WEBVTT - Nip(ple) it in the Bud 0:00:00.320 --> 0:00:03.920 Help We Suck At Being Newlyweds? Dean Angler, Taylen Miller 0:00:04.000 --> 0:00:05.600 Key and Jared haven An. 0:00:05.600 --> 0:00:06.880 iHeartRadio podcast. 0:00:08.800 --> 0:00:14.040 What's going on? Everyone? Welcome to special Thursday episode of 0:00:14.160 --> 0:00:20.400 Help We Suck At Being Newlyweds. This is Dan Bell, 0:00:20.640 --> 0:00:26.680 joined by Caitlyn Miller and Dan Bell and Gary Haven Oh. 0:00:26.720 --> 0:00:29.520 I said, Jared, it's a pleasure. 0:00:29.640 --> 0:00:32.720 Sometimes people call me Jerry, Hey, Jerry, how's it going? 0:00:32.840 --> 0:00:39.199 Like Jared Harry. They just heart Gary, Steve and Caitlin. 0:00:39.640 --> 0:00:39.840 Oh. 0:00:40.240 --> 0:00:43.040 So everyone always calls me Caitlin and I always say 0:00:43.080 --> 0:00:45.479 no tea. And so someone was like Taylan. 0:00:46.760 --> 0:00:50.960 Because he's maybe like you said no and you said 0:00:51.040 --> 0:00:57.360 seez you said, I said low t My fiance got it. Anyways, 0:00:57.400 --> 0:00:59.440 we got some emails for you, guys, I'm going to 0:01:00.080 --> 0:01:01.560 do We want to just read these. I'll read this 0:01:01.600 --> 0:01:07.399 first one email from Jade Andrews. She says hello from Australia. 0:01:07.760 --> 0:01:08.480 That was brutal. 0:01:08.880 --> 0:01:14.040 She says, hello mate. She says, listen to your podcast 0:01:14.080 --> 0:01:16.039 today where you spoke about doing a live podcast and 0:01:16.040 --> 0:01:18.640 how you'd be scared no one would go. Just wanted 0:01:19.080 --> 0:01:20.600 to let you know I'm a fan all the way 0:01:20.600 --> 0:01:22.880 from Australia and have been for a long time. I 0:01:22.959 --> 0:01:25.080 especially laughed the other week when Jared told Dean to 0:01:25.120 --> 0:01:27.280 stand naked in the mirror and see how stupid you feel. 0:01:27.280 --> 0:01:29.440 When he would ask about it, Dean, did you end 0:01:29.560 --> 0:01:30.119 up doing this? 0:01:30.640 --> 0:01:33.520 First of all? I, oh, that's what I did. Tell 0:01:33.520 --> 0:01:36.199 you to stand naked in front of the mirror, because 0:01:36.240 --> 0:01:38.560 it's just like, it's a very humbling experience for a 0:01:38.640 --> 0:01:41.920 man who has hair three quarters of the way up 0:01:41.920 --> 0:01:46.280 his legs and then nothing paleness and then just hair 0:01:46.400 --> 0:01:47.480 on the butocks. 0:01:47.760 --> 0:01:48.760 Yeah, did you do it well? 0:01:48.760 --> 0:01:51.200 We talked about the butt hair the other week. Great episode. 0:01:51.200 --> 0:01:52.280 If you haven't listened to that one, go back and 0:01:52.280 --> 0:01:55.240 listen to it because it's a great episode. I shaved 0:01:55.240 --> 0:01:57.840 my nipple hair the other day. I remember actually when 0:01:57.880 --> 0:01:59.680 I was shirtless on the podcast, I was talking about 0:01:59.680 --> 0:02:01.760 how I had these nipple hair rings. 0:02:02.040 --> 0:02:03.200 They're gone, very clear. 0:02:03.280 --> 0:02:04.200 I saved them off. 0:02:04.280 --> 0:02:05.920 Wait do you see the tamline though. 0:02:06.680 --> 0:02:08.360 Let me see the tadline. I don't see the tadline. 0:02:08.400 --> 0:02:10.480 It was like three days into our Hawaii trip. 0:02:10.960 --> 0:02:11.919 Oh yeah, and. 0:02:11.880 --> 0:02:13.040 I was like, you know what, I'm sick of this 0:02:13.120 --> 0:02:14.519 nipple hair. I'm getting rid of it, and so I 0:02:14.560 --> 0:02:17.200 shaved it off and I had these horribly white rings 0:02:17.240 --> 0:02:19.880 around my nipples because the hair didn't let let it 0:02:19.880 --> 0:02:22.280 get tanned. And so then I was dealing with this 0:02:22.440 --> 0:02:26.760 embarrassing nipple ring all week long. And now I'm still 0:02:26.760 --> 0:02:27.960 embarrassed by it a little bit. 0:02:28.040 --> 0:02:29.960 But no, it's nothing to be embarrassed by. 0:02:30.440 --> 0:02:33.720 It's pretty embarrassing. Yeah. So, anyways, to answer your question, Jade, 0:02:33.720 --> 0:02:35.280 by the way, I thank you so much for the email. 