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Speaker 1: you on the podcast, and I've chatted with you prior

427
00:24:09,600 --> 00:24:13,560
Speaker 1: to you starting your season, but Dale, obviously this is

428
00:24:13,800 --> 00:24:16,280
Speaker 1: your first time ever being on the show. We haven't

429
00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:18,840
Speaker 1: had a chance to pick your brain yet. But I mean,

430
00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:22,000
Speaker 1: I'm curious. I think all of our listeners are curious,

431
00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:25,600
Speaker 1: Like you coming on to the Boustret, Like what did

432
00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:27,560
Speaker 1: you expect in your mind? Like what did you think

433
00:24:27,640 --> 00:24:30,600
Speaker 1: the potential outcome would be? Like did you, like in

434
00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:33,920
Speaker 1: your wildest rooms, could do fathom sitting down now? Like

435
00:24:34,920 --> 00:24:37,560
Speaker 1: what four weeks later being engaged getting down on one

436
00:24:37,600 --> 00:24:42,080
Speaker 1: knee with Claire, Like now house Hunting and Sacramento. Yeah,

437
00:24:42,200 --> 00:24:45,800
Speaker 1: I mean, I honestly, I could have never planned it

438
00:24:46,000 --> 00:24:49,960
Speaker 1: to go this way. But when I decided to go

439
00:24:50,040 --> 00:24:53,479
Speaker 1: on the show, a big thing was to give up

440
00:24:53,520 --> 00:24:56,760
Speaker 1: control for once in my life and just be fully vested,

441
00:24:56,880 --> 00:25:00,320
Speaker 1: be fully present. And when I saw that Claire was

442
00:25:00,840 --> 00:25:04,000
Speaker 1: going to be the bachelorette, like, that's exactly what made

443
00:25:04,040 --> 00:25:06,520
Speaker 1: me comfortable enough to do it, because I knew that

444
00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:09,399
Speaker 1: even just from her interviews and the little bit that

445
00:25:09,480 --> 00:25:12,840
Speaker 1: I saw, I felt her excitement, but that I could

446
00:25:12,880 --> 00:25:16,280
Speaker 1: truly trust her and I was willing to, I don't know,

447
00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:20,680
Speaker 1: just say like screw it, I'll you know, be fully present,

448
00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:23,639
Speaker 1: give up all control. And it's something that was outside

449
00:25:23,640 --> 00:25:26,480
Speaker 1: of the box, but I've I was just in it

450
00:25:26,560 --> 00:25:30,720
Speaker 1: with the open heart, and I think even mentally preparing

451
00:25:30,840 --> 00:25:34,800
Speaker 1: for all those months I was preparing for her, you know,

452
00:25:34,960 --> 00:25:38,879
Speaker 1: I was visualizing and thinking what this woman would be like.

453
00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:42,159
Speaker 1: So when I stepped out of the limo night one, like,

454
00:25:42,320 --> 00:25:45,440
Speaker 1: my mind and heart was dead set and focused on

455
00:25:46,480 --> 00:25:48,760
Speaker 1: being with her at the end of it. You know,

456
00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:50,640
Speaker 1: I wasn't going in it to try to figure it out.

457
00:25:50,720 --> 00:25:52,639
Speaker 1: I was going to give everything I had and she

458
00:25:52,760 --> 00:25:54,800
Speaker 1: was going to feel me in my heart and my presence.

459
00:25:55,600 --> 00:25:59,160
Speaker 1: But I was giving everything in a way as if

460
00:25:59,840 --> 00:26:01,320
Speaker 1: I was going to be there at the end and

461
00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:03,359
Speaker 1: this was just the beginning, but we were going to

462
00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:06,399
Speaker 1: have a life together. So no, I couldn't have predicted it,

463
00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:09,040
Speaker 1: but I went into it um in a place where

464
00:26:09,760 --> 00:26:12,160
Speaker 1: I trusted it enough where I was going to put

465
00:26:12,240 --> 00:26:14,439
Speaker 1: my heart and soul into it and just open up

466
00:26:14,480 --> 00:26:17,160
Speaker 1: and be me. That's how you have to be. When

467
00:26:17,240 --> 00:26:18,600
Speaker 1: did you know you had it in the bag? Like

468
00:26:18,720 --> 00:26:22,440
Speaker 1: when did you know that? You're like, tell me, sure, honestly,

469
00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:25,440
Speaker 1: good pleasure because I want to know that too, So

470
00:26:25,600 --> 00:26:29,119
Speaker 1: I mean, could I have been more obvious? So terrible?

471
00:26:29,280 --> 00:26:34,080
Speaker 1: I was so nervous night the first night, but after

472
00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:37,080
Speaker 1: I got the first impression Rose, there was a little

473
00:26:37,119 --> 00:26:38,880
Speaker 1: bit of time where we were just walking and joking

474
00:26:38,880 --> 00:26:46,760
Speaker 1: around that you didn't see slow, Um okay, they're like

475
00:26:46,840 --> 00:26:52,000
Speaker 1: what But after that that night I was like, damn,

476
00:26:52,200 --> 00:26:55,960
Speaker 1: like I don't know what happened, but that ship shook

477
00:26:56,000 --> 00:26:58,880
Speaker 1: me to the core and said I saw it, okay.

478
00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:06,000
Speaker 1: And so the next time I met I saw Claire,

479
00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:09,920
Speaker 1: which was with our group date, I was like we

480
00:27:10,040 --> 00:27:12,480
Speaker 1: had a little bit of a lone time and we

481
00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:15,000
Speaker 1: were just speaking the same language. And after that time,

482
00:27:15,200 --> 00:27:17,320
Speaker 1: that's connection in that spark was there, but it was

483
00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:24,480
Speaker 1: even more intense with I would say, like surety, with

484
00:27:24,640 --> 00:27:27,000
Speaker 1: how we were both feeling. And after that moment, I

485
00:27:27,119 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 1: was just like, there's no way she's just saying this

486
00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:34,480
Speaker 1: to say it like she she's she's got to be

487
00:27:34,560 --> 00:27:37,280
Speaker 1: feeling exactly what I'm feeling, you know, And I've never

488
00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:41,240
Speaker 1: had had those feelings or something happened that fast, and

489
00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:44,320
Speaker 1: I was just like, there's no way that it's not me.

490
00:27:44,640 --> 00:27:46,440
Speaker 1: And she didn't come out and flat out say that,

491
00:27:46,640 --> 00:27:49,720
Speaker 1: but we had. It was weird, and I've I've told

492
00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:53,960
Speaker 1: people this before, like I had so many extensive which

493
00:27:54,080 --> 00:27:56,800
Speaker 1: you guys didn't see, but really long, great conversations with

494
00:27:56,920 --> 00:27:59,879
Speaker 1: the other guys and where we're getting to know each

495
00:27:59,920 --> 00:28:02,760
Speaker 1: other and talking about a lot of different things. But

496
00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:06,320
Speaker 1: when I was around Dale, it was like by night

497
00:28:06,400 --> 00:28:09,040
Speaker 1: two or even night one, I think we had inside jokes.

498
00:28:09,200 --> 00:28:11,119
Speaker 1: We were like pinky problem, just like it was like

499
00:28:11,240 --> 00:28:13,200
Speaker 1: we knew each other for so long, yeah, and it

500
00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:19,560
Speaker 1: was hard, are you go? But we it was like

501
00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:22,320
Speaker 1: we had these inside jokes or these things where the

502
00:28:22,440 --> 00:28:26,040
Speaker 1: serendipity things where it was literally in every conversation that

503
00:28:26,160 --> 00:28:28,040
Speaker 1: we would go, oh my gosh, no, me too, me too,

504
00:28:28,080 --> 00:28:31,280
Speaker 1: Oh you felt me too. And then I would go

505
00:28:31,359 --> 00:28:34,359
Speaker 1: have another conversation with a different guy and it would

506
00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:38,360
Speaker 1: be like, so you're you know, you don't want to

507
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:41,080
Speaker 1: move out of your state and okay, and where did

508
00:28:41,120 --> 00:28:43,200
Speaker 1: you grow up? And it was that very surface level

509
00:28:43,360 --> 00:28:45,560
Speaker 1: where you're trying to get to know somebody. With him,

510
00:28:45,600 --> 00:28:47,760
Speaker 1: it just was like we felt like we just knew

511
00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:50,120
Speaker 1: each other. Actually, the icing on the cake though, like

512
00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:54,840
Speaker 1: hands down, um was pineapple. Oh I know you go,

513
00:28:55,040 --> 00:28:58,160
Speaker 1: oh my god. So we had on a group date. Um,

514
00:28:58,560 --> 00:29:00,800
Speaker 1: the one that you know episode three man had all

515
00:29:00,840 --> 00:29:04,480
Speaker 1: the drama. Um, that's all good. So Claire has a

516
00:29:04,560 --> 00:29:09,360
Speaker 1: tattoo right here that says password, and we're we're in

517
00:29:09,480 --> 00:29:12,640
Speaker 1: the uh el president a sweet and I'm asking her,

518
00:29:13,640 --> 00:29:16,560
Speaker 1: I go, what's the tattoo mean? And she talks about um.

519
00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:19,320
Speaker 1: It was like a sign for her and a friend, uh,

520
00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:21,400
Speaker 1: you know, when she was getting a little bit of anxiety,

521
00:29:21,400 --> 00:29:23,600
Speaker 1: they would have a password to basically say get me

522
00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:26,760
Speaker 1: out of here, help me. Um. And then so she

523
00:29:26,920 --> 00:29:29,080
Speaker 1: told me the story and then I go, oh, Pineapple,

524
00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:34,320
Speaker 1: and she goes, who told you? Who told you? I

525
00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:39,200
Speaker 1: guess the password of her like like Pineapple that her

526
00:29:39,240 --> 00:29:41,760
Speaker 1: and her friend used to have as like a safety

527
00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:43,840
Speaker 1: word to like save me or I'm like spinning out

528
00:29:44,160 --> 00:29:48,040
Speaker 1: and I guess signs and we like freaking out that.

529
00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:51,040
Speaker 1: I mean, like in my interview that night, I got

530
00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:53,360
Speaker 1: my phone Pineapple called my best friend on camera and

531
00:29:53,440 --> 00:29:56,320
Speaker 1: I was like, what's our what was the original password?

532
00:29:56,400 --> 00:29:59,600
Speaker 1: And she was like, Pineapple, why? And I was like what,

533
00:30:03,280 --> 00:30:07,400
Speaker 1: He's moving into the President's suite with me. I mean, honestly, Becca,

534
00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:09,360
Speaker 1: what would you have said? I would have said, care bear?

535
00:30:09,640 --> 00:30:11,200
Speaker 1: What would you have said? You know what I mean? Like,

536
00:30:11,560 --> 00:30:15,600
Speaker 1: what is the neighborhood? Yeah? Exactly, exactly, this is what

537
00:30:15,720 --> 00:30:19,560
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Where it was like, Okay, this is getting weird. Yeah, no,

538
00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:23,200
Speaker 1: it's like it's getting right. That's what we'll call it. Yeah,

539
00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:27,320
Speaker 1: And I love these behind the scenes stories because it

540
00:30:28,000 --> 00:30:31,120
Speaker 1: people We've said this before because we talk about this

541
00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:35,280
Speaker 1: on the show, but you film for weeks, people get

542
00:30:35,400 --> 00:30:38,200
Speaker 1: two hours, not even two hours because you gotta add

543
00:30:38,200 --> 00:30:40,080
Speaker 1: in commercial breaks, so it's really like at an hour

544
00:30:40,280 --> 00:30:43,920
Speaker 1: twenty six, so you don't understand all the background, and

545
00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:46,000
Speaker 1: that's what these moments are so special. And that's why

546
00:30:46,040 --> 00:30:49,200
Speaker 1: I love podcasting, because we get to understand how you

547
00:30:49,360 --> 00:30:52,400
Speaker 1: guys even if we don't, but fully understand because we

548
00:30:52,440 --> 00:30:54,520
Speaker 1: weren't there, we're not the two of you, but a

549
00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:58,120
Speaker 1: little bit better as to why you guys connected so quickly.

550
00:30:58,640 --> 00:31:01,000
Speaker 1: So that being said, I want to take a bit

551
00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:05,280
Speaker 1: of a turn, because Dale, this is a compliment. Dale.

552
00:31:05,760 --> 00:31:07,800
Speaker 1: This is a compliment for those people who make fun

553
00:31:07,840 --> 00:31:10,640
Speaker 1: of the ways say it. This is the compliment sandwich

554
00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:13,280
Speaker 1: in it because you know, we got to get down

555
00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:15,400
Speaker 1: to the nitty gritty. Obviously, you guys love each other.

556
00:31:15,520 --> 00:31:18,360
Speaker 1: You found love. We were thrilled by it. But we

557
00:31:18,520 --> 00:31:22,240
Speaker 1: like to answer questions that people have. Ye and there

558
00:31:22,400 --> 00:31:24,600
Speaker 1: is a moment in the in the middle of this

559
00:31:24,880 --> 00:31:29,520
Speaker 1: where we're kind of like, Dale, what's going on here?

