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Speaker 3: With Amy and Kat.

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Speaker 1: Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy and.

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Speaker 4: I'm Cat and I'm starting with the feeling of the

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Speaker 4: day because I'm feeling so relieve right now.

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Speaker 1: Tell us more.

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Speaker 4: And this has a lot to do with you. Has

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Speaker 4: there's probably something deeper going on that I probably should

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Speaker 4: work through with my own therapist. But yesterday you sent

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Speaker 4: me a text that said something to discuss with you

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Speaker 4: tomorrow when you come over or maybe a dinner conversation.

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, okay, yes, now I know what you're talking

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Speaker 4: That, so you sent me that, and I think I

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Speaker 4: was trying to be cool because you've done this before.

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Speaker 4: I don't know if you've noticed this, but like you've

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Speaker 4: done this before where you said, like I.

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Speaker 3: Want to talk about X, and I'm like, oh, oh,

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Speaker 4: It's probably not that big of a deal, but like,

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Speaker 3: So I was trying to practice like coolness and calmness

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Speaker 4: And then later I think I said, so, what do

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Speaker 4: something else and I said, oh, is.

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Speaker 3: That what you needed to discuss? And you were like no, no,

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Speaker 3: And I was like, okay, well you're giving me anxiety?

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Speaker 3: What is it? And you didn't answer me. You left

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Speaker 1: And I was like, shoot, oh, I had a busy

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Speaker 1: I know why you're feeling. Is your feeling of the

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Speaker 3: Do I not even say what my feeling?

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Speaker 1: I don't know if you did. I only know because

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Speaker 1: But now I know you're relieved because I finally told

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Speaker 4: Yes, but listen to the text that I sent you,

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Speaker 4: and this is just like to me, it reminds me

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Speaker 3: Or who had a heart attack? Because why wouldn't you

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Speaker 4: You know, it's like I can't sit there and then

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Speaker 1: So like share with this worst case scenario what you

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Speaker 4: Well, I'm trying to find Oh you said I have

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Speaker 4: Yes, that was part my initial but then I was like, no, Catherine, like,

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Speaker 1: You talk to yourself full name when you talk to yourself, Yes, Catherine, Catherine,

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Speaker 4: So then I said, what are you wanting to discuss?

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Speaker 4: But if your boyfriend sent you a text and was like,

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Speaker 1: To be fair, what I ended up sharing with you

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Speaker 3: Yeah, or like anything bad.

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Speaker 1: Took you borrowed their story, borrowed their story, Yeah, to

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Speaker 1: out there and get on the apps. Yeah, download hinge.

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Speaker 1: I think about it. Without Hinge, you would not have

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Speaker 3: And that brought us a lot of I did bring.

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Speaker 4: I still run into it and like he maybe, like

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Speaker 4: you brought him to my rehearsal dinner, Like who knows,

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Speaker 1: You know, do you remember the speech I gave at

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Speaker 1: your rehearsal dinner was so pretty perfect because we all

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Speaker 1: end up marrying the guy that I brought to cats.

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Speaker 3: And then I can hear that speech at year.

440
00:20:18,240 --> 00:20:20,280
Speaker 1: Yeah I know, I really I mean not that I

441
00:20:20,320 --> 00:20:22,040
Speaker 1: really thought we're gonna get married, but you know what,

442
00:20:22,800 --> 00:20:25,120
Speaker 1: and then I had taken a trip with him, Well,

443
00:20:25,160 --> 00:20:28,520
Speaker 1: we went to the US Open. Yeah, so anyway, not

444
00:20:28,560 --> 00:20:30,160
Speaker 1: that this any of this matters. Like I don't even

445
00:20:30,160 --> 00:20:31,959
Speaker 1: know why we're going down this memory lane. But we

446
00:20:31,960 --> 00:20:34,920
Speaker 1: were with another couple and they were taking pictures and

447
00:20:36,560 --> 00:20:40,359
Speaker 1: like we weren't like together together. So but also I

448
00:20:40,400 --> 00:20:43,359
Speaker 1: was like, do we take a picture? And then so

449
00:20:43,400 --> 00:20:45,560
Speaker 1: we took pictures of them, and then I remember I

450
00:20:45,600 --> 00:20:46,840
Speaker 1: looked at him. I was like, should take a pic?

451
00:20:46,920 --> 00:20:48,719
Speaker 1: Like just in case, like just in case we end

452
00:20:48,760 --> 00:20:55,040
Speaker 1: up together together? Yes, so I have a picture of

453
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Speaker 1: us like on that rock, you know the rock in

454
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Speaker 1: New York. We did. We have a picture together, you

455
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Speaker 1: know the rock.

456
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Speaker 4: But like, what do you think the message is that

457
00:21:03,440 --> 00:21:05,480
Speaker 4: he got when you're like just in case?

458
00:21:05,600 --> 00:21:08,000
Speaker 1: Oh, come on, do you think he was thinking that deep?

459
00:21:08,080 --> 00:21:08,680
Speaker 3: No, you're right.

460
00:21:09,040 --> 00:21:15,080
Speaker 1: He probably was like, sure, I'll take you just in case,

461
00:21:15,119 --> 00:21:20,119
Speaker 1: what like just in case we die. I don't know

462
00:21:20,160 --> 00:21:21,639
Speaker 1: what he was thinking, and I don't know why I

463
00:21:21,840 --> 00:21:26,080
Speaker 1: just give him that accent, but like I just like,

464
00:21:27,720 --> 00:21:30,200
Speaker 1: should we take a pic, you know, just in case?

465
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Speaker 1: And then I was like, here's my camera and so

466
00:21:32,320 --> 00:21:34,040
Speaker 1: now somewhere in my camera roll, I have a just

467
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Speaker 1: in case.

468
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Speaker 3: Pick because don't get rid of it.

469
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Speaker 1: If we ended up together, then like, yeah, we would

470
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Speaker 1: have wanted to pick on that rock.

471
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Speaker 4: Or like what if he becomes like super famous, then

472
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Speaker 4: you can be like we went to New York together once.

473
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Speaker 1: Yeah, so I have that just in case super famous

474
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Speaker 1: for what.

475
00:21:51,240 --> 00:21:51,800
Speaker 3: I don't know.

476
00:21:51,880 --> 00:21:54,960
Speaker 1: I know people got famous for anything. Now, yeah, he

477
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Speaker 1: could get a TikTok. I don't even he has social media.

478
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Speaker 1: Let's be honest. He was using Facebook, remember, yes, I

479
00:22:01,760 --> 00:22:04,680
Speaker 1: was like, not that that's bad any of our listeners

480
00:22:04,680 --> 00:22:06,840
Speaker 1: that do it at all, because like Facebook's a thing,

481
00:22:07,359 --> 00:22:10,200
Speaker 1: but like that was his primary upload.

482
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Speaker 3: I have an update on what.

483
00:22:13,880 --> 00:22:15,359
Speaker 4: I don't want to change the subject, but on the

484
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Speaker 4: go for it. Okay, Facebook made me remember it. Speaking

485
00:22:19,040 --> 00:22:23,480
Speaker 4: of doing one task at a time, Yesterday, I was

486
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Speaker 4: on Facebook Marketplace because I'm looking for a bench for

487
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Speaker 4: my entryway. So if you have, if you see anything,

488
00:22:31,359 --> 00:22:33,720
Speaker 4: let me know. And I'm trying to Patina, so I'm

489
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Speaker 4: trying to get something used.

490
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Speaker 1: And you know the bench in my injury way. You

491
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Speaker 1: don't the cute, it's cute, I probably do well. I

492
00:22:42,960 --> 00:22:44,080
Speaker 1: bought it on Facebook market Place.

493
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Speaker 3: Really, okay, I need to look at it after.

494
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Speaker 1: I need to never notice anything. I'm like, hey, do

495
00:22:49,960 --> 00:22:53,080
Speaker 1: you notice that? And you're like what, Sorry, You're just kidding.

496
00:22:53,119 --> 00:22:53,920
Speaker 3: I'm not observant.

497
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Speaker 4: So I got some motivation out of I don't know where,

498
00:23:01,720 --> 00:23:03,640
Speaker 4: because I went and checked to see if I made

499
00:23:03,680 --> 00:23:06,520
Speaker 4: it into the Facebook group yet my subdivision Facebook.

500
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Speaker 3: Group, and I haven't. So I messaged the board of

501
00:23:09,520 --> 00:23:12,480
Speaker 3: directors on Facebook.

502
00:23:12,560 --> 00:23:14,800
Speaker 1: Okay, so this is the next right step. Okay.

503
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Speaker 4: I don't know if they use that group anymore because

504
00:23:17,400 --> 00:23:20,320
Speaker 4: the last post was from twenty twenty four, but it

505
00:23:20,400 --> 00:23:21,760
Speaker 4: was like the next thing for me to be able

506
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Speaker 4: to do. If they don't answer, then I'm going to

507
00:23:23,640 --> 00:23:25,879
Speaker 4: look at who's on the board of Directors and directly

508
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Speaker 4: message them.

509
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Speaker 3: But here's the thing.

510
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Speaker 4: I don't look at my Facebook messages or I think

511
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Speaker 4: they're spam you know.

512
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Speaker 3: So I'm fraid they're not gonna Well.

