WEBVTT - Ep. 14 — Gifted hands, foolish mind 0:00:04.600 --> 0:00:06.960 I legit just unzipped my skirt because it was getting 0:00:06.960 --> 0:00:07.360 more tight. 0:00:09.840 --> 0:00:13.440 One of those things and a skirt. 0:00:13.480 --> 0:00:14.920 I was like, let me try this skirt on. It 0:00:14.960 --> 0:00:16.560 said okay. But then like you go through the day 0:00:16.560 --> 0:00:17.760 and your body like expands. 0:00:17.800 --> 0:00:26.880 I feel like, anyway, maybe that's too real for our 0:00:26.920 --> 0:00:28.280 audience to hear about. 0:00:29.240 --> 0:00:30.000 Okay, let's go. 0:00:30.520 --> 0:00:35.920 Hey, hey, hey, and we're back Episode fourteen of Brown Ambition. 0:00:36.880 --> 0:00:37.920 Welcome back, everybody. 0:00:39.080 --> 0:00:41.800 Yes, we're back, back back with a heart attack. 0:00:42.320 --> 0:00:46.000 Thanksgiving week. I know, what are you doing? 0:00:46.640 --> 0:00:49.040 I have mixed emotions. Well, I'm gonna my sister. 0:00:49.520 --> 0:00:52.720 She just had a baby, so she's having it Thanksgiving 0:00:52.760 --> 0:00:56.920 at her house for the first time, so excited about 0:00:56.920 --> 0:00:58.240 that Superman will be coming. 0:00:58.280 --> 0:01:01.960 And because she has nothing else to do besides like nothing, 0:01:02.240 --> 0:01:03.920 she has so much free time to like be able 0:01:03.920 --> 0:01:06.759 to you know, serve Thanksgiving dinner, plus a newborn, she. 0:01:06.720 --> 0:01:08.000 Thinks she's just like, I'm not trying to take the 0:01:08.000 --> 0:01:09.360 baby out the house. Come to the house. 0:01:09.480 --> 0:01:10.520 Oh that's that's true. 0:01:10.800 --> 0:01:14.319 Yeah, I'm excited about that. Yeah. 0:01:14.520 --> 0:01:17.119 I mean I always been with like my immediate family, 0:01:17.200 --> 0:01:19.640 like my parents and my sisters. So that's Thanksgiving usually 0:01:19.680 --> 0:01:21.960 and it's always really nice and then I'll like friend 0:01:22.000 --> 0:01:22.520 hop later. 0:01:22.720 --> 0:01:25.120 Do you guys do like a traditional Thanksgiving dinner? Do 0:01:25.120 --> 0:01:26.839 you have Nigerian food? How does that work? 0:01:27.120 --> 0:01:27.559 A mix? 0:01:27.920 --> 0:01:30.319 You know, it's all crazy because being a Nigerian is 0:01:30.360 --> 0:01:32.720 so a part of me that I'm like, I'm like, no, 0:01:32.760 --> 0:01:34.760 it's tonly traditional. Then I'm like, do you even know 0:01:34.800 --> 0:01:38.240 what traditional loans about? So I'm like, y'all don't eat 0:01:38.280 --> 0:01:42.520 a goosey soup. I'm like, well, I'm pretty sure to 0:01:42.560 --> 0:01:44.120 make something like we have a turkey, and of course 0:01:44.120 --> 0:01:47.000 we have we have African food and traditional American food 0:01:47.040 --> 0:01:47.360 as well. 0:01:47.920 --> 0:01:48.600 That sounds good. 0:01:49.200 --> 0:01:49.440 It is. 0:01:50.000 --> 0:01:52.000 I love African food, not that it's all the same, 0:01:52.000 --> 0:01:53.160 but what I've had I've enjoyed. 0:01:54.680 --> 0:01:55.400 Yeah, we're doing. 0:01:55.480 --> 0:01:58.960 I decided to host like a friends giving because this 0:01:59.160 --> 0:02:01.160 is well I have. I've been a home for Thanksgiving 0:02:01.160 --> 0:02:04.280 in like six years, I realized, And lately we've been 0:02:04.320 --> 0:02:08.880 going to my Booze family's house, but they don't eat 0:02:08.919 --> 0:02:11.320 till super late. They're Dominican. I guess that's like a thing. 