560
00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:33,240
Speaker 1: Things seem attad shady And I said it. I said

561
00:31:33,240 --> 00:31:35,160
Speaker 1: it on my you know, like when I didn't you know,

562
00:31:35,440 --> 00:31:37,880
Speaker 1: no like real shape, but just like I'm talking about

563
00:31:37,920 --> 00:31:42,000
Speaker 1: the way that it seems, so we see you and

564
00:31:42,160 --> 00:31:44,680
Speaker 1: you said it like and it clearly hearing the connection

565
00:31:44,720 --> 00:31:46,560
Speaker 1: that you have. I get why you were like, well,

566
00:31:46,600 --> 00:31:48,560
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm the best suited. That was a

567
00:31:48,680 --> 00:31:54,840
Speaker 1: comment that you may Yeah, obviously, So I'll let you

568
00:31:54,960 --> 00:31:59,520
Speaker 1: go through this. Explain why one you said that you

569
00:31:59,720 --> 00:32:02,400
Speaker 1: felt you were the best suited to talk to Claire. First,

570
00:32:02,920 --> 00:32:08,080
Speaker 1: please explain the group hug Hey, sorry, I want you

571
00:32:08,520 --> 00:32:13,000
Speaker 1: to explain why you were dazed and confused wandering into

572
00:32:14,240 --> 00:32:21,960
Speaker 1: the Poor Jay constantly got stepped over. Okay, so this

573
00:32:22,200 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 1: is um. So when I look at that and I

574
00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:27,479
Speaker 1: feel like watching it back, like if there's one thing

575
00:32:27,520 --> 00:32:31,520
Speaker 1: I would have handled a little differently, maybe would have

576
00:32:31,560 --> 00:32:34,480
Speaker 1: been that situation. But after the Joseph incident and Claire

577
00:32:34,520 --> 00:32:37,440
Speaker 1: had to deal with all that, Yeah, just saying a lot.

578
00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:39,800
Speaker 1: You know, I'm very protective of Claire. I was from

579
00:32:39,840 --> 00:32:44,960
Speaker 1: the get go, um, and so even understanding that verbal

580
00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:47,960
Speaker 1: abuse and some of that aggression, like it immediately sparked

581
00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:51,520
Speaker 1: in memories of my sisters. I have four sisters. I'm

582
00:32:51,560 --> 00:32:54,240
Speaker 1: the only boy, and all the women in my life

583
00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:57,720
Speaker 1: have dealt with physical or emotional abuse in some way,

584
00:32:57,760 --> 00:33:00,320
Speaker 1: shape or form, and I've been the one who's always

585
00:33:00,320 --> 00:33:03,960
Speaker 1: had to pick up those pieces, and you know, so

586
00:33:04,320 --> 00:33:06,520
Speaker 1: for me, and also you know, there was a lot

587
00:33:06,560 --> 00:33:10,000
Speaker 1: of drama about guys cutting and showing up on other

588
00:33:10,080 --> 00:33:12,960
Speaker 1: people's dates and all this stuff and what she'll see

589
00:33:13,040 --> 00:33:17,000
Speaker 1: and realize. You know, I wanted to get out in

590
00:33:17,120 --> 00:33:19,200
Speaker 1: front of it right away and say, hey, this is

591
00:33:19,320 --> 00:33:21,280
Speaker 1: what I want to do. I want to speak with

592
00:33:21,400 --> 00:33:25,360
Speaker 1: Claire first. If it's five or ten minutes, I don't care,

593
00:33:26,920 --> 00:33:28,840
Speaker 1: but I want to see her first. The group hug

594
00:33:28,960 --> 00:33:31,520
Speaker 1: thing was like a little bit like corny whatever. In

595
00:33:31,720 --> 00:33:33,880
Speaker 1: my mind. I didn't even think anything of it. All

596
00:33:33,960 --> 00:33:36,960
Speaker 1: I was thinking about was Claire and if any instance,

597
00:33:37,120 --> 00:33:38,760
Speaker 1: even if it was over the top and made her

598
00:33:38,800 --> 00:33:41,480
Speaker 1: feel loved, I don't care, And just naturally in my

599
00:33:41,600 --> 00:33:44,360
Speaker 1: day to day I do a tongue with community building,

600
00:33:44,960 --> 00:33:48,200
Speaker 1: you know, events in the wellness space. It's just loved.

601
00:33:48,280 --> 00:33:51,120
Speaker 1: So while it comes off a certain way, I don't

602
00:33:51,120 --> 00:33:54,080
Speaker 1: care because I just wanted her to feel overly comfortable

603
00:33:54,520 --> 00:33:58,040
Speaker 1: and just know that she was a focus. You know.

604
00:33:58,760 --> 00:34:01,600
Speaker 1: Obviously I spent a lot more time with Claire than

605
00:34:01,720 --> 00:34:05,560
Speaker 1: five or ten minutes. It's hard showed up. I don't

606
00:34:05,560 --> 00:34:08,799
Speaker 1: even know at that's thing. You know, usually a guy,

607
00:34:09,120 --> 00:34:11,040
Speaker 1: like a guy'll come in and can I steal you?

608
00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:13,400
Speaker 1: Can I steal you? No one was there there was

609
00:34:13,480 --> 00:34:16,279
Speaker 1: because you guys in the presidency, no one could find it.

610
00:34:17,760 --> 00:34:20,120
Speaker 1: I've never been there before. I didn't even know where.

611
00:34:20,239 --> 00:34:23,000
Speaker 1: Like I was like, but there's there's a time in

612
00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:24,920
Speaker 1: the video where I'm getting up and You're like, what

613
00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:26,880
Speaker 1: are you doing? I don't know. I just felt like

614
00:34:27,239 --> 00:34:29,839
Speaker 1: you don't. Also, it went like that. It really went

615
00:34:29,960 --> 00:34:33,520
Speaker 1: like that. And in all fairness too that that was

616
00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:36,480
Speaker 1: the night where I thought I can have a long

617
00:34:36,600 --> 00:34:39,080
Speaker 1: period of time with each guy. Yeah, and so him

618
00:34:39,120 --> 00:34:41,640
Speaker 1: being the first guy, I thought, great, the next guy,

619
00:34:41,680 --> 00:34:43,399
Speaker 1: I'll have a long period of time with the next guy.

620
00:34:43,440 --> 00:34:46,480
Speaker 1: I'll have a long period of time with and each night. Truthfully,

621
00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:52,000
Speaker 1: I made a conscious effort, even though it wasn't showed.

622
00:34:52,040 --> 00:34:55,200
Speaker 1: I made a conscious effort to go above and beyond

623
00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:58,200
Speaker 1: to give these guys time, to spend time with these guys,

624
00:34:58,280 --> 00:35:00,440
Speaker 1: and even if it was a limited an amount of

625
00:35:00,480 --> 00:35:03,520
Speaker 1: time that we had together, I was completely present. There

626
00:35:03,600 --> 00:35:06,520
Speaker 1: was not like each and every guy I can tell

627
00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:10,799
Speaker 1: you extensively stuff about their childhood, about their growing up,

628
00:35:10,840 --> 00:35:13,640
Speaker 1: where they live, in their jobs. Like I learned so

629
00:35:13,880 --> 00:35:16,400
Speaker 1: much about every single guy and spend a lot of

630
00:35:16,440 --> 00:35:19,000
Speaker 1: time with every single guy. Granted that was a lot

631
00:35:19,040 --> 00:35:21,480
Speaker 1: of time with him. But until that point, I thought

632
00:35:21,480 --> 00:35:23,279
Speaker 1: we were gonna have a lot of time. There were

633
00:35:23,320 --> 00:35:26,279
Speaker 1: five guys who were why were you days and confused?

634
00:35:27,000 --> 00:35:29,320
Speaker 1: Explain that? Explain the days that could. I want to

635
00:35:29,440 --> 00:35:34,680
Speaker 1: give you an opportunity to explain why, you know when Yeah,

636
00:35:34,920 --> 00:35:37,839
Speaker 1: I didn't give him an opportunity to explain it. Oh,

637
00:35:38,040 --> 00:35:40,440
Speaker 1: I was like sprung. After I left with Claire, I

638
00:35:40,560 --> 00:35:45,480
Speaker 1: was like time, Oh the second time. When I came back, Um,

639
00:35:46,000 --> 00:35:49,640
Speaker 1: so I what you'll see the guys started arguing. I

640
00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:52,839
Speaker 1: think Riley and ed if guys were arguing, I didn't

641
00:35:52,880 --> 00:35:54,359
Speaker 1: even want to sit on the like, I didn't even

642
00:35:54,360 --> 00:35:55,880
Speaker 1: want to be in it, so I'd always get up

643
00:35:55,920 --> 00:35:58,560
Speaker 1: and leave, you know. And I just got up and left,

644
00:35:58,600 --> 00:36:00,160
Speaker 1: and I was chilling for a little bit, and I

645
00:36:00,239 --> 00:36:02,320
Speaker 1: was like, well, I'm going to see if Claire or

646
00:36:02,360 --> 00:36:06,239
Speaker 1: someone somewhere. So me walking through, I didn't know Jay

647
00:36:06,360 --> 00:36:07,719
Speaker 1: was in there. I didn't even know they were going

648
00:36:07,760 --> 00:36:09,919
Speaker 1: to be sitting that close when I opened the door,

649
00:36:10,520 --> 00:36:12,560
Speaker 1: and then they were there, you know. So I was like, hey,

650
00:36:12,640 --> 00:36:15,080
Speaker 1: I can give you some time whatever, come back and

651
00:36:15,120 --> 00:36:21,520
Speaker 1: sit down. I'm not gonna I'm not going to deny

652
00:36:21,640 --> 00:36:24,440
Speaker 1: that you know, or deny time with her, and um,

653
00:36:24,719 --> 00:36:27,080
Speaker 1: you know, coming back out of it, you know, I

654
00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:29,239
Speaker 1: was sticking on some things that guys were trying to

655
00:36:29,280 --> 00:36:31,600
Speaker 1: say that I had this plan in my head and

656
00:36:31,680 --> 00:36:34,480
Speaker 1: this malicious intent. I was like, y'all were arguing. I

657
00:36:34,600 --> 00:36:37,840
Speaker 1: went up, went to the restroom, couldn't stand there anymore,

658
00:36:37,840 --> 00:36:39,400
Speaker 1: and that I was like, I'm just gonna go find Claire.

659
00:36:39,560 --> 00:36:42,080
Speaker 1: It was like an impulse thing. That's who I came

660
00:36:42,120 --> 00:36:44,719
Speaker 1: to spend time with. So see, if you had said that,

661
00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:48,640
Speaker 1: I think people would have accepted it more like, oh

662
00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:54,200
Speaker 1: I went looking even my I was curinging thinking like

663
00:36:54,480 --> 00:36:56,440
Speaker 1: watching it back, I was like, oh my god, and

664
00:36:56,480 --> 00:36:59,279
Speaker 1: then it comes back just own it. Um. Yeah, you

665
00:36:59,320 --> 00:37:02,000
Speaker 1: don't have to piece with everything in every situation. If

666
00:37:02,040 --> 00:37:03,920
Speaker 1: you try to make everyone happy, you just end up

667
00:37:04,360 --> 00:37:06,640
Speaker 1: hurting the people you care about the most. And that's

668
00:37:07,440 --> 00:37:10,560
Speaker 1: exactly what that situation was. I respect for the guys.

669
00:37:10,600 --> 00:37:12,360
Speaker 1: I didn't want to step on their toes, but also

670
00:37:12,520 --> 00:37:15,520
Speaker 1: like I was at a point I could no longer

671
00:37:16,640 --> 00:37:19,279
Speaker 1: like cut into time Claire and I had and I

672
00:37:19,400 --> 00:37:22,239
Speaker 1: wasn't willing to. But you can't make everyone happy. And

673
00:37:22,840 --> 00:37:26,279
Speaker 1: also after that point and you know, the night, but

674
00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:29,600
Speaker 1: also during filming and everything, I said, if I was

675
00:37:29,680 --> 00:37:33,040
Speaker 1: resonating here, I'm here now because I'm no longer worried

676
00:37:33,040 --> 00:37:36,080
Speaker 1: about the opinions of everything else. Like it's just as

677
00:37:36,120 --> 00:37:38,200
Speaker 1: long as Claire's happy, that's all I care. In all fairness,

678
00:37:38,239 --> 00:37:39,759
Speaker 1: I will say this too, when he came in and

679
00:37:39,840 --> 00:37:42,200
Speaker 1: like you just said, rage, Like he came in and

680
00:37:43,960 --> 00:37:46,000
Speaker 1: what It's easy to watch it on TV, I think,

681
00:37:46,040 --> 00:37:48,560
Speaker 1: but in the moment, it was I'm in a jacket.

682
00:37:49,080 --> 00:37:52,399
Speaker 1: It's probably one hundred and fifteen out at that point

683
00:37:52,480 --> 00:37:55,400
Speaker 1: in the night, You're tired, and on top of it,

684
00:37:55,520 --> 00:37:57,640
Speaker 1: I started to have anxiety because it was like one

685
00:37:57,719 --> 00:37:59,440
Speaker 1: day after another after another, and it was almost like

686
00:38:00,360 --> 00:38:02,040
Speaker 1: at that moment, I was feeling a lot of I

687
00:38:02,120 --> 00:38:06,440
Speaker 1: was feeling overwhelmed by the conversations and and then so

688
00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:10,520
Speaker 1: at that point I was already really really comfortable with Dale,

689
00:38:10,560 --> 00:38:12,080
Speaker 1: and so when he came in the room, it was

690
00:38:12,160 --> 00:38:14,520
Speaker 1: like almost like a little bit of a relief, of

691
00:38:14,760 --> 00:38:17,080
Speaker 1: a breath of fresh air that was like okay, you know,

692
00:38:17,120 --> 00:38:19,000
Speaker 1: and like you see your sister walk in the room

693
00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:21,160
Speaker 1: and you're like, okay, I can calm down, or like, hey,

694
00:38:21,239 --> 00:38:22,799
Speaker 1: this is gonna make it, you know, a little bit

695
00:38:22,840 --> 00:38:25,799
Speaker 1: of a relief from that anxiety. Yeah, and it wasn't.