513
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Speaker 1: You're gonna have to be intentional about checking your messages

514
00:23:35,520 --> 00:23:36,800
Speaker 1: if you really want to be in this group.

515
00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:39,399
Speaker 4: No, I'm saying, if they get a message from me,

516
00:23:39,640 --> 00:23:41,520
Speaker 4: are they even going I'm looking to see if they

517
00:23:41,560 --> 00:23:45,879
Speaker 4: answered me, are they even going to open it? You know?

518
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Speaker 1: Oh? Well, I feel like if someone's when they're monitoring

519
00:23:49,240 --> 00:23:50,320
Speaker 1: a group like that.

520
00:23:50,640 --> 00:23:51,480
Speaker 3: They haven't answered.

521
00:23:51,680 --> 00:23:54,080
Speaker 4: I said, Hi, I've been trying to join the neighborhood

522
00:23:54,119 --> 00:23:56,840
Speaker 4: Facebook group since September when we moved in.

523
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Speaker 3: Can someone help me out? Smiley face. That's good.

524
00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:01,800
Speaker 1: You talk to any of your neighbors that are part

525
00:24:01,840 --> 00:24:02,120
Speaker 1: of it.

526
00:24:02,359 --> 00:24:06,320
Speaker 4: Yes, My one neighbor that I knew before I moved in,

527
00:24:07,200 --> 00:24:10,080
Speaker 4: her she doesn't have Facebook, but her husband dies and

528
00:24:10,160 --> 00:24:13,440
Speaker 4: she said keeps saying I need to tell my husband

529
00:24:13,680 --> 00:24:14,360
Speaker 4: to send them a.

530
00:24:14,280 --> 00:24:16,399
Speaker 3: Message, but I don't want to. I don't want to

531
00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:18,400
Speaker 3: make a big deal about it because like, yeah, be cool.

532
00:24:18,680 --> 00:24:20,560
Speaker 3: I'm trying to be cool. But I've just brought it

533
00:24:20,640 --> 00:24:22,080
Speaker 3: up on this podcast for times.

534
00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:25,120
Speaker 1: Just you're moving forward, because the next thing after borrowing

535
00:24:25,160 --> 00:24:29,080
Speaker 1: someone else's story, borrow your neighbors. Yeah, borrow hope that

536
00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:32,159
Speaker 1: your neighbors in the group. Yeah, but like you're gonna

537
00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:34,520
Speaker 1: still move forward without clarity. You have no idea if

538
00:24:34,520 --> 00:24:36,879
Speaker 1: they're going to accept you, But you just keep moving forward.

539
00:24:37,119 --> 00:24:39,119
Speaker 1: Because that's another thing that my therapist has had to

540
00:24:39,200 --> 00:24:41,439
Speaker 1: drill into me, is that a lot of times I

541
00:24:41,480 --> 00:24:45,480
Speaker 1: want to know what's happening, and I've had to surrender

542
00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:48,879
Speaker 1: that control. But I you have to move forward to

543
00:24:48,960 --> 00:24:52,680
Speaker 1: the next right thing, the next right step, without full

544
00:24:52,720 --> 00:24:55,520
Speaker 1: clarity of what's ahead, what's in they.

545
00:24:57,119 --> 00:24:57,320
Speaker 4: Been.

546
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Speaker 1: My ex husband and I had a good conversation today

547
00:25:00,160 --> 00:25:02,159
Speaker 1: that is a complete one eighty from where I was

548
00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:05,119
Speaker 1: yesterday with something we have going on, and I'm like,

549
00:25:05,480 --> 00:25:08,159
Speaker 1: what look at us? Like I just kept moving forward

550
00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:11,760
Speaker 1: yesterday doing the next right thing, and then the next

551
00:25:11,880 --> 00:25:15,920
Speaker 1: right thing. Things just started to I don't know, I'm

552
00:25:15,960 --> 00:25:19,080
Speaker 1: looking at it through a different filter, Like I put

553
00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:22,800
Speaker 1: on a different set of glasses, because instead of my

554
00:25:23,000 --> 00:25:28,680
Speaker 1: fear goggles, instead of my fear goggles, I put on

555
00:25:28,760 --> 00:25:31,960
Speaker 1: my like I want to just do the next right

556
00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:35,280
Speaker 1: thing and approach this with confidence and wisdom, so like,

557
00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:39,560
Speaker 1: take the facts right. So then I put on those

558
00:25:40,400 --> 00:25:43,720
Speaker 1: there's fear goggles, And what do I want to call them?

559
00:25:44,400 --> 00:25:48,840
Speaker 4: I have an idea what I have human Well, you've

560
00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:53,440
Speaker 4: said like I'm open to creative solutions. I feel like, yeah,

561
00:25:53,960 --> 00:25:56,280
Speaker 4: this is a you've you came up with a creative solution.

562
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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. That's when my Gaby Bernstein days, which

563
00:26:00,440 --> 00:26:02,520
Speaker 1: I'm sure a lot of people say that, but a

564
00:26:02,560 --> 00:26:04,560
Speaker 1: couple of years ago I was listening to a lot

565
00:26:04,600 --> 00:26:06,439
Speaker 1: of her stuff and that was Oh, I did my

566
00:26:06,520 --> 00:26:13,080
Speaker 1: sister and I did her twenty one day not meditate, yeah,

567
00:26:13,080 --> 00:26:16,639
Speaker 1: maybe meditation challenge. I think it was, yeah, meditation, but

568
00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:22,560
Speaker 1: manifestation maybe you know, I'll try it. Uh So I

569
00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:24,680
Speaker 1: forgot about that and that was such a good thank

570
00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:28,920
Speaker 1: you for reminding me of that. Oh good little nugget there.

571
00:26:29,000 --> 00:26:31,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, so your creative solution goggles?

572
00:26:31,720 --> 00:26:34,200
Speaker 1: Yes? Is that a cute enough name for you? Said,

573
00:26:34,280 --> 00:26:38,639
Speaker 1: my creative solution cs I can either put on my

574
00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:41,879
Speaker 1: CSGS or my FG's Yeah, girl, yeah girl. You know

575
00:26:41,920 --> 00:26:51,120
Speaker 1: we like an acronym. So with my CSGS. Today, well,

576
00:26:51,160 --> 00:26:53,400
Speaker 1: I feel so much better and it's like we were

577
00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:55,320
Speaker 1: able to work together as a team. And this has

578
00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:56,679
Speaker 1: nothing to do with me and Ben by the way.

579
00:26:56,720 --> 00:26:58,399
Speaker 1: It's something we're having to work on together, but it's

580
00:26:58,440 --> 00:27:02,399
Speaker 1: not our relationship. And I'm like, look at us, and

581
00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:04,960
Speaker 1: this feels so much better and I feel good about it.

582
00:27:05,000 --> 00:27:06,919
Speaker 1: But I think if I was still wrapped up in

583
00:27:07,000 --> 00:27:10,159
Speaker 1: the fear and not seeing the next right thing and

584
00:27:10,200 --> 00:27:13,560
Speaker 1: also seeing good things in front of me, Like also

585
00:27:13,640 --> 00:27:16,000
Speaker 1: yesterday I opened up my email and I looked at

586
00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:18,080
Speaker 1: something with a different perspective where I could have been

587
00:27:18,080 --> 00:27:20,919
Speaker 1: annoyed by it, but instead I said, this is a

588
00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:25,080
Speaker 1: gift from the Lord. Thank you Lord for this opportunity,

589
00:27:25,560 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 1: because it's almost like, you know the cute story about

590
00:27:31,119 --> 00:27:33,800
Speaker 1: the guy praying in the flood for the Lord to

591
00:27:33,840 --> 00:27:36,679
Speaker 1: rescue him and then he ends up dying, and I mean,

592
00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:38,639
Speaker 1: I'm paraphrasing it just to get to the point. But

593
00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:41,440
Speaker 1: he gets the pearly gates and he's like, what's up?

594
00:27:41,480 --> 00:27:45,560
Speaker 1: Like I was praying to get saved. And Peter's like, hey, idiot,

595
00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:48,119
Speaker 1: like we sent you a boat, in a helicopter and

596
00:27:48,160 --> 00:27:50,440
Speaker 1: a but you kept waving it off, being like no, no, no, no,

597
00:27:50,520 --> 00:27:53,760
Speaker 1: the Lord's gonna save me. And it's like, you know

598
00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:57,639
Speaker 1: you got to have on the the LG's what's that

599
00:27:57,640 --> 00:28:02,600
Speaker 1: the Lord goggle? Oh, solutions. I'm open to creative solutions.

600
00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:05,520
Speaker 4: The Lord gave you the creative solution goggles. Yeah, like

601
00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:08,639
Speaker 4: you accepted them. And this kind of reminds me of

602
00:28:08,720 --> 00:28:12,680
Speaker 4: what we learned about from Courtney cook shout out that

603
00:28:12,960 --> 00:28:16,520
Speaker 4: her positive attitude probably makes that food taste better, just

604
00:28:16,600 --> 00:28:19,400
Speaker 4: like you having a different outlook allows you to see

605
00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:20,400
Speaker 4: more opportunities.