0:02:11.440 --> 0:02:14.119 It's like comme at seven, we'll eat at eleven kind 0:02:14.120 --> 0:02:17.280 of thing. And I'm just really used to my mom's 0:02:17.360 --> 0:02:20.000 family's Thanksgiving and comm at two and you eat for 0:02:20.040 --> 0:02:22.400 the next like seven hours, and you like sit and 0:02:22.400 --> 0:02:24.600 watch TV. So this year I was like, let me 0:02:24.680 --> 0:02:27.440 just do a real Thanksgiving. And today I decided I'm 0:02:27.440 --> 0:02:29.800 going to do a turkey. And then I started making 0:02:29.800 --> 0:02:32.160 a shopping list and then I added all the sides, 0:02:32.200 --> 0:02:33.760 and then I was like, I'm gonna be broke. And 0:02:33.800 --> 0:02:35.320 then I was like, why am I doing this? And 0:02:35.360 --> 0:02:37.360 I thought about canceling, and then I had like a 0:02:37.400 --> 0:02:42.400 mini heart attack. But I'm working on stress. So I'm 0:02:42.440 --> 0:02:45.040 taking some deep breaths and I'm just gonna do whatever 0:02:45.120 --> 0:02:46.480 I can. I'm going to do the best I can. 0:02:47.000 --> 0:02:48.440 You know, I gotta work, So I'm going to try 0:02:48.440 --> 0:02:51.079 and I'll try and do a turkey some sides. I'm 0:02:51.080 --> 0:02:55.239 not gonna go crazy, and hopefully it'll be fun. Importantly, 0:02:55.320 --> 0:02:57.840 I got all the champagne and the booze, so step 0:02:57.880 --> 0:02:59.239 one is complete. 0:02:59.520 --> 0:03:00.960 And that's what If it all. 0:03:00.880 --> 0:03:05.680 Goes to hell, we will just be consuming cocktails Thanksgiving. 0:03:06.520 --> 0:03:09.600 And so let's jump into buzzworthy. Okay, there's some fun 0:03:09.639 --> 0:03:10.239 stuff this week. 0:03:10.280 --> 0:03:13.079 Did you see the new So everyone went crazy with 0:03:13.120 --> 0:03:17.280 the new Apple commercial with Taraji, Carrie and Mary J. 0:03:17.360 --> 0:03:18.600 Blige. But did you see the new one? 0:03:18.880 --> 0:03:19.079 Yeah? 0:03:19.160 --> 0:03:20.480 Did you hear that Oprah was supposed to be a 0:03:20.520 --> 0:03:23.079 part of the commercial last minute? She was like, actually, no, 0:03:24.800 --> 0:03:27.240 that's what I read. I mean, who knows if it's true, 0:03:27.280 --> 0:03:28.680 but that was the word on the street. I just 0:03:29.120 --> 0:03:29.800 it seems weird. 0:03:29.840 --> 0:03:31.560 I'm like, I can't see Oprah hanging out with that. 0:03:31.639 --> 0:03:33.160 That's what I was just about to say. 0:03:33.520 --> 0:03:36.680 Like, whenever Oprah tries to pretend like she's like tequila, 0:03:37.800 --> 0:03:38.320 I don't. 0:03:38.120 --> 0:03:40.400 Buy it, Like dah, you know, you having like a 0:03:40.520 --> 0:03:42.960 chai tea. You're not sitting bacula, you. 0:03:42.920 --> 0:03:45.280 Know, picking on Unicorn's tears. 0:03:45.520 --> 0:03:46.720 I feel like she's too grown. 0:03:46.840 --> 0:03:49.000 Like not that they're not grown either, but like I 0:03:49.000 --> 0:03:51.200 don't buy the girlfriend vibe from Oprah. 0:03:51.240 --> 0:03:54.040 You know, no, I do, but just not with them. 0:03:54.520 --> 0:03:54.880 Maybe not. 0:03:55.120 --> 0:03:56.880 I barely buy the girlfriend vibe with them. 0:03:56.880 --> 0:04:00.280 With Carrie Washington, I'm like, I don't know Carrie Gina 0:04:00.320 --> 0:04:02.160 when she was well, you know what when she said 0:04:02.160 --> 0:04:04.080 that because in the video they're listening to like salsa 0:04:04.160 --> 0:04:06.400 music or she turns it on because she's like, who 0:04:06.440 --> 0:04:06.800 asked her? 0:04:06.960 --> 0:04:09.040 What makes you feel sexy? Which by the way, I've 0:04:09.080 --> 0:04:12.320 never asked my girlfriend that ever. It's on a natural 0:04:12.400 --> 0:04:14.400 question and she's like, m you. 0:04:14.320 --> 0:04:16.120 Know when you in the Bronx. 