696
00:38:26,280 --> 00:38:28,080
Speaker 1: Jay wasn't giving me anxiety, but it was almost like

697
00:38:29,080 --> 00:38:31,440
Speaker 1: it was it was just a breath in that moment. Sure, Yeah,

698
00:38:31,440 --> 00:38:33,040
Speaker 1: it was overwhelmed and it was like, oh, it's nice

699
00:38:33,080 --> 00:38:36,000
Speaker 1: to see him. Yeah, yeah, we have just a really

700
00:38:36,040 --> 00:38:38,720
Speaker 1: good time. That was late. And that's such a fine

701
00:38:38,800 --> 00:38:40,920
Speaker 1: line to walk like that. I don't think viewers I

702
00:38:40,920 --> 00:38:43,719
Speaker 1: always realize is like you as the as the lead

703
00:38:43,800 --> 00:38:46,000
Speaker 1: and as the baud shreat like you're trying to give

704
00:38:46,040 --> 00:38:50,520
Speaker 1: all of these guys enough attention and like like be invested,

705
00:38:50,600 --> 00:38:53,160
Speaker 1: but also like you have this relationship that you know

706
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:55,799
Speaker 1: is like really solid and forming, so you of course

707
00:38:55,840 --> 00:38:58,160
Speaker 1: want to spend your time with them, and like vice versa.

708
00:38:58,280 --> 00:39:01,160
Speaker 1: For you Dale as a contestant, I mean, you seem

709
00:39:01,239 --> 00:39:03,560
Speaker 1: to get along with the guys like you were close

710
00:39:03,640 --> 00:39:05,400
Speaker 1: with a lot of them in the house, but at

711
00:39:05,480 --> 00:39:08,480
Speaker 1: the same time, like you were there for Claire at

712
00:39:08,520 --> 00:39:09,680
Speaker 1: the end of the day, like you were there to

713
00:39:09,719 --> 00:39:12,920
Speaker 1: find love in her, and so it's it's a it's

714
00:39:12,960 --> 00:39:17,520
Speaker 1: a difficult balance like on all sides. But Dale, I

715
00:39:17,560 --> 00:39:20,120
Speaker 1: want to ask you Was it difficult to maintain friendships

716
00:39:20,760 --> 00:39:25,840
Speaker 1: when you obviously knew you were a very high upfront

717
00:39:25,920 --> 00:39:28,480
Speaker 1: runner with Claire and that like you had caught her

718
00:39:28,560 --> 00:39:32,040
Speaker 1: eye and you were getting more time and attention from her.

719
00:39:32,760 --> 00:39:35,400
Speaker 1: Was it difficult to maintain those friendships? But then also like,

720
00:39:35,520 --> 00:39:38,480
Speaker 1: have they now been supportive since the news of the engagement?

721
00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:42,960
Speaker 1: How has that been? Yeah? I mean, honestly, it wasn't

722
00:39:42,960 --> 00:39:45,520
Speaker 1: difficult at all for me personally. And I have so

723
00:39:45,680 --> 00:39:48,040
Speaker 1: much respect for all the guys, and there's been nothing

724
00:39:48,120 --> 00:39:50,919
Speaker 1: but love and support. I said to each and every

725
00:39:50,960 --> 00:39:54,359
Speaker 1: one of Like, I learned so much about Claire through

726
00:39:54,440 --> 00:39:57,400
Speaker 1: the other guys by listening and asking questions, you know,

727
00:39:57,719 --> 00:40:02,279
Speaker 1: time when we weren't together U and I think, you know,

728
00:40:02,920 --> 00:40:05,480
Speaker 1: certain things can be shown and people might have an opinion,

729
00:40:05,560 --> 00:40:08,279
Speaker 1: but there were like hell of great guys there, and

730
00:40:08,600 --> 00:40:10,400
Speaker 1: I think there's just a lot of love and respect.

731
00:40:10,920 --> 00:40:12,640
Speaker 1: And you know, that might have been why some of

732
00:40:12,680 --> 00:40:15,480
Speaker 1: the drama scene was so intense the way it was,

733
00:40:15,760 --> 00:40:19,400
Speaker 1: because we all had those relationships and for something to

734
00:40:19,480 --> 00:40:22,600
Speaker 1: come off and think that there was cruel intention um

735
00:40:22,840 --> 00:40:26,080
Speaker 1: would definitely sting and hurt a lot. But I have

736
00:40:26,160 --> 00:40:28,200
Speaker 1: a great relationship with them. You know, I think it's

737
00:40:28,239 --> 00:40:31,200
Speaker 1: respect across the board and they all get it especially

738
00:40:31,280 --> 00:40:33,840
Speaker 1: that's something that we all went through and it's a

739
00:40:33,920 --> 00:40:38,040
Speaker 1: unique situation for everybody. Here's how you tell del Are

740
00:40:38,200 --> 00:40:41,600
Speaker 1: you in the group chat? I am in the group chat?

741
00:40:41,800 --> 00:40:50,799
Speaker 1: That's all you say? The guys respect made it in? Yeah,

742
00:40:51,160 --> 00:40:54,800
Speaker 1: I definitely am. So that's the key. I know that

743
00:40:54,960 --> 00:40:57,359
Speaker 1: it really is, and i'd be part of the group

744
00:40:57,480 --> 00:41:01,040
Speaker 1: chat or you don't want to be part of the

745
00:41:01,080 --> 00:41:07,279
Speaker 1: group chat. Our group chat. But for our listeners, there

746
00:41:07,400 --> 00:41:10,640
Speaker 1: is always a group chat, and it's always advised to

747
00:41:10,760 --> 00:41:13,280
Speaker 1: not be a part of it. They hate that it happens,

748
00:41:13,400 --> 00:41:16,000
Speaker 1: but it's inevitable because you do establish these connections in

749
00:41:16,080 --> 00:41:19,120
Speaker 1: these relationships. But the people that you spend more time

750
00:41:19,200 --> 00:41:21,479
Speaker 1: with honesty than the lead. Because a lot of people,

751
00:41:21,719 --> 00:41:23,879
Speaker 1: I mean not a lot of people. Not everybody makes

752
00:41:23,920 --> 00:41:26,360
Speaker 1: it to the end. Only one does. So that's the

753
00:41:26,480 --> 00:41:28,959
Speaker 1: key question. Did you make it to the group chat?

754
00:41:29,360 --> 00:41:33,520
Speaker 1: I didn't make group chat? Obviously you did things right

755
00:41:33,600 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 1: on both sides. Don't the group plug worked? People like

756
00:41:40,239 --> 00:41:41,920
Speaker 1: if they see me because I host a lot of

757
00:41:41,960 --> 00:41:44,680
Speaker 1: like fitness and wellness things and like I don't know

758
00:41:44,760 --> 00:41:46,480
Speaker 1: it was. It was corny, it was too much, but whatever,

759
00:41:47,440 --> 00:41:50,360
Speaker 1: you know, but it worked. It was But it doesn't

760
00:41:50,400 --> 00:41:52,759
Speaker 1: matter at the end of the day. That group hug

761
00:41:53,080 --> 00:41:59,520
Speaker 1: got you into the group chat. He always group ups me,

762
00:41:59,680 --> 00:42:03,360
Speaker 1: and I'm like, come on, come on, it's maybe it was.

763
00:42:05,000 --> 00:42:06,920
Speaker 1: Maybe it's a sounds a good things. I don't know.

764
00:42:06,960 --> 00:42:09,800
Speaker 1: I've never been to stake, but maybe that's that's the

765
00:42:09,880 --> 00:42:12,360
Speaker 1: only role. Have you heard this, Dale, I feel like

766
00:42:12,360 --> 00:42:13,960
Speaker 1: you don't have. Anyone would have heard this. When you

767
00:42:14,040 --> 00:42:15,959
Speaker 1: hug someone, do you do it for at least seven

768
00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:19,239
Speaker 1: seconds because it releases endorphins a long time. I got

769
00:42:19,360 --> 00:42:24,439
Speaker 1: to host just seven seconds, awkwardly, twenty Oh, I thought

770
00:42:24,480 --> 00:42:27,400
Speaker 1: it was seven. I think if I hugged somewhere for

771
00:42:27,440 --> 00:42:29,920
Speaker 1: twenty seconds, I think it's twenty. Okay, let's do the

772
00:42:30,000 --> 00:42:32,600
Speaker 1: research when I think it's my seconds, and if it's

773
00:42:32,640 --> 00:42:35,760
Speaker 1: not twenty seconds, I'm gonna be so embarrassed because because

774
00:42:35,760 --> 00:42:38,960
Speaker 1: I held I've held Robert Mills for like twenty He's

775
00:42:39,000 --> 00:42:40,799
Speaker 1: trying to back out and I'm just holding on tight.

776
00:42:41,800 --> 00:42:44,600
Speaker 1: I'm googling it right now. Oh yeah, you're there. You

777
00:42:44,760 --> 00:42:49,839
Speaker 1: are right. It is twenty seconds. It basically second someone

778
00:42:49,880 --> 00:42:53,040
Speaker 1: for twenty seconds. You definitely got to get their consent. Yeah,

779
00:42:53,480 --> 00:42:55,560
Speaker 1: I always thought it was seven, and I thought seven

780
00:42:55,719 --> 00:42:59,320
Speaker 1: was awkwardly long. No other things start moving besides the

781
00:42:59,560 --> 00:43:02,680
Speaker 1: arms and twenty seconds. I don't I don't like it.

782
00:43:02,840 --> 00:43:04,719
Speaker 1: I don't like it. I don't I'm not I'm not

783
00:43:04,840 --> 00:43:07,239
Speaker 1: here for it, But I do want to get into

784
00:43:08,160 --> 00:43:10,120
Speaker 1: the first date. We touched on it a little bit,

785
00:43:10,640 --> 00:43:13,600
Speaker 1: but I feel like that first date was everything with

786
00:43:13,719 --> 00:43:17,640
Speaker 1: you guys and us, a game changer every it was

787
00:43:17,719 --> 00:43:21,000
Speaker 1: a game changer it and it explained so much. And

788
00:43:21,080 --> 00:43:24,279
Speaker 1: if the viewers don't get it after watching the first date,

789
00:43:24,560 --> 00:43:27,320
Speaker 1: then there's just like death. They're really just trying to

790
00:43:27,440 --> 00:43:30,279
Speaker 1: be hateful and nasty. So I want to talk to

791
00:43:30,400 --> 00:43:33,640
Speaker 1: you guys about the group date and what it meant

792
00:43:33,680 --> 00:43:36,520
Speaker 1: to you and what you guys were feeling to finally,

793
00:43:36,520 --> 00:43:38,520
Speaker 1: because Debt, I mean even for you, Debt. Let's just

794
00:43:38,640 --> 00:43:40,680
Speaker 1: like take a couple of steps back with Chris Harrison,

795
00:43:40,719 --> 00:43:43,680
Speaker 1: who worked harder than he ever has before and any

796
00:43:43,760 --> 00:43:46,920
Speaker 1: other season, Chris Harrison pulls you to the side and

797
00:43:47,040 --> 00:43:49,759
Speaker 1: he's like Clara wants to spend more time with with you,

798
00:43:50,360 --> 00:43:52,520
Speaker 1: you know, and so like you know, that information, but

799
00:43:52,640 --> 00:43:55,960
Speaker 1: nobody else does. So you're walking into this not really

800
00:43:56,040 --> 00:43:59,400
Speaker 1: knowing what to expect. Clara does, but you don't, and

801
00:43:59,560 --> 00:44:01,800
Speaker 1: you share are so much with each other, not just

802
00:44:02,000 --> 00:44:04,720
Speaker 1: of your backgrounds, but what you feel for one another,

803
00:44:05,000 --> 00:44:08,919
Speaker 1: and then you know, you get into a good time,

804
00:44:09,600 --> 00:44:16,480
Speaker 1: you know, as my parents call it, the closed doors.

805
00:44:16,600 --> 00:44:18,520
Speaker 1: So just just like talk a little bit about what

806
00:44:18,920 --> 00:44:21,640
Speaker 1: that first date meant to you and maybe maybe share

807
00:44:21,680 --> 00:44:24,799
Speaker 1: a little bit of what as viewers we didn't see. Yeah,

808
00:44:25,239 --> 00:44:28,400
Speaker 1: so when Chris pulled me out, I didn't know exactly

809
00:44:28,480 --> 00:44:30,480
Speaker 1: what was going to be happening. But when you said, Claire,

810
00:44:30,680 --> 00:44:32,440
Speaker 1: you know, you're finally going to get some your one

811
00:44:32,480 --> 00:44:35,320
Speaker 1: on one time with Claire, by the way, I was,

812
00:44:35,640 --> 00:44:38,399
Speaker 1: I know, it looks awful. I was, so I didn't

813
00:44:38,440 --> 00:44:41,920
Speaker 1: realize he canceled. When Chris canceled that Rose ceremony, I

814
00:44:42,000 --> 00:44:46,000
Speaker 1: was like, let's do this. It's on. It's on. No.