606
00:28:20,520 --> 00:28:23,200
Speaker 1: Right, We did google that to fact check her taste buds,

607
00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:27,280
Speaker 1: because that is something that, yeah, is very good theory

608
00:28:27,359 --> 00:28:31,159
Speaker 1: of yours because I think, to quote you exactly, you're like,

609
00:28:31,480 --> 00:28:37,679
Speaker 1: she could eat gravel and be like, hmmm, crunchy.

610
00:28:35,920 --> 00:28:37,760
Speaker 3: To put manaise on it, but then she would eat it.

611
00:28:37,880 --> 00:28:41,600
Speaker 1: She spirt it with mayonnaise. M yummy. Because yeah, she

612
00:28:41,760 --> 00:28:48,240
Speaker 1: overall has a very positive demeanor and I love that,

613
00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:50,480
Speaker 1: and I'm not always going to be that way, but yeah,

614
00:28:50,520 --> 00:28:51,960
Speaker 1: I wonder if we're in a good mood or a

615
00:28:52,000 --> 00:28:54,920
Speaker 1: bad mood, like it affecting our taste greats.

616
00:28:55,320 --> 00:28:57,680
Speaker 3: Speaking of have you seen the videos?

617
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Speaker 4: Won't do a whole podcast on her, but have you

618
00:29:00,480 --> 00:29:03,160
Speaker 4: seen the videos of her eating, like showing you her

619
00:29:03,240 --> 00:29:04,360
Speaker 4: pregnancy cravings.

620
00:29:05,000 --> 00:29:06,760
Speaker 1: I only saw one that she did with her daughter, like,

621
00:29:06,800 --> 00:29:08,280
Speaker 1: which I thought was really cute because she had her

622
00:29:08,360 --> 00:29:09,760
Speaker 1: daughter and she was like, Hey, this is what I

623
00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:11,000
Speaker 1: was craving when you were in my belly.

624
00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:11,840
Speaker 3: Do you remember what it was?

625
00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:17,040
Speaker 1: Something like popcorn dipped in something else, dipped in something else.

626
00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:20,160
Speaker 4: Oh, that doesn't sound too bad. This one was like

627
00:29:20,440 --> 00:29:24,640
Speaker 4: cottage cheese and pork rimes. Oh, and some kind of sauce.

628
00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:28,360
Speaker 4: Maybe it was mayonnaise, Like you must have been in

629
00:29:28,400 --> 00:29:31,080
Speaker 4: a really good you were having the pregnancy glow when

630
00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:31,520
Speaker 4: you ate that?

631
00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:36,520
Speaker 3: Because what anyway, Yeah, LG's.

632
00:29:37,600 --> 00:29:42,440
Speaker 4: Cgg csgg fgese. You know what we need is we

633
00:29:42,480 --> 00:29:48,160
Speaker 4: need a feeling things dictionary that has all our acronyms. Yes, yeah,

634
00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:49,440
Speaker 4: that's the one that I can remember.

635
00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:51,520
Speaker 1: This is pretty much the only one. I even though

636
00:29:51,520 --> 00:29:54,960
Speaker 1: we just came up with wtw oh yeah, wait to worry.

637
00:29:55,080 --> 00:30:04,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, and T B nope, n B D.

638
00:30:06,320 --> 00:30:09,000
Speaker 1: Yeah that's not hard I know, but we're gonna use

639
00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:11,000
Speaker 1: it like s I B we literally made.

640
00:30:10,880 --> 00:30:13,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, we made that up. We'll put an asterisk on

641
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:19,160
Speaker 3: ones that we didn't trademark T A s A P.

642
00:30:20,760 --> 00:30:27,040
Speaker 1: BRP I K y k n k oh. I don't

643
00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:28,959
Speaker 1: even know that one, if you know, you know?

644
00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:35,000
Speaker 4: I okay, why I know we should Well, no, we shouldn't.

645
00:30:35,880 --> 00:30:37,600
Speaker 4: I don't know how interesting would be if we went

646
00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:39,400
Speaker 4: through a list of all the like cool acronyms and

647
00:30:39,400 --> 00:30:41,080
Speaker 4: if we knew what they were, because like, how often

648
00:30:41,120 --> 00:30:43,680
Speaker 4: are you googling an acronym when your kids text you something?

649
00:30:44,920 --> 00:30:47,440
Speaker 1: Thankfully they don't really use tons of like.

650
00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:50,520
Speaker 3: Do you know t d l R t l d R.

651
00:30:52,040 --> 00:30:55,680
Speaker 1: T l d R No, I'm too.

652
00:30:55,520 --> 00:30:58,400
Speaker 4: Long didn't read, so people will like, no, no, no,

653
00:30:58,440 --> 00:30:59,920
Speaker 4: it's not no, no, no, no, no, it's not bad.

654
00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:01,080
Speaker 3: It's actually helpful.

655
00:31:01,080 --> 00:31:04,040
Speaker 4: Like if somebody I think, I don't know, if somebody

656
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Speaker 4: writes a really long post at the end, they'll be

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Speaker 4: like t L D R and then they'll just give

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Speaker 4: like the short version of it. Oh, do you know

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Speaker 4: what f WW is? F ww fwww. No, No, think

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Speaker 4: it's just f WW for what it's worth?

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Speaker 1: For what? What about the I? It's f I.

662
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Speaker 3: Don't think they put that in there.

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Speaker 1: F W i W.

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Speaker 3: Maybe maybe some people use that, some people don't.

665
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Speaker 1: Well, they need to keep it straight if they're gonna

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Speaker 1: do real acronyms. I need every letter because there's no

667
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Speaker 1: way I'm going to figure it out how our.

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Speaker 4: Dictionary will keep the eye. Anyway, just a little in

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Speaker 4: case you didn't know, we.

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Speaker 1: Have an email from I believe you say it's Zoe Zoe.

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Speaker 3: How is it Zoe?

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Speaker 1: It's Zoe z O?

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Speaker 4: I E.

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Speaker 3: Zoe? Wow? And why language would that be?

675
00:32:05,600 --> 00:32:05,760
Speaker 2: Zo?

676
00:32:07,000 --> 00:32:07,840
Speaker 3: Zoe?

677
00:32:08,320 --> 00:32:13,160
Speaker 1: Zoe Zoe Zoe. Hi, Amy and kat I just finished

678
00:32:13,200 --> 00:32:16,080
Speaker 1: listening to your episode about what you're watching and reading,

679
00:32:16,120 --> 00:32:18,920
Speaker 1: and I wanted to tell you that one. I love

680
00:32:19,000 --> 00:32:21,600
Speaker 1: Emily Henry books, so you made a good choice. If

681
00:32:21,600 --> 00:32:24,360
Speaker 1: you end up liking her books, I suggest you check

682
00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:29,200
Speaker 1: out Alie Hazelwood, Lucy Score, and Laura Gilmour. I think

683
00:32:29,240 --> 00:32:32,000
Speaker 1: you'll love her Dream Harbor series. These are a few

684
00:32:32,000 --> 00:32:34,800
Speaker 1: of my favorites. Two you said in your four books,

685
00:32:34,800 --> 00:32:36,200
Speaker 1: said that one of them is called You and Me

686
00:32:36,320 --> 00:32:38,120
Speaker 1: on Vacation. I just wanted to let you know that

687
00:32:38,120 --> 00:32:40,360
Speaker 1: that's actually the same book as people would meet on vacation.

688
00:32:40,680 --> 00:32:43,520
Speaker 1: They just changed the name for publishing in different countries.

689
00:32:43,920 --> 00:32:45,440
Speaker 1: So if you don't want to read it, since you've

690
00:32:45,480 --> 00:32:48,040
Speaker 1: already seen the movie, you can skip that one enjoy

691
00:32:48,080 --> 00:32:50,560
Speaker 1: your reading. And I was like, oh, dang, I thought

692
00:32:50,560 --> 00:32:52,640
Speaker 1: it was going to be a sequel or even a

693
00:32:52,640 --> 00:32:53,880
Speaker 1: prequel or something. I don't know.

694
00:32:53,920 --> 00:32:54,960
Speaker 3: You really only got three books.

695
00:32:54,960 --> 00:32:56,520
Speaker 1: I only got three books. Well, I mean I can

696
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Speaker 1: give the fourth away to somebody else that maybe wants

697
00:32:58,480 --> 00:32:58,760
Speaker 1: to read.

698
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Speaker 3: It's nice.

699
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:02,200
Speaker 1: And then she was like, depending on which country it's for.

700
00:33:02,360 --> 00:33:05,800
Speaker 1: I'm like, did I order them in English?

701
00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:08,560
Speaker 4: Wait? Yeah, because why would they change the English name

702
00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:12,800
Speaker 4: on the English book if they changed the other.

703
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Speaker 1: I don't know. But then you know, you were like Hey,

704
00:33:15,040 --> 00:33:16,840
Speaker 1: what's the link that you got the four pack on?

705
00:33:16,920 --> 00:33:18,200
Speaker 1: And then I went to it and it was like

706
00:33:18,560 --> 00:33:22,160
Speaker 1: no longer unavailable, no longer available, like I bought the

707
00:33:22,240 --> 00:33:23,040
Speaker 1: last four pack.

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Speaker 3: I guess, So what link did you give me?

709
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Speaker 1: I gave you the link, but there's you can't buy

710
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Speaker 1: anything from it.

