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Speaker 1: Welcome to Fitness Disrupted, a production of I Heart Radio.

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Speaker 1: I am Tom Holland and this is Fitness Disrupted. My

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Speaker 1: next guest goes to the psychological component of living our

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Speaker 1: best lives and I talk about all the time, and

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Speaker 1: she is so unique and she's amazing, and we go

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Speaker 1: way back having spoken in a while. Though she's so busy,

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Speaker 1: He's done so many things. And as I say at

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Speaker 1: the end of every episode, we control three things. How

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Speaker 1: much we move when we put into our mouths, and

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Speaker 1: our attitudes. And Megan Murphy is going to talk about

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Speaker 1: that attitude component, and it's a tricky one. We're gonna

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Speaker 1: talk about why it's tricky, and we're gonna talk about

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Speaker 1: how similar we are in our approaches and and our energy.

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Speaker 1: But that comes from struggle. But too often people don't

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Speaker 1: see that. They don't see it once you talk about it.

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Speaker 1: And I don't really talk about mine much. I will,

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Speaker 1: but my point is that it goes to control and

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Speaker 1: controlling our emotions and controlling the stress process and knowing

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Speaker 1: that it is a process and anxiety. And we live

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Speaker 1: in a time where with COVID and all of this craziness,

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Speaker 1: it's never more important to control that, and to talk

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Speaker 1: about mental health and to know how much we have

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Speaker 1: control over that. And that's why I say, after I

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Speaker 1: say those three things, look, you know we control how

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Speaker 1: much we move with put in our mouths and our attitudes.

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Speaker 1: And that's awesome. That is awesome. That's awesome. And it

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Speaker 1: goes to the title of her book, You're Fully Charged Life,

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Speaker 1: a radically simple approach to having endless energy and filling

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Speaker 1: every day with you a we choose our mindset, we

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Speaker 1: choose to be be or unhappy. Are you faced with

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Speaker 1: obstacles and just stressful situations? Absolutely, everyone is nonstopped. And

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Speaker 1: that's why I talk about my racing and they bore

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Speaker 1: some of you sometimes, but there's so much value and

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Speaker 1: I've learned so much from getting uncomfortable, putting myself in

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Speaker 1: ridiculous situations iron Man's Ultra marathons, you know, running across

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Speaker 1: the Grand Canyon and back, and the potential stressful situation

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Speaker 1: you learn you can get through it, and you will

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Speaker 1: get through it, and you can embrace the excuse or

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Speaker 1: you can choose the challenge. And it's so much better

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Speaker 1: to live a fully charged life because you get to

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Speaker 1: control it. You know, it's that scene from Shawshank Redemption

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Speaker 1: where they discuss controlling hope and controlling your mindset when

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Speaker 1: everything else is stripped away. No one can take that

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Speaker 1: away from you. No one can tell you how to feel.

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Speaker 1: It's challenging, it's hard for many people. It takes practice,

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Speaker 1: it takes self efficacy, but it's empowering and it should

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Speaker 1: be exciting to you in a world where there's so

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Speaker 1: little that you can control now, where there's chaos, So

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Speaker 1: we need to control what we can when I race.

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Speaker 1: When I used to coach people for racing, and they

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Speaker 1: would talk about the weather and the core say control

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Speaker 1: what you can. We're all going through that same weather,

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Speaker 1: we're all experiencing that. It's our perceptions of that and

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Speaker 1: what we allow into our heads that makes all the difference.

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Speaker 1: I've spoken enough time to bring her on all right,

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Speaker 1: quick break when we come back, amazing, amazing person. Let

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Speaker 1: me give you her bio, and I could give you

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Speaker 1: this like extensive bio because she is amazing and has

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Speaker 1: done so much. But Megan Murphy is a long time

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Speaker 1: magazine editor, writer, on air, lifestyle expert, podcaster, and certified

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Speaker 1: trainer and does all of those things all the time.

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Speaker 1: She's currently the editor in chief of Women's Day magazine.

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Speaker 1: She is a media veteran who previously served as executive

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Speaker 1: editor of Good Housekeeping. She lives with her husband, three children,

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Speaker 1: and for baby in Westfield, New Jersey. She truly is

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Speaker 1: the woman and sounds weird to say out loud, but

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Speaker 1: who does it all. But that doesn't mean that's not challenging,

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Speaker 1: and that she's been through some really hard times that

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Speaker 1: help you get there. And there's never been never a

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Speaker 1: bad time for this book. But talk about the perfect time. Alright,

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Speaker 1: quick break, when we come back, Megan Murphy, your fully

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Speaker 1: charged life, We'll be right back, and we are back

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Speaker 1: at the end of every podcast almost I say what

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Speaker 1: I say. We are in control of three things, how

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Speaker 1: much we move, what we put into our mouths, and

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Speaker 1: probably I want to say more importantly, but no, they're