815
00:44:46,200 --> 00:44:48,640
Speaker 1: I was like, that's all I wanted the whole time

816
00:44:48,800 --> 00:44:50,800
Speaker 1: was just one on one time because there, you know,

817
00:44:50,920 --> 00:44:52,719
Speaker 1: had been other guys that had gotten it up to

818
00:44:52,880 --> 00:44:55,120
Speaker 1: that point. And I think I even said, you know,

819
00:44:55,200 --> 00:44:57,919
Speaker 1: once we get time together uninterrupted, one on one time,

820
00:44:58,239 --> 00:45:01,400
Speaker 1: it's a rap, you know. In that so I was excited.

821
00:45:01,520 --> 00:45:03,920
Speaker 1: I didn't know what to expect as far as the date.

822
00:45:04,200 --> 00:45:06,759
Speaker 1: But I mean I could have easily just been like

823
00:45:07,440 --> 00:45:13,080
Speaker 1: I could have easily dumped you home. I mean, how

824
00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:15,160
Speaker 1: confident he is he right now? How confident he's all

825
00:45:18,480 --> 00:45:22,359
Speaker 1: I was. What we were feeling together, it was undeniable.

826
00:45:22,440 --> 00:45:23,960
Speaker 1: So I said I was going to make her fall

827
00:45:24,000 --> 00:45:27,000
Speaker 1: in love with me one way or not one on

828
00:45:27,080 --> 00:45:29,560
Speaker 1: one time. I was like, well, that's where I were

829
00:45:29,600 --> 00:45:33,560
Speaker 1: here today, goals. I did the same thing to Brian,

830
00:45:33,640 --> 00:45:36,000
Speaker 1: so I actually understand that. But yeah, yeah, but that's

831
00:45:36,120 --> 00:45:38,080
Speaker 1: that's all I wanted. I just wanted time with Claire

832
00:45:38,120 --> 00:45:39,680
Speaker 1: from the moment I got there and as much as

833
00:45:39,719 --> 00:45:42,120
Speaker 1: I could possibly get. So once we got it, whatever

834
00:45:42,280 --> 00:45:46,760
Speaker 1: it was I was, I was, I was happy fingers

835
00:45:47,320 --> 00:45:49,000
Speaker 1: to make you go back to the guys after the

836
00:45:49,360 --> 00:45:53,120
Speaker 1: after then everything that, because I was like, I don't

837
00:45:53,200 --> 00:45:55,800
Speaker 1: after the night and especially after our date then I

838
00:45:55,920 --> 00:45:57,600
Speaker 1: was like, I don't know how I can go back

839
00:45:57,680 --> 00:46:00,200
Speaker 1: in the house with the guys. But also like in

840
00:46:00,280 --> 00:46:03,160
Speaker 1: Claire and I talked about this, I wouldn't have felt

841
00:46:03,200 --> 00:46:06,040
Speaker 1: comfortable with it. Yeah, and I know you like it's like,

842
00:46:06,160 --> 00:46:07,880
Speaker 1: what do we do now? What do we do that?

843
00:46:08,440 --> 00:46:11,520
Speaker 1: Um so? And let's be honest, it was a date

844
00:46:11,560 --> 00:46:13,960
Speaker 1: and a fantasy suite. I mean, let's just call it what.

845
00:46:17,920 --> 00:46:21,480
Speaker 1: You probably had more time overnight during that night than

846
00:46:21,719 --> 00:46:25,520
Speaker 1: we did in fantasy suites exact. Yeah, that's what I

847
00:46:25,560 --> 00:46:27,480
Speaker 1: was just gonna say. What people don't see is that

848
00:46:27,760 --> 00:46:31,800
Speaker 1: we had that essentially that from as soon as it

849
00:46:31,920 --> 00:46:33,560
Speaker 1: got dark, we had it was like a two or

850
00:46:33,640 --> 00:46:36,560
Speaker 1: three hour dinner, sit down dinner which we did not

851
00:46:36,640 --> 00:46:39,200
Speaker 1: eat the food because it was so hot and it

852
00:46:39,320 --> 00:46:43,359
Speaker 1: was like you never eat the food. It was good,

853
00:46:43,440 --> 00:46:45,360
Speaker 1: but we sat there for like two or three hours

854
00:46:45,440 --> 00:46:50,560
Speaker 1: and I I don't getet nervous very easily, and I

855
00:46:50,840 --> 00:46:54,839
Speaker 1: was so nervous because it's easy for me, I don't

856
00:46:54,880 --> 00:46:57,279
Speaker 1: know it. It's easy for me to talk to guys

857
00:46:57,320 --> 00:46:59,040
Speaker 1: and have a conversation because I do that every day

858
00:46:59,120 --> 00:47:01,480
Speaker 1: work at the salon. I have conversations all day long.

859
00:47:01,880 --> 00:47:05,720
Speaker 1: But with him, and that level of vulnerability of telling

860
00:47:05,840 --> 00:47:09,719
Speaker 1: him for the first time that I loved him was like,

861
00:47:09,960 --> 00:47:12,080
Speaker 1: I was so nervous and I just see my list

862
00:47:12,120 --> 00:47:15,279
Speaker 1: slivering the whole time and trying to stay composed. But

863
00:47:15,680 --> 00:47:17,960
Speaker 1: it was a long dinner and then he didn't know

864
00:47:18,080 --> 00:47:20,120
Speaker 1: I had the surprise for him of Chris and Bree.

865
00:47:20,360 --> 00:47:24,640
Speaker 1: That was and that song. I still cry and I

866
00:47:24,800 --> 00:47:28,920
Speaker 1: still play it every single days. Oh my god. They

867
00:47:28,960 --> 00:47:32,520
Speaker 1: are just everything. They also kicked cover of what you

868
00:47:32,560 --> 00:47:36,680
Speaker 1: guys didn't see them, Yeah, Beyonce's XO and it was

869
00:47:36,760 --> 00:47:40,040
Speaker 1: the most beautiful thing ever. They're amazing. Yeah that Like

870
00:47:40,160 --> 00:47:42,680
Speaker 1: I literally have goose bumps right now thinking about it.

871
00:47:42,840 --> 00:47:46,680
Speaker 1: And we've talked about how much, literally for the last

872
00:47:47,680 --> 00:47:49,680
Speaker 1: a few months, like, we can't wait to see this

873
00:47:49,880 --> 00:47:53,960
Speaker 1: back because in that moment and anyone who sees it,

874
00:47:54,040 --> 00:47:57,200
Speaker 1: I know, like who saw it, it's undeniable what we

875
00:47:57,360 --> 00:48:00,800
Speaker 1: felt and it was. It was so beautiful. It's just

876
00:48:03,000 --> 00:48:04,719
Speaker 1: it was one of the one of those moments where

877
00:48:04,760 --> 00:48:08,040
Speaker 1: you're like, it can't get better than this. It cannot

878
00:48:08,080 --> 00:48:11,600
Speaker 1: get better than this in life, Like it cannot get

879
00:48:11,840 --> 00:48:14,600
Speaker 1: This is everything I ever dreamed of. And that's why

880
00:48:14,640 --> 00:48:16,520
Speaker 1: when I feel those feelings and I look back and

881
00:48:16,640 --> 00:48:19,279
Speaker 1: I watch it and I remember those thoughts, it's like,

882
00:48:20,680 --> 00:48:23,640
Speaker 1: I know it's hard going through the process, and no, no,

883
00:48:23,760 --> 00:48:26,360
Speaker 1: it's hard watching the guys on the other end struggling

884
00:48:26,400 --> 00:48:29,880
Speaker 1: and not knowing what's going on. And it's hard. It's

885
00:48:29,920 --> 00:48:32,839
Speaker 1: one of those really hard situations because in that moment,

886
00:48:32,960 --> 00:48:35,040
Speaker 1: my heart is like I understand what they're feeling. I

887
00:48:35,200 --> 00:48:40,480
Speaker 1: understand the frustration, but to honor myself and to honor

888
00:48:40,560 --> 00:48:42,279
Speaker 1: the feelings of what I came there for and to

889
00:48:42,400 --> 00:48:45,239
Speaker 1: be in that moment of like, this is exactly what

890
00:48:45,400 --> 00:48:47,000
Speaker 1: I wanted and this is exactly what I came here

891
00:48:47,080 --> 00:48:50,360
Speaker 1: for to do, and I have found it. I found it,

892
00:48:51,080 --> 00:48:54,480
Speaker 1: And so it was that I don't know, I don't

893
00:48:54,480 --> 00:48:57,440
Speaker 1: know if the right word is like juxtap you know,

894
00:48:57,680 --> 00:49:00,359
Speaker 1: what's the word I'm looking for to exa position, Yeah,

895
00:49:00,640 --> 00:49:04,319
Speaker 1: of understanding like there's all these guys but just there's

896
00:49:04,360 --> 00:49:07,759
Speaker 1: all these guys waiting and not knowing what's going on,

897
00:49:08,000 --> 00:49:10,279
Speaker 1: and then just just having one of the greatest moments

898
00:49:10,320 --> 00:49:12,800
Speaker 1: of my life. It's hard. It's a hard thing. But

899
00:49:12,920 --> 00:49:14,480
Speaker 1: you know what, I think the way that you went

900
00:49:14,520 --> 00:49:17,160
Speaker 1: about everything, like I'm sure in that moment to the

901
00:49:17,239 --> 00:49:19,720
Speaker 1: guys because they just felt like they were waiting around,

902
00:49:19,760 --> 00:49:23,480
Speaker 1: it probably sucks. But in hindsight, like what you did

903
00:49:23,680 --> 00:49:26,080
Speaker 1: to know and to say like I love Dale, like

904
00:49:26,880 --> 00:49:29,040
Speaker 1: this is it for me. I have to remove myself

905
00:49:29,080 --> 00:49:32,359
Speaker 1: from the rest of the season. I think they'll look

906
00:49:32,440 --> 00:49:35,040
Speaker 1: back and they'll respect that decision because you didn't waste

907
00:49:35,080 --> 00:49:37,880
Speaker 1: their time. Yeah, and now that was something that was

908
00:49:38,040 --> 00:49:41,160
Speaker 1: really really important to me, and I will drive that

909
00:49:41,280 --> 00:49:46,000
Speaker 1: home no matter what people think, like, I respect the

910
00:49:46,080 --> 00:49:48,640
Speaker 1: hell out of those guys, And that's why it was

911
00:49:49,960 --> 00:49:53,400
Speaker 1: really hard to go speak with all the guys to

912
00:49:53,560 --> 00:49:55,520
Speaker 1: let them know what was going on with Dale and I.

913
00:49:55,600 --> 00:49:57,840
Speaker 1: I didn't want to drag it out. I mean, it

914
00:49:57,960 --> 00:50:00,520
Speaker 1: was it was a hard thing, Like do you go

915
00:50:00,640 --> 00:50:02,719
Speaker 1: through the whole season for to just be deal at

916
00:50:02,719 --> 00:50:06,239
Speaker 1: the end and to have them then feel like, oh,

917
00:50:06,360 --> 00:50:09,279
Speaker 1: that time was wasted or give them another opportunity with

918
00:50:09,440 --> 00:50:13,520
Speaker 1: another woman to find Look, and as much respect as

919
00:50:13,520 --> 00:50:15,560
Speaker 1: I have for these guys, it was that really hard,

920
00:50:16,160 --> 00:50:19,319
Speaker 1: hard position to be put in. But I think one

921
00:50:19,440 --> 00:50:23,200
Speaker 1: thing that I can stand behind is that I've spoken

922
00:50:23,239 --> 00:50:24,880
Speaker 1: to you guys about it before, about my past and

923
00:50:24,960 --> 00:50:31,320
Speaker 1: stuff that I've gone through. But it's it's it's for

924
00:50:31,480 --> 00:50:36,000
Speaker 1: me a big thing for my heart to be able

925
00:50:36,080 --> 00:50:40,800
Speaker 1: to disappoint other people, to not let myself down. And

926
00:50:41,400 --> 00:50:45,680
Speaker 1: I've done it in the past where I've I've put

927
00:50:45,800 --> 00:50:48,000
Speaker 1: my feelings aside and done what I thought they the

928
00:50:48,080 --> 00:50:51,239
Speaker 1: guys wanted, or my feelings or my thoughts, and done

929
00:50:51,320 --> 00:50:53,759
Speaker 1: what's best for them. And then I end up hurt

930
00:50:53,800 --> 00:50:56,120
Speaker 1: and I end up rushed. So to be able to

931
00:50:56,200 --> 00:50:59,440
Speaker 1: honor yourself and honor your truth is something that I

932
00:50:59,600 --> 00:51:02,640
Speaker 1: pride myself on. And so it's a hard thing when

933
00:51:02,680 --> 00:51:05,880
Speaker 1: you have to disappoint another to make yourself, you know,

934
00:51:05,960 --> 00:51:08,480
Speaker 1: to do what's best for yourself. But we all have

935
00:51:08,600 --> 00:51:10,719
Speaker 1: to do that, you know, we all do. And we've

936
00:51:10,800 --> 00:51:13,200
Speaker 1: all been there. Yeah, And we all have our own

937
00:51:13,320 --> 00:51:15,600
Speaker 1: journeys as to how long it takes us to get there.

938
00:51:16,040 --> 00:51:19,439
Speaker 1: But I know I've been there. Becca's been there where

939
00:51:20,200 --> 00:51:22,760
Speaker 1: you know, like you do sacrifice yourself and lose yourself

940
00:51:22,800 --> 00:51:25,160
Speaker 1: a bit in a relationship, and then when you come

941
00:51:25,160 --> 00:51:27,320
Speaker 1: out on the other side of it, you're better for it,

942
00:51:27,400 --> 00:51:29,480
Speaker 1: and you know exactly what you're wanting. You're better, you're

943
00:51:29,560 --> 00:51:34,319
Speaker 1: better prepared to accept when your person comes into your life.