0:04:15.840 --> 0:04:18.920 Iber turned on the Mark Anthony and so I was like, 0:04:19.040 --> 0:04:20.520 she from the I knew she went to like a 0:04:20.560 --> 0:04:22.640 prep school. So I googled her real quick and she 0:04:22.680 --> 0:04:25.760 actually did grow up in the Bronx, So she has that. 0:04:26.240 --> 0:04:30.000 Yeah, because even the way, I was like, I'm not 0:04:30.240 --> 0:04:33.080 I'm not believing it, but okay, like Mary at Taraji, 0:04:33.360 --> 0:04:37.520 clearly they read realistic homegirl, Hey, what's up? You know, 0:04:37.680 --> 0:04:40.240 but Carrie, And not to say she's not she doesn't 0:04:40.240 --> 0:04:42.479 seem like a nice woman, but I felt like it 0:04:42.520 --> 0:04:45.080 was slightly the homegirl vibe was slightly forced. 0:04:45.240 --> 0:04:47.440 I did read somewhere that the. 0:04:47.839 --> 0:04:52.240 I don't know CEO CFO whomever said that you know, 0:04:52.400 --> 0:04:56.200 girls are not girls are better at picking out guys. 0:04:56.200 --> 0:04:59.920 Oh yeah, you're thinking about Johnny Ivine or whatever earth 0:05:00.480 --> 0:05:03.320 He owns Apple Music. He's like a famous producer, and 0:05:03.360 --> 0:05:06.320 he said that the quote was something like women don't 0:05:06.360 --> 0:05:07.640 know how to find music. 0:05:07.560 --> 0:05:11.040 Exactly, and I was like, oh, okay, so before this 0:05:11.040 --> 0:05:13.960 whole Apple whatever thing you're pushing, I guess women just 0:05:14.040 --> 0:05:15.920 listen to dead air sank when it. 0:05:15.920 --> 0:05:17.799 Went like, oh my god, like, where is the music? 0:05:18.040 --> 0:05:21.559 I just can't find that. The radio is so hard. 0:05:22.279 --> 0:05:23.719 I think he just put his foot in his mouth. 0:05:23.760 --> 0:05:26.200 You know, he probably came out and apologize even since then, but. 0:05:26.560 --> 0:05:27.480 I just thought that was funny. 0:05:27.480 --> 0:05:29.400 I was just like, well, people say stuff like that 0:05:29.480 --> 0:05:32.280 and they're not whatever it is talking about. I'm like, oh, 0:05:32.320 --> 0:05:35.120 because in your expert, non woman opinion. 0:05:35.240 --> 0:05:35.920 It's the same thing. 0:05:35.960 --> 0:05:36.120 You know. 0:05:36.160 --> 0:05:38.520 I went to this this past week. It was Women 0:05:38.720 --> 0:05:42.000 Entrepreneurship Day, and I had the opportunity to go to 0:05:42.040 --> 0:05:44.400 the United Nations and sit in for the whole day 0:05:44.839 --> 0:05:47.600 long event at different panels, and all these amazing women 0:05:47.720 --> 0:05:51.479 entrepreneurs got up and gave speeches and stuff. And I 0:05:51.560 --> 0:05:54.839 met a guy there who was from this huge investment firm, Massive, 0:05:55.560 --> 0:05:58.200 and we were talking about, you know, introducing ourselves, talking 0:05:58.279 --> 0:05:59.960 about investing. I was like, well, so what brings you here, 0:06:00.080 --> 0:06:02.080 like the one dude in the entire audience, and he's like, 0:06:02.640 --> 0:06:04.440 you know, my firm is really trying to figure out 0:06:04.480 --> 0:06:07.040 how to attract more women, you know, because women are 0:06:07.040 --> 0:06:09.279 so they you know, don't like investing and they're so 0:06:09.360 --> 0:06:11.640 afraid to kind of like put their money in the market. 0:06:11.880 --> 0:06:14.760 And right then I was like, like, I really hate 0:06:14.800 --> 0:06:18.480 that that whole notion of like, oh, women aren't investing 0:06:18.480 --> 0:06:20.120 because they're afraid, or they don't know how to, or 0:06:20.120 --> 0:06:23.159 they're not confident. I feel like that may be true 0:06:23.200 --> 0:06:25.479 in some aspects, but when you keep on, like when 0:06:25.480 --> 0:06:28.880 you keep proliferating that stereotype or putting that out there, 0:06:29.360 --> 0:06:32.120 it just, yeah, it just everyone starts believing it, and 0:06:32.120 --> 0:06:34.040 then soon enough it becomes like, oh, yeah, women just 0:06:34.080 --> 0:06:34.920 are bad with money. 