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Speaker 1: The Fresh Show is on. It's stay or go the way.

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Speaker 1: It's the same way about vacation spot. Someone texted that too, like,

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Speaker 1: that's terrible when you say this, this happened to my mom.

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Speaker 1: My mom was like, my dream trip is x y

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Speaker 1: Z no joke. Her best friend took the trip without

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Speaker 1: her YEPI wow, yeah, took her entire family on the

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Speaker 1: exec trip that my mom specified was her dream trip,

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Speaker 1: and then didn't invite her to come alone doing that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, no, not that this woman had any obligation to

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Speaker 1: pay for her whatever she You could have at least said,

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Speaker 1: wan't you this is your dream trip, we're planning it.

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Speaker 1: But I got the inspiration from you. Why don't you

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Speaker 1: join us? You know, pay your own way or whatever,

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Speaker 1: but why don't you join us?

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Speaker 3: Your mom gave her that idea.

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, yes, So it's the same thing. It was

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Speaker 1: a very very similar thing where it's like, well, wait, man,

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Speaker 1: that was that's my dream. Why are you doing it?

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Speaker 1: I told you about him? Hi, Rebecca, good morning.

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Speaker 4: Good morning, How are you good?

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Speaker 3: Thanks?

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Speaker 2: How are you guys doing? Do great?

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Speaker 1: Thanks for being part of the show. Says there Ago,

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Speaker 1: it's kind of like group therapy here. You you've been

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Speaker 1: married to this man.

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Speaker 2: I don't know for how long.

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Speaker 1: I'm not even sure if that's relevant, but you're you're

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Speaker 1: a married woman and you're having an issue within your relationships.

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Speaker 2: So what's going on?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, thanks so much. It's so, here's the thing. My

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Speaker 4: husband and I have been married ten years, and we've

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Speaker 4: got two kids, and he's he's been working downtown for

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Speaker 4: quite a while, and of course, with the kids and

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Speaker 2: A lot of that.

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Speaker 4: So you know, he's started to look at the idea

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Speaker 4: he needs to stay in because the community's gotten really long.

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Speaker 4: It's over an hour each way, and it's just you know,

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Speaker 4: takes a lot out of him, and it's expensive and

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Speaker 4: all of those things. So you know, it's something we

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Speaker 4: really can't consider moving right now because the kids are

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Speaker 4: in school and that's just not really a feasible option.

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Speaker 4: And you know, he's doing well enough, we're in good shape.

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Speaker 4: We could really afford to either buy or rent another place.

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Speaker 4: But the only thing that's kind of you know, it

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Speaker 4: all sounds great, but you know, with things going on

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Speaker 4: these days, all of a sudden I had this, you know,

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Speaker 4: question came up in my mind. I'm wondering, is this

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Speaker 2: Is it normally?

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Speaker 4: Is what people are doing now because they can.

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Speaker 1: So this dude's you know, spending what ten plus hours

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Speaker 1: I'm just going to not do that every day and

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Speaker 1: he just saying like certain days because this is I've heard.

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Speaker 2: Of this happening.

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Speaker 4: Sometimes it just you know, something comes up, it's a

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and well, yeah, I know of I actually know

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Speaker 1: of a guy who used to do this. He lived

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Speaker 1: So the idea, I mean, even if he did go home,

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Speaker 1: I think it was Mondays and Fridays from home, and

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Speaker 1: So I don't people are texting immediately it's a red flag.

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Speaker 1: I'm not sure that inherently it's a red flag. Now

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Speaker 1: I have to ask the question, Rebecca, is there anything

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Speaker 1: any other reason to suspect that he.

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Speaker 2: Was up to something?

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Speaker 4: No, I don't really think so. I mean, he used

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Speaker 4: so I know what that kind of time away is

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Speaker 4: like too. So you know, it's it's kind of just,

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Speaker 4: you know, you hear things in the minute. You sort

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Speaker 4: of say, you know, to a friend, oh, you know,

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Speaker 4: John's thinking maybe we should get a place in the city.