0:02:36.000 --> 0:02:38.560 I stand in front of the mirror naked often and 0:02:38.639 --> 0:02:40.799 I I've got a lot of thoughts that run through 0:02:40.800 --> 0:02:44.160 my head, and Jared is probably the last thought that 0:02:44.200 --> 0:02:46.160 I have. So I wasn't ever consciously standing in front 0:02:46.160 --> 0:02:48.840 of the mirror thinking about Jared. So I apologize. I 0:02:49.160 --> 0:02:50.920 can try to do that for you for next week, 0:02:51.000 --> 0:02:51.400 but I. 0:02:51.400 --> 0:02:52.600 Would really appreciate it. 0:02:52.680 --> 0:02:55.840 Yeah. Yeah, Hey, how often do you shave down there? 0:02:57.160 --> 0:02:57.600 Down there? 0:02:57.919 --> 0:02:58.440 Yeah? Oh? 0:02:59.600 --> 0:03:02.640 Since being married? Yea, poor Ashley, I don't know. 0:03:04.440 --> 0:03:05.040 Twice a year. 0:03:05.760 --> 0:03:08.960 I dude, that's so funny that you said twice a year. 0:03:09.000 --> 0:03:11.880 That's exactly the number that was in my head. I 0:03:11.919 --> 0:03:14.640 was about to form the words in my mouth that 0:03:14.760 --> 0:03:17.240 said twice a year. And no, it's more than that. 0:03:17.320 --> 0:03:20.000 I could tell I was picking up on that vibe. 0:03:20.440 --> 0:03:23.639 I don't know. I mean probably yeah, I know four 0:03:23.680 --> 0:03:24.120 times a year. 0:03:24.200 --> 0:03:25.919 Yeah, I would say four times a year for me 0:03:25.960 --> 0:03:26.520 as well. 0:03:27.160 --> 0:03:28.440 Right, dude, it's like a jungle. 0:03:29.200 --> 0:03:31.160 Yeah, maybe maybe three times a year. 0:03:32.560 --> 0:03:34.880 As a female. Kalin like does that? You know? 0:03:35.640 --> 0:03:36.000 I like it? 0:03:36.880 --> 0:03:37.240 Yeah? 0:03:37.840 --> 0:03:41.800 Do you like like shave shave or you want little 0:03:42.040 --> 0:03:42.600 shave shave? 0:03:43.080 --> 0:03:45.119 I do nice. I do a nice landing strip. 0:03:45.720 --> 0:03:49.120 Shave shave shame shave like a baby. 0:03:49.760 --> 0:03:52.080 Yeah. Well, you're just taking electric rainer down there and 0:03:52.080 --> 0:03:53.680 it gets basically down to the skin. You know, you're 0:03:53.680 --> 0:03:55.120 not taking I'm not taking like a blade. 0:03:55.680 --> 0:03:56.560 No, don't take a blade. 0:03:56.560 --> 0:03:57.960 I've done that. I did that once in college and 0:03:58.000 --> 0:03:59.800 it was such a regrettable experience. 0:04:00.040 --> 0:04:00.840 Why would you do that? 0:04:00.880 --> 0:04:02.760 I'm just curious, just wanted to see what it was like. 0:04:03.160 --> 0:04:04.360 And did you use shaving cream? 0:04:04.600 --> 0:04:06.440 I don't. I don't know, I don't remember. 0:04:07.520 --> 0:04:10.760 Probably you didn't, just like roughly no, I don't know. 0:04:10.880 --> 0:04:13.520 I've got pretty delicate hair, so I can like shave 0:04:13.560 --> 0:04:16.400 without shaving cream pretty easily. I don't, you know, I 0:04:16.440 --> 0:04:20.320 don't have like a manly Baanlely hair follicle. It's it's 0:04:20.320 --> 0:04:24.280 just kind of like a mainly hair follicle, only one manly. So, yeah, 0:04:24.320 --> 0:04:26.400 I use an electric razor or. No, I used a 0:04:26.400 --> 0:04:28.600 straight razor when I was in college, and it was 0:04:28.600 --> 0:04:31.520 like it like sweat weirdly and so I would like 0:04:31.560 --> 0:04:34.360 have sweat pooling down there. And so you know, hair 0:04:34.440 --> 0:04:37.479 kind of helps regulate the the sweat and the and 0:04:37.520 --> 0:04:39.880 the body moisture and stuff it does. 0:04:40.040 --> 0:04:43.800 And yeah, of course I feel like I'm sweatier when 0:04:44.200 --> 0:04:45.040 i'm fuller. 