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Speaker 1: second Dato date the girl on the phone to do
Speaker 1: a second date update today spent her first date in
Speaker 1: my own personal hell oh chuck e cheese. No worse
Speaker 1: than that for me. Really, They spend an afternoon together
Speaker 1: at Target. I love Target, or you'd know you do.
Speaker 1: But as a guy who've had many girlfriends who like
Speaker 1: to wake him up Sunday morning when he's hungover and go,
Speaker 1: let's go to Target and walk around for a while,
Speaker 1: it hurts me to my core to have to talk
Speaker 1: about this. Her name is Lucia. She's on the phone
Speaker 1: right now, and apparently, yeah, for her first date, her
Speaker 1: and this guy went to Target. Lucia, how you doing,
Speaker 1: I'm good? How are you? Oh? My god? Did you
Speaker 1: like go on your date and then come back with
Speaker 1: the best curtains and that candle that you didn't know
Speaker 1: that you needed when you love No, that's not what happened.
Speaker 1: That's why it takes seventeen hours to go there have
Speaker 1: such good stuff, Lucia. How does one go on a
Speaker 1: first date to Target? Anyway? Well, in my situation, the
Speaker 1: guy's name is Terence. I met him at a work
Speaker 1: function and he asked me out and I said yes.
Speaker 1: So I waited a few days and hit him up
Speaker 1: and said, Hey, I'm going to Target. Do you want
Speaker 1: to come? And he said he yes. That's impressive because
Speaker 1: you would side. We ever like, ah, you know, I'm
Speaker 1: super busy today. Maybe we go to dinner or something sometime. Well,
Speaker 1: I feel like, you know, dinner, you know, pressure, It
Speaker 1: comes to dinner and it's like then you gotta think
Speaker 1: what are you going to talk about? And he's the
Speaker 1: whole thing. Well, how was the date at Target? I
Speaker 1: thought the date went really really well. We had a
Speaker 1: lot of fun. We looked at quote and then I
Speaker 1: suggested that we go to the movies, which was next door. Okay,
Speaker 1: you turned it into like a legit date. You didn't
Speaker 1: just go shopping for a half hour. You guys did
Speaker 1: the movie too. Well, that's what I do. I invite
Speaker 1: a guy to Target. If I like him enough, then
Speaker 1: you know, we'll continue after a Target, go see a movie.
Speaker 1: You said, this is what I do. Does that mean
Speaker 1: you take all of your dates to Target? Yes? Really?
Speaker 1: I mean, well, I've never heard of anybody taking a
Speaker 1: date to Target. Ever. Well, when you're dating someone, you're
Speaker 1: trying to find out what you have in common, and
Speaker 1: when you go to a restaurant it takes about hour.
Speaker 1: It takes much longer. So if you go to Target,
Speaker 1: you can figure that out and like sixteen minutes. I
Speaker 1: guess yeah, you could tell what kind of stuff they
Speaker 1: want to see, where they want to shop, what kind
Speaker 1: of clothes they like. You all that. That's what I'm
Speaker 1: telling you. I think it's awesome. If someone doesn't like Target,
Speaker 1: then you know right away it's not going to work.
Speaker 1: I will say, there's a lot of opportunity for good
Speaker 1: conversation starters, right exactly. You see things that spark your interest.
Speaker 1: Hey do you have this? And you out I'll say, oh, funny,
Speaker 1: sorry I burnt something on using that iron, you know.