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Speaker 3: Oh I linked that in our news.

712
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Speaker 2: I know.

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Speaker 1: I realized that after I was like, oh my gosh, yeah,

714
00:33:34,840 --> 00:33:37,240
Speaker 1: no I didn't. It's nothing I noticed right away, but

715
00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:40,280
Speaker 1: then I noticed like, oh, you can't even buy it,

716
00:33:40,320 --> 00:33:42,520
Speaker 1: like I must have bought the last one, which then

717
00:33:42,600 --> 00:33:44,880
Speaker 1: makes you think like did I really get books?

718
00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:46,360
Speaker 3: Have they come yet?

719
00:33:46,480 --> 00:33:48,640
Speaker 1: Or they're like, finally someone bought that four pack?

720
00:33:48,840 --> 00:33:49,840
Speaker 3: Wait? Has it come here?

721
00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:52,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, they've come, but they're still wrapped in their plastic

722
00:33:52,360 --> 00:33:54,840
Speaker 1: because I haven't opened them yet because I'm reading The Nightingale.

723
00:33:55,560 --> 00:33:59,000
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, pretty much done with that. And then once

724
00:33:59,040 --> 00:34:02,160
Speaker 1: I finished The Nightingale, which is so good, I'm moving

725
00:34:02,200 --> 00:34:05,560
Speaker 1: on to my other three books from Emily Henry and

726
00:34:05,600 --> 00:34:08,440
Speaker 1: then thanks to Zoe here, I gotta check out Ali,

727
00:34:08,719 --> 00:34:10,880
Speaker 1: Lucy and Laurie h Okay.

728
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Speaker 4: So, also, I wonder if that sold out right after

729
00:34:16,200 --> 00:34:18,640
Speaker 4: the movie came out, because the people were probably buying it.

730
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Speaker 1: Oh good point, not because I certainly you scammed. Yeah,

731
00:34:22,280 --> 00:34:23,760
Speaker 1: like you got scammed for the weed of bis.

732
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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, can we talk about that?

733
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Speaker 1: Sure?

734
00:34:28,800 --> 00:34:30,080
Speaker 3: So somebody, can I tell you?

735
00:34:30,200 --> 00:34:33,839
Speaker 1: I Can I tell you something right now?

736
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Speaker 3: NBD?

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00:34:34,840 --> 00:34:36,120
Speaker 1: Now can I tell it to you right now? So

738
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Speaker 1: you don't have something? And it's really not that big deal,

739
00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:42,799
Speaker 1: but like I don't I know what you're going to say.

740
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Speaker 3: I know what you're going to say.

741
00:34:44,160 --> 00:34:46,719
Speaker 4: They don't like when I asked for permission to talk

742
00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:48,920
Speaker 4: about things because you want it to feel like I

743
00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:50,000
Speaker 4: can talk about whatever I want.

744
00:34:50,239 --> 00:34:52,520
Speaker 3: That right there was more like girl, can we talk

745
00:34:52,560 --> 00:34:53,879
Speaker 3: about that? Like girl talk?

746
00:34:53,920 --> 00:34:54,120
Speaker 4: You know?

747
00:34:54,239 --> 00:34:56,040
Speaker 1: Well, I thought we were going back to our old ways,

748
00:34:56,040 --> 00:34:57,480
Speaker 1: and like during the fifth thing, when it was like

749
00:34:57,560 --> 00:34:59,560
Speaker 1: my podcast and then you would be coming on as

750
00:34:59,560 --> 00:35:01,520
Speaker 1: a guest, sometimes you'd be like, ooh, can we talk

751
00:35:01,520 --> 00:35:03,960
Speaker 1: about this? But then when we joined forces and became

752
00:35:04,120 --> 00:35:07,000
Speaker 1: one podcast together, sometimes you would still ask that, and

753
00:35:07,040 --> 00:35:09,680
Speaker 1: I'll be like, stop, like you, it's just as much

754
00:35:09,760 --> 00:35:11,799
Speaker 1: yours as it is mine, So take it wherever you want. Girl.

755
00:35:11,840 --> 00:35:13,360
Speaker 1: If you want to talk about weed a bic, go

756
00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:13,960
Speaker 1: for it.

757
00:35:14,040 --> 00:35:17,640
Speaker 4: But also, here's my thought too, because I do listen

758
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Speaker 4: to podcasts that have like multiple co hosts, and something

759
00:35:21,040 --> 00:35:25,600
Speaker 4: that does grind my gears is when a host is

760
00:35:25,640 --> 00:35:27,560
Speaker 4: telling a story and then the other hosts like hi,

761
00:35:27,920 --> 00:35:30,640
Speaker 4: or even when they're just interviewing, and when somebody hijack

762
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Speaker 4: jack something and then like you lose track of where

763
00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:36,560
Speaker 4: you're going because I interrupt you and I go over

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Speaker 4: on a tangent.

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Speaker 3: Okay.

766
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Speaker 4: So sometimes when I ask for permission, it's because like

767
00:35:40,640 --> 00:35:43,319
Speaker 4: I don't I have ADHD and I can't just let

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Speaker 4: you finish, and I want to make sure I'm not

769
00:35:47,400 --> 00:35:49,919
Speaker 4: derailing you because you might have you might be going

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Speaker 4: somewhere you know.

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Speaker 1: Oh that makes sense, so you're being considerate.

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00:35:53,360 --> 00:35:55,799
Speaker 3: And yeah, I'm always like they might allowed to talk.

773
00:35:55,880 --> 00:35:57,880
Speaker 1: Then my gears were grinding, and I was like, I

774
00:35:57,880 --> 00:36:02,359
Speaker 1: got to tell you something right now, stop okay.

775
00:36:01,840 --> 00:36:04,560
Speaker 4: But that was more like we have to talk about this, like, girl,

776
00:36:04,640 --> 00:36:07,839
Speaker 4: can we talk about that? Because we posted that weied

777
00:36:07,840 --> 00:36:12,400
Speaker 4: debix video and we said like I think in the

778
00:36:12,480 --> 00:36:14,719
Speaker 4: video you were like, yeah, you paid fourteen ninety nine

779
00:36:15,280 --> 00:36:18,840
Speaker 4: for this, which I did, and then somebody commented that

780
00:36:18,840 --> 00:36:20,759
Speaker 4: you can buy it for forty nine at al.

781
00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:22,400
Speaker 3: Aldi Aldi, how do you say it?

782
00:36:22,440 --> 00:36:25,600
Speaker 4: Aldi? And then somebody else said they got it for

783
00:36:25,719 --> 00:36:27,600
Speaker 4: five dollars on Amazon, So I went.

784
00:36:27,480 --> 00:36:29,880
Speaker 3: And looked, and I checked.

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00:36:29,920 --> 00:36:32,680
Speaker 4: I did pay fourteen ninety nine more than it, so

786
00:36:32,760 --> 00:36:37,319
Speaker 4: fifteen something with tex in that same link, same exact link.

787
00:36:37,880 --> 00:36:40,880
Speaker 4: Then was like on sale for five forty seven. I

788
00:36:40,920 --> 00:36:44,760
Speaker 4: paid three times as much. And then there's this fancy

789
00:36:44,800 --> 00:36:47,279
Speaker 4: button that Amazon has now where you can like click

790
00:36:47,280 --> 00:36:49,600
Speaker 4: it and a little chatbot will come up and explain

791
00:36:49,640 --> 00:36:52,640
Speaker 4: to you the price history. And it said that we

792
00:36:52,760 --> 00:36:57,640
Speaker 4: debix can be anywhere from like fifteen dollars to five

793
00:36:57,680 --> 00:37:04,600
Speaker 4: dollars average of for this it's the same box. Yeah, yeah,

794
00:37:04,640 --> 00:37:07,520
Speaker 4: isn't that weird? And I imagine it's the demand. So

795
00:37:07,640 --> 00:37:10,879
Speaker 4: I must have bought it at a hot time, hot.

796
00:37:10,640 --> 00:37:13,360
Speaker 1: Like you must have bought it when Oh, my boyfriend's calling.

797
00:37:13,800 --> 00:37:15,680
Speaker 1: Oh hey, do you want to answer it?

798
00:37:16,480 --> 00:37:18,600
Speaker 3: No, I'm talking about Weeda bes. No, you can answer it.

799
00:37:18,680 --> 00:37:20,040
Speaker 1: No, what am I going to say?

800
00:37:20,120 --> 00:37:21,399
Speaker 3: Like somebody says funny things?

801
00:37:21,440 --> 00:37:22,640
Speaker 1: Oh? I just rejected him.

802
00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:27,480
Speaker 3: I wish my husband would call me. He's not at work.

803
00:37:27,560 --> 00:37:30,320
Speaker 1: Y'all don't call each other at work though, that's the thing. Okay,

804
00:37:30,400 --> 00:37:33,279
Speaker 1: that's like the there are there's almost like there's two

805
00:37:33,280 --> 00:37:35,200
Speaker 1: types of people in the world, those that like talk

806
00:37:35,360 --> 00:37:38,000
Speaker 1: while they're at work and those that just don't. And

807
00:37:38,320 --> 00:37:40,600
Speaker 1: Alex and I will call each other multiple times during

808
00:37:40,600 --> 00:37:41,160
Speaker 1: the work day.