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Speaker 4: And then I, you know, we and the kids and

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Speaker 4: I saw an eyebrow goal office ask why. So you know,

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Speaker 4: it's just I don't know why somebody else would even

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Speaker 4: plant that seed. But you know, all of a sudden,

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Speaker 1: Because because I guess if it went from Okay, I'm

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Speaker 1: so then I'm staying down there for a whole week

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Speaker 1: and all I got to stay for the weekend too.

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Speaker 2: You know if it if it turns into that, which.

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Speaker 3: It will, yes, it will.

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Speaker 2: What we don't know.

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Speaker 1: I'm a conspiracy theorist here, and I don't know that

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Speaker 1: it necessarily does. I Look, if he's got money like

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Speaker 1: Like if you got the money like that and he's

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Speaker 1: and he's that successful that I don't necessarily think this

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Speaker 1: is a red flag in and of itself, Kiki, How

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but he's not on the road.

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Speaker 2: He's not on the road.

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Speaker 5: And if you have this much money and income, then

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Speaker 5: move your family closer to your job. But she just

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Speaker 5: get another job or sit in traffic. I feel like

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Speaker 5: letting him stay out of his home is a big

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Speaker 5: flag because it starts with okay, he's gonna spend the night.

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Speaker 5: The next thing you know, the door dash lady's getting

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Speaker 2: Person as a.

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Speaker 1: Person who doesn't leave his home and is hoping that

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Speaker 1: because that's the only way I'm going to meet somebody.

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Speaker 1: It hasn't happened yet in a lot of years and

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Speaker 1: a lot of orders. Okay, look what if they just

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Speaker 3: I don't like it. Prolena, you are married one?

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Speaker 3: I sure am.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well he goes to the quote unquote firehouse.

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Speaker 3: He has to sleep there. He has no choice, save

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Speaker 3: it lives, right.

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Speaker 2: Okay, But I don't know what if we found out.

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Speaker 3: I was a choice.

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Speaker 1: So there's any number of things. I'm picking up a

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Speaker 7: I don't think that this is a cheating situation. I

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Speaker 7: just I just see it as the mental load is

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Speaker 7: gonna fall way more unrepbutd I don't know if you work, Rebecca,

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Speaker 7: But I see it as like, Okay, it's not a vacation,

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Speaker 7: but it's a vacation if dad gets to be away

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Speaker 7: at the end of the day, yes, he doesn't see

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Speaker 7: and everything's gonna fall on Rebecca.

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Speaker 2: You know, I've heard that argument before.

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Speaker 3: Oh but it's real, that's real.

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Speaker 1: And I know a lot of folks that wish they

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Speaker 1: they don't get to do it.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, and I'm no, I'm not discrediting anything he's doing

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Speaker 7: because he's making a sacrifice too.

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Speaker 3: Parenting is sacrifice.

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Speaker 7: It's a lot of sacrifices, whether you're at home, you're working, whatever,

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Speaker 7: it's all sacrifice. But what I'm saying is that there's

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Speaker 7: sure it's hurting him. I'm sure it bothers him. Like

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Speaker 7: he's a father, I'm sure he wants to see his

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Speaker 7: kids go to practice and dribble the ball and do

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Speaker 7: all these things. I'm sure he wants to see that,

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Speaker 7: but he can't as of right now with his job situation,

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Speaker 7: he can't do that, he can't be there, but he

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Speaker 7: still needs to come home at night and still be

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Speaker 7: a husband still, you know, be a part of this household,

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Speaker 7: because I do believe even though he works full time,

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Speaker 8: Oh my god, no it's not I I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Like I have a friend who's a pilot, and he's

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Speaker 6: You know.

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Speaker 2: Do you want me to sit in my room for

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Speaker 6: You know?

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Speaker 1: But but like yet I'm sending you, you know, the

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Speaker 3: Exactly, that's a good man.