Speaker 1: I mean people some people meet at Starbucks to see
Speaker 1: if the conversation is over coffee, you just like to
Speaker 1: do it over Massimo or whatever. So did you guys
Speaker 1: end him going to the movie. No, he said that
Speaker 1: he had to go because he didn't have any time. Oh,
Speaker 1: so he wasn't feeling it then, Well I believed him,
Speaker 1: But then when I hit him up a few days later,
Speaker 1: he never responded. So he hasn't said anything to you
Speaker 1: since your Target experience. No, did he seem bored or
Speaker 1: did he seem fully engaged in having fun? I know
Speaker 1: when we got to the DVD section, we had a
Speaker 1: bunch of laughs there. I don't know, I'm talking about
Speaker 1: all the different kinds of movies you've seen. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: thought it was a good date. Do you think he
Speaker 1: thought it was a date or he was just hanging
Speaker 1: out with his new friend to Target? Well, I mean,
Speaker 1: here's the thing. He asked me out, so I feel
Speaker 1: like he knew it was a date. Yeah. Did he
Speaker 1: ask you out to go somewhere and then you just
Speaker 1: texted him and we're like, I'm about to go to
Speaker 1: Target in an hour. You want to join me? Yes? Okay,
Speaker 1: because that doesn't because if I were him, I'd be like, oh,
Speaker 1: she doesn't really want to date me. She just sort
Speaker 1: of wants to be friends or something. But then he
Speaker 1: could still say yes to the movie at the end, right,
Speaker 1: I don't know, not necessarily, because I might think, Hey,
Speaker 1: is this my buddy, and now she wants to go
Speaker 1: see a movie and we're gonna sit there and share popcorn,
Speaker 1: maybe not even share popcorn. So you think that he
Speaker 1: thinks that I just want to be friends. Yeah, that's
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. What possibility is that could be one
Speaker 1: of the reasons why he's not calling you back. Well,
Speaker 1: I made it clear on my text messages that I'd
Speaker 1: like to go out with him again, so I don't
Speaker 1: really know how that would be the case. Okay, And
Speaker 1: he said nothing back to you at all. Nothing. How
Speaker 1: many times have you try to get a hold of him?
Speaker 1: I mean I don't want to, you know, stock him
Speaker 1: and scare him off, but I mean a few times. Okay, Well,
Speaker 1: we'll play a song, come back, call him and get
Speaker 1: your second date update. All right, Okay, thank you, hang
Speaker 1: on looking jubil in the morning. We are actually learning
Speaker 1: something from today's second date update, and that's that dating
Speaker 1: has changed. No longer is it dinner. You should take
Speaker 1: your first date to a department store. That's right. You
Speaker 1: just walk around a place like Target, and you take
Speaker 1: him over to the home furnishing sections and go, oh,
Speaker 1: look some Martha Stewart collection towels, what do you think
Speaker 1: about those? And then you see if they have similar interests.
Speaker 1: That's what Lucia did on her first date, and apparently
Speaker 1: that's what she's been doing for a lot of her
Speaker 1: first dates. When a guy wants to go out with her,
Speaker 1: she'll hit him up and be like, Hey, I'm going
Speaker 1: to Target. They want to come with me? And if
Speaker 1: they seem like they have a lot in common and
Speaker 1: they like the same things at Target, then she'll be like,
Speaker 1: let's go to the movies or something after and continue
Speaker 1: the date. If not, then she just splits and goes like, yeah,
Speaker 1: that guy's a jerk. And her most recent target date
Speaker 1: is a guy named Terrence that she met at a
Speaker 1: work function. They went and hung out at Target. She
Speaker 1: really liked it. She invited him to the movies after
Speaker 1: he said, oh, I gotta go, and he hasn't talked
Speaker 1: to her ever since. All right, Lucia, are you ready
Speaker 1: to call him and see why he's not getting back
Speaker 1: to you. I'm ready, Lucia. Can I ask you what's
Speaker 1: your success rate with the target test? Well, that's how
Speaker 1: I met my last boyfriend. Okay, all right, Well I'm
Speaker 1: about to dial Terrence's phone number. See if we get
Speaker 1: him on the phone and find out why he's not
Speaker 1: calling you back. Okay, okay, here we go. Hello, Hi,
Speaker 1: can I speak to Terrence please? Terrence? Hey, Terrence? How
Speaker 1: are you? This is Jewil from Brook and Jewil in
Speaker 1: the Morning. Sorry, from what Brooke and Jewil in the Morning.
