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Speaker 1: There was a scenario for morality Monday on a Wednesday.

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Speaker 1: We've had a lot of morality this week, and I

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Speaker 1: like it. But for whatever reason, if you're on Reddit

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Speaker 1: and you read these things, they come and go quickly.

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Speaker 1: I don't know why, people like take them down or

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Speaker 1: they get deleted or I don't know why. So I

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Speaker 1: don't I can't read you the exact scenario, but I

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Speaker 1: want to know what you guys would do. And I

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Speaker 1: think maybe some of you have been through something like this,

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Speaker 1: but eight five five five, three to five, you can

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Speaker 1: context the same number. But essentially, it was a woman

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Speaker 1: who and I'm paraphrasing because they don't have it in

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Speaker 1: front of me anymore, but she was saying that years

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Speaker 1: and years and years ago, she hooked up with a

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Speaker 1: guy who had brothers, hooked up with him, very casual,

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Speaker 1: no big deal whatever. Years later, she runs into another

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Speaker 1: one of the brothers, who she didn't think much of

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Speaker 1: at the time, didn't really know him, got to know

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Speaker 1: him a little bit, they kind of started to have

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Speaker 1: feelings for each other and maybe it's going somewhere. She's

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Speaker 1: not sure if it's going somewhere yet, but like, maybe

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Speaker 1: it's going so we're more substantial, not a hookup, but

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Speaker 1: like an actual dating situation. And the question is, do you,

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Speaker 1: if you're in that situation, come clean. Do you immediately

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Speaker 1: say to this person who you might be developing something with,

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Speaker 1: I hooked up with your brother a bunch of years ago.

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Speaker 1: Do you assume that he already knows. Do you assume

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Speaker 1: he doesn't know? Do you not say anything at all

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Speaker 1: because it's not really relevant and it might sort of

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Speaker 1: take things off track. You know, like if I had

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Speaker 1: a brother and I didn't know that some woman ten

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Speaker 1: years ago or five years ago hooked up with him,

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Speaker 1: and then I kind of start to see this and

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Speaker 1: reconnect with her, and I'm like, oh, that's cool. Only

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Speaker 1: to find out that my brother hooked up I might

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Speaker 1: just stop liking I mean, I'm being honest. I might

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Speaker 1: just be like, I don't, I'm not. I'm not going

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Speaker 1: to fall in love with somebody. I don't. I don't

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Speaker 1: want to. I don't want that commonality. I don't want

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Speaker 1: my brother standing up there at my wedding being like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I slept with his wife, Like I just don't want

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Speaker 1: that in my life. And that might be very immature

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Speaker 1: of me, and I might be missing out of something

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Speaker 1: really good. But I'm just being honest. I don't. But

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Speaker 1: I also wouldn't want to necessarily marry someone only to

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Speaker 1: find out later or fall in love with someone. And

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Speaker 1: then there was this information out there that somebody could

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Speaker 1: have shared with me, and then at least I could have,

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Speaker 1: you know, dealt with it on my own. Now I

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Speaker 1: almost feel trapped. I'm like, wait a minute, So now

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Speaker 1: I have all these deep feelings for this person, but

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Speaker 1: then there's this information I didn't know that. I think

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Speaker 1: I should have known. What would you guys do in

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Speaker 1: this situation or have you been in this situation before?

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Speaker 1: What would you do? Kiki?

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Speaker 2: You don't don't let one brother stop you from finding

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Speaker 2: a husband, okay, the world is small.

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Speaker 1: Or wife, yeah you know, or husband or husband in

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Speaker 1: this case husband yeah yeah.

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Speaker 2: But I do think you should be very upfront with it,

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Speaker 2: you know, like, so the moment I think you and

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Speaker 2: I are going to take this to the next level. Hey,

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Speaker 2: so back in the day, I gave you brother some cat,

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Speaker 2: just letting you know, just throwing it out.

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Speaker 1: I didn't save the cat, you know, I wear the shirt,

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Speaker 1: but I certainly didn't.