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Speaker 2: Exactly a good man.

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Speaker 1: That's exactly the opposite of what you were just complaining about. No,

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Speaker 1: I'm not He is not discrediting what she does. So

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Speaker 7: I don't think that Rebecca, our caller, is discrediting her husband.

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Speaker 7: I just think that she, in my opinion, would prefer

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Speaker 3: I know it's hard. The commune is a pain in

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Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying. They're sacrifices. But I still think

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Speaker 7: He doesn't live in a different city that's different, then

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Speaker 1: Hey Lindsey, Yeah, high Lindsay, good morning. Hey what'd you

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Speaker 9: So, I don't think it's a go situation. I think

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Speaker 9: me having three children and my husband leaving before, Like,

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Speaker 9: But if he doesn't come home and kids his kids

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Speaker 9: would be a problem. But yeah, he he you know,

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Speaker 9: he provides, He brings home the money, she does all

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Speaker 9: It's not like he's in a different state. He should

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Speaker 9: you're a family, You're a unit. You come home and

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Speaker 9: whether they're sleeping or not.

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Speaker 2: Fair enough. Thank you, Lindsey, Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Have a good daybody, Yes, thank you you too. Hi Phil,

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Speaker 1: Good morning Phil.

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Speaker 2: How you doing.

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Speaker 6: I'm good. How are you guys?

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Speaker 2: Hey, I'm doing great. If you just tuned in.

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Speaker 1: This woman is concerned or once to know if she

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Speaker 2: What do you think?

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Speaker 6: So I've been doing this for fifteen years. I have

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Speaker 6: But we have four kids, we've been married for twenty

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Speaker 6: because those kids are going to be grown up and

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Speaker 6: If they've got the money and it's only an hour,

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Speaker 6: if it was three hours, I would say, yeah, absolutely,

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Speaker 6: I've seen a lot of guys try this and what

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's an issue. Obviously, that would be a serious issue.

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Speaker 6: When it gets doing this. But given the fact that

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Speaker 6: And so he needs to prioritize it, and he needs

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Speaker 6: But you know what, he's going to be at home

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Speaker 2: Thank you, Phil, that's a good idea. Thanks man. Have

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Speaker 2: a good day that a life coach. It feels good.

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Speaker 3: I'mired.

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Speaker 1: I just my issue is if the argument is that

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Speaker 1: I don't necessarily think that's the reason not to do this,

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Speaker 1: It's like, just because he has a place in the

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Speaker 2: That's not necessarily know And.

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Speaker 1: If they can establish boundaries again, you know, ground rules

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Speaker 1: Maybe under these circumstances for these things, if they can

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Speaker 2: I don't know, that's not fair. Hey, missy, hey, I

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Speaker 2: What'd you want to say?

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Speaker 6: So?

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Speaker 10: Okay, my husband and I we've been together for twenty years.

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Speaker 11: We have a beautiful little seventeen year old almost eighteen

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Speaker 10: But on the weekend he's always there.

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Speaker 12: Taking care of things that have to be done around

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Speaker 10: She's growing up and she's stopped the college and everything,

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Speaker 2: But yeah, people are people.

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Speaker 1: Have found much more creative ways to cheevee than to say,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you, missy, have a great day.

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Speaker 1: Glad you call our problem solve Boom, here you go.

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Speaker 1: No idea is the thief of joy.

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Speaker 7: So like we should never whether it be at work,

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Speaker 3: And so why are we going down that slipper? Like

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Speaker 7: And how you know, I don't know what your day

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Speaker 1: of North Dakota on Monday and minus fifty in parts

440
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Speaker 1: of Montana minus fifty wow. This morning was forecast of

441
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Speaker 1: even colder. Extreme cold warnings were issued for an eleven

442
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Speaker 1: state swath of the US stretching from the Canadian border

443
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Speaker 1: to Oklahoma and central Texas, where the Arctic front was

444
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Speaker 1: expected to bring near record cold temperatures and windshields in

445
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Speaker 1: the single digits. By midweek, meteorologists had predicted the parts

446
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Speaker 1: of the US would experience the tenth and coldest polar

447
00:18:49,720 --> 00:18:53,160
Speaker 1: vortex event this season, So it's cold a lot of places.