0:06:35.200 --> 0:06:35.760 Yeah. 0:06:35.800 --> 0:06:39.080 And the truth of the matter is, I mean, honestly, 0:06:39.120 --> 0:06:42.400 with what I do with the budgetista, women asking or 0:06:42.480 --> 0:06:46.640 wanting to invest is the number one request outside of 0:06:46.680 --> 0:06:49.279 like savings and like a little bit of credit stuff. 0:06:49.320 --> 0:06:52.120 But almost every woman it's like, so I really want 0:06:52.120 --> 0:06:54.160 to invest. It's not even a matter of like, oh, 0:06:54.160 --> 0:06:54.880 I'm afraid. 0:06:54.640 --> 0:06:55.119 Of the market. 0:06:55.160 --> 0:06:57.920 It's just you know, like you said, there's this lack 0:06:57.960 --> 0:07:02.280 of to mere a lack of knowledge. It's because there's 0:07:02.320 --> 0:07:06.000 a lack of pointed education in this direction, and. 0:07:05.960 --> 0:07:08.479 Women are quicker to women are quicker to admit that 0:07:08.520 --> 0:07:10.800 they have a lack of knowledge yep, and to ask 0:07:10.840 --> 0:07:13.040 those questions. And also I was telling him, I was like, 0:07:13.040 --> 0:07:15.640 why focus why put on the focus on finding women 0:07:15.720 --> 0:07:17.640 and trying to figure out how to teach your mostly 0:07:17.720 --> 0:07:21.000 male advisors, because let's not get it twisted, like financial 0:07:21.000 --> 0:07:24.160 advisors as an industry. Financial advisory firms as an industry 0:07:24.520 --> 0:07:28.480 are crazy, crazily skewed toward men as advisors and like 0:07:28.520 --> 0:07:31.320 hardly any women at all. And I said, if you want, like, 0:07:31.360 --> 0:07:34.120 stop trying to teach your male advisors how to speak 0:07:34.160 --> 0:07:37.720 to women and just focus on recruiting more women. 0:07:38.320 --> 0:07:39.000 Yep, it's like. 0:07:38.920 --> 0:07:42.040 Advisors, like you ever see those commercials and it's so 0:07:42.120 --> 0:07:44.480 clear that there was not a brown face around the table, 0:07:44.560 --> 0:07:47.679 and they're like, the commercial will open up with Jamal 0:07:47.880 --> 0:07:48.400 and he's. 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:49.960 Like yo, yo, yo, what up? Yo? 0:07:50.680 --> 0:07:53.360 Have a cod man? And you're like, who in the world. 0:07:54.480 --> 0:07:57.640 You're like, clearly there was no Jamal present at the 0:07:57.640 --> 0:08:00.160 table when you guys were deciding about this commercial, like 0:08:00.200 --> 0:08:05.880 the song that they chosen, it's so clear that you're like, what, 0:08:06.000 --> 0:08:08.400 nobody even listens to music like that anymore? Just like 0:08:08.720 --> 0:08:11.240 when you said Carrie was like what makes you feel sexy? 0:08:11.560 --> 0:08:13.520 Like women don't talk like that? Was there no woman 0:08:13.560 --> 0:08:15.480 writer available to help you with that line. 0:08:15.600 --> 0:08:18.040 Well, Apa di Verne supposedly directed, and I love her, 0:08:18.080 --> 0:08:19.440 but that was an awkward little line. 0:08:19.640 --> 0:08:20.760 Yeah. I know. 0:08:20.880 --> 0:08:22.960 Sometimes I just think to myself that, like, you're right, 0:08:23.000 --> 0:08:26.160 instead of trying to get people to figure out, well, 0:08:26.200 --> 0:08:28.120 how do we reach that audience, why don't you find 0:08:28.160 --> 0:08:29.640 that audience to reach that audience? 0:08:29.800 --> 0:08:31.680 Yeah, I mean that's where we are. Don't expect us 0:08:31.720 --> 0:08:33.240 to come to your level or wherever you want. 0:08:33.160 --> 0:08:33.480 Us to be. 0:08:46.640 --> 0:08:49.640 Well, speaking of Carrie, and I'm going to segue into 0:08:49.679 --> 0:08:53.080 like the shondaland Shonda rhymes. First of all, Shanna Rhymes. 