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Speaker 1: all important. Our attitudes. And Megan Murphy has a book

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Speaker 1: and and a lifestyle that exemplifies that third component that

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Speaker 1: is so important, our attitudes, and it's what I have

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Speaker 1: studied for years. It's a huge part of the success

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Speaker 1: and you have the mental state. So Megan Murphy, thank

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Speaker 1: you so much for joining us. So let's just get

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Speaker 1: right to it. The book Your Fully Charged Life, a

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Speaker 1: radically simple approach to having endless energy and filling every

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Speaker 1: day with you. Let's go back. I didn't talk about

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Speaker 1: it in the intro. Was it Self Magazine that we

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Speaker 1: And I find like all roads lead back to Self

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Speaker 1: Magazine somehow I know everybody from my Self Magazine days, right,

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Speaker 1: And I think you literally started me in that world

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Speaker 1: first magazines that I started contributing to and we met

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Speaker 1: and just we are so similar in so many ways

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Speaker 1: when it comes to how we live, our lives, our

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Speaker 1: energy and probably let's listen a bunch of you know

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Speaker 1: other things. People sometimes look at that energy in weird ways, right,

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Speaker 1: that we'll talk about. And is in your book Love

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Speaker 1: your book and grants? How hard was it for you

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Speaker 1: to write? You know, it was like a labor of love.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I would say it's sort of a lifetime

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Speaker 1: in the making. Um, three years of hard labor and

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Speaker 1: then and then yea pandemic. I was like trying to

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Speaker 1: homeschool three kids, run a magazine and finish this book

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Speaker 1: um in April, and you know, I did a little

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Speaker 1: crying in the shower, um, waking up at four am

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Speaker 1: a sloth and work on his handwriting. I mean, it

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Speaker 1: was hard. It was hard. It's one of the hardest things.

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Speaker 1: It is, like, and I always have written a couple

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Speaker 1: now Megan, and like I'm a last minute person, Like

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Speaker 1: I wait, it's just how I work. And I've learned,

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Speaker 1: like hey, embrace the you know, the process that we have.

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Speaker 1: But every book I'm like, Okay, I'm going to start earlier,

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Speaker 1: it's so it doesn't matter either because like to the

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Speaker 1: eleventh hour, I kept saying to my editor, well, can

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Speaker 1: I just I want to change that? Can I rewrite that?

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Speaker 1: Like the longer lingers, the more I want to change,

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Speaker 1: So like my as well, just wait till the last

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Speaker 1: minute exactly, thank you for giving me right what I

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Speaker 1: can be excuses but you're right. It's never good enough,

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Speaker 1: it's never perfect. We'll talk about that. But you are

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Speaker 1: in such a unique you know. I loved reading your

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Speaker 1: book for so many reasons. Again, we are so similar

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Speaker 1: And then when you have this positive attitude, people look

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Speaker 1: So you know, loud and clear in the book, and

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Speaker 1: I mean, I know you do. Yeah, I mean it's

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Speaker 1: peters and I say, hi, five theaters. I think it's

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Speaker 1: hate me if you hate me, right. I worked very

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Speaker 1: hard to live with optimism and joy, you know, um,

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Speaker 1: you know, I had some very tumultuous teen years. I

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Speaker 1: I'm okay, you know so so he's saying to people,

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Speaker 1: it's the same people who roll their eyes at somebody

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Speaker 1: and you it's easy to dislike or to disdain something

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Speaker 1: But like people who are truly I would argue in

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Speaker 1: have experienced that, Megan, You've we both we all have

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Speaker 1: you're full a church life is. It's happiness toolkit. It's

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Speaker 1: and when you apply these things over time, it's gonna

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Speaker 1: And I think that is always my approach to mental

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Speaker 1: feels like stuff that listen. I have more empty notebooks

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Speaker 1: that's not the way to do it. Focus on your

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Speaker 1: strength and bring them up, right, And that's a huge

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Speaker 1: part of this book. I don't even know what my

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Speaker 1: weaknesses are at this point. I'm ignoring them, right, Listen,

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Speaker 1: our enemies will tell us, right the hater. I can

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Speaker 1: always just read a message if I want to know

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Speaker 1: where I suck. Oh my gosh, I have a whole

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Speaker 1: take them. It's the ultimate compliment. It shows that you're

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Speaker 1: out there and you know you're striking a nerve, especially

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Speaker 1: in this realm. I mean, it's a story for another day,

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Speaker 1: but tell people again. So it's your fully charged life,

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Speaker 1: A radically simple approach to having endless energy and filling

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Speaker 1: every day with you a. There could have been no

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Speaker 1: better time for this book to come out. I mean

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Speaker 1: it's there's never a bad time. But just as we

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Speaker 1: on the book and just how they can use it. Oh,

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Speaker 1: I think that there's always a way to find the

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Speaker 1: A and tomorrow could be more awesome and you might

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Speaker 1: be one simple tip trick for strategy away from that.