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Speaker 2: I think you should tail that part and then move on.

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Speaker 2: Yeah I shouldn't, you know, stop.

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Speaker 1: You, but you could derail the whole thing from the

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Speaker 1: very beginning. Something that a situation that didn't matter to

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Speaker 1: you at all in the long run. But this might,

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Speaker 1: you know, you have a different feeling about this, but

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Speaker 1: that might. The new thing may never happen if you

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Speaker 1: reveal the old thing that didn't matter.

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Speaker 2: That's on honesty. You gotta be honest going into a

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Speaker 2: situation because I don't want to six months down the

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Speaker 2: line throw that on you or you find out some

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Speaker 2: way that wasn't for me.

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Speaker 1: That's really messed up.

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Speaker 2: So I rather tell you upfront, let you process that,

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Speaker 1: But I don't, you know, I don't like a secret.

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Speaker 1: But what if he already knew and he just doesn't

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Speaker 1: really want to, He doesn't really want to, you know,

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Speaker 1: dig that up again. Like they're brothers, right, So there's

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Speaker 1: it up again would be like, yeah, I already knew that,

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Speaker 1: Like I really don't want to relive that, you know.

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Speaker 1: So there's a chance that he's already informed. And what

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Speaker 1: difference does it make. Honestly, because I'm playing Devil's advocate here,

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Speaker 1: I would want to know. But what difference does it make? Really?

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Speaker 1: Like it it didn't change the course of time by

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Speaker 1: any means. It was insignificant. There are other people before you,

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Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like you didn't. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I guess you knew me, but you didn't know me

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Speaker 1: know me back then, So it wasn't like you chose

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Speaker 2: Oh, it's relevant. I need you to tell me if

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Speaker 2: you hooked up with my sister, I need you to

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Speaker 2: tell me that.

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Speaker 1: She needs to tell the guy. Uh. Someone else said yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean the universally, you got to tell the person. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: To Chase, you can tell the person you don't want

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Speaker 1: to live with that, like you don't want to like oh,

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Speaker 1: like to me, it's like you're living forever with like

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Speaker 1: something that you probably want to make sure your partner knows,

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Speaker 1: but they may not know. Like that's really hard to stomach. Forever.

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Speaker 3: First of all, I have hooked up with brothers okay,

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Speaker 3: and they knew, they both knew, but one of them

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Speaker 3: little more and they were fine with it, so as

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Speaker 1: It was a long time separated.

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Speaker 3: One was in high school and the rest was later

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Speaker 3: in life, so but everybody was aware. Yeah, And also I.

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Speaker 1: Think it's on the brother to say something.

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Speaker 3: If you see your sibling getting dating someone that you

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Speaker 3: hooked up with, you need to tell.

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Speaker 1: Someone needs to tell them. But it should on your

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Speaker 1: blood to tell that. I'm like, that's weird, interesting, interesting take. Yeah, no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: you're right, like I shouldn't have to be the one

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Speaker 1: to tell on myself, or do you just just no

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Speaker 1: one ever say anything and you just sort of apolonia?

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Speaker 1: Hi Hi, Hi, So you tell you gotta tell You're saying, yes, I.

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Speaker 4: Will tell him because the family function and bump into

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Speaker 4: which at some point he going to find out anyway

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Speaker 4: as well, you'll tell him.

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Speaker 1: That could make the family function very weird. And by

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Speaker 1: family function, I mean the wedding. You could make the

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Speaker 4: Not too because I remember in one episode you guys

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Speaker 4: have the Brooms came on talking about how you stuff

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Speaker 4: with the with the wife verse or something had one.

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Speaker 1: We've had a lot of episodes of Bologna. So I

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Speaker 1: don't know. I don't know who specifically that which episode

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Speaker 1: that was, but yeah, no, it could be. Okay, so

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Speaker 1: you would want to know, you would want to know

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Speaker 1: what yourself, Yes, that was.