0:08:53.080 --> 0:08:54.720 His new book is out Year of Yes, and I 0:08:54.760 --> 0:08:56.640 have it. I can't wait to read it. But I 0:08:56.640 --> 0:09:00.320 wanted to talk about Carrie Washington and scandalous past week. 0:09:00.320 --> 0:09:01.079 Do you watch Scandal? 0:09:01.920 --> 0:09:04.000 Yeah? On occasion, so I don't want to. 0:09:04.160 --> 0:09:05.640 This is a This is a huge spoiler. 0:09:05.840 --> 0:09:09.120 So if you are listening and you haven't watched this 0:09:09.240 --> 0:09:14.480 latest episode of Scandal, please fast forward on the podcast 0:09:14.559 --> 0:09:16.640 a couple of minutes because I have to talk about 0:09:16.640 --> 0:09:19.000 this scene in the latest episode. 0:09:19.040 --> 0:09:20.560 Do you mind, Tiffany if I spoil it for you? 0:09:20.640 --> 0:09:20.840 Yeah? 0:09:20.840 --> 0:09:22.400 No, that's fine, And I don't watch it like that. 0:09:22.440 --> 0:09:23.480 So I stopped watching. 0:09:23.600 --> 0:09:25.880 Honestly, I haven't watched the past five episodes because I'm 0:09:25.880 --> 0:09:27.880 so sick of the whole like love triangle, in the 0:09:27.920 --> 0:09:30.040 back and forth. I get exhausted by it between her 0:09:30.080 --> 0:09:33.640 and the president fits. But I saw a couple of 0:09:33.679 --> 0:09:36.360 headlines that got me to catch up and watch the 0:09:36.400 --> 0:09:40.000 latest episode, which involved from what I read, I knew 0:09:40.000 --> 0:09:43.559 it was gonna involve an abortion scene. I saw a scandal, 0:09:43.679 --> 0:09:47.000 you know, dramatic abortion scene, must watch or whatever. I 0:09:47.040 --> 0:09:49.360 didn't realize how they were going to do it, and 0:09:49.640 --> 0:09:52.120 the way that they did it is so Carrie Washington. 0:09:52.160 --> 0:09:57.200 Her character Olivia Pope has an abortion at the but 0:09:57.320 --> 0:09:59.080 the way they did it was so unique. I don't 0:09:59.080 --> 0:10:01.640 know if you've ever watched any of Shanda's other shows, 0:10:01.640 --> 0:10:06.400 like Grey's Anatomy, she handled abortion. In an early season 0:10:06.400 --> 0:10:09.440 of Grey's Anatomy, one of her characters, Christina Yang, decides 0:10:09.480 --> 0:10:11.360 to have an abortion, and it was like a huge, 0:10:11.480 --> 0:10:17.479 like arc storyline. You know, she's an established doctor, very wealthy. Obviously, 0:10:17.840 --> 0:10:22.480 she's almost engaged practically to another head of surgery man 0:10:22.559 --> 0:10:24.600 and he wants to have kids so badly and it's 0:10:24.600 --> 0:10:26.240 like a back and forth because she does not want 0:10:26.280 --> 0:10:28.280 to have kids, and they follow it for a few 0:10:28.320 --> 0:10:30.760 episodes and it says huge, drawn out thing, and finally 0:10:30.840 --> 0:10:31.720 she decides, I'm going to. 0:10:31.760 --> 0:10:35.200 Have the abortion. I thought it was really powerful. She 0:10:35.280 --> 0:10:36.840 did the exact opposite. 0:10:36.400 --> 0:10:40.920 This time with Scandal, So Carrie, like, the entire episode 0:10:40.960 --> 0:10:43.600 goes by and nothing's happening. I'm like, where's the abortion 0:10:43.640 --> 0:10:45.640 at She's not even pregnant. No one even knows she's pregnant, Like, 0:10:45.640 --> 0:10:48.880 when's it gonna happen. Well, it turns out like three 0:10:48.960 --> 0:10:51.280 quarters of the way through, all you see is Olivia 0:10:51.440 --> 0:10:53.680 just in a doctor's office and the doctor's like, you 0:10:53.679 --> 0:10:57.000 can come back now. And as the song Silent Night 0:10:57.320 --> 0:11:00.319 and Ave Maria is playing, you see her going through 0:11:00.360 --> 0:11:04.319 the procedure and there's no conversation. She's not talking to 0:11:04.920 --> 0:11:08.440 you know, her lover fits about it. And it was 0:11:08.640 --> 0:11:10.720 just no matter what your beliefs about abortion art, it 0:11:10.760 --> 0:11:15.920 was just a really striking and like surprisingly like realistic 0:11:16.040 --> 0:11:18.680 image of what it is for a woman to go 0:11:18.760 --> 0:11:21.000 through that decision. And I just thought it was And 0:11:21.120 --> 0:11:23.720 especially since Olivia represents to so many women like a 0:11:23.800 --> 0:11:26.560 powerful woman like owns her own business. 