0:04:46.120 --> 0:04:47.960 Yeah, because you're warmer. I guess that makes sense. But 0:04:48.000 --> 0:04:52.560 I'm pretty sure hair helps you like whisk whisk sweat away, 0:04:52.640 --> 0:04:53.400 whisp I don't. 0:04:53.440 --> 0:04:54.760 I've never heard this whisp. 0:04:54.480 --> 0:04:58.599 Away, whisk it away. It's like sweat. I think it wicks. 0:04:58.640 --> 0:05:02.200 It's sweat wicking. Hair is like wet wiki Anyways. Yeah, 0:05:02.240 --> 0:05:05.760 so that's that's my story, and that's the next email. 0:05:18.360 --> 0:05:21.200 This email is from Emily. I would love it if 0:05:21.240 --> 0:05:24.040 everyone could answer this about this signific their significant other. 0:05:24.360 --> 0:05:27.320 What is one thing that your significant other does that pushes, 0:05:27.480 --> 0:05:30.680 slash challenges you. What is one thing that your significant 0:05:30.680 --> 0:05:33.359 other does that you feel kind of holds you back 0:05:33.680 --> 0:05:36.159 second part of the question, if there is one thing 0:05:36.320 --> 0:05:37.920 you would like your partner to work on right now, 0:05:37.960 --> 0:05:39.599 what would it be? You certain intense? 0:05:40.480 --> 0:05:43.320 Those are pretty intense. I wonder I'm assuming that Emily 0:05:43.440 --> 0:05:45.479 is talking about a positive thing that they do that 0:05:45.520 --> 0:05:48.000 pushes or challenges you, not a negative. 0:05:48.120 --> 0:05:50.200 Well, it sounds like there's one thing that's positive that 0:05:50.240 --> 0:05:52.160 she does that pushes you, and then one thing that 0:05:52.320 --> 0:05:55.279 your partner holds you back from doing. 0:05:56.160 --> 0:05:58.240 Well, your partner's right there. So you guys talk first. 0:05:58.279 --> 0:06:00.280 I got about this, so you get in the fight. Now, 0:06:00.320 --> 0:06:00.800 let's do it. 0:06:02.360 --> 0:06:06.800 You just pushed me and challenged me in terms of like, uh, okay, 0:06:06.839 --> 0:06:08.840 So what Diane is really good at is never saying 0:06:08.839 --> 0:06:11.360 he's he can't do anything, like he just he does 0:06:11.400 --> 0:06:14.680 everything and he excels at everything, which is annoying. And 0:06:14.760 --> 0:06:17.359 you kind of encourage me to do the same, to 0:06:17.520 --> 0:06:20.360 like not say no and try like try to do something, 0:06:20.960 --> 0:06:23.720 you know, like something out of my comfort zone and 0:06:23.720 --> 0:06:27.239 and you're really good at doing that. Does that makes sense? 0:06:27.360 --> 0:06:30.840 That makes sense? Holds me back to the negative one? Now? 0:06:31.400 --> 0:06:35.240 Yeah, he I don't know. 0:06:35.839 --> 0:06:38.240 I have I have a question for you that can 0:06:38.320 --> 0:06:41.479 lead you, uh to a direction and Dean don't be 0:06:41.560 --> 0:06:44.720 mad at this in case, in case, this is a 0:06:45.640 --> 0:06:50.600 point of contention. Do you think, especially in the world 0:06:50.640 --> 0:06:56.680 that we are all in, this influencer brand podcast, the 0:06:56.760 --> 0:06:58.920 Bachelor world that we were very lucky to be part of. 0:06:59.000 --> 0:07:04.760 Do you think that Dean doesn't hold you back financially, 0:07:04.800 --> 0:07:06.719 but like there's times where you're like, I really wish, 0:07:06.839 --> 0:07:08.960 like Dean, let's just go for it and like do 0:07:09.000 --> 0:07:13.160 this and then we'll be better off because of it. Yeah, 0:07:13.200 --> 0:07:15.000 maybe I could see that that would be the one 0:07:15.040 --> 0:07:15.760 thing I think. 