabon

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Speaker 1: Theater for Netflix as a joke. May fifteenth, I will

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Speaker 1: be in Saratoga May sixteenth, Monterey, May seventeenth, Modesto.

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Speaker 2: I will be in port Chester on June fourth, and

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Speaker 2: we added two new dates to the High and Mighty Tour.

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Speaker 2: On June third, I am coming to Saratoga Springs, New York.

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Speaker 3: So pre sale has.

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Speaker 1: Begun for that, and then on June twenty eighth, I

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Speaker 1: am coming to Nantucket and presale has started on that.

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Speaker 1: June fifth, I will be in Boston, Massachusetts. June twelfth,

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Speaker 1: I will be in Portland, Oregon. And June thirteenth I

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Speaker 1: will be in Seattle, Washington. June twenty seventh is going

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Speaker 1: to be Hyenna's, Massachusetts. August sixth is Red Bank, New

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Speaker 1: Jersey August seventh. I'm coming home to Montclair, New Jersey

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Speaker 1: August fifteenth. Is Calgary, Alberta, Canada, September eighteenth, Santa Barbara

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Speaker 1: September nineteenth, San Diego September twenty fifth. I will be

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Speaker 1: at the Beacon in New York City September twenty sixth.

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Speaker 1: I will be in Philadelphia September twenty seventh, New Haven, Connecticut.

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Speaker 1: October second, Atlanta, Georgia, October third, Baltimore, Maryland, October fourth, Saginaw, Michigan,

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Speaker 1: October ninth, Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, October tenth, Toronto, Canada, October sixteenth.

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Speaker 1: I'm coming to Boise, Idaho, October seventeenth, Spokane, Washington, November seventh.

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Speaker 1: I will be in San Francisco and November thirteenth, Salt

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Speaker 1: Lake City November twentieth, Austin November twenty first, Houston, Texas,

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Speaker 1: November twenty second, Irving, Texas.

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Speaker 2: December fifth.

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Speaker 1: I am adding a second show in Denver for those

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Speaker 1: of you who can get tickets to the first one.

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Speaker 1: And on December sixth, I will be coming to Vancouver, Canada. Okay,

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Speaker 1: those are all my dates for the Hide Mighty Door.

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Speaker 1: Go to Chelsea Handler dot com for tickets.

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Speaker 2: Hi there, Hi Catherine.

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Speaker 3: Good morning, Chelsea, Good morning.

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Speaker 4: Hi.

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Speaker 3: We're back in your house.

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Speaker 2: My house has tried to be we would let a candle.

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Speaker 1: Look, guys, we're in my home. It's nice. I supped

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Speaker 1: in about thirteen hours last night.

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Speaker 2: I lost you and crab a say Sianto in crable

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Speaker 2: or Ciano in krable.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Santo, yes, you have something in.

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Speaker 1: Your tooth right there, to the left of your to

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Speaker 2: This one, Yeah, we get it. No, it's right that one.

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Speaker 1: I think it's gone. That should be on camera for sure. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I mean, listen, I do think like a real friend

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Speaker 2: What's going on there.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you have to tell people. I don't even think

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Speaker 3: It's like it's more embarrassing for the person in the moment.

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Speaker 3: But then I mean, I want.

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Speaker 2: Someone to tell me when I have a fucking food

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Speaker 3: I was actually talking to Yamanika's folks yesterday.

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Speaker 2: She's got Comedica's moving in, you guys.

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Speaker 1: I led her sleep with me one night on the

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Speaker 2: Then the next night she's like, that was fun. I

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Speaker 1: It's not fun for you to be fucking sleeping in

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Speaker 1: then now she's sleeping here for Netflix as a joke festival.

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Speaker 1: We'll both be performing you guys May six. Tickets available

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Speaker 1: at Chelsea dot com, Chelseahandler dot jam, Chelseahandler dot jam.

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Speaker 1: And she'll be staying here. And then I fear she'll

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I just got a text from her.

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Speaker 1: We're doing shows this weekend and she said, oh, I

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Speaker 3: I mean that's on purpose.

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Speaker 1: At this point, she wants to be with me, and

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Speaker 3: You don't have Doug there, so you just have to like.

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Speaker 2: They took my advice and all ship. She chickened out.

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Speaker 3: So Stephanie, who had called it on our Josh Radner episode,

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Speaker 1: I just have to tell you now, the thing that

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Speaker 3: Have a toothbrush. I got it, and I want to just.

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Speaker 2: Be on the record. It's more uncomfortable for the telee.

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Speaker 3: Twice, especially when it moves, and it can.

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Speaker 1: Sound like you're kind of like you know, like, uh,

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Speaker 3: And I'm good as Chelsea likes you, bra.

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Speaker 2: Do you think that's the first time I've been called

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Speaker 3: Okay, so Stephanie says, Hi, Chelsea, well I probably still

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Speaker 3: for now it's boundaries and being a supportive friend slash coworker.

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Speaker 3: Stephanie Great's noting that's probably best.

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Speaker 2: She probably saved herself.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like drama and whatever other words go with drama.