0:11:26.679 --> 0:11:29.839 It's like very powerful in her career. I thought it was. 0:11:30.240 --> 0:11:32.560 I thought it was a really interesting way of approaching 0:11:32.600 --> 0:11:35.199 the subject and being true to the character of who 0:11:35.240 --> 0:11:35.600 she is. 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:39.240 Is she did she tell Fits that she was pregnant. 0:11:39.440 --> 0:11:41.560 No, it happens. I'm not even kidding. 0:11:41.600 --> 0:11:44.160 Like the whole episode, it kind of foreshadows it because 0:11:44.200 --> 0:11:47.920 in the beginning, one of the senators is filibustering, where 0:11:47.920 --> 0:11:49.560 you stand up there for six you know, stand up 0:11:49.600 --> 0:11:51.800 there for hours, and you talk until the clock runs 0:11:51.800 --> 0:11:53.560 out on the voting for a bill to get the 0:11:53.559 --> 0:11:55.679 bill from being passed. And this particular bill was going 0:11:55.720 --> 0:11:59.840 to defund planned parented, which is very like of today's 0:12:00.240 --> 0:12:02.880 you know this almost happened or this you know almost 0:12:02.920 --> 0:12:06.760 happened a month ago. And as so you're hearing this senator, 0:12:06.800 --> 0:12:09.320 you know, protesting this bill about defunding planned parenthood and 0:12:09.400 --> 0:12:12.240 like women's rights to you know, proper health care. 0:12:12.720 --> 0:12:13.880 And then three quarters the. 0:12:13.880 --> 0:12:16.679 Way through, like it just flips to Olivia going to 0:12:16.280 --> 0:12:21.320 the doctor. I mean, it's not playing parenthood and getting 0:12:21.320 --> 0:12:24.200 the abortion, and she doesn't tell Fits, and there's I mean, 0:12:24.240 --> 0:12:25.440 who knows what's going to happen next? 0:12:25.440 --> 0:12:28.440 Episode, and that was the only like. 0:12:28.440 --> 0:12:31.720 I am, I'm clearly pro choice. I know women who've 0:12:31.720 --> 0:12:35.920 had abortions, and I know women who have I think 0:12:35.920 --> 0:12:39.040 it's important to show an abortion story that's not just 0:12:39.640 --> 0:12:42.600 someone who's been raped or someone who's poor, or someone's 0:12:42.600 --> 0:12:45.480 who's like thirteen years old, and like, you show a 0:12:45.520 --> 0:12:49.320 real woman who's like established, has a career on paper, 0:12:50.000 --> 0:12:52.160 has every reason to like be able to bring a 0:12:52.240 --> 0:12:55.200 child into the world, and yet makes the decision not to. 0:12:55.720 --> 0:12:58.320 And I think that that is it's really important to 0:12:58.360 --> 0:13:03.080 show that because those women do exist, and so often 0:13:03.640 --> 0:13:07.400 abortion is like talked about along the lines of like, oh, it's. 0:13:07.280 --> 0:13:09.800 Okay if you follow, if you take these boxes. 0:13:09.840 --> 0:13:13.160 You know, yeah, I said, you mean, so I really. 0:13:13.000 --> 0:13:15.559 Appreciate Shanda for doing that, and I mean, it'll be 0:13:15.600 --> 0:13:19.280 all kinds of crazy controversy about it, but and you know, 0:13:19.600 --> 0:13:21.280 I think my only you. 0:13:21.240 --> 0:13:22.720 Know, I'm not even gonna judge. You know, I have 0:13:22.800 --> 0:13:23.520 my own thoughts about it. 0:13:23.559 --> 0:13:26.080 But honestly, if you've never been in that position before 0:13:26.120 --> 0:13:29.240 where you're you know, you're just deciding to have an abortion, 0:13:30.000 --> 0:13:31.760 you can't I can't even judge. 