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00:37:43,560 --> 00:37:46,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, does he not like at an office?

810
00:37:46,200 --> 00:37:48,600
Speaker 4: He has an office? Does he go to office? Where

811
00:37:48,640 --> 00:37:50,720
Speaker 4: is he like calling you when he's on his way somewhere?

812
00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:53,120
Speaker 1: He has a stand up desk because sometimes I FaceTime

813
00:37:53,160 --> 00:37:54,320
Speaker 1: and he's standing up.

814
00:37:54,480 --> 00:37:56,399
Speaker 4: And he can talk to you on the phone while

815
00:37:56,440 --> 00:37:58,680
Speaker 4: he's at work, and nobody's like, why aren't you working?

816
00:37:59,640 --> 00:38:00,560
Speaker 1: He's the boss?

817
00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:02,800
Speaker 3: Okay? Is true? That's true. I think that's a difference.

818
00:38:02,800 --> 00:38:04,920
Speaker 1: I mean there's other so the way his company works, like,

819
00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:08,320
Speaker 1: yes he's CEO, but there are other there's a company

820
00:38:08,320 --> 00:38:12,360
Speaker 1: that owns their company and that so technically that guy's

821
00:38:12,400 --> 00:38:15,240
Speaker 1: in the building too, so technically he answers to those guys.

822
00:38:15,880 --> 00:38:19,680
Speaker 1: But like in his office, he's I mean, but okay.

823
00:38:19,440 --> 00:38:20,640
Speaker 3: I know that we know this.

824
00:38:21,239 --> 00:38:26,480
Speaker 4: When you just said that your boyfriend is the CEO, Like,

825
00:38:27,120 --> 00:38:28,719
Speaker 4: do you get to go to the company Christmas party

826
00:38:28,760 --> 00:38:29,960
Speaker 4: and be like I'm with the CEO?

827
00:38:30,280 --> 00:38:32,440
Speaker 1: No? His company Christmas party was in New York and

828
00:38:32,480 --> 00:38:33,840
Speaker 1: I was like, well, oh am I going to go

829
00:38:33,840 --> 00:38:35,080
Speaker 1: because I would love to go to New York. Well,

830
00:38:35,120 --> 00:38:36,880
Speaker 1: first of all, it was on a weeknight and I

831
00:38:36,920 --> 00:38:39,040
Speaker 1: have work, so I couldn't go anyway. But he's like, also,

832
00:38:39,080 --> 00:38:41,959
Speaker 1: it's not plus one. So I was like, what, Yeah,

833
00:38:42,000 --> 00:38:45,440
Speaker 1: what kind of Christmas party is that? That's what I said, lame.

834
00:38:45,480 --> 00:38:47,319
Speaker 3: Oh, well, I guest Patrick's isn't either.

835
00:38:47,520 --> 00:38:49,040
Speaker 1: They just do it like it's like after work and

836
00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:50,799
Speaker 1: everybody gets together and it's whole thing. And I'm like,

837
00:38:50,840 --> 00:38:52,400
Speaker 1: but I mean, you flew from Nashville to go to

838
00:38:52,480 --> 00:38:53,000
Speaker 1: this party.

839
00:38:53,320 --> 00:38:57,080
Speaker 4: Wait, that's actually Patrick's companies too, like they have I

840
00:38:57,080 --> 00:38:59,200
Speaker 4: think obviously in New York are somewhere where people will

841
00:38:59,200 --> 00:39:01,400
Speaker 4: all come down for the party and it's just like

842
00:39:01,440 --> 00:39:04,319
Speaker 4: one night after work and we're not invited. But for

843
00:39:04,360 --> 00:39:06,520
Speaker 4: some reason, I'm like, if you're the CEO, then you

844
00:39:06,560 --> 00:39:08,040
Speaker 4: can bring your whoever you want.

845
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:09,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, but then at that party in New York, he's

846
00:39:11,320 --> 00:39:13,960
Speaker 1: but it's almost like he's head of some parts. But

847
00:39:14,000 --> 00:39:17,320
Speaker 1: then when he's there, there's people that are bigger fish.

848
00:39:17,480 --> 00:39:21,600
Speaker 3: Okay, you know it's still cool. You're that's cool. Yeah,

849
00:39:21,600 --> 00:39:23,960
Speaker 3: that's really cool. So that's why he can call you

850
00:39:24,040 --> 00:39:24,800
Speaker 3: during the day.

851
00:39:25,160 --> 00:39:25,480
Speaker 1: I guess.

852
00:39:25,560 --> 00:39:29,000
Speaker 4: So, so I've actually tested the waters because I'm like,

853
00:39:30,719 --> 00:39:32,000
Speaker 4: I want to talk to him.

854
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:32,800
Speaker 3: I would.

855
00:39:32,880 --> 00:39:36,160
Speaker 4: I don't like going ten hours without talking to my husband.

856
00:39:37,600 --> 00:39:39,640
Speaker 4: And so I've called him before and he's just like,

857
00:39:39,920 --> 00:39:43,680
Speaker 4: what do you need something like It's like he's he

858
00:39:43,719 --> 00:39:46,719
Speaker 4: thinks that there's like a obviously there's an emergency, so

859
00:39:46,719 --> 00:39:47,600
Speaker 4: why she's calling me?

860
00:39:47,920 --> 00:39:49,600
Speaker 3: So I don't want to scare him anymore?

861
00:39:49,800 --> 00:39:52,640
Speaker 1: Right, So, yeah, he's starting to be like who died?

862
00:39:53,160 --> 00:39:55,399
Speaker 3: Literally, I'm doing to him what I don't want people

863
00:39:55,440 --> 00:39:58,560
Speaker 3: to do it. But also, now this has actually been

864
00:39:58,600 --> 00:39:59,440
Speaker 3: really tough for us.

865
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Speaker 4: It's been tough for me. I don't think it's been

866
00:40:01,640 --> 00:40:04,360
Speaker 4: tough for him. So his office is getting in a

867
00:40:04,400 --> 00:40:06,920
Speaker 4: new office. So for the next couple of weeks he's

868
00:40:06,960 --> 00:40:09,520
Speaker 4: working from home, and for the past couple of weeks, so.

869
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Speaker 3: I'm home and he's home, but I can't talk to

870
00:40:13,280 --> 00:40:15,600
Speaker 3: him because he's working. Because he's working.

871
00:40:15,840 --> 00:40:17,520
Speaker 4: One time I tried to give him a glass of

872
00:40:17,560 --> 00:40:21,520
Speaker 4: water and I walked in on a call, and I

873
00:40:21,520 --> 00:40:22,520
Speaker 4: think I embarrassed him.

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00:40:22,800 --> 00:40:25,400
Speaker 3: You're right, Wait a second, who cares?

875
00:40:25,560 --> 00:40:25,719
Speaker 4: Right?

876
00:40:26,200 --> 00:40:26,799
Speaker 3: Did they see?

877
00:40:27,000 --> 00:40:27,239
Speaker 4: Well?

878
00:40:27,320 --> 00:40:29,200
Speaker 3: I was in my robe and like had like my

879
00:40:29,320 --> 00:40:30,320
Speaker 3: retainer in and.

880
00:40:30,200 --> 00:40:31,520
Speaker 1: Like I had like.

881
00:40:33,360 --> 00:40:35,920
Speaker 3: Yeah on you okay, but I opened the door.

882
00:40:36,080 --> 00:40:38,080
Speaker 4: I cracked the door and I was like hi, and

883
00:40:38,120 --> 00:40:41,319
Speaker 4: he was he like threw his like headphones off.

884
00:40:41,360 --> 00:40:42,240
Speaker 3: He was like I'm on a call.

885
00:40:42,440 --> 00:40:44,759
Speaker 4: Like I startled him. I think he was like, I

886
00:40:44,800 --> 00:40:48,200
Speaker 4: don't want you to interrupt me. So we're gonna have

887
00:40:48,200 --> 00:40:49,600
Speaker 4: to figure out a code of like when can I

888
00:40:49,680 --> 00:40:52,080
Speaker 4: we need a like a light on the door, like

889
00:40:52,080 --> 00:40:53,560
Speaker 4: we know when somebody's recording.

890
00:40:53,320 --> 00:40:55,719
Speaker 1: Like on air. Yeah, yes, like I'm on a call,

891
00:40:55,960 --> 00:40:58,120
Speaker 1: on a call, yeah.

892
00:40:58,120 --> 00:41:00,839
Speaker 4: Yes, speaking of did you you used to have like

893
00:41:01,480 --> 00:41:02,520
Speaker 4: the beads hanging.

894
00:41:02,280 --> 00:41:04,560
Speaker 3: Down from your door when you're worse? Oh yeah? Did

895
00:41:04,600 --> 00:41:06,000
Speaker 3: you ever have a doorbell on your room?

896
00:41:06,160 --> 00:41:06,399
Speaker 1: No?

897
00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:07,840
Speaker 3: I had that too. Yeah.

898
00:41:08,040 --> 00:41:10,799
Speaker 1: Did your dad install a doorbell? Well it was like,

899
00:41:11,920 --> 00:41:13,760
Speaker 1: I mean he's a builder, so like that would.

