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Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of my Heart Radio.

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Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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Speaker 1: Today's tip is from my friend Charlie Gilki's new book,

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Speaker 1: Start Finishing, How to Go from Idea to Done. The

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Speaker 1: book is out this week. He suggests that we embrace

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Speaker 1: the thrashing in order to do our best work. Now,

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Speaker 1: what does that mean? Well, let me quote from Charlie.

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Speaker 1: He says that we're paradoxical creatures. On the one hand,

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Speaker 1: we all want to do our best work. On the

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Speaker 1: other hand, we often avoid doing it. This paradox only

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Speaker 1: makes sense when we acknowledge that there's a lot happening

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Speaker 1: in our inner landscapes that's keeping us from choosing to

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Speaker 1: do our best work, and that makes choosing an idea

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Speaker 1: that matters tricky. To pick an idea that matters, the

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Speaker 1: part of you that wants to thrive and do your

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Speaker 1: best work, we'll have to overcome the part of you

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Speaker 1: that wants to play at safe, be comfortable, and not

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Speaker 1: ruffle any feathers. And so Charlie writes, it's time to

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Speaker 1: embrace the thrashing that you're doing. Thrashing, he says, is

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Speaker 1: the term I use for this emotional flailing and metalwork

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Speaker 1: we do when we don't fully commit to our best work.

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Speaker 1: What's really going on is that we're working out our

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Speaker 1: own head trash, the fears, imposter syndrome, and sometimes unconscious

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Speaker 1: perceptions of our own inadequacies. When we're thrashing, we're like

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Speaker 1: the rocking chair that moves a lot but doesn't actually

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Speaker 1: get anywhere. The more an idea matters to you, the

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Speaker 1: moreal thrash, precisely because it's success or failure is deeply

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Speaker 1: important to you. Now. Thrashing in and of itself doesn't

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Speaker 1: sound like a particularly pleasant way to spend time, but

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Speaker 1: says Charlie, beware of the siren call of the easier idea.

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Speaker 1: If you switch to an easier project, you'll end up

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Speaker 1: thrashing anyway. You might finish it, but you won't nearly

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Speaker 1: as satisfied as if you finish the one you baild on.

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Speaker 1: Thrashing is a sign that you're doing something that matters,

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Speaker 1: and that you'll need to show up powerfully to get

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Speaker 1: it done. Charlie writes, I like this idea of embracing

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Speaker 1: the thrashing in general because it gets at a revolutionary idea.

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Speaker 1: When it comes to time. When people send me questions,

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Speaker 1: many are structured along the lines of how can I

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Speaker 1: make this challenging thing easier. Maybe someone wants to wake

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Speaker 1: up earlier and start a morning routine, or people are

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Speaker 1: looking for tips to get family dinner on the table

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Speaker 1: when everyone's hungry, or they're looking to survive plane flights

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Speaker 1: with little kids. We want to write that book we've

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Speaker 1: been thinking about forever, or we want to learn a language.

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Speaker 1: And certainly there are ways to make challenging tasks easier

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Speaker 1: or more pleasant, but they're never going to be a

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Speaker 1: total walk in the park. You never hear someone who's

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Speaker 1: written a book say, Wow, that was so easy. I

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Speaker 1: just sat down and wrote it and I didn't have

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Speaker 1: to expend much thought or energy at all. Instead, the

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Speaker 1: philosophy of embracing the thrashing means that just because something

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Speaker 1: is difficult doesn't mean we shouldn't do it. You can

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Speaker 1: accept some rough stuff because you know there's a payoff.

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Speaker 1: When I've interviewed people who travel frequently overseas with their

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Speaker 1: young kids, I've asked for tips on how to make

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Speaker 1: this more pleasant, But my favorite quote from one expert was, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I wish there was a way to do that, and

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Speaker 1: I love that answer. Her point was that, yes, those

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Speaker 1: eight hours in the air might be terrible, but you

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Speaker 1: know what it's worth it to travel and to create

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Speaker 1: those memories, and to share those memories with your children

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Speaker 1: and to make them citizens of the world. A little

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Speaker 1: thrashing in this case, maybe a literally thrashing toddler is

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Speaker 1: a small price to pay. So if you've got a

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Speaker 1: tough project and you find yourself thrashing, try to just

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Speaker 1: sit with that idea for a bit. Yes, this thing

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Speaker 1: you're trying is challenging, but are probably doing it for

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Speaker 1: a reason. As Charlie noted, thrashing is a sign that

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Speaker 1: you're doing something that matters. So be brave and march on.

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Speaker 1: In the meantime, This is Laura, Thanks for listening, and

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Speaker 1: here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody,

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