0:07:15.800 --> 0:07:20.320 I think that is maybe just the one thing potentially. 0:07:20.520 --> 0:07:21.560 Well, I would like an example. 0:07:21.760 --> 0:07:26.200 I don't have one. I'm saying, potentially, let's spark the fire. 0:07:26.320 --> 0:07:29.480 Disagreeing with anything, Jared, No, no, no, but like you know 0:07:30.240 --> 0:07:35.600 you good place. Don't love to do the like influencery things. 0:07:35.960 --> 0:07:37.680 Yeah, yeah, I agree with that. 0:07:37.680 --> 0:07:40.680 That's true and those never have you ever turned like 0:07:41.160 --> 0:07:43.400 has there ever been a point where Dean is like, 0:07:43.440 --> 0:07:44.320 I'm not doing this? 0:07:44.960 --> 0:07:49.400 A lot of things such a weird balance between like 0:07:49.480 --> 0:07:51.320 wanting to make as much money as we can while 0:07:51.360 --> 0:07:54.600 we can and not wanting to be a sellout. You know, 0:07:55.960 --> 0:07:57.000 it's a delicate balance. 0:07:57.520 --> 0:08:01.400 Yeah, but I think you're like more, We're not even 0:08:01.440 --> 0:08:04.480 like selling out, nor are you. It's just like you 0:08:04.560 --> 0:08:05.680 just don't want to do it. 0:08:06.000 --> 0:08:07.840 Well, there are certain things that I would definitely say 0:08:07.880 --> 0:08:10.360 yes to, and then there are like what what's the 0:08:10.400 --> 0:08:12.040 last one I've said no to? I'm just curious because 0:08:12.040 --> 0:08:13.200 I don't disagree with you. 0:08:13.520 --> 0:08:13.960 I don't know. 0:08:14.160 --> 0:08:16.000 Yeah, but like. 0:08:16.120 --> 0:08:17.560 For me and Ashley, like a lot of the pro 0:08:17.960 --> 0:08:19.880 you know, we just said no, but it's only because 0:08:19.880 --> 0:08:22.679 of things that we really just like we can't partner 0:08:22.760 --> 0:08:24.400 up with this. We don't want to. It's not for 0:08:24.520 --> 0:08:27.280 us like we don't it's just you know, so that 0:08:27.360 --> 0:08:30.360 we don't want to do. But honestly, everything that we do, 0:08:31.480 --> 0:08:35.800 we're very lucky. You know. Like I just posted about 0:08:36.559 --> 0:08:39.520 like we just worked with Dove, and I think it's 0:08:39.920 --> 0:08:42.680 like I use Dove every day of my life. Yeah, 0:08:42.880 --> 0:08:46.120 you know, I'm a Dove guy. Or like these Joe blasters, 0:08:46.840 --> 0:08:50.360 there's so much fun, and I like, I just so, yeah, 0:08:50.360 --> 0:08:51.160 there's lucky. 0:08:51.240 --> 0:08:53.520 There's the good ones obviously, I think. So I'll give 0:08:53.520 --> 0:08:56.080 you an example, Kaylen. So whenever Kaylen and I travel somewhere, 0:08:56.480 --> 0:08:58.400 if Kaylen wants to stay in a hotel. She'll reach 0:08:58.400 --> 0:09:00.920 out to the hotel and the hotel like for a 0:09:00.920 --> 0:09:04.280 free stay in exchange for social exposure or whatever. And 0:09:04.720 --> 0:09:06.400 she's always like, will you post for the hotel if 0:09:06.440 --> 0:09:08.120 I can get us a free room? And every time 0:09:08.160 --> 0:09:09.719 I say no, I won't do that. I will never 0:09:09.800 --> 0:09:10.079 do that. 0:09:10.160 --> 0:09:12.240 Yeah, And I've started to just say I'm traveling by 0:09:12.280 --> 0:09:15.760 myself because it's going to be the same ask and 0:09:15.800 --> 0:09:17.240 I know Dean's not gonna post. 0:09:17.400 --> 0:09:20.240 Yeah, I hate asking. I hate posting for free school. 0:09:20.360 --> 0:09:22.880 Why if the hotel is like looking for exposure, you 0:09:22.960 --> 0:09:24.880 guys out there have to say, have a big platform, 0:09:25.000 --> 0:09:27.160 and and we love photography. 