0:13:31.760 --> 0:13:32.480 She's a fake character. 0:13:32.559 --> 0:13:34.319 She's not real, but I can't judge Olivia for the 0:13:34.360 --> 0:13:37.920 way she did it because it is like her choice. 0:13:38.200 --> 0:13:38.480 Yeah. 0:13:38.600 --> 0:13:41.960 Yeah, I mean I feel what you're saying about, like 0:13:42.000 --> 0:13:44.080 the way certain things are portrayed, like, oh, this is 0:13:44.120 --> 0:13:47.120 the only way that you can make that choice. And 0:13:47.320 --> 0:13:49.760 I haven't been placed in that choice. I mean I've 0:13:49.760 --> 0:13:54.120 known friends who have been and you know, and I'm trying. 0:13:53.920 --> 0:13:55.160 To think of that. I know, any friend that kind 0:13:55.160 --> 0:13:56.920 of just chose, oh, I don't really want to have kids. 0:13:57.240 --> 0:13:59.240 Maybe so, but they probably haven't told because you're right, 0:13:59.240 --> 0:14:01.920 that's considered like why would you make that choice. 0:14:01.920 --> 0:14:04.520 You're supposed to only make it under duress, basically, you. 0:14:04.480 --> 0:14:06.080 Know, so hard for people to understand. 0:14:06.160 --> 0:14:08.360 Yeah, yeah, And you know, there's studies that show that 0:14:08.440 --> 0:14:11.280 most women who have not most, but like a good 0:14:11.320 --> 0:14:14.319 proportion of women who have abortions have already had kids 0:14:14.520 --> 0:14:17.760 and they're older and they're like, I just don't want it anymore. Yeah, 0:14:17.800 --> 0:14:20.640 And I'm like, what's wrong with that? So I just 0:14:20.720 --> 0:14:23.400 love I just feel like like Grey's Anatomy is still 0:14:23.400 --> 0:14:24.960 so relevant. I know it's been around for one hundred 0:14:25.000 --> 0:14:27.680 million years, but Shanna Rhimes is still working it. That 0:14:27.720 --> 0:14:29.840 show is so relevant. I feel like Scandal to me 0:14:30.440 --> 0:14:32.920 has gotten me back interested all of a sudden, because like, 0:14:33.000 --> 0:14:34.480 I was so sick of the Love Triangle. 0:14:34.760 --> 0:14:36.000 Now I am kind of sick of that. You know, 0:14:36.040 --> 0:14:38.520 it's very novel TV novella. You're like, all right, it's 0:14:38.520 --> 0:14:40.600 a little bit wild. I used to Actually what I 0:14:40.680 --> 0:14:42.840 liked about Scandal, like, of course, you know, we all 0:14:42.920 --> 0:14:45.280 kind of like the love Triangle at first, But what 0:14:45.360 --> 0:14:48.160 I liked was like, you know, the individual cases, like ooh, 0:14:48.240 --> 0:14:49.360 how she gonna solve this one? 0:14:49.400 --> 0:14:50.240 I enjoyed those. 0:14:50.520 --> 0:14:51.680 They finally get back to that. 0:14:51.960 --> 0:14:54.000 Yeah, I'm like, please bring that back, you know. 0:14:54.080 --> 0:14:55.800 To me, the love Triangle is supposed to be like 0:14:56.280 --> 0:15:00.520 a background to the actual like almost like what is it? 0:15:00.600 --> 0:15:01.400 Like? Uh? 0:15:02.200 --> 0:15:03.640 Those like cop shows that every. 0:15:03.680 --> 0:15:05.880 Like there's literally like a thousand spin offs of this 0:15:05.960 --> 0:15:08.400 one cop show, the New York New York Undercover. 0:15:08.560 --> 0:15:11.840 What did they say? No, not Law and Order? 0:15:12.200 --> 0:15:14.560 You know, like how the reason one of the reasons 0:15:14.600 --> 0:15:16.840 why it's so successful. 