Speaker 1: It's a radio show. Okay, okay, how are you doing?
Speaker 1: I don't understand why are you calling me? I'm calling
Speaker 1: you because you recently went out on a date with
Speaker 1: one of our listeners and they're wondering why you're not
Speaker 1: calling them back. So you're doing a show about it. Yeah, well,
Speaker 1: it's a segment we do on our show called the
Speaker 1: second Date Update. You recently went on a date with
Speaker 1: a girl named Lucia. Okay, Well, Lucia emailed us and
Speaker 1: told us about your little Target experience, and she says
Speaker 1: that she's asked you out a few times after that,
Speaker 1: and you just aren't responding to herself. She's wondering if
Speaker 1: you didn't want to see her again, or she did
Speaker 1: something wrong on your date. Well, I mean you call
Speaker 1: a date like walking around Target and like shopping, you know,
Speaker 1: just like getting stop by the way I wanted to
Speaker 1: point out. I told her how weird it sounds to
Speaker 1: take somebody on a date to Target. Yeah, but if
Speaker 1: you don't like a person, why are you going to
Speaker 1: agree to go hang out with him at Target? Like
Speaker 1: you liked her at the beginning of this, well, I
Speaker 1: mean yeah, and she's like cool and she's really cute,
Speaker 1: you know, which is like, I mean, I'm like a
Speaker 1: really simple dude. I'm you know, I'm down to hang
Speaker 1: out at Target. I just didn't really know what school was,
Speaker 1: what the deal was. You know. We're like walking, she's
Speaker 1: like shopping, you know, like she got like a towel
Speaker 1: set and toothpaste and like toilet paper, you know, just
Speaker 1: like she's like shopping, right, Okay, and I got like
Speaker 1: some Twizzlers because I love Twizzlers and they have them there,
Speaker 1: which is great. They have everything totally. But we're like
Speaker 1: in the checkout line, right, and I'm like behind her
Speaker 1: and she's running all her stuff and it comes out
Speaker 1: to like ninety six dollars. The checkout person who like
Speaker 1: tells her the total, and she turns and looks at
Speaker 1: me and she says, are you gonna get this? Yeah?
Speaker 1: She had you buy her stuff at Target? You know
Speaker 1: what to do? What did you do? I paid for it?
Speaker 1: You paid for her stuff at Target? I mean, well
Speaker 1: I don't. I was like what, I didn't know if
Speaker 1: we were on a date. I didn't like I thought,
Speaker 1: maybe she's gonna give me cash, you know, like she
Speaker 1: didn't have any or like paying, like say, I'll write
Speaker 1: you a check or i'll pay Like what when she
Speaker 1: first Okay, so when she turned to you and said
Speaker 1: are you going to pay for this? What was your
Speaker 1: first reaction to her? Because I would have laughed and
Speaker 1: been like no, I just like we're in line, you know,
Speaker 1: it's like they're the people behind us. So I kind
Speaker 1: of just panicked and I gave the checkout lady my
Speaker 1: card and she didn't offer to reimburse you at any point,
Speaker 1: like I forgot my credit card, I'll pay you back
Speaker 1: later type of situation. I don't even know if she
Speaker 1: said thank you really, So you feel like she used
Speaker 1: you to buy her groceries or something. I don't feel
Speaker 1: like she used me. She totally used honestly, Like if
Speaker 1: that's how she is, it was a pretty cheap lesson,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I'm glad that I learned
Speaker 1: it at the start. Yeah, she says, she really likes you.
Speaker 1: That's the thing. Would you like me if I bought
Speaker 1: you your grocery? Yeah, I guess you're right. I would.