448
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Speaker 1: It was cold in Canada yesterday in Toronto, a Delta

449
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Speaker 1: Airlines flight forty eight nineteen operated by Endeavor air craft

450
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Speaker 1: while landing at Toronto Pearson Airport. The flight was arriving

451
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Speaker 1: from Minneapolis with eighty individuals on board, including seventy six

452
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Speaker 1: passengers and four crew member. During the landing at approximately

453
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Speaker 1: two to fifteen local time, the plane flipped upside down

454
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Speaker 1: on the runway and then caught on fire. Eighteen people injured,

455
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Speaker 1: no fatalities. And if you look at this thing, it's

456
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Speaker 1: amazing that the people survived. It is truly amazing.

457
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Speaker 5: I couldn't wrap my mind around how the plane perfectly

458
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Speaker 5: ended up on its upside down like that, Like when

459
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Speaker 5: did the wing stop?

460
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Speaker 4: It?

461
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Speaker 3: When the tail?

462
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Speaker 2: I think did the wing break off? One of them? Yeah,

463
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Speaker 2: both broke off. I thought of you.

464
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Speaker 1: I was why, because an airplane, an airplane flips over

465
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Speaker 1: lands upside down, like man was Frends flying that thing

466
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Speaker 1: did over there. I haven't seen him in a while.

467
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Speaker 1: I know he's been in Salt Lake City, but like,

468
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Speaker 1: did you get a.

469
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Speaker 2: Job over there.

470
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Speaker 5: No, no, no, you're my play friend though, Like you

471
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Speaker 5: know anything I want to know about an airplane, I can

472
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Speaker 5: actually you're by Yeah.

473
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Speaker 1: I don't know what happened. I even called a friend

474
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Speaker 1: of mine. I was like, what happened? I mean it

475
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Speaker 1: was snowy and it was windy, but I mean flipping

476
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Speaker 1: completely over.

477
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Speaker 2: I don't know.

478
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Speaker 1: The incident led to a temporary suspension of airport operations,

479
00:20:13,080 --> 00:20:14,960
Speaker 1: which resumed last night.

480
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Speaker 2: So there was somebody. There was a TikTok video yesterday.

481
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Speaker 1: If somebody sitting at the gate in Toronto on a

482
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Speaker 1: plane watching the CNN coverage of the crash and then

483
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Speaker 1: looking out the window and there it wasn't look I'm

484
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Speaker 1: a pilot, I'm an aviation guy. I might take a break,

485
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Speaker 1: you know, if if the plane just slipped over, I might,

486
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Speaker 1: you know, grandative everybody had to go home, I guess

487
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Speaker 1: because the airport was closed, but I might just say,

488
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Speaker 1: you know what, today is not going to be the day,

489
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Speaker 1: Like I'm not going to Toledo today. You know, I'm

490
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Speaker 1: gonna go home and I'm gonna have a nice coffee

491
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Speaker 1: or something and take a nap and I'll come back

492
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Speaker 1: later and coffee and take a.

493
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Speaker 2: Nap pacafs what bi calf. I don't know.

494
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Speaker 1: I'm just gonna have a nice I'm gonna have a

495
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Speaker 1: nice stroll this afternoon in the polar vtext and I'm

496
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Speaker 1: gonna come back tomorrow.

497
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Speaker 2: We'll try this again. Today might not be the day.

498
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Speaker 3: I'm nervous, man.

499
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Speaker 1: No, don't be okay, it's very safe. Air travels very safe.

500
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Speaker 1: I know it doesn't look like it lately, but you know,

501
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Speaker 1: I thought it was just.