944
00:51:34,719 --> 00:51:36,959
Speaker 1: And I want to move into that because I want

945
00:51:37,000 --> 00:51:42,440
Speaker 1: to talk about the proposal. Oh, it was beautiful, and

946
00:51:42,600 --> 00:51:45,040
Speaker 1: when we get to the good stuff, yeah, it was

947
00:51:45,200 --> 00:51:47,840
Speaker 1: because you know, like we got so many teases before

948
00:51:48,000 --> 00:51:50,680
Speaker 1: that made it seem like yal, I was thinking maybe

949
00:51:50,760 --> 00:51:54,680
Speaker 1: it was Dale was maybe thinking that that wasn't the case.

950
00:51:55,600 --> 00:51:58,279
Speaker 1: You know, maybe he was getting nervous figuring out like

951
00:51:59,040 --> 00:52:01,640
Speaker 1: is he ready for for marriage? And then he gets

952
00:52:01,760 --> 00:52:04,200
Speaker 1: down on one knee even before he gets out on

953
00:52:04,239 --> 00:52:06,360
Speaker 1: one knee, and just puts it all out there, and

954
00:52:06,480 --> 00:52:10,400
Speaker 1: it's like, oh, Dell's been ready, Okay, Dale was just

955
00:52:10,480 --> 00:52:14,960
Speaker 1: waiting for the right person to get out. Yeah, I

956
00:52:15,080 --> 00:52:17,920
Speaker 1: know it, really, Dell. And I want to talk about

957
00:52:17,960 --> 00:52:21,240
Speaker 1: that because you know full disclosure. You know, I'll always

958
00:52:21,400 --> 00:52:23,719
Speaker 1: whatever I say behind your back, i'll say to your face.

959
00:52:23,960 --> 00:52:25,520
Speaker 1: And I didn't stay it behind your back. I said

960
00:52:25,520 --> 00:52:27,960
Speaker 1: it on the podcast. But when we had when you

961
00:52:28,040 --> 00:52:31,120
Speaker 1: were on the Love Languages date and we saw you

962
00:52:31,280 --> 00:52:33,960
Speaker 1: do the words of affirmation, I said, okay, I was

963
00:52:34,000 --> 00:52:36,120
Speaker 1: just expecting just a little bit more from day A

964
00:52:36,160 --> 00:52:41,160
Speaker 1: little underwhelming, oh, little underwhelming. And then comes the proposal,

965
00:52:41,360 --> 00:52:42,960
Speaker 1: and I said, you know what, if this is what

966
00:52:43,120 --> 00:52:46,920
Speaker 1: we were waiting for, I'll wait. I'll wait again. All right.

967
00:52:47,640 --> 00:52:51,160
Speaker 1: It was beautiful and I want to just take you

968
00:52:51,239 --> 00:52:54,279
Speaker 1: guys back to that moment and leading up to it,

969
00:52:54,480 --> 00:52:58,120
Speaker 1: and we heard from you, Dell. Obviously, when you proposed Dale,

970
00:52:58,400 --> 00:53:01,680
Speaker 1: when you obviously proposed to her, and then we heard Claire,

971
00:53:01,840 --> 00:53:05,080
Speaker 1: you know, talk about what she was, what the whole

972
00:53:05,160 --> 00:53:07,080
Speaker 1: moment for her. But I just want to hear it.

973
00:53:07,600 --> 00:53:11,239
Speaker 1: We want to hear it from your perspective of leading

974
00:53:11,360 --> 00:53:13,279
Speaker 1: up to that moment and then what it took for

975
00:53:13,360 --> 00:53:15,200
Speaker 1: you to get down on one knee and make that

976
00:53:15,280 --> 00:53:20,560
Speaker 1: commitment to Claire. Yeah. So if you know, like anyone

977
00:53:20,640 --> 00:53:22,680
Speaker 1: that knows me, like there was a lot of times

978
00:53:22,800 --> 00:53:24,839
Speaker 1: early on that I was nervous. Obviously it's a new

979
00:53:24,880 --> 00:53:27,960
Speaker 1: experience going on, you know, the first few times with Claire.

980
00:53:29,200 --> 00:53:31,839
Speaker 1: But as we went on, like this was the most

981
00:53:31,880 --> 00:53:35,000
Speaker 1: confident And we both say this like that portion was

982
00:53:35,040 --> 00:53:37,719
Speaker 1: not nerve racking for me or us at all, Like

983
00:53:38,040 --> 00:53:41,840
Speaker 1: we I felt so calm and so confident, and I

984
00:53:41,920 --> 00:53:44,080
Speaker 1: knew exactly what I was going to say, because I've

985
00:53:44,320 --> 00:53:47,120
Speaker 1: run that through my mind hundreds of times, you know,

986
00:53:47,719 --> 00:53:54,000
Speaker 1: And it wasn't it was never an option on whether

987
00:53:54,160 --> 00:53:55,839
Speaker 1: or not I was going to commit and be there

988
00:53:55,920 --> 00:53:58,080
Speaker 1: for her and give her everything that I had. So

989
00:53:58,640 --> 00:54:01,040
Speaker 1: that's exactly, you know what I did. And I told

990
00:54:01,080 --> 00:54:02,960
Speaker 1: her even earlier, I was like, I will never leave

991
00:54:03,000 --> 00:54:05,520
Speaker 1: you hanging. There will never be a time while I'm

992
00:54:05,600 --> 00:54:10,040
Speaker 1: here that I will ever leave you hanging. So for me,

993
00:54:10,600 --> 00:54:15,000
Speaker 1: I just I just expressed, you know, what I wanted

994
00:54:15,280 --> 00:54:19,400
Speaker 1: and just long story short, that whatever we have to

995
00:54:19,480 --> 00:54:21,480
Speaker 1: go through, both the good and the bad, like I'm

996
00:54:21,480 --> 00:54:26,440
Speaker 1: going to be by your side throughout, and I know

997
00:54:26,920 --> 00:54:30,359
Speaker 1: and honestly, like I think a lot about it too,

998
00:54:30,680 --> 00:54:35,120
Speaker 1: Like I was very very very emotional after our one

999
00:54:35,160 --> 00:54:37,759
Speaker 1: on one date and like you don't see this, but

1000
00:54:37,880 --> 00:54:39,560
Speaker 1: there's an interview and it asked, you know, like what

1001
00:54:39,640 --> 00:54:43,800
Speaker 1: would your mother say to you? And I was falling,

1002
00:54:44,040 --> 00:54:46,680
Speaker 1: and I would like and I said that she would

1003
00:54:46,719 --> 00:54:51,200
Speaker 1: say that, you know, thank you, thank you for everything

1004
00:54:51,239 --> 00:54:53,600
Speaker 1: that you've done and holding our family together, but thank

1005
00:54:53,680 --> 00:54:57,800
Speaker 1: you for putting yourself first for once and finding happiness.

1006
00:54:58,440 --> 00:55:01,279
Speaker 1: And all I could think the entire time is how

1007
00:55:01,719 --> 00:55:08,759
Speaker 1: much my mother would love Claire, and just it's and

1008
00:55:08,880 --> 00:55:13,680
Speaker 1: I know she you know, she feels her presence. But yeah,

1009
00:55:13,719 --> 00:55:15,880
Speaker 1: it was just never difficult, Like it was always written,

1010
00:55:15,960 --> 00:55:17,799
Speaker 1: it was going to be her and I and from

1011
00:55:17,840 --> 00:55:19,680
Speaker 1: the moment I stepped out of the limit to you know,

1012
00:55:19,800 --> 00:55:21,480
Speaker 1: being there at the end, there was never a time

1013
00:55:21,480 --> 00:55:22,880
Speaker 1: when I was going to keep rocking with her and

1014
00:55:22,920 --> 00:55:26,480
Speaker 1: give her everything I had. I think one thing that

1015
00:55:27,000 --> 00:55:29,480
Speaker 1: at least it hit me because I kind of understand,

1016
00:55:29,520 --> 00:55:31,920
Speaker 1: like I've lost a parent too, as you both have,

1017
00:55:32,080 --> 00:55:35,799
Speaker 1: so you get it. One thing that Claire kept reiterating

1018
00:55:36,080 --> 00:55:38,840
Speaker 1: throughout the entire season since the beginning is you know

1019
00:55:38,920 --> 00:55:42,520
Speaker 1: the fact that like, unfortunately, Claire, your dad passed away,

1020
00:55:42,560 --> 00:55:45,080
Speaker 1: but he would always show up. He would always show up,

1021
00:55:45,120 --> 00:55:46,759
Speaker 1: and he told you to always show up. And I

1022
00:55:46,880 --> 00:55:50,239
Speaker 1: think from what we saw like Dale, especially in those

1023
00:55:50,320 --> 00:55:51,960
Speaker 1: last moments, where it kind of makes it look like

1024
00:55:52,160 --> 00:55:53,520
Speaker 1: is he going to show up? Is he not? Like

1025
00:55:53,640 --> 00:55:56,400
Speaker 1: what's going to happen? Like you showed up? And and

1026
00:55:56,640 --> 00:55:58,880
Speaker 1: I want to know, like now that you've seen it

1027
00:55:58,920 --> 00:56:00,560
Speaker 1: and you've watched it back, as there's a lot that

1028
00:56:00,640 --> 00:56:03,200
Speaker 1: I'm sure Claire has said an interviews that you weren't

1029
00:56:03,239 --> 00:56:07,279
Speaker 1: privy to unless you watched it, is that she said

1030
00:56:07,400 --> 00:56:11,799
Speaker 1: you reminded her of her father, which hit me really

1031
00:56:11,920 --> 00:56:14,000
Speaker 1: deep because I said that's the same things when I

1032
00:56:14,120 --> 00:56:16,600
Speaker 1: was the baut short and I think it's probably like

1033
00:56:16,680 --> 00:56:19,080
Speaker 1: one of the best compliments anyone could give a person.

1034
00:56:20,480 --> 00:56:23,160
Speaker 1: And so watching that back, like those moments of her

1035
00:56:23,239 --> 00:56:25,960
Speaker 1: speaking about you in regards to her dad and holding

1036
00:56:26,040 --> 00:56:28,480
Speaker 1: you to his similar standard. What did that feel like

1037
00:56:28,600 --> 00:56:33,160
Speaker 1: for you? Oh, I thought you were asking it for

1038
00:56:33,600 --> 00:56:42,200
Speaker 1: sorry about that. I know exactly how much like Claire,

1039
00:56:42,239 --> 00:56:45,200
Speaker 1: losing her father affected her, just based on what she

1040
00:56:45,520 --> 00:56:48,040
Speaker 1: shared with me. And for her to say that that

1041
00:56:48,239 --> 00:56:50,919
Speaker 1: and say that I embodied her father and she felt

1042
00:56:51,000 --> 00:56:54,680
Speaker 1: protected and she also felt the compassion. That's all I

1043
00:56:55,040 --> 00:56:58,440
Speaker 1: ever wanted, you know, as as a son and a brother,

1044
00:56:59,239 --> 00:57:01,520
Speaker 1: I only wanted to provide that for my family and

1045
00:57:01,600 --> 00:57:04,279
Speaker 1: be that for my sisters and my mother. And I've

1046
00:57:04,320 --> 00:57:06,480
Speaker 1: always wanted to be a father. I've always wanted to

1047
00:57:06,840 --> 00:57:10,759
Speaker 1: have a family. You know, life and career takes you

1048
00:57:10,840 --> 00:57:15,520
Speaker 1: through all these different turns. And for her to say

1049
00:57:16,120 --> 00:57:20,800
Speaker 1: that she felt that in me and saw that in me, like,

1050
00:57:20,960 --> 00:57:22,880
Speaker 1: I can't even put that into words, because that's what

1051
00:57:23,240 --> 00:57:27,360
Speaker 1: everything I've ever wanted, as far as just to be

1052
00:57:27,520 --> 00:57:30,560
Speaker 1: that for someone else and have that be reciprocated. Yeah,

1053
00:57:30,600 --> 00:57:34,120
Speaker 1: and I know that it's not. It was quick, you guys.