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Speaker 1: So I want you all to go out and buy

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Speaker 1: the book. And not only buy the book Okay, Amazon,

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Speaker 1: it's everywhere you can find books. But what is so

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Speaker 1: helpful to writers is to write a review. Okay, so

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Speaker 1: oh my gosh, right, yeah yeah, and you know it's

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Speaker 1: it's so helpful. People don't realize. So I want to

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Speaker 1: say that. And this is what I love, Megan, is

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Speaker 1: is having you know you on the show, just helping

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Speaker 1: people better their wives. We have the greatest job in

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Speaker 1: the world right doing that, helping people better their lives.

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Speaker 1: And it's it's mental, it's physical, it's you know, what

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Speaker 1: we eat, so what we put into our heads people

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Speaker 1: is really really important. So read your Fully Charged Life. Megan.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for taking the time. I know

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Speaker 1: how busy you are. And I will have you back on.

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Speaker 1: And what's the next book. Well, it's called change of plans.

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Speaker 1: There you go, so change of plans. We will have

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Speaker 1: you back on for that. I know how busy you are,

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Speaker 1: so I will let you go. Megan, have an awesome day,

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Speaker 1: so great talking. Thank you, Tom. All right, speak soon

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Speaker 1: and we will be right back after this short break

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Speaker 1: and we are back. Thank you again to Megan Murphy. Amazing, amazing.

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Speaker 1: Some of you may have seen her, by the way,

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Speaker 1: She's on TV all the time, has an incredible platform.

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Speaker 1: Is it now? I want to say regius? And Kathy

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Speaker 1: Region said, who is it now? I don't watch that

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Speaker 1: Today Show, Um, who is it? Ryan? And Kelly? Now, Uh,

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Speaker 1: she's everywhere. She's awesome. And you heard a little bit.

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Speaker 1: But we need to take care of those three buckets exercise,

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Speaker 1: nutrition and mental state. And if your mental state isn't right,

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Speaker 1: the exercise in the nutrition are going to be right.

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Speaker 1: And all three feed one another, all three and that's

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Speaker 1: why when you change all three a little bit, it

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Speaker 1: changes your life dramatically. And why it's a process, a

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Speaker 1: system's process, As I say, for frequently, when you exercise

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Speaker 1: you change your mental state for the better, start thinking,

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Speaker 1: make better food choices. And this connection, this web, is

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Speaker 1: and that's great news. And when you change those three

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Speaker 1: components slowly over time, because it takes time, you will

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Speaker 1: truly live your fully charged life. And it's under our control.

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Speaker 1: It's our choice. No one can tell you how to think. Yes,

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Speaker 1: people can make you feel bad certain interactions. Over time,

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Speaker 1: you learn that's our choice. They did that show about

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Speaker 1: how I think it was a fit tip. I live

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Speaker 1: my life like I'm wearing a heart rate monitor all

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Speaker 1: the time, and you're not going to raise my heart rate,

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Speaker 1: cut me off in traffic, you do something you know,

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Speaker 1: you're just not nice. All right, it's my choice, and

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna let you stress me out because that's

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Speaker 1: a choice. I'm gonna walk away, I'm gonna smile. Listen,

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Speaker 1: there's no better reaction to someone who cuts you off

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Speaker 1: and then it gives you the finger than smiling and waving.

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Speaker 1: You want to make them nuts. So thank you to

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Speaker 1: Megan Murphy. And I cannot say more strongly how this

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Speaker 1: is the book for you right now to get you

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Speaker 1: started so well. Written in such a conversational funge, you know,

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Speaker 1: cheerly she said it. It's your coach, your cheerleader. We

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Speaker 1: all need that, and she simplifies it. But as I

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Speaker 1: said in an interview, this is based on super hard

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Speaker 1: science and it can truly help transform your life. All right,

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Speaker 1: So by the book you're fully charged life and review

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Speaker 1: it super helpful. And if you've purchase the micro Workout Plan,

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Speaker 1: which I recommend, I would love for you to review

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Speaker 1: that as well, super helpful. Like that's how we continue

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Speaker 1: to write books. So thank you again for listening. I

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Speaker 1: love bringing you these guests. Only the best, only the

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Speaker 1: best of the best people who will help you have

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Speaker 1: your best life. Megan Murphy is one of those. If

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Speaker 1: you want to reach out, Tom h bent is Instagram

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Speaker 1: and Twitter, Fitness Disrupted dot Com, you can email me

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Speaker 1: through the site read more about what I'm doing there.

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Speaker 1: Micro Workout Plan, as I said, is my most recent book.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for those who have purchased and reviewed. Super

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Speaker 1: helpful and another show to help you have your best life.

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Speaker 1: That's what it's about, that's my goal. I am Holland.

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Speaker 1: This is Fitness Disrupted. Believe in yourself. Fitness Disrupted is

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