502
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Speaker 2: A bowing thing.

503
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Speaker 8: But no, that's where one of the people in CNN,

504
00:21:12,640 --> 00:21:15,359
Speaker 8: one of the you know whatever reporters, said that like

505
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Speaker 8: when they look at that, they see that like this

506
00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:21,080
Speaker 8: catastrophe happened and like there were no casualties. Like that

507
00:21:21,280 --> 00:21:23,840
Speaker 8: just shows how safe the airplane really is. That the

508
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Speaker 8: fact that that happened, like whatever. She was like, Oh,

509
00:21:26,119 --> 00:21:28,040
Speaker 8: that's a different way of looking at it, but positive way.

510
00:21:28,040 --> 00:21:31,320
Speaker 8: It's a miracle. It's like it's a miracle.

511
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Speaker 1: And I don't know, I think I think it's honestly,

512
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Speaker 1: I think people just got lucky. Airplane flips over, wings

513
00:21:37,040 --> 00:21:39,800
Speaker 1: break off, there's fuel on the wings, you know, the

514
00:21:39,840 --> 00:21:42,199
Speaker 1: thing didn't burst into flames. It makes amazing like it

515
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Speaker 1: truly is I don't want to go through all the

516
00:21:43,720 --> 00:21:45,240
Speaker 1: bad things it could have happened, because I'm glad that

517
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Speaker 1: they didn't, but no fatalities at all. But I don't

518
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Speaker 1: know if they have video of this, because we were

519
00:21:51,080 --> 00:21:53,920
Speaker 1: all kind of trying to figure out, like wow, I mean,

520
00:21:54,359 --> 00:21:57,200
Speaker 1: you know, because the wind would have to be really

521
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Speaker 1: strong to flip a plane over, you know, without without

522
00:22:01,160 --> 00:22:02,840
Speaker 1: the pilot being able to do anything to correct it.

523
00:22:02,960 --> 00:22:06,639
Speaker 1: So I have no idea. If there's an IRS rebate scam.

524
00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:08,960
Speaker 1: It's texts that are going out. This is for you

525
00:22:09,040 --> 00:22:10,560
Speaker 1: kick you know, you'd have to file your taxes in

526
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Speaker 1: order to actually I don't know if you do have

527
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Speaker 1: to file your taxes because it's a scam. The scammers

528
00:22:14,960 --> 00:22:16,840
Speaker 1: are at it again, and this time they want you

529
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Speaker 1: to believe that they're the IRS. So there are reportedly

530
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Speaker 1: text messages going out they say that they have to

531
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Speaker 1: that you would need to click a link to receive

532
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Speaker 1: a fourteen hundred dollars payment from the IRS. I think

533
00:22:29,119 --> 00:22:31,399
Speaker 1: when you know when it says hello, sir or madam,

534
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Speaker 1: But that's the first giveaway for me that it's not

535
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Speaker 1: exactly the IRS.

536
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Speaker 2: They're not that polite. Plus they don't text. They call. Yeah,

537
00:22:38,040 --> 00:22:38,919
Speaker 2: they call a lot, and.

538
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Speaker 1: Then when you don't answer, not that I know this

539
00:22:40,680 --> 00:22:42,800
Speaker 1: for any particular reason, but if you don't answer, then

540
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Speaker 1: they just come take the money.

541
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Speaker 6: Yep.

542
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Speaker 1: They ask you nicely at first, kind of, and then

543
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Speaker 1: they don't ask you nicely anymore than they just come

544
00:22:49,119 --> 00:22:52,280
Speaker 1: and take him. But the scammers are playing off recent news.