1054
00:57:34,280 --> 00:57:36,320
Speaker 1: It was quick that we got engaged. And I know

1055
00:57:37,280 --> 00:57:39,480
Speaker 1: you don't know obviously, when it's that fast, you don't

1056
00:57:39,600 --> 00:57:43,560
Speaker 1: know everything about somebody. Yeah, but what I do know

1057
00:57:43,920 --> 00:57:47,800
Speaker 1: is that the things that he embodied, that he showed me,

1058
00:57:47,960 --> 00:57:51,480
Speaker 1: that we talked about, things that were just even him

1059
00:57:51,560 --> 00:57:54,360
Speaker 1: showing up at the very end and not even wavering

1060
00:57:54,400 --> 00:57:57,480
Speaker 1: on it for one second. These type of things are

1061
00:57:57,640 --> 00:58:00,160
Speaker 1: what I have always looked for in a man. And

1062
00:58:00,360 --> 00:58:04,040
Speaker 1: in the most intense I mean like at the proposal,

1063
00:58:04,680 --> 00:58:07,520
Speaker 1: the most intense, stressful could have been like a nerve

1064
00:58:07,640 --> 00:58:10,880
Speaker 1: racking thing. He had written a letter to me, with

1065
00:58:11,040 --> 00:58:14,560
Speaker 1: written letters to each other beforehand, and I was I was, so,

1066
00:58:15,880 --> 00:58:17,320
Speaker 1: I was like, is he gonna show up? Is he

1067
00:58:17,400 --> 00:58:19,000
Speaker 1: going to be there? I don't know. I know how

1068
00:58:19,080 --> 00:58:22,960
Speaker 1: I feel, but I don't know, you know, like it

1069
00:58:23,520 --> 00:58:26,080
Speaker 1: doesn't scare him, but it was. It was like, there's

1070
00:58:26,160 --> 00:58:28,320
Speaker 1: never gonna be a moment where I don't show up

1071
00:58:28,360 --> 00:58:31,400
Speaker 1: for you, and whether it be at the proposal and

1072
00:58:31,720 --> 00:58:35,840
Speaker 1: to this very day, months months later, he's still at

1073
00:58:35,960 --> 00:58:39,760
Speaker 1: what I'm just a wreck, and it's he's in New

1074
00:58:39,840 --> 00:58:42,080
Speaker 1: York time. I'm in Sacramento time, and it's you know,

1075
00:58:42,400 --> 00:58:45,880
Speaker 1: five o'clock in the morning, New York time, and I'm

1076
00:58:45,920 --> 00:58:49,280
Speaker 1: crying and he's just fading off. I'm like, but are

1077
00:58:49,320 --> 00:58:51,960
Speaker 1: he's still there? And he's like I'm still here. I'll

1078
00:58:51,960 --> 00:58:54,400
Speaker 1: watch the sun come up like I'm still here if

1079
00:58:54,400 --> 00:58:58,240
Speaker 1: you need me. And he hasn't wavered on that. And

1080
00:58:58,320 --> 00:59:01,520
Speaker 1: that's exactly everything I've ever looked for, like I said,

1081
00:59:01,560 --> 00:59:05,400
Speaker 1: and he really does embody dot. So the basis of

1082
00:59:05,520 --> 00:59:08,080
Speaker 1: what I'm looking for, he or what I was looking for,

1083
00:59:08,280 --> 00:59:13,480
Speaker 1: he has so albeit quick. You can't replace those qualities.

1084
00:59:13,600 --> 00:59:17,240
Speaker 1: You can't just either there they're not there. Wow, Dell,

1085
00:59:17,320 --> 00:59:18,920
Speaker 1: we gotta get you on the West coast so you

1086
00:59:18,960 --> 00:59:25,960
Speaker 1: can get some sleep, is what I just heard. Wow.

1087
00:59:27,920 --> 00:59:30,160
Speaker 1: I like make jokes, but you know how we've we

1088
00:59:30,360 --> 00:59:32,440
Speaker 1: feel about you guys, and how happy we are for

1089
00:59:32,520 --> 00:59:35,720
Speaker 1: you and you guys have found each other in this crazy,

1090
00:59:36,200 --> 00:59:40,480
Speaker 1: crazy world and the shortest amount of time ever in

1091
00:59:40,640 --> 00:59:43,160
Speaker 1: batter or history. But as both of you have said

1092
00:59:43,160 --> 00:59:47,200
Speaker 1: on separate occasions, when you know you know um and

1093
00:59:47,360 --> 00:59:50,080
Speaker 1: Diana said that as well, one thing I do want

1094
00:59:50,080 --> 00:59:51,920
Speaker 1: to pay you back on is, you know, like the

1095
00:59:52,240 --> 00:59:55,160
Speaker 1: future the two of you have together and you know,

1096
00:59:55,840 --> 00:59:58,880
Speaker 1: planning roots and wherever that may be, and buying a

1097
00:59:59,000 --> 01:00:05,880
Speaker 1: house and having little light skinned babies that with one another.

1098
01:00:06,240 --> 01:00:11,560
Speaker 1: So what does the future hold for Claire and Dale? Yeah?

1099
01:00:11,760 --> 01:00:16,560
Speaker 1: I think the future is is that starting off? What

1100
01:00:16,760 --> 01:00:19,960
Speaker 1: I love about Dale is that he nothing scares him

1101
01:00:20,000 --> 01:00:22,840
Speaker 1: with talking about the future. I talk about babies all

1102
01:00:22,920 --> 01:00:27,400
Speaker 1: the time. It doesn't He's like, yeah, that's what I

1103
01:00:27,480 --> 01:00:30,120
Speaker 1: want and it doesn't scare him. And I'm I'll remind

1104
01:00:30,240 --> 01:00:32,600
Speaker 1: him of things all the time if like, you know,

1105
01:00:33,080 --> 01:00:35,320
Speaker 1: not good and the younger, you know, I'll say things

1106
01:00:35,360 --> 01:00:37,480
Speaker 1: like that and he's like, I think I don't know this,

1107
01:00:37,760 --> 01:00:40,600
Speaker 1: Like yeah, like let's do this. But like I told

1108
01:00:40,600 --> 01:00:42,840
Speaker 1: you guys earlier, we were house hunting today and picking

1109
01:00:42,840 --> 01:00:44,440
Speaker 1: out the area we live in or we want to

1110
01:00:44,480 --> 01:00:49,640
Speaker 1: live in, and um, what's important. He knows what's important

1111
01:00:49,640 --> 01:00:51,560
Speaker 1: to me is right now being here for my mom

1112
01:00:56,040 --> 01:00:59,320
Speaker 1: and that's and that's something that's honestly, this hasn't been

1113
01:00:59,360 --> 01:01:03,800
Speaker 1: a toughest as like what needs to happen in the future,

1114
01:01:03,800 --> 01:01:06,760
Speaker 1: because as long as we're together, Um, for me, that's

1115
01:01:06,960 --> 01:01:09,440
Speaker 1: that's all that matters. And you know, thankfully we have

1116
01:01:09,600 --> 01:01:12,400
Speaker 1: the ability and it's you know, myself included, even though

1117
01:01:12,440 --> 01:01:14,880
Speaker 1: I have roots in New York to where I can

1118
01:01:14,960 --> 01:01:16,880
Speaker 1: be where I need to be, what I need to be.

1119
01:01:17,120 --> 01:01:20,400
Speaker 1: But we're building a life, we're building a foundation. You know,

1120
01:01:20,560 --> 01:01:23,920
Speaker 1: we want to have a home here, and like ultimately

1121
01:01:24,000 --> 01:01:25,960
Speaker 1: in the number one thing is to make sure that

1122
01:01:26,520 --> 01:01:30,520
Speaker 1: we're both that she's secure and safe, but that her

1123
01:01:30,600 --> 01:01:32,960
Speaker 1: family and we're doing what's best for like us but

1124
01:01:33,080 --> 01:01:36,160
Speaker 1: also our families. So whatever it is, as long as

1125
01:01:36,160 --> 01:01:39,280
Speaker 1: we're together, that's the only thing that matters. Can I

1126
01:01:39,400 --> 01:01:42,520
Speaker 1: just say, yeah, I'm probably gonna cry because I'm already

1127
01:01:42,520 --> 01:01:44,360
Speaker 1: getting too red. But Claire, I've talked to you about

1128
01:01:44,360 --> 01:01:46,040
Speaker 1: this before. It's like one of the first conversations that

1129
01:01:46,080 --> 01:01:49,240
Speaker 1: we had. But just dell to hear you say that

1130
01:01:49,440 --> 01:01:52,880
Speaker 1: that's what's important and to be there for her when

1131
01:01:53,160 --> 01:01:58,120
Speaker 1: when you're oh, gosh, we're coming to twos, start crying.

1132
01:02:01,360 --> 01:02:05,120
Speaker 1: I'm trying to find the right words. When someone a

1133
01:02:05,240 --> 01:02:10,320
Speaker 1: loved one is going through dementia, it is so hard

1134
01:02:10,760 --> 01:02:15,800
Speaker 1: on the caretaker. And I've I've been very like honest

1135
01:02:15,840 --> 01:02:17,760
Speaker 1: with Claire about this. I it runs in my family

1136
01:02:17,840 --> 01:02:20,880
Speaker 1: and I've my grandmother, my aunt, very very close women

1137
01:02:20,880 --> 01:02:23,640
Speaker 1: in my family that I have grown up with have

1138
01:02:24,880 --> 01:02:28,480
Speaker 1: suffered from dementia and it is very very hard on

1139
01:02:28,720 --> 01:02:33,080
Speaker 1: the caretaker. And so just to hear you say what's

1140
01:02:33,160 --> 01:02:35,400
Speaker 1: important and that you're going to be there with her.

1141
01:02:35,680 --> 01:02:38,760
Speaker 1: I know is everything that you get it and you

1142
01:02:38,960 --> 01:02:42,160
Speaker 1: understand it, and I just want to acknowledge that because

1143
01:02:42,640 --> 01:02:45,560
Speaker 1: not everybody gets what it is to be there for

1144
01:02:45,680 --> 01:02:49,520
Speaker 1: someone who's taking excuse me, taking care of someone who's

1145
01:02:49,560 --> 01:02:53,720
Speaker 1: going through that. And so once again, it's like the

1146
01:02:54,120 --> 01:02:56,880
Speaker 1: further we get into this conversation, the more it's so

1147
01:02:57,120 --> 01:02:59,560
Speaker 1: relevant how you guys are so meant for each other,

1148
01:02:59,640 --> 01:03:03,320
Speaker 1: because not everybody is so willing to understand that, to

1149
01:03:03,400 --> 01:03:05,400
Speaker 1: put their life and whatever it may be on the

1150
01:03:05,440 --> 01:03:08,400
Speaker 1: whole to be there to support the person who's going

1151
01:03:08,480 --> 01:03:10,560
Speaker 1: through that, even if you haven't been through that yourself.

1152
01:03:10,600 --> 01:03:12,960
Speaker 1: So I just I'm sure Claire has acknowledged that a

1153
01:03:13,000 --> 01:03:14,840
Speaker 1: million times, but I just want to acknowledge that because

1154
01:03:14,840 --> 01:03:19,640
Speaker 1: I know what it is. Yea through that. It's brutal

1155
01:03:19,760 --> 01:03:22,360
Speaker 1: Dementia's got a good one. I got a good one.

1156
01:03:22,520 --> 01:03:26,600
Speaker 1: You good one to do. But it's I mean, even

1157
01:03:26,720 --> 01:03:30,000
Speaker 1: things down to there was a moment where we're going

1158
01:03:30,160 --> 01:03:33,240
Speaker 1: we're going through this process where people don't know we're

1159
01:03:33,320 --> 01:03:35,360
Speaker 1: together and we can't talk about it or anything like that.

1160
01:03:35,520 --> 01:03:39,240
Speaker 1: And obviously this season there was not hometowns. But since

1161
01:03:39,320 --> 01:03:43,080
Speaker 1: my mom, you know, dementia, it gets rapidly worse um.

1162
01:03:44,240 --> 01:03:47,120
Speaker 1: And he had actually what people don't know is that

1163
01:03:47,200 --> 01:03:50,040
Speaker 1: he had come up here and had it was when

1164
01:03:50,160 --> 01:03:53,720
Speaker 1: they were just allowing window visits with my mom because

1165
01:03:53,760 --> 01:03:59,760
Speaker 1: of covid um. But he had come up and how

1166
01:03:59,800 --> 01:04:04,560
Speaker 1: to talk with my mom and just said basically like

1167
01:04:04,760 --> 01:04:07,280
Speaker 1: she she's She was like, where do you live? And

1168
01:04:07,360 --> 01:04:09,919
Speaker 1: he said new York? And she's like, are you taking

1169
01:04:09,960 --> 01:04:12,920
Speaker 1: my daughter to New York with you? And he said, no,

1170
01:04:13,320 --> 01:04:15,400
Speaker 1: We're keeping it right right here in Sacramento with you.

1171
01:04:15,680 --> 01:04:19,000
Speaker 1: And so it's just like things like that that are

1172
01:04:19,120 --> 01:04:24,600
Speaker 1: just a re reconfirming everything that I have been looking

1173
01:04:24,680 --> 01:04:26,520
Speaker 1: for that I wanted in a man, somebody that will

1174
01:04:26,600 --> 01:04:31,480
Speaker 1: understand this in real life stuff show aside, the fun

1175
01:04:31,560 --> 01:04:34,000
Speaker 1: stuff aside. I've always said, I want a guy who

1176
01:04:34,000 --> 01:04:35,840
Speaker 1: will be around for the hard stuff, for the nitty

1177
01:04:35,840 --> 01:04:38,440
Speaker 1: gritty but when it's not pretty, for when it's not easy,

1178
01:04:39,400 --> 01:04:43,760
Speaker 1: And he's just embodied that, I'm so happy for you

1179
01:04:44,320 --> 01:04:46,840
Speaker 1: that you guys have that with each other and that

1180
01:04:47,000 --> 01:04:50,920
Speaker 1: you have that support system and Dell that you're just

1181
01:04:51,080 --> 01:04:55,880
Speaker 1: like supporting her through it all. She's done the same. Yeah,

1182
01:04:56,080 --> 01:04:59,120
Speaker 1: And I get that constantly from Claire. You know, there's

1183
01:04:59,160 --> 01:05:02,600
Speaker 1: another thing like and this is in a short span,

1184
01:05:02,720 --> 01:05:07,160
Speaker 1: we both had to support each other emotionally in a

1185
01:05:07,240 --> 01:05:09,440
Speaker 1: lot of different ways. My high school coach, who was

1186
01:05:09,800 --> 01:05:13,080
Speaker 1: a father to me out of nowhere, was diagnosed with

1187
01:05:13,160 --> 01:05:15,840
Speaker 1: stage four cancer throughout his entire body. And they didn't

1188
01:05:15,880 --> 01:05:18,960
Speaker 1: think that. I mean, it was it was ugly, and

1189
01:05:19,760 --> 01:05:22,520
Speaker 1: she was with me the same thing. I'd be crying

1190
01:05:23,480 --> 01:05:26,320
Speaker 1: all night, she'd sit up on the phone with me.