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Speaker 4: You would tell if a figure it, sucially if a

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Speaker 4: figure out that they're related, Yes, because because at some

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Speaker 4: point the feeling when we start dating and falling in

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Speaker 4: love is then it's gonna be a problem between the

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Speaker 4: family them. I not talk anymore. The brother might talk,

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Speaker 4: not talking about make fun of the relationship iever I've gone.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I know would be very complicated. Yeah, thank you,

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Speaker 1: have a good day.

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Speaker 4: One second. One second, my daughter want to say high.

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Speaker 1: Please, Hey, let's just have it. Yeah, Hi, Hi? What

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Speaker 1: is your name?

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Speaker 5: Oh?

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Speaker 4: My name is Belle.

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Speaker 1: Belle. How old are you?

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Speaker 4: I'm thirteen?

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Speaker 1: You're thirteen? Okay, and you're in You're in Raleigh, right, Durham.

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Speaker 1: Oh you're in Durham. My bad? How dare I I?

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Speaker 1: How dare I make that assumption? I'm sorry? And where

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Speaker 1: are you going to school?

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Speaker 4: Oh?

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Speaker 1: George L. Carrington Middle School? All right? What's the mascot?

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Speaker 1: The mascot it's a huge cougar. It's a huge cougar.

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Speaker 1: It's not a small cougar. It's a big one. Yeah, no,

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Speaker 1: it has to we need a big cougar obviously. Hey guys,

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Speaker 1: thank you so much for listening. Have a great day,

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Speaker 1: glad anyone else in the cars that everybody make sure

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Speaker 1: I say how to everybody? Well, thank you for listening.

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Speaker 1: We appreciate that. I think for me, the timing is

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Speaker 1: the issue though, because if you say something up front,

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Speaker 1: then nothing may happen. If you say something once feelings emerge,

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Speaker 1: then the person could be like, wait minute, you let

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Speaker 1: me fall in love with you, Like we got this far.

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Speaker 1: You didn't tell me about the little stick and move

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Speaker 1: with my brother, you know what I mean? Like, so

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Speaker 1: when do you do it exactly?

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Speaker 3: You can't trap someone though, like you have to give

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Speaker 3: them all the info up front.

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Speaker 1: Yeah I get that, but but it may prevent.

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Speaker 3: You're going to fall in love with me, So I

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Speaker 1: You know, it may thwart anything from developing though. You

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Speaker 1: may ruin it from the start. It's not your personal

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Speaker 1: You don't tell them.

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Speaker 5: Never no, and then you use it where you pen

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Speaker 5: for the last ten minutes all the sudden, Now we

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Speaker 5: or something that's going on now all of a sudden,

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Speaker 5: now you got to completely opposite take him everyone else.

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Speaker 1: Ten minutes later, here comes Paulina. I wouldn't say nothing.

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Speaker 1: The reason, welcome to the program.

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Speaker 6: The reason I wouldn't tell is because I would use

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Speaker 6: his AMMO later. You gotta use his AMMO if we

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Speaker 6: get into a fight.

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Speaker 1: Wait, wait, come on, that's the reason that you're not

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Speaker 1: telling is because you want to be able to drop

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Speaker 1: a bomb and really hurt him. Talk only married one

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Speaker 1: and you know what she's doing something right?

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Speaker 5: Right?

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Speaker 1: My god, Hobvey, do I understand your life? Do you

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Speaker 1: get it now? What is so messed up?

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Speaker 2: I know what you have.

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Speaker 6: You have to always have AMMO in your pocket. You

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Speaker 6: gotta have like just like, I'm ready for this, because

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Speaker 6: you never know what people are gonna do to you.

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Speaker 1: Wow.

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Speaker 2: So you'll be like, that's why I slept with your brother,

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Speaker 2: That's why he was better.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I would be sliding down the wall. Sometimes I

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Speaker 1: think I'm a bad person, and then I think about

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Speaker 1: moments like this. Then I realized I'm hair would fall,

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Speaker 1: the raptures coming, and I'm going with it. So more

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Speaker 1: fresh show next