900
00:41:13,600 --> 00:41:15,799
Speaker 4: Be really my dad didn't saw a doorbell. But you

901
00:41:15,800 --> 00:41:17,200
Speaker 4: do know he took my door off the hinges.

902
00:41:17,280 --> 00:41:17,920
Speaker 3: I do you know that?

903
00:41:18,320 --> 00:41:18,600
Speaker 1: Yeah?

904
00:41:18,760 --> 00:41:21,200
Speaker 4: No, it was like you know those like closet lights

905
00:41:21,239 --> 00:41:23,759
Speaker 4: that like just stick to the wall. Yeah, it was

906
00:41:23,800 --> 00:41:29,840
Speaker 4: like that vibe but it made a sound cute. Yeah, yeah, anyway,

907
00:41:30,360 --> 00:41:31,919
Speaker 4: that just needed to come out of my breath.

908
00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:33,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, should we get back to that.

909
00:41:34,000 --> 00:41:36,279
Speaker 1: It could be something cute. No, I mean I just

910
00:41:36,440 --> 00:41:38,160
Speaker 1: had the email and I was thankful for that, and

911
00:41:38,200 --> 00:41:39,600
Speaker 1: then that took us on the weed to bix and

912
00:41:39,600 --> 00:41:42,000
Speaker 1: then you're but honestly, once I moved on to the email,

913
00:41:42,040 --> 00:41:45,080
Speaker 1: like I was done with my therapy revelations from yesterday

914
00:41:45,200 --> 00:41:48,120
Speaker 1: when because I was like, does the process even know

915
00:41:48,239 --> 00:41:51,560
Speaker 1: we're trusting it? And now I know it doesn't. It doesn't,

916
00:41:51,719 --> 00:41:55,680
Speaker 1: It doesn't.

917
00:41:53,040 --> 00:41:55,719
Speaker 3: Doesn't need, it doesn't need exactly.

918
00:41:56,160 --> 00:41:58,640
Speaker 1: You still have to trust the process. You have to

919
00:41:58,640 --> 00:42:02,160
Speaker 1: do the next right thing. What's the next teeny tiny step.

920
00:42:02,200 --> 00:42:05,239
Speaker 1: You have to borrow hope wherever you can get it.

921
00:42:05,560 --> 00:42:07,960
Speaker 1: And then you don't have to know the full picture.

922
00:42:08,120 --> 00:42:10,320
Speaker 1: You have to move forward without clarity.

923
00:42:10,360 --> 00:42:11,520
Speaker 3: I think that's the hardest one.

924
00:42:11,600 --> 00:42:15,000
Speaker 1: Those are the three things of trusting the process or

925
00:42:15,080 --> 00:42:20,200
Speaker 1: like trusting that you can trust the process. But you

926
00:42:20,840 --> 00:42:22,600
Speaker 1: can't just like trust the process.

927
00:42:22,840 --> 00:42:23,799
Speaker 3: You have to trust that you can.

928
00:42:23,920 --> 00:42:26,640
Speaker 1: You have to take action and those are little things

929
00:42:26,640 --> 00:42:28,120
Speaker 1: you can do, right.

930
00:42:28,040 --> 00:42:30,040
Speaker 3: That's really helpful. I like that, Thank you.

931
00:42:30,040 --> 00:42:34,560
Speaker 1: There're little nuggets. Yeah, But anyway, therapy was so relieving.

932
00:42:34,600 --> 00:42:36,000
Speaker 3: You were relieved, and I was released.

933
00:42:36,040 --> 00:42:37,719
Speaker 1: It's worth every penny yesterday.

934
00:42:38,360 --> 00:42:39,839
Speaker 3: I see. That's the dream.

935
00:42:39,880 --> 00:42:42,960
Speaker 4: If somebody leaves your office thinking that, like almost like

936
00:42:43,000 --> 00:42:44,160
Speaker 4: I would have paid double?

937
00:42:44,560 --> 00:42:45,399
Speaker 3: Would you go that far?

938
00:42:46,680 --> 00:42:46,799
Speaker 2: Mm?

939
00:42:48,719 --> 00:42:50,400
Speaker 3: Like I already paid a lot. I guess.

940
00:42:50,520 --> 00:42:53,080
Speaker 1: I mean, I suppose I'm my because we had some

941
00:42:54,600 --> 00:42:57,400
Speaker 1: good revelations, like even I haven't teared up in therapy

942
00:42:57,440 --> 00:42:59,319
Speaker 1: in a while, and I got choked up.

943
00:42:59,440 --> 00:43:00,000
Speaker 3: Here's a question.

944
00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:02,520
Speaker 1: But it had to do with my dad. So and

945
00:43:02,920 --> 00:43:05,239
Speaker 1: I remember she was like, stay with that, stay with that.

946
00:43:05,280 --> 00:43:07,600
Speaker 1: She's like, what's the what's coming up for you right now?

947
00:43:07,680 --> 00:43:09,960
Speaker 1: Stay with it, don't shut it down. And I was like,

948
00:43:11,080 --> 00:43:13,440
Speaker 1: I think it's for my dad, and maybe just some

949
00:43:14,200 --> 00:43:16,680
Speaker 1: I was taking on what I believe to be because

950
00:43:16,719 --> 00:43:18,400
Speaker 1: it's hard to know for sure because there was a

951
00:43:18,440 --> 00:43:20,760
Speaker 1: lot I was feeling. But I think in that moment,

952
00:43:22,000 --> 00:43:24,440
Speaker 1: especially being a parent now myself, like I was taking

953
00:43:24,480 --> 00:43:29,840
Speaker 1: on maybe some humility and that my dad was experiencing

954
00:43:29,960 --> 00:43:34,520
Speaker 1: like some humble pie of sorts and his pride and

955
00:43:34,560 --> 00:43:37,000
Speaker 1: how hard certain things must have been. But he didn't

956
00:43:37,000 --> 00:43:40,640
Speaker 1: really let me know. And I kind of lived in

957
00:43:40,760 --> 00:43:43,840
Speaker 1: lalla land, and I think that's why too. Maybe my

958
00:43:43,920 --> 00:43:46,200
Speaker 1: stepmom had resentment towards me. It is because she knew

959
00:43:46,239 --> 00:43:50,040
Speaker 1: all the facts and like I didn't, and that's probably

960
00:43:50,040 --> 00:43:52,360
Speaker 1: why it was annoying for her. But I mean, I

961
00:43:52,440 --> 00:43:54,640
Speaker 1: couldn't help them. I care. And then my therapist said,

962
00:43:54,719 --> 00:43:57,800
Speaker 1: you can't. Your dad was choosing to make those actions.

963
00:43:57,800 --> 00:44:00,399
Speaker 1: He was choosing to continue to pay for things, even

964
00:44:00,400 --> 00:44:02,480
Speaker 1: if stuff was difficult for him. He didn't want you

965
00:44:02,520 --> 00:44:05,440
Speaker 1: to know so like, and I'm like, yeah, but I

966
00:44:05,480 --> 00:44:06,880
Speaker 1: would have gone and gotten a job.

967
00:44:07,280 --> 00:44:09,040
Speaker 3: Like, yeah, I could go get a job, but I

968
00:44:09,040 --> 00:44:09,560
Speaker 3: want you to.

969
00:44:10,280 --> 00:44:12,920
Speaker 1: Right, But but why like he had to work so hard.

970
00:44:13,080 --> 00:44:16,120
Speaker 1: That's also what just just you know what grinds my gears.

971
00:44:16,480 --> 00:44:18,680
Speaker 1: It's like it would have taught me something like it

972
00:44:18,719 --> 00:44:21,080
Speaker 1: would have I would have had. Not that I don't

973
00:44:21,120 --> 00:44:24,799
Speaker 1: I have a poor work ethic, but I just think

974
00:44:24,880 --> 00:44:27,480
Speaker 1: I could have done that in high school and college.

975
00:44:27,600 --> 00:44:29,240
Speaker 3: You didn't have a job in high school and college.

976
00:44:29,760 --> 00:44:31,719
Speaker 1: I mean I was a nanny for a little bit

977
00:44:31,760 --> 00:44:33,759
Speaker 1: in high school when I had part time, like my

978
00:44:33,840 --> 00:44:36,439
Speaker 1: senior year, I only had half the day, and then

979
00:44:36,640 --> 00:44:39,680
Speaker 1: I was a hostess for six weeks one summer, and

980
00:44:39,719 --> 00:44:42,360
Speaker 1: then in college, no I mean I worked at this

981
00:44:42,400 --> 00:44:44,720
Speaker 1: weight loss clinic one summer. I was toxic.

982
00:44:44,800 --> 00:44:47,920
Speaker 3: Ang I did not know you did it.

983
00:44:48,480 --> 00:44:50,880
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, my job was too Wait.

984
00:44:54,040 --> 00:44:57,000
Speaker 3: That's not funny, but like also like, uh, yeah it is.

985
00:44:57,320 --> 00:44:59,359
Speaker 1: It is a little bit because like I should not

986
00:44:59,480 --> 00:45:02,560
Speaker 1: like I a eating disorder, right, but I shouldn't.

987
00:45:02,160 --> 00:45:04,759
Speaker 4: Have been currently and when you were working there like

988
00:45:05,120 --> 00:45:07,880
Speaker 4: I did when he was working there, such like now.