0:15:16.280 --> 0:15:18.960 Is that each show it's like a brand new breadth 0:15:19.000 --> 0:15:19.600 of air. 0:15:19.440 --> 0:15:21.800 You know, right, And so like I'm kind of I 0:15:21.840 --> 0:15:24.600 kind of like that about Shonda's show that it was like, oh, okay, 0:15:24.920 --> 0:15:27.080 it's a brand new show. Yes, there's some remnants of 0:15:27.120 --> 0:15:29.640 the old show with his love triangle, but basically we're 0:15:29.640 --> 0:15:30.720 solving this issue. 0:15:30.920 --> 0:15:33.120 Yeah, I think you can skip the last four episodes, 0:15:33.200 --> 0:15:36.120 just watch this latest one and then start again, because oh, 0:15:36.320 --> 0:15:38.440 I was like, come on, I just see fits in 0:15:38.520 --> 0:15:41.360 his little whip whip quivering and like him just crying 0:15:41.360 --> 0:15:43.840 about his lady's trip. Like can you imagine Obama sitting 0:15:43.880 --> 0:15:46.440 around and like calling his girlfriend like he doesn't have 0:15:46.480 --> 0:15:48.760 time or that. I just cannot imagine Obama with time 0:15:48.840 --> 0:15:50.440 for like this crazy love triangle. 0:15:50.720 --> 0:15:52.800 Yeah, yeah, exactly, it's just crazy. 0:15:53.080 --> 0:15:56.280 Well thanks, Shonda, You're the best. You're the best, You 0:15:56.440 --> 0:15:57.800 the best girl. 0:15:57.840 --> 0:16:08.600 You got it. 0:16:08.840 --> 0:16:13.120 So brown break, Brown break, Brown break. 0:16:13.600 --> 0:16:16.720 What you're gonna do, what you're gonna do when we 0:16:16.880 --> 0:16:18.920 break for you? So first I gotta find it. 0:16:18.960 --> 0:16:23.000 So I have this Facebook group online called like Dreamcatchers. 0:16:23.040 --> 0:16:26.960 It's just basically like all my my whole tribe basically 0:16:27.040 --> 0:16:29.080 for the budgetizza, like people who are like wanting to 0:16:29.080 --> 0:16:33.160 get on financial tracks, mostly women, mostly Brown girls, and 0:16:33.200 --> 0:16:36.640 it's pretty dope it excepts so they have been like 0:16:36.720 --> 0:16:38.720 addicted to this thing called the money mantra. 0:16:38.760 --> 0:16:40.560 Have you heard of the money money mantra Mandy. 0:16:40.800 --> 0:16:43.160 No, oh, that was like an that was like a 0:16:43.200 --> 0:16:49.800 tongue twister money mantra Mandy. So anyway, the money mantra, 0:16:49.800 --> 0:16:52.240 I'm gonna try to find it. And it's so funny 0:16:52.280 --> 0:16:56.560 because I always forget, like how I want money Mandy 0:16:56.840 --> 0:17:02.000 in my computer. It's funny because I forget sometimes that 0:17:02.520 --> 0:17:07.600 my world's combined. And so someone in the group, because 0:17:07.600 --> 0:17:09.280 I had talked about the money mantra, how I'm kind 0:17:09.280 --> 0:17:11.520 of sick of it, and someone in the group was like, uh, 0:17:11.560 --> 0:17:13.560 you should totally make the money matcha your brown break. 0:17:13.560 --> 0:17:16.560 I was like, what you know about the brom But like, 0:17:16.600 --> 0:17:17.640 what is it though? 0:17:18.200 --> 0:17:22.159 So it's this mantra that you Basically it says I, 0:17:22.160 --> 0:17:25.480 I'm a money magnet. I attract money and money attracts me. 0:17:25.640 --> 0:17:27.760 So it's just basically like, you know, a positive affirmation. 0:17:27.920 --> 0:17:28.600 It's a secret. 0:17:29.040 --> 0:17:29.280 Yeah. 0:17:29.359 --> 0:17:32.639 So, which there's nothing wrong with that except the women. 0:17:32.720 --> 0:17:35.800 At first, I call them the dream catchers. At first, 0:17:35.800 --> 0:17:37.640 the dreamcatchers in the group would use it and say, oh, 0:17:37.640 --> 0:17:39.879 I said the money mantra today just to get myself 0:17:39.920 --> 0:17:43.159 going and pumped up great. And then it became like 0:17:43.240 --> 0:17:46.840 the secret witch spell. It was like people would say, 0:17:46.960 --> 0:17:48.879 I said the money mantra and a check came in 0:17:48.960 --> 0:17:51.320