Speaker 1: I would really appreciate that. Maybe you should. You and
Speaker 1: I should hang out sometimes. Is you like doing that
Speaker 1: for people? Jarens So I also need to let you
Speaker 1: know that Lucia is actually on the other line listening
Speaker 1: to this conversation. No way, yes, yes I am. Hey,
Speaker 1: I'm so confused. What's going on right now? I don't
Speaker 1: understand anything. What are you confused about? You made me
Speaker 1: buy your groceries? Well, I thought we were on a
Speaker 1: date and you were a gentleman, and everybody knows on
Speaker 1: a first date, the gentleman pays. Are you they pay, Lucia?
Speaker 1: They don't normally pay for your groceries at Target? Yes
Speaker 1: they do. That's how I found my last boyfriend, and
Speaker 1: other guys don't seem to have a problem. It just
Speaker 1: sounds like you're using men to just pay for your lifet. No,
Speaker 1: it was a first date. He should have paid, you know,
Speaker 1: he would have paid the same amount for dinner. We
Speaker 1: just got towld and stuff. But that's the thing on
Speaker 1: a date, like you both do something together, like you
Speaker 1: and you both have is we did? And this is
Speaker 1: different because I'm just buying yourself. Didn't we spend time
Speaker 1: together like that was part of the date. We had
Speaker 1: fun together. We spent time. That's what you do. And
Speaker 1: I shared stories with you, see sharing? I shared and
Speaker 1: the guy pays on a first date? Are you joking
Speaker 1: with this right now? Look? I have taken plenty of
Speaker 1: guys to target and they don't seem to have an issue. Well,
Speaker 1: they don't have an issue because you probably never hear
Speaker 1: from them again. No, they're just different. You're cheap and
Speaker 1: they're not. I mean, this is what I'm up a
Speaker 1: good No, No, I don't think she's a nut job.
Speaker 1: I'm what I'm This is what happens. This is what
Speaker 1: has worked for me in the past. And I thought,
Speaker 1: I genuinely thought he was a nice guy. Okay, Natalie,
Speaker 1: I was wrong. Yeah. Not only that, but you're the
Speaker 1: one that asked him out. So even if you guys
Speaker 1: were going to dinner, you should have been the one paid.
Speaker 1: I mean that's kind of the general rule. Right. Well, No,
Speaker 1: technically he asked me out on the first date, okay, right,
Speaker 1: and then happened to be going to Target, and you
Speaker 1: made that date Target, and you thought he should have
Speaker 1: been a gentleman and paid for your first date at
Speaker 1: Target exactly, so I'm completely innocent in all this. I
Speaker 1: mean it was the first date he should have paid, ye, Lucia, Lucia,
Speaker 1: you're exactly right, and I'm sorry that he's overreacting about that.
Speaker 1: Thank you, you're welcome, and I'm sorry she's going to
Speaker 1: take you seriously. She should take me seriously, Lucia reacting. Yes,
Speaker 1: he is right, Lucia, but would you like to go
Speaker 1: out with him again? Though? We'll pay for a second
Speaker 1: date wherever you want to go Walmart. Even before I
Speaker 1: would have said yes, but not now. Really no, I'm
Speaker 1: not interested in going out with someone who doesn't know
Speaker 1: proper etiquette for our first seat. And I think you're
Speaker 1: completely justified, Lucia. Okay, thank you, you're welcome. Well, I
Speaker 1: don't want to go out with him, but you guys,
Speaker 1: I mean for participating. I wouldn't mind to gift cards.
Speaker 1: You want the dinner even though you're not getting a
Speaker 1: second day. Well, this has been very stressful. It has
Speaker 1: been Lucia. No, Lucia, you're right. This has been stressful
Speaker 1: for you, and he was kind of a jerk about
Speaker 1: the whole thing. I'm sorry, Terence, but you were he was,
Speaker 1: So you know what, I'm gonna put you on hold
Speaker 1: and then I'm gonna get you a bunch of gift cards. Okay, Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're welcome. Hang on the phone, Okay, Okay, love you guys. Dude,
Speaker 1: you are not taking things better. That girl is nothing.
Speaker 1: I just want to do more second date updates with her.
Speaker 1: I know we're going to get more broken Jubil in
Speaker 1: the morning,