989
00:45:08,280 --> 00:45:10,400
Speaker 1: I mean I wasn't active active in it, but I

990
00:45:10,440 --> 00:45:11,480
Speaker 1: definitely had a problem.

991
00:45:11,600 --> 00:45:13,200
Speaker 3: But you don't you think that's part of what drew

992
00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:14,080
Speaker 3: you to go work.

993
00:45:13,920 --> 00:45:15,920
Speaker 1: There, Probably because I thought I'm gonna have access to

994
00:45:15,960 --> 00:45:20,480
Speaker 1: all this diet knowledge. Yeah, absolutely, but like I was not,

995
00:45:20,800 --> 00:45:24,000
Speaker 1: like I I wasn't qualified to talk to them about

996
00:45:24,040 --> 00:45:26,480
Speaker 1: certain things, by what standards.

997
00:45:26,440 --> 00:45:27,880
Speaker 3: To talk to them about anything?

998
00:45:28,000 --> 00:45:33,880
Speaker 1: Well, correct, But I did have the I part of

999
00:45:33,920 --> 00:45:35,000
Speaker 1: my duties.

1000
00:45:35,120 --> 00:45:37,879
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was allowed to weigh.

1001
00:45:37,760 --> 00:45:42,400
Speaker 1: And measure them, yeah, and then ask them what they ate.

1002
00:45:43,360 --> 00:45:45,359
Speaker 1: They were supposed to come in a wig like every

1003
00:45:45,480 --> 00:45:47,359
Speaker 1: thro three times a week or something, so you would

1004
00:45:47,360 --> 00:45:48,960
Speaker 1: ask them, Okay, what'd you eat the last two days?

1005
00:45:49,000 --> 00:45:50,360
Speaker 1: Because we would have a journal and jury of what

1006
00:45:50,360 --> 00:45:52,400
Speaker 1: they ate the last time they came in and they

1007
00:45:52,440 --> 00:45:54,560
Speaker 1: would feel like if they went up on the scale

1008
00:45:54,560 --> 00:45:55,920
Speaker 1: and they would be like, I don't know why I

1009
00:45:55,960 --> 00:45:57,960
Speaker 1: went up. And then I'd think, okay, well let's talk

1010
00:45:57,960 --> 00:46:00,840
Speaker 1: about what you ate, and then I wouldn't you'd like

1011
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:03,279
Speaker 1: consult there. No, No, I just had to write it down.

1012
00:46:03,480 --> 00:46:06,480
Speaker 1: I wasn't consulting. But in my mind, I'm like writing down,

1013
00:46:06,520 --> 00:46:11,080
Speaker 1: and I'm like, okay, menudo like oreos, it's menudo menudo.

1014
00:46:11,239 --> 00:46:13,440
Speaker 1: So we're in Texas, so in sort of like in

1015
00:46:13,440 --> 00:46:16,719
Speaker 1: a South Texas park is where I was. But it's

1016
00:46:17,160 --> 00:46:22,839
Speaker 1: a popular Mexican dish that is made up of all

1017
00:46:22,960 --> 00:46:27,399
Speaker 1: parts of the cow, like very fatty. I don't think

1018
00:46:27,400 --> 00:46:29,200
Speaker 1: it's a if there's.

1019
00:46:29,080 --> 00:46:33,480
Speaker 3: All parts, what do you mean, like the bones are bones?

1020
00:46:33,560 --> 00:46:35,640
Speaker 1: Wouldn't be but like like I don't.

1021
00:46:35,480 --> 00:46:38,239
Speaker 4: Test the liver and the like the what is it called,

1022
00:46:38,239 --> 00:46:39,440
Speaker 4: like the giblets or something?

1023
00:46:39,560 --> 00:46:41,120
Speaker 3: Is that that's chicken giblets.

1024
00:46:40,760 --> 00:46:45,000
Speaker 1: Or giblets giblets, Yeah, something like that. So I guess

1025
00:46:45,000 --> 00:46:48,319
Speaker 1: I'm just clarifying that sometimes it was really guy would

1026
00:46:48,320 --> 00:46:49,879
Speaker 1: be writing it down and'd be like, well, I know why,

1027
00:46:50,520 --> 00:46:54,640
Speaker 1: maybe didn't. But I wasn't qualified to council on that

1028
00:46:54,719 --> 00:46:56,319
Speaker 1: I just wrote it down and then I moved on

1029
00:46:56,400 --> 00:46:58,640
Speaker 1: to the next person. But yeah, that was in college,

1030
00:46:58,680 --> 00:47:01,839
Speaker 1: and it probably only worked there a few months and

1031
00:47:01,880 --> 00:47:04,480
Speaker 1: then I don't even know. I think it's because I

1032
00:47:04,520 --> 00:47:06,200
Speaker 1: was doing summer school there, because other than that, I

1033
00:47:06,200 --> 00:47:08,160
Speaker 1: would always go home for the summer and I didn't

1034
00:47:08,200 --> 00:47:11,520
Speaker 1: really work. But you know, I had a gas card

1035
00:47:11,760 --> 00:47:14,040
Speaker 1: that he paid his gas card.

1036
00:47:14,200 --> 00:47:15,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, and you're like, I could.

1037
00:47:15,320 --> 00:47:17,920
Speaker 1: Have and it's like that that wasn't necessary. He should

1038
00:47:17,920 --> 00:47:19,120
Speaker 1: have been like, you're paying for your own gas, you're

1039
00:47:19,120 --> 00:47:20,920
Speaker 1: paying for your own insurance. Like here, learn how to

1040
00:47:20,920 --> 00:47:22,960
Speaker 1: be an adult. And then no, wonder I have a

1041
00:47:23,000 --> 00:47:26,840
Speaker 1: fear of like opening bills, like because I didn't really

1042
00:47:26,920 --> 00:47:31,560
Speaker 1: have to open bills. But then also I knew, she said,

1043
00:47:31,680 --> 00:47:33,640
Speaker 1: so much of what I struggle with is like such

1044
00:47:33,680 --> 00:47:36,759
Speaker 1: on a subconscious level. It's like I knew there was

1045
00:47:36,800 --> 00:47:38,799
Speaker 1: also issues with my dad, because I knew there were

1046
00:47:38,840 --> 00:47:41,240
Speaker 1: times he went bankrupt, but then he always just bounced

1047
00:47:41,239 --> 00:47:46,920
Speaker 1: back how because he was a businessman. That's just so

1048
00:47:47,120 --> 00:47:48,080
Speaker 1: it was a roller coaster.

1049
00:47:48,239 --> 00:47:52,120
Speaker 4: That's like a lesson though of like sometimes this is

1050
00:47:52,160 --> 00:47:56,319
Speaker 4: not what you're putting down. Let me know, sometimes we

1051
00:47:56,360 --> 00:47:58,920
Speaker 4: think we're doing something that's really good for our kids.

1052
00:47:59,120 --> 00:48:02,919
Speaker 3: And then you learned it humble like the humble pie.

1053
00:48:02,960 --> 00:48:05,360
Speaker 4: Like you said, we learned like m it would have

1054
00:48:05,360 --> 00:48:08,319
Speaker 4: been better for me to have her get a job.

1055
00:48:08,400 --> 00:48:13,320
Speaker 1: Well, that's why passive parenting is so dangerous in my opinion.

1056
00:48:13,800 --> 00:48:15,320
Speaker 1: It is certainly easier.

1057
00:48:15,600 --> 00:48:19,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, but it is what so say passive parenting if

1058
00:48:19,680 --> 00:48:20,560
Speaker 4: somebody doesn't know what that is.

1059
00:48:20,600 --> 00:48:21,959
Speaker 3: What do you mean by that, I'm not a parent.

1060
00:48:23,920 --> 00:48:27,879
Speaker 1: Just it's easier to just let things slide slide? You don't.

1061
00:48:28,400 --> 00:48:31,759
Speaker 1: You don't take the initiative to course correct or to

1062
00:48:33,920 --> 00:48:39,200
Speaker 1: have consequences, to have boundaries, Like people thrive on boundaries.

1063
00:48:40,320 --> 00:48:43,200
Speaker 1: They're really helpful. At times, I had no curfew at

1064
00:48:43,200 --> 00:48:46,840
Speaker 1: my dad's house. I could have parties, we could drink.

1065
00:48:47,239 --> 00:48:50,279
Speaker 3: Shut up, yeah you didn't. I don't think I knew this.

1066
00:48:50,480 --> 00:48:53,000
Speaker 4: Oh your dad was like, come over to our house

1067
00:48:53,000 --> 00:48:53,880
Speaker 4: and drink, it's okay.

1068
00:48:54,680 --> 00:48:55,160
Speaker 3: Uh.

1069
00:48:55,200 --> 00:48:56,880
Speaker 1: Well, he would mostly be out of town, be he's like.

1070
00:48:57,040 --> 00:48:59,040
Speaker 1: I was like, well, I'm gonna have people over. And

1071
00:48:59,080 --> 00:49:01,440
Speaker 1: he knew that we drank. He just didn't want to

1072
00:49:01,480 --> 00:49:04,440
Speaker 1: deal with it. It was pat like, I'm sure.

1073
00:49:04,200 --> 00:49:07,000
Speaker 3: He left me that you drank. What would happen.