545
00:22:52,280 --> 00:22:54,320
Speaker 1: In late December, the agency said it was sending out

546
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Speaker 1: two point four million dollars in total to a million

547
00:22:57,520 --> 00:23:00,680
Speaker 1: people who didn't get all of their federal stimulus checks

548
00:23:00,760 --> 00:23:04,520
Speaker 1: during the pandemic. However, those payments are happening automatically, and

549
00:23:04,560 --> 00:23:06,480
Speaker 1: the link in the text takes you to a fake

550
00:23:06,680 --> 00:23:09,439
Speaker 1: site that looks like an official website. The IRS is

551
00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:12,840
Speaker 1: warning that the only way that anyone will contact you

552
00:23:13,119 --> 00:23:17,000
Speaker 1: is through the postal service, never text or emails. They

553
00:23:17,000 --> 00:23:19,879
Speaker 1: will call you. People have said they won't call you anymore.

554
00:23:19,880 --> 00:23:20,439
Speaker 1: They'll call you.

555
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Speaker 8: I don't think I would believe it if the IRS

556
00:23:22,800 --> 00:23:24,919
Speaker 8: called me, I wouldn't like I wouldn't trust that.

557
00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:26,520
Speaker 1: It was a long time ago. But I did get

558
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Speaker 1: a call from the IRS. Could I was ignoring their

559
00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:31,840
Speaker 1: invitation to the audited Oh my god, I didn't really know.

560
00:23:33,040 --> 00:23:35,439
Speaker 1: I didn't really realize what was happening, but I I

561
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Speaker 1: thought this must be a mistake.

562
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Speaker 10: It was.

563
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Speaker 2: It was something wacky.

564
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Speaker 1: It was a long time ago, but it was like,

565
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Speaker 1: and I have a guy that does my texes, so

566
00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:47,240
Speaker 1: I called him. But it was like I deducted something

567
00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:49,440
Speaker 1: on a rental property at the time that they said

568
00:23:49,480 --> 00:23:52,280
Speaker 1: you can't. I mean they wanted. They didn't want much.

569
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Speaker 1: It wasn't a lot, but they were trying to get

570
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Speaker 1: me for the penalties. Could I've been ignoring them.

571
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Speaker 8: Just the offshore accounts right, Well they told that about

572
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Speaker 8: one of the offshore I had to move some money

573
00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:02,960
Speaker 8: around me.

574
00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:04,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, I called Paulina.

575
00:24:04,080 --> 00:24:05,840
Speaker 1: I said hey, and then I got banned from Venmo,

576
00:24:06,080 --> 00:24:10,480
Speaker 1: just like you for money laundering using Venmo. But then

577
00:24:10,520 --> 00:24:12,800
Speaker 1: my my text guy was like, okay, well then we'll

578
00:24:12,800 --> 00:24:13,200
Speaker 1: pay them.

579
00:24:13,200 --> 00:24:13,560
Speaker 2: But like that.

580
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Speaker 1: But then whatever it was they wanted, it was it

581
00:24:15,760 --> 00:24:18,760
Speaker 1: right off the next year, so it was like, okay, yeah,

582
00:24:18,800 --> 00:24:20,560
Speaker 1: write them to check, then we'll get it back next year.

583
00:24:20,560 --> 00:24:22,239
Speaker 1: It was like dumb. I don't even remember what it was,

584
00:24:22,520 --> 00:24:23,879
Speaker 1: but it was something we tried to do and it

585
00:24:23,880 --> 00:24:26,400
Speaker 1: didn't work. I honestly have no idea and it wasn't

586
00:24:26,400 --> 00:24:28,920
Speaker 1: that big a deal, but they wanted all these penalties

587
00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:30,840
Speaker 1: because I, you know, ignored them.

588
00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:33,120
Speaker 2: Well, I don't want to talk to them. That sounds

589
00:24:33,920 --> 00:24:35,560
Speaker 2: I don't want to. I don't want this letter.

590
00:24:36,480 --> 00:24:38,760
Speaker 3: Does to sound like you. I feel like you wouldn't

591
00:24:38,800 --> 00:24:39,400
Speaker 3: answer that.

592
00:24:39,920 --> 00:24:41,359
Speaker 2: I don't know why I was ignoring it.