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Speaker 3: We all know what that means. That means you up. Yeah, Okay,

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Speaker 3: it's time for some couples counseling with Chelsea. So this

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Speaker 2: Having a lot of heat by the way, for my couples.

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Speaker 3: Oh good dating instagrams.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, a lot of heat between gay guys and gay girls,

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Speaker 1: But were still having problems personally before I put the

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Speaker 3: Well do you know if you you probably do know this,

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Speaker 1: Well, that's all right, that's already.

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Speaker 2: I don't I need that. And I thought you were

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Speaker 3: Fairy or something straight to heaven.

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Speaker 2: Oh well, I wish I believed in that.

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Speaker 3: Well, Miles and Natalie. This is Natalie writing in. She says,

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Speaker 3: Dear Chelsea, my boyfriend and I recently moved in together

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Speaker 3: My boyfriend doesn't like this whatsoever. It's nothing personal toward

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Speaker 3: I totally understand his viewpoint, but you only live once

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Speaker 3: and it really doesn't affect our life, is what I

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Speaker 3: say help Miles and Natalie.

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Speaker 2: Hi, Miles and Natalie? Oh, Hi, Hi? How's it going good?

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Speaker 2: How are you two doing good? So your parents are

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Speaker 2: are hooking up? Yeah? Yes, and Miles, you don't like that.

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Speaker 4: I'm not a fan, No, not at all.

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Speaker 5: And I'm a little bit more on the supportive side.

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Speaker 2: Right.

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Speaker 1: Well, Luckily, it's really not either one of your business,

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Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like, it's really not up

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Speaker 1: up to. And while I understand your discomfort, Miles, I

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Speaker 1: can relate. I just think that, like, let they've got

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Speaker 1: It is cute, but I understand the reluctance in wanting

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Speaker 1: to know the details. And Natalie, you don't have to

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Speaker 2: If he's interested, he'll let you know.

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Speaker 1: And other than that, you've got to just kind of

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Speaker 5: Yeah, they did come over for Easter and we told them,

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Speaker 2: And support their way. That's it.

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Speaker 1: You're not here to judge them, you're not here to

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Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, and now you can double date.

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Speaker 3: Or maybe just like not kiss in front of you

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Speaker 4: Well if they get married, then we'll be step me

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Speaker 1: No, I mean listen, take it for what it is.

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Speaker 2: So let that be it. It's pret hilarious, which is yeah.

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Speaker 2: Thank you. Yes, it's perfect. We love it. You please,

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Speaker 3: That's maybe one of my favorite questions we've gotten in

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Speaker 1: I just love those when older when people die, like

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Speaker 3: Businessespecially if they just lost somebody. They're like, let's make

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Speaker 3: it happen. I like you, you and me, right.

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Speaker 2: Right, that guy's dead. He took him a long time

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Speaker 3: Right right right, Okay, Well, speaking of sex, we have

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Speaker 3: our you want me to have sex. Don't make me blush, Chelsea.

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Speaker 1: Sorry, I'm sorry for hitting on you in the top half.

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Speaker 2: That's indefinite. No, no, no, no, no, you're.

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Speaker 1: I mean it's that's why I can't have a real

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Speaker 2: From it, victim. Notice my use of conviction.

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Speaker 3: That's what they do at jobs when you can't be

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Speaker 3: there anymore. So this question is our Wondering Question of

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Speaker 3: the Day and the title is Closet power bottom needs

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Speaker 2: Dear Chelsea, I believe I'm a power bottom.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I like to be on bottom. I sometimes being on

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Speaker 3: I agree, like you're gonna to fuck me.

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Speaker 2: Fuck me.

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Speaker 3: Men have more muscle quote unquote use it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't understand, like I want to just get fucked.

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Speaker 3: Have you seen this thing online that's like men planking

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Speaker 3: till failure and it can they last? I think it's

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Speaker 2: Now I feel like, yeah, I'm yeah, I want to

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Speaker 2: I'll tap you out.

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Speaker 3: So Charlie says, Dear Chelsea. I'm a twenty seven year

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Speaker 2: Oh is that right? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Of the cost to do what remove it again? M I?

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Speaker 3: I guess like the last person, the last doctor was

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Speaker 3: but I also want to fully enjoy my sex life

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Speaker 3: as a single man. PS. I was at the Netflix

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Speaker 1: Sincerely, well you can come again Netflix A Jokes as

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Speaker 1: a Joke Festival starts again. Say I'm at the Sabam

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Speaker 1: Theater this year. Okay, yes you should. But why does

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Speaker 3: There's a specialist, so it's like not under his insurance.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so it's not under his insurance. I would say

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Speaker 1: I think if something you enjoy, yeah, yeah, that you're

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Speaker 3: Yeah, especially if you're like living comfortably and like you

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Speaker 3: Right?

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Speaker 2: I mean no, maybe there isn't.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe there isn't. But also the specialist would probably

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Speaker 2: So yeah, yeah, I want people to be enjoying themselves.

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Speaker 3: Right, exactly like I think, I think it's definitely worth it. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: If you want advice from Chelsea, write into Dear Chelsea

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Speaker 3: is edited and engineered by Brandon Dickert executive producer Katherine Law.

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