1074
00:49:07,120 --> 00:49:08,240
Speaker 1: Oh, no, I was in trouble.

1075
00:49:08,480 --> 00:49:10,040
Speaker 3: So did they not talk to each other?

1076
00:49:10,080 --> 00:49:10,319
Speaker 4: Of Like?

1077
00:49:10,920 --> 00:49:14,040
Speaker 1: No, I would have parties at my dad's house. And

1078
00:49:14,120 --> 00:49:15,759
Speaker 1: I didn't live with my dad. I lived with my mom,

1079
00:49:15,840 --> 00:49:18,279
Speaker 1: so sometimes I would have to leave because I had

1080
00:49:18,320 --> 00:49:21,520
Speaker 1: curfew at my mom's house. People would stay at my

1081
00:49:21,640 --> 00:49:22,240
Speaker 1: dad's house.

1082
00:49:22,560 --> 00:49:24,640
Speaker 3: Were you like a party girl in high school?

1083
00:49:24,880 --> 00:49:28,200
Speaker 1: No? I wouldn't say major major party girl. But I

1084
00:49:28,239 --> 00:49:32,160
Speaker 1: think that you were cool, though I don't know. I

1085
00:49:32,239 --> 00:49:35,839
Speaker 1: didn't feel cool probably yeah, So I don't know what

1086
00:49:35,960 --> 00:49:39,480
Speaker 1: defines that. I felt very like I wanted to be.

1087
00:49:40,160 --> 00:49:40,359
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1088
00:49:40,520 --> 00:49:43,840
Speaker 1: So, but yeah, those are my friends. They were cool.

1089
00:49:44,160 --> 00:49:47,360
Speaker 1: And my best friend Andrea, she's actually coming to town

1090
00:49:47,520 --> 00:49:49,960
Speaker 1: next weekend, so I'm excited to see her. But there's

1091
00:49:50,000 --> 00:49:51,239
Speaker 1: a few of us. We all met when we were

1092
00:49:51,239 --> 00:49:52,720
Speaker 1: thirteen and we still are friends.

1093
00:49:52,800 --> 00:49:53,720
Speaker 3: Is she going to bet Alex?

1094
00:49:54,080 --> 00:50:00,160
Speaker 1: She is? Yeah, ble So Scott's great a Luke when

1095
00:50:00,000 --> 00:50:02,440
Speaker 1: and we went to the Bahamas? Or No, not the Bahamas?

1096
00:50:02,440 --> 00:50:05,440
Speaker 1: Where'd we go? Cayman Islands last summer. I'm in the

1097
00:50:05,480 --> 00:50:08,000
Speaker 1: airport in the Cayman's and I look up and I

1098
00:50:08,040 --> 00:50:10,879
Speaker 1: see Luke, which he's the other he was at all

1099
00:50:10,880 --> 00:50:14,520
Speaker 1: these parties too, and I was like, Luke, I hadn't

1100
00:50:14,520 --> 00:50:16,719
Speaker 1: seen him in years, and it's crazy to like see

1101
00:50:16,760 --> 00:50:19,880
Speaker 1: your friends from that long ago. I got a random

1102
00:50:20,000 --> 00:50:23,160
Speaker 1: airport in another country. Yeah, so that is just fun.

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00:50:23,440 --> 00:50:25,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, well fun story.

1104
00:50:26,360 --> 00:50:29,680
Speaker 1: You were time, not bad you and your nickname was

1105
00:50:29,719 --> 00:50:30,400
Speaker 1: little Jesus.

1106
00:50:30,640 --> 00:50:33,960
Speaker 4: Literally, but I I'm the one that got uninvited to

1107
00:50:34,000 --> 00:50:36,480
Speaker 4: parties because there was drinking, So like, you are the

1108
00:50:36,480 --> 00:50:37,439
Speaker 4: one hosting them?

1109
00:50:37,960 --> 00:50:38,279
Speaker 3: Would you?

1110
00:50:38,480 --> 00:50:40,120
Speaker 4: But but I hear in that is you would have

1111
00:50:40,200 --> 00:50:42,160
Speaker 4: let me come to your party even if I didn't drink.

1112
00:50:42,360 --> 00:50:46,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, I I mean I probably didn't drink that night either,

1113
00:50:46,040 --> 00:50:47,440
Speaker 1: because I had to drive all the way back home

1114
00:50:47,480 --> 00:50:48,920
Speaker 1: to my mom's house. Yeah, and my mom and my

1115
00:50:49,040 --> 00:50:51,640
Speaker 1: dad didn't live near each other. Yeah, so it was

1116
00:50:51,680 --> 00:50:54,080
Speaker 1: Oh but I remember why one friend one night, she

1117
00:50:55,040 --> 00:50:56,960
Speaker 1: got busted for having the party. My mom caught me

1118
00:50:57,040 --> 00:51:00,040
Speaker 1: because one of my friends told her mom Hamsmin and

1119
00:51:00,040 --> 00:51:01,640
Speaker 1: then I with Amy, and she just assumed it was

1120
00:51:01,680 --> 00:51:03,920
Speaker 1: my mom's house, so she called my mom's landline to

1121
00:51:03,960 --> 00:51:06,080
Speaker 1: talk to her. You know, this is before cell phones

1122
00:51:06,120 --> 00:51:08,359
Speaker 1: and all that is Catherine there No, She's like, no,

1123
00:51:08,400 --> 00:51:10,560
Speaker 1: I swear she's spend the night with Amy. She's like,

1124
00:51:11,520 --> 00:51:13,600
Speaker 1: maybe she's so. My mom got in her car again.

1125
00:51:13,760 --> 00:51:16,200
Speaker 1: They did not look close, and my mom the Holy

1126
00:51:16,239 --> 00:51:18,160
Speaker 1: Spirit led her right to the door and I got

1127
00:51:18,200 --> 00:51:19,040
Speaker 1: in so much trouble.

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00:51:19,880 --> 00:51:22,840
Speaker 3: She walked showed up at the party. Yeah, are you drinking?

1129
00:51:23,400 --> 00:51:26,440
Speaker 1: Probably because I was staying there. Who knows, I don't know.

1130
00:51:27,719 --> 00:51:29,920
Speaker 1: And that was one time Jenna Bush. I went to

1131
00:51:30,000 --> 00:51:32,080
Speaker 1: high school with them. And this has nothing to do

1132
00:51:32,120 --> 00:51:34,799
Speaker 1: with like drinking. Did have a party? No, it's not

1133
00:51:34,840 --> 00:51:37,680
Speaker 1: to do with drinking, although she got busted underage drinking

1134
00:51:38,719 --> 00:51:42,000
Speaker 1: in the news. But we were doing a five k

1135
00:51:42,440 --> 00:51:44,560
Speaker 1: the next day and we had been up really late

1136
00:51:44,600 --> 00:51:46,719
Speaker 1: and we spent the night at my dad's house and

1137
00:51:46,800 --> 00:51:49,840
Speaker 1: I we had registered and paid for the money, and

1138
00:51:49,880 --> 00:51:51,160
Speaker 1: I really wanted to get up and go do the

1139
00:51:51,160 --> 00:51:52,600
Speaker 1: five k, and she was like, no, let's just let

1140
00:51:52,640 --> 00:51:53,640
Speaker 1: it go. I don't want to do it. And she

1141
00:51:53,680 --> 00:51:54,960
Speaker 1: was like, I'm so tired. I want to sleep, and

1142
00:51:54,960 --> 00:51:56,719
Speaker 1: I'm like no, we already read shirt like Noda and

1143
00:51:56,719 --> 00:51:58,839
Speaker 1: she was like, you're the devil. And I was like

1144
00:51:59,160 --> 00:52:01,160
Speaker 1: what she got? And she did it that we did it,

1145
00:52:01,680 --> 00:52:04,440
Speaker 1: but did you die? I think she was annoyed with

1146
00:52:04,480 --> 00:52:05,080
Speaker 1: me for sure.

1147
00:52:05,600 --> 00:52:09,520
Speaker 4: No, age, you can kind of bounce back different if

1148
00:52:09,560 --> 00:52:09,920
Speaker 4: you did that.

1149
00:52:10,040 --> 00:52:11,080
Speaker 3: Now, I don't think that.

1150
00:52:11,560 --> 00:52:15,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I think you so like, yeah we were

1151
00:52:15,040 --> 00:52:18,879
Speaker 1: we don't this No, if your kid's listening, No, we

1152
00:52:18,880 --> 00:52:19,720
Speaker 1: were stupid.

1153
00:52:19,760 --> 00:52:21,200
Speaker 3: But sometimes you just need a couple.

1154
00:52:21,920 --> 00:52:28,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, so there you are random, Yeah, jopped down memory lane.

1155
00:52:28,640 --> 00:52:30,440
Speaker 1: I had no idea we would do that, but there

1156
00:52:30,440 --> 00:52:35,600
Speaker 1: we are. Okay, anything else. This is a very diverse

1157
00:52:35,920 --> 00:52:37,880
Speaker 1: episode to talk about a lot of things, and we

1158
00:52:37,920 --> 00:52:40,440
Speaker 1: hope wherever you are, you are having the day you

1159
00:52:40,480 --> 00:52:44,160
Speaker 1: need to have. Bye Bye