0:09:26.840 --> 0:09:28.719 Like if there's if there's like let's say we're going 0:09:28.720 --> 0:09:30.160 to like for instance, we were just in Hawaii, we 0:09:30.200 --> 0:09:32.120 got a free hotel because I'm posting for them. Or 0:09:32.120 --> 0:09:33.720 if we go to Italy, we'll do all. I'd be 0:09:33.720 --> 0:09:35.760 happy to do that. But like if we're going to 0:09:36.600 --> 0:09:39.240 Aspen or something, especially if I had my van with me, 0:09:39.640 --> 0:09:41.360 I'm in my head, I'm like, no, why would I 0:09:41.440 --> 0:09:43.480 Why would I work to get a free stay at 0:09:43.480 --> 0:09:45.240 a hotel when I've got my van and I've spent 0:09:45.280 --> 0:09:46.400 so much time building out here. 0:09:46.720 --> 0:09:48.760 So that's like, because you'd just rather stay in the van, 0:09:48.840 --> 0:09:50.760 It's not about the free hotel room, it's about the van. 0:09:50.960 --> 0:09:54.719 Well, yeah, the van was made for the purpose of 0:09:54.840 --> 0:09:58.760 traveling more freely and more easily and more inexpensively. And 0:09:59.040 --> 0:10:01.800 why would I put more work into doing something else 0:10:01.800 --> 0:10:03.560 to stay out of the van when I've worked hard 0:10:03.559 --> 0:10:05.439 to make the van comfortable for myself To say, it. 0:10:05.360 --> 0:10:07.480 Really just comes down to whether your fiance wants to 0:10:07.520 --> 0:10:09.520 sleep in the van. Yeah, hotel room she should. 0:10:09.600 --> 0:10:12.480 She should be, not in twenty degree, whether it was a. 0:10:12.400 --> 0:10:14.120 Freaking heater in there, it was warm, it was like 0:10:14.160 --> 0:10:16.880 a sauna in there. I'll answer this question now, so 0:10:18.000 --> 0:10:22.280 buckle up. What is one thing that my significant other 0:10:22.360 --> 0:10:25.240 does that pushes and challenges me? I think Caylen pushes 0:10:25.280 --> 0:10:29.760 and challenges me to be more future focused. You know. 0:10:29.800 --> 0:10:33.680 Ever since a young boy, I've always thought that I 0:10:33.760 --> 0:10:36.040 was going to be dead by twenty two, and then 0:10:36.040 --> 0:10:39.319 dead by twenty six, and then dead by thirty. And 0:10:39.400 --> 0:10:42.360 now that I've been with Kayleen, it's like, I mean, 0:10:42.440 --> 0:10:44.679 I'm probably not going to be dead anytime soon, and 0:10:44.720 --> 0:10:46.760 I have to come to grips with that. And it's 0:10:46.760 --> 0:10:48.720 not the worst thing in the world. So you challenged 0:10:48.760 --> 0:10:54.600 me to be more forward thinking and more aware of 0:10:54.679 --> 0:10:57.040 setting myself up for the future. I guess Kalen's a 0:10:57.120 --> 0:10:59.400 very hard worker, so she challenges me to work harder. 0:11:00.000 --> 0:11:02.680 Doesn't really work all the time, but she's got a 0:11:02.679 --> 0:11:05.280 great work ethic, and I admire that about her. So 0:11:05.520 --> 0:11:08.960 I think that's how she challenges me positively. And how 0:11:09.000 --> 0:11:11.280 does she hold me back? Well, this one's an easy one. 0:11:11.440 --> 0:11:13.520 Yeah, yeah, here comes the list. 0:11:13.920 --> 0:11:15.520 Yeah. Oh yeah, Actually, let me open the notes of 0:11:15.520 --> 0:11:17.000 the night. And I was actually written this down the 0:11:17.040 --> 0:11:22.840 other day. No, Kaylen, Kaylen. It's funny actually because it's 0:11:22.880 --> 0:11:26.080 kind of a contradict. So I just said, Kaylen is 0:11:27.280 --> 0:11:30.000 really good at saying yes to things before they happen. 