593
00:24:41,400 --> 00:24:43,000
Speaker 1: I was like, there's just no way, though, there's no

594
00:24:43,040 --> 00:24:44,879
Speaker 1: way this is right, like this a way, and I

595
00:24:44,920 --> 00:24:45,960
Speaker 1: just threw it away.

596
00:24:47,119 --> 00:24:49,640
Speaker 2: If I got anything, an audit didn't.

597
00:24:49,520 --> 00:24:54,159
Speaker 1: Say that it was. There was a discrepancy of I

598
00:24:54,160 --> 00:24:57,200
Speaker 1: think that was the next step though. Anyway, I got

599
00:24:57,200 --> 00:24:59,120
Speaker 1: it ill straightened out. But this is a long time ago,

600
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Speaker 1: and you know I'm able to vote, then let me

601
00:25:01,320 --> 00:25:04,880
Speaker 1: vote again. Now I can vote. A lot of talk

602
00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:06,760
Speaker 1: about asteroids lately, guys, And I just want you to

603
00:25:06,760 --> 00:25:08,760
Speaker 1: know that the odds of an asteroid striking Earth, they

604
00:25:08,840 --> 00:25:11,560
Speaker 1: keep going up. So we got planes slipping over, We

605
00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:13,080
Speaker 1: got all kinds of crazy stuff happening.

606
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Speaker 10: You know.

607
00:25:14,280 --> 00:25:18,200
Speaker 1: We got people being swallowed by by whales, we got

608
00:25:18,240 --> 00:25:20,719
Speaker 1: people trying to take pictures with sharks. Did you hear

609
00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:22,760
Speaker 1: about this? This is over the weekend, I guess. So

610
00:25:22,800 --> 00:25:24,320
Speaker 1: one was trying to take a selfie with a shark.

611
00:25:24,320 --> 00:25:27,080
Speaker 1: It bit both of her hands off. Why would we

612
00:25:27,160 --> 00:25:29,840
Speaker 1: take a picture with sharks? If you see a shark?

613
00:25:29,880 --> 00:25:31,280
Speaker 1: Why are you like, Hey, hold on one a naight,

614
00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:32,760
Speaker 1: hey grab the phone, guys, let's take it.

615
00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:35,479
Speaker 2: But no, I'm running, I'm swimming fast. I'm running.

616
00:25:35,920 --> 00:25:38,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, she kind of had the day she deserved at

617
00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:38,480
Speaker 3: that point.

618
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Speaker 7: I mean, you hate to see it, but like right,

619
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Speaker 7: you hate to see it, but you see it.

620
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Speaker 1: And you, guys know, if you've been listening for any

621
00:25:45,320 --> 00:25:47,040
Speaker 1: period of time, you know that I believe that I can.

622
00:25:47,240 --> 00:25:49,639
Speaker 1: I can reason with most wild animals. I do believe

623
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Speaker 1: that a shark is not one of them. No, I

624
00:25:51,640 --> 00:25:53,320
Speaker 1: don't believe I can reason when the shark. I also

625
00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:55,119
Speaker 1: don't think the shark could hear me if I tried to.

626
00:25:55,480 --> 00:25:58,960
Speaker 1: It's in the water, hello, and I'm out of the water. Probably,

627
00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:01,560
Speaker 1: But my feet, of all things, don't taste good in

628
00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:03,880
Speaker 1: my hands. Don't bite them. They don't even taste good.

629
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Speaker 1: It's not worth them, Like I guess, honey, bees if

630
00:26:06,640 --> 00:26:08,400
Speaker 1: they sting you don't they die instantly?

631
00:26:08,560 --> 00:26:10,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, honey, and I see it.

632
00:26:10,400 --> 00:26:13,560
Speaker 1: I don't like bees and they swarming around swarming whatever

633
00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:16,240
Speaker 1: they're doing, and I'm like, don't even bother, don't sting me.