1191
01:05:26,600 --> 01:05:29,280
Speaker 1: Was willing to risk everything just to fly to South Dakota.

1192
01:05:29,360 --> 01:05:31,400
Speaker 1: She didn't care about contracts or anything, just to be

1193
01:05:31,480 --> 01:05:35,280
Speaker 1: there and support me, you know, and you know, by

1194
01:05:35,320 --> 01:05:37,120
Speaker 1: the grace of God, like he's so much better and

1195
01:05:37,480 --> 01:05:40,680
Speaker 1: things are great. But she really really really was my

1196
01:05:40,840 --> 01:05:45,080
Speaker 1: rock throughout that whole thing because I was, I was,

1197
01:05:45,240 --> 01:05:49,480
Speaker 1: I was a mess. And it's just it wasn't a

1198
01:05:49,600 --> 01:05:51,720
Speaker 1: question of if it's like what can I do? How

1199
01:05:51,800 --> 01:05:54,080
Speaker 1: much can I do? No matter what? I got you

1200
01:05:54,800 --> 01:05:57,400
Speaker 1: and that's special and that's something that I haven't had,

1201
01:05:58,600 --> 01:06:02,160
Speaker 1: you know, outside, And I think, like that's all we

1202
01:06:02,240 --> 01:06:04,160
Speaker 1: want to do, is we just want to like, you

1203
01:06:04,240 --> 01:06:08,080
Speaker 1: know that we have someone in our corner and we

1204
01:06:08,160 --> 01:06:10,960
Speaker 1: know that we have that and it's not going to change. Yeah,

1205
01:06:11,040 --> 01:06:13,760
Speaker 1: that's that's not to be long winded, but that's that's

1206
01:06:13,760 --> 01:06:16,000
Speaker 1: what I'm talking about. With such a short engagement and

1207
01:06:16,120 --> 01:06:18,880
Speaker 1: with knowing each other, the root in the core is

1208
01:06:19,160 --> 01:06:21,320
Speaker 1: we're not going to give up on each other. And

1209
01:06:21,440 --> 01:06:25,200
Speaker 1: we've got each other's backs and anything else we can handle.

1210
01:06:25,280 --> 01:06:27,880
Speaker 1: But at the core of it, we've got each other's backs. Yeah,

1211
01:06:28,440 --> 01:06:31,320
Speaker 1: and I don't need a lot more than that. And

1212
01:06:31,480 --> 01:06:36,160
Speaker 1: we got love. We got that, yeah, say when the

1213
01:06:36,320 --> 01:06:40,720
Speaker 1: cameras go away, audio, all of that. It's about sticking

1214
01:06:40,800 --> 01:06:43,440
Speaker 1: with each other through the hard times. And that's the

1215
01:06:43,520 --> 01:06:45,960
Speaker 1: things that people don't see. And so you know, like

1216
01:06:46,880 --> 01:06:48,720
Speaker 1: you know, like I'm saddened that you guys have gone

1217
01:06:48,760 --> 01:06:52,120
Speaker 1: through hard times, but I'm glad to know that you've

1218
01:06:52,160 --> 01:06:54,440
Speaker 1: been able to be strong for one another. When one

1219
01:06:54,560 --> 01:06:56,400
Speaker 1: is week, the other one's strong. You've been able to

1220
01:06:56,480 --> 01:06:58,480
Speaker 1: lean on one another to get through it. And that

1221
01:06:59,400 --> 01:07:02,800
Speaker 1: is why you have a successful relationship, not because it's

1222
01:07:02,840 --> 01:07:06,760
Speaker 1: been serendipitous. If you found each other found love on television,

1223
01:07:06,880 --> 01:07:10,479
Speaker 1: it's because I have one another's back through the hard

1224
01:07:10,520 --> 01:07:14,000
Speaker 1: times when no one else is looking. Yeah, I'm pretty

1225
01:07:14,040 --> 01:07:16,800
Speaker 1: happy for you guys. I am. I can't wait to

1226
01:07:16,840 --> 01:07:18,560
Speaker 1: see what the future holds and deal I have to

1227
01:07:18,640 --> 01:07:20,320
Speaker 1: ask you. I just actually I don't even want to

1228
01:07:20,320 --> 01:07:21,480
Speaker 1: ask you. I just have to call you out on

1229
01:07:21,560 --> 01:07:24,320
Speaker 1: one thing because I took an audio recording of it

1230
01:07:24,480 --> 01:07:27,720
Speaker 1: to give me two seconds. Here. Oh god, hopefully my

1231
01:07:27,800 --> 01:07:31,760
Speaker 1: phone doesn't die. Okay, here we go. This is when

1232
01:07:31,800 --> 01:07:42,120
Speaker 1: we were proposal. You still mind where you have from Dale?

1233
01:07:42,840 --> 01:07:50,919
Speaker 1: But I literally when I watched I rewatched it because

1234
01:07:50,920 --> 01:07:53,520
Speaker 1: I literally I blank out. The moment was just like huh.

1235
01:07:54,000 --> 01:07:57,680
Speaker 1: But when I watched it, I was like, that's Becca's

1236
01:07:57,680 --> 01:08:04,400
Speaker 1: life that I d I was watching it and I

1237
01:08:04,520 --> 01:08:06,600
Speaker 1: was I was laid with my dog and I was like,

1238
01:08:07,240 --> 01:08:13,720
Speaker 1: did he just like he just take my line? But

1239
01:08:14,160 --> 01:08:16,280
Speaker 1: it was so worth it. So I'll give it up

1240
01:08:16,360 --> 01:08:18,760
Speaker 1: for this because it was very, very worth it. Um

1241
01:08:19,120 --> 01:08:22,000
Speaker 1: all right, thank you. Okay, two more questions before we

1242
01:08:22,120 --> 01:08:24,680
Speaker 1: let you go. I have to ask this. This is

1243
01:08:24,720 --> 01:08:26,519
Speaker 1: going to be the beginning of you guys hearing this

1244
01:08:26,720 --> 01:08:29,800
Speaker 1: one million times and probably like the next two years.

1245
01:08:30,439 --> 01:08:34,720
Speaker 1: But do you guys have any wedding plants? Okay? So

1246
01:08:36,760 --> 01:08:39,679
Speaker 1: we're like dabbling because you know how it is kind

1247
01:08:39,680 --> 01:08:42,840
Speaker 1: of with guys like he doesn't. He's not scared of anything.

1248
01:08:42,920 --> 01:08:46,560
Speaker 1: But I'm like, so here's the wedding dress ideas, and

1249
01:08:46,720 --> 01:08:48,880
Speaker 1: here's the day that I want to get married. And

1250
01:08:48,960 --> 01:08:53,360
Speaker 1: he's like, okay, let's I mean, everything is like he

1251
01:08:53,680 --> 01:08:56,000
Speaker 1: he truly is like the yin to my yang. Like

1252
01:08:56,240 --> 01:09:01,160
Speaker 1: I'm I'm passionate. He didn't. I have get intense with everything,

1253
01:09:01,200 --> 01:09:04,040
Speaker 1: and he's just like this very I mean like he

1254
01:09:04,160 --> 01:09:06,519
Speaker 1: can hang with me. But he's very even keeled and

1255
01:09:06,800 --> 01:09:10,200
Speaker 1: very reasonable and just kind of like levels me out

1256
01:09:10,360 --> 01:09:13,400
Speaker 1: on some on to some extent. So but Dale, when's

1257
01:09:13,439 --> 01:09:17,400
Speaker 1: your sign? What's your sign? I mean September twenty four

1258
01:09:18,160 --> 01:09:21,360
Speaker 1: were scales right? Yeah? I know I'm saying it's a schedule,

1259
01:09:21,920 --> 01:09:25,679
Speaker 1: but I like, we we definitely talked about it. Obviously,

1260
01:09:26,479 --> 01:09:29,760
Speaker 1: the times we're in with the pandemic makes some of

1261
01:09:29,800 --> 01:09:32,400
Speaker 1: the things a little bit difficult, but we just want

1262
01:09:32,400 --> 01:09:36,880
Speaker 1: to enjoy this time together. But we I would literally

1263
01:09:36,920 --> 01:09:39,479
Speaker 1: marry him tomorrow if I could, and it wouldn't be

1264
01:09:39,880 --> 01:09:43,479
Speaker 1: talked about. We could do this in a courthouse weister

1265
01:09:43,720 --> 01:09:46,479
Speaker 1: party a little bit. I'm an ordained minister. Do you

1266
01:09:46,479 --> 01:09:50,599
Speaker 1: want to just do it right now? We got until

1267
01:09:50,880 --> 01:09:54,160
Speaker 1: let me do for the actual day, since you have

1268
01:09:54,200 --> 01:09:55,679
Speaker 1: your day plan. But do you have a wedding plan?

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Speaker 1: Let's do the damn thing. Do we have what a

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Speaker 1: wedding plan? I'm gonna make us all shirts? Oh oh,

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01:10:01,200 --> 01:10:05,639
Speaker 1: I got you? Like, okay, shit have you You're You're done.

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01:10:05,720 --> 01:10:10,200
Speaker 1: That's we've got that one settled. Done. Love it, Megan party,

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Speaker 1: the party? What's it called? The petty? I meant I

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Speaker 1: got you. I will text you all information after all

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01:10:18,760 --> 01:10:23,120
Speaker 1: of us. I'm not super dope. We don't. Yeah, we

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01:10:23,200 --> 01:10:25,400
Speaker 1: don't have anything crazy right now planned. I think we're

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01:10:25,439 --> 01:10:27,120
Speaker 1: just we're excited to I mean, I feel like I

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01:10:27,200 --> 01:10:29,280
Speaker 1: hear people when I rewatch the shows. People are like,

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01:10:29,560 --> 01:10:32,280
Speaker 1: we're just excited to do things, and I'm genuinely He's

1280
01:10:32,320 --> 01:10:34,120
Speaker 1: like he knows what I want to do. I'm like,

1281
01:10:34,560 --> 01:10:40,040
Speaker 1: I just want to go to Target together. Get that. Yeah,

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01:10:40,120 --> 01:10:42,160
Speaker 1: we have we have so much fun to get Like

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01:10:42,320 --> 01:10:45,720
Speaker 1: our biggest thing has been just itching to go where

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01:10:45,760 --> 01:10:47,880
Speaker 1: we can go out and do the simple things in public.

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01:10:48,280 --> 01:10:51,439
Speaker 1: But we have fun just I mean just chilling around

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01:10:51,479 --> 01:10:54,439
Speaker 1: the house. You guys, TikTok's to come. We have been talk.

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01:10:58,320 --> 01:11:01,519
Speaker 1: It is crazy. Have to get TikTok no, no, you

1288
01:11:01,600 --> 01:11:06,559
Speaker 1: know how much I cospise TikTok Wa changed my mind

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01:11:06,640 --> 01:11:08,960
Speaker 1: with you guys. Wait until you guys go to Costco

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01:11:09,080 --> 01:11:11,080
Speaker 1: for the first time together. It's going to be magical.

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01:11:12,200 --> 01:11:17,120
Speaker 1: I cannot wait. Right back to the wedding planting. So

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01:11:19,880 --> 01:11:22,160
Speaker 1: my vision is too because I've never been a fan

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01:11:22,280 --> 01:11:24,720
Speaker 1: of like big weddings, but I really want to go

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01:11:24,920 --> 01:11:29,599
Speaker 1: to like island hop to different countries, different like tropical places,

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01:11:29,920 --> 01:11:32,480
Speaker 1: have a couple of different just me and him ceremonies,

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01:11:32,720 --> 01:11:35,200
Speaker 1: and come back and have just a huge, beautiful party

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01:11:35,240 --> 01:11:37,840
Speaker 1: with everybody. Oh damn, in my mind we were island

1298
01:11:37,880 --> 01:11:40,120
Speaker 1: hopping with you. Do you need somebody to carry your

1299
01:11:40,160 --> 01:11:45,360
Speaker 1: suitcases in pact me because I volunteer. It's tribute already,

1300
01:11:45,400 --> 01:11:47,640
Speaker 1: asked christ and Brie. I'm like, look, I know you

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01:11:47,680 --> 01:11:50,240
Speaker 1: guys are kind of a big deal now, but can

1302
01:11:50,280 --> 01:11:53,400
Speaker 1: you serenade our wedding? And Chris was like, say the

1303
01:11:53,520 --> 01:11:57,920
Speaker 1: more fam staying they're so wonderful. Yeah, they're so awesome.

1304
01:11:58,760 --> 01:12:02,240
Speaker 1: Isn't there like the suitcase guy for the Bachelor Bachelor

1305
01:12:02,280 --> 01:12:05,439
Speaker 1: att like viral or something? Oh yes, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,

1306
01:12:05,520 --> 01:12:07,400
Speaker 1: you can make that happen too. I'm sure you know,

1307
01:12:07,600 --> 01:12:12,840
Speaker 1: more than happy to think you had another one more question.