0:11:30.040 --> 0:11:31.320 So like if I'm like, hey, let's wake up at 0:11:31.360 --> 0:11:33.520 sunrise and go do this tomorrow, She's like, yeah, that 0:11:33.520 --> 0:11:35.400 sounds really fun. And then my alarm goes off at 0:11:35.400 --> 0:11:37.000 like four thirty in the morning and I roll over 0:11:37.000 --> 0:11:38.280 and I'm like, hey, it's time to get up. We're 0:11:38.280 --> 0:11:40.560 going out and doing this thing, and she's like, go 0:11:40.720 --> 0:11:43.480 without me. I'm not going on that thing. 0:11:44.200 --> 0:11:47.040 And I'm like, oh, I wake up like a sweet angel, 0:11:47.120 --> 0:11:47.720 don't you dig? 0:11:48.280 --> 0:11:49.959 Yeah, you wake up at like a sweet angel or 0:11:50.200 --> 0:11:52.599 like a seven but four thirty. But I'm forcing you 0:11:52.640 --> 0:11:54.680 how to bed. No go without me. I'm not going. 0:11:54.800 --> 0:11:56.800 And then I get discouraged because I'm like, well, I 0:11:56.840 --> 0:11:59.320 really want to do this, but I want you to 0:11:59.320 --> 0:12:01.400 be excited to do it. And now that you're not 0:12:01.520 --> 0:12:02.880 excited to do it, now I don't know if I 0:12:02.920 --> 0:12:03.719 really want to do it. 0:12:04.240 --> 0:12:07.040 Yesterday I woke up to Dean pinching me at six am. 0:12:07.280 --> 0:12:10.040 Yeah, because for a great example, yesterday I went to 0:12:10.080 --> 0:12:11.679 the dump. I had a bunch of stuff to dump, 0:12:11.920 --> 0:12:13.960 so I left the house at six am and I 0:12:14.000 --> 0:12:16.080 woke up and the night before Caleen was like, oh, 0:12:16.080 --> 0:12:17.319 I'll definitely go with you. I don't want you to 0:12:17.360 --> 0:12:19.280 have to go alone. No, no, no. And then I 0:12:19.320 --> 0:12:21.040 wake up at six am and I'm like, Kaitlen, are 0:12:21.080 --> 0:12:23.079 you coming with me? Like you don't have to, and she's. 0:12:22.920 --> 0:12:27.360 Like what, No, Because waking up to an alarm clock, 0:12:27.440 --> 0:12:30.120 or waking up to a BackRub or like you know something, 0:12:30.240 --> 0:12:32.880 but waking up to pinch they were cute pinches. 0:12:33.040 --> 0:12:36.160 They were not cute, very cute, delicate pinches. They were 0:12:36.280 --> 0:12:38.960 very cute, like like, hey, wake up, sweetie. They were 0:12:39.000 --> 0:12:42.480 not I wasn't like twisting your skin. I was simply 0:12:42.679 --> 0:12:45.960 just like giving you a little little little snips disagree 0:12:46.000 --> 0:12:48.199 with Oh my gosh. And so, needless to say, I 0:12:48.200 --> 0:12:50.040 went to the dump by myself yesterday. That's a great 0:12:50.040 --> 0:12:51.120 example than you around. 0:12:51.200 --> 0:12:53.240 Welcome. Okay, well that's a Jared answer. 0:12:53.320 --> 0:12:54.640 Yeah, okay, I had a couple more to go, but 0:12:54.640 --> 0:12:55.760 that's fine, Jared, what do you got? 0:12:57.160 --> 0:12:59.959 What does so Ashley, as similar to what Dean was saying, 0:13:00.040 --> 0:13:02.840 actually pushes me to think more about the future and 0:13:03.920 --> 0:13:07.000 really strive to go after things that I want. Because so, Caitlyn, 0:13:07.040 --> 0:13:10.080 you said something that also resonated with me in terms 0:13:10.080 --> 0:13:11.800 of Ashley. And then now what I want to pass 0:13:11.840 --> 0:13:18.199 on to Dawson, where Dean's challenges you to really believe 0:13:18.280 --> 0:13:20.720 that you can accomplish more things than you think you can, 0:13:21.160 --> 0:13:23.040 and I think that's a great quality and Ashley definitely 0:13:23.080 --> 0:13:25.560 instills that in me. But you know, Ashley is a 0:13:25.880 --> 0:13:30.720 definite believer in the power of the power of belief, like, hey, 0:13:30.760 --> 0:13:32.440 I'm going to I believe that I can do this 0:13:32.480 --> 0:13:35.120 and I will do it. And so that actually ironically 0:13:35.200 --> 0:13:36.480 I was thinking about that, you know, last night of 0:13:36.520 --> 0:13:39.120 the night before with Dawson, because I was looking at Dawson. 