634
00:26:16,280 --> 00:26:19,959
Speaker 1: I don't taste good, and you're gonna die. Yeah, you know,

635
00:26:20,080 --> 00:26:24,320
Speaker 1: So that works sometimes with with a bee, with me

636
00:26:24,480 --> 00:26:27,720
Speaker 1: reasoning with wild animals. But the chances of an asteroid

637
00:26:27,800 --> 00:26:30,199
Speaker 1: hitting Earth in twenty thirty two were going up. A

638
00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:33,600
Speaker 1: new estimate from NASA's Jet Propulsion Laboratory says the asteroid,

639
00:26:33,640 --> 00:26:37,119
Speaker 1: called the twenty twenty four y are four, has a

640
00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:40,440
Speaker 1: two point six percent chance of an Earth impact, which

641
00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:42,800
Speaker 1: is up from two point three last week. If you

642
00:26:42,840 --> 00:26:44,480
Speaker 1: were worried about this, if you're betting on it, like

643
00:26:44,560 --> 00:26:48,000
Speaker 1: Caitlin probably is. NASA says that near earth asteroid measures

644
00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:50,480
Speaker 1: up to three hundred feet across and has a very

645
00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:53,760
Speaker 1: small chance of hitting Earth December twenty second of twenty

646
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Speaker 1: thirty two. That said, the probability has been increasing since

647
00:26:56,880 --> 00:27:00,159
Speaker 1: the asteroid was discovered weeks ago. In late January, the

648
00:27:00,280 --> 00:27:02,639
Speaker 1: chance of a hitting Earth was only one point two percent,

649
00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:06,280
Speaker 1: so it's going up quickly. And a therapist who treats

650
00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:09,720
Speaker 1: phone addictions Kiki, says that the withdrawal symptoms that people

651
00:27:09,800 --> 00:27:12,400
Speaker 1: suffer are similar to those experienced by drug addicts.

652
00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:15,520
Speaker 3: Yes, oh yes, this is what happened when TikTok went down.

653
00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:19,920
Speaker 1: So Lee Fernandez says that in the last five years

654
00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:22,720
Speaker 1: he's seen a significant rise in phone, technology and social

655
00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:25,800
Speaker 1: media addictions, with one of his recent clients spending between

656
00:27:25,800 --> 00:27:28,840
Speaker 1: fifteen and seventeen hours a day on YouTube.

657
00:27:29,400 --> 00:27:31,520
Speaker 2: Oh wow, really yeah, I guess so.

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Speaker 1: And for those who try and quit, you can suffer

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Speaker 1: withdrawal symptoms which are as serious as those experienced by

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Speaker 1: drug users trying to quit heroine, like shaking, sweating, and insomnia.

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Speaker 1: All jokes aside. You were not shaking or sweating the

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Speaker 1: insomnia maybe fred.

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Speaker 5: I was shaking this way. Stop now it's real. I'm

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Speaker 5: not alone, Jason, I cried. Yeah, it's for real. It

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Speaker 5: was like I got into an argument with my man.

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Speaker 5: Like it was just I wasn't my I wasn't myself.

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Speaker 1: All because you knew you couldn't look at TikTok. Yes,

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Speaker 1: oh boy, yes, when did he get you a hobby

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Speaker 1: or something? No, people gravitate to their phones and social

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Speaker 1: media for a quick hit of dopamine, a hormone that

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Speaker 1: boosts your mood. However, he warns that doing this can

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Speaker 1: actually burn out the rewards centers in your brain, making

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Speaker 1: it more difficult to enjoy other activities.

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Speaker 2: Are you able to enjoy life? Yeah? I love life.

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Speaker 2: Yeah with TikTok.

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Speaker 1: Okay with TikTok and National Drink Wine Day Today, The

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Speaker 1: Entertainment Report will do it next. Blogs after that are

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Speaker 1: audio journals. It's Tuesday, which means Tuesday stuff, stay or

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Speaker 1: go Coming up on The Frend Show