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Speaker 1: here it is strawberry alright. Subject should I overlook his

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Speaker 1: trust issues? Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a thirty two year

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Speaker 1: to my eye one night. When we met. He was

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Speaker 1: here's the dilemma. He is extremely jealous. Any missteps on

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Speaker 1: he starts to act crazy. He goes into a fit

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Speaker 1: jealous and insecure behavior. It's crazy, jealous and insecure behavior

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Speaker 1: breaks my heart. I never even considered cheating on him.

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Speaker 1: What can I do to get this man to trust me?

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Speaker 1: This really sucks? Please advise, you are so correct. This

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Speaker 1: does really suck. But please know that this has absolutely

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Speaker 1: nothing to do with you. All Right, this tall, dark

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Speaker 1: and handsome loser is insecure and he's controlling. He's taking

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Speaker 1: it out all on you. He's taking all of this

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Speaker 1: you know, with the with the training program, helping him

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Speaker 1: the thanks you get. How dare he treats you like this? Uh?

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Speaker 1: You know by being so ungrateful. I just say to you, please,

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Speaker 1: don't let his bad behavior to start you to you know,

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Speaker 1: to be less confident, have it start taking away your shine.

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Speaker 1: I don't think no man is worth going through all

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Speaker 1: of this. You ask, what can you do to get

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Speaker 1: him to treat you, to trust you? You're doing it,

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Speaker 1: and you've done it. Okay, what else can you do?

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Speaker 1: I mean, you don't have to do anything else. I

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Speaker 1: think you've done quite enough. I'm concerned that he can

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Speaker 1: get violent with this abusive behavior that he's displaying. If

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Speaker 1: since you're your yourself are only thirty two. Uh. They're

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Speaker 1: Don't nobody see these letters like me? I like to

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Speaker 1: going on. Should overlook his trust issues? The beginning of

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Speaker 1: the letters quite clear to me. I'm a thirty two

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Speaker 1: bananas from the moment we met. That's a young term.

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Speaker 1: It's bananas. It's bananas. That's a young term. The chemistry

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Speaker 1: It just ain't a good look when your relationship in

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Speaker 1: chemistry is bananas. That's all it is. H Ain't nobody

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Speaker 1: it ain't there yet it's just bananas, all right. He

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Speaker 1: Yeah that's five. That's big. Give him some credit to

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Speaker 1: I've explained to you why I was so good, because

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Speaker 1: You ain't got to wonder why the sector was so

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Speaker 1: somewhere to stay. He in here. Humping for homes a

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Speaker 1: Come on, King of comedy, yourself. Steve this letter talking

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Speaker 1: She's been in love with. Chemistry was bananas, just bananas

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Speaker 1: So I'm absolutely fine, ma'am. How are you people? I

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Speaker 1: let's quit talking about this training program and career you got. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you took him down there, You took him down there. Know,

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Speaker 1: He says, really hurt for things. He's called me a

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Speaker 1: be a hare, a slut, and he accuses me of

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Speaker 1: I never even considered cheating on him. What can I

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Speaker 1: You can't get this man to trust you if you've

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Speaker 1: can you do? You're not doing anything wrong and he

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Speaker 1: You're dealing with the person with some serious issues. Well,

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Speaker 1: and handsome, and he was available. But is this outstanding man?

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Speaker 1: He was unemployed. He was staying at his grandmama's house.

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Speaker 1: His mama even told him, you can't stay That's why

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Speaker 1: he's getting good sex, but he's also getting a place

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Speaker 1: to come to get the key to getting the key

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Speaker 1: he's never had that. He had that with his wife

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Speaker 1: it's just two people, pretty people in that house. This

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Speaker 1: situation because this is not a win win. See, regaining

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Speaker 1: a person's trust is one thing. Having a person's trust

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Speaker 1: and you've done and done nothing to get his mistrust

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Speaker 1: You've done nothing wrong, so what do you have nothing

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Speaker 1: to fix? You're trying to fix something that shouldn't even

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Speaker 1: require fixing because it ain't broke. But he accusing you

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Speaker 1: this because he's talking about his ex messing with his

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