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01:12:13,040 --> 01:12:16,439
Speaker 1: I did add one more question, well, because I truly

1309
01:12:16,479 --> 01:12:18,160
Speaker 1: want to talk to you guys for hours because you're

1310
01:12:18,200 --> 01:12:20,640
Speaker 1: just so damn cute. But obviously you guys have a

1311
01:12:20,680 --> 01:12:23,360
Speaker 1: life to live and probably other things to do right now.

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01:12:23,880 --> 01:12:27,120
Speaker 1: So well, Claire, you know this because we've had you

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01:12:27,200 --> 01:12:30,080
Speaker 1: in our podcast, but Dale, this is very new for you.

1314
01:12:30,640 --> 01:12:32,639
Speaker 1: But each week with our guests, we'd like to play

1315
01:12:32,760 --> 01:12:35,560
Speaker 1: rose and thorn, and so for both of you, I

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01:12:35,680 --> 01:12:38,080
Speaker 1: have to ask you what was the thorn of the

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01:12:38,160 --> 01:12:40,799
Speaker 1: season for you? And what was both of your roses?

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01:12:42,280 --> 01:12:45,320
Speaker 1: The rose? I'm gonna start. Can I start with the rose?

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01:12:45,560 --> 01:12:48,880
Speaker 1: Of course? All right? The rose was the engagement. I mean,

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01:12:49,000 --> 01:12:51,479
Speaker 1: hands down, I think that like that was the ultimate

1321
01:12:52,479 --> 01:12:57,760
Speaker 1: U and I mean it was just beautiful. It was

1322
01:12:57,840 --> 01:13:01,920
Speaker 1: everything m I was looking for, I know with Claire

1323
01:13:01,960 --> 01:13:05,600
Speaker 1: as well, and that's whe got us here, you know

1324
01:13:05,720 --> 01:13:08,000
Speaker 1: to this point. So the engagement was definitely the rose.

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01:13:11,040 --> 01:13:19,439
Speaker 1: Damn uh, it was interrupted in the present, like the

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01:13:19,520 --> 01:13:22,600
Speaker 1: thorn was a yosep thing that pissed me, like I

1327
01:13:22,760 --> 01:13:27,680
Speaker 1: was fucking pissed. Um oh yeah, let it out. I

1328
01:13:27,800 --> 01:13:34,120
Speaker 1: like out that because Claire can handle herself. She can

1329
01:13:34,320 --> 01:13:39,439
Speaker 1: she she's grown, she's been through things. But that's I

1330
01:13:39,640 --> 01:13:42,680
Speaker 1: know that affected her. It wasn't Yosef that affected her.

1331
01:13:42,760 --> 01:13:45,040
Speaker 1: It was the action and hearing those things, and that

1332
01:13:45,200 --> 01:13:47,960
Speaker 1: bothered me that whole night. It doesn't show those things.

1333
01:13:48,080 --> 01:13:53,479
Speaker 1: I was fucking pissed. And you know again, I just

1334
01:13:53,680 --> 01:13:55,479
Speaker 1: I just don't like that. You know, that's that's not

1335
01:13:55,640 --> 01:13:59,760
Speaker 1: how any man should ever act in any instance, And

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01:14:01,320 --> 01:14:03,320
Speaker 1: I just I would never have hoped for her to

1337
01:14:03,360 --> 01:14:06,320
Speaker 1: go through that. But so that was a thorn. But

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01:14:06,880 --> 01:14:08,560
Speaker 1: you know, I'm happy at least even that night I

1339
01:14:08,640 --> 01:14:10,479
Speaker 1: was able to be there for you. Yeah, I will

1340
01:14:10,600 --> 01:14:13,800
Speaker 1: tell you guys this, that is not my thorn, because

1341
01:14:13,840 --> 01:14:17,439
Speaker 1: I will not give any man that credit to affect

1342
01:14:17,520 --> 01:14:21,080
Speaker 1: me to that level. First of all, I'll start off

1343
01:14:21,120 --> 01:14:27,040
Speaker 1: with my thorn. My thorn was probably the day that

1344
01:14:27,120 --> 01:14:28,960
Speaker 1: I had to walk in to talk to the guys

1345
01:14:29,280 --> 01:14:32,920
Speaker 1: to let them know that it was that I was

1346
01:14:33,080 --> 01:14:36,960
Speaker 1: taking off with Dale. Although it was one of the

1347
01:14:37,040 --> 01:14:41,360
Speaker 1: greatest moments feeling confident in that, it was a really

1348
01:14:41,479 --> 01:14:45,320
Speaker 1: really excruciating thing for me, because I've talked about it

1349
01:14:45,400 --> 01:14:49,719
Speaker 1: a ton before, how grateful I was for these guys

1350
01:14:49,800 --> 01:14:51,880
Speaker 1: to show up and to go through all the testing

1351
01:14:52,000 --> 01:14:55,480
Speaker 1: and to put their lives on hold at the opportunity

1352
01:14:55,479 --> 01:15:02,160
Speaker 1: as the chance for just love. And it was a

1353
01:15:02,360 --> 01:15:07,479
Speaker 1: really really hard thing because I have so much love

1354
01:15:07,520 --> 01:15:09,880
Speaker 1: for these guys. I have so much love for these guys,

1355
01:15:09,920 --> 01:15:12,040
Speaker 1: and I really they showed up. But I know I

1356
01:15:12,160 --> 01:15:15,479
Speaker 1: repeat that all the time, but they really did bring

1357
01:15:15,600 --> 01:15:18,840
Speaker 1: some really deep conversations, some great things to the table.

1358
01:15:18,880 --> 01:15:21,240
Speaker 1: And each and every one of these guys, at any

1359
01:15:21,280 --> 01:15:24,960
Speaker 1: other time in my world, in my life, I would

1360
01:15:24,960 --> 01:15:27,600
Speaker 1: be honored to date any one of those guys, and

1361
01:15:28,320 --> 01:15:29,920
Speaker 1: like it would be such an honor to me because

1362
01:15:29,960 --> 01:15:32,760
Speaker 1: they are such great men. So that was a really

1363
01:15:33,120 --> 01:15:36,920
Speaker 1: really hard thing for me to deal with. But on

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01:15:37,040 --> 01:15:43,880
Speaker 1: the flip side, my rose was probably standing there that

1365
01:15:44,000 --> 01:15:48,080
Speaker 1: first night when Dale got out of the limo. And

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01:15:49,040 --> 01:15:53,559
Speaker 1: when you go into something like this, even though there's

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01:15:53,600 --> 01:15:59,559
Speaker 1: thirty one amazing guys there, there could have been. It's

1368
01:16:00,000 --> 01:16:02,080
Speaker 1: only thirty one guys out of this entire world. What

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01:16:02,160 --> 01:16:05,479
Speaker 1: if my guy wasn't there? And I would never if

1370
01:16:05,560 --> 01:16:07,840
Speaker 1: my guy wasn't there, I was willing to walk away

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01:16:08,680 --> 01:16:10,680
Speaker 1: because I'm happy. At this point in my life, I

1372
01:16:10,840 --> 01:16:14,960
Speaker 1: was established and had everything I'm looking for and just

1373
01:16:15,200 --> 01:16:18,360
Speaker 1: very content in life, and so knowing that he got

1374
01:16:18,400 --> 01:16:21,479
Speaker 1: out a limo and felt like that electricity with each other,

1375
01:16:21,560 --> 01:16:23,720
Speaker 1: it was like when I said I knew it, it

1376
01:16:23,920 --> 01:16:28,160
Speaker 1: was like, it's everything I've ever wanted and waited for

1377
01:16:28,280 --> 01:16:30,760
Speaker 1: and hoped for in my life up from a relationship,

1378
01:16:30,880 --> 01:16:34,639
Speaker 1: that moment where you just feel it and it's mutual.

1379
01:16:35,360 --> 01:16:42,240
Speaker 1: So that was my rose. Guys, both fantastic roses. Hawthorne's

1380
01:16:42,640 --> 01:16:44,320
Speaker 1: this is what I need at this point. You guys,

1381
01:16:44,520 --> 01:16:47,519
Speaker 1: it's been absolutely amazing to talk to you both, and

1382
01:16:47,920 --> 01:16:50,120
Speaker 1: Becca and I want to do it. Cheers to you, guys.

1383
01:16:50,720 --> 01:16:54,000
Speaker 1: So if everybody can grab their drinks, cheers if it's water.

1384
01:16:54,880 --> 01:16:58,200
Speaker 1: We are so happy that the two of you have

1385
01:16:58,360 --> 01:17:02,280
Speaker 1: found one another in this crazy, crazy world and our

1386
01:17:02,360 --> 01:17:05,679
Speaker 1: living proof that it doesn't matter the time, it doesn't

1387
01:17:05,720 --> 01:17:10,040
Speaker 1: matter the circumstance of the year twenty freaking twenty. If

1388
01:17:10,120 --> 01:17:13,600
Speaker 1: it's love, it's love. If you feel it, you feel it.

1389
01:17:13,800 --> 01:17:17,599
Speaker 1: If you connect, you connect, and you know it all

1390
01:17:17,640 --> 01:17:20,920
Speaker 1: can happen. So here's to hope, and here's to taking

1391
01:17:21,120 --> 01:17:24,280
Speaker 1: risks because you never know what's on the other side

1392
01:17:24,320 --> 01:17:29,200
Speaker 1: of it. So cheers to you. Guys to cheers. All right, Rachel,

1393
01:17:29,520 --> 01:17:33,960
Speaker 1: you guys what just what a lovely couple. I'm so

1394
01:17:34,200 --> 01:17:37,160
Speaker 1: excited for them as they continue on this journey. I

1395
01:17:37,280 --> 01:17:38,880
Speaker 1: hope that they find a home. I hope that they

1396
01:17:38,920 --> 01:17:41,400
Speaker 1: make the cutest babies so we can be anst to them.

1397
01:17:42,520 --> 01:17:45,120
Speaker 1: But you know, as as sad as it is to

1398
01:17:45,280 --> 01:17:48,720
Speaker 1: watch another quote unquote season come to a close, we're

1399
01:17:48,760 --> 01:17:51,120
Speaker 1: not done yet because we still got the rest of

1400
01:17:51,200 --> 01:17:54,000
Speaker 1: this seasons, as we saw with a new journey and

1401
01:17:54,080 --> 01:17:59,320
Speaker 1: a new bachelorette with Taita. Finally we can talk about it.

1402
01:17:59,479 --> 01:18:06,480
Speaker 1: I I Becca has felt silly saying allegedly and rumored

1403
01:18:06,800 --> 01:18:11,960
Speaker 1: bachelorette Tasia when we all know that Tasia was going

1404
01:18:12,120 --> 01:18:14,960
Speaker 1: to come at some point in this season. And I'm

1405
01:18:15,040 --> 01:18:18,800
Speaker 1: just so happy that we can acknowledge Tasia, that we

1406
01:18:19,000 --> 01:18:22,479
Speaker 1: have finally seen her acknowledged by the franchise. I get it, though,

1407
01:18:22,520 --> 01:18:25,000
Speaker 1: I do. I get why Claire needed to play out

1408
01:18:25,080 --> 01:18:27,320
Speaker 1: before we brought in Tatia. We need to give respect

1409
01:18:27,360 --> 01:18:30,080
Speaker 1: to Claire and let her do her thing and then

1410
01:18:30,439 --> 01:18:33,400
Speaker 1: fully let Tatia have her moment. I do understand it,

1411
01:18:33,640 --> 01:18:37,000
Speaker 1: but it has been frustrating having an opinion on the

1412
01:18:37,120 --> 01:18:40,320
Speaker 1: whole thing and not being able to speak on Tatia.

1413
01:18:40,400 --> 01:18:42,800
Speaker 1: When we knew a Tasia was coming. I mean, my god,

1414
01:18:42,840 --> 01:18:44,840
Speaker 1: I'm on her season. I sat down with her, so

1415
01:18:45,000 --> 01:18:49,080
Speaker 1: are you Yeah? You know. So it's like, it's just great.

1416
01:18:49,160 --> 01:18:51,519
Speaker 1: We feel so free in this moment. So, you, guys,

1417
01:18:51,600 --> 01:18:53,360
Speaker 1: we have such a treat for you in the next

1418
01:18:53,400 --> 01:18:57,519
Speaker 1: podcast because we're finally getting to talk to Tasia and

1419
01:18:57,640 --> 01:18:59,320
Speaker 1: we're going to talk to her about so much. We're

1420
01:18:59,320 --> 01:19:00,880
Speaker 1: gonna talk to her about some of the questions that

1421
01:19:00,960 --> 01:19:02,600
Speaker 1: you guys have had. We're going to talk to her

1422
01:19:02,680 --> 01:19:05,320
Speaker 1: about how this all came, about, what she was feeling,

1423
01:19:05,400 --> 01:19:07,640
Speaker 1: why she decided to say yes, what it was like

1424
01:19:07,880 --> 01:19:10,320
Speaker 1: coming in after Claire, what she was feeling, what she

1425
01:19:10,400 --> 01:19:12,920
Speaker 1: was excited about but she was fearful about, and what

1426
01:19:13,280 --> 01:19:15,400
Speaker 1: is to come for her. And of course we're going

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01:19:15,479 --> 01:19:17,040
Speaker 1: to try to like poke the bear a little bit

1428
01:19:17,080 --> 01:19:19,240
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1429
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Speaker 1: of this. Plus we have a surprise for you about

1430
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Speaker 1: have the typical interview with her, so you don't want

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