0:13:39.600 --> 0:13:41.960 Of course, it's just a fatherly moment. He looks adorable, 0:13:42.280 --> 0:13:45.720 and I was like, I want him to believe that 0:13:45.800 --> 0:13:50.280 he can accomplish anything, and so that's something that I 0:13:50.320 --> 0:13:54.480 really want to try to vocalize to him, and I 0:13:54.480 --> 0:13:56.600 think Ashley does a great job of pushing me to 0:13:56.640 --> 0:13:59.120 do that as well. One thing that she holds me 0:13:59.280 --> 0:14:01.200 back on, I gotta be honest, I'm trying to think 0:14:01.240 --> 0:14:03.920 of something that I would say the only thing that 0:14:03.960 --> 0:14:08.120 she certainly doesn't hold me back on. But I kind 0:14:08.120 --> 0:14:10.160 of am gonna blend the what does she hold you 0:14:10.200 --> 0:14:12.040 back on? And one thing that you'd like your partner 0:14:12.080 --> 0:14:16.720 to work on. I would love for her to be 0:14:16.800 --> 0:14:24.440 more active in my uh like not personal life, because 0:14:24.440 --> 0:14:25.800 actually is so great in my personal. 0:14:25.560 --> 0:14:30.440 Life, but like really like whether it be golf or softball, 0:14:30.520 --> 0:14:33.040 like coming to more of my softball games or encouraging 0:14:33.040 --> 0:14:35.520 me to like, hey, let's let's go play tennis, or 0:14:35.560 --> 0:14:37.560 I wish she was a little bit more athletic because 0:14:37.600 --> 0:14:41.080 like the sports side of me, in terms of playing sports, 0:14:41.160 --> 0:14:41.840 not watching sports. 0:14:41.880 --> 0:14:44.160 She'll watch football with me. But playing sports or like 0:14:44.200 --> 0:14:46.560 being with friends and playing catch like that is just 0:14:47.120 --> 0:14:50.400 not Ashley's m O or vibe. And so I always 0:14:50.400 --> 0:14:53.400 feel bad because if we do a cookout or if 0:14:53.600 --> 0:14:56.360 you know, if I want to play sports in a 0:14:56.400 --> 0:15:00.000 sports league, like that is like my time and not 0:15:00.120 --> 0:15:02.600 Ashley's time. And I wish it was blended more together 0:15:02.760 --> 0:15:04.560 where it was like because I always tell her, like, 0:15:04.560 --> 0:15:07.480 I want you to come to my softball games. She's like, why, 0:15:07.640 --> 0:15:10.120 Like I don't like going. I'm you're playing, I'm there 0:15:10.160 --> 0:15:12.240 sitting by myself for two hours taking care of Dawson. 0:15:12.280 --> 0:15:13.840 I'm like yeah, but of course, like I'll go over 0:15:13.880 --> 0:15:15.920 and we have friends and like it's more of a 0:15:15.920 --> 0:15:17.840 community thing. She's like, well, I'm not really friends with 0:15:17.880 --> 0:15:19.440 your friends, Like I don't want to go and just 0:15:19.480 --> 0:15:21.720 hang out by myself. I'm like, yeah, but the only 0:15:21.760 --> 0:15:23.240 way you're gonna be come friends with my friends is 0:15:23.240 --> 0:15:25.200 that you come. And like I get it because it's 0:15:25.200 --> 0:15:28.720 like you're taking care of Dawson, but and I'm playing softball, 0:15:29.120 --> 0:15:31.200 and but like I want you to be a part 0:15:31.240 --> 0:15:33.120 of it. And so that's probably the one thing. 0:15:33.320 --> 0:15:35.840 Softball is a tough sport. To watch. I could I mean, 0:15:35.880 --> 0:15:38.800 I could see why Ashley would be hesitant again fast 0:15:39.200 --> 0:15:41.240 like baseball is hard enough and then here you are 0:15:41.280 --> 0:15:43.800 watching softball a bunch of like over the hill forty 0:15:43.880 --> 0:15:44.280 year old. 0:15:45.680 --> 0:15:48.320 It's drinking and just dude, it's like guys that. 0:15:48.400 --> 0:15:51.040 From your perspective though, so much fun to play, so 0:15:51.160 --> 0:15:51.520 much fun. 0:15:51.600 --> 0:15:54.760 Yeah, but it's also like it's just it's it's definitely 0:15:54.760 --> 0:15:57.840 not Ashley's vibe either, because it's like there because so 0:15:57.880 --> 0:16:00.000 we play Sunday afternoons and there's a Sunday morning. Man, 0:16:00.520 --> 0:16:02.680 and I'm not joking. There are guys that show up 0:16:02.760 --> 0:16:06.120 at seven thirty in the morning, start drinking, play soft 0:16:06.440 --> 0:16:08.880 I'm talking about a lot of guys and they are 0:16:08.960 --> 0:16:12.320 there till seven o'clock at night. They stayed the entire day. 0:16:12.760 --> 0:16:16.880 There is cornhole, they have TVs and they are just shrunk, 0:16:17.320 --> 0:16:21.600 and it's like every Sunday. I'm like, that's crazy. 0:16:21.600 --> 0:16:23.760 Wait, have you guys tried pickleball together? I feel like 0:16:23.840 --> 0:16:26.320 that's a good couple's like ease into sports games. 0:16:26.400 --> 0:16:27.880 We haven't tried pick a ball. That's a good idea. 0:16:28.000 --> 0:16:29.920 It's really fun and it's like a social you can 0:16:30.000 --> 0:16:33.840 drink if you want to. It's not too much like running. 0:16:34.760 --> 0:16:36.240 Yeah, she has no desire to come on the golf 0:16:36.280 --> 0:16:38.040 course with me. She has no desire of really playing 0:16:38.040 --> 0:16:39.840 sports with me, and she really has no desire to 0:16:39.840 --> 0:16:42.280 come watch me play sports. So it's like I'm kind 0:16:42.280 --> 0:16:43.880 of up Shit's creek right now with that. So I'm 0:16:43.880 --> 0:16:46.080 trying to figure out a way to incorporate that. And 0:16:46.120 --> 0:16:48.000 I think because we tried tennis one time and that 0:16:48.080 --> 0:16:50.040 was just a disaster. Because we tried tennis a couple 0:16:50.040 --> 0:16:52.640 of times and she I love my wife more than anything, 0:16:52.640 --> 0:16:55.080 but she is the most uncoordinated, unathletic woman I think 0:16:55.080 --> 0:16:57.000 I've ever met my entire life. Like, she has no 0:16:57.120 --> 0:17:00.840 hand eye coordination, and so playing tennis it's not fun 0:17:00.880 --> 0:17:03.440 at all. Well because she's terrible, and I don't have 0:17:03.440 --> 0:17:06.680 fun because I'm literally just like I think, Yeah, you go. 0:17:08.160 --> 0:17:09.280 So pickle ball is interesting. 0:17:09.560 --> 0:17:12.720 Yeah, we like to play together. Yeah, it's pretty fun. 0:17:12.760 --> 0:17:14.960 It's like a good couple's game. Yeah, and you could 0:17:15.119 --> 0:17:18.399 like go with another couple and do doubles. 0:17:18.680 --> 0:17:19.320 Yeah, that's true. 0:17:19.320 --> 0:17:21.000 All right, let's read this last email. We have about 0:17:21.000 --> 0:17:23.040 a minute left. Well, rapid fire this one. This one 0:17:23.080 --> 0:17:26.760 is from our famous email or Anonymous also known as 0:17:26.840 --> 0:17:30.119 Nick viall, who's just crushing the game right now, So 0:17:30.160 --> 0:17:31.800 it's very nice of him to take time out of 0:17:31.800 --> 0:17:32.040 his day. 0:17:32.160 --> 0:17:33.240 So much for this rapid fire. 0:17:34.280 --> 0:17:37.399 Oh sorry, do you think there's such thing as a 0:17:37.520 --> 0:17:41.119 quote honeymoon phase lasting too long? I feel like this 0:17:41.160 --> 0:17:42.800 is such an odd thing to complain about. But my 0:17:42.880 --> 0:17:46.560 husband and I literally have not had one giant argument yet. 0:17:46.720 --> 0:17:49.160 We did get married fast, got engaged after eight months 0:17:49.200 --> 0:17:52.639 of meeting, and then married married five months later. We 0:17:52.720 --> 0:17:55.320 have now been married for two months, so we have 0:17:55.400 --> 0:17:58.399